Relationships and Relationshits

Am I the asshole subreddit is the topic today. I go over a woman who doesn't want her husband to know the sex of their baby because he doesn't show up for any doctors appointments. The other story is a difficult bridesmaid who doesn't want to wear her bridesmaid dress.

What are attachment styles? We will go over attachment styles which is also known as attachment theory. We will discuss the four attachment styles, the secure attachment style, the preoccupied anxious attachment style, the dismissive avoidant attachment style, and the fearful avoidant attachment style, which is also known as the disorganized attachment style. Attachment styles will help you in your romantic relationships and your other relationships. If you don't your attachment style here is a link:

https://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

We are going over two Am I the Asshole subreddits. We will discuss a few adult children having to deal with difficult situations with their parents. 

We are going over two subreddits about the attachment styles. Or attachment theory as some know it. We discuss every attachment style; the fearful avoidant attachment style, the preoccupied anxious attachment style, the secure attachment style, and the dismissive avoidant attachment style.

We are going over the four attachment styles. We are going over the preoccupied anxious attachment style, the disimissive avoidant attachment style, the fearful avoidant attachment style, and the secure attachment style.

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Attachment Quiz 1:

https://pds.idevaffiliate.com/151.html

Attachment Quiz 2:

https://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

We are talking about questions from Reddit. The first subreddit talks about someone discussing relationships and attachment styles. And the second one is Am I The Asshole subreddit.

We are talking about attachment styles and dating. I'm going to give you some dating tips I've learned from experience to help you identify someone's attachment style quicker. This way you can figure out if they are a secure attachment style, an anxious attachment style, a dismissive avoidant attachment style, or a fearful avoidant attachment style. And then you can figure out faster if you want to keept that relationship going.

Today we are talking about a guy who is improving his anxious attachment style when his girlfriend goes out with her friends. And we are asking if a woman who told another parent to fuck off, is she the asshole?

Attachment Quiz Option 1: https://pds.idevaffiliate.com/151.html

Attachment Quiz Option 2: http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.p

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I am discussing attachment styles during holidays or significant events. The main focus will be on the avoidant attachment style. They tend to not like significant events and their attachment system may become triggered. I will also discuss the anxious attachment style.

Attachment Quiz 1:

https://pds.idevaffiliate.com/151.html

Attachment Quiz 2:

https://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

Attached Book:

https://amzn.to/3XYqMLX

Avoidant Book:

https://amzn.to/3Dlaovs

Betterhelp Online Therapy Discount:

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Am I The Asshole today covers naan bread drama and sloppy seconds. A boyfriend has special rules for his girlfriend with them sharing naan bread. And two sisters having drama due to having dated the same guy. Who will be the asshole?

This episode covers two Reddit questions from the anxious attachment style subreddit. 

Attachment Style Quiz Option 1:

https://pds.idevaffiliate.com/151.html

Attachment Style Quiz Option 2: 

https://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

Better Help Online Therapy Discount:

https://betterhelp.com/relationshipattachments

Attached Book:

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Avoidant Book:

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In this episode we discuss the anxious avoidant trap. This is a challenging relationship where you have an anxious attachmen style in a relationship with an avoidant attachment style. This relationship tends to be long and dysfunctional. The anxious attachment style person wants closeness and intimacy. The avoidant wants space and is uncomfortable with intimacy. The anxious attachment style has learned to calm down their attachment system by being cloeser to their partner. The avoidant attachment style has learned getting space from their partner keeps their attachment system from being triggered. And this is why they struggle in a relationship together.

If you don't know your attachment style makeup, here are two options to help you. Plus plenty of other resources. 

Attachment Quiz Option 1:

https://pds.idevaffiliate.com/151.html

Attachment Quiz Option 2:

https://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

Attached Book:

https://amzn.to/3XYqMLX

Avoidant Book:

https://amzn.to/3Dlaovs

Better Help Online Therapy Discount:

https://betterhelp.com/relationshipattachments

These are affiliate links.

A subreddit asks if anyone has had success becoming more of a secure attachment style. I read the question and some comments of some who have had some success become more of a secure attachment style. One of the key things for single people is to choose a partner who doesn't trigger your attachment style. 

The comments are coming from those with a preoccupied anxious attachment style. If you don't know your strongest attachment style I have two attachment style quizzes to help you out. The first one is less detailed but also has material to assist in your attachment style journey. The second link is more detailed and I recommend doing it several times during different times in your life to see you progress or lack of progress. Or see how someone is affecting your attachment style.

The four attachment styles are the secure attachment style, the preoccupied anxious attachment style, the dismissive avoidant attachment style, and the fearful avoidant attachment style, which is also known as the disorganized attachment style. You will have all of the attachment styles but at different levels. You will most likely be stronger in one attachment style. 

You can also learn attachment styles from me on TikTok and YouTube Shorts at @relationshipattachments.

