The Black Russian Podcast

We sit down with Stacey "DJStacelace" and Kedrian "KBThearkitekt" to help them share their story of their self-crafted path to non-monogamy. From being active in church community to realizing that they wanted to experience a kind of life where there is no ceiling to their happiness AND do it together, they share a truly inspiring story and we are so grateful for being there to help them do it.

Welcome to Season 3 of The Black Russian Podcast!This season is all about conversations with people who have chose to Love in ways beyond the traditional, "One style fits all" template of monogamy. We wanted to share the diversity of ways to create loving relationships, lasting relationships, healthy relationships in the realms of Non monogamy, Open relating and Polyamory. Many ways and nuances the flow between labels and beyond.Enjoy!

This Episode we bulding on the concept of having multiple lanes of connection within a relationship.How important it is to have diverse lanes to generate, love, comradery, and nouishment. Especially when dealing with the challenging parts of longterm relaitionships! This concept of building wide is a core principal that applies beyond relationships. Having a diverse, balanced diet ( mind, body, soul and ting!)Keeps us balanced and more capable of being a better partner, lover and all around human being :)

Welcome!! If you have never listened to our podcast this is a great place to start!This is a recap of who we are, our origin stories in to non monogamy, out traumas, triumphs and where we are now.Enjoy and share share share share!

This is the first episode of season 2 of the The Black Russian Podcast! I know 49th episode, kinda weird for a beginning of a new season but.. it tis what it tis!This episode we do a recap of who we are, how we got here. The trials turbulations and faceplants along the way! Plus the wackiness of the transition back into dating after pandemic isolation!Good times and it's good to be back!

This episode we dive in to the difference in how Yulia's family grew up 3 generations in one house vs. The modern "Out of the house at 18 everybody is on their own style" How this effects our ability to handle harsh realities, like aging and death. We also get in to what is a "Good Friend?" A lot of our friends aren't ones who we consciously chose and end up calling people friends who don't really align with our paths.

We're back! After a few month covidicus sebatocol :) This episode we go in to the concept of why we can't sit still in feelings of discomfort. I.e. Pain, Jealousy, Anger, and why we look for quick fixes. We go in to that topic as well as discuss our infatuation with this notion that we must Always be happy. From the root to the fruit we go!

Episode 46 "Ego trippin'!" Yoda goes deep on our need to control things and its effects on us. Especially in times where our gravity of function and routine has been destabilized indefinitely. What roll the Ego plays and what it feels like to "Let Go..."

Sharing and connecting via Operation "Social Distancing" "The act of sharing openly with self and close loved ones is like physical stretching. If we don't stretch consistently we get stiff, lose range of mobility, eventually leading to other ailments. Sharing openly and honestly is like stretching, if we don't stay in the act of sharing we tighten up, lose range of emotional mobility and so on.."

"Check your Gauges!" This episode we go in to checking your guages. We as people are like high performance vehicles. Even in a basic car you still have a dashboard of gauges. This helps us know when our gas is low, we need an oil change, etc.. If we don't maintain our vehicles then they breakdown :) Our mind, our body, our spirit are subsections of our overall vehicle which is us! We are like super duper spaceship vehicles with many many gauges! :0

This is the episode recapping one of the most unique tours Tion Bukue had embarked on, Inspired by Yulia and her need/desire for extended time away, in her own space! Yes we go deep into what it was like to be tion on this journey, and for yulia have her own journey while at home! Let's be honest, Let's talk about it!

This episode we re-visit the Tour Life Tour Wife, one of our first episodes about life being married with someone who tours. It's been a long time since then and a lot of growth has happened since then. Plus Tion Bukue embarked on a nationwide tour that got cancelled after a few weeks, then ( thanks to Yulia) decided to go back on the road and travel/tour all the same. mmhmm interesting reasons why! Tune in

This episode to talk about going into both Monogamous style relationships and non monogamous style relationships EYES WIDE. Being more aware of the challenges, and pitfalls involved with each style of loving and relating. It's kind of like, before you book a trip to a foreign country you've never been to, it is wise to research people who have been. Lear the where to go's, where to avoid, and the challenges that may arise. As opposed to going into it blind and being shocked and surprised by something that is a common challenge and should've been expected! :) Yes we go deep in to both, non judgementally, just raw, honest, goofy talk!

Ey YO! we are back at it. This episode we go in to the deep dive of what we mean we we say we are "Open" It is not about having sex with other people. It is freedom to be honest, truthful and create spaces and experiences in your life. Change, grow and expand if you like. Sometimes it includes other people, places and things but the root is within! Many other topics too :)

This episode we update the listeners on what's been going on in our lives since the last we spoke! Delving in to topics of how our relationship with our parents can color the relationship within ourselves between our inner child and inner parent. Fascinating stuff! Along with Discipline vs. suppression, allowing self honesty and beyond! Soak it up!

This Episode we go into how trauma and fear disguises it's self in rules and regulations in open relationships, ( in particular but all for sure) and what happens when they go unchecked. We also tie in how we communicate with our kids. How we expect them to communicate and be truthful yet we often times don't offer the same level of honesty. Most of the times due to our own learned habits due to childhood traumas and such. The loops will continue through generations unless we overstand them!

"Love Languages" This episode we go all in to the Love languages. The many ways we communicate love and how we can misinterpret each other's acts of love. Everyone one of us have our own unique, often changing definitions of our words and actions. It goes deep! Plus Yoda shares updates on her growth and inner ponderings. The Origin story is in the works!

This episode.. Maan.. we tried recording it a different way and it took us almost a week to get this podcast up!! In this episode we go in to Open vs Close states of being I.e. when we operate out of fear vs love. how it effects our perception and reactions. Yulia comes back in the second half and leads the discussion on legacy gender roles and how they effect our styles of relationships and our ability to support and truly have love based motives with each other! Shit ain't easy!

This episode we talk about how sometimes when we tell our story it turns out to be more of an editorial then a bias account of the story. This can paint people as villains and heros where in reality the heros and villains are more actions and energies. Which all of us have inside of us ( bravery, fear, deciet, anger, trauma) which causes us to act more like a villain at times and heros another. If we aren't careful we start shaping our narratives to paint us in the positive light and others as villains. We also add new colors to Yulia's narrative and updates on the 10 year affair, frienship relationship kurfuffle that sent us into a tailspin over 3 years ago!

YO! This is a review of Jada smith's "Red table talks" Pt1 and 2 of "Becoming Mr. and Mrs Smith. It was really cool to see them talk so candidly about their marriage and the shit they had to go through and levels of honesty they had to have with each other to keep their love and companionship alive. Linked here https://www.facebook.com/redtabletalk/videos/2174148442809253/

This episode we go add a little color to what feelings, like Jealousy, insecurity, and deciet feel like. Meaning physically feel like. What to do when that neck gets hot or that jittery feeling hits the tummy!? We also recap Bukue's last solo tour and being someone's first connection other than her husband after 30 years!!!!!

This episode we go into one of our latest breakthrough. The epiphany of normalize and inclusion. This combination of these two can open up a whole lane of ease when it comes to creating a wider space in being who we are. It also has the same effect on our relationships! All set to our "On the road" Phone tap set up of recording. It feels like you are listening in to a wire tap!

This episode Tion and Yulia get back at it and set it off with "Don't Yuck my Yum" aka different strokes for different folks!

This episode we delve in to the difference between Sex and Sexual Energy. Especially in Yulia's life and her current process! Also in the 2nd half we go deep in to the women's plight with the built in "inner patriarchy" and how us men, help and hinder such plight. Oooh and the vibe got tense on this one for a moment! See if you catch it!

This episode, we transmit live and direct from Seattle on our lovely family getaway. We discuss Yulia's pet peeves, take questions from you guys and all in between! Soak up, nourish up, and tchune in!

This episode, the Black russian team is back in the saddle, dusted off the gear, took the rocks out of the face from the latest faceplant to give you the a full goodie! We discuss wants, needs and desires. How living our external live based upon wants creates disconnection between what truly motivates us and what we think motivates us. Gaps create mishaps, deceptions and yep FACEPLANTS

Yulia is sharing intimate details of how the loop of deception and deflection starts, where it takes Tion and how to start working on breaking the loop. Deception is very familiar to all of us - what we choose to do when we recognize it is what makes the difference between being stuck in the loop and hopping off of it.

This episode we go deep in to transitions, changes and how fucking goofy and awkward we all can be when it comes to those! Tion shares his epiphany that a lot of the times the change doesn't mess up the relationship as much as how we handle each other in the transition. This and a whole lot more of the good good

This episode Yulia the park ranger goes in to what can happen when a women gets on the feminst soapbox and momentum takes over and it goes off the rails! Also what the flying fuck is "Romantic Love" this and much more shall be discussed

This episode we come live from aucoquelet cafe in berkeley and we go in to how "trendy" Polyamory and non monogamy is these days. It is the in thing and there are false assumptions that if you are "Woke" you should ascend to Non monogamy. NOT TRUE. you are not more or less enlightened regardless of what relationship template! We also ponder why most relationship therapists and workshops are done by individuals and rarely do we get to hear about their personal struggles or their partners. And all the other razzle dazzle !

This episode Yulia and Tion step back in front of the microphone, live from the nba all star weekend, embassy suites in la. After going through some crazy turbulence in their relationship, causing them to take some time off to recalibrate, Yulia and Tion return to the podcast sphere to shoot the shit about all the ponderings and update you on the happenings!

Episode 22 “Yulia Speaks Again - the real real on how hard it is to build forward when the past is not fully cleaned out. Get your empathetic ears tuned into the rough, the truthful, the emotional and the hopeful discussion of LOVE and EGO and the fight between those two within Yulia. We always bet on LOVE winning and this is a quick synopsis, a look under the hood”

Our podcast is legal!! This episode we go in to the uncomfortable discussion about finances in relationships. One of those other areas where we don't always have the communication tools to ponder, discuss and build with our partners about finances. We all know financial stress is a huge reason for divorce, breakup and overall erosion of desire, love and the life force of the relationship. We also discuss our first Men's group and the benefits of being able to share and build in a group where all are contributing in a non judgment objective way!

Episode 20!!! The end of phase 2 of our podcast adventure. We reflect on what we've learned, Disect the culture of instant gratification and quick fixes. Not to mention identifying the lack of Relationship Education and how it plagues our intimate relationships and beyond! Let's go. Listen Time!

Marriage has had many purposes. We discuss the origins, myths, and how monogamy, love and betrayal made their way into our holy matrimony!

This episode we shed light on how important self and relationship nourishiment is. Nourishment of the ( Mind, body, emotions and soul). How being mal nourished, and sleep deprived has a major effect on how we process. Also make it official! The Black Russia team are now your "Relationship Nutritionists" Let's go!

This is the Judgement, Empathy and why Women Cheat episode. Yulia leads the way and goes in on the purpose of "open" relationships. Open as in open, honest dialogue. Whether anyone in the relationship chooses to have sex outside of the relationship or not. This is a deep and wide conversation that we just scratched the surface on!

Let's talk about the REAL. Owning our ishkabibble, Vibration levels. Understanding "Processing" is not always a bad thing. Yulia reigns supreme and of course more good Reggae and Reggae Dancehall

This episode recaps our summer break the goes hard and fiery in to "Not playing the victim, Owning your ish, fyah burning fear ruled actions and beyond!"

taking a deep dive in what is "Special?" what it special, what isn't? How does tossing salad play a role in it all!?!? stay tuned!

We are back in the saddle talking Golden handcuffs, fascinating proposals and where (and where not to) find true love!

This episode Yulia Fiyah Burns All Patriarchy! We tie in the way the Golden state warriors play and win to healthy powerful relationships! We debut Yulia's Birthday song "The Growth" By senior Bukue one!

Ep 11 is the 1st of Phase 2. We took a break off before starting this phase because Yulia and I got in to some ish! We had to take some time to recalibrate. Plus i was soo mad there was no way i was gonna be ready to do a podcast :) This episode we open up the doors and share what happened, the pain, the process and the healing process. We keep in authentic and real with you guys!

The 'what's next!? episode. Wrapping up phase 1 of the podcast, and discussing phase 2!

The Recap episode! We take a look back episodes 1-8. Reflect on our first phase of podcast activation! What we learned from each other, as well as the listeners. Adding a few colors that we may have missed and discussing the importance of being brave and curious. Don't just move from one relationship template right into another. Custom make you love scenario!

The Black Episode! The origin story Tion Bukue One Torrence. MMhhmm Learn the whos, whats whens, wheres, and why's that spawned your favorite skateboarding, graffiti writing, mama's boy/co-host:)

The "Russian" episode. In this episode we do an in depth "origin" story of the Russian part of the show Yulia aka Yoda. Learn what life was like growing up russian in the state of Lithuania that had a strong disdain for russians. How love, sex and relationships played out there and when she came to america! Plus much more!

"Road Life" The black russian podcast ventures in to the land of love while apart on the road. Tion bukue the black one has been touring non stop for 16 years up until 2013! Listen to what he has encountered through that time as well as insights on how him and Yulia navigated a healthy marriage through it all!

Sexploration pt. 2 "The Revenge of the Russian" Yulia felt she didn't come off as hard as she wanted to in the first sexploration episode (4) so she wanted to take episode five by the horns and get it all in. She said she felt avenged and satisfied. :)

This episode we go on a nice little journey in to the land of SEX SEX SEX. So much to talk about so little time. Special guests Hip Hop Super group from New Jersey "The Artifacts" oh the fun!

The Non Monogamy episode. In this episode we delve in the Life after Monogamy. What is on the other side? What is outside of the box? We have that conversation. There is a whole lot outside the box and even in a 2.5 hour podcast we couldn't fit it all in!

"The Monogamy Episode" This episode we go deep in to world of Monogamy, The myths, the facts, the good the bad and all in between! There is a lot to the whole movement that Monogamy is the way, the only way for a "Serious" relationship. But is it for everyone? is it natural? tune in! It's all about the LOVE no matter the platform :)

This is Episode 1 of The Black Russian Podcast. ( featuring The Russian "Yulia Kalk" and the Black "Tion "Bukue one" Torrence" . Married 11 years in a pro-empowerment, Non-monogamous relationship with 3 kids.) This is where we go "there!" Topics include, Monogamy, Polyamory, the civil war between Ego and Spirit, Sex and the wackiness of it all! Pen Pineapple Apple Pen!