Wake Up or Break Up!

In the final installment of this 3 part series, I sit down with Marcel and Alicia to get the low down on how they repaired their marriage and learned more about themselves in the process.  Forgiveness after infidelity may not work for every relationship, but for this couple,  it brought them closer together. 

Out of respect for his marriage, Marcel is no longer on social media, but you can follow Alicia on Instagram: @alicia_maria83

You can also find me...
On Instagram: @wakeupelsie
On Youtube: "Wake Up or Break Up"
Or my Coaching Page: wakeupyourpassion.com

EPISODE MUSIC PRODUCED BY: DESHAWN SINCLAIR 

In part 2 of our unexpected 3 part series, Marcel shares his perspective on how love and loyalty drifted to infidelity and regret.  Marcel candidly describes the contributing factors that led him to cheat, as well as the drastic yet necessary measures he took to keep his marriage together (and thriving). 

In part 3, I sit down with Marcel and Alicia to get the real deal of how they repaired their marriage and if their love is still going strong today. I hope you stay tuned for  part 3!

Out of respect for his marriage, Marcel is no longer on social media. 
You can contact Alicia on Instagram: @alicia_maria83

You can also find me...
On Instagram: @wakeupelsie
On Youtube: "Wake Up or Break Up"
Or my Coaching Page: flow.page/wakeupelsie

EPISODE MUSIC PRODUCED BY: DESHAWN SINCLAIR 

I strongly believe, "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger," and the same can be said for my beautiful guest Alicia.  She is a mom of 3 teenagers, overcame infidelity after 18 years of marriage, and is a breast cancer survivor.  

In part 1 of this unexpected 3 part series, Alicia shares her journey of falling in love, motherhood, cancer, and forgiveness after infidelity. In part 2, we'll hear her husband's side of the story. And in part 3, I'll sit down with the both of them and get the real deal of how they kept their marriage together. 

Their story is beyond powerful! I hope you tune in to all 3 parts! 

You can contact Alicia...
On Instagram: @alicia_maria83

You can also find me...
On Instagram, Clubhouse, Tiktok: @wakeupelsie
On Youtube: "Wake Up or Break Up"
Or my Coaching Page: flow.page/wakeupelsie

EPISODE MUSIC PRODUCED BY: DESHAWN SINCLAIR 

In this episode I talk with Tamisha, a podcaster, singer/songwriter, spiritual coach,  entrepreneur, and Vibe Queen! Tamisha shares her story of separation, self-discovery, spiritual awakening.  I was incredibly honored to have Tamisha share her story for the first time on my podcast.   If you're on a spiritual journey, or if you're feeling lost after after infidelity and separation, this is a great episode for you!

You can contact Tamisha...
On Instagram: @vibequeenmusic and @vibetalkawaken
Her Website:  www.vibequeenmusic.com
Or Her Coaching Page: www.bit.ly/MAPconsultation

You can also find me...
On Instagram, Clubhouse, Tiktok: @wakeupelsie
On Youtube: "Wake Up or Break Up"
Or my Coaching Page: flow.page/wakeupelsie

EPISODE MUSIC PRODUCED BY: DESHAWN SINCLAIR 

In this episode I talk with Katharine, a blogger, social media influencer, and married mom of two.  Katharine shares how she discovered her husband's infidelity shortly  after the birth of their first child, and two days after their 1 year wedding anniversary.  Katharine's story of family obligation, transparency,  post-partum depression, and acceptance is truly inspiring. I hope you take a moment to listen to her story.

You can follow Katharine's  journey...
On Instagram/Clubhouse/all Social Media: @thebearess
Blog: thebearess.com

You can also find me...
On Instagram/Clubhouse/ TikTok: @wakeupelsie
On Youtube: "Wake Up or Break Up"
Or my Coaching Page: www.wakeupyourpassion.com

Music Produced by Deshawn Sinclair

In this episode I talk with Tracy, a married mom of four.  Tracy shares her story of emotional betrayal after 15 years with her husband. Tracy sheds light on the multiple layers of betrayal and forgiveness. Cheating is not black and white, and what you choose to do after cheating is completely up to you.   Tracy's story of marriage, trust, and healing is truly powerful. I hope you're inspired by her honest perspective!   

