Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

Is smacking really harmless if you grew up with it? A new Australian study reveals just how many parents still believe physical punishment is acceptable, even when it involves hitting a child with a wooden spoon or across the face.

Justin and Kylie unpack the research behind smacking, challenge the familiar "I turned out fine" argument and explain why physical punishment doesn't teach children the lessons parents hope it will. More importantly, they share a better way to handle challenging behaviour without hurting your child.

KEY POINTS

What a new Australian study reveals about attitudes towards smacking.

Why "I turned out fine" isn't proof that physical punishment is harmless.

What six decades of research tell us about smacking and children's behaviour.

The links between physical punishment, aggression and mental health struggles.

Why smacking may achieve short-term compliance but doesn't create lasting change.

How to use problem-solving conversations to teach better behaviour.

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

"Discipline not as an opportunity to hurt our child, but an opportunity to help our child."

RESOURCES MENTIONED

The Fallacy of the 'I Turned Out Fine' Argument The New York Times article by Justin Coulson

Parenting books, articles and free podcast resources at happyfamilies.com.au.

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

Notice when you're reaching for punishment out of frustration.

Wait until everyone is calm before addressing challenging behaviour.

Talk with your child about what went wrong and how to prevent it happening again.

Give your child a chance to help create family rules and solutions.

Focus on teaching the behaviour you want to see, rather than punishing the behaviour you don't.

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Bedtime shouldn't end in arguments every night. Justin and Kylie share practical ways to help older kids wind down, stick to routines and take more responsibility for getting enough sleep. From screen time and dimming the lights to giving teens more control over bedtime, discover how to make evenings calmer and mornings less stressful.

KEY POINTS

Use the Three E's approach: Explore, Explain and Empower to work through bedtime struggles together.

Set consistent evening routines for dinner, showers, homework and getting ready for bed.

Reduce screen time in bedrooms and use dim lighting or music to help everyone wind down.

Slow the evening down with family time and a shared tidy-up.

Give older kids more independence by focusing on getting up on time and managing the consequences of late nights.

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“You go to bed when you go to bed. So long as we don't have any problems in the morning, we're all good.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED

Happy Families: happyfamilies.com.au

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

Set aside time this weekend to talk with your kids about what's making bedtime difficult.

Agree on a realistic evening routine that everyone understands.

Check whether screens are keeping your kids awake or making it harder to wind down.

Try dimming the lights and slowing down the pace of the evening.

Give older kids more say in their bedtime while setting clear expectations for getting up in the morning.

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What keeps a relationship strong when life gets hard? Justin and Kylie Coulson unpack 24 years of Australian household data to explore what makes relationships thrive. From sharing the mental and physical load at home to surviving the stressful years of raising children, discover why relationship satisfaction can dip for decades before reaching its highest point yet.

KEY POINTS

Why sharing the load at home matters more than you might think

How money, housework and parenting pressures affect relationship satisfaction

Why relationships can feel harder during the years of raising children

What changes as couples move into their 40s and 50s

How communication, trust and teamwork help couples stay connected

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“When you trust one another, when you believe the other person is going to act in your best interests, and you see that on repeat because they do, that's when people feel high levels of relationship satisfaction.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED

HILDA Survey (Household, Income and Labour Dynamics in Australia)

The Ape That Understood the Universe by Steve Stewart-Williams

A Billion Years of Sex Differences by Steve Stewart-Williams

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

Talk honestly about whether the workload at home feels fair to both of you.

Ask your partner what has been feeling hard lately and listen without getting defensive.

Look for small ways to show your partner they can rely on you.

Remember that you are on the same team, even when you contribute in different ways.

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Nine in 10 teens who get periods regularly experience pain, and around half report moderate to severe symptoms. In this episode, Dr Justin Coulson speaks with paediatrician Dr Anthea Rhodes from the Royal Children’s Hospital Melbourne about why so many girls are missing school, sport and social events because of period pain. They unpack the myths parents need to stop believing, how to recognise when pain needs attention, and practical ways to help teens feel supported. Plus, learn why boys need to understand periods too and how families can make these conversations less awkward.

KEY POINTS:

Why period pain shouldn’t be something teens simply have to endure

The signs that pain is interfering with everyday life

Why boys and dads need to understand periods

Practical ways to make period products and support accessible

How to start conversations when teens feel embarrassed asking for help

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:
“Just because something’s common doesn’t mean there aren’t things that you can do to actually make that better.” Dr Anthea Rhodes

RESOURCES MENTIONED:
Royal Children’s Hospital Melbourne Teen Health Info and Kids Health Info fact sheets, plus resources from the Pelvic Pain Clinical Network.

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS:

Ask your teen how their period affects school, sport and friendships.

Take pain seriously, especially when it stops them participating in everyday activities.

Keep period products and suitable pain relief accessible at home and in the car.

Make conversations about periods normal, not embarrassing.

Speak with your GP if symptoms are persistent, severe or not improving.

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Can paracetamol during pregnancy increase the risk of autism or ADHD? Justin and Kylie Coulson unpack four provocative studies challenging what we think we know about pregnancy, relationships, gender differences and rising neurodevelopmental diagnoses. From a major study examining paracetamol use during pregnancy to the possible reasons autism and ADHD diagnoses are increasing, this episode separates research findings from assumptions and explores what the evidence actually tells us.

KEY POINTS

• What a large study found about paracetamol use during pregnancy and autism or ADHD risk.
• Why men and women may appear to multitask differently.
• How pessimism about relationships may affect young women's expectations for happiness.
• Whether broader diagnostic criteria help explain rising autism and ADHD diagnoses.

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Science isn't about convenience.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED

• Prenatal Acetaminophen or Paracetamol Use and the Risk of Autism and ADHD Among Sibling-Matched Cohorts, published in JAMA Internal Medicine.
• Research published in Psychological Research on gender differences in multitasking.
• Suzanne Venker's discussion of heteropessimism on the Modern Wisdom podcast with Chris Williamson.
• Institute for Family Studies articleon heteropessimism and relationship outcomes.
• Changes in Genetic Contributions to ASD and ADHD by Year of Diagnosis, published in JAMA Psychiatry.

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

• Look at the research behind controversial health claims before accepting or dismissing them.
• Discuss questions about medication during pregnancy with your healthcare professional.
• Focus on finding healthy relationships built on kindness, trust and mutual support.
• Remember that research findings are part of an evolving evidence base, especially when it comes to autism and ADHD.

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When school leaves your child overwhelmed, anxious and struggling to learn, is pushing through really the best option? Justin and Kylie Coulson share their experience with homeschooling, the emotional toll of traditional schooling and how to decide what your child needs most. They explore social skills, independence, learning and the importance of helping children feel safe enough to thrive.

Key Points

The social opportunities children can find outside traditional school

The realities of homeschooling for parents, finances and work

How time at home can help children rebuild confidence and return to school

Quote of the Episode

“How on earth is a child whose emotions are so highly strung in that moment going to learn anything?”

Resources Mentioned

Happy Families: https://happyfamilies.com.au

Action Steps for Parents

Listen to what your child’s behaviour may be telling you about their school experience.

Look into local homeschooling groups and alternative learning options.

Consider your child’s emotional wellbeing alongside their academic and social development.

Build a supportive community where your child can develop friendships, independence and confidence.

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What if all our talk about mental health is making it harder for kids to cope with life?

Dr Justin Coulson sits down with educational and developmental psychologist Claire Rowe to unpack the rise of therapy speak, the dangers of labelling normal emotions as mental health problems, and why constantly checking in on how our kids feel might not be helping them. Discover how to support children through difficult feelings without teaching them to fear every bump in the road.

Key Points

How therapy speak on social media is changing the way we see ourselves and others

Why labelling children as anxious or sensitive can shape their identity

When mental health labels help and when they go too far

Why taking action and helping others can be more useful than constantly focusing inward

How to build resilience without dismissing children's feelings

Quote of the Episode

“You can do hard things.” Claire Rowe

Resources Mentioned

Claire Rowe Psychologist on Instagram

Rowe and Associates, Sydney

Lucy Foulkes, psychologist and researcher

Sami Timimi, psychiatrist

Abigail Shrier, author

Action Steps for Parents

Talk about feelings using everyday words like worried, sad or disappointed rather than turning every emotion into a label.

Remind your child that difficult feelings are normal and that asking for help is okay.

Encourage them to take small steps through challenging situations instead of automatically avoiding them.

Help them connect with others through family, friendships, sport, hobbies and community.

Let your child know you are there to support them, even when they have a hard day.

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What matters most when you walk through your front door? Justin Coulson has spent years helping families build happier lives, and his work has now earned him a University of Queensland Vice-Chancellor's Alumni Excellence Award. But the moment that mattered most wasn't the trophy. It was the reminder that strong families change lives, and the most important work we do often happens at home.

Justin and Kylie share the story behind the award, the sacrifices that shaped his career, a hilarious university confession, and the acceptance speech that left a room full of people in tears.

KEY POINTS

Why strong family relationships shape happier, healthier lives

The unexpected path from struggling dad to parenting expert

The people and sacrifices behind Justin's achievement

What research tells us about the lifelong impact of loving caregivers

Why the most important work often happens at home

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“The most important work many of us will ever do is not in the office. It's waiting for us when we walk back through our own front door.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED

University of Queensland Vice-Chancellor's Alumni Excellence Awards

Happy Families books and resources at happyfamilies.com.au

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

Make time for connection with your children, even on busy days.

Think about the example you're setting through your relationships.

Recognise the small, everyday things that help your family feel safe, loved and supported.

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Worried your teenager is falling behind or has no idea what they want to do after school? You’re not alone, and their future is bigger than their grades.

Dr Justin Coulson chats with educator and careers expert Dr Jo Winchester about career pressure, gap years, alternative pathways and the changing world of work. They explore how to support neurodivergent kids, take the pressure off big decisions and help young people find a path that fits who they are.

KEY POINTS

Why your child’s ATAR doesn’t define their potential

When a gap year might be the right choice

How to explore careers in a rapidly changing world

Supporting neurodivergent kids without focusing on grades

Helping teenagers make decisions without passing on your anxiety

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“The thing that I want you to concentrate on more is, is your child happy? Are they being supported in a loving environment at that school?”

RESOURCES MENTIONED

Dr Jo Winchester for career guidance and free resources

Range by David Epstein

Dark Horse by Todd Rose

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

Take the pressure off choosing a lifelong career right now.

Explore university open days by focusing on the environment and teaching staff, not rankings.

Help your teenager identify their interests, strengths and skills.

Set small, achievable goals if school is a struggle.

Remind your child that their grades are not a measure of their intelligence or future success.

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Your five-year-old is hitting other children when they're angry, frustrated or feel something is unfair. You've talked about using words, encouraged them to burn off energy and tried everything you can think of. So what actually helps?

Justin and Kylie Coulson explain why young children lash out, how to practise emotional regulation at home and what to do when your child comes home after a difficult day at school. Learn how to set boundaries without shame, build better responses and help your child manage big feelings as their brain develops.

KEY POINTS

Why five-year-olds struggle to control big emotions

How to practise calming strategies before frustration takes over

Why difficult conversations work better when everyone is calm

Helping children find their own solutions to conflict

Responding with compassion while still addressing hitting

How classroom culture and maturity can influence behaviour

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“When emotions are hot or high, there's not a lot that soaks in or sinks in.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED

Happy Families: https://happyfamilies.com.au

Send your tricky questions to podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

Practise when things are calm. Rehearse taking deep breaths, walking away or asking an adult for help.

Problem-solve together. Ask your child what they could do next time they feel angry or treated unfairly.

Reconnect after school. Offer cuddles, space and understanding before discussing what went wrong.

Keep the boundary clear. Acknowledge their feelings while making it clear that hitting isn't okay.

Give them time to learn. Emotional regulation develops gradually, and children need repeated practice and support.

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When your child is anxious, overwhelmed or afraid, should you step in or let them work it out? The answer could change how you parent.

Justin and Kylie Coulson share five research-backed ways to build resilience in children, from listening without rushing to fix things to letting kids tackle challenges, take safe risks and discover what they're capable of. Because raising resilient kids isn't about toughening them up. It's about giving them the support and confidence to face hard things.

KEY POINTS

Why feeling cared for and listened to is the foundation of resilience

How staying calm helps children manage big emotions

When to support your child and when to resist the urge to rescue them

How family identity and purpose help kids through difficult experiences

Why independent activity and safe, risky play build confidence

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Resilience is built as much inside a child as it is built around a child.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED

Happy Families: https://happyfamilies.com.au

Andrew Fuller, Australian psychologist and resilience researcher

Steve Biddulph, parenting expert

Anne Masten, resilience researcher

Peter Gray, play researcher

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

Put your phone down and give your child your full attention when they want to talk.

Take a slow, audible breath before responding to your child's big emotions.

Encourage your child to try something difficult before stepping in to rescue them.

Find small ways for your child to contribute to your family and feel part of something bigger.

Give your child age-appropriate opportunities to explore, play independently and take safe risks.

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What happens when you give everything you have and still can’t finish? Justin shares the emotional reality of attempting a 50km charity walk with a 10kg vest, battling an injury and facing the decision to quit.

Justin and Kylie reflect on failure, resilience and the courage it takes to admit when you need help. They also share how their Lift the Load challenge raised almost $95,000 for Top Blokes, helping more young men access vital mentoring and support.

KEY POINTS

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“It's wonderful when you feel strong and capable that you would offer to carry somebody else's load. But there comes a time where you have to recognise when that load is no longer bearable.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

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Your phone might be getting in the way of your child’s learning, confidence and connection with you.

Justin and Kylie Coulson unpack three research findings every parent should know, from the link between heavy AI use and lower school test scores to why early puberty may increase anxiety risk in girls. They also explore how being ignored while a parent scrolls can affect a teenager’s sense of security in the relationship.

Discover what the research tells us, where the limits of the evidence lie, and how to give your child more opportunities to feel supported, connected and confident.

KEY POINTS

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“She needs protective factors in her life.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

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Behind the parenting advice is a dad, a husband, a son and a grandad who’s still learning as he goes.

For Justin Coulson’s birthday, Kylie takes the microphone and asks the questions we don’t usually hear on the Happy Families podcast. From the grandmother who made him feel like the favourite to the moment he burst into tears at the news he was becoming a grandad, Justin shares the memories, mistakes and moments that shaped him.

He also reveals the question from one father that changed the way he thinks about parenting. It’s a reminder that being a better parent starts with looking at ourselves.

KEY POINTS

The childhood memories and family relationships that shaped Justin

The overwhelming joy of becoming a grandfather

Why his enthusiasm for research is sometimes mistaken for arrogance

The parenting question he’s never forgotten

The hard-won lessons behind his books

What he hopes to achieve in the year ahead

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“How do I be the father that my son needs me to be?”

RESOURCES MENTIONED

Happy Families: https://happyfamilies.com.au

Justin Coulson’s parenting books

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

Ask yourself what kind of parent your child needs you to be right now.

Think about the parenting habits you inherited from your own parents. Which ones do you want to keep, and which ones do you want to change?

Give yourself permission to keep learning. Even the experts have lessons they learn the hard way.

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School mornings shouldn't end with tears, frustration and everyone feeling like they've failed. Justin and Kylie answer Emma's question about her two daughters and share practical ways to make getting ready for school less stressful.

From preparing the night before to swapping constant instructions for connection, discover how small changes can help your kids feel more capable and get everyone out the door in a better mood.

Key Points

Prepare uniforms, bags, lunches and everything else the night before.

Get up early enough to feel calm and ready to help.

Reduce morning stress by removing unnecessary steps.

Replace constant instructions with connection and offers of support.

Create a simple checklist with your kids so they know what's next.

Make mornings fun with music, games and family routines.

Quote of the Episode

“The more you can do tonight, the less you have to do tomorrow morning.”

Resources Mentioned

The Parenting Revolution by Justin Coulson

Happy Families: happyfamilies.com.au

Action Steps for Parents

Get school bags, uniforms and shoes ready tonight.

Make a simple morning checklist with your kids.

Ask “What's next on your list?” instead of telling them what to do.

Sit with your kids at breakfast and offer help when they need it.

Try a morning playlist to make getting ready more fun.

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What if some of the parenting advice you’ve been given was completely wrong?

Richard Glover has spent years digging through Australian parenting manuals, government advice and expert recommendations from the past 100 years. What he found is funny, disturbing and surprisingly reassuring.

From being told not to cuddle a crying baby to warnings that praise would make children arrogant, Richard reveals how generations of parents were taught to ignore their instincts. He also explains why looking back at parenting history can help us stop chasing every new expert theory and trust ourselves a little more.

KEY POINTS

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Children need stability, a sense of order, a sense of rules, and they need a lot of love.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED

How to Ruin a Child by Richard Glover

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

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Today Justin is taking on a gruelling 50km walk carrying a 10kg vest to raise $50,000 for Top Blokes, a mentoring program helping young men build resilience, develop healthy relationships and learn to ask for help.

After losing his nephew Logan to suicide, this mission is deeply personal.

We need just 600 more people to donate $50 each to reach this target. Can you help lift the load?  Donate here!

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Parenting gets harder when your kids start needing you less.

Justin and Kylie talk about the messy reality of raising children who eventually leave home, make their own choices and face hard things without you beside them. They share a beautiful reminder that resilience rarely looks neat, why the struggle matters, and why the goal of parenting is to make yourself redundant.

