Solo Parent

We’ve all experienced a time when emotions got the best of us and completely lost our cool. As single parents, we don’t have a partner to co-regulate with or to cover for us as we fight to stabilize our emotions. Sometimes it feels nearly impossible to manage our responses well when we’re already trying to manage everything else. How can we regulate big emotions on our own so that we can model healthy emotional regulation for our children? Today, we cover three main points: 1) The basics of emotional regulation 2) The importance of emotional regulation as a parent 3) Tools for stabilizing in unstable moments For all the detailed show notes, tips and links click - soloparent.org/show-notes-blog —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! To receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book click - soloparent.org/welcome-toolkit Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE - ANDROID

Today we will be talking about the upcoming movie release Unsung Hero with David & Helen Smallbone. “Unsung Hero” follows Helen and David Smallbone after having lost everything when David’s successful music company collapses. In 1991, with nothing more than their seven children, suitcases, and a love of music, the family left everything they knew in Australia and moved to the United States, hoping to rebuild their life into a bigger, brighter future. Based on an incredible true story, Helen’s faith inspires her husband and children to hold onto theirs as they band together as a family in a brand-new country. With their own dreams on hold, David and Helen begin to realize the musical giftedness in their children, who would become two of the most successful acts in Inspirational Music history: five-time Grammy Award-winning artists for KING + COUNTRY and Rebecca St. James. “Unsung Hero” releases in movie theaters everywhere on April 26, 2024.  For all the detailed show notes, tips and links click - soloparent.org/show-notes-blog For information on Unsung Hero Click Here! —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! To receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book click - soloparent.org/welcome-toolkit Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE - ANDROID

There is so much uncertainty in our world today: our nation, the presidential election, wars, the stock market and economy, our health, the well-being of our children…the list goes on. When we find ourselves standing in the face of uncertainty, how can we deal with it in a healthy and sustainable way? Today, we cover three main points: 1) The desire for certainty 2) The benefits of uncertainty 3) The antidotes to uncertainty For all the detailed show notes, tips and links click - soloparent.org/show-notes-blog —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! To receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book click - soloparent.org/welcome-toolkit Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE - ANDROID Every girl deserves a faith-filled adventure click here for the NIV Kingdom Girls Bible

Our kids encounter so many cultural influences and outside voices every day. Everything and everyone is vying for their attention, and information about literally anything is at their fingertips. How can we teach our children to stay true to themselves without micromanaging or sheltering them too much? Today, we cover three main points: 1).Identifying outside sources and influences 2).Establishing a safe home base 3).Helping our kids establish their personal values/identity For all the detailed show notes, tips and links click - soloparent.org/show-notes-blog —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! To receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book click - soloparent.org/welcome-toolkit Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE - ANDROID Every girl deserves a faith-filled adventure click here for the NIV Kingdom Girls Bible

We know our kids have gone through much-unwanted instability already, and we will do anything in our power to instill more stability in their lives. But sometimes, this requires us to make really hard decisions. How can we make good decisions for our family, even if it comes at a cost? Is stability even possible? Today, we cover three main points: 1) Making hard decisions. 2) The costs of stability 3) Stability hacks one bite at time. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links click - https://soloparent.org/show-notes-blog —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! To receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book click - https://soloparent.org/welcome-toolkit Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE - ANDROID Every girl deserves a faith-filled adventure click here for the NIV Kingdom Girls Bible

Parenting is probably the biggest responsibility we’ll ever have, and solo parenting may be one of the biggest challenges we’ll ever face. Having a village of people supporting us on our best days and loving us on our worst days is paramount and the concept sounds great, but how do we go about building a village? Today, we cover three main points:  1) The meaning and purpose of a village 2) How to build a village 3) Roadblocks to villages For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org/show-notes-blog —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info, and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID Every girl deserves a faith-filled adventure click here for the NIV Kingdom Girls Bible

Every girl deserves a faith-filled adventure click here for the NIV Kingdom Girls Bible Single Parent Day is in just a few days, on March 21st. For this episode, we wanted to do something special for our solos—and it just so happens that a lot of listeners have been asking us to tell the origin story of Solo Parent. This week we talked to Robert, Amber, and Elizabeth about how Solo Parent came into being. For this conversation, we also welcome back Kimberly Mitchell. Kim is a familiar voice from our podcast and played an instrumental part in the Solo Parent Story. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org/show-notes-blog —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing, or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info, and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

Every morning, we wake up and we have to decide: Are we going to get out of bed…or not? There are days when it all feels like too much; the trials and tribulations of this world seem insurmountable and the lure of staying in bed and hiding from everything and everyone looks like the only solution. Every solo parent has experienced this feeling of overwhelm and knows… we still have to do it. Our kids are depending on us. Their world can’t run without us. So, how do we get out of bed when we feel like we don’t have what it takes?      Our guest today is Dr. Alan Noble, an associate professor at Oklahoma Baptist University, and co-founder and editor-in-chief at Christ and Pop Culture. He has written for the Atlantic, Vox, The Gospel Coalition, Christianity Today, and First Things. He is the author of multiple books including the one we’re discussing today—” On Getting Out of Bed: The Burden and Gift of Living.” For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org/show-notes-blog —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing, or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info, and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID Every girl deserves a faith-filled adventure click here for the NIV Kingdom Girls Bible

One of the most heart-wrenching parts of parenting is seeing our kids struggle. When our child is dealing with physical pain, we rush to their aid and see what we can do to help. Even if they insist they’re fine, you know a broken bone when you see it. But, mental health is altogether different. While mental illness can and does present itself physically, so much anxiety and depression happens inside the mind. Mental health is a serious topic, that thankfully has become more widely talked about and acknowledged in recent years. We often feel helpless or unsure of what to do when our child is mentally struggling—especially as solo parents. How do we effectively help our kids deal with anxiety or depression in a healthy way? How can we tell if our kids are okay?  Our guest today is Kyle Cruze. Kyle is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the state of Tennessee. His passion and expertise are with adolescent/teenage boys and their families who are struggling to navigate through the difficult and confusing aspects of this culture and life. Additionally, Kyle works closely with those recovering from alcohol/drug addiction. Kyle practices out of The Counseling Center at Christ Community Church in Franklin, TN.  For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org/show-notes-blog —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing, or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info, and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

Falling in love after loss or a failed relationship is not for the faint of heart. Any solo parent knows life is already overwhelming—and to add a romantic element into the mix can feel risky. Love the first time around is often when you’re young, inexperienced with the world, and marked with abandon, and recklessness. Does love feel the same the second time around? Today, we cover three main points:  1. The experience: How love feels and is experienced post-loss or post-growth.  2. The person: You’re in a relationship with a completely different person, and you’ve also changed as a person.  3. Your former spouse: The coexistence of your love for your former spouse and your love for the next person.   For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org/show-notes-blog —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing, or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info, and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

If we’re honest, we need to admit we often don’t know what healthy love looks like. Codependency can often feel like love. So, how can we tell the difference between love and codependency? Today, we cover three main points:  1) What is codependency? 2) What is a healthy connection?  3) How to set healthy limits  For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org/show-notes-blog —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing, or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info, and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

Loving as a single parent requires us to sacrifice in ways we didn’t expect. But sometimes, we get caught up in the pain and it becomes tit for tat—it turns into a burdensome type of love. We know we have to step outside of ourselves and elevate what is best for our kids but how do we sacrificially love in a healthy way? Today, we cover three main points:  1) The meaning of sacrificial love 2) What sacrificial love is NOT 3) When you feel like you’ve given all you have  For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org/show-notes-blog —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing, or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info, and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

Solo parents have experienced an enormous amount of hurt and loss. Some of it is extremely painful—and understandably so. But in order to love our children well, we need to love our story and all the parts of ourselves that participated in it. How can we love ourselves and embrace our inherent value after so much pain?  Today, we cover three main points:  1) Losing our value and why it’s so important to have 2) Loving your whole story and letting it all be true 3) Steps to loving yourself  For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org/show-notes-blog —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing, or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info, and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

All single parents are grieving at some level. We know we need to step into the grief and not bypass it, but we aren’t always equipped for the process, and we end up coping with grief in an unhelpful manner. How do we practice grief healthily and intentionally?  Today, we cover three main points:  1) Defining grief and our understanding of it  2) Personal stories of grief  3) Four tasks of mourning  For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org/show-notes-blog —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing, or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info, and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

