The Break Up Break Down

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Sometimes you have to be your own PI when you think your partner is cheating on you. When a gut feeling leads her to pay up to Tinder to see if her mans was out there looking for a side-piece, she was surprised how quickly she was able to find his profile. How did these two college sweethearts get to this place?? Let's find out when we break down this week's break up. - Get Your Break Up Break Down LIVE Podcast Event Tix: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/862521303437?aff=oddtdtcreator - This week we're raising awareness for Alternative House in Lowell, GA: https://www.alternative-house.org/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (05:22): How they met - (09:58): The demise of the relationship - (14:04): What led to the Tinder profile creation - (19:19): Why she stayed - (21:32): The social media posts - (22:16): Reflecting/advice - (25:35): Teaser Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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No this isn't a swingers love story- but it'd be way more fun (and less heartbreaking) if it was. A group of friends walk into a cabin...and leave with different lovers. What went on in the cabin in the woods that split these couples up? Let's find out when we break down this week's break up. - Get Your Break Up Break Down LIVE Podcast Event Tix: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/862521303437?aff=oddtdtcreator - This week we're raising awareness for New Beginnings in Seattle: www.NewBegin.org - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (04:40): How they met - (09:00): The cabin weekend - (13:00): Learning what went down when she was asleep - (17:19): The break up - (21:10): Moving on from the relationship - (24:04): Advice - (26:39): Teaser Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Her ex-wife wasn't paying rent and she wants to know where the money is going! This week's guest gets an an answer that sent her into a panic and making her want to run, run, RUN out of this relationship...and into the arms of her high school sweetheart. - Get Your Break Up Break Down LIVE Podcast Event Tix: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/862521303437?aff=oddtdtcreator - This week we're raising awareness for Family Rescue in Chicago: https://familyrescueinc.org/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (04:17): How they met - (11:32): When her wife started being shady with finances - (16:30): Her final straw with the wife - (22:51): Their new relationships - (27:57): What she learned/advice - (33:33): Teaser Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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[SCROLL FOR CW] - When an episode starts with a bloody knife found in the kitchen, you don't think it's going to lead to a break up where both people still care for each other. After a series of harrowing incidents that lead to one of them serving time in jail, how can this week's interviewee still have so much love for her ex? We'll dive into the story when we break down this week's break up. Get Your Break Up Break Down LIVE Podcast Event Tix: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/862521303437?aff=oddtdtcreator - This week we're raising awareness for Mosaic Family Services in Dallas: https://mosaicservices.org/ways-to-give/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (08:15): How they met - (11:27): What started the demise of the relationship - (18:54): Events where she felt threatened by her BF before the accident - (25:30): Choosing psychology as a career to understand him better - (42:02): Their secret engagement - (43:46): Advice - (48:26): Teaser - [CONTENT WARNINGS: Intimate partner violence, suicidal ideation, self-harm] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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[SCROLL FOR CONTENT WARNINGS] - When she logged on to her husbands email, she thought me might find something suspicious. What she didn't expect to see were explicit videos from her best friend of 22 years. So why did she still marry him after the evidence was found? We'll find out when we break down this week's break up. - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Get Your Break Up Break Down LIVE Podcast Event Tix: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/862521303437?aff=oddtdtcreator - This week we're raising awareness for La Casa De Las Madres in SF: https://www.lacasa.org/donate - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (03:52): How they met - (16:00): The explicit videos - (22:15): When more infidelity was revealed - (33:13): When she finally left - (33:39): Reflecting/what she learned - (48:54): Teaser - [CONTENT WARNINGS: Intimate partner violence, suicide, suicidal ideation] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Getting cheated on is unbelievably painful and can leave you with deep emotional wounds. Katherine Ripley, LMSW, joins the podcast to comment on this week's main episode's relational topics and gives her professional insight. Katherine explains how to recognize how that trauma will show up in your life and how to tackle it on your own or with a mental health professional!— - Follow Katherine: https://linktr.ee/katherineripleytherapist?fbclid=PAAab8jFX7mqwuDALKVAObUzGn2od9bH-H3R-KrwrS1xL29b3O4nGcp27s98E - Follow the podcast - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we're bringing awareness to Crisis Center North in Pittsburgh: https://www.crisiscenternorth.org/ - This episode originally aired on March 14th, 2023 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (03:00): How they met - (07:43: How her best friend became her doula - (10:50): When the affair began - (14:08): When she caught them - (18:49): Why she decided to stay with him at first - (21:08): When she was finally done with her marriage - (23:43): How she "broke up" with her best friend - (28:12): Things that helped her through her divorce - (31:51): How her past relationships shaped her future ones - (33:45): How purity culture impacted her marriage - (36:48): Advice she'd give to people wanting to leave their marriage - (38:47): Teaser Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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You never think things can get worse AFTER the break up, but when you receive a strange message from a man who says your ex is doing some shady stuff on Reddit with your pics....it's safe to say things are about to go down when we break down this week's break up. - Live Podcast Tickets!: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/862521303437?aff=oddtdtcreator - This Week We're Raising Awareness for Wichita Family Crisis Center: https://wichitafamilycrisiscenter.app.neoncrm.com/np/clients/wichitafamilycrisiscenter/donation.jsp - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (04:28): How they met - (08:57): When the red flags started to show - (12:58): When things started to deteriorate - (16:01): The shady reddit activity - (24:48): Recovering from the relationship/reflecting - (31:23): Advice - (30:17): Teaser Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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If you've ever wanted to slide into the DMs of the hot guy in THAT band...this episode is for you. Turns out hooking up with the mysterious musician isn't all it's cracked up to be, but there's a lot you can learn from this week's guest's experience. - Get Your Break Up Break Down LIVE Podcast Event Tix: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/862521303437?aff=oddtdtcreator - This week we're raising awareness for Partnership Against Domestic Violence in ATL: https://padv.org/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (04:24): How they met - (11:12): When they started investigating... - (15:22): When she started to see his true colors - (21:51): Reflecting on the situationship - (24:05): What she learned/advice - (24:45): Teaser Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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You know, it's one thing to cheat. It's a whole other thing to cheat with your CHILD. This week's guest says she is getting ready to serve her husband divorce papers....and DNA test results. - This Week We're Raising Awareness for Women Against Abuse in Philly: https://www.womenagainstabuse.org/services - Suicide Prevention Hotline Dial 988 - Suicide Prevention: https://988lifeline.org/talk-to-someone-now/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (04:54): How they met - (07:08): When the red flags started to show - (10:03): When she got the DNA test results - (15:04): Why would her husband/daughter sleep together? - (19:41): Looking toward the future - (24:09): Advice to those struggling - (25:14): Teaser - [CONTENT WARNINGS: suicidal ideation] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you having a hard time trusting your new partner after your last relationship? Your ex may have damaged your ability to trust again, but you don't have to live in fear forever. Dr. Margaret Rutherford joins Abby to talk about what you can to have a healthy relationship with your new partner.  - Check out Dr. Margaret Rutherford's: - Website: https://drmargaretrutherford.com/ - Podcast: https://drmargaretrutherford.com/selfwork/ - Follow the podcast - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - [CW: Abuse] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You barely check your inbox, but the one time you check it, your BF's other girlfriend comes clean in an email! Suddenly everything you thought you knew about the last year of your relationship feels like a lie....so we got the details when we broke down this weeks break up. - This week we're raising awareness for Safe Place in Sarasota, FL: https://www.sparcc.net/donate/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (04:20): How they met - (06:39): The red flags she ignored - (09:45): When she got the email from 'the other woman' - (17:27): When she confronted him - (22:39): Reflecting on the relationship - (30:34): Advice - (32:11): Teaser Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

