Real Time with RAI

There's a time to be assertive, and there's a time to defer to your  wife's decision on issues. The opinions of your kids shouldn't be  dismissive because you claim headship in the family.  In this episode, I talk about why a man should develop a listening ear  in the family, if he must succeed as a husband material.   

#husbandmaterial #marriage #relationships

Family should always come first for a husband material. Since family, extends beyond one's home to his parents, siblings, and  even inlaws, a man should be able to regulate the relations between his  extended family, especially his own mother, and his wife.  In this episode, I share with you what to do to make sure as, husband  material, to foster better relations with your extended family and your  wife.

#husbandmaterial #marriage #relationships

What does it mean to be husband material? Simply, it's a man that understands what a 'good thing' is, and appreciates that good thing.  

I unpack all of this in this episode and more in the rest of the series.   

#husbandmaterial #marriage #relationships

#WifeMaterial

#wifematerial

In part 2 of the series, I talk about the 'Trophy wife'.  

What do you think, is a trophy wife the ideal wife material?  

Let's get right into the conversation

Every man's unconscious dream is to marry that perfect model of what a wife should be.  Women come in various assortments and fabric, and that's wonderful.   

However, you need to be conscious of two basic things in your desire for a wife material, which I share in this new episode. 

Welcome to the new topic series, wife material.

#WifeMaterial #marriage #relationship

In this concluding episode in the series: Play hard to get, I talk about  alpha personalities and submission, what is it and what it is not,  in  the christian context.

Today, we get right into the meat of the matter. Is it good advice to play hard to get?  In this episode, I provide insights on the question using the personalities I had talked about last episode.   

Is it good advice to play hard to get?

My answer to this question has sparked the new series for the month of June, beginning with this episode - Alpha Personalities and more.

Your personality is a major factor in the outcome of a potential relationship, and I share insights on this.

When was the last time your teenage child saw you as a relational human, and not as a demanding parent?                                                                            This should be a time of bonding between parents and teenagers, who are in a very sensitive stage of maturity. I talk about this and how to improve teen-bonding later today.

If you have a strong spiritual conviction, you'll find this episode of great value.

This is a continuation from last episode in the series.   

Here I focus on the importance of making healthy options.

By now you must have watched as much TV shows and movies this period has afforded.

So what's next? There's no justification you can give to let this period in history go to waste.

We continue the series: MAKING THE BEST OF THINGS, with recommendation options at self-development.

Life shouldn't be suspended because the world is on lock-down.

You can MAKE THE BEST OF THINGS during this period.

Lock-down is not hibernation! Life must go on.

I start a new series with recommendations on how best to make your marriage arrangements go on as planned.

#lockdown #weddingplans #growthmindset

We conclude this series with a somber episode, but an empowering one nonetheless.

There have been a spike in cases of domestic abuse during this  pandemic-instigated lock-down? The sad reality is that the virus may do  less harm than being cooped up with an abuser.

In this episode, I  share the various manifestations of domestic abuse, and unpack the  vicious cycle of abuse and what you must do to break this cycle.

P.S: Did you know that verbal debasement, whether done in jest or humor is a form of emotional abuse?
Any form of non-consensual activity done by force to your spouse is abuse.

"Will you be my 'quarantine'"? 😍🥰😆

Make the most of this #lockdown,  if you are married, spice up your intimacy with your spouse -  rediscover your sensuality and explore their sexual fantasies or what  gives them pleasure.

On this episode I address sexual displeasure...

Communication is so important for your relationship to thrive.  Communication during this lock-down should be a no-brainer,, but I get  it if you don't know where to begin.   

Now that everyone is at home, it's time to foster bonding, on a deeper  level with your spouse.  It's time to fix your communication problem.    I share tips that will help you converse better with your spouse.   

#truth #conversation #assessment

Let's be honest, we don't mind staying at home at our own convenience,  however, when we are directed to do so, all of a sudden uneasiness  sweeps away our sense of composure.

Take a deep breath. Now is the time to access the quality of your  relationship. There will definitely be a post-COVID19 world, but you  only get this opportunity to re-evaluate the direction and dynamics of  your relationship right now.

Get the tools out, we are doing a relationship overhaul this quarantine period.

Are you ready?

Are there grounds for divorce from a scriptural standpoint?

Surprisingly, yes!.

It's a sensitive topic, I know, come close,

Am I all in for divorce in a marriage situation? Not exactly.

But I am all in for SEPARATION.
In this episode I break it all down.

So the relationship has gone stale, is it time to discard it or is there a way it can be salvaged?

In this episode, I provide the next critical steps you should take when you unlove.

Please like, share and reach out to me in the comment section or private message and let me know what your thoughts or questions are, on the matter.

Love  is beautiful, it really is.

BUT...

Love is also a decision, you can choose to get into and when it seems unhealthy get the heck out of.

We begin this series at the very start, why do people 'unlove'?

You ready?

We are at the final leg of the trip guys.

Today, I'll show you what you should pay attention to in terms of financial red flags.

Are you ready? 

Let's go.

Life is a work in progress, as long as you're alive, change as a result of growth is the constant.

Believing otherwise is to embrace a self-sabotaging mindset.

If your relationship is to thrive, "Take Me As I Am", is not a healthy lifestyle choice.

Love is a wonderful experience. However, the strength of love can be sabotaged if these threats are not addressed.

Is love enough?

Let's find out.

What is love?

Do you know what it is, beyond just a definition?
You hear people say love is noun and not a verb.

Time to get into the meat of the matter, join me.

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Last episode I talked about the benefits of having an open financial policy with your spouse in a marriage relationship or soon-to-be spouse when preparing for a lifetime relationship.

It's a relief when the burden of undue expectations is taken off a partner, that's one of the benefits of having a mutual financial policy.

On this episode, I'll be taking the conversation further. I'll be showing you an effective approach to creating an open financial policy. 

What does an open policy mean in context, regarding a romantic relationship?

I share this and much more in this second episode in this ongoing series.

I often say this, concerning romantic relationships, "Talk, talk and talk!"

Talk as exhaustively as possible, about everything!

Intimacy isn't just about sex, it is your ability to be open and not feel constrained in expressing yourself.

Today, I share with you conversations you should have to protect the longevity of your romantic relationships.

What part of this podcast do you agree with or find issues with? I'd like to know

FACT-CHECK: Money is important in a relationship.

TRUE.

However, like every bad investment, learn to let a bad relationship go. Cut your losses and move, honorably 

 Finance is one of the major stressors in a relationship, particularly in marital relationships.

Money is important in relationships, as it is one way to express affection and love, as other utilities are only serviced based on one's credit balance

In this podcast, I talk in detail about the importance of financial intelligence and financial transparency in a relationship.

I also stress, in clear terms, the timeliness of sourcing for legitimate avenues to generate income and boost finances

 What is the goal of a relationship? 

Certainly, a subjective array of reasons abound, but being worse off than when you become a couple is definitely not one of those reasons. 

Relationships should make us better versions of ourselves; however, if you are becoming worse off than when you were single, then you should begin to consider calling your relationship quits.

I discuss on this as well as other instances where you'll have to quit a relationship, and I also provide situations where you might just need to endure through a relationship. 

All these right here.

Join me.

How can you avoid flirting, especially if you are in a serious and secure relationship:
1. Be open with your partner. Talk as comfortably as possible about flirtatious conduct.
2. Learn to respect your partner.
3. Set boundaries with people to avoid slipping into flirtations.

I provide a survey to support the need to respect your partner in this audio clip. 

 Relationships these days are not as conventional as they used to be. Serious but insecure relationships abound and the question of flirting as a pleasure ride is more acceptable.

Flirting is a pleasure ride, with dopamine on the driver's seat.
But is the destination worth the trip at all? Some people might ague that as long as one is not philandering, firting is fine,
Do you agree?

Join me on this episode as I discuss the matter of flirting

It's often said that, "When the student is ready, the teacher will appear". In seeking for mentors, in our pursuit to leading the lives we envision, we  must embrace certain values as well. 

I share these values in this 30-second clip.

In this episode, I describe who a mentor is typically, the clear difference between a mentor and a coach, the requisite tips you should consider and require before choosing a mentor, and of course how to appreciate and be gracious to awesome mentor.

Last week Sunday, I hailed the idea that you can be single and content.

One might ask; however, "what does it mean to be single?",

As secular culture has distorted and diluted even basic ideals, let me provide a clear but reductionist answer to that question in the video below

Do you share a different opinion, let's discuss in comment section.

See you soon.

#SingleAndContent
#RTWRextended

 On this episode, I talk on the benefits of being single and what you can do at that time, and what to do to maximize the time.