We’re in a brand new year, but for single parents, it might feel like Groundhog Day, where daily life continually feels crazy and out of control. Are there daily intentions we can implement so that we—along with our kids—find a new and better daily rhythm? Today, we cover three main points:  1) When you’re a busy single parent, daily life can feel like Groundhog Day—with no end in sight. 2) A daily schedule/routine, structure, and order can provide a place for your values and intentions to be fully realized. 3) There are practical steps to bring daily intention into your life. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org/show-notes-blog —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing, or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info, and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

We get so caught up in the everyday tasks of day-to-day living that we don’t feel like we have the bandwidth to live intentionally into a future we want.  Today, we cover three main points:  1) Starting with the end in mind—what to begin, what to end 2) The importance of making mistakes in front of our children 3) Keeping our eyes on the end goal  For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org/show-notes-blog —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing, or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info, and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

Every January, we make resolutions that we’ll break. We resolve to exercise more, eat better, lose weight, and save money. However, researchers suggest that only nine percent of Americans complete their resolutions. So often, our goals or resolutions are surface-oriented and do not get at the root of the issue. We need focus and direction—we need intention. Instead of setting New Year’s resolutions, what are ways we can set intentions?  Today, we cover three main points:  1) Focus on the heart, not the behavior. 2) Change how you measure outcomes. 3) One word to focus on for the year. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org/show-notes-blog —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing, or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info, and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

To grow in life, we need to let go of toxic people, situations, patterns, and habits. But it’s challenging to let go of the old so the new can be ushered in. How can we welcome necessary endings into our lives? Today, we cover three main points:  1) Defining, naming, and normalizing necessary endings 2) Why it’s so hard to let go, why endings can feel uncomfortable  3) The upside of failing: what happens when we let go and move forward For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org/show-notes-blog —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing, or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info, and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

As we prepare to celebrate Christmas, many Christians around the world join in the celebration of Advent. Advent is the anticipation of the arrival of Christ and a time of preparation to celebrate His birth. Today, our focus will be on the joy we find in Advent and the hope we find in Jesus. A couple of years ago, just before Christmas, we had a beautiful conversation with Pastor Curtis Zackery and the origin of the classic Christmas song “O Holy Night.” You will never look at it the same way again. Today we cover why Robert chose this episode as his favorite and discuss the reasons why it was meaningful to him.  For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org/show-notes-blog —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info, and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

Most solo parents worry about how they are going to make ends meet during the challenges of living as a one-income family. Any kind of significant life transition or crisis can lead to unsettling circumstances, especially financially. Because single parents often find themselves dealing with unexpected financial changes related to budget and practical needs, we wanted to reintroduce this conversation we had with Ron Rauch on steps to financial stability. It can also provide motivation for a financial reset as we come out of the holiday spending frenzy and approach 2024.   Today we discuss why Marissa chose this episode as her favorite: 1)This episode gives some tremendous practical tips on how to even baseline a budget / “spending plan” 2)how to think in terms of now and later for finances, and  3)how to deal with debt and potentially get some of it reduced.  For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org/show-notes-blog —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing, or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info, and a free book.  Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

Trying to navigate the exhausting demands of raising our kids as solo parents can leave us at a loss of who we are, completely depleted of our identity. Maybe we don’t recognize who we were—or who we’re supposed to become. Even that concept can seem elusive and out of reach—we’re so often just struggling to get by. We wanted to reintroduce our conversation with Dr. Dan Allender on how to reclaim our identity and discover confidence in who we are and how we fit into our new reality.  Dan is the founder and lead instructor at the Allender Center. For over thirty years, Dan’s theory, The Allender Theory, has brought healing and transformation to hundreds of thousands of lives by bringing the story of the Gospel and the story of trauma and abuse that mark so many. He founded The Allender Center which is the Seattle School of Theology and Psychology, and is the best-selling author of nine books.  Today we discuss why Elizabeth chose this episode as her favorite. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org/show-notes-blog —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing, or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info, and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

Welcome to the Solo Parent podcast, My name is Robert Beeson - and I'm here with Elizabeth and Amber (HELLO) we are so glad you have joined us. All this month we are doing something a little different. We’re playing clips from some of our (and your) favorite episodes over the last several years. Each week, a different member of our podcast team has chosen an episode to look back on and talk about why it was their favorite.  Today we discuss why Amber chose this episode as her favorite.  For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org/show-notes-blog —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing, or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info, and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

Tis the season to feel a lot of pressure. The list of supposed to’s is never-ending. There are expectations from family, work, our kids, our friends, and even ourselves. It’s not just a to-do list, but how we’re supposed to be, what everything is supposed to look like and be what it’s supposed to be like. All of this is so overwhelming and if you let it, it will pull you down. How do we survive this and can we actually enjoy the season?  Today we’re going to cover three main points:  1) naming the supposed to’s 2) why do we feel the pressure of the supposed to’s  3) how we can free ourselves from the suppose to’s  For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org/show-notes-blog —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing, or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info, and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

As single parents the daily grind gives us tunnel vision that keeps us in survival mode. In turn, survival mode squelches out opportunities for adventure, creativity, and wonder. With so much on our plates and so many problems to solve, we think things like adventure, creativity, awe, and wonder are luxuries, and that it’s wise to give up on them. Is this true? Should we reconsider this idea? Today we’re joined by our resident counselor and friend, Dr. Chip Dodd. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org/show-notes-blog —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing, or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info, and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

As single parents, we can sense when something isn't right, but we may not recognize what is going on underneath some of our behaviors. You have so much on you. Are there indicators in our lives that are trying to tell us something? Today, we cover three main points: 1) the signs you’re not ok 2) what to do when you recognize a sign  3) three essential questions to ask yourself For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org/show-notes-blog —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything...it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing, or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info, and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID The Christmas Devotional: Hope & Humor for the Holidays is available online HERE.

For so many of us, we feel like we’re sludging through Solo Parent life and all that comes with it. We’re bogged down with all that we have to deal with and heal from. Some days we can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel and we feel hopeless. What do we do when we feel this way? Is it possible to feel happiness, even in the midst of feeling hopeless? Today, we cover three main points: 1) the myths that might be holding you back  2) finding contentment while trudging 3) steps you can take to find happiness For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org/show-notes-blog —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything...it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing, or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info, and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID The Christmas Devotional: Hope & Humor for the Holidays is available online HERE.

The holiday season is so hard on single parents. It can be super stressful and emotionally daunting. So we wanted to get a head start. If we don’t plan ahead we run the risk of numbing out, stressing out or just getting swept up in the crazy busyness of the season and miss the whole thing. How can we avoid going on auto-pilot and be more deliberate so that we can experience the joy of this season? Today, we cover three main points:  1) being intentional about time & traditions 2) setting ourselves up financially 3) preparing for emotions that come with the season  For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org/show-notes-blog —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing, or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info, and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID The Christmas Devotional: Hope & Humor for the Holidays is available online HERE.

Single parents carry around regrets—whether we made the mistakes yesterday or years ago. We have a long list of regrets, like contributing to the breakdown of relationships, our bad habits, or maybe it’s feeling we can’t be the parents we could have been if we were in an intact family. How do we stop carrying around all of these regrets that make us feel terrible? Today we’re going to cover three main points:  1) why we have so many regrets 2) releasing the guilt 3) the upside of mistakes  For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org/show-notes-blog —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing, or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info, and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

As single parents, self-care is hard because we rarely have margin. We don’t have room for flexibility. It’d be great if we could share a one-size-fits-all self-care routine but that’s not reality. Self-care is nuanced. It depends on so many factors including how much time we have with our kids—whether we have them all the time or some of the time. How do we actually take care of ourselves and our kids, no matter our parenting situation?  Today we’re going to cover three main points:  1) what negative self-talk is 2) what’s behind your negative self-talk 3) how to stop your negative self-talk  For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org/show-notes-blog —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing, or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info, and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

So many of us cannot escape toxic relationships. Whether it’s someone we work with, a parent, or an ex, we must be around this person. How do we care for ourselves and our kids when we feel unsafe?  Our guest is Katie Anthony, a collaborative and trauma-informed therapist. She is EMDR trained and is completing her Traumatic Stress Studies Certificate. She is also a solo parent to four children ages 10, 12, 14 and 16. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org/show-notes-blog For more on Katie - KatieAnthonyTherapy.com Or on Instagram @KatieAnthonyTherapy —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

