Finding the Guardian of Your Soul

On today's episode of 'Finding the Guardian of Your Soul,' we embark on a quest to unveil the secret signs that signal he's the right guy for you. Our guide through this journey of discovery is the incomparable Lisa Shield, whose expertise in forging stronger connections with men transforms the way women approach relationships.

In today's compelling episode of 'Finding the Guardian of Your Soul,' we delve into the multifaceted world of communication between the sexes, particularly when it comes to the intricate dance of dating. Prepare for unraveling enigmas as we explore the often-misconstrued signals and phrases that men and women exchange in the pursuit of love.

On this playful episode of 'Finding the Guardian of Your Soul,' join our spirited pair, Lisa and Benjamin Shield, as they unveil the whimsical secret to nurturing a flourishing relationship – humor! Dive into the romantic world where laughter reigns supreme, and discover why a giggle can be the golden key to a partner’s heart.

In this episode of 'Finding the Guardian of Your Soul,' Lisa and Benjamin Shield explore the profound dynamics of a committed relationship and what drives a man to want to commit. With insightful observations and personal experiences, they discuss the importance of creating space, nurturing personal dreams, and supporting each other's growth. Their discussion emphasizes the significance of friendship, trust, and the ability to mirror masculinity in fostering a strong, enduring connection. Join them for an enriching dialogue about gratitude, compassion, and the deep commitment that underpins a loving partnership.

In this episode of 'Finding the Guardian of Your Soul,' host Lisa Shield delves into the important topic of breaking down emotional walls in relationships. Lisa shares her personal journey and the transformative experience of opening up to her husband, Benjamin, and how this vulnerability brought healing and deep connection to their relationship.

In today's episode of 'Finding the Guardian of Your Soul,' Lisa Shield explores the intricate balance between commitment and freedom that challenges many modern relationships. Decoding the behaviors of men who might seem to avoid commitment, Lisa clarifies that not all men who appear avoidant are averse to intimacy. With personal anecdotes and two decades of expertise, she delves into the diverse motivations that steer men away from long-term attachments—be it the pursuit of a career, valuing their freedom, or complex family dynamics rooted in their childhood.

In today's episode of 'Finding the Guardian of Your Soul,' Lisa dives into the challenges of surrendering to the dating process and being open to growth and learning. She talks about the importance of self-improvement and personal accountability in dating and learning to embody the qualities you seek in a partner.

On today's episode of 'Finding the Guardian of Your Soul,' Lisa delves into the exceptional insights from her live five-day master class, "Land a Man on Your Level." Lisa, renowned for her expertise and the celebrated Emotionally Naked Dating course, joins forces with her partner Benjamin to craft online dating profiles that resonate deeply with clients, as evidenced by glowing testimonials and successful love matches.

In this heartfelt episode of 'Finding the Guardian of Your Soul,' join us as former client, Elaine, shares her poignant and inspiring quest for love after losing her husband. Elaine talks openly about how Lisa’s course, Emotionally Naked Dating, was the catalyst for change in her dating life during a difficult stage. Lisa and Elaine’s candid conversation lays bare the challenges and revelations of her journey as a widow grappling with her return to the dating scene. She shares the ways in which END rekindled her confidence and enabled her to navigate the complex world of modern dating with grace and determination. Elaine shares the beautiful story of how she met her incredible partner online. He matched everything she was looking for (and more), and best of all she felt ready to be with him after the incredible work she had done on herself. Elaine's story is not just about finding love after loss, it's a celebration of rediscovering herself in pursuit of connection and the belief in the possibility of a soulmate at any stage in life. Her story is inspirational, relatable, and so full of hope. This episode is certain to touch your heart and make you think. Tune in to witness a true reflection on loneliness, growth, and the brave leap into the arms of fate.

In this captivating episode of 'Finding the Guardian of Your Soul,' Lisa and Benjamin unravel the complex web of commitment phobia in men. The conversation delves deep into the heart of why so many men run when they find a relationship that has the potential to be real and enduring. From the fear of sacrificing independence to the daunting quest for perfection, they dissect the five core reasons that keep men teetering on the edge of commitment. Lisa and Benjamin share intimate anecdotes highlighting how emotional vulnerability and the need for space have been recurring themes in their relationships over the years. They discuss ways that they were resistant to and struggled with these concepts and their journey to a healthy, loving relationship. Explore how they've triumphed over previous relationship traumas and the delicate dance of emotional availability, boundaries, and unconditional love. Join us as they share a dual perspective on the landscape of modern masculinity, forge a path through the misconceptions, and shed light on how men and women can embrace commitment without losing themselves. This is an episode you don't want to miss.

Today on 'Finding the Guardian of Your Soul,' I bring you the remarkable love tale of Elena and Heath. Elena, an Oracle pro and a mother, revolutionized her approach to romance after completing the transformative 12-week Emotionally Naked Course. This experience catalyzed her life, eventually leading her to Heath, her kindred spirit and life partner. Heath, who brings his experiences from his military career, has embraced life with Elena and her children, adding a new dimension to their family. Their journey is a testament to the power of continuous growth and the role of guidance and support in a relationship. Tune in as they share insights from Elena's transformative course, their adventures in the dating world, and the thoughtful choices that brought them together, forming a relationship grounded in mutual understanding, shared beliefs, and a commitment to personal development. Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield | YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call With Lisa Email the podcast at: podcast@lisashield.com

Welcome to another insightful episode of Finding the Guardian of Your Soul, a podcast where we delve deep into the intricacies of dating and relationships to help you understand the dynamics that enhance and sabotage romantic connections. In today's episode, Lisa and Benjamin look at control and how it can push a man away. We discuss the signs that a woman may exert too much influence in a relationship, from micromanaging what a man wears to undermining his independence. We'll discuss why men search for a partner who makes their lives bigger, how your past traumas can turn into a desire to control men, and why it is so important to understand how controlling behaviors push good men away. The conversation doesn't end there. Lisa sheds light on the damaging impact these dynamics have on the emotional well-being of men and how women can recognize the fine line between care and control. This is one episode you won't want to miss. Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield | YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call With Lisa Email the podcast at: podcast@lisashield.com

Welcome back to "Finding the Guardian of Your Soul," the podcast where we unlock the secrets of the heart and discover true love in our lives. I'm your host, Lisa Shield, and in today’s episode, we're going to tackle the challenging topic of being single during a time when it feels like the whole world is paired up. Join me as I share not only my personal journey of self-discovery and love post-divorce but also practical advice on how to navigate the festive season with an open heart. We'll delve into the art of socializing, the unexpected benefits of online dating during the winter festivities, and how to approach potential partners with confidence and emotional intelligence. With a sprinkle of anecdotes and tried-and-tested strategies, we will explore how to make the most of holiday parties, foster connections, and why speaking to strangers might just lead to meeting someone special. From introducing yourself boldly to engaging in playful, connected conversations, I'll guide you on embracing every opportunity the holiday season offers. Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield | YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call With Lisa Email the podcast at: podcast@lisashield.com

In this episode of "Finding the Guardian of Your Soul," Lisa reflects on her personal journey of finding love after a difficult relationship with her father. She shares her struggles and the impact her father had on her romantic relationships and how she was able to overcome these challenges to ultimately find love and healing. Through her candid and introspective storytelling, Lisa encourages listeners to recognize the power they have to heal their past wounds and pursue a loving, fulfilling relationship. Tune in as Lisa delves into her personal experiences and offers insights on how to move past the pain of the past to find the guardian of your soul. Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield | YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call With Lisa Email the podcast at: podcast@lisashield.com

Welcome back to "Finding the Guardian of Your Soul." Today, we delve into a conversation about the evolution of love and commitment. This episode features a candid discussion with previous client Caroline, who met her partner Matt while navigating the complexities of modern dating. In spite of the sometimes superficial and chaotic nature of the apps, together they uncovered a deeper, more intentional connection. Their story is a testament to the power of vulnerability and shared values, beginning with a serendipitous match on Tinder and evolving into thoughtful considerations of a future together. Together, they illustrate that the pursuit of love isn't about fleeting moments but about building a foundation for lasting partnership. In this episode, we ponder the meaning of finding someone with whom our souls can truly connect. If you, too, are seeking to navigate the waters of love with clarity and purpose, listen as Caroline and Matt generously share their insights into the deliberate choices that lead to true companionship and joy. Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield | YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call With Lisa Email the podcast at: podcast@lisashield.com

In this enlightening episode of "Finding the Guardian of Your Soul," Lisa Shield takes us on a soulful journey toward deep connection and receptivity. Today's discussion is a compelling dive into the art of becoming more receptive and unlocking the best in men. In our modern world, corporate businesswomen often have high expectations and a stringent checklist for their ideal partner, driven by past relationships and preconceived notions. Lisa challenges this narrative by sharing her own powerful story of receptivity with her husband. Lisa recounts how she was able to open her heart despite initial apprehensions, building an incredible bond that defied her own standards. Her story delves into the concerns many women face: guarding their hearts, lacking patience, or fearing vulnerability – all obstacles that hinder the path to genuine connection. As a guide to women, Lisa emphasizes the pressing need to be emotionally available and thoughtful communicators. She discusses the unique emotional landscapes of men, shaped by hardships and stereotypes, and how women can approach them with a nurturing and understanding touch. Expect to uncover transformative insights on self-reflection, mature responses to unworthy partners, and the power of clear, compassionate requests. This episode is not just a conversation; it's an invitation to dismantle your barriers and be open to the wonders of dating, relationships, and the emotional expanses within. Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield | YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call With Lisa Email the podcast at: podcast@lisashield.com

Welcome back to another episode of Finding the Guardian of Your Soul®. I'm your host, Lisa Shield. In today's episode, I dive into the intersection of romance and finance, exploring what to look for in a finally responsible partner. I share insights on how successful couples have navigated their financial relationships. Finally, I discuss the importance of trust, personal growth, and finding a true connection based on spiritually grounded principles. Stay tuned for a thought-provoking conversation that will inspire you on your own journey to finding a soulful and responsible partner. Let's dive in! Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield | YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call With Lisa Email the podcast at: podcast@lisashield.com

Welcome back to "Finding the Guardian of Your Soul®," the podcast that helps you navigate the complexities of dating and relationships. In today's episode, we have a special guest joining us, Jessica! Jessica shares her incredible journey from having a child on her own to working with us and meeting Thom, the Guardian of Her Soul and now ‘father’ of her beautiful daughter. This year, Jessica and Thom were married by Lisa at her home in Santa Fe, NM. Jessica’s story goes against the odds, and it will inspire and empower you. So sit back, relax, and get ready to dive into Jessica's incredible journey on this episode of "Finding the Guardian of Your Soul®"! Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield | YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call With Lisa Email the podcast at: podcast@lisashield.com

Welcome to a brand new episode of Finding the Guardian of Your Soul®, where we dive deep into the complexities of love and relationships. Lisa Shield tackles a topic of the common mistakes many women in their 30s make when looking for love. Lisa shares her personal journey of prioritizing her career over her dating life and the consequences she faced. She delves into the five key mistakes she made and offers valuable insights that apply to anyone who is in her 30s and searching for love. If you're feeling the pressure of time ticking away and the anxiety of settling for less, this episode is a must-listen. Join us as we explore the importance of facing the facts, avoiding rushed decisions, and doing the necessary personal growth work to break free from past mistakes. Don't miss out on this enlightening conversation that could save you years of heartache. Stay tuned for an episode that's packed with wisdom and guidance on finding love in your 30s. Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield | YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call With Lisa Email the podcast at: podcast@lisashield.com

Have you ever found yourself constantly chasing an ideal of perfection in your relationships? Perhaps you felt the need to put on a facade or act a certain way to attract a partner. But what happens when the chase is over? When the real you is revealed, and it's not what your partner was expecting? Join me as we unravel the layers of perfectionism and control that can harm our relationships. We'll discuss the importance of emotional intelligence, recognizing our own triggers, and embracing the spiritual aspects of love. I'll be sharing personal stories, lessons learned, and insights gained from my own journey and working with countless clients. Together, we'll explore the pitfalls of perfectionism and discover how letting go of the need to be perfect can actually lead us to deeper and more fulfilling connections. So sit back, relax, and get ready to dive into the paradox of perfection. Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield | YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call With Lisa Email the podcast at: podcast@lisashield.com

Welcome back to another thrilling episode of Finding the Guardian of Your Soul! I'm your host, Lisa Shield, and today we have a very special guest joining us. Get ready to be captivated by the stunning talent and empowering journey of burlesque dancer, Zia Sandía! In today's episode, Zia takes us on a remarkable ride through her transformation, from ballet folclórico to the captivating world of burlesque. We'll explore her struggles with embracing sensuality, femininity, and self-love, and how burlesque became the sanctuary she had been searching for. Leaving behind the certainties of religion and embracing her artistic nature wasn't easy, but Zia discovered the power of rejecting the need for approval and conditional love. Alongside Zia, we delve into the societal expectations that put pressure on women to prove their worth and the influence of patriarchal figures. We'll explore Zia's personal definition of success and why she believes authenticity and self-acceptance are far more important than external markers. Finally, Zia shares her experiences as a performer and the challenges of evoking sensuality on a grand scale. We'll discuss the stigma surrounding stripping and burlesque, as well as the strength and determination of those who work in the industry. So get ready for an episode filled with empowerment, self-discovery, and the power of embracing your true self. Don't miss out on this exclusive conversation with the incredible Zia Sandía! Let's dive in and find the guardian of our souls together. Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield | YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call With Lisa Email the podcast at: podcast@lisashield.com

Welcome to another episode of Finding the Guardian of Your Soul® with your host, Lisa Shield. Today, we are diving into a hot topic: "Do Men Really LOVE to Chase Women?" Lisa, a relationship coach who specializes in teaching clients how to take the "feminine lead" in dating, is here to debunk some dating myths and provide valuable insights. In this episode, we'll learn about the dangers of game playing, the importance of genuine connection, and the exploration of mutual interest. Join Lisa as she empowers women to embrace their authenticity, communicate effectively, and ultimately find their soulmates. Get ready to challenge common misconceptions and gain a deeper understanding of relationships on Finding the Guardian of Your Soul®. Let's dive in! Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield | YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call With Lisa Email the podcast at: podcast@lisashield.com

Today, Lisa dives into a topic that many of you have been requesting: the blind spots that could be keeping you single. In this episode, we'll explore the five common obstacles that may be preventing you from finding love and forming a deep connection with a partner. From fear of vulnerability to unrealistically high expectations, we'll uncover the patterns and behaviors that can unknowingly push potential suitors away. So, grab your headphones and get ready to discover the blind spots that may be holding you back from finding true love. Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield | YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call With Lisa Email the podcast at: podcast@lisashield.com

Welcome back to another episode of "Finding the Guardian of Your Soul®". I'm your host, Lisa Shield, and today we have a very special guest joining us. We are thrilled to have the distinguished family law expert, Aaron Thomas, on the show. Aaron is a three-time recipient of Atlanta's Best Divorce Attorney Award and the founder of Aaron Thomas Law, one of Georgia's fastest-growing family law firms. With a Harvard Law School background, Aaron has represented high-profile clients ranging from NBA legends to Grammy winners. In today's episode, we dive deep into the world of prenuptial agreements and unravel their significance in relationships. Aaron shares his expertise on the topic, emphasizing the importance of transparency when it comes to finances in a relationship. He enlightens us on the intricacies of prenups, from debunking common myths and misconceptions to navigating the legal requirements for their enforceability. Aaron provides insights into how couples can approach the conversation around prenups in a counterintuitive way, paving the way for happier and more equitable marriages. We also explore the various aspects of financial planning within a relationship, discussing joint and separate accounts, retirement savings, and the division of assets before and after marriage. Aaron shares his personal experiences and offers valuable advice on setting boundaries, having regular financial checkpoints, and aligning intentions for a healthier financial future. Whether you're single and curious about prenups, engaged and contemplating one, or married and looking for strategies to improve your financial communication, this episode is packed with valuable insights and practical tips. Join us as we embark on this journey with Aaron Thomas to unlock the secrets of finding the guardian of your soul. Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield | YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call With Lisa Email the podcast at: podcast@lisashield.com

Welcome back to another episode of Finding the Guardian of Your Soul®! Today, we are diving into the world of relationships, exploring the mysterious dynamics between men and women. Join me and Benjamin, as we unravel the gender-related complexities of dating. In this episode, Benjamin shares anecdotes from his 21-year relationship, reflecting on the advice he once received from a trusted attorney friend. As he delves into the fears of commitment that both men and women experience, he sheds light on the underlying factors that contribute to these hesitations. We explore the delicate balance of personal growth within a relationship and the challenges of expectations, societal pressure, and historical baggage. With a mix of personal experiences and thought-provoking insights, we dig deep into the intricacies of commitment, unraveling the reasons behind fears and hesitations. So, grab your favorite beverage, settle in, and get ready for an eye-opening, heartfelt conversation. It's time to unlock the secrets of love, trust, and commitment on this episode of Finding the Guardian of Your Soul®. Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield | YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call With Lisa Email the podcast at: podcast@lisashield.com

Welcome back to "Finding the Guardian of Your Soul ®," the podcast that delves deep into the realms of love, relationships, and personal growth. In today's episode titled "GITRMM: Embracing the Sensual: Femininity and the Power of Sensual Expression," your hosts, Benjamin Shield and Lisa Shield, invite you to explore the transformative power of embracing your senses and the profound impact it can have on your romantic journey. Benjamin, a seasoned body worker with over 40 years of experience, takes us on a captivating journey as they share their personal discovery of the sensual realm. Drawn to body work after experiencing its remarkable effects firsthand, they bring an authentic perspective that will leave you intrigued and inspired. But that's not all – stick around until the end, because there's an exclusive opportunity waiting for you. By visiting lisashield.com and clicking a button, you can book a call with our team to learn more about finding the guardian of your soul. And don't forget to check out our previous episodes, "Finding the Guardian of Your Soul" and "Getting Inside the Right Male Mind," available on various platforms. Plus, we encourage you to send in your requests for future podcast topics to podcast@lisashield.com – your input matters to us. We value your support, so be sure to rate, like, and provide feedback on the podcast. And most importantly, spread the word! Share the excitement with your friends, family, and colleagues – together, we can create a community dedicated to unlocking the secrets of love and self-discovery. Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield | YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call With Lisa Email the podcast at: podcast@lisashield.com

Welcome back to "Finding the Guardian of Your Soul®," the podcast where we dive deep into the intricacies of relationships. In today's episode, titled "Lost in Translation: How Men and Women Hear Dating Terms Differently," your host Lisa Shield takes a closer look at the misunderstandings that can arise when it comes to communication in relationships. We'll start by exploring the request for space that men often make and how women may misinterpret it as a sign of trouble. Lisa shares insights on why men sometimes need time alone and how it doesn't necessarily mean they are pulling away from the relationship. On the other hand, we'll uncover why women often use phrases like "we need to talk" and how it can be misinterpreted by men, leading to feelings of anxiety and avoidance. Lisa also shares a heartwarming story about a client who is navigating the complexities of taking the next step in their relationship. The couple is in love and serious, but there is confusion about what it means to live together. We'll explore how both men and women have different expectations and concerns when it comes to moving in together and making a commitment. Throughout the episode, Lisa offers practical advice on how to bridge the gap in understanding between men and women. She emphasizes the importance of open communication, active listening, and asking specific questions to clarify expectations and intentions. We'll also delve into the concept of taking things slow and how it can mean different things to different people. So, grab your headphones and get ready for an enlightening conversation on the nuances of communication in relationships. Stay tuned for "Lost in Translation: How Men and Women Hear Dating Terms Differently," right here on "Finding the Guardian of Your Soul®." Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield | YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call With Lisa Email the podcast at: podcast@lisashield.com

Welcome back to "Finding the Guardian of Your Soul®"! I'm your host, Lisa Shield, and in today's episode, we have the honor of welcoming a very special guest, Dr. Larry Fan. Dr. Fan is an acclaimed, Harvard-educated plastic surgeon and the founder of 77 Plastic Surgery in San Francisco. With his never-overdone aesthetic, he has positively impacted over 10,000 lives and has been recognized as one of America's top plastic surgeons. But Dr. Larry Fan's journey to becoming a pioneer in the field of medical beauty goes beyond his impressive credentials. He experienced firsthand the transformative power of reconstructive surgery after a basketball accident that left him with a deformity. This experience sparked his passion for enhancing others' confidence and led him to further hone his skills through advanced training in Shanghai and Pittsburgh. Join us as we delve into an insightful discussion with Dr. Fan about the right time to consider cosmetic procedures. Is there an ideal age for a facelift, or is it more a matter of personal concern? We'll also explore the realities of the recovery process and potential side effects, as well as the importance of setting realistic expectations. But that's not all—Dr. Fan takes us on a deeper journey, emphasizing the need to address both inner and outer beauty. We'll discover how he helps his patients achieve holistic well-being, from optimal physiology and weight management to mindset and personal growth. So sit back, relax, and get ready for an inspiring conversation with Dr. Larry Fan on "Finding the Guardian of Your Soul®"! Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield | YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call With Lisa Email the podcast at: podcast@lisashield.com

Welcome back to "Finding the Guardian of Your Soul®" with your host Lisa Shield. In today's episode, we dive deep into the intricacies of femininity and masculinity in relationships. We'll be exploring how women can bring out a man's masculinity, and in turn, express their own femininity. We'll debunk the myth that simply dressing up and waiting for the "right guy" is enough. We'll uncover the truth behind men who appear to know how to make women feel feminine, revealing their avoidant, seductive, or romantic nature. Our host, Lisa, will share her personal journey of longing for a deeper connection in relationships but realizing that her walls prevented her from finding the man she desired. Through self-reflection and understanding, she discovered the importance of vulnerability and opened herself up to exploring what it truly means to be a woman. So, if you're ready to delve into the depths of femininity, masculinity, and the symbiotic dance between the two, join us on this transformative episode of "Finding the Guardian of Your Soul®." Let's discover the intriguing secrets of bringing out the best in ourselves and in our partners, and walk the path towards authentic and fulfilling relationships. Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield | YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call With Lisa Email the podcast at: podcast@lisashield.com

Welcome back to another exciting episode of "Finding the Guardian of Your Soul®." Today, we dive into the fascinating world of online dating and how artificial intelligence is revolutionizing the dating game. We'll explore the cutting-edge technologies that aim to make online dating safer, but also the potential pitfalls and dangers that come with them. Get ready to discover the future of online dating and how AI is both transforming the way we find love and challenging our perceptions of authenticity. Join us as we explore the impact of AI on dating profiles, the rise of virtual dating assistants, and the concerns surrounding deep fakes and AI-generated content. This is an episode you won't want to miss – stay tuned as we uncover the exciting and thought-provoking developments in the world of online dating. Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield | YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call With Lisa Email the podcast at: podcast@lisashield.com

In this episode of "Finding the Guardian of Your Soul®," our host Lisa Shield welcomes special guest Lisa Y. to share her inspiring journey of finding love and investing in herself. She shares her experience of being a divorced mom and the turning point that led her to prioritize her own happiness. Through the transformative course, she learned valuable lessons about relationships and personal growth. Join us as she discusses her newfound perspective on finding a partner, the importance of investing in herself, and the exciting connection she has with someone special named Steve. Get ready to be inspired and empowered as we dive into the world of self-discovery and love in this episode of "Finding the Guardian of Your Soul®." Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield | YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call With Lisa Email the podcast at: podcast@lisashield.com

Welcome back to "Finding the Guardian of Your Soul®," the podcast that delves into the complexities of relationships and guides you towards finding a true, secure connection. In today's episode, titled "Spark First or Flame Later: Exploring the Chemistry Conundrum in Relationships," our host, Lisa Shield, takes a deep dive into the often misunderstood topic of chemistry in relationships. Join us as we unravel the mysteries behind immediate connections, attachment styles, and the importance of taking things slow. Get ready to reevaluate your approach to love and learn how to build a strong, secure, and lasting relationship. Let's dive in! Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield | YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call With Lisa Email the podcast at: podcast@lisashield.com

On this episode of Finding the Guardian of Your Soul®, we delve into the age-old question: what is more important to a man, looks or personality? Our hosts Benjamin and Lisa Shield tackle this topic head-on, discussing traditional ideas about love, the concept of love languages, and Lisa’s personal experience as a fashion photographer working with models who are both beautiful and deeply insecure. They emphasize the importance of substance, compatibility, emotional availability, and kindness in a fulfilling relationship, going beyond superficial appearances. Tune in to discover their insights and lessons learned from their own journey together. Plus, they share details about their transformative twelve-week program that helps women find Guardian of Their Soul relationships. Don't miss out on this thought-provoking episode of Finding the Guardian of Your Soul®. Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield | YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call With Lisa Email the podcast at: podcast@lisashield.com

Welcome back to another episode of Finding the Guardian of Your Soul®! In today's episode, we dive deep into a topic that is often overlooked but so crucial for healthy relationships: empowering women to ask for what they want. We believe that true partnership begins with open communication and the ability to express one's needs and desires. We'll explore the significance of women speaking their truth, the importance of clear communication, and understanding the basic human needs fulfilled in a relationship. Lisa and Benjamin share personal experiences and insights, shedding light on the power of asking for what you want and need in order to create a fulfilling and loving partnership. We also discuss effective communication strategies, debunking some misconceptions, and navigating difficult conversations with grace and compassion. Get ready to empower yourself and learn valuable tools to strengthen your relationships. Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield | YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call With Lisa Email the podcast at: podcast@lisashield.com

Welcome back to Finding the Guardian of Your Soul®, the podcast where we explore all things related to love, relationships, and finding the perfect partner for your soul. In today's episode, we dive deep into the world of online dating and uncover 10 ways in which AI technology can revolutionize your search for love. From enhancing safety measures to optimizing your profile and even suggesting personalized matches, AI is changing the game when it comes to online dating. Join us as we explore the potential of AI in online dating and navigate the exciting possibilities it offers for finding your ideal match. So sit back, relax, and prepare to discover the remarkable ways in which AI can help you find love online. Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield | YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call With Lisa Email the podcast at: podcast@lisashield.com

Can you be emotionally naked without compromising your boundaries? Join Lisa and Benjamin as they explore the art of fearlessly authentic communication. They first discuss what it truly means to be fearlessly authentic, and how the foundation is all about having boundaries. They talk about the gradual process of being "emotionally naked" and the importance of maintaining healthy boundaries along the way. Through personal examples, Lisa and Benjamin highlight the power of effective communication and the impact of words and their delivery. Tune in to hear firsthand how fearless authenticity requires a balance between vulnerability and responsibility, and how once you really master this, your relationship can blossom and deepen to a whole new level. Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield | YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call With Lisa Email the podcast at: podcast@lisashield.com

Would a man rather feel alone and unloved or respected? The answer may surprise you. Also, are you creating a safe, loving, and respectful space for a man to open up to you? This week, Lisa challenges the notions that men are either impervious to sensitivity or big sensitive babies and how we can foster stronger relationships by understanding and meeting their needs. She explores the profound connection between respect and love for men. Learn how to identify signs of disrespect and create an environment encouraging men to share their hearts. From exuding feminine energy to communicating respectfully, Lisa gives actionable strategies to help you forge deeper connections with extraordinary men.

Can love survive without friendship? In today's episode, Lisa discusses the dangers of becoming lovers before friends. She shares her journey, highlighting the profound significance of cultivating genuine friendships with men. She examines the consequences of rushing into physical intimacy without a solid foundation and emphasizes the importance of prioritizing emotional connection over immediate physical gratification. Lisa also talks about the importance of slowing down to recognize the absence of an emotional bond and make informed decisions. At the end of the episode, she covers how her 12-week, Emotionally Naked Dating course can help you embark on your journey toward building lasting and intimate relationships.

Join Lisa and Benjamin in this lively and engaging episode as they dive into the topic of green flags that men look for in women. Discover the qualities that make a man's interest pique and differentiate a woman from the rest. Contrary to common misconceptions, men are seeking an emotional connection, commitment, and long-term relationships, just like women. Don't miss this fun and enlightening discussion on what men truly desire in a potential partner from the inside out,, and what truly captures a man's heart and keeps him intrigued in a relationship.

This week, Lisa welcomes head coach Rebecca to discuss a topic they often see come up for the women they work with - double standards in the dating world. They explore how it can be challenging for both men and women to truly understand each other. However, by examining the struggles men face in dating, you can have more compassion and open yourself up to stronger connections with your dates. Throughout the episode, they discuss double standards in breakups, appearance, expectations, and the issue of who pays for what. They also touch on the different reactions men and women have to setting boundaries and the confusion men feel about making the first move. Lisa and Rebecca share their personal and professional examples to highlight some of these double standards. It's a fun one, so tune in!

After receiving Meranda's beautiful and heartfelt note, Lisa was inspired to invite her to share her remarkable success story. Meranda's journey began when she completed the Emotionally Naked Dating program in 2021 and continued her coaching, bravely peeling back the layers holding her back. At 63, she yearned for a true partnership and wanted her son to witness her happiness with a loving companion. During her conversation with Lisa, Meranda candidly discusses her disappointing experiences with other dating sites and highlights the pivotal moment during her discovery call with Lisa that motivated her to take the leap. She emphasizes the transformative power of capturing the right photos and crafting compelling bios that genuinely reflect who you are and your desired relationship. Meranda joyfully shares her enchanting story of meeting Eric, their unforgettable first date, and the organic progression that eventually led them to choose to live together. Her inspiring journey is a testament to the rewards of patience, overcoming hesitations, and making a worthy investment in oneself.

In dating, does it feel like you're keeping one foot in and one foot out, fearing rejection and the possibility of messing things up? Or, what if things go too well, and that means that the other shoe should drop and everything will fall apart soon, right? Well, fear no more! In this episode, Lisa dives into these challenges and gives the two most common ways women tend to self-sabotage in relationships and what is typically at the core of these patterns. Through Lisa's program, you'll gain clarity on recognizing the qualities you should seek in a partner while nurturing self-love and compassion. Additionally, she'll provide practical tips on presenting your best self on dating apps and crafting an appealing profile. Join the women who have undergone Lisa and Benjamin's transformative 12-week Emotionally Naked Dating Course and discovered the importance of understanding men and creating space in their lives and hearts for authentic connections.

Join Lisa and Benjamin in this powerful episode as they provide a jumping-off point with a curated list of 10 questions designed to gauge a man's emotional availability and the compatibility of his core values and goals with yours. They emphasize the importance of steering clear from a rigid checklist approach and instead infusing your personal touch, making the questions more conversational and engaging. Discover why it's crucial to give men the time they need to reflect on deeper inquiries and learn how to discern the authenticity of their answers to determine if they are truly processing or deflecting, as well as understanding their perspectives on past relationships. In a fascinating insight, Benjamin shares why delving into a film that deeply affected a man can offer unique glimpses into his emotional world. Take advantage of this enlightening discussion on emotional availability and connection with Lisa and Benjamin. Tune in now!

Navigating situations where income disparities exist can be challenging, and finding the right balance is crucial. Lisa shares valuable strategies for fostering open and respectful conversations with men about this topic, emphasizing the importance of setting clear expectations from the start. Drawing from her expertise, she sheds light on the common mistakes women make when dating someone with a different income level and offers insights on cultivating harmony in relationships where money matters. Should you let him take the lead in paying, or should you cover all the expenses if you can afford it? Lisa explores these dilemmas and provides practical advice on finding the right balance that works for both partners.

Many of us get into trouble because we're going after the guys who treat us poorly, the love bombers, the narcissists, and the guys that come on too fast and too strong. But what about the nice guys or those with what Lisa and Benjamin call "nice guy syndrome?" This week, they explore how being nice doesn't automatically make someone a suitable partner, and they unravel the differences between genuine compassion and kindness and a man that gives to go get. Benjamin talks about how resentment can arise from the nice guys' inability to establish boundaries in relationships, and how that can make women feel even more confused.

In this episode, Lisa tackles a listener question regarding the paradox of criticism in relationships of why some men can be critical yet choose to stay. One reason is that criticism can be a form of manipulation or control, allowing the person to have power over their partner. However, it's also possible that the person is offering constructive feedback to improve the relationship. Lisa highlights the importance of effective communication in relationships and provides tips on how to talk to men in a way that promotes a safe and open dialogue. She also highlights the significance of positive feedback and how it can contribute to a healthy relationship, and she emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and not tolerating disrespectful behavior from men. She also shares some examples of how she and Benjamin help each other positively, leading with kindness and thoughtfulness. Tune in to learn how to navigate the complexities of criticism in relationships and create a more fulfilling and positive dynamic.

In this episode, Lisa celebrates the success story of her client, Patricia, and her wonderful husband, Lindon. Patricia shares her emotional journey before joining Lisa's 12-week Emotionally Naked Dating program and the Sisterhood of Self-Actualized Women. She explains how she knew Lisa was the right coach for her and how, after leaving a 30+-year marriage, Lisa's course saved her years of dating the wrong guy, allowing her to be bold and brave and open her heart without judgment. Patricia talks about her breakthroughs during the program and how it helped her to realize that she deserved the best and that someone incredible was waiting for her. She shares how she met Lindon when they were both scheduled to speak at a local church and how the Final Five roadmap helped her identify men who were willing to do the work and say goodbye to those who weren't right. Despite their 10-year age difference, Lisa's course helped Patricia clarify what to look for in a partner, and she quickly knew that Lindon was the right person. Patricia talks about how the course allowed her to see that love is not just about age but from the inside, radiating out. Lindon expresses his gratitude towards Patricia and Lisa for shaping his inner world, and they both explain how they are now the Guardians of Each Other's Souls.

We've all been there: you meet someone who checks all the boxes and have a great first date, only to never hear from them again. This week, Lisa is here to shed some light on why the 1% of men you're into may not reciprocate your interest. Through her coaching work, Lisa has helped many successful and knowledgeable women who are confident in their careers but struggle with relationships. In this episode, she discusses the importance of attracting and engaging the right kind of men and even getting practical feedback from that 1% to help move you forward for the next great guy that comes along. Lisa reminds us that sometimes, the issue may not lie with the men. She shares a story of a woman who realized she was the common denominator in her dating struggles. Through this anecdote, she reminds us that personal growth and self-awareness are critical components of the dating journey. So if you're ready to learn how to use dating as a path to enlightenment and connect with that beautiful 1 % of men, tune in to this week's episode.

This week, Lisa welcomes her beautiful client, Stella, to talk about her experience in both the 12-week Emotionally Naked Dating course and the SSW, Sisterhood of Self-Actualized Women, groups. Stella shares about finding Lisa after her divorce when she was losing hope that finding love and even just dating with confidence could ever be a reality. Stella says why she decided to invest in working with Lisa, and how it has been a game-changer at every level. Most importantly, Stella credits Lisa’s courses with increasing confidence, improving her mindset, and living her life with more ease. Stella is now connecting with men on a deeper level than ever before, and she is learning to let go of the outcome and enjoy the ride.

You’ve got a fabulous job, a great group of friends, and money in the bank…so why are you having a hard time meeting a man and falling in love? This week, Lisa first talks about the extraordinary ways modern women have grown in society, and why that also can lead to an imbalance in the dating world. She emphasizes the importance of creating a safe emotional space for men to open up and feel like they are respected and really heard. Lisa talks about the common missteps women make, such as leading with credentials, and how we can step into our full femininity to attract a man and build a partnership together. When you create a safe space for the right man, you can both get emotionally naked together.

Lisa welcomes William Morales, a 60-year-old bachelor, and host of the People On Dating Podcast. William explains how some women would label him as being avoidant or emotionally unavailable because he has never been married. He shares that, in his younger years, he was shy and didn’t feel comfortable with women. With the help of therapy, books, and other esources, William began to understand women and what they want. William shares his experiences with navigating dating multiple partners from a standpoint of honesty and open communication, how feeling respected is so important to a man, and how women can approach a relationship to create space for a man to be his full self. William and Lisa talk about how expanding your age range may open up new possibilities to finding the Guardian of Your Soul, and he gets excited about an upcoming life event - roller skating in Spain!

Our partners are a direct reflection of our self-love and self-esteem, so how do we make sure they are the right match for us? In this episode, Lisa discusses four ways to tell If he's the right guy for you by exploring the importance of sharing core values, noticing how he treats you and the outside world, and seeing if he's opening up his heart and life to you. In this episode, Lisa talks about the importance of being treated with respect, knowing how to ask what you want, and how the Emotionally Naked Program can help you learn to tune into your gut and make better decisions. She shares how she did the work on herself to accept a man like Benjamin as the Guardian of Her Soul and how you can too.

In this episode of Get Inside the Right Male Mind, Lisa and Benjamin discuss how men react when they sense that a woman is trying to seal the deal, highlighting that the phrase "always be closing" may be effective in sales but not in dating. Men can sense the energy when women are trying to rush a relationship, and men are turned off by this behavior. Lisa and Benjamin also touch on the idea that finding the perfect partner is more about co-creating a relationship rather than ticking off a checklist. Their Emotionally Naked Dating program encourages women to attract their ideal partner rather than promote themselves, and they discuss how inviting someone into your life is not about being passive but rather about learning to take the lead in a feminine way. They share examples of a few lovely couples that demonstrate what a Guardian of Your Soul Relationship looks like and just how beautiful it can be.

This week, Lisa explores a topic that she and operations manager Cassie frequently see with clients and in breakthrough sessions with clients. The gap between what women believe men are looking for in a partner and what men are actually seeking is quite significant and causes much confusion. Lisa talks about how women often project their own preferences and desires onto men such as leadership and career status, assuming that men value the same qualities as women, which is not always accurate. She goes on to discuss two of the most crucial traits that men seek in a partner, which are the qualities that genuinely lead a man to fall in love (hint: they aren’t money or success!). Lisa also addresses the necessary balance of feminine and masculine energy, and the common mistakes that women make which can cause a man to feel like his wings are being clipped. She then discusses how her program can help you learn to embrace the qualities men are really yearning for, and how to call in a guardian of your soul relationship that makes both your lives bigger and better.

You're having amazing conversations, spending many nights together, and the chemistry is off the charts. So, why isn't he integrating you into his life? This week, Lisa and Benjamin dive into this important topic that one of their clients raised during their recent Sisterhood of Self-Actualized Women (SSW) workshop - why men can be hesitant to be all in on a relationship with a beautiful, intelligent, and self-actualized woman. They discuss how a man's past can play a role and how a woman shows a man that she has space for him in her busy and full life. Lisa and Benjamin also share how they step in and help each other through the challenges of life and how love and support from the Guardian of Your Soul is a beautiful thing you deserve.

Curiosity may have killed the cat, but it won’t necessarily kill your dates (if you listen to this week’s episode). Lisa and Benjamin talk about how insatiable curiosity is an important key to connection and having a second or third date, making a man feel respected, and even coming across as more attractive. They give an example of what curiosity and pure interest sound like on a date and why you should still be curious about your date even if you don’t feel a romantic connection right away. Yes, even fly fishing can be interesting if you are interested and ask the right questions.

Lisa is joined by Natalie and Alex, who share their moving story of finding each other in Salt Lake City in time to start a family. Initially, Natalie was skeptical that she could find a man who shared her values and desires in her area. At the same time, Alex had doubts about meeting an age-appropriate woman interested in starting a family. After another breakup and in the depths of despair, Natalie stumbled across one of Lisa's Facebook ads. She booked a call to learn more, and by the end of that conversation, Natalie had gained so much insight into what she was doing wrong that she signed up for Lisa's 12-week Emotionally Naked Dating course. Natalie talks about how her work with Lisa and Benjamin helped her shift what to look for in a partner, and she met other incredible women who supported and encouraged her throughout the process. Right before completing the course, Natalie met Alex. Natalie shared that they had only gone on five dates when she nearly died during an operation for endometriosis. Alex, a true Guardian of Natalie's Soul, remained by her side during her long recovery. They are now happily engaged and, miraculously, looking forward to the birth of their baby girl!

Many women need to realize that, when it comes to looking for a partner, what they think they are looking for might show up differently than what they expect. Let's say you are looking for a spiritual man. If you have a fixed idea about what it looks like to be a spiritual person, if you think that means a man needs to meditate and go to self-help workshops, you might miss out on some incredible men who are deeply spiritual but express it in other ways. This week, Lisa talks about how having a "must have" list that is too specific can cause you to overlook some wonderful men and how her program can help you expand your idea of what to look for to attract the Guardian of Your Soul.

One of the pitfalls of dating is that we have a particular type in mind. We believe this idealized person will be our knight in shining armor, and once we meet him, we will live happily ever after in our own version of a Disney movie. The problem is that being too picky and specific about what you're looking for in a partner can prevent you from finding true love. This week, Lisa and Benjamin discuss the difference between being so picky that you eliminate some wonderful love matches and discerning enough to know what is essential to your happiness. They explain how a Guardian of Your Soul is a partner who sees all you are and helps you grow in unimaginable ways so you become more than you ever dreamed you could be.

If you are single and dateless this Valentine’s Day, you don’t have to hide from seeing other women get flowers, teddy bears, or chocolate deliveries at work. Lisa shares a powerful way to spend Valentine’s Day with the Guardian of Your Soul in your mind’s eye. She talks about how to send a message to him that will show the universe that you are ready to connect at a heart level in a fun and lighthearted way. The best part? You can even do this exercise as you prepare for a Galentine’s Day celebration.

Beautiful Vanessa seemed to have it all. She had a house by the beach, a cool art gallery job, and a million friends, but deep down, she knew something was missing. She wanted to find love, move beyond things just being "fine," and break the painful cycle of dating avoidant men. Vanessa longed to be seen for the amazing woman she was and to have a genuine partnership with a man who matched her values. This week, Vanessa talks about what she learned from participating in Lisa's 12-Week Emotionally Naked Dating Course (E.N.D.) and how it helped her learn to live authentically in every way. She shares how her entire life changed through Lisa's course. Vanessa said that her work in E.N.D. helped her find the courage to leave her job and move back to the East Coast to be near her family. Most of all, through the course, she became the woman she needed to be to stop attracting avoidant men. Vanessa is now in a loving relationship with a kind and devoted man she calls a "sweetheart."

Emotional vulnerability is crucial in building deep connections with another person, but how can you do that without feeling like you are oversharing, complaining, or using the other person as a dumping ground? This week, Lisa and Benjamin dive into what it looks like to be emotionally naked and share your emotions in a vulnerable way that builds a foundation of trust and friendship with a man. They give concrete examples of what it would sound like to be emotional vs. emotionally naked and practical tips for getting your mood and mindset in a space that will draw him to you and invite him to get emotionally naked as well.

Lisa welcomes successful client Janet, who recently completed the Emotionally Naked Dating program. Janet shares how she joined the course right after her 15-year relationship ended. Janet knew it was time for her to take she needed to take a deeper look at her love life. She had already done considerable work on herself, but the seeker inside said something was still missing. Luckily, she listened to that little voice and signed up for Lisa's course, which proved life-changing. Janet talks with Lisa about gaining a greater awareness of herself and curiosity in her fellow humans, learning to trust men for the first time, reconnecting with her partner, and her advice for anyone on the fence about committing to do Lisa's course.

Lisa shares a success story to kick off 2023, a former client also named Lisa who has a big heart, a successful career, and busy robust life. Lisa walks us through her journey of finding Lisa and Benjamin at a time when she felt lonely and was staring down the barrel of another birthday alone, a decade after her divorce. Lisa is a professional woman with children who didn’t know if love was in the cards. She decided to make the leap and invest in herself; the results were life-changing. She unpacks a few of her favorite “aha” moments from Benjamin and Lisa and what she learned about dating, slowing down, and, most importantly - her relationship with herself.

Lisa welcomes Operations Manager and Head Coach Cassie, who drops some of her extensive wisdom and expertise about nice men who turn out to be avoidant, and how we may be missing those waving red flags along the way. Cassie and Lisa talk about the reasons women tend to accept inconsistency when a man seems nice and interested, but how that can keep us holding on to false hope for months and even years. They discuss how finding the right coach can help you recognize these red flags earlier on and move forward to find the guardian of your soul.

Lisa and Benjamin take a deep dive on a topic that we all have to deal with once, twice, or even hundreds of times in our lives - rejection. Even just a small rejection can feel so big, especially when it comes to dating and putting ourselves out there to be loved and to love someone else. They first talk about how men are just as scared of rejection as women are, and what situations tend to make men feel the most rejected and insecure. They then discuss how their 12 week course can help teach women how to navigate their own boundaries and desires as a way that is compassionate yet firm with men, and creates a foundation of trust and respect for both parties.

This week’s topic about how to spot the signs of a porn addiction, and what to do if you suspect your partner is addicted to porn, comes from one of our listeners. Lisa dives in, first defining what an addict is, and how it’s much more than just an intense interest in something. She then details why a porn addiction can be so difficult for both men and their partners to deal with, and how seeking professional help is critical. She talks about her own experience in dealing with her own father’s addiction and gives insight into just how crippling it can be for the whole family. Finally, Lisa talks about the most common signs that a man is addicted to porn and some resources and organizations you can look into to make sure you are taking care of yourself.

Are you missing all the ways he’s showing he’s into you? This week, Lisa and Benjamin share a bit of their own love story so you can see some of the signs of what it looks like when a man really is courting you and pushing things forward. They discuss why we get confused and stuck, overthinking a man’s gestures, and how fireworks right away aren't exactly a promise for what’s to come in the future. At the end of the episode, they explain how their coaching can help you spot the men that are into you right away, and not waste your precious time on the ones that aren’t.

Even though a fear of commitment may be keeping you single, you aren’t as alone as you think. According to research, up to 42% of Americans are without an S.O. (significant other), and although a fear of committing is attributed to mostly men, women very often feel this way as well and end up pushing away good love without even knowing it. In this episode, Lisa talks about why women keep themselves single, the fears that are really behind a resistance to commit, and how working with the right coach can help you create new patterns that may lead you to the Guardian of Your Soul.

If your relationship is not progressing the way you want it to, one reason why could be that you’re “the back up girl”. Eeek! Yes. A man may only be giving about 10% of his capacity and treating you like an option, not the choice. Worse yet, did you know that by sticking around, you are confirming to him that you’re fine with it? But what does it mean to be someone’s “back up girl”, and how do you state what you need in a way that honors your gut instincts and leaves you with more confidence, no matter what he does next? This week, Lisa and Benjamin talk about what it looks like to be someone’s back up girl and how to recognize a relationship that is headed nowhere fast!

Can’t get over your ex? You are not alone. So many of us wonder if we will ever find love again, or at all. The thing is, the ONE thing we don’t have is time to waste, and the way you are “healing” may not even work. This week, Lisa explains why you may not need months to process or heal, and exposes the real reasons you’re too afraid to move on. So, if you’re ready to stop living in the past, this episode is for you!

Lisa tackles a listener suggestion this week about how being ambivalent towards finding love may be holding you back. She first defines what exactly ambivalence is, and how it can show up in all aspects of your life: money, health, and certainly finding a partner. She runs down the reasons why women tend to prioritize other things instead of stopping to look seriously at what they really want- to find the Guardian of Their Soul. Lastly, she gives some simple, practical steps to move out of your ambivalence and into opening your heart to great connections with wonderful men!

This week, we have a listener q from “Cosette”, whose family wants her to stop searching for the one thing she wants most: Love. Instead, they wish she would dedicate her time and energy to deepen her commitment to God, and her career. Have you ever felt sad, lonely, and stuck on someone else’s timetable? Lisa and Benjamin weigh in, and discuss how finding love is actually spirituality in action, and partnership can be the guiding light that helps you find what you’re looking for. They also encourage “Cosette” to have grace for her family, who are probably just looking to protect her, but this doesn’t mean she has to feel like she can’t have it all.

This week’s couple is an example of what happened when a wonderful, powerfully feminine, and sweet woman (Leanne) met and fell in love with a kind, thoughtful, strong man (Wei). They found each other at just the right time, held hands one time and haven’t let go since. Leanne shares what made her decide to become a client of Lisa and Benjamin’s, and how she had to find the strength to get emotionally naked with herself first. She and Wei both came from previous marriages and consciously worked on what they wanted from their next partner, along with giving themselves the space and time to heal and grow. It’s a beautiful episode and Wei and Leanne serve as beautiful inspiration to love and partnership.

We’ve all heard the saying that you only get one chance to make a first impression, and it certainly is the case for men when meeting a woman out for a first date. Men are very visual, and it may seem like he’s not noticing the details of how you look or what you wear, but he very much is. This week, Lisa and Benjamin talk about how to dress for a date, especially the first one, that shows your authentic personality but doesn’t come across as though you are insecure or trying too hard. They also talk about the difference between showing up in a casual and comfortable way, and not putting in enough effort. Are you overdressing or do you need to jazz it up a little? Listen in and find out.

Does the thought of going on a date or waiting for that guy to call back make your palms sweaty and heart beat a little faster- but like, not in a good way? You aren’t alone. Lisa jumps back in, fresh from her hiatus to talk about what anxiety actually is, and why it seems to rear its ugly head more intensely when we’re dating and the possibility of rejection comes into play. She discusses the difference between general anxiety and situational anxiety, how anxiety can strike even the most confident and successful women, why the brain creates anxiety, and the moment she knew she had to face her own fears head on to find the true love she craved.

Listeners are always asking us about where to find this awesome episode. Here it is on replay! Are you the type to sit staring at your phone, waiting for that text or call back? Or, maybe you avoid love altogether or run away when you feel things heating up? Either way, understanding your own attachment style and pattern is absolutely essential if you want to date! This week, Lisa explains attachment theory, by breaking down the three main styles: Secure, Anxious, and Avoidant. Which one are you?

We are thrilled to share with you another audience favorite, re-edited and waiting for you to share with your girlfriends, especially if they feel like this... Nothing seems to be changing and you’re actually getting pretty bored going on date after date, even though you’ve read all the dating books (twice!), and Googled every article on attracting the perfect partner! What gives? This week, Lisa talks about why you need to stop going through the motions with dating, get a plan, and stick with it. From your profile picture to the conversation on the first date, find out how putting out the right message will be sure to attract The Guardian of Your Soul!

Have you ever been on a date (or in a relationship) and wanted the man to open up to you, but felt as though he wouldn’t? This week we share an audience fav, re-edited and remastered for your listening pleasure! You'll hear Lisa and Benjamin sharing a few practical and easy techniques to get your man to get emotionally naked with you. Whether you are on a first date or years into a relationship, these simple suggestions will create a container for both you and a man to feel lighter, more connected, and joyful!

While Benjamin and Lisa are still on hiatus, we’ve got another listener favorite on RePlay this week. Maybe you missed it or maybe you need to a refresher course in how your over-strategizing is hurting your chances at love! Benjamin says it best with the quote “dating is a dance, not a sprint”. But how do we dance when it feels like no one is taking the lead, and you’re both dancing to a different song? This week, Lisa and Benjamin tackle one of the biggest mistakes they see their strong and very capable women clients make - Over strategizing about love and men so much that it actually makes men turn the other way. They talk about why “getting to the bottom of things” may work for business, but not for love, and how to bring more light and fun into all aspects of calling in the Guardian of Your Soul. Lisa talks about her own experience in over-strategizing and how she got over it just in time for Benjamin to waltz in!

Our brains are great storytellers, and they make up story after story about dating, men, and the type of love we think we want! However, you may be weeding out wonderful people because of the checklist in your head that a man must have- Financially stable. Educated. Spiritually attuned. While all these things are important, they are limiting you. This week, Lisa invites you to a new type of dating, shares her own experience in meeting Benjamin, and how that absolutely would not have happened if she hadn’t expanded her view of what love had to look like, first. The more you open your heart and become present to what is, life will surprise you and offer an even better version of what you want!

Cassie’s back with Lisa to dish about the latest pattern she’s noticed happening with the women moving through the 12-wk Emotionally Naked Dating course, and probably women everywhere! Two things keep cropping up-- 1. You may see a red flag with a guy you’re dating, but it’s hard to close that door because he’s just so dang nice! And… 2. Not all avoidant men are jerks! Sometimes avoidant men are so incredibly nice, it’s easy to lose track of all the time you’re wasting dating them! Let’s face it, as much as we may like him, that guy needs to do his own work and you need to move on! Cassie shines a light on how coaching can help you recognize an avoidant early on, and ask the right questions to see if he has what it takes to be the Guardian of Your Soul.

We are replaying one of our most talked about episodes! Are you feeling like it’s impossible to create a connection online? -Or maybe you just feel lost in a sea of swiping with no good dates to show for it. In this past episode, Lisa talks about how to get off the apps and into the real world to meet high quality and wonderful men. She offers listeners several ideas that are free, fun, and filled with available guys. Then, Lisa talks about why you also shouldn’t give up on dating apps, and how you can have an attention grabbing profile that will reel in the right guy for you! Please don’t forget to rate, review, download and subscribe to the podcast.

So many women want to find a man and settle down, but we rarely think about what it actually costs us to “settle”. This week, Lisa and Benjamin cover the different reasons why men may settle, and the ways that women may sacrifice their deepest wants and needs just to have a partner, for fear of the unknown. They talk about how coaching can help you learn not to settle and how to get out of a situation where you are settling, even if it’s been years (or decades).

You’re told to work hard and smart for your career and put forth effort into the things you want in life. So why aren’t you putting forth the same effort, and getting smart when it comes to finding love? After all, isn’t that what we really want in life? LOVE? Most of us walk around believing that love will just “find us” but that’s not how it works. Not if you want the real stuff. You know… that deeply fun, deeply passionate, connected, satisfying, healthy, surprising kind of love that you can only share with a true Guardian of Your Soul. So what are you waiting for? Benjamin and Lisa are offering you the roadmap you’ve been looking for!

To most men, over processing your relationship can feel like… well… a bit of a tar pit. Sticky, smelly, thick and sinking. When confronted with the “we need to talk” or “I need to process this” phrase, men can feel defensive, distracted, and shut down, and if you’re thinking “but whyyyyyyy?” That’s what Lisa and Benjamin get into this week. They’ll also share how you can bring up important issues without totally freaking him out, how we can better understand men’s tendency to feel shame when they feel they aren’t providing for us, and why women fear disconnection- which in turn often creates a cycle that provides further distance.

The #1 question we get here at the Dating Without Drama podcast is... What's Lisa's advice for women who are thinking about dating a man who's getting a divorce, is newly divorced, or recently widowed? So... we decided to freshen up and re-edit one of our most popular episodes, episode 17! Lisa gets into the nitty gritty about what you should be looking out for if you find yourself dating a recently divorced or widowed man. She explains why so many men rely on women to help them heal after a recent trauma and what you absolutely need to know so you don’t end up being their healing crutch or stepping stone on the way to their next relationship. Lisa also shares her expert coaching advice and fields some excellent questions from our listeners about if/when you should contact the man first, and how you can create a profile that speaks right to a man’s heart!

Okay, you’re on a date and the sparks are flying. Yes! This definitely feels different than the others, and even though it’s only the third date, you just know he’s the one! Hold up. This week, Lisa and Benjamin talk all about why rushing into a relationship is the last thing you want to do if you’re truly serious about finding your forever guy! It’s too easy to bypass the necessary steps along the way because you’re so hungry to love and be loved. So whether it’s with them or someone else, Benjamin and Lisa encourage anyone who seriously wants to figure this out, to hire a coach and get conscious. It is the single biggest gift you will give yourself. Time is precious, so don’t waste it by rushing into things!

Lisa kicks this week off by reading some critical feedback from one of our listeners. We’re actually not sure if they’re still listening, but nonetheless, Lisa takes this opportunity to recall how she wasn’t always so willing (or able) to receive criticism from others, how that actually kept her from being happy, and how it’s never too late to finally grow up. She talks depression, 12-step, divorce, family, and how she set herself free to be of service to others in their journey to find healthy, lasting, true love.

The Dating Without Drama podcast is celebrating our 100th episode, and we’re spilling some tea! For this special milestone, we thought it would be fun to have Cassie back on to dish about what it’s like to be dating… as a Dating Coach! She shares her most recent (like, last week- recent) dating adventures, and goes deep into the field to talk to a gorgeous man for his perspective on rejection and why men may not approach us. Thank you to all our amazing listeners for your continued support, and for making what we do so gosh darn rewarding. We truly couldn’t do this without you. Here’s to 100 more!

One of the most frequent questions that comes Lisa’s way is “what app is the best one for finding love?” With so many choices and places to swipe to seek out a mate, it can absolutely feel overwhelming. What if you aren’t on the right one, and how do you know which one IS the right one? Should you just sign up for all of them at once and be swiping away, day after day? This week, Lisa talks about the hottest dating apps and sites, digs into the pros and cons of each, and shares some excellent advice on how you can stay safer while using dating apps!

Do you know the difference between a rule and a boundary? It’s tricky. That’s why Lisa and Benjamin want to clear things up for you! We’ve all heard that you have to set rules for men and make them jump through hoops, but that will only lead to confusion and hurt feelings. So if you finally want to know how to stop setting unattainable dating rules, and instead, present boundaries in a healthy way that gives someone the option to respect it, and you the option to base your decision around that… then listen to this episode to find out how stating a boundary in a loving, meaningful way is more of a request than a demand. You’ve got this!

It’s easy to label men as emotionally unavailable. Too easy. But what does this really mean, and why are so many men completely unavailable to one woman, but show up ready and open to the next? This week, Lisa discusses why we need to stop labeling every man as emotionally unavailable because it actually gives our power away. Lisa shares how empowered women can look for ways to help create a safe space for him to truly be himself. She explores what true honesty looks like in a relationship, and some ways that you can help your man open up and get emotionally naked with you.

How do you navigate dating someone when your core values don’t align exactly? Lisa and Benjamin meet this hot topic head on, and discuss the delicate nature of getting clear about your core values, so you can be clear on whether the person you’re dating shares those same values. When two people have different core values a partnership can be challenging. With so many divisive issues and the recent news of Roe v. Wade being overturned, you may find yourself standing in murky waters. Lisa and Benjamin take this episode to explore how two people can learn to come together with differing issues, and when to know that it’s time to end things. Can two people actually be the Guardian of each other’s Soul with differing core values?

This week it’s all about boundary setting, as Lisa talks about what a boundary is, how to get in touch with your boundaries, and why they are so important in every stage of a relationship. She explores the premise of “ask instead of tell” when communicating your boundary with a man, and what to do when someone isn’t respecting the boundary you’ve set. Lisa also takes some listener questions on how best to cool off after an argument and what to do when you want a man to call you, but he just wants to text.

This week, Lisa welcomes success story Annette, a wise and wonderful woman who had done it all and tried everything to improve her outlook on love and relationships, but at the end of the day, was still deeply unhappy. She stumbled upon Lisa’s 12-week course and kept putting it off and putting it off until she had had enough. She just wanted to be happy. She finally decided to take the leap and invest in coaching with Lisa and Benjamin, and now wishes she would have done it sooner and would pay them double to know what she knows now. Annette talks about the transformation she went through in the 12 weeks, and how everyone in her life noticed the “new” glowy and self assured her- even her therapist!

Lisa welcomes former client Laurie and her partner, Jim, to share what it’s like to have an Emotionally Naked, loving, and supportive connection! As a successful therapist, Laurie was very self-aware and knew how to get what she desired professionally, but she really had to take a leap of faith after watching Lisa for a few months. What she found was the kind of relationship she didn’t even think was possible in a million years! Lisa talks with Laurie and Jim about the ways they support each other, how their relationship first started and what work they did individually that keeps this Guardian of Their Soul-type relationship flourishing today and every day. It’s a beautiful episode with wonderful people. Enjoy!

Life is precious, and time is our most valuable commodity. This week, Lisa and Benjamin are here to help you save your energy and heart by defining the two different types of exclusive relationships: monogamous vs. progressive dating. Benjamin walks us through the powerful yet seemingly subtle differences between the two, and which one you want to be in if you are seriously looking to get emotionally naked with the Guardian of Your Soul. He and Lisa give real-world examples of monogamy and the consequences that occur when one partner isn’t getting their needs met. Then, they show examples of a progressive relationship and what it looks like when both partners are all in.

Are you looking for a breakthrough in your love life? Have you made the decision to learn through joy, instead of learning through pain yet? Once Lisa finally made the decision to stop making dating and personal growth so hard, she opened herself up to more kindness, patience, and self-acceptance. This brought a new level of joy to her being and set the stage for Benjamin, the Guardian of her Soul, to waltz in. From her story, we can learn to drop our inner critic and judgment, to instead embrace the beauty in life. This week, you’ll learn how to start being kind to yourself, and to give yourself permission to learn through joy instead of pain. Lisa talks about how men can sense when you are putting up a front versus feeling aligned with your joy.