The CAPE Podcast

In this episode, Kristi talks with online safety educator and founder of 'Not My Kid', Jen Hoey.

Jen shares the story of her 11yo daughter being groomed online by a predator despite her hypervigilence and the impact that experience had on her daughter and family. 

Jen turned her families tragedy into helping and supporting other families through her online facebook group and extremely helpful content online. 

Check out Jen's website at www.notmykid.com.au or via her social media on Facebook @notmykid and Instagram at @notmykid_ever. 

If you are also looking for help with managing your child's online usage, check out our website at www.cape-au.com where we have FREE guides, a device controls webinar or a jam packed self-paced online course so you can know EVERYTHING Kristi knows.

Please also don't forget to subscribe and leave a review if you love this episode!

In this episode, Kristi speaks with Alison D'Vine, founder and CEO of SagencyWA, a men's behaviour change and family therapy clinic in Perth WA. 

Alison and Kristi discuss the challenges that couples face when dealing with domestic violence and explore the many reasons for domestic violence including unpacking the 'man box' and societal ideas and pressures on men and families that contribute to the domestic violence cycle. 

For more information about the Sagency's 22 week program, please check out their website at www.sagencywa.com.au 

If any part of the show causes distress, please seek support and help from either the following services or from your own family doctor/psychologist or counsellor. 

Lifeline - 131114

Beyond Blue - 1300 224 636

Sexual Violence Services in WA - 

Service Assisting Male Survivors of Sexual Assault (SAMSSA) - (02) 6287 3935

1800 Respect - 1800 737 732

For more information or resources please visit the CAPE-AU website at www.cape-au.com. 

Welcome back to Season 2 of The CAPE podcast - a child abuse prevention and education podcast. 

CONTENT WARNING - This episode talks about Gloria's experience as a survivor of child sex trafficking and abuse. Listener discretion is advised. 

In this episode, Kristi speaks with Gloria Masters, founder and CEO of Handing The Shame Back, a podcast and Youtube channel with resources, survivor interviews and information for Child Sexual Abuse survivors. 

Gloria shares her personal story of surviving child sex trafficking as a child transforming it into her personal mission of raising awareness and helping survivors heal from their abuse. 

Check out Handing the Shame Back's website at www.handingtheshameback.org or via their social media on Instagram and Youtube with the same name.

If any part of the show causes distress, please seek support and help from either the following services or from your own family doctor/psychologist or counsellor. 

Lifeline - 131114

Beyond Blue - 1300 224 636

Sexual Violence Services in WA - 

Service Assisting Male Survivors of Sexual Assault (SAMSSA) - (02) 6287 3935

1800 Respect - 1800 737 732

For more information or resources please visit the CAPE-AU website at www.cape-au.com. 

Episode 21 The impacts of pornography on our children

In this episode, Kristi speaks with ex-WA Police Officer of over 20 years, Kayelene Kerr where she talks about the impacts of pornography on our children and what we as parents should be talking about with our kids. 

This is a MUST listen podcast for parents of girls and boys with young children and teens especially those parents with children from 8 onwards. 

Kayelene and Kristi leave the podcast with ways to talk with your kids about pornography from little people all the way up to teens and how to help our kids identify why pornography is not a safe 'sexual education' tool. 

Check out Kayelene's website at www.esafekids.com.au or via esafekids on Instagram and Facebook. 

Episode 20 Navigating social media as parents with Maddie Graham

In this episode Kristi speaks with Maddie Graham, co-founder of Changing the Conversation where they talk about Maddie's unique experiences with social media, stalkers, oversharing information and the effects of social media on young people. 

Maddie is a third-year psychology student at the University of Wollongong and also runs Changing the Conversation. Her heart is deeply invested in community development, encompassing school workshops, community engagement, and teaching social and emotional skills. Her mission is to create spaces where authentic conversations flourish, utilising her expertise in human behaviour and social dynamics to make positive impact. 

Maddie and Kristi dive into the risks with 'sharenting' and the need for more social media education and awareness. 

Check out Changing the Conversation via instagram www.instagram.com/changingtheconversationn/

Episode 19 Divorce and separation support with Becca Maxwell 

In this episode, Kristi speaks with Becca Maxwell from Do Divorce Right about the struggles and challenges of separation and divorce when dealing with children and keeping them safe. 

Becca is a divorce coach who coaches women through navigating the choice to separate or in the process of separation and divorce and the conversations and choices that are necessary through the process. 

Kristi & Becca discuss the many aspects of separation from what to consider and managing children in two homes. 

Becca can be found at www.dodivorceright.com or via her Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/dodivorceright. 

For further details about Kristi and her work go to www.cape-au.com 

Episode 18 Cyberbullying solutions and prevention with Maggie Ciobanu from YooChooz

In this episode, Kristi speaks with mother Maggie Ciobanu who turned her own daughters cyberbullying into an app to help prevent kids from sending abusive message and make better choices before they engage in cyberbullying. 

Maggie explains her own daughters and families experiences that led her to try and help other kids from becoming a statistic and victim of abuse online through the app YooChooz. 

Check out the Yoochooz app via the Apple store or via their website www.yoochooz.com.au 

You can also follow Maggie and YooChooz via instagram at www.instagram.com/yoochooz/ 

For any further enquiries about this podcast episode, contact via our website at www.cape-au.com. 

Also check out our Device Safety 101 self-paced online course for more in-depth advice and help around keeping kids safe at www.cape-au.com/device-safety-101/ 

Episode 17 Educate to Empower our children with Jayneen Sanders

In this episode, Kristi speaks with Jayneen Sanders aka Jay Dale, an author of over 100 stories and educational books for kids aged from 3 and up, covering topics such as body safety, consent, inclusion, feelings, respectful relationships and other important conversations for our children in the prevention of child sexual abuse and healthy childhoods. 

Jay is an active advocate who has spent her life ensuring parents and educators have the resources available to help keep kids safe and in this episode she discusses the power of education in empowering children and how simple body safety, consent and respectful relationships education can make a huge difference. 

You can follow and purchase Jay's books here:

www.e2epublishing.info 
www.instagram.com/jayneensandersauthor/
www.instagram.com/educate2empower/ 

For any further information or to speak with Kristi, you can reach out via the CAPE-AU website - www.cape-au.com 

Episode 16 The Better Sex Ed Project with Jess Douglas - Monks

In this episode, Kristi talks with Jess from The Better Sex Ed Project about the importance of open discussions around sexuality education with your children, starting at a young age in age appropriate ways. 

Jess discusses the importance of correct anatomy and how good sexuality education can improve relationships and enhance their life experiences. 

Jess is studying psychology and is a sexuality and consent educator. You can find Jess on Instagram via www.instagram.com/thebettersexedproject/ 

www.cape-au.com 

Episode 15 - How to have better conversations with your kids with guest Mike Dyson. 

In this episode, Kristi talks to legendary human Mike Dyson. Mike is a social and emotional intelligence educator and corporate speaker who facilitates group conversations around mental health and suicide prevention, education wellbeing, healthy masculinity and corporate culture and wellbeing. 

In this conversation, Mike shares his 'Better Conversations with Young People' framework in which he encourages parents to 'lean in' and listen to our young people and help them explore the ideas and topics around what it means to be a human in order to create a much more connected connection with our kids. 

This is a highly informative and inspiring chat that will leave you with tools to help you have better conversations with your kids! 

Mike can be found here: https://www.mikedyson.com.au and Mike's social enterprise Good Blokes Co can be found here: https://www.goodblokes.co 

www.cape-au.com 

Episode 14 - The Cyber Safety Project with Trent Ray

In this episode, Kristi talks with co-founder Trent Ray of the Cyber Safety Project based in the East Coast of Australia about why he started this social enterprise to educate children and young people about digital citizenship and online safety. 

Trent shares his experiences as a teacher along with first hand stories of online child abuse and how parents can prevent their kids from online grooming and protect them with his simple advice.

Find more information about The Cyber Safety Project here: www.cybersafetyproject.com.au 

If you are looking for help in talking to your children about Online and Cyber Safety or need further information on how to protect your children online, check out our online course Device Safety 101 at https://www.cape-au.com/device-safety101  

Content Warning - Discussions about Child Sexual Abuse, Online Child Exploitation and Child Sexual Abuse Material 

Episode 13 - The battle to protect your kids online with Sergio Zaragoza 

In this episode, Kristi interviews Sergio Zaragoza, an advocate and online child exploitation educator living in Spain.

Sergio worked as an investigator and moderator for big tech companies YouTube and Google among other social media companies where he was exposed to Child Sexual Abuse Material (CSAM) for over 5 years, classifying content. 

Sergio offers his experiences to listeners as someone who saw 1000s of videos and images of child sexual abuse material and observed grooming and sextortion via the platforms he was moderating/classifying and the surge in Computer Generated CSAM (AI). 

There is a battle going on between law enforcement, child safety and online safety advocates and educators, parents, big tech companies and legislators in this space and during this conversation, Kristi & Sergio discuss the loop holes and what parents need to know in this fight to keep our kids safe. 

This is a real conversation about the truth of child sexual abuse material, sextortion, self-generated child sexual abuse and computer generated CSAM. 

You can connect with Sergio on LinkedIn here: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sergio-zaragoza-752680201/ 

If any part of this discussion was upsetting or overwhelming, please check out the resources on our website for support: www.cape-au.com. 

Please reach out to Kristi via email on admin@cape-au.com. 

Episode 12 - Stranger Danger, Tricky Behaviours and 'how to prevent your child from being groomed' 

Content Warning: Child Sexual Abuse and Swearing 

In this episode, Kristi talks about how to talk to your child about Stranger Danger and Tricky Behaviours after her Sunrise interview 2 weeks ago. 

Kristi also discusses her time in Darwin presenting to the Australian College of Children and Young People's Nurses as well as her 'How to prevent your child from being groomed' workshop on Tuesday night. 

This episode is a collaboration of information and thoughts from Kristi from the last few weeks of news and information as well as what people are asking about in her every day. 

If you want to know more about any of the information mentioned in the podcast episode, check out the website at www.cape-au.com. 

CONTENT WARNING - Child Sexual Abuse and Grooming

In this episode, Kristi talks with child sexual abuse survivor and advocate Imogen Lee about facing her abuser in court after years of grooming, being unheard and the power of persistence. 

Imogen attempted to report her abuse at age 12, 16, 21 and finally at age 28, was able to seek justice. Imogen's story shares her struggles as a child, her process from young child to grown adult reporting her abuse and how she was let down more than once by the systems in place along with the grooming and enabling done by the abuser and parent.

Imogen's ongoing persistence is attributed to her strength and character, however, her story is not uncommon. 

Check out the news article of her court case discussed in the podcast here: 
https://www.brisbanetimes.com.au/national/queensland/queensland-stepdad-jailed-for-sex-offences-20200226-p544jt.html 

You can follow Imogen on social media both on Instagram and TikTok here: 

www.instagram.com/immeelex_thetraumastories/ 
www.tiktok.com/immeeleex/   

For any further information, check out our website www.cape-au.com or email Kristi at admin@cape-au.com. 

If you find any part of this podcast distressing, please check out the links below and seek support:

Thank you for helping in the fight against child sexual abuse!

Episode 10 - Talking safe online exploration and working as a team together online with Sandrine Lexi. 

In this episode, Kristi talks with creator Sandrine Lexi about her card game 'All the Likes' targeted at children aged 6-10 years of age. 

Sandrine is the mother of 3 young humans and after seeing a tragic story of a young persons online abuse and subsequent suicide, decided there was a need for integrating online safety conversations in a safe and fun way, before they get online or before there is potential online abuse. 

Sandrine talks about how her game can help parents, teachers and educators introduce discussions around online safety to encourage early intervention and how by using the game, you can encourage safe exploration and discussions. 

For a short discussion, there is lots to be learnt from this episode to help parents with their kids. 

Sandrine has also offered listeners a 20% discount until 7pm 7th November 2023.

Use the code KRISTI20 on the website before check out to redeem this discount. 

Find Team Together Online at www.teamtogetheronline.com. 

CONTENT WARNING - this episode is intended for adult listeners only. Please don't listen with children in the car or where little ears can hear. 

In this episode, Kristi discusses healthy sexuality education with sexuality expert and author, Vanessa Hamilton from Talking the Talk. 

This episode is a deep dive conversation into what parents need to know in regards to discussing sex and sexuality with their children in their own homes and why leaving sexuality education up to schools and pornography is NOT the way to happy and healthy teenagers. 

Vanessa explains how to have these conversations with your children from early childhood up to teen and poses some great thought provoking questions and information about our perceptions around sexuality education and how good, comprehensive sexuality education can prevent child sexual abuse. 

This is a MUST listen for parents of children at any age or stage of development. 

Check out Vanessa's website here: https://www.talkingthetalksexed.com.au 

Check out Vanessa's resources for teens here: https://www.talkingthetalksexed.com.au/info-for-young-people

Pre-order Vanessa's book 'Talking Sex - a conversation guide for parents' here: https://ambapress.com.au/products/talking-sex

Get a copy of Kristi's book here: https://www.cape-au.com/book

Check out the WA Health resource mentioned by Vanessa 'Talk soon, talk often' here: https://www.healthywa.wa.gov.au/Articles/S_T/Talk-soon-Talk-often 

Please email Kristi at admin@cape-au.com for any further questions. 

As always, thanks for listening! 

Episode 8 - The effects of child abuse on the body with Genevieve Jones

CONTENT WARNING - discussions of child sexual abuse, torture, domestic violence and abuse

Genevieve Jones is a child abuse survivor, advocate, protective behaviours practitioner as well having a bachelor's degree in social science. 

Genevieve's story of torture and child sexual abuse is way more than what was disclosed in this episode, however, her story of understanding her trauma and the way it is shown in the body is one for everyone to listen to and understand. 

Trauma has an interesting way of presenting and persisting in the body and it takes time and work to heal. If you or a loved one has trauma, this episode will help you understand your body and reactions a little better. 

If you find any of the episode triggering or upsetting, please seek professional support or help or contact one of the services below:

www.beyondblue.org.au  
www.kidshelpline.com.au  
www.lifeline.org.au
www.1800respect.org 
www.blueknot.org.au  
www.partnerspeak.org.au  
www.knowmore.org.au  
www.healingfoundation.org.au 

For more help and information on child sexual abuse or to get a copy of Kristi's book Operation KidSafe - a detective's guide to child abuse prevention, please check out the website www.cape-au.com. 

Episode 7 - The Online Safety Dilemma with Paul Litherland

Kristi interviews one of the leading online safety educators around the many struggles and issues our young people are having online and what we as parents can do about it. 

Paul was a 2022 recipient of the West Australian of the Year award, is an ex-WA Police officer (like Kristi) and has seen a change in the age of children who are being groomed and abused online. 

Please check out Paul via his website at www.surfonlinesafe.com.au or via Surf Online Safe's social media. 

For further information about how you can support your children with online and device safety, check out Kristi's self-paced online course - Device Safety 101 at www.cape-au.com/device-safety101.

Content warning - this episode contains discussions about child sexual abuse and grooming behaviours which may be triggering for some people.

Listener discretion is advised. Please consider your own mental health and wellbeing before listening. 

In this episode, Kristi takes a deep dive into the horrific childcare abuse case from last week in which 91 children were abused with 1623 child sexual abuse charges being laid against a male child care worker.

Kristi also reads a direct post from one of the parents about how this man tricked and abused her child. 

This is a tough topic and conversation but a much needed one! The length of time this man was able to abuse children was due to his manipulative and cunning methods and the grooming of the adults and parents around him. 

Kristi goes into how this occurs, the behaviours and red flags displayed and how what we can do if we are feeling scared or fearful about sending our young child to daycare. 

If you are triggered at all by the contents of this podcast, please seek assistance and help or contact one of the following: 

www.beyondblue.org.au 
www.kidshelpline.com.au 
www.lifeline.org.au
www.blueknot.org.au 
www.partnerspeak.org.au 
www.knowmore.org.au 
www.healingfoundation.org.au

Trigger Warning - Child sexual abuse and discussions around grooming behaviours

In this episode, Kristi interviews Ruby Mikolaitis, a child abuse survivor and advocate, who talks about the effects of child sexual abuse, grooming and its ongoing effects in adulthood. 

Ruby is the podcast host of The Cocoon Podcast (a podcast produced from The Blue Butterfly Institute) and a recent university graduate. 

This real and raw interview will give you an insight into the effects that grooming has on our children and why it's so important to understand what it is, how it works so that we can prevent it. 

Please check out Kristi's interview on the The Cocoon Podcast  here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0ZZJyfT6CXvwlpL71LNBtj?si=dTgAdRSYSpSbfey4LAYOOg 

To find out more about the Blue Butterfly Institute check out the website here: https://www.thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.au

For more information about the grooming process, red flags and warning signs of abuse, check out Kristi's book - Operation KidSafe - a detective's guide to child abuse prevention here: https://linktr.ee/capeau 

If any of this episode was triggering, please take care of your mental health and contact your health care provider or: 

www.beyondblue.org.au 
www.kidshelpline.com.au 
www.lifeline.org.au
www.blueknot.org.au 
www.partnerspeak.org.au 
www.knowmore.org.au 
www.healingfoundation.org.au 

Episode 4 - Welcome to Sex and the psychology of nudes

In this episode, Kristi talks about her conversations and experiences throughout the week and what she thinks about the book 'Welcome to Sex' by Dr Melissa Kang and Yumi Stynes. 

Kristi also discusses the psychology around why teens share nudes and what we as parents need to discuss with our kids. 

If you are looking for help in discussing these types of pics with children and your young people, check out Kristi's book, Operation KidSafe - a detective's guide to child abuse prevention here: https://linktr.ee/capeau 

or her Device Safety 101 self-paced online course which goes into detail about the sharing of nudes and how to talk with your kids about topics such as sexting, pornography etc. here: https://www.cape-au.com/device-safety101  

For general information check out the Child Abuse Prevention and Education website here: www.cape-au.com 

Due to a glitch in the Spotify system - Episode 3 has been re-released to try and fix the bug.

TRIGGER WARNING - discussions around online grooming and abuse

Episode 3 - Online Predators & the Dark Web with Jessica Smith from ClickSafe Intelligence.

Jessica Smith lives a double life investigating fraud for a private organisation by day and investigating online predators and the dark web at night.

This was a great conversation between Kristi & Jessica about what online predators are doing to prey our kids and how they groom them. 

Check out ClickSafe Intelligence here: www.clicksafeintelligence.com 

You can also follow ClickSafe Intelligence and Jessica on all the socials.

If you are looking for help with your young people in keeping them safe online, check out our Device Safety 101 online course for parents. This self-paced online course is equipped with all the information you need to help keep your kids safe and have difficult conversations about online safety.

For more information click here: https://www.cape-au.com/device-safety101 

Episode 3 - Online Predators & the Dark Web with Jessica Smith from ClickSafe Intelligence.

Jessica Smith lives a double life investigating fraud for a private organisation by day and investigating online predators and the dark web at night.

This was a great conversation between Kristi & Jessica about what online predators are doing to prey our kids and how they groom them. 

Check out ClickSafe Intelligence here: www.clicksafeintelligence.com 

You can also follow ClickSafe Intelligence and Jessica on all the socials.

If you are looking for help with your young people in keeping them safe online, check out our Device Safety 101 online course for parents. This self-paced online course is equipped with all the information you need to help keep your kids safe and have difficult conversations about online safety. For more information click here: https://www.cape-au.com/device-safety101 

In this episode, Kristi talks with Holly-ann Martin, Protective Behaviours facilitator and trailblazer, author of multiple books, keen swing dancer and a friend.

Kristi & Holly-ann talk about the importance of Protective Behaviours in keeping kids safe from abuse, pornography, cyber safety as well as her work in rural communities around Australia.

Check out Safe4Kids website here: https://safe4kids.com.au

If any of today's episode is triggering or upsetting, please check out the links on CAPE-AU's website: https://cape-au.com/helpful-links

To check out Kristi's book, Operation KidSafe - a detective's guide to child abuse prevention, her free download or any other resources click here: https://linktr.ee/capeau

Our first episode is an Introduction to the Operation CAPE podcast - a child abuse prevention and education podcast including an introduction of the show's host Kristi McVee.

TRIGGER WARNING - in all episodes we will be talking about child sexual abuse including victim/survivor's stories. This can be triggering and cause distress. Please see the bottom of these show notes for resources to assist if this is the case.

Kristi can be located on social media both on Facebook, Instagram or Tiktok here: https://linktr.ee/capeau

To purchase a signed copy of Operation KidSafe - a detective's guide to child abuse prevention click here: https://cape-au.com/store/ols/products/operation-kidsafe

For further support on your mission to protect your kids, go to our blog here: https://linktr.ee/capeau

To get a copy of our free e-book or to check out our self-paced parents course Device Safety 101 - go to our Linktr.ee https://linktr.ee/capeau

If any of the information, topics or discussions on this podcast cause you distress or upset, please check out the resources here for assistance: https://cape-au.com/helpful-links

Thank you for joining in the fight to prevent child sexual abuse!