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Beyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy
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Dear Betrayed,
Are you in shock? Confused, devastated, hurt, angry and feeling like you are not enough? Do you feel like it must be your fault, like you should have somehow seen the signs? Are you grieving the death of the marriage you thought you had?
Dear Betrayer,
Have you been believing the lie that if people knew what was really in your heart and mind, they would turn their back on you? Have you been convinced that your wife and family would leave you and you would lose everything if/when you came clean?
Beloved, do you both feel like your marriage is over?
Well, you’re right. That marriage full of secrets and lies IS over. But now there is hope for an honest and transparent marriage - one full of trust, safety, connection, forgiveness, acceptance, and intimacy that you’ve never known before. Bold statement, right? You may be thinking, “No way!” That’s okay. We understand…
Hi, we are Johnny and Emily Spigelmire and we have been where you are...
As a result of adultery fueled by pornography, the marriage vows we had exchanged as starry-eyed newlyweds and had worked so hard to keep were eventually shattered. We’ve been through hell and back. But we are here, together, to let you know that this devastation we experienced was actually a gift.
Of course, we didn’t see it that way at first and you probably don’t either. But, through a commitment to recovery, our faith in God, and our hope for redemption, we set out on a journey of healing, and we can’t wait to share what we’ve learned with you. We now have a marriage that continually blows our minds, and we give God all the glory!
So, if you’re ready to move from heartbreak and pain to hope and healing, grab your favorite beverage, get comfy, and join us on a journey of faith as we talk through difficult questions like;
Is there hope for our marriage?
Can I fix all the damage I’ve done?
Can I ever trust again?
Is true intimacy even possible?
We will also do deep dives into the topics of:
* Isolation
* Guilt and Shame
* Anger
* Rejection
* Addiction
* Trauma
* Body Image
* Triggers
* Communication
* And more…
Our story, like yours, is a messy one. But, with God’s help, it is possible to recover what was lost, stolen, or given away. We know this because God has turned the ashes of our lives into something beautiful and we believe he can do that for you too.
You can connect with us at:
support@beyondbrokenvows.com
https://insider.beyondbrokenvows.com/
https://coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com/
We would love to be part of your journey to healing and wholeness!
- 153 - 152 | He Exposed Me! God's Plan for My Freedom from Porn
Hello Man of God, Have you been stuck in a seemingly unending cycle of persistent sexual integrity issues - be it pornography, one-night stands, sex workers, or long-term sexual relationships, only to find yourself in prayer, at the "alter" or at the "foot of the cross" asking God to remove this sin from your life? Did God answer you?? Did God remove your desire for pornography?? For many of us the answer was no. For some, the answer was not what we thought it would be. What if God's plan to save you was to expose you and lay you out bare for all to see? What if God loved you so much that he exposed you; doing for you what you could not or would not do for yourself? Today we will spend some time talking about when God's plan to help us, is through exposing us. Johnny will share his personal story of when God was giving him the way out – the way to freedom. You will not want to miss this impactful conversation, so find a quiet spot to listen for what God may be telling you. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💚TIP JAR If this, or any of our episodes, brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 16. ”It’s Just Porn, What’s The Big Deal?” And 4 Other Lies We Tell Ourselves To Justify Viewing Pornography Episode 25. Persistent Sexual Integrity Issues in Marriage. Do Recovery Programs Really Work? NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 06 Apr 2026 - 152 - 151 | Resurrection Life for Your Marriage
In this episode, we reflect on the sacred weight of Passion Week, and invite you to pause and turn your eyes toward the transformative final days of Jesus’s earthly life. From the triumphant shouts of Palm Sunday to the agonizing solitude of Gethsemane and the ultimate sacrifice at the Cross, this week is a reminder that the path to redemption always requires a death. We reflect on the gravity of what Jesus endured for us, acknowledging that without the shadow of Good Friday, there could be no glorious dawn of Easter Sunday. In this episode, we explore how the powerful truth of the resurrection offers a path forward for those navigating the pain of sexual betrayal in their marriages. Much like the disciples at the empty tomb, you are invited to stop looking for life among the dead remnants of the past. By letting go of what once was, you create space for Christ’s resurrection power to breathe new life into your relationship. Join us as we walk through these final days of our Lord, finding deep, abiding hope in the victory of the empty tomb and the promise of renewal for your marriage. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💚TIP JAR If this, or any of our episodes, brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 33.The Greatest Gift at Christmas: A 12-Stop Journey To God’s Plan for Redemption Episode 79. Redeeming What Was Lost, Stolen, or Given Away Through Adultery NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 30 Mar 2026 - 151 - 150 | Are You Weaponizing the Bible in Recovery from Infidelity?
As Christ followers, we absolutely want to use the scriptures as our primary guide for living our lives. Afterall, as it says in 2 Tim. 3:16-17, all scripture is God breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training, in righteousness so that the servant of God may be equipped for every good work. We love God’s Word, but sometimes we can use scripture as a weapon. On today’s show, we’ll talk about what it means to weaponize scripture against our spouse while we are healing and recovering from the effects of a marriage shattered by sexual betrayal. We’ll define what weaponizing the Bible is, show you some examples of what it looks like, and offer solutions for using scripture to promote peace and healing while recovering from the effects of infidelity in your marriage. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 69. 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs...(Series) #5 Spiritual Leadership Episode 132.12 Markers of a Trustworthy Husband (Markers 10, 11, and 12) NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 23 Mar 2026 - 150 - 149 | 4 Ways To Go The Extra Mile When Recovering From Sexual Betrayal
We’ve walked the hard road of betrayal and addiction, and we know that half-measures simply don’t cut it when you are fighting for the heart of your marriage. True healing isn’t about just stopping the bad behavior—it’s about actively pursuing the life God intended for your covenant, even when the path is difficult. Today, we’re talking about what it really takes to go the extra mile. We’re discussing why settling for the bare minimum keeps so many couples stuck, and how leaning into the uncomfortable work is exactly what separates those who survive from those who truly thrive in restoration. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 49. Sobriety vs. Recovery After Porn-Fueled Infidelity Episode 140. How Well Do You Really Know Your Spouse When Infidelity Becomes Your Reality NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 16 Mar 2026 - 149 - 148 | Are You Helping or Hindering Your Wife's Betrayal Trauma Recovery?
In our coaching practice, we see patterns emerge in different areas that tell a bigger story about what is going on in the minds husbands who have betrayed, and their traumatized wives. Today we are going to talk about the scenario of a husband making suggestions for the recovery and healing of his wife. This is tricky ground. The husband’s motivation can come from a place of genuine concern or from something more self-serving. Is either one of these approaches helpful? We’ll unpack this quandary, and give you some hope for working out this issue in a way that pleases God and gives him the glory. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 22. How Long Will This Hurt? Experiencing The 5 Stages of Grief Through the Lens of Sexual Betrayal Episode 87. Can’t We Just Get Back to Normal? Shortest Path to True Intimacy After Sexual Betrayal NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 09 Mar 2026 - 148 - 147 | Did You Ever Really Love Me? Facing the Heartache of Sexual Betrayal
Today, we want to talk about an extremely painful question betrayed wives ask their unfaithful husbands. It’s a question that torments a wife when looking at the history of her marriage through the lens of infidelity. Those memories of special times spent together - vacations, family events, wedding anniversaries - are tainted by the new knowledge that she wasn’t his one and only love. She can’t wrap her mind around what his sexual betrayal means for their relationship and it’s devastating to imagine him engaging in sexual or emotional attachments with anyone else, whether on a screen or in person. This question is, “Did you ever really love me?” We have a raw conversation over this question from our own experience; finding some answers and also finding hope in Jesus Christ’s unfailing love for us! We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 92. Dying to Self: Transformational Moments in Recovery from Sexual Betrayal Episode 136. Stuck in a Rut: 6 Traps that Hinder Recovery for an Unfaithful Husband NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 02 Mar 2026 - 147 - 146 | Hit the PAUSE Button for Triggers After Sexual Betrayal
Today, we’re tackling Triggers and Trauma Responses, post-betrayal alarms that test our commitment after infidelity is discovered in the marriage. We talked over this topic in our last Unseen Beauty wives care group gathering and it’s something that all betrayed wives experience. Several of the women gave examples of recent triggers and some were able to give wonderful insights on how to handle them. Today we’ll share what triggers are, the emotions behind them, and some biblical tools for managing them, like taking thoughts captive. Plus, we have created a PAUSE acronym to help wives move through triggers in a healthy way. You can find the link to this resource below. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) P.A.U.S.E for Triggers download RELATED EPISODES: Episode 13. His Triggers, Her Triggers – 4 Steps For Dealing With Triggers While Healing From Infidelity Episode 95. Weddings and Pirates and Triggers. Oh, my! NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 23 Feb 2026 - 146 - 145 | From Sex-Addiction to Addiction Whack-a-Mole
Sometimes recovery isn’t just killing one addiction—it can be like a game of Whack-a-Mole. Kill the sex addiction, and others pop up. Picture this...you’re in an arcade, inexplicably drawn to the game called Whack-a-Mole. The idea of the game is when a mole pops up you whack it with a padded mallet, and as you strike it, it goes down into its hole. But another one pops up in another area. Now your attention is drawn to the one that just popped up. You repeat the process until the timer runs out. You never really win the game, but you may score more points than others based on the speed and accuracy of your ability to whack the moles. This can have a very similar effect when we are trying to rid our lives of addiction, or simply compulsive behaviors. We usually start with the one that is bringing the most destruction to our lives and marriages. We may feel we have victory over our primary compulsion, yet another can emerge to take its place. Why is this? In our show today we will cover the pitfalls of what we are calling addiction Whack-a-Mole, what it is, how to spot it, and how to actually exterminate all the moles of addiction in your life. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com RESOURCES: Addiction Whack-A-Mole Worksheet Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 17. Is My Spouse A Porn Addict? 13 Clues To Help Expose Compulsive Sexual Behavior Episode 25. Persistent Sexual Integrity Issues in Marriage. Do Recovery Programs Really Work? NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 16 Feb 2026 - 145 - 144 | Post Disclosure Revelation: Setback or Breakthrough?
Imagine this: You’ve survived the gut-wrenching reality of Full Disclosure. The truth is out—presumably there are no more secrets. After a long healing journey, you’re starting to breathe again. Then… bam. A new revelation drops. Is it a devastating setback… or the breakthrough you’ve been praying for? Today, we share a real story and the benefits that can turn pain into progress—stick around! We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com RESOURCES: Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 52. What Is His Response To Her BIG Emotions After Porn-Fueled Infidelity? Episode 58. Purpose from Pain: Did Sexual Betrayal Destroy God’s Plan for Your Marriage? NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 09 Feb 2026 - 144 - 143 | After Disclosure: He Feels Better, She Feels Worse
Today, we’re diving into one of the rawest pains a marriage can face: infidelity. Specifically, that pivotal moment when the unfaithful spouse – often the husband – finally comes clean. He unloads decades of secrets, and suddenly his prison of guilt and shame cracks open. Freedom hits him like a wave of hope. But for the wife? Those same words shatter her world. She’s left carrying the weight he shed, and now she’s trapped in her own prison of grief, betrayal, and isolation. One heart soars; the other plummets. So what now? How do you navigate this as a couple committed to Christ? Join us for this raw and candid conversation about our experience with this unfair paradox. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com RESOURCES: Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 124. From Hurt to Hope Through Rigorous Honesty Episode 92. Dying to Self: Transformational Moments in Recovery from Sexual Betrayal NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 02 Feb 2026 - 143 - 142 | Level Up Your Honesty After Sexual Betrayal
Is honesty just as simple as telling the truth, or is there more to it? We are going to unpack that question to reveal some nuances of truth telling that some may not have considered before. But isn’t truth, truth? Yes, truth is always truth, but what we’ve discovered through our own healing journey is that inside of the practice of telling the truth, there are layers that are not necessarily obvious. Today’s topic is not exclusive to the step-by-step process of Full Therapeutic Disclosure, but it is an important foundation for all marriages working to recover from sexual betrayal. Join us today to learn how to level up your honesty. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com RESOURCES: Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 124. 124 | From Hurt to Hope Through Rigorous Honesty Episode 92. Dying to Self: Transformational Moments in Recovery from Sexual Betrayal NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 26 Jan 2026 - 142 - 141 | Infidelity Disclosure: How Much Do I Need to Know?
In our previous episode, we were focusing on questions some husbands and wives have about the need for a Full Therapeutic Disclosure as well as some of the reasons couples hesitate to engage in this process. We have seen some amazing restoration of marriages through this process and today we’re going to talk about disclosure, not just what happens inside of a Full Therapeutic Disclosure, but also what happens after as couples continue to dig down deep together to become fully known. Trying to build a new marriage on a cracked slab is disaster waiting to happen. We must completely remove all traces of rubble and brokenness to rebuild on a new solid foundation. We have found that this can be accomplished through transparency, vulnerability, and rigorous honesty. Pop in your ear buds and spend some time with us! We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com RESOURCES: Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 111. Need a Full Therapeutic Disclosure After Infidelity? (Part 1) Episode 140. How Well Do You Really Know Your Spouse When Infidelity Becomes Your Reality NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 19 Jan 2026 - 141 - 140 | How Well Do You Really Know Your Spouse When Infidelity Becomes Your Reality
Today we’re going to talk about something that strikes fear into the heart of every husband who has been unfaithful - Full Therapeutic Disclosure. It’s a topic that sounds scary, but it is one of the best tools for recovery that we have discovered and implemented into our coaching practice. Not only for husbands who have been unfaithful, but also for their betrayed wives. We have seen God do some amazing things through this process and today we’re going to have a conversation about why some couples hesitate to engage with this recovery tool. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com RESOURCES: Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 51. Full Therapeutic Disclosure: 3 Steps to Healing and Freedom After Sexual Betrayal Episode 111. Need a Full Therapeutic Disclosure After Infidelity? (Part 1) NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 12 Jan 2026 - 140 - 139 | We Plan - God Purposes: Vision Casting with a Rearview Mirror
How is it already 2026? The start of a new year is an opportunity to look back and reflect on the experiences we've been through and what they've taught us. But the new year isn’t just about looking back; it's also a chance to look forward and spend some time imagining what could be. It’s easy to feel stuck in the present and think that things might never change or improve. It's like trudging down a bumpy street, head down, wary of every crack and pothole, constantly focused on avoiding obstacles. While it’s wise to be cautious, sometimes we focus so much on the rough patches that we forget to lift our eyes and appreciate the beauty around us. As we welcome this new year, we invite you to take a moment to look up from the challenges of your life and marriage. Let yourself imagine what kind of life you want to live and the spouse you want to become. Think about the possibilities waiting for you on the other side of grief, loss, pain, and struggle. Today we’re taking a quick look back at our 2025 with you, and sharing some exciting things we have planned for this year. Happy New Year! Johnny and Emily 💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com RESOURCES: Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 34. New Beginnings for Marriages in the New Year After Sexual Betrayal Episode 86. Recovering From Porn-Fueled Infidelity: Obstacles We Encountered This Year NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 05 Jan 2026 - 139 - 138 | Let Jesus Shine His Light on Your Path to Recovery from Infidelity
We hope you were able to find some special moments this Christmas even if you are walking through the pain of sexual betrayal. You may be really glad that this year is ending, but not sure next year will be any better. We’re just dropping in for a quick message of encouragement today and give you some hope and direction for this coming year. We are sharing an inspiring and meaningful message from Sarah Young the author of Jesus Calling. It was impactful to us, and we hope it will be for you as well. Happy New Year! Johnny and Emily 💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 34. New Beginnings for Marriages in the New Year After Sexual Betrayal Episode 86. Recovering From Porn-Fueled Infidelity: Obstacles We Encountered This Year NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 29 Dec 2025 - 138 - 137 | A Christmas Message of Hope for Hurting Spouses
As a wife, you may be reeling from the news of sexual betrayal and you are in shock, grieving, and lost. Or as a husband, your infidelity may have recently been discovered and the shame is suffocating and you feel like you are going to lose your wife and everyone who truly matters to you. And you may be saying to yourself, “I am alone and I have no hope”. Our mission here at Beyond Broken Vows is to tell our story of how sexual sin destroyed our marriage, but that through the power of Jesus Christ, we have been redeemed. He has healed us and has given us a brand-new marriage full of hope, peace, joy, and love. Because of what he has done for us, we can assure you that you are not alone and there absolutely is hope. We are going to take you on a trip through scripture today and show you how great God’s love is for you. He knew what was coming into your life and he made a way for you, and all of us, on this journey from brokenness to wholeness. Because of the arrival of Christ Jesus into our world, we truly are not alone and there is hope. Merry Christmas! Johnny and Emily 💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 33. The Greatest Gift at Christmas: A 12-Stop Journey To God’s Plan for Redemption Episode 85. A Christmas Message of Hope for Couples After Infidelity NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 22 Dec 2025 - 137 - 136 | Stuck in a Rut: 6 Traps that Hinder Recovery for an Unfaithful Husband
True healing from sexual sin and betrayal is a journey that goes beyond just stopping certain behaviors; it demands a fundamental transformation of the heart. For husbands, the journey to rebuild trust and find healing can be challenging, filled with obstacles that can slow down progress and unintentionally cause more conflict. Often we can get in our own way without realizing it. In this episode, we'll identify six spiritual and emotional traps—common for husbands trying to recover from sexual integrity issues and help their wives heal. We’ll confront these patterns with biblical truth and provide a clear path toward genuine repentance, accountability, and lasting freedom. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 92. Dying to Self: Transformational Moments in Recovery from Sexual Betrayal Episode 135. Stuck in the Wound: 4 Traps Wives Often Fall Into That Hinder Healing From Sexual Betrayal NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 15 Dec 2025 - 136 - 135 | Stuck in the Wound: 4 Traps That Hinder Healing For a Betrayed Wife
When a wife discovers her husband’s sexual betrayal, her world shatters. The path to healing is difficult enough without unknowingly creating additional roadblocks. In this episode, we explore 4 common but counterproductive patterns that keep Christian wives stuck in their pain. We’ll identify these self-sabotaging behaviors, uncover the biblical truths that dismantle them, and provide practical steps to help you start moving forward on your healing journey, regardless of your husband’s choices. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 61. Is Joy Possible After Sexual Betrayal? Episode 116. From Shattered Vows to Sacred Surrender: The Counterintuitive Path to Healing NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 08 Dec 2025 - 135 - 134 | Emotionally Ready for Sex? 4 Steps to Healthy Sexuality for Husbands After Sexual Betrayal
After the discovery and disclosure of sexual betrayal in a marriage, couples who choose to stay married and embrace the healing and recovery journey, will eventually need to address their sexuality again. This will look different for every couple, but the ultimate goal is to have a healthier sexual intimacy than before the destruction of porn-fueled infidelity came to light. We have been working on this part of our marriage relationship for almost 7 years now and almost one year ago Emily gave me what I call the Golden Ticket. This was her declaration that she would be sexually available to me whenever I initiated it. That scared me to death and helped me to realize that this was a huge responsibility and that I needed to approach it with care. This helped me to create the 4 steps to healthy sexuality for husbands that we are covering today. Join us for a very candid conversation about sexuality after porn-fueled infidelity today. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 48. Closing the Gap - 3 Steps to Sexual Intimacy Episode 94. From “Oh, Hell No!” to "The Golden Ticket" - 4 Phases of Sexuality in Recovery from Adultery NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 01 Dec 2025 - 134 - 133 | Infidelity is a Turkey - Here's 6 Reasons to Give Thanks Anyway
We understand you may be in the middle of the fall-out from sexual betrayal in your marriage. Maybe you just found out, or you have been found out. Maybe you’ve been walking this path for a while and still feel like you can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel. As the holiday season approaches, this unwanted and extremely painful circumstance can destroy all the anticipation of spending special time with family and friends. This week we will celebrate Thanksgiving Day, but it can seem like there is nothing to be thankful for in this dark winter of our souls. We want to encourage you with this, while we aren’t grateful for the betrayal itself, we can be grateful that God doesn’t waste our suffering. The pain of infidelity can become the very thing that drives us deeper into dependency on Christ. Grab a comforting beverage and listen in for some hope in this challenging time as we give you 6 reasons to be thankful, even while on this messy journey of recovery from infidelity. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 28. Giving Thanks In Your Broken Marriage Through Gratitude Episode 81. Giving Thanks In The Aftermath of Porn-Fueled Infidelity NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 24 Nov 2025 - 133 - 132 | 12 Markers of a Trustworthy Husband (Markers 10, 11, and 12)
The aftermath of sexual betrayal is a complete upheaval of a marriage’s foundation. It doesn’t just damage trust—it systematically dismantles it, leaving a wife questioning her entire reality. The world she knew is gone, replaced by a landscape of pain, confusion, and profound uncertainty. For husbands who have broken our marriage vows, this new reality teaches us a critical truth: trust is not a default setting. It's more like a delicate structure that must be painstakingly rebuilt, day by day, through deliberate and verifiable action. By committing to clear and honest actions, we can begin to mend our own broken integrity. More importantly, it lays down a new, solid groundwork, giving our wives something tangible to base or even contemplate trusting us again. We are finishing up our series today, so if you haven't listened to the previous episodes, we recommend going back to the beginning of this series with episode 127 to get the full context. Today we’re going to unpack the last three markers that can give a recovering husband actionable steps toward trustworthiness and give his wife a clearer picture of what a trustworthy man looks like. A trustworthy husband is a man of integrity A trustworthy husband has and works a recovery plan A trustworthy husband is a servant leader We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 49. Sobriety vs. Recovery After Porn-Fueled Infidelity Episode 130. 12 Markers of a Trustworthy Husband (Markers 7, 8, and 9) NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 17 Nov 2025 - 132 - 131 | Our Navy Days Love Story and a Salute to Veterans
Today we honor our veterans who defended our land, people, and way of life—a commitment reflecting a biblical understanding of nationhood. The military is a God-ordained institution for maintaining order (Romans 13), and honoring veterans acknowledges this divine role. Their sacrifice secured our religious freedom, allowing us to worship and spread the Gospel. A strong national defense protects our Christian civilization, as strength preserves peace for faith to flourish. The military upholds crucial biblical virtues like courage and duty, which are essential for national survival. We remember veterans’ moral courage under fire and their steadfast faith. We must pray for and support those suffering from wounds, both visible and invisible, fulfilling the church’s duty to minister to these modern-day centurions. They embody Christ’s ultimate teaching: “Greater love has no one than this, to lay down one’s life for his friends.” Johnny is a veteran and he recounts some highlights from his navel service and the emotional wounds he received as he served. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 129. 12 Markers of a Trustworthy Husband (Markers 4, 5, and 6) Episode 130. 12 Markers of a Trustworthy Husband (Markers 7, 8, and 9) NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 10 Nov 2025 - 131 - 130 | 12 Markers of a Trustworthy Husband (Markers 7, 8, and 9)
The devastation of sexual betrayal leaves no part of a marriage untouched. It obliterates the very trust the relationship was built upon. For the spouse who discovers the lies and hidden double life, it’s as if the floor has vanished beneath their feet. Their entire understanding of reality is fractured in an instant, leaving them disoriented and questioning everything they thought was true. And husbands who have been unfaithful are learning a difficult lesson: trust cannot be assumed; it must be actively built. We are realizing that we must be transparent in very practical and visible ways in order to be seen as trustworthy. Our commitment to daily trustworthiness does more than just rebuild our own damaged integrity. It creates a new, stable foundation, offering our wives a genuine reason to consider the possibility of trusting again. Today we are going to go over the next three markers for becoming a trustworthy husband: 7. A trustworthy husband protects all devices 8. A trustworthy husband makes all devices accessible to his wife 9. A trustworthy husband shares location and travel plans We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 77. 4 Practical Steps for Vigilance in Recovery from Porn-Fueled Episode 92. Dying to Self: Transformational Moments in Recovery from Sexual Betrayal NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 03 Nov 2025 - 130 - 129 | 12 Markers of a Trustworthy Husband (Markers 4, 5, and 6)
Sexual betrayal destroys all trust in a marriage. When the lies and double life of an unfaithful husband (or wife) come to light, the betrayed spouse has no solid ground to stand on. What was real is instantly shattered and nothing is clear anymore. It can leave an unfaithful spouse struggling for a way to regain the trust that was selfishly tossed aside. Trust is earned - not expected just by virtue of staying married. But when trust is lost, trustworthiness displayed daily will not only help to restore personal integrity, but it can also pave the way for a betrayed spouse to consider trusting again. Last week, we did a deep dive into the first three of twelve markers of a trustworthy husband; he is transparent, vulnerable, and rigorously honest, has no secrets from his wife, and initiates difficult conversations. There was a lot packed into that episode so if you missed it we encourage you to go back and listen to episode 128. Today we are going to unpack the next three markers of a trustworthy husband: A trustworthy husband listens to understand. A trustworthy husband apologizes to help his wife heal. A trustworthy husband prioritizes his wife above all other people. Grab a pumpkin spiced something and tuck in for a revealing look into our recovery process as we discovered how a track record of trustworthiness helped ear back trust in our marriage. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 10. When “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough: 8 Steps to a Healing Apology Episode 52. What Is His Response To Her BIG Emotions After Porn-Fueled Infidelity? Episode 66. 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs...(Series) #2 Prioritize Her NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 27 Oct 2025 - 129 - 128 | 12 Markers of a Trustworthy Husband (Markers 1, 2, and 3)
When trust has been shattered after marital infidelity is revealed through either discovery or confession, what hope does a repentant husband have for regaining his wife’s trust? Will she ever be able to trust him again? These are common questions many couples ask as they sift through the rubble of what was once considered to be a happy, loving, and committed marriage. Fortunately, there is an answer to this difficult question because when unfaithful husbands destroy trust in their marriage, there is a hope of restoring this broken part of the relationship by showing up daily as "trustworthy". On last week’s episode, we introduced the 12 markers for becoming a trustworthy husband. On today's show we will dive deeper into the first three markers of a trustworthy husband. A trustworthy husband is transparent, vulnerable, and rigorously honest. A trustworthy husband has no secrets from his wife. A trustworthy husband initiates difficult conversations. Join us for a candid conversation about our experience with broken trust and trustworthiness displayed after infidelity was discovered in our marriage. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 92. Dying to Self: Transformational Moments in Recovery from Sexual Betrayal Episode 111. 111 | Need a Full Therapeutic Disclosure After Infidelity? (Part 1) NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 20 Oct 2025 - 128 - 127 | 12 Markers of a Trustworthy Husband (Series Intro)
When infidelity shatters the reality of a perceived happy marriage and reveals a foundation crumbling under the weight of lies and deception, one of the most difficult losses is the trust that was instinctively given when exchanging vows to love, honor, and cherish one another. This loss of trust can be more painful than betrayal itself. It can leave a wife on unsteady ground with little hope that any trust for her husband can be regained. In today’s show, we’ll discuss what the loss of trust feels like from a betrayed wife's perspective and also explore the hope an unfaithful husband has for re-gaining the precious trust that was once so lovingly shared at the beginning of their journey together. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 64. 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs From Her Recovering Husband (Series) Episode 65. 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs...(Series) #1 See Her Pain NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 13 Oct 2025 - 127 - 126 | Forgiving Yourself After Betraying Your Wife
Have you ever thought about how the toughest barriers holding you back might not be out there in the world, but instead created in the hidden corners of your own mind? For the man battling sex addiction, the compulsive behavior is often just the symptom of a deeper problem: a faulty belief system built on a foundation of shame, self-loathing, and the unshakable conviction that you are, at your core, unforgivable. This is the silent war that can rage long after the acting out stops. In this episode, we’re going to take a deeper look at the mental traps—the negative I Am statement we tell ourselves and the isolating shame—that keep you trapped in a cycle of self-punishment. We’ll talk about how this internal battle doesn’t just sabotage your inner peace, but systematically undermines your marriage and every good thing in your life. Join us as Johnny opens up about his personal journey, sharing how he began to forgive himself and embrace the powerful truth that he is truly forgiven—by God, by Emily, and himself. This conversation promises to be enlightening and supportive as we explore the path to healing together! We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 11. Freedom and Healing: 4 Keys to Unlocking Forgiveness After Sexual Betrayal Episode 35. Recovery Step 6: Ready to Move on From Sexual Integrity Issues? 4 Questions to Help you Decide NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 06 Oct 2025 - 126 - 125 | 4 Reasons Showing Compassion Feels Risky for Betrayed Wives
Navigating the aftermath of a husband’s sexual betrayal is a complex and deeply painful journey for a wife. While a natural desire to support his recovery may exist, it often clashes with powerful, protective emotions born from the trauma itself. The act of showing compassion can feel fraught with risk, not as a sign of a lack of love, but as a defense mechanism against further pain and a means of preserving her own fractured sense of safety and self-worth. This hesitation is not a character flaw but a rational response to profound injury. The wife’s fears are typically rooted in a need to validate her own experience, guard her heart from additional harm, and ensure that her husband’s path to recovery is built on genuine accountability rather than easy forgiveness. Understanding these fears is a crucial step in healing for both spouses. Join us as Emily tells the story of her journey from a lack of compassion to showing compassion to Johnny after his sexual betrayal in our marriage. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 72. Praising God While in the Storm of Sexual Betrayal and Porn-Fueled Infidelity Episode 114. "I Know the Plans I Have for You" After Sexual Betrayal Shatters Your Marriage NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 29 Sep 2025 - 125 - 124 | From Hurt to Hope Through Rigorous Honesty
When you hear the word “honesty,” what comes to mind? Is it a simple binary—you either tell the truth or you don’t? Or do you see it on a sliding scale, where a “little white lie” is a 2 and a deliberate, premeditated deception is a 10? If your marriage has been shattered by porn-fueled infidelity, you know the brutal truth: the lies and deception surrounding the acting out are often more destructive to trust than the acts themselves. In this powerful second part of our conversation, We recap the five ways we lie from last week—commission, omission, deflection, justifying, and gaslighting—and dive deep into how embracing rigorous honesty can pave the way for trust and healing. Join us as we unpack what this kind of honesty looks like, how to attain it, and how it impacted our recovery process. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 109. Healing Through Honesty: A View Into a Marriage Transformed by Truth (with Sathiya Sam) Episode 123. The One Thing Worse Than Infidelity in Marriage NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 22 Sep 2025 - 124 - 123 | The One Thing Worse Than Porn-Fueled Infidelity in Marriage
In marriages wounded by sexual betrayal, the deepest injury isn't the act itself, but the web of lies that concealed it. It’s a staggering reality that the concept of honesty is not as straightforward as many would like to believe. Lies can come in various forms, from outright falsehoods to subtle omissions and misleading statements, all of which can have profound effects on trust in relationships. What is the key to complete honesty, and how can we foster openness and transparency in our relationships?We are celebrating our 38th anniversary over the next week so we are sharing with you one of our most listened to podcast episodes. The topic is LYING. We will discuss five different ways we lie, specifically relating to broken covenant in marriage through porn-fueled infidelity. You will hear some intimate details from our painful journey to freedom and healing as we navigated the deception uncovered in our marriage. Our victorious story serves as a testament to the fact that breaking the cycle of dishonesty is not only possible but essential for building a solid foundation for safety and trust leading to true intimacy. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 07. 5 Ways We Lie and the Secret to Complete Honesty (part 1) Episode 08. 5 Ways We Lie and the Secret to Complete Honesty (part 2) NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 15 Sep 2025 - 123 - 122 | Can Jesus Be Found in the Traditional 12-Steps of Addiction Recovery?
What comes to mind when someone brings up 12-Step recovery? Maybe you think of Alcoholics Anonymous? Or perhaps group meetings? Do you also wonder if 12-Step programs are only for those who don’t see Jesus as Savior and Lord of all? Should followers of Christ consider participating, even if Jesus isn't the central focus? There are certainly some common misconceptions about where the original twelve steps come from and how they are meant to be used. Today, we’ll look at a few of the most prevalent misunderstandings surrounding this simple yet effective program for addiction recovery and discover if these twelve steps are a clear path to God. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 25.Persistent Sexual Integrity Issues in Marriage. Do Recovery Programs Really Work? Episode 49. Sobriety vs. Recovery After Porn-Fueled Infidelity NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 08 Sep 2025 - 122 - 121 | I Need You Where I Am: My Wife Feels "This Way" Because...(Series 3 of 3)
Today we wrap up our series, I Need You Where I AM. In the first episode of our series, we focused on a statement that many betrayed wives relate to, "My Husband Just Doesn’t 'Get It'.” And what is the “it” he’s not getting? Not understanding the magnitude of what his actions through infidelity have done to her. In the second episode in our series, we covered some of the ways betrayed wives are affected by their husband’s infidelity. Not the least of which is grief. But in an everyday way, it can look like experiencing new health issues, being triggered by movies, TV shows, music, and even reading the Bible. Today we are giving husbands hope for addressing his wife’s needs in a practical way. To help Johnny see past himself to how Emily was being affected by his sexual betrayal, he created a process to handle her big emotions based on an internal statement, My wife feels this way because… Join us for the rest of the statement plus 4 important things it does to help both spouses heal. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 119. I Need You Where I Am: Why Unfaithful Husbands Just Don’t Get It (Series 1 of 3) Episode 120. I Need You Where I Am: Infidelity's Surprising Effects for Her (Series 2 of 3) NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 01 Sep 2025 - 121 - 120 | I Need You Where I Am: Infidelity's Surprising Effects for Her (Series 2 of 3)
Today in the second installment of our series, I Need You Where I Am, we turn the spotlight fully onto the wreckage inside a wife’s body and soul after sexual betrayal. The physical, emotional, and spiritual effects of betrayal trauma are real and profound. A wife experiencing these effects may think she is going crazy. She is not. It just feels that way. As we talked about last week, a husband who “gets it” understands the magnitude of the effects of his betrayal on his wife. This man can show compassion and empathy by looking past his own situation to see his wife’s pain. In this episode, we will share our experience with the effects of betrayal trauma as well as hope for the future where the trauma is healed and life becomes new. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free!💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 22. How Long Will This Hurt? Experiencing The 5 Stages of Grief Through the Lens of Sexual Betrayal Episode 119. I Need You Where I Am: Why Unfaithful Husbands Just Don’t Get It (Series 1 of 3) NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 25 Aug 2025 - 120 - 119 | I Need You Where I Am: Why Unfaithful Husbands Just Don’t Get It (Series 1 of 3)
Today we want to speak to both spouses who are bravely navigating the deep and challenging waters following a discovery and disclosure of sexual betrayal. We understand that this emotional journey can feel overwhelming and may be difficult to sort out on your own. Today we’re excited to present a relatable word-picture that aims to make the experience of a husband’s infidelity a little easier to understand for both partners. This episode marks the beginning of a 3-part series designed specifically for betrayed wives, focusing on what they wish their unfaithful husbands could grasp after their world has been shattered by the revelation of infidelity. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free!💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 52. What Is His Response To Her BIG Emotions After Porn-Fueled Infidelity? Episode 64. 64 | 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs From Her Recovering Husband (Series) NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 18 Aug 2025 - 119 - 118 | Is It Okay to Take a Break While Recovering from Sexual Betrayal?
Recovery work is hard! It is not something that either spouse ever wanted and sometimes it can feel like it takes over everything else in life. Is it okay to take breaks from the difficult conversations and the grieving process? Yes! We all need to take a break from the struggle occasionally and recharge so we can get back in and do the next right thing. We have a shorter show today, but lots of encouragement! Please take a moment to receive a blessing as we share a beautiful passage of scripture that quiets our souls and helps us to rest in the Lord. We are praying for you, Johnny and Emily 💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free!💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 100. Getting Real Help for Your Marriage: 10 Obstacles to Counseling and Coaching Episode 113. No Stone Unturned in Recovery from Porn-Fueled Infidelity NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 11 Aug 2025 - 118 - 117 | Real Help for Christians Battling Pornography, with John-Michael Bout
In this episode we are excited to have John-Michael Bout share his powerful testimony of struggling with pornography addiction since the age of eight and how he overcame it through God's grace, supportive friendships, and accountability. John-Michael also introduces his ministry, Into the Light, which offers various free resources including documentaries, video series, and workbooks to help individuals and families combat pornography and better understand biblical sexuality. He shares with us the importance of confessing sins, addressing the accessibility of pornography through technology, and integrating these conversations and resources into church communities for broader support and impact. Pop in your earbuds and listen in for some real help! We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free!💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe CONNECT WITH JOHN-MICHAEL: Website: intothelightministries.caSocials:@intothelight_ministriesInto The Light Podcast RESOURCES: Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 58. Purpose from Pain: Did Sexual Betrayal Destroy God’s Plan for Your Marriage? Episode 77. 4 Practical Steps for Vigilance in Recovery from Porn-Fueled Infidelity NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 04 Aug 2025 - 117 - 116 | From Shattered Vows to Sacred Surrender: The Counterintuitive Path to Healing
When you hear the word surrender, what comes to mind? Does it feel like defeat, like giving up? We often see surrender as weakness. And for those who like to control everything, surrender seems counterintuitive. Our instinct is to protect ourselves. Both spouses often resist and hide from the painful path to healing. In a marriage shattered by sexual betrayal, the fear is that giving up control means being taken advantage of or losing importance in the relationship. But surrendering your marriage to God is not about giving up. It’s about loosening your grip and trusting in someone greater. When the infidelity bomb blew up our marriage, we were scared and confused, putting up shields to protect ourselves from each other’s pain. Until, we chose to surrender—not to each other’s flaws, but to God’s plan for us. When we stopped striving for our own desired outcomes and handed it over to God, everything changed. Now, God did not erase the pain, but He guided us through it—revealing truths, healing wounds, and rebuilding trust step by step. In today's episode, we go deep into what it looks like to surrender and how God used this step of faith in our marriage to create something beautiful. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 81. Giving Thanks In The Aftermath of Porn-Fueled Infidelity Episode 72. Praising God While in the Storm of Sexual Betrayal and Porn-Fueled Infidelity NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 28 Jul 2025 - 116 - 115 | How U Doin? 5-Step Check-In for Couples in Recovery from Infidelity
Today we tackle the hardest skill in any marriage - especially after the devastation of sexual betrayal - honest, open communication. We frame true intimacy as a three-legged stool built on transparency, vulnerability and rigorous honesty, then soften the seat with a cushion of humility so the whole thing doesn’t collapse under the weight of pain and suspicion. Our goal is to move from theory to practice, from talking about intimacy to living it out daily. That shift requires the right tools. Enter the FANOS Check-In, by Debra Laaser. The acronym FANOS stands for: Feelings Affirmations Needs Ownership Struggles/Sobriety. In this episode, we’ll walk you through how two bruised spouses can sit down, share a safe space on that 3-legged stool, and walk away with clearer hearts, sharper boundaries, and a rebuilt connection. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Emotions Wheel FANOS CHECK-IN Request the Healing Apology worksheet, support@beyondbrokenvows.com Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 10. When “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough: 8 Steps to a Healing Apology Episode 80. 7 Caveats for an Effective Healing Apology Episode 106. From Furious to Curious: How the ‘Emotions Wheel’ Unlocks Deeper Conversations NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 21 Jul 2025 - 115 - 114 | "I Know the Plans I Have for You" After Sexual Betrayal Shatters Your Marriage
Whether you have just recently discovered your spouse’s infidelity or have been working through the recovery process for a while, you are going to want to tune in to today’s episode. It’s hard to imagine a future where there is honesty, connection, and true intimacy after the marriage vows have been shattered into dust. But God… Today we’re exploring what could be possible for your marriage when both partners are fully surrendered to Jesus and do the hard work of recovery. We are sharing some of the incredible things the Lord did with our marriage in the first two years of recovery to give you some encouragement and hope for yours. If God can do it for us, he can do it for you. And he wants to! He has a plan... (Jerimiah 29:11) We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 58. Purpose from Pain: Did Sexual Betrayal Destroy God’s Plan for Your Marriage? Episode 61. 61 | Is Joy Possible After Sexual Betrayal? NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 14 Jul 2025 - 114 - 113 | No Stone Unturned in Recovery from Porn-Fueled Infidelity
Sexual sin—especially porn-fueled infidelity—doesn’t just wound a marriage; it buries it under shame, secrecy, and shattered trust. But just as Jesus called Lazarus out of the grave, He can resurrect even the most broken relationships. Your marriage may feel like a tomb right now, but Christ specializes in resurrecting dead things. Today in this hope-filled, and sometimes emotional conversation, we’ll talk about why sexual betrayal feels like a “death” in a marriage—and how Christ offers resurrection from the tomb of our sin. How God uses others to help us move from where we are to where he wants us to be. Also, Johnny tells the amazing story of the vision God gave him 6 years prior that has been fulfilled his new, StoneRollers Men’s Recovery Group. Brotherhood is God’s lifeline for struggling men. You don’t have to face recovery alone! If this episode hits home, you don’t have to go it alone. Join this brotherhood of men committed to rolling away the stones in their lives and stepping into life and victory. Write us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com to get your signup links! We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 25. Persistent Sexual Integrity Issues in Marriage. Do Recovery Programs Really Work? Episode 43. Our 12-Step Series Wrap Up: Which Sex Addiction Recovery Program Is the Best? NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 07 Jul 2025 - 113 - 112 | Need a Full Therapeutic Disclosure After Infidelity? (Part 2)
The disclosure is done. The secrets are out. Now what? If you’ve been through Full Therapeutic Disclosure—or if you’re still mustering the courage to start—you know this isn’t the end. It’s the real beginning. Because truth doesn’t just expose the brokenness… it reveals the path forward. This is the second half of our FTD episode—where we walk you through the final 3 steps of the disclosure process. The Impact Letter: Her Voice Finally Heard The Restitution Letter: His Roadmap to Integrity The Slip & Relapse Plan: Trust Isn’t Blind FTD doesn’t guarantee your marriage will survive. But it does guarantee this: No more living in the dark. For the betrayed, it means the power to choose your next step with clarity. For the betrayer, it means the chance to finally live in truth—even if it costs you everything. Truth isn’t just where healing starts—it’s where you start living again. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 44. Fearing the Worst? How to Plan for Sex Addiction Slips & Relapses in Your Marriage Steps Episode 111. Need a Full Therapeutic Disclosure After Infidelity? (Part 1) NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 30 Jun 2025 - 112 - 111 | Need a Full Therapeutic Disclosure After Infidelity? (Part 1)
Marriage isn’t just a contract—it’s a covenant, a sacred vow before God and man. But sexual betrayal doesn’t just break trust… it shatters the covenant itself. The foundation is cracked. The vows feel like a lie. And now, both of you are standing in the wreckage—one drowning in grief, the other paralyzed by guilt. But here’s the truth: You can’t rebuild on broken ground. Before forgiveness, before reconciliation—before even deciding if this marriage can survive—there’s one thing that has to happen. The full, unedited truth. No more shadows. No more secrets. Because a covenant can only be restored where there’s nothing left to hide. If you’re the betrayed partner, you’re drowning in questions—What else don’t I know? Can I ever trust again? And if you’re the betrayer, you’re trapped in a prison of your own lies—How do I fix this? Will the truth destroy us? Here’s the hard reality: without Full Therapeutic Disclosure, neither of you gets to move forward. The betrayed stays stuck in suspicion, and the betrayer stays stuck in shame. But there’s a way out—and it starts with one terrifying, necessary conversation. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 44. Fearing the Worst? How to Plan for Sex Addiction Slips & Relapses in Your Marriage Steps Episode 51. Full Therapeutic Disclosure: 3 Steps to Healing and Freedom After Sexual Betrayal NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 23 Jun 2025 - 111 - 110 | 7 BBVisms to Guide You Through Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma Recovery
Have you ever stumbled upon a quote that just felt like it was made for you? You know, the kind that resonates so deeply with what you’re going through that it seems like a turning point in your journey? We all encounter those special quotes that cause us to pause and reflect. While we’re not promising that your life will be changed by them, today we’re sharing with you some of our own special sayings—affectionately dubbed BBVisms! You might even recognize a few from our show or from our coaching sessions over the last couple of years. Not only will you hear some of our (hopefully) memorable sayings; you'll learn the stories behind how we came up with each of them. Join us for a mix of light-hearted fun and valuable insights as we share seven of our original quotes. We’d love to know if there’s one that you’ve embraced in your recovery journey! We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 09. I’m So Angry! How I Overcame Anger from Sexual Betrayal in 3 Simple But Not Easy Steps Episode 36 | Recovery Step 7: Holding on to Pride? Humility Before God = Freedom From Pornography NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 16 Jun 2025 - 110 - 109 | Healing Through Honesty: A View Into a Marriage Transformed by Truth (with Sathiya Sam)
We’re so excited to share this special episode with you from beautiful Honduras. This one’s close to our hearts—we sat down with our friend Sathiya Sam, from The Man Within Podcast, and got real about our story: the messy, the painful, and the beautiful redemption that came after. We opened up about everything—our early years, the hard season of betrayal, and how, by God’s grace, we fought our way back to each other. It wasn’t easy, but we learned that true healing is possible, and now we’re passionate about helping other couples walk that same road. If you’ve been broken by infidelity or just want to hear how honesty, faith, and forgiveness can rebuild a marriage stronger than before, this one’s for you. Trust us—no wound is too deep for God’s restoration. Grab your coffee (or maybe a tissue), and let’s dive in together. We hope this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 50. Are You Thriving or Just Surviving in Marriage After Sexual Betrayal Episode 90. Discovering the Man Within: Sathiya Sam on Overcoming Porn Addiction NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Tue, 10 Jun 2025 - 109 - 108 | Who is God When Sexual Betrayal Shatters Your Marriage? Feat. Robin Wilson and Christy Bottom
In the tumultuous journey of marriage, trust is the cornerstone that holds this covenant union together. But what happens when this trust is shattered by sexual betrayal? How does a betrayed wife comprehend this new reality she never saw coming? In today’s episode, we dive deep into these questions with the insightful perspectives of Robin Wilson and Christy Bottom, authors of their newly released book, Who is God Now: Hope In God After Betrayal. Robin experienced the trauma of discovering her husband’s infidelity and has asked the hard questions; why, how, and who are you Lord? Through this painful journey she learned to understand God’s love, trustworthiness, and healing firsthand. Her sister, Christy, walked alongside her on that healing journey, consistently pointing Robin to Jesus and later encouraging her to write. Whether you're navigating your own journey of healing or seeking to support a loved one through theirs, in this episode you’ll hear crucial insights into the spiritual and emotional aspects of recovering from betrayal. Robin and Christy share stories that are real, heartfelt, and unbelievably hopeful. We’re so excited for you to hear this inspiring interview with these two precious women. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe CONNECT With ROBIN AND CHRISTY: Website: RobinAndChristyWrite.org Purchase their book: Who is God Now? Hope in God after Betrayal Email: RobinandChristyWrite@gmail.com RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 96. The Message in the Affair: Self-Discovery After His Infidelity, with April Truitt Episode 105. God, Where Were You When…? Questions in the Aftermath of Betrayal NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 02 Jun 2025 - 108 - 107 | Celebrating What God Has Done! Healing Marriages Shattered by Porn-Fueled Infidelity
Have you ever stepped out in faith, trusting God’s call even when the road ahead looked uncertain? Two years ago, we took that leap—surrendering our fears, our past hurts, and our plans, to follow where Jesus was leading us. And we’re here to tell you: God has been faithful. Not just in sustaining us, but in growing us—deepening our marriage, stretching our faith, and opening doors in ministry we never could’ve imagined. This journey hasn’t been easy. It started in the wreckage of betrayal and brokenness, but God didn’t leave us there. He rebuilt. He redeemed. And now, looking back? We know that every probing question, every painful answer, every difficult moment we chose to surrender to the Lord, has brought healing to our marriage and prepared us for this journey that we call Beyond Broken Vows. If you’re in that place of uncertainty today, wondering if stepping out is worth it? We want you to know that the hard work of recovery is definitely worth it and that God has a purpose for your pain. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” The Healing Apology – Episodes #10 & #80 (request your copy at support@beyondbrokenvows.com) Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 55. Our Podcast is One Year Old!!! Marriages Redeemed, Hearts Renewed Episode 72. Praising God While in the Storm of Sexual Betrayal and Porn-Fueled Infidelity NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 26 May 2025 - 107 - 106 | From Furious to Curious: How the ‘Emotions Wheel’ Unlocks Deeper Conversations After Infidelity
Infidelity profoundly shakes the emotional foundation of a marriage, often leading to feelings of confusion, mistrust, and pain. In the midst of all this chaos, it's common for couples to feel unsure of how to find their way forward. In this episode, we’re excited to explore how the Emotions Wheel, based on Plutchik’s theory and Willcox’s tool, can be a wonderful resource for couples facing the aftermath of betrayal. By using the Emotions Wheel, couples can start to identify and understand the complex storm of feelings they are experiencing and initiate meaningful conversations that pave the way for healing. Join us on this journey toward greater clarity and deeper connection! We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Emotions Wheel Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 13. His Triggers, Her Triggers – 4 Steps For Dealing With Triggers While Healing From Infidelity Episode 52. What Is His Response To Her BIG Emotions After Porn-Fueled Infidelity? NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 19 May 2025 - 106 - 105 | God, Where Were You When…? Questions in the Aftermath of Betrayal
When sexual betrayal shatters a marriage, the deepest wounds often come with agonizing questions—especially about God’s timing. Why did He allow the lies to continue for years? Where was He when the vows were being broken? In this raw conversation, we tackle the three most tormenting questions betrayed wives ask God, and the surprising hope Scripture offers both the betrayed and the betrayer. This isn’t an episode about quick fixes. It’s about finding footing when your spiritual foundation shakes. Whether you’re the wounded or the one who caused the wound, God’s redemption meets you right where you are—not to erase the past, but to rebuild you through it. If this episode met you in your struggle, your 5-star review helps other hurting hearts find this resource. With love, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 79. Redeeming What Was Lost, Stolen, or Given Away Through Adultery Episode 104. Sifting Through the Rubble After Infidelity Explodes Your Marriage NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 12 May 2025 - 105 - 104 | Sifting Through the Rubble After Infidelity Explodes Your Marriage
Being betrayed by hidden infidelity is like walking through a museum you helped build—room by room, the laughter, whispered promises, and the quiet certainty of a shared history. Every glance, every touch, every “I love you” hung like priceless art on walls you thought would stand forever. But somewhere deep in the walls, a gas leak has been growing—invisible, silent, deadly. You walked through those halls for years, never smelling the poison seeping into the foundation. You marveled at the exhibits of your life, never knowing they were rigged to blow. And then one day, suddenly everything explodes. No warning. Just fire and shrapnel tearing through everything you thought was sacred leaving in its wake a heap of broken beams and shattered glass. You’re on your knees in the wreckage, bleeding, choking on smoke and the sickening realization: None of it was safe. Now you dig. You start sifting through the ash and rubble, trying to salvage anything of value from your life you thought you had. A photo frame. A charred love letter. A shard of truth. And the worst part is, as you search, you don’t even know if what you’re holding was ever real—or just part of a beautifully constructed lie. Some of you are still standing in the smoke. Some are staring at blueprints, terrified to build again. Wherever you are—you’re not alone. Join us as we dive deeper into what it means to sift through the rubble of sexual betrayal. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 79. Redeeming What Was Lost, Stolen, or Given Away Through Adultery Episode 87. Can’t We Just Get Back to Normal? Shortest Path to True Intimacy After Sexual Betrayal NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 05 May 2025 - 104 - 103 | 9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal for Him and Her
The discovery of sexual betrayal in your marriage can feel like a punch in the gut, leaving you reeling and unsure of what to do next. As a betrayed wife, you are experiencing trauma. As a husband who has been found unfaithful, you are probably scared and trying to fix what you’ve broken. Neither one of you are sure what the future will look like. But if you are listening to our podcast, you’re taking a brave step in the right direction. Our e-book is here to help you navigate this emotional roller-coaster as you set out on your healing and recovery journey. Whether you're the one who was betrayed or the one who did the betraying, we've got you covered with practical tips and guidance to help you rebuild trust, foster open communication, and grow as individuals and as a couple. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 5. The Effects of Infidelity and How We Made the Decision to Stay Married After Sexual Betrayal Episode 59. Is It Over? Take These 5 Steps to Save Your Marriage After Adultery NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 28 Apr 2025 - 103 - 102 | When ‘I Love You’ Has Lost Its Meaning After Betrayal: Try This Instead
In this raw and emotional episode, we dive into the painful reality of how the phrase “I love you” can feel hollow and even triggering after sexual betrayal in marriage. When those same words were whispered to someone outside the covenant, they lose their sacred weight—leaving the betrayed spouse questioning their truth. We explore the agony of speaking (or hearing) “I love you” when trust has been shattered, and why those words may no longer feel safe. But there is hope. Healing is absolutely possible through God’s redemptive power and the hard, daily work of recovery. We discuss how couples can rebuild trust, not with empty words, but with actions that prove commitment over time. And we reveal a new approach we’re testing: replacing “I love you” with “I choose you”—a deliberate declaration of fidelity, even when feelings are messy. You’re not alone in this struggle. If “I love you” stings right now, it’s okay. Healing starts with honesty, humility, and a willingness to rebuild—one faithful choice at a time. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 64. 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs From Her Recovering Husband (Series) Episode 78. Forgiving the “Other Woman” - A Path to Peace After Sexual Betrayal Trauma NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 21 Apr 2025 - 102 - 101 | Building True Intimacy After Sexual Betrayal, with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith
Today we are so excited to dive into a conversation on the destructive impact of marital infidelity and the journey of healing and restoration with our special guests Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith. Matthew and Joanna will share their deeply personal experience with sexual betrayal in their marriage and how they overcame this devastation to experience a marriage they never dreamed possible. Now, they're on mission to help others find that same path to healing. In their insightful book, Building True Intimacy: Creating a Connection that Stands the Test of Time, they introduce us to their unique concept of the 'Intimacy Pyramid.' This helpful framework walks couples through the process of rebuilding their relationships with a focus on honesty, safety, trust, vulnerability, and intimacy. They’ll also shed light on the often-misunderstood topic of boundaries, offering a fresh perspective on how to set personal and relational boundaries in a way that brings life and helps us align our actions with our core values. Make sure to grab a pen and paper, because you won’t want to miss all the amazing nuggets of wisdom Matthew and Joanna will share with us! Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe CONNECT WITH MATTHEW AND JOANNA RAABSMITH: Website: raabsmithteam.comFreebie link: raabsmithteam.com/freeContact email: connect@raabsmithteam.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theraabsmithteam/ RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 82. Broken Trust After Infidelity? 3 Ways to Reach Her Heart Episode 87. Can’t We Just Get Back to Normal? Shortest Path to True Intimacy After Sexual Betrayal NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 14 Apr 2025 - 101 - 100 | Getting Real Help for Your Marriage: 10 Obstacles to Counseling and Coaching
In our 100th episode of the Beyond Broken Vows podcast, we’re throwing a little celebration for the incredible journey of our podcast and the amazing work that God has done through it. Join us as we share our personal experiences navigating the tricky waters of pornography and infidelity in our marriage. We’ll dive into the real challenges couples often face when reaching out for help. Together, we’ll explore ten common hurdles that can get in the way of relationship coaching and counseling – think shame, financial constraints, time limitations… We really believe it’s essential to seek support and push past these barriers, because that’s where healing and true intimacy can begin. Plus, we’ll clarify how coaching differs from counseling, and we’ll inspire you to invest in your emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being. Let’s take this journey together! Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 01. ”Why Are We Talking About Betrayal?” A Q&A with the Betrayed and the Betrayer Episode 02. Her Story: My Husband Betrayed Me Episode 03. His Story: I Betrayed My Wife and My Moral Values NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 07 Apr 2025 - 100 - 99 | When the Past Invades: 4 Steps to Victory Over Euphoric Recall
On today’s episode, we delve into the topic of euphoric recall, a painful yet critical aspect of sexual addiction recovery. Emily shares her perspective as a betrayed wife, highlighting the emotional turmoil that accompanies these intrusive memories. Meanwhile, Johnny explains his own experiences with euphoric recall and outlines a robust four-step battle plan to confront and dissolve these recollections. It’s not a pleasant part of the journey to healing, but one necessary to face head-on with your spouse and a community of support. We hope it blesses you! Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 97. "The Bubble" - What Makes Sex Addiction So Cunning, Baffling, and Powerful? Episode 98. Navigating Porn Withdrawal and the Path of Least Resistance NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 31 Mar 2025 - 99 - 98 | Navigating Porn Withdrawal and the Path of Least Resistance
Today we’re tackling an incredibly important topic: porn withdrawal and its impact on those bravely striving to break free from porn addiction. We chat about both the mental and physical symptoms that can pop up during this journey, along with the challenges people often face when trying to leave behind the familiar paths of addiction. We’ll share some practical steps to help you overcome these hurdles with confidence. We’ll also shine a light on the role of the amygdala in addiction, reminding us of the importance of seeking help and connecting with others instead of facing this journey alone. Finding your personal ‘why’ for recovery is key, and we’re here to support you every step of the way! Let’s dive in together and make this journey a little easier and a lot more hopeful! Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) Sex Addict Self-Assessment Questionnaire Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes, Ph.d (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 49. Sobriety vs. Recovery After Porn-Fueled Infidelity Episode 56. Identifying Sex Addiction: Take the First Step Today NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 24 Mar 2025 - 98 - 97 | "The Bubble" - What Makes Sex Addiction So Cunning, Baffling, and Powerful?
What is addiction? How does it work? Is it just about deciding to stop destructive behaviors? Addiction can be a mystery for many couples. Husbands may wonder if they are addicts after betraying their spouse. Wives often struggle to understand how their partner could engage in such hurtful actions for so long. When our marriage faced sexual betrayal six years ago, we were just as confused about sexual addiction as many of you. Since then, we've learned a lot and want to share key insights about addiction. We will explore the complexities of sex addiction. We'll discuss how addiction affects not only the addict but also their loved ones, especially spouses. We’ll cover the addiction cycle and its pain, using the concept of 'The Bubble' to explain the addict's inner world. This episode is a chance to learn and and also foster conversations that lead to deeper intimacy. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) Out of the Shadows, by Patrick Carnes (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 17. Is My Spouse A Porn Addict? 13 Clues To Help Expose Compulsive Sexual Behavior Episode 26. Recovery Step 1: Hooked on Porn? Admitting Helplessness Over Pornography’s Pull NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 17 Mar 2025 - 97 - 96 | The Message in the Affair: Self-Discovery After His Infidelity, with April Truitt
When it comes to confronting the aftermath of sexual betrayal, each of us will set out on a unique journey to healing and restoration. This was certainly true of our guest April Truitt. April shares the deeply personal and transformative story of her marriage's journey through infidelity. After discovering her husband's affair, April recounts the emotional devastation and the path to recovery that followed. She discusses the underlying issues in their marriage, their struggles with insecurity, and how her husband's affair led to a profound period of self-examination and spiritual growth. With time and guidance from their church and counselor, this precious couple was able to confront their emotional intimacy issues, work through forgiveness, and rebuild their marriage stronger than before. April also highlights her own battles with shame, negative self-talk, and the transformative power of relying on God's grace. Now, as an author and speaker, she aims to help others facing similar struggles, offering her book, 'A Wife's Recovery from an Affair: The Story of a Faithful God,' and a free journaling workbook on her website. Join us today as we hear from April about what God was teaching her through her personal recovery journey. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe CONNECT WITH APRIL: www.apriltruitt.com www.awifesrecoveryfromanaffair.commailto:apriltruittspeaker@gmail.comFB - April Truitt Speaker/AuthorFreebie! An Affair Recovery Journal Prompt/Devotional Downloadwww.awifesrecoveryfromanaffair.com/free-affair-recovery-workbook RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 04. Sharing Our Story: From Infidelity and Addiction to Reconciliation and Recovery Episode 58. Purpose from Pain. Did Sexual Betrayal Destroy God’s Plan for Your Marriage? NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 10 Mar 2025 - 96 - 95 | Weddings and Pirates and Triggers. Oh, my!
After sexual betrayal is discovered in a marriage and the couple decides to embark on the journey to recovery, there are many opportunities for social events to become emotionally challenging, causing what many call triggers. Today we recount a fun, awkward, semi-harrowing story of our weekend adventure at a pirate-themed wedding; fraught with danger, and also some victories. Listen in to hear which tools in our relational toolbox were the keys to turning a difficult social situation into a bonding experience. Hint, it may have something to do with the importance of preparation and vigilance. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 13. His Triggers, Her Triggers – 4 Steps For Dealing With Triggers While Healing From Infidelity Episode 77. 4 Practical Steps for Vigilance in Recovery from Porn-Fueled Infidelity NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 03 Mar 2025 - 95 - 94 | From “Oh, Hell No!” to "The Golden Ticket" - 4 Phases of Sexuality in Recovery from Adultery
You may be wondering if sex will ever be fulfilling and satisfying for you or your spouse now that the reality of sexual betrayal has invaded your marriage. If you are at the very beginning of the discovery and disclosure of infidelity through pornography or other sexual expressions outside of your marriage, you might be wondering if you’ll ever have sex again, or if you’ll even want to have sex with your spouse again. It’s a very tender topic and we know that every couple will have a different path to take on their road to recovery in the area of sexual intimacy. Today, we are going to let you peek into our journey back to being sexual again with its ups and downs, ebbs and flows, and give you hope for what God can do with those willing to take that journey with him. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 23. 7 Steps to True Intimacy After Sexual Betrayal Sexual Intimacy Series: Episode 45. Intimacy with a Sex-Addict in Marriage (1 of 3) Episode 46. Sexuality as a Sex-Addict in Marriage (2 of 3) Episode 47. Sexual Intimacy with a Recovering Sex Addict in Marriage (3 of 3) NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 24 Feb 2025 - 94 - 93 | Creating Healthy Connections While Healing from Betrayal Trauma and Sex-Addiction
Connection... When you think about connecting with others, what comes to mind? What does it truly mean to be connected, and what are healthy connections? And speaking of healthy connections, it makes you wonder—are there unhealthy connections? What do your connections look like in your life? Join us today as we dive into these intriguing questions and explore the meaning of connections together! We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 57. Alone No More: How Isolation Fuels Sex-Addiction and How to Defeat It Episode 53. 4 Ways To Help a Friend Experiencing Sexual Betrayal NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 17 Feb 2025 - 93 - 92 | Dying to Self: Transformational Moments in Recovery from Sexual Betrayal
Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you realized that making a significant personal sacrifice was the key to resolving a difficult situation? And that this decision would alter your life as you know it? Often, these moments involve putting the needs of someone else first. It’s those we love most with whom we often decide to "die to self." We’d love for you to join us today as Johnny shares four pivotal moments from his recovery journey where he chose to put Emily ahead of himself in their marriage. We can’t wait for you to hear his inspiring story! We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 51. Full Therapeutic Disclosure: 3 Steps to Healing and Freedom After Sexual Betrayal Episode 60. The High Cost of Freedom in a Sexually Betrayed Marriage NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 10 Feb 2025 - 92 - 91 | Overwhelmed While Recovering From Betrayal Trauma or Porn-Fueled Infidelity?
Okay, picture this scene: you are on vacation at the beach, having a great time soaking in the sun and playing in the ocean. You're making your way further and further out into deeper water. The waves are getting steadily higher but it’s still manageable as your feet are connected to the sandy ocean floor. Suddenly, seemingly out of nowhere, a very large and powerful wave comes crashing over your head. You are overwhelmed - taken off your feet, tossed about, and feeling like you might drown. Similar scenes play out from time to time in our recovery journeys from sexual betrayal and addiction. This is certainly true for us. Join us as we share about the “wave” that overwhelmed us this week. Our desire as we share our story is that you will know that you are not alone and there is hope. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 12. His Adultery Shattered My Reality. How Do I Know What’s Real? Episode 86. Recovering From Porn-Fueled Infidelity: Obstacles We Encountered This Year NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 03 Feb 2025 - 91 - 90 | Discovering the Man Within: Sathiya Sam on Overcoming Porn Addiction
Today we’ll be sharing a fantastic interview with Sathiya Sam, host of the Man Within podcast and the founder of Deep Clean. Sathiya opens up about his personal journey, including how he overcame a 15-year struggle with porn addiction, and the faith and guidance that played a key role in his recovery. He dives into some eye-opening differences between just being sober and truly experiencing freedom from addiction, all while highlighting the importance of addressing root issues. Plus, Sathiya shares how he has integrated healthy sexuality into his marriage and how he safeguards that bond through openness and accountability. The conversation is packed with practical tips on building resilience and achieving lasting freedom from porn addiction. We can't wait for you to tune in! We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe CONNECT WITH SATHIYA SAM: Website: https://www.sathiyasam.com/ The Last Relapse book: https://www.sathiyasam.com/books Man Within Podcast: https://www.sathiyasam.com/podcast Instagram: www.instagram.com/sathiyamesam RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 16. It’s Just Porn, What’s The Big Deal? And 4 Other Lies We Tell Ourselves To Justify Viewing Pornography Episode 26. Recovery Step 1: Hooked on Porn? Admitting Helplessness Over Pornography’s Pull NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 27 Jan 2025 - 90 - 89 | Considering Divorce After Sexual Betrayal? 3 Good Reasons to Stay Married
After infidelity in marriage is discovered, many questions arise and decisions need to be made. Questions like: Is this real? How could this happen to me? And one of the more frequently asked questions, What do I do now? Last week, in episode #88, we told the story of our journey toward "making a decision and burning the ships". Today, we follow up on our conversation from last week by asking the question, "Why stay married?" We will unpack 3 good reasons to stay married after broken covenant and give you some hope through the scriptures. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 05. The Effects of Infidelity and How We Made the Decision to Stay Married After Sexual Betrayal Episode 24. Would You Marry Your Betraying Spouse Again? Renewing Vows After Porn-Fueled Infidelity. This Time...Mean It Episode 88. Make a Decision and Burn the Ships NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 20 Jan 2025 - 89 - 88 | Burn the Ships: Decisions on Marriage & Sex
Often in life, we come to a point where we need to make an important decision. A decision that could alter the trajectory of the rest of our lives. Yes, that kind of decision. Have you had to make such decisions?? When it comes to recovering from sexual betrayal in marriage, these kinds of decisions can come up very soon after the discovery of adultery and then later on as rebuilding your marriage is underway. You may commit to moving forward, leaving the safety of what is known, and move into unchartered territory - with no plans to turn back. The time has come to "burn the ships". Join us for this candid discussion, centered on experiences from our own recovery journey, highlighting the ships we burned to move forward in search of true intimacy. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 05. The Effects of Infidelity and How We Made the Decision to Stay Married After Sexual Betrayal Episode 24. Would You Marry Your Betraying Spouse Again? Renewing Vows After Porn-Fueled Infidelity. This Time...Mean It Episode 87. Can’t We Just Get Back to Normal? The Shortest Path to True Intimacy After Sexual Betrayal NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 13 Jan 2025 - 88 - 87 | Can’t We Just Get Back to Normal? Shortest Path to True Intimacy After Sexual Betrayal
Have you gotten to the point in your recovery journey from marital infidelity where you may be feeling the fatigue of endless questions, lack of trust, and having to talk about the pain every day and you’re asking yourself, "Can't we just get back to normal"? What is normal? What if "normal" got you to where you are today? Would you really want to go back? Join us today as we outline the shortest path through minefield of betrayal and addiction recovery to the seemingly illusive "Promised Land". We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 13. His Triggers, Her Triggers – 4 Steps For Dealing With Triggers While Healing From Infidelity Episode 50. Are You Thriving or Just Surviving in Marriage After Sexual Betrayal NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 06 Jan 2025 - 87 - 86 | Recovering From Porn-Fueled Infidelity: Obstacles We Encountered This Year
As we approach the end of 2024, we find ourselves reflecting on the past year of recovery. Was this last year anything that we hoped or imagined it would be? What went well? What missed the mark of our expectations? What could we have done differently? These are all good questions to ask ourselves in light of the upcoming New Year. Our recovery journey from porn-fueled infidelity and betrayal trauma to true intimacy is no different. We must ask ourselves these types of questions if we are to stay on the path to regain what was lost, stolen, or given away. So, grab your favorite holiday beverage and listen in as we reflect on this past year and share some harrowing obstacles we encountered and insights on what we learned along the way. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 62. Social Media Hack Triggers Trauma From Porn-Fueled Infidelity Episode 77. 4 Practical Steps for Vigilance in Recovery from Porn-Fueled Infidelity NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 30 Dec 2024 - 86 - 85 | A Christmas Message of Hope for Couples After Infidelity
Are you looking for hope in what may seem to be a hopeless situation right now? Merriam-Webster defines hope as "to expect with confidence". During this Christmas season many of us are looking for hope. Hope that things will change for the better or maybe just hope that the pain of betrayal and the confusion of addiction will simply “go away”. Friends, let me assure you that there is true hope to be found in the reality of the arrival of Jesus into our world and our lives. When we remember to set our focus on Immanuel, “God with us” it is easier to see that you are not alone and there is hope. Join us today as we impart our message of hope to you as you move through the devastation of porn-fueled infidelity. Merry Christmas! Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 30. Has Adultery Grinched Your Christmas? 2 Ways to Approach Holiday Season Triggers After Sexual Betrayal Episode 33. The Greatest Gift at Christmas: A 12-Stop Journey To God’s Plan for Redemption NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 23 Dec 2024 - 85 - 84 | Bah Humbug No More: Christmas (Then and Now)
Are you looking forward to celebrating Christmas this year? Or maybe for you, Christmastime has a dark shadow over it because of the discovery of sexual betrayal in your marriage and you’re wondering if it is ever going to get better. We know how that feels! Several years ago, we faced the shocking reality of infidelity in our marriage, and it turned our Christmas into a painful blur. Before that experience, each of us had such different perspectives on holiday joy. Let’s just say one of us was a real Humbug. But after going through the healing journey together, we’ve found common ground in how we celebrate Christmas, and it has truly become more meaningful than ever. So, why not cozy up with a warm cup of hot cocoa and join us as we share some heartfelt stories of Christmases past and a sprinkle of hope for the present? You're not alone in this journey! We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 30. Has Adultery Grinched Your Christmas? 2 Ways to Approach Holiday Season Triggers After Sexual Betrayal Episode 33. The Greatest Gift at Christmas: A 12-Stop Journey To God’s Plan for Redemption NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 16 Dec 2024 - 84 - 83 | Is Your Soul at Risk From Porn-Addiction? Answering Tough Questions with Heather O'Brien
On today's show, we share our transformative journey from the deep struggles of pornography addiction and infidelity to healing and restoration. If you remember back on episode #75, we had a guest on our show who gave us some incredible insights on how to Heal with God, from heavy things like sexual betrayal, shame and unforgiveness. Heather O’Brien is the host of the podcast Heal with God, and we were so blessed to have her on our show a couple months ago. We both gleaned some nuggets of truth that we have since implemented in our own healing journey, so we encourage you to go back and listen to that episode if you haven’t heard it yet. We’ve also put more ways to connect with Heather and her resources below in our show notes. Heather was kind enough to ask us to be on her show and we are sharing that interview with you now, so settle in for some vulnerable answers to some difficult questions. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe CONNECT with Heather O’Brien: Heal with God podcast Heather’s Website Heather’s Free Mental Makeover Challenge RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 63. Got Porn Brain? What It Is and How It Affects You and Your Marriage Episode 75. Heal With God From Sexual Betrayal, Shame, and Unforgiveness: feat. Heather O'Brien NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 09 Dec 2024 - 83 - 82 | Broken Trust After Infidelity? 3 Ways to Reach Her Heart
Ladies, do you and your husband seem to be in a never-ending cycle of communication misfires? You ask him hard questions, he gives you answers, but you still aren’t connecting and moving forward. Are you frustrated and confused by his responses, or lack thereof, leaving you with no confidence that he is telling the truth or that he sees your pain? Today we address the challenges of rebuilding trust and the emotional journey for both spouses. We discuss common questions such as, 'Will I ever trust my husband again?' and 'How long will this take?' We will share our own experience with building trust and the obstacles to trust we encountered. So how is trust rebuilt after trust is broken through porn-fueled infidelity? Here’s a hint…husbands, you hold the key to her heart. Let’s dive in! We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 22. How Long Will This Hurt? Experiencing The 5 Stages of Grief Through the Lens of Sexual Betrayal Episode 37. Recovery Step 8: My Addiction To Porn Hurt Others. 4 Questions to Ask When Making it Right NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 02 Dec 2024 - 82 - 81 | Giving Thanks In The Aftermath of Porn-Fueled Infidelity
Ah, the holiday season! A time filled with twinkling lights, joyful gatherings, and, let's face it, a few emotional landmines for those who have been through the wringer with sexual betrayal. If the holiday cheer takes a nosedive because you discovered your partner’s unfaithfulness—whether it was last month, a year ago, or even two decades back—we totally get it. It's completely natural for memories, triggers, and difficult emotions to surface and cast a shadow over the festivities. But fear not! We’ve learned one of the most powerful antidotes to this holiday struggle. Filling your heart with thankfulness and gratitude can work wonders to transform those tough feelings into a brighter holiday season. So, let’s exchange a few of those heavy thoughts for a dash of joy and give this season a few glimmers of hope and peace. Don your stretchy pants, grab yourself another slice of pumpkin pie, and settle in for a cornucopia of gratitude and thankfulness. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 28. Giving Thanks In Your Broken Marriage Through Gratitude Episode 78. Praising God While in the Storm of Sexual Betrayal and Porn-Fueled Infidelity NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 25 Nov 2024 - 81 - 80 | 7 Caveats for an Effective Healing Apology
Making and apology to our betrayed spouse is one of the more important facets of our recovery process. However, have you had the experience when making an apology to your spouse, it seemed to cause more damage than give relief? So, what is the secret to a good apology and how can it be done with respect and honesty that can lead to true intimacy. Since publishing episode #10, When “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough: 8 Steps to a Healing Apology, we have had many requests for the Healing Apology worksheet, mostly from husbands who realized that they needed to apologize to their spouse for the ways they hurt them through their infidelity. We have gotten some great feedback from those who have used this valuable tool. Many found it very helpful, but others, not so much. Through this feedback we’re going to expand on the Healing Apology resource and give some caveats to help folks have a more successful experience. You will not want to miss our conversation today as we talk through 7 caveats for an effective healing apology. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 10. When “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough: 8 Steps to a Healing Apology Episode 11. Freedom and Healing: 4 Keys to Unlocking Forgiveness After Sexual Betrayal NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 18 Nov 2024 - 80 - 79 | Redeeming What Was Lost, Stolen, or Given Away Through Adultery
Have you ever lost something or had something taken away from you and you deeply felt the loss? Or perhaps you gave something precious away that you now regret or grieve and want to get it back. Would you be willing to travel a potentially painful path to have your loss restored? The path of redemption can be challenging at best and painful at its worst. But what if the road less traveled brought victory and healing from your past and freedom for your future? You will not want to miss our conversation today as we talk about redeeming what was lost, stolen, or given away through marital infidelity. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 13. His Triggers, Her Triggers – 4 Steps For Dealing With Triggers While Healing From Infidelity Episode 54. Betrayed Wives Experience Profound Loss, But Do Cheating Husbands? NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 11 Nov 2024 - 79 - 78 | Forgiving the “Other Woman” - A Path to Peace After Sexual Betrayal Trauma
On this show, we have often talked about forgiveness - the need for extending forgiveness and how to walk out forgiveness. It has been in the context of forgiving your spouse for sexual betrayal, but what about the other woman? Or women? There are many different scenarios and every marriage has a unique story of brokenness. But there is a common thread of knowing there are those outside of your marriage who contributed to and/or participated in your spouse’s sexual sin. How do you forgive these people who you may not even know? In this episode, we discuss the difficult topic of forgiving the “other women” involved in a marriage infidelity. Emily shares her personal journey of forgiveness, detailing the challenges and steps she took to forgive not only Johnny, who had a long history of pornography and extramarital affairs, but also the women involved. She describes how she navigated her emotions and found empathy and compassion for those she once resented. Join us for this frank discussion on forgiveness and then share it with someone you know needs to hear it. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 11. Freedom and Healing: 4 Keys to Unlocking Forgiveness After Sexual Betrayal Episode 61. Is Joy Possible After Sexual Betrayal? NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 04 Nov 2024 - 78 - 77 | 4 Practical Steps for Vigilance in Recovery from Porn-Fueled Infidelity
Have you ever found yourself in a situation that totally surprised you, leaving you unsure of how to react? It happens to all of us! When we’re on the journey to recovering from sex addiction, those unexpected moments can be particularly challenging. It’s important to be aware and not let our guard down, as staying vigilant plays a crucial role in our recovery. We’d love for you to join us today as we chat about the importance of staying watchful throughout our recovery process and how it can positively impact our relationships with our wives. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com. edwG0FzOJibMILN2cjmy
Mon, 28 Oct 2024 - 77 - 76 | What Do You Mean You Don't Regret Your Sexual Betrayal??
When you hear the statement, "I do not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it". What thoughts and/or emotions surface immediately? Our experience has shown us that the initial reaction from a betrayed spouse will likely differ from that of the one who has broken faith. The former will react in a posture of, "You better regret your past!". And the latter will feel that they are “supposed to” regret their past actions. Join us today as we navigate our way through this potentially triggering statement on The Beyond Broken Vows Podcast. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) Twelve Promises - from AA & SAA 1. If we are painstaking about this phase of our development, we will be amazed before we are half way through. 2. We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness. 3. We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it. 4. We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace. 5. No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will see how our experience can benefit others. 6. That feeling of uselessness and self-pity will disappear. 7. We will lose interest in selfish things and gain interest in our fellows. 8. Self-seeking will slip away. 9. Our whole attitude and outlook upon life will change. 10. Fear of people and of economic insecurity will leave us. 11. We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us. 12. We will suddenly realize that God is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves Are these extravagant promises? We think not. They are being fulfilled among us - sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly. They will always materialize if we work for them. RELATED EPISODES: Episode 25 | Persistent Sexual Integrity Issues in Marriage. Do Recovery Programs Really Work? Episode 11. Freedom and Healing: 4 Keys to Unlocking Forgiveness After Sexual Betrayal NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 21 Oct 2024 - 76 - 75 | Heal With God From Sexual Betrayal, Shame, and Unforgiveness: feat. Heather O'Brien
Have you ever wondered how to hear God speaking to you? When we have deep wounds such as betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues, we can feel desperate to hear the voice of God. We want him to tell us what to do to get relief from the ever-present pain and anxiety we are experiencing to find freedom and healing. Today we are so excited to share our interview with Heather O’Brien host of the top 5% globally ranked podcast, "Heal with God”. She gave us some incredible insights into what true forgiveness means and how to release the shame of sexual betrayal. Heather emphasizes the importance of grieving with God and outlines her healing courses and resources, offering a step-by-step framework called the Heal with God Trauma Painkiller Roadmap. Join us today as Heather walks us through the healing process by listening to God’s voice. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe Connect with Heather O’Brien: Heal with God podcast Heather’s Website Heather’s Free Mental Makeover Challenge RESOURCES: Request the Healing Apology worksheet at support@beyondbrokenvows.com Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 11. Freedom and Healing: 4 Keys to Unlocking Forgiveness After Sexual Betrayal Episode 72. Praising God While in the Storm of Sexual Betrayal and Porn-Fueled Infidelity Episode 74. Guilt and Shame in the Aftermath of Sexual Betrayal NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 14 Oct 2024 - 75 - 74 | Guilt and Shame in the Aftermath of Sexual Betrayal
If you are listening to our podcast on a regular basis, and we hope you are, you are likely working hard to stay married after porn-fueled infidelity. One challenging area that needs to be addressed in the recovery process is shame and guilt. Many times, shame and guilt are used interchangeably as though they are the same. Do you know there’s a difference? What are the differences? Join us today for our conversation on the difference between guilt and shame and how one of these is actually helpful for us as we move forward in our healing process. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Request the Healing Apology worksheet at support@beyondbrokenvows.com Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 10. When “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough: 8 Steps to a Healing Apology Episode 19. Feeling Like I’m Not Enough: How Comparison Can Distort Self-Identity NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 07 Oct 2024 - 74 - 73 | Unashamed Unafraid of My Sexual Betrayal & Recovery Story, ft. Steve Shields
We know our story of sexual betrayal and recovery is not the only one out there, so we are excited to share with you a compelling conversation we had with Steve Shields from the Unashamed Unafraid podcast. He tells his unique and very personal story of how a Christian man trapped in porn addiction was able to come to terms with his powerlessness, and after several recovery setbacks, was finally able to get experience freedom from shame and addiction and help others get free as well. It is so good to know that we are not alone on this journey of brokenness to wholeness. No matter who you are or where you’ve been, there is hope for a better future on the other side of porn-fueled infidelity and betrayal trauma. Listen in to hear some nuggets of truth and wisdom as we hear Steve tell his amazing redemption story! We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe Connect with Steve Shields: Unafraid Unashamed podcast unashamedunafraid.com instagram- @unashamedunafraid youtube- @unashamedunafraidpod RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 20. From Porn Queen To Child of God Now On Mission To Help Others Find Freedom with Elizabeth Spraggins Episode 21. Breaking Free: How To Escape the Grip of Porn Addiction with Emmanuel and Bekah Guarino NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 30 Sep 2024 - 73 - 72 | Praising God While in the Storm of Sexual Betrayal and Porn-Fueled Infidelity
We had planned to update and replay episodes all this month to help us take things a little slower for our anniversary. Well, we got of our 2 most popular shows out, but this week we decided to share some new content with you. We want to give some encouragement and a little guidance to those of you who are struggling in the storm of your broken marriage. Whether you have been betrayed or you have broken trust, this episode will show you how to find peace and comfort through the praise and celebration of our amazing Redeemer and Lord, Jesus Christ. We pray this blesses you! Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 28. Giving Thanks In Your Broken Marriage Through Gratitude Episode 58. Purpose from Pain. Did Sexual Betrayal Destroy God’s Plan for Your Marriage? Episode 61. Is Joy Possible After Sexual Betrayal? NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 23 Sep 2024 - 72 - 71 | From Shame to Freedom: Revisiting "His Story"
It's been almost a year and a half since we first told our stories of sexual addiction and betrayal on our podcast. A lot has happened since then! We are so very grateful for the recovery, healing, and growth that both of us have experienced since D-Day in 2018. It has been due to God's help, tons of hard work on our part, and a great support community. To commemorate our 37th wedding anniversary, we are taking a little slower pace for the month of September. So, on today's episode, we are revisiting Johnny's story of how a young boy with hopes and dreams for a wonderful future ends up confessing to his wife of 31 years that he is a sex addict and an adulterer. His painful story is tragic, but also beautiful because he knows the One who makes a way when there is no way. Jesus can make something beautiful out of the ashes of our lives if we let him. And we know it's true because he's done it for us. He can do it for you too! We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) Sex Addict Self-Assessment Questionnaire RELATED EPISODES: Episode 01. ”Why Are We Talking About Betrayal?” A Q&A with the Betrayed and the Betrayer Episode 02. Her Story: My Husband Betrayed Me Episode 04. Sharing Our Story: From Infidelity and Addiction to Reconciliation and Recovery NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 16 Sep 2024 - 71 - 70 | Straight Talk: A Candid Revisit of a Betrayed Wife's Journey
September is our anniversary month and we're celebrating by taking a break from creating new episodes this month, but rather updating and replaying a few of our most popular episodes. Today we are revisiting Episode #2 Her Story: My Husband Betrayed Me, where Emily bares her soul to tell the story of Johnny's marital infidelity* fueled by pornography use. And although it was Not Her Fault in any way, she is not perfect and you will hear some of the ways she fell short in her life too. But God is bigger than any failure, heartbreak or trauma. He is the redeemer of the lost and the comforter of the broken-hearted. (*name changed for privacy) Grab a spiced latte or some other yummy drink and settle in for a deep and personal story of a betrayed wife and the hope she found in Jesus. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (*paid affiliate links may be included) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 01. ”Why Are We Talking About Betrayal?” A Q&A with the Betrayed and the Betrayer Episode 03. His Story: I Betrayed My Wife and My Moral Values Episode 04. Sharing Our Story: From Infidelity and Addiction to Reconciliation and Recovery NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 09 Sep 2024 - 70 - 69 | 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs...(Series) #5 Spiritual Leadership
Wives, do you have a desire for your husband to lead you and your family spiritually? Of course! Husbands, are you at a loss for what that looks like and how you can show up for your wife in this area? Yeah, probably. Unfortunately, in many Christian marriages, this is often a reality. A wife will take up the responsibility of being the spiritual head of the home because her husband isn’t stepping into that role. When betrayal and addiction are revealed, reasons for his passivity become clear. After discovery, it may be necessary for a wife to temporarily take the lead until her husband achieves some recovery and healing, giving him the capacity and desire to lead his wife spiritually. Today we are discussing 4 ways a husband can take up his God-given role to lead his wife in authentic spiritual leadership. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) Ebook - 9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal, for couples who have decided to stay married. Available exclusively on our Patreon page, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner RELATED EPISODES: Episode 64. 5 Things A Betrayed Wife Needs From Her Recovering Husband (Series) Episode 65. 5 Things A Betrayed Wife Needs…(Series) #1 See Her Pain Episode 66. 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs...(Series) #2 Prioritize Her Episode 67. 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs...(Series) #3 Keep Your Promises Episode 68. 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs...(Series) #4 Emotional Maturity NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 02 Sep 2024 - 69 - 68 | 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs...(Series) #4 Emotional Maturity
Wives, are you trying to communicate your feelings to your husband and somehow it always ends up being about him. Are just not feeling seen, heard and validated? Men, is your wife explaining to you how she feels or coming at you with big emotions and you find yourself at a loss of how to respond? This can happen in any marriage, but when sexual betrayal is a reality, the pain and frustration seem magnified to levels that threaten to break the marriage. But, when she finds her voice and he respond with emotional maturity, the healing can begin. Today we are going to talk through examples of how a betrayed wife can clearly communicate what she needs and how a recovering husband can respond with emotional maturity. Grab a cool drink and get ready as we unpack 4 areas where emotional maturity can be cultivated. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (This post may contain affiliate links to products. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 64. 5 Things A Betrayed Wife Needs From Her Recovering Husband (Series) Episode 65. 5 Things A Betrayed Wife Needs…(Series) #1 See Her Pain Episode 66. 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs...(Series) #2 Prioritize Her Episode 67. 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs...(Series) #3 Keep Your Promises NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 26 Aug 2024 - 68 - 67 | 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs...(Series) #3 Keep Your Promises
How much do you value keeping your word? And how does it make you feel when someone doesn't keep their word? For a betrayed wife, it becomes even more important that her recovering husband keep his word. This new display of reliability provides the safety and security that she desperately needs in a time of confusion and broken trust. When he makes the effort to follow through on his promises, he's slowly rebuilding a solid foundation of trustworthiness that she can depend on. Join us for this important discussion centered around the importance of keeping our word. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (This post may contain affiliate links to products. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 64. 5 Things A Wife Needs From Her Recovering Husband (Series) Episode 65. 5 Things A Betrayed Wife Needs...(Series) - #1 See Her Pain Episode 66. 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs...(Series) - #2 Prioritize Her NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 19 Aug 2024 - 67 - 66 | 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs...(Series) #2 Prioritize Her
We all have priorities, whether we make them intentionally or they exist by default. At times our priorities can be misguided and cause pain for ourselves and for others. We also understand that priorities are important and it’s necessary to have them in the right order. And for a betrayed wife, it’s imperative to know that she is a priority to her husband. Today as we continue in our series, we will cover a wife’s need to feel she is more important to her husband than anyone or anything else on the planet. We will be outlining 4 ways a recovering husband can make this a reality for his wife. So, grab a cool beverage, pop in your ear bud, and join us for this important discussion. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (This post may contain affiliate links to products. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 49. Sobriety vs. Recovery After Porn-Fueled Infidelity Episode 64. 5 Things A Betrayed Wife Needs From Her Recovering Husband (Series) Episode 65. 5 Things A Betrayed Wife Needs…(Series) - #1 See Her Pain NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 12 Aug 2024 - 66 - 65 | 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs...(Series) #1 See Her Pain
Following the revelation of sexual betrayal, a couple must decide whether to stay together or not. Choosing to stay married initiates a complex journey of recovery and healing, filled with challenges and triumphs. However, the journey may be prolonged due to the betrayer's lack of understanding the needs of the betrayed. Initially, the focus is on the betrayer's recovery and repairing the damage. The betrayed spouse often struggles to feel safe and discern truth. Today we will be speaking through the lens of a betraying husband and a betrayed wife because that is our story. We want to shed light on the needs a wife has after the devastation of learning her husband has been unfaithful. Needs she may not even realize she has and needs her husband is most likely completely clueless about. Listen in as we share with you what we have learned on our own journey of healing from sexual betrayal. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (This post may contain affiliate links to products. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 52. What Is His Response To Her BIG Emotions After Porn-Fueled Infidelity? Episode 54. Betrayed Wives Experience Profound Loss, But Do Cheating Husbands? Episode 64. 5 Things A Wife Needs From Her Recovering Husband (Series) NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 05 Aug 2024 - 65 - 64 | 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs From Her Recovering Husband (Series)
Has the reality of porn-fueled infidelity in your marriage come to light? Have you both decided to stay together and want to do your part to save your marriage? Husband, have you decided to go all in on making it right? Are willing to do whatever it takes to recover from the devastating consequences of your bad decisions, but moving forward in your relationship with your wife seems difficult? Wife, are you hurt and confused about how this could have possibly happened? Are you grieving the loss of the marriage you thought you had? Do desperately need to see changes in your husband, but can’t find the words to communicate what you need from him? We understand. At this raw and painful time, husbands likely don’t know what their wives need from them, and wives may not be able to articulate their needs in the aftermath of sexual betrayal. On today’s show we are going to introduce 5 areas where a willing husband can learn to meet his wife’s deepest needs and how a broken-hearted wife can find her voice. Listen in as we share with you what we have learned through our own journey of healing from sexual betrayal. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (This post may contain affiliate links to products. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 05. The Effects of Infidelity and How We Made the Decision to Stay Married After Sexual Betrayal Episode 52. Recovery Step 1: Hooked on Porn? Admitting Helplessness Over Pornography’s Pull Episode 54. Betrayed Wives Experience Profound Loss, But Do Cheating Husbands? NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 29 Jul 2024 - 64 - 63 | Got Porn Brain? What It Is and How It Affects You and Your Marriage
It wasn’t until I stopped using pornography altogether and the fog lifted that I learned just how much effect it had had on my brain. The further I got away from the porn and the more days of sobriety I achieved, I found that I was able to think more clearly and process the difficult truth of my sex-addiction. Understanding porn’s effect on my brain helped to explain so many of my actions, or lack thereof, before I was finally discovered and came out of the shadows. Here are just 4 shocking statistics about pornography use around the world: 28,258 users are watching pornography every second. $3,075.64 is spent on porn every second on the Internet. 88% of scenes in porn films contain acts of physical aggression, and 49% of scenes contain verbal aggression. Today on our show, we will talk about the reality of porn-brain and the effect continual use of pornography has on our cognitive abilities, reasoning, and relationships. So, buckle up, folks! We're pulling back the curtain on the damaging effects of watching porn - the things that many people might not know or just don't want to talk about. So, grab your favorite drink and let's get started! We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Your Brain On Porn (e-book) Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (This post may contain affiliate links to products. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 16. ”It’s Just Porn, What’s The Big Deal?” And 4 Other Lies We Tell Ourselves To Justify Viewing Pornography Episode 20. From Porn Queen To Child of God Now On Mission To Help Others Find Freedom with Elizabeth Spraggins Or Watch Episode 20 on YouTube! Episode 21. Breaking Free: How To Escape the Grip of Porn Addiction with Emmanuel and Bekah Guarino Episode 26. Recovery Step 1: Hooked on Porn? Admitting Helplessness Over Pornography’s Pull NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 22 Jul 2024 - 63 - 62 | Social Media Hack Triggers Trauma From Porn-Fueled Infidelity
How was your week? Did it go as planned? This week, a verse really hit home for us in a big way... We can make our plans, but the Lord determines our steps. Proverbs 16:9 Imagine this - just as we were about to hit the button to record today’s podcast episode, a sudden interruption caught us off guard. Johnny received a private message that sparked a whirlwind of emotions and confusion. It was from a woman Emily didn't know. Talk about getting triggered! It turned out to be a false alarm – phew! But, after the dust settled, we decided to share this story with you instead of our originally planned episode on porn-brain, which we will have for you next week. Life has a funny way of throwing us curveballs that can leave us feeling off balance and disheartened. But even amid chaos, there is always a path forward for those who trust in the Lord. So, get comfortable and settle in for a true-life story of an unexpected event that could have ended in disaster - but, God. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (This post may contain affiliate links to products. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 05. The Effects of Infidelity and How We Made the Decision to Stay Married After Sexual Betrayal Episode 10. When “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough: 8 Steps to a Healing Apology Episode 13. His Triggers, Her Triggers – 4 Steps For Dealing With Triggers While Healing From Infidelity NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 15 Jul 2024 - 62 - 61 | Is Joy Possible After Sexual Betrayal?
After discovering your spouse had betrayed you sexually, what was your initial reaction? We bet it wasn’t joy. We know that there are many volatile emotions that come on the heels of that shocking and devastating news - among them pain, anger, and confusion. As you try to make sense of the senseless in your new unwanted reality, you may find yourself desperately longing for relief from the ever-present despair that threatens to overwhelm you. On today’s show, we are going to explore joy. What is joy? Is it different than happiness? Why would you even consider joy after betrayal? Does this sound impossible? While it may seem counterintuitive, we believe that even in the midst of the most painful and destructive event of your life, joy is still possible. Intrigued? Well, pour yourself a cool, summertime beverage and settle in as we unpack this thought-provoking topic of how and why to choose joy after betrayal. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! Beyond Betrayal Breakthrough Coaching 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (This post may contain affiliate links to products. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 02. Her Story: My Husband Betrayed Me Episode 11. Freedom and Healing: 4 Keys to Unlocking Forgiveness After Sexual Betrayal Episode 12. His Adultery Shattered My Reality. How Do I Know What’s Real? NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 08 Jul 2024 - 61 - 60 | The High Cost of Freedom in a Sexually Betrayed Marriage
Many of us have heard the phrase “Freedom Isn’t Free” and if you have not heard it, you likely understand the idea behind it knowing that in order to gain freedom of any kind some form of sacrifice needs to be made. And sacrifices are not called sacrifices because they are easy. Are you feeling like you’re trapped in a never-ending cycle of anger, confusion, shame, and pain? Do you long for freedom from your current circumstance? In today’s show, we will discuss how freedom to live in a new and intimate marriage can come at a high cost. Are you willing to pay it? So, grab yourself a summertime drink, like a cool Mint Julep, and listen in for a compelling look at the importance of gaining freedom in your marriage and how to maintain it. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! Beyond Betrayal Breakthrough Coaching 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter to book a free Discovery Call in June. insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (This post may contain affiliate links to products. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 05. The Effects of Infidelity and How We Made the Decision to Stay Married After Sexual Betrayal Episode 11. Freedom and Healing: 4 Keys to Unlocking Forgiveness After Sexual Betrayal Episode 59. Is It Over? Take These 5 Steps to Save Your Marriage After Adultery NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 01 Jul 2024 - 60 - 59 | Is It Over? Take These 5 Steps to Save Your Marriage After Adultery
The day you never imagined you’d ever live to see has come and gone; D-Day. You have discovered sexual betrayal in your marriage. Whether you found out or your spouse confessed, you can’t believe that this has happened. You may be asking yourself, Is my marriage over? Is it worth saving? Is it possible to move forward? Today we are going to answer those questions from our own perspective. Spoiler alert, we did make the choice to stay married and we are so glad we did! Even though it has been the hardest and most painful journey we have ever embarked on, it has been worth it to experience the safety, trust and true intimacy created out of the ashes of a marriage destroyed by porn-fueled infidelity. We are going to outline 5 steps that will help you receive healing from your trauma and save your marriage. Please stay with us to the end of this episode for a special limited opportunity. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! Beyond Betrayal Breakthrough Coaching 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter to book a free Discovery Call in June. insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (This post may contain affiliate links to products. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 05. The Effects of Infidelity and How We Made the Decision to Stay Married After Sexual Betrayal Episode 11. Freedom and Healing: 4 Keys to Unlocking Forgiveness After Sexual Betrayal Episode 25. Persistent Sexual Integrity Issues in Marriage. Do Recovery Programs Really Work? NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 24 Jun 2024 - 59 - 58 | Purpose from Pain: Did Sexual Betrayal Destroy God’s Plan for Your Marriage?
Do you ever stop and wonder why? Why did this happen? Have you lamented, “Can anything good ever come of it?” When the discovery of sexual betrayal threatens to destroy your marriage, you may think you won’t survive it. Then, if you have made the choice to stay and do the hard work of recovery, you start to see God working in your life and marriage to bring hope and healing. A little further down the road on this journey, you might see how much God has blessed you and wonder why others in this situation can’t seem to recover. Today we will answer those questions and possibly give you a bigger vision of God’s greater purpose in our suffering. Grab a beverage and join us for a hopeful conversation. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! https://coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, https://beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! https://insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe (https://bit.ly/4iSVqiE) RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” https://drive.google.com/file/d/1n_1qVxNuLE0vOdSehaYmQEMvq2UNQPyF/view?usp=sharing Covenant Eyes (https://covenanteyes.sjv.io/bbv) Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (This post may contain affiliate links to products. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 05. The Effects of Infidelity and How We Made the Decision to Stay Married After Sexual Betrayal Episode 24. Would You Marry Your Betraying Spouse Again? Renewing Vows After Porn-Fueled Infidelity. This Time...Mean It Episode 42. Recovery Step 12: A Great Awakening - 7 Ways to Serve Others While Healing From Sex Addiction NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 17 Jun 2024 - 58 - 57 | Alone No More: How Isolation Fuels Sex-Addiction and How to Defeat It
What is isolation, and where does it truly begin? Imagine a lone animal in the wild, separated from its herd. We've all seen those heart-wrenching documentary scenes where isolation turns them into easy prey. Nature's example is a powerful reminder of a harsh reality: when we isolate ourselves from our community, we become vulnerable to the schemes and traps of our Enemy who is actively looking to devour us. (1 peter 5:8) In isolation, destructive and addictive behaviors often take root, dragging us deeper into darkness. But there's hope! How can we break free from the chains of isolation and reclaim our lives? Grab your favorite drink and join us for this compelling discussion about the perils of isolation and the practical steps to emerge from its oppressive grip. Together, we'll explore how to reconnect, rebuild, and thrive once again. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! Beyond Betrayal Breakthrough Coaching 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter to book free Discovery Call in June. insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Sex Addict Self-Assessment Questionnaire Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (This post may contain affiliate links to products. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 18. Feeling Like I’m Not Enough. What If Pornography Is Not My True Addiction? Episode 26. Recovery Step 1: Hooked on Porn? Admitting Helplessness Over Pornography’s Pull Episode 42. Recovery Step 12: A Great Awakening - 7 Ways to Serve Others While Healing From Sex Addiction NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Please leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 10 Jun 2024 - 57 - 56 | Identifying Sex Addiction: Take the First Step Today
As a recovering sex-addict, I now find comfort in knowing that my addiction was real and that there is hope through recovery that I will not have to live the rest of my life as a “dis-integrated” man, always trying to hide myself from others based on a lie that if they really knew what I was doing, they would reject me. But I didn’t always understand that I truly was a sex-addict. It wasn’t until the idea was expressed to me by someone else that I made the choice to face the reality that sex-addiction could be a present and active part of my life. Having accepted this as a possibility, I sought out help for myself and ultimately found recovery from sex-addiction through a 12-step program. In today’s show, we’re going to share some resources to help you discover for yourself if sex-addiction is the destructive force lurking in the darkness of your mind. If so, there is a way out! We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! Beyond Betrayal Breakthrough Coaching 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage strategies, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: Sex Addict Self-Assessment Questionnaire Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes, Ph.d Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (This post may contain affiliate links to products. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 16. "It’s Just Porn, What’s The Big Deal?” And 4 Other Lies We Tell Ourselves To Justify Viewing Pornography Episode 17. Is My Spouse A Porn Addict? 13 Clues To Help Expose Compulsive Sexual Behavior Episode 25. Persistent Sexual Integrity Issues in Marriage. Do Recovery Programs Really Work? Episode 26. Recovery Step 1: Hooked on Porn? Admitting Helplessness Over Pornography’s Pull NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 03 Jun 2024 - 56 - 55 | Our Podcast is One Year Old!!! Marriages Redeemed, Hearts Renewed
Have you ever felt like God was nudging you towards something challenging in life? Maybe a call to step out of your comfort zone and venture into the unknown. It can be intimidating, right? Would you be willing to take that leap of faith and trust that God has your best interests at heart, even when the path ahead seems uncertain? If you have taken that leap, have you experienced God's faithfulness along the way? Well, we certainly have, and today we want to share our journey with you. It's a story of moving from betrayal and brokenness to healing and hope that has God’s fingerprints all over it. The twists and turns have been surprising, and we are continually in awe at the Lord’s provision every step of the way. Our podcast is one year old today, and you are a huge reason for it. So, grab a refreshing drink and join us as we recount how we got here, where we are now, and the future ahead with God leading the way. Let’s celebrate together! We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! Beyond Betrayal Breakthrough Coaching 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: The Healing Apology – Episode #10 (request your copy at support@beyondbrokenvows.com) Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (This post may contain affiliate links to products. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 01. ”Why Are We Talking About Betrayal?” A Q&A with the Betrayed and the Betrayer Episode 04. Sharing Our Story: From Infidelity and Addiction to Reconciliation and Recovery Episode 10. When “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough: 8 Steps to a Healing Apology Episode 11. Freedom and Healing: 4 Keys to Unlocking Forgiveness After Sexual Betrayal Episode 50. Are You Thriving or Just Surviving in Marriage After Sexual Betrayal NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 27 May 2024 - 55 - 54 | Betrayed Wives Experience Profound Loss, But Do Cheating Husbands?
Does a cheating husband who has chosen the path of repentance and recovery experience any losses? The short answer is yes. But it may not be evident to a betrayed wife, especially when stacked up against her seemingly infinite losses. She may not see many tangible losses or consequences for his infidelity. Today, we are going to outline some perceived perks received by the husband stemming from extra-marital relationships and contrast them with losses his wife experiences due to his betrayal. We’ll also address a question from one of our Beyond Broken Vows Insiders as she wonders, “Are there truly any significant losses for the betrayer and if so, what are they?” You may find that you identify with some of these “perks” and/or losses from your own experience with sexual betrayal. So, get comfy and settle in for a deeply personal conversation about loss, but also the hope we have in Christ in the midst of pain and injustice. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! Beyond Betrayal Breakthrough Coaching 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: The Healing Apology (request your copy at support@beyondbrokenvows.com) Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (This post may contain affiliate links to products. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 09. I’m So Angry! How I Overcame Anger from Sexual Betrayal in 3 Simple But Not Easy Steps Episode 11. Freedom and Healing: 4 Keys to Unlocking Forgiveness After Sexual Betrayal Episode 22. How Long Will This Hurt? Experiencing The 5 Stages of Grief Through the Lens of Sexual Betrayal NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
Mon, 20 May 2024 - 54 - 53 | 4 Ways To Help a Friend Experiencing Sexual Betrayal
One of our listeners wrote in to ask a question about how to help her friend who is going through the pain of sexual betrayal. First, we just want to say how grateful we are for those of you who take time to write us and share what’s on your heart. We love to get questions that we can answer from our experience. Please keep them coming! Today we will discuss two different types of friends in this scenario and the best way for each of them to help a friend going through this difficult journey. So, grab a refreshing beverage and join us as we unpack what it looks like to be a good friend. We pray this blesses you, Johnny and Emily 💜Work with us! Beyond Betrayal Breakthrough Coaching 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe RESOURCES: The Healing Apology (request your copy at support@beyondbrokenvows.com) Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) (This post may contain affiliate links to products. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.) RELATED EPISODES: Episode 09. I’m So Angry! How I Overcame Anger from Sexual Betrayal in 3 Simple But Not Easy Steps Episode 11. Freedom and Healing: 4 Keys to Unlocking Forgiveness After Sexual Betrayal Episode 22. How Long Will This Hurt? Experiencing The 5 Stages of Grief Through the Lens of Sexual Betrayal NEXT STEPS: ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show! ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
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