Here is the link for the book on Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) for those interested in researching that:

https://amzn.to/3YmuqiG

Attachment Quiz 1:

https://pds.idevaffiliate.com/151.html

Attachment Quiz 2:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

Better Help Link with 10% discount:

https://betterhelp.com/relationshipattachments

Online-Therapy:

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Attached Book:

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Avoidant Book:

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I am discussing the Strange Situation Text used to group peole into four attachment styles. The strange situation test is a widely used experimental procedure in developmental psychology to assess attachment patterns between infants or young children and their primary caregivers. The children were aged 12 to 24 months.

The main objective of the strange situation test is to observe and understand how children react to brief separations from and reunions with their caregivers in a controlled and unfamiliar environment. The text provides valuable insights into the child's attachment style, which is critical aspect of early socio-emotional development. 

If you don't know if your strongest attachment style is the secure attachment style, the preoccupied anxious attachment style, the dismissive avoidant attachment style, or the fearful avoidant attachment style, also known as the disorganized attachment style, I have two links to help you figure that out.

Attachment Quiz 1:

https://pds.idevaffiliate.com/151.html

Attachment Quiz 2:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

Better Help Online Therapy 10% Discount:

https://betterhelp.com/relationshipattachments

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Attached book:

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Avoidant book:

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A question from a anxoius attachment style subreddit. It says. 

I've just started seeing someone new. We're just a couple of dates in, but on the surface it's going great. We get on crazily well, I'm really attracted to her and things have already gotten physical.

This isn't my first rodeo though and unsurprisingly considering my broken picker, I'm seeing some serious red flags. I'm already picking up on mixed signals and there's signs she has patterns of emotional unavailability.

After many mistakes in the past, this time I'm trying to ensure I don't get at all attached until she can provide solid and conclusive evidence that she's inot me and is attracted to me, she wants a relationship, she's emotionally available, if she's not, then she's in therapy and is working on it. 

Realistically this might take months, and I'm ok with that. The big challenge here though is texting. 

Whereas texting can be fun, it's not particularly useful for really learning about a person such as answering the questions above. I think you can only really gain an insight into those things by spending time together in person. I guess you could discuss them via test but it certainly wouldn't be my preference. 

At the same time, texting is the anxious attachment style's kryptonite. As much as I tell myself I won't get attached, you can bet I'm still over-analyzing everything from how slow she's responding, whether she's writing as much as me, which emojis she's using etc. All the breathing exercises in the world won't help me here, it cannot be avoidant, it is my nature.

So I thought if I have so little gain, and so much to lose, what if we just didn't do it?

It's a whole 10 days until we see each other, and I thought It'd be so much easier if I said I'd just catch her then and to have a lovely 10 days in the meantime. The only issue is this seems like something that just isn't done in modern dating. 

Have any of your tried this? How did you approach the conversation?

If you don't know if your strongest attachment style is the preoccupied anxious attachment style, the secure attachment style, the dismissive attachment style, or the fearful avoidant attachment style, which is also known as the disorganized attachment style, I have two links to help you figure that out. 

The first link is quicker and has some tools to help you. The second one is longer and shows your results on a graph.

Attachment Quiz 1:

https://pds.idevaffiliate.com/151.html

Attachment Quiz 2:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

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Reddit Question Link:

https://www.reddit.com/r/AnxiousAttachment/comments/156zh54/texting_in_between_dates_can_i_justnot/

Attached Book:

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Avoidant Book:

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In this subreddit we have a couple who are a fearful avoidant and a dismissive avoidant originally but have been moving towards becoming a secure attachment style. But during a situation the dismissive avoidants responds how an avoidant would. The other person responds correctly due to her attachment style work. 

The question asked was. What healing looks like for two insecurely attached partners actively working  towards security. As a fearful avoidant who leans anxious attachment style, I'm two years into my healing journey and counting. I married my avoidant attachment style partner in April who's been on this shared journey. We're both leaning more secure attachment style. I've shared quite a bit about my own personal journey and our relationship journey on reddit. 

I just wanted to share and remind you guys that true change is a process, for many, it'll be life long. I'm discovering things everyday about myself through the lens of my past. It's like writing a new story but it's so worth it. My partner and I have come a long way since some therapy and practicing healthier relating when triggered. 

Like yesterday, I expressed something that caught by avoidant attachment style partner off guard which was about me feeling stuck at my job and just in life. I saw him withdrawing into himself and becoming uncomfortable. He'd taken it personally and that my feelings were based on what he lacks as a partner. I almost became completely triggered but I calmed myself, we went through our night, I told him I love him before bed. I know from what he's shared in therapy and with me before that he, like many avoidants, perceives criticism and rejection if their partners are unhappy. 

Just like more anxious attachment style leaning folks perceive rejection and fear abandonmnet in these scenarios. I decided to talk about in this morning and he explained exactly what I thought was going on in his head. Truthfully, I was frustrated that this is still a thing since I just want to be able to share with my partner how I feel in a non-criticizing vulnerable way without them taking it personally. So we closed the conversation for a couple of hours. But I remind myself that I married this man knowing his tough childhood physical and emotional abandonment.

If you don't know if your strongest attachment style is the preoccupied anxious attachment style, the secure attachment style, the dismissive avoidant attachment style, or the fearful avoidant attachment style, also known as the disorganized attachment style, I have two links to help you figure that out. 

Reddit Question:

https://www.reddit.com/r/AnxiousAttachment/comments/156ze9q/what_healing_looks_like_for_two_insecurely/

Attachment Quiz 1

https://pds.idevaffiliate.com/151.html

Attachment Quiz 2

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

Better Help Therapy with 10% discount:

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Attached Book:

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Avoidant Book:

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Today I'm going over the history of attachment styles. If you are like me you'd like to know about the history of the things you learn. I go over the beginnings of attachment theory and talk about the pioneers, John Bowlby, Mary Ainsworth, and Mary Main. 

If you don't if your strongest attachment style is the secure attachment style, the preoccupied anxious attachment style, the dismissive avoidant attachment style, or the fearful avoidant, also known as the disorganized attachment style, I have two links for you to find that out. The first link is faster to complete and has some tools to help you with your attachment style. The second link is more detailed and can be taken multiple times to see how you are in different times of your life.  I also provided some book recommendations and online therapy discounts.

Attachment Quiz 1 and resources:

https://pds.idevaffiliate.com/151.html

Attachment Quiz 2:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

Attached Book:

https://amzn.to/3XYqMLX

Avoidant Book:

https://amzn.to/3Dlaovs

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In this question from the avoidant attachment subreddit a fearful avoidant, also known as a disorganized attachment style person, is wondering how much time is too much time when starting to date someone new. The person believes they are dating an anxious attachment style person. And that person already wants to spend hours with the fearful avoidant person, which of course can scare off an avoidant attachment style person real quick. 

If you don't know if your strongest attachment style is the secure attachment style, the preoccupied anxious attachment style, the dismissive avoidant attachment style, or the fearful avoidant attachment style I have 2 links for you to check out. The first link is very quick and offers up some classes on attachment style from The Personal Development School runned by the well known attachment style therapist Thais Gibson. The second link is more detaled and you can take several times over different parts of your life to see how you've changed.

I also have links for two attachment style books I recommend. And also some online therapy options including Better Help. 

Attachment Quiz 1:

https://pds.idevaffiliate.com/151.html

Attachment Quiz 2:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

Attached Book:

https://amzn.to/3XYqMLX

Avoidant Book:

https://amzn.to/3Dlaovs

Better Help Online Therapy with a 10% discount:

https://betterhelp.com/relationshipattachments

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I am reading from a anxious attachment style subreddit in which a woman is breaking no contact because she needs her shoes back from her ex. Anytime you break no contact you risk more issues. 

If you don't know if your strongest attachment style is the secure attachment style, the preoccupied anxious attachment style, the dismissive avoidant attachment style, or the fearful avoidant, also known as the disorganized attachment style I have two links to help you out.

The first link is a quick way to get your attachment style and also has some materials on improving your attachment style.

The second link is more detailed and can be taken several times to check your current attachment style levels.

Attachment Quiz 1:

https://pds.idevaffiliate.com/151.html

Attachment Quiz 2:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

Attached Book:

https://amzn.to/3XYqMLX

Avoidant Book:

https://amzn.to/3Dlaovs

Online Cognitive Behavioral Therapy:

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Better Help Therapy 10% off:

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I am discussing the common avoidant attachment style traits. This can help you in the dating world and also if you are already in a relationship with an avoidant. Or it can help the avoidant attachment style person identify the things they may do that can harm a relationship. These traits are coming from the authors of the book Attached and some of my own findings. 

If you don't know if your strongest attachment style is the preoccupied anxious attachment style, the secure attachment style, the dismissive avoidant attachment style, or the fearful avoidant attachment style, which is also known as the disorganized attachment style I have two links to help you with figuring that out.

The first link is a quick way to get your attachment style and lots of material to help you with your attachment style. The second link is a more detailed attachment quiz you can do multiple times depending on your current situation. 

Attachment Quiz 1:

https://pds.idevaffiliate.com/151.html

Attachment Quiz 2:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

Attached Book:

https://amzn.to/3XYqMLX

Avoidant Book:

https://amzn.to/3Dlaovs

We are discussing an avoidant subreddit today. The avoidant attachment style person is frustrated by the lack of community. I go into why that is.

If you don't know if your strongest attachment style is the secure attachment style, the dismissive avoidant attachment style, the preoccupied anxious attachment style, or the fearful avoidant attachment styles, also known as the disorganized attachment style I have 2 links to help you find that out. The first one is quick and has some classes to help you with your attachment style. The second one takes a little longer but gives you a graph of your attachment styles. I've also provided a link for my favorite attachment book called Attached and also a great book on avoidants.

Attachment Quiz #1

https://pds.idevaffiliate.com/151.html

Attachment Quiz #2

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

Attached Book:

https://amzn.to/3XYqMLX

Avoidant Book:

https://amzn.to/3Dlaovs

I am discussing a question from an anxious attachment style subreddit. The anxious attachment style person is having issues with their avoidant attachment style leaning boyfriend wanting to have a long relationship break without communication. She says he is mostly a secure attachment style but his actions don't point that way. If a break in needed in a relationship one person shouldn't dictate all of the boundaries.

If you don't know if your strongest attachment style is the preoccupied anxious attachment style, the dismissive avoidant attachment style, the secure attachment style, or the fearful avoidant attachment style, also known as the disorganized attachment style I have  two links to help you with figuring that out.

The first link is a quick way to get your attachment style and lots of material to help you with your attachment style. The second link is a more detailed attachment quiz you can do multiple times depending on your current situation.

Attachment Quiz 1:

https://pds.idevaffiliate.com/151.html

Attachment Quiz 2:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

Attached Book:

https://amzn.to/3XYqMLX

Avoidant Book:

https://amzn.to/3Dlaovs

I got a text from an ex. And I'm sharing some of my story and throwing in some attachment styles knowledge in between.

Todays Reddit subreddit we discuss an anxious attachment person struggling wiht their anxious ways dictating their life. 

If you don't know your strongest attachment style is the secure attachment style, the preoccupied anxious attachment style, the dismissive avoidant attachment style, or the fearful avoidant attachment style, also known as the disorganized attachment style I have a quiz below to help you figure that out. 

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

Attached Book:

https://amzn.to/3rm1yL1

Avoidant Book:

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We are discussing eleven common things a preoccupied anxious attachment may do. If you don't know your attachment style I have a link below. This way you can see if your strongest attachment style is the secure attachment style, the preoccupied anxious attachment style, the dismissive avoidant attachment style, or the fearful avoidant attachment style, also known as the disorganized attachment style.

Attachment quiz:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

"Attached" book:

https://amzn.to/3ObEaZT

"Avoidant" book:

https://amzn.to/43fYBsQ

Online Cognitive Behavioral Therapy:

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The podcast episode goes over an avoidant attachment style subreddit question about how to fix the avoidants struggle in relationships. This dismissive avoidant does not miss his partner when she is gone and he isn't good about hiding it. If you don't know if the secure attachment style, the preoccupied anxious attachment style, the dismissive avoidant attachment style, or the fearful avoidant, also known as the disorganized attachment style is your strongest attachment style. I have an attachment quiz to help you out.

Attachment Quiz:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

Attached Book:

https://amzn.to/3DdopLn

Avoidant Book:

https://amzn.to/3JOs8CQ

Online Therapy:

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Today's subreddit comes from an anxious attachment style subreddit. The person discusses protest behaviors. I go over the common protest behaviors that the anxious attachment person may do in a relationship. I go over attachment styles in the podcast. I talk about the secure attachment style, the dismissive avoidant attachment style, the preoccupied anxious attachment style, and the fearful avoidant attachment style, also known as the disorganized attachment style.

"Attached" book: 

https://amzn.to/3D1FwQx

Avoidant book:

https://amzn.to/3NMfmWI

Online-therapy.com Cognitive Behavioral Therapy link:

https://onlinetherapy.go2cloud.org/aff_c?offer_id=2&aff_id=2492

We are talking about limerence and the anxious attachment style. Limerence and the anxious attachment style have a lot of similarities. 

If you don't know whether you are a secure attachment style, an anxious attachment style, a dismissive avoidant attachment style, or a fearful avoidant attachment style, which is also known as the disorganized attachment style, here is a link to help you out.

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

In this subreddit episode we go over dating tips that were given by a former fearful avoidant attachment style, also known as a disorganized attachment style. This person is currently a secure attachment style but was a fearful attachment style before therapy and some work. This person goes over how to spot a dismissive avoidant and a fearful avoidant while dating. Attachment styles knowledge is a good way to improve your chances of figuring out people's attachment styles quicker making it better in dating and relationships.

If you don't know your attachment style here a link to figure that out. 

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

A subreddit about a relationship in which sex is becoming distant and the anxious attachment style person is getting triggered. This anxious attachment style person is asking for help on how not to feel like something is wrong in the relationship.

If you don't know whether you are an anxious attachment style, a dismissive avoidant attachment style, a secure attachment style, or a fearful avoidant attachment style, also known as a disorganzied attachment style I have a link to help you out.

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

How do you make the anxious avoidant relationship work? We talk about tips on how to make a relationship work with a preocupied anxious attachment person and an avoidant attachment style.

We are discussing a subreddit in which an avoidant attached person keeps being called intimidating by men she is dating. The avoidant is asking for help. 

This episode goes over a Reddit subreddit in which an anxious attachment style person is happy in a relationship but is still anxious. And they worked on their anxiouis attachment style while single for 5 years. 

I discuss the secure attachment style core wounds and needs. The last several weeks I covered this topic for the fearful avoidant, the dismissive avoidant, and preoccupied anxious attachment style. 

We discuss subreddits about an anxious attachmen style person needing her boyfriend for help with soothing. And someone asks if avoidant attachment people want kids less than the othe attachment styles. 

We are talking about the fearful avoidant. This attachment style is also known as the disorganized attachment style. We will discuss the needs, characteristics, emotional patterns and a few other things for the disorganized attachment/fearful avoidant. 

We are talking about an anxious attachment style person struggling with the ex getting married. She discovered this on Reddit. And we are talking about a dismissive avoidant attachment style who has a deactivating strategy that keeps making him feel trapped in the relationship. In this podcast we talk about the secure attachment style, the preoccupied anxious attachment style, the dismissive avoidant attachment style, and the fearful avoidant attachment style, also known as the disorganized attachment style.

We are going over anxious attachment style needs, boundaries, core wounds, emotional patterns, and a few other things. The anxious attachment style usually grew up with inconsistency. You will see how that inconsistency leads to the core wounds here. 

An anxious attachment style person writes a letter to fellow anxious attachment style people. And a fearful avoidant/disorganized attachment struggles with the thought of moving in with their secure attachment style partner.

Attachment styles in relationships explained for the dismissive avoidant attachment style is the topic today. We discuss the needs, boundaries, coping mechanisms, characteristics of the dismissive avoidant when it comes to relationships. 

We answer two Reddit subreddits on attachmen styles. When should you mention your anxious attachment style to the person you are dating is the first question. The second question we answer is in relation to anxious attachment struggles in a situationship.

We are explaining the 4 attachment styles. The 4 attachment styles are the secure attachment style, the preoccupied anxious attachment style, the dismissive avoidant attachment style, and the fearful avoidant attachment style, which is also known as the disorganized attachment style.

We will explain each of the 4 attachment styles when it comes to relationships. 4 attachment styles explained is a topic that will give you a beginning foundation of all things related to attachment styles.

I am giving relationship advice from two Reddit subreddits. I will be discussing boundaries, or lack of and an anxious avoidant trap in the early stages.  These subreddits will cover all four attachment styles, the secure attachment style, the preoccupied anxious attachment style, the dismissive avoidant attachment style, and the fearful avoidant attachment style, which is also known as the disorganized attachment style.

We are talking about the dismissive avoidant attachment style and the fearful avoidant attachment style, also known as the disorganized attachment. We are discussing how these two types of attachment styles are with boundaries in a relationship.

In these two Reddit subreddits we are discussing the questions and answering them. The first is someone who went from avoidant attachment style people to a secure attachment style man. The secure attachment style person tends to be good at communication, they don't play games, the won't hide their true feelings for you, and they are generally good at helping to lower your anxious attachment style and/or avoidant attachment style. 

In the next subreddit a man is tired of his dismissive avoidant ways when it comes to relationships. He had continued the average avoidant pattern of eventually trying to end the relationships due to his subconscious mind trying to protect them. His subconscious deactivating strategies prevented him from continuing the relationships. So now he is attempting therapy to break the pattern.

We are talking about the anxious attachment style and boundaries. Each attachment style has a way they deal with creating boundaries. Today we are going to focus on the anxious attachmen style boundaries. Unfortunately the anxious attachmen style is not good with setting boundaries. I will explain the lack of anxious attachment style boundaries in the episode. 

We are talking Reddit subreddits about a fearful avoidant attachment's dating struggles and an anxious attachment style person looking at the ex-situationships social media. Fearful avoidants, also known as disorganized attachment struggle with dating. And in this situation the fearful avoidant would prefer to slow things down for all dating. And they want to know how to communicate that. Then we have an anxious person looking at the ex's social media and got replaced quickly. And they used the title girlfriend for the new person, something she never got.

Fearful avoidants are the topic in this episode. I go over the basics of the fearful avoidant which is also known as the disorganized attachment style and also the anxious avoidant attachment style.

We are talking about anxious attachment style situationships and anxious attachment style relationships. Both of these people I'm talking about today are to codependent on the other person. Anxious attachment style people tend to rely too much on their partners and haven't learned to be independent.

We are talking about a love letter I received from an ex who happened to be a dismissive avoidant attachment style. 

Red flags from an avoidant attachment style ex-boyfriend. And a woman is attracted to soldiers with PTSD.

The no contact rule is a rule on what to do or not do when someone breaks up with you. This rule doesn't change whether you are a secure attachment style, a preoccupied anxious attachment style, a dismissive avoidant attachment style, or a fearful avoidant attachment style, also known as a disorganized attachment style.

The no contact rule will help you either give you a better chance of getting your ex back or moving on faster. Relationships are hard and breakups are hard too. Going into no contact will help you focus on making yourself better. Sometimes the best way to communicate is to stop commnunicating. This rule is for marriages and/or those who are just dating. 

No contact will help you get back some of that power you lost when they ended the relationship.

Attachment styles and communication is the first subreddit topic. The second subreddit is about whether we all need to have a secure attachment style to have successful relationships. Communication styles are a major factor in attachment theory. The secure attachment style, the preoccupied anxious attachment style, the dismissive avoidant attachment style, and the fearful avoidant attachment style, also known as the disorganized attachment style all have variations in how they communicate.

Communication is key for relationships whether you are just dating or in a marriage or long term partnership. Communication is something a secure attachment style is usually good at. The preoccupied anxious attachment style and the avoidant attachment style with this more.

The second topic discusses whether we need to have a secure attachment style to make a relationship work. While this would be nice but that's a hard feat to achieve. You can have success in a relationship if you are working towards a goal of a secure attachment style. You can have an anxious attachment style and have a successful relationship but your level of anxiety is key. The same goes with the fearful avoidant style and the dismissive avoidant attachment style. Their level of their insecure attachment style has a great effect on their chance of success. 

Knowledge of attachment theory is an important piece for dating and relationships.

The anxious avoidant trap is where an anxoius attachment or a secure attachment style is in a relationship with an avoidant attachment style. These attachments attract each other but create a dysfunctional relationship. If you don't know your attachment style I have a link below to help you out.

Attachment Quiz:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

Blind'a Dating App:

https://www.getblinda.com/

We are talking about boundaries for the anxious attachment style. And not to wait around looking for the magical secure attachment style. If you don't know your strongest attachment style you can find out with the link below. And the dating app I'm a part of it below also.

Attachment Quiz:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

Blind'a Dating App:

https://www.getblinda.com/

Today I'm getting raw and real with something that happened to me this morning. My ex texted for closure. And it definitely brought the anxiety levels up. I will throw in a little attachment style knowledge in of course like I normally do.

We are going over 11 common avoidant attachment style traits.  This list was compiled by the authors of "Attached," Amir Levine, M.D., and Rachel S.F. Heller, M.A. If you don't know your attachment style I have a link to help you figure that out.

Attachment Quiz:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

A fearful avoidant person has a past relationship cause some emotions. And an anxious attachment style person gives a marriage ultimatum to her dismissive avoidant attachment style boyfriend. We are discussing these two Reddit subreddits today. If you don't know your attachment style I have a link to help you out.

Attachment Style Quiz:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

Why are they pushing me away? In this episode I go over the avoidant attachment style deactivating strategies. If you don't know your attachment style I have a quiz to help you figure that out.

Attachment Quiz:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

Blind'a Dating App:

https://www.getblinda.com/

Should you talk to your parents about your attachment style and their role in it? And what to do when you see your boyfriend had a conversation with a woman around the time you became a couple. And if you don't know your attachment style here is a link to help you figure that out.

Attachment Quiz:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

We are talking about a struggle with an avoidant, who is also a roommate, that's a bad situationship. And someone not liking that their avoidant attachment style ex has blocked her on everything. If you don't know your attachmen style I have link to help you figure that out.

Attachment Quiz:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

Blind'a Dating App:

https://www.getblinda.com/

What is a dismissive avoidant attachement style? I will be going over how dismissive avoidants usually begin in life. How they are as adults. And what they do to self-sabotage relationships. If you don't know you attachmen style I have a quiz to help you out.

Attachment Quiz:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

Blind'a App:

https://www.getblinda.com/

We are talking about a fearful avoidant attachment style and their struggles after a break up. And we are discussing narcissism in relation to attachment theory. Narcissists can be preoccupied anxious attachment style, fearful avoidant attachment style, dismissive avoidant attachment style, and even secure attachment style.

Attachment Quiz: http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

Blind'a Dating App for IOS:

https://www.getblinda.com/

Blind'a Dating Event in San Francisco:

https://www.meetup.com/sf-singles-and-friends-who-want-to-set-them-up-by-blinda/events/290750750/

Closure with an avoidant attachment style partner and can who I'm dating affect my attachment style? A person is having trouble with closure with their avoidant ex. And a new person to attachment theory wants to know why they are anxious around only one ex. If you don't know your strongest attachment style I have an attachment quiz to help you figure that out.

Attachment quiz:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

What is an anxious attachment style? In this episode we will explain the preoccupied anxious attachment style. We will also briefly discuss how the secure attachment style and the avoidant attachment style will affect the anxious attachment style in dating. If you don't know your attachment style below is a link to help you figure that out.

Attachment Quiz:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

Blind'a Dating App:

https://www.getblinda.com/

Meetup in DTLA Feb 25th:

https://www.meetup.com/la-singles-and-friends-who-want-to-set-them-up-by-blinda/events/291319770/

A person caters to their avoidant attachment style partner and has had enough. And a highly anxious attachment style ex drove her fearful avoidant partner away even though he wants her back. In case you didn't know I talk about attachment styles. Also known as attachment theory. If you don't know your strongest attachment style then you should click on the link below to figure that out. It'll help you out so much in life. 

Attachment Quiz:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

Meetup event in L.A. February 25th:

https://www.meetup.com/la-singles-and-friends-who-want-to-set-them-up-by-blinda/events/291319770/

Blind'a Dating App:

https://www.getblinda.com/

Do avoidant attachment styles get tired of the dating game? And a subreddit compares their experiences from avoidant attachment style partners to secure attachment style partners. Attachment theory is instrumental in helping our relationships. If you don't know your attachment style I have a link right here to help you figure that out. 

Attachment quiz:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

Relationship Attachments You Tube channel:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oV_YQQRU85I&t=7s

We are discussing attachment theory and the combinations of relationships based on attachment styles. For example what does it look like when a preoccupied anxious attachment style is dating a dismissive avoidant attachment style. Or a fearful avoidant attachment style dating a secure attachment style. If you don't know your attachment style I have a link below. And also a link to my YouTube channel.

Attachment Test:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

Relationship Attachments YouTube Channel:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oV_YQQRU85I&t=3s

My avoidant attachment style ex ghosted me. And will my avoidant attachment style ex ever contact me again. In today's episode I will be going over two Reddit subreddits. And both of these will discuss the avoidant attachment style people. Now if you don't know your attachment style you can go to the link below to help you figure that out. Attachment theory knowledge will go a long way to help you in relationships and in dating.

Attachment Quiz:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

It's episode three of The Bachelor. I'm talking attachment theory as I recap the episode. So far there are many more anxious attachment style women vs. avoidant attachment style women.

If you don't know your attachment style here is a link to help you figure that out.

Attachment Style Test:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

We are talking about whether an anxious attachment style should communicate their needs early on to a potential partner. And we are seeing the vulnerable side of an avoidant attachment style. If you don't know your attachment style or are unfamiliar with attachment theory I have a link right here to get your started on your journey.

Attachment Style test:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

Sex is a big factor in attachment styles. And each attachment style differs generally in how they view sex. I'm going to go over each attachment style and their general view of sex. An anxious attachment style has a different view than say a dismissive avoidant attachment style.  If you don't know your attachment style below is a link to an attachment test.

Attachment Test:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

We are talking about a fearful avoidant who is most likely dating a secure attachment. But she is bored of him and thinking about her dismissive avoidant ex. 

If you don't know your attachment style yet here is a link for that. 

Attachment test.

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

Today we are talking about an anxious attachment style trying to figure out why their avoidant attachment ex wants to still follow her on social media. And we also discuss studies on how cultural background may or may not affect your attachment style. If you aren't familiar with attachment theory and don't know your attachment style here is a link to help you figure that out.

Attachment Test:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

I'm doing a recap of The Bachelor and also figuring the attachment styles of these women. If you don't know your attachment style here is a link to help you figure that out.

Attachment Test:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

Today we are talking about a fearful avoidant attachment struggling with their anxious attachment partner. And also are secure attachment people perfect? If you don't know your attachment style here is a link to help you figure that out.

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

Today we are talking about how to communicate with your avoidant partner. It's not an easy task sometimes. I hope these tips will help you. This information is good all attachment styles including the secure attachment style, the preoccupied anxious attachment style, the fearful avoidant attachment style, also known as the disorganized attachment, and the dismissive attachment style.  Also if you don't know your attachment style I have an attachment test you can take right here.

Attachment Test:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

In this episode we are talking about rebound relationships, helping someone figure out their attachment style, and how to spot an anxious attachment style, a dismissive avoidant attachment style, and a fearful avoidant attachment style, also known a disorganized attachment. 

If you don't know your attachment style here is a link to help you figure that out.

Attachment Theory Test:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

We are discussing The Bachelor using attachment styles. I will also recap the madness and the normal stuff that happens on episode one of The Bachelor.

Today we are talking about things that would trigger an avoidant attachment style. And that's something we don't want to do because it'll make the relationship even harder. So this episode could be for the avoidant attachment style. But it could also be for the anxious attachment style and the secure attachment still.  A what not to do episode.  If you don't know what your attachment style is I have provided a link to an attachment test right here.

Attachment Test:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

It's Reddit Relationship Wednesday's where we go over 3 subreddit situations related to attachment styles and discuss. On today's episode we go over attachment styles and situationships, struggles of a fearful avoidant, and an avoidant not wanting to be a part of his partners life-long illness. If you are new to attachment theory and don't know your attachment here is a link where you can find out if you have more secure attachment, preoccupied anxious attachment, dimsissive avoidant, or fearful avoidant in you. 

Attachment Test:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

It's part two of the Bachelor cast where I go over their bio's and try to figure out their attachment styles. Follow along and we can figure out their attachment style as the show happens. And if you don't know your own attachment style and you want to know your strongest attachment I have a link of an attachment text for you. You can figure out if you lean secure, anxious, dismissive avoidant, or fearful avoidant.

Attachment Test:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

I'm going to give you a bunch of dating tips to help you find the right partner and identify the people who don't work well for you quicker. These tips will help you have less anxiety inducing dates in your life. It can also help the anxious attachment style person work on themselves.

Attachment Test:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

Using subreddit's we discuss a woman who is an anxious attachment style in an anxious avoidant trap with a dismissive avoidant. We also discuss a preoccupied anxious attachment style woman worried about an old FaceBook relationship status. And avoidants discuss what it was like growing up with a dismissive and/or fearful avoidant parent.  And if you don't know your attachment style I have a link to an attachment test to help you out and hopefully help out your relationships.

Attachment Test:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

The Bachelor is back! I'm going to go over their bio's and use my attachment style skills to figure out their attachment. Or at least get a start. I'll have to see how they are as the shows go by. But I can at least get some educated guesses on whether they are a secure attachment style, a preoccupied anxious attachment style, a dismissive avoidant attachment style, or a fearful avoidant attachment style, otherwise known as disorganized attachment style. My goal is to help people get betting in dating and relationships using attachment styles. I've use this format to figure out Bachelors from Katie Thurston's episode on TikTok. And now I'm going to do it on my podcast. And I'll throw a little bit of recap in there too. And if you don't know your attachment style here's a link to get you started on that journey.

Attachment test:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

Where are the secure attachment style people in the world?  I'm going to show you how to spot them in the wild. The older we get the less secure people are out in the dating pool. So if you want to find one you need to pay attention closely. This episode will also show you examples of secure people if you are attempting to become more secure. 

Attachment test:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

In today's episode I discuss three sub Reddit posts related to attachment theory/attachment styles. One person asks for advice from the dismissive avoidants. One person wants to know if anyone has had success with psychedelics for their insecure attachment style. And fearful avoidant seems to be bored with dating people who don't have a troubled past. 

Attachment Test:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

Are you afraid of being alone? Sometimes it's just anxiety like everyone gets. But sometimes it's a more serious thing that requires therapy. In today's episode I will read an article about autophobia or monophobia. 

Article.

https://www.msn.com/en-us/lifestyle/love-sex/there-s-a-psychological-reason-you-re-afraid-of-being-alone/ar-AA14KvRs?cvid=d12ee829114f4da78a919fa80e8f8205

In this episode I will discuss 11 common things an avoidant will do.  This will help you spot them in the dating world.  Or it may help figure out you are the avoidant. If you don't know your attachment style here is a test.  And if you want to read about attachment theory then check out the book I've linked. 

Attachment Test:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

"Attached" book

https://www.amazon.com/Attached-Attachment-Find-Keep-Love-Find-ebook/dp/B0049H9AVU/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2DYAU4CGR5GGF&keywords=Attached+book&qid=1671658837&sprefix=attached+book%2Caps%2C158&sr=8-1

The word of the year is gaslighting according to Merriam-Webster. In this episode we read the article and I add some more information on gaslighting, narcissism, and even some attachment theory.

Gaslighting article:

https://www.usatoday.com/story/life/health-wellness/2022/09/13/what-is-gaslighting-how-to-spot-it/10333556002/

Attachment test:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

In today's episode I'm reading an article about finances and relationships and then discussing my opinion on it. If you are here for attachment styles or attachment theory I'll share the attachment test and my favorite attachment book right here.

Article:https://money.yahoo.com/professor-couples-who-have-joint-accounts-stay-together-longer-170633748.html

Attached Book: https://www.amazon.com/Attached-audiobook/dp/B07ZJW6DWR/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2RTAZTO373IQR&keywords=attached+book&qid=1671568709&sprefix=attached%2Caps%2C160&sr=8-1

Attachment test: http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

In today's episode I discuss the 11 common things an anxiuos attachment style person would do in a relationship. This can help in your relationship with identifying their attachment style. Or it may help you identify the things you do.  The key is figure out things that don't help the relationship so you can minimize or eliminate them over time. 

Attachment Test:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

"Attached" book:

https://www.amazon.com/Attached-audiobook/dp/B07ZJW6DWR/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2CGMVVCE21B28&keywords=attached+book&qid=1671480090&sprefix=attached%2Caps%2C196&sr=8-1

In today's episode I'm reading and discussing a probem that seems to exist right now. And that's the man child killing the sex drives of women. Women are fed up having a man who can't do simple things around the house.  And I can't blame them. 

https://www.vice.com/en/article/88q3qk/man-child-scientific-term-new-research

I'm finally back.  Sorry for the two year break. In this episode I'll discuss what took me so long to come back.  And I also talk about a recent break and discuss attachment styles with a break up.  And if you want to learn on YouTube check out my new channel Relationship Attachments.

In today's episode I go over if attachment styles also known as attachment theory can change.  The quick answer is yes.  It doesn't matter if you are an avoidant, anxious, or secure attachment style it can change for better or worse.  And the relationships you are in help with that.  So who you date can decide your fate.  

https://relationshipsandrelationshits.com/resources/

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

Dating is hard enough.  Knowing attachment styles or attachment theory can help minimize that pain.  In this episode we will go through some tips and questions to help identify the secure attachment style, the anxious attachment style, the avoidant attachment style and the fearful avoidant attachment style.  

Attachment test: 

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

Resources:

https://relationshipsandrelationshits.com/resources/

I am talking about sex and attachment styles, also known as attachment theory.  I discuss secure, avoidant, and anxious attachment styles and how they view and act in the bedroom with sex.  Attachment theory is very beneficial to finding a great partner, keeping a partner, working through issues with a partner, and raising your children for success when they become adults. 

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

https://relationshipsandrelationshits.com/resources/

In this episode we break down the dismissive avoidant attachment style.  In previous episodes we have talked about the avoidant attachment style, but not specifically the dismissive avoidant.  Attachment theory has three insecure attachments which are the dismissive avoidant, the fearful avoidant, and the disorganized attachment.  

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

https://relationshipsandrelationshits.com/resources/

The Strange Situation Test was the first way Attachment Style or Attachment Theory categorized people.  The first test identified three distinct groups, the dismissive avoidant, the preoccupied anxious, and the secure attachment style.  This was done by observing common reactions to many events.  At a later time the fearful avoidant, also known as disorganized attachment was categorized.   Attachment Styles help in current and future relationships. 

https://relationshipsandrelationshits.com/resources/

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl