The Less Stressed Lawyer

There are many reasons we suffer emotionally, but one of the most common sources of emotional suffering comes from the expectations that we have. So, what is the easiest and most effective way of reducing our suffering? We change our expectations.

Tune in this week to discover how changing your expectations will help you feel better in your life. You’ll learn how great expectations are disrupting your happiness, and I share how to reduce your emotional suffering by better aligning your expectations in a more helpful way.

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Mirror judgments have come up on the podcast before, but I’m diving deeper in today’s episode. A mirror judgment is a judgment that you have about another person that you also have of yourself. So, you judge a person for something and then subconsciously, you’re judging yourself for it at the same time. 

Tune in this week as I break down what a mirror judgment is, teach why it’s important to identify them, and show you what to do with your mirror judgments. You’ll learn how to spot mirror judgments when they come up for you, and most importantly, you’ll discover how to get out of this place of judging both yourself and other people.

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Something I’ve noticed about humans is that, oftentimes, they aren’t willing to help themselves first. It’s great that we live in a world where you can ask for help when you’re having a problem, but have you ever stopped to consider whether you’re helping yourself first?

Tune in this week to start committing to helping yourself first. You have to be the person most willing to solve your problems, and you’ll learn today why other people don’t have the long-term solution to your problems, and I show you what you need to do to help yourself first and create meaningful change in your life.

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Committing to the finish makes a massive difference in how you approach your goals and pursue the life you want to live. I watch too many people make lavish plans and deeply commit to getting started on them, feeling excited and motivated to take consistent action, until things don’t go exactly as they’d expected.

Tune in this week to discover how to start committing to the finish. I discuss the problem with telling yourself you’re ‘trying’, share why you’re struggling to fully commit yourself until the finish, and you’ll learn how to pursue your goals from a place of being fully committed to the finish.

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When you’re making a decision, you’re confronted with the options available to you. You make a choice, and as time unfolds, you see the consequences of your decisions. However, what I often see people doing is picking apart their decisions before they make them, looking for all the potential issues that could arise from their choice. In doing this, they create an alternate reality where the option that they didn’t choose would have led to better outcomes. This is the Sliding Doors Fallacy at work. This week, you’ll learn how to stop punishing yourself by wondering how different things in your life could look.

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Of all the lies I notice my clients telling themselves, one stands out to me. They look at other people and think that whatever they’re dealing with, they’re uniquely situated, and it’s easier for them. This came up recently when I was coaching on time management and my client said, “Isn’t it just easy for some people?”

Tune in this week to discover the problem with thinking, “It’s easier for them…” and how to see why this isn’t actually true. I’m showing you the real difference between you and those who are more successful than you or better in a specific area, and you’ll learn how to see what you can do moving forward to level the playing field.

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When you’re in a situation you don’t like, it’s normal to look for the faults and focus on all the negativity. But you have two other options available here: get out of it, or get into it. Getting into it may take more effort than just going with the flow, but it truly changes everything and allows you to create a life you truly love.

If you’re in a romantic relationship that doesn’t feel like it’s working right now, you’re in a challenging friendship, or you are having difficulty at work and you don’t want to just quit, tune in this week to learn how to get into it and make a concerted effort to have a positive influence over the world around you. You’ll be amazed at what you can create for yourself when you get into it.

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The idea of being deserving is a topic that comes up often in my coaching calls. From what I’ve observed, using the thought framework of whether or not we’re deserving of what we want is completely unhelpful and overcomplicated, so I’m offering you a new way to approach whatever it is you desire most.

Join me on this episode to hear the two different ways most people struggle with the idea of being deserving, and how to start auditing your relationship with deserving energy. I’m sharing examples of how both entitlement and unworthiness manifest in your life, and my top tips for creating an empowering experience for yourself as you go after what you want. 

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The thoughts we think really do matter, and they have the power to transform our experience of anything in our lives. Whatever you’re going through right now, you have the ability to think to yourself, “This is happening for me…” and when you do, you can approach your problems with a whole new perspective.

Discover how this one thought can totally transform your experience of what you perceive to be a negative situation. I’m showing you how to spot where you need to think more thoughts like this, and giving you everything you need to get positive results out of any situation you’re dealing with.

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Nobody is going to give you permission to set big goals, to chase big dreams, and to live an over-the-top life. Nobody is going to tell you it’s OK for you to want and have more for your life; you have to give that permission to yourself. You don’t have to need something to go after it, you can chase a dream simply because you want to, and I’m showing you how this week.

If you know you want more for your life, but you are hesitating to go after it, this episode is for you. This week, I show you why you need to give yourself permission to want and have more and what needs to change in order for you to pursue a life you truly love. Discover why up-leveling is available to you right now and how to stop tolerating parts of your life you don’t love and start truly loving your life. 

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Most people think of business development as a massive challenge. However, that’s just because they never learned how to create clients and money on demand. So, if you want to develop a stronger, more profitable business, this is a must-listen episode.

Tune in this week to dive deep into business development. I’m sharing exactly what you need to do to create a thriving business, a blueprint for developing your business effectively, and you’ll learn tons of practical tips and strategies that you can go implement in your own business right now!

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You might think it’s too late to set your intentions and figure out a plan for 2024, however, now is the perfect time to kick your year into action. It’s a New Year, we’re back at it after a break, and today, I’m walking you through an evaluation of 2023 and setting you up for achieving your goals in 2024.

Tune in this week to review, reset, and focus your attention for the year ahead. You’ll learn how to perform a comprehensive evaluation of 2023, and I’m showing you how to decide what you want to leave behind, what you want to take with you, and how you want to do things differently in the coming year.

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The holidays are a time of hope, but there are some hard truths about hope that we need to discuss. Contrary to what you might believe, hope is not a helpful emotion. If you’re spending this season hoping and wishing for something different in your life, this is not a strategy, it isn’t serving you, and it’s time to try something else.

Tune in this week to discover why hope is not a strategy, how it has you relinquishing responsibility, and why operating from hope isn’t going to bring what you want into your life. Discover why hope doesn’t create results, how to see where you’re stuck in the emotion of hope, and how to start operating from more empowering emotions that will help you actually create your desired results.

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Frustration is an emotion we all experience, but you have more power and influence over it than you realize. When you can see how you’re creating your own experience of frustration through the thoughts you’re consciously deciding to think, then you can begin taking the steps required to move past frustration and start getting things done.

Tune in this week to discover what you can do to ease your frustration about anything in your life. I show you how to separate your thoughts and feelings of frustration from the facts of your situation, and how to start easing your feelings of frustration while creating the emotional experience you actually want, without needing to change anything external in your life.

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Is creating processes in your life something you struggle with? If so, you’re not alone. When I experience confusion, I tend to shut down and stop taking action. If you find it impossible to get started, or you feel overwhelmed by the idea that you might end up doing things wrong and you just want someone to tell you exactly what to do, this episode is exactly what you need.

Tune in this week to discover why you are feeling overwhelmed and confused when it comes to taking action in your life and how having a process in place can help. I'm showing you my process for creating a process, so you can move forward, figure things out on your own, and break free from the confusion that’s keeping you stuck.

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Would you say you struggle to focus? Do you find yourself chasing the kind of laser focus that has you devoting all your attention to one thing? There are two different types of focusing that we engage in, but a lack of either one isn't the huge problem you may think it is.

Join me this week to learn the difference between perfect and imperfect focus and how to see which one you engage in. I’m showing you what each type of focus looks like in action, why imperfect focus isn’t a problem, and how to course correct when you notice yourself getting distracted.

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Last week, you learned how much it’s costing you when you’re stuck in caring about what other people think. Now you understand the negative impact of worrying about the opinions of others, we’re diving into how to stop caring about what they think, whether that’s their thoughts about you, or their thoughts about anything else.

Tune in this week to learn a framework for letting go of your worries about what other people think. I show you why you care about other people’s opinions in the first place, two truths you need to start accepting right now, and how to start reframing the way you think about other people’s thoughts and opinions.

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Are you one of those people that cares deeply about what other people think of you? There is a massive cost to being preoccupied with other people’s opinions about who you are and what you’re doing. But by the end of this episode, you’ll learn how to start identifying the judgments you think people have about you, what these worries are costing you, and how to begin laying the foundations to stop caring about what other people think, so you can live the fulfilling, enjoyable life you really want. 

Be sure to come back for part two where I’ll be teaching you a practical framework to help you stop caring about what other people think.

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We often think we need closure on a situation like it’s a vital part of the human experience. But needing closure is just a thought you’ve practiced on repeat your whole life, and now, it’s time to understand the truth about it and learn why you don’t actually need it. 

Tune in this week to discover the truth about needing to get closure, and why you don’t actually need closure from anyone else. I’m showing you why closure is a matter of your thoughts, not your conversations with others, and if you still want closure, I’m showing you how to give yourself what you’re craving.

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When you unpack your thoughts about your email inbox, what comes up? Just looking at your inbox can be really overwhelming, and there are some common mistakes a lot of people make. But there are some best practices I always suggest to my clients when it comes to managing their email inboxes, and I’m bringing them to the podcast this week.

If you're ready to create a different experience of looking at your inbox, tune in this week for some valuable email inbox insights. I share practical strategies for making your inbox look how you want it to, the problem with working towards inbox zero, and I'm giving you tons of tips for keeping your inbox functional and organized in a way that works for you.

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When you’re faced with big projects and decisions in your work, you’ll inevitably encounter resistance. You’re thinking you can’t handle what’s in front of you, and this leads to avoidant behavior. We often think we can’t force ourselves to do things. But the truth is, you literally can force yourself to do hard things, and that’s where the reward systems piece comes in.

Tune in this week to discover the problem with can’t thinking, how it leads to avoidant behavior, and why the solution lies in how you reward yourself. I’m discussing why you can always force yourself to do the difficult things, and how to change your thoughts so you can get things done and stop avoiding life, without needing to force yourself.

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I recently hosted a time management masterclass with almost 1,000 people in attendance. The feedback was incredible, and the content was so valuable that I have decided to share it here on the podcast this week. If you have ever wondered what it is like to work with me personally and how the stuff I share in these formats differs from the podcast, this episode provides a glimpse into both. 

Tune in this week for a masterclass on everything you need to know about managing your time. I’m sharing how to start working on your mindset around your time, some of the common mistakes lawyers make when planning and scheduling, and three key actionable steps you can implement right now to manage your time more effectively.

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Have you ever had something big you know you needed to do, but you didn’t take the steps required to move forward as quickly as you should? Thinking of and labeling a decision or an action as big has the unintended consequence of bringing up resistance to tackling it. 

Tune in this week to discover how to start doing “Big” things. I’m discussing why labeling decisions as big often prevents us from taking action on them, and I’m showing you what you can do to start “Small” and begin making real intentional progress on any decision or change you’re avoiding.

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If you yourself aren’t a procrastinator but you find yourself constantly having to mitigate for other people’s tendency to procrastinate, this is the episode you’ve been waiting for. Chances are, if you don’t struggle with time management, you’re dealing with people who do, and it’s a huge source of frustration.

Discover how to deal with procrastinators. I’m showing you how to dial down your frustration with other people’s poor time management, giving you a new way to think and feel about the people you work with, and sharing a specific framework for working with people who struggle to manage their time effectively and meet the deadlines set for them.

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One of the biggest mistakes that people make when it comes to learning new things is staying stuck in chronic consumption mode. They want to avoid the messiness of learning new things, so they keep reading, listening, and watching instead of getting out there and trying.

Discover where you might be in chronic consumption mode and how that’s keeping you stuck. I show you how just consuming information keeps you confused and tolerating problems, and share the details of the proper process for learning new things and moving forward with what you’re learning.

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If you struggle with time management or learning anything new, you need to prepare yourself, it's going to be messy. If you’re a perfectionist, this can feel like the worst possible news. However, when you begin to accept the chaos of trying something new and learn how to manage the mess, then you can really start making progress.

Discover how to make peace with the messiness of learning something new. I show you how to see what you’re missing out on by avoiding the messiness of learning and growth and give you my tips for getting started and making progress despite the potential for messiness.

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How do you feel about asking for help? If you find yourself choosing to wear the badge of honor that you did it alone rather than asking for help to make things a little easier, today’s episode is going to make a huge impact on the way you work.

Discover what it really looks like to be a gracious recipient of help. I show you how to get clear on your judgments around asking for help, and give you two things you can start practicing right now to become better at asking for and receiving help in your life.

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Discover my process for helping you feel better about who you are and what you have to offer. I discuss how your brain is always looking for reasons that you aren’t good enough, even when you’ve done nothing wrong, and show you how to transform the way you think about yourself and show up day to day.

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We’re in August now, and some people think at this point that the year is pretty much over. If you’re feeling that way, it’s time to ask yourself if you’ve really created what you wanted for this year, or whether you’ve just reached the point where you’re saying f*ck it, and giving up until next year. I call this, The F*ck It Point.

Tune in this week to learn all about the F*ck It Point. I teach you how to get granular and see the point where you decide, either consciously or unconsciously, not to follow through on what you said you were going to do, and I show you how to make a new decision and actually follow through on it.

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We’ve spoken on the podcast about perfectionism before, but only as it relates to perfectionism directed at yourself. If you’re a perfectionist towards yourself, you almost certainly direct your perfectionism toward others, expecting them to be perfect too.

Tune in this week to see how you may be indulging in other-oriented perfectionism. I share why you’re probably unaware you’re directing your perfectionism toward others, how to start spotting it, and the transformation that’s available when you begin shifting your thinking and expectations when it comes to other people.

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What does it mean to assign a label to someone? Labels are just thoughts or judgments that we have about other people and a characteristic that we believe they exhibit. This sounds harmless, but assigning other people labels isn’t always helpful, and in this week’s episode, I’m showing you why.

Discover how to create some awareness around the labels you assign to other people. I’m discussing why these thoughts about the people in your life aren’t indisputable facts, and I’m showing you how to workshop these thoughts so you can see the negative results they’re creating in your life.

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I have created a life of freedom. That doesn’t mean I have no obligations, but I’m happy about everything I have to do, and everything I get to do. So, this brings me to the most important question that anyone can ever ask themselves: but are you free?

Discover why the question, “But are you free?” is so important. I share times in my life when I haven’t felt free, what true freedom means to me, and how to question yourself so you can change the way you think, feel, and act toward creating the result of more freedom.

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Discover what’s stopping you from setting money goals, and what you can do about it. I share some of the most common excuses I hear for not setting intentional goals around charging, saving, spending, and investing, and show you a system for setting money goals that move you forward.

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Money gets a bad rap. We hear phrases like, “Money doesn’t buy happiness.” However, money buys a lot of things that make happiness and transformation more easily attainable, like different experiences, freedom, and support that you might not otherwise have. So, if you have shame around spending money to improve your life, this episode is for you.

Discover why you have shame around spending money. I’m discussing the thoughts that lead to a sense of shame when it comes to spending on yourself, and I’m showing you how to identify the root of these thoughts, so you can begin dismantling the shame or guilt you feel about spending your money on the things you want.

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Discover what underearning is, why it happens, and how to stop. I’m showing you how to spot underearning in your own life, explaining why it’s such a pervasive problem, and exploring the solutions that will allow you to overcome underearning and set your money mindset straight.

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Discover the power of group coaching and our experience as coaches who love group coaching. We’re discussing the value of learning with others who share your goals, the biggest breakthrough we’ve had as a result of applying ourselves in groups, and how you can get the best ROI out of any coaching group you join.

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Overspending looks different for everyone. You might be spending more money than you have, or you might be spending more than you intend. Either way, overspending outside of the parameters you’ve set for yourself is driven by your thoughts, and in this episode, I’m showing you how to get clear on where you’re overspending, so you can ultimately stop doing it.

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Money is one of my favorite topics that I work on with my clients, so this week is the first episode in a series addressing your money mindset, how you think about money, how you interact with money, overspending, under-earning, and all of the most important money topics.

Tune in this week to bring some clarity to your current thoughts about money, and the emotions you’re feeling as a result of those thoughts. I’m sharing how feelings of insufficiency and beliefs about money being evil will repel money, and how to develop the mindset that will help you create more money in your life.

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Making excuses is something most of us struggle with at some point in our lives. However, it’s possible to drop this habit and operate in your life without making excuses.

Discover where you’re making excuses for the results you’ve created, and how to stop. I’m sharing what this work looks like with my clients, how to see where you’re buying your own excuses, and how to move past your excuses so you can get to the real root cause of why you’re getting undesirable results in your life.

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Lawyers tend to have limiting beliefs about their job being inherently hard, however, believing that’s true is a choice you’re making.

Discover how you could be making your life harder than it needs to be this week. I’m sharing how to spot where you’re creating your own suffering, where you should consider asking for help, and I’m giving you some simple strategies to stop making your life more difficult than it needs to be.

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Broken record conversations are incredibly indulgent. They don’t serve you or add any value, they’re just something that that feels good for a moment.

This week, learn what broken record conversations are and identify where you’re stuck in them. I share some of my own personal development that is the inspiration for this episode and show you how to be on the lookout for this behavior in your own life so you can ultimately avoid it for yourself.

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Hear what False Third Options are and examples that you’ve likely encountered in your life and business. I’m showing you how you’re pining after an option that doesn’t actually exist, and how recognizing your False Third Options will lead to decisions that feel more intentional and far less paralyzing.

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Discover how to stay out of extremes in your thoughts about people. I share how to spot dramatic thinking in the moment that it’s happening and how to see the negative impact this kind of thinking has on your life, and I give you a strategy to stay away from judgment of others and shift into curiosity instead.

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Discover why it’s a problem when you repeatedly tell yourself that something is hard. You’ll hear what happens when you get more accurate about how you describe situations or the potential action you need to take, and the key to embracing discomfort and making the results you want a whole lot easier.

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Learn how to start watering your own grass first and stop prioritizing someone else and their goals ahead of your own. I show you how to focus on what you want to accomplish and achieve, why it is no one else’s responsibility but yours to make sure you achieve this, and how to commit to watering your own grass first and start making yourself your top priority today.

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Last week, we started our series on delegation by covering some common mistakes that occur when you begin lightening your workload through delegation. This week, I’m giving you a simple but comprehensive process to follow when delegating tasks to others. I’m sharing how to start operating from emotional adulthood as you begin delegating, how to create the right mindset for effective delegation, and my step-by-step process for getting the results you want from delegating work to other people.

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Discover 12 specific mistakes I see most commonly when it comes to delegating and what to do instead, so you can free yourself up to do your most meaningful work in the world. And make sure to tune back in next week where I’ll walk you through my best practices guide for effective and efficient delegation.

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Find out how your mismatched expectations are leaving you frustrated and disappointed. I’m giving you a framework you can implement when you notice yourself experiencing emotions like frustration and disappointment, so you can take inventory of what’s really going on, and begin clearly articulating your expectations before deciding whether or not you want to keep them.

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Discover what it looks like when you’re avoiding feeling deprived, and how avoiding deprivation sets you up for failure. I’m discussing why we self-sabotage in this way, and instead how to allow yourself to feel deprived while moving forward intentionally.

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Discover why problems are forever, and why that’s okay. I discuss what happens when you believe you shouldn’t be experiencing problems, and how you can anticipate problems ahead of time, manage your expectations, and cast a new perspective over your problems when they do arise.

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Discover how to calculate and determine your capacity for work in a way that serves you where you are right now. I’m sharing my own system for determining how many hours I can work, how to deal with the discomfort of saying no, and how to measure your own capacity for work according to your specific business model.

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I introduce you to the concept of want lists and goal stacking. Learn how these two exercises combined will help you clear up any confusion or overwhelm about what you want to focus on as you daydream about everything you could experience in your lifetime.

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I’m showing you how to get clear on exactly what you want from others, why you want it, and how to set your expectations in a helpful way, and then I’m giving you the step-by-step process you need to start asking for what you want and feel amazing about it.

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Discover the most common wars we wage against the facts of the human experience, and why being in this state of resistance stops us from accomplishing our goals. I’m showing you how to see where you’re fighting unwinnable battles in your life, and what you can do right now to move into acceptance and experience the benefits of being in that place.

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Discover how to deal with the sense of dread that most of us just don’t even question anymore. I’m sharing how to be acutely aware of your dread, so you can understand what it’s trying to tell you and stop letting it get in the way of you going about your day-to-day.

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Discover the energy you bring with you and how you might be engaging in zero-dollar conversations without even realizing it. I’m sharing how to audit the energy you’re bringing to any situation, so you can decide whether you’re happy with how you’re conducting yourself or if it’s time for a change.

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Discover my three-step formula for quitting your job or making any change in your life from a clean space instead of a messy mind, so you can make the decision that is ultimately right for you and your future.

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Discover how everything changes when you truly understand that other people don’t need to change in order for you to feel happier. I’m sharing some stories from my own professional life about wanting other people to operate differently, why this never works, and what you can do instead to start taking control of your own happiness.

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Discover what causes stress and overwhelm during the holiday season and what you can do about it. I’m sharing some practical tools to navigate the most common pain points at this time of year, so you can manage and protect your time and energy, setting yourself up for a successful start to 2023.

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It’s hard to like yourself if you don’t truly know who you are. But many of us are so out of touch with ourselves because we’ve put everyone else’s needs before our own for our whole lives. So, in today’s episode, I’m showing you how to put the focus back on yourself, so you can stop bypassing what you want and neglecting yourself and instead tune into who you really want to be.

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How do you know whether it’s time to push through or whether you should acknowledge your limits and take a rest? Tune in this week to discover how to take care of yourself when you’re at your limit, and learn how to work sustainably rather than hustling, grinding, and burning yourself out.

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Discover why the only person who needs to believe in you is yourself. Whether it’s your parents, spouse, friends, or anyone else whose opinion you’re struggling with, I’m showing you how they’re doing this from a place of love, but that doesn’t mean you need to listen to them.

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Discover how to navigate your year-end reviews with confidence and how to create a process for giving year-end reviews if that’s part of your role. I’m sharing the prep you can do as we near the end of the year, the mindset you need to be able to advocate for yourself, and how to create a process for selling yourself.

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Discover why consuming content and information is great, but the real change comes when you invest in yourself. I’m sharing how my clients’ outlooks change when they start investing in themselves, the difference it made in my life, and what investing in coaching actually looks like in practice.

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One of the things I do with my clients is use examples from my personal life to teach the coaching concepts that have changed my life that will change theirs. Taking these teachings out of the hypothetical and seeing how they work in practice is so powerful, so that’s what we’re doing in today’s episode. I'm directly demonstrating the impact of coaching.

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Join me this week and hear three important questions to ask yourself to help you evaluate your time. Discover why evaluating just one aspect of your day every day will change your life, and how to develop a deeper understanding of how to evaluate the way you plan your time, and how you execute your plans.

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Tune in this week to discover all the reasons you’ve struggled to honor your well-laid plans in the past, and how to tackle them head-on. I’m sharing the uncomfortable emotions that are going to come up when you start honoring your plan, and how to address the thoughts that make honoring your plans so tricky.

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Discover how to start planning your schedule accurately. I’m sharing how perfectionism sneaks into our scheduling, and the many other ways I see people setting themselves up for time-management failure. I’m also sharing my process for accurate planning, so you can account for everything that we tend to ignore when scheduling our time.

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Discover how to reclaim control of your calendar. I’m showing you why the way you spend your time is ultimately your choice, and how to start setting intentional boundaries around your schedule while managing the uncomfortable emotions that come up when you start putting yourself first.

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Discover the most common thought people come to me with when they’re struggling to manage their time effectively. I’m sharing the problem with the way we speak to ourselves around how much time we have and what we’re trying to achieve with our time, and the importance of having truly candid conversations with yourself around time, so you can start setting the foundation for managing your time in a brand-new way.

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Discover how to audit the ways you’re spending your time. So many people realize they’re not using their time effectively when they do this, so I’m showing you how to gain awareness of your time, and how to adjust so you can more effectively leverage the time you do have.

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Discover what you’re really thinking about how much time you have and all the things you need to do with your time. I’m sharing why the thoughts you’re thinking can have you feeling either helpless and confused or empowered and motivated, and how to get clear on which thoughts are leading to a result you don’t want to create.

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Discover whether you’re ineffectively managing your time by firefighting or procrastinating. I’m sharing why both of these problematic time-management styles come from the same place, and I’m showing you how to use your thoughts to start solving for the desires that lead to poor time management. 

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Tune in this week to discover how your perfectionist thoughts are getting in your way. I’m sharing how to identify the emotions you’re trying to avoid by being perfect, and instead decide you’re going to feel all of it, the good and the bad, and move forward loving the process, the successes and the failures.

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Tune in this week to see if you might be struggling with worth dysmorphia. I’m sharing how this might be showing up in your life, how it relates to perfectionism, and I’m giving you three amazing ways to deal with worth dysmorphia, so you can intentionally decide you are good enough, whatever that looks like for you.

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Discover why perfectionism isn’t all that it seems. I’m sharing how perfectionism might be showing up in your life, personally and professionally, and how you can get clear on the reasons why you struggle in this area, so you can start doing the work of overcoming your perfectionism.

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Discover how to set and honor boundaries. I’m sharing why boundaries are decisions you make for yourself, rather than manipulating or threatening other people, and I’m showing you how to decide on and uphold the consequences in the event that your boundaries are violated.

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I’m showing you how to identify your own people-pleasing behaviors, see the areas where you’re sacrificing yourself for the sake of others, and most importantly, how to decide what your life would look like if you stopped people-pleasing.

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Tune in this week to discover the three essential qualities for solving problems and being successful. I’m sharing why taking action without looking at your mindset is never the answer, and I’m showing you how resourcefulness, patience, and being coachable allow you to think of solutions faster and implement them more effectively.

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Discover the best practices for giving feedback and doing everything in your power to make sure it’s welcomed by the other person, even if it’s negative. I’m sharing the importance of getting clear on your thoughts, feelings, biases, and desired results as you prepare your feedback, so you can deliver it in a way that’s well received.

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Receiving feedback can be a nerve-wracking experience, so tune in this week to discover how to stop thinking the worst of the comments and critiques you receive from your superiors. I’m sharing why getting defensive is never going to feel good, and what you can do instead when you get some feedback you don’t immediately love.

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Join me this week as I share what a Sunday self-audit is, how to do one, and how doing this exercise can change everything for you. Find out what you can gain from doing a Sunday self-audit, and why doing them is a sure-fire way to live a more intentional life and get further faster.

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If you’re currently believing that overworking is more productive than resting, you need to listen closely this week. I’m sharing why efficiency isn’t just doing, doing, doing, and how you can turn your hustle mindset around so you can enjoy the benefits that come with proper rest and sleep.

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Tune in this week as we continue our discussion around following through and being consistent. I’m showing you how to define consistency for yourself, how to be discerning and decide what you want to commit to, and how to define what this process is going to look like for you specifically.

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Tune in this week to discover how to follow through and be consistent. I’m sharing the emotional experience that makes following through a challenge for so many people, how I uncovered my own reasons for not following through, and a simple reframe for you that will make following through and being consistent exponentially easier.

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Whether you think you’re a hot mess, unqualified, a dreadful parent, that the world is horrible, or anything else that you don’t really want to be thinking, I’m showing you how to see the labels you’re assigning, see why they’re not necessarily true, and I’m sharing how to replace those statements with something way more helpful and empowering.

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Discover how to become the observer of your thoughts. I’m sharing how to start seeing your thoughts for what they are, and choose to think some thoughts that actually bring more of what you want into your life. I’m giving you all the examples you need to see this work in practice and trust me when I say it’s going to change everything for you.  

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Tune in this week to start identifying and ultimately eliminating unhelpful should thinking from your brain’s repertoire. I’m sharing the most common should thoughts that I’ve struggled with, where my clients generally need to do this work, and how you can take steps to eliminate shoulds from your thought process, so you can live from a more empowering energy.

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Discover how to use the Self-Coaching Model to reverse-engineer any result you want. I’m showing you why implementing this process truly makes any result inevitable, the keys to ensuring your success with reverse-engineering results, and I’m also walking you through some example scenarios to show you the simplicity and brilliance of this process.

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Tune in this week for an in-depth introduction to the Self-Coaching Model. I’m sharing why this awareness tool has changed my life and the lives of my clients, and how to use it to see what’s driving your actions, your inactions, and how your thoughts are creating everything you have or don’t have in your life right now.

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Tune in this week to see the truth about telling yourself “I don’t know…” and stop indulging in confusion. I’m showing you how we default to this phrase as a defense mechanism, and how to dive a little deeper, so you can see that actually you probably do know the next step in any situation.

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Tune in this week to discover what enough means for you. I’m sharing how to start defining what you really want to achieve in your life, getting specific in terms of measurable metrics, and I’m showing you how to deal with the discomfort you will inevitably experience when setting truly quantifiable targets.

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If you’re overwhelmed and you’re just over it, tune in this week to discover how practicing constraint allows you to get further, faster. We’re discussing intentionality around the things you consume, the things you create, and how to see exactly what practicing constraint will look like in your professional and personal life.

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See where your thoughts about how you should be showing up in your work are stopping you from actually doing a good job. I’m showing you how to rewrite your unofficial job descriptions, so you can hold yourself to a high standard at work without getting in your own way.

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Discover what’s going on in your brain when you’re experiencing discomfort, and why we feel entitled to comfort. I’m sharing why our brain thinks discomfort is an existential threat, why it’s not, and how believing it is a threat is keeping you stuck, not safe.

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