BeThatHealingGirl Podcast

You know when your partner's energy feels just a LITTLE different and suddenly you're convinced your entire relationship is falling apart? 😭 They send a shorter text. They're quieter than usual. They don't seem quite as affectionate. And your brain is like, “WELL. IT WAS NICE WHILE IT LASTED.” 🙃 Babe. WHAT ARE WE DOING?! In this episode, we're talking about the lies your overthinking tells you when the vibe feels “off”, why anxious attachment can turn the tiniest shift in your partner's behavior into a five-alarm relationship emergency, and how to start questioning the stories your brain makes up when you're feeling triggered. Because sometimes your partner is just having a day. And sometimes there really IS something worth talking about. The trick is learning not to automatically treat every uncomfortable feeling as proof that something terrible is happening. If you've ever analyzed a text like it was evidence in a murder investigation, convinced yourself your partner was losing feelings because they seemed a little quiet, or spent an entire evening trying to figure out what you did wrong… This one's for YOU. 😂💗 🚩 Is it your anxiety or are they actually a red flag? Take my FREE 2-minute quiz 💗 Ready to stop overthinking and start feeling more secure in love? Learn more about Secure Love Lab: https://www.healinggirlgang.com

In this episode, we're talking about that awful feeling that your anxious attachment is going to push someone away, and what happens when you're so afraid of being "too much" that you start making yourself smaller. Because there's a difference between having needs, experiencing relationship anxiety, and letting your fear decide how you show up in love. And babe, you don't have to become the world's chillest, lowest-maintenance girlfriend to have a secure relationship. 🫶🏽 Not sure if it's your anxiety or something actually wrong in your relationship? I made you a 2-minute quiz to help you start figuring that out. Take it here: https://secure-love-quiz.vercel.app 💗

You know that feeling when your partner takes a little longer to text back, seems slightly less affectionate, or doesn't send the usual goodnight emoji and suddenly your brain is screaming SOMETHING IS WRONG?! 😭 Babe. I've BEEN there. In this episode, we're talking about what to do when your partner feels distant, why even perfectly normal space can feel like rejection when you have anxious attachment, and how our desperate attempts to feel closer can actually push connection further away. I'm sharing what dating my husband Craig taught me about navigating distance, why trying to keep every text conversation going isn't necessarily creating intimacy, and the difference between being proactive in your relationship and straight-up micromanaging it. 🙃 Because here's the thing: Zero distance isn't intimacy. And giving someone space isn't the same as playing hard to get. You don't need to pretend you don't care, ignore their texts, or become the world's chillest girlfriend. But you CAN learn to stop treating every little bit of distance like a five-alarm relationship emergency. Sometimes your relationship doesn't need fixing. It just needs a little room to BREATHE. 🫶🏽 💗 Ready to stop spiraling every time your relationship feels a little off? Learn more about Secure Love Lab: https://www.healinggirlgang.com/sll

Have you ever worried that you're just... TOO MUCH in your relationship? 😭 Too needy. Too sensitive. Too emotional. Too many questions. Too much reassurance. Meanwhile, you're a fully functioning, independent, successful woman in literally every other area of your life. MAKE IT MAKE SENSE. In this episode, we're talking about that awful feeling that your anxious attachment is going to push someone away, and what happens when you're so afraid of being "too much" that you start making yourself smaller. Because there's a difference between having needs, experiencing relationship anxiety, and letting your fear decide how you show up in love. And babe, you don't have to become the world's chillest, lowest-maintenance girlfriend to have a secure relationship. 🫶🏽 Not sure if it's your anxiety or something actually wrong in your relationship? I made you a 2-minute quiz to help you start figuring that out. Take it here: https://secure-love-quiz.vercel.app  ✨🧪💚 GET ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨ SECURE LOVE LAB   FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

You rearrange your schedule. Keep your weekends open. Make sure there’s time to see them. And somehow you’re STILL sitting there thinking… why don’t I feel like a priority?! 😭 In this episode, we’re talking about what can actually be happening when you feel unimportant or unchosen in your relationship, even when your partner is kind, considerate, and showing up for you. Because sometimes the problem isn’t that they stopped prioritizing you. It’s that somewhere along the way, you stopped prioritizing yourself. I’m getting into why anxious attachment can make us completely merge with our relationships, the “cool chill girlfriend” trap, why knowing you self-abandon isn’t the same as knowing how to STOP doing it when the stakes feel high, and what my own relationship with Craig taught me about keeping your own damn life. Because secure attachment isn’t caring less about your relationship. It’s realizing you don’t have to abandon yourself to feel chosen by someone else. 🫶🏽 ✨🧪💚 GET ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨ SECURE LOVE LAB   FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

You know when your partner has told you they love you, shown you they love you, and your anxious attachment is STILL like... okay but can you tell me again? 😭 In this episode, we’re talking about why you crave constant reassurance in your relationship and why trying to force yourself to “stop being needy” doesn’t actually solve what’s happening underneath. I’m breaking down why reassurance can start to feel like a caffeine tolerance, the difference between wanting reassurance and needing proof, and how learning to sit with discomfort and trust yourself can help you move toward secure attachment. Plus, I’m answering: “My partner says I ask for reassurance too much and it’s pushing them away. I know it’s a problem, but I can’t stop. What do I do?” Because secure attachment isn’t never wanting reassurance again. It’s being able to receive the love that’s already there without needing them to prove it to you 15 more times. 🫶🏽   ✨🧪💚 GET ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨ https://www.healinggirlgang.com/sll ✅ SUBSCRIBE ON YOUTUBE https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlsubscribe      JOIN THE HEALING JOURNEY 💗Follow on Instagram: https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlinsta 💖Follow on TikTok: https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirltiktok WORK WITH CLARE ⭐️ VIP 1:1 Session https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlVIP

You’ve read the books. Saved the posts. You KNOW you have anxious attachment. So why are you still overthinking everything?! 😭 In this episode, we’re talking about the frustrating gap between knowing your patterns and actually changing them. Because being wildly self-aware doesn’t necessarily stop you from analyzing the text, replaying the conversation, or wondering if something is wrong. At some point, we have to stop becoming experts in why we spiral and start changing what happens when we do. If you’re a high-achieving, self-aware girlie who is very tired of knowing better and still doing the thing... hiiiii. This one’s for you. 🫶🏽 ✨🧪💚 GET ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨ SECURE LOVE LAB   FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

In this episode, I’m sharing the 3 things I learned to tell myself when my anxious attachment was triggered that helped me stop turning one tiny vibe shift into an entire relationship spiral. We’re talking about why you can’t out-logic your nervous system, why what feels hysteric can be historic, and the BIG one: urgency does not equal truth. I’m also answering a listener question about catching feelings during the talking stage and how to stop anxiety from rushing you into treating someone like a committed partner before you actually know them. Because the goal isn’t to never get triggered. It’s learning how to feel the trigger without letting it write the entire story. 🫶🏽 ✨🧪💚 GET ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨ https://www.healinggirlgang.com/sll ✅ SUBSCRIBE ON YOUTUBE https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlsubscribe      JOIN THE HEALING JOURNEY 💗Follow on Instagram: https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlinsta 💖Follow on TikTok: https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirltiktok WORK WITH CLARE ⭐️ VIP 1:1 Session https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlVIP

You know that feeling when they haven't texted back and suddenly your brain is doing A Beautiful Mind level calculations trying to figure out what it means? 😭 They told you they have a busy day. They've consistently shown you they care. You KNOW logically that nothing is wrong. But your anxious attachment is like... okay but why are they being quiet??? In this episode of the Be That Healing Girl Podcast, we're talking about why your partner's silence can feel SO freaking unbearable when you have anxious attachment, and why a delayed text, a little distance, or them needing space can suddenly feel like proof that they're pulling away. Because the problem usually isn't actually the silence. It's what your internal system has learned to make the silence mean. For me, silence used to mean: You're alone. No one's coming. Figure it out yourself. And no amount of telling myself, “Craig is probably just busy” could make that feeling disappear. Inside this episode, we're getting into: ✨ Why your partner not texting back can trigger an anxious attachment spiral✨ Why you can be wildly confident at work and completely unravel in your relationship✨ The “girl math” we do with response times when we're looking for reassurance✨ Why your brain starts hunting for evidence that they're pulling away✨ How people pleasing and overfunctioning can become ways of trying to earn safety in love✨ Why “just communicate” isn't always the answer✨ Why reassurance can feel amazing... until they go quiet again✨ The childhood experience that helped me understand why silence felt so threatening to me✨ My motion-sensor-light analogy for understanding relationship anxiety✨ What secure attachment actually looks like when your partner needs space I also answer a question from inside Secure Love Lab: “Every time they need space, I immediately assume they're pulling away for good. How do I know if it's real?” Because secure attachment doesn't mean your partner never goes quiet. It means their silence doesn't automatically become a story about your worth, their feelings, or the future of your relationship. And THAT is what we're working toward. If you're a high-achieving woman who can run the meeting, manage the team, make the diagnosis, close the deal... but one unanswered text has you wondering if the relationship is over, hiiiii babe. This one's for you. 😂 🎧 Subscribe to the Be That Healing Girl Podcast for more on anxious attachment, relationship anxiety, overthinking, secure attachment, emotional safety, and learning how to actually relax into a healthy relationship. ✨ Is this my anxiety or is something actually wrong?Quiz coming soon! #AnxiousAttachment #RelationshipAnxiety #Overthinking #SecureAttachment #AttachmentStyles #RelationshipAdvice #TextingAnxiety #FearOfAbandonment #HealthyRelationships #BeThatHealingGirl

Ever have one of those weekends where everything was amazing... and then Sunday rolls around and suddenly your brain is convinced something is wrong? Yeah. I know that spiral. Your partner is kind. They're consistent. Their words match their actions. They've given you absolutely no reason to question the relationship. ...and somehow your brain is still waiting for the other shoe to drop. In this week's episode, I'm unpacking why we create problems when there aren't any, why healthy relationships can actually feel harder for anxious attachment, and the hidden habits that quietly fuel your spirals long before they explode. Because here's the thing: Your spiral didn't come out of nowhere. It was building long before the overthinking started. In this episode, we talk about:✨ Why you create conflict when your relationship is actually going well✨ The invisible habits quietly fueling your anxious attachment✨ Why reassurance isn't the thing you're actually looking for✨ The surprising reason healthy relationships can feel uncomfortable✨ Why "just stop overthinking" has never worked✨ How to build real emotional safety instead of white-knuckling your way through a good relationship✨ The phone battery analogy that completely changed how I think about spirals✨ A client story about finally letting herself receive love instead of always earning it One of the biggest lessons I've learned is that anxious attachment doesn't just show up when something is wrong. Sometimes it shows up because everything is finally right. And if you've ever found yourself picking fights after a great weekend, questioning a genuinely good partner, or wondering why you can't just relax... I made this episode for you. 💛 Ready to stop overthinking and start feeling secure? The Secure Love Lab is my 6-month coaching experience for high-achieving women who are exhausted from relationship anxiety, overthinking every text, and waiting for the other shoe to drop. If you're ready to stop understanding your patterns and finally start changing them, I'd love to support you.

Ever feel like your partner gets quiet and suddenly your entire nervous system decides the relationship is ending? Yep. Been there. In this episode, I'm sharing one of the biggest shifts that helped me stop spiraling every time I thought something felt "off" in my relationship. If you're a high achiever who can solve problems at work all day long but finds yourself replaying texts, analyzing their tone, or convincing yourself they're pulling away, this episode is for you. We're talking about why your brain keeps trying to "logic" its way out of relationship anxiety, why reassurance only works temporarily, and the emotional skill that actually creates lasting security. Inside this episode: ✨ Why your partner feeling distant can hijack your entire day ✨ The hidden pattern that keeps anxious attachment alive ✨ Why overthinking and reassurance are keeping you stuck ✨ The mistake high achievers make when anxiety shows up ✨ How to build real emotional safety instead of chasing temporary relief If you've ever caught yourself wondering, "Are they mad at me?" or convinced yourself the relationship was over because they took longer to text back, I promise you're not alone. Hit subscribe for weekly episodes on anxious attachment, relationship anxiety, emotional regulation, and building secure, healthy relationships. 💛 If this episode helped you, I'd love if you left a 5-star review. It helps me keep this podcast free and helps more people find the support they need.   ✨🧪💚 GET EARLY ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨ SECURE LOVE LAB   FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

Hey Girlies! It's your girl Clare back at it with another episode of the BeThatHealingGirl Podcast where we're diving into the real and sometimes messy parts of our love lives. 🌟 This week is all about self-sabotage. Yep, been there, sabotaged that... especially with those sweet, secure types who just wanted to love us, right? Wondering why things seem to implode just when they're getting good? Girl, you're not alone, and this episode is here to unpack all of that mess with you. We're talking about the signs, the whys, and how to finally stop self-sabotaging our love lives. 🚫💔 Whether you're the queen of 'big city moves' but can't seem to hold down a city boy, or you're married and picking fights over who left the cap off the toothpaste...this chat is for you. Plus, I'm sharing some super personal stories and client experiences that'll make you say, "Omg, that's totally me!" Ready to kick those bad habits and start owning your love story? Press play, and let's get into it! And hey, if you love what you hear, don't forget to hit that subscribe button 🎧✨ #SelfSabotage #RelationshipAdvice #LoveLife #HealingJourney #PodcastLife #GirlTalk #RealTalk #empowerment   ✨🧪💚 GET ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨ https://www.healinggirlgang.com/sll   ✅ SUBSCRIBE ON YOUTUBE https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlsubscribe        JOIN THE HEALING JOURNEY 💗Follow on Instagram: https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlinsta 💖Follow on TikTok: https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirltiktok   WORK WITH CLARE ⭐️ VIP 1:1 Session https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlVIP

Have you ever been convinced something was wrong in your relationship... only to realize later your brain completely made it up? Maybe they took longer to text back.Maybe they seemed quieter than usual.Maybe one tiny moment turned into a full-blown story that had you convinced they were losing interest, pulling away... or worse. If you've ever felt trapped in those spirals, this episode is for you. In this episode of the Be That Healing Girl Podcast, I'm sharing one of the most personal stories I've ever told. During a solo wilderness retreat, my anxious brain convinced me—with absolutely zero evidence—that my husband was having an affair. It felt completely real... until I was finally able to watch my mind create the story in real time. We dive into why anxious attachment doesn't just react to reality—it often fills in the blanks, creating stories that feel true even when they aren't. In this episode, we cover: ✨ Why your anxious brain creates fake relationship scenarios✨ The difference between intuition and anxiety✨ Why your brain always assumes the worst✨ How anxious attachment turns uncertainty into "proof"✨ Why distraction isn't the same as healing✨ The fear loop that keeps reinforcing relationship anxiety✨ How to recognize when you're reacting to a story instead of reality✨ The first step toward breaking the cycle If you're a high-achieving woman who's exhausted from overthinking every text, replaying conversations, or waiting for the other shoe to drop—even in a healthy relationship—this episode will help you understand what's really happening beneath the surface. 💚 Want to stop living in false alarms and finally feel safe in love? Check out the Secure Love Lab, my coaching program designed to help you break free from anxious attachment, stop spiraling, and build lasting emotional security.   ✨🧪💚 GET ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨ https://www.healinggirlgang.com/sll   ✅ SUBSCRIBE ON YOUTUBE https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlsubscribe        JOIN THE HEALING JOURNEY 💗Follow on Instagram: https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlinsta 💖Follow on TikTok: https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirltiktok   WORK WITH CLARE ⭐️ VIP 1:1 Session https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlVIP

Hey Girlies! It's your girl Clare back at it with another episode of the BeThatHEalingGirl Podcast where we're diving into the real and sometimes messy parts of our love lives. 🌟 This week is all about self-sabotage. Yep, been there, sabotaged that especially with those sweet, secure types who just wanted to love us, right? Wondering why things seem to implode just when they're getting good? Girl, you're not alone, and this episode is here to unpack all of that mess with you. We're talking about the signs, the whys, and how to finally stop self-sabotaging our love lives. 🚫💔 Whether you're the queen of 'big city moves' but can't seem to hold down a city boy, or you're married and picking fights over who left the cap off the toothpaste - this chat is for you. Plus, I'm sharing some super personal stories and client experiences that'll make you say, "Omg, that's totally me!" Ready to kick those bad habits and start owning your love story? Press play, and let's get into it! And hey, if you love what you hear, don't forget to hit that subscribe button 🎧✨ #SelfSabotage #RelationshipAdvice #LoveLife #HealingJourney #PodcastLife #GirlTalk #RealTalk #empowerment   ✨🧪💚 GET ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨ https://www.healinggirlgang.com/sll   ✅ SUBSCRIBE ON YOUTUBE https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlsubscribe        JOIN THE HEALING JOURNEY 💗Follow on Instagram: https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlinsta 💖Follow on TikTok: https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirltiktok   WORK WITH CLARE ⭐️ VIP 1:1 Session https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlVIP

In this week's episode, I'm unpacking why reassurance never seems to stick and why asking for more isn't actually the thing that's going to make you feel safe. One of the biggest mindset shifts I ever had was realizing I wasn't really asking: "Do you love me?" I was asking: "Am I safe?" And those are two completely different questions. We get into: ✨ Why reassurance feels good... for about five minutes ✨ The anxious attachment loop that keeps resetting itself ✨ Why your partner can't fix something that isn't actually coming from them ✨ The difference between communicating your needs and chasing reassurance ✨ How to build the kind of internal safety that doesn't disappear every time they take three hours to text back If you've ever felt embarrassed by how much reassurance you need or wondered why you can absolutely crush it at work but completely unravel over one delayed text... this episode is for you. And if you're tired of understanding your patterns but still feeling trapped by them... I have something coming that's built exactly for that. 🎧 Let's get into it!   ✨🧪💚 GET ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨ https://www.healinggirlgang.com/sll   ✅ SUBSCRIBE ON YOUTUBE https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlsubscribe        JOIN THE HEALING JOURNEY 💗Follow on Instagram: https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlinsta 💖Follow on TikTok: https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirltiktok   WORK WITH CLARE ⭐️ VIP 1:1 Session https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlVIP

If you've ever felt like you're pushing a good person away because of your anxiety, or if you're caught in the same argument cycle every few weeks, this episode is a must-listen for you. Whether you're dating, in a relationship, or even married and finding those anxious triggers popping up, I'm here to guide you through it. 💖 In today's episode, I get real about my own journey with anxious attachment, share insights on how these symptoms can sabotage a good thing, and offer strategies to not only stop pushing your partner away but to actually bring them closer. Plus, don't miss the hot tip at the end where I reveal the internal shift that changed everything for me!!! 🔍 Inside This Episode: - Personal anecdotes and lessons learned from my own relationship struggles 📚 - Understanding the impact of anxiously attached symptoms on your love life 💔 - Strategies to manage triggers and avoid pushing your partner away 🛑 - A transformative hot tip that will help you bring your partner closer instead of driving them away 🔥 If you're a high-achieving, overthinking girly who's slaying in every area of your life except romantically, then you're in the perfect spot. Let's navigate these choppy waters together and turn your relationship anxiety into a source of strength. #BeThatHealingGirl #AnxiousAttachment #RelationshipAnxiety #LoveHealing #PodcastLove ✨🧪💚 GET ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨ SECURE LOVE LAB   FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

You know you're overthinking... so why can't you stop? 🤯 You've read the books. Listened to the podcasts. You know your attachment style, your triggers, and exactly why you're spiraling... ...so why are you still spiraling? In this episode, we'll unpack the hard truth that most self-aware women never hear: understanding your anxious attachment isn't the same as rewiring it. If you're stuck in the cycle of "I know what's happening, but I still can't stop," this conversation is for you. In this episode, we cover: 🧠 Why self-awareness alone doesn't stop relationship anxiety💭 The trap of becoming an expert on your anxiety... without changing it❤️ Why high-achieving women often feel the most frustrated with their healing journey🔥 The difference between insight and actual transformation✨ A client story that proves real change is possible when you stop collecting information and start practicing something different🍪 Clare's favorite cookie analogy for why more journaling isn't always the answer If you've ever thought... "I know I'm overthinking. I know WHY I'm overthinking... so why can't I stop?" ...you're going to feel incredibly seen in this episode. Whether you're navigating anxious attachment, relationship anxiety, people-pleasing, or simply feel exhausted from constantly trying to "fix yourself," this episode will help you understand what actually creates lasting change. ✨🧪💚 GET ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨https://www.healinggirlgang.com/sll  JOIN THE HEALING JOURNEY💗Follow on Instagram: https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlinsta  💖Follow on TikTok: https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirltiktok  WORK WITH CLARE⭐️ VIP 1:1 Session https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlVIP

You had an amazing weekend together... So why are you MORE anxious now? 😅 If you've ever caught yourself overthinking after things went well ("Why am I spiraling? Nothing even happened..."), this episode is for you. In this episode, I'm breaking down why anxious attachment often gets triggered after closeness, why your brain starts scanning for problems the moment you finally feel safe, and how to stop turning beautiful moments into the beginning of your next spiral. Inside this episode:💛 Why good weekends can trigger MORE anxiety than bad ones🧠 The surprising reason your brain treats peace like danger📱 Why Monday texts suddenly feel loaded after a great weekend⚠️ The hidden pattern keeping you stuck in the anxious attachment loop✨ The difference between understanding your triggers... and actually changing them🫶 A client story that'll make you believe secure love is possible🌿 How curiosity (not reassurance) is what finally rewires anxious attachment If you're successful everywhere else in life but somehow become a detective every time your partner takes a little longer to text back... welcome. You're in the right place. Whether you're navigating relationship anxiety, anxious attachment, overthinking texts, or learning how to finally trust a healthy relationship, this episode will help you stop bracing for the bad and start enjoying the good. 🎧 If this episode resonates, leave a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ review (it helps more anxious girlies find the podcast!) 👇 Ready to stop overthinking your relationship in real time? Join The Secure Love Lab... my coaching community for high-achieving women who are done letting anxiety run their relationships. Weekly coaching, real-time support, nervous system tools, and everything you need to go from anxious to secure. ✨🧪💚 GET ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨ SECURE LOVE LAB   FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

You know they're a good partner. So why does your brain still act like you're about to get abandoned? 😵‍💫 You know your attachment style.You've read the books.You can literally watch yourself spiraling... ...and somehow you still can't stop. In this week's episode I'm breaking down why knowing better isn't the same as feeling safe... and what to do when your nervous system goes into full-on survival mode over a delayed text, a quiet mood, or a tiny change in communication. In this episode: 💭 Why high-achieving women feel so confident at work... but powerless in relationships🧠 The hidden reason your brain treats a delayed text like an emergency❤️ Why reassurance only gives temporary relief (and actually keeps the cycle alive)🌱 The difference between surviving your relationship and actually feeling secure in it🚩 How "I just need a little more clarity" might be keeping you stuck✨ My own story about breaking an old family pattern in real time👯‍♀️ A client win that proves you can stop spiraling even if you've struggled with jealousy, abandonment, or anxious attachment for years If you've ever thought... "I KNOW I'm overthinking... so why can't I stop?" This episode is for you. Because healing anxious attachment isn't about becoming smarter. It's about teaching your nervous system that you're safe (even when you don't have all the answers) If you're tired of surviving your relationship and ready to actually enjoy it, hit play. 🤍 ✨ Want support while you're actually in the spiral—not just after? The Secure Love Lab is my coaching membership for high-achieving women who are ready to stop overthinking every text, build secure attachment, and finally trust themselves in love. ✨🧪💚 GET ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨https://www.healinggirlgang.com/sll  ✅ SUBSCRIBE ON YOUTUBEhttps://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlsubscribe       JOIN THE HEALING JOURNEY💗Follow on Instagram: https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlinsta  💖Follow on TikTok: https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirltiktok  WORK WITH CLARE⭐️ VIP 1:1 Session https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlVIP

Hey Girlies! It's Clare, your go-to gal for navigating the rollercoaster of emotions that is modern dating and relationships. This week we're diving into a topic that I know way too well, and I bet you do too: overthinking in relationships. You know the drill - analyzing texts, second-guessing feelings, and playing out scenarios in your head that haven't (and probably won't) happen. In this episode, we're gonna chat about: - The why behind our tendency to overanalyze every little detail and how it's messing with our vibe. - Personal stories from my own love life (yep, it's gonna get real) and lessons learned from spiraling into the overthinking abyss. - Practical, no-BS strategies to quiet that overactive mind of yours, so you can actually enjoy dating and not turn it into a full-time job (because who's got time for that?). - How to distinguish between intuition and fear-based overthinking. Spoiler alert: They're not the same thing! So, grab your headphones and gear up for your hot girl walk and let's get into it! Trust me, by the end of this episode, you'll be ready to tackle love head-on, with a clear mind and an open heart!  💖✨ ✨🧪💚 GET ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨ SECURE LOVE LAB   FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

Hey Girlies! Buckle up for a wild ride where I’ll be spilling the piping hot tea on all things love, anxiety, and healing. This episode is all about the down and dirty truth about anxious attachment (and how to start healing now!)  Ever find yourself obsessing over a text (or lack thereof) from Mr. Maybe-Right? Tired of playing the waiting game with your phone? I’ve got you covered! For 20ish minutes I’ll be dishing out my unfiltered thoughts and juicy secrets on navigating the rollercoaster of relationship anxiety.  From cringe-worthy dating fails to epic self-discovery, plus my own hot mess moments and breakthroughs. Get ready for a bombshell tip on healing anxious attachment... it's all about tuning into your body (because, let's face it, feeling is healing!) So whether you’re getting ready for your hot girl walk or pouring yourself a glass of whatever makes you fabulous, hit play, and let's dive into this journey of turning your love life from anxious to aligned. Remember, you're not just any girl; you're THAT healing girl. Let's do this!  ✨🧪💚 GET ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨ SECURE LOVE LAB   FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

You keep chasing. They keep pulling away. And somehow you're both exhausted. 😵‍💫 If you've ever felt like you're carrying the relationship, making all the plans, initiating all the conversations, and doing all the emotional heavy lifting... this episode is for you. Because here's the hard truth: The more you push for connection, the harder it can become for someone else to show up. In this episode, we're diving into what it actually takes to break the anxious-avoidant cycle and why the answer isn't communicating better, trying harder, or becoming the "perfect" partner. Inside this episode: 💭 Why you keep finding yourself in the same push-pull dynamic🫠 The surprising way anxiety creates distance in relationships📅 Why making all the plans might be the thing keeping you stuck❤️ What happens when you stop forcing connection and start allowing it🌪️ How overfunctioning destroys intimacy (even when your intentions are good)🌱 The difference between being flexible and being a people-pleasing pushover✨ What secure attachment actually looks like in real life If you're a high-achiever who can run a business, manage a team, crush your goals, and somehow still spend hours wondering why someone hasn't texted back... Welcome. You're in the right place! Because healing anxious attachment isn't about becoming easier to love. It's about becoming secure enough to stop chasing it. And sometimes the thing you're desperately trying to create is the exact thing you're accidentally preventing. Grab your coffee, put your detective hat down for a minute, and let's talk about it. 🤍 #AnxiousAttachment #AvoidantAttachment  ✨ Ready to stop chasing and start feeling secure? If you're tired of the push-pull dynamic running your relationship, Clare offers private coaching for women who are ready to break the pattern for good. ✨🧪💚 GET EARLY ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨ SECURE LOVE LAB   FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

They're busy, stressed, traveling, focused on work... and logically you know nothing is wrong. But your nervous system? Your nervous system is acting like the relationship is on fire. In this episode, we're talking about what to do with yourself when your partner feels distant and why the answer has nothing to do with getting them to text faster, reassure you more, or prove they still care. Because the truth is:The moment they pull back, most anxious attachers immediately abandon themselves. And that's where the spiral begins. In this episode: 💭 Why distance feels like an emergency when you have anxious attachment📱 The urge to text, check, monitor, and keep the conversation alive🫠 Why "matching their energy" usually creates even more distance❤️ The difference between trusting your partner and actually feeling safe🔍 How overthinking turns you into a relationship detective🌿 What secure attachment really looks like when someone is having an off day✨ The surprising question that will stop you from centering your entire life around their availability If you're a high-achieving woman who can manage a business, lead a team, crush your goals... but completely unravel when someone's energy changes, this episode is for you. Because healing anxious attachment isn't about getting better at reading signals. It's about learning how to stay connected to yourself when someone else feels unavailable. And that's exactly what we're diving into today. 🤍 ✨ Want to stop spiraling every time their energy shifts? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of Secure Love Lab — my step-by-step program for high-achieving women who are tired of overthinking every text, every delay, and every ounce of distance.   ✨🧪💚 GET ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨ SECURE LOVE LAB   FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

If you’ve ever had the BEST weekend together… only to spiral the second Monday hits? This episode is for you. We’re diving into: ✨ why the “post-weekend crash” happens ✨ why anxiety gets louder after connection - not quieter ✨ the hidden loop behind overthinking, decoding texts, and picking fights you don’t even want to have ✨ why reassurance never fully fixes it ✨ the difference between a relationship problem and an anxiety problem pretending to be one I’m also sharing: 🤍 a personal story from my own relationship 🤍 a powerful client breakthrough 🤍 why your nervous system keeps trying to “prepare for loss” 🤍 and the exact reason so many high-achieving women stay stuck in this cycle for years This episode is deep, validating, practical, and honestly one of the most important conversations I’ve had on the podcast in a while. Because relationship anxiety isn’t usually about the weekend. It’s about what your safety system learned to do long before this relationship ever existed. 🎧 Listen now if you’re tired of overthinking good things, sabotaging peace, or feeling like your brain is constantly searching for a problem.   ✨🧪💚 GET EARLY ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨ SECURE LOVE LAB   FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

This episode is for the girlies who have the degrees, the promotions, the emotional intelligence, the podcasts, the therapy vocabulary… and still feel like they’re one weird text away from a spiral. And if you’re tired of “understanding your patterns” but still feeling stuck inside them… I'm also sharing more about my newest drop... The Secure Love Lab! My new space for anxious overthinkers who are ready to stop obsessing over the relationship and actually experience it. ✨🧪💚 GET EARLY ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨ SECURE LOVE LAB   FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

If you constantly feel like you’re “too much” in relationships… this episode is for you. 🫶 Not because your needs are too big. Not because you’re “crazy.” Not because you care too much. But because somewhere along the way, you learned that being lovable meant being easy. Easy to date. Easy to communicate with. Easy to not disappoint. Easy to never need anything. So now you: 💭 overthink every conversation 💭 rehearse texts before sending them 💭 hold everything in until you explode 💭 feel guilty for having needs 💭 try soooo hard to be “chill” while secretly spiraling inside   In this episode, we’re talking about: ✨ why feeling “too much” is usually rooted in fear of rejection ✨ the exhausting cycle of overexplaining, overfunctioning & people-pleasing ✨ how anxious attachment turns you into a “service provider” instead of a partner ✨ why trying to be low-maintenance actually creates MORE disconnection ✨ the difference between healthy communication vs performing “easy girl” energy ✨ and how to finally feel safe taking up space in love   We also talk about: 🧪 codependency vs anxious attachment 🧪 why reassurance never fully scratches the itch 🧪 how overthinking blocks true partnership 🧪 a client win that will make every anxious girlie exhale   If you’ve ever thought: “I just want to stop being so much.” …this episode might completely change the way you see yourself. ❤️   🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

“If he wanted to he would” doesn’t create clarity it creates pressure, testing, and a constant feeling of “am I being chosen enough?” And that’s where the spiral starts. In this episode, we break down: 💭 Why “if he wanted to he would” fuels overthinking and relationship anxiety 🧠 How this mindset turns you into a silent tester instead of a communicator 🔥 The subtle ways it makes you pull back, overanalyze, or keep score 🪞 Why it feels empowering… but actually disconnects you from your partner ❤️ What secure love actually looks like instead (hint: it’s not mind reading) Real talk moment: This belief creates a relationship where: you don’t ask for what you want you expect them to “just know” and you quietly decide what things mean about how much they care And then you end up feeling disappointed… even when nothing is technically wrong. Because you’re measuring love based on unspoken rules. This episode is for you if: ✨ You keep thinking “if they cared, they would just do it” ✨ You struggle to ask for what you want without feeling needy ✨ You find yourself testing instead of communicating ✨ You overanalyze effort, timing, or small actions ✨ You want to feel secure… but keep spiraling instead 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

Have you ever pulled back just to see if they notice? Waited to text… to see if they text first? Stayed quiet about what you wanted… just to see if they remembered? Yeah. That counts as testing. And if you’re doing this (even subtly) it might be the exact reason your relationship feels exhausting, unstable, or emotionally unsafe… even when your partner is actually showing up for you. In this episode, we’re unpacking one of the most common anxious attachment patterns: testing your partner to prove they care. Because here’s the hard truth: They can’t pass a test they don’t know they’re taking. And the more you test… the less safe the relationship actually feels - for both of you. In this episode, we talk about: 💭 Why pulling back to “see what they do” creates distance instead of closeness 🧠 The anxious attachment pattern behind relationship testing 🔥 Why testing your partner is actually a form of control — not connection 🪞 The hidden reason testing feels necessary (even when your partner is good) ❤️ Why engineered love never feels as safe as natural love 🌱 How to shift from testing → trusting in your relationship And yes, we talk about the very real moment where you don’t say what you want… just to see if they remember. (Hi, Costco sushi test. Been there 😅) Because constantly watching, analyzing, and waiting to see what they do… is emotionally exhausting. And honestly? No one wants to feel like they’re in a relationship performance review. This episode is for you if: ✨ You pull back to see if they’ll chase you ✨ You test to see if they remember what you want ✨ You feel anxious unless they prove they care ✨ You feel like you’re doing all the emotional work ✨ You struggle to trust even when they show up Because secure relationships don’t grow through testing. They grow through communication. And through trusting that love can show up naturally...without being forced. 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

We're talking about the loop today. The one where you keep checking: "Are we good?" "Do you still like me?" "Is everything okay?" And even when they reassure you… it doesn’t stick. In this episode, we talk about: 💭 Why reassurance feels good… but never lasts 🧠 The sneaky way reassurance becomes emotionally addictive 🔥 How constantly checking breaks trust with yourself 🪞 Why asking “Are we okay?” actually creates more pressure ❤️ The difference between performing healing vs practicing healing 🌱 The one thing I changed that helped me stop chasing reassurance And yes, we talk about that very real anxious girl moment where: You know you're strong. You know you're capable. You know you're successful. But inside? You're spiraling over a vibe shift and analyzing tone like it's your full-time job.  🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

You know they’re a good partner. They text back. They show up. They follow through.   And yet… you’re still spiraling. 😅   You’re analyzing tone. Second-guessing everything. White-knuckling your way through a relationship that is actually safe.   And if you’ve ever thought: “Why can’t I just relax when nothing is technically wrong?”   This episode is for you!   Because here’s the hard truth: sometimes the very thing you’re doing to not mess it up… is the thing quietly creating pressure in the relationship. Yep. We’re going there. In this episode, we talk about: 💭 Why you still feel anxious (even when your partner is consistent and safe) 🧠 The sneaky habit that actually makes anxious triggers worse 🔥 Why telling yourself “don’t worry” makes the spiral stronger 🪞 How trying to be the cool, chill girlfriend creates more tension (relatable, I know 😅) ❤️ Why you can’t think your way into feeling secure 🌱 How letting go of perfection opens the door to real connection   And yes — we talk about the classic anxious girl move: trying SO hard to get it right… that you accidentally make it weird. Been there. Done that. Bought the emotional support iced coffee.   💌 Ready for deeper support? Inside Healing Girl Gang, we practice the tools and reps that move you from anxious attachment → secure connection. 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

3 Things I Did to Face My Biggest Relationship Anxiety Triggers (That Most People Skip) If you’ve ever felt terrified that they might leave… If a delayed text ruins your whole day… If you logically know it’s not that big of a deal, but emotionally you feel completely hijacked… This episode is for you. 🫶 Because here’s the truth, being aware of your triggers doesn’t mean you know how to face them. In this episode, I’m sharing something deeply personal, the three things I did to face one of my biggest attachment triggers: reconnecting with my dad after 11 years of no contact. And what I learned in that experience completely changed the way I understand anxious attachment and emotional healing. This isn’t just theory. This is what it actually looks like to sit with discomfort instead of running from it… to stop rehearsing conversations… and to show up open, present, and willing to feel. In this episode, we talk about: 💭 Why anxious attachment is actually a form of avoiding your own feelings 🧠 The hidden ways you rehearse, control, and overthink to avoid discomfort ❤️ Why most people skip the exact steps that create real intimacy 🪞 The connection between childhood attachment wounds and adult relationship triggers 🌱 The three things I did differently that created healing instead of more anxiety ✨ How facing your triggers (not avoiding them) is where real connection happens If you’re the strong one… The high-achiever… The one who can handle everything, except the moment your relationship feels uncertain… You are not broken. You’re patterned. And patterns can change. This episode will help you understand why your triggers feel so intense and how to move toward connection instead of fear. Because healing anxious attachment isn’t about controlling the outcome… It’s about showing up open, even when it feels terrifying. 💌 Ready for deeper support? Inside Healing Girl Gang, we practice the tools and reps that move you from anxious attachment → secure connection. 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

You’ve done the work. Read the books. Listened to the podcasts. Saved the reels. You know your triggers… and yet somehow, you’re still getting activated. 😅 So what gives? In this episode, we’re talking about the frustrating gap between knowing better and feeling better... and why self-awareness alone doesn’t stop emotional triggers or anxious attachment patterns. Because if you’re honest, sometimes you can literally watch yourself get triggered in real time and still feel completely hijacked by your emotions. In this episode, we're breaking down: 💭 Why self-awareness doesn’t automatically stop your triggers 🧠 The difference between understanding your triggers and healing them 🪞 Why knowing your attachment style isn’t enough to change your reactions 🔥 What’s actually happening in your body when you feel triggered ❤️ Why you still feel reactive even when you “know better” 🌱 The real work that helps you move from triggered → secure ✨ If you’re a high-achieving, emotionally intelligent woman who can explain attachment theory like a TED Talk… but still spirals after one weird text… this episode is going to hit home. 🫶 Whether you’re dating, in a relationship, or trying to trust a GOOD partner without overreacting, this conversation will help you understand why your triggers still show up and what healing actually looks like beyond self-awareness. Because awareness is the first step… But it’s not the last one 💖   💌 Ready for deeper support? Inside Healing Girl Gang, we practice the tools and reps that move you from anxious attachment → secure connection. 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

If you’ve ever caught yourself rereading texts, overanalyzing tone, imagining worst-case scenarios, or feeling your chest tighten because something feels off... this episode is for you. In this episode we’re talking about what to actually do in the moment when you start spiraling in your relationship. Because spiraling in relationships doesn’t mean you’re dramatic, needy, or broken. Most of the time, it means your nervous system is trying to protect you (yes,  even when nothing is technically wrong!) And if you’re an extremely capable high-achieving girlie who is successful in her career… but still find yourself overthinking your relationship, you are absolutely not alone. This episode is all about: - What a relationship spiral actually looks like in real life - Why anxious attachment makes your brain jump to worst-case scenarios - The early warning signs that you're starting to spiral - Why overthinking feels productive — but keeps you stuck - How to calm your nervous system in the moment - What to do instead of texting, overexplaining, or seeking reassurance - How to stop spiraling before it creates distance in your relationship   Because here’s the thing I want you to hear: Spiraling isn’t the problem — staying stuck in the spiral is. And there are things you can do to shift out of it. If you’ve ever thought: “Why do I spiral when nothing is technically wrong?” “Why can’t I stop overthinking my relationship?” “Why do I feel anxious even when they say everything is fine?”   You’re going to feel soooo seen in this episode! So take a breath, get cozy, and let's jump in! --- 💌 Ready for deeper support? Inside Healing Girl Gang, we practice the tools and reps that move you from anxious attachment → secure connection. 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

Let’s talk about something that feels productive… but is actually keeping you stuck: working harder in your relationship. You know what I mean. You’ve got the notes app open in bed. You’re rewriting the text. Replaying the conversation. Journaling it out. Trying to say it the right way so you don’t sound needy. And it feels like you’re doing all the “right” things. Like you’re being thoughtful, self-aware, emotionally intelligent. But somehow… you still feel anxious. Still overthinking. Still stuck in the same loop. In this episode, we’re getting honest about why working harder isn’t healing your anxious attachment — and why it might actually be making your relationship feel heavier, more stressful, and way less fun than it needs to be. We talk about: - The “I just need to figure this out” mindset in relationships - Why overthinking, journaling, and rewriting texts can become over-functioning - The cycle of feeling distance → working harder → over-explaining → temporary relief → repeat - What it looks like to perform being secure vs. actually feeling secure - Why high-achieving women struggle to relax in relationships - How trying to “fix” the relationship pulls you out of actually experiencing it   Because here’s the truth:   You don’t need to work harder to be loved. And love isn’t supposed to feel like a full-time job.   If anything, overworking the relationship is usually the thing that’s draining the connection, the spontaneity, and the ease you actually want.   I also share a personal moment from preparing for a big trip (and my partner meeting my dad) — and how easy it is to fall back into “I’ll just handle this myself” instead of letting someone support you.   If you’ve ever thought: “Why can’t I just relax in my relationship?” “Why do I feel like I’m doing so much and still not feeling secure?” “Why does love feel harder than it should?”   This episode is for you.   Take a breath. You’re not doing it wrong. You’re just using a strategy that works everywhere else… except here. 💌 Ready for deeper support? Inside Healing Girl Gang, we practice the tools and reps that move you from anxious attachment → secure connection. 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

Today’s episode is a really special one because I’m joined by my dear friend and former client, Alyssa, and we’re talking about something that so many women with anxious attachment quietly wonder: What does secure love actually feel like? Not the Instagram version. Not the “perfect relationship” fantasy. But what it feels like inside your body when the spiraling, the overthinking, and the constant mental gymnastics in your relationship finally start to settle. Because when you’re deep in anxious attachment, it can feel incredibly defeating. You’re reading the books. Saving the posts. Going to therapy. Trying to say the right things.   And yet… you still feel stuck in the same patterns.   In this conversation, Alyssa shares what her relationship and inner world actually looked like before doing this work — including:   • Believing the real problem was “communication” • Trying to word things perfectly so her partner would respond the right way • Doing all the reading, therapy, and Instagram saving… but still feeling stuck • The exhaustion of overthinking every conversation • Why “knowing the information” didn’t actually change anything   We also talk about something I see constantly with high-achieving women: being extremely self-aware… but still spiraling in relationships.   Alyssa shares honestly about what finally shifted for her and what secure love started to feel like when things began to change. If you’ve ever thought: “Why do I keep overthinking even though I know better?” “Why can’t I stop spiraling in my relationship?” “Why do I feel so emotionally exhausted from love?” This conversation will likely feel very familiar. You’re not broken. And you’re definitely not the only one who’s felt this way.   Welcome back to the Be That Healing Girl Podcast! Today we’re talking about something I see constantly with my clients...and honestly something I know very well from my own life too: the overthinking spiral. You know the one. You reread the texts. You rewrite the message three times before sending it. You rehearse the conversation in the shower, in the car, before bed… maybe 12 times. You tell yourself you're just trying to be thoughtful or self-aware. But your brain is basically running a full soap opera about a situation that hasn’t even happened yet. And the worst part? Most of the time nothing is actually wrong, but your brain refuses to relax. In this episode we talk about: - The difference between overthinking and self-sabotage - Why high-achieving, self-aware women get stuck in relationship rumination - The “rewrite the text five times” pattern - Why reassurance from your partner never actually sticks - How overthinking is often just a really smart form of self-protection - Why healing anxious attachment requires learning to sit in uncertainty Because the truth is… when you're in that spiral, you're not really trying to solve a problem. You're trying to get relief. And your brain is convinced that if it just analyzes the situation one more time, you'll finally feel safe. Spoiler: it doesn't work like that. I also share a bit about what's been coming up for me personally as I prepare for a big family trip where I’ll be seeing my dad for the first time in 11 years - and how easy it is to slip into trying to say the “perfect thing” instead of just being present. If you’ve ever thought: “Am I overthinking this?” “Am I self-sabotaging something good?” “Why can’t my brain just chill?” This episode is for you! Take a breath. You’re not crazy. Your brain just learned a really intense way of trying to protect you. And we’re going to talk about it.   💌 Ready for deeper support? Inside Healing Girl Gang, we practice the tools and reps that move you from anxious attachment → secure connection. 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

Welcome back to the Be That Healing Girl Podcast! Today we’re talking about something I see constantly with my clients...and honestly something I know very well from my own life too: the overthinking spiral. You know the one. You reread the texts. You rewrite the message three times before sending it. You rehearse the conversation in the shower, in the car, before bed… maybe 12 times. You tell yourself you're just trying to be thoughtful or self-aware. But your brain is basically running a full soap opera about a situation that hasn’t even happened yet. And the worst part? Most of the time nothing is actually wrong, but your brain refuses to relax. In this episode we talk about: - The difference between overthinking and self-sabotage - Why high-achieving, self-aware women get stuck in relationship rumination - The “rewrite the text five times” pattern - Why reassurance from your partner never actually sticks - How overthinking is often just a really smart form of self-protection - Why healing anxious attachment requires learning to sit in uncertainty Because the truth is… when you're in that spiral, you're not really trying to solve a problem. You're trying to get relief. And your brain is convinced that if it just analyzes the situation one more time, you'll finally feel safe. Spoiler: it doesn't work like that. I also share a bit about what's been coming up for me personally as I prepare for a big family trip where I’ll be seeing my dad for the first time in 11 years - and how easy it is to slip into trying to say the “perfect thing” instead of just being present. If you’ve ever thought: “Am I overthinking this?” “Am I self-sabotaging something good?” “Why can’t my brain just chill?” This episode is for you! Take a breath. You’re not crazy. Your brain just learned a really intense way of trying to protect you. And we’re going to talk about it.   💌 Ready for deeper support? Inside Healing Girl Gang, we practice the tools and reps that move you from anxious attachment → secure connection. 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

In this week’s episode of the Be That Healing Girl podcast, we’re getting real about one of the biggest patterns in anxious attachment: trying to “project manage” love instead of actually participating in partnership. If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing all the emotional labor… overthinking every interaction… or secretly wishing your partner would just know what you need without you having to say it — this episode is for you. Because here’s the truth: Love gets heavy when you treat your relationship like a project to optimize, fix, and control. Love gets easier when you treat it like a partnership. In this episode, I break down: Why healthy relationships require honest requests (not mind-reading) The difference between partnership vs. parenting in love How anxious attachment shows up as overworking, overthinking, and over-functioning Why trying harder in relationships often backfires How to stop managing the relationship and start participating in it   If you’re a high-achieving woman who’s confident in your career but anxious in your relationship… constantly trying to “get it right”… and exhausted from overthinking love — you’re in the right place. This conversation will help you soften, get honest with yourself, and start relating from security instead of fear. ✨ Remember: love isn’t supposed to feel like a full-time job. 💌 Ready for deeper support? Inside Healing Girl Gang, we practice the tools and reps that move you from anxious attachment → secure connection. 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

Why didn’t Valentine’s Day feel the way you hoped… even though your partner is actually a good person? In this episode of the Be That Healing Girl Podcast, I’m breaking down the real reason you felt disappointed after Valentine’s Day, a weekend together, a date, or quality time — and why it triggered doubt, overthinking, and questioning the relationship. This conversation is for high-achieving, self-aware women who know their partner is loving and consistent… but still spiral afterward wondering:“Are we a good fit?”“Am I asking for too much?”“Should I feel more excited than this?” If you’ve ever replayed moments, searched for evidence of a lack of effort, or felt emotionally distant after something that was supposed to feel romantic — this episode will hit. Because here’s the truth:Disappointment doesn’t always mean the relationship is wrong.Sometimes it reveals the pattern underneath anxious attachment, overthinking, and unmet expectations. In this episode, we unpack: Why Valentine’s Day, vacations, and “quality time” can trigger relationship anxiety The expectation vs. reality trap that fuels overthinking How internal comparison (social media, other couples) creates dissatisfaction Why your brain searches for proof they “didn’t show up enough” The difference between asking for too much vs. settling for too little How anxious attachment and avoidant tendencies can both show up after closeness Why you may be questioning the relationship instead of your internal narrative The hidden pattern: confusing intensity for spark and chaos for love I also share a personal behind-the-scenes moment from my own relationship with Craig — and how learning to release control and let myself be surprised changed our connection. If you’re exhausted from spending mental energy spiraling about whether your partner is “the one,” this episode will help you zoom out, regulate, and reconnect. You’re not broken.You’re not dramatic.You’re likely running a pattern that can be unlearned. And that’s exactly what we work on here.   💌 Ready for deeper support? Inside Healing Girl Gang, we practice the tools and reps that move you from anxious attachment → secure connection. 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

Worried they won’t show up for you on Valentine’s Day? Spiraling about whether you’ll feel chosen, loved, or disappointed? This episode is for you. 💔 In this week’s podcast ep, we’re talking about relationship anxiety around Valentine’s Day... and why overthinking romance, surprises, and expectations can actually block the connection you want most. If you’ve ever: - Wondered if you should tell your partner what you want… or stay “chill” - Felt scared to seem needy or high‑maintenance - Lowered your expectations so you don’t get hurt - Fantasized about being chosen without having to ask - Kept score after holidays, gifts, or effort …this conversation will hit home. I’m breaking down the anxious attachment patterns that get activated around Valentine’s Day, including the internal debate of “Do I say something or not?”, people‑pleasing tendencies, and how the pressure to be the “cool girl” creates distance in relationships. We also talk about: ✨ Why overthinking ruins spontaneity and romance ✨ The truth about wanting to feel chosen in relationships ✨ How scorekeeping damages connection over time ✨ What you’re actually in control of (and what you’re not) ✨ How to lead yourself through uncertainty without spiraling Because here’s the hard truth: you are NOT in control of whether your partner “gets it right” on Valentine’s Day… but you are in control of how you show up for yourself. If you struggle with anxious attachment, relationship anxiety, or overthinking a good partner — this episode will help you reset before the holiday and focus on what actually builds secure love. 💌 Ready for deeper support? Inside Healing Girl Gang, we practice the tools and reps that move you from anxious attachment → secure connection. 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

If things feel safe in person but the moment you’re apart your brain goes into panic mode… this is the episode to save, replay, and send to your bestie. In this episode I share: ✨ Why your brain goes into “red alert” even when there’s no actual danger ✨ What overthinking is really trying to protect you from ✨ How anxious attachment can show up as avoidant behavior ✨ The sneaky ways your anxiety becomes a compulsion (yes, like gambling) ✨ What finally helped me stop trying to micromanage my relationship This one’s personal... I also share how the same overthinking loop showed up in planning my trip to the Philippines (including seeing my dad for the first time in years)… and what finally helped me feel safe enough to stop trying to figure it all out. And if you feel like you logically know there’s no threat but your body still freaks out? You're not broken. You're running an old system. Inside The Healing Girl Gang, we don’t just talk about the theory, we practice the new pattern. 🎧 So if you’re tired of always waiting for the other shoe to drop, this is your sign to listen. 🦋 Ready for the deeper work?  🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

In today’s episode, I’m getting real about the moment I didn’t look at the facts and how my relationship paid the price. If you’re an overthinker, a scenario-maker, a “what if” queen, or someone who keeps searching for problems when there are none… this episode is for you. Because here’s the hard truth: 👉 Overthinking in relationships isn’t emotional intelligence. 👉 It’s avoidance. 👉 And it quietly pushes safe, loving partners away. If you’ve ever wondered, “Wait… am I the drama?” (lovingly), you’re in the right place. In this episode we talk about: ✨ Why anxious attachment makes you question healthy relationships ✨ How self-sabotage shows up as “being logical” or “being cautious” ✨ The difference between facts vs. stories your anxiety creates ✨ Why safe love can feel boring, uncomfortable, or “wrong” at first ✨ How trying to control conversations and outcomes kills intimacy ✨ What it actually takes to stop pushing good people away   I also share a personal update after my hysterectomy recovery, how this same self-sabotage pattern showed up in my health journey, and why anxious attachment isn’t just about dating... it’s about how we avoid deeper emotional truth in every area of life. If you’re a high-achieving woman who is crushing it in your career but spiraling in your relationship… I see you. You are not broken. You’re just running an outdated emotional system. 🦋 Ready for the deeper work?  🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

Welcome back to the Be That Healing Girl podcast! 🧠💘 Today’s episode is for the girlies who are exhausted from being the emotional project manager of their relationship. You know the one: the planner, the fixer, the emotional laborer, the one Googling “how to stop being anxious but still be lovable.” If your brain tells you, “If I stop trying, nothing will happen,” and you're scared your relationship will crumble unless you give 200% every second… this episode will hit. hard. 👀 We’re talking: - The lie anxious attachment tells you about effort = love - How overfunctioning is killing your vibe and your connection - What it actually means to feel safe and loved without working overtime - And why letting your partner choose you requires you to chill (even if it makes you twitchy) Plus... an update from my hysterectomy recovery era and how Head Nurse Craig is thriving, and I am deeply humbled and deeply moisturized. 🎧 And don’t forget: if you’re tired of the spiral, the resentment, and the fake chill girl act, the Healing Girl Gang is where we turn information into actual transformation. It’s not just “awareness,” babe. It’s reps, it’s nervous system work, it’s receipts. Come do the work and feel good doing it! 🦋 Ready for the deeper work?  🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

If your brain goes from 0 to 100 the second something feels “off” ... if you replay conversations, wait for texts, or feel that frantic “I have to fix this” energy... this episode is for you! In today's podcast I’m walking you through a simple, science‑backed breathing tool you can use right now to slow down an anxious spiral and bring your nervous system back online. This is the tool I personally use when: • I feel the urge to check my phone • My thoughts start racing • My body feels buzzy, panicky, or unsafe • My anxious attachment is running the show Inside this episode, you’ll learn: ✨ Why anxiety and anxious attachment thrive on speed ✨ What a “psychological sigh” is and how it calms your nervous system ✨ A step‑by‑step breathing technique to use when you’re spiraling ✨ The difference between calming a symptom vs. rewiring the system And I’m also going to be real with you: This tool will slow the spiral, but it won’t heal anxious attachment by itself. That happens when you change the system your nervous system is running on. That’s exactly what we do inside Healing Girl Gang through reps, structure, and real‑life nervous system retraining, not just mindset hacks. And just know: You are not broken. You are not too much. Your nervous system learned a pattern... and it can learn a new one.   🦋 Ready for the deeper work?  🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

If you’ve ever said *“I’m gonna be the BEST partner ever and do all the right things”… and then wondered why you still feel anxious, on edge, or like you're constantly spiraling... this episode is for you. Today, I’m breaking down why over-focusing on your relationship is actually making you feel less secure, more anxious, and totally disconnected from yourself. Inside this episode, we dive into: 💔 The sneaky anxious attachment loop that leads to emotional burnout 🔁 Why logic alone won’t soothe your nervous system 🧠 How hyper-focusing on your partner creates fragility in your relationship 📱 The role your phone (yep!) plays in your spirals 🌱 What “watering your own garden” actually looks like when you have anxious tendencies Plus, I share a personal story about going to the movies alone (and loving it!) something old-me would never have done, and why this tiny moment marked a huge healing milestone. This episode is part love letter, part wake-up call and it’s the kind of grounded nervous system reframe I wish I had years ago. If you’re an anxious achiever, a closeted overfunctioner, or a recovering people-pleaser who’s tired of trying to “fix” your relationship by fixing yourself... listen to this one all the way through. There’s no shame here, just clarity, tools, and space to breathe again. 👇 Let me know in the comments if this hit home, and say “girlgang” if you’re ready to rewire this pattern with me inside The Healing Girl Gang.   🦋 Ready for the deeper work?  🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

In this episode we’re breaking down the 3 most common (but sneaky) anxious attachment habits that slowly destroy connection over time... even in loving relationships! If you: - Feel like you’re too much or never enough - Constantly overanalyze texts, tone, or timing - Chase closeness, but end up feeling even more alone… This episode is your wake-up call and your path to healing!   We’ll dive into: 💔 The hidden habits rooted in fear of abandonment 🧠 Why “logic” won’t save you from spiraling 💡 What to do instead to create security, closeness, and calm   Whether you’re currently in a relationship or just trying to break old patterns before your next one, this is a must-listen! 🎧 Save it, share it, and come back when you need the reminder. P.s. If you're new here, this is exactly the kind of deep nervous system work we do inside of my community, the Healing Girl Gang - because healing anxious attachment doesn’t just change your relationships… it changes you. Let me know which habit resonated most in the comments 💬👇   🦋 Ready for the deeper work?  🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

If your thoughts are spiraling… If you’re checking your phone again… If your brain won’t slow down and it feels like your nervous system is in overdrive… This episode is your quick reset. 🤍 In today’s episode I’m walking you through the fastest and most effective tool I use to calm an anxious spiral (especially when I don’t have the luxury of sitting in it). This isn’t a long list of coping strategies. It’s one tool. One moment. One practice. To bring you back to yourself. We’ll cover: ✨ How to disrupt an anxious overthinking loop in real time ✨ Why your chest breath might be making things worse ✨ The underrated ancient practice that resets your nervous system ✨ How to be present when you feel totally out of control If your texts are open, your heart is pounding, and you’re stuck refreshing their story or waiting for a reply… you’re not alone! I’ve been there. This is exactly the kind of moment where this tool matters most. 🎧 Save this episode. Come back to it. Share it with a friend who spirals too. And if you’re listening while I’m recovering from surgery (yep, hysterectomy time), send some love my way. I’ll take all the healing vibes you’ve got. 💌 As always, this is the kind of real, grounded, nervous system support we do inside the Healing Girl Gang. You are so not alone.   🦋 Ready for the deeper work?  🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

In today’s episode I’m breaking down why your nervous system reacts so intensely to your partner’s mood, distance, or emotional shifts... and more importantly, how to stay grounded instead of spiraling. This one is especially for my high‑achieving, high‑functioning girlies who are crushing it at work… but feel like they’re one unread message away from losing their peace in love. We’re talking about: ✨ Why “the vibes feel off” can completely derail your nervous system ✨ The difference between reacting from fear vs responding from regulation ✨ Why reassurance only works temporarily (and what actually creates safety) ✨ How anxious attachment keeps you stuck trying to outthink or outwork your emotions ✨ The nervous system mistake high achievers make in relationships ✨ How to stay grounded (even when there is distance, silence, or uncertainty) I also share personal updates around my upcoming hysterectomy and how physical discomfort, overstimulation, and stress lower our emotional threshold - making relationship anxiety feel louder and harder to manage. (Spoiler: this isn’t about “doing more,” it’s about reducing the load.) Plus, I’m celebrating a HUGE win from a client who is navigating dating without losing herself! Proof that healing anxious attachment isn’t about perfection, it’s about recommitment. Sending you so much love, Clare 🤍   🦋 Ready for the deeper work?  🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

🦋 Ready for the deeper work?  🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

You say “I’m fine”… But your stomach’s in knots. Your voice is quieter than usual. You’re spinning in your head while trying to act chill on the outside. Sound familiar? In this episode, I’m breaking down what really happens in your body, your brain, and your relationships when you keep pretending everything’s okay… especially when it’s not! This is for the high-achieving girlies who can hold it all together at work, but are overthinking up a storm in their relationships. The ones who’ve been told they’re “too much” and the ones who’ve been praised for being “so strong” (but you’re exhausted). 🫠 Yeah, this one’s for you. We’ll talk about: ✨ What your nervous system is doing when you default to “I’m fine” ✨ Why this pattern is common for anxiously attached, people-pleasing girlies like us. ✨ How to gently shift toward safety, visibility, and actually being known 🦋 Ready for the deeper work?  🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

We’ve always agreed we didn’t want kids. But suddenly, with a hysterectomy on the table… I felt wobbly. And there was this tiny part of me whispering, “If I bring up my 'unsureness'… is everything going to change?” In my past relationships, feeling unsure or changing my mind felt like a no-go zone. I could be decisive and confident everywhere else… (hello career overachiever with receipts) but inside my relationships, I was terrified that my truth would ruin everything. My inner perfectionist would jump straight into action: “Nothing to see here! I’m calm! I’m chill!” Meanwhile my body was in a full panic on the inside. And the thing I learned the hard way in those old push-pull dynamics was this: the more honest I was (with him and myself), the closer we became. Pretending never protected anything 🚨NEWS FLASH🚨 it just protects our fear. So when I finally got real with Craig about how this news made me feel… how something inside of me shifted around the idea of kids now that the option might be taken away… he didn’t freak out. He didn’t it shut down. He didn’t make it weird. He listened. He stayed with me. He held the moment instead of turning away from it. And that’s when it hit me more clearly than ever hiding never helps. It only hurts. Because the second you start censoring yourself to “keep the peace,” the peace is already gone. You can’t stay connected AND abandon yourself at the same time. Changing your mind isn’t wrong. Feeling something new isn’t wrong. Saying it out loud is what keeps you close, to your partner and to yourself. 🦋 Ready for the deeper work?  🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

This week, we’re diving deep into a topic I know hits home for so many high-achieving, anxious girlies: why stillness can feel so unsafe when you have relationship anxiety. If you ever catch yourself spiraling because the vibe feels “off,” or if a little space in communication has you convinced the whole relationship is doomed…this episode is for you. Inside this episode, I’m sharing: ✨ Why anxious attachment makes rest and stillness feel dangerous ✨ How I learned to stop overfunctioning and start receiving love (hint: it took surgery and a lot of surrender) ✨ What my explant and fibroid journeys taught me about safety, slowing down, and trusting myself ✨ The belief I had to UNLEARN in order to feel secure in my body and my relationships   ✨ Why stillness is a skill (especially if you grew up in a high-pressure, achievement-driven household)   ✨ How I support Healing Girl Gang members in rewiring their nervous systems for safety and self-trust ✨ A powerful listener Q&A about breaking the cycle of anxious spiraling in a secure relationship Whether you’re a career rockstar, business owner, or have a few letters behind your name (MD, RN, Esq, PhD…) — and yet still feel like a mess when someone doesn’t text back, you’re in the right place. This episode isn’t about fixing you... it’s about helping you feel safe enough to finally rest, receive, and trust yourself and your partner. If you’re ready to learn how to stop self-sabotaging and start feeling safe in love, hit play. And if you’re craving step-by-step support, come join us inside The Healing Girl Gang (where we practice these tools every single month!)   🦋 Ready for the deeper work?  🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

If you're constantly planning, smoothing things over, doing the most in your relationship while low-key wondering “Why can’t they just do more??” — this episode is for you. 💥 If you're a high-achieving, hyper-capable girly who’s exhausted from holding it all together in love, this is your sign to stop performing and start receiving. Period. 👀 In this episode, I break down: • The sneaky ways anxious attachment disguises itself as “being helpful” • Why trying to “earn love through effort” is killing your intimacy • How overgiving actually blocks your partner from stepping up • What it really means to feel chosen without performing • How to stop managing your relationship like a second job • What to do instead — so you feel prioritized and adored 🎧 We also get into: • A client win that had me in my feels 🥹 (from overthinking queen to secure & supported) • A peek inside what’s working inside Healing Girl Gang • How my husband Craig reminded me (with an accent wall no less 😅) what can happen when we let go and receive This one’s part tough love, part best friend pep talk, and all soul truth. Because you don’t need to earn love. You deserve to feel it, just as you are. 👇 JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG Weekly trainings, nervous system resets, and live support so you stop spiraling and start receiving: HealingGirlGang.com 🦋 Ready for the deeper work?  🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

In this episoe we’re talking about how to feel like a priority in your relationship... without slipping into overthinking, over‑analyzing every text, or feeling like you’re “asking for too much.” This episode is for you if: • You know they care about you… but you can’t always feel it • You find yourself checking for proof or reassurance • You are tired of being the one initiating, planning, or emotionally leading • Your brain does wind sprints when there’s space or distance in the relationship • You’re successful in every other area of life, but your nervous system goes ✨ feral✨ in love   Trust me, I’ve lived this. I went from anxiously attached (and chronically exhausted from managing the relationship in my head) to actually feeling chosen, safe, and prioritized in a secure partnership. And we’re unpacking exactly how that shift happens today. 💛 🌙 If you're new: I’m Clare! Relationship and attachment coach for high‑achieving women who are incredible at life… but feel wobbly in love. MDs, founders, attorneys, academics, corporate powerhouses - the girlies who “have their life together” but still spiral at the slow text response? Yep. You’re home. Love you, mean it. x Clare 🤍 🦋 Ready for the deeper work?  🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

You're not needy. You're just healing! In this episode, I’m sharing how I accidentally rewired my anxious attachment into a secure one...without forcing it, faking it, or labeling myself as “crazy.” If you’ve ever found yourself wondering: “Why am I spiraling when everything is fine?” “Why do I panic when things finally feel safe?” …or “Why can’t I just stay calm in a good relationship?” This one’s for you, bb 🫶 👇Here’s what we’re unpacking today: ✨ Why your brain freaks out when your body finally relaxes ✨ How “self-awareness” can actually be a form of over-control ✨ Why you still feel unsafe in a healthy relationship ✨ What it really means to self-regulate vs. spiral ✨ The power of experiencing consistent love (instead of just talking about it) ✨ And how your partner’s stability can rewire your nervous system—if you let it PLUS: real wins from the Healing Girl Gang! 💌 If you’re a high-achieving, emotionally intelligent woman who crushes it at work but crumbles inside a text bubble… this one’s for you. 🫶 Whether you’re newly dating, navigating relationship anxiety, or trying to trust your GOOD partner, this episode will give you the real talk, mindset shifts, and embodiment work you didn’t know you needed. 🦋 Ready for the deeper work?  🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

Welcome back BBs! In this episode, we’re diving deep into a pattern I see all the time: acting “chill” when inside, you're spiraling. You know the drill...trying so hard to come off as the "cool-low-maintenance-unbothered-girlie" so you don’t scare a good partner away… but then end up feeling lonely, disconnected, or like they’re slipping further away anyway... Yeah, we’re unpacking THAT. We’re talking: ✨ Why “being chill” is often just masked FEAR ✨ How inauthenticity actually erodes intimacy ✨ What safe partners are really craving (hint: it’s not perfection) and ✨ How to stop false-signaling and start authentically expressing what’s real for YOU! Whether you're anxiously attached, healing from abandonment, or a high-achieving, high-performing baddie who secretly (or not-so-secretly) melts down when someone doesn’t text back right away… this one’s for you. 🫶 PLUS: I’m answering a juicy Healing Girl Gang Hotline question from someone navigating a relationship blowup and trying to repair trust after spiraling. 🎧 This episode is for you if you’ve ever: Said “I’m fine” through gritted teeth Pretended to be cool with ambiguity but were low-key obsessing Felt like your partner didn’t get how much effort you were putting into not freaking out Or thought, “Ugh, maybe I’m just not meant to be in a relationship” (spoiler: you are) P.S. Inside the Healing Girl Gang community, we’re not about faking it till we make it... we’re about becoming actually unbothered from the inside out. If you're ready for deeper connection, more ease, and to stop abandoning yourself to keep someone else, you’ll love this episode!! 🦋 And If You're Ready for The Deeper Work, Checkout These Resources: 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

If you're in a healthy relationship but your brain won't stop spiraling... this episode is going to hit home. In this week’s episode I’m breaking down the 3 mistakes that keep high-achieving, anxious girlies stuck in the cycle of second-guessing even the most loyal and consistent partner. If you’ve ever found yourself thinking: “Why can’t I just enjoy this person?” “Why am I prepping for the breakup when everything’s going fine?” “Am I making problems where there are none?” 👀 Then this is for YOU. I’m walking you through: ✨ The "prep for the pain" loop that keeps you emotionally exhausted ✨ Why treating your relationship like a project to manage is sabotaging your joy ✨ How mistaking surveillance for loyalty drains your connection ✨ And how to finally start trusting yourself so you can receive the love right in front of you Whether you're dating, in a long-term relationship, or navigating love after heartbreak, this episode is your permission slip to step off the spiral ride and start feeling secure for real. 🎧 Get ready to hear: → Why your anxiety won’t let you enjoy a secure partner → The real reason you keep sabotaging connection → How to stop overthinking and start building self-trust This episode is especially for my anxious attachment babes, my high-functioning overthinkers, and my career girlies who crush it at work but feel like a mess in love. This week we’re unpacking the real reason your brain confuses anxiety for intuition (and how to stop self‑sabotaging a healthy relationship!) If you’ve ever questioned your feelings, overanalyzed your partner’s every move, or convinced yourself your anxiety was a “gut feeling,” this episode is for you! 🧠 In this episode we'll be diving into: ✨ Why “the ick” is often a fear of intimacy, not intuition ✨ How anxiety shows up as false alarms in safe relationships ✨ The difference between red flags vs. self‑protection ✨ How to stop testing your partner and start trusting connection ✨ What your nervous system is actually trying to protect you from ✨ Why discomfort doesn’t mean danger—it means growth I share a personal story about how I almost lost an incredible partner because I thought my fear was “a sign.” (Spoiler: it wasn’t.) I want you to stop mistaking safety for boredom and start building the kind of secure relationship you’ve been craving! 🫶 Whether you’re newly dating, navigating relationship anxiety, or trying to trust your GOOD partner, this episode will give you the real talk, mindset shifts, and embodiment work you didn’t know you needed.   🦋 Ready for the deeper work?  🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

