What Healthy Couples Know That You Don't: Relationship Advice and Respect

There are some emotions we talk about all the time, and then there are emotions we quietly tuck away because we're not proud of them. Envy is one of those emotions. We rarely admit it, rarely examine it, and almost never talk about it honestly. Yet it may be one of the most revealing emotions we experience. While jealousy has become a common topic in relationships, envy usually remains hidden, almost as if acknowledging it would make us a bad person.

Relationships help us grow up. That's one of the things I love about them, even though sometimes it's also one of the things we like the least. Our relationships hold up a mirror to us. They show us where we're generous and where we're selfish, where we're patient and where we're defensive, where we're good listeners and where we're already preparing our rebuttal before the other person has finished talking. And it's so much easier to point the finger at someone else.

Have you ever looked at your relationships and thought, why do I keep ending up here? Maybe you keep choosing emotionally unavailable people. Maybe you become the caretaker, the pursuer, the one who works harder to make the relationship work. Maybe you recognize the pattern while you're in it and still can't seem to stop repeating it. What if some of the patterns you think are simply bad choices are actually old coping strategies that once helped you survive pain? Trauma doesn't always announce itself as trauma. Sometimes it looks like the person you're attracted to. The way you respond when someone pulls away, the amount of rejection you can tolerate.

What if being emotionally overwhelmed isn't a character flaw—and learning to regulate yourself isn't about becoming someone who never gets upset? What if self-regulation is simply learning how to find your footing again when life knocks you off balance? That's what makes self-regulation so important for our relationships and our own well-being. It is the internal ability to notice and manage our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors, but more importantly, it reminds us that we have choices even when it feels like we don't.

Have you ever wondered why some people seem to grow through life's hardest experiences while others stay stuck repeating the same painful patterns? Most of us want healthier relationships, greater peace, and a stronger sense of purpose, but wanting change and creating change are two very different things. The truth is that transformation rarely begins with learning one more communication skill. It begins with the courage to be honest with ourselves.

Shame is one of the most powerful human emotions. It can quietly influence the choices we make, the relationships we create, the risks we take, and even the way we talk to ourselves when no one else is listening. Unlike guilt, which says "I did something wrong," shame can leave us feeling like "something is wrong with me." And that belief can become a heavy burden to carry.

Have you ever found yourself thinking, "Here we go again," as you and your partner repeat the very same argument, hurt feelings, or misunderstandings? Most couples don't struggle because they don't love each other—they struggle because they're caught in relationship patterns they don't even realize they're repeating. The good news is that patterns can be changed.

What if the biggest threat to your relationship isn't another person—but a machine that's designed to understand you perfectly? In 2025, more than 300 AI companion apps were available, and the rise of AI relationships is accelerating far faster than most people realize. One study from the Institute for Family Studies found that roughly one in seven adults between the ages of 18 and 30 who were dating, engaged, or married reported having an AI companion. This isn't science fiction anymore—it's reshaping how people seek connection, intimacy, and even love.

Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of others, acting as a cornerstone for meaningful relationships. It allows individuals to connect on a deeper emotional level, facilitating better communication and mutual respect. By stepping into another person's shoes, we gain insight into their experiences, thoughts, and emotions. Yet we seem to be losing our ability to have empathy for others, getting lost in being self-absorbed & scrolling.

If you or someone you love is navigating chronic illness inside a relationship, this episode is for you. And even if you're not personally facing a health challenge right now, this conversation matters because at some point, almost every relationship will encounter stress, illness, aging, loss, or caregiving in some form. The question is not whether challenges will come — it's how we learn to face them together while protecting the relationship itself.

Most people don't enter relationships intending to sabotage them. They come in hopeful, open, and often deeply ready for connection. But beneath that readiness is a quiet architecture—unspoken expectations, emotional needs we may not fully understand, and a version of love shaped more by imagination than reality. Over time, that architecture can start to strain the relationship itself.

Personality disorders represent a complex and often misunderstood realm of mental health. Characterized by repeating patterns of behavior, cognition, and inner experience, these disorders can significantly influence how an individual perceives themselves and interacts with others. Understanding these disorders is critical, especially when navigating difficult relationships with those affected. This interview aims to shed light on personality disorders, offering insights that can improve understanding and communication.

Desire doesn't disappear because love is gone—it often gets buried under mental load, weariness or unspoken resentments.Sex is one of the most common areas where couples quietly struggle—and one of the least openly discussed. Improving your sex life often has less to do with technique and more to do with context. Careers are demanding, parenting is exhausting, bodies are changing, and emotional bandwidth can feel limited.

In this episode, we dive deep into essential relationship advice by exploring how improving your persuasion and negotiation skills can lead to healthier relationships. Many people misunderstand these skills as manipulative tactics, but in reality, they are grounded in respect, empathy, and clear communication. Whether you're navigating tough relationship questions or seeking ways to strengthen trust, mastering these abilities allows you to express your needs while honoring your partner's perspective. Discover how genuine persuasion, when practiced authentically, can support lasting bonds and mutual understanding in your relationships.

Navigating relationships can be both incredibly rewarding and deeply challenging. In this episode, we dive into essential relationship advice to help you build and maintain healthy relationships. We'll explore the complex issues of infidelity, codependence, and effective communication, offering insights and strategies to heal and strengthen your bonds. Whether you're facing obstacles or simply want to deepen your connection, this episode provides actionable lessons on respect, trust, and repair. Join us as we uncover the keys to lasting love and the foundation of truly healthy relationships.

Ever felt like you're running in place? Like no matter how hard you push, life just… won't budge? Maybe you're doing all the "right" things—showing up & working hard, but deep down, there's this nagging feeling that you're stuck. There are a million ways to be stuck; in dating going nowhere, in a boring relationship, in loneliness, in worries about your job because it doesn't excite you, in stress about your 401K, or in despair & unable to get off the couch. Today we are going to explore how to get unstuck, a topic everyone can benefit from!

Emotional vulnerability is a cornerstone of healthy relationships, yet many people struggle with opening up due to fear and past hurt. In this episode, we dive deep into why sharing your inner world is vital for building trust, respect, and meaningful connections. Whether you have questions about relationship challenges or want practical relationship advice, understanding vulnerability can transform how you relate to your partner. Tune in as we explore research-backed insights to help you foster intimacy and deeper connection in your relationships.

Understanding the power of your brain is essential for fostering healthy relationships and overall mental health. Most of us move through our days reacting—reacting to stress, to others, to our own emotions—without ever stopping to consider the organ running the entire show. Your brain is not just a background system keeping you alive; it is the command center you can improve, shaping how you feel, how you connect, and how you make sense of the world around you.

Anger is a complicated emotion for all of us. Many of us have seen how anger can become the default emotion for frustration, fear, shame, or helplessness. Anger is probably most often used to hide vulnerability which is crucial to making relationships work. In this episode, we dive into the connection between men's anger and vulnerability, uncovering how these feelings influence relationship dynamics. If you're looking for relationship advice on how to better understand and manage difficult emotions, this episode provides valuable insights.

Have we begun to be so overly sensitive that we protect ourselves with Therapy Speak and love to wrap ourselves up in self-righteous accusations that point the finger…You are a narcissist, You are gaslighting me or You are love bombing me. It's certainly a comfort to grab onto these labels. It's exactly that comfort that feeds our own denial of how we also play a part in the problems. It feeds our love of blame.

Recovery can be very difficult because of shame. Shame is an obstacle to healing for everybody. How can you face hard truths about your own dark side without drowning in the shame? Partners can learn how to not add to the stranglehold of shame that stomps on the soul of their partner & wiggle up to the wall of denial to restore hope.

Self-awareness is both a blessing and a curse. It is a blessing because it improves who you are down to your very core. It is a curse because it is so hard to do the work of facing up to your own dark side. All of us are so good at pretending we are better than who we are, because it's hard to look at our selfishness, greed, anger or dark side. When someone lacks self-awareness, it is far more difficult to have success in relationships.

Joy is more than fleeting happiness; it's a deeper,sustaining energy that gives our lives vitality and meaning.While happiness often depends on circumstances, joy is something we can cultivate, even amid stress, uncertainty, or conflict. It's the quiet undercurrent that helps us bounce back from hard days and reconnect. The more we allow joy in, the more it softens our relationships. Today we will explore practical ways to expand joy.

Today we're talking about emotional regulation and understanding emotional triggers, and how those two pieces can completely change the way we connect with each other. Communication is the backbone of any healthy relationship—but it's not just what we say, it's how we show up emotionally when we say it. Many of our most challenging conversations aren't actually about the surface issue—like the dishes, the lateness, or the tone. They're about the emotional reactions happening underneath.

Anger can be a huge problem in relationships. This episode asks what's important about anger management for relationships? Anger can be incredibly self absorbed & ugly. It's easy to fall down the rabbit hole of "I'm right" & needing to win. We all want the power to control & be the Top Dog. So listen to this episode to learn how to reign it in. Interview with Matthew Plotner.

Infidelity is complicated & difficult to heal from. Dr Spring wrote the first book that defines infidelity as a loss of trust & a shattering of the self. The person who has been betrayed struggles to recapture their sense of themselves. The partner who had the affair needs to listen non-defensively, without interruption to the profound level of hurt. Quick apologies are not going to solve this for the person who is hurt & feels their life has blown up. Listen to learn what does work.

Date to learn more about yourself. Don't stay in the safety of passivity, watching who they are. Dates can be practice to grow. Think of "every intimate partnership as a classroom in which I can learn again and again about myself, about commitment, about integrity, about authenticity, forgiveness & about apology." Quote & Interview with Dr.Solomon

Misery can so easily build in any relationship. Misery zaps your energy to think & it's easy to indulge your sad feelings. The two of you as a couple can fall to the bottom of your priority list. The misery usually spills over into bickering & fighting with each other because we don't kick the neighbor's dog, we kick each other.

Learn how fights can be turned into recovery and intimate conversations. In your fighting there are clues to what you are really suffering from that you have not been able to confide in your partner. Interview with Dan Wile who says "The heart of a couple relationship is saying what you need to say & feeling that it has gotten across. It is having conversations that work out."

There are many lopsided relationships where one person is catered to & the other partner is what I call overly generous. Partners like to be the nice one but getting stuck in the niceness can evolve into a giant hidden pile of resentments. There is a price to be paid for too much kindness, you can lose track of who you are because you are so busy pleasing others.

Sexuality can be a complicated business, very different from how easy it is on television. Interview with Emily Nagoski the author of Come As You Are.Find out what to do about low desire. Most problems with orgasm occur because frustration does not add fuel to the accelerator. In fact, Frustration hits the brakes in sex. Learn here how to improve your context to improve desire.

Love matters so much to people, how it goes wrong & how to put it right. Emotionally Focused Therapy is based on thousands of studies on human attachment, it basically gives us a way of understanding love. It's scary to reach for your partner and expose your softer feelings, because we're all scared of rejection and that's not because we're wimps or immature. It's because we're bonding mammals and our brains are wired to see cues of abandonment and rejection from the people we care about as danger cues, which makes it really difficult for people to be authentic in relationships.

Codependency is a murky business. Codependency is always a part of the beginnings of every love affair. The beginnings are so enchanting for all of us. Your partner can do no wrong, they are absolutely brilliant. Codependency is a part of love & yet it can swallow love whole & make it disappear. Emotional dependency can be a healthy activity & a part of a healthy relationship as long as both partners are still individuals.

Partnerships & Marriage really require a lot from both people. Partnership demands that both people share their points of view & that we must reshape our own personal reality to be more accurate. This is truly very hard work because part of being human is favoring our own point of view. Yet, deep inside we know a single narrative cannot contain anything as complex as the truth.

A Top Dog relationship means you participate in a hierarchy of power by either swallowing & ignoring your more authentic self or by enjoying the role of being manipulatively in charge with your demands being met. The narrative of every couple must be written by two people, not one to have authenticity.

It's so easy to start taking each other for granted. We develop habits of how we see each other & we make assumptions instead of being curious. When we don't feel seen it's really a big deal & we end up hungry. This definitely happens as the years pass & it's your job to freshen things up. It is beyond foolish to imagine you will never be disappointed in your partner because they are so wonderful & you miss being saturated in romantic love. We all have ideas of who we want to be & who we expect our loved ones to be. But that's just it; they are only ideas, mostly built on fantasies & illusions.

Couples stuck in ambivalence are secretly in love with maintaining the status quo. Not being wholehearted about either improvement or leaving, erases so many missed opportunities. Living with a constant level of unhappiness and resentments is like living with malaria. You can do the work to repair & restore vitality to your relationship. Listen for 11 things you can do.

Power struggles in relationships are totally ordinary & daily. Things can work in a couple where power is somewhat lopsided, but it will be boring & predictable if one person has all the power to make decisions most of the time. Sharing power is a dance in the messiness that is worth it to reduce arguments & fighting.

Too many relationships have an over developed sense of the critic, was pointed out in this interview with Dr. Joseph Melnick. It's easy to blame & tell people what they're doing wrong. Instead of telling each other about what's wrong, we need to restore trust with a curiosity about each other. He describes what he calls "cardboard relationships" that are like paintings you don't look at any more. In the beginnings of relationships it's so easy to be open & experimental. Then couples seem to lose interest in each other because routines can be deadening. Staying together requires work & learning new skills, to understand how you stop being interested in your partner.

Being insecure is something everybody struggles with. Insecurities are easily fed by fears when we believe we are misunderstood. Being insecure tests even the best of us. Insecurities can keep people trapped in emotionally masochistic relationships. Facing how we are unlovable can help us grow & change.

We arrive in this world with very few skills to help us navigate relationships. It takes a few decades just to understand ourselves much less anybody else. I think long term loving requires that we give each other the benefit of the doubt. We all begin a bit too stingy & full of self interest.

As we live our lives, we all experience loss, change and transition.

While we all know the grief associated with change, each grief looks and feels a little different. And, everyone grieves differently.

As you work through the losses, changes and transitions in your life you'll find it's helpful to be patient and gentle with yourself, because it's not easy and it takes time.

The face of hope may change as you grieve. Hold it in your heart; keep it alive because you won't always feel as bad as you do when your grief is fresh.

Interview with Dr. Patricia Papernow, in her fourth decade working with blended families. Blended families are complicated, where adults may be thrilled to find a new love, children may experience that as a turning away from them. Loyalty Binds can create problems, which may work out better with a slower pace.

In relationships we take the easy way out a lot. We lie & tell people what they want to hear instead of truth. We silently stash resentments & get divorced. We decide sex is a chore we don't want to be bothered with. We dump our insecurities on each other to fix instead of fixing them ourselves. We let our anxieties run rampant & spill all over our partners instead of trying to learn how to self soothe. We tolerate disrespect & sometimes contempt instead of asking our partner to course correct. These are all negative patterns that lead to disconnection.

Personality Disorders are difficult in relationships because they have massive power through manipulation. So if you are in a relationship with a personality disorder, You must figure out how you give up your own power. You must learn how you participate in the dysfunction. It doesn't happen alone, it happens with you.

Boring relationships sneak upon us. It's easy to make excuses, we're too tired after work or busy with the kids. Relationships require work to keep them fresh. You have to be committed to trying new things out. The opposite of boring is being creative.The brain loves novelty so it's really important to explore & experience something new.

Trust means we give up our inclination to exaggerate our wounds out of self interest. We can be very self righteous which creates a distorted picture of what happened. We harden ourselves & adore our own expectations of how things should be in a relationship. The opposite of all this disconnecting energy is to soften and imagine the value of your partner's point of view.

Interview with Marcia Turbiner Ph.D who describes the need to have a relationship with yourself in order to make relationships work. She offers a way to think about what is NOT ME and what is ME. You have to begin to understand how to take care of yourself to develop a solid sense of self. When you see yourself as an individual you will see the other more clearly.

Learn how to think about your relationship in 3 parts, why blame is immature and why being a separate individual keeps a partnership more solid. Consider how sacrifice, respect, going to bed angry and not playing games is crucial for relationship longevity.

Too many people live with contempt in their relationships. Contempt is a power play that leads to loneliness. When ugliness layers & layers over time it becomes ordinary. When contempt is an ordinary activity instead of an unusual one, that's a BIG problem. Contempt is a tango for two.

If you are too lopsided in people-pleasing it will lead you to erase too much of who you are and what you want, this will begin the silent path of stock piling resentments. It's important to the health of the relationship to tell the truth to each other.

Relationships all begin with fantasy & illusions. We have absolutely no idea who somebody else really is but we make it up because we are in love. Fantasy is a flimsy beginning & contentment can be hard to achieve.

Anger soaked in alcohol or contempt can easily destroy relationships. Anger management is a tough skill to learn instead of the ease of blame. Learn here how to interrupt anger to have a healthy relationship.

Relationships require a lot of growing up, a lot of facing your own dark side. Facing hard realities helps relationships. I believe real love is about deciding to do the work of being a better person, to risk change. It is not possible to grow & be comfortable at the same time. If you embrace change you have to be willing to be uncomfortable.

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Everyone arrives at couples therapy talking about Communication Problems?? What lies beneath communication problems in relationships? Listen here to learn more.

Dating is often painful because the person who loves the least has the most power. Are you overly generous? Listen to learn about relationships that are too lopsided.

