Overthinkers Anonymous by Zikoko

In this episode, we question how men and women are often trained, permitted, and expected to express love differently, and what happens when two people are trying to build an equal relationship while carrying different emotional habits, career pressures, and ideas about what commitment should look like.

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In this episode we answer a question that men often hear as an accusation: “Did money change you?”. We talk about how sometimes the answer is yes, how more money can change your access, confidence, relationships, taste, time, dating options, family responsibilities, risks and sense of what is possible.

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In this episode, men who have been to therapy and done deep self‑work talk about what they discovered about themselves.We take jokes like 'therapy is for women' or 'men who talk too much' and connect them to real-life challenges in relationships, career, and self-respect.Join the Overthinkers community: Follow us on Instagram @theoverthinkershq

In this episode, we talk about how men discuss sexual assault, consent, and allegations in group chats vs on the timeline.

We try to figure out where empathy and defensiveness come from, and try to get men to think about their roles as friends, bystanders, and potential perpetrators.

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In this episode, we explore the split between the loud, reckless, funny internet persona and the real man behind it.
We talk about when cruise turns into cruelty, and how online behaviour feeds into real‑life consequences on jobs, relationships, and safety.

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In this episode we talk about how men use gambling, smoking, and other “small” habits as self‑medication instead of talking about fear, shame, and failure.

We unpack real stories and the pressures of being a man as a provider, winner, and unshakeable figure.

In this episode, we talk about how birth order and a man’s relationship with his father quietly scripts his life. Aside jokes about “first son must suffer,” this conversation goes into the real weight of being the first boy: expectations to be strong, provide, “take care of your mother,” and mirror or outperform your father.

We talk about how being first‑born, middle child, or last born, and whether your father was present, distant, harsh, soft, or absent, shapes your choices in career, love, anger, and how you show up as a man.Join the Overthinkers Anonymous community. Follow us on Instagram @theoverthinkershq

In this episode, we talk about the tug‑of‑war between being a “soft life” man and a traditional provider in a harsh Nigerian economy. We discuss group trips, Dutch dates, bride price with real salary numbers, black tax, and mental health. It’s a money episode disguised as vibes.

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In this episode, we talk about sexual health from the male POV, but not the usual “it’s her body, her problem” escape. We talk real pregnancy scares, hilarious but tense stories of prayer and withdrawal gone wrong, and then shift into a clear-eyed conversation about what responsible behaviour looks like for men.Follow us on Instagram @theoverthinkershq to be a part of the Overthinkers Anonymous community.

In this episode, we talk about men’s low engagement with reading, especially fiction, arts, and humanities, and what that means for emotional awareness and adulthood. Instead of shaming “men that don’t read,” this conversation asks why so many guys stop reading anything beyond self‑help, money books, or tech threads, and what needs to change if life now demands more emotional literacy, empathy, and range.

We try to see if men can expand beyond “48 Laws” and hustle PDFs into stories, essays, biographies, and art that help them be better partners, fathers, colleagues, and friends.Join the Overthinkers Anonymous community - follow us on Instagram: @theoverthinkershq

What does it feel like when the man earns less in the relationship? From rent, vacations, and gifts to more subtle moments like meeting her friends and family, this episode sits with the discomfort of men who are carried or are perceived to be, and women who carry them. We explore how money, ego, love, and respect play out when the economic roles are reversed.Join the Overthinkers Anonymous community: Follow us on Instagram @theoverthinkershq

This episode is a deep dive into the “what am I doing with my life?” era, the seasons where men feel behind, broke, or confused about career and money.

Instead of only mocking “hustle culture” and get‑rich‑quick schemes, the episode sits in the tension: family asking “when will you now make money?”, timelines set by social media, and the quiet panic when your peers seem to be levelling up while you’re still experimenting.

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