Free From P*rn

This is a bonus episode of Free From Porn. This week's episode comes to you from our friends at the Death to Life podcast — we're sharing it here because Leif's story of secret shame, a hidden lust-driven double life, and ultimately gospel-centered freedom lines up exactly with what we talk about on this show. We think you'll be encouraged by it. Leif Cano was used to living a double life. From an early exposure to pornography at just eight years old, Leif's relationship with God always had a...

You Don't Rise to Willpower, You Rise to Your Environment Rich digs into Proverbs 4:14-15 — "Do not enter the path of the wicked... avoid it, do not go on it, turn away and pass on" — and makes a case that's easy to nod along to but hard to actually live out: most relapses aren't a willpower failure. They're an environment failure. He walks through why the last few times you've slipped up probably looked eerily similar — same place, same trigger, same pattern — and why "just try harder next t...

What does a friend's stage 3 breast cancer diagnosis have to do with breaking free from porn? Everything. In this episode, Rich shares a story from that same morning — a phone call, a prayer, and a firsthand look at what it means to "cash the check" God already wrote. Digging into the Greek word sozo (salvation — meaning saved, healed, delivered, made whole, and kept safe) and Psalm 103, Rich makes the case that freedom from unwanted sexual behavior isn't something you're working toward — it'...

A phone call with his brother sends Rich back to a passage he says might be the one he returns to most — Colossians 3. Paul doesn't tell us to manage sexual immorality or try harder against it. He says put it to death. Rich unpacks the difference, using a simple but sticky illustration: a vegan friend who feels zero temptation around pizza and ice cream at parties — not because he has superhuman willpower, but because eating dairy simply isn't an option for him anymore. Compare that to Rich h...

Rich shares the verse that changed his cousin's life and cracked open the gospel for him — Galatians 5:16-24. Paul lays out two ways to live: by the flesh, or by the Spirit. And Rich unpacks why trying to white-knuckle your way out of porn by focusing on "don't do this" never works — because the psyche doesn't process negatives well. Telling yourself "don't look at porn" doesn't work. Setting your mind on the Spirit does. This episode dismantles a common confusion too: sensuality isn't the sa...

"Only Say the Word" — The Faith That Made Jesus Marvel There's only one time in scripture Jesus marvels at someone's faith. It's not a disciple. It's not a religious leader. It's a Roman centurion who says something so simple it's easy to miss: "Only say the word, and my servant will be healed." In this episode, Rich digs into Matthew 8 and asks a question that goes deeper than technique: it's not just about handling urges or managing shame. It's about what you actually believe. The centurion...

For years, Rich waited for life to line up with his preferences before he'd let himself feel okay. When it didn't? He medicated with porn. In this episode, Rich unpacks a verse that's been hitting him hard lately — Habakkuk's declaration that even when everything falls apart (no fruit, no grain, no cattle), he'll still be joyful because God is his strength. Rich breaks down why our preferences aren't neutral — they're shaped by our past, and when we let them run the show, we end up trying to ...

This is a special crossover episode. Taken from my interview with Jacob Walda on the Death to Life podcast, and it fits so well with what we talk about here that I had to bring it over to Free From Porn. Jacob opens up about struggling with lust when he was younger, and the two moments that actually broke him free. Not tactics. Not blockers. A real revelation of who he is in Christ. He talks about growing up believing he was basically a monster just for being a man. How a well-meaning safety ...

You died. The guy who was addicted to porn doesn't exist anymore. That's not a metaphor. That's Romans 6. In this episode, Rich unpacks the verse that changed everything for him: Romans 6:10-14. Not tips. Not willpower. A death and a resurrection. Jesus died to sin. Rose alive to God. And if you're in Him, so did you. Rich breaks down why sin has no dominion over you anymore, what it actually means to be "under grace, not law," and why you can stop lifting the weight you were never strong eno...

Summary: In this inspiring conversation with Tyler Morrison, we explore his journey of overcoming addiction to lust and affirmation. Growing up in a Christian family, Tyler carried guilt and shame for years until he found freedom through God's love and grace. We discuss his struggles with sexual sin, the importance of accountability, and how he broke the cycle of guilt and shame. Tyler's story of transformation through love and repentance demonstrates the power of God's grace even in the dark...

[Bonus Episode] Words Are Weapons: Scriptural Declarations to Speak Over Your Life This is a bonus episode. No guest, no long teaching, just you and the Word. You've heard it said "speak life." But do you actually know what to say? Today we're handing you ammunition. Not hype. Not empty positivity. Actual scripture you can speak out loud and let reshape what you believe about yourself. Because here's the thing. Your thoughts didn't get loud on their own. You've been rehearsing lies for years....

Porn isn't really about lust. It's about not being able to handle life. In this episode Rich digs into the verse he uses more than any other — Philippians 4:6-7. The one about anxiety, prayer, and a peace that guards both your heart and your mind. If stress and anxiety are what lead to the slip, this is the verse that cuts it off at the root. Part one of two. richard@lovereality.org

What if the biggest breakthrough in your freedom journey isn't trying harder—but thinking differently? In this episode of the Free From Porn Podcast, Richard Young unpacks one of the most powerful passages in Scripture for overcoming pornography: Romans 12:1-2. Many believers are stuck in the same cycle because they're fighting with more effort while operating from the same old mindset. But real transformation doesn't come from stronger willpower—it comes from the renewing of your mind. You'l...

Rich kicks off a new series on Bible verses that combat addictive thoughts — and he starts somewhere you might not expect. One verse. Taught to him by his sister. Easy enough to memorize, powerful enough to anchor your mind when anxiety and urges start rising. This is the first verse Rich reaches for. Listen to find out why.

What if the very tool you’re using to track progress is actually keeping you stuck? In this episode, Richard breaks down why the “day counter” mindset can quietly sabotage your freedom—and how all-or-nothing thinking fuels shame, guilt, and relapse cycles. If you’ve ever felt like you’re back at square one after a slip-up, this will reframe everything. Instead of obsessing over streaks, Richard shows you what actually leads to lasting change: emotional awareness, curiosity, and a growth minds...

Why do you keep going back to the same habits—even when you know better? In this episode, Richard shares a powerful moment from a real coaching call that exposes one of the biggest hidden drivers behind porn use and compulsive scrolling: self-frustration disguised as growth. After a tough week filled with frustration, unmet expectations, and emotional overload, a client found himself right back in old patterns. But what came next wasn’t condemnation—it was clarity. You’ll learn: Why “I ...

"The Other Team Is On Scholarship" You're not broken — you're being played. In this episode, Rich pulls back the curtain on why doom scrolling feels impossible to stop: there are highly paid professionals whose entire job is to keep you hooked. And if you've got a porn habit layered on top of that? You're in a dopamine loop that makes everything else in life feel gray and flat. Rich walks through a real coaching conversation with a guy who slipped up — not to shame him, but to investigate wha...

What happens when the guy behind the pulpit is hiding the same sin as the guy in the pew? In this episode, Richard and Justin sit down with Jonathan Leonardo — pastor, minister, and founder of Love Reality — for one of the most honest conversations we've had on the podcast. Jonathan pulls back the curtain on a decade of double-mindedness: translating Greek in seminary by day, feeding a secret life of lust by night. Traveling to preach the gospel, then using those same trips to gratify the fle...

What if the thing you call “failure” is actually the key to your freedom? In this episode of the Free From Porn podcast, Richard Young and Justin Khoe dismantle one of the most dangerous beliefs Christian men carry: “If I mess up again, it’s over.” That mindset doesn’t protect you… it traps you. We unpack why all-or-nothing thinking keeps you stuck in the cycle—and how a simple shift can change everything. Drawing from concepts popularized by Carol Dweck and grounded in the gospel, we show wh...

If you’ve ever asked, “Why is this happening to me?”—this episode will completely reframe how you see your struggle. In this episode, we break down one of the biggest mindset traps keeping men stuck in cycles of shame, guilt, and pornography—and how to finally step out of it. What if your struggle isn’t random? What if it actually makes perfect sense based on everything you’ve walked through? Instead of condemning yourself, you’ll learn how to: • Understand why you’re stuck withou...

What if your worst mistake wasn’t the end of your story—but the beginning of transformation? In this episode of the Free From Porn Podcast, Justin shares a raw and unforgettable story from his teenage years—getting arrested for shoplifting on a military base in Las Vegas. What follows isn’t just a story about consequences… it’s about conviction, identity, and the kind of moment that sticks with you for life. But the conversation doesn’t stop there. Fast forward years later, Justin finds himse...

What happens when you finally bring your struggle into the light? In this episode of the Free From Porn Podcast, Richard shares a powerful excerpt from the Death to Life Podcast featuring Samuel, a member of the Free From Porn coaching community. Samuel opens up about his journey from secrecy and fear to freedom and boldness in Christ. For years, Samuel believed the truth about his identity in Christ—but there was still one thing he had never done: tell someone about his struggle. When he fin...

Most of the struggle with porn—and honestly, most of the struggle in life—isn’t the behavior itself. It’s the psychological torment happening in our minds. In this episode, Richard Young talks about the power of perspective and how our minds often trap us in unnecessary suffering. We spend so much time trying to manipulate our circumstances so we can finally feel “okay.” When things don’t go the way we want, we spiral—medicating discomfort with porn, alcohol, sex, or endless mental rumination...

Most men trying to break free from porn believe their biggest problem is their urges. But the real issue runs deeper. It’s their relationship with their mind. In this episode of the Free From Porn Podcast, Richard Young breaks down the three stages every man goes through in his relationship with his thoughts—and why understanding this changes everything. In stage one, you believe you are your thoughts. Every urge feels personal. Every intrusive idea feels like it defines you. And because of t...

What if you’ve been starting in the wrong place this whole time? For years, I thought freedom meant climbing. Climbing out of sin. Climbing toward peace. Climbing into God’s approval. But there was one idea that broke everything open for me: In Christ, you start where He finished. You don’t begin your spiritual life at the bottom of the mountain trying to reach God. You begin seated with Christ. You don’t fight for victory. You fight from victory. In this episode, I unpack: • What...

What if the urges you’re afraid of are actually the key to your freedom? In this episode of the Free From Porn podcast, Richard Young flips the script on how we think about urges. Instead of fearing them or trying to suppress them, he explains why urges are actually doing important work—revealing the unresolved emotions, beliefs, and wounds we’ve learned to cope with through porn. You’ll hear why porn isn’t the real problem, how urges point to dysregulated emotions beneath the surface, and wh...

Most people think their struggle with porn is about willpower, discipline, or self-control. It’s not. In this episode, Richard breaks down a deeper issue that keeps people stuck—not just in pornography, but in anxiety, emotional overwhelm, and constant inner turmoil: the illusion of control. We talk about why porn is rarely the real problem, but a coping mechanism for unregulated emotions… and how much of that emotional pain comes from resisting life instead of experiencing it. You’ll hear: W...

What if trying to outthink your porn habit is actually keeping you stuck? In this episode of the Free From Porn podcast, Richard Young breaks down why willpower, mental debates, and “inner dialogue” are the worst tools for overcoming urges—and what to do instead. You’ll learn: Why your mind isn’t equipped to solve addictionHow inner arguments actually drain you and strengthen temptationThe difference between reacting to urges and observing themA practical, embodied way to endure urges without...

What does it actually mean to be free from p*rn—and how is that different from trying to be “sinless”? In this episode, Richard breaks down Romans 6 and explains why real freedom isn’t about white-knuckling behavior change, but living from the ontological freedom Christ has already given you.

Every January, we make resolutions we don’t keep—especially when it comes to quitting porn. In this episode, Richard Young explains why freedom doesn’t come from trying harder or setting negative goals like “I won’t do this anymore.” Instead, real change starts with intention. You’ll learn why intentions formed in clarity are stronger than resolutions made in emotion, how fear and desire derail your commitments, and what it looks like to set a higher intention rooted in freedom and integrity....

The holidays have a way of stirring up old thoughts, old emotions, and old coping patterns. Family gatherings, financial pressure, grief, loneliness, and anxiety can all collide at once—and when anxiety rises, the mind often reaches for the same “solution” it always has. Porn isn’t the problem. It’s the relief valve we’ve learned to pull when tension feels unbearable. In this episode of the Free From Porn podcast, Richard Young teaches a simple but powerful practice that changes everything: l...

Justin shares two hilarious stories of almost joining a cult—and we use them to unpack why old thoughts, temptations, and guilt still show up even when you’re walking in freedom. Learn how to “unsubscribe” from old mental patterns, retrain your mind’s algorithm, and stop taking every thought personally so you can keep walking in the freedom Christ already gave you.

n this episode of the Free From Porn podcast, host Richard Young dives into one of the most overlooked pressure-cookers of the year: the holiday season. For many, Thanksgiving and Christmas bring joy… but they also bring stress, old triggers, family dynamics, and emotional weight that can feel overwhelming. But what if those very triggers were invitations—not setbacks? Richard unpacks why moments of pressure are often the same moments that used to drive you to medicate with porn… and how this...

In this episode of the Free From Porn Podcast, Justin and Richard kick things off with a hilarious question: “What’s the manliest thing you’ve ever done?” What starts as jokes about peeing standing up and awkward gym compliments quickly turns into a story that nearly ends in disaster—Richard almost drowning at a Hawaiian beach because he fought the waves instead of letting himself float. But that moment becomes the doorway into a much deeper conversation about white-knuckling, rumination, anx...

In this episode of the Free From Porn Podcast, Richard Young unpacks one of the most counterintuitive truths about freedom — that trying harder often makes things worse. Drawing from psychology and Scripture, Richard explains the “law of reversed effort,” showing how willpower alone can reinforce the very habits you’re trying to break. You’ll learn why striving, white-knuckling, and obsessing over sin only deepen the struggle — and how true transformation happens when you relax into grace. If...

What happens when freedom turns into permission? In this raw and hilarious episode, Richard and Justin unpack how a single conversation years ago threw Richard off course and why it’s so easy to swing between guilt and license when you’re learning to live free from p*rn. From a wild story about a dad discovering his son’s “Free From P*rn” charge on the family bank statement to a deep dive into Galatians 5 and 2 Peter 1, the guys reveal how comparison, immaturity, and misplaced focus can subtl...

Have you ever noticed that the moment you start doing something new, stressful, or outside your comfort zone, the urges to look at prn suddenly show up again? In this honest and vulnerable episode, Richard opens up about why launching the Free From Prn coaching program actually increased his urges. Joined by Justin Khoe, they unpack why stress often becomes a hidden trigger and how to process it without escaping. Together they explore: • Why p*rn isn’t the problem, it’s the solution you...

Most people would rather hide than admit they’re struggling with porn—but what if talking about it is the very thing that breaks its power? In this episode of the Free From Porn Podcast, Justin and Richard get real about embarrassment—why we feel it, how it keeps us stuck, and what happens when we finally stop pretending. Joined by their friend David Hunte, who battled porn for over 40 years, they unpack the role of shame, identity, and community in finding lasting freedom. David shares how u...

We kept the awkward cold open on purpose—because today’s conversation starts messy and turns miraculous. Justin is back after an emergency C-section and a week in the NICU with baby Ezekiel (“Zeke”). Out of that whirlwind, he shares a gospel reframing that changes how you think about sin, shame, and why white-knuckling never sets you free. Richard and Justin unpack Romans 5 and Titus 2 through a powerful NICU analogy: sin isn’t a slap-on-the-wrist for “spilling the milk”—it’s a condition you ...

Real freedom starts when truth leaves your lips. In this episode, Richard unpacks radical honesty—why saying the real thing out loud (to safe, gospel-anchored people) exposes the lie beneath a porn habit and opens the door to healing. You’ll hear how confession isn’t shame—it’s surgery—and why many of us only realize what’s true as we say it. In this episode you’ll learn Why isolation keeps the cycle alive—and how honest confession snaps it.How the kind of porn you’re drawn to can reveal an u...

Most people lump m*sturbation and p*rn into one bucket, then stack on rules until the bowstring snaps—and the binge follows. In this episode, Richard Young takes a grace-first look at desire, self-control, and what God actually calls sin. Spoiler: the real issue is objectifying people for selfish ends—not a moment of physical release. Drawing from a conversation with caring parents, Richard unpacks how shame around sexuality can prime the cycle of escape and numbing—and how lowering the stake...

If your freedom hinged on a perfect test score, most of us would be doomed. Good news—it doesn’t. In this episode, Richard and co-host Justin dismantle a viral “SAT success” parable to expose something far bigger: belief shapes behavior. If a lie (a wrong score) can transform a life, how much more can the truth of the gospel rewrite your habits, desires, and outcomes? We walk through Romans 6, laugh at the shame-y scripts that pretend porn still owns you, and trade the “try harder” treadmill ...

If boredom sends you to your phone—and your phone sends you to porn—this episode is your reset. Richard breaks down why there’s no such thing as a “dopamine hit,” how novelty drops your baseline and fuels escalation, and how a few simple shifts can raise your baseline so books, prayer, and family time feel rich again. You’ll learn: • Why peaks/novelty lower your dopamine baseline (and motivation) • How boredom + scrolling quietly funnels you back to porn • The “turn your pho...

Are “big BUTs” sabotaging your freedom? Not those glutes—the tiny word that sneaks in after truth: “I know I’m free in Christ, but…” In this episode, Richard Young and Justin K. dismantle the sneaky “but” statements that keep you married to an old identity. Drawing from a recent church trip to Texas, they walk through Romans 6, Revelation 1, and Jesus’ “good tree” metaphor in Matthew 7 to show why a healthy tree (you, in Christ) produces good fruit—and how the “but” often reveals the real lie...

In this episode, Richard Young dismantles the myth that freedom should be “easy” if you’re doing it right. If you’ve been looking for a loophole, a hack, or a shame-free shortcut, this conversation reframes the journey: not as trying harder, but as thinking differently—and practicing it daily. You’ll learn why numbing out is easy in the moment but costly over time, and how to build the resilient, shame-free habits that actually change your life: feeling your feelings, questioning fear, and re...

On today’s shorter, solo episode of Free From Porn, Richard Young unpacks real questions that came up during a recent 6-hour live coaching weekend in Texas. These aren’t theory questions—these are the ones every man secretly asks: 👉 “What if I still feel tempted?” 👉 “What if my desire goes away… but then comes back?” 👉 “How do I convince my friend porn is bad?” Here’s the truth: freedom doesn’t mean you’ll never feel temptation again. Even Jesus was tempted. What matters is how you see it—a...

Most guys think commitment means trying harder, pushing through, and shaming yourself into change. But that kind of “commitment” always burns out. In this episode of the Free From Porn podcast, Richard and Justin unpack why lasting freedom requires a shame-free commitment. Through personal stories, hilarious analogies (backflips, belly flops, and failed journaling attempts), and biblical truth, they show you how to spot the limiting beliefs that keep you stuck in half-hearted attempts—and how...

Welcome to the Free From Porn podcast, where freedom is your new normal. In today’s episode, your host Justin Khoe and co-host Richard Young dive deep into a raw and real conversation about the unexpected, uncomfortable reality of being propositioned in a massage parlor. It’s not a story you hear often, but it highlights a key truth: external circumstances don’t define your integrity. Justin shares multiple jaw-dropping stories of being propositioned in places he thought were safe spaces, and...

“You’re going to be single forever if you keep watching porn…” That line hits different—especially if you’ve ever secretly feared it might be true. In this honest and surprising episode, Richard, Justin, and our guest Ruth Johnson take a wrecking ball to the hidden fear that porn has destroyed your chances at love. But this isn’t just about sex or singleness—it’s about how porn warps your ability to connect with real people. Ruth brings a powerful and rarely-heard female perspective on how m...

You’ve heard the stereotype: “Porn is a guy problem.” But what if that’s not the whole truth? In this groundbreaking episode, Justin Kuh and Richard Young are joined by their very first guest—Eliana—to dismantle the myth that porn is a men-only struggle. Eliana shares her powerful story of battling a lesser-talked-about side of addiction: erotica, audio porn, emotional fantasy—and the ache underneath it all. Not lust. Not rebellion. But a longing to be loved. To be seen. To be safe...

What if the thoughts in your head aren’t actually you? So many believers are walking in condemnation, not because they’re sinning—but because they believe every thought that pops into their head is them. A lustful thought. A shameful memory. A mental image they didn’t ask for. And suddenly, they’re spiraling. In today’s solo episode, Richard Young breaks down one of the most powerful mindset shifts in the journey to freedom from pornography and shame: You are not your thoughts. Just lik...

In this episode of Free from Porn, Richard and Justin dive deep into the hidden engine behind so many porn addictions: shame. We’ve been told that feeling worse will make us do better — that if we could just hate our sin enough, we’d finally change. But what if shame isn’t the path to freedom... but the very thing keeping you enslaved? Through personal stories, parenting reflections, and powerful gospel truth, we expose how shame speaks — “What’s wrong with you?” “You should’ve known better” ...

What if I still want to look at porn after getting free? Does that mean I’m not really in Christ? This is the question that trips up so many people on their freedom journey. In this episode of the Free From Porn Podcast, Justin Khoe and Richard Young dismantle the hidden lies behind that fear. If you’ve ever thought you were going in and out of Christ based on your performance, this conversation will flip that entire narrative on its head. You’ll discover: Why God puts you in Christ—and why y...

Is melatonin the secret weapon to overcoming porn? Well… maybe not the Walmart version. In this episode of the Free from Porn podcast, Richard and Justin kick things off with a hilarious dive into supplements, sleep cycles, and the rogue Joe Rogan research that got them thinking: maybe the real solution isn’t fighting porn harder — maybe it’s surrendering. Through Chiefs football analogies, victory laps, and the not-so-already-but-actually-already victory of Jesus, they unpack why so many Chr...

Cold plunges make you watch porn? That’s what we (jokingly) claim in today’s episode—but what we’re really talking about is decision fatigue, willpower myths, and why what you believe about your ability to overcome matters more than you think. Join Richard and Justin as they dive into: Why your willpower isn’t your problemHow decision fatigue sneaks up on youThe surprising link between cold plunges, late-night Amazon shopping, and your porn habitsWhy it’s not about having more fruit—it’s abo...

“Intentional Relapsing?” Why What You Do After Matters Most Today on the Free From Porn podcast, Justin Coup and Richard Young tackle a phrase that might sound like a trap: intentional relapsing. Are we saying plan to relapse? Absolutely not. But how you respond when you stumble may be the most important moment of all. We explore why relapse can become a powerful teacher—if you let truth train you instead of shame define you. From lactose intolerance gone wrong to zippers and golf swings, tod...

Is willpower enough to quit porn? What about systems—filters, accountability, and habits? In this episode of Free From Porn, Justin and Richard break down the three steps to quitting porn right now—and why most guys never make it past step two. From the fleeting strength of willpower to the limits of even the best-designed systems, they reveal the real game-changer: identity. You’ll hear stories, practical tips, and a no-fluff breakdown of why raising your standard and living from your true i...

In today’s episode of the Free From Porn podcast, Richard and Justin confront one of the most common—but unbiblical—prayers we hear from men in our coaching program: "God, take away my sexual desires." But what if that’s not the problem? What if your sexual desire isn’t a curse to be removed—but a gift to be redeemed? We talk about: Why numbing your desires leads to spiritual and emotional dysfunctionHow Jesus models what it means to feel deeply (without being ruled by feelings)Why real freed...

Ever fallen once… and then gone all in on failure? In this hilarious yet deeply honest episode, Richard and Justin unpack the all-or-nothing mindset that keeps so many stuck in cycles of porn, shame, and self-condemnation. What starts with a lactose pill and ends with a binge becomes the perfect metaphor for how guilt drives us deeper into the very thing we want freedom from. You’ll learn: – Why “one slip” doesn’t mean you’re out of Christ – How guilt and shame fuel binging behavi...

A lot of guys believe the lie: “Once I get married and can have sex, I won’t struggle with porn anymore.” But here’s the hard truth—we’re not trying to be clickbaity… marriage might actually make your porn habit worse. In this episode, Justin and Richard unpack why marriage and sex were never meant to be the solution to your struggle with lust. We talk through the deep-rooted misunderstandings many Christian men have, the biblical truth about freedom, and why Jesus—not your future spouse—is t...

What if your struggle with porn isn’t an addiction… but a habit? In this episode of the Free From Porn podcast, Justin Khoe and Richard Young unpack why the language you use to describe your battle matters deeply—and how calling it an "addiction" might be keeping you stuck. Drawing from science (yes, Pavlov makes a cameo) and scripture (Colossians 3, anyone?), they explore the difference between being a slave to sin and simply needing to renew your mind and habits through the power of the Hol...

For years, we’ve been taught to flee temptation. Run from lust. Avoid triggers at all costs. But what if that’s not what God is actually calling you to do? In this powerful episode, Richard Young and Justin Khoe unpack a surprising truth about 1 Corinthians 10:13—and explain why the real way of escape isn’t running away, but learning to endure. You’ll learn: ✅ Why trying to avoid temptation keeps you stuck in shame ✅ The physical and spiritual connection between urges and growth  ...

Why running from temptation might be keeping you stuck—and how to flip the script. 🔥 What We Talk About: Most of us were taught: "Just flee temptation." But what if that advice is keeping you spiritually weak? In this episode, Justin and Richard dismantle a commonly misused phrase—“flee temptation”—and explain why that mindset can actually deepen your slavery to sin. They walk through what Scripture actually says (and doesn’t say), and challenge you to view temptation as a training ground...

🔥 EPISODE SNAPSHOT Freedom doesn’t happen alone. It’s not just about willpower, filters, or white-knuckling your way through temptation. If you want real, lasting freedom from porn—you need a grace-filled community. In this episode, Richard and Justin unpack how shame drives isolation, and why the enemy loves to keep you there. You'll hear personal stories, biblical wisdom, and an invitation into something far more powerful than “trying harder.” Because according to Scripture—and exp...

🔥 EPISODE SNAPSHOT Sex isn’t dirty. Desire isn’t sin. And freedom doesn’t mean shutting down your sexuality. In this episode, Justin and Richard confront one of the most harmful lies in Christian purity culture: that sexual desire is inherently sinful. But what if the urge to procreate is no more evil than the urge to urinate? We explore how God designed sexuality as a gift, why shame has hijacked it, and how the gospel empowers us not to repress desire—but to redeem it. Throug...

🔥 EPISODE SNAPSHOT No one has ever hated themselves into healing. Yet for so many, shame has become the default strategy for breaking free from porn. Here’s the truth: Shame doesn’t heal you. Shame doesn’t change you. Shame just makes you feel worse. In this episode, Richard and Justin unpack why shame feels powerful—but never produces lasting transformation. You’ll hear powerful (and vulnerable) stories of how shame led to deeper bondage, even when it should’ve bee...

If effort alone could set you free… you’d be free by now. Let’s get honest. You’ve tried the filters. You’ve tried the alarms. You’ve tried accountability, apps, and prayer marathons at 5am. And yet—you’re still stuck. In this episode, Justin and Richard dismantle the lie that white-knuckled effort leads to lasting freedom. Spoiler alert: it doesn’t. In fact, trying harder may be reinforcing the very addiction you’re trying to escape. 🧠 WHAT YOU’LL LEARN Why discipline an...

What if the way you describe yourself is the very thing keeping you stuck? In this episode of Free From Porn, hosts Richard Young and Justin Khoe dismantle one of the most common (and damaging) beliefs in the fight against porn: the identity of a porn addict. If you’ve ever thought, “I guess this is just something I’ll struggle with forever…” —then this episode is your wake-up call. We unpack: The hidden power of labels and how your brain literally follows your beliefs What the noceb...