Q4Q: Queer Personals Podcast

Hey folks! I'm coming out of the woodwork to wish you a Happy Valentine's Day to all who celebrate. Not only is this a special episode drop, but it's a redo of a previous Valentine's extravaganza with a new twist. Listen and rate us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes! Find a copy of the adult coloring book, Queer Seeking Queer: A Colorful History at Women & Children First bookshop in Chicago, or order from them online! You can also find it on booksho...

Surprise! We’re back with a new collaborative project– Queer Seeking Queer: A Colorful History. Haley joined forces with Dan of @longlostpersonals and Alexis @Alexis_aquarian to create this cheeky, kinky, one-of-a-kind coloring book featuring personal ads from LGBTQ+ newspapers from the 1920s to 1990s. In this episode, Dan, Alexis, and Haley talk about the long journey to create the book, where you can find it, and swipe left or right on some of the ads within! You can find your copy o...

Welcome to a truly itty bitty episode with guest host, Gabriel—founder, creator, and archivist for @Itty_Bitty_Queer_History. In this episode, Haley takes a page out of Gabriel’s teeny tiny books to pursue some short & sweet personal ads. These authors are very concise yet have a diverse set of needs—from bowling buddies to sugar daddies, water sports to paranormal experiences. You should probably leave them a voicemail to learn more. Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple P...

Are you ready to source the galaxies of love? Dip your tongue into this new episode, where Haley & Dr. Jack Jen Gieseking (author of the incredible book A Queer New York) match with some sapphic ads. Whether you’re looking for a good old-fashioned co-dependent, a skateboard bean, a Genteel Daddy pretty boy butch, or a chic Joni Mitchell lookalike—come explore the full spectrum of the sapphic longing. Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your t...

Attention all you macaroni boys and genderful twinks! Asho joins Haley for a series of ads written by self-acclaimed androgynous lovers. Do you dream of tossing a salad with a cute “she-boy” or maintaining eye contact all the way “through”? Catch these ads before another 30 years passes! Follow Asho on Instagram at @Asho_Buckingham to view & purchase their incredible art! Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes! Interested in being on the s...

You think you're sexually frustrated? Try talking to a gal on the lesbian party lines in the '90s! In this truly tiny bite-sized episode, Haley reads from Liz Tracey's article in Outweek: "Hung Up on the Lesbo Line." Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes! Interested in being on the show? Contact us at Q4QPodcast@gmail.com or find us on Twitter @Queerpersonals and Instagram @Queerpersonalspodcast. Cover art by Bekah Rich. Music by K...

Haley sits down with Dr. Alex Ketchum, a professor at McGill University’s Institute for Gender, Sexuality, and Feminist Studies, and author of books such as Engage in Public Scholarship: A Guidebook on Feminist and Accessible Communication & Ingredients for Revolution: A History of American Feminist Restaurants, Cafes, and Coffeehouses. In this episode, we’re playing matchmaker for several Canadian hotties who posted personals in a 1984 issue of Toronto’s The Body Politic. Will the shy yo...

In this episode, Haley & Lauren Hoffman of the Capital Jewish Museum wander through New York, San Francisco, and Minnesota following these Jewish sapphic lonely hearts. Check your baggage at the door and prepare to meet a Would-Be Cowboy, a“Highly Flawed and Special” artist, and a gal looking for a “New Age thinker with a specific physical discipline….”? Follow Lauren on Instagram @spicylilscorpio and @wanderthrumuseums. Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or whe...

You ignore your voicemail, but have you heard of voicejail? Imagine the world before the internet, before blogs and discord servers and reddit forums or Google reviews. Where did people release their pent up anxieties, how did they share their niche interests, or act out their weird bits? In this bite-sized episode, Haley looks at the fascinating microcosm that sprang up in the 1980s and ‘90s in Silicon Valley, and those that called themselves the voicejailers. Clips of the radio show, “Midni...

Throw on some sunscreen and grab your mosquito spray, we’re going to Florida! Haley & Kayleigh read ads from Orlando, Cape Canaveral, and Pasco County. Help us choose between a gay nudist tour guide, Xena the Warrior princess, and the vegetarian aesthete. It’s probably one of the most ‘90s centered episodes yet! Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes! Interested in being on the show? Contact us at Q4QPodcast@gmail.com or find us on Twi...

"All my love, Porcupine" was a poetic sign-off for one smitten woodland creature to her mousie lover. Throughout the 1970s and '80s, the personal ads to the Gay Community News in Boston began with an entry addressed to "Mousie Mousie Wildflower." And for once, Haley has found a (vaguely) satisfying conclusion to this classified ad mystery. Tune in to this bite-sized episode to get your daily dose of sweet gay love! Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you liste...

*Ring ring* Hello? Did you know that you could call a phone number to leave a voicemail personal ad? “Talking” personal ads became popular around the 1980s and ‘90s as a quick way to hook up or meet someone cute! This week, mystery fiction author and host of Queer We Are podcast, Brad Shreve, joins Haley to recount his own encounters via the voicemail ads. Check out Brad Shreve’s work at his website, Queer We Are or follow him on Instagram and/or Twitter @thebradshreve Listen to us on ...

In this episode, Haley sits down with Robbi Sommers Bryant–author, editor, watercolor artist, and the Queen of Lesbian Erotica. A well-earned title, as Sommers Bryant published nine erotica books–one of which, Personal Ads, follows several stories after lesbians place newspaper ads looking for something sexy. Find out the inspiration behind the stories and other fun tidbits! Check out Robbi’s other works on her website (https://robbibryant.com) or follow her on Instagram @robbisommersbr...

Sleigh bells ring, are you listening…to this new episode? Santa is single and looking for someone to jingle his bells. This week, Haley ropes their friends EJ, Tabitha, and Bekah into a Christmas-New Year’s Eve special, where folks set up their New Year's Eve dates, snuggle bunnies, and winter survival coaches. Happy 2023! Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes! Interested in being on the show? Contact us at Q4QPodcast@gmail.com or find us...

Are you sick of mind-numbing, capitalist, consumer dating life? You’re not alone! Queers have been plotting their escape from society for decades–and they’re posting personal ads looking for just the right person to share it with. So, throw on your prairie dress, get back to the land, and throw open those cottage windows (stained glass, of course) –because Haley of Q4Q meets Abbey of Sweet Baby Gay for a quaint, cottagecore themed episode! Do you want to hear more from Abbey? Follow their p...

Welcome back to Q4Q! This week, queer historian Tyler Albertario & Haley wade through the history of the correspondence club, Contact. The penpal club served as a clandestine way for homosexual correspondents to connect during the 1920s & ‘30s. Learn about notable members like Henry Gerber, Manuel boyFrank, and Frank McCourt–who’s letters form the foundation of the present knowledge of the club’s history. Do you want to hear more from Tyler? Follow him on Twitter @TylerAlbertari...

Jump on into the Wayback Machine, we’re talking to Steve about Asynchronous Communication. Not to be confused with simultaneous communication, or face to face conversation. So what is it like to date asynchronously? Many of us know! How frustrating is it to send a chat to someone in an app and they leave you on read? But sometimes, just sometimes, you hit up someone who has the same communication style as you and everything falls into place. Do you want to hear more from Steve? Follow them ...

Lace up your boots or slip on your platform heels, because it’s Q4Q’s 25th episode! To mark the occasion, Haley invited their good friend and femme fatale, Caillean, to gasp their way through personal ads written by butch and femme lesbians. Whether you’re into lace or leather, chapstick or lip gloss, pants or skirts–some other nonsensical binary, you’ll enjoy these ads. Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes! Interested in being on the sh...

This episode, Haley teamed up with Kai of @Rotten_Treasure for one of the kinkiest episodes of the entire show. Sometimes it’s difficult to find a partner into the same things, in the same general geographic area--before Grindr, Craigslist, or KinkD, there were personal ads in the local LGBTQ magazine. Listen as we match with voyeurs, foot worshippers, Gumdrop Danglers, and more! (Personal ads begin around 1 hour and 2 minutes.) We mentioned: Amanda Hess, “The Foot Fetis...

We're talking about casual sex, baby! Haley and their housemate Ari hand-selected several personal ads looking for something sexy, passionate, and hedonistic--hold the emotion. The queers who wrote these ads are looking for a good time, not a long time. Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes! Interested in being on the show? Contact us at Q4QPodcast@gmail.com or find us on Twitter @Queerpersonals and Instagram @Queerpersonalspodcast...

