High Low with EmRata

For the monthly AMA, I take questions on Babs, the Beatles, bed bugs, and so much more. I also speak on the topics of authenticity, fashion trends, and modeling. Plus, a status update on High Low and the future of the show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Adult film star Lana Rhoades stops by the pod for a candid conversation on bodies, boundaries, and taking control of your own image. Lana gets into the nitty-gritty of what the porn industry is really like, how she became the most-searched star on PornHub, whether her former occupation has changed her relationship to sex and sets the record straight on whether “porn should be illegal” as she was quoted as saying. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week, we’re headed to court, with legal expert Meghann Cuniff. Cuniff’s made a name for herself with coverage of trials and legal affairs involving a number of public figures, like Tory Lanez and Megan Thee Stallion and Danny Masterson. The valuable access, insights and analysis she provides have made her a hero to fandoms like the Hotties, who dubbed her Megan Thee Reporter, and a target to folks like Tory Lanez and his legal team, who see her as a threat, and actually used his last moments in court to call her a “google-eyed bitch.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We’re celebrating High Low’s first birthday with an award show looking back at some of the greatest moments from the last 12 months of the show. We’re handing out some (virtual) hardware, honoring superlatives in categories like Most Watched, Most Controversial, Most Viral, Most Likely to Succeed and community picks. Tune in to see which of your favorite guests win big. Featuring Anitta, Bhad Bhabie, Diplo, Esther Perel, Law Roach, Maddie Ziegler, Troye Sivan, Tana Mongeau, Victoria Monet, Ziwe and many more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The author of Fashion Killa: How Hip-Hop Revolutionized High Fashion speaks on the impact and influence of hip-hop on brands like Tommy Hilfiger, Ralph Lauren and Versace. Journalist and author Sowmya Krishnamurthy speaks to some of the genre’s biggest style icons then and now and the roles artists like Snoop Dogg, Kanye, Lil Kim, and Pharrell have played in the fashion world. High Low is a finalist in the Signal Awards!  Vote for High Low with EmRata in the Signal Awards for Listener’s Choice: https://vote.signalaward.com/PublicVoting#/2023/shows/general/popular-culture-variety Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Mobile, Alabama-born rapper Flo Milli stops by the pod to share the cinematic story of her come-up, from working at Metro PCS to riding the Megabus all the way to music biz success. Plus, Flo introduces us to some of her eclectic alter-egos. High Low is a finalist in the Signal Awards!  Vote for High Low with EmRata in the Signal Awards for Listener’s Choice: https://vote.signalaward.com/PublicVoting#/2023/shows/general/popular-culture-variety Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In our monthly AMA edition, I talk all about my experience at the 2023 MTV VMAs including who I saw and what it was like BTS, the Fashion Media Awards and Ziwe, superstitions, sneakers, and Sly. Plus, lots of questions and answers about my best friend Babs. High Low is a finalist in the Signal Awards!  Vote for High Low with EmRata in the Signal Awards for Listener’s Choice: https://vote.signalaward.com/PublicVoting#/2023/shows/general/popular-culture-variety Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Content Warning: This episode contains discussions of sensitive subject matter including disordered eating. Discretion is advised. Influencer extraordinaire Remi Bader drops by to speak about developing a brand based on brutal honesty, inclusivity in fashion, and setting boundaries around what you share on social media. Plus, she dishes on what it’s like to have Khloe Kardashian in your corner and I share one of my biggest icks. High Low is a finalist in the Signal Awards!  Vote for High Low with EmRata in the Signal Awards for Listener’s Choice: https://vote.signalaward.com/PublicVoting#/2023/shows/general/popular-culture-variety Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

People always ask me about what it’s like to be a model. So this week, I’m taking your questions all about modeling — what it’s like on set, the daily grind, breaking into the biz, the economics of the industry, and so much more. Vote for High Low with EmRata in the Signal Awards for Listener’s Choice: https://vote.signalaward.com/PublicVoting#/2023/shows/general/popular-culture-variety Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

To celebrate Fashion Month, we’ve curated a collection of some vintage High Low Highlights featuring some of our favorite fashion icons. Featuring Marc Jacobs, Winnie Harlow, Paloma Elsesser, Donatella Versace, Law Roach, Hari Nef, and Ireland Baldwin. Plus, I recap of some of my recent fashion-related exploits and reflect on what this time of year is like. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Gwyneth Paltrow is as famous for her luxury lifestyle as she is for her movies. But when she collides with a man on a ski slope in Park City, Utah, she finds herself in a real-life high-end whodunnit, where fact is stranger than fiction. Behind every infamous news story is a journalist trying to hold power to account. Join reporters Vanessa Grigoriadis and Gabriel Sherman as they take an in-depth look at the most explosive scandals of this century. From high-profile divorces to sex cults to the lies that started a war, they’ll guide you through the juiciest, most outrageous, celeb-filled stories of the last two decades, and give you a behind-the-scenes look at what it takes to shine an unflattering light on the world’s most powerful people. A Campside Media & Sony Music Entertainment production. Listen to Infamous: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/gwyneth-paltrows-ski-trial-part-1/id1652941051?i=1000623927119 Find more great podcasts from Sony Music Entertainment at sonymusic.com/podcasts Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It’s a pivotal time for workers and the labor movement. A few months into the WGA and SGA work stoppages that have put all of Hollywood on pause, we are taking a trip to the front lines. This week, I’m speaking to writer and comedian Josh Gondelman (The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel, Last Week Tonight) about the cruelty of the powers-that-be in this David vs. Goliath battle, the war being waged in the media over the various proposals, and just a general vibe check of what the scene is like at different protest sites. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Triple threat Tinashe stops by the pod to chat about her latest album, BB/ANG3L, trusting yourself, and working with Britney Spears. The singer-dancer-actress dishes on her biggest turn-off, recovering from a public relationship and breakup, Stars on Mars and what it’s like to be serially slept-on. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Narcissism — it’s all around us. Whether it’s at home, in the media, in the workplace, or in the mirror, we all have to come face to face with narcissists at some point. I speak to an expert to help define the meaning of therapy-speak phrases like “narcissism” and “gaslighting” and how we can navigate those relationships and power dynamics. Dr. Ramani is a licensed clinical psychologist, Professor Emerita of Psychology at California State University, Los Angeles, and the Founder and the host of Navigating Narcissism with Dr. Ramani. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Taylor Lorenz, author of the new book, Extremely Online: The Untold Story of Fame, Power and Influence on the Internet, speaks about the internet culture beat and the hate she’s received as a female tech journalist. What’s it like to go from covering creators, influencers and milkshake ducks to becoming the trending topic? And how does traditional media miss the mark when it comes to covering digital spaces? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It’s our monthly AMA edition. Topics discussed include the first album I ever bought, staying humble, and my best friend Babs. Plus, my best and worst Halloween Costumes of all time. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Ziwe of Ziwe fame. My close friend and neighbor comes on to give us personal insight into the character we all know and love from both Baited and Ziwe. We discuss anger, the color pink and our friendship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There’s a lot to learn from polarizing pop star Taylor Swift. I speak to two Swifties who have infiltrated academia, teaching two very different college courses based around Swift — her catalog, her business savvy and what she represents. Senior Rolling Stone writer Brittany Spanos, who says “Taylor Swift is a loaded phrase,” created and teaches Topics in Music: Taylor Swift at NYU’s Clive Davis School of Music at the Tisch School of the Arts. She speaks to what Taylor represents, her fandom, and how and why Taylor has been dismissed and discredited over the years.  Dr. Elly McCausland teaches Literature: Taylor’s Version, which draws parallels between Taylor’s lyrics and some of the literary greats. She speaks to the backlash she’s received after her course was announced. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Paloma's modeling career spans more than a decade. During this time, she has worked with brands like Versace, Fendi, Tommy Hilfiger and Victorias Secret. After developing a sense of self and personal identity during her twenties, she is now confidently carving out her own path. Today she speaks on her journey to sobriety, self-acceptance and success. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I reflect on my personal journey around Astrology, and what’s made me go from skeptic to possible true believer. This episode includes never-before-heard clips from Anitta and Maddie Ziegler, and excerpts of my conversations with Jeremy O. Harris and Iggy Azalea, on the topic of zodiac signs, traits, compatibility, and just astrology in general. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Nelly Furtado reflects on her recent career resurgence, finding balance between music and motherhood, and creative epiphanies. We get into her various eras, from topping the charts to flying under the radar and returning to “normalcy” under an assumed name. Plus, imposter syndrome, choreography, and controlling your image. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week, we have curated a sampler of some of the best clips from past High Low: Talkback episodes. Featuring questions and comments on friendship breakups, OnlyFans, flirting while in a relationship, porn addiction and approaching 30. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Recording artist Victoria Monét stops by to talk music, motherhood, and her current Jaguar era. She gets candid about working with and opening for Ariana Grande, pregnancy and postpartum depression, and addresses the Kehlani relationship rumors head-on for the first time. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Unpacking the numerous systemic issues with the Troubled Teen Industry, the controversial network of for-profit, youth treatment centers such as boot camps, wilderness programs and boarding schools with the author of The Elissas: Three Girls, One Fate, and the Deadly Secrets of Suburbia, Samantha Leach.  Sam shares her reporting, lived experience, and personal insights, in a rich discussion of the lingering effects of Y2K celeb culture's toxic influence on young women, the power of shame, and how names like Paris Hilton and Bhad Bhabie play into all of this. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Polarizing personality Tana Mongeau (Cancelled) stops by to speak about the millions she’s made on OnlyFans (and the critics), privacy concerns, her very public relationships (Bella Thorne, Jake Paul), and whatever is it that is going on with her and Miss Brazil, Duda Castro. Plus, how not monetizing photos of your feet is leaving money on the table. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Content Warning: This episode includes discussion of sensitive subject matter. Discretion is advised. In the July edition of my monthly AMA ep, I take questions on Monica Lewinsky, the white party, and eating disorders.  Submit your questions and comments at HighLow.fm, 42-HIGH-LOW-4 or using the hashtag #HighLow. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Actor and singer-songwriter Troye Sivan drops by to address the reception to his new video for “Rush,”  criticism, sex and dating, and sets the record straight when it comes to his sexual preferences. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Exploring the fascinating true crime story behind how the abortion pill became legal in the U.S. with investigative reporter and host of Cover Up: The Pill Plot, TJ Raphael. You can listen to Cover Up: The Pill Plot now here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Anitta stops by to talk about her rise from the favelas of Rio to world famous. The unofficial Baile Funk and Brazilian ambassador speaks about her witchy ways, the power of manifestation, and faking it till you make it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

By popular demand, here are some never-before-heard clips from my conversation with Esther Perel that were simply too good to leave on the cutting room floor. Click play to hear Esther’s thought-provoking insights on: jealousy, gender roles, and her own relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Psychotherapist, author and podcaster Esther Perel joins me to talk all about power and desire, pornography and relationships, infidelity, and the reasons why we cheat. Plus, she breaks down some of the biggest shifts she’s seen over the last four decades of her couples therapy practice. You can hear new episodes of Esther’s show, Where Should We Begin?, every week on Apple Podcasts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I delve into the world of gender and drag performance and beauty pageants with Professor Laurie Greene,  author of Drag and Beauty Pageants: Performing Femininity in the World’s Playground. We chat about playing into as well as subverting gender norms, camp sensibilities, and the politics of the Miss America pageant. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Benny Drama a.k.a. Benito Skinner talks about his creative process whether it’s doing impressions of our favorite stars or creating original characters. We also chat about online hate, relationships, and his new TV show, Overcompensating. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In the June edition of my monthly AMA ep, I take questions on TikTok, Vocal Fry, OnlyFans, and whether there’s an expiration date on modeling. Plus, answers to some FAQs around skincare and responses to critiques of the Kelly Rowland episode. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Maddie Ziegler (Dance Moms, West Side Story) stops by to chat about the connection between modeling and dance, TikTok dances, and her relationship with Sia. Plus, we trade Steven Spielberg stories and compare notes on our experiences working on major music videos. Send in your comments, questions and voice notes to HighLow.fm / 42-HIGH-LOW-4 or HighLow@SonyMusic.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What’s so dangerous about some words? Exploring what books are banned, how they get banned, what it means for the authors in question, and what we can to keep information accessible to all. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The author of the #1 NYT Instant Bestseller, Pageboy, stops by to talk writing, romance and representation as he reflects on his journey to becoming one of Hollywood’s leading men. Plus, we talk about Elliot's evolving relationship to love and why he decided to write explicitly about sex in his book.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week I explore the process of putting your eggs on ice. I speak to a friend who has just frozen her eggs about her experience, discuss pricing and the industry surrounding fertility and hear from listeners who submitted their perspectives via highlow.fm. Plus: fertility for LGBTQ+ couples, Spain and Sofia Vergara. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week, we have something a little different: a curated collection of audio straight from the cutting room floor. Enjoy never-before-heard clips from my conversations with Meghan Trainor, Kelly Rowland, Ireland Baldwin, Winnie Harlow, Bhad Bhabie and Loren Gray. Highlights include: Meghan Trainor on how she approaches the craft of songwriting, Kelly Rowland and I about how we named our kids, Winnie Harlow on brand collabs, Ireland Baldwin on social media, Loren Gray on being a glizzy gourmand, and so much more. Plus, the High and Low culture picks that didn't make the initial cut. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We’ve gotten a ton of requests for book recommendations, so this week I’ve dedicated an entire episode to talking about my favorites. Fiction, essays, short stories, and the books that have influenced my own writing. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Grammy winning multi-hyphenate Kelly Rowland stops by talk about why sex in your 30s is so much better, body dysmorphia, gentle parenting and her greatest regret. Kelly also tells me all about the performance ‘boot camp’ Matthew Knowles put her and her Destiny’s Child groupmates through and the lessons she’s learned in Hollywood. Plus, I get all the details on her new series Breakthrough, now streaming on Audible. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I explore the disconnect between connectivity and loneliness to try and better understand the current loneliness epidemic. Why do we feel so lonely? Is something wrong with us? And how do we fix that? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Model, actress and influencer Alexis Ren and I chat about the disconnect between your real self versus your online self, the influence we have as influencers, and overcoming insecurities. Plus, I premiere a brand new segment! Send in your comments, questions and voicenotes to HighLow.fm / 42-HIGH-LOW-4 or HighLow@SonyMusic.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I’m in the High Low hotseat once again for our monthly Ask Em Anything episode. No topic is too random, no question too big or too small! Subjects covered include: dream podcast guests, favorite places to travel, will I ever write another book?, my relationship with acting, and a Where Are They Now? update on the Scab Crew. Submit your questions and comments at HighLow.fm, 42-HIGH-LOW-4 or using the hashtag #HighLow. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"Some comedian girl,” Hannah Berner (stand-up comedian, Bravo’s Summer House, Giggly Squad and Berning in Hell) stops by High Low to talk manifesting and blowjobs, why we stan Gen Z, our love/hate relationship with men, and dating advice for the young girlies. Plus, how you can dismantle the patriarchy by pooping. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week, I’m taking your questions about modeling and covering everything from breaking into the business, what it’s like on set, economics of the industry and so much more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Winnie Harlow stops by to talk about what it takes to make it as a model. The Toronto-born beauty speaks about her harrowing first time walking in the Victoria’s Secret show, posing nude for the cover of Women’s Health, friendship with Teyana Taylor, and her relationship with Kyle Kuzma. Plus, we trade stories about what it’s like to embarrass yourself in front of Beyonce. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Inspired by my recent chats with Meghan Trainor and Ireland Baldwin, I’m talking all about my experience with pregnancy and my son, Sly. I cover; What I wish I knew before getting pregnant, the moment I found out, my mom group, and other Highs and Lows. Happy Mother’s Day! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Ireland Baldwin gets candid about pregnancy, eating disorders and life as a Hollywood nepo baby. Plus, how her family reacted to her strip club themed baby shower. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

On the heels of the first Monday in May, I’m talking all things Met Gala. I reflect on my past Met Ball memories, including brushes with famous folks like Beyonce, Doja Cat, Phoebe Bridgers, Lizzo, and David Byrne. And I answer your questions about everything from the invites and red carpet experience to overall vibe. Plus, a look back at the origins of fashion’s biggest night.  This is everything you always wanted to know about the Met Gala but never knew who to ask! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Anthem queen, supermom, and new author, Meghan Trainor muses on motherhood, music, and mental health. Plus, why she avoided sex during pregnancy and how a newfound friendship “Auntie” Kris Jenner has changed her life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Diving into the (possible) upcoming WGA strike and what it means for the entertainment we love and the artists who make it. In this episode, I break down why I'm so pro-union and explore the impact of past writers' strikes on the industry. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Bhad Bhabie, a.k.a. Danielle Bregoli, gets real about making bank on OnlyFans, being misunderstood, and the Troubled Teen Industry. Plus, why she recently covered up one some of her Chief Keef-inspired ink.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this special edition of EmRata Asks, I answer your questions submitted via DM or voice memo. Nothing is off limits in this Ask Me Anything, where I give my thoughts on New York, Celeste Barber and what people are like at the annual Vanity Fair Oscars party. You can submit your questions at HighLow.fm or on socials using #HighLow. A Sony Music Entertainment, Somethin' Else, and Bitch Era Media production. Subscribe to ‘High Low: Talk Back’ for exclusive extra episodes every week. Plus, you’ll get all episodes of High Low ad-free. Find more great podcasts from Sony Music Entertainment at sonymusic.com/podcasts and follow us @sonypodcasts. To bring your brand to life in this podcast, email podcastadsales@sonymusic.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Marc Jacobs has had a career in fashion for over 30 years. Today, my friend for better the part of a decade comes on to discuss the art of performance, facelifts, reinvention and what he’s learned about the creative process. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There is an inherent disconnect between people’s online personas and who they are in real life, creating a divide between their IRL (in real life) and URL (online) identities. The way we represent ourselves online-through curation and manipulation-creates a discrepancy between the expectations we have of ourselves and our actual experiences, leading to feelings of inadequacy and making it difficult to perceive and connect to others in real life. This week I’m exploring the idea of the real vs. ideal self and investigating how, in the age of the internet, we might reconcile the two. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Loren Gray is a lot more than just a TikTok star. Loren came in right before her 21st birthday to discuss her upcoming debut album Guilty, her rise to viral fame, and her recent quest to live a “Hannah Montana life.” She talks about what its been like growing up with the internet watching and how she’s learned to navigate the music business despite the people who have doubted her. Plus: making TikToks, Taylor Swift and trucks.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I’m sick this week but still wanted to give you something to listen to. I’m still getting a lot of messages to HighLow.fm about the episode I did on Non-Ethical Monogomy back in December. Check it out and let me know your thoughts, and if they’ve changed since this episode first aired. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Hari Nef and I have known each other for almost 8 (?!) years. It’s been incredible to watch her blossom into the accomplished model, actress, and writer that she is today. Hari is undoubtedly having a moment on both stage, runway and screen (Barbie, The Idol, The Seagull with Parker Posey and walking nine fashion shows last season). We talk about the letter she wrote to Greta Gerwig and Margot Robbie which landed her the role in Barbie and what it was like behind-the-scenes of the controversial new Sam Levinson and The Weeknd HBO Max series. Plus raves, Ru Paul and the concept of performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

During my conversation with Law Roach, he said when he started out, he didn’t know what he was doing but you have to "fake it till you make it," which led me to reflect on how many people do this. But it is easier said than done, thanks to a little thing called Imposter syndrome. Imposter syndrome is a phenomenon in which individuals doubt their abilities and believe they are unworthy of their accomplishments and the admiration they receive. As someone who has experienced imposter syndrome, whether it be in my modeling or writing, I often feel like I am going to be exposed as a fraud. In today's episode of EmRata Asks, we will explore what imposter syndrome is and discuss strategies for overcoming it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Tan France says people think he was "plucked out of nowhere and they're right." Despite being best known for his role on Queer Eye as a fashion designer and entrepreneur, he had never aspired to be a television personality. Our conversation centered around his upbringing as a South Asian in the UK, his identity as a Pakistani, and his experiences as a brown and queer individual who has often felt like an outsider. We also delved into his experiences filming Queer Eye and his latest show, Next in Fashion. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this week’s guest episode, Law Roach discussed his friendship and subsequent falling out with Tiffany Haddish. He told me about how their relationship violated his golden rule of not mixing personal with the professional and also described how they’ve managed to get to a friendly place. We all know what romantic breakups look like, but friend breakups are comparatively uncharted territory. Today I discuss my own experience with friend breakups and what I’ve learned from them. We also see what the internet has to offer in terms of advice for how to handle and recover from platonic relationships ending. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When I saw Law Roach’s post announcing his abrupt retirement, I had to have him come on High Low to hear the full story. Law was real, raw and vulnerable in our conversation. The self-proclaimed image architect and celebrity stylist (Zendaya! Hunter Schafer! Meg The Stallion!) spilled on everything: his origins in the industry, the politics of celebrity fashion, and the s**t he just can’t stand. He even gives us a relationship status update on where he and Tiffany Haddish are at, a few years after the two famously fell out. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We’ve heard the word “empowerment" used and abused time and time again. Often, we hear it when we’re being sold something: almost everything from beauty products to exercise classes are meant to “empower women.” But what does “empowerment” even really look like? And feel like? Today I talk about my personal journey with the word, cite Jia Tolentino’s incredible essay “Always Be Optimizing” and Naomi Wolfe’s Beauty Myth to examine how capitalism has diluted true female liberation. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Thomas Wesley or Diplo as most people know him is a DJ and music producer and yes, the first cis white male I have had on the podcast! Today, we talk about getting older, his relationship to the internet and even a bit about his sexuality. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In honor of Sly’s 2nd birthday, I’m dedicating today’s episode to reflecting on the last two transformative years of motherhood: I tell my birth story and talk about what Sly has taught me about control, time and love. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Suki Waterhouse is on fire. Her music career has exploded (she has performed in 70 shows since last summer) and her new show, where she plays a keyboardist, Daisy Jones and the Six, just premiered on Amazon Prime. We talk about her beginnings as a model, being protective of girls in their 20s and what music and writing has given her. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Last week on the show, Iggy Azelea talked about how creating an OnlyFans has offered her more control. After our episode aired, I decided to open up the conversation around monetizing your own image and body and the pros and cons of OF to all of you. Today I’m playing your voice recordings and responding to your comments. We discuss why starting an OF is not feminism, sex work through the lens of intersectionality, what empowerment really is, and what it means to be a celebrity potentially joining a platform of sex workers and creators. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

JVN grabbed the hearts of audiences globally when we came to know him as the incredibly positive, sensitive hairdresser on Netflix’s Queer Eye, but it wasn’t until he wrote his first book, where he chronicles his battle with addiction and his HIV status, that we fully got to understand JVN and how he has become the person he is today. On this episode, we talk about Jonathan’s connection to the South, his philosophy around hair and what it can tell us about ourselves and life in general and how he manages to continue to evolve as both a public figure and as an individual. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The attention economy has nurtured an environment on the internet where we are encouraged to distinguish ourselves. One of the quickest, easiest way to do that? Controversial, provocative and timely commentary aka “hot takes” delivered via Tik Tok or Twitter. We have built an entire culture around hot takes, but why are we so addicted to them? And are they actually contributing to healthy, nuanced discourse? Or are they just making us all shallow thinkers? Today I investigate. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Iggy Azalea is a rapper, mother and OnlyFans creator. Iggy’s been famous for nearly a decade and, to use her own words from this conversation: “I made record labels so much money off my body. I made a lot of people so much money off my body and I got the smallest cut off my own fucking body and my own work, and my own ideas…” Today we discuss how she’s managed to take back control: through career moves, cosmetic surgery, motherhood, and starting an OnlyFans. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It shocking how little we still know about the side effects of the pill, especially when it comes to how hormones can affect your decision making. Recent studies have indicated that hormones from oral contraceptives can impact who you’re attracted to and even who you choose as a long term partner. Today I’m talking about the wider implications of these studies and what they mean. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Professional boxer Alycia "The Bomb" Baumgardner joined me in studio days before a career making (or breaking) fight at Madison Square Garden. And guess what? She won! She is now the undisputed super featherweight champion of the world. We talk about the newfound attention female boxing is getting, how she embraces her femininity while playing a traditionally masculine sport, and how she is able to maintain unrelenting confidence in herself and her destiny. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Well, it’s almost motherfu*king Valentine’s Day. And for the first time in my adult life, I’m spending it single. So this week I’m asking: is love overrated? And how can we reshape romantic love to augment life, rather than define it? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Amber Rose rose to prominence through several high profile relationships with famous rappers, but she has a whole lot more to say than gossip and rehash their history. Today we discuss how she has reclaimed the labels “slut” and “bitch” through her event Slut Walk, how she’s raising her sons to respect women, classism, feminism and racism, and what she wants to see happen with men (and women!) when it comes to fighting misogyny. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Women and femme presenting people spend billions of dollars annually to try and appear younger and slow down the inevitable: aging. Today I reference some of my favorite writing on women and getting older and talk about why so may of us fear losing our youth and discuss the how (and if!) we can change the way we think about age and beauty. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Like "the twink of the moment." This is how Tommy felt just before her gender transition. This week we discuss navigating gender identity, her decision to transition, and the complications that surround transitioning as a public persona. We also cover her struggles with drug addiction, her casting in 13 Reasons Why, and her future as a writer and director. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The truth about having your love life on blast? It’s pretty weird. I allude to my dating life a lot on the show but I wanted to take the opportunity this week to talk to all of you about what it’s really like to be dating in the public eye. I discuss paparazzi, dating multiple people at the same time Lori Harvey and Taylor swift, ofc. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When asked what Slave Play is about, Jeremy O. Harris responds, “Slave Play is a slave play. And you should go see it.” The play, which wrestled with sex and race, was as controversial as it was successful. Today we talk about his time spent at the Yale School of Drama, the origins of Slave Play, his approach to writing and much more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

'Icon' is definitely an overused word these days, but when it comes to Donatella Versace, THE Donatella Versace, there is no better description. Donatella comes into the studio baring Versace pillows and cups and sits down to give us rare insights into the house of Versace: she describes her childhood in the South of Italy, what the fashion industry was like in the late seventies, how Gianni ushered in the supermodel era and the experience of losing her brother. We also talk Britney, Lil Nas X, Naomi, and even share a special announcement about who the face of the SS23 Versace campaign is. Donatella shares her wisdom around business and her philosophy around life, which yes, includes a "Bitch Era" attitude. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Earlier this week, my guest Chloe Cherry talked about how she felt safer when she was acting in adult films than when she working as a waitress in the service industry. It was a perspective a lot of people took issue with, including my past guest Mia Khalifa. Today I share the reaction to Chloe’s comments: Mia’s response via Tik Tok and what friends of mine who have worked as both waitresses and strippers have to say. I also read comments and submissions from listeners like you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

After moving to Miami at 18 to become an adult film actress, Chloe worked in porn for six years before she was cast in Season 2 of Euphoria. Unlike other adult film actors who I’ve spoken to, Chloe was very intentional about pursuing her career in porn. Today we discuss Chloe’s perspective on sex work, how and why she’s deliberately commodified her body, and the differences between acting in the adult film industry and Hollywood. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There is such an emphasis on the importance of truth-telling in our culture, but is honesty really always “the best policy”? In honor of the new year, I'm talking about the ethics of honesty in intimate relationships and how kindness and tact should, at times, come before candidness. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Olivia Ponton has a built a massive following on Tik Tok and landed a place in Sport’s Illustrated 2022 Swimsuit addition. Today we discuss what the last few years of her life have been like, the commodification of one’s body and being a queer woman in the spotlight. Today’s episode includes discussions surrounding eating disorders and body dysmorphia. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It’s easy to write people off as “toxic” and cut them out of your life completely. But have we taken the culture of boundaries too far? Today I read from an article published in The Atlantic entitled “That’s It. You’re Dead to Me.” and discuss the “toxic” phenomenon that millennials and Gen Z have come to rely on. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Bella’s first photo shoot was at 6 weeks old. She grew up in Hollywood, and today on the pod she talks about her experience of being simultaneously sexualized and shamed as an adolescent in the limelight. You can check out Bella’s jewelry line, Thorne, at thornedynasty.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I finally did it. In honor of me downloading my first dating app, I bring in my best friend, Kat, a former swiping pro to discuss the pros and cons of matching with strangers online. And yes, we even read some of my DMs. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Andrea is a critic at New York magazine and the author of Females. Her searing critiques of writers like Ottessa Moshefegh and Bret Easton Ellis are as hilarious as they are insightful. Her essay “On Liking Women” has been credited as launching the “second wave” of transgender studies. I first met Andrea when she profiled me around the publication of my book and we have since become friends. We talk about writing, flirting via text, gender politics and so much more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jealousy has been on my mind since we posted the episode on Ethical Non-Monogamy. Dozens of you came to me with the same feedback: "I could never, I'm too jealous". Today I take a closer look at the emotion we all seem to have the most shame and fear around. I talk about Ethan and Harper's relationship in White Lotus, read from the chapter on jealousy in The Ethical Slut and take some advice from Tik-Tokers on how to understand ourselves and our relationships better by learning to examine our jealousy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Drew Afualo has taken over TikTok by taking a no holds barred approach to eviscerating dudes who share racist, misogynistic commentary online. But the best part? She’s really, really funny. Today we discuss her Samoan heritage and its influence on her politics, why she doesn’t consider being called “fat” an insult, accountability in the age of the internet, her distinction between “nice” and “kind” and so much more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Attachment theory has become incredibly popular in the last 5 years: not only for therapists and people working in psychotherapy, but also for individuals who hope to better understand their behavior and needs in close relationships. Today I explain the history of attachment theory and its rise to prominence in recent years before breaking down the 4 styles of attachment. Then I get into my personal experience with therapy and talk a little bit about confirmation bias and the other ways we attempt to understand ourselves and the ones we love. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Art! Patriarchy! New York City! Childbirth! My friend, Sarah Hoover, former Gagosian gallery director turned writer, comes on the pod today to talk about her experience with postpartum depression, her understanding of art history through the lens of feminism, the medical-industrial complex and the terrifying history behind women's healthcare. Sarah also gives a peek into her upcoming memoir, Motherload. A Sony Music Entertainment, Somethin’ Else, and Bitch Era Media production. Find more great podcasts from Sony Music Entertainment at sonymusic.com/podcasts To bring your brand to life on this podcast, email podcastadsales@sonymusic.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In her essay "Scenes from an Open Marriage" Jean Garnett asks her husband "’Which scenario endangers us more: you sleeping with other women, or you not sleeping with other woman?’” Partnership and commitment is difficult and inherently risky—so what about opening up a relationship? Today on the pod I explore ethical non-monogamy. I examine Garnett's essay as it relates to a friend, B, who has practiced ENM and then I'm joined on the phone by another friend. We discuss The Ethical Slut, love, individualism and how to connect to your desires and advocate for your own needs in a relationship. A Sony Music Entertainment, Somethin’ Else, and Bitch Era Media production.   Find more great podcasts from Sony Music Entertainment at sonymusic.com/podcasts   To bring your brand to life on this podcast, email podcastadsales@sonymusic.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Mia Khalifa has a complicated history with the internet. But in recent years she has transformed her relationship to it, not only by gaining more control and ownership over her likeness, but also because she has introduced the world to the funny and thoughtful person she is. This week we discuss sex work, Mia’s relationship to shame, and how she has managed, to use her own words, to continually “fail upwards”. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Thanksgiving dinner is 13.5 percent more expensive than last year! This week on Emrata Asks we are talking inflation and the word everyone seems scared to say: recession. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Once a married waitress in her late 20s, my dear friend and best selling author put everything on the line in order to go to grad school. The result? Her smash hit novel, Sweetbitter, and a career as a writer. We talk slumber parties, the beginning of our friendship (which involves DMs and my therapist) as well as the writing process, privilege and likability. A Sony Music Entertainment, Somethin’ Else, and Bitch Era Media production.  Find more great podcasts from Sony Music Entertainment at sonymusic.com/podcasts   To bring your brand to life on this podcast, email podcastadsales@sonymusic.com  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Brazilian butt lifts. Botox. Lip gloss. These are all tools people use to appeal to the male gaze. But where do our personal decisions to alter our appearance collide with our politics and become problematic? Do they ever? On todays EmRata Asks I explore the complex relationship between plastic surgery and feminism. A Sony Music Entertainment, Somethin’ Else, and Bitch Era Media production.  Find more great podcasts from Sony Music Entertainment at sonymusic.com/podcasts   To bring your brand to life on this podcast, email podcastadsales@sonymusic.com  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Ziwe of Ziwe fame. My close friend and neighbor comes on to give us personal insight into the character we all know and love from both Baited and Ziwe. We discuss anger, the color pink and our friendship. A Sony Music Entertainment, Somethin’ Else, and Bitch Era Media production. Find more great podcasts from Sony Music Entertainment at sonymusic.com/podcasts  To bring your brand to life on this podcast, email podcastadsales@sonymusic.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Screaming Karens. Police brutality. Creepy stalkers. We all carry around a weapon to catch these wrongdoings on camera: our iPhones. But this pervasive surveillance in our culture also means any of us can be filmed at any time without our consent. So what are the ethics of taping others on your iPhone? I break down the pros and cons of recording strangers in public. Then I’m joined by my lawyer Ellie Heisler to discuss the law’s response (or lack of thereof) to these issues. A Sony Music Entertainment, Somethin’ Else, and Bitch Era Media production. Find more great podcasts from Sony Music Entertainment at sonymusic.com/podcasts  To bring your brand to life on this podcast, email podcastadsales@sonymusic.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices