How to Get Over Your Ex

Did I make the wrong choice ending my relationship? If you're the one who left but now you're questioning everything, wondering if you gave up too soon, should have tried harder, or walked away from something that could have been fixed, this is the episode I want you to hear. Because there are actually two very different things that can have you thinking, "I made a mistake," and confusing them can keep you stuck in regret for months or even years. I'm walking you through how I would honestly evaluate the decision, what to do if you really did get something wrong, and how to tell when what feels like regret might actually be grief over the life you thought you were going to have. And either way, there is something you can do next.

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Your ex seems completely fine. They're going about their life, maybe even happier than ever, while you're sitting there wondering how the hell they can be so unbothered when you're hurting this much. And then your brain starts filling in the blanks: Was any of this real? Did they ever love me? Did the relationship even matter to them? If you've been watching your ex's behavior and using it as evidence that something was wrong with you, your relationship, or how much they cared, I want you to listen to this episode. I'm breaking down what may actually be happening on the other side of the breakup and, more importantly, what to do with the story you're telling yourself when your ex seems completely fine. Because you don't actually need to know whether they're hurting to start feeling better yourself.

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How could your ex be completely in love with you one minute and then suddenly act like they want nothing to do with you? If you've been replaying your breakup trying to figure out how they could change their mind so fast, you're not alone in wanting an explanation. But there's something your brain may be doing with that question that is keeping you stuck far longer than you need to be. In this episode, I'm breaking down what may actually be happening when someone seems to "switch up" out of nowhere, why the ending can feel completely different to the person leaving than the person being left, and what to do when you never get an explanation that makes you feel better. Because there is a way to move forward even when part of you is still sitting there thinking, "But HOW did they switch up out of nowhere!?"

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How do you get over someone you had an affair with for years, especially when part of you still believes you should have left your marriage for them? If you've been stuck for months or even years, replaying what happened, regretting your decisions, checking for contact, or begging your ex to take you back, this episode is for you. I'm answering a listener's deeply personal question about getting over a long-term affair partner, and we're going straight into the parts of this kind of breakup that can make it feel impossible to let go. There's a reason these relationships can be so hard to detach from, and getting back to the person you were before the affair isn't as simple as "just stop thinking about him." I'm walking through what I would actually work on with you if we were sitting together in a coaching session, including one counterintuitive thing you can do today that may finally start loosening the grip this person has on your mind.

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There's a part of you that knows you're supposed to learn to love yourself, take care of yourself, and build a life you love after a breakup… but what if you don't WANT to do all of that? What if, underneath all the "I'm independent and I can do it myself" advice, you're actually thinking, "I don't want to take care of myself. I want someone to take care of ME." I get it. I've felt that way, and in this episode I'm sharing a personal story that completely changed the way I think about what we're actually doing when we learn to take care of ourselves after heartbreak. I teach how to do this work in a way that leads to you being taken care of by OTHERS not just yourself.

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If you've been wondering "What is actually the best way to get over my ex and build a bigger, better life?" I want to make this really simple for you. I've realized I haven't been nearly direct enough about the new way you can work with me, and after getting question after question from listeners, I knew I needed to explain exactly what I created and who it's for. In this episode, I'm breaking down the Beyond Your Breakup Membership and why I designed it differently from anything I've offered before. Whether you're secretly hoping your ex comes back, still obsessing even though you know he isn't right for you, feeling guilty about leaving, trying to repair a marriage after an affair, mostly over your ex but stuck in the final stretch, or completely ready to stop talking about your breakup and start building the life you actually want, there's a reason I believe this is the place to do that work. I'll explain the two steps we're focused on, what makes this different from my original Get Over Your Ex program, and what it actually looks like to have ongoing coaching, support, community, and access to my entire body of work while you build what comes next. If you've been waiting for a sign that there's a more direct way to do this work with me, listen to this episode.

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If you know you don't want your old relationship back but still can't get excited about what comes next, there's a reason: your brain is much more comfortable with what it already knows than a future it has never experienced. Your ex, your old routines, and the life you built together are familiar, while dating again, becoming someone new, or creating a bigger and better life can feel vague, risky, or completely impossible to picture. In this episode, we're getting into the neuroscience behind manifestation and why your brain can actually reject the very things you say you want simply because they're unfamiliar. I'll share some of the ways I've learned to make a future feel more familiar before it arrives, including an exercise that completely changed how one woman thought about what she was trying to create. We'll also talk about why you don't have to make yourself miserable about not having what you want in order to go after it. If you're ready to stop letting your brain default to the life you already know and start creating evidence that a different life is possible, you're going to want to hear this one.

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There's a stretch before the comeback even starts that this episode names! The part where you already half-know something's wrong, but you keep it quiet, keep functioning, keep telling yourself it's fine, sometimes for a year or two before the truth actually lands. In this episode, Lindsey Mango joins Dorothy to talk about that exact stretch: the discomfort of sitting on a truth you're not ready to act on yet, and why for her, once that awareness finally clicks, there's no slow unwind — she moves, fast and completely. But what makes this conversation different is what Lindsey does with that turning point once it hits: instead of staying in the wreckage, she has a genuine gift for finding the version of the story that lifts you back up, and she gets specific about how she does it. If you've been sitting in that quiet, unresolved knowing and wondering when it's finally going to move you to act, this conversation shows you both sides of it — the waiting, and the way out that actually feels good.

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Why does your breakup feel SO much worse when you're exhausted, burnt out, sick, or running on barely any sleep? You might see one post from your ex, run into him in public, or have one bad interaction and suddenly you're spiraling—questioning everything, obsessing over what he's doing, and wondering why you can't seem to get over him. But what if the problem isn't that you suddenly miss him more? What if your biology is making your breakup feel harder than it actually is? In this episode, I'm breaking down what happens when you try to process heartbreak from a depleted body and why you cannot always trust the thoughts your brain is handing you when you're sick, sleep-deprived, or burnt out. I'll also share the personal protocol I use when I know my body and mind are running on empty—including what I do physically, what I refuse to do mentally, and the rules I follow until I'm back to baseline. This completely changed how I handle those moments when everything feels harder than it should and I think you're going to want to make your own version of it.

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Most comeback stories start with something breaking — a breakup, a diagnosis, a rug pulled out from under you. But there's a much quieter, harder version: choosing to walk into a comeback when nothing forced your hand. No crisis giving you permission, no one around you validating the hard part, no urgency pulling you forward — just you, deciding to become someone different on purpose. In this episode, Whitney Uland joins Dorothy to unpack why a self-chosen reinvention can feel so much slower and more disorienting than one you were thrust into, even though it's supposedly the "easier" version. Whitney gets specific about what's actually missing when you're building a comeback nobody's making you have, and what she's found that works in its place. If you've ever felt stuck wondering why you can't just decide to change when nothing's technically wrong, this conversation names exactly what's happening — and gives you something to do with it besides waiting for a crisis to make the decision for you.

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What if your ultimate comeback isn't about becoming a completely new person after heartbreak—but finally becoming the most you you've ever been? After spending seven episodes talking to women who rebuilt their lives after some of the hardest experiences imaginable, I wanted to step back and ask: what actually makes a comeback happen? In this episode, I break down what I've learned from the entire Ultimate Comeback Series and the specific steps I believe take you from the ashes of heartbreak to a life that feels completely different from the one you had before. We'll talk about the part of a comeback that happens before you change anything externally, how to know what you're no longer available for, how to reconnect with the parts of yourself you've buried under other people's expectations, and why your bigger and better life may have less to do with "becoming better" and more to do with coming home to yourself. If you're wondering what your comeback is supposed to look like—or you know you're ready for something bigger but don't know where to start—this is the episode to listen to.

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There's a specific kind of stuck that isn't about not knowing — you already know something's wrong. What keeps you frozen is the math of what leaving would cost: the people, the identity, the life you've built around the thing that isn't working anymore. In this episode, Leah Brathwaite talks with Dorothy about the years she spent doing exactly that — staying inside a life, a marriage, and a belief system she'd quietly stopped believing in, because the alternative felt like losing everything and everyone at once. She walks through what it actually took to move from "I know this isn't it" to acting on it, including the moment a single sentence became louder than her fear of the fallout, and why the year she was most terrified of turned out to be nothing like she'd built it up to be in her head. If you've ever known the truth about your situation and stayed anyway because the unknown felt scarier than the misery, this conversation gets specific about what's actually on the other side of that decision.

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Have you figured out that your ex is avoidant… only to find yourself thinking about them even more? Maybe you're researching whether avoidants come back, when they start missing an ex, whether no contact works on an avoidant, or what their attachment style says about why they left. Understanding your ex can feel productive, but if every answer leads to another question, the research may actually be keeping you stuck in the breakup instead of helping you get over it. In this episode, I'm showing you how to tell when understanding your ex has crossed over into rumination—and giving you two practical tools to stop using information about your ex to stay attached to them and start using what you know to create actual change for you.

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There's a specific kind of low that doesn't feel like a bad week — it feels like the floor is gone. Your business, your relationship, your sense of who you even are, all collapsing at once, with no clear sign you'll come out the other side. In this episode, Juliana Garcia — entrepreneur, mindset coach, and Dorothy's own personal coach — sits down to talk about the version of her life that most people never see: the point where everything she'd built felt like it was slipping away, and what actually pulled her out of it. Juliana breaks down the specific feeling she credits with getting her through her hardest comebacks (not motivation, not positivity — something with far more staying power), and why the trait people have criticized her for her whole life turned out to be the exact thing that saved her life (literally). If you've ever hit a low that made you question everything, this conversation gives you a completely different way to hold that moment — and what to do with it instead of waiting for it to pass.

Trigger Warning: This episode includes an open discussion of suicidal ideation during a mental health low point. Listener discretion advised.

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Have you ever looked around at your life and thought, "How did I end up here?" Not because your life is bad, but because it no longer feels like you. In this episode, I share what happened after implementing the three decisions I talked about a few weeks ago—and why they've created more momentum, clarity, and alignment than I thought possible. We dive into the surprising pattern I discovered: every area of your life either begins to expand or naturally falls away once you start making decisions from alignment instead of obligation. We also talk about why letting go can feel so uncomfortable, how to loosen your attachment before you make a big change, and what to do when doubt shows up after you've already committed to a new direction. If you've been feeling stuck, disconnected from your own life, or like you've outgrown the version of yourself you've been living, this episode will give you a completely different way to think about your next chapter.

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There's a moment in almost every comeback that we forget about: the relapse. The week your ex resurfaces and you're back checking his Instagram at 1am. The wave of spiraling that convinces you you're regressing, not healing. In this episode, author (and world explorer) Gabrielle Stone joins Dorothy to break down why that backslide is actually a predictable part of the process, not proof you're doing it wrong. Gabrielle explains the tool she uses to catch a thought spiral before it hijacks her day and what she did instead of gripping for control every time her life fell apart right before a major shift. If you've ever felt like you were three steps forward and ten steps back, this conversation names exactly what's happening in that moment — and what to do instead.

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If you're wondering where you're actually supposed to meet commitment-ready men—or why you keep ending up with people who aren't looking for the same future you are—this episode is for you. Today we're shifting from getting over your ex to building a life that makes finding the right partner possible. Dating expert Torah's 2 Cents joins me to challenge some of the biggest assumptions women have about dating and shares practical ways to create a roster of emotionally available, relationship-minded men without relying on luck. We talk about where to meet them, how to think differently about dating, and the subtle shifts that can completely change the quality of the people you're attracting. If you're ready to stop wondering whether your person exists and start dating with more confidence, clarity, and intention, this conversation is one you won't want to miss.

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Does it ever feel like you're making progress after your breakup… and then one bad day convinces you you're right back where you started? One week you feel hopeful, the next you're crying over something that didn't bother you yesterday, and suddenly you're questioning whether you're healing at all. In this episode of the Ultimate Comeback Series, I sit down with Georgie Collinson to talk about why real comebacks don't happen in a straight line. She shares a four-phase cycle that completely reframes the ups and downs of healing so you can stop treating every setback as failure and start understanding what it's actually preparing you for. If you've been frustrated by how unpredictable your healing feels or wondering if you'll ever truly get to the other side, this conversation will help you see your comeback through a completely different lens.

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Have you ever felt like you've lost yourself? Like you're overthinking every decision, waiting until you have the perfect reason before taking action, or looking to everyone else for permission before trusting yourself? This episode is for that version of you. I share the three realizations that completely changed the direction of my life and business in less than 24 hours—and why I think they apply just as much to heartbreak as they do to any season where you feel stuck, scared, or disconnected from yourself. We talk about what happens when you stop needing to justify what you want, stop outsourcing your decisions to other people's opinions, and stop believing that healing or building a life you love has to be hard to be meaningful. If you're ready to feel more like yourself again but don't know where to start, this conversation may give you the shift you've been looking for.

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Leaving a marriage is one of the hardest decisions a person can make—especially when children are involved. It's easy to wonder whether you're giving up too soon, whether you'll regret it, or whether life on the other side could ever feel better than the one you're leaving behind. In this episode, I sit down with divorce coach Meagan Norris to talk about the comeback that followed one of the hardest choices of her life. We discuss the parenting differences that ultimately led to the end of her marriage, what it took to trust herself through that decision, and how she rebuilt a life that felt more aligned than the one she left behind. If you've ever questioned whether choosing yourself means sacrificing your future, this conversation offers a perspective on what's possible when you stop building a life around fear and start building one around what matters most.

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If every date ends with you thinking, "They're nice… but they're not my ex," this episode is for you. One of the biggest reasons people stay emotionally stuck after a breakup is because they unknowingly use their ex as the benchmark for every new person they meet. But comparing someone new to your past doesn't tell you whether they're the right partner—it usually tells you something about where you are in your healing process. In this episode, I walk you through the three-step framework I use with my coaching clients to figure out why your brain keeps making these comparisons, how to know whether you're truly over your ex, and what to focus on instead so you can start dating with clarity rather than constantly looking backward. If you're tired of wondering whether no one will ever measure up to your ex, this episode will help you understand what's actually happening and what to do next.

Reduce desire and attachment to your ex – Ep. 341: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/2026/05/18/when-youve-tried-everything-to-get-over-your-ex-and-nothings-worked/

Dating to engaged process - Ep. 162: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/2022/10/03/the-dating-to-engaged-process/

Does hearing a certain song instantly pull you back into memories of your ex? Maybe you're fine one minute, then a song comes on in the grocery store or during your drive home and suddenly you're replaying the relationship, imagining getting back together, and wondering if you'll ever stop missing them. If that cycle feels familiar, this episode will show you a different way to handle those moments. I walk you through the exact breakup protocol I use with my coaching clients to stop emotional triggers from turning into hours of rumination and longing. Instead of avoiding songs, memories, or places that remind you of your ex, you'll learn how to respond to them in a way that helps you move forward rather than keeping you emotionally attached. If you're tired of one song ruining your entire day, this episode will give you a practical framework you can start using the very next time you're triggered.

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If your breakup has left you questioning your own judgment, wondering how you could have loved someone who ultimately left, betrayed you, or wasn't right for you, this episode is for you. One of the most painful parts of heartbreak isn't just losing the relationship, it's starting to believe the relationship failed because you failed. That belief quietly chips away at your confidence, making it harder to trust yourself in dating, relationships, and even other areas of your life. In this episode, I share three questions I use with my coaching clients to help separate your identity from the outcome of the relationship, rebuild self-trust, and stop using your breakup as evidence that something is wrong with you. If you've been stuck thinking, "How can I trust myself after this?" this conversation will give you a completely different way to look at what happened and show you the first step toward believing in yourself again.

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After a breakup, it's amazing how quickly your brain can erase everything that wasn't working in the relationship. The arguments, the incompatibilities, the moments you questioned whether they were really right for you suddenly disappear, and all you can think is, "I lost the love of my life." If you've found yourself obsessing over why your ex didn't choose you while barely considering whether you would actually choose them today, this episode will change the way you think about your breakup. I'll walk you through three powerful questions I use with my coaching clients to help them stop idealizing their ex, reconnect with their own standards, and shift from feeling rejected to making intentional choices about the kind of relationship they actually want. And if part of you still hopes your ex comes back, we'll also explore why getting clear on what would need to change before you ever considered reconciliation can completely transform the way you move through heartbreak. This episode is a simple exercise with the power to change how you see your past—and your future.

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If something your ex did recently sent you into a spiral, they unfollowed you, started dating someone else, viewed your story, ignored your message, or did something that left you questioning your worth, this episode will help you get back on solid ground. The hardest part of these moments usually isn't what happened. It's the meaning your brain immediately assigns to it and the behaviors that follow.

In this episode, I walk you through the same three-step process I recently used with a client after one unexpected action from her ex unraveled an entire weekend. You'll learn how to uncover the thoughts fueling the spiral, challenge the stories keeping you stuck, and create a simple plan so the next trigger doesn't have the same power over you. If you're tired of one interaction with your ex undoing weeks or months of progress, this episode will show you how to recover faster, respond differently, and keep moving toward the life you actually want.

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Friendship breakups can be just as painful and confusing as romantic ones, yet most of us have no idea how to move through them. If you've been replaying conversations, questioning what you did wrong, wondering if you'll ever find friendships that feel as meaningful again, or feeling unexpectedly heartbroken over someone who was "just a friend," this episode is for you. I'm sharing my own first experience navigating a friendship breakup and walking you through the exact three-part process I use to help people heal romantic heartbreak, adapted for losing a friend. We explore the stories we create about ourselves after a relationship ends, why forcing yourself into strict no contact isn't always the answer, and how to stop organizing your future around a connection that no longer fits. If you're ready to grieve the friendship without carrying it forever and start creating friendships that feel even more aligned, this episode will give you a completely different way to move forward.

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After a breakup, it's easy to think you're grieving the relationship when what you're actually grieving is the version of yourself you thought you were. The confident version. The chosen version. The version who never questioned her worth. If you've caught yourself wondering whether your ex leaving means you're not as lovable, valuable, successful, attractive, or capable as you once believed, this episode is for you. In this conversation, we unpack why heartbreak often turns into a crisis of identity and how your brain quietly uses the breakup as evidence against you. I share the exact exercises that helped me rebuild trust in myself after losing my engagement and pregnancy, along with the same work I use with clients who feel like they've lost their confidence, momentum, or sense of self after heartbreak. If you're tired of measuring your worth through the lens of what happened with your ex and ready to reconnect with who you are beyond the breakup, this episode will give you a completely different way to look at your healing journey.

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If you've drifted from the intentions you set at the beginning of the year, this is your reminder that you can always recommit. I'm sharing a personal mid-year check-in on marriage, movement, complaining less, and what helped me get back on track after a challenging season.

If you're ready to reset and move into the second half of the year with more intention, this episode is for you.

If you were the one who ended the relationship, but still feel heartbroken, guilty, or unsure if you made the right decision…this episode is for you. You'll hear about the emotional aftermath of leaving someone you still loved, especially when you felt like you had no other choice.

This episode explores the guilt of hurting someone, the pressure of feeling responsible for their emotions, and the confusing mix of desire, attachment, grief, and second-guessing that can happen after a breakup you initiated.

You'll also learn why doubting your decision is often connected to unresolved attachment and what it actually looks like to feel grounded and confident in your choice to leave. If you keep wondering whether you gave up too soon or replaying the relationship in your mind, this conversation will help you understand what's really underneath that spiral, and how to finally find peace with your decision.

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This episode dives into one of the most complicated and emotionally loaded forms of heartbreak: affairs. Whether you were cheated on, were the one who cheated, are trying to repair a marriage, or are struggling to let go of an affair partner, this conversation explores the shame, attachment, grief, and confusion that can exist on every side of the experience.

You'll hear an honest and compassionate discussion about why affairs happen, what people are often truly seeking underneath them, and why judgment usually keeps people stuck instead of helping them heal. This episode also breaks down the role desire and attachment play in decision-making after infidelity, especially when emotions are running high.

If you've been silently carrying guilt, heartbreak, anger, or emotional chaos around cheating or an affair, this conversation will help you feel less alone and offer a more grounded path forward.

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If you're navigating the end of a long-term marriage, this episode speaks directly to the grief, identity shifts, and emotional complexity that can come with divorce. You'll hear about what happens when the future you planned disappears, how heartbreak after marriage carries layers far beyond a typical breakup, and why healing in this season often requires a more nuanced approach.

This episode explores the emotional aftermath of divorce, including rebuilding trust in yourself, untangling the meaning you've attached to the end of the relationship, and learning how to move forward without living in bitterness or victimhood.

If you're struggling with the loss of your marriage, your family dynamic, or the life you thought you'd have, this conversation will remind you that healing and a meaningful future are still available to you, even if this was never the path you would have chosen.

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I'm hosting an open house for the Get Over Your Ex in 90 days or less program where you'll get a tour INSIDE of the Braveheart Academy portal, an inside sneak peak of what's in our Get Over Your Ex workbook, what your first couple of days inside of the program would look like (hint: Breakup Bingo), and you get to ask any and all questions you might have to know if GOYE is right for you right now! Can't wait to see you there!

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If you're heartbroken over a situationship and secretly judging yourself for how much it hurts, this episode will help you feel seen. You'll hear why undefined relationships can create just as much attachment, obsession, and grief as fully committed ones… and sometimes even more.

This conversation explores the emotional impact of ghosting, mixed signals, fantasy futures, and the stories we build in our minds about what "could have been." You'll also learn why telling yourself it "shouldn't hurt this much" keeps you stuck and what actually helps you move forward instead. If you've been replaying a situationship that never fully became a relationship, this episode will help you understand the attachment underneath it and show you a healthier path toward letting go.

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If you're stuck thinking "my ex was everything I ever wanted" this episode is going to hit hard in the best way. You'll hear from Sam, a Braveheart who walked away from a seven-year relationship with someone she deeply loved because one core desire never aligned: she wanted marriage, and he didn't. Even knowing that, getting over him felt impossible at first. In this conversation, we unpack what actually helped her release the emotional grip he had on her, stop romanticizing the relationship, and rebuild trust in herself after heartbreak. We talk about the exact mindset shifts and tools that helped her reduce desire and attachment to her ex so she could finally move forward instead of staying emotionally tied to someone unavailable. And the wild part? By the time her ex eventually got engaged, she had already met the love of her life, gotten married herself, had a baby, and genuinely didn't flinch at the news. If part of you still believes your ex was "the one" and you can't imagine wanting anyone else, this episode will show you what's actually possible on the other side of heartbreak.

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If you feel like you've tried everything to get over your ex and nothing has worked, this episode will probably feel very familiar. From journaling, therapy, meditation, dating someone new, tarot cards, hypnotherapy, "feeling your feelings," and endlessly making lists of your ex's flaws… this conversation dives into why so many healing tools only take you part of the way.

You'll hear what's often missing beneath the surface of heartbreak recovery and why some people still feel emotionally stuck years later even after doing "all the work."

This episode breaks down the deeper patterns underneath attachment, obsession, and emotional looping while offering a more complete approach to finally letting go. If you're exhausted from trying to heal but still feel emotionally tied to your ex, this conversation will help you understand why, and what actually creates lasting change.

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If you still have to see your ex every day, this episode will show you why healing is still completely possible. Whether you co-parent, work together, share mutual friends, or simply can't avoid crossing paths, you'll hear a different way to think about triggers, attachment, and emotional reactions after heartbreak.

Instead of obsessing over how to avoid your ex, this conversation explores what it actually looks like to reach true indifference, where their presence no longer controls your emotions, your anxiety, or your life.

You'll learn why trying to restrict yourself can sometimes create even more craving and attachment, and how reducing desire and attachment changes the entire experience of seeing them. If your breakup feels "different" because you can't fully cut contact, this episode will help you feel hopeful, empowered, and far less trapped by the situation.

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If you logically know your ex isn't good for you… but you still want them anyway, this episode will help you understand why. You'll hear why heartbreak isn't just about logic, why making lists of your ex's flaws only gets you so far, and what's actually happening inside your brain and body when you feel emotionally attached to someone who's wrong for you.

This episode breaks down the difference between intellectually knowing something and fully embodying it, while giving you a new way to think about healing, attachment, and moving on. If you've been judging yourself for still missing them, wanting them, or feeling "addicted" to the relationship, this conversation will help you feel less broken and more empowered to finally change the pattern.

Join the Get Over Your Ex program, enrollment ends on June 14th: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/

If you've been secretly wondering, "What if I never get over my ex?" this episode is for you. You'll hear a completely different perspective on obsession, rumination, attachment, and what it actually takes to move on for good. This episode will help you challenge the stories keeping you trapped, reconnect to what's possible for your future, and start believing that your life can become even bigger and better than the one you had before the breakup.

Join the Get Over Your Ex program, enrollment ends on June 14th: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/

If you feel like your ex was your one shot at love and now you're terrified you'll never find someone like them again, this episode is going to challenge the way you're thinking about your breakup in the best possible way. We're talking about the painful belief that your ex was "everything" you ever wanted, why that thought creates so much hopelessness after a breakup, and how it quietly keeps you emotionally attached to someone who already chose to leave. I walk you through the mindset shifts and specific exercises I use with my clients to help you separate what you truly want in a partner from the fantasy your heartbreak brain has built around your ex. If part of you still believes you lost your future when the relationship ended, this episode will help you start seeing the breakup very differently.

DOORS ARE OPEN – The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex

Doors close Sunday, June 14th

If you've tried everything to get over your ex, no contact, dating again, therapy, journaling, staying busy, "focusing on yourself" and still feel emotionally stuck months or even years later, this episode is going to make a lot of things click. In this conversation, you'll hear from Lynn, a Braveheart who spent two years trying to move on after a breakup that continued to live in the background of her life no matter how much she accomplished on the surface. She shares what finally shifted when she stopped treating her ex like the actual problem and started uncovering what she was truly attached to underneath it all. We talk about the specific exercises, mindset shifts, and coaching tools that helped her go from constantly ruminating and feeling frozen about her future to feeling genuinely free in a matter of weeks. And the most powerful part? Once she stopped organizing her life around her ex, she started building a life that felt bigger, more exciting, and more aligned than the one she thought she lost in the breakup. If you feel like nothing has worked for you so far, this episode will finally show you why.

Join us for our free training June 1st – How to Get Over Your Ex in 90 days (Without going no contact, waiting for time to heal, or giving up on getting him back): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/overmyex

If you're dating intentionally and using dating apps, Lynn can help you get off the apps and into real life dates faster. If you work with her, she can get you 3 date offers in 7 days while loving dating apps. You can find her at @‌rightswipewithlynn on instagram or message her at lynn@rightswipewithlynn.com

If you've ever thought "I've tried everything to get over my ex and nothing is working" this episode is going to explain why. Maybe you've done the therapy, the journaling, the gym glow-up, the no contact, the dating apps, the "focus on yourself" advice, the lists of undesirable characteristics … and somehow they still take up space in your mind every single day. In this episode, I share the two biggest shifts that completely changed my own breakup recovery after spending a year and a half stuck obsessing over an ex who had already moved on. We're talking about the hidden reason time alone doesn't heal heartbreak, why most breakup advice only treats symptoms instead of the root problem, and what actually has to change if you want to stop thinking about your ex constantly and finally feel free. If you're exhausted from carrying the emotional weight of someone who's no longer in your life and scared this feeling will follow you forever, this conversation will show you a completely different way forward.

Join us for our free training How to Get Over Your Ex in 90 days (Without going no contact, waiting for time to heal, or giving up on getting him back) – June 1st: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/overmyex/

If you're stuck thinking "what if I never get over him… especially when I still have to see him at work?" this episode will hit a very real nerve. It's one thing to go no contact, it's another to keep running into your ex, hearing about their life, or overlapping professionally while trying to move on. In this conversation, you'll hear a real story of someone who faced exactly that. Still connected to her ex through work, still checking in on his life, still carrying anger and what actually shifted things for her. We get into the mindset and decisions that helped her stop engaging, release the emotional pull, and rebuild a life that didn't revolve around him anymore. And here's the part you won't expect: as she focused on creating something bigger for herself, everything about her dating life changed in ways she couldn't have predicted. This episode will show you a different path forward one where you stop chasing and start becoming the version of you that gets chosen.

[FREE TRAINING] - Get Over Your Ex in 90 Days (Without going "no contact", waiting for time to heal, or giving up on getting him back - June 1st: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/overmyex/

Get in touch with Nicole: Instagram: @thenicoleblanchard Email: nicole.blanchard@compass.com Website: https://www.nicolemblanchard.com/

If your brain won't shut off, replaying your ex, fast-forwarding into worst-case scenarios about your future, and pulling you out of the life right in front of you, this episode is going to feel very real. You'll hear what's actually driving those late-night spirals and why trying to "manage your thoughts" or stay busy hasn't worked the way you hoped. Instead of more surface-level advice, this episode breaks down a clear, structured approach that targets the root of the problem. So you're not just coping with the spiral, you're removing what's creating it in the first place. If you're tired of overthinking, checking, looping, and feeling like your future depends on your ex, this will give you a completely different way to approach it and a path that actually moves you out of it.

[FREE TRAINING] - Get Over Your Ex in 90 Days (Without going "no contact", waiting for time to heal, or giving up on getting him back - June 1st

https://dorothyabjohnson.com/overmyex/

If you've ever thought, "I know my ex isn't right for me… so why do I still want him?" this episode is going to land in a very real way. You'll hear a raw, honest conversation with someone who lived that exact experience—logically knowing the relationship didn't work, but still feeling pulled toward him and hoping it could somehow come together. Instead of forcing herself to move on or trying to convince him to change, she focused on something most people skip. In this episode, we unpack what shifted when she stopped centering him and started building a life she was genuinely excited about—and how that changed the entire dynamic between them. If you're in that space where you still want your ex back, this will give you a much more effective approach than chasing, waiting, or trying to "fix" yourself—and show you what becomes possible when you finally release the hold they have on you.

The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program (opens June 1st!): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/

Listen to Ep. 60 - How to love your life without them: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/2020/09/29/how-to-love-your-life-without-them/

If you've been thinking, "If I could just fix myself, they'd come back," this episode will hit close to home. You'll hear a real story from a client who started her breakup convinced she needed to become prettier, more successful, or more "enough" to win her ex back—and how that mindset kept her stuck in the pain. What shifted everything wasn't becoming someone new for him, but learning how to reduce the desire and attachment that were keeping her emotionally hooked—and redirecting that energy into building a life that actually fit her. In this conversation, we walk through what that process looked like in real time, what changed internally before anything changed externally, and why the outcome surprised her the most. If you're still hoping your ex will come back, this episode will give you a completely different way to approach that desire—and show you what becomes possible when you do.

The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program (opens June 1st!): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/

Learn more about Nyree: IG: @beauty_energy_exchange Website: https://www.beautyenergyexchange.com/

If you're stuck in the loop of "I know they're not right for me… but I still want them back" or wondering if fixing yourself will somehow make your ex return, this episode will meet you exactly where you are. Instead of forcing yourself to "move on" before you're ready, we break down what's actually driving that pull toward your ex—and why trying to think your way out of it hasn't worked. I'll walk you through the shift that changes everything, so you can finally get out of the mental tug-of-war and start showing up differently. Not from desperation, but from a place where you're building a life that feels better than the one you had with them. If you secretly don't want to move on yet—or you're tired of feeling like you're the problem—this episode will show you a smarter way forward that puts you back in control of what happens next.

The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program (opening June 1st!): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/

In the past two episodes, I walked you through the 4 stages of heartbreak and the specific remedy that moves you from one stage to the next. But what does this actually look like when someone applies it in real life? In this episode, you'll hear a conversation with a Braveheart who used this exact framework after her husband unexpectedly ended their 22-year marriage. She shares what it felt like to move through the devastated stage, how identifying her stage changed the way she approached healing, and the specific shifts that helped her move forward much faster than she thought possible. If you've been wondering how to actually apply the stages and remedies to your own breakup and whether this process can really work when the relationship was long, serious, and deeply intertwined, this episode gives you a real example of what happens when you identify your stage, apply the right remedy, and get the right support along the way.

The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex

Last week's episode helped you identify which stage of heartbreak you're in, this episode will show you what to actually do about it. One of the biggest mistakes people make after a breakup is using the wrong solution for the stage they're in, trying mindset work when their nervous system is still in survival mode, or trying to build a bigger life when they're still secretly attached to their ex. No wonder nothing sticks. In this episode, I walk you through the exact remedy that corresponds to each stage of heartbreak so you can stop guessing and start moving forward with the strategy that actually works for where you are right now. When you match the right solution to the right stage, healing speeds up dramatically and the path to being truly free from your ex becomes much clearer. If you're ready to stop spinning your wheels and understand the next step in your healing process, this episode will give you the roadmap.

The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex

If you feel like you've tried everything to get over your ex, no contact, journaling, therapy, working out, staying busy, but nothing is actually working, this episode might explain why. After helping people heal heartbreak for nearly a decade, I started noticing a pattern: most people are trying to heal using strategies meant for a completely different stage of heartbreak. In this episode, I break down the four stages of heartbreak I see over and over again in my coaching practice and how each stage has a completely different problem to solve. When you understand exactly where you are in the process, everything starts to make more sense and the path forward becomes much clearer. If you've been wondering why healing feels harder than it "should," this conversation will help you finally diagnose what's really going on and point you toward the next step.

If you've ever wondered whether your breakup means you manifested the wrong person or somehow "did manifestation wrong," this episode will challenge that belief in the best way. I'm joined by manifestation and money mindset expert Jamie Berman, and we unpack one of the most common fears people have after heartbreak: Did I create this? Did I mess it up?

Jamie offers a completely different lens on manifestation, explaining why painful events like breakups don't mean you failed at manifesting and how looking at them that way can actually keep you stuck in shame and self-doubt. Instead, she shares a perspective that helps you move forward with clarity, compassion for yourself, and a deeper trust in what's still possible for your life and relationships.

If you've been questioning yourself, your choices, or your ability to create the love you want after a breakup, this conversation will help you rethink what manifestation really means and why your story might be unfolding exactly the way it needs to.

Learn more about Jamie Berman:

Website: https://jamieberman.com

IG: https://www.instagram.com/jamieberman_/

Private Podcast: The Abundance Reset: https://jamieberman.com/5-day-abundance-reset/

If you've ever caught yourself saying "it's fine" about something that clearly isn't, this episode is going to hit. Maybe it's staying in contact with your ex because it's "temporary." Maybe it's continuing to sleep with them, keep their hoodie, answer their late-night texts, or stay in a living situation that drains you because "it won't be forever." On the surface, it feels mature. Low drama. Logical. But underneath? It's costing you energy, confidence, and momentum toward your Bigger & Better Life. In this episode, we unpack why "it's fine" is often just settling in disguise and how that mindset quietly keeps you from feeling lit up right now. I'll walk you through the shift that changes everything: becoming open to micro upgrades. The small, immediate decisions that elevate your present moment instead of waiting for some future version of your life to finally feel good. If you're tired of surviving the in-between and ready to stop postponing your own joy, this conversation will challenge you, and show you what's actually possible starting today.

Applications for the Bigger and Better Life Mastermind is Open: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/biggerbetterlifemastermind/

If you've ever caught yourself thinking "I shouldn't still feel this way by now" whether it's a wave of sadness years after the breakup or a gut-punch reaction to something like divorce paperwork, this episode will hit home. We're unpacking why judging your emotions is the exact thing that keeps you stuck and how that quiet internal pressure adds a second layer of suffering most people don't even realize they're creating. I share a powerful assignment I gave a client inside the GOYE program, that completely changes how you relate to your feelings and why building this emotional foundation makes everything else in healing move faster. If you're tired of fighting your reactions and wondering what's wrong with you, feeling like this healing journey is taking forever, this episode will feel like a deep exhale and give you a practical place to start this week.

If you're exhausted by the same breakup advice, wait for time to heal, go no contact, just focus on yourself, this episode is your permission slip to think differently. I'm sharing the heartbreak takes I usually keep to myself: the unconventional beliefs and strategies I've seen actually change people's lives after nearly a decade of coaching through real loss, real attachment, and real comebacks. This isn't about doing what everyone else is doing; it's about what happens when you approach heartbreak like the top 1%—with a sharper lens, more agency, and methods that challenge the status quo. If you're ready for ideas that might feel bold, a little controversial, and surprisingly freeing, you're going to want to hit play.

The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/

If your ex's words say one thing but their actions say another and you keep replaying every text, conversation, and mixed signal trying to "figure it out", this episode is for you. In this episode, I break down why confusion isn't a sign of love or depth, it's a defense against a harder emotion your brain doesn't want to feel yet and how it quietly drains your agency, momentum, and self-trust. If you're tired of overanalyzing your ex instead of moving your life forward and you want clarity you can actually act on, this episode will help you drop the confusion and take your power back.

The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourexnd/

If you're trying again with your ex and suddenly your friends and family are questioning your judgment, warning you not to repeat the past, or flat-out refusing to support the relationship, this episode will help you breathe again. We're talking about what to do when the relationship feels right to you this time but the people closest to you are skeptical, protective, or openly disapproving. I break down a clear three-step process to help you stay grounded in your decision, stop over-explaining or defending yourself, and shift the dynamic so others either get on board or fade into the background without blowing up your relationships.

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Valentine's Week doesn't have to be something you do alone. Feb 9-13, I'm opening The Breakup Hotline. 5 days of live support and real-time coaching to help you create clarity and closure in your breakup so you can feel confident in a better future. Free to attend. The line opens Monday, February 9th.

Register here and submit for coaching: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/hotline/

Dorothy sits down with Kirstin Sarfde, expert binge eating coach and host of How to Stop Binge Eating, to talk about why breakups so often trigger binge eating and what actually helps when willpower, distraction, or "just stop" advice doesn't work. We break down how heartbreak dysregulates your nervous system, why food becomes the fastest coping mechanism in moments of emotional overwhelm, and the specific shifts that help you interrupt the binge–shame cycle without turning food into another thing you're fighting. This conversation is practical, grounded, and deeply compassionate, especially if you're scared something is "wrong" with you because you can't stop binge eating after your breakup. Kirstin shares tools you can start using immediately to feel more in control, less ashamed, and more supported as you heal.

Find Kirstin Sarfde Here:

Website: https://coachkir.com/ Podcast: https://coachkir.com/mypodcast/ Instagram: @stopbingeeatingcoach

If you're in the middle of a divorce and quietly afraid that standing up for yourself will turn you into someone angry, bitter, or unrecognizable, this episode is for you. We're unpacking the very real fear of shrinking to keep the peace or swinging to the other extreme just to feel protected and why neither is actually power. I walk you through a real client scenario and the exact four-step framework we used to help her stay grounded, clear, and self-advocating throughout the divorce process without relying on anger as fuel. This episode is a practical guide to turning your power on, calmly, intentionally, and sustainably so you can move through divorce without losing yourself in the process.

Check out our breakup toolkit (a breakup first aid kit that not only helps you get over your ex but also takes you beyond your breakup): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/breakuptoolkit/

If you're spiraling about dating after your breakup, convinced there's no one out there for you, replaying every fight you had, and quietly wondering if the things your ex disliked about you mean you're asking for too much, this episode is for you. We're unpacking why the exact issue you used to argue about in your last relationship might not be a flaw at all, but a signal of misalignment, and why that same trait could become the foundation of real connection in your next relationship. You'll learn how incompatibility gets mistaken for unworthiness, why your brain keeps turning past arguments into evidence against your future, and how to stop shrinking yourself to feel chosen. This episode will help you see your desires clearly again. Not as liabilities, but as clues and restore hope that the right relationship won't require you to change who you are, only to be more of it.

Check out our free breakup clinic (go beyond your breakup to build your bigger and better life): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/breakupclinic/

Starting a new year after a breakup can feel paralyzing when the idea of a "clean slate" brings pressure instead of hope. In this episode, I walk you through a simple, structured process to help you move forward without forcing clarity you don't have yet. Using the Breakup Life Wheel (or Bigger & Better Life Wheel), you'll learn how to assess where you actually are, identify what needs attention now, and turn that insight into three clear intentions with concrete actions you can take in real life. We'll also land on a single word for 2026 that anchors your decisions and gives you direction when motivation wavers. If you're standing at the beginning of the year unsure how to rebuild after a heartbreak, but ready to start anyway, this episode will give you a grounded place to begin.

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If you're staring down 2026 wondering what your life is actually going to look like and whether anything is really going to change, this episode is for you. Dorothy pulls back the curtain on what determines whether the next year becomes a repeat of the last or a genuine turning point, and makes a direct case for why who you work with matters more than willpower, timing, or trying harder on your own. If you're done hoping 2026 will be different and want a clear path for how to make it different, this episode will show you exactly where to start.

The Bigger & Better Life Mastermind: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/biggerbetterlifemastermind/ The Get Over Your Ex Program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourexnd/

This week, I coached women who went from devastated to empowered in days, not months. Women who thought they needed all the answers before taking action. Women who discovered that external validation was always internal all along. This episode is a compilation of the most powerful coaching insights from just ONE week inside the Get Over Your Ex program—proof that when you have the right method and support, transformation happens fast. If you've been wondering what's actually possible when you stop doing this alone, listen to this.

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If the thought of running into your ex with their new partner makes your stomach drop, or you find yourself mentally rehearsing what you'll say, how you'll look, or how you'll fall apart, this episode is for you. Worrying about that moment keeps your nervous system on edge and your brain stuck in threat mode, even when nothing has actually happened yet. In this episode, Dorothy teaches a breakup protocol designed specifically for these high-stress encounters, so your brain can stop spiraling and start feeling prepared. You'll learn how to move from panic and comparison into calm, grounded confidence. If you're tired of obsessing over a scenario that hasn't even happened (or maybe it did and went very poorly) and want a plan you can actually use in the moment, this episode will change how you walk into those situations forever.

Get Over Your Ex: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourexnd/ Free training: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/overyourexpodcast/

If you're closing out 2025 in the middle of a breakup, this episode is your reset button. When everything feels like it's ending, your relationship, your plans, the version of you that existed with your ex, it's easy to panic and drag old patterns, fears, and expectations into the new year. But 2025 is a "completion year," and instead of fighting the ending, this episode shows you how to use it. I'm walking you through three journal prompts that will help you identify what's truly finished, what you're willing to make space for in the unknown, and who you're becoming as you step into 2026. If you want 2026 to feel nothing like the year you're leaving behind, start with these three questions. They will change how you end this chapter and how you begin the next one.

Get Over Your Ex Program is OPEN: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex

If it feels like your ex walked out with your entire life and took everything with them, this episode is the reality check your brain desperately needs. We're breaking down what your ex actually took (and the list is a lot shorter than you think) and exposing the invisible gains you can't see yet because heartbreak has you zoomed in on the loss. You'll learn why the space they left behind isn't a void, it's raw, open territory that's now available for your next chapter. And I'll walk you through two questions and one action step that will show you, in real time, why you didn't lose everything… you gained room to build something better. If you're stuck in the narrative that they "took your life," this episode will give you back the power you thought you lost.

The Breakup Clinic (free live event Dec 8 - 11): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/breakupclinic/ The Get Over Your Ex Program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex

If it feels like you "lost everything" when your ex left, this episode will change your life. Inside, Dorothy breaks down the difference between what you think was taken from you and what was never truly yours to begin with… and then shows you the invisible gains that heartbreak makes available the second someone walks out of your life. You'll learn the three concrete steps to make those gains visible THIS week, so you stop fixating on the life that ended and start building the one that just opened up. If you're done staring at the empty space they left behind and ready to see what's possible in front of you, you need this episode.

The Breakup Clinic (free live event happening Dec 8 - 11): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/breakupclinic

If your breakup feels overwhelming, impossible, or like you keep getting stuck in the same emotional loop, this episode will change the way you think about your "breakup problems." Most breakup suffering comes from low-quality breakup problems. The kind that feels justified and absorbing, but leads nowhere: Why isn't he texting me? Did he ever really love me? What if he moves on first? They feel important, but they keep you spinning, proving your pain instead of solving it. Dorothy shows you how to spot when you're caught in low-quality breakup problems, how to redefine them into high-quality breakup problems that actually move your life forward, and how to approach your breakup problem-solving with the same mindset you bring to challenges you want to solve. This episode will help you upgrade the questions you're asking so you can create solutions you're actually excited about.

Reminder! The Breakup Clinic (free live event, Dec 8 - 11): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/breakupclinic/

The Breakup Clinic is happening December 8-11. Four days to go from white-knuckling no contact to genuinely not wanting contact. Get your diagnosis, your prescription, and your treatment plan, plus live coaching from Dorothy. Free to attend.

Register now: http://dorothyabjohnson.com/breakupclinic

If your breakup has your body in panic mode, constantly tense, anxious, or waiting for the next shoe to drop, this episode is your lifeline. Dorothy breaks down why your nervous system doesn't feel safe, and reveals the three pillars that create real, grounded safety: spiritual, physical, and mental. You'll learn what's actually happening when your system codes loss as danger, how to rewire that response, and the practical tools that help you move from survival mode to expansion. Whether you're fresh in heartbreak or building your bigger and better life, this episode will teach you how to feel safe enough to move forward, for real this time.

The Breakup Clinic (free live event December 8 - 11): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/breakupclinic/

If you've been saying "I'm so overwhelmed" about your breakup, whether it's the grief, the urge to text them, or starting over… this episode is about to change everything. Dorothy exposes how that one word secretly convinces your brain you can't handle what's happening and gives you a simple, powerful switch that rewires your response in real time. You'll learn the one-word hack that turns panic into presence, helps you move instead of spiral, and proves that you're far more capable than your mind wants you to believe. If you've felt like you're drowning in the breakup waves, this is the episode that teaches you how to swim.

The Get Over Your Ex Program - https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/

If you've been stuck replaying the thought, "I wasted so many years on my ex," this episode is going to blow your mind. Dorothy breaks down why those years weren't lost, they were the reason your life is about to move faster, clearer, and bigger than ever before. You'll learn how to spot the exact places your breakup actually added years to your life, financially, emotionally, physically, and even generationally. And how to stop handing your ex both your past and your future. If you're ready to turn what feels like lost time into the greatest comeback advantage of your life, hit play.

The Get Over Your Ex Program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/

You've done the work. You've cried, journaled, coached yourself through the heartbreak and then one text, one trigger, one spiral later, it feels like all your progress vanished. In this episode, Dorothy shows you why that's not true. She breaks down the real reason those moments don't erase your healing, the biology behind why your brain still reacts that way, and the three simple steps to close the gap between who you were in that moment and who you're becoming. If you've ever caught yourself thinking, "I should be further along than this," this episode will help you calm the shame, find your footing, and remember: all your healing still counts.

The Get Over Your Ex Program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourexnd/

If you can't stop thinking about the life you were supposed to have with your ex, the love, the home, the family, this episode will shift everything. Dorothy shares a personal story about realizing she did get the life she once imagined… just in a version that was richer, deeper, and more aligned than she ever could've planned. Inside, she helps you understand why it feels like everything you wanted was stolen from you, and how to see the missing piece that's actually being built for you right now. If you've been scared you'll never get what you lost, this conversation will remind you why your story isn't over, it's just getting a better rewrite.

Feeling stuck on how to actually build your bigger and better life after heartbreak? This episode takes you behind the scenes of Dorothy's Bigger & Better Life Mastermind and shows you why simply "wanting more" isn't enough to move the needle. Dorothy walks you through the Life Wheel assessment to pinpoint where you're stuck, explains how the Attachment Cycle helps you release the grip on what's holding you back, and shares three mindset shifts that have helped her clients collapse timelines on everything from career pivots to finding love again. If you're ready to stop circling the same goals and finally start living the life you say you want, this episode will show you where to start.

The Bigger & Better Life Mastermind: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/biggerbetterlifemastermind/

If your divorce or breakup feels like the worst thing that's ever happened to you, this episode is for you. Dorothy walks you through why trying to squeeze your pain into cheerful reframes keeps you stuck, and demonstrates a clearer alternative: how to hold the real hurt without it defining you, rewrite the story in a way that's honest and authentically yours, and use one simple prompt to start making calm, powerful decisions from. Listen if you're done pretending your wounds look pretty and want a practical, compassionate way to move forward that keeps your integrity intact.

The Get Over Your Ex Program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex

If you feel like you're constantly on the edge of tears, terrified of your emotions, or stuck in a cycle of grief you can't shake, this episode is for you. I'm sharing two powerful meditations that will completely shift how you relate to your feelings. The first helps you create safety inside yourself and build a healthier relationship with your grief instead of fighting it. The second guides you through a 5 minute process of emotional transmuting, so you don't just sit in your pain, you actually move through it and feel a genuine release. If you've been scared of what might happen if you let yourself feel, or exhausted from "feeling your feelings" without relief, these practices will give you a new way forward.

Join us inside the Get Over Your Ex program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/

You know thoughts create feelings. You understand that you create your own reality. You've read all the books, done all the courses, and can explain these concepts perfectly to your friends. So why can't you actually LIVE them when life gets messy? In this episode, Dorothy breaks down the real reason most people stay stuck in the knowing phase and reveals the three bridges that take you from intellectual understanding to embodied living. If you're tired of being a spiritual scholar who can't access her own wisdom when she needs it most, this episode will change how you approach transformation forever.

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When your breakup leaves you wondering how to create a life that's actually bigger and better than the one you had with your ex, the advice out there usually falls short. "Just move on," "go no contact," or "time heals all." But none of that shows you how to design a life that feels extraordinary on your terms. In this episode, I'm sharing the 3 steps of self-authorship. A framework that will help you stop living in reaction to your ex and start writing your own story. You'll learn how to decide who you are without them, how to author your emotional experience instead of being hijacked by it, and how to create experiences that make your new life impossible to ignore. If you take these 3 self authoring steps today, by the end of this week you'll feel like the main character of your own life instead of a supporting role in your ex's story.

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After a breakup, one of the most common (and painful) questions I hear is: "Who am I without them?" If you don't know who you are apart from your ex, you can't clearly see what you want, what's possible, or how to build a life that's truly yours. Instead, you risk creating a life that's just a reaction to the breakup, or worse, one that keeps you tied to the person who left. In this episode, I'm sharing the exact process I use with my clients to help them uncover who they are without their ex. Inside, you'll learn why knowing yourself is the foundation for not wanting your ex, how it changes the way you date (or don't), and why it's the only way to create a bigger and better life that feels authentic instead of accidental. You'll walk away with a framework, five activation codes, that will help you finally shift from obsessing over them to becoming obsessed with your own life.

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When heartbreak hits, it can feel unbearable, like you'll never stop hurting, never find love again, and that maybe the problem is you. In this episode, I sit down with Braveheart alumni Anne, who knows that feeling all too well. After her breakup, she was consumed by fear, self-doubt, and the thought that she wasn't enough. But everything shifted when she learned one powerful concept "I'm allowed to." This simple reframe helped her release the weight of "I should" and "I have to," and instead step into permission. Permission to not miss him, permission to move on, and permission to live her own life fully. If you've ever felt stuck in the loop of pain, wondering what's wrong with you, Anne's story and the mindset shift she shares will give you the exact perspective you need to take back your power and start moving forward.

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What happens when you finally stop obsessing over your ex, the one you thought would give you everything you ever wanted? In this episode, you'll hear from Braveheart alum Allison, who went from feeling deeply attached and convinced her ex was her only shot at the life she dreamed of… to no longer wanting him at all. And ironically, that's when everything shifted. Together, we unpack the trap of high desire and high attachment, how to loosen your grip without pretending you don't care, and the powerful analogy that changed everything for her healing. If you've ever felt stuck in the loop of "he was the best I'll ever get," this one will hit home and give you a new way out.

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You know you should move on, you even want to move on, but every time you start making progress, something inside you slams on the brakes. You sabotage your own healing, make excuses to stay stuck, or find reasons why you're "not ready yet." What if the thing keeping you trapped isn't love for your ex, it's fear of who you'll become without them? In this final episode of the series, I'm exposing the invisible barriers that keep you playing small and the exact process I'd use to shatter every limiting belief that's been keeping you caged. If you've ever wondered why you keep getting in your own way, this episode reveals what's really going on.

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You keep waiting for your ex to give you the closure you need, an explanation, an apology, some sign that what you had mattered to them. In this episode, I'm revealing the twisted psychology behind why begging for closure actually pushes your ex further away, and the counterintuitive approach that either gets you your ex back or something infinitely better. Plus, I'm announcing something I've never offered before that's going to change how you approach getting over your ex completely. If you're tired of waiting for someone else to set you free, this episode flips everything you think you know about closure upside down.

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You've been working on your nervous system and taking better care of yourself, but your ex is still living rent-free in your head 24/7. Every song reminds you of them, you're having fake arguments in the shower, and you keep replaying memories on repeat. You wonder if there's something seriously wrong with you. Why can't you just stop thinking about someone who clearly doesn't want you? In this episode, I'm revealing the real reason your brain is obsessed with your ex and the exact approach I'd use now to rebuild the most important relationship of your life. If you're tired of feeling like a prisoner in your own mind, this episode shows you the way out.

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You've been doing all the "right things" to get over your ex. Therapy, journaling, staying busy, even no contact, but you're still waking up at 2 AM thinking about them, still checking their social media, still feeling like your whole life is completely over. You're not broken, and you're not doing anything wrong. There's just one crucial piece missing that most breakup advice completely ignores. In this episode, I'm sharing exactly what that piece is and the simple approach that finally made the difference for me and thousands of my clients. If you've been wondering why you're still struggling when you're trying so hard, this episode has the answers you've been looking for.

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Two years ago, she moved to Hawaii for love and got dumped the moment she landed. No friends, no support system, completely alone. Today? She's calling in from a surf trip in Mexico, planning adventures to the Maldives, and dating from a place of complete confidence. This is a 2-year check-in with a GOYE alumni who proves that your breakup breakdown can become your biggest breakthrough. She shares the exact tools she still uses daily, how she learned to stop taking rejection personally, and why dating feels effortless now. Her biggest revelation? Realizing his emotional unavailability had nothing to do with her worth. Now when someone isn't a fit, whether dating or career, she doesn't spiral, she just moves on. If you're in the thick of heartbreak thinking this is the worst thing that could happen to you, listen to this. You're going to look back and be proud of yourself. The life you're building without him is better than anything you imagined with him.

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Are you making decisions based on what will make you happy or what will make other people comfortable? In this final episode of the ceiling-breaking series, Dorothy tackles the biggest limitation of all: living your life by committee. Discover why the fear of judgment only kicks in when you're about to do something that would actually light you up, and learn the question that will free you from everyone else's opinions about your choices. Get the Come Alive Audit that will show you exactly where you've been dimming yourself for others' approval and how to start choosing what makes you feel most alive. If you're tired of seeking permission to live fully, this episode gives you the framework to trust your own compass over the committee's vote.

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"I'm not ready yet." These four words are keeping you stuck in preparation mode while your dreams collect dust. In this powerful episode, Dorothy exposes the readiness myth that convinces you to wait for some magical moment when you'll feel prepared enough to go after what you want. Spoiler alert: that moment never comes. Discover why "begin before you believe" is the secret to quantum leaps and get the Begin Before You Believe Challenge that will prove you can start before you feel ready. If you've been waiting to feel qualified, confident, or prepared enough to make your move, this episode will show you why starting scared is exactly what successful people do.

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Whether you're day one or year three post-breakup, there's an invisible trap keeping you playing small that has nothing to do with your ex. You're making "realistic" choices that keep you trapped in a life that's fine but not extraordinary. In this episode, Dorothy reveals why asking "What's realistic?" is the ceiling blocking your bigger life and shares the simple question shift that opens up possibilities you can't even see right now. Plus, get the Possibility Audit challenge that will show you exactly where you've been limiting yourself and how to break free. If you're ready to stop settling for what seems "realistic" and start building what's actually possible, this episode changes everything.

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In this raw and honest episode, Dorothy exposes the dark side of our information-obsessed culture and how it's keeping you stuck in decision paralysis. After consuming countless expert opinions on everything from new motherhood to scaling her business, she found herself more confused and doubtful than when she started. Sound familiar? If you've ever felt overwhelmed by conflicting advice, paralyzed by too many options, or found yourself second-guessing decisions you used to make with ease, this episode will show you how to break free from information addiction and start taking action that actually moves you forward. Dorothy shares the exact steps she's using to cut through the noise and rediscover the decision-making confidence that built her dream life in the first place.

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Picture this: You finally get into that exclusive book club you've been trying to join for months. You walk in excited, ready to build your bigger and better life... and there's your ex. With their new partner. What do you do? Run? Hide? Or something completely different? Today I'm sharing a client's real-time experience that turned what felt like a setback into the most accelerating moment of her healing journey. If you've ever wondered how you'd handle running into your ex in the wild, this episode will change everything. The Get Over Your Ex Course - https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourexcourse

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When you're heartbroken, your "bigger and better life" can feel a million miles away. Like something that happens someday if you can just survive the now. But what if the life you want isn't actually far off… you're just not stepping into the rocket that's sitting right in front of you? In this episode, Braveheart Colleen and I discuss how we delay our own healing and growth by waiting for the 'right time' instead of recognizing the acceleration that's available right now. If you're feeling stuck or like things are moving painfully slow, this conversation is your invitation to shift gears, get in the rocket, and make real, tangible progress toward the life you say you want.

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You're furious and you can't stop thinking about it. Your ex said or did something you completely disagree with, and even though you understand how they might see it that way, you know they're wrong. The anger feels endless, and the more you think about it, the worse it gets. In this episode, I'm breaking down why rage after a breakup sticks around longer than it should, why it's really there, and how to finally move past it without needing your ex to agree with you. You'll learn the hidden role anger is playing in your healing, the three-step process to break out of the rage cycle, and how to take your power back when you're stuck in mental arguments you can't win. If you feel trapped replaying what they said and how wrong they were, you cannot miss this episode.

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You're stuck thinking your ex was the only person you could ever truly want and every time you meet someone new, your brain seems to prove it. In this episode, we break down why you're not just missing your ex, you're caught in what I call a "mental hostage situation." I'll show you how your brain is running two hidden tracks at once, how they're keeping you stuck, and the simple shift that breaks the loop. If you feel like no one could ever measure up to your ex, this episode will change how you see everything and open up possibilities you can't even see yet.

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You're terrified you'll never experience love again. Every dating app swipe feels empty, every "moving on" advice rings hollow, and deep down, you wonder if your chance at real love died with your relationship. But what if this fear isn't what's actually holding you back? In this episode, I'm exposing the hidden thought patterns keeping you locked in post-breakup limbo and sharing the exact mindset shift that transformed my clients' relationship with love after heartbreak. If you're haunted by the question "What if they were my last chance at love?" — this is the episode you need to hear.

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Your ex left, but the thoughts didn't. Join Breakup Coach Dorothy for a free 2-day live experience that will completely change your relationship with your breakup. In this quick episode, she reveals what you'll discover during Breakup First Aid LIVE and why this approach works when conventional breakup advice fails.

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That quality you hate most about yourself? It might actually be your greatest strength. In this episode, I share how one of my clients discovered her "indecisiveness" was actually her hidden superpower and how this revelation transformed her healing journey. I'll walk you through the exact 5-step process to identify, reframe, and embrace the parts of yourself you've been at war with (often the same parts your ex criticized). When you finally love what you've been taught to hate, you don't just heal faster, you unlock the secret to building a life that's genuinely bigger and better than the one you had with your ex.

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In this quick episode, Breakup Coach Dorothy reveals why you're still obsessed with your ex (hint: it's not because they were "the one") and introduces her free Breakup Toolkit that's helped thousands stop the 2AM thought spirals and social media checking. If you're tired of conventional advice that doesn't work, this 3-minute episode could change everything.

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You can't get over your ex. You've tried everything—journaling, therapy, unfollowing them, throwing yourself into work—but nothing sticks. Here's the uncomfortable truth: maybe you're stuck because you're forcing yourself to "move on" when deep down, that's not what you actually want. In this episode, I'm sharing a powerful mindset shift from a recent coaching session that completely transformed how my client approached her breakup healing. If you've been beating yourself up for still wanting your ex back, this episode will give you the permission and practical steps to find authentic relief without forcing yourself into an emotional state you're not ready for.

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