This week, Haley geeks out with fellow personal ad aficionado and collector, Dan of @LongLostPersonals. His Instagram account contains hundreds of unique, sexy, and sometimes bizarre personal ads across the decades. Learn about the coded language men used to meet other men in the 1940s, and experience the dirtiest ad Dan has ever seen (so far). Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes! Don’t forget to follow Dan @Longlostpersonals Interested...

Have you ever stared at a hottie from across the room, just to let the moment slip away without grabbing their number? Did you compliment someone’s floral button-up, just to trip over your words and forget to ask for their name? Don’t worry, you‘re not alone! Queers have been awkwardly interacting with each other for decades! Join Haley and their guest Ken as they dig up some missed connections that will have you saying “oh boy!” Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wher...

Oh boy, it’s poem night at Q4Q. Join the party for some of the most mournful, raunchy, and yearning iambic pentameter pieces this show has ever seen. Haley and their special guest, Ash, set out to ask some important questions–When did “snowflake” become a thing? Did Emily Dickinson date women? Will men EVER stop quoting Neitzche? Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes! Interested in being on the show? Contact us at Q4QPodcast@gmail.com or ...

Happy birthday to Q4Q! One year ago, the podcast launched with our premier episode “Seeking a Buff Danny Devito in Indianapolis.” And what a year it’s been! Check out the newest mini-sode, where Haley reflects on some of the best moments of the year and shared some “odds & ends” personal ads that didn’t make the first few episodes. Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes! Interested in being on the show? Contact us at Q4QPodcast@gmail.comor ...

In this episode, Haley and Rachel (Gaychel) pop open some personal ads looking for a little more. Whether it be physical or chemical–they want pleasure and they want it soon! There will be poppers–certainly pleasure, preservative-laden snacks, and high-impact naked sports. Settle in with your munchies of choice, because these head hunters are meeting gyrating Euro-trash in pursuit of sex ‘n drugs. Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes! In...

Let's get personal! Since the dawn of time, humans have been desperate for connection. Then we realized we could solicit strangers through the Sunday paper. You’ve heard of Craigslist personals, just imagine the pining and thirst from lonely queers searching for love. Listen as we read and rate personal ads from the ‘70s through today! If you love gay yearning, you’ll love Q4Q! Send a text Support the show

Welcome to another episode of Q4Q, where Haley meets with Alexis Macaluso, author and artist of the new book Deeply Personal: A Journey into Earth’s most curious classified ads—to cruise through some Craigslist ads and newspapers from the ‘60s, ‘80s, and ‘90s. Will you sign up for the “Gay” cruise, find an old Army buddy from ‘Nam, or maybe hook up with the Dirty Old Man from Maine? The sky's the limit at Q4Q! Music written and strummed by Omar Nassar. Graphics by Bekah Rich. You can fi...

Happy New Year! And welcome to another episode of Q4Q. Haley connected with Dan Griffiths from the Gender F*ck podcast to engage with some ads written by and for trans people. In the pages of the magazines, we meet a love kitten, a student of the bizarre, and so many others hoping for a connection. Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes! Interested in being on the show? Contact us at Q4QPodcast@gmail.com or find us on Twitter @Quee...

Strap into your saddles, because we’re about to find some Prince/ss Charmings on some horses. In this week’s episode, join Haley and Lauren as they dig through some personal ads that put the “fairy” in fairy tale. Follow us through the tales of a heartbroken lesbian from Georgia, Prince Charming sought in Denver, and butch Lancelot? All that and more in Episode 13 of Q4Q: Queer Personal Ads! Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes! Interested i...

Are you looking for a gay roommate? What about a lesbian organic farmer? Find all that and more in this episode of Q4Q, when Haley and Annika slide into the DMs of some quality cheeseheads from the state of Wisconsin. Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes! Interested in being on the show? Contact us at Q4QPodcast@gmail.com or find us on Twitter @Queerpersonals and Instagram @Queerpersonalspodcast. As always, music by Omar Nassar. Cover...

Hey all you handsome bi’s and rugged guys! This time on Q4Q, Haley and their new housemate Ainhoa wade through an archive of bisexual personal ads. Give it a listen, because these ads swing both ways! Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes! Interested in being on the show? Contact us at Q4QPodcast@gmail.com or find us on Twitter @Queerpersonals and Instagram @Queerpersonalspodcast. As always, music by Omar Nassar. Cover art by Bekah Rich. S...

Have you heard of Farmers Only? Do you find yourself watching Brokeback Mountain over and over? This episode takes “City people just don’t get it” to a whole new level. Listen as Haley and Erin discover the personals of cowboy bachelors, country dykes, and Gay okies. Because as we all know, “Cowboys are frequently secretly fond of each other!” Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes! Interested in being on the show? Contact us at Q4QPodcast@gmai...

Come out and soak up some Gay Sunshine with Haley this week, as they traipse through the history of this unique little newspaper. Haley outlines some of the paper’s history with Berkeley’s Gay Liberation Front, the Gay Sunshine Press, and the long-time editor Winston Leyland. Or, skip to the end and listen to some iconic personal ads from Gay Sunshine in the 1970s. As always, music by Omar Nassar. Interested in being on the show? Contact us at Q4QPodcast@gmail.com or find us on Twitter @Q...

Did you know that people wrote in to their newspapers for friends' birthdays, anniversaries, or even just to get a hold of someone? In Episode 8, Thaddeus and Haley flip through some queer classifieds to find some fun examples of how people announced their feelings before the digital age. If you haven’t already, please give us a quick review and rating on iTunes or wherever you’re listening. Interested in being on the show? Contact us at Q4QPodcast@gmail.com or find us on Twitter @Que...

Welcome once again to Q4Q, where Haley reads old LGBTQ Queer Personal Ads with their friends. In this episode, Haley and Sam dive into newspaper archives from Washington, D.C., San Francisco, St. Louis, and Philadelphia to peruse some ads that might be expecting too much. Follow us on our journey through resumes, Polaroids, and maybe even Guy Fieri? If you haven’t already, please give us a quick review and rating on iTunes or wherever you’re listening. Interested in being on the show?...

Join Haley and their Museum Dad, Meg, as they peruse some personal ads with impeccable intro sentences that really hook you in. This episode was originally themed "It Didn't Have to Be That Weird," because there are some bizarre adjectives, fun nicknames, and questionable metaphors. As one of our young lonely hearts exclaims, "Let's get sticky, witty, and warm!" If you haven’t already, please give us a quick review and rating on iTunes or wherever you’re listening. Interested i...

From the mailbox to your DMs, Missy and Haley take a look at queer personal ads and how they evolved from print media to social media and apps. In this episode, they discuss the history of submitting personal ads into newspapers, the Mattachine Society's ONE magazine and their fight against the US Postal Service, and how the digital age has adjusted the way we date (and where Lex sits in that). All opinions expressed here are our own! If you haven’t already, please give us a quick review and...

Is there anything the Gays love more than astrology? Probably not! Find out if your stars align with these personal ads! Please don’t get angry at us, we’re just teasing. Don't forget to check out the new intro and outro music, written and strummed by Omar Nassar. If you haven’t already, please give us a quick review and rating on iTunes or wherever you’re listening. Interested in being on the show? Contact us at Q4QPodcast@gmail.com or find us on Twitter @Queerpersonals and Instagram @Qu...

Join Haley as they wander through the history of the lesbian erotica magazine On Our Backs, explore how the periodical inspired the dating app Lex, and flip through 2 issues that they purchased for research purposes. *I swear!!* If you haven’t already, please give us a quick review and rating on iTunes or wherever you’re listening. Interested in being on the show? Contact us at Q4QPodcast@gmail.com or find us on Twitter @Queerpersonals and Instagram @Queerpersonalspodcast. Disclaimer: th...

Hello! Welcome to Q4Q, a podcast where I read old personal ads with one of my friends. This episode I have with me one of my good friends and queer historians, Kai. Kai and I sift through one of my favorite websites--the Washington Blade archive on DigDC--hosted by the D.C. Public Library. With just a D.C. library card, we can access hundreds of copies of the LGBTQ newspaper, which ran from 1969 into today. So, our location is D.C., but our theme is “lesbians.” We're talking about U-Haul driv...

Hello! Welcome to the first episode of Q4Q, a podcast where I read old personal ads with one of my friends. This episode I have with me one of my best friends from college--Tabitha. Join Tabitha and I as we read several ads from 1987 and 1990 featured in the New Works, a gay newspaper centered in Indianapolis, Indiana--the fine state that we both grew up in. What follows is a list of the ads and where I found them. Please enjoy and feel free to look them up yourself if you’re feeling l...