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What does it mean to embody a communication perspective? To use communication as a lens?
To take a communication perspective is to consider what we’re making and how we’re making it through our communication practices. This means we look at patterns, contexts, stories, relationships; and that we use curiosity, mindfulness, collaboration, and dialogue to create better social worlds for ourselves.
I invite you to join me (Abbie) in conversation with a guest as we learn what it means to use a communication perspective on a new topic each week- all in the hopes of creating better social worlds.
- 100 - On Humanizing Immigration with Dora Rodriguez | Migration Series | Ep. 97
How does hearing Dora’s story shape your perception of immigration?
How can you seek out more stories that humanize those who migrate?
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Dora Rodriguez, an unwavering advocate for migrant rights, survived the 1980 tragedy in Organ Pipe National Monument, AZ, where Salvadorans fled civil war, resulting in 13 deaths, including 3 minors. This experience propelled her into the forefront of the sanctuary movement in Tucson, AZ. Residing in Tucson, AZ, with her husband and five children, Dora is also a proud grandmother. She serves as the Director of Salvavision, a nonprofit offering aid and support to migrants and deportees.
Today, Dora describes the work she does with Humane Borders, Tucson Samatitans, and Salvavision to support those who immigrate to the United States by crossing the southern border. Dora shares her own experience immigrating to the United States from El Salvador and why it motivates her to serve others who are immigrating. Abbie and Dora explore the importance of telling our stories (as well as hearing the stories of others- whether they are similar to your stories or not) for easing fear in our social worlds.
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Learn more about Cosmopolis 2045.Mon, 06 May 2024 - 99 - On Regenerative Design and Social Permaculture with Abrah Dresdale | Sustainability Series | Ep. 96
What changes when we go beyond sustainability and strive for “regeneration” instead?
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Abrah Dresdale, MA, is a bold and visionary social designer of cultural change at the intersection of land and justice. She consults through the national organization she co-founded, Regenerate Change, serves as faculty at UMass-Amherst and Omega Institute, and is the author of Regenerative Design for Changemakers: A Social Permaculture Guide.
Today, Abrah and Abbie discuss what it means to be a social designer using systems thinking; to tell “new stories” that expand our imagination of what is possible; and to embrace our personal power to be changemakers for ourselves and our our social worlds. Continuing the vocab lesson, Abrah breaks down what social permaculture is and the difference between sustainability and regeneration. Abbie and Abrah further explore the practice of making knowledge, language, and tools accessible; the work Abrah has done with prison food justice efforts and how it all connects; and the ways Abrah’s Jewish heritage shapes her approach to healing, cultural amnesia, and ancestral lineages.
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Hierarchy Model Video.
Hierarchy Model Episode.
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Learn more about Cosmopolis 2045.Mon, 29 Apr 2024 - 98 - On Decolonizing, Re-Indigenizing & Rematriating with Sikowis Nobiss | Sustainability Series | Ep. 95
Please be aware this conversation contains descriptions of violence perpetrated by white colonizers against indigenous people. (46:04-49:11)
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How can we “decolonize” our ways of thinking and being?
What does it look like to “re-indigenize”?
What does it mean to “rematriate”?
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Sikowis Nobiss (she/her) is Nêhiyaw/Saulteaux of the George Gordon First Nation in Saskatchewan, Canada and grew up in Winnipeg, Manitoba, Canada. She has been living in Iowa for 19 years and is the founder and Executive Director of Great Plains Action Society and is an organizer, speaker, writer and an artist. She fights for a better future for her two young children.
Today, Sikowis shares her story and the story of the Great Plains Action Society (GPAS). Sikowis unpacks the “Society” and “Action”part of the Great Plains Action Society, explaining each of their 3 initiatives: Protect the Sacred, Land Offense, and Representation. Abbie and Sikowis talk stories, perspectives, and meaning; unpacking the dominant Christian colonial-capitalist perspective; and defining re-indigenizing and rematriating.
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Read the Huffington Post Article Sikows mentioned here.
Learn more about Truthsgiving here.
Read more from Sikowis on ICWA here.
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Learn more about Cosmopolis 2045.Mon, 22 Apr 2024 - 97 - On Climate Action with Miriam Kashia | Sustainability Series | Ep. 94
Why does it matter how we talk about climate action?
How does better language inspire better action?
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Miriam Kashia is a self-proclaimed “climate action warrior.” Based in Iowa, she is involved with 100 Grannies for a Livable Future. In 2014, at the age of 71, she participated in the Great March for Climate Action, where she walked 3,100 miles over 8 months across the United States. She was named a “Climate Hero” by the Guardian’s Down to Earth Environmental Newsletter in 2022. You can hear more about her story in “The Race to Save the World” Documentary.
In this conversation, originally published in September 2022, Miriam shares her story, detailing different chapters of her life and reflecting on the journey that has led her to where (and who) she is now. Using the Daisy Model, Abbie and Miriam discuss the petals (lessons, people, and experiences) that transformed Miriam from a concerned citizen to a "climate action warrior" and how Miriam is using her platform to educate and empower others. Miriam shares with us a quote that was shared with her, "We will not give into the fear because it is fear that feeds the darkness" and how she is striving to take on daunting issues with love, truth, and justice. Finally, Abbie and Miriam explore the roles, relationships, and rest that help Miriam stay whole and balanced; Miriam's advice for activists and how her perspective has changed; and what it looks like to lean into the chaos that comes when we start to change our social worlds.
Listen to Part 1 and Part 2 of our conversation with Aline Mugisho.
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What can you change today about the way you relate to food that would minimize your food waste?
What is the “highest level context” that is guiding you when it comes to how your actions affect the planet?
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Yolanda Soto has been the CEO President of Borderlands Produce Rescue for 30 years. Borderlands Produce Rescue is located in the border community of Nogales, Arizona and goes beyond the limits of traditional Food Banks by addressing the issue of food waste at the intersection of hunger.Today, Yoli introduces herself and the Borderlands Produce Rescue. Abbie and Yoli explore the issue of food waste, including the lack of knowledge around the issue, the impact of food waste on the environment, and the opportunities that exist to combat food waste through the Borderlands Produce Rescue and beyond. Using a communication perspective, Abbie offers some new insight around the stories we tell about the issue of food waste and the work of the Borderlands Produce Rescue. Finally, Yoli offers a call to action to all of us.
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Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution.
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Learn more about Cosmopolis 2045.Mon, 08 Apr 2024 - 95 - On Embracing Rewilding in Nature and Ourselves with Mark Edwards | Sustainability Series | Ep. 92
How can you embrace wildness in yourself?
What opportunities do you have to experience nature, beauty, and wilderness in your own backyard?
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Mark Edwards is a 76-year-old naturalist, is a leader in BeWildReWild and its Big River Connectivity project, and is retired from the Iowa Department of Natural Resources, where he lead restoration efforts for 30 years. You can join the "Rewilding Iowa and Beyond" Facebook Group and check out this podcast with Mark from the Iowa Nature Summit.
In this conversation, Mark shares his story, including how moving throughout his childhood and being exposed to many different cultures and environments shaped him; how he learned to take care of himself; and how he connected with wilderness through his own travels and finding his way back to Iowa, where he has remained ever since. Abbie and Mark discuss the meaning of rewilding and how we can make new choices around the meaning we make around our relationship to wilderness, nature, and non-human beings. Mark and Abbie explore our own wildness, rewilding as overcoming fear, and moving from imagination to embodiment as we navigate the need to do things differently. Finally, Abbie and Mark talk about the wildness in Iowa (the most biologically altered state in North America) and within ourselves.
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Please be aware this conversation contains references to sexual assault and gender-based violence.
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What ideas about gender have you learned from your culture, peers, and family?
How can you find ways to call people in instead of calling them out?
How can you practice approaching defensiveness with curiosity in yourself and others?
How can we begin to embrace our full humanity by allowing ourselves to engage in all ways of being, not just the ones that were assigned to us based on our sex?
What is a small thing you can do this week to create a next turn/ ripple from this conversation?
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Burton Patterson is a social worker by trade with experience in the fields of Harm Reduction and Mental Health and Addiction, Sexual Violence Prevention, and Healthy Sexual Education. He specializes working with male-identifying folks in gender-based violence prevention.
In this conversation from July 2023, Burton shares his story. Abbie and Burton discuss the narratives and norms around gender that we internalize (whether we recognize it or not). Burton explains why it matters to call men into the conversation, rejecting the idea that the conversation around gender-based violence and sexual assault is simply a “women’s issue.” Abbie and Burton discuss “The Man Box” and doing the internal work. In the second half of this conversation, Burton shares stories about his experience educating groups of young men about toxic and healthy masculinity, rape culture, and gender-based violence. Abbie and Burton explore the way meaning is made when it comes to “femininity” and “masculinity” and how we can embrace the power we have to make new meaning. Finally, Abbie asks Burton what new stories we can start telling about gender to create a better social world for all of us.
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Where do we start?
How do we bring an awareness of systems and structures and also redefine power within our own selves?
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Sarah Urech is senior strategist and a founding staff member of the Omega Women's Leadership Center (OWLC), where she designs, coordinates, and leads innovative, holistic education programs, including workshops, conferences, and online courses. Sarah holds a Bachelor’s in Drama from Duke University and studied theater in Berlin, Paris, and London, where she first saw Playback Theatre—improvisational theatre that honors audience members’ true stories through spontaneous enactment. 30 years ago, she moved to New York’s Hudson Valley to study Playback with its cofounders and immediately joined Hudson River Playback Theatre. Her Playback work has taken her around the world and rooted her in an embodied listening practice that is committed to social justice and collective artmaking.
Today, Sarah introduces herself and the Omega Women’s Leadership Center (OWLC). Abbie and Sarah explore shifting consciousness and building awareness around women’s relationships to power and leadership. Abbie and Sarah discuss the old stories we have internalized that have kept women out of leadership roles as well as the new stories we hope to tell to empower women to claim leadership for themselves. Sarah explains Playback Theater; Abbie talks about emergence, improvisation, and collaboration. Finally, Abbie and Sarah consider the relationship between communication, creating space, and wellbeing.
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Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution.
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Music for Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created by Rik Spann.
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Mon, 18 Mar 2024 - 92 - On Highlighting Women In History with Leah Leach | Women's Stories Series | Ep. 89
How can we seek to tell and hear stories that encourage empathy-based communication?
Where can you seek out more (or new to you) information about women in history?
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Leah Leach is the founder of Gal's Guide, the first women's history lending library in the
United States. She is a teacher, author, and Buddhist. She is also one of the hosts of the Gal's Guide to the Galaxy Podcast.
Today, Leah introduces herself and her work with Gal’s Guide. Leah and Abbie discuss why it matters to know and share the (many and complex) stories of women from history. Leah and Abbie explore the night sky as a metaphor for understanding the existence of and our relationship to women’s stories. Finally, Abbie and Leah discuss expansion, personal evolution, and holding space.
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Here is a list of all the women we mentioned in today's epsiode, plus links to more information about each:Big Mama Thorton
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What do you negotiate in your life?
What is your relationship to belonging? What is your identity? How do these things affect the way you show up in the world?
What is something new you can try to better advocate for yourself or negotiate with others?
How can we rewire our ways of thinking and being to better celebrate the ways we show up?
What does it look like to empower ourselves in our storytelling?
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Beth Fisher-Yoshida (PhD, CCS) is a facilitator, educator, and executive coach. She is President and CEO of Fisher Yoshida International, LLC. Beth is Professor of Professional Practice; Program Director of the MS in Negotiation and Conflict Resolution program; Vice-Chair of Faculty at School of Professional Studies; Chair of Advanced Consortium for Cooperation, Conflict and Complexity (AC4); and Director of the Youth, Peace and Security Project all at Columbia University. She also serves on several Boards including the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. She is the author of New Story New Power: A Woman's Guide to Negotiation.In this conversation from October of 2023, Beth and Abbie discuss women, negotiation, and Beth’s book, New Story New Power: A Women’s Guide to Negotiation. Beth shares her thoughts on cultivating belonging in the systems of organizations, the stories that create our identities, and when a “no is a no” in negotiation. Abbie and Beth talk about equity, reconciliation, and co-creation. In the second half of this conversation, Abbie and Beth discuss internalized stories, agency, and discomfort. Beth talks about practicing negotiation by starting small and shares stories from her experiences studying art in Japan. Abbie and Beth discuss cultural differences in meaning-making, the “new story” Beth hopes for women to know, and next turns for continuing the conversation.
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What can you imagine for yourself and your social world?
What stories make you think: “that’s what I want for myself”? How can you make it so?
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Riley Carroll is a 26-year old cat mom, thinker, and author from Chicago. Since completing her master’s in Communication in 2022, Riley has strived to live authentically, imagine new ways of being, and make space for joy which helped lead to the release of her debut novel, What the Blood Sings.Today, Riley talks about the stories, people, and experiences that led her to become a writer. Abbie and Riley explore the messages we receive about failure and trying; the feedback Riley is hearing about her book and what it means to her; and the way we build worlds, in our real lives and in writing fiction. Riley and Abbie discuss consuming and being consumed; making space for boredom and subsequently imagination; and whether life imitates art or art imitates life (… or both?). Finally, Riley offers us a challenge to simply (or not so simply… TRY)!
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Mon, 26 Feb 2024 - 89 - On Investing In Art with Sharon Cadja | Art Series | Ep. 86
How can an investment in Art (any and all kinds) translate into an investment in ourselves, our wellbeing, and our communities?
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Sharon Cadja (she/they) is an Artist and Property Manager with a Bachelor’s in Business Marketing from Ball State University. She works full time, but dedicates her free time to her art business in hopes to invest in her ideal lifestyle. Sharing insight of her journey to aspiring creatives is what she believes is imperative to a building a more encouraging art community. You can check out Sharon's work at her website and on Instagram.Today, Abbie and Sharon discuss what it means to Sharon to paint, why she is in favor of copying artwork, and how she is inspired by nature. Sharon and Abbie explore their shared desire to find the beauty in the world; the importance of making art supplies, information, and business more accessible; and Sharon’s hope for an encouraging art community. Shares shares the confidence and relationships she has developed as a result of investing in her art; the affects of her environment on her process; the importance of cultivating a practice around noticing beauty in the world.
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Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution.
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Mon, 19 Feb 2024 - 88 - On Feeling & Making with Caitlin Metz | Art Series | Ep. 85
Where can you find (or better yet, create) a soft space for yourself?
What can you learn when you stop making assumptions and start asking ‘why’?
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Caitlin Metz (they/them) is an accidental author, wayward adjunct faculty, chronic project starter, designer and illustrator, parent, Mary Oliver evangelist, cloud watcher, and big feeler. Caitlin is the co-author of My Body, My Home and the author of Feel Something, Make Something.They run Saturday Morning Carton with their partner and host "brain orgies". You can find their work on Patreon, Instagram, and Etsy.Today, Abbie is joined by Caitlin Metz. To begin, Caitlin shares a little bit about who they are and what it means to them to create a “soft space” for people. Abbie and Caitlin discuss collaborating with our emotions; creating as a form of ritual, conversation, documentation, expression, and disruption; and finding perspective by asking ‘why?’. Caitlin and Abbie talk about the need to turn off autopilot and get intentional; “queerness as non-assumption;” and leaving room for many truths.
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What would you create if you weren’t worried about producing?
How can you embrace “regret” and acknowledge the things you would do differently as a sign of your own growth instead of failure?
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hesitantdoodle (Sidney McLeod) is a non-binary illustrator and comic artist based just outside of Glasgow, Scotland. Their work combines the action of sports, the drama of romance novels, and the whimsy of magical girls to produce effervescent, queer, and colourful comics. They are the creator and co-producer of the web series Creating Comics UK and judged the LDComics Awards in 2021. Their goal is to engage a wide audience with their work and collaborate to create new and wonderful stories!
Check out hesitantdoodle's work on their website, Twitter, or Instagram.
Today, illustrator hesitantdoodle shares the story of their journey from a young artist, to a grassroots illustrator just beginning, to where they find themself in their career now. Abbie and hesitantdoodle discuss art as a means of communication that goes beyond words; the invitation and possibility that the world of comic book illustration offers; and the resilience of art and artists. Abbie and hesitantdoodle explore what it means to value creativity, art, and imagination in a capitalist society that places more value on productivity, efficiency, and profit. hesitantdoodle explains the value of the CosmoTeenz Comic Book and advocates for “creating for the sake of creating.”
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How do we create space for ALL the emotions we experience?
How can we find creative and constructive ways to engage with the world?
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Tumelo Victoria is one of five CosmoTeenz Fellows, sponsored by the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. The Fellows have created a comic book on mental health that will be available soon. She is 19 years old, lives in Norway, and is currently working and taking a gap year after completing her last year of high school.
Today, Abbie and Tumelo Victoria discuss her involvement with, not only CosmoTeenz, but also, CosmoKidz and CosmoTweenz. Tumelo shares her experience with the CosmoTeenz Fellowship, including learning to balance her involvement with other time commitments, navigating negative experiences in a “happy” society, and finding new ways of relating to the world and its struggles.
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Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution.
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Mon, 29 Jan 2024 - 85 - On Sharing as Caring with MableAlexis Jackson | CosmoTeenz Series | Ep. 82
How do we demonstrate our caring (for others) through sharing (our stories)?
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MableAlexis is one of five CosmoTeenz Fellows, sponsored by the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. The Fellows have created a comic book on mental health that will be available soon. MableAlexis is 23 years old and lives in Louisiana.
Today, Abbie is joined by CosmoTeenz Fellow MableAlexis Jackson to discuss what it has meant to her to take the opportunity to share her experience with mental health in the hopes that it could help someone else. Also, MableAlexis shares what it was like to see her story come alive in comic book form.
…Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter.
Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution.
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Mon, 22 Jan 2024 - 84 - On Change Making with Johanna Bach Dall | CosmoTeenz Series | Ep. 81
What change do you hope to see in your social worlds? And how can you be a part of making it happen?
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Johanna is one of five CosmoTeenz Fellows, sponsored by the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. The Fellows have created a comic book on mental health that will be available soon. She lives in Denmark and is interested in a career in politics.
Today, Abbie and Johanna explore the desire to make change happen and finding opportunities to do so. Johanna shares the most rewarding (as well as the most challenging) parts of her experience as a CosmoTeenz Fellow. Abbie and Johanna discuss “communication glasses,” imposter syndrome, and feeling welcomed.
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Mon, 15 Jan 2024 - 83 - On Community with Haruka Suwabe | CosmoTeenz Series | Ep. 80
Where in your life are there opportunities to find community and create connection by talking about experiences that have not been talked about?
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Haruka Suwabe is one of five CosmoTeenz Fellows, sponsored by the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. The Fellows have created a comic book on mental health that will be available soon. She is interested in working in the STEM field.
Today, Abbie is joined by Haruka Suwabe to discuss becoming a part of the CMM community, using collaboration and imagination, and learning to have conversations about mental health.
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Mon, 08 Jan 2024 - 82 - On Empathy with Fatima Razvi | CosmoTeenz Series | Ep. 79
What kinds of conversations about mental health are you having with the young people in your life?
How can you better take care of yourself (and others) when talking about mental health?
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At the time of recording this episode, Fatima was completing her senior of high school. Now, she is 19 and attending university. Fatima is studying psychology, as well as counseling and human services, with the goal of pursuing a career in school counseling. Fatima is one of five CosmoTeenz Fellows, sponsored by the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. The Fellows have created a comic book on mental health that will be available soon.
Today, Abbie is joined by Fatima Razvi to discuss mental health, the comic book the Fellows are creating, and what has been challenging and rewarding about this experience.
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Mon, 01 Jan 2024 - 81 - A Communication Perspective ... | Trailer | Season 3
"Hi and welcome. As always, I’m Abbie, this is Stories Lived. Stories Told., and today, I invite you to join me as we embark on Season 3.
This season is all about embodying a communication perspective. So let me explain that a little bit: To take a communication perspective is to consider what we’re making and how we’re making it through our communication practices. This means we pay close attention to patterns and contexts, stories and relationships; and that we use curiosity, mindfulness, collaboration, and dialogue to create better social worlds. Think of a “communication perspective” like a pair of glasses, it acts as a lens through which to see the world. It offers us one way to make sense of the things we encounter.
Each episode we will be joined in conversation by a guest who is working to make better social worlds in their own ways. We will use our communication perspective to learn about each of these conversation partners, as well as their stories, experiences, and passions. However you are arriving to this podcast- whether you share a similar story to our guest, have experience with the topic we discuss, or are simply looking to learn something new- the communication perspective approach gives us a unique lens to understand stories in ways that we might have missed otherwise. Plus, as you practice taking a communication perspective along with me in each episode, I’m hopeful you can continue this practice in your own life.
Thank you for showing up. Thank you for being curious. Thank you for being a part of this story. And thank you for helping me to welcome in Season 3. I can’t wait to see what emerges as we continue to create mindful moments together!"
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Fri, 29 Dec 2023 - 80 - Season 3 Hopes | Abbie VanMeter & Marit Eikaas Haavimb | Part 2
Listen to Part 1 with Abbie and Marit here.
Abbie and Marit continue their conversation about the way we create better things in relationship with each other, change the moment in the moment, and embracing improvisation and practice in communication. Abbie and Marit discuss mystery, hope, and looking ahead to Season 3!
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Mon, 11 Dec 2023 - 79 - Season 2 Reflections | Abbie VanMeter & Marit Eikaas Haavimb | Part 1
In this very special conversation, host Abbie VanMeter is interviewed by CMM Institute Steward (and friend) Marit Eikaas Haavimb. Together, they reflect on what Abbie has learned in 2023.
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Mon, 04 Dec 2023 - 78 - Always Learning | Romi Boucher | Part 2
What are the limits you place on yourself?
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Romi Boucher has been an executive coach, strategic change consultant, and designer of leadership programs and organizational development change initiatives for over 30 years. She has helped leaders and their organizations cause breakthrough change and results in business sectors ranging from established Fortune 100 organizations, governmental agencies, and educational organizations to professional firms characterized by intense competition.
As an executive coach, she has worked with senior leaders, directors, and managers in financial, administrative, sales, design and engineering fields in Fortune 100 corporations, non-profit organizations and government organizations. Her coaching approach addresses what it takes to lead and adapt innovatively in three dimensions; as organizations, in management teams and as individual leaders.
Listen to Part 1 with Romi here.
Today, Abbie and Romi continue their conversation about recognizing the ways we participate in the creation of our social worlds, using the enneagram to look at motivations instead of behaviors, and embracing our full humanity. Romi shares the role of transformation in her life and how she has approached bifurcation points.
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Mon, 27 Nov 2023 - 77 - Transformational Change | Romi Boucher | Part 1
What is possible? (And what else is possible when we start to ask ourselves this question?)
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Romi Boucher has been an executive coach, strategic change consultant, and designer of leadership programs and organizational development change initiatives for over 30 years. She has helped leaders and their organizations cause breakthrough change and results in business sectors ranging from established Fortune 100 organizations, governmental agencies, and educational organizations to professional firms characterized by intense competition.
As an executive coach, she has worked with senior leaders, directors, and managers in financial, administrative, sales, design and engineering fields in Fortune 100 corporations, non-profit organizations and government organizations. Her coaching approach addresses what it takes to lead and adapt innovatively in three dimensions; as organizations, in management teams and as individual leaders.
Today, Abbie and Romi discuss Romi’s work as an organizational transformational change consultant using a strategic reinvention approach, what it means to practice our better social worlds in the present, and how we learn to collaborate with others in the making of those social worlds. Finally, Abbie and Romi explore creating awareness about our constant “making."
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Mon, 20 Nov 2023 - 76 - Moral Injury & Waging Peace | Terry Strauss & Bart Buechner | Part 2
What does it look like to show up for each other in newly connected ways?
How can we reorient ourselves to prioritize human connection and relationships?
How can we break out of unwanted repetitive patterns by engaging in conversations that open us up to alternatives we may never had considered?
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Terry Strauss is a producer, writer, director. Her documentaries include, AS IF THEY WERE ANGELS, ULTIMATE RESTORATIONS, as well as documentary programs for DISNEY, DISNEY CHANNEL, LIFETIME, I WISH I WERE A PRINCESS, and her current project WHAT NOW? CANARIES IN CAMO, which focuses on the struggles of our veterans to reintegrate and truly come home, and the necessity of civilian engagement and responsibility in that struggle.
Barton Buechner is the Interim Director and a founding faculty member of the Military Psychology MA program at Adler University, and has served as a Board member of the Coordinated Management of Meaning (CMM) Institute for Personal and Social Evolution since 2014. He is a 1978 graduate of the US Naval Academy, and earned an MA in Organization Development and Assessment degree from Case Western Reserve University (1993) and PhD from Fielding Graduate University (2014). He is currently working with Terry on the film WHAT NOW? CANARIES IN CAMO.
Listen to Part 1 with Terry and Bart here.
Today, Abbie, Bart, and Terry continue their conversation by discussing the realities of moral injury, tangible ways of creating connection, and a need for “waging peace.” Terry speaks about isolation as a public health issue and our need for interdependence. Bart shares the challenges and meaning around telling the stories of veterans through his work. Finally, Abbie, Bart, and Terry explore the value of service, integration, and joining the conversation.
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Mon, 06 Nov 2023 - 75 - Veterans, Connection & Our Shared Humanity | Terry Strauss & Bart Buechner | Part 1
How can we better support veterans and make space to hear their stories?
What are the stories we have around war and those who serve? How do these stories keep us isolated and disconnected?
How do we overcome the impulse to “look away” from painful realities and instead create opportunities for connection to our own (and others’ humanity)?
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Terry Strauss is a producer, writer, director. Her documentaries include, AS IF THEY WERE ANGELS, ULTIMATE RESTORATIONS, as well as documentary programs for DISNEY, DISNEY CHANNEL, LIFETIME, I WISH I WERE A PRINCESS, and her current project WHAT NOW? CANARIES IN CAMO, which focuses on the struggles of our veterans to reintegrate and truly come home, and the necessity of civilian engagement and responsibility in that struggle.
Barton Buechner is the Interim Director and a founding faculty member of the Military Psychology MA program at Adler University, and has served as a Board member of the Coordinated Management of Meaning (CMM) Institute for Personal and Social Evolution since 2014. He is a 1978 graduate of the US Naval Academy, and earned an MA in Organization Development and Assessment degree from Case Western Reserve University (1993) and PhD from Fielding Graduate University (2014). He is currently working with Terry on the film WHAT NOW? CANARIES IN CAMO.
Today, Abbie, Bart, and Terry discuss Bart and Terry’s background, their current film project, What Now: Canaries in Camo, and the retreat the film follows. Terry explores our relationships to veterans and their stories, the disconnection between civilians and veterans, and the responsibility we have to each other. Bart explains how the CMM-ish ideas of meaning-making, co-creation, cosmopolitan communication, and emergence can help us understand of the stories of Veterans and our socially constructed relationship to them. Finally, Abbie, Bart, and Terry discuss told and untold stories, systems that isolate us, and what can offer in addition to “thank you for your service.”
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Mon, 30 Oct 2023 - 74 - New Stories for Empowerment | Beth Fisher-Yoshida | Part 2
How can we build awareness of ourselves, others, and all the stories we all have?
How can we rewire our ways of thinking and being to better celebrate the ways we show up?
What does it look like to empower ourselves in our storytelling?
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Beth Fisher-Yoshida (PhD, CCS) is a facilitator, educator, and executive coach. She is President and CEO of Fisher Yoshida International, LLC. Beth is Professor of Professional Practice, Program Director of the MS in Negotiation and Conflict Resolution program, Vice-Chair of Faculty at School of Professional Studies, Chair of Advanced Consortium for Cooperation, Conflict and Complexity (AC4) and Director of the Youth, Peace and Security Project all at Columbia University. She also serves on several Boards including the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. She is the author of New Story New Power: A Woman's Guide to Negotiation.
Abbie and Beth continue their conversation about internalized stories, agency, and discomfort. Beth talks about practicing negotiation by starting small and shares stories from her experiences studying art in Japan. Abbie and Beth discuss cultural differences in meaning-making, the “new story” Beth hopes for women to know, and next turns for continuing the conversation.
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Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution.
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Mon, 23 Oct 2023 - 73 - Everything is Negotiation | Beth Fisher-Yoshida | Part 1
What do you negotiate in your life?
What is your relationship to belonging? What is your identity? How do these things affect the way you show up in the world?
What is something new you can try to better advocate for yourself or negotiate with others?
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Beth Fisher-Yoshida (PhD, CCS) is a facilitator, educator, and executive coach. She is President and CEO of Fisher Yoshida International, LLC. Beth is Professor of Professional Practice, Program Director of the MS in Negotiation and Conflict Resolution program, Vice-Chair of Faculty at School of Professional Studies, Chair of Advanced Consortium for Cooperation, Conflict and Complexity (AC4) and Director of the Youth, Peace and Security Project all at Columbia University. She also serves on several Boards including the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution.
Today, Beth and Abbie discuss women, negotiation, and Beth’s new book, New Story New Power: A Women’s Guide to Negotiation. Beth shares her thoughts on cultivating belonging in the systems of organizations, the stories that create our identities, and when a “no is a no” in negotiation. Finally, Abbie and Beth talk about equity, reconciliation, and co-creation.
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Mon, 16 Oct 2023 - 72 - Unpacking Racialized Imagery | Liz Cooney & Diane Grimes | Part 2
What is the intent? What is the impact?
Where do we start?
What story is being told here? What stories are not being told here?
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Diane Grimes is an associate professor of Communication and Rhetorical Studies at Syracuse University. She works to encourage the mindful and critical interrogation of unexamined assumptions around issues of race.
Liz Cooney is a queer writer, facilitator, and speaker from Des Moines, Iowa. Her work focuses on helping people communicate more effectively through valuing differences and navigating difficult conversations.
Together, they are the co-authors of Through the Lens of Whiteness: Challenging Racialized Imagery in Pop Culture.
Today, Diane, Liz, and Abbie continue their conversation by discussing one of the examples from their book- a 2017 Dove ad. Diane and Liz explore whiteness, dismissal, and stories. Finally, Abbie, Diane, and Liz discuss the stories we are telling, whose stories they are, and why we tell them.
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Mon, 09 Oct 2023 - 71 - Building Awareness Around Whiteness | Liz Cooney & Diane Grimes | Part 1
What does it look like to meet people where they are and at the same time ask people to move forward with you even when (especially when) it feels uncomfortable?
What is your background or story of your experience with race?
How can we, not only build awareness but also, generate curiosity, and experience exposure to diverse ways of being and making meaning?
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Diane Grimes is an associate professor of Communication and Rhetorical Studies at Syracuse University. She works to encourage the mindful and critical interrogation of unexamined assumptions around issues of race.
Liz Cooney is a queer writer, facilitator, and speaker from Des Moines, Iowa. Her work focuses on helping people communicate more effectively through valuing differences and navigating difficult conversations.
Together, they are the co-authors of Through the Lens of Whiteness: Challenging Racialized Imagery in Pop Culture.
In this conversation, Abbie, Diane, and Liz discuss Diane and Liz’s new book, including the inspiration for their book, their own personal experiences that led them to begin considering their own whiteness, and how this work moves us toward a better social world. Diane and Liz share stories from their own lives about the moments when they began to build awareness. Finally, Abbie, Diane, and Liz explore meaning-making and storytelling as a way to invite people into the conversation.
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Mon, 02 Oct 2023 - 70 - Creating Third Culture | Don Waisanen | Part 2
How can we become more conscious of the “third culture” we create with others?
What new perspective and understanding can we gain when we zoom in and zoom out in our interactions with others?
What can we learn about the way we show up to ourselves in the way we show up to others?
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Don Waisanen is a professor of strategic and leadership communication in the Baruch College, City University of New York Marxe School of Public and International Affairs. All of his research, teaching, and consulting projects seek to understand how communication works to promote or hinder democracy. Don is the author of Improv for Democracy and Leadership Standpoints. He is the co-author of Innovation Soup: A Recipe for Organizational Success. Listen to Part One with Don here.
Don and Abbie continue their conversation about third culture building, intrapersonal communication, and internal family systems. Abbie explores the difference between communication skills and a communication perspective using the game Stratego as a metaphor. Abbie and Don discuss zooming out and zooming in, negotiating with ourselves, and improvisational games. Finally, Abbie and Don try out some improv games and consider what we can learn about ourselves doing these activities.
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Mon, 25 Sep 2023 - 69 - Observe, Connect, Respond | Don Waisanen | Part 1
What in life can you “yes, and”?
How can our understanding and practice of communication evolve to match the other advancements we have made as a community?
What does it look like to use improv in our everyday lives (which is not the same as “winging it”)?
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Don Waisanen is a professor of strategic and leadership communication in the Baruch College, City University of New York Marxe School of Public and International Affairs. All of his research, teaching, and consulting projects seek to understand how communication works to promote or hinder democracy. Don is the author of Improv for Democracy and Leadership Standpoints. He is the co-author of Innovation Soup: A Recipe for Organizational Success.
Today, Don shares how he developed a communication perspective across diverse work experiences managing political campaigns, teaching communication, performing improvisational comedy, and more. Don and Abbie discuss improv and “yes, and” as a way to understand creating social worlds in collaboration; moving our thinking of communication away from a transmission model (send and receive) to a constitutive view (relate and create); and moving beyond our default ways of being using adaptive leadership theory. Don explains his version of what a better social world could be. Finally, Abbie and Don explore using episode work to embrace inclusion, performance, and range as important functions of leadership.
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Mon, 18 Sep 2023 - 68 - Progress is Messy | Kaya Hill | Part 2
How do we lean into the mess of progress?
How do our actions and stories communicate our values?
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Kaya Hill graduated from Ball State University in 2022 with a Bachelor’s in Communication Studies and two minors in history and African American studies. Since then, Kaya moved to Florida to work in Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion and continue studying various aspects of African-American History and Critical Race Theory. Listen to Part One with Kaya here.
Kaya and Abbie continue their conversation about questioning whether or not “curiosity kills the cat.” Kaya talks about the need to question everything, to admit when we don’t know something, and to share family stories (even the hard ones). Abbie and Kaya discuss context and the existence of joy right alongside suffering in our stories; that guilt is better than indifference, but it matters what we do with that guilt; and taking a breath and making a decision being the difference between backing out and leaning in. Finally, Kaya shares what she likes about her current social world and calls us to action to have conversations.
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Mon, 11 Sep 2023 - 67 - Being Honest About Our History | Kaya Hill | Part 1
Why?
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Kaya Hill graduated from Ball State University in 2022 with a Bachelor’s in Communication Studies and two minors in history and African American studies. Since then, Kaya moved to Florida to work in Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion and continue studying various aspects of African-American History and Critical Race Theory.
Kaya shares her story, including the impact of finding “more” in her college experience (despite not planning on going to college) and the importance of understanding the many stories of our history so we can do better in the future. Kaya and Abbie discuss Kaya’s view of a better social world through the lens of “honesty” and “dishonesty.” Kaya talks about the need to ask “why?” about everything, the gaps in our American history around the experiences of black people, and the value of context in the way we talk about history. Finally, Abbie and Kaya question the moral behind the saying “curiosity killed the cat” and how it’s really complacency that kills and curiosity that opens doors to new ways of being.
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Mon, 04 Sep 2023 - 66 - Searching for Community | Steven Fuller | Part 2
What is keeping us from really getting to know people?
How can empathy save us?
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Steven Fuller is a Communication professor at the University of Cincinnati. He hosts the Communication Junkie podcast, wrote The Church Experiment, and co-created Good vs Gooder. But, most importantly, he's spent the past three years assembling over 100,000 pieces of LEGO. Listen to Part One of this conversation with Steven here.
Today, Steven shares his curiosity about and experience with religion and how it led him to write The Church Experiment. Abbie talks about the value of hearing more stories about uncertainity, mystery, and messiness. Abbie and Steven discuss what can happen when we really try to get to know people, how we continue to find community in new ways, and why we “double down” because of our physchology. Finally, Steven and Abbie talk about Steven’s idea of a better social world from the perspective of a realist.
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Mon, 28 Aug 2023 - 65 - Understanding Interpersonal Relationships | Steven Fuller | Part 1
Why do people do what they do?
How can better communication practices help you in your work life? In your personal relationships?
How can you help make your community one where people feel empowered to share their stories?
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Steven Fuller is a Communication professor at the University of Cincinnati. He hosts the Communication Junkie podcast, wrote The Church Experiment, and co-created Good vs Gooder. But, most importantly, he's spent the past three years assembling over 100,000 pieces of LEGO.
Today, Steven shares his story, including how his childhood created in him a deep desire for community, a desire for control, and a desire for perfectionism. Abbie and Steven explore how Steven’s love of mystery and relationships evolved into a love of studying communication. Steven and Abbie talk about how the study of communication feels meaningful because it gives language to things we already experience; how we might use the idea of “nexting” to make better choices in the moment; and how everybody, working in every field needs a deeper understanding of communication. Finally, Steven discusses the effects of empowering more people with better communication tools to generate more stories being told.
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Mon, 21 Aug 2023 - 64 - Order, Disorder, Reorder | Ilene Wasserman & Arthur Jensen | Bonus Episode Reflection
What are you still thinking about from our conversation with Zev Burton?
What are you still thinking about from our conversation with Paul Porter?
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Dr. Ilene Wasserman is the Founder and President of ICW Consulting. Ilene is on the Board of Stewards for the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. She has been on the cutting edge of practice and research in strength-based methodologies, capacity building, and relational leadership, that engage diversity, create equity, and fosters inclusive cultures.
Arthur Jensen (PhD, University of Massachusetts) is Emeritus Professor of Communication and Rhetorical Studies, Syracuse University, where he served as faculty member, department chair, and associate dean for academic affairs in the College of Visual and Performing Arts. He is a Board Member of the CMM Institute and a co-director of the Cosmopolis 2045 project. He has authored or co-authored several books, including a textbook with Sarah Trenholm, Interpersonal Communication (8 th edition, Cognella Publishing, which is in press), Making Better Social Worlds, with Robyn Penman, and A Call to Cosmopolitan Communication, both published by CMMi Press. His work in recent years has revolved around developing a more comprehensive understanding of the theory and practices of cosmopolitan communication.
Today, Abbie is joined by Ilene Wasserman and Arthur Jensen, members of the CMM Institute's Board of Stewards, to reflect on the conversations Abbie previously had with Zev Burton (Part 1 & Part 2) and Paul Porter (Part 1 & Part 2). In this conversation, Arthur shares Richard Rohr’s 3 Boxes (Order, Reorder, Disorder) as a lens for human development. Ilene builds on this by exploring human development as “the increasing capacity for complexity.” Abbie, Ilene, and Arthur discuss growing up as individuals and as society; growing up as a non-linear, generative spiral; and growing up as acknowledging our own complexity and the complexity of others.
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Fri, 18 Aug 2023 - 63 - Reclaiming Our Full Humanity | Rebekah Taussig | Part 3
What does it mean to live in a body?
What is keeping you from reclaiming your full humanity?
How can we embrace the experience of having a body in a way that empowers us as we age and our bodies change?
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Rebekah Taussig is a Kansas City writer, educator, and parent. Bolstered by academic knowledge and personal experience, she strives to tell stories that enhance and complicate the way we think about disability. You can find her writing on Instagram, in her memoir, or on her website. Listen to Part One of this conversation with Rebekah here. Listen to Part Two of this conversation here.
In part three of this conversation, Abbie and Rebekah wrap up by discussing what makes them feel “awe,” the effects of suffering and disconnection over the past few years on our experiences of “awe,” and the intersection of suffering and joy being the reality of the human experience. Rebekah considers the fear we have around the aging of our bodies and death and how the meaning we attach to these things holds us back. Rebekah talks about the similarities in her experience with disability and her experience becoming a mother and the differences in how the stories we tell about these experiences in society. Finally, Abbie and Rebekah talk next turns: “Ask. Listen. Adapt. Expand”
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Mon, 14 Aug 2023 - 62 - Change Society, Not Us | Rebekah Taussig | Part 2
What is your current understanding of disability? How do you relate to those who are disabled?
How can we move away from the medical model and closer to the social model when it comes to understanding disability?
How can we continue to show up and be curious about conversations surrounding disability, language, and accessibility even when we mess up or feel discouraged?
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Rebekah Taussig is a Kansas City writer, educator, and parent. Bolstered by academic knowledge and personal experience, she strives to tell stories that enhance and complicate the way we think about disability. You can find her writing on Instagram, in her memoir, or on her website. Listen to Part One of this conversation with Rebekah here.
In part two of this conversation, Abbie and Rebekah pick up where they left off, talking about Rebekah’s experience parenting with a disability and what she has learned from other parents with disabilities. Abbie and Rebekah discuss meaning and how we make it, as well as the notion that everything is already an accommodation of one version of the human body, so why is it so hard for us to welcome a few more accommodations that would include other versions of human bodies? Rebekah explains what she means by “collaborative re-imagination” and Abbie asks Rebekah’s thoughts on the word “diff-abled” as a replacement for disabled. Rebekah and Abbie share about their love of language, why it feels deeply personal, and how it changes over time. Finally, Rebekah talks about the differences between the medical and social models and her first teaching experience.
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Mon, 07 Aug 2023 - 61 - The Power of Seeing Yourself Represented in Stories | Rebekah Taussig | Part 1
What does it mean to you to see yourself represented in stories?
How can we find the courage to tell our stories, knowing that it matters for us to tell them?
What is the story that you want to tell about yourself? How is it different from the story the world is telling you?
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Rebekah Taussig is a Kansas City writer, educator, and parent. Bolstered by academic knowledge and personal experience, she strives to tell stories that enhance and complicate the way we think about disability. You can find her writing on Instagram, in her memoir, or on her website.
Today, Rebekah shares about her experience growing up and the stories (or lack thereof) that most shaped her. Abbie and Rebekah discuss the idea of “pluralistic truths” and how it can be harder but also truer to acknowledge the many stories and meanings that exist at the same time. Rebekah talks about when she first began to hear stories that reflected her experience as a person using a wheelchair, why she started to share her own story more widely, and the connections that came as a result of it. Finally, Rebekah and Abbie consider the idea that we have choices about the kinds of stories we tell about ourselves.
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Mon, 31 Jul 2023 - 60 - Healthy Masculinity | Burton Patterson | Part 2
Please be aware this conversation contains references to sexual assault and gender-based violence.
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How can you practice approaching defensiveness with curiosity in yourself and others?
How can we begin to embrace our full humanity by allowing ourselves to engage in all ways of being, not just the ones that were assigned to us based on our sex?
What is a small thing you can do this week to create a next turn/ ripple from this conversation?
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Burton Patterson is a social worker by trade with experience in the fields of Harm Reduction and Mental Health and Addiction, Sexual Violence Prevention, and Healthy Sexual Education. He specializes working with male-identifying folks in gender-based violence prevention.
Watch the Ted Talk from Tony Porter the Burton references in this conversation: A Call to Men
Listen to Part One with Burton here.
Today, Burton shares stories about his experience educating groups of young men about toxic masculinity, rape culture, and gender-based violence. Abbie and Burton discuss the ripple effect (and how it’s true for both helpful and harmful behaviors), the importance of meeting defensiveness with curiosity, and the ways to use challenges as educational moments. Burton explains the difference between toxic and healthy masculinity. Abbie and Burton explore the way meaning is made when it comes to “femininity” and “masculinity.” Abbie wonders about the ways that the small things add up to the big things and how that can help us understand how our ideas around gender formed and Burton uses the metaphor of pulling people out of a river to describe the relationship between prevention and intervention and why we need both. Finally, Abbie asks Burton what new stories we can start telling about gender to create a better social world for all of us.
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Mon, 24 Jul 2023 - 59 - Gender, Socialization & Calling In | Burton Patterson | Part 1
Please be aware this conversation contains references to sexual assault and gender-based violence.
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What ideas about gender have you learned from your culture, peers, and family?
How can you find ways to call people in instead of calling them out?
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Burton Patterson is a social worker by trade with experience in the fields of Harm Reduction and Mental Health and Addiction, Sexual Violence Prevention, and Healthy Sexual Education. He specializes working with male-identifying folks in gender-based violence prevention.
Watch this Ted Talk from Tony Porter for more context on today's conversation: A Call to Men
In this conversation, Burton shares his story, including what it was like to grow up in a family of “helpers,” how he learned to see people as people, and why he transitioned from helping on the intervention side of things to the prevention side. Abbie and Burton discuss the narratives around gender that we internalize (whether we recognize it or not). Burton explains why the conversation around gender-based violence and sexual assault is not simply a “women’s issue,” why calling people in is more effective than calling people out, and why even the smallest moments matter in the ripple effect. Abbie and Burton explore “The Man Box” and why it is vital to understand instances of sexual assault as parts of a larger pattern rather than individual events. Finally, Burton gives advice on what it looks like to call people in.
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Mon, 17 Jul 2023 - 58 - The Journey is the Destination | Mike Hemphill | Part 2
Whether or not we consider ourselves "creative" or "leaders," how can we still find ways to create and lead?
How do we make decisions? How can we let go of thinking we could possibly know which decision is 'right' before making the decision?
What does it look like to "communicate for communication's own sake"?
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Mike is the Director of Leadership Development for the Clinton Foundation and co-directs the Presidential Leadership Scholars program. He is also a Professor of Practice at the Clinton School of Public Service where he teaches courses on communication and the leadership of social change. Listen to Part One with Dr. Mike Hemphill.
Today, Mike and Abbie continue their conversation about cosmopolitan communication. Mike talks about the importance of mindfulness and reflection, how practicing leadership in the small moments is the best way to prepare yourself to be a leader in the more critical moments, and why anyone can lead. Abbie and Mike discuss making decisions differently, letting emotions permeate, and pluralistic truths. Mike shares his favorite saying: "the journey is the destination" and what it means to him. Finally, Abbie and Mike exchange some ways to acknowledge ineffective patterns and create new ones in our relationships. Please note that this conversation was recorded prior to the United States Supreme Court's June 29, 2023 decision on affirmative action, which makes it unlawful for colleges to take race into consideration as a specific factor in admissions.
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Mon, 10 Jul 2023 - 57 - Where Does Meaning Come From? | Mike Hemphill | Part 1
How do we, as a community of individuals with individual experiences, thoughts, and feelings, come together to create shared meaning?
How has our understanding of communication evolved to more accurately encompass the complexities and nuances of human relationships?
How do we fool ourselves into believing "the illusion of stability"? And how can we learn to embrace mystery instead?
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Mike is the Director of Leadership Development for the Clinton Foundation and co-directs the Presidential Leadership Scholars program. He is also a Professor of Practice at the Clinton School of Public Service where he teaches courses on communication and the leadership of social change.
Today, Mike introduces himself and shares about the experiences that have shaped him. Mike and Abbie discuss how they define communication, consider how meaning is made, and explore what it means to be both a scholar and a practitioner of communication. Finally, Mike talks about "the paradigm of communication."
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Mon, 03 Jul 2023 - 56 - Invitations & Possibilities | Ilene Wasserman & Jeff Branch | Part 2
How can we use our individual relationships to make a difference in our larger social worlds?
How can we promote healing and growth in our relationships?
How can we learn to be agile and lead with emergence in our lives?
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Listen to Part One with Ilene and Jeff here.
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Dr. Ilene Wasserman is the Founder and President of ICW Consulting. Ilene is on the Board of Stewards for the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. She has been on the cutting edge of practice and research in strength-based methodologies, capacity building, and relational leadership, that engage diversity, create equity, and fosters inclusive cultures.
Dr. Jeff Branch, Principal with ICW Consulting Group, LLC is an organization development, change, executive coach, and DEIBJ consultant. Jeff also practices as Chair of graduate programs utilizing inquiry, dialogue, and systems thinking to support multi-level system development and high performance.
Ilene and Jeff are passionate about creating and sharing diversity, inclusion, and social justice initiatives with organizations at the personal, group, system, and community levels. They model transparency and value discovery, connection, care, and love. Ilene and Jeff understand the work it takes to create safe spaces for meaningful dialogue to occur.
Today, Ilene, Jeff, and Abbie continue their conversation about community, curiosity, and inclusion. Ilene and Jeff share stories of their experience working with organizations, including the importance of internal partnerships in their work. Abbie asks Ilene and Jeff what it looks like for them to embody the values of dialogue, collaboration, and inclusion. Jeff and Ilene explain what it means to be "Cha-ordic," what it means to be mindful, and what it means to engage in "mutual transformative learning." Finally, Ilene and Jeff share their visions of a better social world.
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Mon, 26 Jun 2023 - 55 - Sparking Community | Ilene Wasserman & Jeff Branch | Part 1
How do we create spaces where people feel, not just safe enough but also, brave enough to share their most vulnerable stories and selves?
How can we learn to manage the tension that arises when we start having new and challenging conversations?
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Dr. Ilene Wasserman is the Founder and President of ICW Consulting. Ilene is on the Board of Stewards for the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. She has been on the cutting edge of practice and research in strength-based methodologies, capacity building, and relational leadership, that engage diversity, create equity, and fosters inclusive cultures.
Dr. Jeff Branch, Principal with ICW Consulting Group, LLC is an organization development, change, executive coach, and DEIBJ consultant. Jeff also practices as Chair of graduate programs utilizing inquiry, dialogue, and systems thinking to support multi-level system development and high performance.
Ilene and Jeff are passionate about creating and sharing diversity, inclusion, and social justice initiatives with organizations at the personal, group, system, and community levels. They model transparency and value discovery, connection, care, and love. Ilene and Jeff understand the work it takes to create safe spaces for meaningful dialogue to occur.
Today, Ilene and Jeff introduce themselves and share some stories that shaped them. Ilene discusses identity and how her understanding of identity was first formed. Jeff talks about how he thinks in terms of "episodes" and how he has always been guided by curiosity. Abbie, Ilene, and Jeff explore their first experiences interacting with people from different backgrounds and learning about diversity. Ilene explains what "innovative communities" and "inclusive communication" at the workplace means to her. Finally, Abbie asks Ilene and Jeff to describe what it means to them to "spark community."
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Mon, 19 Jun 2023 - 54 - Strategies for Changing Interpretation | Karen & Sonja Foss | Part 3
How can we be asking ourselves, "Is this a world in which I want to be living?" What do we do when the answer is "no"?
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Karen A. Foss is Regents’ Professor Emeritus of Communication at the University of New Mexico. Her work expands the boundaries of communication to incorporate and legitimatize feminist perspectives. She is the author of COLOR Up to Create the Life You Want to Live.
Sonja K. Foss is Professor Emeritx of Communication at the University of Colorado Denver. She has been on the forefront of scholarship on agency, change, and communication from feminist perspectives. Her books include Inviting Transformation.
Together, Karen and Sonja have authored Feminist Rhetorical Theories, Gender Stories, and Feminism in Practice.
Today, Abbie, Karen, and Sonja discuss "interpretation" as the core of Karen and Sonja's work and lives. Karen and Sonja present strategies for making new choices, including reframing, appreciation, enactment, and more. Abbie, Karen, and Sonja discuss what it means to "live today as you want the world to be," what it means to always be denying reality, and what it means to "joyfully allow." Finally, Abbie expresses appreciation for the ways that Karen and Sonja have made these important ideas accessible, asks about what it's like for Karen and Sonja to work so closely, and considers what this work means for what a better social world looks like.
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Mon, 12 Jun 2023 - 53 - Invitational Rhetoric | Karen & Sonja Foss | Part 2
How can we communicate in a way that acts as an invitation for others?
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Karen A. Foss is Regents’ Professor Emeritus of Communication at the University of New Mexico. Her work expands the boundaries of communication to incorporate and legitimatize feminist perspectives. She is the author of COLOR Up to Create the Life You Want to Live.
Sonja K. Foss is Professor Emeritx of Communication at the University of Colorado Denver. She has been on the forefront of scholarship on agency, change, and communication from feminist perspectives. Her books include Inviting Transformation.
Together, Karen and Sonja have authored Feminist Rhetorical Theories, Gender Stories, and Feminism in Practice.
Today, Abbie, Karen, and Sonja discuss the importance of remembering our choices when it comes to both feminism and communication. Abbie explores the connection between Karen and Sonja's understanding of feminism and CMM, comparing the process of understanding, critiquing, and transforming with the CMM-ish process of imagination, genuine inquiry, and embodiment (presented by Alex Jagiello in Ep. 22). Karen and Sonja describe the feminist values of equality, self-determination, and immanent value. Finally, Abbie, Karen, and Sonja consider caring wildly about the things we care about as an "ethical version of persuasion."
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Mon, 05 Jun 2023 - 52 - Feminisms & Communication | Karen & Sonja Foss | Part 1
How can we better include the experiences of women in our understanding of communication?
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Karen A. Foss is Regents’ Professor Emeritus of Communication at the University of New Mexico. Her work expands the boundaries of communication to incorporate and legitimatize feminist perspectives. She is the author ofCOLOR Up to Create the Life You Want to Live.
Sonja K. Foss is Professor Emeritx of Communication at the University of Colorado Denver. She has been on the forefront of scholarship on agency, change, and communication from feminist perspectives. Her books includeInviting Transformation.
Together, Karen and Sonja have authored Feminist Rhetorical Theories, Gender Stories, and Feminism in Practice.
Today, Karen and Sonja share the story of how they came to be so passionate about the intersection of feminism and communication. Abbie, Karen, and Sonja discuss the need to rethink the assumptions of theories in the discipline of communication that are based on the historic communication patterns of men. Karen and Sonja offer a definition of feminism, including the roles of understanding, critique, and transformation. Finally, Karen and Sonja explain some of the different types of feminisms.
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Mon, 29 May 2023 - 51 - Plan for Emergence | Sergej van Middendorp | Bonus Episode Reflection
What are you still thinking about from our conversation with Stephanie Higgs?
What questions do you still have after our conversation with Chris Wells and Emma Nicholson?
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Today, Abbie is joined by Sergej van Middendorp, a member of the CMM Institute's Board of Stewards, to reflect on the conversations Abbie previously had with Stephanie Higgs (Part 1 & Part 2) and Chris Wells and Emma Nicholson (Part 1 & Part 2). In this conversation, Sergej shares his own experience with learning about the label of "giftedness." Abbie and Sergej discuss the relationship between difference and sameness, and the ways that each showed up in the conversations with Stephanie, Chris, and Emma. Abbie and Sergej explore what it means to "complicate the narrative," how we can embrace that paradox of "planning for emergence," and looking back while at the same time looking forward.
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Fri, 26 May 2023 - 50 - Pronouns & Labels | Jennifer Furlong | A Model for Navigating Polarizing Topics | Part 3
What is the difference between leaning in and opting out of conversations that feel tricky to navigate?
When we do not feel that we understand the beliefs that someone holds, how can we stay in conversation and push through to find the story behind that belief, which inevitably gives us the best chance at finding shared understanding?
How can we make small (but significant) changes in our language so that we are inviting others into conversation instead of shutting down dialogue?
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Jennifer Arvin Furlong is a highly-rated communication/media specialist with 30 years of experience in the communication industry and 18 years of experience teaching in higher education. She is the author of Mini-Handbook for Jackasses: Communication & Relationships and co-author of the #1 Amazon international best seller, Cracking the Rich Code. She is a TEDx speaker and coach and host of the Communication TwentyFourSeven Podcast. She is a Marine Corps veteran, a first-generation college graduate (B.A. and M.A. in Communication), a mom, and a breast cancer survivor.
Today, Jennifer and I wrap up our conversation by exploring some topics that tend to provoke strong (and very different) opinions. We begin by referring to the Platinum Rule ("treat others the way they want to be treated") and how we might live that out. My hope for this episode is that it may act as a model of what it can look like to lean into challenging and potentially polarizing conversations. I imagine that you may feel some discomfort during this conversation. I invite you to lean in with us and to spend some time examining your own reactions in the hopes of learning more about yourself and others. I ask that you pay special attention to the ways in which Jennifer and I choose curiosity and how that opens us up to understand each other better. In this conversation, Jennifer and I explore the role that labels play in our society (both the good and the not so good), some of the stories that shaped Jennifer’s beliefs around gender and meaning, and the ways we can use curiosity to create connection instead of disconnection. As you reflect on your own values during this conversation, and hear some of ours, I encourage you to read my Values Statement.
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Mon, 22 May 2023 - 49 - Perspective, Paying Attention & The Platinum Rule | Jennifer Furlong | Part 2
Who are you inviting to your table? Who or what do you need to disinvite?
What changes if we really start to believe that communication is not just about talking? How can we create change simply by listening and paying attention?
How can we find a balance between advocating for our own stories and making space for the very different stories of others? How can we learn to collaborate with others rather than over-accommodating or over-dominating in relationships?
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Jennifer Arvin Furlong is a highly rated communication/media specialist with 30 years of experience in the communication industry and 18 years of experience teaching in higher education. She is the author of Mini-Handbook for Jackasses: Communication & Relationships and co-author of the #1 Amazon international best seller, Cracking the Rich Code. She is a TEDx speaker and coach and host of the Communication TwentyFourSeven Podcast. She is a Marine Corps veteran, a first-generation college graduate (B.A. and M.A. in Communication), a mom, and a breast cancer survivor. Listen to Part One of our conversation with Jennifer here: Communicating to Understand and be Understood | A Conversation with Jennifer Furlong.
Today, Jennifer talks about her experience of taking her wedding ring off for the first time after her divorce, letting herself feel all the emotions instead of acting like they don’t exist, and writing a new story for herself. Abbie and Jennifer discuss “intrapersonal communication” and the stories Jennifer was taught about emotions and relationships. Jennifer explains the importance of being “audience-centered,” considering frames of reference, and listening attentively. Finally, Abbie and Jennifer explore the Platinum Rule (“treat others the way they want to be treated”) as a way to create meaningful interactions.
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Mon, 15 May 2023 - 48 - Communicating to Understand & be Understood | Jennifer Furlong | Part 1
What are the possibilities of communication? What are the limits? How does understanding both bring us peace about what is outside of our control?
How can we seek to “respond” instead of “reacting”? What is the difference between “responding” and “reacting”?
What if we let go of the idea of trying to control the way that others communicate and instead focus on controlling our own communication in the hopes that it might be what sets the example for others?
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Jennifer Arvin Furlong is a highly rated communication/media specialist with 30 years of experience in the communication industry and 18 years of experience teaching in higher education. She is the author of Mini-Handbook for Jackasses: Communication & Relationships and co-author of the #1 Amazon international best seller, Cracking the Rich Code. She is a TEDx speaker and coach and host of the Communication TwentyFourSeven Podcast. She is a Marine Corps veteran, a first-generation college graduate (B.A. and M.A. in Communication), a mom, and a breast cancer survivor.
In this conversation, Jennifer shares stories of some pivotal moments in her life, including joining the Marine Corps, working as a journalist, and starting her own company. Abbie and Jennifer discuss their shared love of communication and the importance of developing the communication skills and perspective to engage in tricky (but meaningful) conversations. Jennifer and Abbie explore “communicating about how we communicate,” letting go of old stories, and writing new ones. Finally, Jennifer defines communication in her own words.
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Mon, 08 May 2023 - 47 - Authenticity, Accessibility & Staircases | Chris Wells & Emma Nicholson | Part 2
Please be aware that this conversation contains discussion of suicide, addiction, and mental illness.
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How might we use the Theory of Positive Disintegration and CMM to equip ourselves to lean into the challenge of deconstructing and reconstructing our values?
What makes you feel empowered to take control of your own narrative? How can you seek out language, tools, and community that encourages that? How can you yourself empower others to do the same?
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Dr. Chris Wells is a writer, social worker, and founder of the Dabrowski Center, a nonprofit organization dedicated to advancing the Theory of Positive Disintegration (TPD). She's also the co-host of the Positive Disintegration Podcast.
Emma is the co-host of the Positive Disintegration Podcast, and creates content for people learning about the Theory of Positive Disintegration for her website Tragic Gift, and YouTube channel, Adults With Overexcitabilities.
Chris explains the distinction between disintegration and positive disintegration by sharing her own experience. Emma and Chris talk about the “authentic voice,” multilevel and unilevel disintegration, and the importance of supportive relationships. Abbie explains the similarities she sees between CMM and TPD, including the balance of personal power and uncontrollable context, the need for reflection, and the process of meaning-making. Finally, Abbie, Chris, and Emma discuss their shared passions for making the content of their theories accessible to people, so that we can climb the stairs for ourselves and at the same time, turn around and help other people do the same.
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Mon, 01 May 2023 - 46 - Positive Disintegration & Overexcitability | Chris Wells & Emma Nicholson | Part 1
What is Giftedness? What is Overexcitability? What is the Theory of Positive Disintegration?
What if we stopped trying to “fix” ourselves and started trying to change the world around us instead?
How can we start to challenge the framework we have about cognition and emotion? How can we work together to co-create a new framework that honors emotions better?
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Dr. Chris Wells is a writer, social worker, and founder of the Dabrowski Center, a nonprofit organization dedicated to advancing the Theory of Positive Disintegration (TPD). She's also the co-host of the Positive Disintegration Podcast.
Emma is the co-host of the Positive Disintegration Podcast, and creates content for people learning about the Theory of Positive Disintegration for her website Tragic Gift, and YouTube channel, Adults With Overexcitabilities.
Today, Emma and Chris share some stories about themselves, including their relationships to the Theory of Positive Disintegration (TPD) and their own experiences with disintegrating. Chris and Emma explain giftedness, overexcitability, and dynamisms. Abbie, Emma, and Chris discuss stereotypes, “spurs to self-correction,” and what it could look like to transform overexcitability in order to live with intense experiences. Finally, Emma and Chris break down the Theory of Positive Disintegration.
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Mon, 24 Apr 2023 - 45 - Defining Diversity, Equity & Inclusion | Paul Porter | Part 2
Why is language so important? How does language empower us in our creation of social worlds?
How can we let go of a scarcity mindset in favor of a mindset of abundance? How can we see the stories of others as adding something important rather than taking something away from us?
What does it actually look like to make more space for people and their stories? How can we start to recognize the systemic ways that certain stories have been left out? How can we start to “build a bigger table”?
Instead of dismissing our vision as unrealistic or unattainable, how can we learn to use imagination and hope as tools to make our dreams a reality?
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Dr. Paul Porter is the Director of Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion for the National Speech and Debate Association (NSDA). Like Abbie, Paul graduated from Ball State University and was a member of the Ball State Speech Team. Paul went on to earn his Master’s in Communication and Rhetorical Studies at Eastern Michigan University and his Ph.D. in Educational Leadership from Indiana State University. Paul has worked on the development of programs and initiatives designed to help create inclusive environments for diverse student populations, as well as diversity strategic plans and program assessments. Paul has presented on topics such as multicultural competence and unconscious bias across the state of Indiana and nationwide.
In part two of this conversation, Paul shares his experience with Speech in high school and college. Abbie and Paul discuss how similar experiences shaped who they are today. Paul talks about when he first learned what ADHD and depression are, when he was diagnosed, and how this language changed how he saw himself. Abbie and Paul consider what it looks like to really live out values around diversity, equity, and inclusion on a personal and organizational level. Paul and Abbie use the metaphor of a salad to explore the nuances of diversity, representation, and privilege of stories. Paul explains the theory of Social Change Disruption and how we can embrace “disrupting the status quo for the greater good.” Finally, Abbie and Paul discuss what a better social world looks like through the lens of DEI.
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"If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to each other” -Mother Teresa
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Mon, 17 Apr 2023 - 44 - Multicultural Competence in Complex Social Worlds | Paul Porter | Part 1
What is “multicultural competence”? And why do we need it?
What are the real ways that we can embrace the complexity of our experiences?
How do we manage an ever-evolving social world?
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Dr. Paul Porter is the Director of Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion for the National Speech and Debate Association (NSDA). Like Abbie, Paul graduated from Ball State University and was a member of the Ball State Speech Team. Paul went on to earn his Master’s in Communication and Rhetorical Studies at Eastern Michigan University and his Ph.D. in Educational Leadership from Indiana State University. Paul has worked on the development of programs and initiatives designed to help create inclusive environments for diverse student populations, as well as diversity strategic plans and program assessments. Paul has presented on topics such as multicultural competence and unconscious bias across the state of Indiana and nationwide.
Today, Abbie and Paul discuss shared stories around their experience with speech, the subjectivity of success and failure, and meaning-making in Paul’s life. Paul shares some stories from his life to help contextualize his perspective in this conversation. Paul explores his “bittersweet” relationship with the role of father figures and why he is so passionate about investing in young people. Paul and Abbie discuss gray areas, cognitive schemas, and puzzles. Finally, Paul shares his journey into the world of communication, from his 3rd grade tests to his high school morning announcements. We end this conversation on a cliffhanger; join us again next week for Part Two of this conversation with Paul.
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Mon, 10 Apr 2023 - 43 - Absurdity, Anti-Semitism & Shared Humanity | Zev Burton | Part 2
How can we recognize the complexity of our social worlds by understanding the role of humor in moments of pain, suffering, and oppression?
How might we make space for stories that are different than our own? And how might we begin to see all stories as contributing to the never-ending story of what it means to be human?
What does it mean for people to "have the necessities they need for the opportunity to thrive"? How can we create a better social world that accomplishes this?
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Zev Burton is a student, author, and all-around curious person. Zev graduated with a Bachelor’s in International Security from Georgetown University in 2022. He is now working on a Master’s in Data Science and Analysis. Zev has written a book on the intersection of humor and political events called Two Fish in a Tank: How Jokes Can Give Hope to a Fractured World. Zev also uses his platform on TikTok to discuss social issues, focusing on the performance and effects of Anti-Seminitism.
Today, Abbie and Zev continue their conversation about humor, discussing humor as a societal coping mechanism; the role of parody and satire throughout history; and the distinction between “making light of things” and a type of humor that actually stems from a depth of understanding of pain and suffering as a part of the human experience. Zev talks about humor as a political tool used to educate, empower, and inspire. Abbie considers the conversation through the lens of meaning-making. Zev explains his platform on TikTok and how he hopes to turn “views” into understanding, empathy, and action. Abbie and Zev explore the perspective Zev has developed as a Jewish person (among a number of other identities) and his experience with fighting anti-semitism online. Finally, Abbie and Zev discuss the new stories that Zev is trying to share about Judaism, the struggle to claim space and be heard, and why Zev’s “better social world” is one where everyone has the opportunity to prosper and create.
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Mon, 27 Mar 2023 - 42 - Data Storytelling & The Power in Responding to Oppression with Humor | Zev Burton | Part 1
What is the role of data in our lives? How does data tell a story? How can we better understand it and use it ethically to create a better social world?
How does humor allow us to subvert expectations in a way that is empowering? What can we change when we begin to believe this?
How can we deepen our understanding of political events by using a communication perspective to consider meaning-making, context, and storytelling?
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Zev Burton is a student, author, and all-around curious person. Zev graduated with a Bachelor’s in International Security from Georgetown University in 2022. He is now working on a Master’s in Data Science and Analysis. Zev has written a book on the intersection of humor and political events called Two Fish in a Tank: How Jokes Can Give Hope to a Fractured World. Zev also uses his platform on TikTok to discuss social issues, focusing on the performance and effects of Anti-Seminitism.
Today, Abbie and Zev discuss their shared background in Speech and Debate and what it means to them. Zev shares his academic journey, explaining what the fields of International Security and Data Science and Analysis are, why he is convinced they matter, and how he sees them as working hand in hand. Abbie and Zev explore the ethics of data collection and use. Zev talks about his research on the topic of mass murders and the stories we tell (and don’t tell) about them. Zev explains his passion, not exactly for data itself, but for the insights that data provides. Abbie and Zev explore the meaning-making that happens in data analysis. Finally, Abbie and Zev begin to talk about the communication perspective Zev uses in his book, the process of conceptualizing and writing the book, and how the use of humor can be a powerful tool for resisting oppression.
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Mon, 20 Mar 2023 - 41 - Surviving Child Loss One Turn at a Time | Michelle Colpean | Part 2
How do we do ourselves a disservice by oversimplifying grief and limiting what we consider to be "appropriate" responses and "acceptable" expressions of it?
Instead of saying, "let me know what I can do to help," how can we answer our own question by using our empathy and creativity to show up for the people we love in the depths of grief?
What does it do for us to see moments of pain and suffering as an opportunity for connection rather than disconnection?
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Dr. Michelle Colpean is a communication professor at the University of Cincinnati. She received her Bachelor's in Psychology and Master's in Communication Studies from Ball State University and her Ph.D. in Communication Studies (Rhetoric) from the University of Iowa. She is the mother of Sami, who passed away suddenly on January 12, 2021, at 8 months old, and Salma, who is about to turn 1 year old. Michelle uses her background in communication to help her survive the grief of losing her son and continues to write and present on the topic of grief, among other things. Michelle also makes Personalized Car Charms which she sells on Etsy, to support others in remembering the people they love that they have lost.
Today, Abbie and Michelle discuss Mary Todd Lincoln; the stigma, taboos, and silence that exists around child loss; and the generational shift in understanding and expressing grief around child loss. Michelle shares what support that was offered to her felt helpful and what support did not feel helpful, pointing out that we need to be careful of "recentering" ourselves (the ones offering support) rather than keeping the focus on the person who is grieving and their loss. Abbie and Michelle explore the tendency of people to disengage when faced with something big and intimidating, and why those are the moments when it is more important than ever to lean in and find ways to engage. Michelle shares her thoughts on the communal experiences of both joy and sadness, the need for authenticity with boundaries, and learning to live in survival mode by taking life one turn at a time. Finally, Abbie and Michelle talk about the new story that they hope to be a part of around child loss, for ourselves, and for future generations.
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Mon, 13 Mar 2023 - 40 - Complex Grief, Child Loss & Finding Peace Even Without Answers | Michelle Colpean | Part 1
How do we find peace when there is no sense to be made of our pain?
What can we do to lean into a more complex understanding of loss and grief?
How can we trade platitudes like "everything happens for a reason" for a deeper understanding of the way pain and joy can coexist in our lives?
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Dr. Michelle Colpean is a communication professor at the University of Cincinnati. She received her Bachelor's in Psychology and Master's in Communication Studies from Ball State University and her Ph.D. in Communication Studies (Rhetoric) from the University of Iowa. She is the mother of Sami, who passed away suddenly on January 12, 2021, at 8 months old, and Salma, who is about to turn 1 year old. Michelle uses her background in communication to help her survive the grief of losing her son and continues to write and present on the topic of grief, among other things. Michelle also makes Personalized Car Charms which she sells on Etsy, to support others in remembering the people they love that they have lost.
In this conversation, Michelle talks about the many roles and relationships in her life that define her and how she doesn't try to compartmentalize them. Michelle shares about her son Sami, who passed away when he was 8 months old. Abbie and Michelle discuss how Michelle experiences grief, how her memory was affected during that time, and how she finds meaning in her life now. Importantly, Abbie and Michelle explore the perspective and beauty that Michelle has found after Sami's passing, while questioning the helpfulness of any comment that starts with "at least" and the idea of finding a "silver lining." Finally, Michelle shares her experience of both joy and pain and how she has come to understand their relationship in her life.
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Mon, 06 Mar 2023 - 39 - How Can We Create a New Story About Death and Dying? | Madison Gonzalez | Part 2
Why does a fear of the unknown keep us from leaning into the hard conversations and experiences around death and dying? How can we hold onto the things we can control so that we can feel steady enough to keep leaning into this big thing that we can't?
How can we let go of unhelpful stories and write new ones for ourselves by learning better ways to recognize the deeply human pain we feel around death and better ways to support and show up for those in our life who are dying?
Why do we wait until people are gone to celebrate their lives? How can we find beauty and connection, even in the painful last moments of life?
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Madison Gonzalez is a poet and the author of Dear Mirror; the Executive Director of Morning Light Inc., a non-profit located in Indianapolis, Indiana that provides end-of-life care to those in hospice; a mother to two (very lucky) kids; and Abbie's former babysitter (among many other things). Madison has used her passion for storytelling and her aptitude for event planning to organize fundraising efforts for Morning Light Inc., including the highest-grossing fundraising events in Morning Light history. She also teaches her non-profit communication methods nationally to help other organizations advance their missions as well.
Today, Madison shares about the work that she does with Morning Light Inc., as they provide a home, comfort, and community to those in hospice care with nowhere else to go. Abbie and Madison consider why we tend to "look the other way" when it comes to death and dying and how our culture has contributed to the current systems we have now (and why we might need something new). Madison shares the words from a former resident that guide her ("Too many of us leave this world with our stories untold.") and other stories from the Abbie Hunt Bryce Home. Abbie and Madison talk about the importance of the work of giving people a new story when the one they have been always been told made them believe that no one cared about them. Finally, Abbie and Madison explore some Next Turns to keep this conversation going in our social worlds.
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Mon, 27 Feb 2023 - 38 - Postpartum, Celebration & Creating Connection | Madison Gonzalez | Part 1
How can we embrace celebrating every part of ourselves (even the parts we don't feel like celebrating) as a way to recognize our full humanity?
What connection happens when we share our most vulnerable parts with others, especially when we are still in the middle of figuring them out?
How can we make time to pursue creation (in any of its many forms) as a way to "check-in" with ourselves and reflect?
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Madison Gonzalez is a poet and the author of Dear Mirror; the Executive Director of Morning Light Inc., a non-profit located in Indianapolis, Indiana that provides end-of-life care to those in hospice; a mother to two (very lucky) kids; and Abbie's former babysitter (among many other things). Madison has used her passion for storytelling and her aptitude for event planning to organize fundraising efforts for Morning Light Inc., including the highest-grossing fundraising events in Morning Light history. She also teaches her non-profit communication methods nationally to help other organizations advance their missions as well.
In today's conversation, Madison shares how she learned to stop running from herself and listen to what her Postpartum Depression had to teach her. Abbie and Madison discuss "the creative power of communication" and how we can think of our work and its impact using the metaphor of a dandelion. Madison talks about her book of poetry, Dear Mirror, and what it means to her. Finally, Abbie and Madison discuss the stories the world tells us, how those often become the stories we tell ourselves, and the new kind of story that Madison is hoping to tell herself (and her kids).
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Mon, 20 Feb 2023 - 37 - Teaching Openmindedness, Cultivating Relationships & Setting Boundaries | Stephanie Higgs | Part 2
How do we create meaning through shared language in every space?
Why is it helpful to ask ourselves if what we know is being "Confirmed," "Challenged," or "Changed"?
What does it look like to set boundaries that allow us to say our "Best Yes"?
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Stephanie Higgs is, above all else, a passionate educator. Since graduating with her Master's Degree in Education she has taught pre-K, second grade, and fourth grade; she now works as a gifted educator and differentiation coach, where she supports both students and her fellow teachers in accommodating individual learning needs. In 2021, Stephanie was named the Tennessee Performing Arts Center (TPAC) Teacher of the Year. After 13 years in education, Stephanie is expanding her reach by sharing resources, ideas, and advice for educators around the world on her Instagram page and YouTube channel.
Today, Stephanie shares how learning about self-regulation has helped her heal and find more empathy for herself and others. Abbie and Stephanie talk about the classroom through the lens of social worlds. Stephanie explains Morning Meetings, Themed Walks, and Sunshine Phone Calls, and the ways that these allow her to intentionally create the kind of social world she wants. Finally, Abbie and Stephanie discuss what it means to really believe that "clarity is kindness," how we miss out on connection when we let technology control us, and why it feels so important to start learning to "stop glorifying busy."
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Mon, 13 Feb 2023 - 36 - Unexpected Paths, "Story-Hearing" & Feeling Known | Stephanie Higgs | Part 1
How can we celebrate our own individuality (and the individuality of others) by being honest about our needs, finding unique ways to meet them, and saying out loud the things we appreciate about each other? How can we celebrate children's individuality in school settings and beyond?
What happens when we learn, not only how to tell our own story, but to hear the stories of others as well?
Why does it matter for us to be honest about the things we are struggling with, uncertain of, or just don't know?
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Stephanie Higgs is, above all else, a passionate educator. Since graduating with her Master's Degree in Education she has taught pre-K, second grade, and fourth grade; she now works as a gifted educator and differentiation coach, where she supports both students and her fellow teachers in accommodating individual learning needs. In 2021, Stephanie was named the Tennessee Performing Arts Center (TPAC) Teacher of the Year. After 13 years in education, Stephanie is expanding her reach by sharing resources, ideas, and advice for educators around the world on her Instagram page and YouTube channel.
In this conversation, Stephanie shares her passion for her role as a gifted educator and how it wasn't always the path she saw for herself. Abbie and Stephanie discuss differentiation, what it looks like for her to balance educational standards with individual needs, and the value of the support system of teachers that Stephanie collaborates with. Stephanie shares her teacher's perspective on stories. Stephanie and Abbie talk about their shared love of quotes, how "there are years in life that ask questions, and there are years in life that answer questions," and how Stephanie is handling the question-asking kind of year she is in right now. Finally, Stephanie reflects back on the main theme that emerged during this conversation-- feeling known.
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Mon, 06 Feb 2023 - 35 - Season Two Trailer
Hi. My name is Abbie, this is Stories Lived. Stories Told. and here’s what I know... Everything in our social world is created through communication—communication being the stories we live, the stories we tell, and all the other stories in between; it's the patterns we find ourselves in, the contexts that affect us, the meaning we make, the questions we ask, and how we listen; it’s the choices we make about how we show up to each other, and the spaces we create in ourselves, our relationships, and our communities.
It makes sense then, that the better we are communicating, the better social worlds we can create—social worlds that have more justice, more human dignity, more inclusion and understanding, more creativity, more imagination, and more authenticity and mindfulness.
I have a degree in Interpersonal Communication. And I loved studying it in school. And I don’t think you should have to be a communication scholar to get to know everything I got to learn. After all, all of us are in relationship with each other, communicating in one way or another every moment of every day, building the social worlds we live in through our stories and choices. So, I believe all of us deserve to have access to the tools, skills, and language that comes from taking a communication perspective in your life.
Each week I invite you to join me in conversation with a guest who is working toward a better social world in their own way. My hope is that through these conversations, we can be educated, empowered, and energized as we find our own paths to a better social world.
That you for showing up. Thank you for being curious. Thank you for being a part of this story. And thank you for helping me to welcome in Season 2.
I can’t wait to see what emerges!
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Fri, 20 Jan 2023 - 34 - Looking for Untold Stories, Finding the Meaning & Being the Author of Your Own Story
How do we balance looking back, looking forward, and staying present in our stories?
How do the stories we tell shape us? But more importantly, how do the stories that we DO NOT tell also shape us?
How can we have more empathy and compassion for others by reminding ourselves that we all have Untold Stories?
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In this final Minisode of Season 1, Abbie talks about the complex place that she (and many of us) are in of reflecting on our pasts, asking ourselves "what is next?", and still trying to stay present for the moment we are in all at the same time.
Abbie explores stories as the "smallest common denominator" of our lives--the best way to break down our lives into smaller pieces so we can better examine and understand them. Also, Abbie shares some examples from her own life of how she is learning to navigate her own Untold Stories, and at the same time, remember that others have their own Untold Stories, too. She acknowledges that some Untold Stories will never be told, and what it looks like to be at peace with that; she also talks about the flip side of that, which is "How do we create a safe space for ourselves and others to tell those Untold Stories?" Finally, Abbie discusses our creative relationship with meaning and the "Intent vs. Impact" conversation.
Today, our Next Turn is to keep our eyes peeled for the Untold Stories in our social worlds, to remember our own agency in writing our story, and to find ways to meet people where they are at. Also, Share, Rate, and Review the show on Spotify and Apple Podcasts.
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Fri, 23 Dec 2022 - 33 - Challenging Systems, Empowering Youth & Creating a Secure Society | Aline Mugisho | Part 2
How does fulfilling basic needs through sustainable agriculture also create space for economic freedom, social justice, and personal dignity in Africa?
How is Aline’s work building bridges—for the future and for right now?
What does it do for a society to nurture young people, open itself up to innovation, and reject the idea of a “single story”?
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Aline Mugisho is the Executive Manager of the Innovative Youth in Agriculture Project at the International Institute of Tropical Agriculture (IITA). She has a bachelor's in Journalism and Communication, a master's in Forced Migration Studies, and is currently working on her doctorate at the Willy Brandt School of Public Policy at the University of Erfurt. Equally as important, is her role as a daughter, sister, mother, and mentor. From her time as a journalist until now, Aline has been a fearless advocate for youth, women, and those who have been displaced from their homes.
Today, Aline and Abbie continue their conversation about Aline’s work in sustainable agriculture. Aline educates Abbie about the needs of people in her community and how improved agriculture, production, and access are at the heart of it. Describing the effects of a society that is “as vulnerable as its food,” Aline makes the case for a new job system and a new economic force. Aline shares her approach to building relationships, which involves “not putting ranks between people” and creating “an environment where [people] can tell their side of the story.” Also, Aline shares about the people she serves, expresses her idea of a better social world, and Abbie and Aline discuss “Next Turns.”
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Thu, 08 Dec 2022 - 32 - Finding Peace in Our Internal Worlds, When Our External Worlds are Anything But | Aline Mugisho | Part 1
***Content Warning: Mentions of Sexual Violence***
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How do we understand the parts of our story that we didn't have control over?
How do we heal our communities and ourselves by empowering others?
How do we create the space for innovation when our society is built on injustice and inequality?
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Aline Mugisho is the Executive Manager of the Innovative Youth in Agriculture Project at the International Institute of Tropical Agriculture (IITA). She has a bachelor's in Journalism and Communication, a master's in Forced Migration Studies, and is currently working on her doctorate at the Willy Brandt School of Public Policy at the University of Erfurt. Equally as important, is her role as a daughter, sister, mother, and mentor. From her time as a journalist until now, Aline has been a fearless advocate for youth, women, and those who have been displaced from their homes.
Today, Aline shares some of the stories that shaped her, including her experience fleeing the Democratic Republic of the Congo (DRC) during the Civil War and the way it shaped her, the impact of growing up in a culture that is especially dangerous and disempowering for women, and the power of seeing strength, resilience, and dignity demonstrated in the most unexpected ways. Additionally, Abbie and Aline discuss the importance of making time for quiet reflection in a noisy world, how the small moments add up to create larger narratives that we internalize, and what Aline means when she says that "food in America is overprocessed, but food in Africa is underprocessed."
Join us next week for part two of this conversation, where Aline and Abbie further discuss how sustainable agriculture is at the core of the fight for economic success, social justice, and personal dignity; what Aline has learned from the people she serves; and what those of us who are on the outside of her story should know.
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Fri, 02 Dec 2022 - 31 - Changing the Moment in the Moment, Seeking Clarity Over Certainty & Learning to Listen | John Burnham | Part 2
***Content Warning: Mentions of Sexual Abuse***
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How can you change the moment in the moment?
We know what we don’t want to be…. but what do we want to be?
What else can you listen for?
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John shares his practice for unfreezing yourself when someone kills your imagination; the things he has learned from those he works with, including the resoluteness of the human spirit and experiencing real awe; and how he learned to be less certain and seek clarity instead. Abbie and John discuss making therapy available to everyone, making the kind of therapy the client wants, and making up words (because all words are made up anyway) to better reflect our experiences. Finally, John explains finding a willingness to understand and being deliberate in every interaction and what it means to “Listen to Speak” and “Speak to Listen.”
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Fri, 18 Nov 2022 - 30 - Turning Off Autopilot, Bringing Awareness & Getting Present to Communication
What does it mean to be aware of our communication? How do we become actively engaged?
Can we learn to recognize, acknowledge, note, and be present to our communication in a gentle and neutral way?
How do we control our patterns instead of the other way around?
What are we swimming in?
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Abbie discusses how it might be easier to go on autopilot when it comes to how we communicate, but the way to create a better social world is through awareness; when we start to bring awareness to our communication, it has to be a nonjudgmental awareness; and how we can look at communication, instead of through it by zooming out and taking a new perspective. Abbie explores the first step to making new choices (remember that you have a choice in the first place), the way to control our patterns through bringing awareness to them, and the way that being aware and present one moment at a time helps us to be more resilient in the face of life’s complexities.
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Fri, 04 Nov 2022 - 29 - Unbecoming, Not Knowing & Welcoming In The Unexpected | John Burnham | Part 1
Why are the hardest stories to tell the ones we most need to hear?
How do we balance the stories that others tell about us vs. the stories we tell about ourselves?
When is blame a resource? When is hope a problem?
What does it mean to take a "not knowing position?"
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Today, John shares when he first became a storyteller and why it is important to take the risk of sharing your real, not-so-perfect story so that others feel safe to do the same. Abbie and John discuss learning to appreciate the process of "unbecoming" and celebrating (not judging) others for their experiences and growth; using John's PPRR (Problems, Potential, Resources, and Restraints) to understand the many many layers of everything we do. Finally, Abbie and John explore the wonders of Systemic Therapy, welcoming in the unexpected, good questions, and role-playing interactions.
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Fri, 28 Oct 2022 - 28 - What Do You Mean? Recognizing & Reframing How We Create Meaning
What does it mean that we "create meaning?"
How can we reframe?
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Abbie explains trying out different meanings like trying on a new pair of glasses; bringing attached meaning into the light by saying it out loud and what it can look like to bring others into the conversation and how we can be empowered to do it; and shares one more example for making meaning, managing meaning, and coordinating meaning.
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Fri, 14 Oct 2022 - 27 - Deep Listening: The Power Of Good Listening To Create Deeper Connections
Why does it matter how we show up as listeners in conversation?
What does it mean to create a space for deeper connection?
How can we "listen to others the way that we want to be listened to?"
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Abbie discusses seeing our communication as a dialogue, instead of a monologue; becoming conscious of the subconscious with Active Listening; and moving from hearing to listening, listening to Active Listening, and Active Listening to Deep Listening.
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Fri, 07 Oct 2022 - 26 - Where Do We Start With Climate Action? | Miriam Kashia
Why does it matter how we talk about climate action?
How does better language inspire better action?
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Today, Miriam shares her story, including all the challenges that led her to be where (and who) she is now. Abbie and Miriam discuss the lessons, people, and experiences that transformed Miriam from a concerned citizen to a "climate action warrior" and how Miriam is using her platform to educate and empower us with both. Miriam shares the quote, "We will not give into the fear because it is fear that fuels the darkness" and how she is striving to take on daunting issues with love, truth, and justice. Finally, Abbie and Miriam explore the roles, relationships, and rest that help Miriam stay whole and balanced; Miriam's advice for activists and how her perspective has changed; and what it looks like to lean into the chaos that comes when we start to change our social worlds.
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Fri, 30 Sep 2022 - 25 - How To Change Your Patterns
What are we creating? What do we want to create?
How can we learn to become resilient and flexible, physically, mentally, and emotionally?
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Today, Abbie discusses our CMM Roadmap, considering what else we need to get where we are going. Abbie explores the challenge of beginning to embody CMM and change your patterns, shining light into the darkness of both our healthy and unhealthy patterns, and learning to be gentle with yourself when changing patterns.
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Fri, 16 Sep 2022 - 24 - Communicate Better with Genuine Curiosity
Why does it matter that our curiosity is genuine?How can you look for moments where others approach you with Genuine Curiosity and find opportunities for you to do the same?...Abbie discusses Genuine Curiosity (and how it fits in the process of moving from Imagination to Embodied Realism); Genuine Curiosity as an approach to our relationships, emotions, experiences, and ideas; and using the LUUUUTT model to understand the role of Genuine Curiosity in the practice of CMM.
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Fri, 09 Sep 2022 - 23 - How Do We See People Through Their Patterns? | Alex Jagiello
Why is it important to seek out spaces that encourage learning and critical thinking?
What are imagination, genuine inquiry, and embodied realism? And why do we need them?
How can you cultivate interactions that are meaningful, intelligent, loving, and connected?
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Today, Alex Jagiello shares the story that she is currently telling about herself. Abbie and Alex discuss the relationship between technology, education, and communication as a potential force for good. Alex shares her experience as a CMM Institute Fellow, including the impact of ideas like "felt trust" and the development of MILC.
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Fri, 26 Aug 2022 - 22 - Imagining a Future Society with Cosmopolis 2045
What is the Cosmopolis 2045 project? And how did it start?
How can we pay attention to the "invisible in-between" by re-evaluating whether or not our language is achieving our goals?
What does it mean to engage and both personal and social evolution?
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Today, Abbie discusses the importance of "cosmopolitan communication" and how we can be profoundly open to and respectful of others without giving up our own beliefs. Abbie explains how before we can embody CMM, we first have to imagine what that looks like.
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Fri, 19 Aug 2022 - 21 - Mindful Communication Practices
What is mindfulness?
How can mindfulness help us in our communication?
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Today, Abbie discusses why we need mindfulness to create better social worlds, how collaboration in creating a space encourages storytelling and vulnerability, and what it can mean to bring mindfulness to even the smallest of moments.
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Find Part 1 with Sara here.
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Fri, 05 Aug 2022 - 20 - Deconstructing and Reconstructing | Sara Hayden | Part 2
What does it mean for us to be invited into sacred spaces? What do we believe? And what kind of life do we live as a result?
How can we ask thoughtful questions that give people the space to think more deeply and connect them back to themselves?
How can we lean into the discomfort of deconstructing and reconstructing what we think that we know and believe? How can we acknowledge our ever changing contexts and become more conscious of the way we live?
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Sara shares her story of becoming a minister. Abbie and Sara discuss the difference between chasing a dream that is outside yourself and letting one emerge that already lives inside you. Abbie shares the story of how she came into the world of Interpersonal Communication. Abbie and Sara consider the saying, "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all," whether or not "niceness" is still the measure we want to use, and reconceptualizing the "value" we add to conversations and knowing when to listen and when to stand up for yourself. Sara shares the stories she wants to hear more of and why we need to be intentional about seeking out stories of delight.
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Fri, 29 Jul 2022 - 19 - Peace And Safety In Our Communities | Sara Hayden | Part 1
How do we define ourselves in our communities? How does this build empathy? How do we work together to create a pool of shared meaning?
How do the little moments shape us just as much as the big moments? How can we better engage with bifurcation points and be intentional about how we show up in the little moments?
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Today, Reverend Sara Hayden shares the story she tells about herself and the story that others tell about her. Abbie and Sara discuss the overcorrection that happened between telling women that they can't do things to telling women they can "have it all" and why we need to find peace in believing that we are enough. Sara teaches Abbie about the role of emergent strategy in helping us to meet each other where we are at. Finally, Abbie and Sara explore re-examining the language we use, recognizing the power in naming things, and being brave and vulnerable in creating the space for change.
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Thu, 28 Jul 2022 - 18 - Moving From Theory To Practice And Beyond: The Evolution Of CMM
What is CMM to you?
What does your "better social world" look like?
How does CMM help you get there?
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In this episode Abbie explores one way of understanding how CMM has evolved over the years from an Interpretive Theory, to a Critical Theory, to a Practical Theory, and beyond. Abbie talks about CMM now in our lives as something that can transform us and something we can embody in our own lives. Abbie offers a potential "next phase" for CMM as a Connective Practice because it connects to others and to ourselves.
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The Evolution of CMM
1. Interpretive Theory
2. Critical Theory
3. Practical Theory
4. Spiritual Practice
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Listen to Ep. 4 (LUUUUTT Model) here.
Watch this 2011 Interview with Kim and Barnett here.
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Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution.
Music for Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created by Liv Hukkleberg.
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Fri, 22 Jul 2022 - 17 - Creating Better Social Worlds Through Perspective, Practices & Goals
What is the perspective Coordinated Management of Meaning (CMM) offers us?
What are the practices that we can use to embody CMM?
What are the goals of CMM that influence our choices?
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Today, Abbie discusses three facets of Coordinated Management of Meaning (CMM): perspective, practices, and goals. Abbie explores what changes when we focus on the journey instead of the destination, how we can embrace what it means to be "curious participants," and why it matters that we ask ourselves: "what should we do to make a better social world?"
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Coordinated Management of Meaning (CMM) is a communication theory that claims: "persons-in-conversation co-construct their own social realities, and are simultaneously shaped by the worlds they create." As "persons-in-conversation" we coordinate with others to create patterns of communication; it is up to us to engage intentionally with our stories and with others to create better social worlds.
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Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter.
Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution.
Music for Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created by Liv Hukkleberg.
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Fri, 08 Jul 2022 - 16 - How Do We Set The Next Generation Up For Success? | CosmoKidz Teachers Amy, Nicole & Katrina
What does it look like to make that which is "unseen" into that which is "seen"?
How can we teach kids that what they say and how they feel matters? How do we center kids' voices?
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In this conversation, Abbie is joined by CosmoKidz teachers Amy, Nicole, and Katrina to discuss the ways that using CMM in the classroom has transformed their experiences and thinking. Amy, Nicole, and Katrina share their stories and how they define themselves by their roles as teachers and mothers. Abbie, Katrina, Nicole, and Amy explore what it is like to teach CosmoKidz, how it changes the way they engage with students, and how their kids have surprised them in the ways they are able to interact with each other when given the right tools and language. Finally, Amy, Nicole, and Katrina explain how kids learn empathy, what it means to "SOAR," and the importance of "listening to understand."
Learn more about CosmoKidz here.
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Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter.
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Fri, 01 Jul 2022 - 15 - Social Emotional Learning for Kids Using CosmoKidz
What is CosmoKidz? And what is the goal?
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Today, Abbie explores CosmoKidz-- a social-emotional learning program created by the CMM Insitute, designed to teach children empathy and healthy communication skills. Abbie talks about how CosmoKidz was developed through a collaborative co-construction process involving kids; the value in making the implicit explicit by teaching kids "soft skills" like empathy and communication; and why it is important for kids to learn these skills, language, and tools while they are young (because kids with emotional intelligence grow into adults with emotional intelligence).
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Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter.
Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution.
Music for Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created by Liv Hukkleberg.
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Thu, 23 Jun 2022 - 14 - Reflecting On Conversations And Why Context Matters
What do you need from this podcast?
What adds value to your life? Why?
How do we change how we relate to storytelling and story"hearing"?
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Today, Abbie explores how building an understanding of CMM takes time (thanks for coming back!); why she desires to create a space for authenticity and vulnerability that allows you to be a part of the conversation, rather than just listening in on it; and what it does when we compare our story to others'. Abbie reflects on the conversation she had with her family, how they actively participate in the creation of their shared social world, and why reflection itself is so important. Finally, Abbie shares about perspectives, patterns, and power in our social worlds and 3 ways she hopes to teach CMM through Stories Lived. Stories Told.
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Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter.
Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution.
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Music for Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created by Liz Hukkleberg.
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Thu, 16 Jun 2022 - 13 - The Power of Telling and Hearing Stories | Grandpa JP & Grammie & Mom | Part 2
How are our stories shaped by the presence of love?
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In part two of this conversation, Abbie's Grandpa shares the story he tells about himself. Abbie and Grandpa JP discuss the many roles he has had in his life and how he has found fulfillment in each one, his experience witnessing the power of creating a safe space to share and hear stories, and what storytelling means in their family. Grammie and Grandpa JP share travel advice and life lessons. Abbie's Mom, Grammie, and Grandpa JP all share what a "better social world" looks like to them. Finally, Abbie, her Mom, Grammie, and Grandpa JP talk about the quotes they choose to live their lives by and how their value, wisdom, and perspectives show up in their family.
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Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter.
Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution.
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Mon, 06 Jun 2022 - 12 - How Do We Navigate Family Relationships With Compassion? | Abbie's Mom & Grammie | Part 1
How do we define ourselves by our relationships?
How can we learn to coordinate within our families using grace and compassion?
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Today, Abbie has a very special conversation with her mom (Ann) and grandma (Jeanie). Ann and Jeanie share who they are and some of the stories of their lives. Abbie, Mom, and Grammie discuss what it is like to be part of a storytelling family and where that comes from. Finally, Abbie, Mom, and Grammie look at the ways that CMM shows up in families.
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Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter.
Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution.
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Fri, 03 Jun 2022 - 11 - Coherence, Coordination & Mystery | Collaborating In Communication To Make Meaning
What is Coherence? What is Coordination? What is Mystery? And how can we embody these processes to improve our communication?
How can we become friends with Mystery?
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Today. Abbie explores the importance of learning to meta-communicate in our relationships. Abbie discusses three key elements of the Coordinated Management of Meaning (CMM) theory that can guide us in our interactions-- Coherence (the process of making meaning through storytelling), Coordination (the process of collaborating with others to create better social worlds), and Mystery (the process of embracing the unknown and uncontrollable). Finally, Abbie emphasizes that there is no "right" or "wrong" way to make meaning, communicate, or interact with others, as long as we are seeking to do our best.
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Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter.
Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution.
Music for Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created by Liv Hukkleberg.
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Thu, 26 May 2022 - 10 - Revealing Patterns In Our Communication Using The Serpentine Model
What is the Serpentine Model?
What are Unwanted Repetitive Patterns (URPs)? And how can we acknowledge and avoid them?
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Today, Abbie explores CMM's Serpentine Model, including what it means to be in conversation with others, to be in collaboration with others, and to create patterns (wanted or unwanted) with others. Abbie discusses an example of using the Serpentine Model. Dr. Barbara McKay shares some thoughts on the Serpentine Model. Finally, Abbie offers two ways to put the Serpentine Model to use in our own lives, both as a tool for reflection after a conversation has happened and also as a tool to be used in the moment while a conversation is happening.
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Fri, 20 May 2022 - 9 - Improvisation, Expectations, & Leaving Room For Spontaneity | Rik Spann
How can we leave ourselves open to more spontaneity by letting go of some of our expectations?
How do we suffer when we try to fit ourselves into the mold of "should"? Why do we need personal AND social evolution to create a more welcoming and curious culture?
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Rik Spann is an organizational consultant, applied musicologist, artist, and jazz musician. In his work, he is interested in exploring what happens at the crossroads of various disciplinary fields, including science, art, design, music, theatre, dance, film, and beyond. He also loves to play with weird combinations, humor, paradox, everyday life, blue notes, and stuff that can’t be defined. Rik is the author (with Simon Martin) of Resounding: Introducing an Alternative Metaphor for Organizational Change.
In this conversation, Rik shares his journey into musicology. Abbie and Rik discuss bricolage, expectations, and ultra-stability. Rik and Abbie explore saying 'no' from a deeper 'yes' and how 'and' lets us build something richer. Rik talks about conversational jazz, curiosity, and perspective in his work as an organization consultant. Finally, Rik shares how he is working to create better social worlds through helpful noise.
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Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter.
Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution.
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Thu, 05 May 2022 - 8 - Finding Your Highest Level Context With The Hierarchy Model
What is the Hierarchy Model?
What does it mean to exist in "multiple contexts"?
How can understanding the various contexts that shape us help us in our interactions?
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In this episode, Abbie explores the Hierarchy Model, another of the models presented by the Coordinated Management of Meaning (CMM) communication theory. Dr. Barbara McKay explains her understanding of the Hierarchy Model and how she uses it in her work with couples therapy. Abbie considers the concepts that we are never only telling one story at a time, that we get to choose our own hierarchies, and that we could use CMM and the Hierarchy Model to heal.
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Watch Kim and Barnett Pearce on the Hierarchy Model here.
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Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter.
Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution.
Music for Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created by Liv Hukkleberg.
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Thu, 28 Apr 2022 - 7 - Why Did I Say That? Using The Daisy Model To Understand Context That Shapes Us
What is the Daisy Model?
Why is it important that we recognize the layers of context that shape us?
What is "The Socialized Self"? And how does the Daisy Model help us to understand our moral obligation to ourselves and others?
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Today, Abbie discusses her experience with Imposter Syndrome and how the Coordinated Management of Meaning (CMM) Theory is helping her to trade those feelings of self-doubt for ones of grace and curiosity. Abbie explores how our lives become richer when we seek a deeper understanding of ourselves and others, offers an example of the Daisy Model using herself as the center, and considers the complexity of nature as a helpful metaphor for the complexity of our own lives. Dr. Barbara McKay describes her understanding of the Daisy Model and gives an example from her own life. Finally, Abbie challenges each of us to put the Daisy Model to work by reflecting on moments in our life that did not meet our expectations.
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Thu, 14 Apr 2022 - 6 - How Can We Create New Stories & Patterns In Our Relationships? | Dr. Barbara McKay
What is "perceived oughtness"? How does it show up in our lives? How can we reflect on this force and make new choices?
How can we embody curiosity to understand ourselves and others well?
What is the relationship between "meaning," "action," and "emotion"? How can we come to understand the complex dynamics that exist to find healing for our past and a new way forward for our future?
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Dr. Barbara McKay is a systemic psychotherapist, supervisor, and teacher. She has served on the Board of Trustees for the Association for Family Therapy and the Board of Stewards for the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution. She worked as Director of the Institute of Family Therapy for 13 years. Barbara works with social work leaders to enhance their systemic and communication abilities.
Today, Barbara shares her journey into Systemic Psychotherapy and how she first encountered the Coordinated Management of Meaning (CMM) Theory in her work. Barbara explains "unwanted repetitive patterns" and why it's so important to understand and deconstruct them. Abbie and Barbara explore what it means to be "CMM-ish," what it looks like to bring curiosity into our relationships, and what "cosmopolitan communication" can change in our lives. Both Barbara and Abbie discuss the stories they hold around gender and the ways that CMM shows up in their lives. Finally, Barbara explains how she uses the language and tools of CMM to create better social worlds in her overlapping professional and personal life.
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Stories Lived. Stories Told. is created, produced & hosted by Abbie VanMeter.
Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution.
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Wed, 06 Apr 2022 - 5 - Uncovering The Stories We Don't Tell With The LUUUUTT Model
How are we arriving today? And why does it matter that we ask?
What is the LUUUUTT Model? And how can understanding it help us to see more sides of the story?
How can we apply the LUUUUTT Model in our everyday interactions?
In this episode, Abbie unpacks the LUUUUTT Model and shares an example of applying the model to our everyday interactions. Next Turn: Try it for yourself!
The LUUUUTT Model:
Stories Lived
Unknown Stories
Untold Stories
Unheard Stories
Untellable Stories
Story Telling
Stories Told
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Wed, 30 Mar 2022 - 4 - What Is Abbie's Story? "You Know Who You Are" And Other Things That Matter
How did Abbie's involvement with her high school and college Speech Teams shape her?
Where did Abbie's great love affair with words start? And how do certain quotes make her feel seen and understood?
How is Abbie working to unlearn some old lessons and make some new choices?
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Abbie shares her story, along with some of her favorite quotes and lessons she is learning. Abbie explores her experiences with "people pleasing" and the very vulnerable act of caring about things. Finally, Abbie offers a challenge... How can you share your story (or one of your many many stories) this week? How can you invite others to share theirs with you?
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Abbie's Favorite Quotes:
"At the center of your being you have the answer; you know who you are and you know what you want." -Lao Tzu
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do... It's not just in some of us. It's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others." -Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love (1992)
Thu, 17 Mar 2022 - 3 - We Are "Too Emotional!" | Robbie Williford
How do we own our stories? And how do we tell them in a way that is true to our experience and helps people to better understand us?
What does it mean to be "intentional"? What does it mean to do things that matter "on purpose"? What is the difference?
Why do we edit out the best parts of ourselves to accommodate other people? How do we let go of controlling what other people think?
How can we help to cultivate imagination and push boundaries so that we can live in a world where everyone can thrive?
In this very first conversation episode, Abbie and Robbie discuss the importance of having a "rich inner world," how we can learn to spend time there, and how it can help heal us. Robbie shares what he has learned about grief, shame, regret, and empathy. Abbie asks Robbie about his own experience with the "too" label. Robbie describes his relationship to and understanding of masculinity, plus his hope for others who identify as men. Finally, Robbie shares the stories that matter, the stories he wants to hear more of, and what a better social world looks like to him.
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and here: https://www.bravethecycle.com/
Wed, 02 Mar 2022 - 2 - An Introduction To The Coordinated Management Of Meaning Communication Theory
What is Coordinated Management of Meaning?
What does it mean to be "persons-in-conversation"?
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In this first episode, Abbie gives an overview and introduction to the Coordinated Management of Meaning (CMM) Communication Theory. Abbie explores the way stories coexist in CMM and walks through the 4 central claims of the theory.
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Stories Lived. Stories Told. is an initiative of the CMM Institute for Personal and Social Evolution.
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Tue, 01 Mar 2022 - 1 - Introducing: Stories Lived. Stories Told. A Communication Podcast | Season 1 Trailer
“Hi. My name is Abbie, and you are listening to Stories Lived. Stories Told.--a podcast celebrating humanity and all our stories- the beautiful ones, the messy ones, and the ones that are a little bit of both.
Because here’s what I think: people have thoughts and ideas and feelings about their own lives, the people they love, and the things they are passionate about. But not everyone has been given the space to tell these stories for themselves. This is going to be that space. Together, we will learn to claim agency over our own stories.
The kind of theory or foundation for this podcast is a communication theory called Coordinated Management of Meaning or CMM for short. For many, it is easy to get lost in the big words and complex ideas of theories like CMM. But when you break it down it's not so scary and understanding the practice of it can improve our relationships and our lives. So, it’s worth taking the time to unpack. Really, storytelling and healthy communication is something that everyone deserves to know. My hope is to make this more accessible through the podcast.
In this podcast, you will hear me and some of my friends telling our own stories. I want you dear listener to be empowered to do the same. Pay attention to what it feels like to hear others give voice to their stories. Pay attention to what it feels like as you begin to give voice to your own stories, too.
So lean in. Take a deep breath. Know that this will be uncomfortable at times, and vulnerable all the time. Remember you live your story, so you have the right and the privilege to tell your story. You know what is true. You are capable. You are brave. And you have intelligent things to say. I’m so glad that you are joining us for Stories Lived. Stories Told.”
Fri, 18 Feb 2022
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