If we’re really honest, most of the time, we’re dishonest with ourselves. We don’t like to admit it, but sometimes the conversations we have with ourselves are really unhealthy and even the root of many of our problems. We can be negative or catastrophize everything, or we go from one extreme to the other, either in total denial of our feelings or beating ourselves up for everything. How do we have a more honest conversation with ourselves? Today, we’re going to cover three main points:  1) What is keeping you from being brutally honest with yourself?  (spoiler alert - it’s negative self-talk) 2) What’s behind your negative self-talk? 3) How to be brutally honest with yourself. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org/show-notes-blog —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

We thought we had forgiven the person who hurt us, but our feelings don’t reflect it. We were expecting to stop feeling angry and hurt after we forgave. We’re expecting peace and relief. But the pain remains. Does this mean we didn’t truly forgive them? How do we know if we’ve really forgiven? Today, we cover three main points:  1) The biggest reason you don’t feel like you’ve truly forgiven 2) Dealing with your feelings on forgiveness 3) How to move toward feeling like you’ve forgiven For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org/show-notes-blog —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

Many of us experienced neglect and abuse from our family of origin–the people, whether parents, grandparents, or other caregivers, that raised us. Some of us might suspect that things happened to us but aren’t really sure, and some are very aware of the abuse and neglect brought on by our parents or even that we were over-parented or too sheltered. How do we move toward forgiveness when it comes to the pain that was brought on by the people who are supposed to love and protect us the most? Our guest, Adam Young, a licensed trauma therapist and host of the podcast The Place We Find Ourselves, joins us to discuss this critical topic. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org/show-notes-blog —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

Toxic shame tells us we’re not good enough. When we listen to our toxic shame, we get stuck in the blame game, and we don’t grow. Blaming others feels powerful. But blaming doesn’t get us where we want to be. How do we move from blaming to forgiving? Our guest is Dr. Chip Dodd an author, speaker, and counselor. He holds a Ph.D. in Counseling. Along with The Voice of the Heart, Dr. Dodd is the author of numerous books. Currently, he works as a counselor, consultant and speaker.  For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org/show-notes-blog —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

Forgiveness sounds good on paper, and it is a command in the Bible, but in reality, it is so hard. Why is that? Sometimes, our perspective is that it isn’t fair, and we feel like we’re letting the person off the hook when we forgive. How can we change our perspective on forgiveness to be more willing to embrace it?  Today, we cover three main points:  1) What forgiveness costs us 2) How to change your perspective on forgiveness 3) What the Biblical perspective on forgiveness is really about  For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org/show-notes-blog —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing, or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info, and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

In this episode, we delve into the topic of having the courage to embrace change, particularly in the face of traumatic experiences such as the loss of a spouse through death or divorce. We explore the tendency to resist change and the importance of adapting and flowing with life's transitions. Our guest today is Brandi Wilson, an author, coach, and speaker who shares her personal journey as a single parent after her 20-year marriage ended in a very public way. Join us as we discuss the pain of change, effective coping strategies, and empowering ways to move forward. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org/show-notes-blog More on Brandi- lovebrandiwilson.com —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info, and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

Our children face daily challenges, from friendships to interactions with teachers, coaches and potentially strained family relations. They need us to help them understand, experience, and model courage. However, showing courage can be scary. We often admire courage in others but struggle to find it within ourselves. How can we guide our kids in learning courage when we sometimes feel we lack it? In this episode, we discuss three key areas: The first step is to model courage for our kids. Understanding why showing courage can be intimidating. Practical ways to demonstrate courage for your children's benefit. Join us as we navigate these questions, aiming to help our children - and ourselves - grow in courage and resilience. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org/show-notes-blog —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing, or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info, and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

Being a single parent means juggling many responsibilities, often leading us to overlook our own courage. Too often, we focus on the negatives and fail to see our own bravery. How can we reduce our fear and feel more connected to our inner courage? In this episode, we'll dive into: 1) Identifying the biggest fear that stops us from seeing our courage. 2) Redefining what courage really means for us as single parents. 3) Sharing practical examples to help you recognize and feel your inherent courage. Join us as we explore these points, aiming to help you appreciate your strength and resilience as a single parent. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org/show-notes-blog —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

We often assume courage comes from within us, trying to show strength and keep everything together. But that's not always effective. We believe true courage comes from God, but how do we actually make that shift from self-reliance to relying on God? In this episode, we'll discuss: Why we tend to think courage comes from ourselves. Steps to start relying on God for courage. What changes when we rely on God for courage. Join us as we explore these ideas, helping us all find strength and courage in our faith. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links click - soloparent.org —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

This month, we're diving deep into the realm of relationships from multiple angles. Today, in part 2 of our series on ‘Relationship Killers’, we’re focusing on an often-overlooked aspect that can harm our relationships with others: our relationship with media. We're delighted to welcome Jenny Black to our discussion. Jenny, a licensed marriage and family therapist, is not only an author but also the founder of Media Trauma Care. With her co-authored book "Our Digital Soul: Collective Anxiety, Media Trauma, and a Path Toward Recovery," Jenny provides critical insights into how the digital landscape affects our collective psyche. In our modern world, we have unprecedented access to a plethora of media forms, including smartphones and social media. While these technological advances offer many benefits, they can also be detrimental. In this episode, we'll delve into how our relationship with media can potentially sabotage our interpersonal relationships. The crux of our conversation will be exploring strategies to foster healthier media habits. By doing so, we aim to improve our relationships with the people who matter most in our lives. Tune in for an enlightening discussion that bridges the gap between our digital and personal worlds. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org/show-notes-blog More on Jenny at jennywiseblack.com —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing, or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info, and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

Welcome to the first part of our series, "Relationship Killers," with today's focus being "hurry." We often overlook the frenzied pace at which we lead our lives. Living in constant haste negatively impacts not only our minds and bodies but, most notably, our relationships. One question we need to ask ourselves is: How can we establish a healthier relationship with time, the one resource we can't increase? We're privileged to have Jen Pollock Michel with us today to explore this topic further. Jen is a renowned speaker, coach, podcast host, and award-winning author of five books. Her latest work, "In Good Time: 8 Habits for Reimagining Productivity, Resisting Hurry, and Practicing Peace," is particularly relevant to our discussion. Together, we'll delve into strategies for reimagining productivity, resisting the urge to rush, and instilling peace in our daily lives. Tune in as we unpack how to foster a healthier relationship with time, to enhance not just our personal well-being but also our interpersonal relationships. This is a conversation you won't want to miss. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org/show-notes-blog More on Jen - jenpollockmichel.com —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing, or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info, and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

We’ve talked a lot about adult relationships this month, so we wanted to spend some time today discussing how to help our kids in their relationships. Our kids have many relationships to navigate, too–friendships, teachers, coaches, and of course, their other parents. How can we help them navigate without interfering? Today we’re going to cover three main points:  The best place to start, no matter how old your kids are.  Helping them navigate the drama. The most powerful thing you can do to help your kids with difficult relationships. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org/show-notes-blog —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing, or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info, and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

One of the questions we get most often is, how will I know when I’m ready to date again? We’ve heard advice on both ends of the spectrum–on one end, friends tell us just to get out there, and on the other end, we need to follow the formula of waiting one year for every year we were married before dating again. Added to how we feel about dating is how our kids feel about us dating, which complicates everything even more. So what do we do—when are we ready?  Today we’re going to cover three main points:  The best question to ask yourself before you start dating again  What relationships can and cannot do Talking to our kids about when we’re ready to date again. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org/show-notes-blog —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing, or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info, and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

After a divorce or the death of a spouse, our worlds are turned upside, and our friend circles change. We may have lost a lot of friends. As single parents, we may feel too needy and fear that new friends won’t accept us because they don’t want to deal with our baggage. Or we feel it’s too much work to find and keep friends with all we have going on. But having healthy adult friendships is really important. What can we do?  Today we will cover three main points:  1. Overcoming your friendship fears.  2. The type of healthy friendships to cultivate in your solo season.  3. Some practical relationship skills you can develop to be a good friend. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org/show-notes-blog —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing, or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info, and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

In this episode, we're delving deep into the journey of reconciling with our Inner Child. Our past experiences, especially the painful ones, don't just fade away. Instead, they can continue to affect us, seeping into our present lives, if we don't seek healing. No one desires to persist in a cycle of toxic and hurtful patterns. So, how can making peace with our Inner Child lead us toward a healthier and more fulfilling present? In our discussion today, we'll unpack three essential aspects: Understanding the concept of the Inner Child, Examining how our Inner Child impacts our present lives and behavior, Discussing effective strategies for reconciling with and healing our Inner Child. By delving into these aspects, we hope to equip you with valuable insights that can help transform your relationship with your past, and, consequently, enrich your present life. For a free ’10 Steps for Inner Child Work’ PDF click here - https://bit.ly/3PltqJo For all the detailed show notes, tips, and links visit soloparent.org/show-notes-blog —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing, or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info, and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

In a previous episode, we discussed how peace is not simply the absence of difficulties. Yet, when our lives seem to be in complete disarray, with every day feeling like a battle to survive, the concept of peace can seem utterly elusive. So, the pressing question is: How do we discover peace amid the trials of today's world? Join us as we delve into this complex issue, seeking strategies for finding serenity and balance in the midst of life's storms. We'll explore tools for resilience, examine ways to remain grounded, and ultimately learn how to uncover a sense of inner peace, regardless of external circumstances. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org/show-notes-blog —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything… it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing, or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info, and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

Daily, we grapple with many external influences impacting our homes and daily lives. Let's face it, life often feels chaotic, and naturally, our homes can reflect this craziness. Yet, we all yearn for our homes to be sanctuaries of peace, especially for our children. But how can we achieve this amidst the instability that our children and we face? Join us as we delve into this dilemma, seeking strategies to cultivate a peaceful home environment despite the turmoil outside its walls. We'll explore 11 ways to foster resilience in our children and ourselves, how to manage chaos effectively, and most importantly, how to transform our homes into a refuge of tranquility and safety. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything… it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing, or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

The world is a divisive and polarized society. We’re all guilty of sharing our opinion and trying to convince someone else we’re right – even our kids do it. No one has any peace. So what do we do? Are we supposed to keep the peace or are we supposed to create peace? What is the difference and what is our responsibility? For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything… it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing, or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info, and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

In today's episode, we discuss the importance of tending to our bodies in a way that goes beyond the traditional focus on exercise. As physical beings, our minds, bodies, and spirits are deeply interconnected, yet we often neglect to consider the impact of daily life on our physical selves. Join us as we explore how to cultivate greater awareness and understanding of our physical nature and discuss practical strategies for nurturing our bodies in a holistic and balanced manner. Gain insights on how to care for your body, not just through exercise, but by embracing a comprehensive approach that supports your overall well-being and personal growth. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing, or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info, and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

In this episode, we delve into the complex topic of renewing our minds and the role that false beliefs play in shaping our thoughts and actions. Often, we may not even be aware of these beliefs, as they are influenced by our experiences, circumstances, personalities, and various other factors. Despite not being fully in control of what we think and believe, the process of renewing our minds can lead to profound personal transformation. Drawing from psychological insights and biblical teachings, we explore practical strategies for identifying and confronting false beliefs, ultimately paving the way for mental and spiritual renewal. Gain a deeper understanding of the power of your thoughts and beliefs, and learn how to embark on a journey of self-discovery and growth by renewing your mind. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

In this episode, we address the unique challenges single parents face as they watch their children navigate difficult experiences, such as divorce, the loss of a parent, bullying, or complex school dynamics. The instinct to jump in and solve their problems can be strong, but how can we instead help our children grow through these challenges, turning adversity into an opportunity for growth? Our special guest is John Boye, a counselor specializing in child counseling, who joins us to share his expertise in areas such as relational struggles, parenting, depression, ADHD, and trauma. We discuss practical strategies for empowering our children to face life's obstacles head-on, fostering resilience and personal growth, while providing the support they need as a single parent. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org More on John Boye - www.arcadiantherapy.com —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing, or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

In today's episode, we explore the concept of spiritual growth – what it truly means and how we can nurture it in our lives. While many of us are familiar with the term, understanding its essence, and incorporating it into our daily lives can be challenging. Spiritual growth is often mistaken for simply modifying our behavior, but it goes much deeper than that. Join us as we discuss the struggles we face in making time for spiritual growth and how conventional methods of measuring it can sometimes leave us feeling unfulfilled. Our special guest Brian Hardin, an accomplished recording producer with over 100 albums to his credit, shares his journey from experiencing a mediocre Christian faith to committing to daily Bible reading. This dedication led to the creation of the Daily Audio Bible, which has garnered over 80 million downloads and impacts hundreds of thousands of listeners daily. Brian is also a bestselling author of four books, an ordained minister, a musician, and a graphic designer. Today we gain valuable insights into spiritual growth and practical ways to incorporate it into our lives for a more enriched and fulfilling spiritual journey. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing, or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

In today's episode, we dive deep into the importance of rest as a foundation for personal growth. Single parents carry immense mental, emotional, and physical burdens. Although it may seem like a luxury, personal growth is essential for healing and thriving. Join us as we discuss the concept of rest beyond merely getting 6-8 hours of sleep each night. We challenge the belief that "I'll rest when I die" and explore how true rest can act as the bedrock for growth and well-being. Our guest Curtis (CZ) Zachary, author and pastor, shares his insights on rest and its role in fostering personal growth for single parents. We learn practical strategies for incorporating rest into our daily life and unlocking our potential for growth, healing, and resilience. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID 

In today's episode, we tackle the topic of confidence when facing rejection. Rejection is an all-too-familiar feeling for many of us, and it can cause significant emotional pain. Divorce, in particular, represents an acute form of rejection, which can lead to deep wounds and even social isolation. The pain may intensify when an ex-partner finds someone new or remarries. We explore the impact of rejection on our self-esteem and discuss strategies for overcoming the negative effects of feeling unchosen. By examining our thought processes and understanding why rejection hurts so much, we can begin to move forward and rebuild our confidence. For all the detailed show notes, tips, and links visit soloparent.org —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything… it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info, and a free book Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

In today's episode, we explore the impact of life's traumas on our confidence and self-assurance. Experiences such as divorce, the loss of a spouse, or the difficulties of being an unwed mother can leave us feeling vulnerable, broken, or weak. The voices around us and within us often compound these feelings by reminding us of our perceived inadequacies. We delve into the factors that erode our sense of confidence and discuss strategies for overcoming them. Recognizing the external and internal pressures we face is crucial to regaining our footing and rebuilding our self-esteem. We address the unrealistic expectations we place on ourselves and the tendency to feel like we're falling short in various aspects of our lives. Join us as we uncover the root causes of diminished confidence and explore practical steps to reclaim our sense of self-assurance. This episode will provide guidance and support to those seeking to regain confidence in the face of vulnerability and adversity, empowering listeners to navigate life's challenges with resilience and strength. For all the detailed show notes, tips, and links visit soloparent.org —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything… it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info, and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

In today's episode, we're thrilled to welcome back one of our favorite recurring guests and influential contributors to Solo Parent, Dr. Chip Dodd. As a best-selling author, his book "Voice of the Heart" serves as a foundational tool for many of the topics we explore on our show. With over 30 years of experience, Chip has dedicated his life to helping others through his roles as a counselor, mentor, speaker, and author. In our discussion, we delve into what confidence in God looks like, particularly for solo parents. We acknowledge that it's not uncommon for individuals to experience moments of doubt in God's character, especially during trying times. As humans with limited understanding, we may struggle to maintain our faith in God's goodness when faced with adversity or unexpected challenges. This episode aims to provide insight and support to those navigating their spiritual journey, offering guidance on how to maintain confidence in God's love and care, even in difficult circumstances. Dr. Chip Dodd discusses how to cultivate and sustain our confidence in God regardless of the obstacles we face. For all the detailed show notes, tips, and links visit soloparent.org —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything… it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info, and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

In this episode, we explore the journey towards embracing confidence in our competence as solo parents.  We discuss: The transition from dual-parent households to solo parenting due to divorce or the death of a spouse Adapting to new responsibilities and becoming a multifaceted parent Challenging traditional masculine/feminine roles in parenting Addressing children's comments on differing parenting styles Overcoming feelings of shame and comparison to the other parent Navigating both big and small challenges in solo parenting with confidence For all the detailed show notes, tips, and links visit soloparent.org —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything… it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing, or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info, and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID "When I Talk to God, I Talk About You" is available now at PenguinRandomHouse.com

