Teal Swan

It’s time for another relationship pattern to be revealed. I’ve been seeing this one a lot more lately, especially in individuals that belong to the millennial and even more so the gen Z generations. I’ve nicknamed this one the URS pattern. The Unconditional Relationship Security Pattern. So, let’s dive in. 

So many men do not see the difference between a boy mentality and a man mentality. So, in today’s video, we are going to focus on one chapter of this critical difference in mentality. A boy’s vs. a man’s overall approach to things. 

One of the ways that people receive and express love the world over is through acts of service. And some people especially feel loved when the people in their lives put energy towards them in this way. For this reason, there are some important things to know about this way of expressing love. 

Staying in your comfort zone might feel safe, but it could be the "Big Fish in a Small Pond" pattern - a form of self-sabotage driven by the fear of insecurity. When we can't tolerate feeling inadequate or challenged, we limit ourselves to smaller environments where we stay at the top without having to grow. In this video, discover how this pattern ruins your potential and relationships, and learn how leaning into your insecurities helps you break free and step into the open ocean.

In this video, Teal explores why real healing requires us to face suppressed pain, dismantle toxic survival mechanisms, and navigate the discomfort of deep transformation.

Whether it’s an awakening nerve causing intense burning after an injury, or processing long-buried trauma that disrupts your current life, temporary pain is often proof that your system is finally coming back to life. Learn why feeling worse isn't a sign that you're failing, but a signal that real, lasting change is underway.

We’ve been taught that blame is toxic, but outlawing it entirely is actually a form of emotional bypassing. Real healing and relationship resolution require us to identify causation - the root cause of what went wrong - so we can build true accountability.In this video, Teal Swan breaks down why blame became a "dirty word," the dangerous trap of skipping this crucial step, and how to separate healthy accountability from shame and judgment.

Being “in the now” can pull a person out of trauma because it can pull a person out of painful past scenarios as well as fearful future scenarios, anchoring them into the reality that nothing bad is happening right now; which pulls the nervous system out of what people are calling fight or flight mode. But a little-known reality is that some people will struggle with being in the now because being in the now in and of itself triggers a trauma response. 

Birthdays hold both meaning and power. They are a profound spiritual event. Today, I am going to share with you this little-known aspect of birthdays.

Let’s start this discussion with two truths.👉 The first truth is: Just because someone is functional, doesn’t mean that they are using healthy strategies to be functional. 👉 The second truth is: Many people remain functional despite being really bad off. Even potentially worse off than other people who become nonfunctional.

Words have power. One of the powers they have is the power to make someone feel loved. Words of Affirmation is one of the ways that human beings express and receive love. And certain individuals feel especially loved when they are given words of affirmation. So, let’s look at words of affirmation in depth and learn how to express love through words.

What if money is actually the scapegoat? And what if by scapegoating money, we are preventing our own financial wellbeing as well as our own awakening?

When the lack of money is causing you pain, starting to relate to money itself as the problem or the villain will pull you out of reality and it will cause you to resist the very thing you need more of.

For a whole host of reasons, you could make a general statement that it is far better for a parent to want a child than it is for a parent to feel saddled with a child that they do not want. But it is a mistake to think that if a parent desperately wants a child, they are going to be a good parent to the child they have. In fact, because of a little-known shadow, it can be a disaster when a parent really wants a child. 

Allow me today to share with you an analogy that you should never forget. An analogy for how healing really works.

Since the 2006 release of the film and book The Secret, followed by the 2020 pandemic social media manifestation craze, manifestation has become a mainstream concept. There are so many people teaching about manifestation, so many people talking about it. So many people posting about their manifestation journeys online. But there is something really important that nobody is talking about when it comes to manifestation. A tiny little detail that isn’t tiny at all. This little detail is what we will be talking about today.  

How can it be true that this is a consensus reality, where everyone has free will, at the same time as it is a mirror-based construct, where everything that you experience externally is just a reflection of something within you? In this video, Teal explores this seeming juxtaposition.

A personal creed is like a North Star or a compass that dictates how you show up in the world. And most people don’t know it, but it can be one of the most powerful and effective, yet simple life hacks that exist. This can be a profound spiritual practice and/or an impactful personal development exercise.

With ever increasing intensity, people who have been coming to me with relationship problems, have been apathetic to doing the very things that would improve the relationship. And a pattern is emerging. The pattern of effort itself being a trigger. And so, let’s take a look at this specific trigger as well as what to do about it.

Believe it or not, it is possible to feel negative about positive. If you or someone you know, is one of those people who has positivity trauma, it can feel like you or they are up against a wall regarding what to do about it. Which is why, I am going to explain how to heal positivity trauma. 

What is the difference between pain and suffering? This is one of the most common questions Teal Swan has been asked since the very beginning of her career. Watch to find out.

At face value, positivity is a good thing. Not so fast. Some of you were traumatized specifically by positivity. And as a result, you subconsciously boycott positivity. Watch to find out more.

Quality time is a way that people express and receive love the world over. It is the love language that is perhaps the most unanimously spoken. So let’s look at quality time in depth and learn how to express love through quality time. 

You may find yourself asking, what’s in a name? Names matter and they matter in so many ways. Watch this episode to find out why.

Why is it that so many spiritual teachers and therapists take you in the direction of hyper independence, hyper responsibility and hyper individualism? Watch to find out.

This is going to be a bit of a mind twister. But let’s look at a blind spot that most people have when it comes to prioritization.

There is not one single reason why so many people in the younger generations are not having children. Rather, there is a list of reasons. Watch to find out what they are.

It may surprise you to hear that consciously playing out the outcome that you fear (the worst-case scenario) is a very important tool to have in your tool box. It’s time to learn about fear visioning.

At some point in your life, you will run into a situation where you need someone to change and that someone won’t change. Here is What To Do When Someone Won’t Change.

This truth is: This universe does not operate according to deserving. Watch this video to find out why.

In this episode, Teal Swan is going to give you a hack for conflict. One that will help you to avoid conflict in the first place as well as help you to resolve conflict if it occurs.

We live in a society that is completely fixated on romantic partnership. But today, it’s time to recognize the impact of a friendship falling apart and ending. A “friendship breakup”. 

What your financial issues don't have anything to do with finances or money? What if instead, it had to do with your relationship to the thing that you want?

This concept of 100% responsibility is very, very popular now. The thing is, it is a problematic philosophy. Let’s unpack why as well as what to do instead. 

Family is one of these words that we assume means the same thing to all people, but that actually means different things to different people. Watch this episode to find out why.

Are you someone with a lot of empathy and compassion? If so, you might just have a blind spot, one that will leave you totally bewildered in relationships and in human society at large.

Humor can be a very powerful medicine. So today, Teal Swan is going to share an exercise with you that makes use of the medicine of humor.

Have you been feeling lately like your life is dragging you into situations that cause you shame? Are you grappling with difficult and painful experiences? If so, there is actually a reason for this. Watch to find out more.

There are time periods throughout history when humanity collectively loses its mind. We are currently in one such time period. And a big element of this specific epidemic is: Independence Sickness. Watch this episode to find out what this means.

Most people get that big moments matter in a relationship. But something most people don’t get is that a good or bad relationship is built and defined by all the micro moments. In this video, Teal Swan explains exactly why.

He doesn’t commit. He is not accountable, doesn’t hold himself to standards and blames others for what he does. He treats partners like parental figures. He holds onto dreams, often unrealistic ones while putting minimal effort into achieving them. He doesn’t manage money well.And a lot of people want to know why. This is an episode on why there are so many Peter Pan men in the world today.

We live in the dark ages when it comes to emotion. We have been taught to do things like suppress, deny, ignore, numb out to and bulldoze through our emotion. So, it isn’t a surprise that most people have no idea what is going on with themselves emotionally. Here is an exercise which will help with this.

What Teal Swan is going to offer you today is a revelation regarding thoughts, one that has the capacity to transform your life experience completely.

Today, let’s look at how your belief in your own unworthiness can serve as a self-preservation strategy, especially a strategy to preserve your relationships. And then, let’s look at how knowing this, can actually make you believe you are worthy.

Teal Swan shares her annual predictions. What does 2026 have in store for all of us?

If it is abundance that you want and if you care about financial success, the lottery is a terrible approach. Let’s look at the reasons why wanting to win the lottery is an idea that is better to let go of.

In this video, Teal Swan challenges the popular spiritual belief that every person contains both masculine and feminine energies and that true health lies in perfectly balancing them.

At face value, it’s really hard to believe that when you have something that you really, really need and really, really want, the very thing that may be getting in the way of you getting what you want, is you. It seems totally counter intuitive. But the reality is that we all have ways that we prevent ourselves from getting the very thing that we want. In this episode, Teal reveals The #1 Way That People Get In The Way Of What They Truly Want.

If you have beliefs that are oppositional to abundance, you will behave in ways that are oppositional to abundance. And so, it is really important to identify and change these beliefs. In today’s episode, Teal Swan going to teach you how to do exactly this. 

Have you noticed that it feels like we are all in a giant pressure cooker? That the discomfort, maybe even pain and pressure is going up and up and up and up? And the relief never seems to come? You may have found yourself wondering what the hell is happening. Well, there is actually a reason this is happening. And knowing that reason, may just help you to find your way out of the pressure cooker. 

A common trap is thinking that doing shadow work in and of itself changes your life FOR you. But it MUST be followed by action to have real impact on your life. So that you can understand this better, Teal Swan dives into it this week.

Most people don’t really understand that love is something that people want to give. In fact, to give love is a human need. And they don’t see that a person feels loved when the love they give is fully received. Let's dive into that in this episode.

Let’s unpack the truth about following your passion and money. 

You will hear some experts say that the way to get money, is to follow your passion. And you will hear some experts say the exact opposite. They will tell you to not follow your passion if what you want is money. But what if both of them were right?

Passivity is one of the absolute worst things for a man. If a man wants to kill off his masculinity and life force energy, all he has to do is be passive. Well… seeing as how this is deeply detrimental, not only to men themselves but to everyone in human society, in this video, we will be diving deep on this topic of passivity and men and what to do about it.

Conscious closet work is when you consciously go into a closet (or some other dark, enclosed space) as a tool for your own body, emotions, mind and/or overall consciousness. There are a lot of benefits that closets can provide with regards to our wellbeing and our consciousness work. Allow Teal to list them for you in this episode.

Nearly every person alive has internal blocks related to money. But today, Teal Swan is going to reveal to you the number one thing that is blocking their financial abundance. Watch to find out what it is.

People in general tend to feel quite confused and powerless when it comes to female sexuality. The good news is that there is a major stand out thing about female sexuality that you can generalize about. In this episode, Teal reveals exactly what that is.

It isn’t very popular to talk about why people cheat. Suggesting that a person has a reason to do it, makes people feel like the blame is shifting from the person who cheated, to the person who was cheated on. Nevertheless, for the sake of conscious awareness, it is important to accept that people do have reasons for doing the things that they do.There is one glaring primary reason that women cheat... watch this episode to find out what it is.

It isn’t very popular to talk about why people cheat. Suggesting that a person has a reason to do it, makes people feel like the blame is shifting from the person who cheated, to the person who was cheated on. Nevertheless, for the sake of conscious awareness, it is important to accept that people do have reasons for doing the things that they do.

There is one glaring primary reason that men cheat... watch this episode to find out what it is.

Relationships shape every part of our lives, yet most people are still stuck using outdated ideas of what makes them succeed or fail. In this episode, Teal Swan breaks down why mastery of relationships is essential—not just for personal happiness, but for humanity’s future. She also shares why her own experiences, challenges, and “failures” make me uniquely qualified to guide others on this path.

Relationship security is something that can and should be customized to the specific people in that relationship. Being conscious and intentional enough to customize relationship security in this way, makes all the difference in your relationships and at the same time, it has the potential to break society free from its tendency towards rigidity. Let’s unpack the concept of customizing relationship security so that you can start customizing it in your relationships.

When it comes to emotions, we do things like ignore, suppress, deny, blunt, reject, fix, turn against, try to control, minimize, distract ourselves from, disguise, dissociate from, numb out and violently act out emotions. For so many reasons, it is critical to re-connect with your emotions and start to feel them again. In this video, Teal is going to give you an exercise to do plus a few more tips, which will help you to do exactly this. 

So much of our effort in our social life is spent trying to get people to change. Despite all of our effort, we often find ourselves powerless to getting them to change. Why is this? Because a person will not change unless they want to. And this, is one of the hardest things to accept. In today’s video, this is what we will be unpacking.

Never underestimate the power of self-questioning. In this video, Teal Swan is going to give you one of the best questions you can ever ask yourself, as well as explain to you why it is such an important question. 

What people are calling “Disorganized Attachment” is one of the most tormenting and painful things that a human being can experience. And very few experts actually understand it. So, let’s look at disorganized attachment from a different perspective and also explain what you can do about it.

In this episode, Teal dives into one of the most common pitfalls of shadow work, so that you don’t find yourself falling into it and so that you can get yourself out of it.

Welcome to the age of technology. Here is a stark reminder from Teal Swan - never forget that today, what you are seeing online is not a reflection of reality, it is a reflection of your algorithm. 

Because uncertainty is such a tormenting experience for us as people, Teal is going to reveal to you a question that you can ask yourself in times of extreme uncertainty, which has the power to turn things around for you, as well as some other tips for facing times of extreme uncertainty.

Feeling chronically unsafe implies that your body is being constantly flooded with stress chemicals and that you are living in chronic psychological distress. This takes a toll on your wellbeing big time. For this reason, Teal Swan is going to give you some tricks for how to feel safer.

If you’ve been watching videos and interviews or attending my workshops, you have probably heard mention of The Completion Process. But you may not have a solid idea about exactly what it is and what it is for. If this is the case, this video is for you. 

We live in a society full of people who are traumatized, but whom don’t see that they have experienced trauma. A society full of people who need healing, but who don’t know that they need healing. Let’s take an in depth look at the main reasons why most people don’t see and recognize their traumas and in this same vein, why they don’t know they need healing.

With ever increasing intensity and in response to single events that are happening around the globe, people are talking about there being a risk of a third world war.

But the reality is very different than what people currently understand. The reality is that the world is already at war. And the vast majority of people don’t even know it. But that raises the question, how could it be that a person doesn’t know they are in a war? Today, Teal Swan is going to explain this to you so that it all makes sense.

Unconditional love seems like such a great thing, it is hard to fathom how it could ever be bad. But it can. Let me explain how.

Glad we are over all of what happened during Covid, right? I mean, it’s been five years after all. Life has pretty much gotten back to normal. Hasn’t it? Well, the answer is no. In fact, this is one of the biggest gaslights that is happening in human society the world over. Allow Teal Swan to un-gaslight you. 

In this episode, Teal Swan dives into the lose-lose situation that women are in now - they're subconsciously expected to do and be both:

- Both the support giver who is nurturing and gentle and helpful and who does the domestic tasks, including bearing and raising children.

- And the success oriented, career driven go getter who is strong and assertive and independent and competitive and a financial provider.

A negative loyalty pattern can take on many, many forms. But the function is the same: It is a belief and/or behavior that keeps you aligned with, in confluence with, experiencing closeness with and allied to another person; but that is detrimental to your wellbeing and best interests. I have never met a single person that doesn’t have at least one negative loyalty pattern. For this reason, let’s take a deep dive into negative loyalty patterns.

Why is it that finding your purpose can be so hard? In this video, I’m going to outline the major factors that can make finding your purpose so hard. The cool thing is, knowing about these factors, can actually bring you closer to your purpose. 

Low self-esteem wreaks havoc in anyone’s life. It is easy to see the connection between low self-esteem and things like never putting yourself out there and not taking chances and feeling overall depressed in life. But it is harder for people to see the connection between low self-esteem and relationship problems.

In this video, Teal discusses 11 ways in which your low self-esteem wreaks havoc on your relationships.

Trust is the foundation of every meaningful relationship—and once broken, it requires consistent, intentional effort to rebuild. This video dives deep into the nuances of trust breaches, offering actionable steps for restoring trust through empathy, accountability, and a true commitment to another’s best interests. Watch now to learn how to repair and strengthen the trust in your relationships.

Are you stuck wanting something, but never actually going for it? In this video, Teal Swan breaks down exactly how to take action on your desires and finally move toward the life you really want. From clarifying what you truly want to overcoming resistance and seizing opportunities, this is your guide to stop floating through life and start living with purpose.

Good intentions don’t erase the harm caused. Too often, we use intent to justify or minimize pain—whether it’s our own or someone else’s. In this video, I’ll break down why this mindset is so damaging and why impact is what truly matters.

Getting what you want in life isn’t just about letting go of what’s not working—it often requires giving up something that is. Whether it’s a job you love, a sense of security, or even a survival strategy, the hardest sacrifices are often the ones that keep us stuck. In this video, we’ll explore the tough choices that stand between you and your dreams. Are you willing to let go to move forward?

Feeling stuck in rigid patterns—whether in yourself or others—can be frustrating. But there’s a powerful way to break through: uncover the deep pain and fear hiding beneath the resistance. In this video, I’ll show you how addressing that hidden pain can transform what feels impossible into real change. Watch now to learn the key to making the unmovable... movable.

Get ready to see a side of wealth that no one tells you about.

In this eye-opening exploration, we break down the unseen burdens of wealth—from transactional relationships and social judgment to the constant demand to provide more. Why do so many wealthy men feel alone, unseen, and even trapped despite "having it all"?

Watch to find out why your sexuality reflects your deepest traumas and desires. Sexual energy is creative energy, tied to what you most want but feel powerless to attain. By analyzing what arouses you and its emotional roots, you can uncover hidden wounds and unmet needs. This awareness can guide healing, improve relationships, and help you consciously shape your life.

Planetary retrogrades are one of the most feared astrological events, which is not good given the fact that they happen a lot.

But the truth is, a retrograde, is the medicine of retrospective.  Watch this video to find out why Teal says you shouldn't fear retrogrades, and what to do instead.

In this episode, Teal reveals the one very painful thing we all inevitably have to face on the path of self awareness and awakening. See how the ways that you cope with pain have become the very thing perpetuating that very same pain.

When we close our hearts, we do so out of fear and self-protection, but the cost is immense—blocking love, connection, and our full potential. The key to opening the heart lies in facing our fears, embracing vulnerability, and consciously tending to the wounds that caused us to shut down. In this video, explore powerful practices to open your heart, heal emotional barriers, and create a life filled with love, connection, and authenticity.

Suppressing our deepest needs only makes them stronger, creating an internal battle between what we truly need and what we believe we should be. Want to know what to do to break free? Watch this episode, as Teal shares how to challenge these beliefs, reclaim our needs, and be willing to risk feeling socially unsafe in order to truly thrive.

Are you constantly performing in relationships to earn love and avoid abandonment? This "dancing monkey" pattern can leave you feeling exhausted and unseen. Discover how to break free from self-abandonment and embrace authentic connections that nurture your true self.

If you’ve ever struggled to understand why you feel the way you do, THIS may be the missing link:

Just because you had parents and lived under their roof doesn’t mean they truly parented you. Many children grow up physically provided for but emotionally abandoned—orphans with parents.

In this video, Teal exposes the gaslighting that hides this reality, breaks down the unmet needs that shape a child's development, and explores how these missing pieces impact adulthood.

Abandonment is one of the most painful experiences a person can go through, and to avoid it, many people develop unhealthy coping strategies. The most damaging of these strategies is abandoning parts of ourselves—sacrificing our authenticity in order to maintain connection. In this video, we’ll explore how and why this happens, how it affects our relationships, and most importantly, how to reclaim the lost parts of ourselves. If you’re ready to break free from this cycle and build healthier, more fulfilling relationships, this video is for you!

Don’t miss this vital conversation about what it truly means to be human. 🌍❤️ 🤔 Why do humans struggle so deeply with their own nature? 🤔 Why is "independence" celebrated while our innate need for connection is dismissed?

This video is a must-watch for anyone ready to confront their past and reclaim their future. 🌱✨

How do the adaptations we make as children to survive unsafe environments affect us in adulthood? In this video, Teal Swan explores the double-edged sword of adaptation: how it can make us feel safer in the moment, but ultimately bend us toward unsafety and dysfunction in the long term. Learn to identify your own adaptive strategies and how they may have bent you toward unsafe environments, while discovering how to break free and create true safety in your life.

In this video, Teal Swan dives into the concept of safety and security in relationships, focusing on a prevalent yet false sense of security many women experience. Join Teal as she unpacks why this sense of security is often misplaced and explore healthier, more direct ways to meet our safety and relationship needs.

In this video, Teal Swan explores the shadow side of disidentification, revealing how it can become a harmful coping mechanism. Learn how to balance disidentification with radical self-ownership to foster integration and harmony between your physical and non-physical selves.

What will 2025 bring for you and the world?

In this video, Teal Swan reveals the dominant theme, the biggest shadows, and the most important opportunities of the upcoming year. She also gives you practical tips on how to make the best decisions, and how to highlight the best of human potential.

Discover a powerful exercise to bring your full attention to the present moment and experience life as it unfolds. In this video, Teal Swan shares her favorite NNE (Noticing, Naming, and Experiencing) practice, designed to ground you in the here and now.

The “Cut Down for Control” pattern lowers a child’s self-esteem, keeping them seeking approval to meet a parent’s desires. Teal Swan reveals how to recognize and break free from this subtle but harmful manipulation.

In today’s world, emotions, especially negative ones, have come to be treated as “sins” of a modern kind. Join us as we explore how our culture has come to see emotions as something to suppress, control, and judge—and how breaking free from this mentality can allow for a deeper, more authentic connection to ourselves and each other.