FamilyLife New Zealand Podcast

Finding it hard to find Joy in this season? Want to know where to find it and how it actually starts? Here’s what we need to know about how to model joy to our kids authentically, learn from the ways in which Jesus was ‘present’ for people, and how by doing some simple things you can light up their world!

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When life gets busy, the pressure tends to build. When we’re stressed we might not be our best selves and this can lead to pressure in our relationships and for underlying issues to become prevailing issues that lead to isolation. If you’re overwhelmed or under pressure right now, there’s HOPE.

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Christmas can be a busy time of year and the idea is for it to be a season of celebration and joy, but it can easily turn into chaos and perhaps even resentment as we manage competing priorities and differing expectations. How do we make sure this upcoming holiday we have peace in our home?

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Let's talk passing the pepper pot, thinking less about yourself and rather about how you can be of service to others - especially your spouse and children this festive season. We learn about practising gratitude, extending grace, going slow, giving space, swapping roles and managing conflict.

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Celebrating life’s special moments are important. These memories build into the story of who we are as a couple or as a family. When we bring different backgrounds and family traditions with different expectations into our marriage, there’s bound to be competing priorities and we need to create our own traditions that incorporate the best of our backgrounds.

This is part of the Marriage Mentoring series.

Read more about Marriage Mentoring here: https://familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/
Find out how you can become a Marriage Mentor here: https://www.familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/become-mentors/ 

Parenting is an opportunity to work together and strengthen our relationship. It’s the fruit of the “new thing” that we have become as a married couple. It’s an opportunity for us to leave a legacy and build the tribe that God has called us to be. We need to work together as a team.

This is part of the Marriage Mentoring series.

Read more about Marriage Mentoring here: https://familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/
Find out how you can become a Marriage Mentor here: https://www.familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/become-mentors/ 

The goal of marriage is oneness, and oneness is only achieved through intimacy. Emotional and physical intimacy go hand in hand and it requires trust, vulnerability, and a heart to serve one another’s needs

This is part of the Marriage Mentoring series.

Read more about Marriage Mentoring here: https://familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/
Find out how you can become a Marriage Mentor here: https://www.familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/become-mentors/ 

All human beings have a need for fun and recreation of some sort. If we are deprived of this or our joy tank is empty, we won’t function like our best selves. If we’re not intentional as a couple or family about what fun and recreation look like, we’ll default to becoming slaves to the easy, destructive “out” that technology offers.

This is part of the Marriage Mentoring series.

Read more about Marriage Mentoring here: https://familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/
Find out how you can become a Marriage Mentor here: https://www.familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/become-mentors/ 

We were created as spirit, soul, and body, and the way we practise our faith in our marriage plays a big part in our union.

This is part of the Marriage Mentoring series.

Read more about Marriage Mentoring here: https://familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/
Find out how you can become a Marriage Mentor here: https://www.familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/become-mentors/ 

Building a home together requires us to serve one another through the principles of sacrifice, partnership and servanthood.

This is part of the Marriage Mentoring series.

Read more about Marriage Mentoring here: https://familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/
Find out how you can become a Marriage Mentor here: https://www.familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/become-mentors/ 

Our pace and priorities in life can either be healthy for our relationship as a couple and our common goals as a family, or it can be the source of tension and disconnect that causes us to drift apart.

This is part of the Marriage Mentoring series.

Read more about Marriage Mentoring here: https://familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/
Find out how you can become a Marriage Mentor here: https://www.familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/become-mentors/ 

Our relationship with money can be a major source of tension in our marriage. Working towards unity in this area of our relationship can lead to great joy, satisfaction and blessing.

This is part of the Marriage Mentoring series.

Read more about Marriage Mentoring here: https://familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/
Find out how you can become a Marriage Mentor here: https://www.familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/become-mentors/ 

Rituals and Habits have the power to make or break a relationship. When was the last time you evaluated your daily, weekly, or monthly rituals as a couple?

This is part of the Marriage Mentoring series.

Read more about Marriage Mentoring here: https://familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/
Find out how you can become a Marriage Mentor here: https://www.familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/become-mentors/ 

Conflict exists in all relationships. How you deal with it makes all the difference. Here are a few things that are needed for relationships to thrive when dealing with conflict.

This is part of the Marriage Mentoring series.

Read more about Marriage Mentoring here: https://familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/
Find out how you can become a Marriage Mentor here: https://www.familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/become-mentors/ 

Overcoming communication breakdown in marriage - one of the most common reasons communication breaks down in marriage and how to solve it...

Wynand interviews Ferg Turnbul, New Zealand author and father of five on his new book Be The Dad. It is a book for men who would never normally read a parenting/relationship/dad life book, full of quick tips to be a great Dad and Husband and enjoy your life while doing it. A perfect gift for those important men and fathers in your life.

Inside are 20 short and easy-to-read chapters packed with helpful tips, drawings and stories to encourage and help you enjoy your Dad life.

For more info about FamilyLife NZ, go to: familylife.nz
To register for an event: familylife.nz/events/weekend-to-remember
For more resources from FamilyLife NZ, listen to our podcast: familylife.nz/podcast
For more Digital Marriage Resources: familylife.nz/digital-resources
For Date Night ideas: familylife.nz/datenights
To partner with FamilyLife NZ go to: familylife.nz/donate

Wynand Jacobs from FamilyLife NZ talks with Kat about the complexities of demonstrating love in relationships especially when different personalities come into play.

This is part of the Marriage Mentoring series.

Read more about Marriage Mentoring here: https://familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/
Find out how you can become a Marriage Mentor here: https://www.familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/become-mentors/ 

Some helpful advice on how we can cultivate gratitude in our relationships and not take each other for granted.

This is part of the Marriage Mentoring series.

Read more about Marriage Mentoring here: https://familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/
Find out how you can become a Marriage Mentor here: https://www.familylife.nz/marriage-mentoring/become-mentors/ 

Thriving marriages are built on the foundations of Priority, Permanence, and Passion. To look at the "HOW" of marriage, we need to look at God's design - His Master Plan - for marriage. We're exploring some of the foundational principles that we'll be wise to remember in terms of how to see our marriages thrive.

Master Plan looks at God's design for marriage, highlights that marriage is more significant than we may think, and invites people to adopt God's design for our relationship. But first, why? Let's talk about struggle, focus and purpose.

Is there hope for those who may have experienced marriage drift? How can you get a new relationship?

The importance of prioritising the relationship (focus): swimming between the flags and dreaming together. Maybe plan a vacation, a weekend getaway for just the 2 of you, or simply have a regular date night.

Wynand chats with Tom and Kat about marriage drift - looking at what marriage drift is, what red flags help us become aware of it and remembering once again how and why the journey started in the first place.

What's your mission in marriage? Do you even have one? 
How would you identify or perhaps somewhat measure relationship drift in your own marriage?

Wynand chats with Tom and Kat about marriage drift - looking at what marriage drift is, what red flags help us become aware of it and remembering once again how and why the journey started in the first place.

Is this one of the most common challenges that marriages face? Do all marriages experience drift, or does it mean we're incompatible if we do?

Wynand chats with Tom and Kat about marriage drift - looking at what marriage drift is, what red flags help us become aware of it and remembering once again how and why the journey started in the first place.

Receiving, Raising, and Releasing your children

There are two roles in the world that are unique to you. Your role as a husband or wife and your role as a father or mother. In any other role you play, you’ll probably be replaced within months, weeks, or even days after you leave. 

Needless to say, your success in these roles is probably the most significant assignment of your life. One of the purposes of marriage is to “be fruitful and multiply”. Kids often result as the fruit of marriage, and kids impact your marriage in a BIG way.

In this episode we discuss our 3-part assignment as parents as it relates to receiving our kids as a gift, raising them with wisdom and love, and releasing them out into the world as capable adults. Listen to Wynand, Nikki, and Steve discuss these ideas in this 2-part episode with a special clip featuring Andy Bray (former director of FamilyLife NZ and late husband of Nikki Bray).

We hope you enjoy the episode!

Resources:
No Perfect Parents - Dave and Anne Wilson