Small Things Often

Differentiating yourself is an important part of a healthy relationship. Learn how defining yourself to your partner can positively change how you respond to them on this episode of Small Things Often. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When you see your partner in pain, don’t stay neutral! On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll share how taking a side (your partner’s) can positively impact your relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There are many seasons of love that come and go in relationships. On this episode of Small Things Often, how you can have an open conversation with your partner about the different phases and what you can learn from them! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

How much do you REALLY know about your partner? On this episode of Small Things Often, discover how one simple question can open up new levels of understanding, trust and friendship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

How do you deal with difficult emotions like anger or fear or frustration towards your partner? On this episode of Small Things Often, find out if you’re a “bottler” or a “brooder” and, if you are, discover ways to combat it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do you focus on everyone else in your life, except yourself? If so, you need to put the spotlight on yourself and practice self-care. In this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to soothe yourself and feed your soul. Not only will it positively impact your personal happiness, but your relationship, too! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Are you finding yourself having issues with your partner, but don’t know how to approach the subject, or express your feelings? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how and why scheduling a regular check in for conflicts can keep your relationship healthy and on track! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It takes practice to respond non-defensively. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’re sharing the questions you need to ask yourself before jumping to your own defense. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do you know when you’re being defensive? On this episode of Small Things Often, we’re identifying the 3 forms of defensiveness so you can recognize them in conversations with your loved ones. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do you avoid dealing with any conflict with your partner because you think it will hurt your relationship? Think again! On this episode of Small Things Often, find out ways to deal with conflict and friction that can actually transform your relationship — and help make you and your partner even closer! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Are you and your partner totally stuck in perpetual conflict over a specific issue? Have you reached the point where neither of you are willing to open your mind to the other’s thoughts and opinions? Then you might be in gridlock. In this episode, learn how to recognize it — and ways to overcome it! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Are you aware of your emotions? On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll help you identify your feelings so you can help your loved ones when they experience difficult emotions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You don’t always have to agree with your loved one! On this episode of Small Things Often, how you can change the goal from agreement to understanding during disagreements. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In relationships, the only constant is change. On this episode of Small Things Often, how you can embrace the changes to evolve individually and together with your partner. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You probably think you know your partner, but do you have an active and up-to-date understanding of their interior world? We’re digging deep on this episode of Small Things Often so you can learn the importance of building Love Maps with your partner. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It’s easy to get defensive instead of taking responsibility in times of conflict, but what is that doing to your relationship? On this episode of Small Things Often, we’re sharing the importance of taking ownership of our actions and how they affect our loved ones. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do you walk the road of “neutrality” when your partner comes to you with an emotional issue? If so, your relationship may be suffering because of it. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn why validation is so important — and how it can make or break a relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Relationships aren’t magically unveiled in a single romantic moment. On this episode of Small Things Often, how you can build a relationship brick by brick and create a deeper emotional connection with your partner. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

No one is all good or all bad. If you’ve fallen into that kind of thinking, tune into this episode of Small Things Often, and learn how to rethink your reactions — and improve your relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It’s no secret that difficult conversations with loved ones aren’t easy. So how can you make sure it goes as well as possible? We’ll share the questions that you need to ask yourself before the conversation begins, on this episode of Small Things Often. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The existence of two different viewpoints doesn’t necessarily mean one person is wrong and one person is right. On this episode of Small Things Often, we explore how you can acknowledge subjective realities by sharing your feelings in a way that doesn’t make your partner feel defensive. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

How are your listening skills? If your partner is in pain, the most loving thing you can do is to listen with empathy and understanding. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to improve your ability to listen with compassion. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

How’s your relationship going? Not the one with your partner…the one with yourself. On this episode of Small Things Often, find out why creating time and space for yourself can keep the relationship with your partner strong and healthy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

While in crisis mode, it can be easy to turn away from your loved ones. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how you can stay connected and support each other in times of uncertainty. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

How are you expressing those difficult emotions that creep up from time to time? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to transform criticisms into “positive needs” that will help you avoid conflict and arguments — and, ultimately, bring you even closer to your partner. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What is a “good enough” relationship? It’s likely not what you think. In this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain how a good enough relationship can help you set healthy expectations. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

How much fun have you had with your partner today? Yesterday? Last month? If playful moments are lacking in your relationship, listen to this episode of Small Things Often, and hear why moments of joy are so important — and learn how to consciously create some in your life! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Are you and your partner spending so much time together that you’re beginning to think you’re losing your individuality and sense of self? On this episode of Small Things Often learn how to balance your relationship between togetherness and separateness. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Are you really listening to your partner? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to engage in a stress-reducing conversation that can positively impact your relationship by strengthening your mutual love and trust. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Every couple argues. But the ones who survive and thrive have learned how to repair quickly and often. What does that mean? Tune into this episode of Small Things Often and find out why it’s so important to repair conflicts as they occur. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When your partner feels down, is your first instinct to cheer them up? If so, take a step back, because there’s a better choice. On this episode of Small Things Often, we offer advice on the best ways to respond to your partner when they’re dealing with negative emotions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do your feelings get hurt easily in your relationship — even in small, trivial matters? On this episode of Small Things Often, find out why this happens — and how to manage and repair these hurtful moments with your partner. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

One of our deepest needs is for our partner to “know” us — to be truly attuned to us. On this episode of Small Things Often, discover how awareness will help you open up during a conflict —let your partner know what is going on inside — and become more emotionally connected. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Knowing when your loved one is trying to connect with you isn’t always intuitive. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain why you need to know your bids for connection and take you through the different types of bids so you can create healthy interactions in your relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You’re smart — of course — but are you emotionally intelligent? In this episode of Small Things Often, how you can use emotion coaching in your relationship to connect with your partner by becoming more emotionally intelligent. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do you communicate differently when you’re stressed? You’re not alone! In this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll show you why under stress, we all regress, and what you can do to keep your relationship strong. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Difficult emotions can be difficult to truly understand! On this episode of Small Things Often, we’re putting those emotions through the Feeling Wheel — and you can too by printing your own here https://bit.ly/37qDVTK. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

How can mindfulness transform your relationship? On this episode of Small Things Often learn why staying in the present moment — being aware of your thoughts and emotions, without going on auto-pilot — can increase your sense of happiness, love, and trust. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Have you had an argument with your partner lately, where you totally lost it because you were overwhelmed with feelings of anger, fear, or hurt? If so, this episode of Small Things Often is for you! Discover why this happens — and how to calm yourself when these feelings arise. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Season 1 has come to an end, but Season 2 is on its way! On this episode of Small Things Often, listen to one of our favorites — especially in these uncertain times: Staying Connected in Times of Great Stress. Send your thoughts on Season 1 and what you’d like to hear more of in Season 2 to podcasts@gottman.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Cut the criticism and say what you need! This episode of Small Things Often from The Gottman Institute shares tips about how to communicate positive needs in your relationship instead of playing the blame game. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do you think in order to be compatible with your partner you have to share certain interests, values or goals? Think again. On this Episode of Small Things Often, we explore what it truly means to be compatible. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We’re getting the negativity out of your relationship! In this episode of Small Things Often from The Gottman Institute, we’re shifting perspectives to prove the grass isn’t always greener on the other side. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

How do you measure success in your relationship? If your goal is perfection, you’re setting yourself up for heartache. In this episode of Small Things Often, find out how the happiest relationships measure their success. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There are some “facts” about relationships, that maybe you’ve always believed, that just aren’t true. On this episode of Small Things Often, we use decades of research to bust 5 of the most common relationship myths. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do you keep a lot about yourself to yourself? Self-disclosure to your partner — revealing your most authentic self about how you think and how you feel — can have an enormously positive impact on your relationship. On today’s Small Things Often, we tell you why. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We all have things that trigger us emotionally, but what can you do about it? And how do emotional triggers affect your relationships? We’ll share what to be mindful of, in this episode of Small Things Often from The Gottman Institute.. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We’re calling a time out! In this episode of Small Things Often fromThe Gottman Institute, we’re practicing self-soothing skills so you can take care of yourself andtalk to your loved one with less tension. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The walls are coming down in this episode of Small Things Often from The Gottman Institute. We’re sharing the two sides of stonewalling and a solution for either side. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

How do you deal with emotions like anger, confusion, fear, or sadness? In this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to practice mindfulness to find calm and peace when difficult emotions arise. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We’ve got some relationship magic for you — it’s called the 5 to 1 ratio. It’s based on extensive research and it can transform the bond between you and your partner. Find out what it is and how it works in today’s episode of Small Things Often. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When was the last time you celebrated one of your partner’s successes? On this episode of Small Things Often, find out why small moments of celebration contribute to the happiness of your relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Does your partner sometimes do things that annoy or upset you? Do you tell them? On this episode of Small Things Often, find out the difference between complaining and criticizing and how each could impact your relationship in a big way. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Is the current coronavirus pandemic causing you to feel out-of-control, anxious, and a bit removed from family life? On this episode of Small Things Often, we show you ways to reconnect with your family in times of great stress — by being intentional in your choices and making the best out of the “new normal.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Are you around your loved ones a lot more than you’re used to right now? As the world deals with a health emergency, Small Things Often from The Gottman Institute is here to make adjusting to all this a little easier! We’ll guide you through the conversation that you can have to redefine your daily rituals. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Feeling anxious and overwhelmed by the coronavirus crisis? Tune in to this episode of Small Things Often to learn ways to stay connected to your partner during these times of great stress and uncertainty. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It’s time to get in sync! On this episode of Small Things Often from The Gottman Institute, we’re putting attunement into action to help create harmony in your relationships. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do you need to de-stress after a long day? In this episode of Small Things Often from The Gottman Institute, we’ll tell you the do’s and don’ts of a stress-reducing conversation that you need to have daily with your loved one! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It’s time to unplug! In this episode of Small Things Often from The Gottman Institute, we explain why disconnecting — and putting down your phone — could help form a stronger connection with your partner. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Before you interrupt your partner’s story, listen up! In this episode of Small Things Often from The Gottman Institute, we’ll explain how fully listening before responding can strengthen your relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There’s a battle that you don’t necessarily have to fight. Why understanding your partner before you even think about spewing advice could be just what your loved one needs! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There are some issues between you and your partner that are unsolvable. But that doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed. Find out how to deal with “perpetual problems” on this episode of Small Things Often. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Trust doesn’t happen overnight. It’s built over time. Learn how paying attention to small everyday moments can add up to a deeply trusting relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Are you and your partner on a unified front? If you feel like you havebeen out of sync maybe you need to start adding in more “We” and less “Me”. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Think Self-care is selfish? Think again. It could save your relationship. Listen to this importantscience-based tip on Small Things Often from the Gottman Institute— and discover why youneed to carve out some me-time. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Can small moments of appreciation transform your relationship in a big way? You bet they can. In today’s episode of Small Things Often by The Gottman Institute, find out why it’s important to catch your partner doing something “right”! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Got 5 minutes? That could be all you need to make a meaningfulconnection with your partner. Find out how in Episode 2 of Small Things Often from TheGottman Institute - and watch your relationship flourish. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Sometimes it feels like we should just know how to be a good partner even when things get tough and overwhelming. But we’re here to tell you a good relationship comes from the small things—the day-to-day moments that can make a big difference over time. Listen to Small Things Often for tips to make your connections, with everyone in your life, stronger and happier. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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A fresh start can get you and your partner on the right track! On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to hit the reset button and make positive changes in your relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Date nights are a wonderful and important way to connect with your partner and strengthen your relationship. Think you’re too busy for one? On this episode of Small Things Often, we give you options that can fit into any schedule. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Laughter is a powerful force so use it to build your relationship! Learn how to be mindful and explore humor theories on this episode of Small Things Often. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Don’t let your friendship with your partner sizzle! On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how being a lover and a friend can strengthen your relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Does your partner react with negativity whenever you try to have a normal conversation? If so, they may be stuck in “negative sentiment override.” On this episode of Small Things Often, find out what may have caused it — and steps to take in order to break the pattern. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What do you do when a small decision made by your partner turns out to be a mistake? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn the best way of being supportive — even when you disagreed with their decision in the first place. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Wonder what happy couples have in common? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn the four things that make up the most successful relationships that can lead you and your partner to even greater happiness. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When you put words to your desire for your partner, you can experience a satisfying relationship in and out of the bedroom. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain how you can start sensually communicating with your partner. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do you have certain expectations for Valentine’s Day? Does your partner? On this episode of Small Things Often, we offer tips on how to make the most of this “holiday of love” — without stress or hurt feelings. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Even though it might take more of an effort, you can still have a passionate relationship with your partner while being a parent. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to prioritize intimacy and keep your connection strong. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

How’s the friendship quotient in your relationship? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to have a conversation with your partner that will deepen your connection and strengthen your friendship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Has passion faded from your relationship? Just not feeling it anymore? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how being intentional about love-making can bring desire and passion back for you and your partner. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You don’t need to set your expectations super high or way down low to have a healthy relationship. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll explain why all you need is a “good enough” relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It might feel counterintuitive, but stop trying to fix your partner’s feelings. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn why you should empathize with your partner instead. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Has your life become so hectic, that you’ve put your relationship on the back burner — and feel like you’re drifting apart? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn ways to get back on track by sharing fondness and admiration — no matter how busy your lives have become. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do you feel like setting goals for your relationship is too daunting? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to turn those goals into healthy habits that you and your partner can practice every day. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Feeling disconnected or ignored by your partner? If so, your Emotional Bank Account might be in bankruptcy. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to reverse that depleted account, and get your relationship back on track. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Asking for what you want may be one of the greatest gifts you can give your partner. On this episode of Small Things Often, find out how to ask, and why it is so important for a successful relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Why do couples who are friends with other healthy couples have better relationships? Because they learn from them. On this episode of Small Things Often, discover how your friends can be one of the greatest resources of information for having a happy relationship with your partner. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Does your relationship feel stale? Is it missing some excitement? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn the 4 steps that you can take to give your relationship a fresh start. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Taking a break from an argument when you’re overwhelmed with emotion is one of the most crucial relationship skills. In this episode of Small Things Often, learn how and when to take a break in order to get back on track with your partner. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

How do you fight feelings of being alone in a relationship? On this episode of Small Things Often, we share the antidote for loneliness — and how it will help you and your partner get back on track to connecting emotionally. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do you know who you are as a couple? Have you ever thought about the values, beliefs and attitudes that define your couplehood? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to create shared meaning by discovering the unique culture of your relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What rituals of connection do you and your partner have together? On this episode of Small Things Often, learn some rituals that will help you create shared meaning, stay connected — and thrive. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Save your money and give your partner a gift from the heart. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to bring them joy with simple gestures that’ll show how much you care. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Conflicts can get extra complicated during the holiday season. On this episode of Small Things Often, discover some useful tools to handle conflicts with your partner and keep your holidays happy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Celebrating the holidays can be tricky if you and your partner have different religious beliefs or ethnic cultures. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how to talk through your differences and make a unique blend of traditions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

‘Tis the season to take the guesswork out of connecting with your partner. On this episode of Small Things Often, explore the ways to make better bids. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Your relationship might be taking a back seat during the holidays. On this episode of Small Things Often, learn how you can stay connected as a couple through this hectic time of year. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Take the time to reflect on all the things you love about your partner, and then let them know in writing. On this episode of Small Things Often, we’ll give you some ideas of what kinds of things you can share with them — so they’ll know just how much they’re loved and appreciated. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices