Filtrer par genre
A podcast about queer love gone wrong (and right). Real stories. Real chaos. All gay. The podcast where queer folks spill the tea on their past relationships. From messy breakups and ghostings that haunt us, to whirlwind love stories that left us gagged (in the best and worst ways), no tale is too spicy or too awkward. Want to share your story? Book a call with me: https://www.rainbowjourney.co/ghosted-gagged-gay
- 28 - Why Can’t I Stay Hard? The Hidden Psychology of Sexual Performance Anxiety with Shay Doran
What if your erection problem isn’t actually about your penis?
In this episode of Ghosted, Gagged & Gay!, I’m joined by men’s coach Shay Doran, who specializes in helping men overcome sexual performance anxiety, erection problems, and the fear of losing their erection during sex.
We’re going beyond the usual conversation about erectile dysfunction to explore what can actually happen when sex starts feeling like a performance test. Why can worrying about staying hard make it harder to stay hard? How does one difficult sexual experience turn into a cycle of anxiety and avoidance? And why can a man be completely attracted to his partner and still struggle with his erection?
We also dive into the gay male experience of sexual performance anxiety, including the pressures around masculinity, body image, penis size, sexual roles, being a top or bottom, and the expectation to always be confident and sexually “ready.”
We talk about:
🍆 Sexual performance anxiety and erection problems
🧠 The psychology behind losing an erection during sex
🏳️🌈 Performance anxiety among gay men
❤️ Attraction vs. sexual performance
📱 Porn, unrealistic expectations and real-life sex
🔥 Masculinity, body image and sexual confidence
🔄 The “what if it happens again?” anxiety cycle
💬 Shame and vulnerability around sexual difficulties
🧠 The deeper emotional patterns behind sexual anxiety
💡 Where to start if you're struggling with performance anxiety
If you've ever thought “Why can't I stay hard?”, worried that something is wrong with you, or avoided sex because you're afraid of losing your erection, this conversation is for you.
🎙️ Guest: Shay Doran: Men's Coach specializing in sexual performance anxiety and erection problems
🔗 Find Shay and learn more about his work: https://shay-doran.com/ and don't forget to do the free quiz: https://shay-doran.com/free-quiz/
📺 You can also find Shay on YouTube for more conversations about sexual confidence, erection problems and performance anxiety: https://www.youtube.com/@shay-doran
📍Connect with Me
https://linktr.ee/radiantheartsjourney
Tue, 01 Sep 2026 - 34min - 27 - He Sabotaged Real Love to Chase a Ghost (Gay Dating Story)
What if the emotionally unavailable men were never the real problem, what if you were terrified of the one person who actually showed up?
In this week's listener story, we follow a gay man stuck in a brutal cycle: chasing men who pull away, sabotaging a genuine healthy connection, and watching it all unravel in real time. What looks like bad luck in gay dating is actually fearful attachment at work, a deep, subconscious terror of being truly loved.
I walk through the psychological patterns behind this story: why gay men chase emotionally unavailable men, how self-sabotage in relationships protects you from something scarier than rejection, and what fearful attachment really feels like from the inside.
This one hits close to home for a lot of people, if you've ever pushed away someone good while running toward someone unavailable, this episode is for you.
If you want to break these toxic relationship patterns for good, reach out to me: https://linktr.ee/radiantheartsjourney
Thu, 06 Aug 2026 - 26min - 26 - Sex Is Easier Than Intimacy?! Trauma, Shame & the Sex Scripts with Radiance Sanneman & Vanessa Cushing
Why does sex sometimes feel easier than intimacy?
In this episode of Ghosted, Gagged, and Gay, Lonay Halloum is joined by Radiance Sanneman (trauma specialist + IFS therapist) and Vanessa Cushing (AASECT-certified sex therapist) to unpack how trauma and shame shape our dating patterns, our nervous systems, and the way we use sex to manage anxiety or earn closeness.
We talk about the difference between real chemistry and a trauma response, the signs you might be using sex as regulation, and how common “sex scripts” (masculinity performance, top/bottom expectations, porn pressure, and the “no feelings” rule) can quietly block emotional safety and real connection. We also share a “sexy-not-clinical” way to ask for what you want early without turning the date into a job interview and we get honest about self-consent: the subtle ways we override ourselves to keep someone interested.