Relationship survival is something people should be able to learn more about in College. It's one of the best parts of life, yet it is a mystery to most people. Listen to learn the primary secret to success!

Couples have to evolve over time. Evolving as a Team means that the two of you together solve the puzzle of your strengths & weaknesses & how they can work together. Of all the Couples you know, how many are actually a team?

What can help with the annoyances over differences when love & idealization wear off? You have to learn to respect the differences which is work, instead of pretending things aren’t that bad. Read more at: therapy ideas.net

Drama is about manipulation. Manipulation is about winning, not truth. The brilliance of O.J’s lawyers was all about flipping him from the persecutor into the blameless victim & asking the jury to rescue him which is illustrated in the fine FX show.

Manipulation is the core of the Drama Triangle. This game creates confusion & upset, not solutions or a path to truth. Denial is a huge part in the role of Rescuer.Drama is all about power & winning.

If you recognize your own dark side you will be a better candidate for love & relationships. It’s important to recognize our part in problems instead of taking comfort in blame.

Deep down we all want people to be like ourselves, then it would be oh, so much easier. Love can easily disintegrate into this unspoken demand that you should be more like me.

How do you approach hard topics in a relationship? You will learn 4 specific ways to communicate about problems. It’s important to dialogue not have parallel monologues.

Obsessiveness can crowd & suffocate the other partner. Obsessiveness is because of anxiety. Obsessive people can be full of “shoulds” & being correct which can lead to self-righteousness.

Season 2 of The Affair on Showtime is rich with the emotional truths about the delicate & complicated dance of connections & disconnections in relationships.

Relationships disintegrate too often after recovery from addictions. Learn how to avoid triggering shame in the partner in recovery to have greater success.

Drama triangles are often a source of manipulation in relationships. If you want to be loved no matter what or prevent disagreement then you are manipulating.

Manipulation requires both the manipulated & the manipulator. Both play their part. Listen to understand the dynamics of emotional manipulation since everybody manipulates to get what they want.

Communication builds on trust. Avoiding important conversations evaporates trust. Trust builds on Truth.

What lies underneath communication problems are power struggles. Someone has to win, someone has to lose.

To fight better learn to acknowledge two points of view, how to be vulnerable & more respectful.

Partners stop having sex & don’t even talk about it. This episode explores why sex is missing in relationships.

Codependence means one partner has lost track of who they are which creates lopsided relationships.

You will find out why never fighting is a problem & how to have an argument that gets somewhere.

Can a relationship survive broken trust? Listen to learn about remorse, dishonesty & respect. Contempt destroys relationships.

Romantic love creates unreasonable expectations. In this episode I'll show you how to fix that & stop making yourself miserable.

Does your relationship involve S & M? Too often couples hold each other hostage in unhealthy patterns. Learn what to do instead.

There is more to dealing with affairs than just blame. In this episode I will show you how affairs are a window into problems in the relationship.

There is an emotional toll to chronic negativity. Constant criticism or defensiveness doesn't just chip away at trust—it creates emotional distance. Partners start protecting themselves rather than reaching for each other, and intimacy suffers. Every couple experiences tension, disagreements, and frustrations, but when negativity becomes the main storyline, love starts to get buried under criticism, defensiveness, and resentments.

When life feels heavy, uncertain, or overwhelming, hope can feel like a lifeline. Hope isn't just wishful thinking — it's an emotional force that adds meaning to our life! It's the quiet but powerful belief that things can improve, challenges can be faced and that growth is possible. If you've ever wondered how to keep moving forward when things feel stuck, or how to reignite the spark of possibility in your relationship, this conversation is for you.

Don't ignore your sex life, it's too easy for sex to slide to the bottom of the priority list. Relationship health improves when there is an active sex life. Whether you're struggling to get back in sync with your partner or simply curious about how to keep the spark alive after kids, this conversation will give you practical tips and hopeful reminders that love and desire can thrive in every season of parenthood.

Trust is the foundation a healthy relationship builds on because it creates a sense of safety between partners. Trust is when both people can be open and vulnerable especially in uncertainty. Trust is a big deal that requires some skills that we will learn more about today. Trust leads to individuals feeling seen, heard, and valued for who they truly are. Trust builds resilience that can withstand all the challenges life throws at us.

Today we are going to deal with that voice in all of our heads- the one that judges, doubts, second-guesses, and compares. It tells us we're not doing enough, we're not good enough, or we're not parenting the right way. That voice, often called the inner critic, is oh so relentless. Even casual external criticism, easily fuels this voice that lives in our heads 24/7.

