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Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex
- 1947 - How to Have an Orgasm with Alana Martens & Tiera Reed, #627
"I guess I'm just one of those women who can't."
That's exactly what our guest believed early in her marriage when she struggled to experience orgasm. Have you ever thought the same thing? And what if you're wrong?
What if there are things you just haven't been taught about your body, your anatomy, your arousal, and the way God designed you for pleasure?
This week, we tackle the myths and misconceptions surrounding female orgasm and offer practical steps and encouragement for women who want to experience MORE in the bedroom.
God's not embarrassed by this conversation–so pull up a chair and join us!
Guests: Alana Martens and Tiera Reed
Follow-up Resources:
Finishing Well: Navigating Her Orgasm Together by Kingdom Sexuality (online course)
Hot Topic Kit: Building a Great Sex Life by Authentic Intimacy
Five Things You Need to Know About Women, Orgasm & Intimacy by Juli Slattery (blog)
Q&A: Why can't I orgasm? with Dr. Juli Slattery (video)
Other episodes you might like:
#504 Painful Intercourse, Orgasm, and Aging Sex: Answers to the Most Popular Sex Questions
#600 Why Sex Feels Hard (& How to Make It Amazing Again)
#262 Experiencing Sexual Pleasure Part 1
#263 Experiencing Sexual Pleasure Part 2
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Mon, 09 Nov 2026 - 48min - 1946 - What If We Stopped Trying to Win the Culture War?, #626
How do you navigate conversations about sexuality and identity without letting fear, politics, or the pressure to have all the answers get in the way of loving people well?
This week, Juli sits down with Laurence Koo to talk about why questions of identity can feel so overwhelming, and how you can walk alongside someone even when you don't have all the answers. They also challenge the way we think about the "culture wars," explore what it means to see sexuality through the lens of the gospel, and offer a refreshing perspective on singleness, marriage, and authentic community.
Guest: Laurence Koo
Follow-up Resources:
#576 Q&A with Jackie Hill Perry & Laurence Koo
#297 FInding Freedom In the Midst of Brokenness
#298 Sexual Identity Is Big; Identity as God's Child Is Bigger
What's the Most Important Thing the Bible Says About Your Sex Life? (blog by Juli Slattery)
Rethinking Sexuality by Dr. Juli Slattery
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Mon, 02 Nov 2026 - 40min - 1945 - Marriage in Survival Mode: Why Dates Still Matter, #194
Life gets busy—especially with kids, work, and everyday stress. But research shows that couples who consistently make time for each other are significantly happier in their marriages.
This week, we're talking about why date nights matter more than you think. We'll tackle common obstacles couples face, like exhaustion, busy schedules, lack of childcare, and awkward conversations. Plus, you'll hear simple and practical tips to help you reconnect with your spouse—even in the busiest of seasons.
Guests: Dr. Greg & Erin Smalley
Check out our newest Hot Topic Kit: Healthy Dating & Boundaries.
Follow-up Resources:
Take the Date Night Challenge: 52 Creative Ideas to Make Your Marriage Fun by Greg & Erin Smalley
Date Night Conversation Starters from Greg & Erin Smalley
Q&A: How often is "normal" for having sex in marriage? (video)
Mon, 16 Mar 2026 - 33min - 1944 - The 5 Love Languages (& Why Your Spouse's Love Tank Is Still Empty), #599
You know your spouse's love language, and you try to use it. So why is their love tank always running on empty?
This week, we're expanding the classic framework to include personality nuances, seasonal shifts, overdoing it (yes, that's possible!), and love tank "leaks." Plus, you'll learn why gifts aren't always about money and why physical touch isn't always about sex.
Join us for a conversation about moving past formulas and becoming a better student of the one you love.
Guests: Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott
Follow-up Resources:
Listen to Dr. Gary Chapman talk about the Five Love Languages on Java #592 The Love Language that Matters Most.
Take the free relationship assessment at myheartchart.com
The Five Love Languages Premium Assessment
The Love Language That Matters Most by Dr. Gary Chapman, Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott
Follow Les & Leslie at @lesandleslie
Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy
Mon, 09 Mar 2026 - 36min - 1943 - Does God Really Care if We Move in Together?, #598
Maybe you're already living together. Maybe this topic feels uncomfortable. Maybe you've never questioned it before.
This week, Juli unpacks what God says about living together before marriage, what (secular) research is telling us, and how covenant—not convenience—creates lasting security.
Co-hosts: Hannah Nitz & Joe Caruso
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Follow-Up Resources:
Preorder 25 Questions You're Afraid to Ask About Sex, Love, and Intimacy by Dr. Juli Slattery
Q&A: Is God okay with me having sex with someone I love even if we're not married?
Q&A: What is the difference between sexual integrity and purity?
Follow Hannah Nitz @hannahnitz
Follow Joe Caruso at @joecaruso06
Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy
Mon, 02 Mar 2026 - 40min - 1942 - Cultivating Courage: Why Men Need a New Vision for Manhood, #597
Men get a lot of mixed messages about masculinity. Some say it's toxic. Others say it doesn't really matter anymore. It's no surprise guys are left wondering, "What does it even mean to be a good man?"
This week, Juli sits down with Brant Hansen, author of The Men We Need, to get honest about the struggles men face and why true strength looks very different from the stereotypes we're used to. This conversation is an invitation to see manhood not as a problem to fix, but as a calling worth stepping into.
Guest: Brant Hansen
What did you think about this conversation? Let us know in a rating and review.
Follow-up Resources:
The Men We Need:God's Purpose for the Manly Man, the Avid Indoorsman, or Any Man Willing to Show Up by Brant Hansen
Blog: 3 Reasons Women Tend To Take Over in Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery
Blog: 7 Ways We Unknowingly Sabotage Intimacy in Our Marriages by Dr. Juli Slattery
Blog: Resign As Boss: How To Help Your Husband Lead by Dr. Juli Slattery
Video: Q&A: How Can I Help My Husband Grow Up and Take Responsibility?
Follow Brant Hansen at @branthansen
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Mon, 23 Feb 2026 - 40min - 1941 - What's Okay in the Bedroom? (You Have More Freedom Than You Think), #596
What's okay in the bedroom—and how are married couples supposed to know?
In this episode, Juli doesn't hand you a checklist. Instead, she walks you through three questions every couple can ask when navigating gray areas in the bedroom.
From pornography and fantasy to sex toys and more, this conversation helps you discern where you may need to draw a line and where you may need to step out of your comfort zone.
Joined by Hannah Nitz and Joe Caruso, this episode marks the kick off of a new series inspired by Juli's newly revised, upcoming book, 25 Questions You're Afraid to Ask About Love, Sex, and Intimacy.
Co-Hosts: Hannah Nitz, Joe Caruso
What did you think of this episode? Leave us a rating and review in your podcast app.
Follow up resources:
Check out our brand-new Hot Topic Kit: Pornography in Marriage.
Blog: What's OK in the Bedroom? (Includes a list of what God has said "no" to)
Book: God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery
Book: Passion Pursuit: What Kind of Love Are You Making? by Dr. Juli Slattery and Linda Dillow
Follow Hannah Nitz @hannahnitz
Follow Joe Caruso at @joecaruso06
Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy
Mon, 16 Feb 2026 - 39min - 1940 - Bye Awkward Side Hugs! Getting Over Our Fear of Opposite-Sex Friendships, #323
Are awkward "side hugs" the best we can do when it comes to opposite-sex friendships?
Juli sits down with author Bronwyn Lea, who helps us rethink what it means to live as brothers and sisters in God's family. They talk about why we often confuse intimacy with sexuality, how Jesus modeled close, non-romantic relationships, and what healthy Christian community can look like (even in a sex-saturated world).
Listen in to discover how moving beyond fear-based boundaries can lead to more connection and stronger, life-giving friendships in the body of Christ.
Guest: Bronwyn Lea
Follow-up Resources:
Beyond Awkward Side Hugs: Living as Christian Brothers and Sisters in a Sex-Crazed World by Bronwyn Lea
What Defines an Intimate Relationship? by Dr. Juli Slattery (blog)
Q&A: What is the Purpose of My Sexuality as a Single? w/Dr. Juli Slattery
Q&A: How Can I Tell The Difference Between Sexual Desire And A Desire For Intimacy? w/Dr. Juli Slattery
Surrendered Sexuality: How Knowing Jesus Changes . . . Everything by Dr. Juli Slattery
Follow Bronwyn at @bronwyn_lea
Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy
Mon, 09 Feb 2026 - 42min - 1939 - 4 Lies We Believe About Sex, #595
Juli unpacks four of the most common (and subtle) lies we believe about sex, desire, and compatibility. From "sex is about expressing myself" to "the best sex is compatible sex," they explore how these ideas shape our relationships—and how God invites you into something deeper.
If you've ever felt stuck, confused, or distant from God because of sexuality, pull up a chair—this conversation is for you.
Co-hosts: Hannah Nitz and Joe Caruso
Leave us a rating & review in your favorite podcast app.
Follow-up Resources:
Surrendered Sexuality by Dr. Juli Slattery
God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery
Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy
Follow Hannah Nitz @hannahnitz
Follow Joe at @joecaruso06
Mon, 02 Feb 2026 - 49min - 1938 - Puzzle or Mystery? Rediscovering God Beyond Easy Answers, #594
What if your relationship with God didn't start with how broken you are—but with how beloved you are?
This week, Juli is joined by Marty Solomon, host of the BEMA Podcast, to explore the difference between our Western desire to have all the answers and the Bible's invitation to mystery, curiosity, and wonder. They talk about how systematic theology can both help and hinder our faith, and why being "beloved" is more foundational than being "right."
This conversation reframes how we see our humanity in light of God's steadfast love—not as a problem to fix, but as a relationship to steward.
Guest: Marty Solomon
Preorder Marty's new book, The Gospel of Being Human: How Asking Better Questions of the Bible Reveals Who We Are
Listen to The BEMA Podcast (we recommend starting with Season 1)
Follow Marty Solomon at @marty_solomon
Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy
Mon, 26 Jan 2026 - 47min - 1937 - 3 Things Christians Do That Shut Down Healing After Betrayal, #593
If you're trying to heal after betrayal, you may be doing everything you were taught to do—and still feel stuck.
Sometimes we unintentionally sabotage our own healing—all in the name of love and forgiveness. Instead of feeling better, you end up feeling silenced, unsafe, and confused about why healing hasn't happened.
Author and counselor Tammy Gustafson joins Juli to share four necessary phases of healing, and three common mistakes that actually shut it down. With clinical insight and biblical wisdom, this conversation will help you move forward with strength and hope.
Guest: Tammy Gustafson, LPC
Follow-up Resources:
Preorder Broken to Brave: Your Courageous Act of Healing After Intimate Betrayal (comes out Jan. 27)
Register for The Betrayal Healing Conference, January 26-30. (It's online and free.)
Take the Betrayal Healing Quiz to find what phase of the journey you're in.
Q&A: Does My Spouse Watch Porn Because of Me?
Q&A: How Do I Know if My Spouse Is Repentant After a Betrayal?
Thriving Despite a Difficult Marriage by Drs. Chuck and Mike Misja (for the betrayed spouse who stays in a marriage even though their spouse is not doing the work needed to heal)
Follow Tammy at @tammylgustafson
Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy
Mon, 19 Jan 2026 - 50min - 1936 - Masturbation: The No. 1 Question You're Asking Us, #407
There's more to the masturbation conversation than simply "right" or "wrong." Could it be an issue of spiritual maturity for some of us—whether we're married or single? Can it be used in a healthy way in marriage? Join us to have your thinking challenged!
Co-host: Hannah Nitz
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Follow-up resources:
Masturbation: Is It Wrong? (Juli's blog)
What's OK in the Bedroom? (Juli's blog)
Is Masturbation a Sin? You May Be Asking the Wrong Question (Juli's blog)
Follow Hannah Nitz @hannahnitz
Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy
Mon, 12 Jan 2026 - 31min - 1935 - The Love Language that Matters Most with Dr. Gary Chapman, #592
What if knowing your loved one's love language isn't enough?
Kicking off this new year, Juli sits down with Dr. Gary Chapman to unpack how it is that we can know each other's love language and still feel disconnected.
Whether you're married, parenting, or navigating close friendships, this episode will challenge you to love more intentionally—and more effectively.
Guest: Dr. Gary Chapman
Join an Authentic Intimacy Online Book Study!
Pre-order The Love Language That Matters Most by Dr. Gary Chapman, Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott
Mon, 05 Jan 2026 - 42min - 1934 - Sex, Cancel Culture, and the Church: How to Pursue Unity When we Disagree, #520
As we wrap up 2025, this is the conversation God put on Juli's heart.
Juli and Hannah sit down to talk about how we love each other when we disagree. This conversation invites you to rethink how you engage in tough conversations and what it really means to contend for truth with love.
Give to Authentic Intimacy today! Between now and January 31st, your gift will be matched dollar-for-dollar—up to $70,000.
Follow-up Resources:
Until Unity by Francis Chan
Q&A: How do you love people you disagree with?
How We Love Each Other by Dr. Juli Slattery (blog)
Mon, 29 Dec 2025 - 45min - 1933 - Unpacking Emotional Baggage (One of Our Most Popular 2025 Episodes), #568
Grab your Java for one of our most popular episodes of 2025! This conversation with Dr. Dan Allender helped us understand why the stuff we haven't dealt with from childhood eventually shows up—right in the middle of our relationships.
Listen in to find out why you must be willing to explore your own story in order to create safety and repair what's broken.
Guest: Dr. Dan Allender
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Follow-up Resources:
The Deep-Rooted Marriage by Dr. Dan Allender
Follow Dr. Dan at @danballender
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Mon, 22 Dec 2025 - 49min - 1932 - Raising Gender-Confident Kids, #591
How do you raise kids who feel grounded in their God-given identity in a world of confusing messages about gender?
Dr. Kathy Koch and Dr. Jeff Myers join Juli to unpack how to guide youg people with truth, curiosity, and presence. You'll hear how to lay the foundations of identity, respond to cultural pressures, and raise confident boys and girls.
Whether you're a parent, grandparent, or mentor, this conversation offers you practical tools and biblical insight for today's tough questions.
Guests: Dr. Kathy Koch and Dr. Jeff Myers
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Follow-up resoures:
Get your free book at genderconfidentkids.com
Follow Summit Minstrieds at @Summitmn
Follow Dr. Kathy Koch at @celebratekidsinc
Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy
Mon, 15 Dec 2025 - 45min - 1931 - A New Wave of Romance Novels (& Why Women Can't Put Them Down), #590
Women everywhere are turning to spicy romance novels to escape stress, overwhelm, and the monotony of everyday life. Today, Juli talks about why these trending titles feel so intoxicating, how they subtly shape our expectations of intimacy, and why they often leave us feeling disconnected from real relationships.
Instead of escaping into fictional worlds, hear how you can rediscover the adventure and connection God designed for real life.
Co-host: Hannah Nitz
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Follow-up Resources:
What Do I Do With My Sexual Desire? by Dr. Juli Slattery (blog)
Masturbation: Is It Wrong? by Dr. Juli Slattery (blog)
Confessions of a Former Erotica Author by Francine Rivers (blog)
Java with Juli #579: Good Girls, Bad Books: Erotica in Young Adult Fiction?
Follow Hannah Nitz at @hannahnitz
Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy
Resources quoted in this episode:
The Rise of Smut: How TikTok is reviving romance literature.
Thanks to BookTok, Barnes & Noble is opening more stores than ever.
More than Mommy Porn: Why I read smut
Mon, 08 Dec 2025 - 36min - 1930 - Feeling Distant? How to Build Emotional Intimacy in Your Marriage, #589
We're diving into the often overlooked side of sexual intimacy: emotional connection in marriage. Juli and guest Gary Thomas unpack three building blocks of emotional intimacy—emotional availability, sensitive responsiveness, and trust. From understanding male and female brain chemistry to tips on daily connection habits, this conversation gives you tangible ways to create a stronger, healthier marriage.
Guest: Gary Thomas
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Follow-up Resources
Safe Haven Marriage by Arch Hart and Sharon May
A Lifelong Love by Gary Thomas
Follow Gary Thomas at @garythomasbooks
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Mon, 01 Dec 2025 - 54min - 1929 - Have You Given Up on Sexual Pleasure?, #390
What if sexual intimacy became something you look forward to, instead of something you brace yourself for?
Juli sits down with sex therapist Debra Taylor to talk about what we've learned about women's sexuality over the last 30 years. They dive into the myths that still plague marriages, the real factors shaping women's sexual desire, why exhaustion is often the #1 barrier to intimacy, and how couples can pursue healing, connection, and a more meaningful sex life—especially when trauma or mismatched desire is part of the story.
Guest: Dr. Debra Taylor
Giving Tuesday is next week—your gift will be matched, dollar for dollar, up to $70,000!
Follow-up Resources:
The Secrets of Eve by Arch Hart, Debra Taylor, Catherine Hart Weber
Five Things You Need To Know About Women, Orgasm, and Intimacy by Dr. Juli Slattery (blog)
Your Sexual Differences Can Make You Better Lovers by Dr. Juli Slattery (blog)
A Secret for the Guys by Dr. Juli Slattery (blog)
Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy
Mon, 24 Nov 2025 - 44min - 1928 - Holiday Peace 101: How to Be Unoffendable, #588
The holidays should bring peace. Instead, they often bring tension, unresolved hurt, and that one person who knows how to get under your skin.
Today, Juli sits down with author and radio host Brant Hansen to talk about what it means to be "unoffendable"—especially when you're passing the mashed potatoes to someone you struggle to forgive.
Guest: Brant Hansen
Follow-up Resources:
Unoffendable by Brant Hansen
How to Have Tough Conversations by Juli Slattery (blog)
When Your Adult Child Makes Choices You Disagree With by Juli Slattery (blog)
Follow Brant Hansen at @branthansen
Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy
Mon, 17 Nov 2025 - 41min - 1927 - What's Love Poetry Doing in the Bible? (Making Sense of Song of Songs), #587
Lips that drip liquid myrrh, cheeks like beds of spices . . . what on earth is happening here? This week, we're making sense of the metaphors in Song of Songs. Find out how this bizarre (to us) love poetry shows us that God is wholeheartedly, enthusiastically, and unequivocally in favor of out-of-this-world sexual pleasure in marriage.
Guest: Dr. Sandra Glahn
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Follow-up Resources:
What If I Hate Sex? by Juli Slattery (blog)
How to Go from Demand and "Duty Sex" to True Sexual Intimacy by Juli Slattery (blog)
Pre-order the Lifeway CSB Women's Study Bible (with contributions by Dr. Glahn)
Passion Pursuit: What Kind of Love are You Making? with Juli Slattery & Linda Dillow (a 12-week study through the Song of Songs)
Follow Dr. Glahn @sandraglahnauthor
Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy
Mon, 10 Nov 2025 - 29min - 1926 - Don't Try This Alone with Toni Collier, #586
If you've ever felt unseen, disconnected, or tired of pretending you're okay, this episode is for you.
This week, author and speaker Toni Collier shares how healing begins when we stop hiding and start letting others in. Through her own story of heartbreak and redemption, you'll hear encouragement and practical wisdom on finding safe people, breaking toxic patterns, and walking with God and others toward healing.
Guest: Toni Collier
Follow-up Resources:
Don't Try This Alone: How to Build Deep Community When You Want to Hide from Your Pain by Toni Collier
God's Healing Stinks by Juli Slattery (blog)
Why Is Healing So Hard by Juli Slattery (blog)
Q&A: How do I get past my sexual shame? (video)
Follow Toni Collier @tonijcollier
Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy
Mon, 03 Nov 2025 - 43min - 1925 - Should Christians Use Birth Control?, #585
This one's a hot topic—and we know it. 🔥
Juli sits down with Dr. Christopher West to talk about birth control, self-control, and God's design for our bodies. Whether you've wrestled with this teaching or never thought twice about it, this conversation invites you to pause, listen, and seek truth with us.
Guest: Dr. Christopher West
Follow-up Resources:
Our Bodies Tell God's Story by Dr. Christopher West
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Follow Christopher West at @cwestofficial
Mon, 27 Oct 2025 - 1h 04min - 1924 - Does God Care if You Get Botox?, #584
As Jesus followers, is it okay that we want to look younger, thinner, and prettier?
We live in a world obsessed with appearances. Everywhere you look, someone's getting fillers, enhancements, or posting a "perfect" version of themselves online. In this episode, Juli and Hannah take an honest look at these questions—not to hand out a new list of rules, but to invite you into a bigger story.
Co-host: Hannah Nitz
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Find more resources at www.authenticintimacy.com
Mon, 20 Oct 2025 - 34min - 1923 - When You Want Sex but Your Spouse Doesn't, #294
Ever feel like you're the only one in your marriage who wants to have sex?
In most marriages, there is typically one partner with a higher sex drive—and that person is usually trying to convince the other to have more sex. In this episode, Juli and Dr. Corey Allan talk about how to move beyond "I have a need, and you have an obligation" to real sexual intimacy.
Guest: Dr. Corey Allan
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Follow-Up Resources:
God, Sex & Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery
Sexy Marriage Radio with Dr. Corey Allan
Follow Dr. Corey at @sexymarriageradio
Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy
Mon, 13 Oct 2025 - 39min - 1922 - Real Stories of Women in the Bible (Have We Been Reading Them Wrong?), #583
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In this episode, we uncover the real stories of women in the Bible who have been misunderstood, silenced, or abused—and discover the God who saw them. From Bathsheba to Tamar to the woman at the well, we revisit stories where we have blamed or shamed women, when in fact scripture points to God's compassion, justice, and redemption.
⚠️ This episode mentions rape. Please take care when listening.
Guest: Dr. Sandra Glahn
Follow-up resources:
Vindicating the Vixens by Dr. Sandra Glahn
Follow Dr. Glahn on IG @sandraglahnauthor
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Mon, 06 Oct 2025 - 43min - 1921 - Candid Answers to Questions About Sex & Being Single, #338
Instead of shutting it down, what if you could meet your needs for touch, intimacy, and opposite-sex friendships in ways that honor your sexuality? (Spoiler alert: you can.)
If you've wrestled with desire, boundaries, or shame, this candid conversation will help you see the God-given purpose of your sexuality—even when you're single.
P.S. This is one you'll want to share with your single friends.
Guest: Dr. Doug Rosenau
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Follow-up Resources:
Single & Sexually Whole: Soulfully Celebrating the Dance of the Sexes by Dr. Doug Rosenau
Sex & the Single Girl by Dr. Juli Slattery
Mon, 29 Sep 2025 - 42min - 1920 - Surviving the Unthinkable: Rebuilding My Life After Trauma and Loss, #582
In this episode, author Kimberly Haar opens up about surviving a violent abduction and assault at the hands of her ex-husband. With unflinching honesty, she recounts the night her world shattered—and how faith, forgiveness, and Christian therapy helped her rebuild her life.
Guest: Kimberly Haar
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Follow-up Resources:
Healing from Life's Deepest Hurts by Kimberly Haar
Mon, 22 Sep 2025 - 45min - 1919 - Raising Wise Kids in a Sexually Broken World, #581
Are you teaching your kids to follow Jesus—or to just follow the rules?
In this episode, Juli sits down with Matt & Laurie Krieg to talk about how to give our kids a gospel-centered worldview. From early conversations about sexuality and gender to equipping them for a sexually broken world, you'll get practical, faith-filled guidance to help you raise resilient, Christ-focused kids.
Guests: Matt & Laurie Krieg
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Follow-up resources:
Watch Christian Sexuality: Raising Kids hosted by Laurie Krieg
Preorder Raising Wise Kids in a Sexually Broken World by Laurie Krieg
Get Protect Young Eyes, the tool Matt & Laurie mentioned to help protect your kids online.
Mon, 15 Sep 2025 - 56min - 1918 - How To Talk to Your Husband (When All You Want To Do Is Yell at Him), #580
How do you speak life to your husband when all you want to do is yell at him?
Juli sits down for a candid conversation with author Ann Wilson about the transformative power of our words. Hear how Ann discovered that her (helpful!) criticism, even her subtle "sophisticated nagging," wasn't helping her husband at all—in fact, it was hurting both of them.
With real-life stories and practical wisdom, this conversation proves that a few well-chosen words can transform a marriage.
Guest: Ann Wilson (with Dave Wilson)
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Pick up your copy of How To Speak Life to Your Husband When All You Want To Do Is Yell at Him by Ann Wilson
Java with Juli #386 What's the Secret to Getting the Marriage You Want? Go Vertical with Dave & Ann Wilson (a members-only resource)
Mon, 08 Sep 2025 - 1h 02min - 1917 - Sex Therapy: What Is It, and Why Should You Go?, #324
If you struggle with low desire, pain during sex, or difficulty with orgasm and don't know where to go for help, this week's Java with Juli is for you! Juli sits down with certified sex therapist Josh Spurlock to explore what Christian sex therapy really is—and what it isn't.
Josh explains the difference between sex therapy and traditional counseling, the most common challenges he helps couples overcome, and why having a therapist who respects God's design for sexuality matters.
From dispelling myths like "sex is supposed to hurt" to offering hope that orgasm is possible for nearly every woman, this conversation brings biblical wisdom and practical help to some of the most sensitive places in your marriage.
"I wish I would've known this 20 years ago" doesn't have to be your story. Listen in!
Guest: Josh Spurlock, LPC, CST
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Find a Christian sex therapist at MyCounselor.Online.
Mon, 01 Sep 2025 - 32min - 1916 - Why Telling Your Story is Complex, Courageous and Healing, #353
The power of abuse lies in secrecy. The power of healing begins with telling.
In this episode, Tim Hein shares his story of surviving childhood sexual abuse and the journey of healing. From the courage it takes to break the silence, to the importance of being believed, to the steps of recovery that lead to restoration, Tim offers raw honesty and hard-earned wisdom. He reflects on how trauma shaped his life, marriage, and faith—and how choosing to tell your story is ultimately an act of self-love and grace.
This hopeful conversation offers encouragement for survivors and practical insight for those who walk alongside them.
Guest: Tim Hein
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Follow-Up Resources:
Understanding Sexual Abuse: A Guide for Ministry Leaders and Survivors by Tim Hein
Blog: God's Healing Stinks by Dr. Juli Slattery
Video Q&A: Past sexual trauma keeps me from enjoying sex. Is there hope that I can heal?
Blog: How to Choose a Wise Counselor by Dr. Juli Slattery
Mon, 25 Aug 2025 - 45min - 1915 - Good Girls, Bad Books: Erotica in Young Adult Fiction?, #579
Juli and her guests explore the infiltration of erotica and LGBTQ themes into young adult fiction. From board books to bestselling novels, today's literature isn't what it used to be—and parents are the last to know.
You'll hear stories from the frontlines and get practical tools to help you navigate today's fiction. Whether you're raising toddlers or talking with teens, this is a conversation every parent, teacher, and youth leader needs to hear.
Guests: Greta Eskridge and Korrie Johnson
Follow-Up Resources:
It's Time to Talk to Your Kids About Porn: A Parent's Guide to Helping Children and Teens Develop Sexual Integrity by Greta Eskridge
Pulling Back the Shades: Erotica, Intimacy and the Longings of a Woman's Heart by Dr. Juli Slattery and Dannah Gresh
Mon, 18 Aug 2025 - 39min - 1914 - What Your Husband Wishes You Knew About Sex, #126
Have you ever wanted to get inside the mind of your man–just for a day? Now's your chance! Juli and Hannah sit down with pastor and author Chip Ingram to find out what husbands wish their wives knew about sex.
From why men fear rejection more than they let on, to how wives misunderstand their husbands' need for connection, this conversation is filled with eye-opening insight and practical wisdom.
Guest: Chip Ingram, Co-host: Hannah Nitz
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Blog: 5 Healthy Ways to Respond to Your Husband's Porn Problem
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Mon, 11 Aug 2025 - 37min - 1913 - From Head to Heart: Why Love Changes Everything, #578
If loving God (or others) has felt hard or risky, this episode is for you. Join Juli and Hannah to discover why surrendering to love is not weakness—it's the first step toward knowing the One whose love sets you free.
Drawing from scripture and real-life tension in the Church today, they unpack how Christians are called to love in three radical ways: our neighbors, the family of God, and even our enemies.
Co-host: Hannah Nitz
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Mon, 04 Aug 2025 - 35min - 1912 - Single, Married, or Searching: What Are We Really Longing For?, #577
In a culture that elevates marriage, sex, and romance as the ultimate goals, many of us are left feeling unfulfilled or sidelined. Have we unknowingly made idols out of good things? In this episode, Juli unpacks how our hearts can get entangled in false narratives—even within the Church.
Whether you're married, single, or discipling others, you're invited to surrender your desires and expectations to God and find contentment on the other side.
Co-host: Joe Caruso
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Mon, 28 Jul 2025 - 37min - 1911 - Q&A with Jackie Hill Perry and Laurence Koo, #576
Jackie Hill Perry and Laurence Koo tackle some of the most pressing questions surrounding faith, sexuality, and discipleship. No small talk here—just honest answers about the reality of same-sex attraction, the cost of following Jesus, and the beauty of surrender.
Whether you're a pastor, parent, friend, or someone personally navigating LGBT questions, this is a must-hear conversation.
Guests: Jackie Hill Perry & Laurence Koo
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Mon, 21 Jul 2025 - 43min - 1910 - How Knowing Jesus Makes You Whole, Not Perfect, #575
We're moving from shame-based "sexual purity" to sexual integrity—the day-by-day journey of aligning your sexual choices with God's truth. Whether you're single, married, or just asking hard questions, you'll find hope in this episode.
Co-host: Joe Caruso
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Mon, 14 Jul 2025 - 39min - 1909 - Is God Outdated? Surrendering the Story You Believe About Sex, #574
If you've ever wrestled with how to reconcile your faith with your sexuality, or how God's design seems outdated (or even unloving), this is an episode you can't miss. Continuing in our theme of Surrendered Sexuality, Juli exposes the cultural narratives shaping how you think about sexuality — often without realizing it.
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Mon, 07 Jul 2025 - 36min - 1908 - How To Trust God With the Hardest Parts of Your Story, #573
You believe God loves you—but you're afraid to trust Him with your most painful places.
In this conversation, discover why surrender is one of the most courageous acts of trust—and the beginning of real healing. Plus . . . its book launch week! 🎉
Co-host: Joe Caruso
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Mon, 30 Jun 2025 - 28min - 1907 - Surrendered Sexuality: Why God Wants More Than Just Your Behavior, #572
What if God asks you to surrender not because of what He wants to take from you, but because of what He wants to give? Grab your Java and listen in as Juli shares the core message of her new book, "Surrendered Sexuality."
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Mon, 23 Jun 2025 - 36min - 1906 - 4 Identity Traps That Are Keeping You Stuck, #571
Discover why finding your identity in Christ isn't about changing your behavior—it's about knowing Jesus, and letting Him redefine who you are. In this episode, get a sneak peek at what's inside Juli's new book as she shares four identity traps that keep us stuck.
Co-host: Joe Caruso
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Mon, 16 Jun 2025 - 34min - 1905 - The #1 Thing That Defines You (And It's Not What You Think), #570
What's the most important thing about you? Get ready—this episode will challenge what you've always believed about yourself. Listen in as Juli shares why our identity must be rooted in who God says we are—not in our past, our "purity," or our pain.
Co-host: Joe Caruso, @joecaruso06
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Mon, 09 Jun 2025 - 26min - 1904 - God's Design for Sexuality: Teaching Kids to Stand Firm & Love Big, #569
Want to raise faithful and loving kids in an LGBT-affirming world? This episode is one you can't afford to skip. You don't have to choose between truth and love—this conversation will equip you to give your kids both. Grab your Java and join us!
Guest: Rachel Gilson
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Mon, 02 Jun 2025 - 44min - 1903 - Unpacking Emotional Baggage: How to Get to the Root of Conflict in Marriage with Dr. Dan Allender, #568
Turns out, the stuff we haven't dealt with from childhood shows up ... right in the middle of our relationships. Sit down with Juli and Dr. Dan Allender as they discuss why we must be willing to explore our own stories in order to create safety, nurture curiosity, and repair what's broken.
Guest: Dr. Dan Allender
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Java with Juli #169 Your Wounded Heart (AI Members Only)
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Mon, 26 May 2025 - 49min - 1902 - 3 Myths We Believe About "Being One" In Marriage, #567
We spend a lot of our marriages thinking that "becoming one" means, "You'll become more like me. And once you become more like me, then we'll become one." Instead, what if you could say to your spouse, "I can love you just the way you are without having to change you." If that's the kind of oneness you want for your marriage (present or future), grab your Java and pull up a chair with Juli and Hannah.
Co-host: Hannah Nitz (@hannahnitz)
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Mon, 19 May 2025 - 27min - 1901 - AI & Porn: The Attachment Crisis No One Sees Coming, #566
AI is changing the game when it comes to pornography—and it's becoming more addictive and more dehumanizing than ever. This episode explores the impact of modern porn, including its ties to fantasy, gaming, and a distorted view of connection. If you or someone you love is navigating this journey, there is hope!
Guests: Jonathan Daugherty & Joel Warneking
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423 Communities, 423 PodcastMon, 12 May 2025 - 46min - 1900 - How to (Really) Love Your Neighbor with Jada Edwards, Ep. #565
The relationships you struggle with the most? This episode is for those. Juli sits down with Bible teacher Jada Edwards to share stories about the ways they've fallen short when it comes to loving others, and how God has transformed their understanding of what it means to love the way He does. (Spoiler alert: Sometimes the best way to learn love is to start with the person who bugs you the most.)
Guest: Jada Edwards (@jada_edwards)
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Mon, 05 May 2025 - 47min - 1899 - #564 Why People Turn to Porn and How to Break the Cycle
Sadly, wrestling with pornography addiction is increasingly commonplace. But how do people find pornography? And why do they keep going back to it?
In the final of this series revisiting Reclaim, Troy and Melissa Haas of HopeQuest, share their testimony and expertise around pornography addiction, and what it takes to overcome it.
Guests: Troy and Melissa Haas
Troy and Melissa's Website: hopequestgroup.org/
Troy and Melissa's Instagram: @hopequestgroup
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Mon, 28 Apr 2025 - 36min - 1898 - #563 Practical Advice for Talking to Kids About Sex and Culture
Navigating the teenage years has never been easy, whether you're the parent or the child. So as parents, how can you help your teenager or pre-teen have a better experience? What practically can you do to put them in a stronger position to navigate their teenage years safely, with more clarity about God's love for them and design for their sexuality?
Three guests – James Talbert, Josh Miller, and Chelsey Nutgren – join Juli to share some much-needed practical advice for raising surrendered kids in our current cultural moment.
Guests: James Talbert, Josh Miller, Chelsey Nugteren
James' Website: Citizens Akron
Josh's Website: Riverwood Chapel Akron
Website: AXIS.org
Website: Center for Humane Technology
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Blog: Talking to Your Kids About Sex: Why, When, and How
Blog: 5 Reasons You're Not Talking to Your Kids About Sex (and How to Overcome Them)
Blog: Sexual Integrity: The Heart of Sexually Discipling Your Kids
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Mon, 21 Apr 2025 - 46min - 1897 - #562 The Best Way to Stop Fighting in Your Marriage
James 4:1 so famously writes, "What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you?"
It's not surprising that marriage is a hotbed for conflict. When you live so closely with someone else, it's easy to see their flaws, shortcomings, and mistakes in high definition.
So what can you do to stop constantly fighting?
In this special session from Reclaim 2024, Brad Rhoads shares what helped cut fighting and elevate fun in his marriage.
Guests: Brad Rhodes, Grace Marriage
Brad's Website: gracemarriage.com
Brad's Instagram: @grace_marriage
Blog: Forgiveness is Hard, Grace is Harder
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Mon, 14 Apr 2025 - 41min - 1896 - #561 Help for Christian Wives Who Don't Like Sex
We've talked about the fact that many women struggle to 'flip the switch' and enjoy married sex, and we've talked about what might contribute to that. But we haven't talked about what husbands can do to help their wives enjoy sex.
Juli shares a conversation from Gary Thomas' Podcast where she was a panelist alongside Debra Fileta and Belah Rose.
Host: Gary Thomas
Featured Speakers: Dr. Juli Slattery, Debra Fileta, MA, LPC and Belah Rose
Gary's Website: garythomas.com
Gary's Newsletter: garythomasbooks.substack.com
Book: Married Sex by Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta, MA, LPC
Book: Rethinking Sexuality by Dr. Juli Slattery
Book: God, Sex and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery
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Mon, 07 Apr 2025 - 1h 05min - 1895 - #560 Can Biblical Churches be LGBTQ-friendly?
There are so many challenges that come with leading a church well, especially when it comes to how to express their stance on Biblical sexuality. Many want to be a place where people can wrestle with the truth about God and sex and figure things out, while also being sure to prioritize biblical orthodoxy. How can they do both?
Pastor Evan Wickham, from Park Hill Church in San Diego, joins Juli to share lessons he's learned and what his church is doing to lead biblically with clarity and love.
NOTE: We had some technical issues with recording this episode, but wanted to make sure you got to hear a great conversation--thanks for being patient with us!
Guest: Evan Wickham
Park Hill's Instagram: @prkhllchrch
Evan's Instagram: @evanwickham
Park Hill's Website: parkhillsd.church
Blog: Has God Changed His Mind About Sex?
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Mon, 31 Mar 2025 - 53min - 1894 - #559 What if Male Sexuality Is More Complex Than We Think?
Historically, inside and outside the church, male sexuality has been talked about as a purely orgasm-driven experience.
But is it possible we have oversimplified the male sexual experience? What if there's more to the way men think and feel about sex than we've previously considered?
Dr. Corey Allan joins Juli for a very different conversation about male sexuality.
Guest: Dr. Corey Allan
Corey's Website: smr.fm
Corey's Instagram: @sexymarriageradio
Resource: Purity Culture Failed Men Too
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Mon, 24 Mar 2025 - 49min - 1893 - #558 Christians Need To Change The Way They Talk About Married Sex
As we work to change the purity narrative and undo many of its effects, we have to look at some of the continued harm it does to marriages. There's still so much missing in the way Christian couples are taught about marital intimacy.
How can Christians celebrate the gift of sex that God gave in marriage?
Juli shares a conversation she had with the late Dr. Doug Rosenau, where he shared both what is missing and what is needed in the church when it comes to talking about the beauty of sex in marriage.
Guest: Dr. Doug Rosenau, Institute for Sexual Wholeness
Institute for Sexual Wholeness
Book: The Gift of Sex: A Guide to Sexual Fulfillment by Clifford and Joyce Penner
Book: A Celebration of Sex: A Guide to Enjoying God's Gift of Sexual Intimacy by Douglas E. Rosenau
Podcast: #543 How the Old Testament Reveals God's Heart for Women, Sex, and Covenant Love
Transcript
00:00 - Introduction to Christian Sexuality Conversations
03:14 - The Church's Perspective on Sex in Marriage
16:26 - Understanding Female Sexuality and Mutual Pleasure
29:13 - Nuancing Gender and Desire in Sexual Conversations
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Mon, 17 Mar 2025 - 30min - 1892 - #557 Understanding The Harm of Purity Culture and How to Move Forward
One of the biggest criticisms of purity culture is the way it reduced sexuality to a list of do's and don'ts, but there are lots of other reasons millennial men and women report feeling burned by it.
Dr. Camden Morgante, author of "Recovering from Purity Culture", shares some of the harmful narratives that formed the movement, and provides some alternative approaches to discussing sexuality.
Guest: Dr. Camden Morgante
Website: drcamden.com
Instagram: @drcamden
Book: Recovering From Purity Culture by Dr. Camden Morgante
Free Resource: Why You Still Need Boundaries As You Pursue Sexual Integrity
Timestamps
00:00 Introduction to Purity Culture
02:13 Camden's Personal Journey and Professional Insights
05:58 Understanding the Harm of Purity Culture
09:52 Navigating Sexual Awakening in Adolescence
13:58 The Importance of Teaching Values
15:57 Dating Dynamics and Courtship Culture
22:08 Modesty and Its Misinterpretations
25:07 The Role of Patriarchy in Purity Culture
30:54 Steps Towards Healing and Wholeness
39:03 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
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Mon, 10 Mar 2025 - 43min - 1891 - #556 Why We Can't Ignore What Offends Us About Jesus
If questions about sex lead to questions about God, it's important that we know and follow Jesus as He really is.
Rick Lawrence, author of "Editing Jesus", joins Juli to discuss how many American Christians make Jesus into an image other than Himself.
Guest: Rick Lawrence
Rick's Website: ricklawrence.com
Book: Editing Jesus: Confronting the Distorted Faith of the American Church by Rick Lawrence
Guide: "3 Reasons Questions About Sex Lead to Questions about God"
Timestamps
00:00 Understanding God and Sexuality
02:50 The Journey to "Editing Jesus"
06:11 Confronting Cultural Misunderstandings
08:57 The Mud Puddles of Scripture
11:57 The Hard Sayings of Jesus
15:12 Intimacy and Relationship with Jesus
18:02 The Challenge of Self-Centeredness
21:01 Joy vs Happiness in Faith
23:49 The Role of Suffering in Growth
27:01 Practical Steps to Know Jesus
29:52 Conclusion and Resources
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Mon, 03 Mar 2025 - 40min - 1890 - #555 Can You Have A Great Marriage Without Sex? Juli Answers Your Questions
In this special Q&A episode, Juli answers your questions about sex and marriage. You'll hear answers to questions like, why did God make us sexual when it causes so much pain? Does sex matter in marriage? And, is it possible to be too focused on sex in marriage?
Join Juli and Hannah for a brief exploration of good biblical theology on sex and marriage.
Co-host: Hannah Nitz
Hannah's Website: hannahnitz.com
Hannah's Instagram: @hannahnitz
Blog: Overcoming Sexual Shame and Fear in Marriage
Blog: Help! How Much Sex is "Normal" for Married Couples?
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Mon, 24 Feb 2025 - 39min - 1889 - #554 Sex and the Female Body: How to Swap Shame For Celebration
How can women overcome fear and shame around their bodies and embrace the beauty of God's design for sex?
Whether from purity culture, other messages, or poor experiences, many women don't see their bodies and sex as good or beautiful. Francie Winslow, host of the podcast "Heaven in Your Home" went through her own struggle with this, and joins Juli to explain how she is learning to embrace the goodness of God's design.
Guest: Francie Winslow
Website: franciewinslow.com
Instagram: @franciewinslow
Strong Foundation To Starting Well: Claiming A Healthy Vision For Married Sex
Pleasure & Orgasm: Passion & Practicals Of A Wife Receiving Pleasure
Java with Juli: #550 What to Do When Sex is Painful
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Mon, 17 Feb 2025 - 46min - 1888 - #553 Divorce and Separation: How to Know What to Do
When a marriage is in crisis, it can be hard to know what the next step should be. Is divorce the only option? Are there other steps available that couples often miss?
Dr. Greg Smalley, Vice President of Marriage and Family Formation at Focus on the Family, joins Juli to talk about some of the options couples can explore.
Guest: Dr. Greg Smalley
Java with Juli: #489 Thinking About Divorce? You Might Want to Listen to This First
Java with Juli: #519 Why we Need to be Better at Caring for Divorced People in the Church
Blog: Why and How to Pursue a Healing Separation
Blog: Is Divorce the Right Answer?
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Mon, 10 Feb 2025 - 39min - 1887 - #552 When You Want Sex More Than Your Husband Does
It's reported that 20-30% of marriages have a higher-desire wife and lower-desire husband.
This means that while many women may wish their husbands requested less sex, there are also many women who experience the opposite. For the woman who wants her husband to want sex a little more, Sheri Mueller, LCPC, author of "I Want Him to Want Me", joins Juli to share insights, wisdom, and encouragement.
Guest: Sheri Mueller, LCPC
Sheri's Website: marriagetrac.com
Sheri's Instagram: @growthtrac
Book: I Want Him to Want Me by Sheri Mueller, LCPC
Blog: Why Christians Need to Care About Sex
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Mon, 03 Feb 2025 - 32min - 1886 - #551 How Keeping Secrets Keeps Us in Shame
What secret are you keeping?
Many of us keep secrets to protect ourselves. But secrets also hide us from others. They can prevent us from being fully known and fully loved.
Jason VanRuler, author of "Get Past Your Past", joins Juli to share some insights about secrecy and why it's worth us living in the light.
Guest: Jason VanRuler
Website: jasonvr.com
Instagram: @jason.vanruler
Book: Get Past Your Past by Jason VanRuler
Java with Juli: #539 The Impact Of Shame And How To Overcome It
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Mon, 27 Jan 2025 - 41min - 1885 - #550 What to Do When Sex is Painful
Sexual pain makes sex challenging, stressful, and a source of tension rather than a source of pleasure. Sadly, it's a very present reality for many couples, and one that can quickly erode sexual intimacy for years or even decades.
Many women are told to 'watch porn', 'drink wine', or 'relax', with no clear diagnosis found and no real solution given. Today's guest, Jess Setiz, knows this reality all too well. Now a trauma-informed pelvic health practitioner, Jess struggled through painful sex for 8 years before she and her husband were able to find a solution that really worked. She joins Juli to share what she learned, and how she's helping other women enjoy pleasurable, pain-free sex.
Guest: Jess Seitz
Website: painfreeintimacy.com
Instagram: @painfree.intimacy
Java with Juli: #547 How to Talk to Your Spouse About Sex
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Mon, 20 Jan 2025 - 38min - 1884 - #549 What the Latest Research Shows About Porn
How many men and women consume porn on a regular basis?
How common is porn use within the church?
How is porn affecting us?
Nick Stumbo, Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries, unpacks the surprising results of a recent study conducted by Barna on pornography use, and shares potential solutions.
Guest: Nick Stumbo, Pure Desire Ministries
Website: puredesire.org
Instagram: @puredesirepdmi
Beyond the Porn Phenomenon Report
Java with Juli: #542 A Pastor, His Porn Problem, and How His Church Restored Him
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Mon, 13 Jan 2025 - 42min - 1883 - #548 How To Repair Your Relationships
What does it take to have good friendships, healthy family relationships, or a strong marriage?
John Van Epp, creator of the RAM theoretical model, has some strong and well-researched ideas about what it takes to make your relationships stronger than ever.
Guest: Dr. John Van Epp
John's Website: lovethinks.com
Book: Endgame: The Church's Strategic Move to Save Faith and Family in America by John Van Epp and J.P. De Gance
Book: Becoming Better Together by John Van Epp
Website: ramseries.com
Java with Juli: #539 The Impact Of Shame And How To Overcome It
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Mon, 06 Jan 2025 - 1h 00min - 1882 - #547 How to Talk to Your Spouse About Sex
Talking about sex and sexual issues with your spouse can be intimidating. Dr Corey Allan breaks down why discussing sex can be challenging for married couples, and what husbands and wives can do about it.
Corey's Website: smr.fm
Corey's Instagram: @sexymarriageradio
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Java with Juli: #528 The 3 Superpowers Your Sex Life is Missing
Java with Juli: #534 Four Surprising Things Killing Your Wife's Sex Drive
Blog: How To Talk to Your Spouse About Sex
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Mon, 30 Dec 2024 - 48min - 1881 - #546 Answering the Most Popular Questions on Sex, Dating, and Singleness
Juli and Hannah answer your questions about sex and singleness in this week's special Java with Juli episode.
Hannah's Website: hannahnitz.com
Hannah's Instagram: @hannahnitz
Explore resources on Singleness and Dating
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Mon, 23 Dec 2024 - 43min - 1880 - #545 George Barna: Parenting and Discipleship in a Sexually Chaotic World
Raising your kids to love and know Jesus has never been easy, and in a culture saturated with messages about human sexuality, it can feel next to impossible to raise your kids with biblical values and a Christian sexual ethic.
How do we effectively disciple our kids?
Dr. George Barna, founder of the Barna Group and America's foremost faith and culture researcher, joins Juli to talk about his new book, "Raising Spiritual Champions", and what parents can do to equip their kids with a robust faith.
Website: georgebarna.com
Book: Raising Spiritual Champions by Dr. George Barna
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Mon, 16 Dec 2024 - 49min - 1879 - #544 What You Need To Know About Sex, Aging and Menopause
How do you know you've started menopause? Can you get pregnant during menopause? What happens to your sex drive during menopause?
Experts Dr. Debra Taylor, LMFT and Dr. Michael Sytsma, CST, CPS, join Juli to share some crucial information about menopause, options for easing symptoms, and how husbands can be sympathetic supporters at this pivotal moment in a woman's life.
Guests: Dr. Debra Taylor, LMFT and Dr. Michael Sytsma, CST, CPS
Debra's Website: debraltaylortherapy.com
Mike's Website: intimatemarriage.org Mike's Instagram: @buildingintimatemarriages @drsytsma
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Mon, 09 Dec 2024 - 49min - 1878 - #543 How the Old Testament Reveals God's Heart for Women, Sex, and Covenant Love
Was the God of the Old Testament less benevolent than the God of the New Testament? Or are too many of us missing the greater truths and narratives woven into a beautiful, historic text?
Dr. Sandra Richter, author of The Epic of Eden, joins Juli to bring a rich and refreshing perspective to women, God, and the Old Testament.
Guest: Dr. Sandra Richter
Sandra's Website: linktr.ee/sandralynrichter
Sandra's Instagram: @sandralynrichter
Book: The Epic of Eden: A Christian Entry into the Old Testament by Dr. Sandra Richter
Book: Deborah Bible Study Guide plus Streaming Video: Unlikely Heroes and the Book of Judges (Epic of Eden) by Dr. Sandra Richter
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Mon, 02 Dec 2024 - 42min - 1877 - #542 A Pastor, His Porn Problem, and How His Church Restored Him
What should a pastor with a porn problem do? How should his church respond?
Pastor Garrett Kell joins Juli on the podcast to talk about his years-long struggle with porn, coming clean, and how his church responded to his sin.
Garrett's Instagram: @j.garrett.kell
Book: Pure in Heart: Sexual Sin and the Promises of God by J. Garrett Kell
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Mon, 25 Nov 2024 - 44min - 1876 - #541 Teaching Sexuality: Pitfalls, Purity Culture, and the Best Path Forward
Purity culture taught a lot of unhelpful things and left a lot of questions unanswered for believers. While it's clear a new approach is needed, it's challenging to know how to leave legalism behind and teach a true-to-scripture vision of sexuality.
Noah Filipiak, the author of Beyond the Battle, joins Juli to share where he sees a need to educate today's youth, and why he wrote his new book, "Needed Navigation".
Guest: Noah Filipiak
Book: Beyond the Battle by Noah Filipiak
Book: Needed Navigation: A Teen's Guide to His or Her Identity in Christ in a Sex & Porn-Filled World by Noah Filipiak
Java with Juli: #535 What Men Weren't Taught About Sex (with Sam Jolman)
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Mon, 18 Nov 2024 - 56min - 1875 - #540 A Pastoral Perspective on Supporting Those with Gender Dysphoria
Knowing what God's word says about a topic and walking that out in a way that honors Him and dignifies others are two very different things. So how do we move in love and integrity towards friends and loved ones struggling with gender dysphoria?
Pastor Sam Ferguson joins Juli to get practical about loving the hearts of hurting people while staying rooted in God's Word.
Guest: Sam Ferguson
Book: Does God Care About Gender Identity? By Sam Ferguson
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Mon, 11 Nov 2024 - 44min - 1874 - #539 The Impact Of Shame And How To Overcome It
We all experience shame, and for many of us that shame is deeply connected to our sexuality. "Why am I drawn to sinful things?" "Will I ever overcome my addictions?"
When it comes to addressing shame, few of us know how to address it effectively, so Curt Thompson, MD, author of "The Soul of Shame", joins Juli to help explain what it is, where it comes from, and what to do with it.
Guest: Curt Thompson, MD
Curt's website: curtthompsonmd.com
Curt's Instagram: @curtthompsonmd
Book: The Soul of Shame by Curt Thompson, MD
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Mon, 04 Nov 2024 - 44min - 1873 - #538 How I Rebuilt Faith In God After Church Abuse
buse so often warps our sense of self and our sense of who God is. How do you lose the lies and rediscover your faith?
Author and adventurer Ryan George joins Juli to talk about how he disentangled the manipulation and abuse of his past and discovered who God really is.
Guest: Ryan George
Ryan's Website: explorience.org
Ryan's Instagram: @ryplane
Book: Hurt and Healed by the Church by Ryan George
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Mon, 28 Oct 2024 - 44min - 1872 - #537 Can You Be a Christian Feminist?
Why did God design our bodies the way He did? Is our gender more than our bodies? What does it look like to live out our male and femaleness?
Dr. Abigail Favale, author of "The Genesis of Gender", joins Juli to talk about why our bodies matter and how to cultivate a deep and rich theology around sex and gender.
Guest: Dr. Abigail Favale
Abigail's website: abigailfavale.wixsite.com/home
Book: The Genesis of Gender by Dr. Abigail Favale
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Mon, 21 Oct 2024 - 44min - 1871 - #248 Gay Girl, Good God: Jackie Hill Perry's Story
When we struggle with sexual sin, what is God's ultimate hope for us? Is it that we stop our sexual sin? Or does it go beyond that to addressing our sinful nature and hearts, bringing us to a place of submission and surrender?
Jackie Hill Perry shares how God drew her to Himself and brought her out of a lesbian lifestyle.
Guest: Jackie Hill Perry
Book: Gay Girl, Good God by Jackie Hill Perry
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Mon, 14 Oct 2024 - 43min - 1870 - #536 How To Help Your Kids Avoid Identity Traps
How do we root our identities in Christ and help our children do the same? Jonathan Holmes, Executive Director at Fieldstone Counseling, shares with Juli how we can avoid identity traps and teach our kids to do the same.
Guest: Jonathan Holmes
Jonathan's Instagram: @akjonathanholmes
Book: Grounded in Grace: Helping Kids Build Their Identity in Christ by Jonathan Holmes
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Mon, 07 Oct 2024 - 48min - 1869 - #297 Finding Freedom in the Midst of Brokenness
Many men and women experiencing same-sex attraction struggle to imagine they can be loved by God and live a life of real freedom.
Is there a future where you can be free and fulfilled?
Laurence Koo, guest speaker at our upcoming Reclaim Conference, joins Juli to share what freedom looks like when you experience same-sex attraction.
Guest: Laurence Koo
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Mon, 30 Sep 2024 - 43min - 1868 - #535 What Men Weren't Taught About Sex
The vast majority of men didn't get a sufficient sex education. Besides a handful of condoms and advice to not get girls pregnant, wasn't there more they needed to know about women, sex, and romance?
Sam Jolman, LPC, author of "The Sex Talk You Never Got", joins Juli to talk about what men didn't learn about sex growing up.
Guest: Sam Jolman, LPC
Sam's Website: samjolman.com
Sam's Instagram: @samjolman
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Mon, 23 Sep 2024 - 45min - 1867 - #534 Four Surprising Things Killing Your Wife's Sex Drive
Female sexuality is complex, with numerous factors weighing into how a woman may feel about sex at any given time. Obstacles run the gamut, from parenting young kids, to demanding jobs, and sexual pain.
What about the lesser-explored reasons why a woman might not feel excited about sexual intimacy with her husband? Dr. Jennifer Degler joins Juli to share her thoughts and observations.
Guest: Dr. Jennifer Degler
Jennifer's Website: jenniferdegler.com
Jennifer on Instagram: @drjenniferdegler
Blog: Five Things You Need to Know About Women, Orgasm & Intimacy
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Mon, 16 Sep 2024 - 43min - 1866 - #533 Why It Feels Impossible To Beat Your Sin
Are we supposed to battle our sin or surrender it to the one who has already defeated it?
Juli and Hannah discuss the difference between struggle and surrender, the role of the Holy Spirit in our lives, and what happens when we resist God's leading in our lives instead of embracing it.
Co-host: Hannah Nitz
Hannah's Website: hannahnitz.com
Hannah's Instagram: @hannahnitz
Book: Absolute Surrender by Andrew Murray
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Mon, 09 Sep 2024 - 41min - 1865 - #532 How the Church Can Help Stop Domestic Abuse
Studies have shown that churches are often among the first places people turn when they are experiencing domestic abuse, but unfortunately churches aren't always well-informed when it comes to how to help victims.
Chris Moles and Stacey Womack, who work independently in organizations PeaceWorks and Abuse Recovery Ministry Services, join Juli to talk about what churches need to know when it comes to helping abuse victims.
Guests: Chris Moles and Stacey Womack
Chris's Website: chrismoles.org
PeaceWorks Podcast Website:PeaceWorks Podcast
PeaceWorks Live: Peaceworks Live 2024
Stacey's Website: Abuse Recovery Ministry Services
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Mon, 02 Sep 2024 - 52min - 1864 - #531 The Basics of Talking to Kids About Sex
Discussing sexuality with children can be intimidating. As a Christian parent you long to give your kids a faith-based sex education and you want to do so without shame, but often the very first step towards this is the most challenging.
Thankfully, there are more and more experts providing support and guidance in this area. Dr. Julia Sadusky, author of "Start Talking To Your Kids About Sex" and "Talking with Your Teen about Sex", joins Juli to provide wisdom on age-appropriate sex education and give some practical parenting tips for Christian families seeking to engage in healthy conversations with their kids about sex.
Guest: Dr. Julia Sadusky
Julia's Website: juliasadusky.com
Julia's Instagram: @drsadusky
Book: Start Talking To Your Kids About Sex by Julia Sadusky
Book: Talking with Your Teen about Sex by Julia Sadusky
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Mon, 26 Aug 2024 - 52min - 1863 - #530 Sexuality and Smartphones: How to Help Teens Thrive
How do you help your kids develop a healthy relationship with social media, avoid the traps and pitfalls, and learn how to connect with peers safely and authentically?
Pastor James Talbert from Citizens Church Akron joins Juli to share what he's learned through ministry about the good, the bad, and the ugly of social media.
Guest: James Talbert
Website: citizensakron.com
Instagram: @citizensakron
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Mon, 19 Aug 2024 - 44min - 1862 - #529 Modern Dating: How To Do It Well
How do you set the pace for a dating relationship? What kind of expectations should you have? How do you break up with someone without disrespecting them?
Kait and JJ Tomlin from Heart of Dating join Juli to help singles navigate the ups and downs of modern dating.
Guests: Kait and JJ Tomlin
Heart of Dating website: heartofdating.com
Heart of Dating Instagram: @heartofdating @kaitness @jjtomlin
Book: Thank You for Rejecting Me by Kait Warman Tomlin
Podcast: @HeartofDating
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Mon, 12 Aug 2024 - 56min - 1861 - #528 The 3 Superpowers Your Sex Life is Missing
Wondering how to improve your sex life? Beyond the general relationship advice and intimacy tips you might have found online, there's an unpopular argument you might not have heard: that the key to improving your sexual connection lies with you.
Christian Sex Therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma joins Juli to talk about three underrated ways couples can boost their sexual and emotional intimacy.
Guest: Dr. Michael Sytsma
Michael's website: intimatemarriage.org
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Mon, 05 Aug 2024 - 42min - 1860 - #228 (Bonus) Intimacy After Infidelity
In this special re-release, Troy and Melissa Haas of HopeQuest join Juli to answer the question: Can a couple's sexual relationship survive and thrive after infidelity?
While they were serving as missionaries, Troy's long-term addiction to pornography was revealed. As hard as this was on their marriage, Melissa soon realized she had her own issues around sexuality too.
They join Juli to tell her what was wrong, and how God helped them heal and find restoration.
Guests: Troy and Melissa Haas
Instagram: @hopequestgroup
Website: hopequestgroup.org
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Mon, 29 Jul 2024 - 37min - 1859 - #527 Why Friendship, not Romance, is the Greatest Love of All
Have we lost our vision for loving relationships outside the context of marriage and the nuclear family? What was the greatest love Jesus described in the Bible? Was it romantic love, or a different type of sacrificial love?
Rebecca McLaughlin joins Juli to explain how we've minimized friendship and overemphasized sexual relationships.
Guest: Rebecca McLaughlin
Rebecca's Website: rebeccamclaughlin.org
Rebecca's Instagram: @rebecc_mclaugh
Book: "No Greater Love" by Rebecca McLaughlin
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Mon, 22 Jul 2024 - 49min - 1858 - #526 How God Heals Us From Past Abuse and Trauma
Abuse and the trauma it creates run deep. How can survivors begin to move forward?
In this episode we explore a deeply personal journey of recovery from decades of sexual, physical and emotional abuse, discussing how embracing the fatherhood of God can transform your life. Author Jennifer Michelle Greenberg shares how her heavenly father and a healthy marital relationship helped her heal from her painful past.
Guests: Jennifer Michelle Greenberg and Jason Greenberg
Website: Jen's website
Instagram: @jenmgreenberg
Book: "Not Forsaken" by Jennifer Michelle Greenberg
Book: "Defiant Joy" by Jennifer Michelle Greenberg
Java with Juli: #512 Friends Who Hurt Us: How To Recognize Unlikely Sources Of Abuse
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Mon, 15 Jul 2024 - 48min - 1857 - #525 Churches and Porn: What isn't Working and How to Change it
Struggles with pornography are incredibly common within the Church, and the problem isn't going to go away on its own.
What can churches do to be an environment where it is safe for congregants and leaders to admit struggles and get the support they need to overcome them? How can those going into ministry receive sufficient discipleship and care so they can heal from past traumas, win the battle, and walk closely and authentically with Jesus?
Sam Black, Director of Life Change Education at Covenant Eyes, and author of "The Healing Church: What Churches Get Wrong about Pornography and How to Fix It", joins Juli to discuss what the church at large can do to address the issue of pornography.
Guest: Sam Black
Website: thehealingchurch.com
Website: covenanteyes.com
App: The Victory App
Instagram: @covenant.eyes
Book: "The Healing Church: What Churches Get Wrong about Pornography and How to Fix It" by Sam Black
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Mon, 08 Jul 2024 - 51min - 1856 - #524 Her Freedom Journey: A Powerful New Book Helping Women Overcome Porn And Sexual Shame
Introducing "Her Freedom Journey", Juli and Joy's brand new book!
In this very special podcast episode, Joy and Juli talk about the lack of discussion around female sexuality in the Church, and particularly around issues like pornography and masturbation. Joy shares some of her personal story, and together she and Juli talk about the heart behind the new book.
Guest: Dr. Joy Skarka
Website: joyskarka.com
Instagram: @joyskarka
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Mon, 01 Jul 2024 - 40min - 1855 - #523 How Past Family Patterns Impact the Way You Love Today
The way we are brought up has a significant influence on the way we form attachments with others. There are few relationships in which this is as pronounced or as obvious as marriage.
Kay and Milan Yerkovich, authors of the breakthrough book, "How We Love", want to empower couples to become more aware of the ways in which their early years formed them, and to acquire the skills to develop secure attachments for healthy, long-lasting relationships.
Guests: Kay and Milan Yerkovich
Book: How We Love by Kay and Milan Yerkovich
Website: howwelove.com
Instagram: @howwelovebook
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Mon, 24 Jun 2024 - 49min - 1854 - #522 The Paradox of Hope and Brokenness: Jesus, Depression and SSA
In Jesus there is hope for healing and transformation, but that doesn't mean that in this life we won't experience hardship and brokenness.
Brenna Blain, renowned speaker and new author, knows this better than most. Experiencing same-sex attraction and fighting her own mental health battle from around the age of 14, Brenna joins Juli to explain how coming to the very end of herself led her to a place desperate enough to long for God Himself, and not just His healing.
Guest: Brenna Blain
Brenna's Website: brenna-blain.vercel.app/
Brenna's Instagram: @bunonmyhead
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Mon, 17 Jun 2024 - 52min - 1853 - #521 How to Know if Your Marriage can Recover from Betrayal
My spouse keeps acting out, why won't he stop?
Is my wife still keeping secrets?
How do I know if my spouse is truly repentant after betrayal?
Infidelity changes everything, and relationship recovery is extremely challenging to navigate. What signs of change are you supposed to look for? How do you build trust after cheating
Jeremy Smith, LPC and founder of the Marriage Recovery Course joins Juli to discuss the unique approach he's developed to help couples heal their marriages and achieve deep, lasting change as individuals and together.
Guest: Jeremy Smith, LPC
Website: Smith Counseling
Website: Marriage Recovery Course
Java with Juli: #480 How to Heal and Rebuild Trust and Sexual Intimacy After An Affair
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Mon, 10 Jun 2024 - 51min - 1852 - #520 Sex, Cancel Culture and the Church: How to Pursue Unity When we Disagree
Have we the Church lost our way when it comes to living in unity? What would Jesus say about Christian cancel culture and the many threads on social media where people criticize one another in the name of Christianity?
God's Word says, "Behold, how good and pleasant it is when brothers dwell in unity!", and yet, in the modern American Church, unity can often be hard to find.
Join Juli and co-host Hannah Nitz as they discuss:
The need for a biblical perspective of the Church as Christ's bride
How to extend God's mercy, grace, and forgiveness to others and ourselves
How to cultivate a true Christian response to disagreements within the Church
Why maturity in the faith requires engagement with those with whom we disagree
How we can use the churches of the New Testament as a model to work through disagreements and pursue unity
Co-host: Hannah Nitz
Hannah's Website: hannahnitz.com
Hannah's Instagram: @hannahnitz
Book: "Until Unity" by Francis Chan
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Mon, 03 Jun 2024 - 42min - 1851 - #519 Why we Need to be Better at Caring for Divorced People in the Church
When a marriage ends through divorce, it makes sense that the people involved would experience deep grief. So how do we care for those walking through it? What is a Christian approach to divorce-care and helping divorced individuals in the church?
Laura Petherbridge, who suddenly found herself divorced at 29, joins Juli to share her experience as a divorcee, discuss the work she is doing, and explain how the Church can be a place of healing and empathy for those mourning the loss of their marriages.
Guest: Laura Petherbridge
Laura's Website: thesmartstepmom.com
Laura's Instagram: @laurapetherbridge
Java with Juli: #376: What Does God's Word Actually Say About Divorce and Remarriage?
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Mon, 27 May 2024 - 53min - 1850 - #518 Single Sexuality and the Unique Challenges of Widowhood
Widowhood presents profound challenges, with loneliness permeating every aspect of life, including the realm of sexuality. The loss goes beyond losing a life partner; it extends to losing a sexual companion as well.
In this week's Java with Juli, Dr. Carol Tanksley, who became widowed after just seven years of marriage in 2016, delves into the complexities faced by widows, and sheds light on the emotional and psychological hurdles they face. She also shares her personal experience of surrendering her sexuality to God in widowhood.
Guest: Dr. Carol Tanklsey
Carol's website: drcarolministries.com
Carol's Instagram: @drcarolt
Book: Sexpectations by Dr. Carol Tanksley
Book: The Other Half of Church by Michel Hendricks and Jim Wilder
Java with Juli: #407 Masturbation: The No. 1 Question You're Asking Us!
Blog: Masturbation: Is It Wrong?
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Mon, 20 May 2024 - 50min - 1849 - #517 How to Beat Loneliness and Cultivate Deeper Friendships
Why are we all so lonely? Why is it that at a time when we are more connected than ever, many of us find ourselves feeling lonely and isolated?
Jeff Kemp and Juli explore what's making us feel lonely, how to bring more vulnerability and honesty into our relationships, and why understanding our identities is pivotal when it comes to cultivating deep, long-lasting friendships.
Guest: Jeff Kemp
Jeff's Website: jeffkempteam.com
Book: Receive: The Way of Jesus for Men by Jeff Kemp
Book: Level 5 Friendship Playbook (download through the pop up on his website)
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Mon, 13 May 2024 - 40min - 1848 - #516 Don't Skip Foreplay! (and Other Advice from a Christian Sex Therapist)
Married sexuality has its challenges, internal and external, and it can be tempting to quit having sex or step outside the marriage, but there are ways to address some of the issues and overcome them as a couple.
Christian sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma joins Juli to talk about:
How to manage mismatched libidos
Why foreplay matters
What to do if you experience symptoms of Erectile Dysfunction
Why sex is important in marriage
How to re-enter holy sexuality and eroticism after abstaining without it becoming sin
Guest: Dr. Michael Sytsma
Website: Building Intimate Marriages
Instagram: @buildingintimatemarriages
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