A Love Language Minute

Research shows that fathers spend practically no time talking with their children. And this is true of Christian fathers as well. The lack of meaningful conversation will lead to unhealthy families.

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Scripture commands children to honor their parents. If children refuse to obey their parents, they'll never honor them.

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A wife should be very concerned if her husband is texting other women. A husband who thinks he has this behavior under control is playing with fire and is putting his marriage in jeopardy.

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An angry husband needs to understand where his anger is coming from. Dr. Gary Chapman's book, Anger - Handling a Powerful Emotion in a Healthy Way, is an effective tool to help him manage his anger.

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Scripture says, "without a vision, the people perish". Nowhere is that more true than in family life. It's essential that a couple have a clear Biblical picture of what a healthy family looks like.

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Loving your spouse is costly. Loving and serving your spouse should take priority over fulfilling your own desires.

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The key to a healthy family is an attitude of service. Remember, Jesus said, "I didn't come to be served but to serve". If a husband and wife begin serving each other, it won't take long for the children to get the idea that life is about serving others.

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Some married couples can't agree on how much to tithe. They should begin by studying what the Bible teaches about tithing, agree to meet in the middle, then begin working toward God's ideal of tithing.

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It's not unusual for married couples to lose that "in love" feeling over time. It's not a matter of you being "in love" but rather choosing to love. Scripture commands husbands and wives to love each other. Love may not come naturally, but it's something that can be learned.

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In his book The Family You've Always Wanted, Dr. Gary Chapman provides practical help on how to be a loving leader in the home. Following the example of Jesus, Christian leadership focuses on meeting the needs of the wife and children.

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If spouses would commit to reading Scripture and praying together, the church would become the Church, not just on Sunday.

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Teaching your children obedience doesn't have to be difficult. Begin by stating the rule clearly, then state clearly what the consequences will be if the rule is disobeyed. If consequences are to be administered, do it kindly but firmly.

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How can you stay connected with your spouse when your life is too busy? Step one is making sure you're speaking your spouse's love language. Then, give your marital relationship priority over anything else.

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There are very few hurts that are deeper than the hurt of a divorce. There are many very helpful resources for divorce recovery.

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Teaching and Training don't mean the same thing. Teaching emphasizes words, while training focuses on actions.

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It's crucial that we make our Christianity work first in our families. If our Christianity doesn't work in our families, it won't work outside of our families.

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So much of our lives is influenced by our childhood. Sharing those memories with your spouse builds intimacy.

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Arguing with your spouse during the first few years of your marriage is not unusual. But if discord persists, it would be wise to seek counseling.

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Dr. Gary Chapman provides some strategies to help you get your husband to read The 5 Love Languages book.

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There are many dysfunctional families, but what does a healthy family look like? In Dr. Gary Chapman's book, The Family You've Always Wanted, you'll learn the 5 signs of a healthy family.

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The greatest value you can place on a relationship is to invest in people rather than things.

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The loudest way of expressing love to your child is by speaking to them in their love language.

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If your wife develops an emotional bond with someone in the work place, it will definitely weaken your marital bond. She'll need to reaffirm her commitment to your relationship and set boundaries on how she interacts with others.

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Your love language doesn't change during the time you're dating or after your marriage. But with the arrival of children, there'll be a season where your affection might be directed more to your child than to your spouse.

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Any gift you give to your child, whether it's a necessity or a luxury, should be an expression of your love for them.

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Satan does everything he can to destroy relationships. This is because he opposes God's desire that we would have strong relationship with God and others.

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There are 5 love languages, but is there a universal love language? Gift-giving is the universal love language, but giving a gift should be an expression of love that is freely given with no strings attached.

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Why should couples take the 5 Love Languages quiz? The 5 Love Languages profile is simply a tool for couples to understand each other - particularly at the point of how to express love to each other.

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Your husband's love language is quality time, but he's too busy with work to spend time with you. If his love language is truly quality time, he'll have to decide what's most important to him and adjust how much time he devotes you.

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Although all children seem to value receiving gifts, not all children possess the love language of gift-giving. But the child whose love language is gift-giving will feel loved when given gifts.

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Often times, couples have differing political views. But if each spouse has some level of maturity, they can express their viewpoint while giving the other the freedom to express theirs.

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Does your child feel loved? Research shows that children who feel loved fare better in life than those who do not.

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How can you get your spouse to read The 5 Love Languages? One approach might be to ask them if they would agree to read at least the first chapter. If they're still resistant, don't push it further. But make it a priority to clearly speak their love language.

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It is essential for couples to draw lines on physical affection before marriage.

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If your spouse has a controlling personality, it's quite likely you don't have an intimate marriage. It can be helpful to agree with the premise of their arguments, but not with their conclusions.

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If you're going to build good family relationships, you'll to need to invest time in prayer for your family.

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Controlling spouses are difficult to live with. While there can be an upside to living with a controlling spouse, it can also result in the other spouse feeling belittled and devalued.

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Is it possible to change your love language? Our primary love language never changes, but we can choose to learn to speak other love languages to the people with whom we relate.

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Young couples often move in with their in-laws due to financial challenges. While this may work for a while, guidelines and deadlines need to be discussed at the very beginning.

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Struggling marriages today are often a result of parents poorly modeling marriage during their children's formative years.

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Can the 5 love languages be a solution to world peace? The 5 love languages are fundamental to human nature, regardless of cultural differences. Imagine if everyone in the world would speak each other's love language. The world would be a radically different place.

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What is a desperate marriage? It's when one spouse is involved in a lifestyle that is extremely detrimental to the relationship. Dr. Gary Chapman has written a book titled Desperate Marriages that addresses this issue.

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Military deployment makes maintaining your relationship with your spouse difficult. Dr. Gary Chapman offers a creative way for you to walk "hand in hand".

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Your husband has left you. Is there hope for your marriage? There's always hope for reconciliation. But the process of reconciliation might need to begin with you acknowledging that there have been failures on your part.

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Women often recoil when hearing the Scriptural mandate for wives to submit to their husbands. What's often missed is that both husbands and wives are to submit to each other. This calls for an attitude of service.

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The best way to build spiritual intimacy in your marriage is to pray and read the Bible together.

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Many contemporary Christians reject the concept of male leadership in the home. This is because there's a misunderstanding of Biblical headship.

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She's Catholic. You're an Evangelical Christian. Which route will you both take when united in marriage? This issue needs to be discussed and resolved before marriage.

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You're not a virgin anymore. Should you bring this up with your partner? Honesty is always the best policy. You should bring this up before marriage.

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The head of the husband is Christ, and the head of the wife is the husband. There is perfect unity and equality between the husband and wife; but their roles are different.

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Spiritual discernment requires that we examine whether or not a concept, command or action is clearly taught in scripture.

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God's design for marriage is that the husband should be the head of the wife; but it's one of the most exploited concepts in the Bible. Instead of the husband lording his authority over his wife, he must follow the example of Christ's headship over the Church - through sacrifice and service.

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How can a wife encourage her husband to put more effort into their marriage? Before she confronts her husband, she should begin by acknowledging her own failures. Then, speaking his love language, she should ask if he'd be willing to put some extra effort into their marriage.

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Can your "in-love" experience as an engaged couple run out before you get married? If you've been dating for more than two years, you can often come down off of that initial in-love high. This is a good opportunity to assess whether or not you're truly in love.

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Most counselors agree that one of the greatest problems in marriage is decision-making. When a couple doesn't agree with each other, it leads to deadlock. Find out how to break the deadlock on the next edition of A Love Language Minute.

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Men need to hold each other accountable. Accountability groups in a church provide men with ways to challenge each other to spiritual growth.

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We're all busy - sometimes too busy to listen. Listening is the only way  that you will understand your spouse's thoughts and feelings.

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At what point do you say enough is enough when you're the victim of domestic abuse? Any physical abuse must be stopped immediately. Tough love requires communicating to the abuser that there will be consequences if the abuse doesn't stop.

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Is it possible for your spouse to have more than one love language? If they do, you'll have more avenues in which to express your love to them!

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Marital conflicts will never be resolved if a couple doesn't learn to listen to each other.

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What makes a man feel loved? By communicating your love to him in his love language.

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Rigidity in a marriage can lead to arguments. Arguments occur when one spouse insist on getting their way.

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What do you do when your spouse has filed for divorce? If your desire is to restore your relationship, listen to them. Ask them what lead them to this place.

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Sometimes it seems it's impossible to fill your spouse's love tank, even when you speak their love language. Ask your spouse what you could do to better express your love for them.

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It's vitally important that we resolve conflicts in our marriage because it will produce barriers to marital unity if the issues are not addressed.

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Love in a marriage is the attitude that says "I'm committed to enhancing your life for the rest of our lives". That means loving your spouse, even if there are things you can never change about them.

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What's so bad about arguing? Arguments are always charged with emotion. Arguments can turn spouses into enemies.

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Not dealing with past addictions will hurt your relationship with your future spouse.

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Learn how to get your spouse to want to spend more time with you.

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It's always appropriate to request forgiveness.

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It's often difficult to accept things about our spouse that we can't change.

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Why is it so hard for some people to say, "Please forgive me"? It might be because of fear - fear that the offended person might reject your apology.

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In order to understand yourself and relate well to others, it's important to know your own love language. Dr. Gary Chapman's book The 5 Love Languages is a great tool to discover your own love language.

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How is it possible to forgive your fiancé if they've cheated on you? You might be able to forgive in the moment, but trust can only be rebuilt over time. You can only trust if a person proves to be trustworthy.

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Saying "I'm sorry" might not be enough. Apologizing in a way that's genuine might not be enough for the offended party. Each person has a unique language of apology - a language in which they can offer forgiveness.

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The challenge today is for parents to raise their children to be social in a screen-driven world.

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Is saying "I'm sorry" enough? Not necessarily. It's vital that when we ask for forgiveness, we ask forgiveness in the offended person's primary language of forgiveness.

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All research show that those who are sexually active before marriage have a higher divorce rate than those who wait until marriage.

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How can you show love during military deployments? Dr. Gary Chapman provides creative ideas on how to speak your spouse's love language while deployed.

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Many relationships die for lack of a sincere apology.

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Do you know how screens are affecting your child?

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If your spouse's love language is gift-giving, it's time to step up and show your love by giving them gifts frequently.

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In today's technical age, many couples have met using various web sites. This can be a very positive way of finding God's direction for the person you should marry.

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For some, the loudest expression of love is giving a gift.

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What social skills are you seeking to develop in your children?

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Most marriage ceremonies include the giving and receiving of rings. Your rings are a visible sign of your love and commitment that has no end.

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God doesn't have a primary love language. He speaks all 5 Love Languages. When He speaks to you, He speaks in your love language.

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New Years should be a time of reflection. Are you pleased with the way you invested your time and energy last year? A new year presents the opportunity to make changes in your lifestyle and priorities.

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Many people suffer from the pain of financial stress. Jesus taught that "a man's life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions". Real satisfaction is found in loving relationships with God and other. 

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Does your body language convey disinterest to your boyfriend? If so, ask him what message he's receiving from your body language. If you're willing, commit to changing that.

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Do you know how to forgive and love again? You can, when you realize that God taught us how to forgive and love.

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Do you know what your children are watching? Remember, you are the gatekeeper of your child's mind.

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Children wait in anticipation of their Christmas gifts. Likewise, the prophets of old waited in anticipation of the Messiah's arrival.

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When is the last time you gave your spouse a gift? In every culture, gift-giving is part of the love-marriage process.

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What do you do when your husband frequently emails a woman from a past relationship? Counseling may help, but hurt can still remain.

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Is it possible to change a person's love language? Attempting to change your spouse's love language to one that's compatible with yours is selfish - not sacrificial.

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What do you do when your spouse has broken your covenant of marriage?

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The Christmas season can often be characterized by stress, and stress can lead to harsh words. Romans 14:19 says "Let us make every effort to do what leads to peace". 

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