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Dr. Anna Baranowsky is a Canadian Clinical Psychologist, CEO of the Traumatology Institute, Founder and President of the Board at Trauma Practice. She is the author of two books on trauma, numerous courses to help train professionals in trauma mental health and the developer of the Trauma Recovery Program for Self-Guided trauma care. She works with trauma survivors and those with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) on post-traumatic growth and recovery. Through her work she believes that when we share, dialogue and feel supported, it provides a powerful foundation for forward movement in our understanding and the care needed. In her own words "I have found that the most profound changes occur when a person truly feels heard and understood - I like to think of it as deeply BEARING WITNESS to life evolving. We can feel incredibly stuck when we live with our fears, stressors and troubles in isolation." Dr.Baranowsky is the host of the Bear Psychology Show, focusing on bearing witness to Evolving Mood, Mind, Health. Her talks revolve around recovery, relationships, work and life adventures. She is dedicated to assisting organizations and health professionals who help trauma survivors to ensure a trauma informed lens of care can grow in community health networks. With that vision in 1998, the Traumatology Institute Canada (TIC) was established. TIC has trained thousands of individuals nationally and internationally. Dr. Baranowsky serves on the board of directors of the Academy of Traumatology and is a Board Certified Expert in Traumatic Stress through the American Academy of Experts in Traumatic Stress and is recognized by The National Center for Crisis Management. She has published in the area of Post-Traumatic Stress, Compassion Fatigue, and therapeutic relationships (the Silencing Response). Copyright: Dr. Anna Baranowsky, 2020
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Relationships rule our inner world. Understanding how you feel and think about your relationships helps you become more accepting and then more peaceful. You can develop an appreciation for other people's perspectives and stop assigning blame on others. Dr. Jacqueline Heller’s book “Yesterday Never Sleeps: How Integrating Life's Current and Past Connections Improves Our Well-Being” draws upon decades of clinical experience to create a powerful and more positive inner narrative. Her unique combination of neuroscience, memoirs of her life as a child of Holocaust survivors, and patient histories involving a range of psychological ills and trauma help readers to make sense of their own histories and forge a better future.
Listen to our conversation with physician & author Dr. Jacqueline Heller as we discuss how to befriend and understand our inner mind, open a pathway to curiosity, improve relationships, empathy, and intimacy.
Dr. Jacqueline Heller is a physician, board certified in psychiatry and neurology, psychoanalyst, and bestselling author. She brings a wealth of knowledge of over 40 years of psychiatry practice, assistant clinical professor at the UCLA Department of Psychiatry and Biobehavioral Sciences within the David Geffen School of Medicine. Having recently retired from her medical practice, she now focuses on passing down her knowledge to psychiatrists in training and the general public alike.
Dr. Heller’s book focuses on the learnable skill of self-reflection and how it helps you link emotions to past events and patterns of behaviour. Her book emphasizes how knowing and understanding the story behind our feelings can help soothe and regulate emotions before you react. She also explains how your miraculous brain – creates new neural connections when you take the time to reflect and this helps you improve emotional health and your thought processes.
Listen to our conversation with Dr. Jackie Heller as we discuss lifelong inner talk (i.e., good, bad, and ugly). We will focus on strategies for gaining wisdom, love, and kindness, and helping to break cycle of old trauma in driving your life.
If you are interested in learning about how integrate your past to better your future, this podcast is for you.
Links & Resources: For more information about Dr. Heller’s book visit: https://jacquelineheller.com/books/yesterday-never-sleeps/ Learn more about Dr. Jacqueline Heller: https://jacquelineheller.com/about/ To purchase the book visit: https://www.amazon.com/Yesterday-Never-Sleeps-Integrating-Connections/dp/B0C1MBVKYJ Materials to Reference: Heller’s other interviews and talks: https://jacquelineheller.com/talks-interviews/ Heller’s Articles: https://jacquelineheller.com/other-writing/Thu, 28 Mar 2024 - 1h 01min - 69 - Dangerous People in Powerful places
Disconnected People in positions of power make the world more dangerous for everyone – Bear Psychology Radio hosted by Dr. Anna Baranowsky with guest Dr. Steve Taylor. Disconnected people have the tendency to gravitate toward power. When Disconnected people rule in positions of power societies trend toward patriarchal, hierarchical and warlike. In contrast, societies with connected leaders trend toward egalitarian, democracy and peace.
Although most people have a deep need to be connected, life events/upbringing and trauma exposure can interfere in this profound human characteristic. A person’s “goodness” and capacity for compassion often results from connection, whereas cruelty often originates from a feeling of being cut off from others.
Dr. Steve Taylor, author of “DisConnected: The Roots of Human Cruelty and How Connection Can Heal the World”, teaches us about the consequences of disconnection, how connection ultimately shapes us as a society, and how it can even change us as people.
Listen to the conversation with Dr. Steve Taylor as we explore the benefits of being interconnected unpack how valuable human connection is to us all in this complex world.
Links & Resources: Dr. Taylor’s book review: https://tinyurl.com/3b2ewhfs Purchase Dr. Taylor’s book: https://tinyurl.com/mvp52h4h Information about Dr. Taylor’s Books: https://www.stevenmtaylor.com/books/disconnected/ Materials to Reference: More of Dr. Taylor’s Radio Appearances and videos: https://www.stevenmtaylor.com/videos/ Information about Dr. Steve Taylor: https://www.stevenmtaylor.com/about-steve-taylor/ Events with Steve Taylor: https://www.stevenmtaylor.com/events/ Online programs with Steve Taylor: https://www.stevenmtaylor.com/online-courses/Thu, 28 Mar 2024 - 1h 01min - 68 - Why your coping skills stop working
Experiencing stressful or traumatic experiences during childhood leads us to develop certain coping mechanisms to get us through. While these strategies might have helped us feel secure when younger, they often fail us in adulthood. Richard Brouillette’s book “Your Coping Skills Aren't Working: How to Break Free from the Habits that Once Helped You But Now Hold You Back” offers an evidence-based guide using multiple therapeutic modalities including cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), schema therapy, and attachment theory to help readers leave behind unhelpful coping strategies that keep us stuck in self-sabotaging cycles.
Listen to our conversation with social worker & author Richard Brouillette as we discuss how to break free from habits that keep you from realizing your full potential. Also, learn to leave behind damaging childhood experiences and dysfunctional coping mechanisms.
Brouillette is a Social Worker and a schema therapist. He focuses on helping creatives, professionals, and business owners who have reached a performance plateau and want to reduce anxiety, find fulfillment, and strengthen bonds with others. He is also a trauma therapist with experience treating survivors of war. Brouillette was involved in a program in New York City aimed at supporting individuals' creativity and motivation while engaged in achieving exciting community goals.
“Your Coping Skills Aren’t Working” focuses on identifying your unhealthy coping mechanisms acquired earlier in life; understand the reasons behind them; discover how to break negative behavior patterns that prevent you from leading a happy life. Along with learning how to develop clarity, stability, and confidence in oneself, it also teaches the reader effective techniques for giving voice to your unfulfilled preferences, vision and desires.
If you are interested in learning about how to not let your past need determine your future, this podcast is for you.
Links & Resources: For more information about Brouillette’s book visit: https://www.self-talk-therapy.com/book Learn more about Richard Brouillette: https://www.self-talk-therapy.com/about Read book reviews on good reads: https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/61414139 Materials to Reference: Richard Brouillette’s Blog: https://www.self-talk-therapy.com/blog Learn more about Schema therapy: https://www.self-talk-therapy.com/18-schemasThu, 25 Jan 2024 - 1h 01min - 67 - Muslim Loving Peace and looking to a better future
Raheel Raza, a Muslim Canadian born in Pakistan, migrated to Canada in 1988, has a unique perspective on what is happening right now in the Israel-Hamas war and her reflections on misinformation and what Peace would take. She has visited Israel 13 times in the 16 years. In her National Post Article “I'm a Muslim and I love Israel. Here's why” published in February 2023, Raza details what she has learned about hate and antisemitism, it’s prevalence in Arab Muslim countries, her hope for Peace and the struggles of supporting Israel at this time.
Listen to our conversation with journalist & author Raheel Raza as we talk about her unique understanding of the current Israel-Hamas conflict, with the perspective as a Muslim Canadian Journalist in Canada.
Raheel Raza has publications in major newspapers in Canada and appearances on International media outlets like CNN, BBC, Fox News and CBC. She is considered an activist for human rights, a prolific author, supporter of women’s issues and an International public speaker. She also sits on the board of directors for Muslims facing Tomorrow and The Council of Muslims against Antisemitism (CMAA).
Raheel Raza has published numerous books including “Their Jihad...Not My Jihad!: A Muslim Canadian Woman Speaks Out” which offers Raza’s insight, opinions and solutions to restoring dignity and respect to Muslims living in the West and “How Can You Possibly be a Muslim Feminist?” where Raza utilizes common sense, a dash of humor and the Qur’an itself to combat against the misogynic barbarism in so many Islamic cultures.
Listen to our conversation with Raheel Raza as we discuss her opinions on extremism, radicalization, and the ongoing conflict between Israel and Palestine.
If you are interested in learning more about Raheel Raza’s story, this podcast is for you.
Links & Resources: Review Raza’s National Post article: https://nationalpost.com/opinion/im-a-muslim-and-i-love-israel-heres-why For more information on Raheel Raza: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Raheel_Raza Links to Raza’s other publications: https://raheelraza.com/media/ Raheel Raza’s Book “Their Jihad, Not My Jihad!”: https://www.amazon.ca/Their-Jihad-Not-My-Canadian/dp/0973508728/ref=sr_1_3?dchild=1&keywords=raheel+raza&qid=1599398777&sr=8-3 Materials to Reference: Hamas Ideology Explained: https://www.theatlantic.com/international/archive/2023/10/hamas-covenant-israel-attack-war-genocide/675602/ The Decolonization Narrative: https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2023/10/decolonization-narrative-dangerous-and-false/675799/Wed, 20 Dec 2023 - 1h 01min - 66 - Collective & Personal Trauma: one family’s graceful end-of-life story
What does it mean to lose someone so close to you that your world will never be the same? What if this happens when the whole world is locked down during a global Pandemic, a collective trauma? How do we navigate terrible loss with great compassion and love? Journalist Mitchell Consky has something important to share with us about this based on personal experience.
During the worst of the COVID pandemic, Consky received distressing news. His father had been given less than two months to live after being diagnosed with a rare terminal cancer. In his book, “Home Safe: A Memoir of End-of-Life Care During Covid-19”, he describes the challenges he and his family faced with balancing a family-centered approach to end-of-life care with the social distancing demands of the Covid-19 pandemic.
Listen our conversation with journalist & author Mitchell Consky as we talk about his family’s journey supporting his beloved father die with dignity during a pandemic lockdown. Consky walks us through the experience of home hospice during a lockdown filled with dance parties; episodes of Tiger King, and his father's deadpan humour.
Mitchell Consky is an Toronto based author and journalist with works published in the Globe and Mail, the Toronto Star, the Walrus, BNN Bloomberg and CTV News. Consky specializes in long-form feature writing and essays about loss, travel, and adventure. He also holds a Masters degree in Journalism from Toronto Metropolitan University, and a bachelor’s degree in English and Film from Wilfrid Laurier University.
Mitchell Consky’s book utilized his journalistic talents to interview his father daily, documenting the last conversations, heartfelt farewells, and the spontaneous hilarity that marked his father's final days. These interviews provided a platform for fatherly affection, a chance for emotional disclosure during the slowed down of a locked down world, and an illustration of how far a family would go to ensure a dying loved one felt comfortable at home.
Listen to our conversation with Mitchell Consky as we discuss his experience with end of life care during a global pandemic and saying goodbye to someone you love.
If you are interested in Consky’s story and the heartbreaking reality of terminal illness, this podcast is for you.
Links & Resources: Mitchell Consky’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mitchconsky/?hl=en For more information about the book visit: https://www.dundurn.com/books_/t22117/a9781459750272-home-safe To purchase the book visit: https://www.amazon.ca/Home-Safe-End-Life-Covid-19/dp/1459750276 Links to Consky’s Articles: https://linktr.ee/mitchconsky Camp Erin - a camp to help kids who have lost a parent: https://thewalrus.ca/notes-from-grief-camp/Fri, 01 Dec 2023 - 59min - 65 - Childhood Emotional Neglect impacts your life today
After 20 years in practice, Dr. Jonice Webb noticed the painful struggle of people who grew up in homes where they were emotionally neglected. She identified this neglect as an "invisible factor" that continued to affect adults often leaving them feeling depleted and dissatisfied or what she described as “Running on Empty”.
In Dr. Webb’s books “Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect” and “Running On Empty No More: Transform Your Relationships” she shines a light on this invisible force of CEN. She discusses how to bring new tools, strategies and self-awareness to grow beyond this limiting life experience and encourages you to grow beyond CEN.
Listen to our conversation with psychologist & author Dr. Jonice Webb as we learn about the concept of Emotional Neglect and her tools for helping fix it.
Dr. Jonice Webb, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist, bestselling author, and “psychologist expert” according to the Chicago Tribune and CNBC. Dr. Webb has over two decades of experience in the field of psychology with a particular interest in how childhood factors influence us as adults and the effect of Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN).™ Dr. Webb currently has a private psychotherapy practice where she focuses on the treatment of families and couples.
Dr. Webb’s books educate readers about the twelve types of parents who inadvertently emotionally neglect their children; ten issues that emotionally neglected children often struggle with as adults; six strategies for overcoming Emotional Neglect, and how to apply all these tools to different types of relationships including marriages, relationships with emotionally neglectful parents, and their even own children.
If you are interested in Dr. Webb’s insights on recognizing Emotional Neglect and beginning the journey in overcoming the impact of CEN, this podcast is for you.
Links & Resources: For more information about Dr. Webb’s books visit: https://drjonicewebb.com/the-book/ To purchase the books visit: https://tinyurl.com/27vn66pr For more about Dr. Jonice Webb: https://drjonicewebb.com/about-dr-webb/ Webb’s CEN Training Programs: https://drjonicewebb.com/childhood-emotional-neglect-programs/ Therapist Resources for CEN: https://drjonicewebb.com/therapeutic-resources-cen/ Materials to Reference: Take the Childhood Emotional Neglect Questionnaire: https://drjonicewebb.com/cenquestionnaire/ 5 Roadblocks to Dating Caused By Childhood Emotional Neglect: https://drjonicewebb.com/5-roadblocks-to-dating-caused-by-childhood-emotional-neglect/ How Old Feelings From Your Childhood Could Be Controlling You Now: https://drjonicewebb.com/how-old-feelings-from-your-childhood-could-be-controlling-you-now/ 4 Ways You May Be Keeping Yourself Running On Empty: https://drjonicewebb.com/4-ways-you-may-be-keeping-yourself-running-on-empty/Wed, 01 Nov 2023 - 56min - 64 - Mind, Body and Yoga for Healing Trauma
Recovery from trauma is not simply about healing the mind but about healing the body as well. Often the approach when treating trauma is solely focused on the mental and emotional effects and fails to address the physiological imbalances that trauma leaves behind on our bodies.
In Dr. Arielle Schwartz’s newest book “Therapeutic Yoga for Trauma Recovery: Applying the Principles of Polyvagal Theory for Self-Discovery, Embodied Healing, and Meaningful Change”, she guides the reader using yoga practices to help release the burdens of trauma and begin the journey of healing the psyche and the body. The book utilizes a variety of principles to provide a deeper understanding of how our bodies and brains react to stress and trauma leaving the reader feeling informed and empowered.
Listen to our conversation with psychologist & author Dr. Arielle Schwartz as we learn about the importance of embodied healing in treating and recovering from trauma.
Dr. Arielle Schwartz, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist, prolific author, wife and mother with a passion for treating individuals with trauma. Dr. Schwartz runs a private clinic where she treats clients as well as trains other therapists in her Resilience-Informed Therapy approach for helping people recover after experiencing trauma. She has also been teaching therapeutic yoga since 2008 with a specific focus on nervous systems recovery after trauma.
Dr. Schwartz’s is also the author of “The Complex PTSD Treatment Manual: An Integrative, Mind-Body Approach to Trauma Recovery” which guides clinicians through successfully treating patients who have had prolonged exposure to traumatic situations. The manual focuses on utilizing mindful body awareness to build distress tolerance, cultivate self-compassion, and facilitate trauma recovery drawing from Dr. Schwartz’s own years of experience in the field. She is also the author of “Therapeutic Yoga for Trauma Recovery: Applying the Principles of Polyvagel Theory for Self-Discovery, Embodied Healing and Meaningful Change”.
If you are interested in Dr. Schwartz’s insights on healing from trauma using both the mind and body, this podcast is for you.
Links & Resources: For more information about Dr. Schwartz’s books visit: https://drarielleschwartz.com/books-by-dr-schwartz/ To purchase the books visit: https://tinyurl.com/5dbhjk66 For more about Dr. Arielle Schwartz: https://drarielleschwartz.com/dr-arielle-schwartz/ Find Dr. Arielle Schwartz’s Blog here: https://drarielleschwartz.com/arielles-blog/ Dr. Schwartz’s Trainings and Presentations: https://drarielleschwartz.com/trainingspresentations/ Materials to Reference: Therapeutic Yoga: https://drarielleschwartz.com/therapeutic-yoga-classes-in-boulder/ Learn about Resilience Informed Therapy: https://drarielleschwartz.com/resilience-informed-therapy/ Somatic Therapy for PTSD: https://drarielleschwartz.com/somatic-therapy/ EMDR as a Treatment for PTSD: https://drarielleschwartz.com/emdr-as-a-treatment-for-ptsd/ Play Therapy Principles: https://drarielleschwartz.com/play-therapy/play-therapy-principles/Mon, 30 Oct 2023 - 1h 01min - 63 - Healing from Emotional Eating
Every wonder why you make poor food choices? Have you ever tried a new diet just to end up miserable and eating even more than before? Kim Shapira will help us understand how to put an end to disordered eating habits and improving your health and happiness in the process. Shapira recognizes that unhealthy food habits can occur as a result of life stressors and old patterns of self-soothing. Her work focuses on getting back on track and using food for health.
Kim Shapira, author of “This Is What You’re Really Hungry For”, teaches us how to develop a healthy relationship with our food free of restriction and the need to constantly eat “healthy”. Her method allows you to lose or maintain your current weight, alleviate blood pressure issues, increase your energy level, reframe any unhelpful beliefs about food, identify foods that are not for you, and manage your emotions in healthy ways.
Listen to the conversation with Kim Shapira as we explore Shapira’s six simple rules to changing your relationship with food.
Shapira is a celebrity dietitian, nutritional therapist, and author who has spent the last 25 years transforming people’s relationship with food and helping them lose weight the right way. Shapira has a Bachelor of Science in Kinesiology from Tulane University and a Master’s degree in Human Metabolism and Clinical Nutrition from Boston University. She has practiced her unique approach to keeping weight off in private practice, hospitals, sports clinics, addiction centers and even universities.
In her book, Shapira breaks down the science behind getting both your brain and body on board with being healthy; explains why fad diets do not last, and empowers you to be the boss of your own body.
If you are interested in learning more about how to start and stay on your health journey, this podcast is for you.
Links & Resources: Kim Shapira’s Book: https://www.kimshapiramethod.com/thisiswhatyourereallyhungryfor Information about Kim Shapira’s Methodology: https://www.kimshapiramethod.com/method Information about Kim: https://www.kimshapiramethod.com/meet-kim Materials to Reference: More of Kim Shapira’s Products: https://www.kimshapiramethod.com/shop Kim Shapira’s Blog: https://www.kimshapiramethod.com/blog Contact Kim Shapira: https://www.kimshapiramethod.com/contactFri, 01 Sep 2023 - 1h 02min - 62 - Cultivating Core Creativity
I know you are creative and innovative at your core. However, most of us just don’t know how to access the deep wealth of creativity that sits inside. Dr. Ronald Alexander’s book “Core Creativity: The Mindful Way to Unlock Your Creative Self” guides you through using mindfulness practices to train your mind so that it more easily opens the portal to core creativity: the unconscious mind.
I am really excited about this show as it focuses on opening up to a powerful element of our true nature.
Listen to our conversation with psychotherapist & author Dr. Ronald Alexander as we learn ways to go beyond ordinary creativity and unlock your creativity.
Dr. Ronald Alexander, PhD, is a psychotherapist and international trainer who has spent more than 5 decades guiding and advising both renowned artists and the rest of us regular folks in his effective strategies for opening the portal to core creativity.
Dr. Alexander’s book uses a number of effective tools including powerful guided visualizations, meditation, insights from highly creative artists, stories of ordinary people who achieved clarity and profound transformation, and more to provide those interested with a practical guide through the creative process.
Listen to our conversation with Dr. Ronald Alexander as we move through areas we feel stuck in and grow our confidence in their creative abilities using the mind states of Absorbing Mind, Open Mind, and Generating Mind to access our core creativity.
If you are interested in Dr. Alexander’s insights on cultivating core creativity and unlocking genuine creative breakthroughs, this show is for you.
Links & Resources: Ronald Alexander’s Open Mind Training Program: https://ronaldalexander.com/overview/ For more information about the book visit: https://ronaldalexander.com/core-creativity/ To purchase the book visit: https://www.amazon.ca/Core-Creativity-Mindful-Unlock-Creative/dp/1538149567 For more about Dr. Ronald Alexander: https://ronaldalexander.com/about-dr-ronald-a-alexander/ Alexander’s Audio Programs: https://ronaldalexander.com/meditation-audio-programs/ Materials to Reference: More of Dr. Alexander’s books: https://ronaldalexander.com/wise-mind-open-mind/ Ronald Alexander’s Blog: https://ronaldalexander.com/dr-rons-blog/ Learn more about the ingredients for creativity: https://www.inc.com/tanner-christensen/the-six-resources-that-lead-to-creativity-according-to-research.htmlFri, 04 Aug 2023 - 1h 01min - 61 - Healing the World through Human Connection
Disconnected people have the tendency to gravitate toward power. When Disconnected people rule in positions of power societies trend toward patriarchal, hierarchical and warlike. In contrast, societies with connected leaders trend toward egalitarian, democracy and peace.
Although most people have a deep need to be connected, life events/upbringing and trauma exposure can interfere in this profound human characteristic. A person’s “goodness” and capacity for compassion often results from connection, whereas cruelty often originates from a feeling of being cut off from others.
Dr. Steve Taylor, author of “DisConnected: The Roots of Human Cruelty and How Connection Can Heal the World”, teaches us about the consequences of disconnection, how connection ultimately shapes us as a society, and how it can even change us as people.
Listen to the conversation with Dr. Steve Taylor as we explore the benefits of being interconnected unpack how valuable human connection is to us all in this complex world.
Dr. Taylor is a senior lecturer in psychology at Leeds Beckett University, and the chair of the Transpersonal Psychology section at the British Psychological Society. He is also the bestselling author of The Calm Center, The Leap and the Clear Light. His work has been described by Eckhart Tolle as “an important contribution to the shift in consciousness which is happening on our planet at present.”
In his book, Dr. Taylor provides us with unique knowledge of human behaviour, social issues and a new perspective on human nature.
If you are interested in learning more about how rediscovering the consciousness of our connection to each other is the only way we can live in harmony with ourselves, with each other, and with the world itself, this podcast is for you.
Links & Resources: Dr. Taylor’s book review: https://tinyurl.com/3b2ewhfs Purchase Dr. Taylor’s book: https://tinyurl.com/mvp52h4h Information about Dr. Taylor’s Books: https://www.stevenmtaylor.com/books/disconnected/ Materials to Reference: More of Dr. Taylor’s Radio Appearances and videos: https://www.stevenmtaylor.com/videos/ Information about Dr. Steve Taylor: https://www.stevenmtaylor.com/about-steve-taylor/ Events with Steve Taylor: https://www.stevenmtaylor.com/events/ Online programs with Steve Taylor: https://www.stevenmtaylor.com/online-courses/Fri, 30 Jun 2023 - 1h 01min - 60 - Finding the courage to truly be yourself
We all want to feel free to be our true selves and live in a way that feel authentic. I want to live my life to the fullest and I imagine you do as well. Despite this, we can get sidetracked by demands and expectations that throw us off our true gifts and passions. Instead we might follow the preferences and aspirations that society, family, and friends have for us, rather than what we truly want for ourselves. Breaking free from self-doubt and discovering what it is that you truly want from life, demands that you grow beyond the obstacles that undermine personal goals, hopes and dreams.
Dr. Lyndsay Gibson, Psychologist and author of “Who You Were Meant to Be: A Guide to Finding or Recovering Your Life's Purpose”. Dr. Gibson utilizes her years of clinical knowledge to show us what gets in the way of our true unfolding. We will reflect on how to free ourselves from misguided guilt and misplaced loyalty that confuses loving others with sacrificing ourselves and betraying our true life path.
Listen to the conversation with Dr. Lindsay Gibson as we explore ways to reclaim your true path, especially if you have suffered from the effects of emotionally immature parents. We discuss how to uncover your life’s purpose and who you were truly meant to be.
Dr. Lindsay Gibson is a clinical psychologist, author, and assistant professor with a passion for human conflict and helping others develop long-lasting, meaningful relationships. Dr. Gibson has written several books including her best-selling novel “Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting or Self-Involved Parents”. It has sold over 100,000 copies, been translated into 14 languages, and has helped thousands of people reverse their toxic psychological legacy and reclaim their lives.
In her book, Dr. Gibson provides real life examples from her therapy practice and a variety of methods to get you thinking about what constitutes individual happiness and how to chart a course to get there. Dr. Gibson helps her readers to free themselves from doubt and defeat and find out what you really want to do with your life, utilizing inner guidance to find personal and energizing life purpose. Her book helps address feelings of helplessness, hopelessness, and the common fears that often bring self-actualization to a hault while offering practical advice for those who are reluctant to put themselves first in their own lives.
If you are interested in more information about how you can recover from emotionally immature parents, break out of old habits, forge a new path to discover or recover our true purpose in life and become the people we want to be, this talk is for you.
Links & Resources: To purchase Dr. Gibson’s book “Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents: https://tinyurl.com/mwf48aur To purchase Dr. Gibson’s book “Who You Were Meant to Be: A Guide to Finding or Recovering Your Life's Purpose”: https://www.amazon.ca/Who-You-Were-Meant-Recovering/dp/0882821873 For more information about Dr. Gibson: https://catalogue.pesi.com.au/speaker/lindsay-gibson-346187/18 Materials to Reference: 4 signs that a parent is emotionally immature: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/mental-wealth/202111/4-signs-parent-is-emotionally-immature Accessing Emotional Immaturity (questionnaires and resources): http://curioushealing.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/11/ACEIP_exercises.pdf Tips for finding your life’s purpose: Accessing Emotional Immaturity (questionnaires and resources): https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/articles/202301/5-ways-to-find-your-purposeThu, 25 May 2023 - 1h 01min - 59 - The Dangerous Relationship… loving a Narcissistic, Sociopath or Psychopathic
There are times when someone describes in detail a relationship that seems unkind, unhealthy and even dangerous. Or maybe we have experienced this personally in a relationship with a person we thought would be a wonderful partner to begin with only to realize after falling deeply in love that this person is self-centered, arrogant, attention seeking and lacks basic empathy and consideration for other people.
An expert on NPD and psychopaths and the author of “Women Who Love Psychopaths: Inside the Relationships of Inevitable Harm with Psychopaths, Sociopaths & Narcissists”, Sandra L. Brown (author and former psychotherapist) shares her knowledge of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and Psychopathy, the complicated nature of Pathological and/or abusive relationships, and how to heal when the relationship ends.
Listen to our conversation with Sandra L. Brown as we delve into personality disorders (Borderline, Narcissism, Anti-Social, and Psychopathy), Pathological Love Relationships, and the care of those who have suffered through the ordeal of dangerous relationships.
Sandra L. Brown, M.A., is the founder of the Association for NDP/Psychopathy Survivor Treatment and The Institute for Relational Harm Reduction & Public Pathology Education. She is a former psychotherapist in the field of psychopathology and “survivor trauma”. She is a respected community educator on the intersections of mental illness, personality disorders, violence, and recidivism. She is also a clinical lecturer, TV and radio guest, and author.
Brown has written a number of books including How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved; Women Who Love Psychopaths: Inside the Relationships of Inevitable Harm with Psychopaths, Sociopaths & Narcissists, and Counseling Victims of Violence: A Handbook for Helping Professionals.
Brown illustrates a novel model of clinical treatment she has brought to this population as well as research and insight into the impact of the survivors’ experiences. Her unique treatment approach integrates relational dynamics, personality traits, and trauma/aftermath symptomatology of survivors of NPD/Psychopath partners with the goal of providing professionals with effective tools for treating survivors of NPD/Psychopaths.
If you are interested in Sandra Brown’s knowledge on Pathological Love Relationships, how to free yourself from them, and healing your trauma caused by psychopathic abuse, this podcast is for you.
Links & Resources: Sandra Brown’s Books: https://www.amazon.ca/Sandra-L-Brown/e/B01ATIAQKG/ref=aufs_dp_fta_dsk Association for NPD/Psychopathy Survivor Treatment: https://survivortreatment.com/ To purchase her award winning book: https://www.amazon.ca/gp/product/0984172807/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_bibl_vppi_i4 For more about Sandra Brown: http://sandralbrownma.com/ Contact Sandra Brown: http://sandralbrownma.com/more-about-sandra/ Materials to Reference: Relevant Research on Psychopathy: https://survivortreatment.com/research/ New Science that has emerged: https://survivortreatment.com/field-development-accomplishments-and-contributions/ Brown’s Workshop’s for Professionals: https://survivortreatment.com/treating-the-survivor/ https://survivortreatment.com/clinicians-guide/ Relevant Articles on NPD and Psychopathy: https://survivortreatment.com/articles/Mon, 01 May 2023 - 1h 01min - 58 - Untangling your Marriage
Across North America, almost half of all marriages will end in divorce or separation. Even though divorce is a complex process that requires legal, psychological and financial considerations, there may be ways to make it just a bit less painful. Nanci Smith’s book “Untangling Your Marriage: A Guide to Collaborative Divorce” attempts to dispel some negative messaging about divorce and show us that divorce can be achieved with dignity, mutual respect, integrity, and compassion.
Listen to our conversation with lawyer & author Nanci Smith as we get an introduction to both the mindset and the process of Collaborative Divorce, an interdisciplinary, non-adversarial divorce model. In Collaborative Divorce, Smith how the process provides a guide through emotional issues such as anger, sadness, rage, betrayal, etc. with everyone in the family unit. And, how a neutral financial expert helps to collect, organize, and clearly presents the financial resources of the couple so that there is an even playing field to negotiate the final settlement terms. The lawyers provide legal advice throughout the process without being adversarial, and making a difficult situation, worse.
Nanci Smith is a lawyer and author who began her career in litigation firms focusing on Criminal Litigation and Family Law. She also worked representing victims of domestic violence and people with psychiatric diagnoses in mental health civil proceedings. She is a member of the Vermont Bar Association, is the Chair of the Vermont Bar Association Collaborative Section, and a member of the Collaborative Practice Vermont, an Interdisciplinary Practice Group. Smith has received advanced training in and practices Collaborative Divorce and Collaborative Mediation at her solo practice.
Smith’s book presents a candid and open view of divorce from the viewpoint of an experienced divorce lawyer who has also through a divorce herself. Smith unlocks a collaborative approach to any divorce advising deep listening, invention, flexibility, and the capacity to pivot away from shame and blame and towards acceptance. She identifies these practices to counteract the volatile and complex issues related to divorce.
Listen to our conversation with Nanci Smith as she shows us how to emerge from a divorce, sound and sincere, working through bitterness and resentment. The heart of her approach is to reframe divorce from an act full of shame and blame to a place where divorce is seen as a type of mourning.
Links & Resources: For more information about the book visit: https://nancismithlaw.com/book/ To purchase the book visit: https://amzn.to/3yOgFO2 For more about Nanci Smith: https://nancismithlaw.com/about-us/about/ Nanci Smith’s Media Appearances: https://nancismithlaw.com/media/ Nanci Smith’s Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCU09PQWh0kvj5KLhZWxwGXQ Materials to Reference: To contact Nanci Smith: https://nancismithlaw.com/contact/ Nanci Smith’s Blog: https://nancismithlaw.com/blog/ Learn more about potential indicators of divorce: https://bit.ly/3YZPxWKFri, 31 Mar 2023 - 1h 01min - 57 - Forced psychiatric confinement – Who is at risk?
We may believe that asylums are a thing of the past but practices of enforced psychiatric confinement continue today, much to our surprise. Author Wipond, argues that, now more than ever, North Americans are being forced into treatment and involuntarily committed supposedly "for their own benefit."
Rob Wipond’s book “Your Consent Is Not Required” gives us a look into the psychiatric practices of forced interventions still in place today in some private and public mental health facilities.
Wipond describes mental health institutions using psychiatric confinement to manage school children; disoriented elderly; quell family conflicts; police the streets; control people in shelters and prisons; “resolve” workplace disagreements; detain protesters; discredit whistleblowers; and shockingly fraudulently increase hospital profits, plus more.
Wipond’s book details coercive use of mental health interventions used today in some public and private hospitals, group and long-term care facilities, troubled-teen and residential treatment centers, and even individual’s own homes under outpatient commitment orders. He found that these interventions often include surveillance against will, indefinite detention, and powerful tranquilizing drugs, restraints, seclusion, and even electroshock.
Listen to our conversation with investigative journalist & author Rob Wipond as we unpack the common misconception that only “dangerous” individuals get committed and dive into some of the traumatic practices supposedly used to “help” those struggling with mental health complexities.
We explore Rob Wipond findings and research full of alarming true stories and hard data from both the US and Canada’s mental health systems.
Links & Resources: For more information about the book visit: https://robwipond.com/your-consent-is-not-required To purchase the book visit: https://www.amazon.ca/Your-Consent-Not-Required-Guardianships/dp/1637741480 For more about Rob Wipond: https://robwipond.com/about Rob Wipond’s Articles: https://robwipond.com/articles Materials to Reference: Rob Wipond’s Blog: https://robwipond.com/news Contact Rob Wipond: https://robwipond.com/contactFri, 24 Feb 2023 - 1h 01min - 56 - Healing Family Connections
In a house full of turmoil, sometimes the person who you hope has your back may become your enemy. Sisters Ronni Tichenor and Jennie Weaver know this better than most. In their book “Healing Begins with Us” they share their journey in overcoming childhood abuse that pitted the two against one another. In the book they discuss how they healed and strengthened their sibling bond after a tumultuous upbringing.
Listen to our conversation with Ronni and Jennie as we navigate their traumatic childhoods, learn how they broke the cycle of intergenerational abuse, and learn how to begin a family healing process.
Ronni Tichenor has a Ph.D. in Sociology with a specialization in family dynamics and Jennie Weaver is a board-certified family nurse practitioner with experience in mental health.
Their book details the abuse that occurred in their childhood, how they managed to repair their relationship with each other and move forward in life to create their own healthy families.
Listen our conversation with Ronni and Jennie as we discuss how toxic environments can change sibling connections, helpful insight and advice on how to heal from your own painful upbringing, and how to heal tumultuous sibling relationships.
If you are interested in more information about healing family connections after trauma, this podcast is for you.
Links & Resources: For information about the book or authors visit: www.ronnitichenor.com/ To purchase a book visit: https://tinyurl.com/2ba9mmhp For more about Ronni Tichenor: www.ronnitichenor.com/about-ronni Breaking the Cycles of Trauma and Abuse, Silence and Shame (Ronni Tichenor & Jennie Weaver’s Podcast): open.spotify.com/show/0CSnLlxETeMYsAd6UXnraH Materials to Reference: Trauma Resources and Support: www.ontarioshores.ca/resources-support/self-help-resources/trauma-resources-and-support More of Ronni Tichenor’s Content: www.ronnitichenor.com/free-content Book a session with Ronni: www.ronnitichenor.com/book-a-session-1 Childhood Trauma and Adult Life Relational Issues: www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/love-and-sex-in-the-digital-age/202107/childhood-trauma-and-adult-life-relational-issuesThu, 26 Jan 2023 - 1h 02min - 55 - New Year’s Stress Reset
Most of us are stressed these days and don’t know how to manage it. While stress is an inevitable part of life, it doesn’t have to take over our lives. Dr. Doni Wilson’s book “Master Your Stress, Reset Your Health” walks us through identifying our unique type of stress and the best ways to manage it to make stress actually work for us.
Listen to our conversation with naturopath & author Dr. Doni Wilson as we learn how to support our body’s needs and chart a path to become resistant to the negative effects of stress.
Dr. Doni Wilson is a naturopathic doctor, certified professional midwife, and certified nutrition specialist. After suffering from migraines herself for over 20 years, she has developed a stress recovery protocol that has helped thousands of patients to overcome their health challenges and achieve wellness.
Dr. Wilson’s book details five unique types of stress. She shares with us: how to identify them and create a personalized stress management plan; what happens in our bodies when we're stressed; her trademark three-part stress recovery protocol; how to truly disconnect and take care of yourself; and how to give your body the support it needs to heal from a number of different stress induced ailments (i.e., anxiety, depression, fatigue, insomnia, brain fog, headaches, chronic pain, weight gain, and digestive issues).
Dr. Doni Wilson explores her customizable C.A.R.E. program including Clean eating, Adequate sleep, Recovery, and Exercise and how they can help you resolve underlying causes of stress and free the body from its harmful effects.
Dr. Wilson shares with us lessons and strategies from her own personal journey of recovering from the effects of stress and effective ways she has found to get more energy, feel refreshed, recover from over-indulging during the holidays and generally feel better and more balanced.
If you are interested in Dr. Wilson’s tips and tricks on overcoming stress, beating burnout, and getting back to a healthier you, this is for you.
Links & Resources: Dr. Doni Wilson’s – 7 Day STRESS RESET (For free with this link!) doctordoni.com/ddpp/stress-reset/ Dr. Don’s - Stress Type Quiz doctordoni.com/quiz/stress-quiz/ For more information about the book visit: doctordoni.com/master-your-stress/ To purchase the book visit: benbellabooks.com/shop/master-your-stress-reset-your-health/ For more about Dr. Wilson: doctordoni.com/ How Humans Heal (Dr. Wilson’s Podcast): doctordoni.com/blog/podcasts/ Materials to Reference: More of Dr. Wilson’s books: drdonistore.com/Books_c_69.html Dr. Wilson’s Blog: doctordoni.com/blog/ Stress Management Tools: hr.umich.edu/benefits-wellness/health-well-being/mental-emotional-health/learn-more-about-mental-emotional-health/thrive-stress-management-program/stress-management-tools-resourcesMon, 09 Jan 2023 - 55min - 54 - Wellness through Mindfulness Practices
Are you interested in adding mindfulness, meditation or contemplative exercises into your life to help you manage the demands of daily living or better manage stress and anxiety? If your answer is yes, then this show will prove to be a perfect fit. I am excited myself. I have been a bit lazy with my meditation practice lately and looking forward to getting some guidance myself!
Carla is a lawyer by training but she made a big pivot to wellness and mindfulness teaching. In her mindfulness work, she brings her focused and precise mind to a creative and healing modality using a trauma-informed lens. In her teaching she integrates an awareness of science and neurobiology to help explain why what she is doing works so well.
Listen to our conversation with the remarkable Carla Weinstein (meditation and contemplative practice guide) as we explore with her meaningful work in delivering Trauma Informed Mindfulness practices.
Building on Carla’s extensive training in yoga, meditation and mindfulness-based cognitive therapy, she has been offering programs through the TraumaPractice.org charity for community-based groups since 2020. Her group programs are the most highly ranked and attended among the charity’s participants. We follow up with her today to ask, what has made her approach to trauma informed meditation so useful for those attending her programs?
Carla will broadly cover some of the topics addressed in her course, to help us better understand her approach:
The Power of Mindfulness: Awareness The Impact of Trauma and the Brain and Body + Meditation Through the Trauma Lens The Neuroscience of Meditation + The Power of Attention Emotional Awareness + Turning Toward Aversion, Avoidance, Resistance + The Suffering Equation Developing a Healing Attention Cognitive Hindrances, Mental Chatter, and Values Self Compassion, Resilience and EquanimityWeinstein shares lessons on how we can each enrich our lives by building a meditation/contemplative practice and what she has learned herself from the work she provides through TraumaPractice.org
Links & Resources: For information about Carla Weinstein and her mindfulness work visit: www.thedropinproject.com/about-2 What is mindfulness: www.thedropinproject.com/mindfulness Offerings from Carla: www.thedropinproject.com/offerings Materials to Reference: Trauma Informed Meditation practices explained. Brother Phap Linh shares how to recognize trauma in ourselves and those around us (plum village): youtu.be/TOutCopkf3E Dr. Jeff Terrant, psychologist discusses trauma informed meditation practices and what it means to be trauma informed: youtu.be/qTYTciz3bM4 Yoga with Adrienne provides a yoga practice for PTSD: youtu.be/TqVSwY8y3UY Dr. Bessel van der Kolk discusses 6 approaches to heal from trauma without medication: youtu.be/ZoZT8-HqI64Wed, 30 Nov 2022 - 1h 02min - 53 - Adult Children of Immature Parents
Not everyone has a picture-perfect childhood. In fact, some of us grow up in homes where our parents need parenting or we have to parent ourselves. Dr. Lindsay Gibson’s book “Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents” helps you overcome the crushing role of catering to parents who were (for whatever reasons) not up to the job of parenting.
Dr. Lindsay Gibson is clinical psychologist, author, and assistant professor with a passion for human conflict and helping others develop long-lasting, meaningful relationships.
Dr. Gibson’s book helps you to understand how "immature parents" function; learn to resolve guilt or shame when you stop over-helping them; and start to listen to your own needs so you avoid being emotionally drained in the future.
Listen our conversation with Dr. Lindsay Gibson as we explore the effects of emotionally immature parents and how you can recover from the devastating impact of growing up in a neglectful and/or toxic home environment.
Dr. Gibson explains the effect these relationships can have on your emotional autonomy in future relationships including: your ability to identify and express your thoughts and feelings; struggles with setting limits and boundaries with others; as well as the ability to establish rewarding relationships as an adult.
She also explains ways to combat these effects so you can develop enhanced connections and relationships with others.
If you are interested in more information about emotionally immature parents, combating the effects of their toxicity, and how to grow meaningful relationships, this show is for you.
For information about the book visit: http://www.drlindsaygibson.com/books.html
Links & Resources: To purchase a book visit: https://www.amazon.ca/Adult-Children-Emotionally-Immature-Parents/dp/1626251703 For more about Dr. Gibson: http://www.drlindsaygibson.com/about.html Freeing Yourself (Dr. Lindsay Gibson’s Online Blog): http://www.drlindsaygibson.com/blog Materials to Reference: 4 signs that a parent is emotionally immature: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/mental-wealth/202111/4-signs-parent-is-emotionally-immature More of Dr. Gibson’s books: http://www.drlindsaygibson.com/books.html Gibson answers your questions: http://www.drlindsaygibson.com/readersquestions Accessing Emotional Immaturity (questionnaires and resources): http://curioushealing.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/11/ACEIP_exercises.pdfFri, 28 Oct 2022 - 1h 02min - 52 - Be Less Dickish – self-help for men
If you have ever fallen into negative patterns of action or thoughts that fail you often AND you identify as male (or know a man you want to better understand) then this self-help guide provides humorous and relevant instruction.
David and Corey write this book together as a patient & therapist duo with insight into the pitfalls and possible strategies to deal with 4 primary destructive patterns that might be getting you or someone you know into trouble.
Listen to our conversation with therapist & co-authors David Coates & Corey Kilpack as we travel with them on their adventure to "Be less Dickish".
Coates is a therapist on a mission to help men figure things out so they are more successful in their relational and life endeavours.
Kilpack is a client who sought therapy to better understand his pitfalls and figure out a roadmap for a way out.
Together this duo have identified the following "douchebag" quadrants (their descriptor not mine!) that undermine one's best act in life. I have used their subtitles which provide more information to help the listener recognize the struggle:
Aggression / Assertiveness (A-Hole) Imitation / Service (Douchebag) Victimization / Self-Care (Dick) Submission / Surrender ("Pussy)And in special cases "Piece of S..t"
Adding a touch of humor to each story, the authors describe crass, destructive and non-productive strategies that change overtime to reveal that growth can happen with insight, understanding and new behaviour approaches.
We all have something to learn from their reflection on how these 4 (or is it really 5) characters who become triggered and learn to use the TRACE approach (Trigger, Reaction, Awareness, Curiosity and Experimentation) to increase self-awareness and behave more effectively, as a result.
Links & Resources: To purchase your copy visit: https://www.amazon.com/Be-Less-Dickish-These-Archetypes/dp/B08L47S3YG Be less Dickish - audiobook: https://www.audible.ca/pd/Be-Less-Dickish-Audiobook/B09CF74X47 The meaning behind the insulting language in Be Less Dickish: https://youtu.be/GZTi1cHP_KY Materials to Reference: Tips for men who want to improve: https://medium.com/hello-love/5-tips-for-men-on-improving-their-relationships-51f6043ec1b9 What men really want: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/articles/201203/what-do-men-really-want & https://hbr.org/1993/11/what-do-men-want Man's search for Meaning (1946) Viktor Frankl: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Man%27s_Search_for_MeaningMon, 03 Oct 2022 - 1h 02min - 51 - Surviving a Bad Relationship
Surviving a violent or abusive relationship can leave us broken hearted and in need of healing. Dr. Amelia Kelley & Kendall Ann Combs’ book “What I Wish I Knew: Surviving and Thriving after an Abusive Relationship” offers strength, guidance and clarity on this difficult life experience.
The book covers how a dangerous relationship can look like a fairy tale at the beginning only to unravel into an abusive and devastating situation that is difficult to leave and hard to rebuild from in the aftermath. Kelley and Combs provide a deep dive into how you got there and how to get out and trust again.
Listen to our conversation with Dr. Amelia Kelley and Kendall Ann Combs as we explore the dangers of an abusive personal relationship and how to free ourselves and heal from this dangerous life path.
Dr. Kelley and Ms. Combs identify various forms of relationship abuse (i.e., physical, emotional, sexual, verbal) and identify strategies for leaving an abusive relationship (i.e., asking for help, seeking support, pre-planning; creating a safety strategy and exiting). They also unpack how to deal with the aftermath of an abusive relationship and learn to thrive after the pain.
Kendall Ann Combs is an author, activist and podcaster. She is a survivor of Intimate Partner Violence herself and recognizes what it takes to get to safety.
Dr. Amelia Kelley, Ph.D. is a Trauma and Crisis Counseling Professor, a trauma-informed therapist, Yoga instructor and author, with a focus on helping others leave unhealthy relationships.
If you are interested in more information about domestic violence, escaping a relationship with intimidation, gaslighting, or control, this talk is for you.
For information about the book visit: https://www.ameliakelley.com/books/
Links & Resources: More about Dr. Kelley: https://www.ameliakelley.com/about/ More about Kendall Ann Combs: https://kendallanncombs.com/ High Heels and Heartache (Kendall Ann Combs Podcast about relationship issues): http://highheelsandheartache.com/Fri, 26 Aug 2022 - 1h 02min - 50 - Psychedelic Assisted Therapy – for resistant mental health symptoms
If you have struggled with a serious depression or PTSD that does not resolve, even after trying everything, then you might have considered Psychedelic Assisted Psychotherapy. This might involve a plant medicine like Ayahuasca, Psilocybin or maybe MDMA or Ketamine therapy. Whichever approach you might have investigated you probably have noticed that there are huge costs, very little professional oversight, and possibly the requirement of travelling long distances to remote locations to acquire these treatments. In other words, it is a treatment path that is not easily accessible, and for some, too scary to consider.
Yet, there is gathering evidence that these approaches can be remarkably beneficial for those with treatment resistant mental health symptoms. Jonathan Sabbagh is the founder and CEO of Journey Clinical. The company was founded with his wife Myriam Barthes to address the needs of mental health consumers seeking unique treatments like Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy within a safe and supervised environment, even with your own mental health practitioners. Journey Clinical makes it possible for your practitioner to provide care before, during and after a KAP intervention.
So what is Ketamine/Psychedelic Assisted Psychotherapy, what are the benefits and what can you expect if you chose this approach? We will cover this and more in this radio show.
If you are interested in more information about psychedelic assisted psychotherapy or want to find a trained therapist who is able to help, this show is for you.
For more information about Journey Clinical: Journey Clinical is a turnkey platform that makes it possible for licensed mental health professionals in private practice to deliver Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy (KAP) safely and effectively. They act as the therapist's in-house doctor, treatment partner and one-stop-shop for all KAP needs, providing KAP education, new patient referrals, peer consultation groups, marketing support, a robust library of resources and more. https://www.journeyclinical.com/
Links & Resources: More about Journey Clinical: https://www.journeyclinical.com The Psychedelics Podcast: https://psychedelicstoday.com/2022/01/14/pt284/ How Psychedelics Changed my Life – Jonathan Sabbagh: https://www.independent.co.uk/voices/psychedelics-ketamine-psychotherapy-mental-health-b1928289.htmlThu, 28 Jul 2022 - 1h 02min - 49 - Dopamine Nation – Freeing ourselves from overconsumption and instant gratification
It seems clear to me, that if we are constantly striving to experience only pleasure we will certainly land in a hurting world of pain.
Dopamine is a neurotransmitter (or chemical messenger, which the brain produces) that plays a big role in the experience of pleasure.
Instant hits of pleasure can keep us hooked into a cycle of gratification that results in an escalating need for reward, but instead leads to anxiety and a thirst for satisfaction that is never fulfilled. Our brains produce chemical jolts that can be evoked by emoji text messages; Facebook “likes”; shopping excursions we cannot afford; as well as drugs, alcohol and sex. Many of these reward pathways are more accessible than ever, often keeping us constantly seeking more, without a lasting satiety.
Listen to our conversation with Dr. Anna Lembke, M.D., Psychiatrist, Professor, Author. She is Chief of the Stanford Addiction Medicine Dual Diagnosis Clinic. She is also the author of bestseller “Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence” as well as “Drug Dealer, MD, How Doctors were Duped, Patients Got Hooked, and Why It’s So Hard to Stop”.
Dr. Lembke’s books help us to understand that brain chemicals are involved in a potentially dangerous reward pathway, especially where there is ease of access to ever intensifying stimulants/drugs and other activities that reinforce the pleasure cycle. She explores meaningful strategies for withdrawing from pleasure, bringing balance through pain, or the capacity to tolerate discomfort.
In her book “Dopamine Nation” she shares her own experience of getting hooked into reading paranormal vampire novels which took her down a pathway of ever intensifying reading content. She is a beacon of hope in understanding the complicated and deep struggles of those ensnared in the path of addiction, whatever the brand.
In her Ted Talk on the opioid epidemic and the connection to pain management, she is able to expose some of the drivers to over prescribing opioids, and the dangers related to this. She also goes over some socio-medico alternatives to more opioid prescribing.
She offers insight into the pleasure-pain mechanism and how it is wired into our brains. She also brings recognition towards the fact that in an overabundant world, where we are encouraged to incessantly seek pleasures; we reduce our capacity to remain quiet, content or peaceful within ourselves. She explains that the richest countries in the world have the highest rates of addiction, suicide, and pain.
Her book covers many examples of those struggling with addictions of various kinds and the dangers of avoiding pain of any kind. She describes dopamine fasting and how profoundly beneficial this can be in resetting an overstimulated system to a greater place of balance.
Links & Resources: Anna Lembke, MD: https://www.annalembke.com/ Ted Stanford University – Dr. Anna Lembke: https://tedx.stanford.edu/lineup/anna-lembke The Psychology of An Addict Explained by Dr. Anna Lembke: https://youtu.be/2-mWbVNpBMg The Social Dilabout:blankemma: https://www.netflix.com/ca/title/81254224 Rich Roll: The Neuroscience of Addiction: https://www.richroll.com/podcast/anna-lembke-623/ Anna Lembke – Wiki: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anna_Lembke Daily Motivation – The richest countries have the most misery: https://youtu.be/9Zd9qvJUr-o Materials to Reference: Resetting pleasure/pain balance through Dopamine Fasting Dr. Lembke: https://youtu.be/9Zd9qvJUr-o The Social Dilemma – Reclaim your screen time: https://www.thesocialdilemma.com/reclaim-your-screen-time/ Andrew Huberman interviews Dr. Lembke: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p3JLaF_4Tz8Wed, 06 Jul 2022 - 1h 01min - 48 - Extraordinary Awakening – Trauma and Transformation
Dr. Taylor is a senior lecturer in psychology at Leeds Beckett University, and the chair of the Transpersonal Psychology section at the British Psychological Society. He is also the bestselling author of The Calm Center, The Leap and the Clear Light. His work has been described by Eckhart Tolle as “an important contribution to the shift in consciousness which is happening on our planet at present.”
His new book “Extraordinary Awakenings: When Trauma Leads to Transformation” is perfectly timed for the entrance into a new year with all the potential for hope, growth and self-reflection. The stories in this book explore how the worst experiences in life can open a person up to their most profound growth and life transformation.
If you have pain symptoms that do not resolve easily and are not explained by a recent injury, accident or illness, listen to this conversation.
If you have ever experienced an extreme or life-shattering event you may have also experienced what Steve Taylor describes as “transformation through turmoil”, or “shifters”, who evolve in their lives in remarkable ways following terrible events.
Links & Resources: Extraordinary Awakenings: https://www.stevenmtaylor.com/books/extraordinary-awakenings/ Events with Steve Taylor: https://www.stevenmtaylor.com/events/ Online programs with Steve Taylor: https://www.stevenmtaylor.com/online-courses/ Spiritual Growth after Trauma: https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10943-020-00980-2#:~:text=(2009)%20found%20that%20trauma%20often,(Park%20and%20Folkman%201997). Wikipedia on Post-Traumatic Growth: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Post-traumatic_growtThu, 02 Jun 2022 - 1h 02min - 47 - Writing as a Healing Tool
Writing can be used as a powerful tool for self-healing. We all have a unique journey as we grow and evolve. The beauty of the practice of writing is that it is available to help us anytime and anywhere.
Albert Flynn DeSilver is a gifted writer and author coach. He provides online programmes for exactly this type of experience and opens the door to honest dialogue for healing in his work.
His profound book, “Writing as a Path to Awakening” opens the reader up to self-examination and the use of the written word as a courageous personal growth strategy.
Albert Flynn DeSilver would like to offer up to 10 of our listeners a FREE 30 minute creative writing strategy/coaching call, which is open until June 15th. First come first served. People who are interested can book a call at https://www.calendly.com/asisowl/30min
Our listeners can also get some fantastic FREE writing prompts, a discounted copy of my book "Writing as a Path to Awakening" and additional supportive resources at https://www.albertflynndesilver.com
n Albert’s memoir “Beamish Boy,” he shares his own personal journey of going from suicidal alcoholic to widely published author and spiritual teacher, showing how writing can be central to a healing path. The book is filled with moments of life challenges that awaken us to remember how our life stories are also our pathway to healing and self-understanding. He inspires the reader to become more compassionate with themselves, as they reflect on their own troubling experiences, and reminds us how to integrate the suffering through writing and embodied presence. This is the practice of truth-telling through writing; in which writing (telling) the story helps to let go of the story—until one day we find ourselves reconnected to life, waking up to the freedom and love that is our very nature.
Albert has worked with numerous international bestselling authors like Cheryl Strayed, Dani Shapiro, and Elizabeth Gilbert, among others. These authors have been an inspiration for millions and an opportunity for individuals to better understand how unpackaging your life story can lead to personal growth.
Albert offers a creative writing program online that features a mindful approach to increase inspiration, transformation and celebration from the inside out. For information: https://www.albertflynndesilver.com/program
Links & Resources: More about Albert Flynn DeSilver: https://albertflynndesilver.com/ The Mindful Authors Accelerator Program: https://albertflynndesilver.com/program DeSilver on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/c/AlbertFlynnDeSilver Writing as a Path to Awakening – Intro: https://youtu.be/LFpwW4NN_uA FREE 30 minute coaching listeners - first 30 people: https://calendly.com/asisowl/30min?month=2022-04 Materials to Reference: Using Expressive Writing to Heal Trauma - Dr James Pennebaker, PhD: https://youtu.be/CjEr0xiXqio Shadow Work and Healing Journal Prompts: https://youtu.be/Khau5RpZUrQ The Healing Power of Writing | Kerstin Pilz | TEDxTownsville: https://youtu.be/btxVXcRDhqY What the best Memoirs have in Common: https://youtu.be/nzMrNDxuct0Thu, 28 Apr 2022 - 1h 02min - 46 - When Medical & Mental Health intersect in trauma recovery
Dr. Cammy Froude has a very unique perspective on the cross-section between medical and mental health and trauma recovery. She was a Postdoctoral fellow in Medical Family Therapy (University of Colorado) and has a Ph.D. in Human Development and family studies, with a specialization in trauma and health. This is a particularly important combination, as at any time we may find ourselves needing to address our own physical health, which may be further impacted with related trauma that may come with a sudden illness/injury/surgery/medical error, etc.
Dr. Cammy understands the importance of working deeply in ways that go beyond a supportive or strictly cognitive behavioral interventions and leans in to the somatic or physically experienced layers of pain (emotional and physical)
She uses multiple mind-body or Somatic strategies (including EMDR) to address the expression of emotional/medial trauma. Dr. Cammy brings a fresh and energetic approach to helping those at her clinic. She also recognizes that we can have “Medically Unexplained Physical Symptoms”, or MUPS, that can become exacerbated in times of strain. Recognizing the roots to these symptoms can free us up to live more fully and understand the core of our triggers and the subsequent symptoms.
MUPS include physical struggles such as:
Chronic Fatigue Non-Epileptic Seizures Stomach Pain Pelvic Pain Medical Trauma Iatrogenic EffectsIf you have thought that there may be a link to emotional struggles/trauma and a distressing medical symptom, then this show will open up some new options for you.
Links & Resources: Contact Dr. Cammy Froude: https://www.drcammytherapy.com/ Cammy on youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCekyT0v0Pj0kE5woAzhTQdA?view_as=subscriber What is Somatic Therapy and how can it help you? https://www.drcammy.com/blog-3/w1w7vns8502eacypqkahaengpofgia What is an Iatrogenic Event? https://www.verywellhealth.com/what-is-iatrogenic-2615180 Somatic Interventions: https://integrativepsych.co/new-blog/somatic-therapy-explained-methodsFri, 01 Apr 2022 - 1h 00min - 45 - Living True with Mindfulness
Every moment is an opportunity to learn something valuable about ourselves. Let’s be honest though, it can also be hard to be focused on the little moments in life, and instead, we may often take life for granted. We may tune out and waste precious experiences focusing instead on negative, unproductive thoughts. I know I am guilty of this at times.
So how do we capture what is really meaningful and get the most out of life?
Mindfulness keeps us present and aware. Daily Mindfulness practice allows us to show up and experience all the moments of our lives as present, accepting, and aware. I hope you will join us for our next radio show with our guest Ora Nadrich, as we dive into Mindfulness and the ways it can help us navigate challenging thoughts and emotions, while embracing all the little but meaningful moments in life.
Ora Nadrich is founder and president of the Institute for Transformational Thinking, and author of Live True: A Mindfulness Guide to Authenticity.
Ms. Nadrich provides a compelling invitation to navigate the territory of the self in order to gently tend to our personal and collective sorrow.
Ora will help us understand:
Why it's important to stop the day's busy-ness and allow for interludes of present moment awareness How focusing on breath keeps you fully present Why asking the simple yet profound question, "Who am I?" leads you to self-discovery How to embark on a "raise your consciousness challenge" How one's own awakening and shift in consciousness leads to an awakening in othersOra Nadrich is the author of, Live True: A Mindfulness Guide to Authenticity. A certified life coach and mindfulness teacher, she specializes in transformational thinking, self-discovery, and mentoring new coaches as they develop their careers. Learn more at theiftt.org and OraNadrich.com.
Links & Resources: Live True: A Mindfulness Guide to Authenticity Institute for Transformational Thinking Audible Link: https://www.audible.com/author/Ora-Nadrich/B011WAFLK0 About Ora Nadrich: OraNadrich.comMon, 31 Jan 2022 - 1h 02min - 44 - Beating Chronic Pain is a Complex Issue
Chronic pain is a multi-factorial event that can leave the sufferer facing terrible pain alone, without solutions, and sometimes not even believed by others.
Did you know that 1 in 5 suffer with chronic pain? Wait times to see a pain specialist can take up to a year or longer and risk of suicide doubles for those suffering with chronic pain. With costs spiralling to over $60 billion + annually, it is startling that the seriousness of this situation is not given more focus.
We discuss the difficulty in dealing with chronic pain as well as some strategies that are proving useful for some people.
Approaches include:
Meditcations and Injections Physical Therapies and Laser therapies Exercise Mind-Body Approaches – like Dr. Sarno’s (TMS) Meditation or other self-reflection exercises PsychotherapyOne of the big problems with chronic pain is that it is invisible and your struggle might not be taken seriously by medical professionals. You may be left without solutions or a treatment plan to address your needs.
Chronic pain is complex and one solution does not fit all. In most cases, there is a need for approaches that include medicine, physical therapies, mind-body (biopsychosocial) counselling and rehabilitation. Not everyone has the resources for all these therapies and yet without them the outcome may leave the pain sufferer with insufficient relief and ongoing pain.
Links & Resources: The Problem with Chronic Pain: https://youtu.be/xfl1Q5hG5Pc?t=40 Lynn Cooper past president of the Canadian Pain Coalition: https://theprovince.com/opinion/lynn-cooper-relief-needed-chronic-pain-is-a-complex-disease-and-should-be-treated-as-such Canadian Pain Task Force Report: June 2019: https://www.canada.ca/en/health-canada/corporate/about-health-canada/public-engagement/external-advisory-bodies/canadian-pain-task-force/report-2019.html The Mind-Body Prescription – physical reactions are connected to emotions: https://youtu.be/pHM45IXkXeM Canadian Pain Society: https://www.canadianpainsociety.ca/ Suffering from Confounding Symptoms: https://www.nytimes.com/2021/10/26/books/review/the-deep-places-ross-douthat.html The Deep Places: https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/57341765-the-deep-places Treating Chronic Pain takes a Team: https://www.nytimes.com/2021/11/09/well/live/chronic-pain-treatment.html Psychologist help with Chronic Pain: https://www.nytimes.com/2021/11/09/well/mind/psychologists-chronic-pain-therapy.htmlMon, 29 Nov 2021 - 1h 01min - 43 - Ranch Hands Rescue: Animal Sanctuary for Healing Trauma
Ranch Hands Rescue has a reputation for being a place of refuge for victims who have survived horrific circumstances. This makes Ranch Hands Rescue a very special place. Landon Dickeson, Clinical Director & Bill Williams, CEO of Ranch Hands, will be joining us today to share with us the meaningful work they perform with both abused and neglected animals, and the traumatized people that they bring together.
Ranch Hands focuses on the 1-10% of trauma survivors that do not respond well to traditional counselling services. This includes those struggling with treatment resistant PTSD, including sexually abused children and adults, sex trafficking victims and veterans. The animal sanctuary houses horses, llamas, goats, sheep and other farm animals where the therapy between human and animals begin to reclaim life, hope and healing.
Let’s spend some time with Bob Williams to better understand how the Ranch integrates this approach to make a difference in the lives of both the people and the animals that they provide care for.
Bob's House of Hope is the newest program, and the first safe house in America for young men who have been sex trafficked. This project is a big win for those in need.
We learn about the Ranch Hands Rescue approaches to helping at-risk people who bond closely with the animals they encounter, finding solace and healing.
Links & Resources: Information about Ranch Hands is available at: https://www.ranchhandsrescue.com Listen to Bob Williams on Youtube.com at Ranch Hands Rescue - YouTube Get involved at Donate Now - Ranch Hands Rescue (gifttool.com) Bob's House of Hope for male victim's of Sex TraffickingWed, 06 Oct 2021 - 1h 02min - 42 - Know Your Shadow – The Route to Inner Peace
Have you ever wondered why you said, “yes” when you meant “no” or became enraged by something you recognized later was no big deal? Does your anger flare up quickly in your relationships or do you ever feel like the world is against when something minor occurs? This likely means your inner “demons”, also referred to as unresolved inner beliefs or YOUR SHADOW, is ruling your life.
We are joined by Shadow Work expert Dr. Robert Masters to discuss what the shadow is, how to work with your unconscious motivators, and how to challenge a spiritual by-pass (when you don’t want to face the difficult stuff in life). In addition to this, we also explore why this work is so important for your growth and how it leads to inner peace.
There is a huge cost to responding like a hurt 7 year old to a work colleague or becoming explosively jealous when you see your spouse/partner enjoying a conversation with someone else. Great inner growth and peace evolves when you can reflect on why you become triggered/hurt, and become aware of the inner drivers that lead you to feel so bad or become so reactive.
Dr. Robert Masters is an expert in Shadow Work. He has written and taught extensively on the unconscious drivers that lead to behaviors, attitudes and events that do not serve us.
In his 2018 book “Bringing your Shadow out of the Dark: Breaking free from the hidden forces that drive you”, Master’s explains that “Our Shadow … is our internal storehouse for the parts of us that we’ve disowned or rejected, or are otherwise keeping in the dark”. Dr. Masters is a therapist and “Psychospiritual guide” with a deep understanding of the “neglected shadow domains of ourselves”.
Let’s enjoy this conversation with Dr. Robert Augustus Masters and reflect on the deepest places of self-reflection and inner growth, the Shadow.
Links & Resources: Dr. Robert A. Masters book Bringing your Shadow Out of the Dark is available: https://bit.ly/3sx7VYt Listen to him speak about Shadow Work: https://www.robertmasters.com/interviews/ For information about Dr. Master’s courses, books and work: https://www.robertmasters.com/Mon, 30 Aug 2021 - 1h 01min - 41 - Forward Facing Trauma Recovery – Profound Approach
What does it mean to "Heal the Moral Wound"? Have you experienced life-changing events that you have not been able to get over? Our guest today is Dr. J. Eric Gentry, renowned psychologist, author and speaker. His recent book Forward-Facing Trauma Therapy provides steps for reclaiming a life "filled with dignity, meaning and purpose".
Eric is more than my guest today. He is a friend and co-author of our book The Trauma Practice: Tools for Stabilization & Recovery. I have known Eric since we worked together in 1997 with Dr. Charles Figley, one of the committee members who helped to set the foundational DSM criterion for Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder.
We grappled in those early days with approaches that fit the trauma clients we were working with at the Stress Research Lab that Charles ran. This was the beginning of Trauma Practice. Eric has focused his career on working with trauma survivors and training 1000's of professionals on how to help trauma survivors.
The crucial part of his Forward Facing work is that it provides an approach that goes beyond identifying and managing triggers and integrating past trauma to "Aligning behavior with values". This creates an intentional anchor that allows action to follow values and meaning rather than simply reacting to life events. This means you can choose to follow your own life purpose and beliefs instead of the triggers from the past.
Dr. Rhoton describes the FFTT approach as "a compelling case that stress reduction and symptom alleviation are only the first steps in the healing process and that our ultimate goal must be to ... achieve a congruent life based on integrity and choice. "
We will learn about Dr. Gentry's approaches to helping you Identify Triggers, Establish a Healthy Lifestyle; Practice Self-Regulation; Develop a Mission and Code of Honor and hold true to your core of Intentional Living.
While Dr. Charles Figley states that FFTT has the potential to "substantially increase the effectiveness of psychotherapy for the traumatized with a one-two punch:
(1) Direct exposure to the root of the traumatic memories paired with
(2) resilience-building self-care practices that promote principle-based living ... while rapidly optimizing ... quality of life."
So let's spend some time with Dr. J. Eric Gentry to better understand how he integrates "Intentional Living" to create meaningful, principle-based lives into the core of his pivotal work.
If you read through Dr. Gentry's work and watch his videos, you will see an earnest dedication to the work of healing and recovery.
So let's enjoy our dialogue with Dr. Gentry and understand the Forward Facing Trauma Therapy approach.
Links & Resources: Dr. Gentry’s book Forward Facing Trauma Therapy is available at: https://amzn.to/2U9gAUg Listen to him speak about Forward Facing Trauma Therapy: https://youtu.be/F8GiWzbfFhc In the next video Dr. Gentry addresses Self-Regulation: https://youtu.be/k0BYt2rPB9c Contact Dr. Gentry at Forward Facing: https://www.forward-facing.com/Thu, 29 Jul 2021 - 1h 01min - 40 - Taming Sleep … Dreams & Nightmares
Ahh, deep restorative sleep! What relief!
We all know how much better we feel after a good night's sleep. But what happens when we are woken up throughout the night by disturbing nightmares and unsettling dreams? Are we prepared with strategies for getting back to sleep or for addressing upsetting dream content when it surfaces? What about repetitive nightmares that keep coming back? How are we to deal with them? Well, today's show looks at sleep interventions, as well as dream and nightmare strategies.
I love this topic as it gives you the skills for looking closely at what surfaces through the dream content and what makes it so interesting and meaningful in your own healing journey.
Whether it is tigers chasing you or workplace incidents, repeating the content is often symbolic or representative of what needs addressing, rather than reflective of the actual problems in your life. For example, if in your life you are not getting along with a specific friend ... your dream content might show you in a boat floating away from shore into murky water and away from a house that represents your connections and safety.
You can see an array of animals growling on the shoreline as well as one cartoon character happily waving at you from one of the windows of the house. You don't need to live close to water or even in a house in order for the dream to have meaning for you or to relate to the argument you are having with your friend. Nothing needs to be an exact replica if you look at the content through the lens of "everything is an aspect of you".
In the example above, you are all elements. You are the murky water, the house you are leaving behind, you are the boat and the feelings you have being on the boat. You are all characters that you see. Given time and introspection, you can begin to notice how each element relates to you and your life themes and events.
Treatment for nightmares includes medications such as Prazosin, CBT therapy such as Image Rehearsal Therapy (or changing the ending) and dream journaling. Deep breathing, relaxation practices and embedding the positive rather than fighting to get to sleep.
Other approaches include:
Sleep Hygiene
Dream Journaling using a light pen
Decoding Bad Dreams using Imagery Rehearsal Therapy
Making Peace with your Sleep – do not fight to get back to sleep ... instead rest and breathe deeply
Improve sleep with deep relaxation and embedding positive messages
Using Guided Body Scan and Progressive Body Relaxation
We also recognize that having a trauma history makes a person much more susceptible to bad dreams/nightmares. This can be thematic such as dreams that reflect a certain type of experience (i.e., loss of an important person, violence against you or those you love, etc). These thematic nightmares do not necessarily present an exact replica of what occurred in your life but can have features representative of a type of loss or trauma that still needs attention or healing in your life.
Research indicates that trauma has been increasingly identified as a potential precursor to clinical insomnia (Sinha, 2016). Sleep quality disruption is one of many ways that trauma can have a significant and prolonged impact on health and well-being, and this is largely because of the ways in which trauma can sensitize the central nervous system to become more hyper-aroused. However, there are ways to mitigate this, improve sleep quality, and regulate the body's sleeping patterns again after trauma.
An excellent article by Havens et al. (2019) outlines this research, and has informed some of the exercise guidelines below.
Links & Resources:
Sleep Hygiene: https://youtu.be/YvqeWcPwd2o?t=59
Tame & Decode Bad Dreams: https://youtu.be/Oi72TXnkEy4?t=17
Make Peace with Your Sleep: https://youtu.be/5HjzyLMsygM?t=38
Improve sleep by relaxing deeply and embedding positive messages: https://youtu.be/ZQmfCEtzvEE
Sleep relaxation (the Honest Guys): https://youtu.be/8TDcGYmEgyM
Guided Body-Scan Meditation for Sleep: https://youtu.be/8TDcGYmEgyM
Imagery Rehearsal Therapy (IRT): https://www.verywellmind.com/imagery-rehearsal-therapy-2797304
Reduce Nightmare Frequency with IRT: https://youtu.be/CLsmRs6RXYM
Fri, 25 Jun 2021 - 1h 02min - 39 - Be You, Only Better–Real Life Self-Care
Kristi Hugstad's book gives practical strategies for facing real life hardships. Ms. Hugstad lost her husband to suicide 8 years ago and has been grappling with the loss ever since. She described her life prior to the suicide in glowing terms. She faced social rejection, extreme grief, guilt and the devastating loss of her loving spouse.
She described a loveable, popular husband who was a successful gym owner. They sold the business with the plan of retiring early. This was the beginning of his unexpected spiral into depression and eventual suicide.
Her book outlines how she faced this loss and details the kinds of real life strategies a person can employ to face struggles.
The book outlines simple, straightforward approaches – like journaling, mindfulness, healthy sleep, exercise and sound nutrition to face life struggles. The conversation gets into the real impact of life losses and the importance of recognizing mental health struggles as we grow and change.
Although the book is focused on youth, it applies broadly to people needing some practical tools to face the demands of life.
Even before COVID, mental health challenges were significant. COVID-19 isolation, lockdowns, losses and restrictions have affected everyone in unexpected ways, leaving more people vulnerable and needing support.
Links & Resources:
The Grief Girl: https://www.thegriefgirl.com/#/
Life after Loss Blog: https://www.thegriefgirl.com/life-after-loss---a-blog#/
Thu, 27 May 2021 - 1h 04min - 38 - Psychological Strategies that Help – Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
CBT is one of the most common interventions and tends to deal with every day struggles that you might have in dealing with life events. A CBT approach might help you deal with negative thinking and adapt your behavior so you are more engaged and less impacted by fearful beliefs. The book is full of well-structured and organized resources. The book is supported by video exercises and templates on the publisher's website (NewHarbinger.com).
Our guest is Dr. Nina Josefowitz, renowned psychologist and co-author of 'CBT Made Simple; A Clinicians Guide to Practicing Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.
CBT or Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is an evidence-based intervention for addressing the impact of mental health struggles. The CBT approach is one of the most well researched psychological interventions and has demonstrated efficacy. This structured and often goal oriented approach can lay a strong foundation for early career mental health professionals beginning to work with clients, as well as for individuals who are struggling with emotional disturbances and learning to reclaim their lives. The CBT approach provides excellent step-by-step guidance moving toward self-understanding and a balanced mechanism for stabilization.
The research on CBT has demonstrated it as a power-house of intervention (Asnaani, Vonk, Sawyer and Fang, 2012) for depression, bipolar disorder, anxiety disorders, substance abuse, schizophrenia, eating disorders, insomnia, personality disorders, anger management, stress disorders and chronic pain.
In Nina's book, she focuses on the importance of both teaching and practicing the skill, to ensure the intervention can be both understood and used when needed.
She focuses on Behavioral Activation as a crucial step toward recovery and encourages strategies for self-reflection on current daily activities as a starting point. In her work, she breaks down exercises using templates that give the user a deep dive into their own behaviors and a clearer sense of ownership over what is working and what is leading to emotional and mental health struggles.
If you read through some of her exercises and watch her videos, you will see a clinician with a deep sense of care and compassion for her clients.
Links & Resources:
Dr. Nina Josefowitz, CPsych, Psychologist, Toronto, ON, M6G https://www.drninajosefowitz.com/
CBT Made Simple – preview: https://bit.ly/3uQnUkh
CBT Made Simple – videos / templates: https://www.newharbinger.com/9781684034550/#nh-book-accessories
Mon, 03 May 2021 - 1h 02min - 37 - Spiritual Growth as a Road to Psychological Well-Being
Transpersonal Psychology is the section of psychological study that addresses spiritual or transcendent elements of personal experience. The idea of our transpersonal lives is that which encompasses or goes beyond our typical and practical daily lives and into wider or unexplained aspects of what we may encounter in life.
This may include peak or mystical experiences, spiritual crisis (in which typical elements of life are no longer sufficient to establish a sense of meaning) and expanded perceptions of life (i.e., who or what we are).
Transpersonal psychology addresses our highest potential or evolutionary states of being that may transcend the ego drivers and ordinary states of consciousness.
We hope you will join us as we explore this fascinating topic with our special guest Steven Taylor! He is a Transpersonal Psychologist University professor and author who has written 13 books on the topic of spiritual growth and emergence. His extraordinary depth of understanding of this topic and many years of experience delving into this topic have formed a body of work that helps to elevate and inspire. His work goes beyond what we buy, our education, even specific religious backgrounds, and rather into how we profoundly connect to each other and our planet. https://www.stevenmtaylor.com/books/
His work shines hope on a time that has led many to feel destabilized and unsatisfied.
His most recent book The Clear Light is an exploration of Spiritual Reflections and Meditations illustrating our ultimate connection with each other and the world around us, and beyond. His book Spiritual Science addresses the importance of our spiritual growth in making sense of the larger world around us, and is grounded in science. My favorite is The Leap, which covers stories of individuals unfolding in their own spiritual growth, revealing the mystery that weaves us together as beings on this complicated life journey.
Certainly, when it comes to serious life events and trauma, a well-developed spiritual life can help us navigate the darkest of times. Dr. Emma Bragdon, author and "spiritual emergence" coach has her own heart wrenching and traumatic life experiences. She used spiritual practices including meditation to face the suicide of her mother, followed within a year by her father, the end of her marriage and suicide of her employer.
She explained that "without meditation and my connection to a meaningful spiritual community ... I likely would have shipwrecked and fallen into the deeps ... a very human response to total overwhelm."
https://www.emmabragdon.com/about
One of the earliest Transpersonal Psychologists was William James (1842 to 1910) who described the experience of oneness! James said "a great many people think they are thinking when they are merely rearranging their prejudices". He captured the struggle of our beliefs with realizations that remain important today. He also recognized that "The world we see that seems so insane is the result of a belief system that is not working. To perceive the world differently, we must be willing to change our belief system, let the past slip away, expand our sense of now, and dissolve the fear in our minds." This idea that we are more than our beliefs is good medicine even today, more than 100 years after his death.
So let's dive into this discussion to better understand what Transpersonal Psychology is and how your Spiritual Emergence can be a time of healing and integration.
Links & Resources:
Dr. Steve Taylor: https://www.stevenmtaylor.com/about-steve-taylor/
Dr. Emma Bragdon: https://www.amazon.ca/Call-Spiritual-Emergency-Personal-Transformation/dp/1456611429
Leo Matos provides an early explanation of Transpersonal Psychology 1982: https://youtu.be/FiCOazoizjU
Dr. William James on human consciousness: https://www.brainpickings.org/2018/06/04/william-james-varieties-consciousness/
The Science of Consciousness: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Science_of_Consciousness
Thu, 25 Mar 2021 - 1h 03min - 36 - The Hidden Truth of Men’s Emotional Pain & the Red Pill
Let's talk about why we fail to see the emotional pain that men live with every day. Beliefs can tie us in knots and render us blind to the struggles of others when we fail to look more closely with an open mind and heart. Documentary film-maker Cassie Jaye's most notable film "The Red Pill" forced her to re-examine her beliefs about the Men's Rights Movements.
She started her journey with one notion in her mind only to discover the very real pain and suffering that men experience when they are abused and mistreated, directed into dangerous work, or facing violent circumstances.
The statistics around the dangers of life for men show that: 1 in 6 are sexually assaulted, they are more likely to experience violent assaults, are 93% more likely to die on the job than women, account for 73% of suicides, and are given longer prison terms for same/similar crimes than women. It seems that these real issues are overlooked and under-reported. Men are told to "suck it up", "get over it", "stop whining" and are shamed into tolerating violence even in their own intimate relationships.
I wonder about these frightening numbers and how they are impacting the men in our lives. I wonder about the fathers, brothers, siblings, spouses and friends who are struggling. I wonder why these statistics are not better known.
Toronto Psychologist, Dr. Yaacov Lefcoe brings a deep understanding of these issues from his readings, reflections, and clinical practice. He will help us to navigate these concepts and learn about what the drivers of involvement are for the men who join these groups.
Dr. Lefcoe will also help us to understand the motivations that lead men to become Men's Rights Activists, PUAs (Pickup artists), Game and Inner Game Theorists (closest to PUAs) and MGTOWs (Men go their own way) of which Incels (involuntary celibates) is a part of. All of these individuals are said to have "taken" the Red Pill, which our guest Dr. Lefcoe will help us understand.
We will try to gather information and be thoughtful as we try to figure out what is happening to the men in our society who are struggling, feeling hurt, alienated and distressed. Without this, we fail men who are struggling with their identity and this can lead to further failures at building healthy and meaningful relationships.
On April 23, 2018, 25 year old Alek MInassian drove a rented van down Yonge Street in North York, Ontario killing 10 people and injuring 16 in a deadly vehicular attack. Upon apprehension by police, Minassian began demanding that the officer shoot him "in the head!" This did not occur and instead he was taken into custody by a level-headed officer on the scene. Following the attack a Facebook post revealed that he identified himself as an "incel" or involuntary celibate. His anger during the attack was largely focused on female pedestrians, who he perceived had rejected him and other "incel" men.
This type of event leaves victims, survivors and community devastated and further disenfranchises men who are legitimately having difficulty fitting in and trying to establish themselves in a satisfying way in their lives, communities, relationships. We need to better understand these issues and develop healthier and more promising roads for men to take while they develop and mature into the best they can become.
Links & Resources:
Dr. Yaacov Lefcoe, CPsych, Psychologist, Toronto, ON https://www.yaacovlefcoe.com/
Cassie Jaye's Ted Talk on learning about the Men's Rights Movement: https://youtu.be/3WMuzhQXJoY
Toronto Van Attack – April 23, 2018 https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Toronto_van_attack#Suspect
The Red Pill – A Cassie Jaye Documentary: http://theredpillmovie.com/
Wed, 03 Mar 2021 - 1h 03min - 35 - Compassion Fatigue Resiliency & Recovery: Dr. Anna Baranowsky
Traumatology Institute recently made available a new Audio Self Help Series. The Accelerated Recovery Program for Compassion Fatigue: A Self-Guided Resiliency & Recovery Series Dr. Anna B. Baranowsky & J. Eric Gentry, M.A.
Copyright: 2021
- Compassion Fatigue what is it? Crucible of Transformation Retirement Party Intro to NLP: Reflect & Process Memories NLP Reflect & Process Exercise Circle of Support Conclusion Music Sampler Diane Kistner
The Traumatology Institute offers training programs for professional and personal development. As a Clinical Psychologist, Dr. Baranowsky works every day with Mental Health Issues with a specialization in Post Trauma Stress. She trains therapists to help trauma survivors and resolve professional compassion fatigue.
Wed, 24 Feb 2021 - 1h 37min - 34 - Sedition - the lure of power over truth:
Let's talk about what led to the storming the U.S. Capitol on January 6, 2021. From my point of view, this includes the lure of relevancy or a fear of loss of power; a fire hose of lies within a bubble of misinformation; isolation during COVID; a longing to belong; fear of a changing world; a psychosis of delusion and an acute sense of entitlement. There are other elements to this, however, given the confusion, fear and uncertainty that this event provoked... it is a timely conversation.
On January 6, 2021, I watched with great sadness as the U.S. Capitol was stormed by Trump supporters encouraged by a president who would not accept election results unless he was the victor. His supporters were primarily white and unwilling to allow anything to stand between them and their sense of entitlement to power at all cost.
There are those who stormed the capitol that are now paying the price of possible prison time, job loss, injury and even loss of life.
Why would so many be willing to lose so much? Who would sign-up for such an event with so much at stake? What type of people attended and why?Christopher Buckley of LaFayette, Georgia, is an Afghanistan war veteran. He is a former White supremacist. He says he needed to "fit in". He launched the organization Life after Hate to help people leave White Supremacist groups.
Let's discuss the meaning of this event, how it impacted you, and what you hope for going forward.
I do have to say that my U.S. friends, colleagues and friends were a source of inspiration to me in their courage and conviction to guide the world to a better place. One friend told me he was nervous about going outside for anything and choosing to stay as close to home as possible. He admitted that it is just not safe for him to go out.
I want to give a special shout out some (but not all) of my heroes who helped me make sense of these events, and those of a wild 2020.
Stacey Abrams Raphael Warnock Joh Ossoff Michael Moore Steven Colbert Samantha BeeAnd Amanda Gorman who stuns with her magnificent heart lifting poem that she read at the pivotal inauguration of Joe Biden and Kamala Harris. https://youtu.be/whZqA0z61jY
The list above is a short one. Are there people who inspired you while you were facing fearful moments or wondering whether democracy would survive?
Links & Resources:
The 'Shared Psychosis' of Donald Trump and His Loyalists – Scientific American
The psychology of American racism and how to work against it (apa.org)
Seduced by Temporal Power: 'We are seduced by temporal power': Gloria Purvis on racism, pro-life politics and the lure of the devil | America Magazine
White Supremacists are the biggest threat: Former White supremacist: This is how to tackle hate and bigotry (Opinion) – CNN
Life after Hate – helps former White Supremacists leave the movement: Life After Hate
Thu, 28 Jan 2021 - 1h 01min - 33 - Gratitude & Kindness: Easing Holiday Strain this Season
Un-package how Gratitude, Appreciation and Kindness can help us all navigate this complex and challenging holiday season of 2020.
2020 is an unprecedented holiday season. COVID-19 has taken over the world landscape and changed lives forever.
I just put up a 12 x 14 Canvas wall tent in my backyard. I filled it will pillows, blankets and heaters. It is freezing here, but the tent will make a few visits with those in our pod possible during the winter months. The tent has two large mesh doors and two mesh windows on the sides. There is enough room, fresh air and secure measures in place to have a select few visit to share this space safely with us. I am grateful that we have a strategy for when the COVID lock-down lifts again, allowing for safe connection.
We are now hovering around 2,500 to 3,000 live listeners for each show and I am grateful for your interest in our conversations and willingness to participate. I love your questions, comments and feedback. It has been a wonderful gift.
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The remarkable Brother David Steindl-Rast (Author, Interfaith Monk) explains in his Ted Talk that, "we all know people who have lots of misfortune, misfortune that we ourselves would not want to have, and they are deeply happy. They radiate happiness ... because they are grateful". David explains that, "it is not happiness that makes us grateful. It's gratefulness that makes us happy". He goes on to help us recognize what gratefulness is and how it works. He explains that when something truly meaningful is given without expectation that "then gratefulness spontaneously rises in my heart, happiness spontaneously rises in my heart. That's how gratefulness happens."
Brother David, beautifully explains "Grateful living" (https://bit.ly/3oG3qI8 at minutes 3:23).
Brother David's teachings can be found at: https://gratefulness.org/
https://www.drjohnaking.com/shop/ code s2s for 20% discountDr. Robert A. Emmons (University of California) is a leading scientific expert on gratitude. His work focuses on research and practices for establishing this important skill. His book "Thanks! How the New Science of Gratitude can Make you Happier" and "Gratitude Works! A 21-day program for creating emotional prosperity" are resources we want to consider during these challenging times.
Dr. Emmons book "Thanks!" Is the first major study of gratitude that illustrates how "wanting what we have" can measurably change peoples lives. In Emmons work, he explains both how gratitude can help us function better in work and life as well as myths related to gratitude (including the myth that gratitude is not possible when facing adversity). His talk on gratitude is both uplifting and surprising. https://youtu.be/Cl5i1skE3vg?t=20
Connected with the idea of gratitude for what is freely given (based on Brother David's work) is those that are willing to be kind in their giving to others. The research on kindness, demonstrates a sense of well-being that springs from kindness to others, particularly rich in spontaneous acts (i.e., helping someone up in a moment of need, driving an injured friend to hospital, dropping off a meal to a neighbor, helping someone who is lost safely find their way). https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2020/09/doing-good-boosts-health
Links & Resources:
Leasing your comfort Zone from Positive Psychology: https://bit.ly/3qJmZRo
Gratefulness as the route to Happiness with Brother David Steindl-Rast: https://bit.ly/3oG3qI8
Gratefulness Journal: https://gratefulness.org/practice/private-gratitude-journal/
Dr. Robert Emmons, leading scientific expert on Gratitude:
https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/profile/Robert_Emmons
Thanks! How Practicing Gratitude can make you Happier by Dr. Emmons: https://amzn.to/3gx6R0R
Dr. Emmons video on The Challenges to Gratitude: https://youtu.be/Cl5i1skE3vg
Sat, 02 Jan 2021 - 1h 01min - 32 - Recovery Now TRAUMA: Dr. Anna Baranowsky
Traumatology Institute recently made available a new Audio Self Help Series. "Recovery Now TRAUMA" is the first in the series and addresses the needs of trauma survivors who are seeking self-help guidance to support their recovery.
"Learn about the impact of trauma and the importance of self care. Engage in guided trauma recovery exercises."
Copyright: 2020
- Introduction What is Post-Traumatic Stress? Our Approach to Trauma Care Phase I: Safety & Stabilization Diaphragmatic Breathing 3-6 Breathing Relaxation Autogenics Grounding & Containment 5-4-3-2-1 Titration Trigger List Phase II: Trauma Memory Processing Layering NLP Anchoring Story Telling Phase III: Reconnection Connections with Others In Closing
The Traumatology Institute offers training programs for professional and personal development. As a Clinical Psychologist, Dr. Baranowsky works every day with Mental Health Issues with a specialization in Post Trauma Stress. She trains therapists to help trauma survivors and resolve professional compassion fatigue.
Sat, 05 Dec 2020 - 1h 43min - 31 - Overwhelmed? Stay centered in a chaotic world:
Christine Arylo is an entrepreneur and author of "Overwhelmed & Over it". She focuses on shifting from overworking and giving too much to empowering yourself to achieve what matters most to you, receive what you need, and breathe.
Do you tend to overdo and over-give? Then join the conversation, and figure out what your drivers are for this behavior, so you can free yourself up to do what truly matters!
On Christine's website she asks "Are You Over giving in Ways That Aren't Really Necessary?"
Select the link below to complete the "Overwhelmed & Over It, Self-Care Quiz" & Find Out How You may be Adding to Your Own Overwhelm, Burnout & Self-Sacrifice.
https://christinearylo.com/overwhelmed-and-over-it-quiz/
Our topic today is perfectly timed for the holiday season (Nov 26 is American Thanksgiving). Whether you celebrate Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, or Diwali; if you are an over-giver then any time may be a time of over-doing! Do you want to break the cycle of over-giving and overwhelming yourself? Join us as we challenge this old habit.
Do you chronically over-give and then feel resentful, frustrated and exhausted? If you answered yes, then our topic will give you a chance to reflect on how and why this happens. Even better, we will discuss ways to challenge this tendency, and provide tools to help you navigate life demands without burning out.
I also have to be careful with over-give and over-doing. I juggle a-lot-of-balls and sometimes, instead of asking for help, I just do the task. I know I need to share the demands but sometimes it just seems easier to do the task myself. This is especially true, if I don't want to bother someone else who is also busy. This tendency is quite common and it is worth having the conversation with someone completely immersed in this question like our guest Christine Arylo.
Links & Resources:
For more information about Christine Arylo and her book: https://christinearylo.com/overwhelmed-and-over-it-book/
Christine's podcast: https://christinearylo.com/podcast/
Overwhelmed and Over it Quiz: https://christinearylo.com/overwhelmed-and-over-it-quiz/
Ted Talks for when you feel totally overworked: https://www.ted.com/playlists/245/talks_for_when_you_feel_totall
Thu, 26 Nov 2020 - 1h 01min - 30 - Building Better Friendships:
We need Friends... So why are they so tough to develop and maintain? Join our Conversation with Friendship Expert Shasta Nelson
Shasta Nelson is an award winning speaker and author of books "Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness", "Friendships Don't just happen!" and her business book "The Business of Friendship". She has developed robust strategies for connecting, developing and maintaining friendships and even how to end a friendship well. I have to admit that I am not the best friendship maintainer, even though I have a wide friendship circle of connections I have held for many years. I think part of my success is choosing amazing, kind hearted people who tolerate my "busyness", lack of consistency and obsessions with eclectic interests. In other words, I think I might have already failed at Shasta's recommendations, but I think we all have something to learn about the work required to develop engaged friendships for a lifetime. This is a great opportunity for us to consider Shasta's key teachings and ask questions about our friendship struggles and frustrations as well as our hopes, longing and desire for meaningful connection. Just yesterday, I had a conversation with a client ... who disclosed feelings of loneliness. When we discussed the people that this person was closest to, he admitted that he had not been making the effort to reach out to others but was struggling that they were not reaching out to him. This sounds familiar to so many of us... We can feel lonely but then hold ourselves back for a variety of reasons. I am excited to hear how Shasta can guide us, especially when we may have trauma that is linked specifically to being betrayed or neglected in a traumatic relationship with others.
Let's consider the following ideas that Shasta Nelson offers on friendship:
Why do so many people feel lonely even though they know so many people?
Why is it that a person can go out to a social event (i.e., family dinner, bar, zoom visit) only to feel lonelier during and after then we did prior to the event?
Why are Consistency, Vulnerability and Positivity considered to be crucial to developing and maintaining friendships? Can you discuss each of these.
What are your key methods for establishing early connection, developing a friendship foundation, maintaining a friendship for the long run?
You wrote a good titled "Friendships don't just happen" – I see that many people (wonderful, kind people) feel lonely and don't seem to have the skills for making friendships later in life (after finishing school). Why is this? And what should they do?
What about when relationships go badly? You are in a relationship with someone who is overly demanding, negative, or even mean? How do we free ourselves from troubling relationships so we can move onto something better without feeling guilty or lonely?
I know you focus primarily on female friendships but men also need this guidance. I wonder if you will expand your Friendship work to men.
Obviously there is much more which we will cover during the show.
You have been discovered by a partner as acting out in a sexual way (outside of the relationship) that then leads to shameful feelings and consequences (i.e., divorce). Or you have found evidence of your partner acting out in a sexual manner that once confronted has led to shame or remorse.
Beyond being discovered this will lead to Impairments or interfering with day to day life, as a result of obsession or compulsions towards sexual addiction.
Experiencing a cycle of recovery and repeat. Engaging in the behavior, disengaging from the behavior and then cycling back into the sexual addiction and once again feeling shame, remorse, and distress.
So what can you do? Ten great suggestions ... from Psychology Today
Make it a health issue
Embrace Quality and ditch quantity
Ride out transitions
Expect — and even embrace – false starts
Commit to community
Focus on follow-up
Avoid technology traps
Develop momentum
End poisonous friendships
Remember the little things
Friendship is a topic for everyone. I notice that when people start connecting with others in a way that is nourishing , consistent and meaningful it is the number one indicator of recovery in my clinical practice. It is an essential piece of growth that helps us cope with life challenges and a sense of warmth and peace on a very personal level. So let's all start to grow this skill for a better and deeper life. Yes, even in this COVID19 time. There are many ways to connect safely online or in a way that allows for distance that are safe.
Links & Resources:
For more information about Friendship – https://singjupost.com/frientimacy-the-3-requirements-of-all-healthy-friendships-shasta-nelson-transcript/
Limiting Loneliness During a Pandemic https://www.girlfriendcircles.com/blog/2020/3/16/limiting-loneliness-during-a-pandemic
Frientimacy: the 3 requirements of all healthy relationships https://youtu.be/hmJyWreER7A
Strategies for Adult Friendship building https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/friendship-20/201605/10-ways-make-and-keep-friendships-adult
Mon, 02 Nov 2020 - 1h 01min - 29 - SEX ADDICTION - in-depth conversation:
SEX ADDICTION? Should you be Concerned? An in-depth conversation with experts Alex St. John & Natalie Cournoyea
The numbers are in: 6% of population in the U.S. identify as having a Sexual Addiction. 27,000 people search Google for "sexual addiction" every day. This is a huge number, yet it is still an issue that we don't talk about or understand in the general population or within the therapeutic community. Unfortunately, at this time there is no significant research on this topic in Canada and experts in the field are few in number. According to our expert panel, virtually all people struggling with a sexual addiction also have a noteworthy trauma history. These interweave to further undermine recovery and frequently re-ignite the traumatic past. Alex St. John an M.A. in Counselling Psychology says that sexual addiction is a "...problematic behavior that you engage in NOT because of a primary desire but because of deep drives imbedded in shame or self-blame that reverberate after the act, leaving the individual unhappy... with themselves and yet compelled to act in a similar way again in the future".
Natalie Cournoyea also a M.A. in Counselling Psychology explains that sexual addiction occurs because "In many situations people have experienced early life trauma (i.e., sexual or other) and as a result struggle with their emotions and turn to sexual acts (in some cases) to mask strong emotions that might surface in life".
So how would someone know if they have a problem with a sexual addiction or are in a relationship with someone who is struggling in this way?
You have been discovered by a partner as acting out in a sexual way (outside of the relationship) that then leads to shameful feelings and consequences (i.e., divorce). Or you have found evidence of your partner acting out in a sexual manner that once confronted has led to shame or remorse.
Beyond being discovered this will lead to Impairments or interfering with day to day life, as a result of obsession or compulsions towards sexual addiction.
Experiencing a cycle of recovery and repeat. Engaging in the behavior, disengaging from the behavior and then cycling back into the sexual addiction and once again feeling shame, remorse, and distress.
So many questions will arise during these conversations...
What can you do now or to help someone you know?
Reach out to the right therapist with skills in specifically addressing Sexual Addiction.
Recognize that it is potentially risky to address sexual addiction with a couple's therapist who is not trained in sexual addiction or utilizes a "tell all" policy that is not a good fit for couple's therapy where there is sexual addiction.
Engage in a Consensual Non-Monogamy framework for the relationship – if this seems like a solution that is right for your relationship. This means being in a relationship where there is an agreement that sexual relationships outside the structure of the primary one is accepted by both parties.
Why is this conversation important? In my practice this is something I see fairly frequently and have yet to meet a client with a sexual addiction who did not also have a history of personal life trauma.
Barbara will reflect from the lens of her own tragic loss and personal experience.
What do you do when your father dies by suicide while you are in the hospital awaiting the birth of your triplets? What do you do when you can't attend your father's funeral because physician orders include complete bed rest? What do you do when you realize that you experienced a devastating loss and that you are not alone in that experience? You write a book and dedicate your life to helping others affected by suicide.
Links & Resources:
For more information about Sexual Addiction, Questionnaires, find a therapist, inform yourself about sexual addiction – visit: https://iitap.com/search/custom.asp?id=4662
Prevalence of Distress Associated with Difficulty Controlling Sexual Urges, Feelings and Behaviors – https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamanetworkopen/fullarticle/2713037
Talking about Sex Addiction – Ted Talk with Paula Hall https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Qf2e3XZ8Tw
Sexual Addiction screening test — https://www.centreforlifesolutions.com/sexual-addiction-screening-test/
Sex Addiction Training - https://iitap.com/page/csat Sex Addiction Treatment - https://aasat.org/ & https://aasat.org/find-therapist/ 12 Step Programs for Sexual Addiction: https://saa-recovery.org/our-program/the-twelve-steps/ Sexaholics Anonymous: https://www.recovery.org/support-groups/sexaholics-anonymous/Wed, 30 Sep 2020 - 1h 01min - 28 - Elevating Despair - Suicide Prevention, Grief and Healing
Every year on September 10th, individuals and organizations in over 50 countries connect and work together to prevent suicide, by supporting those who are struggling and to help those who are grieving. This year we will address this topic with Barbara Rubel the author of the fictional novel "But I Didn't Say Goodbye – Helping Families after a Suicide". In her reader-friendly and well researched book, she addresses the loss of her father through suicide in a meaningful and thought provoking read, and discusses WHAT she learned in the process of grieving and healing.
Barbara will share her unique approach to suicide prevention and post-vention, on how can develop personal resiliency and reclaim hope after loss in this month's "Bear Psychology radio show" on Realityradio101.com program.
Whether you know someone who has attempted or completed suicide, or felt so much despair that you have considered it yourself ... we want to open up the dialogue today about this important topic.
Let's start by clarifying that whatever is going on in your life today, the pain of the moment can elevate us to open up and and there are many people and sources of information that can provide relief. We will begin the conversation with two numbers and resource links so we have a safe reference point right from the start:
In Canada: https://suicideprevention.ca/WSPD 1.833.456.4566
In the U.S.: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ 1-800-273-8255
We discuss:
The WHY of suicide
Reflect on feelings of anger, guilt and grief
Barbara's own experience of losing her father to suicide and how she was able to reconstruct meaning into her life after such a sudden loss
Learn about her unique Dual Process Model and 4 Tasks of Grief and apply them to the impact of suicide loss
Does the current COVID-19 Pandemic complicate grief from suicide of someone in your life?
Barbara will reflect from the lens of her own tragic loss and personal experience.
What do you do when your father dies by suicide while you are in the hospital awaiting the birth of your triplets? What do you do when you can't attend your father's funeral because physician orders include complete bed rest? What do you do when you realize that you experienced a devastating loss and that you are not alone in that experience? You write a book and dedicate your life to helping others affected by suicide.
Barbara Rubel's fictional characters in "But I Didn't Say Goodbye" are a compilation of what individuals may experience throughout their lifetime as a suicide loss survivor. "But I Didn't Say Goodbye: Helping Families After a Suicide" tells the story, from the perspective of an eleven-year-old boy Alex and his family, as they are rocked by suicide and reeling from the aftermath. Through Alex's eyes, the reader sees the transformation of feelings after going through death by suicide. New to the book's 3rd edition, each chapter ends with Alex reflecting 10 years later on his experience, introducing family members and friends in his recollections. Barbara Rubel has combined our modern academic theories of grieving, and the research that supports those theories, and then translated them into a readable story for anyone bereaved by suicide. The revised edition is an evidence-informed and contemporary treatment of a devastating form of loss that uses the artful device of a hypothetical case study to render it in human terms.
Through the story, the reader understands what losing someone to suicide might be like for a family, how to make meaning of the loss, and ways to experience personal growth. This self-help book was revised to provide guidance and education for clinicians and families to help suicide loss survivors.
Links & Resources:
But I Didn't Say Goodbye: Helping Families After a Suicide (3ed.) (2020), NJ: Griefwork Center, Inc. https://amzn.to/2FwS6JI
Loss, Grief, and Bereavement: Helping Individuals Cope (4ed) (2019), MA: Western Schools
https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/help-yourself/
https://suicideprevention.ca/Need-Help
https://www.helpguide.org/articles/suicide-prevention/suicide-prevention.htm
https://www.ted.com/talks/jeremy_forbes_how_to_start_a_conversation_about_suicide?
https://www.ted.com/search?q=suicide++
Suicide Postvention Resources
listed in the new and updated edition of
But I Didn’t Say Goodbye: Helping Families After a Suicide (3rd ed.)
by Barbara Rubel
After a Suicide: A Toolkit for Schools (2nd): https://afsp.org/our-work/education/after-a-suicide-a-toolkit-for-schools/ After a Suicide: A Postvention Primer for Providers: tripod.com/After_a_Suicide.pdf After a Suicide: Religious Services: https://theactionalliance.org/faith-hope-life/after-suicide-recommendations-religious-services-and-other-public-memorial-observances A Guide for Medical Examiners and Coroners: Best Practices for Talking with Families About Suicide https://docs.wixstatic.com/ugd/a0415f_3160611bae3f4be69c8e86b1ec7ed4ce.pdf Alex Blackwood Foundation for Hope (Camp Alex): com Alliance of Hope for Suicide Loss Survivors: org American Academy of Bereavement: com American Association of Suicidology (AAS): org AAS-Helping Survivors of Suicide: What Can You Do? https://www.preventionlane.org/wp-content/uploads/2016/10/Hepling-Survivors-of-Suicide_What-Can-You-Do.pdf American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP): org AFSP-Children, Teens and Suicide Loss: https://afsp.org/wp-content/flipbooks/childrenteenssuicideloss/?page=1 AFSP-Healing Conversations: Personal Support for Survivors of Suicide Loss: org/find-support/ive-lost-someone/healing-conversations/ Association for Death Education and Counseling (ADEC): The Thanatology Association: org Befrienders Worldwide: org/ Best Practices for Talking About Suicide for Medical Examiners and Coroners: https://www.mecrecs.org/ Beyond Blue: https://www.beyondblue.org.au/the-facts/suicide-prevention/understanding-suicide-and-grief/supporting-a-loved-one-after-they-have-lost-someone-to-suicide Breaking the Silence in the Workplace: http://www.sprc.org/sites/default/files/migrate/library/Breaking%20the%20Silence%20Final.pdf California Institute for Behavioral Health Solutions: After Rural Suicide: A Guide for Coordinated Community Postvention Response: https://www.cibhs.org/sites/main/files/file-attachments/after_rural_suicide_guide_2016rev.pdf Camp Kita: Children’s Bereavement Camp for Suicide Loss Survivors: https://campkita.com/ Carson J. Spencer Foundation: org The Catholic Charities: Loving Outreach to Survivors of Suicide: https://www.catholiccharities.net/GetHelp/OurServices/Counseling/Loss.aspx The Center for Complicated Grief: https://complicatedgrief.columbia.edu/professionals/complicated-grief professionals/overview/ Center for Grief and Loss: org/ Center for Suicide Awareness: https://www.centerforsuicideawareness.org/ Centering Corporation: org/ Clinicians as Survivors: After a Suicide Loss:/pages.iu.edu/~jmcintos/basicinfo.htm Comfort Zone Camp: https://www.comfortzonecamp.org/ Compassion Books: compassionbooks.com Compassionate Friends: Surviving Your Child’s Suicide: https://www.compassionatefriends.org/surviving-childs-suicide/ Cope Foundation: org/ Davenee Foundation: org/ Digital Memorial Quilts: org/find-support/ive-lost-someone/digital-memory-quilt/create-a-new-quilt-square/ The Dougy Center: National Center for Grieving Children and Families: org/ Emma’s Place of Staten Island: emmasplacesi.com/ Find a Suicide Loss Survivors Support Group: org/find-support/ive-lost-someone/find-a-support-group/ Friends for Survival: Offering Help After a Suicide Death: org/ The Gift of Second: http://thegiftofsecond.com/ The Glendon Association: org/ Griefwork Center, Inc. Suicide Postvention Speaker Services griefworkcenter.com Heartbeat: https://www.heartbeatsurvivorsaftersuicide.org/ Help at Hand: A Guide for Funeral Directors: http://www.sprc.org/sites/default/files/migrate/library/funeraldirectors.pdf Hope Squad: com/postvention/ How to Talk to Kids About Suicide: https://drrobynsilverman.com/how-to-talk-to-kids-about-suicide-with-dr-dan-reidenberg/ International Association for Suicide Prevention (IASP): info/postvention.php International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies: org The Jason Foundation: jasonfoundation.com The JED Foundation: org/ The Joseph T. Quinlan Bereavement Center: org Kara: kara-grief.org/support-for/adults/ Lifesavers Blog-AFSP: https://afsp.org/lifesaver-blog/ LOSS Team: com/ A Manager’s Guide to Suicide Postvention in the Workplace: org/Portals/14/docs/Survivors/Loss%20Survivors/Managers-Guidebook-To-Suicide-Postvention.pdf Mental Health America: net/ Moyer Foundation (Camp Erin): moyerfoundation.org National Action Alliance for Suicide Prevention: Recommended Standard Care for People with Suicide Risk: Making Health Care Suicide Safe: org/sites/actionallianceforsuicideprevention.org/files/Action%20Alliance%20Recommended%20Standard%20Care%20FINAL.pdf National Alliance for Grieving Children: org/ National Alliance on Mental Illness: org/ National Child Traumatic Stress Network (NCTSN): nctsn.org/what-is-child-trauma/trauma-types/traumatic-grief NASPA Student Affairs Administrators in Higher Education, Postvention: A guide for response to suicide on college campuses https://www.naspa.org/focus-areas/mental-health/postvention-a-guide-for-response-to-suicide-on-college-campuses National Organization for Victim Assistance: org National Center for Victims of Crime: org/ National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, 24/7, Free and Confidential Support: 1-800-273-TALK (8255); for Hard of Hearing 1-800-799-4889; en Español 1-888-628-9454 org/ National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: Lifeline Online Postvention Manual http://www.sprc.org/sites/default/files/migrate/library/LifelineOnlinePostventionManual.pdf Open to Hope: com/ Our Side of Suicide: http://www.oursideofsuicide.com/ Parents of Suicides/Friends & Families of Suicides: pos-ffos.com/ Pastoral Postvention: https://theactionalliance.org/sites/default/files/fhl_competencies_v8_interactive.pdf Posttraumatic Growth Research Group: uncc.edu/ The Public Health Approach to Prevention org/sites/sprc.org/files/library/phasp.pdf QPR Institute for Suicide Prevention: qprinstitute.com/ Reach Out.com: reachout.com/loss-and-grief/supporting-a-friend-after-someone-dies-from-suicide/ Riverside Trauma Center: http://traumacenter.wpengine.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/Postventionguidelines.pdf SAFE-T Pocket Guides for Clinicians: samhsa.gov/product/Suicide-Assessment-Five-Step-Evaluation-and-Triage-SAFE-T-Pocket-Card-for-Clinicians/SMA09-4432 The Samaritans: https://www.samaritans.org/ NYC: org/MA: samaritanshope.org/ Sibling Survivors of Suicide Loss: com/ Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration: samhsa.gov/ Suicide Attempt Survivors Task Force of the National Action Alliance for Suicide Prevention: org/sites/actionallianceforsuicideprevention.org/files/The-Way-Forward-Final-2014-07-01.pdf Suicide Awareness Voices of Education (SAVE): org Suicide: Finding Hope: com/ Suicide Grief Support Forum: com/ Suicide Prevention Resource Center (SPRC): org SPRC Toolkit for Schools http://www.sprc.org/resources-programs/after-suicide-toolkit-schools Suicide Safe:org/sites/actionallianceforsuicideprevention.org/files/Action%20Alliance%20Recommended%20Standard%20Care%20FINAL.pdf Suicide Safety Plan: com Support After a Suicide: org.au/ Surviving After a Suicide Loss Blog: https://survivingafterasuicide.com/blog/ Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors (TAPS): https://www.taps.org/suicidepostvention Trauma Institute & Child Trauma Institute: com/ Trevor Project (LGBTQ): org/ United Suicide Survivors International: https://unitesurvivors.org/ Violent Death Bereavement Society: org/html/director.html Yellow Ribbon: org/Zero Suicide in Health and Behavioral Health Care Toolkit: zerosuicide.sprc.org/toolkit
Thu, 27 Aug 2020 - 1h 01min - 27 - COVID Tired|Quarantine Fatigue
Feeling TIRED during the COVID-19 Pandemic? Well, there are good reasons why you feel this way.
We will start by acknowledging what is happening, learn about reasons why COVID Tired is occurring for so many of us and include ideas of how to deal with the fatigue in meaningful ways. From parents working full-time while educating, cleaning, cooking and entertaining a family; medical professionals who spend time donning PPE to keep themselves and staff safe; or grocery store staff left with the task of ensuring carts are wiped down and shoppers wear masks...we are all feeling more TIRED during this COVID-19 Pandemic. Let's also remember how exhausting it is emotionally to deal with the uncertainty of health, jobs and finances right now.
Are you frustrated with having to continuously wash your hands, wear masks, wash down groceries, use hand-sanitizer until your hands are raw? Well, you are not alone and have joined a growing number of people feeling this way in what is now recognized as "Caution Fatigue".
There are many reasons for an increase in anxiety, fear and depression during this this time that naturally lead to feelings of exhaustion. Whether you have lost a family member, friend or acquaintance due to COVID-19 or are fearful of getting ill yourself. Whether you are engaged in Self-Learning, Working from Home, not working and not studying (bored silly?), living in a tight space where there is no quiet, feeling job insecurity or trying to start your career with no prospects. Perhaps you are losing/lost a business/home or sense of freedom, financial worries, or preparing for a retirement that has now been put on hold because of the COVID-19 Pandemic – these can all create a draining feeling that is difficult to shake. There is also a sense of loss about all the things you used to love to do or at least ways in which you filled your time, or helped you feel like life was meaningful? Are these activities still possible or MUST you look elsewhere for feelings of fulfillment? These are other sources of demoralization that often lead us into a tired, run-down feeling. Let's start by just simply acknowledging that this is true for us, it is really happening and our exhaustion is not our fault or imaginary. You are in good company with so many others who are trying their best to cope in this difficult time. Stick around for strategies, tips, tools, and solutions to challenge this feeling of exhaustion!
Links & Resources:
Are You Experiencing Coronavirus Quarantine Fatigue?
Feeling exhausted during the pandemic? This philosopher says you could have moral fatigue.
Some of us have more time to sleep. So why are we so tired?
RAIN: recognize, Allow, Investigate, Nurture.
RAIN: A Practice of Radical Compassion.
Books to read:
Man's Search for Meaning (1946) by Viktor Frankl
Mon, 17 Aug 2020 - 1h 02min - 26 - #BlackLivesMatter: The Courage to Speak Out
In this episode we pay attention to the deep and traumatic roots of Black Lives Matter and unpack the layers of how to respond effectively as individuals and within communities. I dialogue with mental health professional, Ornge trauma team lead and anti-racism trainer, Tom Walker.
After the murder of George Floyd the public outcry continues to be a powerful voice that is awakening the world to the injustice of systemic racism that so many have turned their backs on for too long. At this critical moment while witnessing continued acts of social injustice and violence against Persons of Color – it is important that we take pause to understand what it means to Bear Witness while engaging in right action moving toward meaningful solutions.
I am personally in awe of the continued courage and persistence of those directly participating in the Black Lives Matter protests happening in the U.S. and around the world. Those who are putting their voices and actions forward, are speaking out clearly about what has to change in our perceptions, in our daily actions and in the way we create societies that will truly respect and include everyone with dignity and equality.
It is no doubt, hard for many to focus and listen deeply to the painful voices of the #BlackLivesMatter movement. There is much shame in "white privilege" and there is longing for some to turn away. It is important to address one's own views and be uncomfortable with the reality of racism in our lives. This is the moment to grapple with the reality of our inaccurate perception of being "nice normal folks, in a nice normal world". This is simply not always true, and with this limited perspective we may fail to see the experiences of friends, neighbours and colleagues that are confronted with racism every day.
We discuss and explore:
Why #Black lives Matter accurately represents the issue and Why "All Lives Matter" phase is a distraction.
What #Defund the Police, actually means and how it could benefit all including policing services. Michael Moore does a great job explaining this. Also related is "8 Anti-Racism Policing Policies that cannot wait".
What the Anti-Racism Experts like Reni Eddo-Lodge, Robin DeAngelo, and Resmaa Menakem (author of Notice the Rage; Notice the Silence" ongoing.org) have to say.
What White Fragility is (Robin DeAngelo coined the phrase) and knowing when it strikes.
Using "Love, Kindness and Wisdom" to help us through this. Resmaa Menakem provides incredibly meaningful guidance on this.
Why Anitifa is NOT the same as #Black Lives Matter and why you need to know this.
Anti-Racism Resources:
Resources for white parents to raise anti-racist children:
Books: Coretta Scott King Book Award Winners: books for children and young adults
Podcasts: Parenting Forward podcast episode 'Five Pandemic Parenting Lessons with Cindy Wang Brandt'
Fare of the Free Child podcast
Articles: PBS's Teaching Your Child About Black History Month
The Conscious Kid: follow them on Instagram and consider signing up for their Patreon
Articles to read:
"America's Racial Contract Is Killing Us" by Adam Serwer | Atlantic (May 8, 2020)
Ella Baker and the Black Freedom Movement (Mentoring a New Generation of Activists
"My Life as an Undocumented Immigrant" by Jose Antonio Vargas | NYT Mag (June 22, 2011)
The 1619 Project (all the articles) | The New York Times Magazine
The Combahee River Collective Statement
"The Intersectionality Wars" by Jane Coaston | Vox (May 28, 2019)
Tips for Creating Effective White Caucus Groups developed by Craig Elliott PhD
"White Privilege: Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack" by Knapsack Peggy McIntosh
"Who Gets to Be Afraid in America?" by Dr. Ibram X. Kendi | Atlantic (May 12, 2020)
Videos to watch:
"How Studying Privilege Systems Can Strengthen Compassion" | Peggy McIntosh at TEDxTimberlaneSchools (18:26)
Podcasts to subscribe to:
Intersectionality Matters! hosted by Kimberlé Crenshaw
Momentum: A Race Forward Podcast
Pod For The Cause (from The Leadership Conference on Civil & Human Rights)
Pod Save the People (Crooked Media)
Books to read:
Black Feminist Thought by Patricia Hill Collins
Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower by Dr. Brittney Cooper
Heavy: An American Memoir by Kiese Laymon
How To Be An Antiracist by Dr. Ibram X. Kendi
I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings by Maya Angelou
Just Mercy by Bryan Stevenson
Me and White Supremacy by Layla F. Saad
Raising Our Hands by Jenna Arnold
Redefining Realness by Janet Mock
Sister Outsider by Audre Lorde
So You Want to Talk About Race by Ijeoma Oluo
The Bluest Eye by Toni Morrison
The Fire Next Time by James Baldwin
The New Jim Crow: Mass Incarceration in the Age of Colorblindness by Michelle Alexander
The Next American Revolution: Sustainable Activism for the Twenty-First Century by Grace Lee Boggs
The Warmth of Other Suns by Isabel Wilkerson
Their Eyes Were Watching God by Zora Neale Hurston
This Bridge Called My Back: Writings by Radical Women of Color by Cherríe Moraga
When Affirmative Action Was White: An Untold History of Racial Inequality in Twentieth-Century America by Ira Katznelson
White Fragility: Why It's So Hard for White People to Talk About Racism by Robin DiAngelo, PhD
Films and TV series to watch:
13th (Ava DuVernay) — Netflix
American Son (Kenny Leon) — Netflix
Black Power Mixtape: 1967-1975 — Available to rent
Clemency (Chinonye Chukwu) — Available to rent
Dear White People (Justin Simien) — Netflix
Fruitvale Station (Ryan Coogler) — Available to rent
I Am Not Your Negro (James Baldwin doc) — Available to rent or on Kanopy
If Beale Street Could Talk (Barry Jenkins) — Hulu
Just Mercy (Destin Daniel Cretton) — Available to rent
King In The Wilderness — HBO
See You Yesterday (Stefon Bristol) — Netflix
Selma (Ava DuVernay) — Available to rent
The Black Panthers: Vanguard of the Revolution — Available to rent
The Hate U Give (George Tillman Jr.) — Hulu with Cinemax
When They See Us (Ava DuVernay) — Netflix
Organizations to follow on social media:
Antiracism Center: Twitter
Audre Lorde Project: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook
Black Women's Blueprint: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook
Color Of Change: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook
Colorlines: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook
The Conscious Kid: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook
Equal Justice Initiative (EJI): Twitter | Instagram | Facebook
Families Belong Together: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook
The Leadership Conference on Civil & Human Rights: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook
MPowerChange: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook
Muslim Girl: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook
NAACP: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook
National Domestic Workers Alliance: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook
RAICES: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook
Showing Up for Racial Justice (SURJ): Twitter | Instagram | Facebook
SisterSong: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook
United We Dream: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook
More anti-racism resources to check out:
75 Things White People Can Do for Racial Justice Anti-Racism Project Jenna Arnold's resources (books and people to follow) Rachel Ricketts' anti-racism resources Resources for White People to Learn and Talk About Race and Racism Save the Tears: White Woman's Guide by Tatiana Mac Showing Up For Racial Justice's educational toolkits "Why is this happening?" — an introduction to police brutality from 100 Year Hoodie Zinn Education Project's teaching materialsThu, 25 Jun 2020 - 1h 02min - 25 - Our Shadow and the Unconscious Mind
"The most terrifying thing is to accept yourself fully" – Carl Jung
We'll start by recognizing that we are much more than the surface image we present to others while at the same time exploring why for many, we guard our interior world so very carefully, in fear that others will see us for who we really are.
It begs the question – Who and what are we really guarding from others, and why? We will discuss what happens when these facades break down, and what we can see more clearly. By breaking down barriers within ourselves we can give permission to see our vulnerabilities, our strong emotions, our deep desires and our drives.
When these deeper drivers create problems in our lives, it can create a cycle where we feel an instant dread or hate towards what lies deep inside ourselves. What kinds of relationships do we create if we see something in others that we despise only to discover it within ourselves? This is your Shadow.
You are MORE than these barriers to YOU... Recognizing the deeper layers of who you are and the unconscious drivers in your life, allows your true personality to shine through.
From a psychological point of view the Shadow is a part of your personality (an unconscious part) that we resist recognizing or admitting to. This is the part of us that would say "not me, I didn't do it, or I hate it when others do it" whatever "it" is. The Shadow will likely be something that someone in our life is telling us we are guilty of that we do not want to know or see. This "it" might be perceived as positive by some, and negatively by others.
By integrating this "it" and knowing how it exists within us, can free up of much of our own inner battles. If we wish to grow in our self-understanding, we should know how the Shadow lives within us so we can either embrace it or work with the impulse to hide it as it surfaces with a full recognition of the power it has in our responses or reactions.
In our day-to-day world, we often trade on platitudes such as "it will be Ok; don't worry; get over it". These superficial responses often find us feeling alone and misunderstood. This is especially the case when we feel what is deeper within us pushing to the surface for the breathing space letting us face and witness our Shadow.
Opening the door to this journey to meet our Shadow may be our biggest step towards growth. While it is filled with fearful self-examinations that we may want to continually reject, we are being propelled to look beneath the surface time and time again to meet who we truly are.
Links & Resources:
Shadow Work Journal – by Jessica Cross (2015): https://bit.ly/2zftl5p
Shadow Work Guide – by Scott Jeffrey (2017): https://bit.ly/2WU1Rv0
Dr. Gerald May – "The Dark Night of the Soul" 2005: https://bit.ly/2ZshcVn
Psychology Today: https://bit.ly/3eaLiAK
Carl Jung and the Shadow – The mechanics of your dark shadow: https://bit.ly/36x2Rsg
Jordan Peterson in integrating the shadow: https://bit.ly/2zrqRAJ
Emerald – Shadow Work Explained – Jungian Psychology: https://bit.ly/2ZuTVlF
Ernest Becker –Immortality Projects & his famous book The Denial of Death: https://bit.ly/2XiDsOI
Sat, 30 May 2020 - 1h 01min - 24 - Pain, Power & the Purpose of Lies
We have all lied at some point, and have likely been hurt by others lying to us. Wonder why do we all do it? Why do some people lie compulsively? Have you ever felt a need to lie to pretend things are better than they are or even to gain power or protection? Have you ever felt ashamed of believing a liar or have been badly injured as a result? We have all been there! Let's talk about this complex issue and explore the Pain, Power and Purposes of Lies. We will discuss the motivation and consequences of lying; how to spot a liar; types of liars; and when lying seems like the right thing to do. Let's take the time to chat about how we make sense of the issues of lying and even learn to spot when we are using lying ourselves (perhaps it's automatic; a response to when we feel uncomfortable or want someone's approval). We will also explore the concept of "Firehosing" , that involves huge amounts of lies being pushed out, and making it difficult to see the truth beyond the misinformation. It's primarily used to maintain power and to deliberately deceive. Most often used in a political context, it can leave people overwhelmed by the misleading and confusing information. And before we all start to feel that we are to blame and shamed by lying – let's talk about and put into perspective how common dishonesty is and part of how we navigate our world with others. Somehow, lying is a deeply ingrained mechanism in our makeup of who we are.
Our best bet to managing it, is to realize that it is here and to see it clearly and call for what it is.
Wed, 06 May 2020 - 1h 00min - 23 - Frontline Heroes in the COVID Pandemic
We addressed the impact on first responders/front line workers everywhere with two experts Dr. Brad Lindell of NC-CM and AAETS ( http://www.nc-cm.org/biobradlindell.htm ) and Daniel McGuire of CISM Perspectives (https://www.cismperspectives.com/). These include emergency room staff, doctors, nurses, clinicians, mental health practitioners, pharmacy staff, grocery staff, those still serving food/drinks, maintenance people, construction workers, and all the people out there showing up to help us continue to function, live, and deal with the demands of this world right now. This is an incredibly demanding time, those on the front line are seeing things and experiencing struggles that cannot be compared with anything that has come before. There are strong feelings of fear, uncertainty, anger, frustration, grief, confusion and more. I realize that the struggles will continue beyond the end of the Pandemic for those who remain distressed over what they have witnessed, experienced, lost and fought during this time. This will start to show weeks, months and years after the impact. For now, I believe we all need to be part of the conversation and try to help in ways that allow for open dialogue and figuring out what helps most. There are many things that we know make a difference in managing the daily stressors that you might find useful from the resource link page HERE I will be adding to it regularly with updated materials, suggestions and ideas. Whichever organization you belong to, it would be good to create virtual Town Halls where those on the front line can address their issues and inform those in roles of management. There is so much that is unknown and so much that front line workers need to teach us in order for those in positions of leadership can make the best choices to address the overarching demands and needs during this time of crisis. We all need to listen and stay connected, even when we are physically distant.
Sat, 11 Apr 2020 - 1h 01min - 22 - Your Life in this new COVID World
How are you managing in this new COVID World? "the hope that something good can come out of this collective state of "together, apart."– Elena Nicolaou, Mar 19, 2020 Things have changed so rapidly that everyday life seems like "a surreal life". I walk to work and the streets are empty, I enter my building and no one is in the elevator. I arrive at my floor, open my file cabinet and begin to see clients – although now, every interaction I have is online or by phone. I cancelled all my social plans and now I have Video Zoom dinner parties, visit with friends and family by phone and email, text and chat through WhatsApp. I just realized that if my efforts for creating a social network were not strong before this, I would be truly suffering as I am a social being and I need to feel close to others. These ways of connecting are not the same as the warm hugs and direct smiles I might be used to but they do make a difference. They keep me feeling connected somewhat. Dealing with COVID stress There are so many people out there trying hard to make a difference and share resources that can help us all. No country or citizen is immune to the potential impact of this disease. Yet, from what we are seeing there are places in the world like South Korea and China where rapid actions have led to a quick handling of this Pandemic. We need to stay open to learning from those who can help.
Recommendations for stopping the spread Big changes need to happen to change the course of COVID-19 – What to do Clear Warnings Hamilton Doctor Warns us in Ontario of what is coming and how clever the virus is. Managing COVID-19 STRESS There are many ways to manage the stress of this new COVID world, join us as we discuss this. Take a Media Diet (seriously limit the amount of time you read, or watch COVID related content) Exercise more (even if this means chair exercise, walk about your apartment/room/house/neighbourhood) – always keeping in mind social distancing Take a class on line (right now there are so many programs and online classes that are launching to address the needs of millions of people experiencing quarantine or social isolation) – I took a live yoga class through Instagram Live (but you can meditate, learn to knit, join a book club, etc). Use this time to do the projects you have wanted to catch up on Reach out to a friend or family member who you have not had time for Letter from Dr. Hollenstein to his students after classes are closed due to COVID CAMH on COVID Free irest meditations to help right now HOW ABOUT SOMETHING HOPEFUL? Stay Hopeful with Inspiration – Kitty O'Meara – "and people stayed home" https://www.oprahmag.com/entertainment/a31747557/and-the-people-stayed-home-poem-kitty-omeara-interview/ REMEMBER THERE ARE PEOPLE ALL AROUND THE WORLD POURING ALL THEIR CREATIVE AND INTELLECTUAL ENERGY, TIME, MONEY IN SOLUTIONS. WE ARE RACING FORWARD WITH ANSWERS. Some useful resources: For more COVID-19 information on CDC click HERE For information on the rolling COVID-19 updates by WHO click HERE For more information on managing COVID-19 stress HERE More Meaningful Link: Letter from Dr. Hollenstein to his students after classes are closed due to COVID HERE CAMH on COVID HERE Free irest meditations to help right now HEREMon, 30 Mar 2020 - 1h 02min - 21 - What is loneliness: Why is it so bad now?
What is loneliness: Why is it so bad now? In the age of technology, we are more connected than ever, so why do many people still struggle with loneliness? First, let’s define loneliness. Loneliness is need of human connection but not being able to have it. It is a subjective experience and is not the consequence of being physically alone. If you feel lonely, you are lonely. Loneliness occurs when someone perceives their relationships as not fulfilling their social needs. Dr. Andrew Wister from Simon Fraser University believes social media may be partly fueling loneliness by creating a false sense of multiple connections. The list of friends you turn to for social needs is much smaller than your friends list on social media. What are the negative results of loneliness? Chronic loneliness is not only emotionally draining; it is a physical health risk. Researchers have likened loneliness to being as detrimental to health as smoking 15 cigarettes a day. Interestingly, brain imaging studies show that social rejection (loneliness) activates the same brain areas as physical pain. Those who are chronically lonely experience anxiety, depression, and may feel physically ill. Loneliness can also be a vicious cycle. Those who have been lonely for long periods of time become better at noticing social cues but are worse at interpreting them. To make matters worse, the person experiencing loneliness is more likely to interpret social cues negatively making them feel more isolated. Check out Loneliness: Human Nature and the Need for Social Connection by neuroscientist John Capiocco and author William Patrick for an in-depth look into the effects of loneliness. Are you lonely? How do you deal with this? It is important to accept that feeling lonely is a normal human experience, and there is nothing wrong with you if you experience feelings of loneliness. If you tend to prejudge people’s intentions as negative, or assume social situations are going to go terribly, you may be lonely. Taking time to reflect upon previous interactions with people is helpful in parsing out the negative from the positive. Not every interaction is negative! To build social connections it is imperative to get yourself out there. Go to an event you’ve wanted to go to, or invite someone out for a coffee. If someone reaches out to you, try stepping out of your comfort zone and go with them. Even if a lasting friendship doesn’t emerge, you will have succeeded in practicing your social skills which are useful for future connections. Expert in the field, Dr. Julianne Holt-Lunstad discusses living in a lonely world here Some useful resources: Loneliness: The Silent Health Crisis Loneliness is literally killing us Loneliness Loneliness: the silent killer
Thu, 20 Feb 2020 - 1h 02min - 20 - Setting Yourself Up for Success
Setting Yourself Up for Success
“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit” – Will Durant
The year 2020 is upon us and it marks the end of the decade. Millions of New Year’s resolutions will be made; however, the 8% success rate shows we just don’t know how to stick with them. We want to share with you the psychology behind starting new habits, changing old habits, and staying motivated. Think of this as your toolkit for setting yourself up for success – not just in January, but every day!
Making behavioral changes:Habits are conditioned responses, and so to create new habits or change old ones, we must identify our cue that stimulates undesired behavior, and then change our response. Charles Duhigg, author of The Power of Habit states simply we must pick a small action, pair a new habit with an existing habit, and make it relatively easy to do, at least in the first week. Here is a short video clip about identifying the habit and changing your response.
Story-editing:Another great way to change behavior is by changing your self-story through story-editing. Your self-story is your personal narrative about who you are that guides your behavior. Dr. Timothy Wilson, an expert on story-editing says we should write out our existing story paying special attention to behaviors that conflict with our goals. Next, revise your self-story to incorporate things you would like to change. This reflective writing task can have a profound impact on our personal narratives and instill positive change.
Here are some tips for staying motivated and keeping those changes:
Write down your goals Prepare for set-backs Stay positive Don’t forget to reward yourself“Start each day with a positive thought and a grateful heart” – Roy Bennet
Now that we have addressed making changes, how can we succeed holistically in the New Year?
Starting your day off right and making meaning in your life Engage in gratitude each morning Prepare for your morning the night before Engage in activities that make you happy Take care of your body and mind Some useful resources:For more information on staying motivated click HERE
For information on the types of motivation click HERE
For more information on starting your morning off right click HERE
For more information on making meaning in your life click HERE
For more information on why some New Year’s resolutions don’t work click HERE
Mon, 06 Jan 2020 - 1h 02min - 19 - Holiday Stress and Overspending
Holidays can be a stressful time of year. There is pressure to make the perfect dinner, give a great gift, spend time with family members you don’t see frequently, and plan fun family festivities. All of this can leave you feeling stressed, depressed, lonely, fatigued, and underappreciated. The holiday blues is a term that accurately describes the mixture of unpleasant emotions one feels over the course of a seemingly joyous time.
Not only can the holidays leave you feeling depleted, you may also be left with an depleted bank account. All too often families feel the need to impress one another with fancy gifts and dinners. Another reality is that people may not have much to offer to begin with and are splurging on each other at this time of year out of guilt.
You are not alone:Holiday blues and overspending polls:
Although the majority of people surveyed reported feeling happy and in good spirits over the holiday season, however, feelings of sadness, stress, and fatigue still come up.
“38% of people surveyed said their stress level increased during the holiday season. Participants listed the top stressors: lack of time, lack of money, commercialism, the pressures of gift-giving, and family gatherings.”
Another survey shows 53% of people think the holidays will put a financial strain on them. Also, 20% of people enter the holiday season with no plan to manage their spending.
Factors that contribute to holiday stress Unrealistic expectations Poor coping mechanisms such as drinking which ultimately leads to more stress Unresolved conflicts in the family Not setting or sticking to a budgetFor more factors that contribute to holiday stress and depression click here.
Managing holiday stress and overspending:The good news is that holiday stress and overspending can be managed. You can take control of your holiday and turn it into a well-deserved vacation instead of a dreaded time of year.
Discuss expectations with loved ones Engage in meaningful activities with your family Stay active, exercise can help manage emotions Volunteer with an organization and give back to your community Practice mindfulness Avoid impulse purchases Track your spending Recognize your coping mechanisms for stress, if they seem negative seek helpDr. Beth Rush a neuropsychologist with the Mayo Clinic highlights three ways to reduce holiday stress in this short video clip.
Some useful Resources:Talks about being mindful: Click HERE
Good resources for managing stress: Click HERE
Also has good coping strategies: Click HERE
Coping with financial stress: Click HERE
Neuropsychologist from Mayo Clinic talking about reducing stress over the holidays. Click HERE
Thu, 12 Dec 2019 - 1h 02min - 18 - What is Happiness: How to Pursue it
Happiness is something many of us strive for using all the wrong approaches. We distract ourselves looking for the next big excitement, numb ourselves so we won’t feel emotional pain, seek pleasure in purchases, chase status in position or gaining influence or power and treat ourselves with food that we are not hungry for. Anyone who has achieved fame, fortune, status eventually recognizes that more things and more fame do not create any sense of lasting happiness.
So what is happiness and does it make any sense to chase it down?
I have certainly had many moments of happiness in life but I notice that “happy” is an elusive state that comes and goes sometimes in unexpected ways. I can never pin down the state of happy but I do notice that I often find calm, content or neutral states frequently present when I let go of expectation or insistence in certain outcomes of achievement. What about you?
What do you think happiness is? Can you pin it down? When are you most at peace, content, calm? Is this a more realistic state?
Positive psychology researcher Sonja Lyubomirsky elaborates, describing happiness as “the experience of joy, contentment, or positive well-being, combined with a sense that one’s life is good, meaningful, and worthwhile.” https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/topic/happiness/definition
Thu, 14 Nov 2019 - 1h 02min - 17 - Addictions: What we can do
What is Addiction? Did you know that in the United States alone, 40 million people ages 12 and older abuse or are addicted to nicotine, alcohol, or other drugs? The percentage among the Canadian population is similar. Addiction is a disease that’s usually chronic in nature. It affects how the brain and body function, and it’s characterized by compulsive, or uncontrollable, drug seeking and use even in the face of harmful consequences. Addiction causes changes in the brain, which can be long-lasting and lead to harmful behaviours. Drug addiction is also characterised as a relapsing disease where people return to drug use after trying to stop. What are the Symptoms and Causes of Addiction? One of the leading causes of substance abuse stems from an unhealthy way to manage your emotions. Addiction can begin when you acquire the wrong tools to cope with the emotional and/or physical pain that you might feel during a particular moment in your life. Everyone needs to bond and connect, and often it’s a lack of genuine personal connections with others that creates a dependency on substances that bring relief. The primary symptom of addiction is the recurrent use of a substance or engaging in an activity that leads to impairment or distress. Some symptoms include:
Using a substance or engaging in an activity for longer periods or in larger quantities than intended. Wanting to stop but unable to do so. Dedicating too much time to pursuing the substance or activity. Strong cravings. Disrupting your obligations at work, school, or home. Continued use of the substance or activity despite problems. For a full list of symptoms, click here. Experts agree that you must show signs of at least two symptoms to be considered addicted. How severe your condition is depends on the number of symptoms you show. Two to three symptoms typically indicates a mild condition, while four to five symptoms mean a moderate disorder, and six or more symptoms is considered a severe case of addiction. Can Addiction be Treated? Fortunately, addiction can be treated. However, treating addiction is not simple. Since addiction is a chronic disease, it’s not possible to simply stop using drugs for a few days and be cured. Most people require long-term or repeated care to recover fully from addiction and stop using entirely. Effective treatment for addiction will help you stop using drugs, stay off drugs for the rest of your life, and allow you to be productive at home, at work, and in society. There are several ways to treat addiction including the use of medication, behavioural counseling, medical devices used to treat withdrawal symptoms or deliver skills training, and evaluation and treatment for mental health issues like depression and anxiety that can cause addiction. For example, medical professionals have been prescribing drugs to treat addictions for many years. Buprenorphine and naloxone (Suboxone) are most commonly prescribed to treat opioid addiction as it helps alleviate withdrawal symptoms and cravings, without the same “high” or associated psychosocial effects of using illegal opioids. However, some medical experts believe ancient plant medicines can treat addiction even better than pharmaceutical drugs. For instance, Ayahuasca is a psychotropic plant medicine blend that comes from the Amazon and has been used by native Amazonian tribes for centuries for a variety of medicinal and spiritual purposes. Ibogaine is another plant-based medicine that some experts believe is very effective for treating addiction. Ibogaine is a psychoactive alkaloid that occurs naturally in the West African shrub iboga. In small doses, it’s a mild stimulant, but in larger doses, it induces a profound psychedelic state, which can be useful for interrupting addictions and even more efficient for breaking destructive habits and behaviour patterns. Those who support the use of plant-based medicines to treat addictions believe it’s a better alternative because it frees the addict from drugs of all kinds instead of prescribing a legal drug to replace the illicit one. Radio show was aired on Realityradio101.com on Thursday, September 26, 2019 at 1 pm EDTSat, 12 Oct 2019 - 1h 01min - 16 - Healing Relationship Wounds
Core Relational Blueprints Are Affected by Traumatic Events Have you noticed that traumatic events, like a physical injury, emotional threat, the loss of a loved one, or a life crisis, can often awaken or enhance your sense of fear, anger, isolation, or helplessness? Dr. Diane Poole Heller, an expert in the field of Adult Attachment Theory and Models, trauma resolution, and integrative healing techniques explained that you develop an attachment style in your earliest years which follows you through life, replaying in your intimate relationships, from your lovers to your children to your work relationships. However, your core relational blueprint can be deeply affected by traumatic events. Often traumatic events cause three styles of insecure attachment—Avoidant, Ambivalent, and Disorganized. But there is an ideal fourth style known as Secure attachment Fortunately, Dr. Poole Heller firmly believes that we’re hardwired to heal. “As we heal and move toward Secure attachment, we become aware of triggers and patterns in our relationships. Our nervous system learns to be more regulated. Things don’t throw us off so easily. And we open our capacity to love and experience greater compassion,” she said in her in-depth audio program, “Healing Your Attachment Wounds: How to Create Deep and Lasting Intimate Relationships.” Other experts, such as psychiatrist and neuroscientist Amir Levine and psychologist Rachel S. F. Heller, authors of Attached: the new science of adult attachment also look into the science behind love by studying attachment theory. Heller and Levine believe that there’s a 25% chance that each attachment style can be changed within four years. Recognizing Your Attachment Style When you identify your attachment style, you are more inclined to understand when this style of attachment is responsible for your behavior in your relationships. By learning about your attachment style and exploring the trauma that led you to this style of attachment, you’ll begin to see the reason for your previously unexplained behaviors. Often, attaching the name – Avoidant, Ambivalent, Secure, or Disorganized – will empower you to move toward growth and change. Attachment styles form as a method of survival during childhood and traumatic experiences – but you have the power to heal. Moving Toward Secure Attachment One of the best ways to heal relationship wounds is to practice Secure Attachment. In fact, Dr. Poole Heller states that practicing Secure Attachment behaviors actually forms new neural pathways in your brain. So, you can create deep and lasting relationships by implementing attachment-based practices into how you relate to those you love. Video Resources: Healing Attachment Wounds: https://youtu.be/DSyNv9CzSl0 Attached – explainer: https://youtu.be/-47gAh9S-Fw?t=10 Attachment Styles: https://youtu.be/23ePqRkOKtg?t=62 References: Diane Poole Heller on “Healing your attachment wounds” – https://dianepooleheller.com/ “Attached: the New science of Adult Attachment” by Levine & Heller & Terry Real https://www.avaiya.com/breaking-free/terry-real-1/ Radio show was aired on Realityradio101.com on Thursday, August 29, 2019 at 1 pm EDT
Mon, 16 Sep 2019 - 1h 01min - 15 - Healing-From-Childhood-Trauma
Dr. Anna Baranowsky completed an interview with Ande Anderson from Avaiya.com, a company that focuses on personal and spiritual growth. The gifts of your traumatic past interview is part of a program called Healing from Childhood Trauma.
Mon, 26 Aug 2019 - 43min - 14 - Suicide: Prevention & Help
Every day around the world, one suicide attempt is reported every 40 seconds. Sadly, there is a contagious aspect to suicide, especially in the wake of high-profile deaths. For example, the back-to-back deaths of world-renowned celebrities Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain was not only shocking, but also had a trigger affect on others who experience suicidal thoughts. In fact, when a public tragedy takes place—especially a high-profile suicide—the risk for deaths by accidents, suicides, and murders significantly increases in the public along with a rise in depression, anxiety, and aggression. From the outside, it seems as though celebrities like Spade, Bourdain, or even Robin Williams had it all: fame, fortune, success, and love. So when they took their own lives it caused people to stop and think, "If they couldn't handle the world, then why should I?" Their deaths represented the death of a dream and a hopelessness to many who struggle with suicidal depression. In Canada, approximately 4000 Canadians die by suicide annually, and it's the second most common cause of death among young people. However, men in their 40s and 50s have the highest rate of suicide. Women are three to four times more likely to attempt suicide than men, but men are three times more likely to die by suicide than women. How Can We Prevent Suicide? Of course, it's impossible to prevent all suicides, but there are strategies to help reduce the risk. For example:
Seeing a professional for treatment and building a solid relationship with a doctor or mental health professional Creating strong social support networks, including family, friends, or a peer support group Learning how to cope with problems, and trusting those coping skills Although proper treatment is crucial, it's not a quick fix. It can take time for suicidal thoughts to become manageable or to stop altogether. It's imperative to stay connected with your support and seek extra when you need it. If you experience suicidal thoughts, you need to talk about them with your doctor, mental health professional, or a trusted person. It can also be helpful to schedule regular appointments with mental health professionals or use phone-based support such as the suicide prevention hotline. What If Someone You Know Is Suicidal? Contrary to popular belief, if you believe someone is suicidal, you should ask them directly if they're thinking about hurting themselves. Talking about suicide will not give someone the idea to carry out the act. If someone you love is seriously contemplating suicide, they may be relieved to finally talk about it. If the person says that they are thinking about hurting themselves, then it's essential to ask them if they have a plan. If they do have a plan and are thinking about committing suicide soon, then you should connect with crisis services or supports immediately. If you are unaware of crisis, distress, or suicide helplines in your area, you can call 9-1-1. Always stay with the person while you make the call, and don't leave until the crisis line or emergency responders say it's okay to go. The important thing is to listen to your loved one and help them connect with mental health services. Trauma Practice Can Help with Recovery. When someone has moved beyond the point of crisis and is ready to recover from the trauma they've experienced, Trauma Practice can help. Our goal is to improve the conversation through safe venues focused on trauma-informed care, where up-to-date and accurate information is widely shared. Together we can create an open dialogue and reduce the stigma and isolation of those who suffer. A one time or monthly contribution to Trauma Practice means that we can all pay it forward and help others on the path of trauma recovery. Make a donation today. Video Resources on Suicide: We can prevent suicide: https://youtu.be/q2uxiEfFiIs It's OK not to be OK: https://youtu.be/x136YxQTUXo Self-Love – Be Intentional: https://youtu.be/DCNOJmmHLkQ Web Resources on Suicide: https://time.com/5572394/suicide-contagion-study/ https://bit.ly/2xbt66t https://bit.ly/2IywyP6 & https://thelifelinecanada.ca/ https://www.canada.ca/en/public-health/services/suicide-prevention/warning-signs.html https://ontario.cmha.ca/documents/understanding-suicide-and-finding-help/ https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ Radio show was aired on Realityradio101.com on Thursday, June 27, 2019 at 1 pm EDTThu, 04 Jul 2019 - 1h 01min - 13 - Understanding Self-Compassion
This episode discusses a key facet of recovery: self-compassion. Joining Dr. Baranowksy is guest speaker Frank Pasquil who offers practical self-help videos to aid in healing with trauma. For more information on his work or to access these free resources, go to his website: http://www.emotionaltuning.com/ Dr. Anna and Frank have collaborated before with an entertaining video about shaking to release stress, which you can find on our youtube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iYAVAA10jjs
The best method for building your self-compassion is practice! Whether it is meditation, yoga, inner self-talk or self-inquiry, there is no one method that instantly leads to success. You have to be consistent and open to the changes it could bring to your life.
Understanding Self-Compassion
Did you know the word compassion means to "suffer with?"
When you think about how compassion relates to other people, it can help you to understand how to turn your feelings inward. When you feel compassion for someone, you're understanding and kind to them regardless of if they've failed or made mistakes. You don't judge them harshly.
When you feel compassion for another, it means that you understand how suffering, failure, and imperfection are all part of the shared human experience. Self-compassion works the same way. It means acting with understanding and acceptance towards yourself. Instead of judging yourself harshly or ignoring your pain, practicing self-compassion means recognizing that it's a tough time and asking yourself how you can comfort and care for yourself in this moment.
Here are the three elements of self-compassion according to Dr Kristin Neff, an Associate Professor of Human Development and Culture, who has pioneered research in this field.
- Self-Kindness Not Self-Judgment
When you suffer, fail, or feel inadequate you can practice self-compassion by being warm and understanding toward yourself instead of ignoring your pain or criticising yourself. Self-compassion means you understand that life is about making mistakes and failing and that sometimes life will fall short of your expectations. The key to not getting caught up in self-judgment is in accepting your reality with sympathy and kindness, thereby allowing yourself to experience greater emotional equanimity.
- Shared Human Experience Not Isolation
Have you ever felt frustrated when things don't go exactly as planned? This is often accompanied by an irrational but pervasive feeling of isolation. It feels as if you're the only one suffering or making mistakes. But, of course, the very definition of being "human" means we're all vulnerable and imperfect. So, practicing self-compassion means recognizing that suffering and personal inadequacy are part of the collective human experience.
- Mindfulness Not Over-Identification
Being self-compassionate doesn't mean suppressing your negative feelings or exaggerating them. Self-compassion is a balanced approach that comes from the willingness to observe your negative thoughts and emotions with openness and clarity so that you're mindfully aware. It is important that you're not "over-identifying" with thoughts and feelings; don't get caught up and swept away by negative reactivity.
Follow this link to learn more about Kristin Neff: https://self-compassion.org/
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This radio show was aired on Realityradio101.com on Thursday, May 30th, 2019 at 1 pm EDT
Sat, 01 Jun 2019 - 1h 01min - 12 - Relationships and Attachment - What does it mean?
Have you ever felt yourself leaning away from relationships when things are hard? This tendency to pull away from partners, spouses, and friends leads to severe isolation which is a gateway to depression, anxiety and stress. This episode discusses how important it is to lean in towards relationships in life as they are a buffer against mental health issues.
It is important to choose better, more meaningful interactions with people and to engage in socialization even when it is a by-product of another activity such as learning to lift weights or attending a yoga class. There is kindness in the community and having real connections with people can lead to further accepting and understanding or own inner reactivity to inputs.
This episode also discusses the way in which our childhood experiences with our parents has conditioned our reactions today. What old beliefs are you still carrying? Dr. Jonice Webb has written several books on this topic called 'Running on empty' in which the types of parenting styles impact the child. Click here for more information on her book.
This radio show was aired on Realityradio101.com on Thursday, July 26th, 2018.
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Thu, 02 May 2019 - 59min - 11 - Sleep: Are you getting enough
What Does Sleep Mean for Your Emotional, Physical, and Overall Well-Being? Forming the right habits around sleep is known as sleep hygiene, and although there is no single “best” routine for sleep hygiene, there are some general principles to follow:
Go to sleep and wake up at consistent times, even on weekends. Always follow the same bedtime routine. Limit the number of naps you take in a day. Reduce your screen time. Find ways to relax your mind once you are in bed.If you feel that your sleep deprivation is bordering on insomnia, we recommend reading Quiet Your Mind and Get to Sleep by Rachel Manber and Colleen Carney. This book proposes solutions to those with insomnia-related mental health issues in a step-by-step manner that simulates the experience of seeing a sleep therapist.
Another book that is useful for those sleepless nights is 'Sleep Smarter' by Shawn Stevenson. This book provides 21 essential strategies to sleep your way to better health and bigger success.
This episode features the TED talk by Arianna Huffington entitled 'How to Succeed? Get more sleep' in which the negative consequences of sleep deprivation on concentration and anxiety are highlighted. She also has a book called 'The Sleep Revolution: Transforming Your Life, One Night at a Time'.
This radio show was aired on Realityradio101.com on Thursday, March 28th, 2019.
Thu, 02 May 2019 - 58min - 10 - The Psychology of Shame
In this episode Dr. Baranowsky discusses shame, why it is formed and what we can do to overcome it. Shame is a universal experience, where we believe that we are defective or incapable in some way. However, shame can provide the opportunity for growth and evolution in your life. To overcome shame, it's essential to be honest with yourself about who you are and to acknowledge your past. Just because your past may have shaped who you are today doesn't mean it needs to control your future.
Trauma Practice provides programming to trauma survivors and their families through group courses. If you want to start up your own group or simply learn more you can find their course materials on this website for free: traumapractice.org/group-program
Researchers and Resources:
- Joseph Burgo's book: "Shame: Free Yourself, Find Joy, and Build True Self-Esteem" in which four different types of shame are identified to help you dive deeper into the origins of your shame. You can find it here: https://www.amazon.com/Shame-Free-Yourself-Build-Self-Esteem/dp/1250151309
- Shontelle Prokipcak works at MHASO and discusses how shame is a feeling that develops over a lifetime, where you think that you are fundamentally flawed in some way. You have to allow yourself to acknowledge your feelings, and lean in to the pain. You can learn more about her practice here: https://www.mhaso.ca/practice
- Carolynn Spring discusses how shame is universal but serves a purpose: it is a place to grow from. You can become self-aware if you reflect on it, and there are ways to alleviate the shame. For more information about her work, you can visit her website: https://www.carolynspring.com/
- Dr. Brene Brown is a five-time New York Times bestselling author, that encourages people to share their whole story and whole self. She believes that people need to understand that they have inherent worth that isn't measured by likes on Facebook, and that they need to counteract today's "scarcity culture" which continuously tells people that they aren't enough or that they don't have enough. For more information on her work, visit her website here: https://brenebrown.com/ -To listen to Russell Brand's full podcast-interview of Marianne Williamson, go here: https://www.russellbrand.com/podcast/054-can-spirituality-save-world-godless-politics-marianne-williamson/
-Dr. Carol Dweck dedicated her life to conducting scientific research on the Growth Mindset to help people develop beyond setbacks and challenges. You want to avoid a fixed mindset by growing the brain's capacity to solve problems. To find out more about her research, visit her website: https://www.mindsetworks.com/science/
- Gerald Loren Fishkin studied neurobiology and the way the brain works when experiencing shame. Shame is a neurological event that happens quickly because it is the brain automatically adapting to something from a vulnerable part of your life. You can find book here: https://www.amazon.ca/Science-Shame-Its-Treatment/dp/1624910742
- Peter Levine provides quick examples of how to show self-kindness by being gentle with ourselves and turning down the volume of shame and self-blame. To learn more about his techniques, visit this website: https://www.traumahealing.org
- John Bradshaw believes that shame is a motivator behind toxic behaviours. He suggests that you should embrace how badly you're hurting so that you can come out of hiding and recover. To find out about his work, visit his website: https://www.johnbradshaw.com/
This radio show was aired on Realityradio101.com on Thursday, April 25, 2019.
Thu, 25 Apr 2019 - 1h 00min - 9 - Workplace Bullying! with expert Dr. Hannah Scott
Have you ever felt coerced or threatened at your workplace? Isolated or even mobbed by coworkers? You could be experiencing workplace bullying, and you are not alone. We hear from people everyday from all walks of life who are struggling with the impact of being bullied. Oftentimes you’ll feel ashamed and apply self-blame for negative outcomes, but you must remember that you are not in the wrong for being bullied. If it is happening, make sure you assess your options or seek help before you begin to feel demoralized.
The guest speaker in this episode Dr. Hannah Scott, (University of Ontario, Institute of Technology, https://bit.ly/2N5fBMR) is a PhD researcher in the field of workplace bullying. She uses the Workplace Power Control Wheel (https://bit.ly/2Gly68Q) as a basis for training workers and employees about the common strategies employed by bullies.
For more resources on bullying in the workplace, please follow this link: https://bit.ly/2toq5hr
For additional resources on workplace bullying and harassment you can listen to the radio show that aired in October 2018 here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n-ZJMOCj8pQ&list=PLmj258x3nQuK3LC4Loam6_1sIfc7T6f5c&index=11
This radio show was aired on Realityradio101.com on Thursday, February 28th, 2019 at 1 pm EDT
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Thu, 07 Mar 2019 - 1h 00min - 8 - Holiday Stress in Review! with Dr. John King
Holiday stress can whip us up into a tense frenzy, forcing us to confront demons and leaving us feeling drained and exhausted. Have you experienced this? Did you argue with friends/family or find yourself isolated, over-pleasing and underwhelmed?
The key to managing holiday stress is to focus on our relationship with ourselves and listen to that internal dialogue. We have a responsibility to grow and evolve into the people we want to be, and the pressure of the family environment over the holidays is just one of many things we need to adapt to.
Dr Anna speaks with Dr. John King author of #dealwithit, speaker and PTSD expert, who has a wealth of experience in dealing with male sexual abuse and human trafficking. He works to raise awareness about these issues, and in this episode he discusses his significant family disturbance along with the ways that he worked through it. For more information on his work you can visit his website here or find his books here.
This radio show was aired on Realityradio101.com on Thursday, December 27, 2018.
Fri, 01 Feb 2019 - 1h 04min - 7 - Trauma & The Struggle to Open Up
In this episode Dr. Anna Baranowsky spoke with Psychologist, Dr. Robert T. Muller, a well-known clinical psychologist, author and professor. Together Dr. Baranowsky and Dr. Muller will discuss the therapist-client relationship and the tools available to therapists when helping their clients to feel safe and unpack their story.
For Dr. Muller's recently published book, you can find it on Amazon: "Trauma and the Struggle to Open Up". For Dr. Muller's podcasts and interviews you can visit his Youtube Channel. For Dr. Muller's blog on Psychology Today please click the following link: 'Talking About Trauma'.
For further reading on the importance for clients to make connections and build their social support, you can see Sebastian Junger's book on Amazon entitled "Tribe: On Homecoming and Belonging".
To find more information on the impact of childhood emotional abuse and historical trauma, you can visit Dr. Jonice Webb's website.
This radio show was aired on Realityradio101.com on Thursday, November 29th, 2018.
Fri, 01 Feb 2019 - 1h 01min - 6 - Isolation and the increased risk of social violence
In the first episode of Dr. Anna Baranowsky's radio show she explains how individuals can become isolated when they experience trauma, and the importance of reaching out to the community as a crucial part of recovery. The example highlighted is the "van attack" in Toronto, Ontario that occurred on April 23rd, 2018, and the community outpour of love and support in North York following that event.
'Traumatic isolation' can undermine our well-being, leading to loneliness, confusion, depression and anxiety. A crucial part of recovery is gentleness with yourself as there is no one quick-fix. Recovery is often a product of every day practices in turning down the volume of stress. Whether that involves exercising, yoga, meditation, - you name it - consistency is key! You also have to be reasonable and allow yourself the time to recover. It is a natural, evolutionary defense mechanism for the body to create a heightened response to incidents and it takes time to settle down. One of the most important buffers to this isolation is going out into the community and finding ways to connect.
The Trauma Practice for Healthy Communities is a dedicated team that helps trauma survivors and their families find a safe place to land with facilitated group help support and resources. For more information about their programs you can visit traumapractice.org
Sebastian Junger's book, 'Tribe', discusses how during periods of great trauma people can feel the most connected, but after the trauma subsides people can find great difficulty coming together, a challenge faced by returning veterans in modern society. Follow this link for more information or to purchase the book.
Read the full blog https://traumapractice.org/toronto-van-attack/
This radio show was aired on Realityradio101.com on Thursday, May 31st, 2018.
Fri, 01 Feb 2019 - 1h 01min - 5 - Challenging Habits and addiction
Understanding habits is the key to breaking or building them. We can set goals and be aware of the need for change, but how do you go about making that change? This episode discusses how habits are formed in the body and brain, and how to channel the power of habits for good.
Emotions form an incredibly important tool at our disposal as long as we sit with them and experience what is happening within ourselves. Keep in mind that lecturing and shaming yourself won’t help you change behaviour. Once a habit is formed, it happens without a lot of thought. You need to explore new behaviours and repeat them deliberately. Embrace the possibility of growth and put in the work!
Charles Duhigg has dedicated his work to studying and empowering people to harness their habits. He wrote a book ‘The Power of Habit’ that you can learn about here or purchase here. He also has many resources on his website that you can explore here.
Bad habits that you hold over long periods of time are the basis of addictions. Gary Zukav discusses how addictions exist to mask and cover pain, and how they form one of the strongest parts of your personality. To learn more about addictions and how to create authentic power to grow spiritually and overcome them, you can visit his website here.
Another helpful resource is this TED talk by Judson Brewer entitled 'a Simple Way to Break a Bad Habit'. In this video Judson breaks down the anatomy of a habit as a trigger, behaviour and reward. He suggests that you need to be aware of what you know cognitively about the bad behaviour so that you can focus on why it is bad for you. After that you can begin to replace bad behaviours with good ones. To view the full video, click here.
This radio show was aired on Realityradio101.com on Thursday, September 27, 2018.
Mon, 28 Jan 2019 - 1h 02min - 4 - Emotional CPR with Dr. Daniel Fisher
In this episode Dr. Baranowsky engages with guest speakers Dr. Daniel Fisher and Shontelle Prokipcak, proponents of the E-CPR approach to building real, human connections, strong communities, and a broader life.
Emotional-CPR
Emotional CPR (“E-CPR”) stands for Connection, emPowering, and Revilatizing. It is a meaningful new approach for dealing with crisis and emotional struggles that was developed by Psychiatrist Dr. Daniel Fisher. Using this approach people can learn how to connect with individuals and help them work through their trauma. Dr. Fisher’s approach comes from the belief that ‘everyday emotions are tiny revelations’ and when listeners are present for those revelations it allows them to build emotional connections and support each other. For more information on the use of this method or Dr. Fisher’s work, please visit www.emotional-CPR.org
Dr. Fisher also wrote a book entitled ‘Heartbeats of Hope: The Empowerment Way to Recover’ in which he discusses his personal journey and the profound impact that E-CPR has had on his practice. You can find it on Amazon here.
The second guest speaker on this episode is Shontelle Prokipcak of MHASO a clinician who brought the training to the Ottawa region in October 2018. She works with Mental Health & Addiction Services of Ottawa (MHASO). For more information on her practice, you can follow this link.
Watch the E-CPR video for more details.
Mon, 28 Jan 2019 - 57min - 3 - Personality Disorders and Difficult Relationships
In the many relationships that you navigate in life, do you find that one is significantly tougher to manage? This could be because a partner, spouse, friend, or co-worker has a personality disorder. There could be times where you are uncertain as to whether their moral compass truly points North. The focus of this episode is a few personality disorders, namely narcissism and anti-social personality disorder (i.e. sociopathy).
Narcissists
A narcissist is someone who has a pervasive pattern of thriving on/stirring up conflict, showing no empathy and neglecting to validate the experiences or feelings of others. Narcissists can be emotionally explosive, exploitive and abusive when they don’t get the attention that they crave.
The first guest speaker is Ingrid from Show Boundaries, who explains the ‘Observe rather than Absorb’ approach to navigating a relationship with a narcissist. This method involves learning about the methods and techniques a narcissist will employ by observing them and my paying attention to what is happening inside of your body. In terms of dealing with them in the moment Ingrid explains the ‘Crack in the CD’ method.
Dr. Karyl McBride wrote a book about this that includes a checklist of how to tell if your partner is a Narcissist. For more information about Dr. McBride’s work you can visit her website here.
To view the checklist you can read Dr. McBride’s article in Psychology Today here.
Anti-social Personality Disorder:
Along with narcissism there are pervasive signs from an individual’s childhood that display in those with anti-social personality disorder. Those who have anti-social personality disorder have a failure to conform to social norms and legal behaviour, they are impulsive and lack the ability to plan ahead, and they display a real lack of remorse for their actions.
Psychopaths vs. Sociopaths
Psychopaths and sociopaths lack empathy, do not care about social rules/behaviours, and have no remorse/guilt for their actions. While sociopaths make up 4% of the general population, psychopaths only make up 1% of the population. Psychopaths are often well-educated and have a career, and their behaviour is controlled and manipulative. This greatly differs from sociopaths who are often uneducated and unable to keep a steady job, who are spontaneous rage-a-holics
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Mon, 28 Jan 2019 - 1h 01min - 2 - Stress & Resilience in First Responders
The focus of this episode which aired on June 28th, 2018 is on the stress experienced by First Responders and the tools that one can use to bolster your resilience to that stress. This episode has two guest speakers, Gary and Andrew. Gary is a retired paramedic who shares insights on how he increased his resilience to the inevitable on-the-job stress he experienced.
The second guest speaker is Andrew Scollick who is the Director of PDA International, a Psychometric Behavioural Assessment and Consulting firm. This firm applies the DiSC behavioural profile theory in the workplace to understand individuals' underlying behaviours, reactions to stress and risk tolerance. Andrew works with police services and other first response teams, as understanding our tendencies can help us bolster our weaknesses. For more information about PDA International and the DiSC model, visit Andrew's website here.
For more information on Dr. Stephanie Conn, first responder turned psychologist, you can watch Dr. Baranowsky's interview with her here. She discusses 'strengthening your personal armour' and how police and emergency personnel can develop and increase their resilience.
The Road to Mental Readiness is a mental health continuum model that can be useful for First Responder Teams and mental health professionals to understand what is happening to you when you are impacted by stress. You can find more information on this colour chart here.
Mon, 28 Jan 2019 - 1h 02min - 1 - Workplace Bullying & Harassment
In this episode Dr. Anna Baranowsky discusses the issue of bullying and harassment in the workplace. On a weekly basis 40% of Canadian workers experience bullying - it can happen in any workplace, even yours! Seemingly regular procedures become major dilemmas and erupting events that can leave individuals feeling alienated and in danger, leading to high degrees of stress. The toxic environment that it creates can have a serious impact on your mental and physical health as it propagates severe feelings of anxiety, depression and possibly even suicidal thoughts.
Just remember if you have a bully at your workplace and you are being targeted - you are not alone.
This episode discusses a clip of Jeff Salkin's interview with Cynthia Kay Stevens about bullying in the workplace. Follow the link to view the full video here.
A clip of Dr. Gary Namie also appears in this episode in which he outlines the four main types of workplace bullying tactics. For more information you can see his resource kit here.
This episode features Dr. Hannah Scott, (University of Ontario, Institute of Technology) a PhD researcher in the field of workplace bullying. She uses the Workplace Power Control Wheel as a basis for training workers and employees about the common strategies employed by bullies. For more information on her work you can see her interview with Dr. Baranowsky here.
The final clip of this episode displays Marissa Peer's strategies of how to get out of bullying. For more information on her work, please look here.
For Bullying Resources visit: https://bit.ly/2toq5hr
Radio show was aired on Realityradio101.com on Thursday, October 25, 2018 at 1 pm EDT
Wed, 16 Jan 2019 - 1h 00min
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