You can follow Tracy's  journey...
On Instagram: @infidelityandhealing

You can also find me...
On Instagram, Clubhouse, and TikTok: @wakeupelsie
On Youtube: "Wake Up or Break Up"
Or my Coaching Page: www.wakeupyourpassion.com

Music Produced by Deshawn Sinclair

In this episode I talk with Elizabeth, a single mom from Little Rock, Arkansas.  Elizabeth explains how her experiences with infidelity drove her to work on herself, put her needs and wants first, and strengthen her ability to talk candidly about her failed relationships.  Elizabeth's story is one of love, betrayal, confusion, and reinvention. I hope you're inspired by her honest perspective!   

You can follow Elizabeth's  journey...
On Instagram: @lizzy_beee

You can also find me...
On Instagram, Clubhouse, and TikTok: @wakeupelsie
On Youtube: "Wake Up or Break Up"
Or my Coaching Page: www.wakeupyourpassion.com

Music Produced by Deshawn Sinclair

In this episode I speak with Chloe, a wife and mother who uncovers her husband's acts of infidelity one month into their marriage. Chloe shares how professional counseling and the support of their family, gave her and her husband the strength they needed to stay together. 

Her love story is far from perfect, but her and her husband are committed to creating their own version of happily ever after. 

Follow Chloe's Journey: 
On Instagram: @chloexxwilliams

You can also find me...
On Instagram or TikTok: @wakeupelsie
On Youtube: "Wake Up or Break Up"
On Clubhouse: @elsiebobo
My Coaching Page: www.wakeupyourpassion.com

EPISODE MUSIC PRODUCED BY: DESHAWN SINCLAIR

In this episode I talk with my dear friend Sedalia.  She is a mother of 6, a fitness lover, and a survivor of a brain aneurysm! After Joe and I broke up, Sedalia was the first person to share her story of infidelity and forgiveness with me. She was a listening ear whenever I needed to vent, she offered me advice with no judgement or criticism, and she answered so many of my random questions. Before I heard Sedalia's story, I thought a strong woman would leave her husband (no questions asked) if he ever cheated. I thought it was weak to stay. She showed me the power of forgiveness and second chances only if the person who cheated was willing to own their actions and change their ways. Sedalia is a force to be reckoned with! 

You can follow Sedalia's  journey...
On Instagram: @perfectonelife

You can also find me...
On Instagram or TikTok: @wakeupelsie
On Youtube: "Wake Up or Break Up"
On Clubhouse: @elsiebobo
Or my Coaching Page: www.wakeupyourpassion.com

EPISODE MUSIC PRODUCED BY: DESHAWN SINCLAIR

In this episode I talk with Lauren, a podcaster, mindset coach, and entrepreneur on the rise! Lauren shares her unique story of finding love, asking for an open relationship, falling in love with someone else, and then marrying the man of her dreams.  Her experience is far from traditional, but that is what makes it powerful.  If you're looking for a modern alternative to the typical relationship, this episode is a must listen! 

You can follow Lauren's journey...
On Instagram: @laurenmkepler
Her Podcast: https://laurenkepler.podbean.com/
Or Her Coaching Page: https://www.laurenkepler.com/

You can also find me...
On Instagram: @wakeupelsie
On Youtube: "Wake Up or Break Up"
Or my Coaching Page: www.wakeupyourpassion.com

EPISODE MUSIC PRODUCED BY: DESHAWN SINCLAIR

In this episode I talk with Simon Ravona, a trained mediator, lawyer, negotiator, and divorce coach. Simon helps clients (including myself) manage the realities of relationships, break ups, and divorce by creating a life of purpose and meaning. For today's conversation, Simon and I talk about the top reasons for couples to break up, the differences between coaching and therapy, what keeps couples together, and his top tips for making relationships work.  If you are in a relationship, thinking about divorce, or plan on dating in the near future, this episode is a must listen!

You can find Simon...
On Instagram: @Divorce_Wisdom
By Email: simon@catalyticcoaching.co
Or his Coaching Page: www.catalyticcoaching.co

You can also find me...
On Instagram: @wakeupelsie
On TikTok: @wakeupelsie
On Youtube: "Wake Up or Break Up"
Or my Coaching Page: www.wakeupyourpassion.com

In this episode, I talk with Mary, a former bikini competitor, grandmother of 2,  and one of my dearest friends.  Mary explains how the loss of her unborn son resulted in infidelity and divorce from her husband of 5 years (15 years together). She also shares her uncharacteristic method of coping, and what she wishes she would have done differently. Mary's story is one of heartbreak, loss, and reinvention. I hope you're inspired by her journey!   

You can follow Mary's  journey...
On Instagram: @fab_over_50_mc

You can also find me...
On Instagram or TikTok: @wakeupelsie
On Youtube: "Wake Up or Break Up"
Or my Coaching Page: www.wakeupyourpassion.com

In this episode, I talk with the brilliant Japji, an interdisciplinary qualitative researcher, a playful yogi, a poet, a dancefloor mama, a mom of two, and a Ph.D!  Japji shares her powerful story of allowance, betrayal, and finding the strength to leave an unhealthy relationship with her two young sons. She also opens up about learning to trust again with someone new. 

You can follow Japji's journey...
On Instagram: @wordmamaword
Or Coaching Page: www.flourishwellbeingsass.com

You can also find me...
On Instagram: @wakeupelsie
On Youtube: "Wake Up or Break Up"
Or my Coaching Page: www.wakeupyourpassion.com

EPISODE MUSIC PRODUCED BY: DESHAWN SINCLAIR

In this episode, I talk with Ashley, a mother of 6 and mompreneur on the rise.  Ashley explains  how her experience with young love and betrayal helped her redefine her idea of "happily ever after." Ashley also shares how trusting God's timing for her life helped her heal her wounded heart and find love again.  If you're looking for inspiration or clarity in your personal love life, this episode is a must listen! 

You can follow Ashley's journey...
On Instagram: @ashleys_point_of_view
Her Mommy Squad IG: @conqueringmotherhood2gether
Or on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCESCpyTKR5nhzxYCESM3s7A

You can also find me...
On Instagram: @wakeupelsie
On Youtube: "Wake Up or Break Up"
Or my Coaching Page: www.wakeupyourpassion.com

EPISODE MUSIC PRODUCED BY: DESHAWN SINCLAIR

In this episode, I talk with my dear friend Destiny about her on again off again love story with the father of her daughter.  She shares how his initial acts of cheating and dishonesty led to her engaging in her own acts of infidelity. She's not proud of the direction her relationship took, but she OWNS and ACCEPTS what happened between them as a necessary part of their love story and personal growth. 

Destiny is a mother of one, a podcast host, a master waxer, entrepreneur, and body positivity BOSS BABE!  You can follow her on instagram @destinedtoinspire orcheck out her business @the_smoothsecret, and listen to her podcast on Spotify "Taboo Talks with Destiny"!

You can also find me...
On Instagram: @wakeupelsie
On Youtube: "Wake Up or Break Up"
Or my Coaching Page: www.wakeupyourpassion.com

MUSIC BY: DESHAWN SINCLAIR

Prior to getting cheated on, I thought I only had ONE OPTION if someone ever cheated on me,  and that was divorce.  After reading the stories of strangers and friends who had been cheated on, I quickly realized there were multiple possibilities.  There were stories of making things work,  walking away, seeking revenge,  and starting over.  Although the circumstances were similar, the end results were different. There was no rhyme or reason to why people chose what they did. They simply chose what they thought was best.  

For Season 2, and maybe for the entirety of this podcast,  I want to normalize the concept of possibility and choice for life after infidelity.  Whether someone decides to stay, walk away, find someone new, or swear off relationships forever,  I want to celebrate the power of the journey and not just the outcome. 

If you have a powerful story of infidelity or know of someone who does, please email me at wakeupelsie@gmail.com. I'd love to have you on a future podcast! And please know, these interviews are totally open to people who were cheated on, who did the cheating, or someone who was involved as the "other person." I want to represent the full spectrum of the human perspective. 

I hope you'll follow my personal journey on Instagram at @wakeupelsie and check out my coaching page at www.wakeupyourpassion.com.

Cheers to a Season of New Beginnings!

It's not easy talking about the past...especially when it involves hurting someone you love. Here's part 2 of my question and answer session with Joe.

Follow our Journey...

Instagram: @wakeupelsie, @giant_asian

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/wakeuporbreakup

Coaching: https://www.wakeupyourpassion.com/

It's not easy talking about the past...especially when it involves hurting someone you love. On today's episode, Joe opens up about how we met, what pushed him to cheat, and why he wants to stay together. 

Follow our Journey...

Instagram: @wakeupelsie, @giant_asian

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/wakeuporbreakup

Coaching: https://www.wakeupyourpassion.com/

As we transition into the next phase of the podcast, there are few last things I'd like to say. I don't know if this will episode will make much sense, but I wanted to get some stuff off my chest before moving forward. So here I go...in all my random glory! Enjoy!

Follow my journey...

Instagram: @wakeupelsie 
YouTube: www.YouTube.com/wakeuporbreakup
Coaching: www.wakeupyourpassion.com

Let's talk about SEX baby...Let's talk about YOU and ME...Let's talk about all the GOOD things and the BAD things that may be...Let's talk about SEX!

I was definitely channeling some..."I am Woman hear me ROAR" vibes when I recorded this weeks podcast. Eight months ago I was faced with a devastating reality that was meant to destroy me and my marriage...and I SURVIVED! 

I took the pain, the hurt, the anger, and I made the most of it. In fact, I came out stronger, wiser, and more confident than I've ever been in my entire life! 

I'm not special guys. I don't have any life altering secrets to success or cheat codes to help salvage a marriage. I just put in the work. And when I say put in the work...I mean work on MYSELF.  For the first time in 15 years, I finally put my own happiness, well-being, and basic needs FIRST. 

Let me just say, it feels FREAKING AMAZING!

Every situation is different. Every couple has a different drama, dynamics, and connection. I can't tell you that forgiving and forgetting is necessary or even possible for you and your partner. All I can do is share my story and my insights.

Do I think it's possible to forgive and forget? Absolutely! Do I think it's necessary? Well, that depends on your personal situation and how you want to move forward in your life. 

If you want to stay together...If you want to move on...If you want to remove the burden hurt and anger have over you...If you want to free yourself of the situation...I strongly recommend creating your own healthy version of forgiving and forgetting. Honor your feelings and your relationship and do what's best for you, your family,  and your situation. 

On Social Media? 
Follow me at @wakeupelsie

Need a Relationship Coach? 
Find me at wakeupyourpassion.com

I'll talk to you guys again next week! Cheers!

It's easy to point fingers, and throw the blame on someone else. Blaming Joe for what happened did not make me feel better, it did not erase what happened, and it did not help us move forward. So I decided to take a different approach. I decided to work on myself and take responsibility for my emotional disconnect, judgement, and frustration in our relationship. It wasn't pretty, but it helped me see things in a different light. 

I wanted to hate her...I really did, but we all played a part in the demise of my marriage. Accepting my role and acknowledging what I could have done differently was a HUGE step in my healing process. I was no longer the victim in my story. I became an active participant.  And just because I chose to forgive her…does NOT mean I will forget what she did! LESSON LEARNED!

I wanted people to believe that I had a "picture perfect" life and marriage. That I had all the answers and everything was under control. And then it happened...my "happily ever after" blew up in my face! Within a twenty-four hour time frame, I found out my husband cheated, closed my business of 8 years, moved out of my house, and left my marriage.

Despite my feelings of shame and humiliation, this event was the life shattering, heartbreaking, ROCK BOTTOM fresh start I needed to WAKE UP!