Beyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Infidelity

In 2011, we had an early discovery of betrayal that should have brought us to our knees before God and driven us straight to professional help.   Instead, we handled it the way far too many couples do: privately, quickly, and entirely on our own.   Johnny wept, apologized, and even placed a phone call in Emily’s presence to break off contact with the other woman.   Emily wanted to believe it was over. Johnny felt the relief of dodging a bullet.   Yet days later, the underground connection resumed, turning into a four-year physical affair and three additional years of deception before our world completely blew apart in 2018.   In this episode, we unpack the dangerous warning signs we missed, the pseudo-repairs that gave us false hope, and the fuse that kept burning because we chose isolation over true accountability.   We also give you hope through God’s word and encouragement to face your fears to help you make the decision to be done facing this alone.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR - If this, or any of our episodes, brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:   Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 155. Beyond the Wall of Isolation: Fears of the Husband (The Mask) Episode 156. Beyond the Wall of Isolation: Fears of the Wife (The Burden) Episode 100. Getting Real Help for Your Marriage: 10 Obstacles to Counseling and Coaching Episode 103. 9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal for Him and Her   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

Have you just found out that your spouse has been unfaithful to you? Or, have your own secret sexual choices just been discovered?   Whichever side of this painful discovery you find yourself, your mind is racing with the same terrifying questions: Now what? Where do we go from here? Is our marriage over?   The truth is hard to swallow: Yes, the marriage you had is dead.   Facing life after infidelity means stepping onto a path you never asked for, never anticipated, and don’t know how to navigate.   The fear is real, the confusion is overwhelming, and the security you built your life upon feels completely shattered.   The old normal cannot be salvaged, and trying to patch up the rubble on your own will only lead to further heartbreak.   In this episode, we pull back the curtain on an early discovery story from our own marriage. We reveal the devastating mistake we made—sweeping the truth under the rug without qualified help, leaving an unexploded fuse that detonated years later.   You cannot navigate the fallout of sexual betrayal alone. Hit play to trade panic for direction and find your footing in the middle of the storm.   We pray this blesses you!   Johnny and Emily     💚TIP JAR - If this, or any of our episodes, brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe     RESOURCES:   Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes https://covenanteyes.sjv.io/xJ3JJO Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)     RELATED EPISODES: Episode 59. Is It Over? Take These 5 Steps to Save Your Marriage After Adultery Episode 89. Considering Divorce After Sexual Betrayal? 3 Good Reasons to Stay Married Episode 100. Getting Real Help for Your Marriage: 10 Obstacles to Counseling and Coaching Episode 103. 9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal for Him and Her     NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ Connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

We have a quick episode for you today with some important reminders, some encouragement, plus a beautiful word of hope from scripture.   Join us for a few minutes to help you get grounded this week and remember that you are not alone and there is hope!   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR - If this, or any of our episodes, brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:   Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 72. Praising God While in the Storm of Sexual Betrayal and Porn-Fueled Infidelity Episode 118. Is It Okay to Take a Break While Recovering from Sexual Betrayal?   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

Recovery is not a straight line, and hitting an unexpected landmine years down the road can feel like falling all the way back to day one. Recording from our anniversary trip, we unpack a sudden trigger that hit Emily in a hotel pool, dragging up painful memories of the past and the heavy reality of betrayal trauma.   Instead of old patterns taking over—withdrawal, defensiveness, or panic—this moment became a test of the tools we’ve fought to build. Emily shares what it looked like to reach for Johnny rather than pull away, and how staying connected in the middle of the wave changed everything.   Johnny breaks down the vital shift from defensive reaction to grounded, empathetic listening, offering the reassurance and space Emily needed to let the grief move through them instead of tearing them apart.   Triggers aren't proof that healing failed; they are flashing lights pointing to the exact spots still asking for grace. Tune in to hear how faith, community, and relentless honesty turn unexpected pain into deeper intimacy.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR - If this, or any of our episodes, brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:   Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 13. His Triggers, Her Triggers – 4 Steps For Dealing With Triggers While Healing From Infidelity Episode 79. Redeeming What Was Lost, Stolen, or Given Away Through Adultery   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

Geography holds memory—and for couples healing from sexual betrayal, certain places can feel like emotional minefields.   Eight years after Discovery Day, we returned to a beach tied to some of the most painful pre-D-Day memories of our marriage.   We didn't go back to pretend the past never happened; we went to reclaim the ground. But stepping onto that sand meant facing the reality of the setting: the ocean breeze, the crowds, and women in bikinis walking right across our path.   In earlier days, that scenario would have sparked silence, panic, hyper-vigilance, and quiet dread. Instead, we took an early morning walk and did something radically different—we talked through our vigilance plan out loud, in real time.   In this episode, we share the raw, honest conversation we had on that shoreline and unpack a critical truth for couples in recovery: in the real world, simply seeing someone does not mean a husband has failed. Recovery isn't about avoiding sightlines—it’s about the choice that happens after the seeing.   If you’ve ever dreaded a vacation, a summer trip, or just walking down a crowded street with your spouse, this episode will show you how to move from walking on eggshells (or seashells) to standing on solid, peaceful ground.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR - If this, or any of our episodes, brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:   Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 77. 4 Practical Steps for Vigilance in Recovery from Porn-Fueled Infidelity Episode 95. Weddings and Pirates and Triggers. Oh, my!   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

Before packing our bags for our wedding anniversary trip to intentionally reclaim and redeem a beach tied to pre-D-Day memories, we sat down for a raw, foundational conversation with returning guest Heather O’Brien.   If you have spent months or years in betrayal recovery, you know how exhausting it is to manage the daily fallout. The anxiety spikes, the sudden triggers, the paralyzing shame, the defensiveness—it’s easy to spend all your energy playing defense against the symptoms without ever understanding the deeper spiritual and emotional dynamics driving them.   Heather O’Brien, licensed minister and author of the new training manual Heal With God, joins us to break that cycle. Heather pulls no punches about why traditional advice often leaves believers stuck in a loop of shame, unforgiveness, and fear. Instead of managing behavioral fallout, Heather outlines a Spirit-led process of asking God curious questions, exposing the toxic internal agreements we’ve made, and taking healing one specific root at a time.   Whether you are wrestling with hidden bitterness, suffocating self-protection, or the lie that you have to fix everything all at once, this episode offers a practical, grounded roadmap to hearing God's voice in your deepest wounds.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR - If this, or any of our episodes, brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe    CONNECT WITH HEATHER O’BRIEN: Heal with God podcast Heal with God book Heal with God Workshop – Free 1 hour online, Spirit-led healing workshop designed to experience the Heal with God approach with live coaching.   RESOURCES:   Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 11. Freedom and Healing: 4 Keys to Unlocking Forgiveness After Sexual Betrayal Episode 75. Heal With God From Sexual Betrayal, Shame, and Unforgiveness: feat. Heather O'Brien   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

True healing cannot take root in the shadows of half-truths. In this deeply candid episode of Beyond Broken Vows, we open the door to Johnny’s personal Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA) 12-step presentation, offering an unsparing look at the destructive path of sexual addiction and the transformative power of rigorous, Christ-centered recovery.   Johnny retraces the roots of his brokenness back to his family of origin. Marked by early abuse, emotional distance, and painful rejection wounds in his school years, he turned to pornography at an early age as a false refuge. Though he attempted to manage the behavior, old patterns resurfaced with force during his service in the Navy.   What followed was a devastating cycle of hidden pornography use, compulsive fantasy, and multiple affairs. The secrecy eventually shattered under the weight of discovery, followed by an initial, poorly handled disclosure that compounded Emily's trauma and laid bare the full extent of the wreckage.   Facing the reality of his destructive choices, Johnny entered SAA in 2019 to confront the root of his sin. Working the twelve steps forced him to see past the outward acting out to the real engine driving it: a heart sick with objectification and an insatiable need for attention and approval. True freedom required tearing down that idolatry through radical surrender, thorough amends, rigorous daily inventory, disciplined prayer, and a life turned outward in service to others.   Johnny shares where that difficult road has led, including his "Dayenu" declaration of gratitude for God's sustaining grace and the enduring challenge of Matthew 25:21 to remain faithful in the small, daily choices of obedience. This episode is an urgent reminder that while the journey through betrayal trauma is grueling, a marriage and a man can be redeemed when truth is faced without excuses.   Listen in to hear the full story, and learn how to get connected with coaching resources and our Christ-centered men’s recovery group.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR - If this, or any of our episodes, brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:   Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 25. Persistent Sexual Integrity Issues in Marriage. Do Recovery Programs Really Work? Episode 49. Sobriety vs. Recovery After Porn-Fueled Infidelity   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

“Why do I have to share my location, hand over my phone, and check in constantly, while my spouse doesn’t have to do any of that?”   If you have wrestled with the frustration of accountability rules that feel completely one-sided, this conversation is for you.   In this episode, we tackle the reality of double standards after sexual betrayal—why they exist, why they are necessary, and how to navigate them without letting bitterness destroy your progress.   God designed marriage to operate on equal footing, but betrayal instantly upsets that balance. Whether it is porn, emotional connections, or physical infidelity, the hidden defect of entitlement quietly tips the scales.   When the truth comes to light, everything changes.   The unfaithful spouse must naturally carry the lion’s share of rebuilding trust, which means agreeing to rigorous scrutiny through device tracking, transparent communication, location sharing, and strict travel safety boundaries.   Living under rules that only apply to one person can easily breed resentment and hard feelings.   Johnny opens up about his own struggle with this dynamic and reveals the powerful mindset shift that changed everything: replacing “Why me?” with deep gratitude that Emily chose to stay and fight for the marriage.   When you view boundaries not as a prison sentence, but as the proving ground to demonstrate genuine trustworthiness, the road to lasting restoration truly begins.   “Now it is required that those who have been given a trust must prove faithful.”  1 Corinthians 4:2   Join us as we tackle this tricky topic and get some encouragement for your own healing journey.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR - If this, or any of our episodes, brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:   Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 82. Broken Trust After Infidelity? 3 Ways to Reach Her Heart Episode 127. 12 Markers of a Trustworthy Husband (Series Intro)   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

Last week we challenged husbands to stop treating recovery like a program to complete and start living it as a way of life. This week, we’re talking to the wives who picked up the slack.   In this episode, we cover:   Why managing your husband’s recovery is a trauma response—not control for control’s sake What “managing” actually looks like in daily life (you might be doing it without realizing) The two devastating pitfalls: wives burn out, husbands stay stuck in passive compliance The danger of both extremes—the warden and the ghost—and why neither leads to healing How to shift from manager to ally: setting boundaries based on YOUR needs instead of rules for HIS behavior Practical steps for wives to hand back the keys—and for husbands to step into the vacuum   True intimacy blooms when two whole adults each take responsibility for their own hearts and recovery—and willingly meet at the table. Join us to find out more!   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR - If this, or any of our episodes, brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:   Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 125. 4 Reasons Showing Compassion Feels Risky for Betrayed Wives Episode 135. Stuck in the Wound: 4 Traps That Hinder Healing For a Betrayed Wife   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

There is a common misunderstanding that recovery is a mountain to be climbed—a series of steps, chapters, or weeks that, once completed, allow you to finally stand at the summit and call the work “finished.”   But if you have spent your time checking the boxes of a recovery program only to find that the peace you promised your spouse hasn’t yet taken root, you are not alone.   In this episode, we sit down to discuss the critical, often-overlooked reality that finishing a program is not the end of the road; it is the beginning of the daily life of recovery.   Johnny shares his own journey through the wreckage of porn addiction and adultery, detailing the long road that led to seven years of sobriety. He unpacks the fundamental difference between sobriety—the mere absence of a behavior—and true recovery, which is a life transformed by the daily, intentional application of the work.   We address the husbands who feel they have done enough, and the wives who are still waiting to see the fruit of that work.   Recovery is not a curriculum to be mastered; it is a lifestyle of surrender, honesty, and daily practice that must be lived out in the smallest moments of every day.   Our conversation moves into the “how” of this daily surrender. We outline what it means to truly “work your program” by applying tools like the HALT-BS acronym, the art of naming emotions, and the discipline of making constant corrections and amends.   This isn’t about striving for perfection, but about filling the voids in your life with the Holy Spirit rather than old coping mechanisms.   If you are stuck in the cycle of “doing the work” without seeing the change, this episode offers a roadmap for moving from theoretical knowledge to a living, breathing reality of integrity and healing.   For those seeking to bridge the gap between their current situation and the life of integrity they desire, Johnny offers specialized coaching for men struggling with addiction. You can find more information on his coaching practice, along with resources and tools to help you work your program, through the links below.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR - If this, or any of our episodes, brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:   Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) Sex Addiction Self-Assessment Questionnaire    RELATED EPISODES: Episode 43. Our 12-Step Series Wrap Up: Which Sex Addiction Recovery Program Is the Best? Episode 49. Sobriety vs. Recovery After Porn-Fueled Infidelity   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

In this episode of Beyond Broken Vows, we get real about “rupture and repair”—because let’s face it, every marriage hits those moments where things fall apart.   We’re not talking about the big blow-ups that get all the attention; we’re talking about those quieter breaks in connection that happen after infidelity, when a simple misunderstanding or a triggered memory sends one of you reeling.   We dig into why it’s so important to address every rupture quickly, and how both spouses need to examine their exact role in it—without pointing fingers.   We walk through four root responses we all default to and we give you actual sample statements for both the initiator and the responder, because humility isn’t just a nice idea—it’s the key that unlocks real healing.   You’re not alone in this struggle so grab something to takes notes with and join us today to get some insights and encouragement for your healing journey.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:   Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episodes 32. Recovery Step 5: What Have I Done? Admitting How My Porn Addiction Hurt Myself and Others Episode 10. When “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough: 8 Steps to a Healing Apology Episode 80. 7 Caveats for an Effective Healing Apology   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

All summer long, we’ve sat with courageous friends from the Beyond Broken Vows family.   Aimee, Kevin, Felicia, Jacob & Leah, Suzanne, RD, Heidi, Tricia, and Emily each opened up their lives and shared the raw, unfiltered “messy middle” of betrayal and recovery.   Nine stories. Nine marriages. Nine unique journeys through the wreckage of infidelity.   And yet, as we look back over the season, one thing is unmistakable: God kept weaving the same thread of redemption through every single story.   In this special wrap-up episode, we pull back the curtain on the whole series. We highlight the moments that broke us, the stories that surprised us, and the gold nuggets of truth that kept showing up again and again — the threads that connect every wife and husband who has ever walked this road.   You’ll hear about the similarities that make you feel less alone: the years of silence before help came, the agonizing drip of trickle-truth, and the realization that you cannot strive your way to a faithful marriage.   This episode is a celebration of what God did — and is doing — to redeem these marriages. It’s a reminder that the old marriage really does have to die before a new one can be built. It’s an invitation to stop carrying shame in the dark and step into the light of community, honesty, and radical hope.   As we close out this series, we leave you with this: recovery isn’t linear. There will be high highs and low lows. But through it all, God’s presence remains constant — the anchor that holds when everything else is falling apart.   Join us for this final conversation for this series and let these stories be the spark that encourages you to step out of the shadows and embrace the hope that is ours through Jesus Christ.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 168. Summer Stories of Hope: When Decades of Secrets Escalate to an Affair, with Tricia Episodes 169. Summer Stories of Hope: Betrayed Again! Is She Enough? with Emily   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

Emily married her “Prince Charming” at 20, expecting a lifetime of safety. Instead, she spent the next two decades in a silent battle with betrayal.   Just three years into their marriage, she discovered evidence of affairs. Rather than seeking help, she fell into the trap of shame, blaming herself and spending 17 years trying to “perfect” her way into a better marriage.   The mask finally slipped for good in their 21st year. Despite her years of striving, the unfaithfulness was brought to light again.   In this episode, Emily opens up about the exhaustion of maintaining a facade, the moment she finally realized her efforts to “fix” her husband were failing, and the pivot toward real, structured recovery.   She shares the relief of finally being heard by a coach, the courage it took to set a boundary and ask him to move out, and what life looks like now as they pursue honest accountability and a renewed focus on Jesus.   Listen now to hear Emily’s journey from the futility of striving to the freedom of a marriage being rebuilt on radical honesty.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 168. Summer Stories of Hope: When Decades of Secrets Escalate to an Affair, with Tricia Episodes 167. Summer Stories of Hope: Betrayal from the Beginning, with Heidi   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

For twenty-two years, Tricia’s marriage carried a quiet, underlying tension. Five years in, she discovered her husband’s pornography use.   For decades after, she lived in a state of constant, lonely hypervigilance, trying to manage the distance without any outside help.   Then, the ground beneath her completely gave way.   After a coworker pursued her husband, a series of crossed boundaries turned into a 10-month affair. The truth came to light in a grocery store parking lot after she watched him delete a text message and confronted him face-to-face.   In this episode, Tricia shares the terrifying reality of what followed: the intense trauma symptoms, the paralyzing grief, the white-hot rage, and the frantic effort to shield their three children while her own world was collapsing.   She opens up about the pivotal moment she reached out for help, heard the hard truth that her old marriage was over, and began the grueling, grace-filled work of building something entirely new.   Ten months into recovery, Tricia is learning how to stop controlling her husband’s choices and instead release his recovery to God.   Hers is a story of fierce survival, deep wrestling, and the choice to love covenantally when every instinct tells you to run.   Listen now to hear how Tricia walked through the fire of betrayal and found a path toward true, God-given restoration.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 166. Summer Stories of Hope: Beyond Extortion and Trickle Truth, with R.D. Episodes 167. Summer Stories of Hope: Betrayal from the Beginning, with Heidi   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

The trauma in Heidi’s marriage didn’t start with a slow fade. It started the day after her wedding, when she answered a phone call from a woman her new husband had been sexually involved with.   For the next 17 years, Heidi lived in the fog of a marriage that looked fine on the outside. But inside, she felt married to a stranger.   Then the facade broke again when she discovered extensive pornography on her husband’s phone, and everything she had buried came rushing to the surface.   Heidi opens up about the “messy middle” of healing—the exhausting vigilance, the high highs and low lows, the daily choice to ask hard questions instead of retreating into silence.   And she shares the deepest truth she has discovered along the way: that God sees her. In the middle of the wreckage, He has been calling her His beloved daughter all along.   If you have spent years silently carrying the weight of a marriage that feels hollow, Heidi’s story will remind you that you are not invisible. You are not forgotten. You are seen by the One who never looks away.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 165. Summer Stories of Hope: Healing From Sexual Betrayal and Relapse, with Suzanne Episode 166. Summer Stories of Hope: Beyond Extortion and Trickle Truth, with R.D.   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

On paper, R.D. and his wife had a life built on a foundation of faith and family. But in the quiet moments, the immense weight of family life and financial strain left R.D. looking for an escape.   He found it in pornography and online chat rooms—a secret life that kept him isolated from the people he loved most.   When a digital extortionist threatened to expose his hidden life, the secret didn’t just leak—it exploded.   What followed was the agonizing process of “trickle-truth” and the devastating, slow revelation of how deep his betrayal actually went.   R.D.’s story is a raw look at what happens when a marriage is forced to reckon with the absolute wreckage of a life built on lies.   But there is always hope when we surrender our mess to the only One who can redeem it!   Whether you are the husband fighting to kill the shame, or the wife trying to make sense of the deceit, this episode offers a glimpse of the grueling—but necessary—work of recovery.   Listen now to hear how R.D. moved from the darkness of hidden sin into the light of radical honesty.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 164. Summer Stories of Hope: Discovering True Intimacy After Infidelity, with Jacob and Leah Episode 165. Summer Stories of Hope: Healing From Sexual Betrayal and Relapse, with Suzanne   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

Note: Our guest’s name has been changed for privacy.   Before she and her husband got married, he told her about his childhood sexual abuse and same-sex attraction. He said he was in counseling. She thought it was handled.   It wasn’t.   Thirty-eight years, four children, multiple betrayals, a rehab stint, and a relapse later, Suzanne knows the truth: healing is not a one-time decision. It’s a daily surrender.   This story does not wrap up in a nice neat bow. It is a raw, honest account of a wife who walked through the fog of betrayal, held her family together while her world fell apart, and clung to God in the midst of her fear and doubt.   But it is also a story full of hope. Even in the messy middle, Suzanne has seen the miraculous hand of God at work in her life and marriage.   If you are tired of pretending everything is fine, you need to hear her story.   In this episode, Suzanne shares: The weight of keeping secrets to protect his reputation What it felt like to discover betrayal after betrayal over decades How she endured separation, rehab, and relapse What God has been teaching her layer by layer in the long war   Listen now to be reminded that God sees you in the fight, and He is not finished yet.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 164. Summer Stories of Hope: Discovering True Intimacy After Infidelity, with Jacob and Leah Episode 163. Summer Stories of Hope: Beyond Porn-Fueled Infidelity, with Felicia   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

They met at a homeschool ski lesson when they were eight. Married young. Kids came fast. On paper, it was a dream.   Behind closed doors, it was falling apart.   Poor communication. Resentment. Faith tension. And in secret, Jacob’s pornography addiction escalated into sexual experiences outside his marriage. They were living entirely separate lives.   Then God showed up at a marriage retreat.   During deliverance prayer, Jacob experienced supernatural freedom from lust. On the drive home, he told Leah everything.   The confession broke them. But it also saved them.   Through family, church leaders, recovery programs, coaching, and even a therapeutic separation while Leah was pregnant, they fought for their marriage.   Today, he is nearly three years free from sexual sin. Real character change. A stronger marriage and faith than they’ve ever had.   If your marriage feels like it’s quietly crumbling, take heart. The God who met two eight-year-olds on a ski hill is the same God who meets us in the valley.   He’s still in the business of rebuilding what sin tried to destroy.   Listen now to hear their full story.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 162. Summer Stories of Hope:- From Isolation to Connection, with Kevin Episode 163. Summer Stories of Hope: Beyond Porn-Fueled Infidelity, with Felicia   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

For decades, Felicia believed she was in a close, happy marriage—until a quiet afternoon in October 2022 revealed a hidden reality that shattered her world in an instant.     Felicia walks us through the profound shock of discovering her husband’s secret pornography addiction. She shares the painful aftermath: the feelings of isolation, the well-meaning but misguided advice to “just forgive,” and the difficult journey of navigating despair and anger toward God while her entire sense of reality was being dismantled.     This isn’t just a story of betrayal, though; it is a powerful testimony of what happens when a couple commits to radical, transparent recovery.      If you are currently navigating the fallout of infidelity in your marriage, or if you are wondering if intimacy can ever be restored after such a deep betrayal, this episode is for you.     Felicia’s journey is a powerful reminder that recovery is a lifelong commitment, but God’s grace is sufficient for every step of that journey.     We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 161. Summer Stories of Hope: Beyond Infidelity, with Aimee Episode 162. Summer Stories of Hope:- From Isolation to Connection, with Kevin   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

In this episode of our Summer Stories of Hope series, we speak with Kevin about his recovery journey and the restoration of his marriage. For years, Kevin struggled with a cycle of pornography use and secrecy that created significant distance in his relationship with his wife.   Kevin shares his experience of the discovery process, the difficult season that followed, including time spent apart, and the immediate start of counseling and support groups. Three and a half years later, Kevin describes the progress they have made through consistent honesty and active recovery.   Today, he has learned that true freedom comes from humility, dependence on God, and allowing oneself to be fully known by others.   If you are feeling stuck in a pattern of secrecy, Kevin’s story offers a realistic look at how recovery can transform a man and a marriage. While the path requires hard work and ongoing vigilance, it leads to a deeper connection and a genuine life of freedom.   We hope this conversation encourages you to keep pursuing healing. Whether you are beginning this process or are well into it, there is always hope for a marriage centered on Christ.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 161. Summer Stories of Hope - Beyond Infidelity, with Aimee   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

Welcome to our “Summer Stories of Hope” series.     In this episode, we share Aimee’s story—a journey that forces us to look at how we survive when the ground beneath our feet shifts, not once, but repeatedly.     After thirty years of marriage and surviving the unimaginable agony of losing both her daughters, Aimee’s husband delivered the final blow: a confession of a long-term pornography addiction and a betrayal that shattered her reality.     Aimee is currently on a journey of healing and is in the “messy middle,” where the weight of grief and the sting of infidelity collide.     She doesn’t offer easy answers or quick fixes; instead, she shares the raw truth of navigating three years of trickle truth, the necessity of firm boundaries, and the quiet, persistent work of anchoring herself in Scripture and community.     If you’ve spent years in survival mode, waiting for the other shoe to drop, this conversation is for you. Aimee’s story is a testament to finding peace that doesn’t depend on perfect circumstances, but on a God who sustains us when everything else is falling apart.     We pray this blesses you!     Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this, or any of our episodes, brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com   RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

We started the Beyond Broken Vows podcast with nothing but a desire to obey God’s call in the middle of our own shattered marriage.   Now, looking back after three years of walking through that fire with Him, we know one thing for certain: He is the ultimate Redeemer.   Our journey has been defined by the hard, holy work of surrender, and we are here to invite you into that same hope.   If you’re listening to us today and questioning if your marriage can survive this season, don’t lose heart—God is already at work in the middle of your mess.   We want you to know that the hard work of recovery is definitely worth it and that God has a purpose for your pain.   Your story isn’t finished!   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 55. Our Podcast is One Year Old!!! Marriages Redeemed, Hearts Renewed Episode 107. Celebrating What God Has Done! Healing Marriages Shattered by Porn-Fueled Infidelity   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

We often talk about the weight of sexual betrayal, but rarely do we discuss the invisible, spiritual webs that keep us tethered to our past. A soul tie is more than just a memory; it is an emotional and spiritual connection formed when we yield our body and heart to another.   While God established this spiritual framework to be the cornerstone of a healthy, covenant marriage, the Enemy of our souls loves to pervert it, using it to create destructive bonds that linger long after a sinful act has ended.   If you find yourself haunted by the ghost of a past relationship, unable to fully give your heart to your spouse, or trapped in cycles of obsession and emotional instability, you may be walking in the shadow of an ungodly soul tie. These connections do more than just distract; they provide a legal foothold for spiritual oppression and hinder the very intimacy you are called to experience in your marriage.   Join us as we look at the reality of these spiritual bonds, review some indicators of the presence of soul ties, and learn how to use the authority of Christ to sever those ties, break the Enemy’s influence, and fully restore your heart to the covenant you promised to honor.   We pray this blesses you!   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this, or any of our episodes, brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com   RESOURCES:      Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   Soul Tie Prayer Father, I confess to you the ungodly soul tie that I created by entering into an emotional/sexual relationship with ______. Today, I break this soul tie and all ties with ______. I release ______ to you to act according to your will and purpose. I choose today to re-establish my exclusive covenant with my spouse. I commit to love and honor him/her with my thoughts and actions. I pledge my unwavering fidelity to my spouse until we are parted by death. It is by the shed blood of Jesus and the word of my testimony that that I decree this today. I rest in Jesus' words "It is finished". Amen   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 16. ”It’s Just Porn, What’s The Big Deal?” And 4 Other Lies We Tell Ourselves To Justify Viewing Pornography Episode 99. When the Past Invades: 4 Steps to Victory Over Euphoric Recall   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

In our series, Beyond the Wall of Isolation, we’ve spent the last several weeks dismantling the myths that keep Christian couples trapped in cycles of secrecy and shame. We’ve talked about the masks we wear, the burdens we carry, and the importance of a united front when it comes to our children.   But we know that for many of you, this series feels like it might be a little late. You’re listening and thinking, “I wish I had heard this sooner. I’ve already shared too much with my kids. I’ve already crossed those lines, and the damage is done.”   If that’s you, we want you to know something important: It is not too late to make it right.   In this final episode of our Beyond the Wall series, we are tackling the reality of “over-disclosure.” If your children already know the graphic details or have been used as confidants during your crisis, you aren’t a failure, you’re a parent who was caught in the middle of a storm.   But what if you didn’t have to stay stuck in that regret?   In this episode, we’re busting the myth that “it’s too late.” We’re going to walk through the practical, grace-filled steps for making amends.   We’ll show you how to: Own your mistakes without making your kids your counselors. Offer sincere apologies that don’t shift the burden back onto them. Create space for them to feel what they feel while you consistently model repentance. Trust God with the outcome, even when the relationship still feels fragile.   You haven’t ruined the future, and you don’t have to carry the regret of those conversations alone. Join us today as we learn how to clean up the mess with grace and start the long, beautiful road to genuine repair.   We pray this blesses you!   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this, or any of our episodes, brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com   RESOURCES:      Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 14. To Tell Or Not To Tell: 3 Things We Did Right (And 1 Thing We Didn’t) When Deciding to Who Needs To Know Our Infidelity Story Episode 38. Recovery Step 9: Become an Action Hero! Righting the Wrongs of Our Destructive Sexual Behavior) Episode 154. Beyond the Wall of Isolation (Series Intro)   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

In our current series, Behind the Wall of Isolation, we are dismantling the myths that keep Christian couples trapped in cycles of secrecy and shame.   Today we’re tackling something that keeps a lot of parents awake at night…   Should we talk to the kids about the betrayal?   And if so, when?   And how?   When hiding the reality of our marriage from our kids, we aren’t just trying to protect them; we are navigating a minefield of our own fears.   We’re going over 8 common fears parents feel when they choose to isolate their children from the truth of their struggle and also give you some answers to the when and how questions.   We pray this blesses you!   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this, or any of our episodes, brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com   RESOURCES:      Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 14. To Tell Or Not To Tell: 3 Things We Did Right (And 1 Thing We Didn’t) When Deciding to Who Needs To Know Our Infidelity Story Episode 154. Beyond the Wall of Isolation (Series Intro)   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

In our ongoing series, Behind the Wall of Isolation, we are stripping away the myths that keep Christian couples stuck in cycles of secrecy and shame.   Building on our conversations about why “keeping it in-house” never protects a marriage, today’s episode walks through eight fears that stop many wives from sharing their story with others.   Join us as we address these obstacles head-on and discuss how to find the courage to step out of the shadows.   We pray this blesses you!   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this, or any of our episodes, brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com   RESOURCES:      Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 14. To Tell Or Not To Tell: 3 Things We Did Right (And 1 Thing We Didn’t) When Deciding to Who Needs To Know Our Infidelity Story Episode 154. Beyond the Wall of Isolation (Series Intro)   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

Have you encountered one of the most dangerous traps in the entire recovery process?   Today we’re talking to husbands, who have been unfaithful to their wives, about the myth of “Managing the Reputation” which can trap men, and marriages, in isolation.   Husband’s, you may be terrified of what people will think if they see the reality behind the mask you wear. You’re holding onto the “honorable” version of yourself while also holding onto the secret of your sin that nullifies your honor.   The truth is that your reputation is a house of cards. If it’s built on a hollow foundation of secret sin, it’s already gone.   You aren’t protecting a reputation; you’re protecting your pride, and your pride becomes one of the biggest obstacles to your wife’s healing and your true reconciliation with God. You cannot be a man of integrity while living a life of duplicity.   Join us as we outline 8 common fears that keep husbands behind the wall of isolation and give hope for moving beyond isolation into freedom.     We pray this blesses you!   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this, or any of our episodes, brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com   RESOURCES:      Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 14. To Tell Or Not To Tell: 3 Things We Did Right (And 1 Thing We Didn’t) When Deciding to Who Needs To Know Our Infidelity Story Episode 154. Beyond the Wall of Isolation (Series Intro)   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

Isolation is the secret weapon of betrayal. When a husband is hiding a life of porn or stepping outside the marriage for sex, he’s essentially building a wall. He’s living a double life, and that wall keeps his wife on the outside holding her breath, while he’s off in his own dark, private world.   It kills intimacy, it kills trust, and honestly, it turns marriage into a performance.   The goal is to dismantle the wall of secrecy so that the atmosphere of the home can move from the shadows of betrayal to the light of genuine, albeit painful, restoration.   Recovery isn’t just about stopping the sin; it is about regaining what was lost, stolen, or given away and building a new marriage that is actually intimate - because it is honest.   We pray this blesses you!   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this, or any of our episodes, brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com   RESOURCES:      Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 14. To Tell Or Not To Tell: 3 Things We Did Right (And 1 Thing We Didn’t) When Deciding to Who Needs To Know Our Infidelity Story Episode 57. Alone No More: How Isolation Fuels Sex-Addiction and How to Defeat It   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

In this episode, we explore the destructive cycle of objectification, which is the act of stripping away a person’s humanity to turn them into a mere object for our own selfish purposes.   Whether performed mentally through imagination, emotionally to soothe personal discomfort, verbally, or physically, this objectification mindset can be a gateway to sin.   When we begin to view others as parts rather than as individuals with souls, we desensitize ourselves, making the unthinkable possible.   If you are struggling to maintain purity in your marriage or seeking freedom from long-term porn addiction, this conversation is for you. We break down the mechanics of how we strip humanity from others and, more importantly, how to stop the cycle.   We pray this blesses you!   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this, or any of our episodes, brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com   RESOURCES:      Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 97. "The Bubble" - What Makes Sex Addiction So Cunning, Baffling, and Powerful? Episode 126. Forgiving Yourself After Betraying Your Wife   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

Hello Man of God,   Have you been stuck in a seemingly unending cycle of persistent sexual integrity issues - be it pornography, one-night stands, sex workers, or long-term sexual relationships, only to find yourself in prayer, at the "alter" or at the "foot of the cross" asking God to remove this sin from your life?   Did God answer you??   Did God remove your desire for pornography??   For many of us the answer was no. For some, the answer was not what we thought it would be.   What if God's plan to save you was to expose you and lay you out bare for all to see?   What if God loved you so much that he exposed you; doing for you what you could not or would not do for yourself?   Today we will spend some time talking about when God's plan to help us, is through exposing us. Johnny will share his personal story of when God was giving him the way out – the way to freedom.   You will not want to miss this impactful conversation, so find a quiet spot to listen for what God may be telling you.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this, or any of our episodes, brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com   RESOURCES:      Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 16. ”It’s Just Porn, What’s The Big Deal?” And 4 Other Lies We Tell Ourselves To Justify Viewing Pornography Episode 25. Persistent Sexual Integrity Issues in Marriage. Do Recovery Programs Really Work?   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

In this episode, we reflect on the sacred weight of Passion Week, and invite you to pause and turn your eyes toward the transformative final days of Jesus’s earthly life.   From the triumphant shouts of Palm Sunday to the agonizing solitude of Gethsemane and the ultimate sacrifice at the Cross, this week is a reminder that the path to redemption always requires a death.   We reflect on the gravity of what Jesus endured for us, acknowledging that without the shadow of Good Friday, there could be no glorious dawn of Easter Sunday.   In this episode, we explore how the powerful truth of the resurrection offers a path forward for those navigating the pain of sexual betrayal in their marriages.   Much like the disciples at the empty tomb, you are invited to stop looking for life among the dead remnants of the past.   By letting go of what once was, you create space for Christ’s resurrection power to breathe new life into your relationship.   Join us as we walk through these final days of our Lord, finding deep, abiding hope in the victory of the empty tomb and the promise of renewal for your marriage.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this, or any of our episodes, brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com   RESOURCES:      Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 33.The Greatest Gift at Christmas: A 12-Stop Journey To God’s Plan for Redemption Episode 79. Redeeming What Was Lost, Stolen, or Given Away Through Adultery   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

As Christ followers, we absolutely want to use the scriptures as our primary guide for living our lives. Afterall, as it says in 2 Tim. 3:16-17, all scripture is God breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training, in righteousness so that the servant of God may be equipped for every good work.   We love God’s Word, but sometimes we can use scripture as a weapon.   On today’s show, we’ll talk about what it means to weaponize scripture against our spouse while we are healing and recovering from the effects of a marriage shattered by sexual betrayal.   We’ll define what weaponizing the Bible is, show you some examples of what it looks like, and offer solutions for using scripture to promote peace and healing while recovering from the effects of infidelity in your marriage.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com   RESOURCES:      Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 69. 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs...(Series) #5 Spiritual Leadership Episode 132.12 Markers of a Trustworthy Husband (Markers 10, 11, and 12)   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

We’ve walked the hard road of betrayal and addiction, and we know that half-measures simply don’t cut it when you are fighting for the heart of your marriage. True healing isn’t about just stopping the bad behavior—it’s about actively pursuing the life God intended for your covenant, even when the path is difficult.   Today, we’re talking about what it really takes to go the extra mile. We’re discussing why settling for the bare minimum keeps so many couples stuck, and how leaning into the uncomfortable work is exactly what separates those who survive from those who truly thrive in restoration.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com   RESOURCES:      Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 49. Sobriety vs. Recovery After Porn-Fueled Infidelity Episode 140. How Well Do You Really Know Your Spouse When Infidelity Becomes Your Reality   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

In our coaching practice, we see patterns emerge in different areas that tell a bigger story about what is going on in the minds husbands who have betrayed, and their traumatized wives.   Today we are going to talk about the scenario of a husband making suggestions for the recovery and healing of his wife. This is tricky ground. The husband’s motivation can come from a place of genuine concern or from something more self-serving. Is either one of these approaches helpful?     We’ll unpack this quandary, and give you some hope for working out this issue in a way that pleases God and gives him the glory.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com   RESOURCES:      Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 22. How Long Will This Hurt? Experiencing The 5 Stages of Grief Through the Lens of Sexual Betrayal Episode 87. Can’t We Just Get Back to Normal? Shortest Path to True Intimacy After Sexual Betrayal   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

Today, we want to talk about an extremely painful question betrayed wives ask their unfaithful husbands.   It’s a question that torments a wife when looking at the history of her marriage through the lens of infidelity.   Those memories of special times spent together - vacations, family events, wedding anniversaries - are tainted by the new knowledge that she wasn’t his one and only love.   She can’t wrap her mind around what his sexual betrayal means for their relationship and it’s devastating to imagine him engaging in sexual or emotional attachments with anyone else, whether on a screen or in person.   This question is, “Did you ever really love me?”   We have a raw conversation over this question from our own experience; finding some answers and also finding hope in Jesus Christ’s unfailing love for us!   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com   RESOURCES:      Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 92. Dying to Self: Transformational Moments in Recovery from Sexual Betrayal Episode 136. Stuck in a Rut: 6 Traps that Hinder Recovery for an Unfaithful Husband   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

Today, we’re tackling Triggers and Trauma Responses, post-betrayal alarms that test our commitment after infidelity is discovered in the marriage.   We talked over this topic in our last Unseen Beauty wives care group gathering and it’s something that all betrayed wives experience. Several of the women gave examples of recent triggers and some were able to give wonderful insights on how to handle them.   Today we’ll share what triggers are, the emotions behind them, and some biblical tools for managing them, like taking thoughts captive.   Plus, we have created a PAUSE acronym to help wives move through triggers in a healthy way. You can find the link to this resource below.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com   RESOURCES:      Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) P.A.U.S.E for Triggers download   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 13. His Triggers, Her Triggers – 4 Steps For Dealing With Triggers While Healing From Infidelity Episode 95. Weddings and Pirates and Triggers. Oh, my!   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

Sometimes recovery isn’t just killing one addiction—it can be like a game of Whack-a-Mole. Kill the sex addiction, and others pop up.   Picture this...you’re in an arcade, inexplicably drawn to the game called Whack-a-Mole. The idea of the game is when a mole pops up you whack it with a padded mallet, and as you strike it, it goes down into its hole.   But another one pops up in another area.   Now your attention is drawn to the one that just popped up. You repeat the process until the timer runs out. You never really win the game, but you may score more points than others based on the speed and accuracy of your ability to whack the moles.   This can have a very similar effect when we are trying to rid our lives of addiction, or simply compulsive behaviors.   We usually start with the one that is bringing the most destruction to our lives and marriages. We may feel we have victory over our primary compulsion, yet another can emerge to take its place.   Why is this?   In our show today we will cover the pitfalls of what we are calling addiction Whack-a-Mole, what it is, how to spot it, and how to actually exterminate all the moles of addiction in your life.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com   RESOURCES:      Addiction Whack-A-Mole Worksheet Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 17. Is My Spouse A Porn Addict? 13 Clues To Help Expose Compulsive Sexual Behavior Episode 25. Persistent Sexual Integrity Issues in Marriage. Do Recovery Programs Really Work?   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

Imagine this: You’ve survived the gut-wrenching reality of Full Disclosure. The truth is out—presumably there are no more secrets.   After a long healing journey, you’re starting to breathe again.   Then… bam. A new revelation drops.   Is it a devastating setback… or the breakthrough you’ve been praying for?   Today, we share a real story and the benefits that can turn pain into progress—stick around!   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 52. What Is His Response To Her BIG Emotions After Porn-Fueled Infidelity? Episode 58. Purpose from Pain: Did Sexual Betrayal Destroy God’s Plan for Your Marriage?   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

Today, we’re diving into one of the rawest pains a marriage can face: infidelity.   Specifically, that pivotal moment when the unfaithful spouse – often the husband – finally comes clean. He unloads decades of secrets, and suddenly his prison of guilt and shame cracks open. Freedom hits him like a wave of hope.   But for the wife? Those same words shatter her world. She’s left carrying the weight he shed, and now she’s trapped in her own prison of grief, betrayal, and isolation. One heart soars; the other plummets.   So what now? How do you navigate this as a couple committed to Christ?   Join us for this raw and candid conversation about our experience with this unfair paradox.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 124. From Hurt to Hope Through Rigorous Honesty Episode 92. Dying to Self: Transformational Moments in Recovery from Sexual Betrayal   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

Is honesty just as simple as telling the truth, or is there more to it?   We are going to unpack that question to reveal some nuances of truth telling that some may not have considered before.   But isn’t truth, truth?   Yes, truth is always truth, but what we’ve discovered through our own healing journey is that inside of the practice of telling the truth, there are layers that are not necessarily obvious.   Today’s topic is not exclusive to the step-by-step process of Full Therapeutic Disclosure, but it is an important foundation for all marriages working to recover from sexual betrayal.   Join us today to learn how to level up your honesty.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 124. 124 | From Hurt to Hope Through Rigorous Honesty Episode 92. Dying to Self: Transformational Moments in Recovery from Sexual Betrayal   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

In our previous episode, we were focusing on questions some husbands and wives have about the need for a Full Therapeutic Disclosure as well as some of the reasons couples hesitate to engage in this process.    We have seen some amazing restoration of marriages through this process and today we’re going to talk about disclosure, not just what happens inside of a Full Therapeutic Disclosure, but also what happens after as couples continue to dig down deep together to become fully known.   Trying to build a new marriage on a cracked slab is disaster waiting to happen. We must completely remove all traces of rubble and brokenness to rebuild on a new solid foundation. We have found that this can be accomplished through transparency, vulnerability, and rigorous honesty.   Pop in your ear buds and spend some time with us!   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 111. Need a Full Therapeutic Disclosure After Infidelity? (Part 1) Episode 140. How Well Do You Really Know Your Spouse When Infidelity Becomes Your Reality   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

Today we’re going to talk about something that strikes fear into the heart of every husband who has been unfaithful - Full Therapeutic Disclosure.   It’s a topic that sounds scary, but it is one of the best tools for recovery that we have discovered and implemented into our coaching practice.   Not only for husbands who have been unfaithful, but also for their betrayed wives.   We have seen God do some amazing things through this process and today we’re going to have a conversation about why some couples hesitate to engage with this recovery tool.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 51. Full Therapeutic Disclosure: 3 Steps to Healing and Freedom After Sexual Betrayal Episode 111. Need a Full Therapeutic Disclosure After Infidelity? (Part 1)   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

How is it already 2026? The start of a new year is an opportunity to look back and reflect on the experiences we've been through and what they've taught us.   But the new year isn’t just about looking back; it's also a chance to look forward and spend some time imagining what could be.   It’s easy to feel stuck in the present and think that things might never change or improve.   It's like trudging down a bumpy street, head down, wary of every crack and pothole, constantly focused on avoiding obstacles. While it’s wise to be cautious, sometimes we focus so much on the rough patches that we forget to lift our eyes and appreciate the beauty around us.   As we welcome this new year, we invite you to take a moment to look up from the challenges of your life and marriage. Let yourself imagine what kind of life you want to live and the spouse you want to become. Think about the possibilities waiting for you on the other side of grief, loss, pain, and struggle.   Today we’re taking a quick look back at our 2025 with you, and sharing some exciting things we have planned for this year.   Happy New Year!   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free!   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 34. New Beginnings for Marriages in the New Year After Sexual Betrayal Episode 86. Recovering From Porn-Fueled Infidelity: Obstacles We Encountered This Year   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

We hope you were able to find some special moments this Christmas even if you are walking through the pain of sexual betrayal. You may be really glad that this year is ending, but not sure next year will be any better.   We’re just dropping in for a quick message of encouragement today and give you some hope and direction for this coming year.   We are sharing an inspiring and meaningful message from Sarah Young the author of Jesus Calling. It was impactful to us, and we hope it will be for you as well.   Happy New Year!   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 34. New Beginnings for Marriages in the New Year After Sexual Betrayal Episode 86. Recovering From Porn-Fueled Infidelity: Obstacles We Encountered This Year   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

As a wife, you may be reeling from the news of sexual betrayal and you are in shock, grieving, and lost.   Or as a husband, your infidelity may have recently been discovered and the shame is suffocating and you feel like you are going to lose your wife and everyone who truly matters to you.   And you may be saying to yourself, “I am alone and I have no hope”.   Our mission here at Beyond Broken Vows is to tell our story of how sexual sin destroyed our marriage, but that through the power of Jesus Christ, we have been redeemed. He has healed us and has given us a brand-new marriage full of hope, peace, joy, and love. Because of what he has done for us, we can assure you that you are not alone and there absolutely is hope.   We are going to take you on a trip through scripture today and show you how great God’s love is for you. He knew what was coming into your life and he made a way for you, and all of us, on this journey from brokenness to wholeness. Because of the arrival of Christ Jesus into our world, we truly are not alone and there is hope.   Merry Christmas!   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 33. The Greatest Gift at Christmas: A 12-Stop Journey To God’s Plan for Redemption Episode 85. A Christmas Message of Hope for Couples After Infidelity   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

True healing from sexual sin and betrayal is a journey that goes beyond just stopping certain behaviors; it demands a fundamental transformation of the heart.   For husbands, the journey to rebuild trust and find healing can be challenging, filled with obstacles that can slow down progress and unintentionally cause more conflict. Often we can get in our own way without realizing it.   In this episode, we'll identify six spiritual and emotional traps—common for husbands trying to recover from sexual integrity issues and help their wives heal. We’ll confront these patterns with biblical truth and provide a clear path toward genuine repentance, accountability, and lasting freedom.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 92. Dying to Self: Transformational Moments in Recovery from Sexual Betrayal Episode 135. Stuck in the Wound: 4 Traps Wives Often Fall Into That Hinder Healing From Sexual Betrayal   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

When a wife discovers her husband’s sexual betrayal, her world shatters. The path to healing is difficult enough without unknowingly creating additional roadblocks.   In this episode, we explore 4 common but counterproductive patterns that keep Christian wives stuck in their pain.   We’ll identify these self-sabotaging behaviors, uncover the biblical truths that dismantle them, and provide practical steps to help you start moving forward on your healing journey, regardless of your husband’s choices.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 61. Is Joy Possible After Sexual Betrayal? Episode 116. From Shattered Vows to Sacred Surrender: The Counterintuitive Path to Healing   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

After the discovery and disclosure of sexual betrayal in a marriage, couples who choose to stay married and embrace the healing and recovery journey, will eventually need to address their sexuality again.   This will look different for every couple, but the ultimate goal is to have a healthier sexual intimacy than before the destruction of porn-fueled infidelity came to light.   We have been working on this part of our marriage relationship for almost 7 years now and almost one year ago Emily gave me what I call the Golden Ticket. This was her declaration that she would be sexually available to me whenever I initiated it.   That scared me to death and helped me to realize that this was a huge responsibility and that I needed to approach it with care. This helped me to create the 4 steps to healthy sexuality for husbands that we are covering today.   Join us for a very candid conversation about sexuality after porn-fueled infidelity today.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES:  Episode 48. Closing the Gap - 3 Steps to Sexual Intimacy Episode 94. From “Oh, Hell No!” to "The Golden Ticket" - 4 Phases of Sexuality in Recovery from Adultery   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

We understand you may be in the middle of the fall-out from sexual betrayal in your marriage. Maybe you just found out, or you have been found out. Maybe you’ve been walking this path for a while and still feel like you can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel.   As the holiday season approaches, this unwanted and extremely painful circumstance can destroy all the anticipation of spending special time with family and friends. This week we will celebrate Thanksgiving Day, but it can seem like there is nothing to be thankful for in this dark winter of our souls.   We want to encourage you with this, while we aren’t grateful for the betrayal itself, we can be grateful that God doesn’t waste our suffering. The pain of infidelity can become the very thing that drives us deeper into dependency on Christ.   Grab a comforting beverage and listen in for some hope in this challenging time as we give you 6 reasons to be thankful, even while on this messy journey of recovery from infidelity.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES:  Episode 28. Giving Thanks In Your Broken Marriage Through Gratitude  Episode 81. Giving Thanks In The Aftermath of Porn-Fueled Infidelity   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

The aftermath of sexual betrayal is a complete upheaval of a marriage’s foundation. It doesn’t just damage trust—it systematically dismantles it, leaving a wife questioning her entire reality. The world she knew is gone, replaced by a landscape of pain, confusion, and profound uncertainty.   For husbands who have broken our marriage vows, this new reality teaches us a critical truth: trust is not a default setting. It's more like a delicate structure that must be painstakingly rebuilt, day by day, through deliberate and verifiable action. By committing to clear and honest actions, we can begin to mend our own broken integrity.   More importantly, it lays down a new, solid groundwork, giving our wives something tangible to base  or even contemplate trusting us again.   We are finishing up our series today, so if you haven't listened to the previous episodes, we recommend going back to the beginning of this series with episode 127 to get the full context.   Today we’re going to unpack the last three markers that can give a recovering husband actionable steps toward trustworthiness and give his wife a clearer picture of what a trustworthy man looks like.   A trustworthy husband is a man of integrity A trustworthy husband has and works a recovery plan A trustworthy husband is a servant leader   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES:  Episode 49. Sobriety vs. Recovery After Porn-Fueled Infidelity  Episode 130. 12 Markers of a Trustworthy Husband (Markers 7, 8, and 9)   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

Today we honor our veterans who defended our land, people, and way of life—a commitment reflecting a biblical understanding of nationhood. The military is a God-ordained institution for maintaining order (Romans 13), and honoring veterans acknowledges this divine role.   Their sacrifice secured our religious freedom, allowing us to worship and spread the Gospel. A strong national defense protects our Christian civilization, as strength preserves peace for faith to flourish. The military upholds crucial biblical virtues like courage and duty, which are essential for national survival.   We remember veterans’ moral courage under fire and their steadfast faith. We must pray for and support those suffering from wounds, both visible and invisible, fulfilling the church’s duty to minister to these modern-day centurions. They embody Christ’s ultimate teaching: “Greater love has no one than this, to lay down one’s life for his friends.”   Johnny is a veteran and he recounts some highlights from his navel service and the emotional wounds he received as he served.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 129. 12 Markers of a Trustworthy Husband (Markers 4, 5, and 6) Episode 130. 12 Markers of a Trustworthy Husband (Markers 7, 8, and 9)   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

The devastation of sexual betrayal leaves no part of a marriage untouched. It obliterates the very trust the relationship was built upon.   For the spouse who discovers the lies and hidden double life, it’s as if the floor has vanished beneath their feet. Their entire understanding of reality is fractured in an instant, leaving them disoriented and questioning everything they thought was true.   And husbands who have been unfaithful are learning a difficult lesson: trust cannot be assumed; it must be actively built. We are realizing that we must be transparent in very practical and visible ways in order to be seen as trustworthy. Our commitment to daily trustworthiness does more than just rebuild our own damaged integrity. It creates a new, stable foundation, offering our wives a genuine reason to consider the possibility of trusting again.   Today we are going to go over the next three markers for becoming a trustworthy husband:   7. A trustworthy husband protects all devices 8. A trustworthy husband makes all devices accessible to his wife 9. A trustworthy husband shares location and travel plans   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 77. 4 Practical Steps for Vigilance in Recovery from Porn-Fueled Episode 92. Dying to Self: Transformational Moments in Recovery from Sexual Betrayal   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

Sexual betrayal destroys all trust in a marriage. When the lies and double life of an unfaithful husband (or wife) come to light, the betrayed spouse has no solid ground to stand on. What was real is instantly shattered and nothing is clear anymore.   It can leave an unfaithful spouse struggling for a way to regain the trust that was selfishly tossed aside. Trust is earned - not expected just by virtue of staying married.   But when trust is lost, trustworthiness displayed daily will not only help to restore personal integrity, but it can also pave the way for a betrayed spouse to consider trusting again.     Last week, we did a deep dive into the first three of twelve markers of a trustworthy husband; he is transparent, vulnerable, and rigorously honest, has no secrets from his wife, and initiates difficult conversations. There was a lot packed into that episode so if you missed it we encourage you to go back and listen to episode 128.   Today we are going to unpack the next three markers of a trustworthy husband:   A trustworthy husband listens to understand. A trustworthy husband apologizes to help his wife heal. A trustworthy husband prioritizes his wife above all other people.   Grab a pumpkin spiced something and tuck in for a revealing look into our recovery process as we discovered how a track record of trustworthiness helped ear back trust in our marriage.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 10. When “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough: 8 Steps to a Healing Apology Episode 52. What Is His Response To Her BIG Emotions After Porn-Fueled Infidelity? Episode 66. 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs...(Series) #2 Prioritize Her   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

When trust has been shattered after marital infidelity is revealed through either discovery or confession, what hope does a repentant husband have for regaining his wife’s trust? Will she ever be able to trust him again?   These are common questions many couples ask as they sift through the rubble of what was once considered to be a happy, loving, and committed marriage.   Fortunately, there is an answer to this difficult question because when unfaithful husbands destroy trust in their marriage, there is a hope of restoring this broken part of the relationship by showing up daily as "trustworthy".   On last week’s episode, we introduced the 12 markers for becoming a trustworthy husband.   On today's show we will dive deeper into the first three markers of a trustworthy husband. A trustworthy husband is transparent, vulnerable, and rigorously honest. A trustworthy husband has no secrets from his wife. A trustworthy husband initiates difficult conversations.   Join us for a candid conversation about our experience with broken trust and trustworthiness displayed after infidelity was discovered in our marriage.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 92. Dying to Self: Transformational Moments in Recovery from Sexual Betrayal Episode 111. 111 | Need a Full Therapeutic Disclosure After Infidelity? (Part 1)   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

When infidelity shatters the reality of a perceived happy marriage and reveals a foundation crumbling under the weight of lies and deception, one of the most difficult losses is the trust that was instinctively given when exchanging vows to love, honor, and cherish one another.  This loss of trust can be more painful than betrayal itself. It can leave a wife on unsteady ground with little hope that any trust for her husband can be regained. In today’s show, we’ll discuss what the loss of trust feels like from a betrayed wife's perspective and also explore the hope an unfaithful husband has for re-gaining the precious trust that was once so lovingly shared at the beginning of their journey together.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 64. 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs From Her Recovering Husband (Series) Episode 65. 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs...(Series) #1 See Her Pain   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

Have you ever thought about how the toughest barriers holding you back might not be out there in the world, but instead created in the hidden corners of your own mind?   For the man battling sex addiction, the compulsive behavior is often just the symptom of a deeper problem: a faulty belief system built on a foundation of shame, self-loathing, and the unshakable conviction that you are, at your core, unforgivable. This is the silent war that can rage long after the acting out stops.   In this episode, we’re going to take a deeper look at the mental traps—the negative I Am statement we tell ourselves and the isolating shame—that keep you trapped in a cycle of self-punishment.   We’ll talk about how this internal battle doesn’t just sabotage your inner peace, but systematically undermines your marriage and every good thing in your life. Join us as Johnny opens up about his personal journey, sharing how he began to forgive himself and embrace the powerful truth that he is truly forgiven—by God, by Emily, and himself.   This conversation promises to be enlightening and supportive as we explore the path to healing together!   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 11. Freedom and Healing: 4 Keys to Unlocking Forgiveness After Sexual Betrayal Episode 35. Recovery Step 6: Ready to Move on From Sexual Integrity Issues? 4 Questions to Help you Decide   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

Navigating the aftermath of a husband’s sexual betrayal is a complex and deeply painful journey for a wife.   While a natural desire to support his recovery may exist, it often clashes with powerful, protective emotions born from the trauma itself.   The act of showing compassion can feel fraught with risk, not as a sign of a lack of love, but as a defense mechanism against further pain and a means of preserving her own fractured sense of safety and self-worth.   This hesitation is not a character flaw but a rational response to profound injury. The wife’s fears are typically rooted in a need to validate her own experience, guard her heart from additional harm, and ensure that her husband’s path to recovery is built on genuine accountability rather than easy forgiveness.   Understanding these fears is a crucial step in healing for both spouses. Join us as Emily tells the story of her journey from a lack of compassion to showing compassion to Johnny after his sexual betrayal in our marriage.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 72. Praising God While in the Storm of Sexual Betrayal and Porn-Fueled Infidelity Episode 114. "I Know the Plans I Have for You" After Sexual Betrayal Shatters Your Marriage   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

When you hear the word “honesty,” what comes to mind? Is it a simple binary—you either tell the truth or you don’t?   Or do you see it on a sliding scale, where a “little white lie” is a 2 and a deliberate, premeditated deception is a 10?   If your marriage has been shattered by porn-fueled infidelity, you know the brutal truth: the lies and deception surrounding the acting out are often more destructive to trust than the acts themselves.   In this powerful second part of our conversation, We recap the five ways we lie from last week—commission, omission, deflection, justifying, and gaslighting—and dive deep into how embracing rigorous honesty can pave the way for trust and healing.   Join us as we unpack what this kind of honesty looks like, how to attain it, and how it impacted our recovery process.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 109. Healing Through Honesty: A View Into a Marriage Transformed by Truth (with Sathiya Sam) Episode 123. The One Thing Worse Than Infidelity in Marriage   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

In marriages wounded by sexual betrayal, the deepest injury isn't the act itself, but the web of lies that concealed it.   It’s a staggering reality that the concept of honesty is not as straightforward as many would like to believe.   Lies can come in various forms, from outright falsehoods to subtle omissions and misleading statements, all of which can have profound effects on trust in relationships.   What is the key to complete honesty, and how can we foster openness and transparency in our relationships?We are celebrating our 38th anniversary over the next week so we are sharing with you one of our most listened to podcast episodes.   The topic is LYING.   We will discuss five different ways we lie, specifically relating to broken covenant in marriage through porn-fueled infidelity. You will hear some intimate details from our painful journey to freedom and healing as we navigated the deception uncovered in our marriage.   Our victorious story serves as a testament to the fact that breaking the cycle of dishonesty is not only possible but essential for building a solid foundation for safety and trust leading to true intimacy.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 07. 5 Ways We Lie and the Secret to Complete Honesty (part 1) Episode 08. 5 Ways We Lie and the Secret to Complete Honesty (part 2)   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

What comes to mind when someone brings up 12-Step recovery?   Maybe you think of Alcoholics Anonymous?   Or perhaps group meetings?   Do you also wonder if 12-Step programs are only for those who don’t see Jesus as Savior and Lord of all?   Should followers of Christ consider participating, even if Jesus isn't the central focus?   There are certainly some common misconceptions about where the original twelve steps come from and how they are meant to be used.   Today, we’ll look at a few of the most prevalent misunderstandings surrounding this simple yet effective program for addiction recovery and discover if these twelve steps are a clear path to God.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 25.Persistent Sexual Integrity Issues in Marriage. Do Recovery Programs Really Work?  Episode 49. Sobriety vs. Recovery After Porn-Fueled Infidelity   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

Today we wrap up our series, I Need You Where I AM. In the first episode of our series, we focused on a statement that many betrayed wives relate to, "My Husband Just Doesn’t 'Get It'.”   And what is the “it” he’s not getting? Not understanding the magnitude of what his actions through infidelity have done to her.    In the second episode in our series, we covered some of the ways betrayed wives are affected by their husband’s infidelity. Not the least of which is grief. But in an everyday way, it can look like experiencing new health issues, being triggered by movies, TV shows, music, and even reading the Bible.   Today we are giving husbands hope for addressing his wife’s needs in a practical way. To help Johnny see past himself to how Emily was being affected by his sexual betrayal, he created a process to handle her big emotions based on an internal statement, My wife feels this way because…   Join us for the rest of the statement plus 4 important things it does to help both spouses heal.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 119. I Need You Where I Am: Why Unfaithful Husbands Just Don’t Get It (Series 1 of 3) Episode 120. I Need You Where I Am: Infidelity's Surprising Effects for Her (Series 2 of 3)   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

Today in the second installment of our series, I Need You Where I Am, we turn the spotlight fully onto the wreckage inside a wife’s body and soul after sexual betrayal.   The physical, emotional, and spiritual effects of betrayal trauma are real and profound. A wife experiencing these effects may think she is going crazy. She is not. It just feels that way.   As we talked about last week, a husband who “gets it” understands the magnitude of the effects of his betrayal on his wife. This man can show compassion and empathy by looking past his own situation to see his wife’s pain.   In this episode, we will share our experience with the effects of betrayal trauma as well as hope for the future where the trauma is healed and life becomes new.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free!💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 22. How Long Will This Hurt? Experiencing The 5 Stages of Grief Through the Lens of Sexual Betrayal Episode 119. I Need You Where I Am: Why Unfaithful Husbands Just Don’t Get It (Series 1 of 3)   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

Today we want to speak to both spouses who are bravely navigating the deep and challenging waters following a discovery and disclosure of sexual betrayal.   We understand that this emotional journey can feel overwhelming and may be difficult to sort out on your own.   Today we’re excited to present a relatable word-picture that aims to make the experience of a husband’s infidelity a little easier to understand for both partners.   This episode marks the beginning of a 3-part series designed specifically for betrayed wives, focusing on what they wish their unfaithful husbands could grasp after their world has been shattered by the revelation of infidelity.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free!💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 52. What Is His Response To Her BIG Emotions After Porn-Fueled Infidelity? Episode 64. 64 | 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs From Her Recovering Husband (Series)   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

Recovery work is hard! It is not something that either spouse ever wanted and sometimes it can feel like it takes over everything else in life. Is it okay to take breaks from the difficult conversations and the grieving process?   Yes! We all need to take a break from the struggle occasionally and recharge so we can get back in and do the next right thing.   We have a shorter show today, but lots of encouragement! Please take a moment to receive a blessing as we share a beautiful passage of scripture that quiets our souls and helps us to rest in the Lord.   We are praying for you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free!💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe     RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 100. Getting Real Help for Your Marriage: 10 Obstacles to Counseling and Coaching Episode 113. No Stone Unturned in Recovery from Porn-Fueled Infidelity   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

In this episode we are excited to have John-Michael Bout share his powerful testimony of struggling with pornography addiction since the age of eight and how he overcame it through God's grace, supportive friendships, and accountability.   John-Michael also introduces his ministry, Into the Light, which offers various free resources including documentaries, video series, and workbooks to help individuals and families combat pornography and better understand biblical sexuality.   He shares with us the importance of confessing sins, addressing the accessibility of pornography through technology, and integrating these conversations and resources into church communities for broader support and impact.   Pop in your earbuds and listen in for some real help!   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free!💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   CONNECT WITH JOHN-MICHAEL: Website: intothelightministries.caSocials:@intothelight_ministriesInto The Light Podcast   RESOURCES: Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 58. Purpose from Pain: Did Sexual Betrayal Destroy God’s Plan for Your Marriage? Episode 77. 4 Practical Steps for Vigilance in Recovery from Porn-Fueled Infidelity   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

When you hear the word surrender, what comes to mind?   Does it feel like defeat, like giving up?   We often see surrender as weakness. And for those who like to control everything, surrender seems counterintuitive.   Our instinct is to protect ourselves. Both spouses often resist and hide from the painful path to healing.   In a marriage shattered by sexual betrayal, the fear is that giving up control means being taken advantage of or losing importance in the relationship.   But surrendering your marriage to God is not about giving up. It’s about loosening your grip and trusting in someone greater.   When the infidelity bomb blew up our marriage, we were scared and confused, putting up shields to protect ourselves from each other’s pain.   Until, we chose to surrender—not to each other’s flaws, but to God’s plan for us.   When we stopped striving for our own desired outcomes and handed it over to God, everything changed.   Now, God did not erase the pain, but He guided us through it—revealing truths, healing wounds, and rebuilding trust step by step.   In today's episode, we go deep into what it looks like to surrender and how God used this step of faith in our marriage to create something beautiful.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 81. Giving Thanks In The Aftermath of Porn-Fueled Infidelity Episode 72. Praising God While in the Storm of Sexual Betrayal and Porn-Fueled Infidelity   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

Today we tackle the hardest skill in any marriage - especially after the devastation of sexual betrayal - honest, open communication.   We frame true intimacy as a three-legged stool built on transparency, vulnerability and rigorous honesty, then soften the seat with a cushion of humility so the whole thing doesn’t collapse under the weight of pain and suspicion.   Our goal is to move from theory to practice, from talking about intimacy to living it out daily. That shift requires the right tools. Enter the FANOS Check-In, by Debra Laaser. The acronym FANOS stands for:   Feelings Affirmations Needs Ownership Struggles/Sobriety.   In this episode, we’ll walk you through how two bruised spouses can sit down, share a safe space on that 3-legged stool, and walk away with clearer hearts, sharper boundaries, and a rebuilt connection.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Emotions Wheel FANOS CHECK-IN Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 10. When “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough: 8 Steps to a Healing Apology Episode 80. 7 Caveats for an Effective Healing Apology Episode 106. From Furious to Curious: How the ‘Emotions Wheel’ Unlocks Deeper Conversations   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

Whether you have just recently discovered your spouse’s infidelity or have been working through the recovery process for a while, you are going to want to tune in to today’s episode.   It’s hard to imagine a future where there is honesty, connection, and true intimacy after the marriage vows have been shattered into dust.   But God…   Today we’re exploring what could be possible for your marriage when both partners are fully surrendered to Jesus and do the hard work of recovery.   We are sharing some of the incredible things the Lord did with our marriage in the first two years of recovery to give you some encouragement and hope for yours.   If God can do it for us, he can do it for you. And he wants to! He has a plan... (Jerimiah 29:11)   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 58. Purpose from Pain: Did Sexual Betrayal Destroy God’s Plan for Your Marriage? Episode 61. 61 | Is Joy Possible After Sexual Betrayal?   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

Sexual sin—especially porn-fueled infidelity—doesn’t just wound a marriage; it buries it under shame, secrecy, and shattered trust. But just as Jesus called Lazarus out of the grave, He can resurrect even the most broken relationships.   Your marriage may feel like a tomb right now, but Christ specializes in resurrecting dead things.   Today in this hope-filled, and sometimes emotional conversation, we’ll talk about why sexual betrayal feels like a “death” in a marriage—and how Christ offers resurrection from the tomb of our sin. How God uses others to help us move from where we are to where he wants us to be.   Also, Johnny tells the amazing story of the vision God gave him 6 years prior that has been fulfilled his new, StoneRollers Men’s Recovery Group.  Brotherhood is God’s lifeline for struggling men. You don’t have to face recovery alone!   If this episode hits home, you don’t have to go it alone. Join this brotherhood of men committed to rolling away the stones in their lives and stepping into life and victory. Write us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com to get your signup links!   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 25. Persistent Sexual Integrity Issues in Marriage. Do Recovery Programs Really Work? Episode 43. Our 12-Step Series Wrap Up: Which Sex Addiction Recovery Program Is the Best?   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

The disclosure is done. The secrets are out. Now what?   If you’ve been through Full Therapeutic Disclosure—or if you’re still mustering the courage to start—you know this isn’t the end. It’s the real beginning. Because truth doesn’t just expose the brokenness… it reveals the path forward.   This is the second half of our FTD episode—where we walk you through the final 3 steps of the disclosure process.   The Impact Letter: Her Voice Finally Heard The Restitution Letter: His Roadmap to Integrity The Slip & Relapse Plan: Trust Isn’t Blind   FTD doesn’t guarantee your marriage will survive. But it does guarantee this: No more living in the dark.   For the betrayed, it means the power to choose your next step with clarity.   For the betrayer, it means the chance to finally live in truth—even if it costs you everything.   Truth isn’t just where healing starts—it’s where you start living again.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 44. Fearing the Worst? How to Plan for Sex Addiction Slips & Relapses in Your Marriage Steps Episode 111. Need a Full Therapeutic Disclosure After Infidelity? (Part 1)   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

Marriage isn’t just a contract—it’s a covenant, a sacred vow before God and man.   But sexual betrayal doesn’t just break trust… it shatters the covenant itself. The foundation is cracked. The vows feel like a lie. And now, both of you are standing in the wreckage—one drowning in grief, the other paralyzed by guilt.   But here’s the truth: You can’t rebuild on broken ground. Before forgiveness, before reconciliation—before even deciding if this marriage can survive—there’s one thing that has to happen. The full, unedited truth. No more shadows. No more secrets. Because a covenant can only be restored where there’s nothing left to hide.   If you’re the betrayed partner, you’re drowning in questions—What else don’t I know? Can I ever trust again?   And if you’re the betrayer, you’re trapped in a prison of your own lies—How do I fix this? Will the truth destroy us?   Here’s the hard reality: without Full Therapeutic Disclosure, neither of you gets to move forward. The betrayed stays stuck in suspicion, and the betrayer stays stuck in shame. But there’s a way out—and it starts with one terrifying, necessary conversation.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 44. Fearing the Worst? How to Plan for Sex Addiction Slips & Relapses in Your Marriage Steps Episode 51. Full Therapeutic Disclosure: 3 Steps to Healing and Freedom After Sexual Betrayal   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

Have you ever stumbled upon a quote that just felt like it was made for you? You know, the kind that resonates so deeply with what you’re going through that it seems like a turning point in your journey?   We all encounter those special quotes that cause us to pause and reflect. While we’re not promising that your life will be changed by them, today we’re sharing with you some of our own special sayings—affectionately dubbed BBVisms!   You might even recognize a few from our show or from our coaching sessions over the last couple of years. Not only will you hear some of our (hopefully) memorable sayings; you'll learn the stories behind how we came up with each of them.   Join us for a mix of light-hearted fun and valuable insights as we share seven of our original quotes. We’d love to know if there’s one that you’ve embraced in your recovery journey!   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 09. I’m So Angry! How I Overcame Anger from Sexual Betrayal in 3 Simple But Not Easy Steps Episode 36 | Recovery Step 7: Holding on to Pride? Humility Before God = Freedom From Pornography   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

We’re so excited to share this special episode with you from beautiful Honduras. This one’s close to our hearts—we sat down with our friend Sathiya Sam, from The Man Within Podcast, and got real about our story: the messy, the painful, and the beautiful redemption that came after.     We opened up about everything—our early years, the hard season of betrayal, and how, by God’s grace, we fought our way back to each other. It wasn’t easy, but we learned that true healing is possible, and now we’re passionate about helping other couples walk that same road.     If you’ve been broken by infidelity or just want to hear how honesty, faith, and forgiveness can rebuild a marriage stronger than before, this one’s for you. Trust us—no wound is too deep for God’s restoration.     Grab your coffee (or maybe a tissue), and let’s dive in together.      We hope this blesses you,     Johnny and Emily     💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 50. Are You Thriving or Just Surviving in Marriage After Sexual Betrayal Episode 90. Discovering the Man Within: Sathiya Sam on Overcoming Porn Addiction   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

In the tumultuous journey of marriage, trust is the cornerstone that holds this covenant union together. But what happens when this trust is shattered by sexual betrayal? How does a betrayed wife comprehend this new reality she never saw coming?   In today’s episode, we dive deep into these questions with the insightful perspectives of Robin Wilson and Christy Bottom, authors of their newly released book, Who is God Now: Hope In God After Betrayal.   Robin experienced the trauma of discovering her husband’s infidelity and has asked the hard questions; why, how, and who are you Lord? Through this painful journey she learned to understand God’s love, trustworthiness, and healing firsthand. Her sister, Christy, walked alongside her on that healing journey, consistently pointing Robin to Jesus and later encouraging her to write.   Whether you're navigating your own journey of healing or seeking to support a loved one through theirs, in this episode you’ll hear crucial insights into the spiritual and emotional aspects of recovering from betrayal.  Robin and Christy share stories that are real, heartfelt, and unbelievably hopeful.   We’re so excited for you to hear this inspiring interview with these two precious women.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   CONNECT With ROBIN AND CHRISTY: Website: RobinAndChristyWrite.org Purchase their book: Who is God Now? Hope in God after Betrayal  Email: RobinandChristyWrite@gmail.com   RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 96. The Message in the Affair: Self-Discovery After His Infidelity, with April Truitt Episode 105. God, Where Were You When…? Questions in the Aftermath of Betrayal   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

Have you ever stepped out in faith, trusting God’s call even when the road ahead looked uncertain?   Two years ago, we took that leap—surrendering our fears, our past hurts, and our plans, to follow where Jesus was leading us. And we’re here to tell you: God has been faithful. Not just in sustaining us, but in growing us—deepening our marriage, stretching our faith, and opening doors in ministry we never could’ve imagined.   This journey hasn’t been easy. It started in the wreckage of betrayal and brokenness, but God didn’t leave us there. He rebuilt. He redeemed. And now, looking back? We know that every probing question, every painful answer, every difficult moment we chose to surrender to the Lord, has brought healing to our marriage and prepared us for this journey that we call Beyond Broken Vows.   If you’re in that place of uncertainty today, wondering if stepping out is worth it? We want you to know that the hard work of recovery is definitely worth it and that God has a purpose for your pain.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” The Healing Apology – Episodes #10 & #80 (request your copy at support@beyondbrokenvows.com) Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 55. Our Podcast is One Year Old!!! Marriages Redeemed, Hearts Renewed Episode 72. Praising God While in the Storm of Sexual Betrayal and Porn-Fueled Infidelity   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

Infidelity profoundly shakes the emotional foundation of a marriage, often leading to feelings  of confusion, mistrust, and pain. In the midst of all this chaos, it's common for couples to feel  unsure of how to find their way forward.   In this episode, we’re excited to explore how the Emotions Wheel, based on Plutchik’s theory and Willcox’s tool, can be a wonderful resource for couples facing the aftermath of betrayal.    By using the Emotions Wheel, couples can start to identify and understand the complex storm of feelings they are experiencing and initiate meaningful conversations that pave the way for healing.   Join us on this journey toward greater clarity and deeper connection!   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Emotions Wheel Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 13. His Triggers, Her Triggers – 4 Steps For Dealing With Triggers While Healing From Infidelity Episode 52. What Is His Response To Her BIG Emotions After Porn-Fueled Infidelity?   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

When sexual betrayal shatters a marriage, the deepest wounds often come with agonizing questions—especially about God’s timing. Why did He allow the lies to continue for years? Where was He when the vows were being broken?   In this raw conversation, we tackle the three most tormenting questions betrayed wives ask God, and the surprising hope Scripture offers both the betrayed and the betrayer.   This isn’t an episode about quick fixes. It’s about finding footing when your spiritual foundation shakes. Whether you’re the wounded or the one who caused the wound, God’s redemption meets you right where you are—not to erase the past, but to rebuild you through it.   If this episode met you in your struggle, your 5-star review helps other hurting hearts find this resource.   With love,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 79. Redeeming What Was Lost, Stolen, or Given Away Through Adultery Episode 104. Sifting Through the Rubble After Infidelity Explodes Your Marriage   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

Being betrayed by hidden infidelity is like walking through a museum you helped build—room by room, the laughter, whispered promises, and the quiet certainty of a shared history. Every glance, every touch, every “I love you” hung like priceless art on walls you thought would stand forever.   But somewhere deep in the walls, a gas leak has been growing—invisible, silent, deadly. You walked through those halls for years, never smelling the poison seeping into the foundation. You marveled at the exhibits of your life, never knowing they were rigged to blow.   And then one day, suddenly everything explodes. No warning. Just fire and shrapnel tearing through everything you thought was sacred leaving in its wake a heap of broken beams and shattered glass. You’re on your knees in the wreckage, bleeding, choking on smoke and the sickening realization: None of it was safe.   Now you dig. You start sifting through the ash and rubble, trying to salvage anything of value from your life you thought you had. A photo frame. A charred love letter. A shard of truth. And the worst part is, as you search, you don’t even know if what you’re holding was ever real—or just part of a beautifully constructed lie.   Some of you are still standing in the smoke. Some are staring at blueprints, terrified to build again. Wherever you are—you’re not alone. Join us as we dive deeper into what it means to sift through the rubble of sexual betrayal.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 79. Redeeming What Was Lost, Stolen, or Given Away Through Adultery Episode 87. Can’t We Just Get Back to Normal? Shortest Path to True Intimacy After Sexual Betrayal   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

The discovery of sexual betrayal in your marriage can feel like a punch in the gut, leaving you reeling and unsure of what to do next.   As a betrayed wife, you are experiencing trauma. As a husband who has been found unfaithful, you are probably scared and trying to fix what you’ve broken. Neither one of you are sure what the future will look like.   But if you are listening to our podcast, you’re taking a brave step in the right direction. Our e-book is here to help you navigate this emotional roller-coaster as you set out on your healing and recovery journey.   Whether you're the one who was betrayed or the one who did the betraying, we've got you covered with practical tips and guidance to help you rebuild trust, foster open communication, and grow as individuals and as a couple.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 5. The Effects of Infidelity and How We Made the Decision to Stay Married After Sexual Betrayal Episode 59. Is It Over? Take These 5 Steps to Save Your Marriage After Adultery   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

In this raw and emotional episode, we dive into the painful reality of how the phrase “I love you” can feel hollow and even triggering after sexual betrayal in marriage.   When those same words were whispered to someone outside the covenant, they lose their sacred weight—leaving the betrayed spouse questioning their truth. We explore the agony of speaking (or hearing) “I love you” when trust has been shattered, and why those words may no longer feel safe.   But there is hope. Healing is absolutely possible through God’s redemptive power and the hard, daily work of recovery. We discuss how couples can rebuild trust, not with empty words, but with actions that prove commitment over time.   And we reveal a new approach we’re testing: replacing “I love you” with “I choose you”—a deliberate declaration of fidelity, even when feelings are messy.   You’re not alone in this struggle. If “I love you” stings right now, it’s okay. Healing starts with honesty, humility, and a willingness to rebuild—one faithful choice at a time.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 64. 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs From Her Recovering Husband (Series)    Episode 78. Forgiving the “Other Woman” - A Path to Peace After Sexual Betrayal Trauma   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

Today we are so excited to dive into a conversation on the destructive impact of marital infidelity and the journey of healing and restoration with our special guests Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith.    Matthew and Joanna will share their deeply personal experience with sexual betrayal in their marriage and how they overcame this devastation to experience a marriage they never dreamed possible. Now, they're on mission to help others find that same path to healing.   In their insightful book, Building True Intimacy: Creating a Connection that Stands the Test of Time, they introduce us to their unique concept of the 'Intimacy Pyramid.' This helpful framework walks couples through the process of rebuilding their relationships with a focus on honesty, safety, trust, vulnerability, and intimacy.   They’ll also shed light on the often-misunderstood topic of boundaries, offering a fresh perspective on how to set personal and relational boundaries in a way that brings life and helps us align our actions with our core values.   Make sure to grab a pen and paper, because you won’t want to miss all the amazing nuggets of wisdom Matthew and Joanna will share with us!   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   CONNECT WITH MATTHEW AND JOANNA RAABSMITH: Website: raabsmithteam.comFreebie link: raabsmithteam.com/freeContact email: connect@raabsmithteam.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theraabsmithteam/   RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 82. Broken Trust After Infidelity? 3 Ways to Reach Her Heart    Episode 87. Can’t We Just Get Back to Normal? Shortest Path to True Intimacy After Sexual Betrayal   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

In our 100th episode of the Beyond Broken Vows podcast, we’re throwing a little celebration for the incredible journey of our podcast and the amazing work that God has done through it. Join us as we share our personal experiences navigating the tricky waters of pornography and infidelity in our marriage. We’ll dive into the real challenges couples often face when reaching out for help.   Together, we’ll explore ten common hurdles that can get in the way of relationship coaching and counseling – think shame, financial constraints, time limitations… We really believe it’s essential to seek support and push past these barriers, because that’s where healing and true intimacy can begin.   Plus, we’ll clarify how coaching differs from counseling, and we’ll inspire you to invest in your emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being.   Let’s take this journey together!   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 01. ”Why Are We Talking About Betrayal?” A Q&A with the Betrayed and the Betrayer Episode 02. Her Story: My Husband Betrayed Me Episode 03. His Story: I Betrayed My Wife and My Moral Values   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

On today’s episode, we delve into the topic of euphoric recall, a painful yet critical aspect of sexual addiction recovery.   Emily shares her perspective as a betrayed wife, highlighting the emotional turmoil that accompanies these intrusive memories.   Meanwhile, Johnny explains his own experiences with euphoric recall and outlines a robust four-step battle plan to confront and dissolve these recollections.   It’s not a pleasant part of the journey to healing, but one necessary to face head-on with your spouse and a community of support.   We hope it blesses you!   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 97. "The Bubble" - What Makes Sex Addiction So Cunning, Baffling, and Powerful? Episode 98. Navigating Porn Withdrawal and the Path of Least Resistance   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

Today we’re tackling an incredibly important topic: porn withdrawal and its impact on those bravely striving to break free from porn addiction.   We chat about both the mental and physical symptoms that can pop up during this journey, along with the challenges people often face when trying to leave behind the familiar paths of addiction.   We’ll share some practical steps to help you overcome these hurdles with confidence. We’ll also shine a light on the role of the amygdala in addiction, reminding us of the importance of seeking help and connecting with others instead of facing this journey alone.   Finding your personal ‘why’ for recovery is key, and we’re here to support you every step of the way! Let’s dive in together and make this journey a little easier and a lot more hopeful!   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) Sex Addict Self-Assessment Questionnaire Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes, Ph.d (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 49. Sobriety vs. Recovery After Porn-Fueled Infidelity Episode 56. Identifying Sex Addiction: Take the First Step Today   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

What is addiction?   How does it work?   Is it just about deciding to stop destructive behaviors?   Addiction can be a mystery for many couples. Husbands may wonder if they are addicts after betraying their spouse. Wives often struggle to understand how their partner could engage in such hurtful actions for so long.   When our marriage faced sexual betrayal six years ago, we were just as confused about sexual addiction as many of you. Since then, we've learned a lot and want to share key insights about addiction.   We will explore the complexities of sex addiction. We'll discuss how addiction affects not only the addict but also their loved ones, especially spouses.   We’ll cover the addiction cycle and its pain, using the concept of 'The Bubble' to explain the addict's inner world.   This episode is a chance to learn and and also foster conversations that lead to deeper intimacy.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) Out of the Shadows, by Patrick Carnes (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 17. Is My Spouse A Porn Addict? 13 Clues To Help Expose Compulsive Sexual Behavior Episode 26. Recovery Step 1: Hooked on Porn? Admitting Helplessness Over Pornography’s Pull    NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

When it comes to confronting the aftermath of sexual betrayal, each of us will set out on a unique journey to healing and restoration. This was certainly true of our guest April Truitt. April shares the deeply personal and transformative story of her marriage's journey through infidelity. After discovering her husband's affair, April recounts the emotional devastation and the path to recovery that followed. She discusses the underlying issues in their marriage, their struggles with insecurity, and how her husband's affair led to a profound period of self-examination and spiritual growth. With time and guidance from their church and counselor, this precious couple was able to confront their emotional intimacy issues, work through forgiveness, and rebuild their marriage stronger than before. April also highlights her own battles with shame, negative self-talk, and the transformative power of relying on God's grace. Now, as an author and speaker, she aims to help others facing similar struggles, offering her book, 'A Wife's Recovery from an Affair: The Story of a Faithful God,' and a free journaling workbook on her website. Join us today as we hear from April about what God was teaching her through her personal recovery journey. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   CONNECT WITH APRIL: www.apriltruitt.com www.awifesrecoveryfromanaffair.commailto:apriltruittspeaker@gmail.comFB - April Truitt Speaker/AuthorFreebie! An Affair Recovery Journal Prompt/Devotional Downloadwww.awifesrecoveryfromanaffair.com/free-affair-recovery-workbook   RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 04. Sharing Our Story: From Infidelity and Addiction to Reconciliation and Recovery Episode 58. Purpose from Pain. Did Sexual Betrayal Destroy God’s Plan for Your Marriage?    NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

After sexual betrayal is discovered in a marriage and the couple decides to embark on the journey to recovery, there are many opportunities for social events to become emotionally challenging, causing what many call triggers.   Today we recount a fun, awkward, semi-harrowing story of our weekend adventure at a pirate-themed wedding; fraught with danger, and also some victories.   Listen in to hear which tools in our relational toolbox were the keys to turning a difficult social situation into a bonding experience. Hint, it may have something to do with the importance of preparation and vigilance.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)             RELATED EPISODES: Episode 13. His Triggers, Her Triggers – 4 Steps For Dealing With Triggers While Healing From Infidelity Episode 77. 4 Practical Steps for Vigilance in Recovery from Porn-Fueled Infidelity   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

You may be wondering if sex will ever be fulfilling and satisfying for you or your spouse now that the reality of sexual betrayal has invaded your marriage.   If you are at the very beginning of the discovery and disclosure of infidelity through pornography or other sexual expressions outside of your marriage, you might be wondering if you’ll ever have sex again, or if you’ll even want to have sex with your spouse again.   It’s a very tender topic and we know that every couple will have a different path to take on their road to recovery in the area of sexual intimacy.   Today, we are going to let you peek into our journey back to being sexual again with its ups and downs, ebbs and flows, and give you hope for what God can do with those willing to take that journey with him.     We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)           RELATED EPISODES: Episode 23. 7 Steps to True Intimacy After Sexual Betrayal Sexual Intimacy Series: Episode 45. Intimacy with a Sex-Addict in Marriage (1 of 3) Episode 46. Sexuality as a Sex-Addict in Marriage (2 of 3) Episode 47. Sexual Intimacy with a Recovering Sex Addict in Marriage (3 of 3)   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

Connection...   When you think about connecting with others, what comes to mind?    What does it truly mean to be connected, and what are healthy connections? And speaking of healthy connections, it makes you wonder—are there unhealthy connections?   What do your connections look like in your life?   Join us today as we dive into these intriguing questions and explore the meaning of connections together!   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)            RELATED EPISODES: Episode 57. Alone No More: How Isolation Fuels Sex-Addiction and How to Defeat It Episode 53. 4 Ways To Help a Friend Experiencing Sexual Betrayal   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you realized that making a significant personal sacrifice was the key to resolving a difficult situation? And that this decision would alter your life as you know it? Often, these moments involve putting the needs of someone else first. It’s those we love most with whom we often decide to "die to self." We’d love for you to join us today as Johnny shares four pivotal moments from his recovery journey where he chose to put Emily ahead of himself in their marriage. We can’t wait for you to hear his inspiring story! We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)             RELATED EPISODES: Episode 51. Full Therapeutic Disclosure: 3 Steps to Healing and Freedom After Sexual Betrayal Episode 60. The High Cost of Freedom in a Sexually Betrayed Marriage   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

Okay, picture this scene: you are on vacation at the beach, having a great time soaking in the sun and playing in the ocean. You're making your way further and further out into deeper water. The waves are getting steadily higher but it’s still manageable as your feet are connected to the sandy ocean floor.   Suddenly, seemingly out of nowhere, a very large and powerful wave comes crashing over your head. You are overwhelmed - taken off your feet, tossed about, and feeling like you might drown.   Similar scenes play out from time to time in our recovery journeys from sexual betrayal and addiction. This is certainly true for us.   Join us as we share about the “wave” that overwhelmed us this week.  Our desire as we share our story is that you will know that you are not alone and there is hope.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)             RELATED EPISODES: Episode 12. His Adultery Shattered My Reality. How Do I Know What’s Real? Episode 86. Recovering From Porn-Fueled Infidelity: Obstacles We Encountered This Year   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

Today we’ll be sharing a fantastic interview with Sathiya Sam, host of the Man Within podcast and the founder of Deep Clean. Sathiya opens up about his personal journey, including how he overcame a 15-year struggle with porn addiction, and the faith and guidance that played a key role in his recovery. He dives into some eye-opening differences between just being sober and truly experiencing freedom from addiction, all while highlighting the importance of addressing root issues. Plus, Sathiya shares how he has integrated healthy sexuality into his marriage and how he safeguards that bond through openness and accountability. The conversation is packed with practical tips on building resilience and achieving lasting freedom from porn addiction. We can't wait for you to tune in! We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   CONNECT WITH SATHIYA SAM: Website: https://www.sathiyasam.com/ The Last Relapse book: https://www.sathiyasam.com/books Man Within Podcast: https://www.sathiyasam.com/podcast Instagram: www.instagram.com/sathiyamesam   RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)             RELATED EPISODES: Episode 16. It’s Just Porn, What’s The Big Deal? And 4 Other Lies We Tell Ourselves To Justify Viewing Pornography Episode 26. Recovery Step 1: Hooked on Porn? Admitting Helplessness Over Pornography’s Pull   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

After infidelity in marriage is discovered, many questions arise and decisions need to be made. Questions like:   Is this real?     How could this happen to me?   And one of the more frequently asked questions,   What do I do now?   Last week, in episode #88, we told the story of our journey toward "making a decision and burning the ships".    Today, we follow up on our conversation from last week by asking the question, "Why stay married?" We will unpack 3 good reasons to stay married after broken covenant and give you some hope through the scriptures.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)             RELATED EPISODES: Episode 05. The Effects of Infidelity and How We Made the Decision to Stay Married After Sexual Betrayal Episode 24. Would You Marry Your Betraying Spouse Again? Renewing Vows After Porn-Fueled Infidelity. This Time...Mean It Episode 88. Make a Decision and Burn the Ships   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

Often in life, we come to a point where we need to make an important decision. A decision that could alter the trajectory of the rest of our lives. Yes, that kind of decision.    Have you had to make such decisions??    When it comes to recovering from sexual betrayal in marriage, these kinds of decisions can come up very soon after the discovery of adultery and then later on as rebuilding your marriage is underway.   You may commit to moving forward, leaving the safety of what is known, and move into unchartered territory -  with no plans to turn back.   The time has come to "burn the ships".    Join us for this candid discussion, centered on experiences from our own recovery journey, highlighting the ships we burned to move forward in search of true intimacy.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)             RELATED EPISODES: Episode 05. The Effects of Infidelity and How We Made the Decision to Stay Married After Sexual Betrayal Episode 24. Would You Marry Your Betraying Spouse Again? Renewing Vows After Porn-Fueled Infidelity. This Time...Mean It Episode 87. Can’t We Just Get Back to Normal? The Shortest Path to True Intimacy After Sexual Betrayal   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

Have you gotten to the point in your recovery journey from marital infidelity where you may be feeling the fatigue of endless questions, lack of trust, and having to talk about the pain every day and you’re asking yourself, "Can't we just get back to normal"?   What is normal?   What if "normal" got you to where you are today? Would you really want to go back?   Join us today as we outline the shortest path through minefield of betrayal and addiction recovery to the seemingly illusive "Promised Land".   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)          RELATED EPISODES: Episode 13. His Triggers, Her Triggers – 4 Steps For Dealing With Triggers While Healing From Infidelity Episode 50. Are You Thriving or Just Surviving in Marriage After Sexual Betrayal   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

As we approach the end of 2024, we find ourselves reflecting on the past year of recovery. Was this last year anything that we hoped or imagined it would be? What went well? What missed the mark of our expectations? What could we have done differently?   These are all good questions to ask ourselves in light of the upcoming New Year.   Our recovery journey from porn-fueled infidelity and betrayal trauma to true intimacy is no different. We must ask ourselves these types of questions if we are to stay on the path to regain what was lost, stolen, or given away.   So, grab your favorite holiday beverage and listen in as we reflect on this past year and share some harrowing obstacles we encountered and insights on what we learned along the way.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)               RELATED EPISODES: Episode 62. Social Media Hack Triggers Trauma From Porn-Fueled Infidelity Episode 77. 4 Practical Steps for Vigilance in Recovery from Porn-Fueled Infidelity   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

Are you looking for hope in what may seem to be a hopeless situation right now?   Merriam-Webster defines hope as "to expect with confidence".   During this Christmas season many of us are looking for hope. Hope that things will change for the better or maybe just hope that the pain of betrayal and the confusion of addiction will simply “go away”.   Friends, let me assure you that there is true hope to be found in the reality of the arrival of Jesus into our world and our lives. When we remember to set our focus on Immanuel, “God with us” it is easier to see that you are not alone and there is hope.   Join us today as we impart our message of hope to you as you move through the devastation of porn-fueled infidelity.   Merry Christmas!   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)                         RELATED EPISODES: Episode 30. Has Adultery Grinched Your Christmas? 2 Ways to Approach Holiday Season Triggers After Sexual Betrayal Episode 33. The Greatest Gift at Christmas: A 12-Stop Journey To God’s Plan for Redemption   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

Are you looking forward to celebrating Christmas this year? Or maybe for you, Christmastime has a dark shadow over it because of the discovery of sexual betrayal in your marriage and you’re wondering if it is ever going to get better.   We know how that feels! Several years ago, we faced the shocking reality of infidelity in our marriage, and it turned our Christmas into a painful blur. Before that experience, each of us had such different perspectives on holiday joy. Let’s just say one of us was a real Humbug.   But after going through the healing journey together, we’ve found common ground in how we celebrate Christmas, and it has truly become more meaningful than ever.   So, why not cozy up with a warm cup of hot cocoa and join us as we share some heartfelt stories of Christmases past and a sprinkle of hope for the present? You're not alone in this journey!   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)                         RELATED EPISODES: Episode 30. Has Adultery Grinched Your Christmas? 2 Ways to Approach Holiday Season Triggers After Sexual Betrayal Episode 33. The Greatest Gift at Christmas: A 12-Stop Journey To God’s Plan for Redemption   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.

On today's show, we share our transformative journey from the deep struggles of pornography addiction and infidelity to healing and restoration. If you remember back on episode #75, we had a guest on our show who gave us some incredible insights on how to Heal with God, from heavy things like sexual betrayal, shame and unforgiveness.   Heather O’Brien is the host of the podcast Heal with God, and we were so blessed to have her on our show a couple months ago. We both gleaned some nuggets of truth that we have since implemented in our own healing journey, so we encourage you to go back and listen to that episode if you haven’t heard it yet. We’ve also put more ways to connect with Heather and her resources below in our show notes.   Heather was kind enough to ask us to be on her show and we are sharing that interview with you now, so settle in for some vulnerable answers to some difficult questions.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   CONNECT with Heather O’Brien: Heal with God podcast Heather’s Website Heather’s Free Mental Makeover Challenge   RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)                         RELATED EPISODES: Episode 63. Got Porn Brain? What It Is and How It Affects You and Your Marriage Episode 75. Heal With God From Sexual Betrayal, Shame, and Unforgiveness: feat. Heather O'Brien   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.