The Porn Addict's Wife

If you don't feel like your husband is an emotionally safe person for you to open up to-this is for you! Or maybe he USED to feel safe but now he doesn't...or perhaps you just don't feel safe feeling emotions in general. Today I'm talking all about what emotional safety is, why it's important and who the BEST emotional safety person is for you!

I reached an upper limit in my belief this week and I want to talk to you about it. I'm sharing the whole experience and teaching you what an upper limit is, how I worked through it, why our brain wants to create it, and sharing a HUGE breakthrough thought that will help you with your own. Happy Easter ladies! I love you!

Join me for a week of FREE coaching! April 1-3 @ 11am EST I am going live on zoom to answer your questions and help you with anything in your life. If you are struggling with something or want help applying something from the podcast, this is for you! Click here to register to come live and get the replays!

Have you ever thought that you don't want to get your hopes up? Me too. Today I'm diving into what hope really is and why our brain doesn't want to get our hopes up. But I'm also going into how you can change it if you want to! Join me!

Come join me for a week of free coaching! I am hosting Coach Week next week and I would love for you to come! This is where you can bring your questions and your struggles and I will help you work through them so we can get you unstuck and moving forward! Click here to register for free!

FYI: I am creating a brand new Master Class in April and I would love for you to be there. It is called "How to Extinquish Resentment" and it will be taught inside my coaching program April 22-25. Sign up today to get lifetime access and to join us in time to attend this Master Class live! Click here to join today!

I'm going on tour! :) Be sure to join my email list by clicking here so that you can know when and where I'm hosting an in person lunch meet up! 

This is a celebration episode! I asked y'all for YOUR wins and transformations and I am sharing your responses to help celebrate the progress and work you've done! THANK YOU for inspiring me each week and remember that it's important to not just focus on how far you have to go but how far you've come! Celebrate your wins daily and keep going! I love you!

If you're ready to see an even greater transformation, then come work with me! Schedule a one on one consultation call with me by clicking here! We will talk about where you are now, discover exactly what's keeping you stuck, and come up with a game plan of how to break through it and move forward! Let's go!

Maybe the bulk of the pain of a past experience is gone, but what happens when we don't deal with all of it 100%? That's when we have residual pain. Today I'm talking about what that is, why it's so important to realize, and the 3 main ways that it affects you if you don't deal with it in a healthy way. Come join me!

Ready to let go of the residual pain and move forward? Schedule a one on one consultation call with me today! During this call we talk about what you are struggling with, identify what's keeping you stuck, and create a game plan for what to do next! Sign up today!

Last week we talked about responsibility...and here's part two. This is all about what YOU have responsibility for, what that looks like, AND why it's so imporant to understand! If you truly internalize this one concept, it can change everything about your life and your healing! 

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Today I'm bringing you a conversation I had with Jenn Zingmark-the resident divorce coach expert! This is where we talk about ALL things divorce and what the struggles are with it, why it's so important to work through your personal emotional stuff, and the best way to do it. She is so vulnerable and opens up about her own divorce journey and has such great wisdom to share! Even if you aren't considering divorce, this is an incredible episode to listen to! 

Go follow Jenn on social media and give her a like and follow! 

What if he's not taking responsibility? Why do I have to do all the work? It's not fair! Let's dive in. What do you want him to take responsibility for? What would that look like? And what if he never does? ... Let's get into it. 

How are pornography and sex connected? And what are you supposed to do if your husband's pornography problem is affecting your sexual relationship? Today I'm diving into what pornography is, what it is designed to do, how it's related to sex, and the two different cycles that someone watching pornography is going through. You'll also learn exactly what you CAN control in this scenario and what you CAN'T....but the things you can control are much greater than you think!

Come join me this week for coaching on this! Click here for full details!

Our primitive brain is often generating a victim behavior without us really noticing it. Here's two ways it does and why it's so important to notice. Plus, a very popular (and socially acceptable) way you could be perpetuating a victim mindset without realizing it!

Come join me for Valentine's Day! I am hosting a 3 day Galentine's Coach-A-Thon and I want you to come! We are going to dive into conquering sexual triggers, navigating sexual expectations (yours and his!), finally breaking the connection between porn and sex, AND handling subconscious sexual shame. Click here to join me for just $19!

People pleasing is where you change yourself or do what you think other people want you to do so that you feel a certain way. People pleasing yourself is where you change yourself or do what you think you "should" do so that you feel a certain way. But let's dive into what that looks like and why that's a problem...

For 3 days only I am offering 1:1 coaching calls to you! If you are interested in coaching, this is for you. On this call we will dive deep to discover what is blocking you from healing so that you can have clarity around what to do next and how to move forward. Only 9 spots available so book now!

+Courtesy announcement: Prices for my program are increasing significantly on February 1! Join now to save $3500! 

What is faith? And where does it fit into all of this emotional work? And why does it even matter? Today might be my favorite episode yet. It's all about what you believe and the secret that creates transformations. 

Come join me in my coaching program this week for my brand new Faith Master Class! Monday-Thursday at 4pm est you can join me live as I teach and coach on what faith is, how to apply the tools of life coaching and intentionality to your faith, and how it can change the future of your faith!

Are there things you are "trying" to do? Lose weight? Not yell at your kids? Be more organized? Trust your spouse? Today I want to teach you how using the word "try" can be detrimental to creating what you want and how to shift it so that you can actually have what you say you want. 

I am so excited to bring you this conversation I had with Matt and Katie! They are an incredible couple who have conquered pornography in their marriage and they both have so much wisdom to share! I hope you enjoy their story! And don't forget to give them a follow on social media! 

We often hurt ourselves without even knowing it. The way that we respond emotionally can create an injury over time if we aren't conscious of it and don't change the behavior that is creating it. This episode is inspired by my own injury so let's dive in and see how it's related!

I'm so excited to offer business coaching for 2024! If you are ready to have your business feel easy and aligned with you and your dreams, this is for you! You can find all the details on my website by clicking here! Hurry! Only 2 spots left and we begin next week!

Resolutions aren't actually about what we think they are. Today I'm diving into what they're about and how you can guarantee you'll always hit every resolution you set. 

If you're tired of setting the same resolutions every year, I have the perfect class for you! Inside my program this month I am hosting a brand new Master Class all about GOALS! Join my program today and you'll automatically get access to this class AND all the recordings! I'll see you there!

Allowing is a verb. It requires action. And today I learned that I have to allow myself to be healed. Join me as I discuss what allowing can look like and the difference it can make in healing from your husband's pornography problem. 

What's the difference between letting go and giving up? And what if you feel like giving up? How do you switch? This week I had a few experiences that I'm sharing that have highlighted this for me and I want to share what I'm learning. I'm still learning how to let go. Join me. 

Merry Christmas ladies! If you want the best Christmas present ever, come join my coaching program! Now is the perfect time and I will send you a gift in the mail to go under your tree! Click here to sign up today!

Is there something in your life you want to change or stop doing? Maybe a habit you want to break or an interaction with your spouse that always happens that you don't like? Maybe you have a belief about yourself you are tired of holding onto? This is for you. Today I am going to teach you a tool that is one of the most helpful in changing any behavioral, emotional, or cognitive pattern in your life. 

Come join me for a free call! This Thursday, December 14 @ 11am est I am hosting a class called "Porn is Not OK.". If you want to know how to be ok IF your husband is watching porn even though you're not ok WITH your husband watching porn, this is for you! Click here to register for free and get access to the replay!

Stressful schedules, in-law gatherings, school parties, triggering situations...the holidays can be difficult to navigate. So today I am offering my best tips and advice on how to handle the holidays so that you can actually ENJOY them instead of just feeling stressed out! 

I want to send you a Christmas gift! If you join my program throughout December, I am going to send you a Christmas present in the mail! That way you not only get what you WANT for Christmas (which is coaching), you ALSO get a wrapped present that you are guaranteed to LOVE! Click here to sign up today!

Finding the right professional help is like finding a good stylist...and I have some bad hair day horror stories to prove it! Bottom line, if you have a result you are looking for, it's worth paying someone who can get you there. 

Have you heard that addicts need to hit rock bottom before they reach out for help? Well, turns out we are a lot more like them than we think! Today I am talking all about what rock bottom is, how we usually think about it, and how we have our own rock bottom to be aware of. Spoiler alert: Rock bottom isn't necessary to create change. 

Come join me this week ladies! I am hosting a live, 5 day training inside my coaching program called "BEcoming Unbreakable" where I am teaching you how to process your emotions in order to:  Let go of emotional baggage, disconnect triggers to render them powerless, rewrite painful memories, connect with your body to feel safe with your emotions, and unlearn negative beliefs that are no longer serving you. 

Click here to join today!

Today I am going over HOW you actually process your emotions and WHY it's the most vital skill you could learn. I am outlining the 3 main ways we typically respond to emotion and why they aren't what is best for the life we want to create. This is the one skill that has enabled me to confidently face my future without fear so tune in!

Come join me next week for my brand new course: Becoming Unbreakable. This course will be taught in a live, 5 day training where I will be working with each client individually until they master the skill of processing their emotions. We are going to release all of the emotional baggage that's being carried around and learn how to confidently face the unknown of the future. This is where suffering becomes optional and moving forward becomes a reality. Join my program today and you'll automatically be enrolled in this course. Don't miss it! We start in one week! Get details here and join today!

It feels like you are fighting, barely treading water, and it's exhausting, right? Today I want to offer how you can take all that energy, all that fight inside of you and apply it in a different way to get far greater results. It's time to fight smarter, not harder. 

Come join me for a free Course Preview of the "Becoming Unbreakable" course! Click here to join me for a live call on Thursday, November 16 @ 11am est. I will be going over what you can expect in the Becoming Unbreakable course and I will answer any of your questions! Sign up today!

Ready to fight smarter and become the master the one skill that will truly make you unbreakable? Click here to join my lifetime coaching program today! This will automatically enroll you in the "Becoming Unbreakable" live, 5 day training that I am leading inside my coaching program at the end of this month. Today is the perfect time to join so you can get a jumpstart on this skill. Click here to join today!

We say we want certain things-to lose weight, change jobs, be more present with our kids, heal from our husband's pornography problems-but are we making the decision to create that result from our primitive brain or our pre-frontal cortex? And why is that so important to clarify? Today I am discussing all of that after a little self reflection exercise and I encourage you to do the same!

I am teaching a brand new course this month inside my coaching program called "Becoming Unbreakable" and I want to invite you to join me. I am teaching the exact process and skill that I have mastered that has enabled me to conquer every circumstance that I thought would break me. Find details and reserve your spot today!

This last 12 months have been the hardest months of my life. But they are also what has made me unbreakable. Today I am talking about why it was the hardest year and how I faced it to become who I am today. 

I am teaching a brand new course on Becoming Unbreakable this month in my coaching program and I want you to come. I am reserving 20 spots for new clients to join this live, 5 day training and I will walk each woman through the exact process I have used over and over again to become unbreakable. Click here to join today and save your seat. C

When we experience trauma, our brain responds in a way to prevent us from getting hurt again. Which is great. However, when this programming is run unchecked, it can actually lead us to creating a mentality that leads to isolation and pain. Let's talk about it. 

Don't know how to process your emotions? I can help! Inside my coaching program this month I am doing a deep dive into how to process your emotions and I would love to have you join us. Sign up today for lifetime access and come master the skill that will lead you to healing quicker than anything else. 

Do you have a certain date that's painful? Or maybe a memory that always brings up negative emotion? Maybe it's your anniversary or your birthday or the date you found out about all of your husband's pornography problems. If so, this is for you. I'm diving into WHY this happens and HOW to fix it. Permanently. 

Come coach with me for free! Next week I'm hosting a FREE class teaching how to connect with your spouse even if he's still watching porn. I'd love to have you there! Click here for full details and to sign up!

Do you feel really vulnerable with your husband? Or even just by yourself becaue of everything you've gone through? In this episode I am going to teach you what it means to be vulnerable and what vulnerability truly is. 

Come join my next free class! How to Re-Connect with your spouse after betrayal trauma. October 30 @ 11am est! Click here to sign up!

Do you struggle communicating with your husband about his pornography problem? Do you find that it either leads to an argument or you shut down? I am diving into the 7 most common mistakes that I see women make so that you can start having more productive conversations with your spouse! 

Click here to access my Free webinar: How To Talk To Your Husband About His Pornography Problem for more in depth coaching and teaching on this topic!

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What is victim mentality? And how do we conquer it? And do we sometimes stay a victim to ourselves? Join me today as I talk about all of this and how to actually beat victim mentality to start taking control of your life. 

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How do you believe something you've never believed before? How do you change what you believe? And why bother? Why is it so important to do it? Today I am diving into a concept I am teaching at the in person retreat in October and it has changed my life. Want to believe you can trust your husband? Want to believe you can lose weight? Want to believe you are a good mom? Want to believe you are good enough? This is for you. 

Do you ever have a gut feeling that something is off? Do you have intuition that he's hiding something or that he's relapsed and not telling you? Today I am diving into what intuition is, why we feel it, and what to do about it. This is a good one ladies! 

Come to my Free webinar next week! 

In this episode I am so excited to be talking to my client Ghazal about her story! She is so powerful and one of the things I admire most about her is her willingness to look inward and her courage to take action even when it scares her. I know you will find inspiration from her story! 

Do you ever feel like you don't love him like you used to? Like the things he's done have changed it so it's not possible to feel the way you used to feel about him? Today I'm diving into why this happens, how to change it if you want to, and what it means if you don't. 

In this episode, my client Shawnie is talking about her story! She joined coaching about one year ago and she came to the in person retreat last year as the youngest client there :) She is being open and vulnerable and I hope y'all find hope in her strength and story!  Thank you Shawnie!

Do you feel unsafe during physical intimacy with your spouse? Today I am going to talk about why that is and give you some ideas of what you can do to help you work through it. The main thing I want you to know is that however you feel is ok. It's normal. And you don't need to judge yourself for it. 

First time ever my twin sister Kristi came on the podcast! She joined me today to talk about her experience going to the in person retreat in Nashville last year so listen in to hear what it was like from her perspective. 

Bonus-at the end you'll hear some of our answers to common "twin" questions we get!

Ready to reserve your spot at this year's in person retreat? Sign up today!

That's right. I'm closing the doors to coaching. Listen in to find out why and what that means for you. 

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Rob joined me on the podcast today to talk about what we've been working through the last 9 months. And one of those is attraction. In this episode we are diving into what he learned about attraction to other women, how our society perpetuates beliefs that aren't true, and how to work through attraction in your marriage. I hope you find this episode helpful in moving forward!

Have you ever wondered this? When is enough, enough? How much of this should I take? When should I leave? Is there a certain time when we should separate? Today I am diving into this question and I hope that even if you've never thought this you take a listen.

I'm bringing back Coach Week! Come try out coaching for free next week and get personal help from me with whatever you are going through. Details will be up on the website today so be sure to check it out and watch for emails letting you know when you can sign up!

How much should I know? What questions should I ask? Are there certain details I need to be made aware of? Today I am going to dive into this topic - and probably not in the way you expect!

Win a spot at my retreat! I am giving away a spot at my retreat and you could win it! To be eligible make sure you sign up and secure your spot before August 20 and then I will be refunding the full price to one lucky sign up! Click here for details and to sign up today!

My program is $1k off until August 20! Simply sign up for my lifetime coaching program and select the pay in full option at checkout! The discount is already applied so you can simply sign up and you're in! Click here to join today!

Our energy follows out attention. And where we put our energy is where change happens. So it begs the question, where are we putting our attention? Today I am going to take you through a process to figure out where you are putting your physical and emotional energy so that you can change it if you want to. 

Do you want him to reassure you that you are moving forward? Or that he finds you attractive? or that he's working on his addiction? If you are seeking reassurance from him, this is for you. I'm going to teach  you what reassurance is, why you want it, and how to get it for good. Enjoy! 

External validation feels great. We all like to hear it, right? Today I am going to talk about what it really is and why we like it and how it can be a problem. 

Coping mechanisms seem great, right? After all, they help us deal with stress. Today I'm going to dive into why coping mechanisms can be a problem and give you an alternative to that that's even better. 

Do you feel like you're waiting for something bad to happen? Like you can never fully relax because you don't know if he'll relapse again? In this episode I'm discussing why our brains operate this way and how to start changing it! 

Join my next free coaching call! Come try out coaching on Wednesday, July 18 @ 11am est! Click here for details!

How do you stop being controlled by others or your life circumstance? How do you become emotionally independent rather than feeling like your emotional state is dependent on your husband's behavior or pornography problem? Today I'm going to give a few ideas from our Founding Fathers and the early American army to answer that question. Happy Independence Day everyone! 

I had no idea what a life coach was when I signed up for life coach training. I just knew it helped me and I wanted more of it. Today I am going to tell you what a life coach does, what my job is and how it can help you. I hope this helps you decide if this is what you are looking for! If you want more information on how to work with me, head to my website!

This is for the hard days. The days you don't want to get out of bed or you feel like you'll burst into tears at a moment's notice. That's exactly where I am today. So I'm going to share a few tips or tools on what you can do on those days to help you through them. The last one is the most important. :) I love you ladies. 

This is a great question! Today I am going to dive into whether or not it's a good idea to have your husband tell you when he messes up (and how that's different from an accountability partner). I'm also going to dive into why it can be so hard to have him tell you and what to do about it. 

Are you worried about going to the beach with your husband? Or his work party? Or going out to dinner and running into an attractive waitress? Today I am going to talk about the biggest mistakes we make in triggering situations and my tips on what to do instead. 

Want more on triggers? Check out Episode 112: Triggers and Bonus: Conversations with Rob: Triggers and Temptations. 

Are there areas in your relationship where you just want him to reassure you? Maybe it's that you can trust him? Or that he actually finds you attractive? Today I am going to talk about what it really means to want reassurance and why it's not actually possible the way we think it is. 

Come coach with me for free! Join me on Wednesday, May 31 at 11am for a free coaching call! It's like a "try it before you buy it" call for anyone who wants coaching! Click here for details!

Want to coach with me one on one? I am opening up 5 private coaching spots this summer only and it won't be an offer I open up again! Want to chat about it to see if it's right for you? Email me at coach@jolenewinn.com and we will set it up!

I am so excited to announce that I am opening 5 private coaching spots this summer! If you want to work with me but want a personal coaching experience, this is for you! This is a limited time offer that expires on June 1 so sign up today by clicking here!  Select the payment option for the Private Coaching plan that works best for you to secure your spot today. 

I cannot wait to work with you! 

Today is a very special episode with guest host Rob! This is a solo episode where he is discussing how pornorgraphy affects your brain and ultimately affects your relationships and your life. If you like this one, go give him some love and support by leaving a podcast review on iTunes! He'd love to know you appreciate his honesty! 

Did you just find out your husband is addicted to porn? Or maybe you just found out about a relapse or a detail you didn't know before. This episode is for you. Today I am going through my biggest tips on what to do next that will help you start healing right away. I'm also listing some additional podcast episodes that might help! 

Want this to be the best Mother's Day yet? I have a few ideas on how to make that happen. Listen in as I give 4 tips on how to get what you want this Mother's Day (or for anything you want in life!)

Have you ever thought something like, "I want to know he's as invested in this relationship as I am", or "I just want to know that he loves me as much as I love him" or "It's not fair that I'm putting in more work than he is"? That's what this episode is all about. WHY our brain does that and what it's actually trying to avoid. Plus, what happens when we do it and why it's so important to stop. 

Sign up today for my next FREE class! May 22 at 11am est I am hosting a free call "Finding Peace When Your Husband Is Untrustworthy". Click here to save your spot and get access to the live call and the replay!

Struggling with your body image as you get ready for summer? Yeah. Join the club. Literally. This month inside my coaching progam I am teaching a brand new Master Class called "How To Not Hate Your Body". I am going to be teaching you how to actually change the way you FEEL about your body, not just give you pretty mantras to recite to try to fake it til you make it. If you are ready to completely change how you feel about your body, you can get access to this class by joining my lifetime coaching program today by clicking here. I'll see you there. 

Ever find yourself feeling pain on behalf of your past self? Maybe you found out about something that happened in the past that you didn't know before and now you find yourself rewriting the memory in order to put in that new information? Today I'm going to talk about why our brain likes to do this and why it's so important to stop. Also, how to do it ;) 

Come join my free class! On May 22 @ 11am est I am teaching a class called "Finding Peace When Your Husband is Untrustworthy" and I'd love for you to come! All you have to do is register and you'll get access to the live call and the replay! Click here to join for free! 

I am so excited to bring you a conversation with one of my clients-Gina! She has such an incredible, sweet spirit and I am so inspired and in awe of her courage! I hope she inspires you and you resonate with her story! 

Did you know there are 2 definitions of the word "compromise"? Today I'm going to talk about both definitions and how they often show up in our marriage. The second defition will blow your mind!

How do you deal with the moments of acute pain? Like when you first find out about your husband's pornography problem or when he relapses? There are a few ways we typically respond that unintentionally make our lives more difficult. Today I'm going over what those are and how to avoid them. 

What is a boundary? How do I know if it's "healthy"? What if someone is violating my boundary? Am I supposed to be feeling anything negative if I set one? Is it ok to set one to avoid negative emotion? I am answering all these questions and going through examples in this episode so tune in! If you want more help with boundaries and want more clarity around them, go check out The Porn Addict's Wife podcast episode 17: boundaries v consequences

Want more one on one help setting boundaries? Come to my "How To Set Boundaries Workshop" next week! Come join me live for 4 days of coaching from April 17-20 all around boundaries and I'll teach you what they are and how to set them. I'd love to give you the one on one help you need for your situation so come join me by clicking here!

I am honored to introduce you to Allyson! She is one of my clients who wanted to share her story with you on the podcast! She is sharing her personal story, her biggest struggles, and the things that have helped her the most. I hope this helps you in your journey forward! Thank you Allyson for sharing your story!

Have you ever felt humiliated by your husband's actions? I have. And it inspired this episode today. I am diving into the difference between shame and humiliation, explaining the shame cycle and the humiliation cycle, and giving you the key to getting out of both! 

See the video of this episode on youtube by clicking here!

Join me for "How to Set Boundaries Workshop"! This will be a week of coaching to help you learn what healthy boundaries are, how to set them, and how to do so in a way that makes you feel safe even if your husband is still watching porn. Register today for just $19 and join us April 17-20 @ 12pm est. See all details here!

What is the relationship between forgiveness and peace? And where does God fit into all of this? After all, we are commanded to forgive in the scriptures and God tells us He forgives us if we come to Him...so how does that all fit in? Today I'm sharing a few thoughts on the relationship between forgiveness and God and what it looks like to me. I hope you enjoy.

If you want to join the How To Forgive Master Class, click here. 

This has been too long in coming :) The first part of Monica's story can be found in between episodes 72 & 73. Start with that part of her story and finish with this! A huge thank you to her for being the most incredible client and willing to share her journey with all of you! 

A few weeks ago on Instagram, I asked you if you wanted to forgive your husband. And the vast majority of you said yes. Then I asked you why you haven't yet. Today I am going to read your responses and go through them with you and offer why they are keeping you stuck. If you truly want to forgive your husband, I can teach you how. Sign up today to join my How To Forgive Master Class and get instant access to my lifetime coaching program. 

How do you forgive yourself for a pornography addiction? How do you forgive your spouse for one? How do you move on past something without carrying the shame and guilt with you even if you know it was wrong? Rob joined me today to discuss this and it's an episode you won't want to miss!

How do you know if you are stuck in resentment and pain? How do you know if you are holding onto it and haven't let it go yet? What does it look like and why do we do it? Plus, how do we stop? Covering all of that and sharing SO many personal examples because I have done this so much in my life! 

If you want to forgive your husband but don't know how, I want to invite you to join my How To Forgive Master Class. This class will be taught live inside my coaching program starting March 27 so join today for lifetime access so you don't miss it! Sign up here!

Are you waiting for him to say sorry? Do you feel like you're stuck without closure because he hasn't acknowledged what he's done to you? Or maybe he has said sorry and you don't know why you aren't feeling any better about it? This is for you. Today I'm diving into why we want an apology and what happens if we don't get it. 

Join me for my "How To Forgive" Master Class this March! From March 27-30 I am launching a brand new class inside my coaching program and I want to work with you. If you've been struggling with forgiveness but really want to move on, this is for you! Come join my program today and let's go forward!

Do you have to forgive your husband for his pornography addiction? For the lying and the hurt and the pain? First off, let's dive into what forgiveness is and then we will answer this question. 

Other episodes of the podcast on forgiveness:  Episode 53: Forgiveness 

Bonus Episode: My Journey of Forgiveness (after episode 24)

Want to learn how to move forward and forgive your husband? Come join my new Master Class "How To Forgive" on March 27. This class will be taught inside my coaching program so come join us today for lifetime access and for one on one help moving forward and forgiving. I can't wait to see you there!

What is commitment? How commited are you to your healing? How do you know? And what do you do if you aren't as commited as you thought? Today I am sharing a few thoughts on commitment that I learned this week in my business mastermind and how I am applying them to help me be more commited to your emotional healing. Come join me and let's go forward!

Join me today to learn what true confidence really is. Spoiler alert: it's not what you think! Plus, learn about the difference between confidence and false confidence and how pride is related to all of it. Plus, I tell you the exact formula to follow to start increasing your confidence! 

You are in luck!! I have turned my "Confident Sexuality Master Class" into an evergreen course that you can now access by clicking here! SImply sign up and you will automatically have access to all the replays from this last week! Plus, you can now check out other courses that I over by clicking here! 

We all feel insecure about some things. But our brain often takes it one step further and turns it into shame. In this episode I am going to go into what insecurity is, what shame is, how they are different, and how our brains often make our insecurities worse. Let's go deep on this one ladies! It's good!

Sometimes we don't give ourselves permission to feel emotions. Today, I am going over why we do this, what happens when we do it, and why it's so important to stop doing it. Your feelings are allowed. :) For more episodes on this topic, check out the Episode titled "Your Feelings Are Valid" and "Thoughts About Feelings". 

Come coach with me! I am coaching next week for 4 days and I would love to see you there! This will be a master class called Confident Sexuality where I will be teaching you how to overcome your physical insecurities and emotional guards so that you can show up to your intimate relationship with confidence. Sign up here today!

Insecurities are not personality traits that are unchangeable. They are a combination of thoughts and feelings that we can change. In our sexual relationship, there are 3 main areas where insecurities rise: physical insecurities, sexual insecurities, and insecurities around pornography. Today I am going to discuss what insecurites are, when they come up, the difference in these 3 areas, and how to change them for good. 

Come join me for my Confident Sexuality Master Class. Just in time for Valentine's Day, I am going to teach you how to conquer your physical insecurities and vulnerabilities so that you can finally begin feeling confident in your sexual relationship. Check out the details today and register so you don't miss it. 

I just got an email from a sweet follower and I want to share it with you. If your husband is addicted to sex and you are struggling with how it's affecting you and your sex life, this is for you.  I can help you. Come join me. 

How often should you have sex with your husband? Should he initiate or should you? Do you find yourself cringing at anything ultra feminine because it reminds you of pornography so instead you put on a baggy t shirt and pretend you're asleep? Today I am diving into the thoughts that we have about sexuality and why it's so important to become aware of them and how they are affecting your sexual relationship wtih your husband. 

If your sexual relationship with your husband is not where you want it to be, I want to invite you to come join me for a special Master Class I am hosting in February all about Confident Sexuality. This class is from February 13-16 just in time to make sure you have an unforgettable Valentine's Day. Get all the details and sign up today here!

How do you actually hit the goals you keep setting every year? How do you actually lose that same 10 lbs that has been on your list forever? In this episode I am walking you through the steps that you need to take in order to hit your tangible goals-whether that's going back to school, starting a business, losing weight, or writing a book. Whatever your goal is, today I am going to teach you how to hit it. 

Want help working through your goal and making a plan to hit it? I'd love to help you! Come join me for my Resolutions Master Class! This class is just $19 and it's 4 days of teaching and coaching to give you the one on one help you need in order to figure out what you want to achieve, what's in your way, and how to overcome each obstacle to ensure that you finally get the goal you want! Class is January 23-26!  Click here for full details and to register today!

Y'all ever known anybody who hoards things? Trinkets? Knick knacks? Furniture? Broken cars? Just in case they might need them later? Today I am going to introduce you to something I call emotional hoarding. Join me as I discuss what emotional hoarding is, why we do it, why we should stop, and what it could look like if we did. 

Come join me for my brand new Master Class: Resolutions from January 23-26! If you have some new year goals that you don't know how to hit or have something that you feel called to do but aren't sure how to get it done, I want to invite you to join me. In this class we are going to work through what you want and I am going to help you figure out exactly what's in your way and how to overcome it. Register today by clicking here. 

It's now 2023. So let's talk about resolutions. Trust me. It won't be what you think. 

What are you making room for? Too often we feel that we are emotionally at our wits end, and we are full of negative emotion that we've been carrying around for our entire lives. This is called emotional baggage. Sometimes we do this subconsciously, unaware that we are even doing this. And sometimes, we want it because it's familiar and we are afraid of what our lives would look like if we let it go. 

We often think that it's only possible to feel peace once we have gotten rid of the adversity. But today I am going to talk about how to feel peace IN adversity. I am going through a few tips to help you reframe the way you experience adversity and give you personal examples to help you apply it. I love you all! Merry Christmas!

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We often think that the emotion that we are unwilling to feel, the emotion that we are suppressing isn't affecting anyone but ourselves. And that's a lie. Today I want to introduce you to a concept I call the Ripple Effect. 

I want to invite you to come join me for a week of free coaching! This is my Merry Christmas gift to you and the last time I am doing this event for free! Sign up for Coach Week today through my website and come join us! 

Today Rob joined me on the podcast to talk about what it's like when you are in the thick of it. We share about an experience we have had over the last few weeks and tips that have helped us work through it individually and as a couple. The truth is, you have to go through the suck to come out on the other side and have the relationship you want to have. We are going to show you how. 

Come join me for Coach Week! Join me for a week of free coaching and get all your questions answered! Sign up today through my website!

Sometimes we need to mourn. Sometimes we need to allow ourselves to process grief. But grief and despair are two different things and in this episode I am going to talk about what those differences are and when it's important to allow grief to be processed.

Sometimes we have sneaky thoughts. Thoughts that sound really nice and pretty. Thoughts that seem like they're positive. But they're not. Today I am going to teach you how to recognize these thoughts, why it's important to see them, and go through examples of them so you can begin to see them in your own mind. 

With the holidays coming up, I wanted to help you with a few thoughts on how to get through them. Join me today as I give you a few tips and help you apply concepts you've already learned in how to interact with you family to hopefully make it the best holiday season yet!

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Have you ever thought that you are back at square one? Or maybe that you should be farther along in your healing than you are? Or perhaps you have thought that the pain you are feeling is so much worse because of how long your husband has been hurting you? Today, that's what I'm going to talk about. I'm going to discuss the way we think about timelines and why it's important to start letting that all go. 

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Do you trust yourself to make good decisions? What actually makes a decision good? Today I am going to talk about self trust and why it's so important to understand-especially when you are struggling with trusting someone else. 

If you want to learn how to apply this concept in a deeper way, go check out my How To Trust Master Class and get access to all my teaching and coachign on trusting your husband and trusting yourself. 

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Oftentimes, we aren't even aware that we are feeling distrust because it is masquerading as anxiety. These two emotions are very similar and today I am going to talk about what these emotions feel like, why we feel them, and why it's so important to differentiate between the two (and how to do it!). 

If you are struggling with trusting your husband, come join me for my "How To Trust" Master Class! I will teach you what trust is (and isn't!), the roadblocks we have to trust, how to start trusting your husband again, and the secret to trusting that we often forget! Get all the details here and sign up today!

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Today I am sharing an advanced concept that I taught this last week at my Go Forward Retreat in Nashville. I am going to teach you about what transactional and transformational relationships are, what the difference is, and why it's so important and powerful to shift into transformational relationships-especially with yourself! 

If you are struggling with trusting your husband, I want to invite you to join my How To Trust Master Class next week! From October 24-27 I am going to teach you what trust really is, the lies we believe about trust, and how to put yourself back in control of the trust in your relationship (rather than leaving it at the mercy of his actions). Sign up here today!

Worry feels really important. Our brains think that worrying about something means that we care about it. But what if that's not true? Today I am going to dive into why we worry, why it isn't useful, and how to stop  yourself from worrying! 

Do you struggle to trust your husband? Do you want to trust him but find that you just don't and you're not sure why? Are you tired of trusting him only to have him do something that completely changes your feelings about him all over again? If this is the case for you, I want to invite you to come to my "How To Trust" Master Class. From October 24-27 I am going to teach you all about how to solve the trust issue in your marriage and put trust back in your control. Get all the details and sign up here today!

Do you ever feel like you are alone in whatever you are struggling with? Maybe it's your husband's pornography addiction but maybe it's your weight or your self improvement or maybe it's you wanting to start your own business or go back to school...there are so many things that we struggle with that we feel alone about. And today, I am going to talk to you about the importance of teaching your brain that you are not alone and the most powerful way to make that happen. 

Did you know you're not your body or your thoughts? I know. It seems a little weird. But you are actually your soul. And just as your body and your mind need nourishment and attention, your soul does too. In fact, it requires even more of it. And yet we tend to ignore it. Today I'm going to discuss why it's important to take care of your soul, what your soul truly is, and offer a challenge to begin changing your life. 

If your soul is ready to go to Nashville and change your life, reserve your spot today! There are just a few spots left and we are going to begin a transformation into who you want to be in just 3 short days. I can't wait to see you there! 

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Do you ever think that you never would've chosen this? That, had you known about his pornography problem before you got married that you never would've said yes? If you have ever had those kinds of thoughts before, you are not alone. This is super common and something I want to address today! 

If you want to coach with me one on one, come join me in Nashville. I am hosting an in person exclusive coaching experience and I want to invite you to come. Spots are limited and will sell out so get your spot reserved today.