In this episode, we will gain valuable insights into the complexities of parenting alone when our children make bad choices. The stakes are high, and it can be challenging to strike a balance between being a supportive and nurturing parent while enforcing rules and boundaries. The lack of a sounding board or partner in the house makes this even more difficult. To provide expert guidance on this topic, we welcome back special guest Dr. Meg Meeker. Dr. Meeker is a pediatrician, mother/grandmother, best-selling author, and the country’s leading authority on parenting and children and teens’ health. We deep-dive into parenting alone and how to maintain a healthy relationship with our children while enforcing rules and boundaries. Dr. Meeker shares her wealth of knowledge and experience, providing practical tips and strategies for communicating effectively with our children, establishing clear boundaries, and holding our kids accountable for their actions without being overly strict or authoritarian. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID "When I Talk to God, I Talk About You" is available now at PenguinRandomHouse.com

As we celebrate national single parent day this week, like we do almost every year, we want to celebrate the inspiring stories of Solo parents just like you.  It's very easy to become discouraged as a single parent and have a sense of feeling overwhelmed. But, here’s the truth: the mere fact that you are listening to this podcast indicates that you are investing in becoming the best single parent you can possibly be. Statistically, your awareness and focused, deliberate actions, like listening to this podcast, significantly increase the chances of your children ending up healthy!  We are here to tell you that millions of single parents have carried the same or similar weight as you do; they have inspiring stories of success even out of great struggle. So today we're going to hear some of those. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID "When I Talk to God, I Talk About You" is available now at PenguinRandomHouse.com

In this episode, we will discover practical strategies for making healthy eating a sustainable habit for the whole family. The topic of childhood (and family) nutrition is tackled by our special guest Jill Castle, a renowned pediatric dietitian, author, and speaker with years of experience educating parents on this subject. Many Solos face the dilemma of getting their kids to eat healthily, but with limited time and resources, consistently providing the necessary nutrition can be a challenge. We will address this issue and offer practical tips on making healthy eating a sustainable habit for the entire family. We will also learn how to avoid the guilt and shame that often comes with resorting to fast food when life gets busy. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org For more info and resources on our guest visit jillcastle.com —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID "When I Talk to God, I Talk About You" is available now at PenguinRandomHouse.com

In this episode, we will gain valuable insights into how to avoid parental alienation. We go beyond the conventional textbook definition of Parental Alienation often thrown around in legal proceedings. Instead, we explore practical solutions to prevent alienation that can even inadvertently occur. We will discover how to navigate the natural tendency to allow anger towards an ex-partner to seep over and impact our children. Parents need to take ownership of their feelings and actions to prevent alienating their kids from the other parent. Research shows that the success rate of kids significantly increases when both parents are involved. Of course, there are exceptions to this in cases of abuse or addiction. In addition to discussing how to avoid parental alienation in the context of separated parents, we also explore the challenges faced by widows/widowers, such as managing memories, in-law family relationships, and situations where children may exhibit character traits like our ex-partner. We will explore practical tips on how to maintain a sense of unity in an ‘un-unified’ reality. We also address the issue of parenting at a distance for those who don't have primary custody and how to parent effectively in such situations. The goal is to create a sense of "us" even when the "we" no longer exists. Overall, we will gain valuable insights into avoiding parental alienation and creating a sense of unity in our fractured family. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID "When I Talk to God, I Talk About You" is available now at PenguinRandomHouse.com

Have you heard of attachment theory? It's been a hot topic lately, but surprisingly, not everyone knows all the details. That's why we've invited licensed counselor James Horne to join us, to dive into what attachment theory is all about and how it affects the way we give and receive love. We'll explore different attachment styles and how they show up in our relationships with others, including our kids. And of course, we won't leave out the topic of healing. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID "When I Talk to God, I Talk About You" is available now at PenguinRandomHouse.com

You may be familiar with the book "The Five Love Languages," which states that each person has a primary love language. This means the way they receive love is unique, including our kids. As single parents, it's easy to miss our kids' love language while trying to keep everything together. To effectively show our love, it's important to tune into their love language and understand the best way to communicate it to them. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID "When I Talk to God, I Talk About You" is available now at PenguinRandomHouse.com

For single parents, the word love or the concept of love can bring conflicting beliefs. We have all felt love…a kind of love that we were so sure of that we committed our lives to another person we loved completely. When those hopes get dashed, it can leave us with a misinformed sense or even a fear of love. As we look back on our lives, we have seen our share of poor examples of what love is. Love within normal human limits can look more like codependency, people-pleasing, self-serving, and sometimes even untrue. God puts a serious premium on love being above all else on earth, so what does real love look like, and how can we be better at it? For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID "When I Talk to God, I Talk About You" is available now at PenguinRandomHouse.com

Dating is a sticky subject for solo parents—not only has the dating world changed since we became single parents, but we have changed. We have a lot more to consider in dating relationships. What got us here isn’t going to get us where we want to be. We are all in varying stages of solo parenting, so our approaches to dating may be different. However, there are some ways we can all be wiser when we decide to bring dating into our lives. Today, 2 single dads and 2 single moms discuss Dating Differently. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

As single parents, one thing we all have in common is that we’re juggling so many balls in the air...all of the time. Paying bills, keeping a job, cooking, cleaning, being a taxi driver, and being a good parent can keep our minds spinning, trying to forecast the next step, the next responsibility, or the next shoe to drop.  So often on this podcast, we talk about one of the greatest things we can give our kids is our presence, so as we move into this new year and look at our parenting, how can we move towards being more fully present with our kids? What are some practical things we can do, and are there simple approaches we can take to be more engaged with our kids... beyond just the tactical, keeping them healthy, fed, and clothed. This week we have a clinical professor of psychiatry at the UCLA School of Medicine and the founder of the Mindful Awareness Research Center at UCLA, Dr. Dan Siegel with us to talk about All Things New: Parenting with Presence. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org —> ASK US ANYTHING! Leave your question by either pushing the 'talk to us' button on accessmore.com or call 888-881-SOLO (7656). Or email your question to info@SoloParent.org Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our daily meditational devotional Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

One of the more challenging parts of being a single parent, is trying to figure out how to make things work financially. When we are primarily responsible for the welfare and health of our kids, the financial burden can feel overwhelming. So as we start this new year and talk about approaching a few foundational parts of our life differently. Finances must be one of the issues close to, if not the top of the list. This week we have a #1 New York Times bestselling author and financial expert, Rachel Cruze, to talk about All Things New: Finding financial peace. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org —> ASK US ANYTHING! Leave your question by either pushing the 'talk to us' button on accessmore.com or call 888-881-SOLO (7656). Or email your question to info@SoloParent.org Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our daily meditational devotional Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

Let’s face it, every one of us… And we mean every. single. one. of us struggles with overreacting. Not everybody sees it and often our kids get the short end of the stick with our overreaction. We can fly off the handle with family members, driving, work, this list is extensive. So many of us walk around with our fingers on the trigger of overreaction, and the smallest things cause us to react contrary to what we know is right… or even what we have planned. And frankly, with so much of the burden on us… raising our kids, and keeping our family safe and marginally happy, it’s no wonder that our emotions are close to the surface. The double whammy of this is it once we do overreact, we feel awful and guilty, and that turns into shame and can create its own spiral, which prompts even more overreaction from time to time.  So as we start this new year and we look for things that we can do differently. How do we address our overreactions and move into a more balanced and stable response to the things happening around us? For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org —> ASK US ANYTHING! Leave your question by either pushing the 'talk to us' button on accessmore.com or call 888-881-SOLO (7656). Or email your question to info@SoloParent.org Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our daily meditational devotional Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

It’s so true that after becoming a Solo Parent, the dynamics of our friendships and relationships, as well as any romantic connection, can seem to evaporate. In this new year, as we take inventory of the things in our past and we look toward the future, we know how important relationships are, especially in a season that can be so lonely. But where do we meet people? Where do we start? For some of us, we have felt relational rejection, and our trust has been betrayed or, at the very least, damaged. Relationships can feel so awkward, and frankly, it’s hard to think of having the energy or the courage to put ourselves out there again. Yet, we all know that we need relationships more than ever, so as we look at this new year and the idea of all things new, how do we sort through relationships both old and new… both friendships and maybe even romantic… realizing we are in a different place than we use to be.  For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org —> ASK US ANYTHING! Leave your question by either pushing the 'talk to us' button on accessmore.com or call 888-881-SOLO (7656). Or email your question to info@SoloParent.org Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our daily meditational devotional Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

As single parents, we can feel stuck in the past hurt we have encountered. Many of us feel stuck replaying the mistakes we’ve made, and some don’t like thinking about our past because it can be too painful or shame us. We know that to move forward we need to deal with some of the things that have happened to us... or maybe even the challenges created by us, in our past... but how exactly do we do that? Are there practical steps we can take to avoid repeating some of the same patterns?  This week we have a special guest with us today, Emotional and Spiritual wellness coach Jeromy Deibler to talk about All Things New: The Way Forward. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org To be notified when our ‘The way forward’ course is being offered with Jeromy Deibler, email info@SoloParent.org and give us your name and put ‘INTERESTED IN THE WAY FORWARD COURSE’ in the subject line. To get more information on Jeromy and his work visit www.returnandrest.org ASK US ANYTHING! Leave your question by either pushing the 'talk to us' button on accessmore.com or call 888-881-SOLO (7656). Or email your question to info@SoloParent.org Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our daily meditational devotional Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

The magic of Christmas is gone. The decorations have to be pulled down and we’ve got bills to pay to cover another Christmas season. We are on the brink of a brand new year, which can feel daunting for some of us. For many of us, our situation hasn’t changed, and although New Year’s day symbolizes a new beginning, a new year… So many things feel the same. The reality of our situation can make looking at a new year almost an exhausting and depressing event. But, like we say every week on this podcast, we always want to end in a place of hope. So for those of us not walking into a new year naturally feeling a sense of hope, what can we do to ground ourselves with a foundation of hope walking into the new year?  For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org Get your FREE - ZAKAR jar label Ask us any question and hear yourself on a future podcast. Leave your question by either pushing the 'talk to us' button on accessmore.com or call 888-881-SOLO (7656). Or email your question to info@SoloParent.org Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our daily meditational devotional Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

As we’ve been talking about this month, the holiday season can heighten all single parents' lonely and painful feelings. The magic that we used to experience, especially when our kids were young and we had an intact family, is now a thing of the past… and because of some of the pain, we can become cynical and feel like we’re stuck in the pain. Some of us can even slip into a sense of bitterness, comparing our lives to others and even the way we used to be. We do our best to try to put on a happy face going into the holidays for the sake of our kids, which often is in stark contrast to what we are feeling inside. So how do we regain a sense of magic and wonder when so much of what we identify about the holidays, reminds us of the pain and dashed hopes we have experienced? For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org Ask us any question and hear yourself on a future podcast. Leave your question by either pushing the 'talk to us' button on accessmore.com or call 888-881-SOLO (7656). Or email your question to info@SoloParent.org Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our daily meditational devotional Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

The holidays can be one of solo parents' loneliest times of the year. Some of us miss being with our kids because they’re with the other parent for part of the holidays. Deciding what to get the kids, planning, and shopping on our own can cause a heightened sense of loneliness. Sometimes it feels like the whole world is going on in this magical place and we’re left on the sidelines just looking in at what we used to have. Home alone is a very accurate description of what many of us feel, alone in an empty house that used to be filled with Christmas magic. Today we have some key points that can really help. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org Ask us any question and hear yourself on a future podcast. Leave your question by either pushing the 'talk to us' button on accessmore.com or call 888-881-SOLO (7656). Or email your question to info@SoloParent.org Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our daily meditational devotional Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

Is Christmas the most wonderful time of the year? Really? For many of us solos, it is often one of the most challenging times of the year, if we’re honest. When we first got married, we imagined a beautiful life, an ideal marriage, and perfect holidays. Especially after our kids were born, Christmas took on a new magical meaning. But now all of that is behind us, and our life looks very different. When we get into the holidays, we can be consumed with questions of what if… What if I could’ve kept the marriage together? What if I had a partner now? Sometimes we can even romanticize the memories of what we used to have. The Christmas season brings the hopes and dreams we used to have, back to the surface. When we see all the Christmas ads, and hear the Christmas music, undoubtedly, from time to time, some of those memories pop up, bringing with it a certain ache inside. We do our best to create the magic of Christmas for our kids but for many of us, if we are honest, we are faking it. So it begs the question, what is so wonderful about life? In this episode, we explore this. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org Ask us any question and hear yourself on a future podcast. Leave your question by either pushing the 'talk to us' button on accessmore.com or call 888-881-SOLO (7656). Or email your question to info@SoloParent.org Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our daily meditational devotional  Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

When the foundation we built for our home and family gets destroyed, whether through a divorce, the death of a spouse, or even the unexpected, life-altering news that you are going to parent alone, it can lead to a real sense of despair. Feelings of failure and unworthiness can permeate our minds. For many of us, it’s a natural stretch to have a sense of worth in brokenness when it feels like all we have are the scraps or pieces of what ‘used to be’… and the exhaustion of trying to keep those pieces together. As we talk about often, it is in these moments that we are closer - or maybe it is better said - God is closer to our brokenheartedness. But how do we actualize a sense of empowerment when we are struggling to just get by? Our guest today is Toni Collier the founder of an international women’s ministry called Broken Crayons Still Color, which helps women process through brokenness and get to hope. She is a Speaker, Host, and Author of Brave Enough to be Broken. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org Ask us any question and hear yourself on a future podcast. Leave your question by either pushing the 'talk to us' button on accessmore.com or call 888-881-SOLO (7656). Or email your question to info@SoloParent.org Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our daily meditational devotional Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

Holidays bring out unique and challenging situations for Solo parents. Having to interact with old relationships from our past, whether interacting with your ex, ex-in-laws, or stepping into our own family, can sometimes heighten our sense of failure and inadequacy. Or maybe it’s being around healthy relationships that remind us, in this vulnerable season, of what we don’t have. Being home for the holidays can impact our self-worth. So as we go into the holiday season, we might ask if it is even worth spending time with family when it just heightens my anxiety and negative feelings. So how do we cope with those family dynamics, or those dynamics with people from our past, and try to maintain a positive outlook not only for our kids, but also for our well-being? Today we will discuss this and identify five tips to approach this holiday season with strength. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org Ask us any question and hear yourself on a future podcast. Leave your question by either pushing the 'talk to us' button on accessmore.com or call 888-881-SOLO (7656). Or email your question to info@SoloParent.org Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our daily meditational devotional Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

Mental health has become so much a part of our culture’s narrative these days. As single parents, we certainly are acquainted with feeling traumatized, scattered, and overwhelmed. When we think about our mental health, we are often in a hurry to try to fix a condition, but the core issue is often deeper. We have spent most of our lives abandoning ourselves to keep connected. We were meeting others' expectations and not speaking up for our own wants and needs. If we’re honest with ourselves as we look back, we notice that we have spent most of our lives performing and playing roles and have become out of touch with our own true selves. When we don’t have a good relationship with ourselves and our worth, it can lead to depression, co-dependency, and anxiety because we have lost the true understanding of who we are. So today, we are going to explore what it would look like not to run to change or fix mental health symptoms but instead get to one of the core issues of mental health, and that is our sense of worth, and we have three helpful key points. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org Ask us any question and hear yourself on a future podcast. Leave your question by either pushing the 'talk to us' button on accesmore.com or call 888-881-SOLO (7656). Or email your question to info@SoloParent.org Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our daily meditational devotional Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID Solo Parent Society is brought to you in part by Talk About. Use Promo Code SOLOPARENT to get 1 month free at TalkAboutDiscipleship.com.

As we say goodbye to our co-host Kimberley Mitchell, worth is a very appropriate topic. Where we find our worth is a search we’ve been on since we were little children. The older we get, the more layers we seem to pile on the core of who we are. Those layers might look like achievements, or they might look like failures, a job that we’re doing, what we’re known for… All of those things contribute to who we are, but it’s easy to allow those things to create our sense of worth and identity. For those of us who have been around the church for so long, much of what we have learned is about performing. When part of who you are is being known for being a co-host on a podcast, stepping away can affect a sense of worth. So today, Kim speaks candidly about how stepping away from a sense of contributing or playing a public role can play into our sense of worth. And she reflects on the early days of being a solo mom, and we explore the quest we have been on since childhood, where we find our worth. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org Ask us any question and hear yourself on a future podcast. Leave your question by either pushing the 'talk to us' button on accessmore.com or call 888-881-SOLO (7656). Or email your question to info@SoloParent.org Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our daily meditational devotional Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID Solo Parent Society is brought to you in part by Talk About. Use Promo Code SOLOPARENT to get 1 month free at TalkAboutDiscipleship.com.

The heart-wrenching whirlwind of divorce or the trauma of losing a spouse to death can leave us completely depleted of our identity. Trying to navigate the chaotic and exhausting world of juggling all the demands of raising our kids on our own can leave us at a loss of who we are. Not recognizing who we were, who we are now, and who we are supposed to become can seem elusive while we’re just struggling to get by. So as a part of self-care, how can we begin to reclaim our identity, to discover confidence in who we are and how we fit in this new reality? In this episode, we are going to explore this. ? Our guest this week is Dr. Dan Allender. For over 30 years, the Allender Theory has brought healing and transformation to hundreds of thousands of lives by bridging the story of the gospel and the stories of trauma and abuse that mark so many. He founded The Seattle School of Theology & Psychology, and The Allender Center and is a best selling author of 9 books. He has counseled and led millions of people towards caring for themselves. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our daily meditational devotional Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID Solo Parent Society is brought to you in part by Talk About. Use Promo Code SOLOPARENT to get 1 month free at TalkAboutDiscipleship.com.

Raising our kids on our own is so difficult. With limited resources and time, we can go crazy trying to meet all their needs and keep our kids happy and healthy. So often, we can fall into the trap of overcompensating; because our kids have been through difficult things, we try to make their happiness our top priority. Unfortunately, doing this creates a bottomless well that we can never fill up, leaving us depleted… and not healthy for our kids. So how do we draw appropriate boundaries with our kids that are not only a form of caring for ourselves but also serve their development? Our guest today is an Instagram sensation with over 780,000 followers, Dr. Siggie. She is a counselor who has been working with families for 30 years. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our daily meditational devotional Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID Solo Parent Society is brought to you in part by Talk About. Use Promo Code SOLOPARENT to get 1 month free at TalkAboutDiscipleship.com.

Many of us can feel guilty because we're not sticking to a Bible reading or prayer time in the morning like we used to. When we think about spiritual discipline in our lives, we often go to shame, like we are not a good Christian because we had difficulty having quiet time every morning. Well, this episode isn’t about shame; in fact, today, we’re not going to talk about comparing our quiet time as a measure of what a good Christian we are or if God is happy with the time we are putting in. We are going to explore perhaps a new way of approaching spiritual discipline. What if spiritual discipline goes beyond the intellectual exercise of reading and praying, as many of us have been taught? What if our spiritual discipline wasn’t about fulfilling what God or the Church’s expectation of us are, but was actually a deep soul self-care? Our guest is Anthony Skinner, a Spiritual Director, Prayer, Meditation, Enneagram practitioner, Music and Podcast Producer, award-winning Songwriter, Recording Artist, and Worship Leader, and cohost of the popular Typology Podcast (over 20 million downloads). He is also the guy behind a devotional and meditation program called “Shamah Way”, which is so appropriate for this topic of spiritual discipline as self care.  For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org Shamah way - shamahway.com Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book  Join our daily meditational devotional Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID Solo Parent Society is brought to you in part by Talk About. Use Promo Code SOLOPARENT to get 1 month free at TalkAboutDiscipleship.com.

Like we said last week, Self-care is a common buzzword that every single parent has heard. But what does that really mean, and where do we start with it? It seems the cultural narratives are way off base. What the world tells us about self-care is more about self-indulging ourselves because we deserve it, or self-sufficiency. The idea of treating yourself to a spa day, or something nice isn’t wrong in and of itself… but there’s more to self-care than is being advertised. Last week we explored what self-care looks like for us internally - in other words…what we can do for ourselves - things that we have control over  Today we will focus on the other side of redefining self-care - External self-care, which is what we can do or where we can go outside of ourselves, in other words, external interaction that feeds our soul.  For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our daily meditational devotional Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID Solo Parent Society is brought to you in part by Talk About. Use Promo Code SOLOPARENT to get 1 month free at TalkAboutDiscipleship.com.

Self-care is a common buzzword that every single parent has heard. We know we need to take care of ourselves so that we have something to give to our kids. Self-care is essential, but as advertised on social media and TV all around us, self-care seems to be more about treating ourselves to special things. It can seem more like numbing or a Band-Aid so that we can ignore our struggles. But here’s the thing, cultural narratives are way off base. What the world tells us about self-care is more about self-indulging because we deserve it or self-sufficiency. The idea of treating yourself to a spa day, or getting a manicure and pedicure, or even shopping is not necessarily wrong in and of itself… but there’s more to self-care that is being advertised. So for the next two weeks, we’ll do our best to redefine what self-care might look like, breaking it into two sections. In this episode, we explore internal self-care, and next week will dive into external self-care.  For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our daily meditational devotional Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID Solo Parent Society is brought to you in part by Talk About. Use Promo Code SOLOPARENT to get 1 month free at TalkAboutDiscipleship.com.

As single parents, we are very, very acquainted with our shortcomings. It may have been a big indiscretion or mistake that we’ve made in our past, or maybe the day-to-day awareness that we’re not doing everything perfectly. In either case, most of us carry around a low-grade sense of shame a lot of the time. It’s hard to face head-on the fact that we fall short, but a significant part of moving towards health is embracing the good and bad in our lives. In those areas where we see ourselves as failing, having grace, and showing ourselves forgiveness are critical. So how do we do that? How do we face our weakness and show ourselves true grace as we move towards wholeness?  Brad Schmitt spent 12 years writing a popular celebrity column for a major publication and was an entertainment reporter on TV. During his TV reporter days, Brad was convicted twice in three years for drunken driving. He got fired and went to jail and rehab before recovering from substance abuse in 2010. Since then, he has had a complete life change, leading others on the recovery path and becoming a single father by choice, raising a foster son. In this episode, we discuss what self-forgiveness looks like in his life. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our daily meditational devotional Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID Solo Parent Society is brought to you in part by Talk About. Use Promo Code SOLOPARENT to get 1 month free at TalkAboutDiscipleship.com.

Why do we have to suffer if God can fix it?  If God is all-powerful, why does He allow me and my kids to experience all this hurt? Why doesn't He step in?  It’s a natural thing to be angry with God. To be clear, God is not dependent on us forgiving him, but we know that he wants an authentic relationship with us, so he embraces our hurt, disappointment, and questions… even about Himself. So what do we do with these questions? What do we do with anger towards God? Our guest is Rick Cua; he was a well-known Christian recording artist, songwriter, ordained minister, and author. Unfortunately, four short months before recording this episode, Rick tragically found his daughter dead. In this episode, we explore how to reconcile what God allows to tragically happen in our lives. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Get Rick’s latest book here Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID Solo Parent Society is brought to you in part by Talk About. Use Promo Code SOLOPARENT to get 1 month free at TalkAboutDiscipleship.com.

What we are talking about this week is a big issue for so many of us single parents. We want to move towards health and even recognize our part in the toxic relationship we’ve come out of. Yet, despite what we do, our ex (or others) continues to exhibit behaviors and traits that continue to offend and hurt. We recognize that forgiveness benefits us more than anybody else, but how are we supposed to forgive the actions or offenses that just continue to happen? Ongoing hurts bring up new pain and echo old wounds. In this episode, we discuss forgiving repeat offenders and offer four very helpful tips. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit SoloParent.org Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our daily meditational devotional Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID Solo Parent Society is brought to you in part by Talk About. Use Promo Code SOLOPARENT to get 1 month free at TalkAboutDiscipleship.com.

As single parents, we’ve all been hurt. In some way, shape, or form, we have all been the recipient of an offense. Sometimes, our tendency is just to move on, wash our hands of a situation and try to pick up the pieces and move forward. Some of us get stuck on the offense, and as a result, we fall deeper into resentment and start defining ourselves as victims. We can start believing the story we tell ourselves that we are just destined to be taken advantage of, which ends up hurting us more. From a faith perspective, we’ve all heard the narrative of how important it is to forgive. But why is it important? Is forgiveness really necessary when sometimes it feels like the person that caused the offense is not worth our time, effort or grace. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit SoloParent.org Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our daily meditational devotional Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

One of the things that plague us, single parents, the most is thinking about the future welfare of our kids. It’s one thing for us to struggle and deal with hard things; it’s an entirely different and heart-wrenching thing to worry about our kids, what happens to them, and their future. So many of our kids have seen relationships go very wrong, even a certain amount of volatility. Many of them internalize what they saw and blame themselves. Some of our kids have experienced the untimely death of one of their parents. In any case, our kids have been subject to traumatic life events, which, as we all know, can negatively impact their future. So how do we best set up our kids to have the courage and confidence to face their own relationships, their own opportunities, their own challenges… if we as parents may not feel confident ourselves? Today we hear some stories about how confidence and courage was built into a little boy raised by a single mom in North Carolina who went on to have a culture-shifting impact on this world. Our guest is George Shinn, who's dad died when he was eight, and he was raised by a single mom on welfare checks and hand-me-down clothes. He struggled in school and was the last person anyone thought would find success in this life. In fact, he finished dead last in his graduating class in high school. He went on to work in a textile mill, a car wash, and as a school janitor. He later attended Evans Business College in North Carolina while working with real estate and at car dealerships. Upon graduating, he raised enough money to buy the school and even other small colleges and consolidate them all under an umbrella Education System. He eventually sold the schools and bought an NBA basketball team, Charlotte Hornets, with the proceeds. He then went on to start the George Shinn foundation, which offers the love of Christ and the hope of the Gospel to hurting people. All of this against-all-odds story is rooted in a single mom's care.  For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit SoloParent.org Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book click  Join our daily meditational devotional Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

