Brown Girl Self-Care

This epside is for the eldest daughter who had to put her life and joy on hold to carry the weight of adult responsibilities on her shoulders.

Ok, so I stand corrected. The writings shared weren't about "sensuality" per se, but Erotic as Power. I still suggest you read it when you have time to linger this month. Here it is: The Uses of the Erotic by Audre Lorde

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I have a confession to make. A few days ago, my old survival brain started panicking about business metrics, and I frantically sat down to plan a massive, exhausting 90-day challenge. My plan was to force myself to show up on camera at 5:00 AM every single morning until the end of the year to feed the algorithm. That wasn't how I looked at it initially, but that's what it was.

Let's talk about the trap of the "unintentional scramble"—how fear tries to trick us into running back to the hustle when we make space to be still/slow down/do less, and why the most radical thing a Black woman in her midlife can do right now is refuse to be a mule for the system. Put your phone on do-not-disturb, grab your tea, and let's talk about how we are going to unlabor and choose peace for the rest of this year.

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Putting on my auntie/much older sister hat on for this episode. Got a listener question recently from a young mother. She is working, about to go to school, and raising a young daugher on her own. On top of that the father of her child is "not the nicest." In her question she asks if things will ever get easier.

You may be solo parenting, balancing an impossible load, or in the middle of a season where your energy is drained. This conversation is your reminder to remember your value and to also release the guilt you may be experiencing for decisions you made that didn't go as expected. Let's talk about protecting your peace around unhelpful co-parents, and practice practical "micro-self-care" when you have zero free time,

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Hey, hey!! The Fall Back Fall Challengestarts today and it's a call for Black women to intentionally do less during the last quarter of the year. Black women are socialized to over-give, do the emotional lifting, take care of everyone, give 175% on the job and WE ARE TIRED!! I'm talking about unlaboring as a way to pull back from these systems that drain Black women's energy and instead invest that bandwidth into ourselves, rest, community, creativity, joy and other things we care about. Trees shed/release in this season so let's be reminded that we can safely release, slow down and reserve as well.

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I've been on a bit of a summer break but I'll be back next Monday with a fresh episode!! In this replay episode I'm giving you a four question exercise you can begin using IMMEDIATELY in times of feeling overwhelmed with responsibilities and challenges straight from the book How To Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie.

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Happy Monday. In today's episode I'm sharing a little revelation I had while shopping at Costco recently. I have done some major healing in the last few years, but I still get disregulated. It's ok to not be perfect and it's ok to take a breath, raise your hand and ask for/receive help.

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Hey Beautiful Brown Girl!

Have you experienced moments of feeling...off, but don't understand why or how you got to that place? I definitely have which is why I do my best to check-in with myself everyday. Today I'm sharing six questions to start asking yourself daily or as needed.

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How can you begin to embody what it means to take up space? As a Black woman who worked in corporate America I can tell you that there were many, many times that I bit my tongue or hid my brilliance and based on conversations I've had, I am not the only one.

How do we embrace our value and begin to take up the space we rightfully deserve? Today I'm sharing three specific ways:

1. Honor your value

2. Own your words

3. Fill the space with your presence

Also, a bonus one is that everything we do doesn't warrant an apology (like I used to believe).

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Did you know that you can deepen your self-care practice by implementing the 4 S's? Silence, solitude, surrender and stillness can be used separately or collectively and don't have to be "perfected" in order to be of benefit. When your spirit feels dry and in need of moisturizing, it's likely in need of one of the 4 S's.

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Have you ever woken up completely drained, barely could manage work so blamed yourself for not being "productive enough"?

In this episode, we’re unpacking the dangerous lie that rest has to be earned and why so many of us confuse emotional and physical exhaustion with laziness. If you’ve been forcing yourself to function through burnout, overstimulation, or stress just to keep up with a routine, this episode is your invitation to drop the guilt, lower the bar, and give yourself grace.

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Hey sis, welcome back to the Brown Girl Self-Care Podcast — the space where we honor our humanity and choose ourselves, unapologetically. 

This week, we're talking about these jobs, okay? I saw a post on social media from a young woman who started a new job, and just a week or two in, a better opportunity came out of nowhere — more money, better vibes — and she took it. But then she felt guilty about it. 

The guilt is not random. It's rooted in how we've been conditioned to be loyal, to people-please, to always make sure they know how grateful we are. 

Here's what I want you to remember: 

These jobs are not loyal to you. They will let you go without a second thought if it serves the bottom line. You don't owe them two weeks, an apology, or an explanation. Giving them that is classy, not required. More money = more breathing room. it's about your peace, safety, and getting out of survival mode. Choosing yourself is an act of self-preservation. Full stop. 

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Nobody warns you about the silence that comes after you decide you’re done settling.

When you stop chasing an opportunity, a relationship, or a dynamic that required you to shrink, you're left with an empty room. And if you aren't grounded in that quiet, panic sets in—and the bare minimum starts looking real comfortable again.

In this episode, we’re unpacking what it actually takes to sit in the space between without rushing to fill the void with the first low-standard thing that comes along.

In this episode, we cover:

Why the quiet space after walking away feels so uncomfortable and why your mind misinterprets peace as loss.How to stop bargaining with your standards when anxiety tells you to settle.Reclaiming the buffer zone so your nervous system can adjust to a higher baseline.

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What does your mental health and well-being capacity actually look like right now? In this episode, Bre introduces the concept of the Self-Care Cup: a powerful framework for measuring your capacity for healing, joy, and resilience.

Tune in as Bre breaks down the 4 distinct stages of the Self-Care Cup, helps you identify exactly where you currently stand, and shares the practical steps needed to move toward a life of genuine overflow.

The 4 Stages of Your Self-Care Cup: Which One Are You?

1. No Cup at All (Survival Mode)The Vibe: You’re at rock bottom, completely depleted, and just trying to survive. Whether it’s a mental health crisis, financial strain, or chronic illness, you simply don’t have the capacity to hold onto goodness right now.What you need most: Immediate support. Reach out to a therapist, a trusted friend, or look into your company's EAP resources.2. A Cup with Holes (The Leak)The Vibe: You’re out of immediate survival mode, but your energy is constantly draining. Energy vampires, poor boundaries, unresolved grief, or financial stressors are secretly bleeding you dry.What you need most: Radical honesty. It’s time to audit your life, locate the leaks, and start patching them.3. A Small "Baby" Cup (The Limited Reserve)The Vibe: The holes are patched and survival mode is behind you, but your capacity is still quite small. If you are a chronic over-giver, you are at high risk of accidentally draining this delicate boundary.What you need most: Protection. You can share your energy, but you must protect your baseline fiercely.4. A Large, Overflowing Cup (The Sweet Spot)The Vibe: This is the ultimate goal. You are thriving, full of vitality, and giving generously to others strictly from your overflow, never from your well.What you need most: Maintenance. Keep doing what you're doing through consistency, boundaries, healthy habits, and deep self-trust.

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Our safety matters. Period. This episode is a reminder to protect yourself, know your squad, and stay aware of your surroundings. Inspired by the untimely passing of Nolan, this conversation wasn't something I could hold back. 

Then I'm switching gears into something deeply personal - the in-between place of healing. If you've been doing the work and wondering why it's still taking so long, this one is for you. 

✨ In this episode:

Safety tips every Black woman needs to hear Why your healing timeline is valid — even when it feels slow 

• • The body keeps the score — and what to do about it 

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Are you waiting for a radical sign to finally step into the version of yourself you’ve always imagined? I'm breaking down why that "permission" you’re looking for isn’t coming. Spoiler alert - it's because you are already her.

Key Moments:

The Radical Sign Trap: Why waiting for the stars to align is actually a form of procrastination.Activation vs. Achievement: You don't become "her" once you reach the goal; you reach the goal by activating "her" right now.The "Angela Bassett Arms" Philosophy: Acting as if you already have the discipline of your ideal self.Claiming the Identity: Moving from "thinking about it" to "being it."

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Reflect: What is one habit of your "higher self" that you can activate today? 

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When plans fall apart or life throws a curveball, what is the very first thing that starts spinning in your head? For most of us, the shock is immediately followed by a wave of self-attack: “I should have known better. I should have tried harder. I should have done things differently.”

In this episode, lets talk about the "should" spiral and how we abandon our internal authority when things go south.

True alignment and self-trust don't come from doing more; they come from choosing to be more. I'm sharing a personal story about a moment my own intuition loudly yelled, "F that noise,"* and why reclaiming your wisdom means stepping out of the frantic hustle and creating a safe space for the part of you that is just terrified of making a mistake.

If you are currently sitting in the wreckage of a recent setback and second-guessing your every move, this conversation is your invitation to put down the heavy labor, return to your own bones, and remember that you are allowed to be human.

Key Topics Covered

The "Should" Spiral: How we weaponize expectations against ourselves after a setback and drive a wedge into our own self-trust.The Trap of Doing vs. Being: Exposing the frantic urge to over-research, seek validation, and prove ourselves to the world instead of trusting the brilliance already within us.Intuition as an Internal Power: Grounding ourselves in the true definition of intuition—the natural ability to know something without needing external proof or evidence.Healing the Little Girl Within: Why rebuilding trust starts with comforting the inner child who learned at a young age to reject her own body's wisdom.Lessons over Failure: Shifting our perspective so that mistakes become an anchor for deeper wisdom rather than a reason to abandon ourselves.

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Now, more than ever, is the right time for you to be thinking about yourself. If you are a Black woman in your 40s, 50s, 60s, or beyond, chances are you have spent decades as a caregiver. Whether you are managing children, siblings, grandchildren, or aging parents, you might be at a point where something simply has to give. If you notice that you are constantly exhausted and your health is feeling iffy, it is time to look in the mirror and ask a real question: What is your endgame?

In this intimate solo episode, I am sharing some major shifts happening in my own life. I recently made the decision to scale back my hours at work to 24 hours a week because my body was flat-out rejecting a grueling schedule. Our energy is finite, and pushing through back spasms and exhaustion just to survive in a system that does not prioritize our wellness is no longer an option.

I am also talking about the necessity of stepping back from mothering our adult children. I share a recent story about my daughter getting her hair braided that reminded me that she is a grown woman with her own job and her own money. When we step back, we allow our children to grow into who they are meant to be, and we reclaim valuable time for our own rest, reflection, and restoration.

Finally, I am diving into why the environment we live in makes holistic health so difficult for Black women, and why I am actively planning a personal exit strategy (part of MY endgamge) to move overseas by 2028. Self-care requires extensive, consistent dedication, and it is time to stop putting your life on hold.

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Have you ever looked at your life and realized things are not going the way you initially designed or imagined? You’re making the changes, you’re being intentional, you’re doing the work—but that "one great thing" you had your heart set on just didn't pan out.

In this intimate solo episode I am reminding you that there is something amazing (many somethings in fact) out there for you even if your "one great thing" slipped out of reach.

We often tie our worth to a specific outcome, believing that if we just get that one thing, everything will be perfect and we’ll finally be "good enough." But what if that disappointment is actually a mirror?

In This Episode, We Cover:

The "One Great Thing" Trap: Why we mistakenly give external milestones the power to validate our entire existence.Sitting in the Lane: The radical act of allowing yourself to feel disappointment without rushing to fix it or force a pivot.Who Are You Becoming? Shifting the focus from what you can get to who you are growing into while you wait.

Key Takeaways to Carry With You:

"Sometimes we have to just sit in that initial lane of disappointment for the things that we don't get, that we had our heart set on. That doesn't mean that goodness is not for you. It just means that it's gonna look different than what you imagine."

"Sometimes there's a lesson in the waiting. And it's not so much about what you can get, but about who you are becoming or who you are growing into as you wait."

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Today I am in conversation with Tara Pringle Jefferson, Author of Bloom How You Must: A Black Woman’s Guide to Self-Care and Generational Healing. Tara is thefounder of The Self Care Suite, a digital wellness community for Black women. Over the last decade, she has brought her wellness expertise to corporate audiences including WW, SiriusXM, Wayfair, and Priceline.

During our time together we talk about generational healing for Black women and the ways we are currently growing and blooming in sptie of what we (as Black women) have endured for decades.

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Have you ever caught yourself fighting for a situation you already know you don't want because it shrinks you? In this episode, I’m sharing a moment of clarity I had after spending half an hour chasing down someone in a store to inquire about a job. It will make sense when you hit "play" and have a listen.

We try so hard to make an uncomfortable situation comfortable just because it feels safe. We look for little things, like “well, at least it’s closer to home,” to justify staying on autopilot. But true liberation means you stop fighting for the bare minimum. It means you stop settling for a minute amount of money, space, love, and you actually start allowing the alignment of your true vision (which for me is working less, earning more, and pouring into my purpose).

What We’re Unpacking In This Episode:

Seeking Derailment vs. Allowing Alignment: What it looks like when you are fighting, inquiring over and over, and pushing for full-time hours in a place that shrinks you, instead of allowing the space to do things that actually align with your vision.Making the Uncomfortable Comfortable: How we look for little things to make a limiting situation feel okay, and how that comfort keeps us limited and stuck on autopilot.The Bare Minimum Trap: The moment you tell yourself that all of your wants, your needs, and your hopes don't matter as long as the basics are taken care of and a little bit of money is coming in.

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I'm back behind the mic and dropping some real talk about what happens when life forces you to wake up from autopilot. This week, I’m sharing the raw reality of working a labor-intensive retail job at 50, dealing with the daily grind of pushing carts, and how a repetitive question from an older gentleman in the store literally stopped me dead in my tracks and forced me to look at how I'm navigating my life.

Spoiler alert: You have permission to take control of your own damn life.

True, decolonized self-care isn't about performing wellness or waiting until your circumstances are perfect to claim your space. It’s about standing squarely in a hard season, looking at your life, and choosing your power anyway. Lean in as we untangle what it means to stop living on autopilot and step into the driver's seat of your own liberation.

What We’re Unpacking In This Episode:

The Retail Reality Check: The logistics of being back in the retail trenches in decade number five, the physical toll of pushing carts, and navigating a season that feels heavy and labor-intensive.The Pusher vs. The Driver: The exact moment a daily question from a retail customer bypassed my ears and hit my understanding, sparking a deep revelation about survival mode vs. conscious sovereignty.The Anatomy of Autopilot: Breaking down how trauma, people-pleasing, and public validation trick us into letting life just "happen" to us, instead of mapping out our own master blueprint.The Power of Stillness: Why reclaiming your life requires getting quiet, turning off the noise and distractions, and allowing what’s beneath the surface to bubble up so you can figure out what you actually want.Getting Sick of Your Own Sh*t: A real-talk reality check on how we get comfortable in our excuses, make them our identity, and why hitting a wall with your own patterns is often the exact catalyst needed for true healing.The Reclaiming of Your Power: Why you have a right to hold the map, choose your destination, change your mind, and fully embrace every single gift and talent inside of you before you leave this earth.

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After an extended hiatus, I'm back behind the mic!! I’m sharing the raw reality of navigating a major life transition at 50, dealing with the structural games of the "outside world," and wrestling with the deeply colonized fear that unless you are young, trendy, and constantly producing, your voice doesn't matter.

Spoiler alert: It does matter.

True, decolonized self-care isn't about performing wellness or waiting until your life is perfectly wrapped in a bow to claim your space. It’s about standing squarely in your "unknown" and choosing your purpose anyway. Lean in as we untangle what it means to practice liberation in real-time, right from the trenches.

What We’re Unpacking In This Episode:

The Reality of the Hiatus: Why I went silent for two months, and the vulnerability of questioning my validity in a digital age obsessed with youth and algorithms."Outside is Still Ghetto": The logistics of taking a retail job for stability, navigating spaces that treat you like a number, and the sovereign act of collecting a paycheck without giving away your soul.The Universal Struggle for Meaning: Why checking external boxes will never fill an internal void, and how to find your anchor when your surroundings feel sparse or uncertain.The Reclaiming at 50: Why my mission to provide a space of encouragement and liberation for Black women doesn't pause just because I'm figuring out my own next steps.

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Let's talk a little about when you are in a season that requires you to un-labor a bit and stop grinding. I believe that Black women deserve more ease and to receive income and abundance with ease, myself included, so there will be times that we are required to un-labor and allow God to step in and provide miracles. This is counterintuitive to the lessons we learned that told us that in order to be successful, wealthy, even safe, we must labor in all ways and all the time. Hit "play" on this episode and lt's unpack things a little bit.

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Valentine's Day was just a few days ago, but today we’re talking about the side of love we rarely discuss: the grace of letting go. Inspired by a surprising lesson from Mr. Rogers, this episode explores why we often keep pouring our "salt"—our energy, labor, and essence—into relationships that are no longer viable.

Let's talk about the "Fixer" trap, the difference between a rough patch and a dead one, and how to reclaim your sweetness by choosing to stop performing CPR on a "dead fish".

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Late in 2025 one of my distractions, one that I wasn't aware of for a while, was fear. I was afraid that If I didn't earn income or receive it in a certain way, I wasn't doing things "right." This ended up putting me into a bit of freeze mode and if you've ever experienced freeze mode you know how much that feels like being stuck in time.

In todays episode, let's talk a bit about distractions and how they might show up in your life and put a halt on living the life you deserve.

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Hey, hey!

Got a great question for you today straight from the community. How can we practice self-care during this time of civil unrest, ICE and fascism. This episode is not all inclusive. My hope is that it allows room for you to reflect on what is important to you.

As mentioned in the episode, know your rights. ICE AGENTS ARE NOT POLICE OFFICERS though Police Officers may or may not accompany them.

Here are some helpful links. Please do your due diligence:

https://naacp.org/resources/know-your-rights-immigration

https://www.reddit.com/r/TwinCities/comments/1qb84vt/what_to_do_if_ice_stops_you_an_attorney_answers/

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In this episode I’m talking about something that’s deeply personal yet universally human: the courage to share your truth. Sometimes the weight we carry, like shame, fear, embarrassment, or unspoken experiences, can hold us back from living fully. Sharing your truth doesn’t have to be dramatic or performative, it is about creating space to release, reflect, and heal.

We’re talking about:

Why holding onto your truth can feel like survival but may also block your growthThe importance of having a supportive inner circle and trustworthy alliesWays to safely share your truth including journaling, therapy, creative expression, or just showing up authenticallyHow black women, historically and culturally, have had to mask their truths and why reclaiming space to be fully human is an act of self-careNavigating the highs and lows, the valleys and peaks, of life while honoring your own journey

This episode is an invitation to let go of the pressure to be perfect, to stop bottling things up for survival, and to explore ways to express yourself safely and honestly.

Reflection Prompts

What truth have you been holding onto that needs space to be expressedWho in your life can you trust to honor your truth without judgmentWhat small, safe step can you take this week to release or express what’s been bottled up

Soul-Care Circle Invitation

✨ Soul-Care Circle: Intentional Vision Board Creating ✨

If you’d like to explore your intentions for 2026 in community, I’m hosting a virtual Soul-Care Circle where we’ll gather to reflect, connect, and create vision/intention boards that go beyond goals—including joy, safety, support, movement, healing, and alignment.

Date and Time: January 31, 2026 (9am-11am Central)

Where: Zoom

Cost: Donation-based (any amount)

This is a cozy, judgment-free space to slow down, check in with yourself, and intentionally call in the energy you want to carry this year.

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In this first episode of the year, I’m sharing something that may not matter to anyone else on the planet and how it reminded me that self-care isn’t always loud, aesthetic, or dramatic.

Sometimes self-care looks like claiming space.

Sometimes it looks like taking one small step toward a vision you don’t need to explain to anyone else.

We’re talking about:

Why small beginnings matter (especially in January)Creating physical, emotional, and energetic space as a form of self-careLetting intentions unfold without rushing or pressureHow honoring what feels meaningful to you is an act of self-love

This episode is an invitation to start the year gently, intentionally, and on your own terms.

Reflection Prompts

What’s one small step you can take this year that feels big for you?What kind of space do you want to claim or protect in 2026?Where can you move with intention instead of urgency?

Soul-Care Circle Invitation

✨ Soul-Care Circle: Intentional Vision Board Creating ✨

If you’d like to explore your intentions for 2026 in community, I’m hosting a virtual Soul-Care Circle where we’ll gather to reflect, connect, and create vision/intention boards that go beyond goals—including joy, safety, support, movement, healing, and alignment.

Date: January 31, 2026

Where: Zoom

Cost: Donation-based (any amount)

This is a cozy, judgment-free space to slow down, check in with yourself, and intentionally call in the energy you want to carry this year.

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The B.E.I.N.G. Space reopens January 3rd, 2026

Welcome to the final episode of our end-of-year series! I am wrapping up our conversation on self-recovery and boundaries by offering a framework for leaving 2025 behind and crafting a intentional, liberated blueprint for 2026.

The steps are:

Honor the release that needs to happenYour goals don't need to be about fixing your perceived flaws or being hypercritical of yourself. Think about setting intentions insteadBe sure to include community building in your plans for 2026

I'd love to hear your thoughts on this episode as well as some of your intentions for 2026. If you share this episode or your intentions on social, be sure to tag me.

If you are listening on iTunes or Spotify please leave a rating and review pretty please :)

Also, if you are making some changes in 2026 and need clarity and support as you boldly bloom, book some time on my calenedar here: The B.E.I.N.G. Space I will be back "in office" January 3rd.

See you in 2026!!!!

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Following last week’s episode on being your authentic self, today we are diving into the challenging but essential work of communicating new, radical boundaries. This is all about preparing yourself for a truly authentic 2026 where you are free to be yourself.

In this episode i'll be sharing:

how boundaries are liberationthe importance of staying as cool as a cucumber when expressing your boundariesthe necessity of not only expressing the. boundary but having a consequence

Resources/Links:

In case you missed it, here is last weeks episode - December Is The Best Month To Release The "Fake" and Find Your Real Self

Need clarity in your journey of blooming? Book a BEING Session with me here!

Join me on Zoom on December 17th right here - BGSC Soul-Care Circle

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The work discussed in this episode, as we enter the final days of 2025, is not just about ending the year on a high. What I feel it is, is an opportunity to see 2026 as the year your authentic self is non-negotiable. In this episode we are talking about self-care through the lens of transition, a fresh start, into the new year.

In this episode let's explore:

Winter as the Shedding Season:Using the end of 2025 as a time to identify and release the societal expectations and masks that stifle our authentic selves.Decolonizing Your Worth:Challenging narratives of strength and productivity to embrace softness, vulnerability, and rest.Returning to Your Roots:The importance of reconnecting with hobbies, creativity, and ancestral wisdom that spark your mind, heart, and spirit.

Resources and links:

Join me on December 17th for Soul-Care Circle. Click here to register on Zoom

Share your story! What are you shedding this season? Tag @browngirlselfcare on social after listening today and let me know.

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In this episode, I'm getting honest about the moments when your spirit is no longer whispering, but instead she’s tapping you on the shoulder, side-eyeing you, and begging you to justsit down somewhere.

As Black women, we’re praised for pushing through, carrying everything, and keeping it all together. But this season is about something different: honoring your humanity, choosing ease, and learning to pause before life forces you to.

We’ll explore the 5 signs that show up when you’re out of alignment:

when you’re scattered instead of centereddrained instead of nourished✨eactive instead of peacefuldoubting instead of groundedand disconnected instead of intuitive

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Hello Beautiful Black Woman!

In this (rewind) episode I'm sharing five ways that show me the healing work we are doing is actually making a difference. This includes:

Understanding that there will still be hard things to process emotionallyUnderstanding my toxic patterns and behaviorsNot trying to change people but instead focusing on meRealizing that I can choose what I do for healing

Listen in to todays episode and be sure to write down the affirmation that I provide at the end.

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Overconsumerism this holiday season will not save us. Many of us want to "keep up with the Jones'" when they likely are living check to check themselves. Buying with intention versus buying to people please and prove your worth are different energies. Let's have a quick chat about this.

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Hey, hey! In this episode I'm sharing part of a recent video I created. In It I talked about the idea of the American dream. By those standards, this vision of success we've been told to strive for, I am failing because my life doesn't align, and that's ok! Listen in for more

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If you are in need of a reminder to slow down, be present and not feel pressured to buy/have "all the things", this episode is definitely for you!

Recently, i watched a movie on Hulu called "Perfect Days" about a toilet cleaner in Japan. I thought it would be about his job (and how could that even be exciting??) but it was about much, much more.

I'm sharing six takeaways that will help you experience your own "perfect" days, ones where you are more grounded and present, versus worrying about the accumulation or use of the latest and greatest stuff.

As mentioned, if you'd like to spend some one on one time with me, getting your self-care plan in order, you can connect with me here: BEING w/ Bre

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This episode, what I'm doing for the next 30 days is going to sound crazy. I get it. It needs to be done though because I'm locking in on how I'm blooming versus worrying about laboring to earn money. In our culture 9-5'ing/grinding is where our energy primarily goes and if there is anything left we do a little tending to ourselves. I'm flipping the narrative for the next 30 days and making self-care the primary and working secondary.

Listen in to learn more about the framework I'll be using. Also, feel free to join me or watch on my Youtube channel and let me know your thoughts!

Youtube - @browngirlselfcare

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Dear Black women, especially those of us over 40 years old, now is your time (and mine) to get "unstuck." Let's stop waiting around for something magical to happen in order for us to do WHATEVER it is we want to do in this season.

This episode is straight from my Youtube Live. Be sure to subscribe there so you can see my beautiful face :). Here is the link

Let me know what you thought about todays episode. What is something you've been waiting for? What are you being called to do?

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There is a bit of cussery in this episode, heads up.

I’m in my 50s and haven’t worked a traditional job in six years. In this episode, I’m sharing how I walked away from my job, the ways I’ve sustained myself, and what rebuilding my dream life actually looks like.

I talk about:

Why I quit my job and what led up to itHow I kept myself afloat through moving, using my 401k, podcasting, freelancing, and building Brown Girl Self-Care offeringsThe mistakes and challenges I faced along the way — survival mode, giving too much away for free, buying things I didn’t need, people-pleasing, and caring too much about what others thinkHow I’m actively rebuilding my life now, including paying off debt, eating healthier, practicing yoga, baking bread, keeping my space calm, and prioritizing what truly mattersMy vision for the future — from living on land with a sister friend, buying an RV, traveling, and building a life where I’m healthier, stronger, and freerThe hard truth about being honest with yourself and getting tired of your own mess

This is a raw and real conversation about choosing yourself, starting over, and proving that even after setbacks, you can still create a beautiful life.

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I tried recording this episode on Sunday and when I went to upload it, there was no audio. So I decided to hop onto Youtube Live on Monday morning and record it there.

*Trigger Warning* In todays episode I'll be sharing about a young Black woman who unfortunately took her own life. The point of the share is to not only say her name, but to reinforce the idea of Black women staying Black Woman centered. No one cares about Black women the way that Black women do. We need each other.

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I want to preface this episode with a couple of things:

#1 – Extreme self-care isn’t about shock value. It’s about survival, liberation, and choosing yourself when everything around you says don’t.

#2 – The choices I’m sharing in this episode may feel uncomfortable, even unthinkable, because Black women are socialized to endure instead of disrupt. But these choices are valid. They are powerful. And they are yours to claim.

In this episode of the Brown Girl Self-Care Podcast, I’m talking about five extreme self-care moves that many of us are told we can’t choose:

Cutting off a parentDeclining the caregiver roleChoosing not to have childrenLeaving the traditional churchInvesting in yourself first

To live well we sometimes have to be extreme or disrupt the status quo. I'd love to hear your thoughts on this. Leave a comment on Spotify. Share this episode and tag me on social. Email me at connect@browngirlselfcare.com

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I want to preface this episode with a couple of things:

#1 - You don't owe the world "your pretty"

#2 - The self-care in this episode is less about performance and more about affirming your worth, reminding yourself of who you are and feeling great about yourself, FOR YOU

In this episode of the Brown Girl Self-Care Podcast, I'm giving you five simple beauty practices that serve as daily reminders of self-worth and identity. These are not about chasing trends or fitting into outside standards. It's about choosing rituals that ground you, feel authentic, and help you move through life's transitions with confidence and more self-love.

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My sleep has been wrecked since I moved. Last year I had the perfect setup: a bed that supported me, a routine that worked, and deep, consistent rest. Now? I’m on a futon, waking up at 4 a.m. to take my daughter to work, and dragging through the day.

n this episode I'm sharing:

Why fall naturally shifts your body’s sleep rhythm (and how to work with it)The basics I’m returning to: earlier bedtimes, wind-down rituals, and morning lightTangible adjustments that help: showers or baths at night, better pillows, and bedding that supports youThe tools I’m using to stay accountableWhy great sleep is not a luxury for Black women, but a necessity

If your sleep has been off, you’ll leave this episode with practical ways to reset and reclaim real rest this season.

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This week I turn 50. Instead of balloons or cake, I’m marking this milestone by sharing five truths that feel carved into me now. Call it my 5 for 50. These are the lessons I’m carrying into this next decade—about boundaries, embodiment, reciprocity, friendship, and trusting the timing of my life.

If you’re in your 40s, 50s, 60s, I hope you hear yourself in these truths. And if you’re younger, I hope you take them as reminders to claim your life sooner rather than later.

In this episode I share:

Why I will no longer overexplain myselfHow my body, not the clock, sets the pace for my lifeThe line I’ve drawn around reciprocity in relationships and workThe honest truth about not knowing how to be a good friend until later in lifeWhy I am no longer comparing my timeline to anyone else’s

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Boundaries don’t always look like cutting people off or quitting jobs. The ones that actually keep you from burning out are the daily boundaries — the small choices that say: my time, my body, and my energy belong to me.

In this episode, I’m breaking down five daily boundaries that protect your sanity:

Not answering texts right awaySaying “I can’t talk right now”Blocking off the first 30 minutes of your morningLeaving when you’re readyRefusing to explain your “no”

These may look simple, but they’re radical. Because every time a Black woman says no to urgency, over-functioning, or people-pleasing, she’s also saying no to the systems that demand her exhaustion.

Listen in if you’re ready to stop being “on call” for the world and start saving your energy for yourself.

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We are out here building businesses, doing side gigs, dreaming about walking in our purpose, right? Yes! As we do this, there may be a pull for you to get out there and showboat just how well you are doing by flaunting your income while encouraging others to quit their job and "get like you." This episode is a reminder that this isn't the way to grow. There will be ups and downs in your entrepreneurial journey. Don't let the "highs" fool you into thinking you need to flaunt because things can change very quickly.

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I’m sharing what it looked like to move from bracing for the worst to making space for the best. This shift didn’t happen overnight, but it’s changed how I move through life, how I feel in my body, and how I trust myself.

We talk about:

The moment I realized my trust was starting to changeHow my nervous system used to feel vs. how it feels nowWhy trust takes time to rebuild

Also, as mentioned: BEING 1:1 Coaching is open. This is where we sit together and put out the fires—whether it’s burnout from your job, the weight of family dynamics, being the go-to for everyone in your circle, community or church obligations, caregiving without support, or constantly feeling like you have to be the strong one—so you can reset and move forward lighter. You’ll leave with clarity and steps you can actually use right now. If you want to go deeper, we can work through the full BEING framework together. Book your session here.

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So many of us are walking around with an invisible contract we never agreed to—but we’re still out here living by it. It's the Superwoman Contract. In this episode, I’m naming what it is, where it comes from, how it keeps us stuck, and what it costs us to keep performing strength.

We talk about:

What the Superwoman Contract actually isWhy we feel obligated to carry so muchHow this “strength” is expensiveWhat it could look like to void the contract and choose something else

Mentioned in this episode:

➡️ BEING 1:1 Coaching is open. This is support for Black women who are navigating reinvention, self-trust, and soft power after survival. If you’ve been carrying it all, this is your space to finally set it down.Book your session today.

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I'm turning 50 soon, and that shift is showing up everywhere. That includes Brown Girl Self-Care. In this episode, I’m sharing why Brown Girl Self-Care is now centering Black women in our 40s, 50s, 60s, and 70s. There needs to be wellness and self-care conversations for Black women who have entered middle-age. That is what this is.

We talk about:

Why most wellness content doesn’t hit for us anymoreWhat self-care meant before vs. what it means nowThe transitions we’re moving through in midlifeWhy this shift is necessary—not just for me, but for us

Mentioned in this episode:

➡️ BEING 1:1 Coaching is open. This is support for Black women who are navigating reinvention, self-trust, and soft power after survival. Price increases in a few days—book now to lock in the current rate.

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Hey, hey!

Back with an Eff The Cubicle Friday episode! Can we keep it real today? Straight without the chaser? Some of you listening to this episode will stay at that job you hate, not because you can't rock your gift but because you refuse to believe in yourself. Hit play and let's talk.

Also, as mentioned, if you have been doing way too much and can't get a handle on prioritizing your needs, book some time on my calendar right here! It's hard to figure out your needs or even what's next for you when life is full of people-pleasing, carrying the weight of family and the job, and always having to be "on." These sessions help you feel clearer, lighter, and more connected to what you need so that you can bloom.

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We romanticize the idea of creating space—clearing our calendars, releasing relationships, cutting ties with the noise. But what happens when you finally get the space you’ve been asking for... and it doesn’t feel good?

In this episode, I talk about the raw, often ignored reality of what spaciousness brings up: the discomfort, the second-guessing, the urge to fill the quiet. If you’ve made changes to protect your peace and now feel unsettled by the stillness, this conversation is for you.

In this episode:

Why stillness can feel unsafe at firstHow your nervous system reacts to peace when it’s used to chaosThe temptation to refill what you just clearedWhat to do when the quiet feels like too much

If you're in a season of stretching, releasing, or sitting in uncomfortable in-between moments, book a 1:1 B.E.I.N.G. session with me. It’s a space to process, reconnect, and move through what’s surfacing with care.

→ Join me here!

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Hey, hey!!

This is a replay episode from 2022 and I'm being very, very real about ways "I" was not a safe space for other Black women when I was younger. This is an eye-opening episode because we never intend to harm but if there is unresolved trauma, it's very possible that at some point we will.

Recording this episode humbled me but I 'm sharing because it's not about judgement or blame but about awareness and reflection as we continue leaning into community care and support for one another.

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*This episode is a little cussy so nsfw*

Hey, hey! In this episode of the pod I'm sharing some thing you need to hear about having your needs met. At the end I also provide a quick affirmation/reminder to carry with you this week.

Also, here is the information for the self-care guidanceI mention in this episode. Every woman that books this month will lock in the promotional rate for life of $49/session. We all need space to be held. We all need space to unravel. We all need space to center OUR needs and to get guidance on ways to bloom. This is your space. Join me in the B.E.I.N.G. Space anytime.

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**** This episode has cussing and also goes into detail about childhood trauma/abuse****

It’s been one full year since I went no contact with my mother. In this episode, I’m reflecting on how I spent the day, the grief and grounding I’ve moved through, and three lessons I’ve learned since choosing distance over dysfunction. This isn’t about being strong or unbothered—it’s about what happens when you choose peace and refuse to shrink, even when people expect you to go back.

I’m sharing this episode for anyone who's navigating estrangement, emotional distance, or rebuilding themselves after breaking ties. You’re not alone. And no, you’re not wrong for choosing yourself.

In this episode, I share:

How I spent the one-year anniversary3 real lessons from going no contactThe ways I’ve learned to honor myselfHow people will try to guilt you

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This is an "Eff The Cubicle Friday" episode

Real talk—when you don’t charge, you train people to treat your work like it’s free and like they have access to you at any and all times.

In this episode, I’m breaking down what happened when I asked for support and got silence... and how I realized I helped create that pattern.

We’re talking about why so many Black women feel unseen in their businesses, and how to unlearn the guilt around getting paid for your care.

If you’ve been grinding with heart and getting crumbs in return, this one’s for you.

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We talk about wanting community. Wanting softness. Craving care and to be seen. The thing is though, how are you gonna ask for that from other people, or give it to other people, when you don’t even give it to yourself?

In this episode, I’m talking about what it really means to be in community with yourself.

You’re out here showing up for everybody else, doing the most, saying yes when you don’t mean it, and ignoring what you need. That’s a form of self-abandonment.

I’m sharing some things I wrote in my journal this week, a few hard truths about how we treat ourselves, and why being your own best friend is the kind of care that changes everything.

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In this episode, I’m talking about what it actually looks like to rebuild trust with yourself — especially when you’ve spent a lifetime ignoring your needs, second-guessing your voice, and shrinking to keep the peace. If you’ve ever felt stuck in patterns of self-abandonment, this one’s for you.

I share the 4 daily practices I’ve been using to come back to myself and start rebuilding that trust in small, intentional ways.

This is not about being perfect. It’s about not disappearing on yourself anymore. This is important liberation work.

Mentioned in this episode:

– The 4 daily practices I use to rebuild self-trust

– What it means to make a decision and not waver

– How to move without proof (and why that’s important)

– Real-life examples of what this looks like for everyday Black women

Also, here is the link to the hypertension article I read and mentioned

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Eff the Cubicle Fridays: A New Chapter Begins

In this episode, I’m introducing a brand new series called Eff the Cubicle Fridays. This series was born from my desire to break free from the 9-to-5 grind that was draining the life out of me. I share the story of how I launched this podcast while working in a high-pressure corporate job, terrified my employer would find out, and how that fear pushed me to move anyway.

We’re talking entrepreneurship, creativity, personal growth, and what it means to reclaim your time and voice. If you’ve been dreaming of building something outside the system—or you’ve already started—this series is for you.

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Listen to the episode from 2020

Link to the free mini quide

In this episode, I share a moment that caught even me by surprise — when I was out walking and found myself shoulder-checking someone who didn’t make space for me on the sidewalk. It wasn’t aggressive. It wasn’t loud. But it was intentional.

And I didn’t apologize.

This story became a reflection on the ways Black women are taught to shrink, to step aside, to stay small — and what it means to finally stop doing that.

I talk about:

What really happened that day on the sidewalkHow that moment helped me see how much I’ve yielded in the pastThe truth I didn’t want to admit: it was intentional — and I’m not sorryThe quiet power in holding your ground when you’ve been trained not toWhy taking up space isn’t arrogance — it’s ancestral

This episode is for the Black woman who’s tired of stepping aside — physically, emotionally, or spiritually — just to keep the peace. If you’ve been shrinking and you’re ready to return to yourself, this one is for you.

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Have you lived your entire life knowing that you deserved to receive tenderness as well as be tender? I lacked that for a long while and unfortunately it cost me two solid relationships. In honor of our humanity I decided to take a year exploring tenderness as a form of liberation and am sharing my thoughts with those of you signed up for the newsletter. You can sign up at any time by visiting here, scrolling down to the bottom and adding your best email address.

Today I'm talking about living a life with more tenderness plus I'm sharing a couple of updates. Press play and tap in.

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In this heartfelt rewind episode, I take you inside a quiet moment of reflection at a solo retreat where I finally let the tears come. I talk about what it means to give so much to others while constantly putting ourselves last, and why so many Black women — myself included — struggle to give the same love, softness, and support to ourselves.

I share:

Why crying helped me realize what my soul is cravingThe emotional toll of always showing up for othersWhy some of us need to completely tear down our foundations and start overWhy self-love isn’t selfish or soft — it’s necessaryA question that might help you get closer to your own self-love

This one is for the woman who’s been giving everything but feels empty inside. You’re not alone — and you can rebuild.

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Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t. Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care.

In this episode of Brown Girl Self-Care, we're cutting through the noise and naming the truth:

Black women are not the problem — the systems are.

Capitalism, white supremacy, grind culture, and patriarchy have conditioned us to blame ourselves for exhaustion, financial struggle, and “inconsistency.” But that ends here.

We’re not just naming the harm — we’re talking about how to push back in 2025. From reclaiming rest, to doing less without guilt, to unlearning money shame, this episode is your reminder that healing and resistance can co-exist.

In this episode, I cover:

Why rest still feels hard (and who benefits from that)How capitalism set us up to fail with moneyThe truth about “doing the most” and what it costs usReal ways to resist — even if you're still tired, in debt, or just getting started

This is for you if:

You’ve been feeling like you’re not doing enoughYou’re healing while still playing the gameYou’re ready to choose rest, ease, and clarity — without guilt

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If you’re feeling heavy the day after Mother’s Day, this episode is for you. Whether the day brought up grief, frustration, numbness, or just left you feeling emotionally off, you are not alone. In this gentle episode, I’m holding space for the Black women who are expected to “bounce back” on Monday when their hearts are still tender. We’re talking about softening into the week, honoring your truth, and giving yourself permission to move slow. You’ll also hear a series of affirmations to carry with you as you reclaim your energy, one breath at a time.

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Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t.Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care.

First things first! I want to invite you to join me on May 14th at 7pm CDT for the "Take The Mic, Take up Space!" Podcasting 101 Workshop for Black women. You can sign up right here. This is a virtual event, being held on Zoom, that I'm hosting where I'll teach you how to get your podcast started, no more excuses. If you've been looking for a sign to start using your voice, this is it.

Now, onto todays episode. Have you ever been called boring or even a square? I have been several times and I allowed that to shame me into trying to be someone that i was never intended to be. I realized that the idea that I was too boring to show up or share parts of my life online (parts that I deem aren't too private or sacred) had a huge impact on my business and and even how I felt about myself. If this is you too, I'm sharing some takeaways I want you to consider.

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First things first! I want to invite you to join me on May 14th at 7pm CDT for the"Take The Mic, Take up Space!" Podcasting 101 Workshopfor Black women.You can sign up right here. This is a virtual event, being held on Zoom, that I'm hosting where I'll teach you how to get your podcast started, no more excuses. If you've been looking for a sign to start using your voice, this is it.

Now, on to todays episode. I decided to let chatgpt give me a prompt that would help me do some self-reflection and it didn't disappoint. I wasn't sure that I would share this when I hit record because this was a personal note that I created for myself to process my thoughts on fear + self-worth. I'm sharing this because I want YOU to trust your voice. It's hard to trust your voice if you are searching for the perfect thing to say or the perfect thing to feel. Healing is not about an aesthetic, it's about being real, raw and unfiltered. Using your voice can be a great step to becoming a place of safety for yourself and this is so important.

Don't be afraid to use the prompt in todays episode to see what comes up for you.

Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care.

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In this episode I want to remind Black women of the importance of giving themselves their best. We have got to stop reserving our 'pretty' for others or future occasions. Black women have done enough, we have given enough, it's beyond time we utilize our best for our benefit before it is given away to others. On top of that, I'm tired of playing the supporting character in life so I share a bit about that, too. 2025 is about shaking tables and no longer hiding ourselves.

Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care.

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Overconsumption can be tearing down your self-identity and self-worth, instead of helping us take action on our inherent abilities and knowledge. You were put here to lead but your conditioning tells you that you need to consume more before you can take action. No matter your purpose, this episode is for you.

Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care.

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Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t.

2025 is a pivotal year for me and for many other Black women who are sick of these systems and sick of laboring at jobs that deplete and exhaust us. Black women deal with societal systems every day that are not designed for us to thrive and I've come to realize that I have to break free from fear, perfectionism and imposter syndrome so that I can reject traditional 9-5 labor and instead do things that tap into my purpose and joy. Sound like you too? Press play!

Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care.

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I've got a listener question today that came from my Instagram dm's. She wanted to know how I hancled/am handling my IRS debt. Listen in and I'll share the simple steps I took for my 13k of IRS debt as well as the mindset shifts I finally made regarding financial/struggle cycles.

Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care.

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This episode is specifically for those of us who grew up believing that we were "bad" or too flawed to be loved due to how we were treated as children/the conditioning we received in our childhood years. I've been thinking about my identity a lot as of late and once I learned that our identities were perfect when we were born, it made a profound shift in my life. Instead of grasping blindly at trying to be someone I'm not, I'm more focused on nurturing my "soil."

Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care.

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In this episode I'm getting real about my financial struggles, personal growth, and the steps I'm taking to break free from generational cycles of trauma and lack. I talk about my decision to leave corporate life in 2019 for my mental health, the challenges I faced thereafter, and my ongoing battle with debt. I want to STRESS the importance of shedding shame and guilt tied to financial hardships while discussing the conditioning and societal expectations that often plague Black women. My hope is that other 'cycle breakers' will continue to prioritize healing, make intentional choices, and reframe their mindset around money and self-worth as they navigate their unique journeys in 2025 alongside me.

Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care.

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Sometimes we need to ask for grace, and there is no shame in that. Whether it’s adjusting a financial commitment, backing out of a purchase, or simply admitting that we don’t have the capacity for something right now—giving ourselves permission to be honest is an act of self-care.

In this episode, I share two real-life moments this week where I had to step back and say, “I can’t do this right now.” It wasn’t easy. It felt a little embarrassing. But I let that go because the reality is this: Being honest about what you need is responsible, not shameful.

Come get this reminder that we are all human and that self-preservation is a must.

Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care.

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I had big plans for this season—new episodes, a bold rebrand, coming back stronger than ever. But the truth? This might not be the season for big things. And that’s okay.

In this episode, I’m sitting with that truth and letting go of the pressure to force momentum. If you’ve been feeling stuck, unsure, or like you should be doing more, let’s breathe through that together. Sometimes, the most radical thing we can do is honor where we are.

Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care.

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In this episode of the Brown Girl Self-Care podcast, I’m opening up about what I learned from taking an unplanned break. After moving and needing time to settle in, I found myself sitting in the discomfort of not producing—of not showing up in the ways I usually do. And even though I knew I needed the rest, there was still that lingering feeling that I should be doing more.

I’ll share how this experience reminded me that we are often more tired than we realize, how the pressure to always be productive is deeply tied to colonization and capitalism, and why it’s so important to give ourselves permission to pause before burnout forces us to stop.

In this episode, I’m sharing five key things to keep in mind when you’re struggling to rest:

You’re probably more tired than you even realize. We’ve been conditioned to run on empty for so long that exhaustion can feel normal—until we finally stop.Resting will make you uncomfortable at first. When we’re used to equating our worth with productivity, stepping back can feel unnatural. That’s colonization talking.The world won’t fall apart because you take a break. We carry so much on our shoulders, but the truth is, things will keep moving even when we pause.You don’t have to feel “ready” to rest. If you’re waiting for a perfect moment to slow down, it’ll never come. Your body, mind, and spirit need care now.You have permission to pause. You don’t have to earn your rest. You don’t have to justify it. Rest is your birthright.

If you’ve ever felt uneasy about slowing down—like you’re somehow falling behind or not doing enough—this episode is for you.

Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care.

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In this episode of the Brown Girl Self-Care podcast, I’m sharing an intimate life update as I prepare to move from California to Arkansas. I’m opening up about the emotional and practical challenges I’ve faced along the way, including letting go of 95% of my possessions due to financial constraints.

I’ll share how deeply rooted scarcity and self-worth struggles have shaped my life and why this move represents more than just a physical transition—it’s a journey of healing, grief, and reclaiming intentionality.

I’ll also introduce my upcoming collaboration with Yolanda, founder of Parenting Decolonized, as we work together to create a sustainable living community for single Black mothers and their children. This episode is about resilience, community, and embracing change, even when it feels hard.

Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care.

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Brown Girl Self-Care is a space where Black women come to honor our humanity and reclaim our power in a world that takes us for granted. Here, choosing ourselves—our healing, our joy, and our rest—is an act of radical resistance and deep self-love.

In this episode, we’re exploring the emotional toll that masking takes on Black women. We’ll start with a few deep breaths to create a calming space and then dive into my journey of setting boundaries and acknowledging my emotions, reminding us that healing can bring up some friction.

We’ll also unpack the societal pressures Black women face to mask their true feelings, using Angela Bassett’s reaction at the Oscars as an example. This conversation critiques cultural expectations that demand we hide our pain to keep others comfortable, and instead encourages us to embrace our humanity, honor our emotions, and create spaces where we can be authentic.

Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care.

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Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our worth. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become radical acts of love and justice, profound ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t.

In this episode, we unpack the discomfort and stigma that Black women often feel when it comes to asking for and receiving help. Cultural, familial, and societal influences can make vulnerability feel unsafe, but learning to receive is essential for our healing, growth, and liberation.

I’ll share personal reflections, practical tips for practicing vulnerability (including how to accept compliments!), and encouragement to embrace the abundance and support that divine resources offer us.

Let’s walk this path together—you are deserving of a life where you feel supported, held, and whole.

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In this episode, we explore what it means to listen deeply to the signals our bodies send us and how that listening is a practice of love and liberation. When survival mode has been our default, it’s easy to overlook these signals, but they are key to protecting our peace and reclaiming a life of wholeness and joy.

I’ll share personal reflections, wisdom from my therapist, and reflective journal prompts to support you in reconnecting with yourself and creating a life that centers care, liberation, and joy.

Let’s walk this path together—you are deserving of radical love and care.

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In this quick episode, let's talk about the idea of breaking free from legalism and embracing grace as a foundation for personal growth in this new season. Legalism is the strict adherence to moral codes that kept me stuck for years until I realized how important it was for me to unlearn the harm of this kind of mindset. If you are moving towards more self-love, acceptance, and peace, your daily practice of life has got to include allowing for more grace and less strictness.

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In honor of the new year ahead, let's talk about being in a place where we want to allow change into our lives to align with personal growth and abundance. You weren't put here to live, struggle and die so, prepare yourself for the changes ahead. In this episode I'm giving you a few simple steps to get you started.

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This year has had some amazing things come to fruition, but it was also hard in some ways. too. When you are the one in your family or circle breaking generational cycles, or if you are blooming into some life changes right now, it's easy for our minds to feel like it's always going to stay hard or that you will struggle forever. Choosing peace as I'm talking about in this episode isn't about bypassing your feelings or pretending that everything is cool. Instead it's deciding that you are doing the best you can and that it is ok to lay claim to peace instead of chaos.

I wanted to share a quick insight from the book 'The Four Pivots' by Shawn A. Ginwright, PhD. Specifically I'm highlighting a powerful quote from the book: 'I choose peace of mind instead of this.' It brought me so much clarity as I continue working through some challenges that my hope is that it's a powerful affirmation for you as well.

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Hey, hey! In this episode I'm talking about 4 things we all need, even if on occassion: silence, stillness, solitude, and surrender. These elements are essential for holistic self-care, especially for us, Black women who deserve to prioritize well-being as we resist cycles of stress and dysfunction.

If you are thinking about tuning into your intuition, embracing vulnerability, and practicing self-care this episode is for you.

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In this episode of the Brown Girls Self Care Podcast, I'm sharing three critical actions Black women can take in 2025 to transform their lives with more healing and joy. The episode emphasizes the importance of dating oneself regularly, undertaking solo trips to foster self-reliance and personal growth, and implementing 'think weeks' or days for deep reflection and planning. These are practices we can use to validate ourselves, embrace our humanity, and prioritize our comfort, ease, and liberation.

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Hey y’all, it’s Bre, and I’ve got something important to share with you today. After reflecting on the constant hustle culture we’re all caught up in and seeing a powerful confirmation in an unexpected place—a video of Macy Gray, no less—I’ve decided to take a sabbatical for the month of December.

In this episode, I’m sharing:

Why rest is a necessaryHow I knew it was time to pause and honor my intuition.What you can expect when I return in January with fresh, intentional episodes.

If you’ve been feeling like you need permission to pause, this is it. Rest is a way to honor your humanity and sometimes, the most powerful thing we can do is nothing.

Thank you for being part of this beautiful community, for listening, and for holding space. I’ll see you in January—until then, take care of yourself, rest deeply, and know that you’re already enough.

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Hey, sis. Let this episode be your reminder that the work you’re doing—yes, even the small stuff—is working. Whether it’s pausing to take a deep breath, setting a boundary, or speaking to yourself with more kindness, these small shifts are creating big changes.

Today, I’m sharing personal reflections and encouragement to remind you that you are making progress, even when it doesn’t feel obvious. I’ll talk about a recent experience where I noticed my own growth, celebrate the small wins that often go unnoticed, and offer journal prompts to help you reflect on your own journey.

The work is working, sis—so keep going. Let’s celebrate the small victories together.

Journal Prompts to Explore:

What’s one small shift I’ve noticed in myself lately?Where can I show myself more grace today?

Let’s Connect:

Did this episode resonate with you? DM me or share your reflections on Instagram (@browngirlselfcare)—I’d love to hear how the work is working in your life.

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In this very transparent episode, I share the challenges of staying true to the mission of Brown Girl Self-Care while navigating the harsh realities of capitalism. As a one-woman operation, I discuss how sponsorships have helped sustain this platform but also created inner conflict when values clash with business opportunities.

You'll hear:

Why I’m reimagining the future of Brown Girl Self-CareThe struggles of centering Black women in a capitalist systemHow I’m leaning into faith, community, and creativity to move forwardMy thoughts on Black women creating sustainable spaces for joy, healing, and liberation

Plus, I touch on what’s next for the platform, including a free Podcasting 101 workshop and a fresh approach to community-building through my new minimalist website.

If you’ve ever wrestled with balancing authenticity and survival in your work, this episode is for you.

💌 Stay connected by joining the Brown Girl Self-Care newsletter at browngirlselfcare.com and become part of the 92% who are thriving unapologetically.

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Hey y’all, it’s Bre here, and this week, I’m pulling back the curtain to let you in on the big changes happening with Brown Girl Self-Care as well as with me. I recently made the decision to close down the newsletter, and today, I’m talking about why—and what’s coming next.

I’ll be sharing how this next chapter of Brown Girl Self-Care will include three areas that are deeply important to me and, I think, to you too:

Black Women’s Health: Taking care of our mental, physical, and emotional well-being, because health is part of our freedom.Building Businesses That Honor Rest: Talking about how we can make a living on our own terms without grinding ourselves down or having to feel fake as we do it.Living Sustainably and Bucking Norms: I'm going all in on a lifestyle that aligns with my values and supports Black women, roots keeping, our community, and my peace. So more us and less capitalism and consumerism.

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Meet me on Zoom for "Gather and Be" on Monday, November 4th @ 5pm Pacific / 8pm Eastern. Link Here

In this episode of the Brown Girl Self-Care Podcast, I'm talking about 'creasing the page' as a way to engage fully with life especially for those of us that are afraid to step out and be seen or make mistakes. I sill struggle with perfectionism, the fear of making mistakes, and in the past these fears have held me back from leaving my mark.

I want to encourage you to embrace imperfection, show up authentically and take small steps towards your goals while aligning yourself with curiousity and the willingness to step out of your comfort zone.

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Hey y’all, it’s Bre here with a special check-in episode of Brown Girl Self-Care. With election season in full swing and November 5th quickly approaching, I’m holding space for Black women who are feeling overwhelmed, stressed, or even terrified by the current climate. In this episode, I share responses from our Threads community and offer practical tips to stay grounded, empowered, and resilient during this time.

We discuss taking things one step at a time, preparing for uncertainty, decentering men, and prioritizing our well-being above all. Remember, you are not alone—we’re in this together. Tune in for a moment of support, reflection, and solidarity.

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As the end of the year approaches, it's time to talk about something crucial: taking time off. In this episode of Brown Girl Self-Care, Bre is breaking down why Black women need to prioritize their health by using their personal time off (PTO), Family and Medical Leave Act (FMLA), and short-term disability. Many of us let our PTO go unused or feel guilty about asking for time away from work—but not taking time for yourself has real consequences. In 2024 we are going to lay claim toL the time we are leaving on the table.

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In this episode, let's chat about the delicate line between protecting your peace and speaking up for yourself, especially as a Black woman navigating a world shaped by trauma. I'm sharing my thoughts on when speaking up is necessary and how to distinguish between fear and empowerment. We are reclaiming our voices, healing with compassion, and balancing self-care in a society that often tries to silence us so let's go.

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It's going to be one of those episodes, today. I'm sharing about my perimenopause/menopause journey, signs that I'm actually in perimenopause so that you can have a "heads up" as well as giving you a few tips to help get you through when it comes for you.

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In this episode of the podcast, Bre is sharing a reminder straight from "corporate life."

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Hey, hey! There is a ton of talk out there about narcissists but what does it really mean to possibly be one, or be in relationship with one? What the heck even really is a narcissist? If you've ever wondered, or want to learn more about what you can do to protect yourself, this is the episode for you.

If you haven't already, be sure to follow Dr. Nic on Instagram as well as check out his podcast Untherapeutic for insight on relationships that "everyday" people can benefit from.

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(This is a rewind episode from 2023)

In this episode of the Brown Girl Self Care Podcast, Bre delves into the importance of Black women showing up for themselves. Sharing her personal experiences and thoughts, Bre discusses what it means to prioritize self-care and healing, despite the societal and personal hurdles faced. She offers practical ways to reclaim self-worth, set boundaries, and practice compassion. Bre also provides journal prompts to help listeners reflect on their early memories of feeling neglected and find ways to honor their needs and emotions. This episode is a heartfelt guide for Black women seeking to navigate their path towards healing and self-empowerment.

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In this episode of the Brown Girl Self Care Podcast, host Bre is giving you insights on the importance of not having everything figured out in life. She discusses the societal pressures to achieve certain milestones by specific ages and encourages listeners, especially Black women, to give themselves grace and compassion. You are allowed to have space for self-reflection, healing, and allowing yourself to grow organically.This episode is a reminder to rest, celebrate your wins, take a beat, and remember that your journey will have uncertainties and doesn't have to be perfect.

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It's Labor Day, plus my birthday was just a few days ago so I have been taking time to REST. With that said, I have an amazing REWIND episode for you that is perfect for the seasonal change that's coming.

I'm sharing my personal strategies for transitioning from summer into the fall and winter months. Through the end of the year this includes prioritizing my mental health, getting sunlight, taking care of my skin plus some other practical advice you don't want to miss.

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In this episode of the Brown Girls Self Care Podcast, host Bre explores the benefits of five holistic supplements she uses daily to manage stress, anxiety, and improve focus. The supplements discussed include CBD, L-theanine, Lemon Balm, Holy Basil, and Magnesium. Bre shares her personal experiences with each supplement, emphasizing the importance of doing your own research and consulting with healthcare professionals. She also provides detailed insights on how to incorporate these supplements into a daily wellness routine for optimal benefits. This episode is a valuable guide for Black women looking to embrace a more natural approach to self-care and well-being.

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CBD - Alliant Hemp

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Lemon Balm - Mary Ruth's

Magnesium - Mega Foods

Holy Basil - Mary Ruth's

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In this episode of the Brown Girl Self Care podcast, I'm sharing about my upcoming move from Los Angeles to rural Arkansas. Yes, you heard that right! There are several reasons for this move including the fact that California is just too expensive. In this episode I'm also going to give you personal insights and tips to consider if you are wanting to deprioritize a 9-5 life and instead prioritize a journey that is more in alignment with your values and well-being.

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