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- 336 - Mastering Nerves
Before testifying in a high-stakes case, a theorist and his coach swap horror stories about their nerves hijacking them and the lessons they learned.
Celebrate Incremental ImprovementWrite Happy EndingsIgnore Your Nerves
Tom’s Top Three Ideas for Mastering Nerves:Here is the clip of Emma Stone battling her anxiety.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VkN0sPQ76E0
Email Tom and tell him he’s crazy here.
For Coaches! 2 Resources!
1. Coaching Stories Podcast
2. Executive Coaching Special Interest Group sponsored by ICF-LA. CCE’s given!Tom’s conversations with Neha Singh on “Bridge to Leadership” podcast are hereand here.
Please help yourself to the free resources in our Essential Tools bin.
This episode lives in the podcast archive in these three categories:Five episodes to help conquer your people pleasing tendencies:
Grab a free transcript of the episode here.
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Wed, 03 Apr 2024 - 335 - Conquering People Pleasing
Angry at himself for continually putting others’ needs before his own, a leader turns to his coach for tools. He learns a new way to think and a behavior to try.
Be in touch with Tom here.
Listen to Tom’s conversations with Neha on “Bridge to Leadership” podcast here and here.
Our Essential Tools bin has free resources to help you build your look and sound of leadership.
G.W. Bailey’s imdb page is here.This episode lives in the podcast archive in these three categories:
Five episodes to help conquer your people pleasing tendencies:
Grab a free transcript of the show here.
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From Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership, thanks!Wed, 06 Mar 2024 - 334 - Finding Management Courage
A vice president, struggling to control his team of artists, learns a technique for managing bad behavior from his coach. He likes it so much, he uses it with his high performers, too.
The tool described in this episode is simple to understand but may take a bit of courage to implement.
Courage can be taught. Brené Brown created her Dare to Lead course for exactly that purpose. Ready to build your courage? Reach out to us here.
Find more resources to build your skills in the podcast archive. Search these categories:
AssertivenessFive episodes you might listen to are:
#47 Discussing Difficult Behaviors
#18 Holding People Accountable
#138 Managing Disruptive Executives
#127 Managing Performance: Up or Out
A free infographic for Sorting & Labeling is in our Essential Tools bin. Help yourself to that and all the others.
Thinking about developing someone in your organization, or yourself? Reach out to Tom here.
Grab a free transcript of the show here.
Our monthly Essential News email provides links to even more resources. Sign up here.From Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership, thanks!
#podcast #managingbadbehavior #leadershippodcast #leadershipchallenges #behaviormanagement #leadershiptips #leadershipdevelopmentWed, 31 Jan 2024 - 333 - 5 Strategies for Dealing with Narcissists
A leader is so furious with his self-absorbed boss, he considers quitting the company. He asks his coach to help him manage himself and defuse his triggers.
In addition to the five strategies Tom talks about in this episode, there are lots more strategies in his conversation with Dave Stachowiak on Coaching For Leaders “How to Deal with a Boss Who’s a Jerk.”
Tom’s wide-ranging conversation with Josh Dittmer can be found here.
Free tools to support your professional development are in our Essential Tools bin. Please help yourself.
Ready to explore coaching? Reach out to Tom here.Other episodes to help you manage yourself in difficult workplace relationshipsare:
The Disruptive Executive – Part OneThe Disruptive Executive – Part TwoDon’t Take It PersonallyHandling Defensive BehaviorsThe High-Maintenance ExecutiveLooking for a transcript of the show? Download it here.
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Thanks to all of you, from Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership.Happy, healthy, safe new year!
Wed, 10 Jan 2024 - 332 - Leading with Political Savvy – Part 2
Tired of losing to more savvy players, a leader seeks to decode the secrets of playing politics, focusing particularly on company culture.
Download our free Political Style Chart here.
“The Secret Handshake” is a great tool for mastering workplace politics.
Looking for a transcript of the show? Read it here.
More tools are in our podcast library. This episode is in three categories:
For Women
Perception – how you perceive others
Relationship Building
Here are five episodes to help develop your political savvy:
188 - Boundaries
210 - How to grow your self-management
67 - “I hate politics”
142 - The Mindful Executive
121 - Your Goodwill Bank Account
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Happy, healthy, safe new year. I look forward to being with you all in 2024.
From Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership,Happy New Year! And thanks!Wed, 06 Dec 2023 - 331 - Leading with Political Savvy – Part 1
A leader feels stuck. She sees others winning resources she felt should have been hers, but she hates playing politics. What to do?
Download our free Political Style Chart here.
“The Secret Handshake” is a great tool for mastering workplace politics.
Many more tools are in ourpodcast library. This episode is in three categories:Here are five episodes to help develop your political savvy:
215 - How to Stay Calm Under Fire
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Be kind to yourself. Things are rough out there! From Tom and everyone atThe Look & Sound of Leadership, be well! And thanks!Wed, 01 Nov 2023 - 330 - Building Consensus – Savvy or Sin?
A leader, surrounded by people she knows and trusts, can’t seem to get traction with them. In conversation with her coach, she discovers an unexpected cause.
Tools for teams abound in this episode.The four tools Tom suggests as first steps for helping your team openly discuss ideas are:
Say ‘thank you’ when people offer an idea;Be curious; don’t dismiss ideas or people;Don’t take differences personally; it’s not about you;Develop your comfort with disagreement.The Gradients of Agreement tool supports the ideas in this episode. Download it for free from our Essential Tools bin along with other communication tools like Sorting & Labeling.
Additional tools for team growth mentioned in this episode are the classic Crucial Conversations and Tom’s conversation on The cATalyzing Podcast.
This episode is in our podcast library in three categories:
Specific episodes that will help you develop your team are:
Leadership Behavior in Meetings
Power Tools for Teams: Plus/Delta
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Until next month, from Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership, be well! And thanks!
#podcast #TeamDecisionMaking #Teamwork #Leadership #ConsensusBuilding #EffectiveTeams #TeamCommunication #TeamLeadershipWed, 04 Oct 2023 - 329 - The Conflict Resolution Wheel
A co-founder, at odds with his partner (also his best friend!), reaches out to his coach for help saving the business and the friendship.
The episode introduces The Conflict Resolution Wheel. Download it for free from our Essential Tools bin along with other communication tools like the Feeling Words Grid.
The Wheel is based on a tool in the Couple Communication course, a program to help you understand and connect with your partner better.
The course’s workbook, Talking and Listening Together, is meant for self-study. It’s available for purchase online.
Another book Tom references in this episode is the classic Crucial Conversations.
This episode is in our podcast library in three categories:
Five episodes that will help you continue to develop your conflict resolution skills are:Creating Safety for Hard Talks
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Until next month, from Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership, be well! And thanks!
Wed, 06 Sep 2023 - 328 - Essential Skills that Shaped a Leader
A senior leader, having risen through the ranks, ends her coaching engagement by comparing notes with her coach about the skills that have helped her most.
This episode identified seven essential leadership skills:
Conquer catastrophic thinking;Use fewer words;Value relationships as highly as results;Don’t take anything personally;Commitment to Development;Reflection;Speak for Yourself.Resources to develop those last three:
Commitment to Development
The Executive Executive – an episode with a different list of essential skillsFour Factors Executives Need to be Successful– another list of essential skills thenschel@essentialcomm.com – my email address if you want help thinking about your own developmentThe Ability to Reflect
Mindfulness ResourcesBuilding Self-AwarenessSpeak for Yourself
The Four Agreements – Agreement #1: “Be Impeccable with Your Word”
Showing TeethThe Voice of AuthorityAssertion v Aggression
Episodes to build assertion:This month’s episode lives in our podcast library in these three categories:
Executive Presence
Leadership
Self-Talk
Five episodes to help you with different skills are:Building Empathy
“Don’t Take Anything Personally”
The Executive Executive
Personal Connections
Short Sounds Confident
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Until next month, be well!From Tom and everyone atThe Look & Sound of Leadership, thanks!
Wed, 02 Aug 2023 - 327 - Taming the Defensiveness Dragon
At the end of her rope, a leader asks her coach for help managing a direct report who, she says, is the most defensive person she’s ever met.
This episode was packed with tools. We’ve put them into an easy-to-understand infographic. Download it for free here.
Kim Scott, the best-selling author of the electric book Radical Candor, wrote a short, friendly guide with tools for handling defensive employees. Find it here.
Harvard Business Review’s Amy Gallo talked with Dave Stachowiak on this episode of the Coaching for Leaders podcast. As with every episode of Dave’s, this is indispensable.
To work on “deserving” dive into The Four Agreements.
To dig deeper into tools for taming defensiveness, search our podcast library in these three categories:
Communication SkillsManagement Skills Relationship BuildingFive specific episodes on this topic you could listen to are:
7 Steps to Stop Emotional HijacksBe Impeccable with Your Word Handling Defensive BehaviorsManaging Bad BehaviorManaging Disruptive ExecutivesSign up to get our monthly email with links to resources that support each episode.
Calling all COACHES! Come join our Executive Coaching special interest group (SIG) sponsored by the Los Angeles Chapter of ICF. Check out our SIG and all the others here.
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Wed, 05 Jul 2023 - 326 - Unlocking Executive Presence through Emotional Intelligence
During her first C-suite years, a leader burned a lot of bridges. Her boss, who’d traveled a similar path, gets her a coach and sets only one goal: repair relations through emotional intelligence.
Lots and lots of tools and resources this month:Free downloads:
Books and papers to sharpen your skills
“Executive Presence: The Missing Link between Merit and Success”
“The EQ Edge: Emotional Intelligence and Your Success”
“Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well”
“Executive Presence” from Center for Talent Innovation
This episode is tagged in three categories in thePodcast Library:
Personal Growth & Self-Development
Five episodes to help you command a room:
109 Building Emotional Intelligence
69 Leadership & Self-Deception
Please help yourself to any (or all!) of our free infographics in theEssential Tools bin.Our deepest gratitude to those who post reviews. Thank you!!!
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Until next month, be well!
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Wed, 07 Jun 2023 - 325 - Staying Afloat in a Shitstorm
A highly effective leader finds herself in the middle of a terrible mess, not of her own making. When her coach marvels at her ability to stay calm amidst the chaos, she shares a lesson she learned from her dad.
In addition to the tools discussed during this episode, Tom also talks about:
“Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes are High.”
Conversations with Coaches – Episode #184
Executive Coaching Special Interest Group
This episode is tagged in three categories in thePodcast Library:
Perception – How You Perceive Yourself
Five episodes to help you manage during difficult times:
109 - Building Emotional Intelligence
152 - Combating Emotional Hijacks
75 - “Don’t Take Anything Personally”
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Wed, 10 May 2023 - 324 - How to Command a Room
Wanting to command rooms with her voice, a team leader turned to her coach for exercises. She learned the secrets of “RVP.”
In this episode, five practices to help you develop a voice that will command a room are discussed:
Vocal varietyExpect resistanceRhythmVolumePitch
This episode has multiple tips and tools for each of those five development areas.The Zootopia clip that gets so much attention is here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HHKwnUa3txo
This episode is tagged in three categories in thePodcast Library:
Five episodes to help you command a room:
186 Video Feedback & Executive Presence
34 Keeping Repeated Material Fresh
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Until next month, be well!
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Wed, 05 Apr 2023 - 323 - The Sound of Leadership & Management - 2023
In conversation with her coach, an executive explores whether leaders and managers use language differently in order to be effective in their roles.
There are lots of ideas in this episode. To help you sort the tools and put them into practice, we’ve created an infographic for you to download. It’s in the Essential Tools bin along with all the others. Help yourself!
This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:
LeadershipManagement SkillsPerception – How You’re PerceivedFive related episodes you might listen to are:
138Managing Disruptive Executives
Much gratitude to the folks who post reviews. We appreciate your support and all your kind words.
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Until next month, be well!Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team.
Wed, 01 Mar 2023 - 322 - Leadership v Management - 2023
An executive, in conversation with her coach, wonders if leaders and managers are different. And whether it matters.
This episode has lots of ideas flying around. To help you sort the tools and put them into practice, we’ve created an infographic for you to download. It’s in the Essential Tools bin along with all the others. Help yourself!
LeadershipManagement SkillsRelationship Building
This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:Five related episodes you might listen to are:
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Our purpose is to support your growth and development. Let us know how we can help. Be in touch with us here.
Until next month, be well!
Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team.Wed, 01 Feb 2023 - 321 - Finding a Lighter Path
A leader, stuck in an unhealthy cycle, searches for a way out. In conversation with his coach, he learns a four-square tool that just might work.
A new free Essential Tool illustrating the four-square model is available for download in the Essential Tools bin. No login required. Help yourself.
The model in this month’s episode is a variation on The ACT Matrix. Here’s our favorite YouTube video about The Matrix.
The creators of The ACT Matrix wrote a book to help practitioners use the tool.
This current episode is tagged in the library in three categories:Here are five episodes to help you get unstuck:
7 Steps to Stop Emotional Hijacks*
How to Grow your Self-Management*
* Indicates there’s a PDF in the Essential Tools bin to support the ideas in that episode.
We are so excited to dive into the new year with you all!
All the best,
Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team.
Wed, 11 Jan 2023 - 320 - How to Act in Your Own Best Interest
A team leader had a habit of jumping to conclusions. His most recent leap landed him in hot water. In conversation with his coach, he learns a tool for making better choices.
We created a new free Essential Tool illustrating The Ladder of Inference. It’s in the Essential Tools bin along with all the others. Please help yourself.
The “Don’t Judge Too Quickly” ads are on YouTube here:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UP8NRgWtPaE&t=18s
This current episode is tagged in the library in three categories:
Perception – How You Perceive Yourself
Personal Growth & Self-Development
In addition to the various episodes listed above, five that will help you think about your thinking are:
210 – How to Grow Your Self-Management
Safe and sane holidays, everyone. See you in the New Year!With gratitude,
Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team.
Wed, 07 Dec 2022 - 319 - How to Turn on Your Executive Thinking
A senior executive worries that his lieutenants are not being taken seriously by the senior leadership team. He discusses with a coach how to help his rising leaders accelerate their growth. This is that conversation.
We created a new free Essential Tool for you called “Executive Thinking.”It illustrates the “altitude” analogy Tom told during the episode. It also supports one of the four exercises you can do with your team.
Additional Essential Tools that support other exercises are “Before You Write Your Presentation”and “Sorting & Labeling.”
Liberating Structures is the free resource Tom was raving about. The specific exercise he mentioned was TRIZ.
Tom has talked about Liberating Structures in the episodes “How to Re-engage a Team” and “Leading Offsites.”
If you’re approaching year-end performance reviews, there are tools to support you – no matter which side of the review you’re on! – in Performance Reviews.
Tom referenced two shows that can help you learn Sorting & Labeling.
Coaching For Leaders with Dave Stachowiak: The Way to Make Sense to Others.
The Everyday Innovator with Chad McCallister:How Product Managers Look & Sound like Leaders.
This current episode is tagged in the library in three categories:
Perception – How You’re Perceived
In addition to the various episodes listed above, five that relate specifically to executive thinking are:
178 Executive Presence – Three Pillars
As we hurtle in our year-end traditions, stay mindful!Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team.
Wed, 02 Nov 2022 - 318 - How to Disarm a Trigger
A leader causing upset among her people is given a coach. In conversation, they examine what might be triggering people to be upset with her. The exploration leads to a simple, yet difficult, idea.
Transcripts of every episode are available for download in our library.
Tom mentioned two episodes with mindfulness tools. They are:
This episode is filed in three categories in the library:
Personal Growth & Self-Development
In addition to the mindfulness episodes, five other related episodes are:
119 Creating Devoted Followers
Listen to Tom’s conversation with Kim O’Hara on “You Should Write a Book About That.”
Listen to Tom’s conversation with Marcel van de Hoef on “The Happy Investor.”
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Until next month, stay healthy and be well.
Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team.
Wed, 05 Oct 2022 - 317 - Responsibility Charting
A team leader is tired of kerfuffles. In conversation with her coach, she learns to use a simple chart that generates almost miraculous results.
The chart is available to you here. Please, help yourself.
Other tools for leading your team that Tom mentioned in this episode include The Five Dysfunctions of a Teamby Patrick Lencioni.
You can download a sample of the team development tool based on the book that Tom mentioned. The Five Behaviors of a Cohesive Teamassessment is available to you here.
If you’re looking to pick Tom’s brain a little more, all his interviews are available to you in Conversations.
His conversation on Keys to the Shop is available here. His conversation on Next Gen Leadership is available here.
This month’s episode is tagged in the Podcast Library under
Related episodes you might listen to are:
As ever, we cannot give enough thanks to those of you who post reviews. Thank you for your support and kind words.
Got a question about your career and how coaching might help? Get in touch with us here.
Until next month, stay healthy and be well.
Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team.
Wed, 07 Sep 2022 - 316 - The Conflict Conversation
What’s helpful to say when you’re in an argument? How can you prepare to have an argument? This month’s coaching conversation dives deeper into the topic of “Conflict” which began last month. This episode has scripts and concepts for mastering The Conflict Conversation.
We’ve created another PDF to support your leadership development. It’s a feedback model detailing actions and intentions for you. If you’re serious about your leadership, you have to be serious about mastering the art of feedback. Grab this Essential Tool and dig in. It’s waiting for you in our Tools bin.
This month’s episode is tagged in thePodcast LibraryunderRelated episodes you might listen to are:
#27 Repairing Damaged Relationships
Thanks this month, and every month, to those of you who post reviews. We are so grateful for your support and kind words.
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Until next month, stay healthy and be well.
Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team.
Wed, 03 Aug 2022 - 315 - Conflict
Conflict is inevitable, but most of us were never taught skills to help us find our way through the dark corridors of this house called “Conflict.” This month’s coaching conversation illuminates predictable patterns and practical tools to navigate successfully through Conflict House.
If you’re looking to develop your executive presence, our latest PDF is for you. It talks about the four factors every executive needs to be effective. It’s free. You can find it in ourTools bin. Help yourself.
This month’s episode is tagged in thePodcast Libraryunder
Related episodes you might listen to are:27 Repairing Damaged Relationships
Tom references the book“Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most”by Stone, Patton and Heen, from the Harvard Negotiation Project.
As always, thanks to the folks who post reviews. We are so grateful for your support and kind words.
If you have a question about your career and how coaching might help, be in touch with ushere.
Until next month, stay healthy and be well.
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Wed, 06 Jul 2022 - 314 - Holding Boundaries
A leader, often reticent to speak up on her own behalf, learns tools to help her ask for what she wants without worrying she’ll incite a battle.
This month we’ve created another free PDF for you in our Tools bin. This one is to help you use video playback to achieve The Look & Sound of Leadership.
This month’s episode is tagged in the Podcast Library in these three categories:
Related episodes you might listen to are:
86 Intimacy in Business: Setting Boundaries
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Wed, 08 Jun 2022 - 313 - How to Set Boundaries
Kindness is killing a leader’s ability to set and hold effective boundaries. She works with her coach to find her voice and along the way discovers an empowering image about boundaries.
We’ve put lots of free PDFs in our Tools bin to help you achieve The Look & Sound of Leadership.
This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:
Five related episodes you might listen to are:
216 7 Steps to Stop Emotional Hijacks
210 How to Grow Your Self-Management
Much gratitude to the folks who post reviews. We appreciate your support you’re your kind words.
Let us know how we can support your growth and development. Be in touch with us here.
Until next month, be well!
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Wed, 04 May 2022 - 312 - Two Paths to Flow
A worried leader seeks help finding balance between going with the flow and giving himself a larger voice.
Visit our Tools bin for free PDFs to help you achieve The Look & Sound of Leadership.
This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:
Five related episodes you might listen to are:
59 Focus in the Face of Distractions
30Self-Knowledge as Leadership
Tom also talked about two books in this episode:
“Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience”by Mihaly Csikszentmlhalyi
“The Trust Advisor”by David Maister, et al
Thanks to everyone who posts reviews, and thanks so much for your kind words!
Let us know how we can support your growth and development. Be in touch with us here.
Until next month, be well!
Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team.
Wed, 06 Apr 2022 - 311 - How Leaders Can ‘Play Better Poker’
A missed promotion prompts a leader to complain to her CEO. The CEO responds by getting her a coach, which results in explorations of authenticity, self-awareness and self-management.
Visit our Tools bin for free PDFs to help you achieve The Look & Sound of Leadership.
This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:
Perception - How You Perceive Yourself
Perception - How You’re Perceived
Seven related episodes you might listen to are:
#103 – Self-Awareness & Self-Management
#85 – Stop Giving Away Your Secrets
#51 – When Learning Makes Things Worse
Thanks to everyone who posts reviews. And thank you so much for your kind words!
Let us know how we can support your growth and development. Be in touch with us here.
Until next month, be well!
Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team.
Wed, 02 Mar 2022 - 310 - 7 Steps to Stop Emotional Hijacks
A leader, ashamed of hurtful words she spoke to a colleague, explores what happened with her coach. She learns seven techniques for keeping herself from future emotional hijacks.
Download a free PDF about the seven steps to help you stop emotional hijacks here.
This episode is tagged in five categories in the Podcast Library:
Managing YourselfPerception - How You Perceive YourselfPerception - How You’re PerceivedPersonal Growth & Self-DevelopmentSelf-TalkSeven related episodes you might listen to are:
#109 Building Emotional Intelligence
#74 Dealing with Emotional Responses
#103 Self-Awareness & Self-Management
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As we hurtle into 2022, all of us here at The Look & Sound of Leadershipwish you a wonderful year of health, growth, and curiosity.
Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team.
Wed, 02 Feb 2022 - 309 - How To Stay Calm Under Fire
A leader is given a presentation coach and two goals: ‘tell a better story’ and ‘be more responsive in the moment.’ This episode is the coaching conversation about the second goal: be responsive in the moment.
This episode is tagged in four categories in the Podcast Library:
Communication SkillsExecutive PresencePresentation Skills Self-TalkSix related episodes you might listen to are:
#214 How to Turn Data Into Stories
#160Prepping Like a TED Talker
#161Performing Like a TED Talker
Join us this month for two free mini-courses facilitated by Susan Smalley:
Listen to Tom’s interview on The Remarkable Coach podcast where he and host Michael Pacheco talked about Tom’s 30 years of coaching.
Post a review and help us cross the 1,000 review mark!
All of us here at The Look & Sound of Leadershipwish you a safe, healthy year of growth and curiosity.
Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team.
Wed, 05 Jan 2022 - 308 - How To Turn Data into Stories
A leader is given a presentation coach and two goals: ‘tell a better story’ and ‘be more responsive in the moment.’ This episode is the coaching conversation about telling a better story.
There are four tools in the episode:
1. Grab our list of questions [please link to the PDF]
2. Build a puzzle for your listeners
3. Create a hero in jeopardy
4. Work with a partner – cautiously!
This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:
Five related episodes you might listen to are:
3 Stories – The Ultimate Persuaders
56 What Compelling Speakers Share
160 Prepping Like a TED Talker
In January, free mini-courses resume. Check out these two learning opportunities:
As we approach the threshold of a new year, I wish you curiosity and growth.
Thanks for all the support! See you in the new year!
Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team.
Wed, 01 Dec 2021 - 307 - How to Re-engage a Team
Worried that working remotely has disconnected her team, a leader asks her coach for help and learns a powerful tool.
Being able to lead your team in growth exercises is a critical leadership skill. This episode is full of tips and guidance for strengthening that muscle.
Tom strongly endorses the Liberating Structures website. Lots of amazing free resources there.
He also recommends a conversation with Dave Stachowiak on Coaching for Leadersabout “How to Lead an Offsite.”
This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:
Five related episodes you might listen to are:
143 – Power Tools for Teams: Plus/Delta
In January, free mini-courses will resume. Check out these two learning opportunities:
Gratitude went to Sarah Brown for having Tom as a guest on an episode of The KTS Success Factor podcast. Hear all the tips here.Gratitude also, as always, to those who reach out to us and to those who post reviews. Thank you so much! Be in touch here.
From all of us here at The Look & Sound of Leadership, be well. Stay healthy and safe.
Thanks for listening.See you next month!
Wed, 03 Nov 2021 - 306 - How To Coach Your People
A no-nonsense leader is asked to add coaching to her list of duties. She turns to the coach who’d coached her for a quick immersion course.
Coaching your people requires a shift in thinking and a specific set of behaviors. These ideas are captured in a PDF about the GROW model. It’s available to you for free here.
This month we are offering three free mini-courses. Come join us!
Demystifying Workplace Conflict
Understanding Yourself and Others (DiSC)
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During the episode, Tom and Laurel mentioned Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When the Stakes are High. A great skill-building resource.
This episode lives in three categories in the Podcast Library:
Perception – How you Perceive Others
Five related episodes you might listen to are:
91 – Facilitating Open Dialogue
You can explore more ideas about coaching your people on Dave Stachowiak’s Coaching For Leaders podcast. Episode 190: How to Improve Your Coaching Skills.
Tom raved about Dave’s conversation with Connson Locke. That’s on Coaching for Leadership,Episode 546: How to Speak Up.
Catch Tom answering coaching questions on the Unlocking Leadership – Ask the Coachespodcast.
How To Build Executive Presence
How to Become a Strategic Thinker
Rebuilding Engagement prior to Restructuring, Can an Executive Coach Help?Gratitude, as always, to those who reach out to us and to those who post reviews. Thanks!
From all of us here at The Look & Sound of Leadership, be healthy and safe.
Thanks for listening.See you next month!
Wed, 06 Oct 2021 - 305 - How To Show Up
Frustrated at not showing up the way she wants to, a leader, in conversation with her coach, explores ways to integrate her values into her behavior.
What would be different if I were a little braver right now?What would a brave person do right now?What would I think, or what would I feel, if I were my bravest self right now?How is my self-talk helping how I show up?How is my self-talk holding me back in how I show up?
To show up as more of whatever you want to be, ask yourself:
(Substitute your own spine word for “brave.”)Three books to build muscle around how you show up.
Leadership & Self-Deception. Change Your Questions, Change Your Life.The Four Agreements.The PDF “Six Books for Growth” is available here. Or email Tom and he’ll send it to you.
This episode connects to two previous episodes featuring Chin-Sun: How to Build Your Self-Awareness and How to Grow Your Self-Management.
On September 7, a new podcast featuring Tom goes live: “Unlocking Leadership – Ask the Coaches.” Available online, on your podcast app and YouTube.
Meet our fabulous facilitators and browse our catalogue of courses.
Courses currently open for registration are:
Dare to Lead – full course
Career Wellness – free mini-course
Improv for Leadership – free mini-course
Get 15% off your first course with the promo code: PODCAST
This episode is in the library under four filters:
For Women
Managing Yourself
Self-Talk
Five specific episodes you might listen to are:
71. Act As If
162. Acting on the Corporate Stage
174. Animating Your Persona
154. Self-Limiting Beliefs
176. The Executive Impostor
Gratitude, as always, to those who reach out to us and those who post reviews. Thanks!
From all of us here at The Look & Sound of Leadership, be healthy and safe.
Thanks for listening.
See you next month!Wed, 01 Sep 2021 - 304 - How To Grow Your Self-Management
In this episode, a leader feels she lacks courage. She engages her coach in a conversation about how to use self-awareness and self-management as tools to help her become a little bolder.
The self-talk scripts discussed in this episode, plus the four-box process Tom described, are available to you in a PDF. You can request it in an email to Tom here or you can download the PDF here.
Other resources mentioned in this episode:
Last month’s episode connects (like Pop Beads!) to this episode: How to Build Self-Awareness
E.Q. Applied by Justin Bariso – a helpful, friendly book chock-full of exercises.
Nathaniel Branden’s work on self-esteem – profound thoughts and powerful prompts.
Dan Harris’s podcast 10% Happier
Meet our fabulous facilitators and browse our catalogue of courses.
Courses currently open for registration are:Dare to Lead – free mini-course and full course
Career Wellness – free mini-course
Get 15% off your first course with the promo code: PODCAST
This episode is in the library under four filters:
Five specific episodes you might listen to are:
162. Acting on the Corporate Stage
109. Building Emotional Intelligence
Plus a bonus episode:
103. Self-Awareness & Self-Management
Much gratitude to those of you who reach out to us and those who post reviews. Thank you!
From all of us here at The Look & Sound of Leadership, be healthy and safe.
Thanks for listening.
See you next month!
Wed, 04 Aug 2021 - 303 - The Many Parts of YouThu, 08 Mar 2012
- 302 - Your Team's Best Interests - Part TwoThu, 02 Feb 2012
- 301 - Your Team's Best Interests - Part OneThu, 12 Jan 2012
- 300 - Performance ReviewsThu, 01 Dec 2011
- 299 - Leading TeamsThu, 03 Nov 2011
- 298 - Smiling—The Look of LeadershipThu, 01 Sep 2011
- 297 - Leading ChangeThu, 11 Aug 2011
- 296 - Resolving ConflictThu, 07 Jul 2011
- 295 - The Power of PowerPointThu, 02 Jun 2011
- 294 - Compelling OpeningsThu, 19 May 2011
- 293 - Intimacy in Business: Setting BoundariesThu, 05 May 2011
- 292 - Recommendations & ResourcesThu, 21 Apr 2011
- 291 - Stop Giving Away Your SecretsThu, 07 Apr 2011
- 290 - Women as Powerful CommunicatorsThu, 17 Mar 2011
- 289 - Making Stories SoarThu, 03 Mar 2011
- 288 - Questions as LeadershipThu, 17 Feb 2011
- 287 - Leadership and ListeningThu, 03 Feb 2011
- 286 - Self-Knowledge as LeadershipThu, 20 Jan 2011
- 285 - Building RapportThu, 06 Jan 2011
- 284 - Smoothing Harsh EdgesThu, 16 Dec 2010
- 283 - Three Little Phrases with Big ImpactThu, 02 Dec 2010
- 282 - Getting Growth AcknowledgedThu, 18 Nov 2010
- 281 - Compassion During ChangeThu, 04 Nov 2010
- 280 - The Look & Sound of Self-EsteemThu, 21 Oct 2010
- 279 - Strategic ApologiesThu, 07 Oct 2010
- 278 - Handling Defensive BehaviorsThu, 23 Sep 2010
- 277 - Unmasking a Stand-InThu, 09 Sep 2010
- 276 - Leadership Behavior in MeetingsThu, 19 Aug 2010
- 275 - The Power of RehearsalThu, 05 Aug 2010
- 274 - Repairing Damaged RelationshipsThu, 22 Jul 2010
- 273 - Three Words You Should Never SayThu, 08 Jul 2010
- 272 - Negative Self-TalkThu, 24 Jun 2010
- 271 - Don't Take It PersonallyThu, 10 Jun 2010
- 270 - Eliminating DistractionsThu, 20 May 2010
- 269 - Dealing With Emotional ResponsesThu, 06 May 2010
- 268 - Delivering Tough FeedbackThu, 15 Apr 2010
- 267 - Disagree AgreeablyThu, 08 Apr 2010
- 266 - Sounding ExecutiveThu, 25 Mar 2010
- 265 - Getting AgreementThu, 11 Mar 2010
- 264 - Accessing Your Best ThinkingThu, 25 Feb 2010
- 263 - Act "As If"Thu, 11 Feb 2010
- 262 - Speaking For YourselfThu, 28 Jan 2010
- 261 - Assertion Versus AggressionThu, 14 Jan 2010
- 260 - Stories -- The Ultimate PersuadersThu, 17 Dec 2009
- 259 - Leadership and Self-DeceptionThu, 03 Dec 2009
- 258 - How To Build Self-Awareness
Self-awareness, like any muscle, can be built through discipline.In this episode, a leader learns two exercises to help build awareness of her thoughts and feelings.
The two exercises discussed in this episode are detailed in a PDF that we’d love to send you. Send us an email and we’ll send back the PDF. The PDF also contains the Feeling Words Grid.
Other resources mentioned in this episode:
E.Q. Applied by Justin Bariso – a helpful, friendly book chock-full of exercises.
Sort the episode library using the filter Feedback. Good feedback will build your self-awareness, for sure!
Five episodes to listen to:
#103 Self-Awareness & Self-Management
#109 Building Emotional Intelligence
Gratitude to those who are in touch and who post reviews.
From the entire team at The Look & Sound of Leadership, be well. And thanks for listening.
See you next month!
Wed, 30 Jun 2021 - 257 - The Democratic Leader
A new leader worries about having to become a dictator in order to meet her goals. She and her coach explore the challenges inherent in trying to be a truly democratic leader.
Core concepts in this episode:
When pressured, many leaders revert to giving orders.People need time to feel safe speaking up to a new leader.A democratic leader doesn’t have to give everyone their way, just give everyone their say.When listening to ideas, just listen. Don’t fix or tweak or improve.The Essential Communications website has many free resources for you.
The entire archive of episodes going back more than a decade is free and available to you.
Categories in the archive related to this episode are:
Leading Teams
Leadership
Perception – How You’re PerceivedRelated episodes are:
How Teams Fight
Inviting Dialogue
Psychological Safety
Taming Meetings
The Conflict ConversationIf you’d like to be a tester for the new Essential Communications website, shoot Tom an email.
In this episode, Tom mentioned:
A progressive elementary school in Van Nuys, CA. The school is Children’s Community School.
Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office by Lois Frankel
Dare to Lead by Brené Brown
Tom’s conversation with Ben Ritter on “The Live for Yourself Revolution.”
COACHES! Join Tom at the Executive Coaching Special Interest Group sponsored by the Los Angeles Chapter of ICF. Non-members pay $10 to attend. This month’s topic: Team & Group Coaching.
Wed, 02 Jun 2021 - 256 - Tough Conversations
A leader, initially described to his coach as clueless, confronts a hard truth about himself. In the process, he gains a four-step tool to guide him through tough conversations.
Core Concepts in this episode:
To convey a tough message and maintain a positive relationship:
1. Start with a full-stop. Act, don’t RE-act. Identify why this conversation is important.2. Express intention. Say why you’re having the conversation and what your concerns are.
3. Be clear. Be simple. Identify what you wish were different specifically.
4. Attend to the relationship. At every step, even in the conversation, consider the other person.
Related Archive Categories:
Communication Skills
Management Skills
Relationship SkillsRelated Tips & Episodes:
Combating Emotional Hijacks
Books to boost your skills in tough conversation:The library of all the past episodes is at: https://essentialcomm.com/podcast
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Be in touch with Tom at: https://essentialcomm.com/contact/
Thanks to all of you who are in touch and who post reviews. Much gratitude!
See you next month!
Wed, 05 May 2021 - 255 - Understanding Feedback
This month’s coaching conversation explores ways to make feedback more palatable. The secret: sort the feedback you receive into three distinct categories.
Many ideas in this episode and last month’s episode are explained more fully in the book: ‘Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well – even when it is off base, unfair, poorly delivered and, frankly, you’re not in the mood.’”
Related episodes are:
Unblocking Feedback (from last month)
Don’t Take Anything Personally
Getting Good Feedback
Handling Feedback Effectively
Perception is RealityIn the archive, this Tip is tagged in three categories
Feedback
Leadership
Managing Yourself
Tom has three leadership interviews that have gone live this month:Coaching For Leaders: Episode 518
A deep 40-min dive into “Sorting & Labeling"
Fidelis Leadership Podcast: Episode 37
A wide-ranging 60-min exploration of leadershipUltimate Leadership Podcast: 02/08/21
A fast-paced 25-min examination of your readiness for coaching
The archive of Executive Coaching Tips is available at:
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info@essentialcomm.comSee you next month!
From all of us on “The Look & Sound of Leadership” team — thanks!
Wed, 31 Mar 2021 - 254 - Unblocking Feedback
This month’s coaching conversation follows a client as he works to shrink his blind spot through feedback. He and Tom discuss lowering the barriers that stop us all from taking in feedback.
In the episode Tom mentions “Thanks for the Feedback” by Douglas Stone and Sheila Heen.
Tom also mentioned the PDF showing The Johari Window.
Related episodes are:
Perception – How You Perceive Yourself
Five related episodes you might listen to are:
The full archive of episodes is at:
http://essentialcomm.com/podcast/Subscribe to the HTML version at:
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tom@essentialcomm.comSee you next month!
From all of us on “The Look & Sound of Leadership” team — thanks!
Wed, 03 Mar 2021 - 253 - Blind Spots
This month’s coaching conversation features a leader too talented to lose but too troublesome to keep. Tom talks with him about blind spots and how he might reduce his.
PDFs for you:
The Johari WindowWin an hour of free coaching with Tom. Complete our survey.
The full archive is at: https://essentialcomm.com/podcast
Related Archive Categories:
Perception – How You Perceive YourselfPersonal Growth & Self-Development
Related Episodes:
Thinking ErrorsSelf-Awareness & Self-Management
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Thanks again for posting reviews!
Stay positive. Test negative.
See you next month!
Wed, 03 Feb 2021 - 252 - The Show Must Go On
In this special episode, Tom tells a story of being onstage one night in front of a packed theatre audience when the show most definitely did NOT go on. He also shares the lesson he learned from that calamity — a lesson he has subsequently shared with the hundreds of leaders he’s coached who need confidence as presenters.
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podcast/ Subscribe to the HTML version at:
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From all of us on “The Look & Sound of Leadership” team — enjoy!
Fri, 22 Jan 2021 - 251 - The Executive Executive
This month’s coaching conversation is between Tom and Courtney, another executive coach. What traits, they wonder, do effective executives share? If rising leaders wanted to reverse engineer what it means to be executives, what would they put in the mix?
The five qualities Tom and Courtney identify are:
Resilience -- get over hurts and setbacks
Influence – build a natural reserve of strong relationships
Organization – create lead-time and eliminate fire drills
Scope – maintain the highest altitude possible; resist the weeds
Speed of Thought – exert alertness and be mentally nimble
At the end of this month’s commentary, Tom lists six books, each one different, but all leading towards personal growth and professional development. They are…
Change Your Questions, Change Your Life
Crucial Conversations or Difficult Conversations
Want a free PDF of these titles, including who might prefer which? Click here and put “6 Books” in the subject line. We’ll send you the PDF.
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To dig deeper into your own development, search the episode archive using these filters:
Wed, 13 Jan 2021 - 250 - The Rising Executive
This month’s coaching conversation features a newly promoted leader. He and Tom explore the tools needed to build a strong team quickly.
Lots of links this month!
At one point in the episode, Rafael mentions his impostor syndrome. For tools about impostor syndrome, check out:
The Executive ImpostorIn the commentary, I mention two books:
The Five Dysfunctions of a Team
and
Overcoming The Five Dysfunctions of a TeamThis is the field guide that will show you how to work with your team.
Other related episodes are:
Delivering Tough FeedbackYour Team’s Best Interests – Part One
Your Team’s Best Interests – Part Two
There are three filters in the archive that relate to this episode:
Leading Teams
Negative Self-Talk
Perception — How You Perceive YourselfThe archive of Executive Coaching Tips is available at:
http://essentialcomm.com/podcast/Subscribe to the HTML version at:
https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/Be in touch with Tom at:
info@essentialcomm.comAs I celebrate the end of this distressing year and look towards a brighter 2021, you are all in my thoughts.
See you next month!
From all of us on “The Look & Sound of Leadership” team — thanks!
Wed, 09 Dec 2020 - 249 - Two dates & a gift — A bonus episode!
Two dates:
Monday, November 30, 2020
The survey closes.Complete four questions to be entered to win an hour of free coaching with Tom
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Thursday, December 3, 2020
Registration closes for “Leveraging Your Strengths and the Strengths of Others.”
After decades delivering courses for our corporate clients, we finally created a course for you.
Register at:
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The gift is a 60-second practice to help you be strong and resilient.
Take care of yourselves!
From everyone at “The Look & Sound of Leadership”
Fri, 20 Nov 2020 - 248 - Style Conversations
This month’s coaching conversation is about creating a script called ‘Style.’ The script helps make difficult conversations easier.
Complete this month’s four-question survey and be entered to win an hour of free coaching with Tom.
Sign-up for a small-group, highly interactive Zoom course about the DiSC Behavioral Self-Assessment. This course is available to the first 12 people who sign up:
If the sign-up is closed when you go to the page, put your name on the wait list. Maybe we’ll have more than one session!
Related episodes this month include:
Capitalizing on Differences in Style (this one is all about DiSC styles!)
Stay safe, everyone. Sane, too!
See you next month.
The Look & Sound of Leadership team
Wed, 04 Nov 2020 - 247 - Personal Connections
This month’s coaching conversation follows a leader who worries that he’s not very adept when it comes to creating personal connections. He and Tom explore two skills and one mindset that will help ease his way.
Related episodes:
Dynamic One-on-ones
Facilitating Open Dialogue
Inviting DialogueIn the archive, this episode is tagged in three categories
Relationship Building
Social SkillsHelp us build a better website for you. Complete our survey at:
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From all of us at “The Look & Sound of Leadership” team — thanks!
Wed, 30 Sep 2020 - 246 - Psychological Safety
This month’s coaching conversation explores how leaders can foster psychological safety. Teams high in both safety and accountability enter a “Learning Zone” where high performance follows naturally.
In this month’s conversation, Tom and his client mentioned “The Checklist Manifesto” by Atul Gawande. His proposition is a great formula for creating psychological safety.
Related episodes are:
Agreeable Disagreement“Don’t Take Anything Personally”
In the archive, this Tip is tagged in three categories
Assertiveness
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Wed, 02 Sep 2020 - 245 - Giving Upward Feedback
This month’s coaching conversation explores whether feedback should be given upwards in the first place. If so, are there ways to deliver upward feedback effectively?
In the commentary, Tom tells a story about the famous Marshmallow Test being debunked. Here's the column he mentions:
https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2018/06/marshmallow-test/561779/?utm_source=atl&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=shareRelated episodes are:
Dealing With Emotional ResponsesThe Disruptive Executive – Part One
In the archive, this Tip is tagged in three categories
Communication Skills
Feedback
Managing UpThe archive of Executive Coaching Tips is available at:
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Wed, 05 Aug 2020 - 244 - Learnings From Video
This month’s coaching conversation follows a client exploring a surprising use for video, plus a game of imagination.
The Marshmallow Test is explained in “Self-Awareness & Self-Management”
Core Concepts in this episode:
Video provides distance that can help break old patterns.Some people are highly agitated these days.
Their agitation is not about you. Don’t take it personally.
You might find yourself more annoyed than normal. Don’t act on it.
RELATED ARCHIVE CATEGORIES
RELATED TIPS & EPISODES“Don’t Take Anything Personally”
Leadership Behavior in Meetings
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See you next month!
Wed, 08 Jul 2020 - 243 - The Intentional Leader
This month’s coaching conversation wrestles with the obstacles that arise when you try listening to people who think out loud – often at great length!
This month’s coaching conversation is wide-ranging. It includes a leader’s story about being buoyed by her team. She and Tom also swap answers to a favorite question of her team’s: “How’re ya coping?” They then explore managing stress through being present and intentional.
Three questions to help you become present:
What am I doing right now?
What feelings am I having right now?
What is happening in my body right now?
Approach these questions with curiosity. Don’t ask with an intention to fix. The intention is just to notice.
You can explore self-management and self-awareness in the archive using the filters:
Personal Growth & Self-Development
You can take a deeper dive with these five episodes:
Self-Awareness & Self-Management
The archive is at:
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Until next month, wishing you health and safety!
Wed, 03 Jun 2020 - 197 - Connecting Over Video
SHOWNOTES:
This month’s coaching conversation is with a leader who wants to keep strong connections despite the quarantine. She and Tom explore the barriers that make connecting over video so difficult.Four essentials to attend to on video:
Angle Lighting Background SoundFrom Tom to you:
These difficult times can create a lot of fear. An antidote is to be curious. Curiosity is at the very heart of coaching. If I can help in anyway, let me know. Go to https://essentialcomm.com/contact/ and let me know what would be helpful.
Executive Presence Perception – How You’re Perceived Leading Teams Managing Yourself
There is always help for you in the archive. Filters that relate to this month’s episode are:Five related episodes are:
Video Feedback & Executive Presence Executive Presenting High-Stakes Meetings Building Emotional Intelligence The Human Element
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Stay safe all you wonderful humans! Until next month!Wed, 06 May 2020 - 196 - Branding Yourself
This month’s coaching conversation explores how to project your personal brand into the workplace. When done well it can seem like a Jedi mind trick – but it’s really just personal branding.
Here are the five links Tom mentioned in the episode.
Looking good in video conferencing4 Ways to Improve Video Meetings
Coronavirus Doctor Empowers Us“That Discomfort You’re Feeling…”
https://hbr.org/2020/03/that-discomfort-youre-feeling-is-grief
Executive Coaching Grouphttps://www.icfla.org/event/executive-coaching-sig/
Core Concepts in this episode:
> We brand ourselves with our self-talk every day> Find language to help you talk about yourself
> Talking about yourself is not a bad thing
> Find words that spark an image of the brand you want to be. Think of them as often as you can.
Related Archive Categories:
Executive Presence,Perception – How You’re Perceived
Related Tips & Episodes:
Becoming ExpertThe archive is at: https://essentialcomm.com/podcast
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Thanks everyone. Stay safe. Stay Home! Do it for the First Team!
See you next month!
Wed, 01 Apr 2020 - 195 - Pursuing A Promotion 2020
This month’s coaching conversation is with a high-performer who was passed over for a promotion. Together, she and Tom identify tools to make sure she doesn’t get passed over again.
Core Concepts in this episode:
> Aisha chose to NOT be self-promotional. In your organization, a more vocal approach may be effective.> Click out. Think from a higher altitude. Give yourself the promotion.
> Networking is not evil. But have intention. Be a good detective.
Related Archive Categories:
Managing YourselfRelated Tips & Episodes:
Acting on the Corporate Stage
Leading Teams
Managing Former Peers
Networking
The Flexible LeaderThe archive is at: https://essentialcomm.com/podcast
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Thanks this month to Paul Ison and George Avelino. You guys are the best.
And thanks to all of you who are in touch and who post reviews. So much thanks!
See you next month!
Wed, 04 Mar 2020 - 194 - Coaching Under Attack
This month’s coaching conversation isn’t so much a conversation as a fencing match. A newly installed president grills Tom about the coaching he’s been delivering at her company for years.
There are two different strands you might follow from this episode. One is about coaching. You might listen to these episodes:
Coaching Your People
Coaching Versus Therapy
Readiness in CoachingAnother strand you might follow is about self-management. Episodes on that strand would be:
Creating New Behaviors
How Behaviors Change
High Stakes MeetingsYou could also search the archive using the filters:
Developing New Behaviors
Personal Growth & Self-Development
Self-TalkThe archive is at:
https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/Subscribe to the HTML version at:
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https://essentialcomm.com/contact/From all of us, thanks!
See you next month!
Wed, 05 Feb 2020 - 193 - Thinking Errors
This month’s coaching conversation examines phrases we use that lead us into self-deception. Tom and his client explore why thinking errors so often remain invisible and, once revealed, what other words might be possible substitutions.
SHOW NOTES:
Tom mentions two books in this episode:“How To Raise Your Self-Esteem” by Nathaniel Branden
https://www.amazon.com/Raise-Your-Self-Esteem-Action-Oriented-Self-Confidence/dp/0553266462/“The Four Agreement” by Don Miguel Ruiz
https://www.amazon.com/Four-Agreements-Practical-Personal-Freedom/dp/1878424319Related Tips & Episodes
Don’t Take Anything Personally Self-Awareness & Self-ManagementSelf-Limiting BeliefsSmoothing Harsh Edges Three Words You Should Never SayThis Tip is in five categories in the archive:
For Women,Managing Yourself, Perception - How You Perceive Yourself,Personal Growth & Self-Development,Self-TalkThe archive is at:
https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/Get the HTML transcript:
https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/Be in touch with Tom at:
https://essentialcomm.com/contact/From all of us, thanks!
See you next month!
Wed, 08 Jan 2020 - 192 - Don’t Take Anything Personally
This month’s coaching conversation wrestles with the eternal struggle to depersonalize the events in our lives that feel so personal. Is it even possible to actualize the adage, “Don’t take it personally?”
Tom mentions two books that can help you manage yourself so you don’t take things personally:
The Four AgreementsIn the archive, this Tip is in five categories:
Managing YourselfPerception – How You Perceive Yourself
Perception – How You Perceive Others
Personal Growth & Self-Development
Five related Coaching Tips you can listen to are
Lots to browse through!
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From everyone at “The Look & Sound of Leadership,” thanks!
See you next month!
Wed, 04 Dec 2019
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