They also talk about Justin’s 50K for 50K Lift the Load challenge, raising money to help Top Blokes support boys with mentors and positive models of masculinity.

KEY POINTS

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Make yourself redundant. And the great irony is, if you do it well, because they don’t need you, they come back not because they need you, but because they want to be there.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

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The more you monitor your kids, the more they might hide.

Research on parental monitoring shows that knowing where your kids are matters far less than creating a relationship where they feel safe telling you what is really going on. Justin and Kylie Coulson unpack what the research says about disclosure, surveillance, rules and trust, and share five practical ways to help your kids keep talking when things go wrong.

KEY POINTS

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Location apps will show you where they are, but only the relationship that you have will tell you how they are.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

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Australia made global headlines when it introduced a minimum age of 16 for social media. But months on, more than eight in 10 kids are still using age-restricted platforms.

Justin Coulson sits down with Federal Communications Minister Anika Wells to ask what is happening, why compliance has been so difficult, and what the new Digital Duty of Care could mean for families.

The proposed laws go beyond social media to cover gaming, AI chatbots and other online platforms, with new requirements around harmful content and addictive design features such as endless scrolling and popularity metrics.

KEY POINTS

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“This is about introducing some basic safety standards to an industry that hasn’t had any.”
Anika Wells

RESOURCES MENTIONED

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

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What do you do when your 17-year-old refuses to go to school, skips classes and has no idea what he wants to do instead?

Justin and Kylie tackle a tricky question from a parent whose son is struggling with Year 11. They explore vocational schools, apprenticeships, TAFE, distance education and the idea that education doesn’t have to mean sitting in a classroom until Year 12. The goal is to help young people keep learning, contributing and moving forward without forcing them into a path that clearly isn’t working.

KEY POINTS:

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:
“You need to be either full-time earning or full-time learning.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS:

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It’s Mrs Happy Families’ birthday week, so Justin puts Kylie on the spot with questions she hasn’t seen before. There are childhood confessions, a $2 garage sale bargain, a surprising celebrity crush, competitive board games, laundry, parenting wisdom and one deeply meaningful question about how she hopes her six children will remember her.

Kylie also opens up about setting herself a big goal, learning to value the progress rather than just the number, and the moment she realised she could be proud of herself.

It’s funny, honest and unexpectedly moving.

KEY POINTS:

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:
“I would rather be 10 kilos lighter at the end of the year and not reach my goal of 20 kilos than to be sitting where I was at the beginning of the year without any hope or a desire to make the changes necessary.”

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS:

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More than eight in ten Australian kids were still using age-restricted social media platforms months after the under-16 law came into effect. So is the legislation working?

Justin speaks with Federal Communications Minister Anika Wells about what has happened since the social media minimum age law began, why compliance has been slower than expected, and what the new Digital Duty of Care could mean for families.

The proposed laws go much further than social media. They cover AI chatbots, online games, messaging platforms and other digital services, with new responsibilities for tech companies to identify and reduce risks to children.

They also tackle harmful content, addictive design features, algorithmic feeds and the growing challenge of keeping kids safe from pornography and other dangerous material online.

KEY POINTS

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

"We want you to be able to say, this is the law and you can point to the law to try and address these daily fights that people are having in their home."

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

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What if improving your wellbeing was far simpler than you thought?

In this Doctor’s Desk episode, Justin and Kylie unpack a huge new scientific review published in Nature that analysed 183 wellbeing studies involving nearly 23,000 people worldwide. The conclusion? You don’t need the perfect routine, expensive programs, or hours of free time to feel better.

You just need to do something.

From exercise and mindfulness to yoga, gratitude, therapy, and simple self-awareness practices, the research shows that consistent small actions have a powerful impact on mental health and happiness. Justin and Kylie also share their own honest experiences of trying to prioritise wellbeing in the middle of busy family life.

If you’ve been waiting for the “right time” to take care of yourself, this episode is your reminder that small steps still count.

KEY POINTS:

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:
“Don’t overthink the perfect wellbeing routine. Just do something.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS:

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What if protecting our kids too much is actually holding them back?

In this powerful conversation, Dr Justin Coulson sits down with extreme athlete, sports psychologist, and author Ant Williams to unpack why so many kids struggle with pressure, discomfort, and resilience — and what parents can do differently.

From diving beneath Arctic ice to coaching elite athletes under extreme stress, Ant shares the mindset shifts that help people stay calm, capable, and courageous when life gets hard. Together, they explore the parenting habits that unintentionally weaken resilience, the fine line between support and overprotection, and why kids need opportunities to struggle, fail, and recover.

If your child avoids hard things, melts down under pressure, or constantly says “I can’t”, this episode will change the way you respond.

KEY POINTS

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Our reaction becomes their template.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

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You’re worried. They don’t care. And somehow, headphones have become the hill your relationship might die on.

When one mum fears Bluetooth is harming her teen’s brain—and he flatly refuses to listen—this episode unpacks what’s really going on beneath the conflict.

Because this isn’t just about radiation. It’s about teenage psychology, risk, independence… and knowing which battles are worth fighting.

KEY POINTS

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“‘I don’t care, I’ll be fine’ is the most accurate summary of a teenage boy’s brain.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

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Your child can spend hours on screens without being asked… but getting them to empty the dishwasher feels impossible. So what’s really going on with motivation?

In this episode, Justin and Kylie unpack the psychology of motivation and reveal why rewards, punishments, nagging, and bribery often backfire. You’ll learn the “motivation continuum” — the simple framework that explains why some kids resist everything while others willingly pitch in, help out, and take responsibility.

This conversation will completely change the way you think about chores, homework, screens, sibling conflict, and parenting cooperation.

If you’re tired of constantly cracking the whip, this episode offers a better way.

KEY POINTS

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“The question isn’t how motivated your child is. The question is how your child is motivated.”

RESOURCES

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

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What happens when your child knows they did the wrong thing but immediately reaches for an excuse?

The Lachie Neale tribunal story gives parents a surprisingly useful way into a bigger conversation about responsibility, consequences and healthy masculinity. Justin and Kylie unpack what happens when kids blame others, deny what happened or expect an exception because the circumstances feel unfair.

They also explore the difference between standing up for someone and getting even, why anger can lead to poor choices, and how parents can support their kids through consequences without rescuing them from the discomfort.

KEY POINTS

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
“I'm not here to rescue you. I care, but I can't carry you.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Ask your kids:

What would you do if you saw a friend getting shoved? Should the best player get different rules? What's the difference between sticking up for someone and getting even?

When your child makes a mistake, resist the urge to fix the consequence. Help them own what happened, understand the impact and work out what they can do differently next time.

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Friendship drama is one of the biggest sources of stress for kids — and heartbreak for parents. In this episode, Justin and Kylie unpack the six powerful habits that create strong, lasting friendships and explain how parents can help children build healthier relationships from the very beginning.

From loyalty and inclusion to emotional support and trust, these simple but profound friendship skills can shape your child’s confidence, wellbeing, and sense of belonging for years to come.

If your child is struggling socially, feeling left out, or constantly caught in friendship ups and downs, this conversation will help you guide them with clarity and compassion.

KEY POINTS:

SIX ELEMENTS TO MAKE FRIENDSHIPS FLOURISH:

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:
“Kids who understand that friendships require active care are far better equipped to keep them.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS:

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Your child’s behaviour problems might start with the way they breathe.

Dentist Dr Jason Leung joins Justin to explain why mouth breathing can affect sleep, concentration, emotional regulation and behaviour, and why some of the signs can look remarkably similar to ADHD.

They unpack the clues parents often miss, including snoring, teeth grinding, waking tired and breathing through an open mouth. Jason also explains why jumping straight to mouth taping, expanders or other devices may not fix the underlying problem, and what parents should check first.

KEY POINTS

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“If you don't have good sleep, what happens for a child? They're not concentrating. They're hyperactive. They're waking up tired.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

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Your child loves reading… but now the books feel too mature. Do you step in, or risk shutting it down altogether?

This episode tackles the tricky middle ground between protecting your child and preserving their love of reading. Discover how to set boundaries without constant battles, why pushing back can backfire, and how to guide your child toward better choices—without losing connection. 

Plus some great book recommendations below!

KEY POINTS:

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:
“Get curious, not furious—because the moment you push, they pull away.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS:

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When life gets overwhelming, even good people become hard to live with.

In this deeply honest episode, Justin and Kylie open up about the pressure, stress, snapping, guilt, and emotional overload that can quietly take over family life — especially when the mental load becomes too heavy to carry well.

From impossible deadlines and overflowing to-do lists to the simple reset strategies that actually help, this conversation is a powerful reminder that productivity means nothing if it costs you your relationships.

If you’ve ever felt short-tempered, emotionally unavailable, constantly “on edge,” or like your family gets the worst version of you… this episode will hit close to home.

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QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Stop being a human doing and remember how it feels to be a human being.”

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The harder we push, the more our kids can push back.

Fresh from a free-diving trip in the Philippines, Justin shares an unexpected parenting lesson from 20 metres underwater: staying calm can get you further than forcing your way through. Kylie brings it back to the village around our kids and the power of adults who stop, listen and make a child feel like the most important person in the room.

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QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Force creates resistance.”

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Location tracking. Checking a partner’s phone. Constantly asking where they are and who they’re with. For some teenagers, controlling behaviour is becoming so normal they may not even recognise it as a red flag.

Justin and Kylie share three simple questions sparked by Victorian Attorney-General Sonya Kilkenny’s conversation with her teenage son: Do you know that’s wrong? Do you know that’s a red flag? What do the girls think?

They unpack consent, coercive control, rejection and the messages boys are absorbing about what it means to be a man. Most importantly, they explain why these conversations need to start long before our kids begin dating.

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QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Healthy males help the people around them feel safer and stronger.”

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Ask the three questions: When relationship behaviour comes up, ask, “Do you know that’s wrong?”, “Do you know that’s a red flag?” and “What does the other person think?”

Start consent conversations early: Teach younger children that they can say no to unwanted affection, scary play or anything that makes them uncomfortable.

Talk about what healthy masculinity looks like: Ask your child when they saw a boy or man help someone feel safer and stronger today.

Talk about the opposite: Ask when they saw someone leave another person feeling smaller or weaker, then discuss what made the behaviour different.

Keep talking: Make relationships, consent, pornography, online influences and red flags normal topics of conversation rather than one big awkward talk

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Is your child’s screen time spiralling—and every conversation about it ends in a fight? Professor Wayne Warburton, leading psychologist and researcher, reveals how apps and games are deliberately engineered to hook young brains. He explains the hidden neuroscience of addiction, what excessive screen use does to a child’s emotional regulation and attention, and how parents can reclaim calm without all-out war. If you’ve ever wondered why your tween melts down when you say “time’s up,” this episode is a must-listen.

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“It’s not your child’s fault—or yours. These products are built to be addictive. The goal is to put your child back in the driver’s seat, not the screen.” — Dr Wayne Warburton

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Choose the right moment: Discuss screens only when everyone is calm and offline. Externalise the problem: Frame it as “us versus the tech designers,” not parent versus child. Co-create a plan: Involve kids in setting screen limits and consequences; write it down. Build healthy replacements: Help kids identify offline ways to cope with boredom, anxiety, or stress. Model balance: Show your own healthy screen habits—your example speaks louder than rules.

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You’ve chosen the school you believe is best for your child. There’s just one problem. They absolutely refuse to go.

When an 11-year-old is threatening to cut up his uniform and stay home rather than attend the high school his parents have chosen, pushing harder is unlikely to help. Justin and Kylie explain why force creates resistance, what might really be underneath a child’s refusal, and how to have the conversation that could change everything.

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QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Force creates resistance. The harder you push, the harder your kids push back.”

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Stop trying to win the argument. Shift the goal from convincing your child to understanding them. Ask what you’re missing. Give them space to explain every concern without correcting or defending. Write it down. Take their concerns seriously enough to make notes, then repeat them back without adding your interpretation. Wait for the “yes, you get it”. If they’re still correcting you, keep listening. Explain your why. Once they feel understood, share the two or three reasons behind your preferred school. Look for a workable next step. Consider an experience day, trial period or clear agreement about what giving the school a genuine chance will look like.

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Some of the most well-intentioned things we say to our kids can backfire.

From “Good job, you’re so smart” to “You’ll be fine” and “Why can’t you be more like your sister?”, Justin and Kylie unpack five common phrases that can undermine confidence, shut down emotions and create distance between parents and kids.

More importantly, they share what to say instead to help kids feel understood, capable and connected.

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QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“You need to know that we love you no matter what.”

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The best Father’s Day had almost nothing to do with presents.

Justin and Kylie share the unexpectedly beautiful family dinner that turned into stories, tears, terrible dancing and a powerful reminder of what children really take from their dads. As each daughter shared what she loved about Justin, one message kept coming through: the way a father loves his partner can shape what his children expect from love for years to come.

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QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“The greatest legacy you as their dad have given them already is the way you love me.”

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More choice should make us happier. Turns out, it often does the opposite.

Whether it’s choosing a movie, buying a pair of jeans or helping your child pick school subjects, searching for the absolute best option can leave us anxious, regretful and less satisfied with what we eventually choose.

Justin and Kylie unpack the psychology of maximising versus satisficing and what the research reveals about decision-making. They explore why “good enough” can sometimes make us happier, how too many choices affect kids, and how to know when a decision deserves serious thought and when it’s time to stop searching.

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QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“If you can decide what’s going to be good enough before you start the search, then once you find it, you can stop the search.”

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Parents have more advice, information and expert guidance than ever before. So why are so many feeling stressed, isolated and burnt out?

More than 10,000 Australian parents took part in the Parenting Today study, revealing a worrying decline in wellbeing, self-compassion and connection. Justin speaks with Derek McCormick, Director of Raising Children Network, about what's putting parents under so much pressure and whether the constant stream of parenting advice is part of the problem.

They unpack information overload, social media, AI, loneliness and the one simple shift that can help when parenting feels like too much.

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QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

"Do I talk to myself the way I would talk to a good friend?"
Derek McCormick

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Your child is standing in front of a party table loaded with cake, lollies and soft drink. Do you step in or let them go for it?

Justin and Kylie’s answer might surprise you: let the party be the party.

Research suggests that tightly restricting treats can make kids want them even more. Instead of policing every mouthful, this episode explores how parents can help kids build genuine self-control, trust around food and the ability to notice when their body has had enough.

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QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“The child who is calm around the lolly table got there by being trusted around food when it wasn't a big deal.”

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Do you actually know what your child is being taught about gender and identity at school?

Child and adolescent psychologist Clare Rowe says many parents have no idea what is being introduced in classrooms, particularly in the early primary years. She joins Justin to unpack what she believes is a growing gap between what children are being taught and what they are developmentally ready to understand.

They discuss gender identity education, the role of schools versus parents, what Clare is seeing in her psychology practice, and why she believes parents need greater transparency about classroom content.

Most importantly, Clare explains how parents can find out exactly what their school is teaching without starting a fight.

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QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Get curious, not furious.”

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ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

Ask your school what your child is being taught about sex, gender and identity. Request lesson plans, curriculum details and information about any third-party providers. Find out when this content will be taught so you can talk about it at home. Approach the school calmly and ask questions before drawing conclusions. Consider approaching the school with two or three other parents if you feel more comfortable doing it together.

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What if trying to create the perfect family moment is the very thing getting in the way?

After a week away with three of their daughters, Kylie realised she’d arrived with a clear picture of how their time together should look. The reality was completely different. And it turned out to be better. Justin and Kylie unpack the pressure parents put on themselves to get the “recipe” right, why our kids need room to make their own choices, and how letting go of control can create more connection.

Justin also shares what happened when Kylie left him juggling work and parenting, including one spectacular diary fail, and why simple, low-pressure time together can be some of the best parenting we do.

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QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“It’s the simple stuff that makes our families work the best.”

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AI never gets annoyed with you. It rarely pushes back. And it’s very good at telling you exactly what you want to hear.

New research suggests that this constant validation may come with a cost. After just three weeks of interacting with sycophantic AI, people were more likely to seek personal advice from AI and reported feeling less satisfied with their real-world relationships. Many preferred the agreeable AI because it made them feel understood.

Justin and Kylie unpack what this means for kids growing up with AI as a confidant, adviser and sounding board. Real relationships involve disagreement, compromise and uncomfortable conversations. If AI removes that friction, are our kids missing the chance to learn how to handle it?

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QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Sycophantic AI is making our human interactions harder and less satisfying.”

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Gaming can be a source of connection, competence and joy, especially for neurodivergent kids. But when switching off leads to arguments, anxiety or explosive behaviour, parents need more than another screen-time rule.

Justin speaks with Game Aware founder Andrew Kinch about why some kids are drawn so strongly to gaming, how neurodivergence can shape that relationship, and what parents can do when gaming starts crowding out sleep, school, movement and family life. They unpack the difference between gaming for enjoyment and gaming for escape, why timers can make transitions harder, and how understanding your child's favourite game could reduce conflict at home.

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QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:
"What job is the game doing for them?"
Andrew Kinch

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Your 12-year-old announces they’re dating someone. There’s hand-holding, constant texting and plenty of “love you” messages. Do you shut it down, set rules or stay out of it?

Justin and Kylie unpack early teenage romance and why keeping your child talking to you matters more than trying to monitor every interaction. They explain what “dating” often means at this age, how to protect friendships and school life, and how to set boundaries without pushing the relationship underground.

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QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“As long as you can have an open dialogue, then you have influence.”

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Get curious first. Ask what “dating” means to your child before deciding how worried you need to be. Keep them talking. Protect the relationship that makes your child comfortable telling you what’s happening. Set clear expectations. Explain your family’s boundaries around dating without turning the conversation into command and control. Watch the bigger picture. Notice changes in friendships, schoolwork, extracurricular activities and family life. Talk about respect. Teach your child what it means to make another person feel safe, respected and valued. Try side-by-side conversations. A walk, drive or other low-pressure moment can make sensitive conversations easier.

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We put laptops and tablets into classrooms with a promise that technology would improve education. Nearly two decades later, parents and teachers are asking a confronting question: Did we get it wrong?

Justin speaks with Danny Alachi, founder of the Heads Up Alliance, and Victorian high school teacher Steph Challis about the push to reduce screen use in Australian schools. They unpack classroom distraction, declining literacy, the value of handwriting and physical books, and why teaching digital skills doesn’t require kids to spend every lesson behind a screen.

They also explain a new national petition calling for no one-to-one devices in primary schools, books and paper to become the default in high school, a pause on generative AI in classrooms, safer evidence-based educational apps, and a renewed focus on reading and handwriting.

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QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Schools need to remember what they're for. They're there to teach children how to learn.”

Steph Challis

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What if trying to create the perfect family moment is the very thing getting in the way?

After a week away with three of their daughters, Kylie realised she’d arrived with a clear picture of how their time together should look. The reality was completely different. And it turned out to be better. Justin and Kylie unpack the pressure parents put on themselves to get the “recipe” right, why our kids need room to make their own choices, and how letting go of control can create more connection.

Justin also shares what happened when Kylie left him juggling work and parenting, including one spectacular diary fail, and why simple, low-pressure time together can be some of the best parenting we do.

KEY POINTS

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“It’s the simple stuff that makes our families work the best.”

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One in three babies is using a phone or tablet by six months old. By age two, almost one in ten is averaging around four hours of screen time a day.

New research into screen use during the first years of life has landed with a confronting warning for parents. Justin and Kylie unpack what researchers call “digital soothing”, why screens can crowd out the interactions babies need for healthy development, and what parents can do when zero screen time feels almost impossible.

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QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“The first thousand days build the brain. Work hard to get that right.”

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Pornography isn’t just a boys’ issue. Girls are seeing it too, often before their parents realise they need to talk about it.

Kristen Jenson, founder of Defend Young Minds and author of Good Pictures, Bad Pictures Guide for Girls, joins Justin to explain why girls need to be part of this conversation. They unpack accidental exposure, curiosity, body image, objectification and the shame that can stop girls from asking for help.

Most importantly, Kristen gives parents a simple way to prepare kids before pornography finds them: give them a definition, a warning and a plan.

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QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“It’s never too late to give your kids a defense.”
Kristen Jenson

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Your five-year-old tells a whopping great lie at Show and Tell. Do you correct them, call them out, or let it go?

Lying can push every parental button, but for young kids, stretching the truth can be a surprisingly normal sign of cognitive development. Justin and Kylie explain why kids lie, what their tall tales might be trying to tell us, and why cracking down can make children better at hiding the truth.

The goal isn't to catch your child out. It's to understand what they need and make honesty safe.

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QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

"Kids tell the truth when it's safe to tell the truth."

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Stay calm. A young child's lie isn't automatically a red flag. Look underneath it. Ask whether your child is seeking connection, competence, attention, or belonging. Don't shame or ridicule them. Especially in front of other people. Give them an off-ramp. Try, "Which parts did you do?" rather than catching them out. Make honesty safe. Harsh punishment can make telling the truth feel too costly. Build real competence. Help them practise the skill so next time they can proudly say, "I did it myself."

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Everyone wants the shortcut. Better results, less effort, faster success. But what happens when the shortcut fails?

The Enhanced Games promised superhuman athletic performances through performance-enhancing drugs. Instead, the results offered a surprising lesson for parents and kids. Justin and Kylie unpack our obsession with hacks, optimisation and instant success, and explain why real achievement is usually built through something far less exciting: repetition, mistakes, patience and showing up again.

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QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“It’s not actually about getting there, it’s about who you become while you’re getting there.”

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One in three Australian kids is struggling to read at the expected level. In a classroom of 30, that’s 10 children falling behind.

Justin speaks with Rachel Amorosakra from Reading Out of Poverty about what poor literacy looks like for kids, why access to books in the first five years matters so much, and the confronting reality for children in remote communities who may not own a single book.

With Book Week approaching, they look at a practical way families can help put culturally appropriate books into the hands of children in East Arnhem Land.

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QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Books aren't just about the reading itself. It's about building connection with parents and caregivers.”

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Firstborns tend to earn more, study longer and experience better mental health than their younger siblings. For decades, researchers have struggled to explain why.

A huge study following 1.2 million Danish children has uncovered a surprising piece of the puzzle. It may have less to do with personality or favouritism and more to do with germs, early illness and the extra time firstborns get with their parents.

In this episode, Justin and Kylie unpack what birth order research actually tells us, why the first six months matter so much, and the simple things parents can do to help level the playing field.

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QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Your youngest child is not doomed, your eldest is not blessed.”

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Friendship isn't just part of childhood. It shapes confidence, mental health and whether kids feel they belong. So why does it seem harder than ever?

Michelle Mitchell joins Dr Justin Coulson to unpack the biggest friendship mistakes parents make, why today's kids need more than "just go and play", and the simple framework that helps children build healthier, stronger relationships. If your child is dealing with friendship drama, loneliness or constant social ups and downs, this conversation will change the way you guide them.

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QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

"Friendships are founded on safety. They gather energy through chemistry. They're sustained through effort."

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Nothing seems to work.

You model gratitude. You talk about growth mindset. You ask what went well each day. Yet your child still expects the worst, finds the problem first, and drains every exciting moment.

So should you keep trying to make them more positive?

In this episode, Justin and Kylie answer a question from a mum of 11-year-old twins who worries one daughter always sees the glass half empty. They unpack why some children naturally think this way, why forcing optimism often backfires, and the simple shift that helps children become more resilient without feeling like they're being fixed.

If you've ever wondered how to support a child who always seems negative, this conversation might completely change how you see them.

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QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

"The fastest way to have a more positive child is making peace with the negative one."

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Most relationships don't fall apart because of one big moment. They drift because of hundreds of tiny missed moments.

In this episode, Dr Justin and Kylie Coulson unpack five surprisingly simple weekly habits that relationship therapists see again and again in happy, long-lasting couples. None of them require expensive date nights, grand romantic gestures or endless free time.

From weekly check-ins to repairing arguments, these small rituals help couples stay connected through the chaos of work, parenting and everyday life. If you've ever felt like you're living alongside your partner instead of with them, this conversation offers practical ways to find your way back.

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QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

"Happy couples don't do more. They schedule more."

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Sometimes the biggest parenting breakthroughs come right after we completely blow it.

Justin admits he let protective-dad mode take over when he confronted his daughter about a boyfriend he didn’t trust. The conversation went badly. Hours later, he tried again with one simple question: “What don’t I know?”

Her response changed the conversation.

Justin and Kylie unpack what happens when parents stop assuming they have the full story, how to repair things after getting it wrong, and why listening can give teenagers the space to make thoughtful choices without shutting their parents out.

Plus, Kylie’s crochet habit is taking over the house, and she prepares for a special overseas trip with three of their daughters as they head towards some big life changes.

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QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“What don’t I know?”

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Your child wants to join the game. You want to join the coffee group. Your teenager wants to be part of the weekend plans. So why does asking feel so impossible?

New research reveals that most of us get one crucial social prediction completely wrong. We assume people don't want us there when the opposite is often true.

In this episode, Dr Justin and Kylie Coulson unpack the surprising psychology behind "self invitation hesitation", why adults and kids both hold themselves back, and how one simple question can open the door to stronger friendships, greater confidence, and a deeper sense of belonging.

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QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

"Most people are far more pleased that you asked than you ever imagine."

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You banned social media. You set the rules. You thought the biggest danger was over.

It isn't.

Award-winning journalist Madonna King has spent more than a year speaking with hundreds of children, parents, teachers, psychologists and researchers. What she uncovered will change the way you think about every screen in your home.

This conversation goes far beyond social media. From AI doing our kids' thinking for them to the quiet loss of patience, creativity and resilience, Madonna explains why the biggest risks are often the ones no one is talking about. Most importantly, she shares practical ways to reset your family's relationship with technology without constant battles.

If you've ever wondered whether screens are changing your child, this episode will leave you seeing them differently.

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QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

"Parents really want their children to grow up kind, curious and clever. Yet we're risking that by allowing strangers and algorithms to shape who they become." — Madonna King

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The constant bickering is exhausting. One child is breathing too loudly. Someone looked at someone the wrong way. Another toy has been touched. If you're breaking up the same tiny arguments every day, this episode will change the way you respond.

Justin and Kylie explain why stepping in too quickly often makes sibling conflict worse, and share a simple strategy that helps children solve problems themselves. It's practical, realistic, and designed for the everyday squabbles that slowly wear parents down.

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QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

"Teach relationship skills in peacetime, not wartime."

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Your child could be having deeply personal, romantic conversations tonight and not with another teenager.

A new wave of AI companion apps is attracting young people by offering constant attention, endless validation and conversations that never end. They remember everything, say exactly what users want to hear and create the illusion of a real relationship.

In this episode, Justin and Kylie explain why these chatbots are so appealing, why traditional parental controls don't stop them, and how to start the conversation without shame, panic or punishment. If your child has access to a smartphone, this is one conversation you can't afford to skip.

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QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

"A bot is not a who. A bot is a what."

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What if your child's sex education class wasn't teaching what you think it is?

In this episode, Dr Justin Coulson sits down with teacher representative Ed Schuller to discuss claims about explicit sexual education materials being used in Australian schools. They unpack where the resources come from, why many parents never see them, and the questions every family should be asking.

Whatever your views, this conversation is about one thing. Helping parents understand what their children are being taught and encouraging them to be active partners in their child's education.

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QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

"You cannot be passive. You need to know exactly what your child is being taught."

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A heartbreaking family loss changed the way Professor Nicholas Epley understood his own research. In this episode, he shares how grief, adoption and decades of social science reveal a simple truth that can help every parent raise more connected, confident children.

You'll also discover why crowded rooms can still feel lonely, how to create more meaningful conversations, and the simple daily habit that strengthens every relationship.

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QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

"Once you start looking for opportunities to connect, you realise how many you've been missing."

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Your child doesn't need better social skills. They need more chances to use them.

University of Chicago behavioural scientist Professor Nicholas Epley explains why we're wired for connection but keep avoiding it. His research reveals one surprising mistake almost all of us make and how parents can help children build stronger friendships by changing one simple habit.

This conversation will make you think differently about strangers, screens and the small moments that shape confident, connected kids.

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QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

"If you're a parent who never reaches out to others, your kids won't either. If you do, they will."

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Watching your child be ignored hurts. You want to step in, fix it and make it stop.

Before you do, listen to this conversation.

Justin and Kylie answer a question from a mum whose young sons are being shut out by older neighbourhood kids. They share practical ways to help children handle rejection, build confidence and develop friendships that last.

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QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

"The answer isn't always fixing the problem for our children. Sometimes it's helping them discover that they can help solve it themselves."

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Seven million school days were missed in Victoria last year. Is this a sign of a growing problem, or are parents finally putting their families first?

A new report has sparked fierce debate about school attendance. Should children ever miss school for a holiday, a family celebration or a mental health break?

Dr Justin and Kylie Coulson unpack what the numbers actually tell us, why so many families are choosing term-time travel, and whether chasing perfect attendance comes at a cost.

They explore what children gain from school, what they gain from time with family, and why the best decision isn't always the obvious one.

If you've ever wondered whether it's okay to pull your child out of school, this conversation will give you plenty to think about.

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QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

"If you need to have some time off, if you want to take the kids out of school, do it."

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You finish the day exhausted. Work's done, dinner's over and the last thing you want is another thing to do.

But the moments your kids remember rarely come from expensive holidays or perfectly planned activities. They happen on a walk around the block, over a board game or while you're side by side with no phones in sight.

Justin and Kylie share how an after-dinner walk became the place where their daughters finally opened up. They explore why kids often talk more when they're moving, why screens get in the way, and how small choices can strengthen your relationship without adding more to your to-do list.

If you've been feeling stretched too thin, this episode will help you find connection in the time you already have.

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QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

"When we push past the excuses and make the effort, it's almost always worth it."

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Australia banned social media for under-16s. It hasn't stopped kids from using it.

New research shows most young people are still logging on, creating fake accounts and finding easy ways around age checks. Dr Justin Coulson explains why the law isn't delivering what parents hoped for and why families still have the biggest influence on their children's online lives.

Then the conversation turns to something far more hopeful.

Dutch children are the happiest in the world. It's not because Dutch parents have all the answers. Their families spend more time together. Their children have more independence. Their communities are built around connection. Justin and Kylie unpack what Australian parents can borrow, even if we can't recreate the Dutch system.

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QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

"The legislation can't do the parenting for us. We still have to do the job."

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You're not imagining it. Parenting really does feel harder when you're running on empty.

If you've caught yourself wishing for just one day where nobody needs you, this episode will feel uncomfortably familiar.

Organisational psychologist and bestselling author Dr Amantha Imber joins Dr Justin Coulson to explain why so many parents feel exhausted and what actually helps. No impossible morning routines. No guilt. Just practical, science-backed strategies you can use in minutes.

You'll learn why scrolling leaves you more tired, how to spot the type of fatigue you're dealing with, and the simple habits that can help you feel more like yourself again.

KEY POINTS

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

"We don't just have one energy account. We have three. The key is working out which one needs your attention first." – Dr Amantha Imber

RESOURCES MENTIONED

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

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A fight video lands on your child's phone. They laugh. They watch it again. They send it to a friend.

What do you do next?

This week, Justin and Kylie answer a question from a mum whose 12-year-old daughter received violent footage that was spreading through local schools. They explain what repeated exposure to this content does to kids, why sharing a video makes them part of the harm, and how one conversation at home can change what happens next.

If your child has a phone, this episode is worth hearing.

KEY POINTS

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

"Sharing is participation."

RESOURCES MENTIONED

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

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What if the moment you're desperate to get through today becomes the one you'd give anything to have back?

Brushing tangled hair. Carrying a sleeping child inside. Sitting through one more song. These moments can feel frustrating when you're tired and running late. Then one day they stop happening, and you never realise the last time has already passed.

In this episode, Dr Justin Coulson shares a simple idea from philosophy called the "Last Time Meditation." It will change the way you see everyday parenting and help you notice the moments that matter before they're gone.

KEY POINTS

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

"There's something you did with your child today that ten years from now you'd trade almost anything to do again. You just don't know what that thing is."

RESOURCES MENTIONED

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

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A Disney movie about toys ended with a conversation about screens, sewing and what childhood is starting to lose.

After watching Toy Story 5, Justin and Kylie found themselves talking less about the movie and more about what happens when tablets replace cubby houses, craft tables and backyard adventures.

Kylie shares how teaching their 12-year-old daughter to sew sparked confidence, patience and a brand new business idea. They also unpack the message Toy Story 5 sends about technology, why it missed an important opportunity, and what parents can do instead.

If screens have become the default in your house, this episode offers practical ideas that don't involve another argument.

KEY POINTS

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

"The joy isn't making something. The joy is making it together."

RESOURCES MENTIONED

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

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AI is becoming the friend people never argue with, never disappoint, and never switch off. New research suggests that's exactly the problem.

A 12-month study of more than 2,000 adults found people who turned to AI chatbots for emotional support became more emotionally isolated over time. With more teens now sharing serious problems with AI instead of trusted adults, what does this mean for parents?

Dr Justin Coulson explains why AI feels so comforting, why it can slowly replace real connection, and how parents can spot the warning signs before loneliness takes hold.

KEY POINTS

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

"A chatbot can simulate a friend, but it can't be one."

RESOURCES MENTIONED

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

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What if being a better parent had nothing to do with having the right answers?

Beloved radio host and bestselling author Christian O'Connell joins Dr Justin Coulson for an honest conversation about anxiety, authenticity, and what it feels like when your children leave home.

A forgotten ice-block wrapper tucked into the couch becomes a lesson in letting go. Christian also shares the simple approach that helped him stay connected with his daughters as they grew up.

This episode is a reminder that your children don't need a perfect parent. They need you.

KEY POINTS

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

"The number one job as a parent is to keep them talking."

RESOURCES MENTIONED

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

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A student dies by suicide. Suddenly every parent is asking the same question: What do I say to my child?

Justin and Kylie tackle one of the toughest conversations a parent can face. They unpack the latest research, explain why children can be deeply affected even if they didn't know the student, and share practical ways to start the conversation without making things worse.

You'll hear what to say, what to avoid, the warning signs to watch for, and where to turn if your child needs extra support.

KEY POINTS

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

"Walk towards conversations, not away from them. Ask the direct question, stay calm, and keep asking gently for as long as it takes."

RESOURCES MENTIONED

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

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Six kids. One house. Endless noise, constant mess, and a level of logistics that would test anyone.

With Australia's birth rate at a record low, Justin and Kylie share the reality of raising a large family in 2026. They unpack the costs, the exhaustion, and the emotional load that rarely gets talked about. They also reveal why, despite every challenge, they wouldn't change a thing.

If you've ever wondered what family life really looks like behind the photos, this honest conversation is for you.

KEY POINTS

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

"It's not the nuggets that make you rich. It's the slow, steady accumulation of all those little flecks of gold."

RESOURCES MENTIONED

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

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What if the thing your family needs most… isn’t more time - but better conversations?

In this episode, we reveal the one habit that keeps us aligned, connected, and actually moving forward - despite the chaos of raising six kids.

It’s simple. It’s structured. And almost no one does it.

If your family feels reactive, disconnected, or stuck in survival mode… this might be the reset you didn’t know you needed.

KEY POINTS

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“If your family is the most important thing in your life… when was the last time you made a plan for it?”

RESOURCES MENTIONED

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

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We’ve told kids for years that effort changes everything.

But the biggest review of growth mindset research in decades just found the results are tiny… sometimes nothing at all.

So should parents and teachers stop talking about “not yet”?

In this Doctor’s Desk episode, Justin and Kylie unpack what the science really says, why the data might be missing the magic, and the simple belief that still changes lives for many children.

KEY POINTS

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“I don’t want to be the adult who looks at a child and says, ‘You just can’t.’”

RESOURCES MENTIONED

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

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The harder we try to be the "perfect" parent, the more we can unintentionally hold our children back.

Family therapist Dr Jenny Brown explains why modern parenting has become so intense, how worry fuels conflict, and why the best thing you can do for your child is often to work on yourself instead. This practical conversation will help you step out of exhausting worry cycles, respond more calmly, and create the space your child needs to become more capable and confident.

KEY POINTS

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

"The parent makes a project out of themselves, not their child." — Dr Jenny Brown

RESOURCES MENTIONED

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

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Everyone else has a phone. Your child feels left out. And you’re the “mean parent” holding the line.

So what now?

In this solo Q&A episode of the Happy Families Podcast, I unpack one of the most common parenting dilemmas today: peer pressure, smartphones, and the fear that saying no will push your child away.

If your 10–12 year old is desperate to “follow the crowd,” this episode gives you a research-backed, relationship-first roadmap to hold boundaries without losing connection.

Because this isn’t really about the phone. It’s about identity, belonging, and trust.

KEY POINTS

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“My job is to protect your developing brain — even when that feels unfair.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

Explore first. Ask: “Tell me what a phone would give you.” Listen without correcting. Explain calmly. Share the why behind your boundary — not just the rule. Empower together. Brainstorm ways to increase friend connection without a smartphone. Give a future pathway. Revisit the conversation at a clear milestone (age, responsibility, contribution). Stay warm. Boundaries don’t push kids away. Disconnection does.

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You are pouring yourself out every single day. But into whose cup?

In this powerful conversation inspired by Derek Thompson, Justin and Kylie explore a simple metaphor that will stop you mid-scroll: every morning you wake with a full jug of water. By night, it’s empty. The only question that matters is where it went.

Work. News. Regret. Netflix. Anxiety. Group chats. Your kids. Your marriage.

Attention never lies. It reveals what we truly value.

If you’ve been feeling depleted, resentful, stretched thin — this episode will gently realign you with what actually matters.

Because tomorrow morning?
The jug refills.

KEY POINTS

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Attention never lies. It reveals what we truly value.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

At the end of today, ask: Whose cup did I fill? Notice one cup that received too much water. Choose one relationship that gets first pour tomorrow. When you feel depleted at 4pm, take one small intentional step toward connection. Remember: the jug refills in the morning.

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The hardest part of parenting isn’t managing our kids. It’s facing ourselves.

This week, a heated family moment revealed something uncomfortable — our children often mirror the very behaviours we struggle with. Defensiveness. Blame. Excuses. Denial. And when we see it in them… it’s confronting.

In this honest Friday “I’ll Do Better Tomorrow” episode, we unpack emotional reactivity, accountability, and the power of repairing quickly. Plus, a Brisbane GP’s email sparks an important conversation about ADHD diagnoses, medication culture, and why more labels aren’t fixing our kids.

This one goes deep — into marriage, parenting, and the courage to own our part.

KEY POINTS:

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:
“If we do dumb things, can we forgive each other and move on and be better as a result of it? That’s literally all that matters.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS:

When conflict flares, ask: What part of this is mine? Model ownership out loud — let your kids hear you apologise. Separate accountability from self-blame. Own your part, not theirs. Repair quickly. Don’t let pride extend disconnection. Back yourself. Not every struggle needs a label or prescription.

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When your child is anxious, lonely or flat… your instinct is to comfort them.

But what if the fastest way to help them feel better isn’t self-care — it’s helping someone else?

New research reveals a powerful mental health shift that happens when kids practise kindness outward instead of inward. The results are surprising — and incredibly practical for everyday family life.

In this Doctor’s Desk episode, we unpack the science behind the “kindness paradox” and show you exactly how to use it at home this week.

KEY POINTS

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“The fastest way to feel better about yourself is to help someone else feel better about their life.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

Ask at dinner: “Who did you help today?” Plan one small act of kindness as a family this week. Encourage compliments to strangers, teachers or friends. Write one handwritten thank-you note together. Repeat it next week — aim for three acts of kindness.

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What if the way we talk about periods shapes how our daughters feel about themselves for the rest of their lives?

For generations, menstruation was treated as awkward, embarrassing, or simply ignored. In this conversation, Kylie sits down with holistic educator and author Kate Andrews to explore how honest conversations about puberty, periods and changing bodies can help girls grow up feeling informed, empowered and connected to themselves.

They discuss why period education matters, how parents can become a trusted source of information, and the powerful role of community in helping young people navigate life's biggest transitions.

KEY POINTS:
• Why period education is about far more than biology
• The lifelong impact of shame and secrecy around menstruation
• Helping girls understand the emotional and physical changes of puberty
• Why parents need to become the trusted source before children look elsewhere
• The importance of rites of passage and community support
• How honest conversations strengthen relationships with our kids

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:
"We should be made to feel empowered by our periods, not taught to ignore them."

RESOURCES:

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS:

Start age-appropriate conversations about puberty earlier than you think you need to. Speak openly and honestly about body changes and emotions. Create opportunities for your child to ask awkward questions without embarrassment. Help your child build a trusted circle of adults beyond just mum and dad. Remind your children that change is normal and they don't have to navigate it alone.

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It’s happening younger than ever. Girls as young as five are worrying about their weight, and by age nine the insecurities can hit hard. In this episode we unpack a listener’s heartbreaking question: “Is my daughter pretty enough?” - and share the practical steps that protect kids from body image pain without making it worse.

KEY POINTS

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Don’t rush in with reassurance - get curious, not furious.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

Get Curious (Not Furious): Ask where comments came from before correcting. Validate the Feelings: “That must have felt really crummy. I’m glad you told me.” Reframe: Shift to body function (what it does, not how it looks). Model Neutral-to-Positive Self Talk: No dieting talk, no body bashing, no opting out of photos. Build Gratitude for the Body: Surfing, running, hugging- celebrate capability.

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What if the very thing we’re trying to protect our kids from… is the thing they actually need most?

Many parents want their children to feel confident, resilient, and worthy. But in our effort to make life easier for them, we might be accidentally stealing the struggles that build those very traits.

In this powerful conversation, Justin and Kylie explore why doing hard things—not comfortable ones—is the foundation of resilience. They unpack the surprising psychology behind why kids feel empty when life is too easy, and how small daily challenges can help children develop a deep sense of purpose, confidence, and self-worth.

If you want your kids to grow up strong, capable, and emotionally resilient, this episode will change how you think about struggle.

KEY POINTS

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“We grow by being defeated by greater and greater things.” 

RESOURCES MENTIONED

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

Let your child choose a hard thing – sport, music, art, work, or a personal challenge. Encourage productive struggle rather than removing every obstacle. Support without rescuing when problems arise. Build resilience together – challenges are easier with connection. Model courage and discipline by tackling hard things yourself. This week: identify one struggle you’ve been fixing for your child… and step back.

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Four days before his daughter's wedding, Justin crashed his bike, suffered a severe concussion, and arrived at the big day bruised, stitched up, and barely functioning.

Then he forgot the one thing every father of the bride is supposed to remember.

What followed was a beautiful reminder that the moments we treasure most are rarely the perfect ones.

In this heartfelt episode, Justin and Kylie reflect on letting children grow up, creating space for their choices, and why the messy, imperfect moments often become the memories that matter most.

KEY POINTS

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

"Raising them to let them go is hard, but that's just how it should be."

RESOURCES MENTIONED

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

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For years we've been told that screens, social media and short-form videos are destroying our ability to focus. But the latest research tells a very different story.

In this Doctor's Desk episode, Justin and Kylie unpack a major new study published in Nature that challenges one of the biggest myths in parenting. Discover why attention spans may not be shrinking after all, what's really stealing our focus, and the practical changes that can help both you and your children concentrate on what matters most.

If homework feels impossible, everyone is glued to their phones, or you're constantly switching between tasks, this episode offers hope—and solutions.

KEY POINTS

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

"We don't have an attention span problem. We have a distraction problem."

RESOURCES

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

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What if the problem isn't your child... but the way school is designed?

For many families, traditional schooling simply doesn't fit. Whether it's school refusal, elite sport, performing arts, health challenges, travel, or a child who just learns differently, parents are searching for better options.

In this episode, Justin speaks with Joanna Baker, Head of Campus at Haileybury Pangea, Australia's pioneering private online school. Together they explore how technology, small class sizes, and personalised learning are creating an education model that challenges everything we thought school had to be.

If you've ever wondered whether there might be another path, this conversation could completely change how you think about your child's education.

Key Points

Quote of the Episode

"School shouldn't be a one-size-fits-all model."

Resources Mentioned

Action Steps for Parents

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One rushed morning. One moment of frustration. One word you wish you could take back.

If you've ever lost your temper with your teenager and spent the rest of the day drowning in guilt, this episode is for you.

When one mum admits she called her 15-year-old daughter "the B word" during a stressful race to catch the school bus, Justin and Kylie unpack what was really happening beneath the conflict and share practical ways to stay calm when emotions run high.

From stepping away from arguments to letting natural consequences do the teaching, this conversation offers hope for parents who are trying hard but sometimes get it wrong.

Because good parents lose their cool sometimes too. What matters most is what happens next.

KEY POINTS

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

"You don't have to attend every argument."

RESOURCES MENTIONED

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

Replace instructions and criticism with one simple question: "How can I help?" Allow natural consequences to do some of the teaching. If emotions are escalating, stop talking and take a short break. Prepare the night before to reduce stressful mornings. Repair quickly after conflict with an apology and reconnection.

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What if the fastest way to end an argument with your child is to refuse to join it?

When emotions are running high, most parents instinctively step into the conflict, hoping to teach a lesson, fix the behaviour, or set things straight. But what if that's exactly the wrong move?

In this episode, Justin and Kylie explore why children often invite us into arguments, why it's so tempting to accept, and how learning to pause can transform family relationships. Discover the simple mindset shift that helps parents stay calm, avoid power struggles, and create space for better conversations.

Sometimes the most powerful parenting response is not responding at all.

KEY POINTS

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

"You don't have to attend every argument you're invited to."

RESOURCES MENTIONED

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

The next time your child invites you into an argument, pause before responding. Use a calm phrase such as, "We'll talk about this later." Keep your tone soft and reassuring, even when emotions are high. Create space for everyone to cool down before revisiting the issue. Ask yourself whether the problem still needs solving once emotions have settled.

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One moment he was riding his bike. The next, he was unconscious on the side of the road with no memory of what had happened.

This week on I'll Do Better Tomorrow, Justin shares the terrifying cycling accident that left him with a severe concussion, stitches, black eyes, and a completely missing memory of the crash itself.

As the family prepares for their daughter's wedding day, the experience becomes a powerful reminder that life can change in an instant — and that the people we love need to know exactly how much they matter.

It's a deeply personal conversation about mortality, gratitude, family, and the moments we so often assume we'll get again tomorrow.

KEY POINTS:
• Justin's near-fatal cycling accident and the frightening reality of memory loss after concussion.
• The technology that helped Kylie locate him quickly after the crash.
• Why families should always know where loved ones are and how to contact them.
• The importance of treating ordinary moments as if they might be the last.
• Navigating the emotional complexity of celebrating a wedding while processing trauma.
• What parents learn when another child leaves home and starts a new chapter.

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:
"Treat this moment like it might be the last time — the last hug, the last meal, the last ordinary day together."

RESOURCES MENTIONED:
• Garmin incident detection and emergency notifications.
• The "Last Time Meditation" concept.
• Happy Families podcast episodes on presence and family connection.

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS:

Make sure your family knows where you're going and how to reach you in an emergency. Review emergency contacts and safety features on your devices. Be fully present during everyday family moments this week. Tell the people you love that you love them — explicitly and often. Spend time reflecting on what matters most and whether your priorities align with it.

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A group of Victorian childcare centres recently conducted a "digital detox", removing screens, cameras, Spotify, YouTube, and other technology from classrooms. What happened next surprised even the educators involved.

In this episode, Justin talks with early childhood expert Anna Russell about the remarkable changes they observed: calmer classrooms, more engaged children, increased language development, stronger relationships, and even better sleep routines.

If you've ever wondered whether young children really need so much technology in their early years, this conversation offers a fascinating glimpse into what happens when educators return to the basics of connection, conversation, play, and presence.

KEY POINTS

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

"What I need from you is to send my child home happy, healthy, and knowing more than they did when they walked in this morning." — Anna Russell

RESOURCES MENTIONED

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

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What if just a few minutes a day could help your child build resilience, confidence, emotional awareness, and stronger relationships?

With children's mental health challenges rising earlier than ever, many parents feel unsure where to start. In this episode, Justin talks with Smiling Mind CEO Sarah La Roche about the simple, evidence-based habits that help children thrive—and the free app that millions of families are already using.

You'll discover why mental fitness matters long before a crisis emerges, how mindfulness can help kids manage big emotions, and practical ways to strengthen wellbeing at home every day.

KEY POINTS

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

"You don't have to wait until your child is struggling. Mental fitness is something families can build every day."

RESOURCES MENTIONED

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

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What happens when someone your child should be able to trust leaves them feeling judged, misunderstood, and unloved?

In this heartfelt Q&A, we respond to a mother whose autistic and ADHD daughter was deeply hurt by a visit from her grandmother. Despite years of progress, one family visit triggered emotional setbacks, self-doubt, and the painful belief that "Nan doesn't love me because of who I am."

We explore how parents can help children recover from criticism, reframe damaging messages, rebuild confidence, and move forward when family members simply don't understand neurodivergence.

If you've ever struggled with relatives who undermine your parenting or your child's wellbeing, this conversation will give you practical guidance and hope.

KEY POINTS

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

"Kids don't get better when you make them feel worse."

RESOURCES MENTIONED

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

Validate your child's feelings before trying to solve the problem. Help them separate another person's misunderstanding from their own self-worth. Ask: "Would you seek advice from this person? If not, why listen to their criticism?" Reframe the story from "They don't love me" to "They don't understand me." Focus on progress by celebrating growth, strengths, and achievements. Set meaningful goals that build confidence and competence over time.

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How much is a night out really costing parents in 2026?

For many families, the answer is: far more than they can afford.

With babysitting costs soaring and the cost of living biting hard, more parents are finding themselves trapped at home, missing out on the relationship time they desperately need. In this episode, Justin and Kylie unpack the surprising reality of modern babysitting costs, explore whether childcare work is undervalued, and share practical ways families are finding affordable time together without blowing the budget.

If you've ever looked at the babysitting quote and decided date night wasn't worth it, this conversation is for you.

KEY POINTS

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

"The most expensive person at dinner isn't even there."

RESOURCES MENTIONED

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

Explore a babysitting swap with trusted friends. Reconsider whether grandparents or extended family can help. Plan lower-cost date nights that don't require big spending. Schedule regular couple time, even if it's at home after the kids are asleep. Remember that investing in your relationship is an investment in your family.

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It's another Friday, where Justin and Kylie look back at the week that was with another 'I'll Do Better Tomorrow' episode.

This week, as Justin's new book Boys hit bestseller lists, a parent shared a confronting account of what they're seeing in schools: disrespect, entitlement, harmful behaviour, and a growing concern about the messages many boys are absorbing.

In this powerful episode, Justin and Kylie explore why positive masculinity matters more than ever, and why raising boys who make others feel safer, stronger, and valued isn't just important for families—it's essential for society.

They also share a heartwarming family story that proves one simple truth: traditions matter more than we realise.

KEY POINTS

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

"A healthy man helps the people around him feel safer and stronger."

RESOURCES MENTIONED

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

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What helps a boy do the right thing when everyone else is doing the wrong thing?

In this episode, Justin shares one of the most important lessons from his new book, Boys: Building Strong Young Men from the Inside Out. He explores why character matters more than achievement, how resilience is built through challenge, and why choosing the hard path is often what shapes boys into trustworthy, courageous men.

From peer pressure and moral courage to embracing life's "hills", this conversation offers practical guidance for parents who want to raise boys with strength, integrity, and the confidence to stand alone when it counts.

KEY POINTS

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

"Rather than asking, 'How can I avoid this difficulty?', your son learns to ask, 'How can I grow through this difficulty?'"

RESOURCES MENTIONED

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

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