The Slumflower Hour

These men secretly want to be us so bad. Watch out for men who will seek your hand in courtship just to COMPETE with you... In this episode, join The Slumflower as she drags men for filth! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why do we always realise we were too good for these men after things end? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses the post-breakup clarity we all need to pick up where we left off and take our power back once and for all! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When was the last time you punished a man and why was it so long ago? What can women do to gain and hold more leverage in their relationships with men? And what can women do to enjoy holding the power and administering punishments without feeling terrible? Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There are just some women in this world who are far too complex, untameable and powerful to be confined to the limitations of 'wife'. The power that comes from embracing being a disobedient, 'unmarriable' woman who cannot be bent or manipulated, is a power that we should never sleep on as women. Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you tend to wear your heart on your sleeve? Do you often find yourself giving more than you get from men? Is your vulnerability something that is often rough-handled and treated with impatience? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the urgency of women protecting ourselves emotionally from men, and why being guarded isn't the worst thing in the world. Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you have a tendency to rush things with men? Do you find that things tend to start intensely then burn out fast? Does long distance really deserve the bad rep it gets? In this episode, Chidera recounts her experience being long distance with a guy she met on a dating reality show - and why distance in relationships helps women develop grounding, leverage and control if they're willing to pay attention. (Spoiler: I am not dating the man being discussed) Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In a world that is governed by men's weak egos, what steps are you taking to make the world a tougher place for them? In a world where men select women based on the praise and validation they'll receive from other men, what can you do to monopolise your power and benefit from this more? Join Chidera as she dissects the male ego and discusses tips and tools to use men's egos against them. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Did you know that men are a breed of dog? Did you also know that it's your responsibility to dictate how you deserve to be treated in a world where men already feel entitled to overriding your rules? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses non-formulaic methods of teaching men how to treat you - because ultimately, your standards are yours to set! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is it possible to hate men and still date them? Yes, just like men are misogynists who still relentlessly chase the comfort, warmth and love of women! Sarcasm aside, in a world where women face brutal consequences for being so loving, kind and accommodating with men, what does dating life look like when women restrict men and reduce our kindness? In this episode, join Chidera as she recounts her experience going on a reality dating show - and how she allowed herself to like a man without letting her values go. Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you finally had enough? Have you finally developed the backbone to leave these men behind? Does your ability to walk away scare men? This episode is most certainly for YOU! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is that man wearing allyship like a costume? Does he suddenly become a 'feminist' when the bill comes? Is he selective with your empowerment whilst being threatened by you feeling good about yourself? This episode is going to be a spicy one! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's talk about making dating work for you in an already terrible dating pool! Are you utilising the men in your life properly? Are you open to the idea of a roster and if so, are you diversifying these men's roles to their full potential? Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you fear your own power? Do you 'naturally' feel inclined to defer to men? Does the idea of a powerful woman who makes men question themselves entice you or does it make you uncomfortable? In this episode, we talk all things power and fearlessness as The Slumflower talks about the importance of women not being scared to hold their power in the presence of the beings we birthed. Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The things women do for men...are they even worth it? Of course not but alas, here we are! In this episode, join Chidera as we talk about the sacrifices and leaps women take all because of men... Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How long will you keep lying to yourself? Is it finally time to interfere with the story you've been telling yourself? Are there certain delusions keeping you bound to that man? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the ways we all deny reality to protect our delusions. Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you manage when someone puts you on the spot and tries to bully you? Or if you're caught in a situation where you have to stand up for yourself without bursting into tears? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she shares her experiences of men attempting to bully her - as well as tips and tricks to hold your own when someone is trying to shake you out of character. Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you allow yourself to be angry or do you repress it? In a society where women's rage is stifled and suppressed, it's time we have a conversation about allowing ourselves to feel it all in full. In this episode, join Chidera as she talks about the importance of normalising our rage during the luteal phase - and why the world must learn to adjust to us. Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

*TRIGGER WARNING*: R*pe is discussed in this episode where we talk about why men value leverage over us, how they siphon our souls and health through osmosis, and why it's important to start giving men PTSD back. Prepare yourself to hear some horrific stories from women who have survived developing life-changing illnesses and disabilities from being partnered with men. Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you feel inclined to self-sabotage in a healthy relationship? If so, what does that sabotage look like? How about balance? Would you consider yourself a secure skeptic? Or are you prepared to jump into love with both feet? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses the importance of keeping the upper hand even when you're happy! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Scared the next girl will get a better version of him? Worried that all your hard work sent building him will be enjoyed by another woman? Paranoid that the next girl will be so amazing that she will transform him? In this episode, join Chidera as she debunks the myth that 'the next girl' will have the best experience being with him! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is your boyfriend a good boy? Should we train him? Or is it time for him to be handed to the dog home for someone else to take him on as a problem? In this episode, join Chidera as she talks about the importance of the black cat-golden retriever dynamic, and why women should consider leaning into ethical narcissism. Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you feel self-conscious about having a sexual history? Have men tried to make you feel shame for having been 'ran thru'? Should we start judging men for their sexual pasts in the same way they judge us? In this episode, join Chidera as she talks about why your past has nothing to do with how worthy you are of love - and how you should be using your sexual past to shape the future you want with a man! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you the hot girlfriend? Do you find that men try to chip away at your confidence? Has a man ever tried to out-shine you? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses the plight of the hot girl - and why we should never be afraid to turn up the heat some more! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you been victimised by a prideful man? This episode may be for you! Join Chidera as she recounts her experiences with prideful men - and why we all need to guard and protect ourselves from men who are too weak to resist competing with women... Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Does the idea of 'dating to marry' resonate with you? Are men using 'wifey material' as a way to lure you in? What even is 'husband material'? In this episode, join Chidera as she disassembles this whole 'wife material' phrase and reminds us all of why we should be dubious of it! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How can we explore rebellion in a way that keeps us safe and aligned with our standards? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the importance of rebelling against the rules men have assigned us - and why collecting money from men is a form of rebellion! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is it time to step away from him? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the cons of breaking up with him - and why frequent breakups might not be the worst thing in the world... Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

They say men love the chase but women love being chased too! In this episode, join The Slumflower as she talks about the ways women can leverage the chase - and why we should be more selective of the validation we give men. Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

So you finally let it rip on him...I guess he deserved it! In this rather validating episode, join Chidera as she talks about why crashouts can sometimes be beneficial for you - and why every man deserves the wrath that comes from provoking a bleeding woman! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Has a man ever called you his muse? If so, did you know you may be entitled to compensation? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the invisible cost of being a man's muse - and why women deserve money when men use us as their artistic inspiration! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you found yourself trapped in his sob story? Has that broke man got you going 50/50 as a way to 'ease his load'? Does your desire to save men come from a place of procrastination? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she talks about why we need to leave men to figure it out - no matter how much it hurts us to watch them struggle! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Does falling in love tend to have you forgetting yourself? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the reasons we must always prioritise ourselves as women - no matter how much the lovebombing is beginning to work! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Should we bring back the 90 days period of 'waiting'? Should we start making men audition for our affection? Are men better partners when we put them through probation first? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she talks about why it's still important to make him wait - and how you can effectively use his pride and ego to your benefit while he proves his intentions to you! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Does the 'girls girl' really exist? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the complexity of female empowerment, expectations placed on women to like each other within feminism - and enjoy a juicy storytime of a situation where a woman tried to 'steal' a guy she was dating...on national TV! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Should women be bitter? Is bitterness an emotion we can alchemise? Should we reclaim the word 'bitter'? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses what pushes a woman to become bitter - and why men weaponise the word against us. Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Should you go through a man's phone? Is there a silver lining to catching a man cheating? Are you prepared to walk away or would you prefer to punish him? In this short and sweet episode, join Chidera as she discusses her opinion on whether you should look in that man's phone, and why as a woman it's always important to remain a few steps ahead emotionally! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is the club really the place to find love? Should we be charging men to talk to us in the club? How do we keep safe and vigilant in the function? Join Chidera for a funny episode where she discusses the tactics of using your looks, your wit and your discernment to have fun without losing yourself! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the first episode of season 4, we are joined by dominatrix, social campaigner and all-round powerful woman: the one and only Pamela Blonde! Join us for a conversation where we discuss sex work decriminalisation, castration kinks, needle play fetishes, being estranged from our mothers, being vulnerable as a dominant woman and being truly loved in all your layers as a sex worker. Find and support Pamela online via @ServePamela Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the FINAL episode of season 3, we are joined by a fellow disobedient woman all the way from Australia! @HorribleMeanBadWoman (real name Sarah) is the much-needed radical voice of female rage, who makes zero effort to spare men in her cultural commentary about patriarchy, male failure and why we should all be a little more horrible, mean and bad to men! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you harbouring a man child in your home and calling him a husband? Is your mother-in-law the persistent third wheel in your marriage? Does that man seem to forever be 'unable' to clean up after himself? In this episode, join Chidera as we tackle the curious case of the man child! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are women conflating oversharing with bonding? Does telling men every single thing strengthen the relationship? Is your husband truly being transparent with you? In this episode, join Chidera as she talks all the reasons you need to be less 'transparent' with men - and why honesty constantly being expected of women, is part of the grooming process. Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Has he pulled the rug from under you? Did you see it coming but you tried to tell yourself otherwise? Is it time for you to start being the dumper to see what that power feels like? In this episode, join Chidera as she embraces the so-called 'toxicity' of dumping men first - and why it's important for women to be the villain once in a while... Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Can femininity be considered toxic? Should women have bigger egos? Do women have a victim mentality? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the ways that femininity can be used against us, and why women need to see beyond what has been taught to us, in order to identify potentially abusive relationships. Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do white women have a different version of feminism? (Yes) Is feminism serving us or holding us back when it comes to dating men? Are white women enablers of patriarchy? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses why Black women and women of colour cannot rely on white feminism...and why there are different socioeconomic ramifications Black women face when we split bills with men. Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you tend to feel bad when a man begs and grovels? Are you against holding grudges? Should we give men more chances? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she reminds you of all the reasons men don't deserve more chances, no matter how 'sorry' they are! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Does rejection make you spiral? Should women stop being old-fashioned and just make the first move on a man? Should we reject men before they reject us? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the power of rejection - and how women can use it more to our advantage! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is it too late to find 'the one'? What does it really mean when men call a woman 'expired'? Are men worth longing for? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she reminds you that it is not too late to start living for yourself - and why not finding 'the one' might just be your biggest blessing! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever considered or questioned the politics behind your romantic desires? Is a man's attraction to you political? Do our dating preferences change with our politics? In this episode, join Chidera as she recounts her racist experiences working in the strip club, and what dating politically means to her. Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you see marriage for the negotiated contract that it is, or do you see marriage as a purely spiritual union, devoid of any power dynamics or transactions? Does the idea of marriage being compared to s*x work offend you, or do you see the ways women are expected to perform sexual and domestic labour as a 'duty'? Do married women actually benefit from marriage? In a rather contentious and controversial episode, join Chidera as she dives deeper on her perspective that marriage to straight men is the lowest paid form of s*x work. Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What's all the hype surrounding dating younger men? Are older men a better option? Should there be an age limit for age gap relationships? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses her preference - and why neither option is necessarily 'easier'. Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you trapped in a redundant loop of making the same mistake? Does your impulsivity betray you? Are you finally ready to leave your destructive life behind? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses the pitfalls of repeating the same mistakes women often make - and why feminism might be adding to your problems here. Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you off to see that man? Do you feel tempted to make it easier for him? Is your gut reliable enough for you to be dating right now? In this episode, join Chidera as she lovingly warns you about what to be vigilant of in this desperate dating market! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is he stingy or does he just not like you? What happens if you have kids with a stingy man? Should we cheat on stingy men? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses why we should all expect more from men - and why stingy men deserve to be lonely. Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you miss him? Has the amnesia suddenly hit you and now you can't remember why you cut him off to begin with? Are you tempted to go back? In this episode, join Chidera as she talks through the reasons we end up caving when we think we miss these dudes. Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Was that horrible relationship worth it because you were able to write some songs about it? Do you believe you have to put yourself through pain in order to feel creative? Did that heartbreak really need to happen or are you using art as an excuse to justify being around men who don't deserve you? In today's episode, join Chidera as she (lovingly) drags the musician girlies! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you too easily attached to men? Are we 'manifesting' bad treatment from men by expecting it of them? Is your rejection sensitivity making you unnecessarily empathetic to men? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses why healthy detachment from men will save your life. Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is there really such thing as 'terrible husband but a good father'? Should we starve men of sex to solve their entitlement issues? Will men ever become the 'good people' we fantasise about them becoming? In this episode, join Chidera as she normalises hating men back. TRIGGER WARNING: This episode discusses male sexual violence against women Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Should we be less approving of men's flirty advances, even if they are being cute? Are we making the male loneliness epidemic harder on men by being less understanding of their sexual needs? And have we explored what might actually happen if we raise the bar for men to meet us? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she justifies why she believes we need to make ourselves more romantically scarce - after all, men are not entitled to our love. Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What do you stand to lose by being the woman he can afford? Do men appreciate women more when our standards are lower? Or are we just overthinking this whole thing?! In this episode, join Chidera for a rather hilarious and spicy chat. ;) Join my ⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are attractive men worth all the hassle? Do good-looking men deserve to be humbled? Is it a safer bet to date an 'ugly' man? In this episode, join Chidera for a rather juicy chat! Join my ⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are desperate women sinking the ship for the rest of us? Can men tell when you're male-centred? Are low-effort dates even worth it in the name of being a 'cool and easy' girl? In this episode, join Chidera as she highlights the dangers of male-centred women...and what we can all do to redirect the focus to ourselves! Join my ⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you still clinging onto the hope that one day, men will finally be who we want them to be? Is feminism doing what we need it to do? Are YOU brainwashed? The Slumflower explores it all in this episode! Join my ⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Does being too empathetic make men see you as pathetic? Could there be a pattern of your behaviour that predatory men are drawn to? Are you prepared for a world where the men you're dating are leaning closer towards red pill ideologies? In this episode, join Chidera as she raises the alarm on how close the predator is in proximity to all of us! Join my ⁠patreon⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do 'homewreckers' really exist? Would you date your friend's ex? Should you forgive your husband for cheating? Hmmm...in today's episode, join Chidera as she debunks this 'homewrecker' phrase once and for - and shines the light on where it belongs: MARRIED MEN! Join my ⁠patreon⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is sex really casual? This is the question being pondered upon in this episode. Join The Slumflower as she toys with the debate of whether a woman can truly benefit from 'no strings attached' sex! Join my ⁠patreon⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you find yourself having to keep repeating your requests to the man in your life? Do people keep telling you that you need to 'communicate' if you want a healthy relationship (even though the person you're communicating to is not listening)? Have you found yourself feeling fatigued in your relationship? This episode is specifically for the women who are trapped in the communication loop. There's a way out! Join Chidera as she helps you untangle the knots to finally find clarity in handling men who don't listen to you. Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you a hopeless romantic? Do you believe that love conquers all? Do you live in the hope that one day, you'll fall in love and things will fall into place as they were always meant to? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she debunks the concept of being a 'hopeless romantic', while she exposes the true intentions of men who call themselves that! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you feel guilty about using men in a world where men created a system where women will always be commodified? Have you found yourself feeling tongue-tied when wanting to ask a man for help? Should men be of service to us? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses why we should put these men to work! ;) Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you struggle with premature attachment to men? Do you fear you'll never stop being a lover girl? Is it really the man you're attached to or are you attached to the idea of being desired? In this episode, join Chidera as she helps you banish the demonic spirit of unnecessary attachment to straight men! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is that man using you as an ego boost? Is he really 'just shy' or is he waiting for you to chase him? Do men deserve our friendship? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses the ways men steal our energy for their own empowerment... Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is your loneliness starting to become obvious? Do you secretly fear that you're not going to find your person? Are you losing hope? It's okay! Let's chill out, take a deep breath and reground ourselves. In this episode, join Chidera as she talks you through your FOMO and debunks your fears. Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you a strong woman who takes pride in being independent? Do you secretly wish you knew how to receive support without 'losing' your strength? Do men praise you for being 'strong'? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses why being strong doesn't mean you have to struggle! Besides, what's the man there for? Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Has your poor coochie management led to your demise? Are you in denial about the ripple effect your sexual decisions have on the quality of your life? Are men onto something when they tell us sleeping with them makes us 'impure'? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the ramifications of being sexually careless - and why we all ought to step up the pussy security IMMEDIATELY! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever been accused of being 'toxic' for holding a man accountable? Do your friends consider you 'too harsh' in your dating decisions and conclusions? Is there something you enjoy in giving men a taste of their own medicine? If so, you'll definitively enjoy this episode. Join The Slumflower, as she reclaims the term 'toxic' and flips the script once again!  Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you live in a land full of stingy men who love to split the bill? Are you starting to lose hope that you'll meet a man who will treat you as you want to be treated? Has 'feminism' made men too lazy to provide? In this episode garnished with a storytime, join Chidera as she discusses how to survive stingy men! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Has the FOMO of Valentine's day got you feeling blue? Did your man 'conveniently' start a fight with you a couple days ago? Are you bored of Valentine's day? If any of the above questions resonate with you, you'll most certainly enjoy this episode! Join The Slumflower as she discusses why Valentine's day is important - and not for the reasons we might think... ;) Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

So it's finally happened...he's become carried away and comfortable enough to start coasting through the relationship... His yearning has decreased and his ability to remain mad at you has suddenly taken precedence. Big yikes! Time to hit the brakes, I fear. In this new episode kicking off season 3, join Chidera as she talks you through the key indicators that your man might just be too comfortable, sis! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this FINALE episode of season 2, we are joined by the 6 figure-earning dominatrix, OG Tierra Doll! In this juicy episode, we discuss findom as wealth redistribution and a radical politic, the extensive library of quirky kink fetishes and femdom vs feminism. You can find the Goddess, Miss OG Tierra Doll online via @TierraDoll_ on X. Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Should my feminism be dismissed as 'anti-feminist'? Are you really independent if you still rely on men for orgasms? Is it possible to truly be empowered while dating men? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses why 'feminists' hate sex workers, why it's radical to expect a man who loves you to put assets in your name, and what empowerment while dating men can actually look like! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Can male friends actually play a fulfilling role of support in our lives? Is it better to sleep with men you're already friends with? What is your criteria for male friends? Join Chidera as it all goes down in this hilarious episode!  Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is the dick too bomb for you to use your sense? Have you found yourself roped into a 'situationship' from what was only meant to be a brief hookup? Are you hoping the sex will make him love you? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses why 'being dickmatized' is of the mind - and how we can all snap out of it before we become stuck! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you dating to marry or dating for money? Do women deserve to be paid to be pregnant? Is it possible to fall in love without giving away your power to a man? These are questions that need answers and in this episode, join Chidera as she covers them! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you struggle with putting your foot down when handling a situation with a guy? Are you often 'too nice' when you should be a little more dubious of men? Have you fallen into the mentality of making men's negligence about you? In this episode, enjoy a storytime and Chidera's real-time texting conversation with a man who is now blocked! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you feel like that man is romantically edging you? Is there a vibe that he 'kind of' likes you but is holding back? Are you at a crossroads of whether you should keep emotionally investing in him? If any of the above questions resonate with you, this quick burst of an episode might give you the answers you need...while giving you a laugh! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do looks really matter? Should we 'dress for men'? Is it considered 'unfeminist' to use your beauty as leverage? We cover all these questions in this episode, where The Slumflower dives into beauty as a tool - and whether feminism is helping or hindering our journeys towards the lifestyles we desire... (Disclaimer: the use of weed as an example in this episode, is in no way a promotion of its use!) Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you feel like you 'owe' men sex for a cocktail? Does the 'gold digger' label scare you away from being upfront about your needs? Are you playing to win or are you playing to be fair? In this episode, join Chidera as she dilutes your fears of asking men for things, and chats through the ridiculousness of male entitlement! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you trying to find the firmness in your voice? Or are you worried you might be a bit too blunt? In this episode, join Chidera as she talks through the ways we can all be a little stricter without flying off the rails - and why there's nothing scarier to a man, than a woman who is pissed off and relaxed about it... NEW DATE ADDED FOR MY SOLD OUT LIVE SHOW! Get tickets for my October 27th LIVE SHOW Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you feel bad about dating selfishly? Does the idea of 'using' a man make you feel guilty? Is it exploitative to date men with your best interest at the forefront? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses her favourite ways to exploit men in a world where they systemically and interpersonally exploit women every single day... NEW DATE ADDED FOR MY SOLD OUT LIVE SHOW! Get tickets for my October 27th LIVE SHOW Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you convinced yourself you're stuck with that man? Is he really the best you can do? Why do you even keep giving him chances? In this brief and funny episode, join The Slumflower as she talks through the lies we tell ourselves to cling onto these men who have passed their expiry date in our lives... NEW DATE ADDED FOR MY SOLD OUT LIVE SHOW! Get tickets for my October 27th LIVE SHOW Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is the pressure on to start a family? Feeling broody? Or maybe even experiencing that FOMO feeling as everyone around you is starting to have babies? You are not alone! In this episode, join Chidera as she talks about why you don't need to have kids just because you want to...and the ways we can all show up in a maternal role without having to commit to parenthood *cough cough* shout out to the aunties! NEW DATE ADDED FOR MY SOLD OUT LIVE SHOW! Get tickets for my October 27th LIVE SHOW Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you a first born daughter who has been plagued by the perpetual sense of responsibility...even over the men you date? Has your first born daughter status evolved into a saviour complex? Do you feel like you need to be useful in order to be loved? Dear first born daughters, this one is for us! In this episode, join Chidera as she muses and reflects on her life and upbringing as a first born daughter - and how this has actually empowered her to be stern, bold and fearless in her self-advocacy when dating men. NEW DATE ADDED FOR MY SOLD OUT LIVE SHOW! Get tickets for my October 27th LIVE SHOW Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you been victimised by a Nigerian man? Are you too nice to the Nigerian men you date? (YES) Is there a lack of cultural awareness that impinges upon your ability to understand Nigerian men? However you resonate (or don't) with these questions, you'll enjoy this episode full of insight, banter and cultural context from a Nigerian woman, herself! In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses how best to date Nigerian men to enjoy the best of them and avoid the worst of them... Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you that friend who keeps calling your friend to complain about the same man you won't leave? Are you the friend who wishes your homegirl would get a grip and get over that man, so you can have your friend back? Or are you that woman who has exhausted all your friendships and has found herself isolated because you keep choosing men over self-respect? If any of the above resonate, this episode is for you! In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the irritation of being that woman who simply won't learn her bloody lesson... Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you find your neurodivergence interfering with your dating life? Have you found your rejection sensitivity makes you more prone to rumination? Has your constant masking made you more used to tolerating discomfort around men? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses how her neurodivergence influences the way she navigates men. Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are pick-me women simply misunderstood? Are things 'easier' with men when you let patriarchy run its course? What can women do to avoid becoming desperate? In this episode, join Chidera as she talks through all the reasons why picking men over yourself will always leave you short-changed and resentful - no matter how exceptional you think your situation is... Get tickets for my October 26th LIVE SHOW at Leicester Square Theatre, London Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Did you notice yourself almost falling for the botched dream being sold to you? Was it all stating to feel a little too good to be true? Has he switched up on you because his little game didn't work? Nothing hits better than that 'thank God I didn't fall for him' relief and in this episode, The Slumflower visits the various ways men become sassy and insufferable when their grandiosity backfires! Get tickets for my October 26th LIVE SHOW Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode was voted for by the patrons over at Patreon! If we can all agree that men are scary, then we can al agree that dating men should be worth our time, right? Join Chidera, as she chats through safety, self esteem and making men EARN your trust! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you fantasise about him coming back? Do you tend to develop limerence for men who leave you? Do you allow yourself to feel your anger in full? If any of these questions resonate with you, this episode might hit home. Join The Slumflower as she discusses why you should test men, why you need to stop 'healing' and why it's totally okay that you might not meet 'the one'. Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you an 'understanding girlfriend' who can't quite seem to get the words out when you're annoyed at him? Have you decided what your non-negotiables are in what you'll tolerate from a guy? Are you a 'free spirit' or are you giving your power away to men? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she plots out smooth and non-aggressive ways to be more assertive in the presence of men, while maintaining your authentic personality - plus a very saucy South of France storytime...involving a yacht ;) Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my new book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices