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There’s a moment in every unhealthy relationship where something doesn’t sit right.

But the hardest part isn’t what they’re doing.

It’s realizing you might be with someone who is toxic — and not wanting to believe it.

In this video, I’m talking about the internal struggle that happens before acceptance. The excuses. The rationalizing. The identity hit. The war between who you thought they were and the pattern you keep experiencing.

This isn’t about labeling someone as evil.

It’s about recognizing unhealthy patterns.

It’s about trauma bonding, cognitive dissonance, and why intensity can feel like love — even when it’s exhausting your nervous system.

Acceptance doesn’t mean hatred.

It means clarity.

And the moment you stop arguing with reality… is the moment healing begins.

If this resonates, you’re not crazy. You’re not weak. You’re waking up.

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Breaking no contact after years of silence can feel like closure — until it isn’t.

In this video, I share a real experience of reaching out to a toxic ex after five years, and how that single moment revealed something deeper about healing, boundaries, and the way the quantum field actually responds to emotional patterns.

This isn’t about blame or regret. It’s about understanding why familiar relationships can pull us back so quickly, why some people don’t change, and how manifestation and visualization fail when they’re built on unresolved emotional energy.

You don’t attract what you want.

You attract what you emotionally rehearse.

We’ll talk about:

Why trauma bonds feel familiar even years later

How old emotional states recreate old realities

The difference between intention and frequency

Why no contact protects your nervous system — not your ego

How to visualize a new life without reactivating the past

If you’ve ever wondered, “Maybe they’ve changed,” this video will give you clarity — and help you protect the future you’re trying to build.

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For years on this channel, I’ve talked about things like limiting beliefs, absolute thinking, black-hole thinking, and what it really takes to rebuild your life after a major disruption.Recently, while exploring the work of teachers like Dr. Joe Dispenza, David Bayer, and Katie Clark, I had a realization that stopped me in my tracks:Much of what they’re teaching—under different language—is the same core mechanism I’ve been talking about all along.This video is the beginning of a new series where I connect those dots.Not in a “wish it into existence” way.Not in a motivational hype way.But in a grounded, practical way that explains why changing how you think, regulate, and see yourself actually changes your life.In this video, we’ll talk about: • Why identity drives perception, not the other way around • How nervous system regulation affects belief and behavior • What “rebaselining your life” really means after trauma or burnout • Why people stay stuck even when they “know better” • And how small internal shifts compound faster than most people realizeThis isn’t a departure from what this channel has been about—it’s an integration.If you’ve been stuck longer than you want to be, or you’re rebuilding after a collapse and looking for a clearer path forward, this series is for you.☎ For one on one coaching - https://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.com/coaching/❋ Become a channel member! - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUXEHz3OECVwLz1X-SNM4lw/join📱Text "DSDLIVE" to 1-844-598-0012 for text notifications🏕Camping Channel - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTJroZvhxsDDjLi_kf9gd6A⚠️DISCLAIMER - Links used in this description are affiliate links and if used a small commission will help support this channel. Use of these links do not change the cost of the items purchased.⚠️DISCLAIMER - I am not a therapist, licensed counselor, or attorney. My thoughts are my own opinions from my personal experience. You should consult a professional when you are changing your treatment or making legal decisions. This channel and companion website are for informational purposes only. 📨 Send Mail To:Duane DSDP.O. Box 225Edwards, CA 93523📨Email To: duane@dadsurvivingdivorce.com🕸Website: https://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.com🎙Podcast: https://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.com/podcast/☎ Coaching - https://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.com/coaching/🕸DSD Discord - https://discord.gg/hn9jE9x#DSD

There was a time when I believed that if I could just control the outcome—say the right thing, explain it better, try harder—everything would finally get better.But the harder I tried to force the situation, the worse it became.In this video, I talk about the hidden cost of trying to control what we can’t control, and why healing often begins when we finally let go. Letting go doesn’t mean giving up. It doesn’t mean approving of what happened. It means choosing peace over constant tension.When you stop forcing outcomes, your nervous system settles, your thinking becomes clearer, and life begins to move again—often in ways you couldn’t have planned.This video is for anyone who feels stuck, exhausted, or trapped in a cycle of trying to fix something that refuses to change.Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do isn’t trying harder…it’s letting go.☎ For one on one coaching - https://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.com/coaching/❋ Become a channel member! - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUXEHz3OECVwLz1X-SNM4lw/join📱Text "DSDLIVE" to 1-844-598-0012 for text notifications🏕Camping Channel - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTJroZvhxsDDjLi_kf9gd6A⚠️DISCLAIMER - Links used in this description are affiliate links and if used a small commission will help support this channel. Use of these links do not change the cost of the items purchased.⚠️DISCLAIMER - I am not a therapist, licensed counselor, or attorney. My thoughts are my own opinions from my personal experience. You should consult a professional when you are changing your treatment or making legal decisions. This channel and companion website are for informational purposes only. 📨 Send Mail To:Duane DSDP.O. Box 225Edwards, CA 93523📨Email To: duane@dadsurvivingdivorce.com🕸Website: https://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.com🎙Podcast: https://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.com/podcast/☎ Coaching - https://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.com/coaching/🕸DSD Discord - https://discord.gg/hn9jE9x#DSD

When you’re sick, exhausted, or run down, your brain does not function normally.Fatigue amplifies fear.Stress hormones spike.Catastrophic thinking takes over.Suddenly, everything feels urgent, permanent, and hopeless — and that’s when people make decisions they later regret.In this video, I explain: • Why illness distorts your thinking • Why catastrophic thoughts feel so real when you’re sick • Why reacting in that state is dangerous • And why the healthiest response is often to do nothingIf you’re feeling overwhelmed, emotional, or mentally foggy right now, this message is for you:Rest first.Stabilize.Decide later.This video is part of the Dad Surviving Divorce series focused on emotional regulation, recovery from high-conflict relationships, and learning when not to react.☎ For one on one coaching - https://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.com/coaching/❋ Become a channel member! - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUXEHz3OECVwLz1X-SNM4lw/join📱Text "DSDLIVE" to 1-844-598-0012 for text notifications🏕Camping Channel - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTJroZvhxsDDjLi_kf9gd6A⚠️DISCLAIMER - Links used in this description are affiliate links and if used a small commission will help support this channel. Use of these links do not change the cost of the items purchased.⚠️DISCLAIMER - I am not a therapist, licensed counselor, or attorney. My thoughts are my own opinions from my personal experience. You should consult a professional when you are changing your treatment or making legal decisions. This channel and companion website are for informational purposes only. 📨 Send Mail To:Duane DSDP.O. Box 225Edwards, CA 93523📨Email To: duane@dadsurvivingdivorce.com🕸Website: https://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.com🎙Podcast: https://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.com/podcast/☎ Coaching - https://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.com/coaching/🕸DSD Discord - https://discord.gg/hn9jE9x#DSD

If you’ve been out of a narcissistic relationship for months or even years and still feel stuck, confused, or emotionally drained—this video is for you.Healing from narcissistic abuse doesn’t follow a normal timeline. You didn’t just lose a relationship. You lost emotional safety, self-trust, and a sense of reality. That kind of damage doesn’t disappear just because time has passed.In this video, we talk about: • Why healing feels slow after narcissistic abuse • How your nervous system stays in survival mode • The difference between trauma bonding and love • Why grief and identity loss keep people stuck • What actually helps you move forward (without forcing positivity)You are not broken. You are recovering from something most people don’t understand.If this resonates with you, you’re not alone.🔔 Subscribe for honest conversations about healing, boundaries, and rebuilding after narcissistic abuse.💬 Share your thoughts in the comments—your voice matters here.☎ For one on one coaching - https://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.com/coaching/❋ Become a channel member! - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUXEHz3OECVwLz1X-SNM4lw/join📱Text "DSDLIVE" to 1-844-598-0012 for text notifications🏕Camping Channel - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTJroZvhxsDDjLi_kf9gd6A⚠️DISCLAIMER - Links used in this description are affiliate links and if used a small commission will help support this channel. Use of these links do not change the cost of the items purchased.⚠️DISCLAIMER - I am not a therapist, licensed counselor, or attorney. My thoughts are my own opinions from my personal experience. You should consult a professional when you are changing your treatment or making legal decisions. This channel and companion website are for informational purposes only. 📨 Send Mail To:Duane DSDP.O. Box 225Edwards, CA 93523📨Email To: duane@dadsurvivingdivorce.com🕸Website: https://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.com🎙Podcast: https://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.com/podcast/☎ Coaching - https://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.com/coaching/🕸DSD Discord - https://discord.gg/hn9jE9x#DSD

When children begin to realize that something about a parent’s behavior doesn’t feel right, it can be confusing, frightening, and isolating — especially if they don’t know how to talk about it safely.In this video, we talk about how to support kids when they start noticing unhealthy or unpredictable behavior from a parent, without attacking, diagnosing, or putting them in the middle.This video covers: • How to respond when a child says “something feels off” • Why believing your child matters more than explaining things away • How to help kids understand it’s not their fault • Teaching emotional boundaries in age-appropriate ways • Allowing kids to hold mixed emotions without guilt • How consistency and calm create safety during confusionThis isn’t about labeling or blaming a parent.It’s about helping children trust their reality, feel emotionally safe, and grow with resilience.If you’re a parent navigating high-conflict dynamics, this video will give you language and guidance to show up as the stable, grounded presence your child needs.☎ For one on one coaching - https://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.com/coaching/❋ Become a channel member! - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUXEHz3OECVwLz1X-SNM4lw/join📱Text "DSDLIVE" to 1-844-598-0012 for text notifications🏕Camping Channel - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTJroZvhxsDDjLi_kf9gd6A⚠️DISCLAIMER - Links used in this description are affiliate links and if used a small commission will help support this channel. Use of these links do not change the cost of the items purchased.⚠️DISCLAIMER - I am not a therapist, licensed counselor, or attorney. My thoughts are my own opinions from my personal experience. You should consult a professional when you are changing your treatment or making legal decisions. This channel and companion website are for informational purposes only. 📨 Send Mail To:Duane DSDP.O. Box 225Edwards, CA 93523📨Email To: duane@dadsurvivingdivorce.com🕸Website: https://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.com🎙Podcast: https://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.com/podcast/☎ Coaching - https://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.com/coaching/🕸DSD Discord - https://discord.gg/hn9jE9x#DSD

Letting go after narcissistic abuse is one of the hardest — and most necessary — steps in healing.If you’ve been stuck waiting for closure, explanations, or accountability from a narcissist, this video is for you. In this presentation, I break down what letting go really means, why emotional detachment is essential, and how releasing the need to engage can restore your peace and sense of self.This is not about forgiveness or excusing harm. It’s about protecting your energy, strengthening boundaries, and learning how to move forward without staying emotionally tied to someone who continues to cause damage.In this video, you’ll learn: • Why closure doesn’t come from a narcissist • How emotional disengagement supports healing • What letting go looks like in real life • Why choosing peace is not weaknessIf you’re navigating divorce, co-parenting, or recovery from narcissistic abuse, you’re not alone — and healing is possible.👍 If this helped you, please like and subscribe💬 Share your experience in the comments — your story matters☎ For one on one coaching - https://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.com/coaching/❋ Become a channel member! - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUXEHz3OECVwLz1X-SNM4lw/join📱Text "DSDLIVE" to 1-844-598-0012 for text notifications🏕Camping Channel - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTJroZvhxsDDjLi_kf9gd6A⚠️DISCLAIMER - Links used in this description are affiliate links and if used a small commission will help support this channel. Use of these links do not change the cost of the items purchased.⚠️DISCLAIMER - I am not a therapist, licensed counselor, or attorney. My thoughts are my own opinions from my personal experience. You should consult a professional when you are changing your treatment or making legal decisions. This channel and companion website are for informational purposes only. 📨 Send Mail To:Duane DSDP.O. Box 225Edwards, CA 93523📨Email To: duane@dadsurvivingdivorce.com🕸Website: https://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.com🎙Podcast: https://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.com/podcast/☎ Coaching - https://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.com/coaching/🕸DSD Discord - https://discord.gg/hn9jE9x#DSD

Are you constantly made to look like the “uncooperative” parent while your ex plays the perfect one on paper? You’re not alone. In this video, we dive deep into what it’s like to co-parent with a toxic or narcissistic ex who manipulates perception, weaponizes cooperation, and uses your kids to provoke emotional reactions.🎯 What You’ll Learn: • The harsh reality of trying to co-parent with a toxic ex • What “hybrid no contact” really means and how to apply it • How parallel parenting helps protect your sanity • The danger of over-communicating and how to document defensively • Why trying to “prove” the truth to others often backfires • Tools and scripts to manage school communication, scheduling, and more💡 Whether you’re deep in litigation or just trying to survive the week, these strategies are survival tools for reclaiming your peace while staying legally compliant.👉 If you’ve dealt with a narcissistic co-parent or are navigating high-conflict custody, drop a “REMOTE” in the comments to show you stayed until the end and to support others on this journey.🛠️ Resources Mentioned: • Video on Hybrid No Contact • Groundhog Day Effect: Easing transitions when your kids come back from the other home • Court-approved communication apps (Our Family Wizard, Talking Parents)

If you’re co-parenting with someone who has narcissistic or BPD traits and you’re in a 50/50 custody situation, this podcast is for you.

A listener asked: “My son is 3.5 years old—do I say anything about his mom, or just keep her out of my house entirely?”

In this podcast, I dive into:

How to talk to a young child about a toxic parent (without causing damage)

The mistakes I made early in my divorce—and what I’d do differently

When to speak, what not to say, and how to create emotional safety

Groundhog Day syndrome and how to stop it

Why your home must become your child’s emotional anchor

Tips for neutral transitions, boundaries, and avoiding triangulation

💡 Whether you’re just entering family court or are years into the battle, this podcast will give you grounded, field-tested advice to protect your child—without turning them into the battlefield.

👉 Drop your thoughts or questions in the comments—let’s help each other through the chaos.

After years of surviving family court, toxic co-parenting, and the emotional warfare of dealing with a narcissistic ex, the day finally comes—your child turns 18. The court orders stop. The forced contact ends. You’re finally free. But what happens next?

In this video, I reflect on my own journey and what it feels like to finally cross the finish line. I talk about:

The countdown to 18 and how fast it really goes

What it really means when court oversight ends

How to emotionally process your new freedom

Tips on creating a clean break from your ex

Why letting your children lead matters post-18

Protecting your peace and rebuilding your life

How to become a guiding light for others still in the storm

Whether you’re just starting this battle or nearing the end, this video offers support, perspective, and hope.

👉 If you’re in the thick of it, know this: you will make it.

📢 If you’ve made it, consider sharing your story below to encourage others.

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Drop it in the comments if you made it to the end!

In this impromptu test livestream, I dust off the setup, tackle some technical hiccups, and get back into the groove of live streaming! Together, we revisit the heart of this channel: creating a safe space for honest conversations about recovery, relationships, and overcoming narcissistic abuse. I field live calls, including one powerful story of perseverance and healing through a challenging family dynamic.

If you’re struggling with toxic relationships, recovering from a divorce, or navigating complex emotions, this is a community for you. We also cover topics like setting boundaries, finding clarity, and learning to advocate for yourself in difficult situations.

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If you’re new, check out the Mindset for Narcissistic Abuse Recovery playlist on the main channel page—your starting point for healing and building resilience.

💬 Share your thoughts in the comments or join the live chat next time. Let’s keep the conversation going!

In this podcast, I tackle a powerful viewer question: “Do you know of anyone who, after divorcing a narcissistic spouse, went on to remarry, build a new family, and live a healthy life?” This is such an important topic, and the short answer is: YES, it’s possible—but it takes work.

I’ll share key insights into what’s required to break the cycle of toxic relationships, including:

✔️ Doing the inner work to heal and grow.

✔️ Setting and maintaining firm boundaries.

✔️ Learning to trust your gut and recognize red flags.

✔️ How healthy relationships can feel “off” at first due to past trauma.

I also share inspiring stories, including insights from Eric Carroll (Dad Talk Today) and my own experiences, to show you that healthy love is attainable after narcissistic abuse.

💬 Have you remarried or entered a healthy relationship after a toxic one? Share your story in the comments to inspire others. And if you made it to the end, type “YETI” in the comments to let me know!

🔗 Resources Mentioned:

🎥 Mindset for Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Playlist – Start your healing journey here.

If you enjoyed this video or have more questions you’d like me to cover, let me know in the comments! Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share this video with someone who needs hope.

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Listener asks the question of do I take her to arbitration again on minor stuff or just save my money?

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Duane discusses a question a listener asks about when to go to court and when to fight the battle? He covers the topics of what do you really hope to accomplish? Will this action “move the needle”. You have to take a hard look at the reality of the situation and what is the perception of other people involved.

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Father’s always seem to be rejected by children, we discuss the reasons and how to cope.

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A common problem people experience in high conflict narcissistic divorces and custody is being rejected by your children. This is a very painful thing to experience and it is very hurtful when you feel your own children “rejecting” you. In this episode Duane discusses the reason this occurs and ways to help you cope with the frustration and disappointment when your children are used as weapons.

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Slower learner | Take your life back after narcissistic abuse

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DSD discusses the reality of it taking time to learn how futile it can be struggling to make a different in your life with a narcissistic ex. Duane shares how he continues to see people struggling with this concept. You get stuck in the mode EXPECTING justice and accountability. He shares how he hates to see people only learn this lesson after losing in court and then questioning why they even fought for it. Ultimately you have to take things slow and give yourself time to accept and see the reality of your situation. In the end focusing on your children and the relationship you have, and are building with them, is the key!

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Taking care of yourself | hobbies are important!

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In this episode Duane talks about the importance of having a hobby or something that you enjoy doing. He also talks about the struggles when you are down, depressed, and beaten with ways to push yourself to break yourself out of that downward spiral. He then fields questions from others on silver bullets, narcissists seeking control, being forced to spend time with the ex, and finally an update on his current medical situation.

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02:55 - Welcome to the livestream

06:04 - Finding some positive to do hobbies

17:19 - Advice on handling message about school

21:20 - Narc fishing for control

29:57 - Supervised visits and lashing out

36:14 - Having to spend time with the ex

37:16 - When drop offs are late

39:54 - Silver bullet - supervised visits 

47:02 - Don't respond immediately

52:49 - Worry about kids and narcissism

59:41 - Paranoia and narcissists

01:01:27 - Graduations with ex

01:08:03 - Realizing you have narc friends

01:12:03 - Getting to the other side!

01:13:03 - Our child as abusers?

01:21:48 - Ex should be normal around kids

01:25:31 - Narc mom blaming you?

01:31:32 - Medical update on me

01:35:21 - End of show wrap-up

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Dealing with the pain is the only way to get through this

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In this episode DSD starts with a clip from Brad Pitt talking about his experience of running from the pain and ultimately how he worked through it to take his like back! Duane has a discussion with the audience about their experiences and ways to approach things

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A deep dive discussion on the struggles of letting go with an update and review of the redacted Order Sustaining Demurrer on my civil case.

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In this episode DSD talks about the struggles and importances of learning to “let go”. We discuss how difficult it is to actually do, being forced to learn the “lesson”, recognizing when you’re being pulled back in, and notice when you are stuck in the rumination cycle. Duane then shares how things really start to change ONCE you accept the situation and allowing yourself to “move on”. He also shares that unfortunately this process takes a LONG time and for some even years. DSD shares that it took him about 2 to 3 years for it to really sink in.

Duane then provides an update with a reading on the final Order Sustaining Demurrer that was finally sent and signed by the court. This leads into a discussion on various aspects of court.

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03:17 - The Struggles of Letting Go

27:20 - Review of comments

50:05 - Order Supporting Demurrer

2:01:25 - End of show wrap-up

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A discussion on how difficult it is to let of the past

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The Healing Path: Navigate the path to healing with practical tips and strategies. Discover effective coping mechanisms and self-care practices to nurture your mental and emotional well-being.

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Alex on the news again & dealing with the stress of family court

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Anxiety is a slow killer in narcissistic abuse

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In this podcast DSD talks about the effectives of the constant anxiety and stress these situation put you under. He covers different techniques he has used to help him and other in dealing with this reality. Later in the podcast he takes a caller working through severe parental alienation and we discuss techniques on dealing with his minor and adult children.

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Showing up is more important than you realize!

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Although these situations are very complicated, stressful, and more frustrating then they really should be it is important to show up and be there for your children. In this podcast we discuss some examples of this with callers sharing their stories.

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Handling when older kids are alienated

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In this podcast DSD continues yesterday’s topic discussing the ways to deal with older children who are in the throws of parental alienation. He also takes the same caller to deep dive in his situation and talk through scenarios and ways to help his children

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Can you “disarm” a narcissist?

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In this podcast DSD tackles the question of HOW to disarm a narcissist or if it is even possible. He covers the blame shifting, understanding their “motivation”, no engaging and other techniques to minimize the effect of narcissistic attacks!

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Starting 2024 strong when dealing with Narcissists!

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Duane starts the new year with a BANG covering topics on perspective, getting them out of your mind, removing chaos in your life, using exercise to minimize stress, focusing on where you want to go and building your support network! We Also have a few callers talking about their experiences and perspectives!

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Dodging the narc rocks & taking your life back!

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In this podcast DSD talks about how toxic narcissist person will continue to find ways to throw “rocks” at you and drag you back into the drama. It is important to recognize what is going on and to find ways to minimize the damage. Ultimately the best course of action is taking your life back and protecting yourself from their drama and chaos!

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Having an Un-Narc Christmas!

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Hang out for a DSD Christmas livestream - take your life back and make the most of this difficult situation!

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Don’t play the narc “what if” game

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In this show DSD covers a question/comment a listener had about ruminating about the past and asking “what if” thinking they could have done something “different” to have a better outcome or to not having this nightmare experience

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When do you fight unilateral narc medical decisions?

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When do you fight unilateral narc medical decisions?

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Picking your battles with a narcissist

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Do we attracted narcissist?

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Duane discusses the reasons why we seem to have so many toxic people in our lives. 

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Supervised visitation and playing “the game”

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The main topic of the show is dealing with supervised visitation and playing the game with the “professionals” to start to eek back time and success. This is a very trying time and emotionally draining but it is important that you jump through the flaming hoops and demonstrate that you are NOT the person your ex is claiming you are.

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Winning feels like losing with a narcissist

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When you're dealing with a toxic, drama-filled person, it can feel like even when you win, you lose. It's important to realize that going through this mess puts a ton of stress on you. Sometimes, we want a big, impressive victory to feel like things are finally turning around, but the emotional and mental toll makes it hard to see the progress.

These experiences mess with your head, making you compare your past to what you hope for in the future, and it seems like you're losing big time. To break free from this, you need to stop obsessing over what your ex is up to and give yourself time to heal and move on. It's okay to take a breather and process everything you've been through.

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Dealing with the impossible dealing with a narcissist

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In this podcast Duane discusses the reality of dealing with the impossible scenario when dealing with a high conflict narcissistic ex. DSD talks about how they push you to your breaking point, holding on to what you think should happen, trying to force the “system” to work the way you think it should, accepting the reality of your situation, and choosing to “respond” differently to these situations. Ultimately helping you to make the decision to TAKE YOUR LIFE BACK!

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The stressors of dealing with toxic and narcissistic people

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In this podcast we discuss the unique stressors of dealing with toxic people and the catastrophic thinking we can find ourselves in. We can also find ourselves getting advice on “letting things go” which is just almost impossible in our situations. Duane talks about techniques he has used to deal with his own personal struggles and way you can leverage that experience in your personal situation.

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You have to set boundaries!

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In this podcast Duane talks about the importance of having and setting healthy boundaries for yourself with toxic people AND your own children. He discusses the issues on how toxic people, including your children, will push and poke at you to “test” your boundaries or to even see if you have any at all. He also talks bout where to draw the line when setting boundaries and the how critical it is that you are prepared to follow through with the “consequences” when they are broken. Finally he covers the important of giving yourself wiggle room when you are dealing wit h boundaries with your kids so that you do not back yourself into a concern.

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A narcissist is always “performing”

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In this show Duane discusses the realities of performances and how they can quickly adapt to changing responses to continue their narrative and illusion. We discuss the underestimated ability to “fake it”, how when corned in a lie they are able to “get out of it”, their abilities to manipulator and control narratives and how important it is to NOT REACT to their drama and not feed into their continued delusions

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Trust your gut when you feel things just aren’t right!

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Oftentimes we ignore the signs and red flags of toxic situations and relationships. When we “look back” you can start to see those signs and “remember” when your gut was telling you something was wrong. In this podcast we discuss the signs and ways to approach “listening to your gut” and your body!

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Reaching the point where you have no more F’s and energy to give!

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In this podcast DSD talks about reaching that point when you change your perspective and shift your energy and focus toward yourself AND making your life better.

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Toxic narcissistic people thrive off of generating pain, misery, and controlling their target.

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In this podcast we discuss how a toxic narcissistic relationship will push you to your breaking point. Even before the relationship ends the stress and torment can be too much to endure.

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A high conflict narcissistic divorce can make you start to question your sanity and in this show we discuss the realities of this and ways around it.

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Duane discusses the hardships of going through a high conflict narcissistic divorce and ways to deal with it while focusing on maintaining your sanity. He then takes viewer questions about the topic with advice on how to deal with it.

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A narcissist will always be looking for wedge issues to exploit. Parental alienation is always a concern

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In this show Duane talks about the reality of how high conflict narcissistic ex’s will always be looking for wedge issues to exploit and use for parental alienation. Even when you feel like your relationship is strong with your children you must keep your guard up. Kids, even older ones, are susceptible to narcissistic manipulation and parental alienation. You also need to understand that you have to choose your battles wisely - a toxic high conflict ex will generally respond with chaos and direct negative attention to your children. Keep focused on winning the war, you don’t need to win a battle and end up losing the war!

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A discussion about the voluntary manslaughter conviction of James Brashear in the killing of John Mast.

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In this discussion Duane discusses the jury verdict for Jame Brashear in the killing of John Mast during a scheduled custody exchange in February 6th 2021 in Lewiston Idaho. The discussion covers the charge for murder 1, murder 2, and voluntary manslaughter. The trial started on Tuesday, August 22nd 20223 and completed on Friday, August 25th 2023. There were what appeared to be “missed opportunities” that prosecution didn’t not cover during the trial. Duane talks about his thoughts when the defendant and his family appeared on the stand. False allegations are very difficult to fight and even if you exonerate yourself there are still residual effects. Ultimately Duane talks about ways forward and how to try and take your life back!

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We discuss the live changing experience validation provides when we learn about the reality of personality disorders and their patterns of behaviors.

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Validation is a very important part of the healing process after a high conflict narcissistic divorce with a person who shows all the patterns of behavior of a personality disorder. You go from feeling like you are living a one man nightmare or in a never ending twilight zone episode. Although validation is important you have to be careful to not stay in that phase and start putting in the work to take your life back. Ultimately you have to start asking yourself, “Ok now what do I do”? Moving past validation and into questioning (and action) is how you ultimately take your life back!

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Discussion of the importance in watching for narcissistic traps in their search for narcissistic supply and control!

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High conflict narcissistic people unfortunately. This is recurring issue that you will probably experience from personal relationships, ex spouses, family members, children, and work situations. In this video we talk about the importance of being vigilant in watching for traps. How you have to be extremely careful with how you react to their provocation and traps. The importance of slowing yourself down BEFORE you respond and the reality of how they will ultimately change tactics to try and get you to respond in a certain way.

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A discussion on defining “victory” while going through a toxic narcissistic divorce.

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This discussion starts with a look at perspective and how we look at things when we are going through a toxic narcissistic divorce. It really is a means of “how you look at it” and how you compare your current situation with your previous expectations. This covers the key points of perspective, how the kids are with you, what happens if/when they do not chose “you”, do the kids engage and love you, and summarizing on even if alienation is complete how you still have to take your life back no matter what!

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Catastrophic emotions can send you on a dark path!

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Oftentimes when going through a narcissistic divorce you can fall into the trap of thinking and feeling everything is catastrophic. This is a dangerous place to be in and oftentimes things are not as bad as we see them. This discussion cover the importance of recognizing the “positive” information you’re getting and not falling into a defeatist attitude.

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In this episode Duane discusses the difficulties of seeing a way through a high conflict divorce with a toxic narcissist person. Part of the problem

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A discussion on how to get to the other side of a toxic relationship and finding a path to take your life back! In the early stages of this it can be almost impossible to see a pathway to getting to the other side of this. It often feels like there is no way through and that no one truly understands what you are going through. The key to moving forward is acceptance, re-baselining your life, and realizing when you are beating your head against the wall. You have to learn to re-focus your time and energy to creating (and maintaining) your own peace, building on the relationship with your children (if you have any), and ultimately removing the chaos from your life. This last part can be extremely difficult because you can become “comfortable” with chaos and in some ways might even seek it out. This is a normal part of the process

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A discussion about how being present in the moment can be a catalyst to getting your life back

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In this episode Duane discusses the topic of being present in the moment and how that can be a critical shift your perspective that gets your life back. This came up in a recent coaching session with a client. When you are stuck in the chaos you are not able to “enjoy the moment” or to be present. Although this may sound like a simple concept it can take decades for you to understand and realize how important this is.

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Toxic narcissistic abusive people will use the children’s medical bills to continue abuse

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Duane receives a question about how I dealt with the continued finical abuse through medical billing. In this podcast Duane talks about the importances of understanding your emotions, what you can do, and how our perspective MUST change over time.

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YouTuber and Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach Angie Atkinson passed away Sunday, November 27th

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In this show Duane takes a moment to recognize the loss of Angie Atkinson and the impact she has had on the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Duane and Angie have previous guested on each other’s shows.

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A response to a listener who wants to know the timelines of recovery from toxic narcissistic abuse/divorce

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In this discussion Duane answers a listener question who asks how long the divorce process was, the length of anxiety, how long it took to turn things around with the kids, and the overall timelines before you start to get your life back.

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A discussion about the steps Duane when through to go from the anger, bitterness, and despair of a high conflict narcissistic divorce to where he is now.

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The hardest part of recovering from a high conflict narcissistic divorce is finding your way through. We start this process looking for answers and thinking something has to change before anything can get better. At the beginning of this journey we think and believe the change has to be accountability, justice, vindication. As we progress through this we realize the change comes from within us. In this episode Duane discusses his journey, struggles, and the dark days before finding his peace, and his way through this experience.

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A viewer shares their story of breaking “no contact” with their ex and how it stalled their healing!

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A listener shares their story of breaking 3 months of No Contact to meet up with their ex. They thought they had healed and this would be a good idea but it was definitely not. Immediately after the meeting they felt as though they were back at day one. Duane talks about the dangers of breaking no contact and what it means when you have one of these setbacks. Duane then reads another comment where a person is struggling with the fact the ex has a new “man” and is “living the good life”.

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A listener posts a story about how they are fighting through parental alienation in Kazakhstan

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In this episode a listening from Kazakhstan posts their story of parental alienation in Kazakhstan. Duane go through the story and offers thoughts and ideas on how to go forward. The listener is original from Brazil and is also trying to get “approval” to take his daughter to see her grandparents for the first time, but mom is blocking him every step of the way. He is also dealing with the mother convincing the child to “decide” NOT to see dad and refusing to go.

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00:00 - Start of show

17:36 - End of show wrap up

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Learning to trust again after a toxic narcissistic divorce where you feel like you were conned and tricked!

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In this episode DSD talks about the struggles of learning to trust yourself again after a high conflict narcissistic relationship. Often times people feel they can no longer trust themselves to see “red flags” with personal, professional, and romantic relationships. Duane deep dives into this issues with reasons why it happened and techniques to help yourself get your life and trust back! We quickly talk about the risks of going back to a toxic ex. Duane comments on how emotional flashbacks and post traumatic stress discord responses can be use as an indicator that more work is required. A listener comments on how frustrating it is when people say, “Give it time, things will get better” without context. We then dive into the question of “who discarded who” and how your intention is really the indicator of what you are doing. A listener then asks the question of if they will EVER get a 2nd date and we talk about the struggles of dating and some of the realities in this day and age. This leads into the story of how Duane and Debby first met!

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00:00:00 - Start of show
00:03:48 - Morning show not working out
00:05:37 - How do I trust myself again?
00:31:50 - Patterns of behavior repeat
00:42:55 - Going back to a toxic ex
00:47:04 - Sometimes emotional flashbacks are helpful
00:49:54 - When they say things will get better
00:55:50 - They convince you YOU are the crazy one
00:57:46 - Who “discarded” who?
01:00:39 - Will I ever find a 2nd date?
01:04:16 - How I met Debby
01:17:36 - End of show wrap up

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Reno Law Review files motion of intent to intervene in the Alex Falconi, Our Nevada Judges, American Civil Liberties Union case for transparency and 1st amendment rights in Family Court

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We update the listeners on the news of Reno Law Review filing a motion to intervene in the ACLU and Our Nevada Judges case against the Nevada Court System. Duane discusses how important it is when we are presenting and telling people about our situations. We then discuss the unfortunate news of Spiritual Empowered Coaching being demonetized by YouTube and her plan to address it. DSD asks the listeners if they thought they would lose in court but felt the need to fight anyway. A listener asks Duane his initial reaction to the divorce being over. We then discuss how the Amber Heard vs Jonny Depp case is being blamed on men and how women are targeted. The conversation then goes to how a toxic narcissistic ex will use your history to manipulation and control you. Duane discusses the fact that not all divorces are high conflict toxic messes. He elaborates how in his opinion toxic people are children in adult bodies. We wrap up with a listening thinking about how it was foolish to think things would calm down once the divorce was final.

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Heir of Justice YouTube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChjtxyaA9jZ8w0w2UGywoxw

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00:00:00 - Start of Show
03:04 - Reno Law Review file motion of intent to intervene

12:39 - Importance of transparency with Judges

15:16 - How we present is critically important

19:38 - YouTube demonetized SEC

22:11 - Ex accused new supply of abuse in court

26:20 - YouTube reuse and monetization issues

31:35 - Doing everything you can during court

38:53 - Initial reaction to divorce being over?

41:32 - AH v JD trial being blamed on men

45:11 - Why do they use your history to manipulate you?

48:39 - Not all divorces are narcissistic

53:44 - Children in an adult body

56:41 - Foolish thinking once divorce was over things would calm down

58:33 - End of show wrap-up

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Toxic narcissistic people have a unique ability to push your buttons and get you emotionally dysregulated. It is incredibly important to recognize when this is happening and take steps to keep yourself calm.

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In this show we discuss how a toxic narcissistic ex is able to target their “button pushes” to trigger raw emotions and emotional dyregulation. Duane discusses the importance of recognizing this and then taking steps to calm yourself down. We then address a concern, example, where the other parent is doing things that we do not agree with. Duane then discusses examples of his own person unhealthy coping mechanisms in the early days of his experience. A listener brings up the topic of which “violations” are important enough to fight. We then talk about the importance of listening to your children and giving them the ability to express their views - with us explaining WHY. DSD talks about the unfairness and frustration of having to pay for things that aren’t even used. This leads into a discussion of finding ways to break free from the recurring anger.

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00:00:00 - Start of Show

00:03:28 - Importance of remaining calm

00:14:00 - Mom can't get kids up on a Saturday morning

00:16:20 - Ex hits reset and tries again in court

00:22:55 - They find your emotional triggers

00:28:53 - Unhealthy coping mechanism

00:33:59 - Picking which violation is worth fighting

00:36:23 - Not having money to buy a house

00:39:38 - Importance of listening to our children

00:41:27 - Paying for childcare you don't use

00:52:43 - Finding ways to break free from the recurring anger

1:00:39 - Not being able to provide for the kids

1:02:26 - End of show wrap-up

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In this show we discuss how a toxic narcissistic ex will use the information they know about you to push your buttons

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Duane discusses how a toxic narcissistic ex will use they information they’ve learned about you to target how to push your buttons and get a reaction from you. It is important to understand what they are doing, why they are doing it, and how to effectively respond and react to it. We then take a caller who is struggling with the fact the ex has married his ex-best-friend and exposed their lies of infidelity. A caller shares how he wants to have a relationship with his adult children ages 21 and 23 that he hasn’t seen for 8 years. Finally we have a caller who shares how they (father) have won an enforcement order for their 17 1/2 year old son to come live with them and how the potentially borderline ex has continually demonstrated a “borderline” pattern of behavior.

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00:00 - Start of Show

03:02 - How they push our buttons for reactions and control

09:04 - Caller - Ex is marrying my best friend and who she cheated with

32:34 - Caller - Hasn't see his children for 8 years

48:42 - Caller - Court ordered 17 1/2 son to follow court order and live with dad

56:44 - Take your time before you start dating again

59:00 - End of show wrap-up

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The American Civil Liberties Union of Nevada has join the case with Alex Falconi from Our Nevada Judges to fight a new rule allowing unprecedented control of family court proceedings

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Our friend from Our Nevada Judges, Alex Falconi, has been arguing with the Nevada Court System on their efforts to prevent his organization from covering court proceedings. The new rule they implemented would allow the court to deny access to ALL court proceedings without cause. The American Civil Liberties Union have taken the case to fight this unjust ruling. This is an unprecedented move and is a watershed moment where we just might finally get more visibility into the court operations, especially in family court.

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00:00 - Start of Show

02:49 - ACLU supports Our Nevada Judges access to Family Court

23:45 - Finding good attorneys

37:19 - DSD Discord - Facebook Alternative

46:28 - Try to mediate your case and stay away from judges

53:40 - Deciding HOW you are going to parent

59:26 - End of show wrap-up

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