People Pleasers Anonymous

One of the main takeaways from my last therapy sesh was to STOP fine tooth combing negative situations looking for a fault of mine, and this is a huuuuge helpful tip to People Pleasers looking to heal.

Listen as I share a recent experience that allowed me to practice this & a helpful article that outlines a step by step process to organize emotions effectively. 

Book: Out of Love- Hazel Haze

https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/developing-self-awareness

This summer I've had SO MANY lightbulb moments, but I needed time to put them into words (and I'm not claiming I did a very... organized job; but I'm sure you'll get the point). 

Join me as I share what I learned these past few full moons & retrogrades, receiving clearer answer than ever from the universe how I can further grow as a recovering people pleaser <3

Life has just been FULL ON for me lately, and as most humans do, I started forgetting all the helpful law of attraction tips I've learned this far. Listen as I rehash my recent life struggles & how I changed my perspective to get back in a good vibration :)

Sources:
Allana Pratt- Intimate Conversations
Spirit, Purpose & Energy with JJ Flizanes Episode 385- When your partner Triggers you 

Finally the answer to the question I still get asked constantly, which made me realize so much about myself, my false beliefs and how I can progress further at overcoming perfectionism and people pleasing.

<3

TBH I started this episode with the general theme of things I've been working through lately, but the card pull at the 'end' was the real highlight. Immediately after recording that card came true for me, so I had to come back on and share how I dealt with my roadblocks the card had predicted.

Also check out Mel Robins who I referenced in the first half:)
https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-mel-robbins-podcast/id1646101002

One final solo episode of the year, recapping the lessons I've learned as a recovering people pleaser <3 

NGL, this episode was hard for me to get out and even harder for me to listen back to, but I know deep down that some of you may have had similar experiences as Recovering People Pleasers. 

Listen as I share what this eclipse season has taught me about setting boundaries; despite how difficult it is for a PP, in hopes that it gives you the courage you need to set boundaries in your own lives. 

After seeing Jay Shetty interview his wife on the podcast linked below, I figured it would be fun to do the same with my own very special guest, Eric Dryden ;)

Listen as we both share the good times, the bad times and most importantly- the lessons we've both learned; from the perspective of a people pleaser in a relationship and from the partner of one.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WLAgd3XITZk&authuser=1

A little backwards, but consider this the prequel to my last interview with Natalia.

We talked for quite awhile about Human Design Types; but the teacher in me recognizes some listeners may have no sweet clue what that even is!

Listen as I share my basic knowledge of Human Design with you, & as always, how you can use it to your advantage as a Recovering People Pleaser :)
 
https://www.myhumandesign.com/my-human-design/eyJuIjoibWFyeSBUaG9tcHNvbiIsImwiOiJUb3JvbnRvLCBPbnRhcmlvLCBDYW5hZGEiLCJkIjoiMTk5My0xMi0wNiAwODozNSIsInR6IjoiQW1lcmljYS9Ub3JvbnRvIn0=/

https://humandesignsystem.co/en/reflector-strategy-wait-a-lunar-cycle/

https://www.jovianarchive.com/Stories/97/Manifestor_Strategy-_To_Inform

https://www.ashleybrianaeve.com/blog/difference-in-waiting-generator-vs-projector

I seriously cannot express enough gratitude to have the beautiful Natalia Kantor back on the show <3

Its crazy because if I'm honest, I almost felt like postponing this. I've been feeling pretty all over the place lately, moving back to the city has been kind of a chaotic transition for me. But I remembered feeling like almost cancelling on Sean Galla too, only to discover that he had the exact messages from the universe I needed to hear at the time.  And people pleasers let me tell ya;  this interview with Natalia fell nothing short :)

https://www.nataliakantor.com/

First ever PPA Q&A!

Listen as I answer questions about the law of attraction, manifesting relationships, fitness, time travel, tanning and of course- people pleasing :)

Tonight, July 13 2022, the full moon is not only a supermoon but the brightest moon we will see all year. Join me as I share a bit about my own full moon practices, as well as what I'm choosing to let go of that's no longer serving me. 

https://thework.com/loving-what-is-revised-edition/

PP fam its been a minute, but all in divine timing <3

In Byron Katie's book "Loving What Is" she outlines a simple yet revolutionary process she calls The Work. The Work is simply four questions that, when applied to a specific problem, enable you to see what is troubling you in an entirely different light.

Listen as I (hopefully) do her justice by sharing my own examples using her methods. Since I started practicing this, I've been able to let go of anger I was holding on to, gain new perspective on other troubling relationships in my life and ultimately be in a better mindset every. single. day. 

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Just a soulful solo epi with me :)

The truth is, though it gets easier with practice, saying no is probably always going to be one of the hardest things for recovering People Pleasers. And maaaaybe it was this new moon, but the universe just seemed to keep throwing more and more opportunities at me to practice this newly developed skill  in the last few weeks. Listen as I share 3 recent instances of how I almost slipped back to my people pleasing patterns, and got myself out. 

I truly feel #blessed to have had the chance to do this interview and be able to share it with you :). It totally feels like every guest I have on has been so divinely timed by the universe, giving me the exact advice right when I needed it; and I have a funny feeling many of you will feel the same.  

This lady is INCREDIBLE! From the moment I heard her speak I knew I had to get her on the show. Natalia is a Leadership Coach who's expertise is in saving women from burnout by helping them learn to use their Feminine Powers-  but don't worry gentlemen, lots of our convo will still be relevant to you too. 

https://www.nataliakantor.com/

Your Saturn Return is when "Saturn *returns* to where it was in the sky when you were born—which happens every 27 to 29.5 years—it’s a major astrological coming-of-age moment. Your Saturn Return is often followed by major life changes, like switching jobs or careers, breakups, engagements, divorce, retirement, purchasing homes. You know, all the things that make us want to boss up and take control of our lives. "

-https://www.cosmopolitan.com/lifestyle/a36278870/saturn-return-meaning-astrology/

And boy am I ever experiencing mine! Join me as I share more about our Saturn Returns, as well as all the difficult but undoubtedly rewarding lessons that have come with mine.

Back to a solo show with ya girl :)

“Vulnerability is not winning or losing; it's having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome. Vulnerability is not weakness; it's our greatest measure of courage.”- Brené Brown

Being vulnerable is challenging for all of us, so you can imagine how tough it is for People Pleasers. The last thing we want is to be seen for who we really are for fear of not being liked and accepted. But everything worth having is outside our comfort zones! Join me as I share my knowledge and experiences working with vulnerability. 

A longie but a goodie!!! Being my first ever time remote recording you can imagine the audio is far from perfect (but I swear the majority is still clear so bare with me at the start), and I KNOW  you'll still find the episode a very worthwhile listen.

Sean Galla- founder and facilitator of MensGroup has incredible life experiences that truly made him an ideal guest for the show. Check out the many relevant resources he has to offer at https://mensgroup.com/ And yes ladies, I'm confident it will still be helpful for all of you too. 

The title says it all! People Pleasing and Perfectionism often go hand in hand; if you're striving to be liked by everyone, you're likely striving to be that unachievable perfect person in other areas of your life too. 

Co-dependency-pathologically put another person's needs above your own, could be considered a close cousin of People Pleasing. 

Join me as I delve into these concepts and how we can begin to shift our focus from pleasing others to pleasing the one person you matters most: ourselves!

Here lies the last 4 insights from the book by James Redfield. Have a listen as I continue  to share the wise life advice and takeaways, and as always- how it can be transferred into best practices for my fellow People Pleasers. 

The Celestine Prophecy by James Redfield is an incredible book full of life lessons (in my humble opinion anyway) applicable to just about anyone seeking self improvement. Join me as I share the major takeaways and how they could be especially helpful for- you guessed it, People Pleasers!

As a people pleaser, you probably feel controlled by others- always trying to do, say & think what other people want. But did you know that people pleasing itself is actually a form of manipulation?

Have a listen to find out more!

You've likely heard of fight, flight or freeze, but did you know there is a 4th possible trauma response? Fawning is defined as the 4th instinctual response associated with the need to avoid conflict and trauma via appeasing behaviours, Sounds a lot like people pleasing doesn't it?!

Join me as we dive into fawning and its affect on, you guessed it-people pleasers. 

Source: https://letsqueerthingsup.com/2019/06/01/fawning-trauma-response/ 

There's no time like the present; we've hear it all before, time and time again. But its true! Simply being more present can really have a drastically positive impact on your life, especially for people pleasers. 

Join me as I was through some practical common practices you can start using to help you on your recovery journey today!

The concept of manifesting seems to be becoming more and more mainstream, but most sources out there fail to mention the most common mistakes people make when attempting to use the Law of Attraction to get what they want in life. 

Join me as we dive into many relatable examples, practices to implement and of course; how it all relates to people pleasing. 

The first step to a problem is admitting it, right? I've always been told I was a People Pleaser, but I never really realized just how detrimental that can be on one's mental, physical and spiritual health.  Whether you identify as a people pleaser or not, I'm willing to bet you'll find many useful soul lessons and life hacks as this podcast goes on.  Join me on my journey of self-improvement as I share wise words from other spiritual gurus and personal experience, to help take back your power and begin your own path of recovery from people pleasing today.

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email- marythompson.ppa@gmail.com