This week we’re unpacking the real reason your brain confuses anxiety for intuition (and how to stop self‑sabotaging a healthy relationship!) If you’ve ever questioned your feelings, overanalyzed your partner’s every move, or convinced yourself your anxiety was a “gut feeling,” this episode is for you! 🧠 In this episode we'll be diving into: ✨ Why “the ick” is often a fear of intimacy, not intuition ✨ How anxiety shows up as false alarms in safe relationships ✨ The difference between red flags vs. self‑protection ✨ How to stop testing your partner and start trusting connection ✨ What your nervous system is actually trying to protect you from ✨ Why discomfort doesn’t mean danger—it means growth I share a personal story about how I almost lost an incredible partner because I thought my fear was “a sign.” (Spoiler: it wasn’t.) I want you to stop mistaking safety for boredom and start building the kind of secure relationship you’ve been craving! 🦋 Ready for the deeper work?  🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

In this episode we’re unpacking one of the most confusing (and exhausting) dynamics in anxious relationships ➡️ Anxiety vs. Intuition. And why your nervous system can't tell the difference.... yet.  We’ll dive into: ✨ The #1 way to know it’s anxiety (not intuition) ✨ How urgency, reactivity & spiraling feel like instinct - but aren’t ✨ Why you're addicted to checking the “emotional alarm system” ✨ What happens when your gut is actually trauma memory ✨ How to disable the internal alarm so you stop mistaking fear for truth ✨ What it actually feels like when your intuition is speaking PLUS: 🥲 A healing win from a client who went from toxic love + cancer treatment → to remission, emotional regulation, and finally letting love in 💅 🛏 My unhinged side quest to find the world’s best sheets (self-regulation starts in the bedroom, babes) 📲 Real talk Q&A from inside The Healing Girl Gang: “Is it weird he only calls at night?” 🦋 Ready for the deeper work?  🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

You’re Not Overreacting - You’re Dysregulated (Here’s Why It Feels Like Everything’s Falling Apart When It’s Actually Fine) You’re not crazy. You’re not being dramatic. You’re just dysregulated AF and your body hasn’t caught up to how safe your life actually is. This episode is for the high-functioning, hyper-self-aware girlies who are checking all the boxes on paper... but still secretly spiraling in silence. 🙃 If you've ever caught yourself mid-anxiety spiral like: “Wait… nothing bad is happening. So why does this feel so familiar?” then this episode is the nervous system deep-dive you didn’t know you needed! 🧠 Inside this episode, we're unpacking: ✨ Why your brain panics when life finally feels calm ✨ How “being self-aware” can actually mask emotional control ✨ The difference between spiraling and actually self-regulating ✨ Why your nervous system doesn’t trust safety (yet) ✨ The powerful shift from “What’s wrong with me?” to “Of course I feel this way” ✨ How to stop rejecting the good stuff (including your partner’s love) ✨ Real wins from Healing Girl Gang members: showers, breathwork, daily habits that shift your state 💕 If you're tired of managing your emotions like a full-time job and you just want to feel safe being happy... this episode is for you! 🫶 Whether you’re newly dating, navigating relationship anxiety, or trying to trust your GOOD partner, this episode will give you the real talk, mindset shifts, and embodiment work you didn’t know you needed. 👉 Join here: healinggirlgang.com 🦋 Ready for the deeper work?  🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

You’ve read the books, saved the Instagram carousels, diagnosed your attachment style (hi anxious girlies 👋), and can spot a spiral from a mile away… but you’re still spiraling?! 🌀 In this episode, we break down: 💭 Why high self-awareness doesn't stop the overthinking 🧠 The "anxious observer" trap (aka when you know you’re spiraling and still can’t stop) 🪞 How spiraling damages self-trust and your relationship ❤️‍🔥 The secret sauce to actually feeling safe (spoiler: it’s not just positive affirmations) 👩‍⚖️ A juicy client win (shoutout to M, our unbothered queen) 🌲 And what solo camping trips taught Clare about healing from abandonment wounds ✨ If you’re a high-achieving, emotionally intelligent woman who crushes it at work but crumbles inside a text bubble… this one’s for you. 🫶 Whether you’re newly dating, navigating relationship anxiety, or trying to trust your GOOD partner, this episode will give you the real talk, mindset shifts, and embodiment work you didn’t know you needed. 👉 Join here: healinggirlgang.com 🦋 Ready for the deeper work?  🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

Do you go to overthinking the second the vibes are off? Scroll TikTok for answers before the text even delivers? Google “anxious attachment + texting” like it’s your part-time job? Yeah. Me too. This episode is for the girlies who know they’re spiraling and feel like they can’t stop—especially when they’re dating someone good. If overthinking has become your coping mechanism in relationships, this episode will land. We’re talking: • Why your brain loves overthinking (hint: dopamine) • Why it feels productive, but actually disconnects you from real connection • How you're using mental work to avoid emotional work • The real reason you can explain your triggers but still don’t feel better I also share a story from my own spiral (yes, the lost RV keys) and shout out a few of my amazing clients who are breaking this cycle in real time—especially Seth and Autumn (you’re killin’ it 👏). If you’ve ever felt like: 🌀 “I can’t relax until I figure it out” 🧠 “I keep overthinking even though I know I’m safe” 💔 “I keep creating problems when there aren’t any” …this episode is for you. 💌 Inside the Healing Girl Gang, we’re taking this even deeper all month long masterclasses, implementation days, tools, coaching… the works. If this episode hits, wait ‘til you see what we do inside the gang.   🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

✨ You’ve read the books. Listened to the podcasts. You could give a TED Talk on attachment styles. So why are you still spiraling?! In this episode I'm talking to YOU, the high-achieving, emotionally intelligent girlie who knows her patterns but still finds herself overthinking texts, replaying convos, and getting caught in the same loop with the same person... again. If you’ve ever thought: 🧠 “I know better, but I can’t stop overthinking.” 😬 “Why do I keep doing this when I’m so aware of what’s happening?” 💔 “I feel like two different people—confident in my career, anxious in my relationship.” Then hit play because this episode is for YOU! We’re breaking down: • Why knowing your attachment style isn’t enough • How your brain is prioritizing familiar over safe • What it really means to “feel ready” for love • Why you’re addicted to overthinking and calling it “clarity” • And how to finally shift from spiraling to self-trust 👯‍♀️ Bonus: I shout out a few of my 1:1 clients (hey, Mrs. N 👀) and show you what real healing looks like...not just awareness, but actual transformation. 🎧 And if you’re loving this, this is just the surface. Inside the Healing Girl Gang, we go deeper with tools, practice, and coaching to help you stop overthinking for real, not just for the afternoon. 👉 Join here: healinggirlgang.com 🦋 Ready for the deeper work?  🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

✨ Ever feel like your brain just won’t shut off... even when everything’s actually fine in your relationship? You’re spiraling, checking for signs, running worst-case scenarios, and overanalyzing their every move... but you know deep down, it’s you, not them. 🤯 On this week's episode we're diving into what might be the most toxic, but totally normalized, habit anxious attached girlies keep doing… and why it’s actually keeping you stuck in the spiral. 😵‍💫 If you're a high-achieving, big-hearted babe who feels like she knows better but just can’t stop overthinking, this is your sign to tune in. We’re breaking down: - The real reason your brain loves to overthink (hint: dopamine hit 😬) - Why spiraling feels productive, even though it’s sabotaging connection - How overthinking is actually keeping you from intimacy—and what to do instead - What makes this pattern so hard to quit, even when your partner is amazing 💡 Plus, I'm giving you tools, truth bombs, and a loving kick in the butt to help you finally break the habit FOR GOOD! 🎧 LISTEN NOW and drop a comment if you’re deep in the spiral lately (no shame, you’re not alone). 👯‍♀️ Want more support? Join our private membership, the Healing Girl Gang, where we’re doing a 5-day Overthinking Detox all month long! You get the trainings, the tools, and the coaching to actually heal… not just cope.   🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

After six weeks of serious inner work (including a spiritual cleanse and a solo wilderness retreat where I literally faced my fear of abandonment head-on), I’m sharing the three biggest things that helped me stop overthinking once and for all. If you’re the kind of girly who spirals over a short text... rereads convos wondering what you did wrong... or catastrophizes when nothing is actually wrong... this episode is going to hit deep. Inside, we'll talk about: ✨ What it really means to listen to your body (and why it matters for your anxious brain) ✨ How productivity pressure secretly fuels relationship anxiety ✨ The difference between your gut and your fear brain ✨ And how I finally felt safe doing... nothing. Just being. Truly. PLUS: tomorrow (Wednesday!) is Implementation Day inside The Healing Girl Gang and this month’s focus is on Overthinking. If you’re ready for the how, this is where we get specific and walk through the process together. 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

If you spiral when your partner seems distant… If your brain won’t stop running “what did I do wrong?” loops… If you’re smart, successful, high-achieving, and still struggling with anxious thoughts in love… You are so not alone. And this episode is for you. 🧠💔 We’re unpacking 3 hard truths about overthinking that every anxious-attached woman needs to hear (especially if you’ve tried everything and still find yourself mentally replaying texts, second-guessing convos, or feeling like your thoughts are running you). We're breaking down: ⭐️ The truth about why you can’t “outthink” fear ⭐️ What your spiral is actually protecting you from ⭐️ Why control isn’t the answer and what is ⭐️ How to retrain your nervous system instead of judging it Plus, a real-time coaching moment with a Healing Girl Gang member struggling to let go of someone who doesn’t see a future even though she still feels love for him. You’re going to want to hear this. 👀 🌿 Ready to heal the root of your relationship anxiety and stop the mental spiraling once and for all? Inside Healing Girl Gang, we do just that with masterclasses, implementation days, live coaching, and our Overthinking Detox every month. 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

Ever feel like you're doing all the inner work, listening to every podcast, journaling your heart out and still fall back into the same anxious spirals or overthinking loops? SAME. In this raw and real episode, I’m pulling back the curtain and sharing what I’m still healing… even as a relationship coach. This episode is for the high-achieving, high-performing girlies who feel confident in their careers but are still spiraling in their relationships. 🎧 We’ll talk about: ✨The real reason your healing “isn’t sticking” ✨Why you might still spiral (even after tons of growth) ✨The sneaky trap of thinking healing means “no more conflict” ✨Why anxious attachment is less about perfection and more like tending a garden I also share a little life update from my pre-retreat cleanse, what’s been going on with my body lately (ladies, let’s talk hormones + 90s low-rise trauma 🙃), and a deeply personal coaching answer to a listener’s question about giving a partner space without losing your mind. ❤️ If you’ve ever thought “I should be over this by now”… this one’s for you. 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

If You Overthink Every Text Message… This Episode Is For You! You’re crushing it at work, you're a boss in life, but when it comes to your relationship? You're suddenly spiraling over why he took 6-hours to text you back or asking "are we okay" over and over again... Then this episode is your soft place to land. In this episode we’re unpacking the hidden damage overthinking does to your relationships (even when things seem fine on the surface). I’ll walk you through: 💭 Why overthinking feels productive but keeps you disconnected 🧠 How your brain uses spiraling as a safety strategy 💗 What it actually takes to shift into emotional peace and connection 🏕 Plus: a lil’ story about Blair Witch-level camping chaos (you’ll get it)   👯‍♀️ Also, shoutout to my Healing Girl Gang - we answer a listener Q about anxious attachment + space in relationships that SO many of you will relate to. 🔔 Subscribe for weekly episodes on healing, relationships, anxious attachment & self-trust ⭐️ Leave a review, it keeps this podcast free and lets me know you’re out there 🛠 Join the Healing Girl Gang for masterclasses, live Q&As, overthinking detoxes + more   🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

In this powerful episode, I sit down with my client Karuna - science writer, high achiever, and living proof that secure attachment is possible! We’re talking full transformation: from spiraling over missed texts to feeling calm, confident, and deeply self-trusting in relationships (and beyond). Karuna shares the real, raw moments (crying in the shower, questioning everything, and wondering if the anxiety would ever go away). But through coaching, truth-telling, and data-driven reflection (yes, we get nerdy), she experienced a 75%+ increase in her confidence, mindset, and self-trust AND a 133% decrease in her overthinking. 👀 Plus: → What it really feels like to date while anxious → Why traditional therapy didn’t quite cut it → The sneaky ways we micromanage our partners → What shifted when she stopped trying to be "less anxious" and started trusting herself This one is so honest, so hope-giving, and such a beautiful reminder that you’re not broken - you just haven’t been given the right tools yet.   🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

Ever feel like you're just too much in your relationship? 😵‍💫 Like your emotions are too messy, too needy, or too intense so you try to keep them bottled up just to keep the peace? Yeah… been there. In this week’s episode we're getting into the real reason you feel like you're too much (and why it’s actually a sign you're ready to heal your anxious attachment for good!) This is for the high-achieving girlies who are secretly spiraling in their relationships. You know, refreshing your texts 12x an hour, over-apologizing for crying, or feeling like vulnerability makes you "bad at love." In this episode we're talking: ✨ Why your “too muchness” isn’t actually too much ✨ The role of emotional safety in healing anxious attachment ✨ How over-functioning at work translates to under-functioning in your relationships ✨ What your internal rulebook says about love...and how to rewrite it ✨ How to stop self-sabotaging when a secure partner shows up 💭 Plus, I share a personal story from a 1:1 client who broke the cycle (and what made her healing finally click). This one’s juicy, raw, and real and I can’t wait for you to hear it! 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

You had an amazing weekend... the vibes were vibing, the cuddles were elite, and the connection felt so good. Then you got home, sat on the couch, and suddenly you’re spiraling. Sound familiar? This episode is all about why post-vacation (or post-holiday) anxiety hits so hard (especially if you’re anxiously attached and dating someone amazing). I’m breaking down the threebig reasons why you keep freaking out after it all went so well. 💥 We’re talking:    •    The honeymoon bubble (and why it messes with your nervous system)    •    The closeness crash (aka what happens when reality returns)    •    The expectation + confirmation bias gap (aka why a great weekend sets you up to doubt it all) Even if your partner is wonderful, even if everything is fine, your brain can still be screaming “danger.” You’re not broken. You just need tools, structure, and support and I’ve got you. 🫶 Plus: I’m sharing a Q from a Healing Girl Gang member struggling with anxiety after her partner reassures her (if that’s not real, I don’t know what is). ✨ If this resonates:    •    Leave a 5⭐️ review (it helps more than you know)    •    Join the Healing Girl Gang (Overthinking Detox kicks off this week!)    •    DM me your favorite takeaway from the episode Let’s normalize the weird grief of a great trip ending, and finally stop blowing up what’s actually going really well. WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session 💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube

If slow feels boring, if calm feels confusing, and if your nervous system is low-key addicted to chaos.... this one’s for you. This week, we’re diving into what a secure relationship actually looks and feels like (even if your anxious attachment says, “Wait, is this it?”). Whether you’re dating, in a long-term partnership, or healing from relationship patterns that feel more like rollercoasters than real connection, I’m breaking down the 6 big shifts that define secure love. ✨ Spoiler alert: It’s not fast, intense, or dramatic. It’s steady. Consistent. Intentional. And deeply healing (even if your brain wants to sprint toward a vibe check). We’re talking: • Why moving fast ≠ connection • How to tell if you’re chasing intensity instead of sincerity • What “repair” looks like vs. reaction • And why secure love might feel… weird (at first) Plus, I’m sharing an honest question from one of my Healing Girl Gang members going through a painful breakup, and offering the truth we all need when we want to hold on instead of letting go. Let’s unlearn the chaos and relearn calm love, together. 🖐 Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and rate 5 stars—it helps keep this podcast free and gives me a virtual high five from your earbuds 💕 WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session 💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube

It’s our 6-year wedding anniversary (!!) and today I brought my husband Craig on the podcast for the realest conversation about love, growth, and the journey from spiraling to secure. We’re answering your juiciest Qs: ✨ What it’s really like when anxious meets avoidant ✨ Our proposal story (yes, there was a backup plan involving a dog) ✨ How we almost didn’t make it—and what shifted ✨ Craig’s honest take on what helped him finally “grow up” emotionally ✨ Plus: our chaotic traits, icks, inside jokes, and a BIG announcement (no, not a baby) Whether you’re deep in your healing era or just curious about what it looks like to actually do this work with a partner, this episode is for you. It’s honest. It’s sweet. It’s full of growth and some light roasting (Just the way we like it!) WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session 💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube

Still Needing Constant Reassurance in Your Relationship? Here’s Why 👀 . This episode is for the anxious girlies who look like they have it all together … but on the inside, you’re checking the vibes like it’s your full-time job. We’re talking: ✨ Why your brain craves constant reassurance—and how to stop needing it ✨ The connection between high achievement & emotional hypervigilance ✨ How to build real self-trust (the kind that doesn’t care if he texts back in 5 min or 5 hours) PLUS: I’m sharing a few of the funniest icks from my DMs (and you will scream at one of them) 😂 If you're secretly struggling in a relationship that "should" feel safe, you're not crazy and you're definitely not alone. This episode will help you shift from spiraling to self-secure. 💌 JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG This month inside the Girl Gang, we’re doing a full detox of overthinking + learning exactly how to soothe yourself without needing 24/7 validation from your partner. Want in? DM me “GIRLGANG” on IG or click the link below. 🖐 Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and rate 5 stars—it helps keep this podcast free and gives me a virtual high five from your earbuds 💕 WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session 💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube

This episode is for the anxious girlies who look like they have it all together (you’ve got degrees, deadlines, and the job)… but on the inside, you’re checking the relationship vibes like it’s your full-time job. We’re talking: ✨ Why your brain craves constant reassurance and how to stop needing it ✨ The connection between high achievement & emotional hyper-vigilance ✨ How to build real self-trust (the kind that doesn’t care if he texts back in 5 min or 5 hours) PLUS: I’m sharing a few of the funniest icks from the TickerTocker (and you will scream at one of them) 😂 If you're secretly struggling in a relationship that "should" feel safe, you're not crazy and you're definitely not alone. This episode will help you shift from spiraling to self-secure. 💌 JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG This month inside the Girl Gang, we’re doing a full detox of overthinking + learning exactly how to soothe yourself without needing 24/7 validation from your partner. Want in? DM me “GIRLGANG” on IG!  WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session 💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube

We’re unpacking the 3 big reasons your anxious attachment isn’t healing, even if you’re doing everything “right.” Spoiler: it’s not about trying harder… it’s about trying differently. If you’re a high-achieving, self-aware, anxious girlie who still feels like a walking red flag in relationships, this one’s for you. We’re talking: ✨ Why performing yur healing is keeping you stuck ✨ The myth of linear progress (and why healing is actually a spiral staircase ✨ How to stop overwatering the plant and just let it grow 🪴 Plus, I’m sharing a wild story from the internet girlie streets (hi, Wizard Liz 👀) that proves you can be a literal goddess and still get ghosted, cheated on, or confused AF in love. 💌 JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG If you’re ready to actually break the anxious cycle and learn to feel safe in your body (not just in theory), come hang with us inside the Girl Gang. Monthly deep dives, nervous system rituals, and a no-perfection zone. WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session 💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube

Ever wonder what it actually looks like to go from anxious, overthinking, “I’m probably the problem” energy… to grounded, confident, and finally feeling secure in your relationship? In this raw and heart-hitting episode, I’m sitting down with one of my 1:1 coaching client, a high-achieving, military-working, nurse-extraordinaire, who decided to stop spiraling overseas (literally!) and finally heal for real. We’re talking:💭 Overthinking and the "doom scroll" inside your own brain💌 How your childhood wounds sneak into adult relationships📲 Why waiting on a text back used to ruin her day — and what’s changed💥 The difference between self-help and actual transformation🌊 And how she learned to communicate without blowing things up Plus: what made her go from “I can fix this on my own” to “I need deeper support”… and how that shift changed everything. If you’ve ever felt like you’re “too much,” like you’re self-sabotaging something good, or like your brain just won’t stop spinning…this episode is for you. WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session 💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube

Welcome back to the Be That Healing Girl podcast! If your mind is spiraling, your stomach’s in knots, and you’ve refreshed your texts 18 times in the last 3 minutes… this episode is your emergency toolkit! In this quick but powerful 5-minute pep talk, I’m giving you grounding reminders to come back home to yourself when your anxious attachment gets triggered. This is the episode to save, download, share with your bestie, and play on repeat when you're about to spiral. You’ll learn: ✨ Why your anxiety makes sense (and why you’re not broken) ✨ How to regulate your nervous system in the moment ✨ A powerful breathing practice to calm your body ✨ How to shift your energy back to YOU instead of chasing ✨ Loving prompts to re-center and choose yourself first If you’re new here, I’m Clare, a relationship coach for high-achieving girlies who crush it at work but feel lost, anxious, or overthink-y in love. You're not alone, and you are SO not broken. 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

Ever find yourself refreshing your texts like your life depends on it? Or spending 10 hours doing two hours of work because your brain won’t stop obsessing over that thing you said? Yep. This one’s for you, bb! In this episode, I’m giving you powerful (and surprisingly calming) reminders for when your anxious attachment kicks in HARD. Whether you're deep in a spiral or just know one is brewing, these are the things I wish someone had told me when I was riding the relationship-anxiety rollercoaster daily. We're talking: - The difference between urgency and truth (spoiler: they are not the same) - Why “if it feels hysteric, it’s historic” is your new healing mantra - The cold hard truth: you cannot out-logic your nervous system (sorry to my high-achieving girlies with 3 degrees and a color-coded Google calendar) Plus: a little gut health update (yes, your anxiety might be coming from your stomach), a hilarious “Would You Rather” game you’re gonna want to bring to your next girls’ night, and a juicy Q&A from inside the Healing Girl Gang! 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

Ever held it in like a champ… until you exploded over something small (but actually not small at all)? 🙃You didn’t want to ruin the vibe. It was the weekend. You were on vacation.You told yourself “It’s fine” five times in your head and then snapped over the way they chewed. Yup. This one’s for you, babe. In this weeks episode , we’re talking: How to stop self-silencing (aka white-knuckling your way through feelings 😬) Why holding it in isn’t keeping the peace (spoiler: it’s brewing a low-key emotional bomb) What healthy, non-spiraly expression actually looks like And how your perfectionism might secretly be killing your communication If you’ve ever said “it’s not a big deal” when it 100% was a big deal — I got you. ✨ Also — the Healing Girl Gang is diving deep into communication this month. We’ve got the live training, the action steps, the process, the coaching... the whole damn toolkit.  🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

Why do we keep explaining... and explaining... and explaining — and still walk away feeling misunderstood (and kind of embarrassed)? 😵‍💫 In this week's episode we’re diving into why overexplaining is so common for high-achieving, anxious-attached girlies — and why it actually makes you feel less secure (not more). We’ll talk about: - How overexplaining is really a nervous system response (not just “bad communication”) - Why your anxious attachment thrives on overexplaining (and how to gently stop) - The difference between clarifying vs. oversharing - Simple, real-world tools to feel heard without feeling like you’re doing a TED Talk at your boyfriend 🚩 If you’re ready to stop feeling like you need a PowerPoint presentation to get your needs met, you’re in the right place. 😌✨ 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

You’re the go-to girl at work, the one who gets it DONE… but when it comes to your relationship? Cue the overthinking, second-guessing, and constant need for reassurance. 🫠 Sound familiar? This week we’re talking about one of the BIGGEST blocks I see with my high-achieving, high-performing girlies: how to actually build self-trust (especially after a lifetime of self-abandonment). If you’ve ever: - Been the “strong one” for everyone else but secretly crumble when your partner doesn’t text back 💬 - Checked every box on the “secure girlie” to-do list (yoga, sound baths, Pilates, booked & busy) but still feel exhausted and anxious 😩 - Overfunctioned in your career while under-trusting yourself in love ❤️‍🔥 …then sis, this episode is FOR YOU.   We’re diving into: ✨ Why performing self-care and performing self-trust aren’t the same as feeling secure ✨ The sneaky ways high-achievers self-abandon (and how it’s killing your inner trust) ✨ How to stop looking externally (the career wins, the gym streak, the packed calendar) for the thing only YOU can give yourself ✨ My simple, no-fluff self-trust routine that actually works to calm your nervous system and build rock-solid security (spoiler: it’s not about doing more) I’m sharing the real talk I wish I had years ago—because healing your anxious attachment starts with learning how to trust the most important person in the room: YOU. 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

Are you overthinking every convo, second-guessing yourself constantly, and wondering... “Am I triggered or am I actually right?” 😅 Welcome to the most validating episode you didn’t know you needed. In this week’s episode we’re diving deep into that hot mess moment we all know too well—when you can’t tell if your anxious attachment is flaring up or if your intuition is genuinely trying to protect you. 💥 If you’ve ever: Spiraled after a text delay 📱 Felt “too much” even though you KNOW you're with a good person 💗 Asked 3 friends, 2 Google searches, and your therapist the same thing 🙃 Collected screenshots like receipts to confirm your vibe was right 🧾 …this episode is your new safe space. We’re breaking down: 👉 What confirmation bias looks like in relationships 👉 How to know if your emotional response is actually valid 👉 Why your triggers don’t just go away (and what to do instead) 👉 The #1 mindset shift that will change how you show up in love for good ✨ Plus: I share what really helped me go from spiraling every other Monday to building secure, drama-free connection with my partner (and it’s not what you think).  🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

This week, we're getting real about the messy middle — where you logically know you’re in a good relationship but emotionally still feel anxious AF. If you’re constantly asking: “Why isn’t this enough?” “Why do I still feel so unsure?” “Why can’t I just be chill for once?!” Then this episode is your exact starting point. 👏 Inside, we’re talking about: ✨ Why the key to feeling secure in your relationship starts with YOU (not him, not a text back, not a future ring) 🧠 How morphing into the ‘perfect partner’ keeps you in anxious mode 💗 Why being your authentic self is the foundation for real, lasting love 🔁 What happens when you’re stuck in the “prove myself” cycle (and how to stop) 💬 And why your deepest fear might not be about love... but being alone 👀 Plus, I’m answering a powerful listener question about letting go of a relationship, fear of being alone, and how to move forward when you're committed to finally breaking the cycle. 💔➡️💪 Let this be your permission slip to stop performing in your relationship, and start being the most you version of you — because that's where true security lives. 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

Welcome to the episode every anxious attachment girlie needs in her back pocket. If you spiral when they don’t text back, replay convos 14 times in your head, or wake up with an emotional hangover worse than a tequila bender… this one's for you. 💌 We’re talking about what actually works in the heat of the moment — when you’re triggered, panicked, and low-key ready to throw your phone out the window. 💅 Inside this episode, I’m breaking down: 🧠 What it means to act from your wound vs. your healing 💌 How to stop overthinking in real-time — without ghosting your own needs 🌱 The 3-part process that’s helping my clients regulate their triggers instantly ⚡ Why vulnerability (yes, the scary kind) is the REAL fix for the spiral 🧃 And the tea on emotional hangovers vs. real healing (spoiler: hot girl walks won’t fix your subconscious) PLUS: I answer a listener question about feeling anxious when your man is off having fun — even if he’s never given you a reason not to trust him. 👀 Let’s ditch the “I’m fine” mask, stop walking it off, and start healing in real-time. You deserve secure love 💕 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

Let’s be real: you’re the hyper-independent girlie who gets ish DONE. You’ve got the degree, the business, the receipts. But when it comes to relationships? Your anxious attachment is quietly (or not so quietly) throwing hands in the background. 😅 In this episode, I’m diving deep into what I call the "Don’t need anyone but kinda wish they’d text me first" energy — aka the sneaky link between anxious attachment and hyper-independence. Because yes, you can be both! If you've ever said: ➤ “I can just do it myself”, “I don’t need anyone”... but secretly want someone to show up for you... 👀 bb, this episode is for you. We’re talking: ✨ The blind spots that keep you stuck in ‘strong girl’ mode: ✨ Self-sabotage in love (and how to spot it) ✨ The trap of over-functioning — in relationships AND at work ✨ Why needing support is not a weakness ✨ And how to stop masking vulnerability with perfectionism Plus, I’m sharing a few real, raw stories (including the one where I got applauded for leaving my plate out?? Yes. You’ll get it when you hear it.) 👑 Whether you're dating, in a relationship, or single but spiraling, this episode is a mirror. And it’s time to stop choosing patterns that don’t serve the secure, healthy love you actually want. 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

In this episode, I’m breaking down the biggest mistakes I see when people try to “fix” their anxious attachment triggers—and why those habits might actually be keeping you stuck in the same cycle. 🚨 We’re diving into:🔥 Why being hard on yourself is making it worse (and what to do instead)🔥 The sneaky ways perfectionism is showing up in your healing process🔥 How to stop intellectualizing and actually feel secure in your body🔥 Why masking your emotions is lowkey ruining your relationships🔥 How to self-soothe without avoidance, isolation, or spiraling I’ve made these mistakes. My clients have made these mistakes. But the good news? You don’t have to keep making them. 🙌🏼 So if you’re tired of catching yourself in the same relationship spirals, constantly trying to “fix” things that aren’t broken, or feeling like no amount of journaling and self-work is actually shifting anything… this episode is for you. ✨ Ready to stop self-sabotaging and start feeling secure?👉🏽 Drop a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ review if this hit home (seriously, it helps SO much!)👉🏽 Join me in the Healing Girl Gang for the full training in April👉🏽 DM me “TRIGGERS” on IG if you’re ready for deeper support! 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

Imagine going from spiraling over “Do they really like me?” to casually ring shopping like it’s no big deal. 🤯 That’s exactly what’s happening for my clients—and in this episode, I’m giving you the real tea on how they went from anxious to ENGAGED. 💍✨ If you’re a high-achieving, overthinking, lowkey-perfectionist queen who’s crushing it in your career but secretly struggling with relationship anxiety (yeah, I see you), this episode is going to hit hard. 🔥 Here’s what we’re diving into:✨ Why anxious attachment doesn’t have to mean relationship struggle forever✨ The #1 mindset shift my clients made that changed everything✨ How to stop spiraling over your relationship and start feeling secure✨ What happens when you finally face your fears instead of avoiding them If you’re tired of playing it cool while your brain is running worst-case scenarios 24/7, hit play NOW. And if this resonates? Drop a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ review so more girlies can find this and start healing, too! P.S. If you’re ready to actually do the work that gets you to this level of peace in your relationship, let’s talk. Because the truth? What you don’t change, you choose. 🫶🏼 👉🏽 DM me on Instagram or checkout the links below to work together!   💡 JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG—For Q&As, trainings, workbooks, and all the tools you need to stop spiraling over your relationship. 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

Feel like you're the one keeping the relationship alive? 😩 You’re planning the dates, remembering the little things, prioritizing them… and they’re just kinda there. So what gives? Are you asking for too much? Are they low-effort or just wired differently? And most importantly—how do you actually get them to step up without nagging, over-functioning, or feeling like you have to prove your worth? I gotchu, bb! Today, we’re breaking it all down: 🔥 Why high-achieving women struggle with feeling like it’s never enough (and why this shows up in your relationships) 🧠 How subconscious programming is keeping you stuck in over-giving mode 💡 Signs you’re acting from a wound vs. a real relationship need 🚩 What to do if your partner’s effort feels just a little too bare minimum 👑 How to communicate your needs without being needy (yes, it’s possible!)   Also—big news! 🎉 My Align Mini Retreat is happening March 8 in San Diego 🌊 This is your chance to actually feel what secure love is like—to shift your energy, embody confidence, and experience transformation in real time. If you’re in SoCal, you NEED to be there! 🌊join me for an intimate healing mini-retreat in a stunning oceanfront sanctuary! 🌊 https://www.healinggirlgang.com/offers/FTmRxFat/checkout?coupon_code=100OFF   💡 JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG—For Q&As, trainings, workbooks, and all the tools you need to stop spiraling over your relationship. 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

STOP DOING ALL THE WORK IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP 😤 (Why You’re Exhausted & How to Fix It) Ever feel like you’re carrying the whole damn relationship on your back? Planning the dates, making space in your schedule, keeping the energy going—while he just... coasts? Yeah, I see you, and this episode is for you. Today, we’re breaking down why high-achieving, type-A women (hi, that’s you👋) often fall into the pattern of over-functioning in relationships—and what to do about it. Because relationships aren’t meant to feel like a group project where you’re doing all the work while your partner barely puts in effort. We’re talking about: ✨ Why doing less in your relationship actually makes it stronger ✨ How your anxious attachment + overachiever mindset keep you stuck ✨ The sneaky ways you might be self-sabotaging your relationship ✨ How to lean back, stop overextending, and let THEM step up 👀   🔥 UPCOMING TRAINING: Ready to actually implement this? In March, I’m teaching a LIVE training on how to communicate your needs without feeling needy + set boundaries that don’t backfire. Stay tuned! 💡 JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG—For Q&As, trainings, workbooks, and all the tools you need to stop spiraling over your relationship. 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

This week I’m joined by Dr. Jeanine Staples-Dixon, a literal genius, tenured professor at Penn State, and someone who knows why you keep self-sabotaging in love. We’re breaking down: 🔥 Why your relationship anxiety isn’t just a “you” thing—it’s a SYSTEM thing 🔥 How patriarchy, white supremacy & capitalism keep you chasing love & approval 🔥 The sneaky ways you abandon yourself trying to “win” a man’s attention 🔥 How to de-center a man (without ruining your relationship, I swear) 🔥 What ACTUALLY makes you feel safe & secure in love (hint: not another anxious text at 2AM 💀) ⚡ If you’re tired of spiraling, waiting for his texts, and feeling like a full-time detective on his IG stories—this episode is for you. 💡 The self-trust era is upon us. Because you don’t need to prove your worth to anyone, and you sure as hell don’t need to perform for love. Let’s fix this. 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

🚨 Reality check for my high-achieving, anxious girlies in relationships with an avoidant partner… 🚨 Valentine’s Day can be a lot—especially if you’re anxiously attached and caught in the push-pull dynamic. The overthinking. The “are we okay?” spiral. The low-key panic when they don’t text back right away. Sound familiar? You’re not alone, and this episode is for YOU. 💌💡 In today’s episode we’re diving into: ✨ How to actually feel SECURE in your relationship (without forcing them to change) ✨ Why anxious attachment isn’t a you problem—it’s a learned pattern (and how to unlearn it) ✨ How to stop making Valentine’s Day (or any other random Tuesday) the ultimate test of your worth ✨ The real secret to getting closer to your avoidant partner WITHOUT over-explaining, chasing, or spiraling And let’s be real… if someone called you insecure, your knee-jerk response would be absolutely not, I have my life together, thank you. But when it comes to love? That’s where things feel messy. So let’s talk about it. 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

If you’re anxiously attached and dating an avoidant, you already know this relationship is basically an extreme sport. One minute, you’re feeling all the love; the next, you’re staring at your phone wondering why they haven’t texted back for seven hours (… or seven days 😅). If you’re deep in the “is this ever going to work, or am I just setting myself up for heartbreak?” spiral, this episode is for you! What We’re Covering in Today’s Episode: 💡 The #1 sign that your partner actually has the capacity to meet you in a healthy relationship 🔥 Why so many anxious daters say they want to heal but aren’t actually doing the work 🔍How to stop hyper-focusing on the one bad moment and see your relationship as a whole I love this topic because I see it every day in my clients—high-achieving women who have their lives together on paper (degrees, careers, real estate, the whole thing) but secretly feel like a total mess when it comes to their relationships. If that’s you, you’re not alone. And if you’re exhausted from pushing away a good partner because your nervous system is constantly in panic mode, this episode will give you the clarity you need! 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

Okay, real talk—are you actually pushing away someone great, or do you just keep attracting emotionally unavailable people? Because SAME. Been there, lived it, wrote the metaphorical book. This week, we’re getting deep into: 💔 Why you might be sabotaging a good relationship without realizing it 🔥 The real reason you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners 🧠 How your subconscious is literally running the show (but we can fix that) ✨ The shift that changes EVERYTHING so you stop chasing and start choosing I say this with love: If you’re stuck in the cycle of push-pull, over-explaining, or convincing someone to choose you… this episode is your wake-up call. Because here’s the truth: when you stop acting from fear and start moving from self-trust? That’s when everything shifts.  💕🎧 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

✨ Hey girlies, welcome to SEASON 2 of the BeThatHealingGirl Podcast! ✨ We’re leveling up big time—new vibes, new content, and SO many juicy convos ahead. Today, we’re diving into something we all know too well: the push-pull dynamic in relationships. You know, when things feel AMAZING one moment and like a dumpster fire the next? Been there. Let’s break it all the way down. Here’s what we’re getting into: 💔 Why the push-pull cycle keeps you stuck in those same fights. 🧠 How emotional consistency (on your end) changes everything. 🎤 Why being heard is non-negotiable in relationships AND life. And girl, it’s not just about relationships this season. We’re zooming WAY out—because how you show up in your love life is so connected to things like burnout, perfectionism, and even your hormones (yes, we’re going there)! Also, let’s talk TEA: In this episode, I’m spilling personal stories about my own push-pull messes, sharing a Q&A about speaking up without the guilt, and dropping some major updates about where this pod is headed (hint: IRL events might be coming soon 👀). This season is ALL about stepping into your power, owning your glow-up, and creating the relationship you deserve—starting with the one you have with yourself. 🎧 Hit play and let’s get into it. Drop me a comment, share with your bestie, and let’s heal together. Love you! 💖 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

✨ It’s 2025 and we’re not carrying anxious attachment into this new era okay? Feeling stuck in the what ifs and putting your life on hold for someone else? Trust me, I’ve been there. In this special year-end episode, we’re diving into how anxious attachment has been holding you back from living your best life—and, more importantly, how to leave it behind as we step into the new year. 🎉 Plus, we’ll dive into how YOU can start feeling full and magnetic in your life now, instead of waiting for the "perfect relationship" to come along.  🌟Oh, and BIG NEWS: The Relationship Glow-Up Guide is here! This 5-day Mini Course is totally free, and I'll be walking you through simple daily practices (in less than 10 minutes a day) to help you start 2025 as your best, most healed self 💖 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

In this episode I’m breaking down why pretending you’re totally fine when you’re actually spiraling inside is keeping you stuck. 🚨Spoiler Alert: Being unbothered isn’t an act. It’s a practice. If you’re tired of filling your calendar, holding in your feelings, and THEN word-vomiting because you can’t hold it in anymore… this episode is for you, honey. We’ll talk: ✨ Why busying yourself isn’t the answer, how to stop performing and start self-revealing (healthily) and The key to feeling genuinely secure in yourself and your relationship. 🌟Oh, and BIG NEWS: The Relationship Glow-Up Guide kicks off January 1st! This 5-day Mini Course is totally free, and I'll be walking you through simple daily practices (in less than 10 minutes a day) to help you start 2025 as your best, most healed self 💖 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

💖 This is Part 2 of my special series with none other than my husband, Craig! In this episode, we’re diving deep into the patterns that defined the early days of our relationship—hello, anxious and avoidant attachment styles—and how we worked through them to create the connection we have today. We get super real about the miscommunications, the fears, and yes, even the moments we weren’t sure we’d make it. Whether you're in the trenches of an anxious-avoidant dynamic or just trying to build a healthier connection, there’s so much here for you! 🎙️ Don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review this episode if it resonates!  P.s. This episode is available to WATCH on youtube here!  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

🚨 SPECIAL EPISODE ALERT! 🚨 This week on BeThatHealingGirl, I’m joined by none other than… my husband, Craig! 💍✨ We’re pulling back the curtain on our relationship and diving into everything from attachment styles (anxious vs. avoidant anyone? 👀), to the hilarity of fighting over In-N-Out Burger, to how fear vs. love plays a major role in relationships. Spoiler: We don’t hold back. 🫣 Craig shares his journey as “an evolving man,” growing up in a conservative family, navigating emotional vulnerability, and—let’s be real—trying to figure out what I actually do for a living (shoutout to my “girlies” 🫶). This is the real, raw, and sometimes ridiculous side of our relationship. Whether you’re navigating attachment struggles or just want a peek into how two VERY different people make it work, this episode is for you. Bonus: There’s a Part 2 coming! 😏 💌 Head to Youtube (link below) to watch this full episode and let us know your favorite moment or the part that hit home for you in the comments!  💖 JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG! 💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕  ✅ SUBSCRIBE AND WATCH ON YOUTUBE JOIN THE HEALING JOURNEY 💗Follow on Instagram: https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlinsta 💖Follow on TikTok: https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirltiktok WORK WITH CLARE 😜 Self-Sabotage Slay-Over http://tinyurl.com/slayover2024 ⭐️ VIP 1:1 Session https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlVIP

So you asked for the reassurance. You got it. And... you’re still spiraling. WTF, right? 🤯 This week, we’re getting into why that little “everything’s fine” doesn’t actually hit the way you hoped it would—and why it never will (spoiler: it’s not about them, bb, it’s about YOU). 💅 We’re unpacking the real tea on why reassurance is just a Band-Aid for what’s actually going on underneath—and how to break free from the cycle for good. If you’re tired of feeling like an emotional rollercoaster every time you send a “just checking in” text, or not so jokingly ask "do you still love me?" this episode is for you 💕  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 https://www.healinggirlgang.com/  🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 http://tinyurl.com/theconfidencecode2024 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session