Bonus: After the outro, stay for a short IFS demonstration between Radiance and Vanessa so you can hear what “parts work” sounds like in real time.📍Guests: Vanessa Cushing & Radiance Sannemann
Website: cushingcounseling.com
Instagram: @cushingcounseling
LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/vanessa-cushing-477051156
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/p/Cushing-Counseling-61578982936946/
📍Connect with Me
https://linktr.ee/radiantheartsjourney
Tue, 21 Jul 2026 - 47min - 25 - “I Thought He Was ‘Chill’”: A Grindr Date Story About Mixed Signals, Secrecy & Self-Abandonment
A listener sent me a Grindr date story that starts off promising (good morning texts, voice notes, “no games”) and ends exactly the way your nervous system is already predicting.
In this short solo episode of Ghosted, Gagged, and Gay, we unpack the moment “chill vibes” turns into emotional avoidance, the difference between privacy vs secrecy, and why “you’re intense” is often what people say when you stop accepting confusion.
In this episode:
The “chill” profile that’s actually a warning labelHow your body clocks misalignment before your brain doesPrivacy vs secrecy (and why it matters for emotional safety)A simple boundary line you can borrow: “I’m not available for confusion.”If you've got a dating story you want me to read on the show funny, messy, painful, or all three send it to my email address: lonay@rainbowjourney.co
Your support would be very helpful to keep this show available for our lovely community. Follow, like, share, comment..etc Thank you ^^
📍Connect with Me
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Tue, 14 Jul 2026 - 21min - 24 - Privacy vs Secrecy in Gay Dating: Shame, Closeting & Emotional Safety with Samuel Garza Bernstein
What’s the real difference between privacy and secrecy in gay dating and why does it matter so much for emotional safety?
In this episode of Ghosted, Gagged, and Gay, Lonay is joined by Samuel Garza Bernstein (screenwriter, author, and playwright) for a conversation about how shame shapes the way gay men date, love, and protect themselves. We talk about what “authenticity” can look like when being publicly out isn’t safe, the real-life risks that shaped earlier generations, and how those survival strategies can still echo in modern dating dynamics today.
We also get into Samuel’s new book, the first biography of Hollywood icon Roddy McDowall and what Roddy’s life reveals about visibility, chosen family, and living truthfully in a world that punished it.
In this episode, we cover:
Authenticity vs visibility: what it means to live “authentically” without being publicly outThe difference between privacy and secrecy in gay dating (and why it impacts trust)How shame shows up in dating patterns and emotional availabilityRoddy McDowall’s story and what queer history can teach us about love today📍Guest: Samuel Garza Bernstein
Website: samuelgarzabernstein.com
Instagram: @samgbernstein
Other social media: @starringsamuelgarzabernstein
📍Connect with me:
https://linktr.ee/radiantheartsjourney
Mon, 06 Jul 2026 - 28min - 23 - Beautiful Masks in Gay Dating: Shame, Secrecy & Emotional Availability with Frank Spinelli
In gay dating, the biggest red flags aren’t always loud. Sometimes they’re polished. Charming. Reasonable. Sometimes they’re beautiful masks.
In this episode of Ghosted, Gagged, and Gay, Lonay sits down with Frank Spinelli—physician and author of Precious Friends: Murder in Sag Harbor—for a conversation about shame, secrecy, emotional availability, and the relationship patterns that keep so many gay men stuck.
We talk about:
How shame shows up in gay men’s dating lives (even when you’re “out” and successful)Signs someone is performing instead of truly connectingA practical “first step” to stop letting shame run your choices in loveFrank’s new psychological thriller Precious Friends: Murder in Sag Harbor and the theme of masks, betrayal, and hidden darknessA quick game: Two Truths & a Mask to practice spotting grey-area dating dynamics📍Guest: Frank Spinelli
Website: https://frankspinelli.com
Instagram: @spinellimd
📍Connect with me
All Links: https://linktr.ee/radiantheartsjourney
Tue, 30 Jun 2026 - 30min - 22 - Quiet Red Flags in Gay Dating: Chemistry vs. Compatibility with Lamont White
What if the biggest red flags in gay dating aren’t the obvious ones, but the quiet ones you rationalize because the chemistry is strong?
In this episode of Ghosted, Gagged, and Gay, Lonay sits down with Lamont Scales White (the Gay Dating Coach), a certified matchmaker, dating coach, and couples counselor who has matched hundreds of gay men since 2014, to break down what predicts long-term relationship success early.
We cover:
The quiet red flags that signal future instability (even when someone seems charming)Chemistry vs. compatibility and how to tell when attraction is masking misalignmentA simple way to screen for emotional maturity in the first few datesHow to talk about relationship expectations (labels, monogamy/open, needs) without sounding “needy”A rapid-fire scenario game: Proceed / Pause / Pass, so you can stop overthinking and start choosing clearlyIf you’re tired of mixed signals, situationships, and repeating the same dating cycle, this episode will help you date with more clarity, boundaries, and self-respect.
📍Guest: Lamont White
Website: https://betterwaytomeet.com
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@thegaydatingcoach
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lamontscaleswhite/
📍Connect with me
All Links: https://linktr.ee/radiantheartsjourney
Tue, 23 Jun 2026 - 25min - 21 - Being Seen: Queer Love, Digital Intimacy & Liberation with Kestral Gaian
What happens when queer connection starts online, but your nervous system still thinks being fully seen is unsafe?
In this episode of Ghosted, Gagged, and Gay, Lonay sits down with Kestral Gaian,best-selling author and award-winning writer exploring identity, connection, and queer liberation across poetry, fiction, theatre, and screen, to talk about the difference between being visible and being known.
We explore how modern queer dating can quietly train us to perform, curate, and keep things surface-level and how that shows up as situationships, emotional distance, and the fear of being “too much.”
This conversation is equal parts emotional, political, and practical, with grounded takeaways for anyone who wants deeper love without self-abandonment.
In this episode, we cover:
Why queer people often learn to edit themselves in loveHow social media, apps, and digital culture shape intimacy and vulnerabilityThe hidden “scripts” we repeat in dating (and how to rewrite them)Shame, “acceptable queerness,” and the fear of being fully seenSmall, real-world ways to practice deeper connection this weekIf you’re tired of performing for love and ready to feel chosen for who you actually are, this episode is for you.
Guest: Kestral Gaian
Website: https://kestr.al/
Instagram: https://instagram.com/kes.tr.alConnect with me: https://linktr.ee/radiantheartsjourney
Tue, 16 Jun 2026 - 38min - 20 - Why Gay Dating Feels So Hard Now with Trevor Kuhn (Love Daddy)
Gay dating can feel harder than ever — endless swiping, mixed signals, “not ready” energy, and chemistry that burns hot but goes nowhere. In this episode of Ghosted, Gagged, and Gay, I sit down with Trevor Kuhn (aka Love Daddy), a love, relationship, and confidence coach and matchmaker for gay and bi men, to break down why modern gay dating feels so exhausting…and what actually works if you want a real relationship.
We talk about:
The biggest reasons gay dating feels difficult right now (and the myths keeping men stuck)The inner patterns that sabotage connection: anxious chasing, avoidance, validation-seeking, and fear of being seenWhat to look for in the first 14 days of dating that predicts relationship potentialA simple question you can ask early that creates real intimacy (without oversharing)A rapid-fire “Keep / Cut / Clarify” game with real dating scenarios (ghosting, inconsistency, avoidance, and more)One practical action step you can take this week to date with more clarity, self-respect, and emotional safetyIf you’re tired of situationships and want something grounded, consistent, and real, this episode is your reset.
📍Connect with Trevor:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovedaddytrev/Website: https://www.lovedaddy.co/📍Connect with me:
https://linktr.ee/radiantheartsjourney
Thu, 11 Jun 2026 - 34min - 19 - From Survival to Self-Love: Healing, Boundaries & Identity with Stef Vachon
What does it actually look like to move from survival mode to self-love as a queer man, especially after years of homophobia, bullying, and pressure to “be a certain kind of man”?
In this episode of Ghosted, Gagged, and Gay, I sit down with Stef Vachon, proud queer man, husband, father, keynote speaker, former international professional figure skater, and host of the Together Moving Forward podcast, for a grounded conversation about healing, identity, and the relationship patterns many queer men normalize without realizing the cost.
We talk about:
What “survival mode” can look like in queer life and relationshipsCommon patterns that keep queer men stuck (emotional shutdown, chasing unavailable people, fear of vulnerability)How masculinity rules and shame shape self-worth and connectionThe real work of building self-love, practices that help you feel safer in your body and in intimacyOne sign you’re healing (Do I need The Pill?)Why setting boundaries can feel terrifying and how to handle people’s reactions when you finally stop over-explaining, over-giving, or shrinkingIf you’ve been telling yourself you’re “fine” but your nervous system says otherwise, this episode is your reminder: healing is possible, boundaries are allowed, and you don’t have to earn love by abandoning yourself.
Connect with Stef:
Podcast: https://togethermovingforwardpodcast.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/togethermovingforwardpodcast
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@togethermovingforward
If you would like to be on the show or book a free clarity call with me, all links are here: https://linktr.ee/radiantheartsjourney
Wed, 03 Jun 2026 - 35min - 18 - Why Grindr Is Destroying Gay Men’s Self Esteem | Ghosting, Rejection & Gay Dating Trauma
In this solo episode of Ghosted, Gagged and Gay, I unpack a shocking Grindr story that perfectly exposes the emotional damage hookup apps can create in the LGBTQ+ community.
What started as hours of chemistry and connection ended in instant rejection, ghosting, blocking… and unexpected karma at a job interview.
But this episode goes much deeper than one story.
I talk about how apps like Grindr can slowly damage self esteem, create addiction to emotional rollercoasters, and condition toxic dating patterns through repeated rejection and validation seeking.
We dive into:
Why ghosting and blocking hit so deeplyHow repeated rejection rewires the subconscious mindThe psychology behind toxic attraction patternsWhy healthy connections can start feeling “boring”The mental health impact of gay hookup cultureHow LGBTQ+ people internalize rejectionWhy kindness matters more than ever in our communityI also share my personal experience with seeking validation on hookup apps, how it affected my confidence, and the healthier perspective I eventually developed around dating and rejection.
If you’ve ever felt addicted to validation, emotionally drained by gay dating apps, or questioned your worth after rejection, this episode is for you.
I’m Lonay, a gay relationship coach and Rapid Transformational Therapy practitioner helping rainbow people build healthier relationships starting with the relationship they have with themselves.
🌈 Website: rainbowjourney.co
📩 Story submissions: lonay@rainbowjourney.coExplore my world: https://linktr.ee/radiantheartsjourney
New episodes of Ghosted, Gagged and Gay explore queer love, hookup culture, relationships, dating psychology, healing, and mental health through real stories from the LGBTQ+ community.
Thu, 07 May 2026 - 21min - 17 - Internalized Homophobia: A Guide to Overcoming Shame and Self-Hatred
Internalized homophobia doesn’t always look like self-hatred on the surface. Sometimes it’s the quiet flinch when you’re seen. The urge to hide your relationship. The pattern of chasing emotionally unavailable men. The “I’m fine” while your nervous system is bracing.
In this episode of Ghosted, Gagged, and Gay, Lonay (certified hypnotherapist + Rapid Transformational Therapy practitioner) breaks down what internalized homophobia actually is, how it forms, and how it shows up in queer men’s dating lives, relationships, sex, body image, community, and even work or family spaces.
We cover:
Internalized homophobia vs. external homophobia vs. internalized shameCommon signs in dating: situationships, overgiving, pulling away after a good date, confusing chemistry with safetyHow shame impacts mental health (anxiety, depression, loneliness, perfectionism) and attachment patternsA practical healing path: naming shame, tracking triggers, challenging the inner critic, building real self-compassion, and practicing secure-love behaviorsWhat progress actually looks like (it’s quieter than you think)A simple 3-day mini plan to start shifting the patternIf you’re “out” but still feel stuck in shame, you’re not broken, you’re conditioned. And you can heal this.
Book a free clarity call: https://rainbowjourney.co/book-a-call
Mon, 02 Mar 2026 - 26min - 16 - How to Find A Boyfriend (Gay)?
If you’re a gay man looking for a healthy, long-term relationship, finding a boyfriend isn’t about trying harder, performing better, or fixing yourself into someone “more desirable.” It’s about clarity, emotional availability, and dating from a grounded place, not from fear, loneliness, or burnout.
In this episode of Ghosted, Gagged, and Gay, Lonay breaks down how to find a boyfriend as a gay man (and how to stop repeating the same situationships).
Lonay talks about getting honest about what you actually want, setting relationship goals and non‑negotiables, using dating apps with boundaries, meeting people beyond hookup culture, approaching your crush, and building real intimacy without rushing.
You’ll learn:
How to tell if you truly want a boyfriend or just relief from lonelinessWhat intentional dating looks like (without controlling the outcome)Why chemistry without emotional safety isn’t connectionHow to handle rejection without collapsing or hardeningHow to spot red flags early and stop settlingWhy authenticity and clear communication are non‑negotiable for healthy gay relationshipsIf you’re tired of confusing connections and want something secure, consistent, and real, this episode is your reset.
Visit my website for a free call, free guide, and to explore my program or be a guest on the show: rainbowjourney.co
Mon, 16 Feb 2026 - 31min - 15 - The Relationship Killers: What to Stop Doing in Gay & Queer Love
Most gay men don’t fail at relationships because they don’t love enough, they fail because certain behaviors slowly kill emotional safety, attraction, and trust (often without realizing it).
In this solo episode of Ghosted, Gagged, and Gay, Lonay breaks down the biggest DON’Ts that sabotage gay and queer relationships, like insults disguised as jokes, blame, competition, distrust, resentment, denial, threats, disrespect, grudges, criticism, secrecy, demands, ridicule, and more.
Free resources:
Download the free relationship guide: https://rainbowjourney.co/free-relationship-guide
Book a free clarity call: https://rainbowjourney.co/book-a-callRead my blog: https://rainbowjourney.co/blogTue, 27 Jan 2026 - 41min - 14 - What Does It Mean to Be Emotionally Available? Signs, Causes & How to Heal
What does it actually mean to be emotionally available, beyond the Instagram buzzwords and therapy speak?
In this episode, I break down emotional availability from a grounded, real-life perspective, especially within gay and queer dating dynamics. Because being “nice,” “loving,” or “spiritual” does not automatically mean you’re emotionally available.
As a gay relationship coach, RTT practitioner, and someone who has been emotionally unavailable (and dated emotionally unavailable men), I talk about:
What emotional availability really looks like in practice
The green flags most people overlook
The hidden ways emotional unavailability shows up (even when you think you’re healed)
How trauma, shame, and attachment wounds shape our dating patterns
This episode isn’t about blaming or labeling anyone. Emotional unavailability is usually a wound, not a personality flaw. But untreated wounds will sabotage intimacy.
If you’ve ever wondered:
“Am I emotionally available or just emotionally intense?”
“Why do I keep attracting unavailable partners?”
“Is emotional unavailability always a deal breaker?”
This conversation will give you clarity and probably challenge you in the best way.
🎧 Listen now and if this resonates, check out my related article:
https://rainbowjourney.co/post/what-does-it-mean-to-be-emotionally-availableand my earlier episode about "Why Do We Fall for The Unavailable?": https://open.spotify.com/episode/2XBifXfTjP3vJKH3fyxpd0?si=0bWJ2ohqTByJjlaXaOj5eg
To book a free clarity call with me or be my next guest, visit my website: rainbowjourney.co
Thu, 15 Jan 2026 - 22min - 13 - From Dusty to Radiant: Confidence, Pleasure & Queer Dating with Erica Wiederlight
Feeling stuck, burnt out, or like you’ve lost your sparkle after heartbreak?
This week on Ghosted, Gagged, and Gay, Lonay sits down with Erica Wiederlight, renowned confidence coach, speaker, and host of the top-rated podcast Welcome To The Wiederlife.
Together, they explore how confidence, self-love, and pleasure can completely transform your queer dating experience, and help you break free from toxic patterns.
You’ll discover:
The biggest obstacles queer folks face when it comes to confidence in datingPractical steps to rebuild self-love after ghosting, rejection, or heartbreakHow to reconnect with your body and desires (even if you’ve felt shame or disconnect)Real ways to recognize burnout and set healthy boundariesHow perfectionism shows up in queer dating, and how to shift toward authentic pleasureOne small confidence-boosting practice you can start todayErica’s work has been featured in Cosmopolitan, Galore, and NYFW. She offers a free book, From Perfectionist to Pleasure Expert, and a free 60-minute Mojo Makeover coaching session.
Ready to go from dusty to radiant?
Connect with Erica: www.wethelight.org | @wethelight_llc
Book your free Mojo Makeover: https://wethelightschedule.as.me/
Free book: https://www.wethelight.org/subscribeReady to transform your love story? Book a free call with Lonay: https://rainbowjourney.co/book-a-call
Other links and resources: https://linktr.ee/radiantheartsjourney
Fri, 12 Dec 2025 - 30min - 12 - Black, Fat, Femme & Loved: Liberation and Queer Relationships with Dr. Jon Paul
In this powerful episode of Ghosted, Gagged and Gay, Lonay is joined by award‑winning writer, educator, and media critic Dr. Jonathan Paul Higgins (Doctor Jon Paul) for a conversation at the intersection of Blackness, queerness, fatness, and love. Together, they explore what liberated, affirming love can look like for Black queer folks in a world that constantly tells them to shrink.
From visibility and body politics to media representation and self-worth, this episode goes deep into how identity shapes our dating lives, our relationships, and what we believe we deserve.
You’ll hear Dr. Jon Paul share:
How being visibly Black, fat, and femme impacts dating and relationshipsThe harm of feeling “too much” or “not enough” in queer loveHow media representation shapes who we think we can love—and who can love usPractical ways to support and uplift Black queer folks beyond performative allyshipWhy self-love and liberation are essential to building healthy, lasting relationshipsIf you’ve ever felt unseen, unworthy, or “too queer” for love, this conversation is for you.
🔗 Connect with Dr. Jon Paul:
Website: DoctorJonPaul.com
Instagram: @DoctorJonPaul✨ If you’re ready to break toxic patterns and call in the love you actually deserve, you can book a free call with Lonay— Click Here
Thu, 27 Nov 2025 - 33min - 11 - Stop Chasing What Hurts: Why Do We Fall for the Unavailable?
Are you tired of falling for people who can’t (or won’t) show up for you? You’re not alone. In this episode, we dive deep into why so many LGBTQ+ rainbows find themselves chasing emotionally unavailable partners, and what it really means for your self-worth and future happiness.
✨ Here’s what you’ll get in this episode:
The hidden reasons behind chasing emotional unavailabilityHow childhood patterns and beliefs shape our love livesReal talk about breaking free from toxic cyclesMindfulness and practical exercises you can use right nowAffirmations and tools to build self-love and raise your standardsReady to stop settling for less and start attracting the love you deserve?
If this episode hits home, send me an email, DM me on Instagram with your biggest relationship challenge or share your story for a chance to be featured in a future episode.
Want more support? Check out the Radiant Hearts Transformation program for personalized coaching.
All links are here: https://linktr.ee/radiantheartsjourney
Sat, 18 Oct 2025 - 19min - 10 - Dealing with Big Emotions: Navigating the Emotional Landscape of Queer Love
In this solo episode of Ghosted, Gagged and Gay, host Lonay—relationship coach and Rapid Transformational Therapy® practitioner—dives deep into the world of heavy emotions within the LGBTQ+ community.
Why do so many queer people struggle to express or process big feelings like love, sadness, or anger? How does growing up suppressing our true selves impact our ability to connect deeply in relationships?
Drawing from personal experience and client stories, Lonay unpacks the unique emotional challenges faced by LGBTQ+ individuals, especially when it comes to intimacy and vulnerability.
From the struggle to accept affection to the difficulty of supporting loved ones through sadness, this episode explores why so many of us feel overwhelmed by our own emotions—and what we can do to heal.
You’ll learn:
Why queer people often suppress big emotions (and how it affects adult relationships)Practical steps to build emotional awareness and express yourself authenticallyHow to support others through difficult feelings, even when you feel uncomfortableThe importance of vulnerability in building deep, lasting connectionsWhether you’re navigating heartbreak, seeking more meaningful connections, or simply want to understand yourself better, this episode offers compassionate, actionable guidance designed for the LGBTQ+ experience.
Ready to transform your relationship with emotions and love?
Book a free call with Lonay or share your story to be featured on the show. Links in the link tree: https://linktr.ee/radiantheartsjourneyMon, 29 Sep 2025 - 15min - 9 - Living Your True You with Josh O'Neill
What happens after coming out — when the journey is no longer about labels, but about living as your fullest, truest self?
In this episode of Ghosted, Gagged & Gay!, I sit down with Josh O’Neill — Executive Director, entrepreneur, and creative spirit — to explore his transformation “from farm to fabulous.”
Josh shares candidly about his path through loss, love, heartbreak, and healing, and how creativity and performance became vehicles for embracing authenticity. From the shadows into the spotlight, Josh’s story is a reminder that queer love and self-acceptance are not destinations, but journeys of courage and becoming.
📍Guest Links
👉 Follow Josh on Instagram: @josh_onz
🌐 Website: https://www.thelitterclub.org/
🔗 Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/josheeonz/
📍Connect with Me
https://linktr.ee/radiantheartsjourney
Thu, 11 Sep 2025 - 28min - 8 - Humor, Care & Gay Aging: Daphne Wright
What does it mean to grow older as a gay man — especially when illness and care needs enter the picture?
In this episode of Ghosted, Gagged & Gay!, I talk with Daphne Wright — nurse, writer, and hopeful traveler — about her new novel that was born during the long days of the pandemic.
We explore the story of Brice, an older gay man navigating life after losing his husband, facing an ALS diagnosis, and wondering if he’ll have to “go back into the closet” just to receive care. While the subject sounds heavy, Daphne weaves in warmth and humor, painting a story of resilience, humanity, and queer experience that refuses to be a total downer.
📍Guest Links
👉 Follow Daphne on Instagram: @daphnelwright
🌐 Read "On Love and Death and Belonging": https://daphneleoniewright.com/
📍Connect with Me
https://linktr.ee/radiantheartsjourney
Thu, 04 Sep 2025 - 16min - 7 - Sexual Integrity & Queer Intimacy: With Dr. Steven Davidson
How do our desires, fantasies, and kinks fit into living authentically?
In this episode of Ghosted, Gagged & Gay!, Lonay Halloum sits down with Dr. Steven Davidson, clinical sexologist, author of Sexual Integrity: Finding the Courage to be Yourself, and host of The Sexual Integrity Coach on YouTube. With over 30 years of experience, Dr. Davidson has guided individuals, couples, and even throuples toward deeper intimacy and more fulfilling sexual relationships.
Together, we explore what sexual integrity really means, how to integrate your erotic identity into your relationships, and why embracing your kinks and desires is essential to building honesty, courage, and freedom in queer love.
📍Guest Links
👉 Follow Dr. Steven on Instagram: @sexualintegritycoach
🌐 Website: https://sexualintegritycoach.com/
📹 Youtube: @sexualintegritycoach
📍Connect with Me (All Links)
https://linktr.ee/radiantheartsjourney
Fri, 22 Aug 2025 - 31min - 6 - Reinvention, Risk & Radical Alignment with Kate Capelli
In this episode of Ghosted, Gagged & Gay, we dive into bold reinvention, identity shifts, and building a life aligned with your truth.
My guest, Kate Capelli, is a Business Growth Coach for coaches, a marketing nerd, and a self-described adventure junkie. From patrolling the streets as a police officer to founding one of the UK’s largest women’s adventure companies, Kate’s life is a masterclass in choosing courage over comfort.
We explore:
The defining turning points that shaped her understanding of love, identity, and purpose
What living out of a van in the Rockies taught her about intuition and trust
Why community — especially queer community — is the backbone of her business and healing
How her latest venture, Impact Coach Collective, is helping purpose-driven coaches grow with integrity
Whether you're navigating a new chapter in life or just need a dose of empowerment, this conversation is packed with grounded wisdom, laughs, and realness.
🎧 Tune in now — and remember, falling in love might just be the wildest adventure of all.
📍Guest Links
👉 Follow Kate on Instagram: @katecapellicoach
🌐 Website: https://linktr.ee/Whyfounders
Other social media handles:
https://www.youtube.com/@KateCapelliCoach
https://www.linkedin.com/in/kate-capelli/
https://www.tiktok.com/@katecapellimentor📍Connect with Me
https://linktr.ee/radiantheartsjourney
Fri, 15 Aug 2025 - 35min - 5 - From Functional Freeze to Self-Mastery — with Yannick Picard
Have you ever felt stuck — like you’re going through the motions of life, checking every box, looking “successful” on the outside… but on the inside, something feels numb or off?
Today’s guest, Yannick Picard, is a queer life coach who specializes in helping people move from functional freeze to full aliveness. In this powerful episode, we explore how high-functioning individuals — especially within the LGBTQ+ community — can be emotionally frozen without even realizing it.
🧊 What is Functional Freeze?
It’s a trauma response where your nervous system gets stuck in survival mode — not quite fight or flight, but not truly at rest either. You’re doing all the things... but disconnected from joy, purpose, and authenticity.⚠️ Common symptoms of functional freeze include:
Feeling emotionally numb or disconnected
Going through the motions but feeling unfulfilled
Struggling to make decisions or take aligned action
Overthinking or perfectionism as a coping mechanism
Smiling on the outside while suppressing internal overwhelm
Feeling stuck despite external “success”
Difficulty resting or accessing play, creativity, or desire
💬 In this conversation, Yannick shares:
His personal journey from self-sabotage to self-mastery
The subtle ways functional freeze shows up in queer lives
Why high-achievers often miss the signs
What heartbreak taught him about emotional thawing
Small, powerful steps to reconnect with your true self
If you’ve ever felt like life is happening, but not really being lived — this episode is your wake-up call (and warm invitation) to reconnect, reclaim, and rise.
📍Guest Links
👉 Follow Yannick on Instagram: @thenakedcoach
🌐 Website: https://thenaked.coach/
➕ Add Yannick on LinkedIn: Click here
📍Connect with Me
🌈 Website & Free Call: www.rainbowjourney.co
🎧 Follow me on Instagram: @radiantheartsjourney
🎤 Be my next guest: click here
📹 Watch the video podcast on Youtube: @radiantheartsjourney
Fri, 08 Aug 2025 - 38min - 4 - Faith, Freedom & Choosing Yourself — with Katia Padilha
Welcome to Ghosted, Gagged & Gay — the show where queer love, identity, and self-acceptance take center stage.
Today’s guest is someone whose story is a powerful reminder that choosing authenticity is one of the bravest things we can do.
Katia Padilha, born and raised in Brazil, spent 10 years in service through a Christian NGO — devoted to community, yet deeply disconnected from her own truth. Conditioned to believe that being herself meant losing everything, she spent years hiding behind faith… until a shift at 30 changed everything.
Now living in the UK, engaged, and working as a Business Operations Manager, Katia shares her raw, tender story of coming out, redefining spirituality, and learning to love herself — even when religion didn’t.
We talk about:
🙏 The emotional toll of growing up with a “conditional God”
💔 Losing community after coming out — and finding peace anyway
🌈 What it really means to choose yourself, even when it costs you everything
💬 How she found love — after learning to love herselfThis episode is a heart-opening invitation to anyone navigating the space between identity, faith, and self-worth.
📍Guest Links
👉 Follow Katia on Instagram: @kat_the_expat
📍Connect with Me
🌈 Website & Free Call: www.rainbowjourney.co
🎧 Follow me on Instagram: @radiantheartsjourney
🎤 Be my next guest: click here
📹 Watch the video podcast on Youtube: @radiantheartsjourney
Thu, 31 Jul 2025 - 37min - 3 - Queer Thrills & First Heartbreaks with Wes Ferguson
Welcome back to Ghosted, Gagged & Gay — the podcast where we celebrate the beautiful chaos of queer love, identity, and healing.
In this episode, I’m joined by the brilliant Wes Ferguson — a queer actor, writer, director, and creator of the viral LGBTQ+ horror series Ghosted, blending satire, seduction, and scares into unforgettable storytelling. You may also know Wes from his starring role in The Holly King and as the co-host of the long-running pop culture podcast Richy and Wes.
We talk about:
✨ What makes queer love stories truly unforgettable
👻 How heartbreak, rejection, and fear show up in horror and in real life
💔 The lessons Wes would share with his younger queer self
🎭 How storytelling has helped him reclaim identity, desire, and healingWhether you’ve been ghosted, gagged, or are just here for the gay — this episode will leave you laughing, reflecting, and feeling seen.
📍Guest Links
👉 Follow Wes and watch his series Ghosted on Instagram: @thewestopher
📍Connect with Me
🌈 Website & Free Call: www.rainbowjourney.co
🎧 Follow me on Instagram: @radiantheartsjourney
🎤 Be my next guest here
📹 Watch the video podcast on Youtube: @radiantheartsjourney
Wed, 30 Jul 2025 - 30min - 2 - Queer Superpowers, Neurodivergence & Love That Lasts — with Skylar McManus
Welcome to the very first episode of Ghosted, Gagged & Gay — the podcast where we dive into the magic, mess, and meaning of queer love.
In this powerful kickoff, I’m joined by the incredible Skylar McManus — author of the LGBTQ+ graphic novel Essence, co-host of the neurodivergent podcast Mentally Tabbed Out, and a real-life agile coach helping teams (and maybe hearts) thrive.
We dive into:
🌈 What it means to unlearn the myth that queer or neurodivergent people are “too much” to love
📚 How Skylar’s graphic novel reflects his own identity, journey, and inner superheroes
🧠 The surprising ways neurodivergence shows up in how we love and communicate
💬 What 18 years of queer love — that began with a blown-off blind date — taught him about real connection
✨ Why creativity, structure, and softness can all coexist in lasting love
This episode is equal parts heartwarming and healing — a must-listen for anyone who’s ever felt too complicated to be fully loved. Spoiler: you're not.
📍Guest Links
👉 Follow Skylar on Instagram: @sedarel1
🦸♂️ Read Essence here
🎙 Listen to Mentally Tabbed Out here
📍Connect with Me
🌈 Website & Free Call: www.rainbowjourney.co🎧 Follow me on Instagram: @radiantheartsjourney
🎤 Be my next guest here
📹 Watch the video podcast on Youtube: @radiantheartsjourney
Tue, 29 Jul 2025 - 37min - 1 - Official Podcast Trailer
✨ Welcome to Ghosted, Gagged & Gay — the podcast where we unpack the messy, magical, and often maddening world of queer love.
I’m your host, Lonay — queer relationship coach and Rapid Transformational Therapy® practitioner — and I created this space to explore the real stories, patterns, and subconscious blocks shaping our love lives.
In this trailer, you’ll get a taste of what to expect: raw conversations, deep healing insights, and unapologetic queer joy. Whether you’ve been ghosted, gagged, or are simply trying to figure love out — you're not alone, and you’re in the right place.
🎙️ Hit play, subscribe, and join the journey toward deeper connection, self-worth, and radiant relationships.
Would you like to share your story?
Book a call with me: https://rainbowjourney.co/ghosted-gagged-gay556732
Tue, 22 Jul 2025 - 02min
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