All of us have been very acquainted with feeling broken, wounded, and defeated. With those realities, it’s hard to believe we can find courage. Many of us have gone to the church for help and as a refuge; unfortunately, some of us have found ourselves feeling marginalized from the very place we needed to feel uplifted. So, many of us felt that we don’t know if we have what it takes to be brave enough to keep going or believe there is much hope. So what do we do with that desperate desire for courage when we feel so defeated, wounded and broken? Our guest is a trauma informed therapist and author who’s latest book is called "The Lord is My Courage: Stepping Through the Shadows of Fear Toward the Voice of Love" KJ RAMSEY talks about Courage for the Broken, Wounded and Defeated For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit SoloParent.org Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our daily meditational devotional Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

One of the things we hear more than anything else at Solo Parent is how so many of us deal with codependency. In one way or another, we've lost ourselves, our identity, our purpose, and our voice because we have revolved our world around making someone else happy to make us feel whole. There are a lot of things that we could talk about related to courage, but maybe nothing more critical than establishing how to have courage as a codependent to discover wholeness again, so that we can have our own voice and identity moving forward. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit SoloParent.org Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links groups, info, and a free book. Join our daily meditational devotional Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

It hurts to watch our kids face challenges and endure pain knowing some of the things we can’t fix, control, or even help them with. We feel like a bad parent if we can’t fix it or make it better. Most of us would rather take on their pain - but we can’t. So when our kids face hard things or things that hurt them, we often overcompensate, doing our best to lessen the blow, not helping them build the courage to face challenges for themselves. So how do we help them have the courage to deal with, or accept things, that hurt and are challenging when it feels counterintuitive to us wanting to protect them. Fortunately for all of us, Dr. Chipp Dodd is here to guide us through How to help our kids accept things they cannot change. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit SoloParent.org Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our daily meditational devotional Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

What do we do when we find our lives in a situation we never wished for or wanted? Betrayal, illness, death, our kids experiencing pain - or maybe we are the ones who have betrayed or caused hurt to others. When the reality we face is less than optimal, sometimes downright uncomfortable and challenging, our natural tendency is to fight and try to change things, which is not necessarily bad. But sometimes those painful things can't be changed, or we can’t control them. In those cases, what is my responsibility and what is not? The serenity prayer says, “God grant me the serenity to accept the things that I cannot change." COURAGE to change the things I can… So today, we are flipping that a bit and asking - how do I have the COURAGE to face the things I cannot change in order to find serenity. For the detailed show notes, tips and links visit SoloParent.org Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our daily meditational devotional Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

Let’s face it, as single parents, and we are all carrying relational baggage and unhealthy habits around that we can pass on to our kids. Many of us have, unfortunately, modeled what unhealthy, toxic relationships look like with our exes. And sometimes, even after divorce from toxic situations, we continue in our unhealthy beliefs and approaches to relationships. If we have lost a spouse to death, that trauma may keep us avoiding risking relationships again, or maybe we foster relationships built just on loneliness… Whatever the case, we want the best for our kids… We don’t want them to have to go through the relational struggles that we have. Here’s the thing, if we don’t teach them healthy relationship skills, they will and are learning about relationships from somewhere else… movies, friends, social media…Our kids are always watching, curious, and wondering… so how can we teach them healthy relationship skills when we doubt our abilities to be in healthy relationships.  For the detailed show notes, tips and links visit SoloParent.org Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our daily meditational devotional Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

We hear from many Solo parents that they have come out of toxic, emotionally and physically abusive relationships. Unfortunately, it seems to be a rampant story in our community. Narcissism and overly controlling partners are a widespread issue that arises. Being that we are parents, albeit divorced, we still have to deal with the same people that were so toxic, and we will have to continue dealing with them for the rest of our kids' lives. So how do we heal from abusive relationships and navigate maintaining healthy boundaries with those overly controlling people in our lives?  For the detailed show notes, tips and links visit SoloParent.org Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our daily meditational devotional Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

As single parents were juggling a lot of balls in the air at the same time… Inevitably, we drop one or two. Most of the time, the proverbial ball we drop is the one with ‘me’ written on it. We put ourselves last; we don’t value ourselves enough. We tend to feel selfish in making ourselves a priority when we have so many responsibilities. So how do we move ourselves up the totem pole, so to speak? I think we all know that unless we care well for ourselves, we can’t care well for other people. So what can we do to nurture ourselves without adding more stress and ‘to dos’ to our already full list of responsibilities? Our guest, Whitney English, is the author of a new book called “A More Beautiful Life: A Simple Five-Step Approach to Living Balanced Goals with HEART”. Her work has been featured in O magazine, The Wall Street Journal and on the Today show. For the detailed show notes, tips and links visit SoloParent.org To receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our daily meditational devotional Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

So many of us could accurately state, “I thought I knew them…” We have all been hurt; we’ve all been betrayed in some way, shape, or form. As we move through a Solo Parent life in this modern age, it’s hard to know who to trust. Some people present really well and even act like they’re here to help and protect… but sometimes, it turns out, there were different motivations or deeper issues that don’t show in the beginning. So how do we recognize safe people after experiencing hurt, rejection and abandonment? We can become so full of fear relationally that we end up feeling like just giving up, OR we lower our standards to the extent that we continue making destructive decisions. So today, we are going to discuss Who Should We Trust? For the detailed show notes, tips and links visit SoloParent.org Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our daily meditational devotional Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

We all have heard the saying ‘we can’t give what we don’t have'. So we can feel stuck in this difficulty of knowing that we don’t have our own sense of peace… so how can we help instill that in our kids. As we often say, it’s one thing to deal with struggles ourselves; it’s an entirely different thing, a heart-wrenching thing to watch our kids struggle. Any single parent wants their child, or children, to have a sense of certainty, to have a sense of peace even in the midst of less than optimal situations. So how do we help our kids find that sense of peace and avoid the emotional instability that so many of us suffer from ourselves? Fortunately for us Dr. Chip Dodd is here to guide us. Chip has been so foundational to so much of what we do here. For 30 years, he has poured his life into serving others through counseling, speaking, and writing best-selling books like 'The Voice of the Heart.' The bedrock of what he does is helping us discover ourselves and live fully in relationship with others and, ultimately, with God. GET CHIP’S NEW KIDS BOOK - How Are You Feeling Today? For the detailed show notes, tips and links visit SoloParent.org Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our daily meditational devotional Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

As single parents, we tend to let our peace be drained out of us by other people, lies, society, and comparison, and we end up feeling disempowered or victims. So often, we let unsafe people have access to our identity, self-worth, self-esteem and how we feel about ourselves… in that sense, we are leaking our sense of peace everywhere. So how do we get to a healthy place of protecting the peace that we can experience in being enough, God empowered, and beloved? How can we move forward empowered with a sense of our God identity and have peace with where we’re at. For the detailed show notes, tips and links visit https://soloparent.org/show-notes-blog Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our daily meditational devotional Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

As single parents, we all have direct and extended parenting relationships and will for the rest of our kid's lives. Often those relationships are strained and even volatile. For example, things can escalate very quickly if we’re divorced and it’s an ongoing contentious situation. Then there are the ex-in-laws that have very strong opinions about how their grandkids should be raised and can tend, at times, to overreach. Finally, for those that haven’t been married, there’s the other parent that has certain rights to be in our child’s lives, but from our perspective, it is less than optimal for our kids. In all these cases, how do we bring peace to the situation? We know nothing will ever be perfect, but how can we be the ones to bring peace and the stability that it fosters? Today we have Tammy Daughtry back in the studio with us. She is a leading expert in co-parenting issues and author of the book “Co-parenting works”, she is also the creator of an outstanding program "One heart, Two homes,” and she and her husband Jay run a great organization called Center for Modern Family Dynamics here in Nashville. Also, both she and her husband were single parents before meeting each other - so they know firsthand what we walkthrough. For the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org/show-notes-blog Co-Parenting app - appclose.com Tammy's site - modernfamilydynamics.com Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our daily meditational devotional Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID