Relationship Radio: Marriage, Sex, Limerence & Avoiding Divorce

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! God did not tell you to leave your marriage. I need to say that plainly, because I keep hearing the opposite. “I’ve been praying about it.” “I think God is showing me a way out.” “I just don’t feel it anymore, so maybe this is His answer.” Friends, that is not an answer from God. That is sin wearing Christian language. This week a man left a comment on one of my videos. His wife had been praying for months. There was no infidelity. No biblical re...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! He talks to everyone at the party. Then you get in the car and he goes silent. You ask a question. Nothing. You tell him about your day. Nothing. And you start to wonder if every other woman in that room was prettier, or funnier, or more interesting than you. Here's what I've learned after years of this work. Most men don't go quiet because they stopped caring. They go quiet because somewhere along the way, talking stopped feeling safe. In this video, I brea...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! AI can give you brilliant relationship information. It can also give you brilliantly bad advice. And you won't know which one you got until it blows up in your face. Here's a true story. A woman's husband was flying home from a business trip. She wanted to show him how much she loved him. So she asked AI what to do. It gave her a list. She picked one. Lingerie from Victoria's Secret. Rose petals from the garage door, across the floor, up the stairs, do...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Doing nothing feels safe. It isn't. When your marriage starts falling apart, most people freeze. You don't want to make it worse. You don't want the conflict. You don't know what to say. So you wait and hope it settles on its own. It almost never does. You really only have three options when trouble shows up. Do nothing. Get the wrong help. Get the right help. In this video, Dr. Joe Beam walks through all three, and why the second one does more damage than m...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! They didn't make a mistake. A mistake is grabbing the wrong bag at baggage claim. A mistake is an accident you didn't choose. What happened to you was a choice. They knew. And calling it a mistake is just a softer word for something that isn't soft at all. So the anger makes sense. The urge to make them feel a fraction of what you're feeling makes sense. Which brings us to the actual question. How do you punish a spouse who cheated? There are four doors. Bod...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Do cheaters always cheat? You've heard it from your mom. Your best friend. Maybe even a counselor who has never met your spouse. After 30 years of working with marriages in crisis, we can tell you it isn't true. Not for most people. In this video, Dr. Joe Beam breaks down three different kinds of affairs, because the answer to your question changes completely depending on which one you're actually dealing with. The high opportunity, low involvement affai...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Everyone around you is starting to ask the same question. Why are you still trying? Your spouse is checked out. Maybe they've stopped sleeping in the same bed. Maybe they've moved out completely. Maybe there's someone else. And nothing you've tried has moved the needle even an inch. So the people who love you start looking at you sideways. They think you're standing in a graveyard. Here's what they're missing. Standing for your marriage doesn't require certa...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Most marriage advice is recycled fluff. This is not. I sat down with Dr. John Gottman, the man who has spent 40+ years studying what actually makes marriages work and what destroys them. Not opinions. Not theories. Exposed-to-thousands-of-couples-in-a-research-lab findings. And what he told me? Some of it will surprise you. The couples who last, the "masters," aren't the ones who avoid conflict. They're the ones who lean into it without getting d...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! You leave the comments. I read them. This week I'm going straight into the ones that made me stop scrolling. The bold ones. The angry ones. The ones that questioned everything I teach. A woman still carrying a crush from 30 years ago, wondering why it still hurts. A commenter convinced that saving a marriage means forcing two miserable people to stay together. Someone who swears you could never ask your spouse what makes them feel loved and actually get an a...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! You're convinced nobody has ever felt what you're feeling right now. I understand why. But I've sat with hundreds of people who felt the exact same thing. The obsessive pull toward someone who isn't your spouse. The daydreaming that swallows most of your day. The spiral when they don't text back fast enough. The certainty that this one person is the only thing standing between you and a happy life. It has a name. Limerence. It feels like th...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! You made a commitment. But you're not sure you'd make it again. That's where a lot of people are. And in this episode, I answer their questions honestly. One woman has been married 41 years. She loves her husband. She's just never been in love with him. She's asking if it's too late, or if this whole thing was a 41-year mistake. Another asks the thing most separated spouses are afraid to say out loud. If we're both doing fine apart, if we're both becoming ou...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! What to do in the first 72 hours after your marriage crisis: Watch Here 👉 https://bit.ly/4wgrNiq Most conversations with your spouse aren't going anywhere. They're stale. They're tense. Or they've stopped happening altogether. Every time you try to talk, it turns into the same fight. You go in circles. And somehow you land worse than where you started. Here's the shift: stop circling. Start looping. A circle erases. Every fight burns down whatever progress...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Everyone told Scott to walk away. The affair. The lies. The cold distance that built for months. On paper, this was the marriage other people would tell you to end and not feel bad about it. He didn't walk away. Not because he was naive. Not because he excused anything. Because he still loved his wife, and he could not live with never having tried. In this conversation, Scott takes me back to 2019, the year his marriage came apart, and walks me through how i...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! You think it's a sex problem. Most of the time, it isn't. When the spark is gone and one of you is always "too tired," the instinct is to fix the bedroom. Buy something. Try harder. Schedule it. But the bedroom is almost never where the problem started. Up to a third of couples are living in what researchers call low-sex or no-sex marriages. You are not broken. You are not the only ones. And you are not stuck. Here's the part nobody tells you. A fatigued wom...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Watch the video about our 7 step process here: https://bit.ly/3QfOjsj He sent me a message. He said he wants to work on his mistakes. He wants to move forward. He doesn't want our kid raised in a divided home. She read it and printed divorce papers. Her question. Is that even communication? Or is he just asking me to forget everything that happened? Here's where almost everyone gets this wrong. She thinks he's gaslighting her. She keeps a record of eve...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Your spouse wants to leave. Okay. Let them. But here's what nobody tells you. Even if they walk out that door, there's still one person you're left with. You. So you might as well become someone you actually like living with. And here's the secret most people miss. That's also the one thing most likely to bring your spouse back. In this video, I teach you the framework I call the PIES. Four areas of your life. Four ways you become the most attractive version...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Click here to get the Save My Marriage Course or learn about out Couples Workshops: https://bit.ly/4vzEaps You can't control whether your spouse fights for the marriage. You can only control whether you do. That's the hardest part of saving a marriage alone. You're pouring everything in while they've checked out, filed, or already walked away. And every instinct you have right now (the pleading, the chasing, the trying to make them see) is most likely pus...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Click here to watch part 2! https://bit.ly/4dLDJRu Asking your spouse to work on the marriage isn't working. Because they don't want to work on the marriage. That's the whole problem. Stop asking. Nobody wants more counseling. Nobody wants another conversation about "us." Nobody wants to be handed a printout of what's wrong with them on Halloween night. They need a different reason to walk through the door. In this video, Amber and I break down how to actual...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Click here to sign up for coaching → https://marriagehelper.com/coaching ---------------------------------------------------- You don't have to pick between yourself and your marriage. That's the lie that keeps people stuck. Stay and shrink. Leave and grieve. Endure the mistreatment or end the marriage. Those aren't your only options. In this video, Nathan breaks down the difference between pain and damage, and why getting this wrong is the reason so m...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Take The Free Marriage Crisis Assessment Here → https://bit.ly/4nD2kfW ----------------------------------------------------------- I've been teaching this marriage principle for 14 years. And I've been getting it wrong. The principle: your spouse's perception trumps your intention. It's true. But it's only half the story. Because perception can be weaponized. "He scheduled a reminder to send me flowers... if he really loved me, he wouldn't need one." ...

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Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Marriage advice isn't dead. Bad marriage advice is dead. Nobody wants to "just give it time." Nobody wants to be told to punish their spouse into coming back. Nobody wants a counselor telling them to have a revenge affair to "even the score." (Yes, real counselors actually say that.) You want your marriage back. With your dignity intact. In this video, Dr. Joe Beam walks through the 3 things you HAVE to do before you start standing for your marriage. Decide ...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Book a call with someone on our team → https://bit.ly/4udufow ---------------------------------------------------------------- Your marriage didn't fall apart overnight. It won't be saved overnight either. But it can be saved. Most people in a marriage crisis do the wrong things. Not because they're bad people, but because they're in pain. They beg. They plead. They give ultimatums. They go silent and call it "boundaries." They follow every piece of ba...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Take our free marriage crisis assessment → https://bit.ly/4mKItuy ------------------------------------------------------------ If your spouse is leaving, your instinct is to stop them. Block the exit. Monitor their phone. Guilt them into staying. That doesn't work. In this video, Marriage Helper coach Nathan shares a story about his daughter Valerie, and how it perfectly illustrates what most people get wrong when trying to save their marriage. You're ...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Click here to learn about our Marriage Saving Workshop Program 👉 https://bit.ly/485yuKm --------------------------------------------------------------------- Standing for your marriage isn't being a doormat. Nobody wants to beg. Nobody wants to plead. Nobody wants to text their husband's affair partner tips on how to cure his headache. Yes. That actually happened. To a friend of mine. She chose misery over being alone. She ended up in the hospital. Her house...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Get Instant Access To The Marriage Crisis Assessment Here → https://bit.ly/4eee45H Most people whose spouse cheated are asking the wrong question: "Why did they do it?" The better question right now is: "What are they feeling now that it's over?" In this video, Marriage Helper breaks down the three emotional states a cheating spouse typically falls into after the affair ends, and what each one means for the future of your marriage. The spouse who feels no...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Is pornography sabotaging your sex life and your marriage? In this video, Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper, breaks down the three ways pornography creates unrealistic expectations, leads to sexual dysfunction, and destroys real intimacy in marriage. Whether it is visual pornography, erotic novels, or the shows you watch, the effects on your relationship and sex life are more damaging than most people realize. If you want a better sex life an...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Are you stuck in the same relationship patterns and wondering why nothing ever changes? In this video, Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper, breaks down what most people get wrong about marriage and relationships, and what you actually need to do to turn things around. Drawing from a powerful biblical story and real-life experience, Dr. Holmes shares why real relationship change starts with you, why getting uncomfortable is the key to a thriving ...

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Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Are you in panic mode because your spouse wants to leave, has moved out, or is talking about divorce? Your instincts are probably telling you to do whatever it takes to pull them back—but that might be pushing them further away. 📖 Click here to download 10 Texts To Reconnect Without Pressure: https://bit.ly/4b1Yfh6 How do you get a spouse to stay? You cannot force or manipulate someone into staying in a marriage. To truly save your relationship, you must s...

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Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! You’ve probably heard the classic advice: "If you want to save your marriage, you have to work on yourself." But what if that’s only half the truth? In this video, Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes and Marriage Helper COO Marcos Silva reveal why focusing purely on self-improvement can actually be a trap that pushes your spouse further away. While working on your PIES (Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual attraction) is a vital first step, doing it solely...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Are you living in a sexless marriage? Sexual rejection is one of the most painful experiences a spouse can face. It destroys self-esteem, creates a "lonely" atmosphere in the home, and often leads to a cycle of pressure and withdrawal. But most of the advice out there—like "just communicate better" or "make a list"—doesn't actually work. Why? Because sexual frustration is rarely just about the sex itself. In this deep dive, Dr. Joe Beam unpacks what actual...

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Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! If your marriage has gone from "good" to "bad" and you’re terrified that you’ll be divorced in the next six months, you are not alone. Most people think it takes two to save a marriage—but at Marriage Helper, we’ve spent 30 years proving that one spouse can change the entire dynamic of a relationship. In this video, Kimberly Beam Holmes breaks down the fundamental process that has helped thousands of couples—even those in "hopeless" situations—turn things a...

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Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! In today's Marriage Helper LIVE, Dr. Joe and Dr. Kimberly explain why focusing on the affair partner doesn't actually matter, and take live questions from callers. This show also features segments from Micheal Felker and Nathan Grounds. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marr...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Why Confronting Your Spouse's Limerence Always Backfires (And What to Do Instead) If you’ve discovered your spouse is in an affair, your first instinct is likely to confront them, expose the truth, and demand they "wake up." But as many heartbroken spouses discover, this almost always pushes them further away. Why? In today’s video, Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes and Dr. Joe Beam explain the psychological "brain takeover" known as Limerence. When a spouse is in t...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Does it feel like you are living with a ghost? Your spouse comes home, eats dinner, and sleeps in the same bed, but they aren't really there. If you are dealing with a spouse who is indifferent, numb, or emotionally walled off, you are likely asking yourself: "Can a marriage like this be saved when I'm the only one trying?" In this video, Coach Nathan from Marriage Helper explains exactly why your spouse has checked out and how to get them to check back in—w...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! If you are watching this, it’s likely your wife wants a divorce, and you want to save the marriage. If you are willing to take responsibility and step up as a leader, not a dictator, but a true husband and father, this video is for you. In this video, Dr. Joe Beam breaks down the psychology behind why women leave and introduces the concept of the "Push" and the "Pull." It isn't about magic bullets; it's about understanding the deep-seated "whys" behind her ...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Does moving out save your marriage or is it the first step toward divorce? If you are desperate for peace and thinking about packing your bags, you need to watch this video first. 👉 Get the FREE "10 Text Messages to Reconnect" Guide here: https://bit.ly/4b1Yfh6 Does separation save a marriage? According to research, 80% of couples who separate ultimately end up divorcing. While moving out provides temporary relief and peace, it often creates a "false posit...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Is there a timeline for saving a marriage? If you are asking "How long will it take to save my marriage?" the honest answer is that there is no magic formula or set number of days. It relies entirely on consistency over time. In this video, Dr. Joe Beam explains that saving a relationship is not an immediate event. It is a process of changing the negative narrative your spouse has about you by consistently doing the right things, even when it feels like it i...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Learn how they saved their marriage after an affair and addiction, even after 25 years of what looked like a "perfect" life. In this raw and honest interview, Aaron and Rena Garcia open up about the secret pornography addiction and infidelity that nearly destroyed their family, and the specific steps they took to rebuild trust from the ground up. If you are asking, "Can a marriage survive infidelity?" or "Is it possible to heal from betrayal trauma?" this vi...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Did you know that divorce filings increase by 30% in January? It’s not a coincidence. The holidays don't just magnify relationship problems; they market a perfection that no marriage actually has. If you are dreading this Christmas because you feel like you are walking on eggshells, you are not alone. In this video, I’m sharing the exact "Stop The Chaos" plan you need to implement next week. This isn't about fixing your whole marriage in one day. It is about...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! The shocking termination of Michigan head coach Sherrone Moore has dominated the headlines, but beneath the sports scandal lies a profound psychological phenomenon: Limerence. In this video, we break down the reports from USA Today and Sports Illustrated to analyze the behavior leading up to Moore’s firing. From the alleged years-long affair to the reports of stalking and the "kitchen scissors" incident, we look at these events through the lens of relationsh...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! This episode is from the Marriage Helper LIVE Call-In Show from December 10, 2025. Marriage Helper LIVE airs live on YouTube, every Wednesday at Noon CT. To listen in or have a chance to call into the show, you can head to https://youtube.com/@marriagehelper If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Getting served divorce papers can feel like the final blow, but it doesn’t have to be the end of your marriage. If you’ve just received the filing, you are likely feeling panic, fear, and anger. In this video, we break down exactly what you need to do immediately to stay sane, protect yourself, and maximize your chances of saving your marriage. Just because your spouse filed for divorce does not mean it is over. Divorce is an event, not the end of the story...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Have you lost those feelings of attraction? Are you wondering if it’s even possible to fall back in love with your husband or wife after years of distance, hurt, or "storms" in life? In this video, Kimberly Beam Holmes shares the roadmap for How To Fall In Love With Your Spouse Again In 2026. Even if your marriage feels like it is on the brink of divorce, or you feel completely numb, you can get those feelings back. Don't throw your marriage away yet. The ...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Can your marriage be saved after an affair, separation, or even after divorce papers have been filed? Is there a point where a relationship is truly "too far gone"? In this video, Kimberly from Marriage Helper reveals the shocking truth about which marriages actually won't be saved. The answer might surprise you—it has nothing to do with how much time has passed, the severity of the infidelity, or legal proceedings. Instead, it comes down to three specific ...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Is your behavior accidentally destroying your marriage? In this video, Kimberly Beam Holmes reveals one of the top predictors of divorce—second only to affairs—that most people don't even realize they are doing. Control is a silent relationship killer. You might think you are just trying to "help" your spouse, protect your family, or make sure things are done "the right way." But to your partner, it feels like intrusion, intimidation, and a lack of trust. At...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Are you being gaslighted in your marriage, or is something else going on beneath the surface? In this video, Kimberly Beam Holmes breaks down what gaslighting actually is, how to know if it’s truly happening, and when a painful pattern in your marriage might be caused by miscommunication, different backgrounds, fear, or unhealed wounds—not intentional manipulation. If you’ve ever felt confused, crazy, or like you’re losing your grip on reality during argumen...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! If you’re a woman who makes more money than your husband, this video is for you. This dynamic is becoming more and more common—but many couples are struggling silently with the tension it can create. The goal of this video is not to shame success, ambition, or calling. It’s to help you protect your marriage while you continue pursuing the work you feel called to do. I’ve been the primary income earner in my own marriage for nearly a decade. I know the pres...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! If your wife is the primary income earner in your home, this video is for you. More and more marriages today are experiencing a shift in traditional roles — and many husbands aren’t sure how to navigate it. You may fully support your wife’s success and still find yourself wrestling with confidence, identity, or how to “lead” in the relationship without competing with her. In this video, Kimberly Beam Holmes shares: Why this role reversal can create unexpec...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! When your marriage feels like it’s falling apart, anxiety can take over your mind—and your marriage. In this video, Kimberly Beam Holmes shares 3 powerful ways to overcome anxiety during a marriage crisis so you can think clearly, stay grounded, and begin the process of saving your relationship. Drawing from her personal experience with lifelong anxiety and her decades of helping people in crisis through Marriage Helper, Kimberly explains how fear, control, ...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! How can the person who was once in love with you now be in love with someone else? Why is s/he no longer the person that you fell in love with? Why has s/he become someone that you hardly recognize? How can s/he seem to no longer care about me? About our children? About our life together? The psychological word for it is limerence. That word describes people who are "madly in love" and all that goes with it. In this program, Joe Beam explains in detail w...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! In this segment, taken from our live show, Dr. Joe and Kimberly talk with a wife who wants to reconcile the marriage but is encountering some resistance... her husband is still sleeping with his affair partners. Dr. Joe and Kimberly give insight into how to start exploring reconciliation, even when your spouse might not be willing. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriag...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Do you ever wonder how to feel more alive in your marriage again? That spark you felt in the beginning doesn’t have to fade forever. In this video, Kimberly Beam Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper, shares 5 proven ways to reignite passion, intimacy, and connection with your spouse so you can feel fully alive in your relationship again. Research shows that “being madly in love” is often just limerence—a temporary stage fueled by brain chemistry. But real, lasting...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Are you the one fighting to save your marriage while your spouse seems ready to give up? Maybe they’ve grown emotionally distant, controlling, or even unfaithful. You feel the weight of the marriage on your shoulders, asking: “Why me? Why do I have to do all the work?” In this video, Dr. Joe Beam reveals the hard truth about what it takes to save a marriage when your spouse wants a divorce. You’ll learn: Why focusing on your spouse’s mistakes often pushes th...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Divorce is never easy. But when kids are involved, the stakes are even higher. Before making the life-changing decision to divorce, there are five essential considerations every parent needs to think about. In this video, Kimberly shares heartbreaking real-life stories and powerful research that reveal the true impact divorce can have on children. You’ll learn: ✅ Why children’s greatest fear is losing a parent—and why divorce can feel even harder for them ...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Do you feel something is “off” in your marriage but can’t quite explain it? The truth is, the biggest warning signs of a troubled marriage aren’t always obvious. In this video, Dr. Joe Beam reveals 3 hidden signs your marriage is in trouble—and why couples often miss them until it’s too late. After working with thousands of couples over 30+ years, Dr. Beam explains: ✅ Why “we never saw this coming” is more common than you think ✅ The dangers of e...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Have you heard of the so-called “1000 Mile Rule”? It’s a trend spreading online that suggests if you’re more than a thousand miles away from your spouse, you can cheat guilt-free. Sounds shocking, right? In this video, Kimberly Beam Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper, explains why this idea is destructive and why you should avoid it at all costs. For over 30 years, Marriage Helper has worked with more than 25,000 couples, helping them restore their marriages and...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Are you struggling to save your marriage and wondering where to begin? In this video, I’ll walk you through 5 mindset shifts to save your marriage—practical and proven ways to reframe how you think, act, and grow in your relationship. These five shifts cover the essential questions of who, what, when, where, and why. You’ll discover: Why doing this for yourself (not just your spouse) is criticalWhat strategies actually work to rebuild connection instead of q...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Are you noticing patterns in the way you and your spouse talk to each other that leave you feeling distant, frustrated, or unheard? In this video, we’ll unpack 3 signs of unhealthy communication in your marriage—and what you can do to stop them before they cause lasting damage. Drawing from leading research and years of experience at Marriage Helper, we’ll walk through: ✅ Disrespectful communication—why criticism, belittling, or eye-rolling can erode t...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! You don’t have to change who you are to look and feel your best. In this video, we’ll talk about how you can become more physically attractive without changing your personality, values, or authenticity. You’ll learn simple, practical ways to enhance your natural appearance—things anyone can do to boost confidence, posture, and energy—while still staying true to yourself. We’ll cover tips for improving your style, taking care of your body, and showing up in a...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! If your marriage is falling apart, you’re paying a high price—and it’s called the Pain Tax. In just minutes, Dr. Joe Beam will show you the simple Push-Pull Principle that can stop the hurt, break the cycle, and start drawing your spouse back toward you. This isn’t theory—it’s the same principle that’s helped thousands of couples around the world turn their marriages around. Whether it’s infidelity, addiction, disconnection, or constant fighting, this could...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! You betrayed your spouse—and now you're living with the crushing weight of guilt, fear, and regret. Whether it was a one-time mistake or a long-term affair, you're asking the one question that keeps you up at night: Can I save my marriage... and if so, how? In this video, Dr. Joe Beam—founder of Marriage Helper and a man who has personally walked the painful path of infidelity—shares the exact steps thousands of people have taken to rebuild trust, restore co...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Your spouse cheated—but now they want to come back. Can you ever truly forgive? Can passion and intimacy return after betrayal? In this powerful video, Dr. Joe Beam walks you through the raw emotions, fears, and questions that surface when you decide to take your spouse back after an affair. You’ll discover: Why fear and anger can affect your sex life after infidelityHow to avoid “spectatoring” and comparisons that destroy intimacyThe critical role of forgiv...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Have you found yourself in love with someone who isn’t your spouse? You feel alive, seen, deeply connected—and yet... you’re married. This intense, overwhelming emotion has a name: limerence. In this video, Dr. Joe Beam speaks directly to the heart of what you’re experiencing. He explains the science, the soul connection, and the emotional rollercoaster that makes it feel so real—because it is real. But it’s also something that won’t last forever. 🎯 You’ll...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Have you ever heard the devastating words, "I love you, but I'm not in love with you"? This phrase can feel like an emotional earthquake, like something broke inside your chest, shattering the life you knew and leaving you stunned and confused. If you've heard it, you are not alone, you are not crazy, and this is NOT the end of your marriage. When your spouse says "I love you, but I'm not in love with you," they are not saying they hate you or have stopped ...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Are you living with your spouse but feel like you're just living with a roommate? Do conversations revolve only around finances, kids, and chores, rather than the fun and passion you once shared? Many couples experience what's called a "companionate relationship," where intimacy and commitment are present, but the crucial elements of passion and eroticism have faded, often leaving one spouse yearning for more oneness and excitement. This often happens when d...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! You want to save your marriage, but your spouse doesn’t seem interested. What now? In this powerful episode, Kimberly Beam Holmes and Dr. Joe Beam walk you step-by-step through how to approach your spouse about working on the marriage—even if they’ve checked out, are asking for a divorce, or are involved with someone else. You’ll learn how to: Overcome the fear of asking your spouse for helpAvoid common mistakes that push your spouse further awayUse a proven...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! What happens to a marriage when life doesn’t just get hard—it breaks you? In this deeply honest and emotional conversation, Cassia shares her and Cory’s journey of staying married while raising a medically fragile child, navigating grief after miscarriages, and confronting the realities of long-term caregiving. From ambulance rides every three weeks to learning how to love when there’s no guarantee of being loved back, their story is one of resilience, raw ...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! This is one of the wildest marriage stories we’ve ever seen. When Elisa walked into our couples workshop, she said, “I would rather die than stay married to this man.” She had already had four affairs. Marcos, her husband, had just retaliated with one of his own. They had already divorced once, remarried, and were still stuck in a cycle of resentment, control, and disconnection. By all accounts, their marriage was over. But what happened next turned every...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! In today’s episode, we tackle one of the most emotionally charged topics in relationships: narcissism. Whether your spouse has called you a narcissist, or you're wondering if they might be one, this conversation cuts through the confusion and cultural noise. Kimberly Beam Holmes is joined by Meredith Ball, a Marriage Helper certified coach, to unpack the real meaning of narcissism—what it is, what it isn’t, and why it's become the go-to label in so many hur...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! When your marriage feels like it's falling apart, it's tempting to search for answers—especially ones that explain your spouse’s behavior. Maybe you’ve wondered, "Could they be a narcissist?" or "Do they have bipolar disorder?" In this episode, Kimberly Beam Holmes is joined by Marriage Helper coach and counselor Meredith Ball to unpack the dangers of diagnosing your spouse. You’ll learn why it’s natural to want clarity, but how labeling your spouse can back...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! He did everything “right”—worked hard, stayed loyal, provided for his family. But when his wife left him for his own brother… he didn’t fight. He tried to understand. He felt bad for them. And somehow, he believed that was love. In this real-life conversation from Marriage Helper, we unpack the painful truth behind passive behavior in marriage—and how it often pushes a spouse away more than anything else. This isn't just a story of betrayal. It’s a wake-up ...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! What do you say when a friend confesses they’re struggling with pornography? Whether they admitted it directly or you discovered it by accident, knowing how to respond can feel overwhelming. In this honest and compassionate episode, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes guide you through how to handle these conversations with empathy, truth, and clarity. They discuss the spiritual, relational, and physiological effects of pornography and how to walk with so...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! You've probably heard people talk about "manifesting" their ideal relationship or saving their marriage just by thinking positive thoughts. But when your marriage is in crisis, hope alone isn’t a strategy. In this episode, Kimberly Beam Holmes—CEO of Marriage Helper and trained performance psychologist—breaks down why traditional manifestation falls short and what actually works when your relationship feels like it’s falling apart. You'll discover 3 researc...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! What happens when a well-meaning husband provides, protects, and leads—yet still finds himself blindsided by his wife's decision to walk away? In this powerful episode, Dr. Joe Beam and Nathan McIntyre unpack a real-life story of a man who thought he was doing everything “right” in his marriage… until it all fell apart. You'll hear: ✔ Why many spouses feel emotionally abandoned even when their physical needs are met ✔ How "doing the right thing" can still c...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! 🔎 What Does Research Say About Marital Satisfaction Among Christians? | Marriage Helper + Barna Study In this powerful episode, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes dive deep into the fascinating findings from a 2021 survey conducted by Barna Research Group in partnership with Marriage Helper. ➡️ What percentage of Christian couples are truly satisfied in their marriages? ➡️ How does practicing faith impact marital happiness? ➡️ Why do men often report hi...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! The silent treatment isn't always intentional. When your spouse emotionally checks out, it creates a painful void that can feel impossible to bridge. Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes tackle this common marriage struggle with uncommon honesty, revealing the hidden causes behind emotional disconnection. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL W...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Research shows that four specific communication behaviors during arguments can predict divorce with 80-90% accuracy, while eliminating these behaviors can dramatically improve marriage success. • The four horsemen of relationship conflict are defensiveness, criticism, contempt, and stonewalling • Defensiveness deflects blame and responsibility, creating a downward spiral in communication • Criticism attacks a partner's character rather than addressing speci...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Ever found yourself wondering why your spouse doesn't just "get it" without you having to say anything? You're not alone. Marriage communication breaks down in predictable patterns, but understanding these patterns is your first step toward meaningful change. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! What happens in a marriage when one spouse says those three devastating words: "I hate you"? This powerful exploration takes us deep into the psychology of hatred in intimate relationships, revealing surprising truths about how love and hate function as parallels rather than opposites. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM:&nb...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! What happens in a marriage when one spouse says those three devastating words: "I hate you"? This powerful exploration takes us deep into the psychology of hatred in intimate relationships, revealing surprising truths about how love and hate function as parallels rather than opposites. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM:&nb...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! There's a lot of bad marriage advice out there. Control and manipulation tactics. Tracking, spying and hacking your spouses devices. Having an open marriage. Watching pornography together. We've heard counselors, therapists and other marriage "experts" tell people to do these things because it can lead to the reconciliation of the marriage. THIS IS HORRIBLE ADVICE. After decades of working with thousands of couples, we know what works and what does ...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! What happens when a marriage suffers from both of the top relationship killers – affairs and controlling behavior? Marcos and Elisa take us through their raw, unfiltered journey of shattered trust and the painstaking process of rebuilding it from the ground up. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! If you’ve ever felt your relationship is struggling due to miscommunication, this episode is for you. Join us as we explore the compelling concept of SMART Contact™—a vital communication strategy designed to bring couples closer, even during turbulent times. We delve into the intricate balance of pushes and pulls in conversations, revealing how understanding these dynamics can transform your communication and foster deeper connections. If you're struggling i...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Is your marriage at risk because of limerence? In this episode of Relationship Radio, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes break down the science behind limerence—what it is, how it differs from romantic love, and why it can be so destructive in marriage. You’ll learn: ✔️ The key differences between limerence and true love ✔️ How to tell if you or your spouse are experiencing limerence ✔️ A powerful tool to assess if boundaries have been crossed ✔️ What to...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! When you don't agree with your spouse, it can be incredibly frustrating. It might be something where you absolutely HAVE TO come to some sort of resolution, but you are both hard set in your views. Handling divisive topics in marriage is extremely important. On one hand, you want to be able to learn how to have healthy compromise with one another. On the other hand, you don't want to go against your own beliefs and values or to become a doormat for your spo...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Can a single decision shake the very foundations of your well-being? Join me, Dr. Joe Beam, as we navigate the turbulent waters of marital distress and explore its profound impacts on our lives. This episode uncovers the intellectual, emotional, physical, and spiritual challenges that arise when relationships are in crisis. We'll confront how panic and fear can lead to neglecting self-care and clouding our judgment. Through personal stories and insights, we ...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! What happens when you discover your spouse is in love with someone else? Dr. Joe Beam tackles this heart-wrenching scenario on Relationship Radio by guiding listeners through the emotional labyrinth that ensues. From the initial shock and pain to grappling with a crushed ego and questioning one's reality, Dr. Beam offers a path forward by encouraging acceptance—not to be confused with agreement—of your partner's feelings. This acceptance fosters understandin...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Feeling like your marriage is over? Discover the transformative power of self-reflection and respect! You have the power to change everything. What will your first step be? Join the new Save My Marriage Program! marriagehelper.com/membership If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https:...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! What are the top reasons divorces occur in the United States? Studies show that 50% of all marriages will end in divorce, while 41% of first marriages will end the same way. So what are the underlying reasons, and what can you do to fix that? Find out on today's episode! If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! The episode delves into the idea that happiness is a choice, especially after experiencing life's hardships. Dr. Joe Beam shares personal stories and practical insights about interpreting events positively, whether dealing with serious illness or relationship difficulties. • Exploring the question of happiness after trauma • The significance of personal perspective on happiness • The power of interpreting life's challenges positively • Per...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Trust can be a fragile and complex component of any relationship, as many of us have discovered through personal experience. Imagine rebuilding your relationship after a significant breach of trust; it’s not impossible, but it requires effort and understanding. Today, we unravel the hidden layers of betrayal, from infidelity to financial deceit, and the emotional upheaval that follows. By sharing examples of these betrayals and exploring the motivations behi...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! In this episode, Dr. Joe Beam answers questions listeners have submitted to the show. We cover: - The Valley - Limerence -Commitment - & Much more Tune in and share this episode with a friend or family member you think might need to hear it! If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: h...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! This episode was taken from our 2nd Annual Very Merry Marriage Helper Christmas. Merry Christmas from all of us at Marriage Helper. We hope you leave with a little more hope after listening to this episode ❤️🎄 If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram...

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! What are the most important things to look for when searching for marriage help? Is it experience? Good reviews? A high success rate? The answer is yes… to ALL of those things. But success rate is a more nuanced metric. HOW the success rate is calculated matters just as much as the actual success rate, and that’s what we talk about on today’s episode. In this episode, Kimberly is joined by Dr. John Hill, Director of Research at Marriage Helper. Dr. Hill an...