If you've been feeling a bit disconnected, imbalanced, or just unsure of how to get back in sync with your partner—this episode is for you. Let's explore how to make "Team Us" not just a nice idea, but a reality you live in your relationship. Whether you've been together for 3 years or fifty, keeping your relationship on the same page takes more than love—it takes intention, collaboration, and the ongoing decision to show up as a team.

Today we're talking about the family stories that don't always get told—Family estrangement is one of those deeply personal experiences that often lives in the shadows—unspoken, misunderstood, and emotionally charged. While we may see stories of reconciliation in movies or TV shows, real life is far messier. People are walking around carrying the weight of broken ties with parents, siblings, or even their own children—and many of them feel very isolated in that pain & shame.

Real connecting with another person requires attention. In a world with so much going on, we often end up easily distracted by our fears & negative thoughts. We too quickly rise to defensiveness which builds a wall, instead of being open to understanding the differences we have with somebody else. Just because we love somebody doesn't meant mean we pay enough attention in the moment.

Divorce doesn't have to be a battlefield. In this episode, we explore the growing popularity of divorce mediation: why so many couples are turning to it, what it can save you emotionally and financially, and when it might backfire. From power imbalances to hidden agendas, we'll unpack the pros and cons of sitting down at the table instead of standing before a judge. This conversation pulls back the curtain on what works—and what doesn't—when love ends and legal agreements begin.

So it's been decades of doing life together—raising kids, building careers, caring for aging parents—it's no wonder your relationship might feel like it's been on autopilot. Beneath the surface of routine and responsibility, there's still something worthwhile waiting to be rediscovered. Today, we're talking about how to breathe life back into a long-term relationship and create a second marriage with the same person—one that's deeper, more emotionally connected, and aligned with who you are now.

Investing in your own love story is one of the most empowering decisions you can make. It means choosing to be intentional about how you love and how you show up in that love. When you prioritize your own relationship, you're not just hoping for a fairy tale ending—you're becoming the author, editor, and leading character. This shift from passive participation to active creation is what sets apart relationships that grow & thrive

Resentments are part of all long-term relationships because there are two imperfect people rubbing shoulders day in and day out. Inevitably feelings get hurt & needs are not going to be met. We're not trained on how to handle that well, so we do it poorly. We either stuff it or are passive aggressive, then we wall ourselves & nothing else goes well.

There have been a lot of experiments on my path to becoming a therapist over the last 40 years. And I am celebrating a decade of podcasting in April of 2025. Making uncertainty bearable in order to take risks, experimenting with choices and exploring is the best path to find your best life. My podcast isn't about changing the essence of who you are. It's about becoming more whole, adding to your abilities not subtracting them

Today we tackle one of the most painful and challenging experiences anyone can face in a relationship—infidelity. If you've found yourself navigating the emotional turmoil that comes with betrayal, you're not alone. Infidelity shakes up the very foundation of trust & turns the world upside down. We'll dive into the complexities of infidelity and how to start the process of recovery, whether you're the one betrayed or the one who broke the trust.

We're diving into one of the most challenging yet crucial aspects of any relationship, managing money. If you are sharing finances with someone, financial struggles are bound to come up at some point. Money touches almost every part of our lives. And when couples aren't on the same page about how to manage it, stress can quickly build.

Couples never fighting, means at least one person is catering too much by swallowing their disagreement, which makes things so not interesting. So it may have the appearance of constant joy, but underneath, unspoken resentments are piling up because pretending the differences are not there doesn't work over the long haul. Listen & learn how to make conflict be respectful and not destructive.

Growth in love requires openness to change, the willingness to challenge old patterns, and the courage to embrace transformation in the pursuit of something greater. It is the conscious effort to evolve together that truly sustains a relationship. Relationships flourish when both partners take accountability seriously.

Trust is basic to the infrastructure of every relationship. Trust goes beyond simple honesty. Trust opens the doors to vulnerability & deeper intimacy. Trust means we are able to share our deepest fears, dreams & our true selves which leads to stronger connections that stand the test of time.

Dating can be exhausting. Meeting people & dating is a messy business. We humans desire connection so let's improve your odds for success with online dating. Dating can be confusing with so many choices, the search for a partner can feel like an endless series of trial & error. It can leave you wondering if the right person will ever show up!