Behavioural Alignment

In this week’s episode, I discuss going beyond motivation to address underlying issues. I lay out the difference between motivation and commitment and I explain why we often (erroneously!) make motivation our first port of call. There are also useful suggestions on what you can do instead.

In this week’s episode, I talk about the flip side of uncertainty and encourage you to use it as a jumpstart into creativity and innovation. I reference a great book called “The Upside of Uncertainty” and I offer tips to help you manage the negative thought patterns and unpleasant emotions that uncertainty can trigger.

In this week’s episode, I talk about changing your experience by controlling your attention. I discuss interdependency and explain the secret to staying positive when dealing with the unexpected. I also lay out ways to keep yourself on track when other people, places and priorities unwittingly impact your intentions.

In this week’s episode, I break down some of the challenges teams encounter when building trust. I discuss ways to align team thinking, as well as approaches to develop emotional trust and increase practical trustworthiness inside any group.

In this week’s episode, I discuss the difficult decisions many are facing right now and explain why our brains are currently primed to jump into threat mode. I also offer some tips on ways you can counter negative feelings when someone else’s choice feels like a personal rejection.

In this week’s episode, I discuss Brené Brown’s ‘great awkward’ and talk about how humans normalise behaviour. I also offer some tips on ways everyone can help themselves and each other during these difficult post-pandemic times when so many people are raw and reactive plus lots of things still feel wobbly and off balance.

In this week’s episode, I discuss FODO (the fear of disappointing others) and share thoughts on how it can adversely affect teamwork. I also offer some tips on ways to beat this fear, designed to reduce stress and anxiety, improve team communications and avoid overwhelm for those who find it hard to say no.

In this week’s episode, I link my poor customer service experience at the vet’s to the challenge employees face when their voices are not heard at work. I talk about how a poor business culture makes staff members feel and urge those who want to see a change in their working culture to stand up and speak out.

In this week’s episode, I discuss the many difficulties associated with a toxic working environment. I outline some of the issues you may encounter, talk through the negative consequences they can cause and provide a couple of suggestions which may help.

In this week’s episode, I discuss how two people can experience the same event with very different results. I explain the aspects hiding behind your personal response and illustrate how this leads some people to have a more resilient reaction than others.

In this week’s episode, I talk about the way labels often prove unhelpful in trauma resolution. Because trauma is a highly subjective emotional response, it can be provoked by a wide range of personal experiences. Sharing your journey with other survivors brings a deeper understanding than any label someone who wasn’t there might want to apply to your situation.

In this week’s episode, I talk about why overthinking is so common and explain the two types of overthinking. I also share tips to help you break the overthinking loop, allowing you to control your attention and choose more helpful thoughts.

In this week’s episode, I talk about the challenges we all face when starting over. I share my top tips for breaking out of your comfort zone, together with a super easy technique to bring you out of hiding when you spot the signs of panic creeping in!

In this week’s episode, I focus on self-confidence and how to handle other people’s opinions which may be causing you anxiety and concern. I share my top tips for pushing worry aside, together with a quick and easy assertiveness technique that will help train your mind to care much less about what other people think!

In this week’s episode, I discuss how lots of small choices create your flow. There’s a great deal of preparation behind every achievement, but most of it is invisible. When you look deeply, you can spot a series of seemingly insignificant experiences, feelings and thoughts which stack together to lift you higher! In short, flow is about who you keep choosing to be.

In this week’s episode, I discuss self-confidence, highlighting some of the reasons why trust issues and self-esteem difficulties are prevalent right now. I offer suggestions to help you manage your vulnerability and I encourage all kiwis to be gentle with each other as the population starts to come back together.

In this week’s episode, I explain how taking everything with a pinch of salt helps you introduce a third choice to binary (accept or reject) situations. I outline a couple of important thinking biases and suggest ways to challenge black or white thinking which create space to brainstorm alternatives.

In this week’s episode, I talk about the effect your environment has upon your thinking, feelings and behaviour. I briefly explore the theory of reciprocal determinism and suggest quick tips you can use to ensure your environment works better for you.

In this week’s episode, I talk about the cost of jumping to conclusions, which has been scientifically linked to a wider pattern of errors in thinking and behaviour. I also suggest some positive techniques you can use with others who repeatedly push their (potentially false!) conclusions upon you.

In this week’s episode, I talk about the challenges ahead when you drop any pretence of fitting in and begin wholeheartedly standing out. I suggest ways to cope with exclusion and stigmatisation, as you find your own belonging. I also highlight how owning your experience lets you swap standing out for outstanding!

In this week’s episode, I talk about the struggles hidden behind that overused phrase ‘I just need to’. It’s time to cut the excuses and learn four simple techniques (borrowed from the world of dog obedience) to help you battle distraction and achieve sustained focus on your goal.

In this week’s episode, I talk about the neuroscience of gamification and the benefits you can create for yourself when you choose this approach. Learn simple ways you can use gamification in the every day world to revamp your perspective on dull tasks or avoid overwhelm when faced with large projects.

In this week’s episode, I discuss supreme self care and what you need to maintain your best personal state. Find out about the masterclass I’m running later this month, helping you create a bespoke formula you can use to score yourself daily!

In this week’s episode, prompted by my daughter’s return to school this morning, I discuss the learning opportunities open to us all. Find out how a lifelong love of learning can lead to valuable transferable skills.

In this week's episode, I talk about the different skills we can employ when hunting for something that’s missing. You will also find out why your most important discoveries are often made when you’re not even looking!

In this week's episode, I discuss the approach I’m using to smile through January! Find out which thought patterns I’m using to remain cheerful, when so many are feeling the strain of returning to work and already suffering post-holiday blues.

In this week's episode, I ask those three tiny words that can bring any change initiative to a juddering halt. Find out three simple ways you can shake off the uncertainty which inevitably comes up when making change.

In this week's episode, I take inspiration from Nelson Mandela’s words ‘It always seems impossible until it’s done’ and discuss an alternative to new year’s resolutions. Find out how to set up the routines you need to achieve the results you’re seeking in 2022.

In this week's episode, I talk about Aristotle’s observation that “knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom”. As we finish out this year and plan for better to come in 2022, find out how self-awareness allows you to more easily adapt yourself to every circumstance.

In this week's episode, I talk about taking time to stand still. After one of the most challenging years in living memory, find out which techniques I recommend to rest, relax, release and restore yourself before year end.

n this week’s episode (number 13!) I talk about traditions, superstition and even obsession. Find out how you can use festive customs to boost shared experience and create deeper meaning within your family.

In this week’s episode I talk about accountability, personally and inside a team. Using inspiration from Bob Geldof’s mission to feed the starving in Africa, find out how you can use accountability to bring about the change you want in your world.

In this week's episode, I talk about immediate impact versus long-term implications. Find out why it’s important to set your intentions now instead of watching and waiting, like so many others around you.

In this week’s episode I talk about the big question we all ask ourselves from time to time…why me? Find out how to use your enquiry to flesh out better alternatives.

In this week’s episode I talk about how motivation is different for everyone. Find out why mood management is a key consideration in successful behaviour change.

In this week’s episode I talk about the magic of sharing. Find out how sorting for sameness respectfully avoids comparisons and includes everyone.

In this week’s episode I talk about flexibility. Find out how speaking your listener’s language ensures they take on board your advice.

In this week’s episode I talk about the magic button to reset your habits. Find out which techniques help you get on track when creating a new routine.

In this week’s episode I talk about how your brain works against you. Find out what it is that stops you before you even get started.