MentalityWithEbuka

In this episode of MENtality with Ebuka, host Ebuka Obi-Uchendu is joined by co-host Banky Wellington, alongside Gen Z influencer and content creator Tobeszn, for a thought-provoking conversation on ageism, leadership, and the evolving dynamics of influence across generations. The discussion explores how age often shapes perceptions of credibility, authority, and opportunity, particularly within many African societies where leadership is traditionally associated with seniority and years of ex...

In this episode of MENtality with Ebuka, host Ebuka Obi-Uchendu is joined by co-host Banky Wellington, alongside venture capitalist and entrepreneur Kunmi Demuren and entrepreneur, oil & gas and mining expert Tayo Awogboro, for an insightful conversation on wealth creation, financial responsibility, and the legacy men leave behind. For many Nigerian men, wealth creation is more than a personal ambition, it is often a measure of responsibility. Beyond providing for themselves, many carry t...

In this episode of MENtality with Ebuka, host Ebuka Obi-Uchendu is joined by co-host Banky Wellington, alongside award-winning acclaimed rapper, songwriter, and cultural commentator Vector, for a thought-provoking conversation on the influence of culture and tradition in shaping modern masculinity. From childhood, African cultures define what it means to be a man, establishing expectations around strength, leadership, provision, family, and identity. But as society evolves, how do men honour ...

In this episode of MENtality with Ebuka, host Ebuka Obi-Uchendu is joined by co-host Banky Wellington, alongside mutli-award winning media personalities Toolz and Toke Makinwa, for a candid and engaging conversation that turns the spotlight around, inviting women into the conversation about masculinity, relationships, and modern manhood. If MENtality seeks to explore what it means to be a man today, then understanding the perspectives of women is an essential part of that journey. This episod...

In this episode of MENtality with Ebuka, host Ebuka Obi-Uchendu is joined by co-host Banky Wellington, alongside media personality, actor and influencer, Deji Osikoya, for a thoughtful and necessary conversation on consent, respect, and healthy relationships. The discussion explores why consent remains one of the most misunderstood aspects of relationships, masculinity, and power, particularly within many African societies where conversations around sexual boundaries, mutual respect, and pers...

In this episode of MENtality with Ebuka, host Ebuka Obi-Uchendu is joined by co-host Banky Wellington, alongside chess master, social impact leader and founder of Chess in Slums Africa, Tunde Onakoya, and media entrepreneur, storyteller and mental health advocate, Chude Jideonwo, for a candid and thought-provoking conversation on mental health, emotional wellbeing, and the realities many men face behind closed doors. Mental health remains one of the most important yet least discussed issues a...

In this episode of MENtality with Ebuka, host Ebuka Obi-Uchendu is joined by co-host Banky Wellington, alongside celebrated and Award-winning fashion entrepreneur and creative visionary Mai Atafo, for an honest and thought-provoking conversation about identity, purpose, and the lifelong journey of finding yourself as a man. What does it truly mean for a man to find himself in a society that has already decided who he should be? Across Nigeria and much of Africa, men are often handed a script ...

In this episode of MENtality with Ebuka, host Ebuka Obi-Uchendu is joined by co-host Banky W, alongside music executive, entrepreneur, and artiste, M.I Abaga, and award-winning filmmaker Dika Ofoma, for a thoughtful conversation on mentorship, legacy, leadership, and the responsibility of one generation to guide the next. Across Africa, many successful men can trace pivotal moments in their lives and careers back to the influence of mentors, sponsors, teachers, role models, and elders who sha...

In this episode of MENtality with Ebuka, host Ebuka Obi-Uchendu is joined by co-host Banky W, alongside entrepreneur and cultural figure Farooq Oreagba and actor, media personality and entrepreneur Tobi Bakre, for an honest and reflective conversation on career uncertainty, ambition, identity, and what success truly means for men today. As career paths become increasingly unpredictable and non-linear, many men find themselves caught between survival, passion, financial responsibility, and soc...

In this episode of MENtality with Ebuka, host Ebuka Obi-Uchendu is joined by co-host Banky Wellington, alongside medical doctor, health advocate and digital creator Aproko Doctor, for a deeply insightful conversation on addiction and the hidden ways men cope with pressure, pain and emotional overwhelm. The discussion explores how addiction, whether to alcohol, drugs, gambling, work, sex, social media, success, or validation, often hides beneath the surface of male coping mechanisms. For many ...

In this episode of MENtality with Ebuka, host Ebuka Obi-Uchendu is joined by co-host Banky Wellington, alongside comedy icon and media entrepreneur Ali Baba and entrepreneur Samuel Otigba, for a deeply reflective conversation on grief and emotional suppression among men. The discussion examines how men are often conditioned to internalize pain, despite experiencing profound losses, whether through bereavement, relationships, identity shifts, or missed opportunities. The episode unpacks how th...

Boys today are growing up in a world very different from what many adults knew. In this episode of MENtality with Ebuka, Host Ebuka Obi-Uchendu and Co-Host Banky W are joined by IK Osakioduwa, the MD of Lite Radio, and Host and Co-host of “Menisms” Podcast, Sonariwo On Deck and Murewa to explore how gaming, social media, isolation, online dating, and rising incel culture are shaping young boys. Why are so many boys struggling quietly? Who and what are they listening to? And what do they actua...

Becoming a father changes a man in ways few people talk about. In this episode of MENtality with Ebuka, Host Ebuka Obi-Uchendu and Co-Host Banky W are joined by Artiste, Timi Dakolo and Dancer, Actor, Influencer, Hermes Iyele for an honest conversation about fatherhood – what shapes it, what challenges it, and what it demands. How did their own upbringing influence the fathers they’re becoming? What does being present truly look like today? And how do men balance discipline, love, emotional s...

In this special episode of MENtality with Ebuka, Ebuka Obi-Uchendu sits with Co-Host Banky Wellington and Creative Consultant & Music Executive Alexander Ikemefuna for an honest, vulnerable, and deeply reflective conversation about male friendships – how they form, why they break, and the unspoken emotional world men rarely discuss. From growing through boyhood labels and early rivalries, to ego, loyalty, distance, marriage, vulnerability, and the quiet ways men show love, the trio unpack...

In this follow-up of the relationship episode of MENtality with Ebuka, host Ebuka Obi-Uchendu, Co-Host Banky Wellington are joined by Creative Consultant & Music Executive Alexander Ikemefuna, and Singer-Songwriter Johnny Drille for an honest, thought-provoking conversation about marriage, manhood, and the pressures that come with both. From why and when men choose to marry to the fear of commitment, financial expectations, and the weight of cultural and family pressure, the group r...

In the second episode of MENtality with Ebuka, host Ebuka Obi-Uchendu, Co-Host Banky Wellington are joined by Entertainer Bovi Ugboma and Media Entrepreneur Do2dtun “Energy gAD” for an unfiltered, hilarious, and deeply honest conversation about heartbreak, gender roles, submission, cheating, and the evolving shape of modern relationships. From their first heartbreaks to questions about monogamy, the “provider” myth, and what it really means to lead or love in 2025, the men h...

In the first episode of MENtality with Ebuka, host Ebuka-Obi Uchendu and Co-Host Banky Wellington sit with Artist & Activist Seun Anikulapo-Kuti and Creative Entrepreneur Noble Igwe for a brutally honest conversation about money—how it shapes men, pressures men, defines men, and often breaks men. From the expectations placed on boys from childhood, to the pressure to provide, the rise of betting culture, the glorification of wealth, and the fear of appearing unsuccessful, this episode dig...