[SCROLL FOR CW]  - Have you ever felt manipulated by your partner? Did you try to break up with them, but they kept luring you back in? Abby brings on LMSW Vernique Esther to talk about how to recognize manipulation, set boundaries, and leave if necessary.  - Check out Vernique Esther's: - Website: https://www.verniqueesther.com/ - The Wholeness Academy: https://www.thewholenessacademy.com/ - Books: https://www.verniqueesther.com/shop - Follow the podcast - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Introducing Vernique - (00:56): How do I know I'm getting manipulated? - (04:06): Why do people manipulate? - (07:07): Why do I feel bad for setting up boundaries? - (09:18): How do I handle religious manipulation? - (12:10): What if my partner threatens me w/ self-harm to keep us from breaking up? - (14:04): How do I leave a manipulative relationship? - (15:00): Can you ever work through manipulation? - (18:24): How to set boundaries in a relationship with someone who has manipulative tendencies? - (20:55): Why do I want to go back to someone who manipulated me? - (23:08): How do I convince myself I deserve better? - [CW: This episode briefly discusses: self-harm/suicide, domestic violence, religious trauma] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we're bringing awareness to My Sister's House in Charleston, SC: https://www.mysistershouse.org/give - This episode originally aired on January 31, 2023 - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (05:26): Episode intro/her first marriage - (06:57): Introducing Anthony (her second husband) - (10:17): Introducing the The Boss (the third husband) - (11:27): The Affair - (13:29): Her second divorce - (17:01): When her 3rd marriage/relationship started going downhill  - (20:46): When she started to realize this marriage was unhealthy - (25:32): Reconnecting with Anthony - (33:23): When she finally decided to leave The Boss - (34:29): Reflecting on these relationships - (40:51): Teaser Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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On your wedding day, the last thing you're expecting is for your fiancee to walk in and cancel on you. Like, could we not have had this conversation two years ago?! This ex-bride says that's exactly what happened to her. After she attended her wedding (alone) she thought that was the end, but a few months later she'd get a call from him that would send her spiraling. - This week we're raising awareness for Coburn Place in Indianapolis: https://coburnplace.org/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (03:01): How they met - (06:56): The start of their major problems - (20:58): When calls off their engagement - (28:29): Attending her wedding alone - (33:31): The calls she got from him after their engagement ended - (39:40): Reflecting/advice - (49:27): Teaser Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Imagine losing your virginity to your new boo and finding out he has an arrest record the next day. Way to burst the post-coital bliss. Do you look past your new man's history or stick by him and hope he's changed? We'll find out when we break down this week's break up. - This week we're raising awareness for Journey in Cleveland, OH: https://www.journeyneo.org/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (03:27): How they met - (08:10): When she started to learn about his past - (11:20): When their relationship started to deteriorate - (17:02): The secret IG account that explained what happened with his ex - (20:28): Reflecting on the experience/advice - (28:29): Teaser Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

[SCROLL FOR CW] - Follow Katherine Ripley, LMSW: linktr.ee/katherineripleytherapist - Dr. Margaret Rutherford's Website: https://drmargaretrutherford.com/ - Dr. Margaret Rutherford's Podcast: https://drmargaretrutherford.com/selfwork/ - Follow the podcast - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - CW: Domestic Violence/Abuse Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

[SCROLL FOR CONTENT WARNINGS] - She thought she had finally left her ex for good...when he called her up and told her about a devastating diagnosis. She took him in until she started suspecting that he had spun a web of lies to keep her in the relationship. - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - When she said her wife lied about having cancer...S3E1: https://open.spotify.com/episode/39DterRk42lMoxagOLiq7M?si=rSyVt3EpSBGKJJhcTd0LKg - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (03:41): How they met - (06:06): Problems in the relationship - (24:20): When he started claiming he had cancer - (27:59): When she started doubting the 'diagnoses' - (35:47): The aftermath of their break up - (40:44): Reflecting on the relationship - (45:14): Relationships after her ex - (51:32): Advice - (52:13): Teaser - [CONTENT WARNINGS: Graphic Intimate partner violence] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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[SCROLL FOR CONTENT WARNINGS] - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (02:47): How they met - (14:31): The false accusations - (21:34): When he was finally cleared - (28:11): When fessed up to his new relationship - (35:19): Reflecting/what she learned - (40:30): Teaser - [CONTENT WARNINGS: rape, loss of parent] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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[SCROLL FOR CW] She says her husband had an affair with multiple women while she was pregnant...and the mistresses came forward In the comments section of one of her TikTok videos. - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (03:57): How they met - (06:35): History of infidelity/working through it - (11:11): Losing the baby + affect on the relationship - (17:50): Discovering the first affair - (23:46): How social media uncovered more affairs - (27:58): Healing from the trauma - (35:16): Teaser - [CONTENT WARNINGS: suicide, loss of a child] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - 5 Signs you're getting love bombed w/ Kati Morton: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UlXoI_XJGAg&t=151s - How to spot a love bomber w/ Matthew Hussey: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UlXoI_XJGAg&t=151s - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Her indie musician bf wrote and performed a song about them breaking up for her...while they were still together! Would you stay with someone who was already planning the end of the relationship?! - This week we're raising awareness for Abuse Counseling & Treatment, Inc.: https://actabuse.com/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (03:28): How they met - (14:19): The wrong parts of the relationship - (17:31): The start of the relationship - (23:33): Their continued relationship after the break up - (37:17): Being afraid of rejection in your relationship - (41:52): The good things about the break up/lessons learned - (44:28): Figuring out how to escape her ex - (48:08): Teaser - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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You know that friend that won't break up with their toxic partner? Admit it we all have one...and this week...we're talking to one of my coworkers who says he stayed because his ex wouldn't let him dump her.... - This week we're raising awareness for My Sister's House in Charleston: https://www.mysistershouse.org/about-us - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (03:30): How they met - (13:36): The breaking point for him - (20:34): When he got back together with her - (23:09): The final break up - (32:03): The overlap time of his two relationships - (43:36): How men/women view commitment - (51:31): Teaser Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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We haven't spent enough family time this holiday season...so let's keep it in the family this episode....This week we have a submission a la TikTok where a woman says her husband and mother had an affair that led to their divorce! - This week we're raising awareness for Coburn Place in Indianapolis: https://coburnplace.org/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (04:41): How they met - (13:51): The first major problem in their relationship - (20:17): When her mom became enmeshed in the relationship - (28:56): Possible Grooming Behavior - (35:01): Discovering the affair - (47:11): Confronting her mother and husband - (57:30): The aftermath of the conflict - (01:05:00): The continuation of the affair post-conflict/divorce proceedings - (01:09:46): Therapy journey/domestic violence resources - (01:13:39): Reflecting/advice - (01:19:32): Teaser - [CONTENT WARNINGS: miscarriage/loss of child, infertility, domestic violence, grooming] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode originally aired on Dec. 8th, 2022 - You already know Abby, Lexi, and Coworker Justin are already a bit messed up...so we decided to make a whole episode talking about their attachment issues! LCSW Kat Schneider joins the podcast as well to give a professional take on attachment styles and even relates them to 'The Office' characters! - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (02:26): Episode break down/our personal attachment problems - (16:15): Conversation with LCSW Kat Schneider Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This reply episode originally aired on Dec. 6th, 2022 - This week we're raising awareness for The Hubbard House in Jacksonville, FL: https://www.hubbardhouse.org/neededmost - Follow the podcast!  - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9  - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (05:28): This week's submission - (7:03): How they met - (10:39): Introducing her best friend - (12:01): When her boyfriend confessed their betrayal - (15:05): Why she stayed with her boyfriend - (18:27): How the relationship developed after the infidelity - (23:48): The final straw for her - (32:14): Healing after the breakup - (36:26): Advice for "starting over" after a long-term relationship - (37:52): Teaser Clip Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (01:00): Submission #1 - (02:21): Submission #2 - (04:23): Submission #3 - (06:35): Submission #4 - (08:44): Submission #5 - (10:12): Submission #6 - (11:27): Submission #7 - (13:32): Submission #8 - (14:39): Submission #9 - (16:08): Submission #10 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Season 5 Kicks off on January 2nd- here are some of the submissions we may get to do deep dives on next year.... - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (01:50): Submission #1 - (04:05): Submission #2 - (05:30): Submission #3 - (07:00): Submission #4 - (09:07): Submission #5 - (10:54): Submission #6 - (12:09): Submission #7 - (14:16): Submission #8 - (16:19): Submission #9 - (18:42): Submission #10 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Amy from New Perspectives: https://newperspectivesforlife.com/ - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are they ever really "just a friend" if your gut is screaming that they're NOT?! This week's episode is the classic tale of 'you vs. the one they tell you not to worry about' where 'the one they tell you not to worry about' is getting married to your ex.... - This week we're raising awareness for The Spring in Tampa, FL: https://thespring.org/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (02:48): How they met - (05:21): When the red flags started to show - (11:52): When the friendship started to seem like it was more - (18:06): The final straw in the relationship - (24:43): What she found out after the relationship ended - (27:17): How her life has changed post-break up - (33:32): What she's learned about relationships from it - (41:02): Teaser Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

[Scroll for Content Warnings] - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Related Episodes - How to Identify Intimate Partner Violence: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0n6r9f7ciRVuvOPGNvUwFk?si=tJ2z_Zw1SNy9ih83exi-vQ - Learning Not to Blame Yourself for their Mistakes: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0kA8CB4VwnwpuDDCfQqbgD?si=ujeuC_lZQ1O4-_rh5SuHVA - The Relationship Between Codependency and Sexual Assault: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5KjJ9fJRkAwYE0Z4PMn0af?si=pweXSoGrSfmJClmSsF34Yw - National Help Hotline 1-800-662-4357 (Confidential free help, from public health agencies, to find substance use treatment and information) - National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-4673 - How to recognize alcohol addiction: https://www.healthline.com/health/alcohol-addiction-recognizing-symptoms - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - [CW: alcoholism, sexual assault, intimate partner violence, suicide] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

[SCROLL FOR CONTENT WARNINGS] - This week we're raising awareness for Golden House in Green Bay, WI: https://www.goldenhousegb.org/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (03:16): How they met - (05:18): The first red flags - (10:43): Dealing with his alcoholism - (16:16): The first sign of cheating - (25:55): When she finally confronted him [check CW] - (30:00): The aftermath of the SA - (35:00): How this relationship impacted her future - (37:30): Reflecting/what she learned - (40:57): Teaser - [CONTENT WARNINGS: Intimate partner violence, alcoholism, sexual assault] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - KeKe Palmer's episode referenced: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_AYq-mbzgsA - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we're raising awareness for Partnership in Chattanooga, TN: https://www.partnershipfca.com/donate - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (04:06): How they met - (10:13): When she discovered the infidelity - (14:31): Her last straw - (18:39): The divorce - (21:20): Healing from the break up - (27:45): Moving on - (30:17): Teaser Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

[SCROLL FOR CW] - Ex-Mormon therapist Jenny Morrow reacts to S2E4 and let's us in on what people leaving the LDS church struggle with after leaving. She talks about rules for dating, complications when one spouse wants to leave the church, divorce, and sexuality. Check out more from her at www.JennyMorrow.com. - This is a replay episode that originally aired on August 25th, 2022 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00-00:14): Episode Break Down - (00:14-02:22): Meet Jenny! - (02:22-05:08): Dating as a young Mormon - (05:08-06:19): The Mormon temple - (06:19-07:40): Dealing with religious shame - (07:40-10:32): Sexuality in the church - (10:32-12:17): Divorce in Mormonism - (12:17-13:17): What if one spouse wants to leave the church? - (13:17-14:24): Sexism in the church - (14:24-16:15): What do ex-Mormons struggle with after leaving? - (16:15-18:03): Advice for "finding yourself" after a big life change - (18:03-18:29): Follow Jenny! - CW: Suicide, Sexism Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode originally aired on August 23rd, 2022- new episodes return Nov 28! - This week we're raising awareness for The Nest in Lexington, KY: https://www.thenestlexington.org/ - Follow the podcast!  - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9  - Timestamps: - (00:00-03:55): Episode Intro - (03:55-06:30): How they met - (06:30-11:44): How they got together/dating in Mormon culture - (11:44-15:37): "Same-sex attraction" in the church - (15:37-21:44): Their 6-year-long marriage - (21:44)-24:44): The start of their divorce - (24:44-27:54): After the divorce - (29:59-28:59): Reconnecting with her ex-BF - (31:23-37:11): Living in a Mormon community and being Agnostic - (37:11:38:26): BYU dating myths(?!?!)  - (38:26-38:56): Teaser Clip Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Accidentally?! This week we're chatting with someone who says her partner asked her for a domestic partnership, but she was ready to break up. So how did she end up in a legally binding agreement that led her to getting a divorce lawyer!? - This week we're raising awareness for Family safety center in tulsa https://fsctulsa.org/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (04:36): How they met - (07:51): First signs of problems in the relationship - (13:23): When she wanted to break up with her partner - (16:03): Why her her gf wanted a domestic partnership - (21:34): The actual break up - (26:24): The aftermath of the break up - (37:23): Working through things in therapy - (45:15): Dating again/moving on - (51:37): Teaser - [CONTENT WARNINGS: emotional abuse] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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She found out her boyfriend was getting engaged from a LOVE LETTER...we'll find out about his other relationship(s) when we break down this weeks break up. - This week we're raising awareness for SafeHouse in Denver: https://safehouse-denver.org/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (03:19): How they met - (06:39): When she felt like something was wrong.... - (10:00): When she starts looking for proof of infidelity - (13:53): The Love Letter - (18:04): What the other GF found out - (22:00): Reflecting on his infidelity - (26:17): How she decided to leave her relationship - (29:31): Her novel, The Traitor Within - (39:50): Teaser - [CONTENT WARNINGS: suicidal ideation] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - The OPENHOUSE Podcast: https://www.thisisopenhouse.com/podcast/anxious-attachment-style-and-dating-knztz - How are Narcissists Created?: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2TBOvP4mu8Zkm4BX9MTXnA?si=oEgMnnCaQsSNFR6FabGLTg - Attachment Styles: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1S2QkIh7l06vW6KJMaA2ZI?si=GosbucJFS0KBI8ibNXpbFA - Self-Esteem/Self-Worth/Self-Trust: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1pFwVmNGSDEiihTfhuXNEp?si=jwxVgsqKTCWN-np3Nr5Y_Q - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we're raising awareness for DC Safe: https://www.dcsafe.org/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (03:14): How they met - (05:08): How she felt about him being married - (08:13): Why the relationship as on/off - (13:08): When she ended the relationship - (18:35): The aftermath - (22:32): Healing and moving on - (27:49): Advice for other people who are "the other woman" - (28:21): Teaser Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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This week we're raising awareness for Jessie's Place in Birmingham, AL: https://jimmiehalemission.com/donate/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (04:08): How they met - (08:16): The cracks in the relationship - (12:29): When he broke things off - (17:22): How people reacted - (19:01): The aftermath - (24:00): When he tried to get her back - (26:32): Her healing process - (29:24): How her dating life is now - (33:09): Advice - (34:56): Teaser Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - More from Jessica Anne Pressler, LCSW: https://www.jessicaannepressler.com/ - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we're raising awareness for Choices in Columbus, OH: https://lssnetworkofhope.org/donate/?dr=LSS%20CHOICES%20for%20Victims%20of%20Domestic%20Violence - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (02:49): How they met - (06:14): When they moved in together - (08:14): When he introduces her to the woman he'd leave her for - (11:45): When things started to go wrong - (17:29): When they had their child - (20:02): When she saw signs of an affair - (26:52): The aftermath after he left her - (29:29): Where everyone is at now - (37:15): Reflecting/what she learned - (44:29): Teaser - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Check out more from Amy from New Perspectives: https://newperspectivesforlife.com/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we're raising awareness for Hope Inc in Clarksburg, WV: https://hopeincwv.org/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (03:21): How they met - (10:01): When she found out about the engagement - (14:58): What happened when she confronted him - (19:41): Is the wedding still on? - (24:36): Reflecting on the relationships - (27:39): Advice/what she's learned - (32:10): Teaser Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

[SCROLL FOR CW]:  - We're diving deeper into the conversation surrounding domestic violence and verbal abuse on today's break down. - LCSW Amethyst St. Thomas came on to react to this week's main episode and help us understand why victims choose to stay in abusive relationships and how we can help our friends and family escape a dangerous situation! - Connect with Amethyst ! - Website: https://www.inclusivetherapyclub.com/ -. IG: https://www.instagram.com/inclusivetherapyclub/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Timestamps: - (00:00-01:32): Episode intro/general reactions - (01:32-03:36): Defining verbal abuse - (03:36-04:34): The need for control in abusive relationships - (04:34-06:29): Defining what abuse looks like in conflict - (06:29-08:12): Reasons people choose to stay in abusive relationships - (08:12-15:12): How to encourage someone to leave an abusive relationship - (15:12-17:12): Common things people need to heal from after an abusive relationship - (17:12-19:60): Closing out/where to follow Inclusive Therapy Club - CW: Domestic violence: physical abuse, verbal abuse, emotional abuse. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

[SCROLL FOR CW] - This episode originally aired in October 2022 - Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 OR Text START to 88788 - Domestic Violence Support: https://www.thehotline.org/   Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00-04:09): Episode Intro - (04:53): How they got together - (06:20): When the red flags started to show - (07:37): When things started to take a turn for the worst - (10:16): Why she decided to stay when things got violent - (11:49): When the relationship finally came to an end - (13:09): Why she wanted to stay in this relationship  - (14:18): The aftermath of the relationship - (17:36): When she finally identified that this was abuse - (20:25): Advice she would give to people in her situation - (25:02): Thursday Episode - [CW: Sexual Assault, Domestic Violence/Intimate Partner Violence, Miscarriage, Mental Health] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we're raising awareness for Favor House of NW Florida:  https://www.favorhouse.org/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (03:51): How they met/the early relationship - (09:11): Their engagement/early marriage - (12:37): When the cracks in their relationship started to show - (17:25): The start of the divorce - (25:44): Why the divorce was so shocking - (29:33): Her ex's new relationship - (35:00): Reflecting on the relationship/advice - (40:18): Teaser Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

SEPTEMBER 23RD BREAK UP BREAK DOWN BRUNCH: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/break-up-break-down-brunch-sept-23rd-tickets-667893356007?aff=oddtdtcreator - Check out more from Safe4Life: https://safe4life.ca/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - [CW: kidnapping, sexual assault, intimate partner violence] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When True Love feels more like a True Crime Story….Abby Murphy is ready to investigate! Breaking Up is hard to do (obviously) but it’s even harder when social media is involved. If your relationship is on display, people are noticing…especially when it ends. We talk to couples and individuals about their break ups. What went wrong? What things did they work through to try and make it work? We’ll learn from them and take valuable lessons from their experience while sharing a laugh (or cry) along the way. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

[SCROLL FOR CONTENT WARNINGS] - This week we're raising awareness for Women in Transition in Philly: https://helpwomen.org/donate - YOU'RE INVITED TO THE BREAK UP BREAK DOWN BRUNCH: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/break-up-break-down-brunch-sept-23rd-tickets-667893356007?aff=oddtdtcreator - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (04:47): How they met - (11:32): When she started to learn about his past - (19:56): When she started to see his true colors - (28:10): When she started to ask questions - (32:555): When she broke up with him - (38:10): The suspicious "closure" dinner - (44:28): Figuring out how to escape her ex - (51:10): The aftermath/the court cases - (57:47): Reflecting/what she learned - (01:01:00): Teaser - [CONTENT WARNINGS: Intimate partner violence, kidnapping, suicidal ideation] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

BREAK UP BREAK DOWN BRUNCH: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/break-up-break-down-brunch-sept-23rd-tickets-667893356007?aff=oddtdtcreator - Thank you to Candice from The Christian Closet for coming on!: https://www.thechristiancloset.com/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we're raising awareness for Friends of Yates in Kansas City: https://friendsofyates.org/FOY/?page_id=55 - YOU'RE INVITED TO THE BREAK UP BREAK DOWN BRUNCH: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/break-up-break-down-brunch-sept-23rd-tickets-667893356007?aff=oddtdtcreator - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (04:52): How they met - (06:58): The first break up - (09:01): When they got back together - (12:53): The second break up - (16:37): Their secret engagement - (21:24): The end of their relationship - (27:07): Why her friends were concerned about their relationship - (31:46): Reflecting on the relationship - (34:05): Advice - (37:57): Teaser Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

[CHECK CW] - Abby, Lexi, and Coworker Justin are back together to break down this week's main episode! We talk about some of the most SHOCKING parts of this week's main episode and hash out some of the main points from the story. We discuss pretending to be something you're not in relationships, keeping secrets, cheating, and gender roles in relationships. You know...casual, light topics of conversation!!! - Support the Jacksonville Hubbard House: https://www.hubbardhouse.org/neededmost - Tasheka Young (our former coworker) / Learn more: https://www.actionnewsjax.com/news/local/memorial-services-announced-tasheka-tysheeks-young/3HUFHCA6VNBTDBHWBPHBLGDZ7I/ CashApp: $OliviaSYoung - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: (00:00-00:59): Intro - (01:00-02:11): Tasheka Young - (02:22-04:38): Breaking down the episode's main points - (04:38-07:24): When your partner lies to you/keeps secrets - (07:24-10:51): Navigating traditional gender roles in relationships - (10:51-12:05): How much did the interviewee know about his involvement with drugs? - (12:05-15:24): What do you do if your friends/family don't approve of your partner? - (15:24-17:24): Trust issues/getting blindsided in a relationship/teasing next week's episodes. - CW: Domestic Violence/Abuse Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

[This episode originally aired during Season 2) - This week we're raising awareness for the Jacksonville Hubbard House: https://www.hubbardhouse.org/neededmost - Follow the podcast!  - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/  - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/  - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9  Timestamps: (00:00) - (01:01): Intro - (01:01) - (04:28): Discussing the season/submission - (04:28) - (05:17): How they met/the "love" story - (05:17) - (07:06): Red Flags - (07:06) - (12:43): When things took a turn for the worst - (12:43) - (15:30): Forming the plan - (15:30) - (19:12): Executing the plan - (19:12) - (23:18): How her ex fought back - (23:18) - (27:20): The unexpected aftermath - (27:20) - (33:55): Reflecting on the situation/advice/moving on Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Come to the Break Up Break Down Brunch in ATL: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/break-up-break-down-brunch-sept-23rd-tickets-667893356007 - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Check out this episode on self-esteem: https://traffic.megaphone.fm/PION6516502231.mp3?updated=1690554641 - Follow the podcast - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we're raising awareness for Safe Horizon in Manhattan: https://www.safehorizon.org/mysafehorizon/ - YOU'RE INVITED TO THE BREAK UP BREAK DOWN BRUNCH: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/break-up-break-down-brunch-sept-23rd-tickets-667893356007?aff=oddtdtcreator / Use promo code HOTGOSS10 for 10% off! (This promo code expires 08/30) - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (04:02): How they met/the early relationship - (07:25): The first signs of infidelity - (15:16): How he handles the first confrontation - (23:39): The aftermath of the second bout of infidelity - (27:45): Reflecting on the mistress' part in it - (30:18): Reflecting on her ex's part in it - (35:17): Reflecting on why she was in this relationship - (39:24): How TikTok impacted her break up - (44:11): Advice she'd give after this experience - (45:34): Teaser Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

SEPTEMBER 23RD BREAK UP BREAK DOWN BRUNCH: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/break-up-break-down-brunch-sept-23rd-tickets-667893356007?aff=oddtdtcreator - Amy from New Perspectives: https://newperspectivesforlife.com/ - This week's main episode also touched on SA. Hear Amy and I's conversation on codependency and SA here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5KjJ9fJRkAwYE0Z4PMn0af?si=ILYLEbUyQRWN60z407amBQ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

[SCROLL FOR CONTENT WARNINGS] - This week we're raising awareness for The Salvation Army DV Center in NWFL: https://salvationarmyflorida.org/domestic-violence-program/ - YOU'RE INVITED TO THE BREAK UP BREAK DOWN BRUNCH: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/break-up-break-down-brunch-sept-23rd-tickets-667893356007?aff=oddtdtcreator - USE CODE BREAKDOWN9 FOR 10% UNTIL AUGUST 23RD! - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (03:51): How they met - (05:31): The cracks in their relationship - (08:29): When the relationship really started to fall apart [CW: sexual assault] - (11:52): The final straw - (14:11): Reflecting on her SA - (16:46): Reflecting on reasons why she stayed in the relationship - (19:23): How his family played into the break up - (23:37): How she moved on from the relationship - (27:56): Healing from her SA - (33:02): Advice - (36:33): Teaser - [CONTENT WARNINGS: Sexual Assault] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

BREAK UP BREAK DOWN BRUNCH: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/break-up-break-down-brunch-sept-23rd-tickets-667893356007?aff=oddtdtcreator - Thank you to Tatiana Melendez for coming on!: https://ttmcounseling.com/about/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

[SCROLL FOR CONTENT WARNINGS] - This week we're raising awareness for The Dwelling Place in Minneapolis: https://www.tdpmn.org/donate - YOU'RE INVITED TO THE BREAK UP BREAK DOWN BRUNCH: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/break-up-break-down-brunch-sept-23rd-tickets-667893356007?aff=oddtdtcreator / Use code HOTGOSS8 for 10% off (only on Aug 15th!) - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (05:29): How they met - (07:26): The trauma bond - (09:13): When she knew things were off in the relationship - (15:33): How she met her current BF - (18:46): The start of the final breakup w/ her Fiancé - (27:51): The falling out between her and her ex fiancé - (34:13): Reflecting on the relationship/the trauma bond - (47:37): Advice - (57:06): Teaser - [CONTENT WARNINGS: Intimate partner violence, eating disorders, suicidal ideation] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Come to the Break Up Break Down Brunch in ATL: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/break-up-break-down-brunch-sept-23rd-tickets-667893356007 - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we're raising awareness for East LA Women's Center: https://www.elawc.org/how_you_can_help - YOU'RE INVITED TO THE BREAK UP BREAK DOWN BRUNCH: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/break-up-break-down-brunch-sept-23rd-tickets-667893356007?aff=oddtdtcreator / Use promo code S4E7 for 10% off! (This promo code expires 08/09) - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (06:20): How they met/the early relationship - (13:38): When she first noticed something was off - (15:25): When she saw the post.... - (21:38): The messy aftermath - (25:50): How this affected her emotionally - (30:57): Dating culture in FRANCE! Oui Oui! - (35:50): Reflecting on the relationship/advice - (36:47): Teaser Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

[SCROLL FOR CONTENT WARNINGS] - SEPTEMBER 23RD BREAK UP BREAK DOWN BRUNCH: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/break-up-break-down-brunch-sept-23rd-tickets-667893356007?aff=oddtdtcreator - Amy from New Perspectives: https://newperspectivesforlife.com/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - [CONTENT WARNINGS: Sexual Assault (rape), intimate partner violence] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

[SCROLL FOR CONTENT WARNINGS] - National Sexual Assault Hotline: https://www.rainn.org/resources - This week we're raising awareness for One Safe Place in Redding, CA: https://ospshasta.org/donate/ - YOU'RE INVITED TO THE BREAK UP BREAK DOWN BRUNCH: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/break-up-break-down-brunch-sept-23rd-tickets-667893356007?aff=oddtdtcreator - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (08:54): How they met - (11:34): The SA incident - (21:08): How the relationship was after the SA - (26:21): When the romantic relationship ended - (28:45): How she tried to work through the infidelity - (35:27): Coming to terms with the SA - (38:41): Reflecting on the relationship/advice - (50:29): Teaser - [CW: Sexual Assault (Rape), Self-Harm, Suicidal Ideation, Intimate Partner Violence] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You should come to the Break Up Break Down Brunch!: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/break-up-break-down-brunch-sept-23rd-tickets-667893356007?aff=oddtdtcreator - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we're raising awareness for La Casa de Las Madres in SF: https://www.lacasa.org/donate - YOU'RE INVITED TO THE BREAK UP BREAK DOWN BRUNCH: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/break-up-break-down-brunch-sept-23rd-tickets-667893356007?aff=oddtdtcreator - TikTok from this week's episode: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT88dALk6/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (05:03): How they met - (08:05): When her gut told her something was off - (11:00): How the infidelity affected the relationship - (12:12): When more details about the infidelity came out - (17:28): How she tried to work through the infidelity - (22:47): When she knew it was time to end the marriage - (30:00): Reflecting on the relationship/advice - (35:56): Teaser Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

SEPTEMBER 23RD BREAK UP BREAK DOWN BRUNCH: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/break-up-break-down-brunch-sept-23rd-tickets-667893356007?aff=oddtdtcreator - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

[SCROLL FOR CONTENT WARNINGS] - This week we're raising awareness for New Beginnings in Seattle: https://connect.clickandpledge.com/w/Form/eb4fcb02-785e-43c9-a3d9-ab2daca2f700 - YOUR INVITED TO THE BREAK UP BREAK DOWN BRUNCH: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/break-up-break-down-brunch-sept-23rd-tickets-667893356007?aff=oddtdtcreator - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (03:50): How they met - (07:58): When the ex GF Called her - (11:03): How she confronted him - (15:17): How "the incident" affected her relationship - (16:51): The second "incident" - (19:58): What ultimately ended the relationship - (21:39): Dealing with the heartbreak - (23:30): Advice/reflecting on the relationship - (26:48): Teaser - [CONTENT WARNINGS: Suicide/Suicidal Ideation] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Come to the Break Up Break Down Brunch in ATL: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/break-up-break-down-brunch-sept-23rd-tickets-667893356007 - Amy Head, LCSW, joins the podcast to talk self-esteem, self-worth, and how to build yours from the inside out to have healthy relationships! - Learn more about Amy's practice: https://newperspectivesforlife.com/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

[SCROLL FOR CONTENT WARNINGS] - This week we're raising awareness for SafeHouse in Denver: https://safehouse-denver.org/get-involved/donate/donate-form.html - BUY YOUR TICKET TO THE BREAK UP BREAK DOWN BRUNCH: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/break-up-break-down-brunch-sept-23rd-tickets-667893356007?aff=oddtdtcreator - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (04:33): How they met - (06:59): When the infidelity was discovered - (10:11): The divorce party - (14:44): Her new relationship - (17:20): Reflecting on the relationship - (24:10): How the relationship affected her future marriage - (28:38): Rebuilding self-esteem discussion - (34:57): Advice - (36:54): Teaser - [CONTENT WARNINGS: Suicide/Suicidal Ideation, Eating Disorders, Religious Trauma] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

SEPTEMBER 23RD BREAK UP BREAK DOWN BRUNCH: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/break-up-break-down-brunch-sept-23rd-tickets-667893356007?aff=oddtdtcreator - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - [MAIN EPISODE CONTENT WARNINGS: Child molestation, pedophilia, sexual assault/rape, loss of a family member (graphic)] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

[SCROLL FOR CONTENT WARNINGS] - This week we're raising awareness for First Step in Detroit, MI: https://www.firststep-mi.org/donatenow/ - BUY YOUR TICKET TO THE BREAK UP BREAK DOWN BRUNCH: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/break-up-break-down-brunch-sept-23rd-tickets-667893356007?aff=oddtdtcreator - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (03:45): How they met - (05:51): His father's death - (09:25): How his father's death affected the relationship - (13:39): The signs that something was wrong - (25:51): When she started to realize she wanted out - (27:58): The phone call from the detective.... - (33:43): Reflecting on the relationship/advice - (41:20): Teaser - [CONTENT WARNINGS: Child molestation, pedophilia, sexual assault/rape, loss of a family member (graphic)] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You should come to the Break Up Break Down Brunch in ATL: https://forms.gle/KEWSJcxShbLzCWRk6 (sign up to be the first to get the link here) - Amy Head, LCSW joins the podcast to talk all about controlling partners in relationships. What does control abuse look like in relationships? How do I identify when I'm not sure if it's a problem or just controlling tendencies? What tools can I use to leave relationships that show signs and evidence of control issues? - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

[SCROLL FOR CONTENT WARNINGS] - This week we're raising awareness for Safe Alliance in Charlotte, NC: https://www.safealliance.org/donations/ - Interested in coming to the Break Up Break Down Brunch?: https://forms.gle/dqhvvAEJmKWt4nS3A - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (05:20): When she first noticed things were unhealthy.... - (09:27): The situation with her BFF and her husband - (14:18): When she decided to divorce him - (19:44): The miraculous birth of her daughter - (26:09): Life after the traumatic birth - (29:47): Reflecting on her friendship with her ex-BFF - (34:11): Reflecting on her marriage - (35:46): Advice - (37:30): Teaser - [CW: Miscarriage, Suicide, Intimate Partner Violence, Loss of a Child] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

(psssttt Season 4 starts JUNE 27th!) Marriage and Family therapist Kati Morton joins the podcast to redefine "daddy issues". What are they and how do you know if you have them...and spoiler alert....it doesn't always have to do with your relationship with your father! - Check out Kati's Attachment Workshop: https://katimorton.com/the-shop/p/attachment-workshop - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Interested in coming to the Break Up Break Down Brunch?: https://forms.gle/dqhvvAEJmKWt4nS3A - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (02:38 ): Submission #1 - (06:10): Submission #2 - (08:58): Submission #3 - (11:58): Submission #4 - (15:24): Submission #5 - (17:51): Submission #6 - (19:05): Submission #7 - (20:53): Submission #8 - (22:17): Submission #9 - (24:56): Submission #10 - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

S3 has finally come to a close....I'm wrapping up this season by talking about S3E20 and every episode that came before it! I'll talk about my favorite moments and lessons from the season and also a little tea along the way.... - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we're raising awareness for Marjaree Mason Center in Fresno, Ca: https://mmcenter.org/partner-with-us/donate - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (04:44): How they met/Establishing the relationship - (15:52): Why they both kept the affair going - (16:20): How it ended - (17:42): When his ex-wife called her with major information - (20:18): When he tried to reignite the relationship - (24:28): Reflecting on how it affected her/advice - (37:40): Teaser - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We'll definitely have a therapist on to talk about this subject at some point, but for now, here's an in-depth look on two personal experiences. "Daddy issues", parental wounds, attachment issues, abandonment issues...whatever you feel comfortable calling them...can be absolutely devastating when trying to get into a healthy relationship. BFF Kennedy joins Abby on the podcast to talk about each other's emotional wounds from childhood and what they've learned from their own healing experiences. - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we're raising awareness for Palomar in Oklahoma City, OK: https://palomarokc.org/donate/ - Check out Besitos Beauty: https://besitosbeauty.com/ - Interested in coming to the Break Up Break Down Brunch?: https://forms.gle/dqhvvAEJmKWt4nS3A - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (04:35 ): The beginning of the relationship - (04:23): When the other relationship came to light - (10:54): What kept her in the relationship - (15:18): How her husband passed away - (20:15): How she discovered the affair - (25:08): How she decided to pull life support - (30:43): The aftermath of his passing/discovering the affair - (35:18): How she turned her pain into "power" - (41:48): Advice she has for people rebuilding their self-esteem - (45:29): Teaser Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices