Call it Growth

This episode unpacks the 3 things I feel contribute to us struggling with things not going our way:

1. Time

2. Accolades

3. This or That thinking

There are amazing things to experience along the way, and through things taking on a different direction, you might find things working out for you much better than you expected.

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You are not lazy, you are not a failure. You are a human being having a human experience. The thing about human experiences is that they are imperfect, and they change over time. The version of you today is the version that needs to be here. So, learn to regulate and question why you are constantly seeking a version of you that has everything together.

How can you do this?

1. Do things that make you feel present

2. Don't punish yourself for days when you don't show up at full capacity

3. It's okay to get a little bit of help along the way too

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Should bullies be forgiven?

In this podcast, I unpack the long-term effects of bullying and the difficulty of being forgiving to the people who have caused us harm.

Furthermore, unpacking the role we play in society to create and maintain bullying behaviors.

I reflect on how I might have previously been a bully to others and whether I would be deserving of forgiveness. It is a tricky one.

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This was a tough one. To speak about, to revisit, to begin unpacking. I am so nervous to take you through the journey of processing grief, because it was messy and confusing and has a lot of truths I am embarrassed to admit. But this is what healing looks like, and I hope this encourages you to begin unpacking your own grief. Afterall, it was cathartic and I see that I have grown a lot more in the past 3 years of grief.

Check out my Healing Circle: https://callitgrowth.my.canva.site/

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I am so glad to be back! There's a lot to cover. On this episode, I share a little bit on why I stopped creating content. I dive a little bit into:

Announcement: I am launching Call It Growth Healing Circle, find out more: https://callitgrowth.my.canva.site/

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I wanted to seal this video with the ways I think we can consider supporting ourselves through realising our dreams this year. Let me know what things you are committing to doing this year to succeed in your dreams.

I came across posts of people saying they don't want to vision board or build extensive plans for 2023 because doing so for 2022 felt like jinxing themselves. Part of this for me feels like a fear of failing at the things we have planned for ourselves if they don't pan out as we see them. And I totally get it. Here's my perspective on that and a few of my wishes for 2023!

I hope you feel safe here. This episode sees me talking through triggers that are surfacing, and how I am coping or not coping through them.
What remains is, I am proud of you. I am proud  of us. We have experienced the most turbulence, uncertainty and anxiety in the past few years. Yet, here we are, breathing and trying for tomorrow, again. We're doing well. 

The festive season comes with an overwhelming amount of sadness for me. When others are feeling joyous and celebrating their achievements of the year with family, I often find myself curled up into a ball of anxiety, triggers and feelings of melancholy. Between celebrating small things and noting the things I am grateful for, on this I share the things that I am going to start doing to make the festive season easier for me in the future.

Let me know what your coping strategies for holiday blues are. 

To those that have been following The Healing is Now series, and the podcast overall, you may know already what Call It Growth is about already. However, I wanted to affirm once again why growth is and will continue to be the guiding theme for this podcast and I hope we can individually define what that means for us.

Something I have become more aware of through listening to other people in this space is, we are not healing projects. That is, the work of healing is not one that should be intended to produce a perfect outcome. Rather, it is something we continue to create for ourselves, and just ourselves. To understand more about this idea, you're welcome to watch the video 'you are not a self-improvement project' by Lynette Adkins on YouTube.

Finally, my becoming more aware of the need I have to heal, does not imply that I am healed, or on the accurate path of healing for that matter. I am not a health worker or a mental health advisor by any means. Please take from this podcast what you need at your own discretion. 

I love you!

On this segment of The Healing is Now, I take time to vocalize and take conscious note of the things that I have lost this year. It was important for me to speak on these, to recognize and acknowledge them for myself, so that I am able to intentionally heal the areas of myself that are grieving from loss. 

Take time to journey with me, and make notes for yourself that you need for your healing. Let me know what you think.

Thank you for listening.

 Mentioned in the episode:

''What's ahead of me is worth healing for" - Infographic by Nakeia Homer

"Children Hold On(To YourDreams)" -  Song by William (Wee Gee) Howard

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I hope you feel safe here. This episode sees me talking through triggers that are surfacing, and how I am coping or not coping through them.
What remains is, I am proud of you. I am proud of us. We have experienced the most turbulence, uncertainty and anxiety in the past few years. Yet, here we are, breathing and trying for tomorrow, again. We're doing well.

I suddenly felt really tired and wondered how you were doing. What are you doing to feel better as the year draws to an end?

In this episode, I share what it means to be in solidarity with oneself. On the days where it is difficult to  show up for ourselves, we tend to be clouded from the true and positive qualities about ourselves that contribute positively to the world. We almost seem to only remember the parts that perptually bring us further down. That's ok. Slowly, surely. we do get better at this and I am grateful that I am surrounded by a community that reminds me of the positive parts of myself when I need it most. 

I had a bad day. Then two, then a couple of bad days and I got afraid. "We're losing it, again. This is the point of struggle we will only be able to escape once we've hit rock bottom. Or summer. Or meds. Or it's the end." But then I had a warrm moment on the phone with my friend, then a moment with my dad. Then a Friday night out and then a "Maybe we'll make it this time too" moment.

And I took the time to reflect on the vallidation, love and support that showed up for me when I least expected it, when I didn't reach out for it, when I did nothing else but just sit still, and wait.

The wait was worth it. I feel seen and I feel held by the community, guides and energy around me. I wish that for you too.

Sometimes, we are unable to escape difficulty. We are unable to take action to remedy the parts of our lives that lose footing when things are tough. Sometimes things are tough and go absolutely nowhere. That is totally ok. On this episode I reflect on the ways in which the least anticipated moments became the support and validation I needed to get through a couple of days of difficulty.

On this episode I share how rest as an act of resisting work and labour has been an integral part of my growth. I share the process I take to rest with intention, with love and with self care. The way that this conversation has come up in social spaces has affirmed how meaningful the idea of awarding my body with this act is. Actively shaping how I choose what occurs for me has allowed me to move with a lot more kindness towards myself and I hope this can do the same for you.

Welcome to Call it Growth. 

Thank you for agreeing to share this space with me today.

This episode honours and acknowledges the individual experience of shaping the way we show up every single time we do. Where we are faced with conflicting ideas about our identity, the act of forgiving ourselves and acknowledging our participation in each and every event of our lives is an act of sacred remembrance.

On this episode, I reflect on the feeling of loneliness while navigating a space of intentional solitude.