Dimming The Gaslight: Our Healing Journey From Narcissistic Abuse

A stranger stopped her outside Grand Central. Eleven years later she was broke, trapped, and signing leases for his entire family.

This week, Mac and Phil sit down with Victoria Morgan, a pharmacist and research scientist who runs @one_strong_mother, to hear how a man with a $10 million story and a Wikipedia page turned her escape from one abusive marriage into a decade of financial and psychological control.

🚉 He approaches her the day after Valentine’s Day and says he sold his company for $10 million
🏠 His “house” turns out to be one rented room, and the landlord slips her a note warning her about the other women
📱 Two young women only friended him and commented on his posts, and they turned out to be fake profiles he ran himself
🏪 The cell phone store, the leases, and the lines of credit were all in her name while he kept the commissions
💸 Invitations he said cost $1,200 were $226 and a photographer he said cost $3,000 was $400
👨‍👩‍👦 The wife he swore was his ex lived in the house, and his parents were told Victoria was just a tenant
🚨 A breakup, an order of protection, him outside her door at 2am, and a burner phone text that pulled her back in
🗝️ Ten months in the worst house of her life, a mattress on her back as she left in a U Haul, and the free five step escape plan she built

He told her she would never meet anyone like him if she left. Peace is priceless and freedom is the prize.

⚖️ Disclaimer (because our lawyers make us say this): Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events — except for the stuff we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying details have been changed. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast… newsflash: you’re the narcissist.

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he was seven years old the first time her uncle called it a game. Twenty years later her own father skipped town on New Year's Day and left her a letter blaming her for it.

This week, Mac and Phil sit down with Sofia Moreno, survivor turned author and founder of a nonprofit supporting survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault.

🚨 What happened when Sofia's mother walked in on the abuse firsthand, and the local police response that amounted to nothing but a piece of paper

👨‍👩‍👧 How her father's side of the family closed ranks around her abuser while blaming a seven year old for "dressing promiscuously"

🎭 The Jekyll and Hyde covert narcissist playbook her father ran for years, beloved by everyone outside the house and a completely different man behind closed doors

💸 The secret second mortgage, the drained accounts, and the affairs her father tried to pin on her mother instead

📺 The Dear John letter waiting on top of the television the day he disappeared, and who he blamed for making him leave

⚰️ Finding out her grandmother's memorial had happened without her, and the email that finally severed the relationship for good

📚 How Sofia turned decades of trauma into two published books, a nonprofit, and a biweekly support group for survivors still finding their words

This one goes to some of the darkest places the show has covered and still lands somewhere hopeful, proof that the story doesn't have to end where the abuse did.

⚖️ Disclaimer (because our lawyers make us say this): Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events — except for the stuff we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying details have been changed. If you think we're talking about you in this podcast… newsflash: you're the narcissist.

Check out Sofia's books, "I Am a Survivor"and "A Message to My Abuser" (available on Amazon and Barnes & Noble)

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She spent years trapped in a cycle of love bombing, addiction, and violence with a man who once strangled her unconscious. Then one night, scrolling Facebook on her back porch, she watched his death unfold live on her screen before anyone told her.

This week, Mac and Phil sit down with Randin Steed, who writes as Sunshine Faye, author of Dance With the Devil and The Manipulation Whisperer, and cohost of the podcast Stories We Weren't Supposed to Tell.

🕯️ The night she said goodbye to her abuser, not knowing it was the last time she'd see him alive
📱 How she found out he'd been murdered, not from a phone call, but from a Facebook Live video of the scene
🚓 The time police drove her to jail instead of him, after he choked her unconscious and dragged her by the hair
✍️ Why she wrote her first book raw and unfiltered, and what happened when she realized how many people needed it
🧠 Her breakdown of the hook, the love bombing and future faking that gets survivors stuck before they even see it coming
♟️ The difference between gray rocking and what she calls yellow rocking a co parent who won't disengage
💬 Why she believes healthy people gaslight too, and where the real line between normal conflict and manipulation actually sits

This one is heavy, unfiltered, and honest about the messy, nonlinear road out. Randin doesn't hand you a bow on top. She hands you the truth and tells you to stand up.

⚖️ Disclaimer (because our lawyers make us say this): Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the stuff we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying details have been changed. If you think we're talking about you in this podcast, newsflash, you're the narcissist.

Books: Dance With the Devil and The Manipulation Whisperer by Sunshine Faye, available on Amazon
Podcast: Stories We Weren't Supposed to Tell
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After years of therapy before she even had a word for what happened to her, Jenny Rudd built an AI that could see it plainly — and it started with her own decade-plus marriage.

This week, Mac and Phil sit down with Jenny Rudd, founder of Dispute Buddy — a platform that scans years of text messages with an abusive ex and surfaces the patterns of coercive control survivors can't always name themselves.

🔍 What happened when Jenny finally ran her own texts through her own app, and it handed back a decade-plus documented pattern of coercive control she'd normalized for years
⚖️ How the system finds tactics like being accused of the exact thing your abuser is doing, disparaging family to isolate you, and disguising financial abuse as "consequences"
📵 Why responding to messages out of order isn't disorganization — it's a deliberate way to control the narrative and keep you confused
🧠 Jenny's take on why 25% of Dispute Buddy users are men, and what that number reveals about who's actually suffering coercive control and staying silent
♀️ Her view on feminism as fundamentally about emotional equality for men — and why she believes that's the missing piece for real economic equality for women
👨‍👩‍👧 How the app approaches parental alienation, and why she believes both sides of that debate are carrying real, valid pain
🏛️ Why she built Dispute Buddy to close the access-to-justice gap for people without the money, time, or safety to document their own abuse

This one is validating, sharp, and unexpectedly funny — proof that the patterns you couldn't explain to anyone finally have a name, and now, receipts.

⚖️ Disclaimer (because our lawyers make us say this): Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events — except for the stuff we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying details have been changed. If you think we're talking about you in this podcast… newsflash: you're the narcissist.

Learn more about Dispute Buddy: disputebuddy.co
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Last week, Taelor told us her story for the first time. It was heavy. It was raw. And we promised we wouldn't leave it there.

She's back.

This week isn't about what happened to her. It's about everything she built after.

🪞 The moment she realized her own body had been keeping score for years, and finally let it stop
📓 Reading her abuser's old Facebook posts and recognizing every classic narcissist tactic in real time
👊 The exact moment her abuser stopped being a bully, the second she started fighting back
💉 A senior year "diet" involving an unregulated hormone injection and 500 calories a day, orchestrated by her own mother
🧠 A viral question she asked the internet that stopped people cold: is the "good" parent in an abusive home actually safe?
🔥 What it actually took, over a decade of inner work, to go from surviving to leading a community of other survivors

This is the episode about what comes after the worst chapter. Not closure. Not a bow on top. Just Taelor, fully herself, telling the rest of the story on her own terms.

⚖️ Disclaimer (because our lawyers make us say this): Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events — except for the stuff we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying details have been changed. If you think we're talking about you in this podcast… newsflash: you're the narcissist.

Follow Dr. Taelor: @sos.with.doctor.taelor (Instagram/TikTok) | Podcast: Overcoming: The Podcast

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Five years ago, Mac was couch-surfing, sleeping in his car, and scrolling Instagram from his dad's basement — and one page stopped him cold: a woman healing out loud from complex trauma. That woman is here today.

We sit down with Dr. Taelor — Doctor of Occupational Therapy, trauma advocate, and founder of Survivors Overcoming Silence (SOS) — for a story she has never told publicly before. This is complex trauma at its most complex: a childhood built on walking on eggshells, a "golden child" competition with a parent who saw her as competition, a national news scandal, false restraining orders, death threats, a grandmother who called her a devil child, a faked cancer diagnosis, and a parent's transition that Taelor says was less about identity and more about becoming her.

We go deep on gaslighting, "destiny swapping," psychological conditioning, and what it actually takes to reclaim your identity after someone spent a lifetime trying to erase it. Fair warning: there's a voicemail in this one that will haunt you.

This one's heavy, it's raw, and it's only 10% of the iceberg — so buckle up, because we're already bringing her back for Part 2.

⚖️ Disclaimer (because our lawyers make us say this): Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events — except for the stuff we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying details have been changed. If you think we're talking about you in this podcast… newsflash: you're the narcissist.

Follow Dr. Taelor: @sos.with.doctor.taelor (Instagram/TikTok) | Podcast: Overcoming: The Podcast

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Back in episodes 144 and 145, Christina told us about her toxic ex, her toxic childhood, and a four-wheeler ride that never should've happened while pregnant.

This time she's back for a very different reason.

Her parents found the podcast. They didn't love what they heard. And their solution wasn't a conversation — it was a demand: take it down, or else.

So Christina came back to "continue lying." Allegedly.

🛏️ Being forced to sleep in her mom's bed until she was 15 — and punished for wanting her own

😶 A childhood abuse disclosure met with "what did you do for him to do that to you?"

👗 A mother who dressed her provocatively, then called her "nasty" for being looked at

📞 Fake party invites used to guilt her back into the house every single holiday

🏥 A 14-year-old daughter and grandmother teaming up behind closed doors

🚨 Six DSS calls in four years — every single one unfounded

🤡 Parents insisting SHE'S the liar for finally telling her own story out loud

By the end, Christina isn't spinning anything. She's not apologizing. She's just done staying quiet — and everyone around her can finally see exactly who's been lying the whole time.

This one's the where-are-they-now everybody needed — chaotic, dark, and honestly one of the funniest episodes we've recorded.

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Last time, JP left us on a cliffhanger: her ex reported their own 18-year-old daughter to a federal watchdog agency, claiming she committed fraud on her FAFSA — all to keep his daughter out of a four-year college and off his child support bill.

This week, the investigation reaches a verdict.

But getting there means JP pulling an all-nighter in a hotel room, uploading three years of receipts down to the last 50 cents, while her daughter sleeps beside her on what's supposed to be a graduation celebration trip.

📋 A federal fraud claim filed against his own teenage daughter

🚗 A $7,000 car he claims costs $1,000 a month in "maintenance"

📧 Subpoenaed emails showing him getting cozy with college staff behind the scenes

🖼️ His new wife quietly removing their daughter's photo from the family mantle

📝 A handwritten list of reasons their daughter wanted to leave — one she made JP promise never to bring to court

💵 A courtroom standoff between a $700 "nuisance" offer and a six-figure settlement

🦋 A butterfly, a chrysalis, and the first time in years JP feels like she's actually landed on her feet

This is the finale of JP's four-part journey — and the moment she stops asking to be believed, and starts being believed.

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Back in episode 154/155, JP told us about her marriage to a man she now simply calls "exhole." We left that story mid-sentence — she was still deep in the trenches of her divorce, and we promised to bring her back once it was over.

It's over now.

But "over" doesn't mean what you'd think.

What follows is a year-long descent into a family court system that JP says is built to protect abusers, not survivors — and a masterclass in exactly how far a narcissist will go to win.

⚖️ A biased judge who tells the victim to pay HER abuser
📧 A three-page email calling her "delusional" — with an insult hidden in the password
💍 A secret joint tax filing designed to dodge financial disclosure
💰 A $19,000 "incentive" that was really a manipulation tactic
🏦 Bankruptcy, maxed-out credit cards, and a legal fight funded by her late grandmother's inheritance
🎓 Her ex reporting their own 18-year-old daughter to the federal government for "fraud" — over a college financial aid form
🏡 A breakdown in the backyard that becomes the turning point of her entire fight

And just when she'd given up completely, salvation shows up in the most unexpected place: a jacuzzi at a cancer survivors' retreat.

This is the episode about what happens after the divorce is "final" — when the paperwork ends but the manipulation doesn't.

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Last week, Wendy shared the story of her marriage to a man she wouldn't fully recognize as a narcissist until years after the divorce.

This week?

Everything explodes.

A Facebook message arrives from one of his mistresses. At first, Wendy thinks it's a scam. Then the woman starts sharing details that only someone on the inside could know.

What follows is a phone call that completely shatters reality.

💔 A secret live-in girlfriend.

💍 A ring purchased for another woman.

🤰 A hidden pregnancy.

📱 A second phone.

🎭 Years of lies told to multiple women at the same time.

And somehow... that's only the beginning.

As Wendy compares notes with the woman she once blamed for the affair, she realizes something chilling:

Neither of them actually knew who this man was.

Part 2 is one of the most jaw-dropping episodes we've ever released.

We have an INCREDIBLE episode for you today.

Wendy Cooper joins us to tell a story that starts like a fairy tale—and slowly turns into something she couldn't fully understand until years later.

A successful attorney, former competitive skier, world traveler, and adventurer, Wendy thought she had found her Prince Charming. The chemistry was intense. The connection felt undeniable. The future seemed limitless.

Then the mask started slipping.

🎿 The Fairytale Beginning: What started with instant chemistry, bizarre coincidences, and a whirlwind romance quickly felt like the perfect match. Looking back now, Wendy can see the performance for what it was—but at the time, it felt completely real.

🚩 The First Red Flag That Changed Everything: After months of being the perfect partner, one phone call revealed a completely different person. Cold. Dismissive. Cruel. The kind of moment that leaves you wondering, "Who was THAT?"

🇫🇷 The Dream Life in France: Wendy shares how she left behind the traditional path to build an extraordinary life overseas—raising a family, practicing law, and chasing adventure around the world. From the outside, it looked incredible.

🎭 The Narcissist Who Fooled Everyone: Therapists. Friends. Family. Even Wendy herself. We get into how some narcissists don't dominate with rage—they dominate by becoming the victim in every room they enter.

👶 When the Attention Shifted to the Kids: As their family grew, the cracks became impossible to ignore. What should have been some of life's happiest moments became some of the loneliest.

🧠 "I Didn't Even Know It Was Narcissism": One of the most powerful parts of this conversation is hearing Wendy explain that she didn't leave because she knew what she was dealing with. In fact, she didn't even start researching narcissism until long after the separation.

📚 The Moment Everything Finally Made Sense: Like so many survivors, Wendy began looking back at years of confusing memories and realizing they weren't random incidents—they were part of a pattern.

💔 The Marriage That Never Felt Right: This episode explores something many survivors struggle to explain: what happens when a relationship isn't obviously catastrophic, but somehow leaves you feeling exhausted, confused, and emotionally alone for years.

This episode is insightful, validating, heartbreaking, and packed with those moments where you'll find yourself saying, "Wait... my ex did that too."

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Saige Whitney from ALights Out Narcissistic Podcastjoins us to tell the unbelievable story of how a vulnerable friendship with a patient at a nursing facility spiraled into manipulation, addiction, emotional abuse, fake medical emergencies, and a marriage built on lies.

And somehow… it only gets crazier as the episode goes on.

🏥 “I Have Six Months to Live… Will You Marry Me?”: What starts as a friendship instantly turns into emotional chaos when Sage is told her new partner is terminally ill—and wants to get married immediately. Looking back now, the red flags were EVERYWHERE.

🎭 The Fake Illnesses Start Piling Up: Cancer. Kidney failure. Gastroparesis. Endless ER visits. Constant emergencies. But over time, Sage begins realizing something horrifying: almost none of it was real.

💊 The Drug Mule Realization: Weekly hospital trips suddenly start making a lot more sense once Sage uncovers the truth behind the self-harm, opioid addiction, and manipulation happening behind closed doors.

⚠️ “Everyone Is Abusing Me”: One of the most disturbing parts of this story is how false accusations became a weapon. We get into what happens when someone constantly creates chaos, makes horrifying claims, and slowly conditions you to question reality itself.

🧠 Why Narcissists LOVE Vulnerable People: This conversation gets DEEP into why survivors with empathy, loyalty, addiction struggles, trauma, or “good girl syndrome” often become the perfect targets for manipulative people.

🎬 The Horror Movie Parallel That Explains Narcissism PERFECTLY: Sage explains how the movie Lights Outbecame the inspiration behind her podcast—and honestly… it may be one of the best metaphors for narcissistic abuse we’ve ever heard.

💔 “I Thought I Could Heal Her”: We also get into the savior complex so many survivors develop, and the brutal realization that sometimes the more you sacrifice yourself for someone… the more they destroy you.

👀 And Then The Mask Fully Slips: Between fake illnesses, secret hookups, manipulation tactics, and emotional control, the story slowly transforms from “sad” to genuinely disturbing.

This episode is funny, dark, uncomfortable, validating, and absolutely jaw-dropping at times. If you’ve ever ignored red flags because you wanted to believe the best in someone… this conversation is going to hit HARD.

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Allison Scott joins us for one of the most raw, emotional, and honestly jaw-dropping conversations we’ve had on the show yet.

What starts as a conversation about her song Superman quickly turns into a deep dive into covert narcissistic abuse, religious manipulation, emotional control, infidelity, trauma, motherhood, and what it actually feels like to slowly lose yourself inside a marriage that looks “perfect” from the outside.

🎵 The Lyric That Hit Us Like a Truck: Allison opens up about the inspiration behind her song Superman—and the heartbreaking feeling of believing you “deserve to be unseen.”

🧠 “He Was Nice While Destroying Me”: No screaming. No obvious explosions. Just years of subtle criticism, control, judgment, and emotional erosion disguised as kindness. We talk about the kind of abuse that’s almost impossible to explain to people who haven’t lived it.

⛪ Religious Abuse & Weaponized Faith: Allison shares how scripture, theology, and “being a good wife” were used to keep her quiet, submissive, and constantly questioning herself.

👀 The Moment Everything Finally Clicked: After years of chaos, infidelity, emotional neglect, and manipulation, one realization changed everything: “This is abuse.” We get into the terrifying moment when you finally see the relationship clearly for what it actually is.

💔 The Stories That Will Make Your Jaw Drop: From emotional cruelty during pregnancies… to being compared to prostitutes… to subtle psychological control behind closed doors… some of these moments are genuinely hard to believe.

🎶 Music as Trauma Therapy: One of the most beautiful parts of this episode is hearing how songwriting, singing, dancing, and creativity became part of Allison’s healing journey after years of emotional survival mode.

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Sonnet Daymont is a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in relational trauma, but she also brings a profound, heavy lived experience to the table.

🧠 When Dangerous Feels Like Home: Sonnet details her intense personal experience of working for a boss who later committed murder, explaining how early childhood trauma creates blind spots that cause us to choose danger because it feels familiar.

⚠️ The Dark Triad Spectrum: We break down the exact differences between narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths, discussing what actually motivates them and whether these personality disorders can ever truly be treated.

👁️ Rewiring the Brain with EMDR: A massive deep dive into exactly how EMDR therapy works. Sonnet explains how bilateral stimulation engages the prefrontal cortex to literally clear the physical and emotional charge of a traumatic memory down to a zero.

🎸 Music & Finding Your Voice: Mac discusses his own healing journey through playing his new guitar, while Sonnet and Phil explore why society often silences the male emotional experience and how men can finally find a voice for their trauma.

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We’ve talked a lot about the damage narcissists leave behind… but this episode flips the script in a way we’ve never explored before.

Lily joins us to share her story as a mother of a narcissist — a role that comes with intense shame, silence, and judgment. For years, she believed what many parents are conditioned to believe: if something is wrong with your child, it must be your fault.

So she did what she thought a “good mother” should do. She apologized. She took responsibility.
She gave more, sacrificed more… and kept trying to fix something that only seemed to get worse.

But behind the scenes, something far more complex — and far more disturbing — was happening.

In this episode, we dive into:

This conversation is raw, uncomfortable, and deeply eye-opening — especially if you’ve ever questioned your own reality in a relationship.

Because sometimes… the roles aren’t what you think they are.

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We have a massive episode for you today! We talk a lot on this show about the absolute wreckage a narcissist leaves behind, but this week, we are getting into the actual science of how that damage fundamentally changes our brains and our bodies.

Mac and Phil are joined by holistic psychologist and betrayal recovery expert, Dr. Debi Silber, to break down the exact roadmap for putting the pieces back together.

🧠 The Science of Betrayal: Dr. Debi explains the fundamental difference between surviving a general life crisis and surviving a betrayal, and why traditional healing methods often fail to fix a shattered sense of trust.
📉 Post Betrayal Syndrome (PBS): We dive into the staggering statistics of PBS and how emotional abuse directly manifests into chronic physical illnesses, digestive problems, and severe exhaustion.
🛑 The "Stage 3" Trap: We break down the 5 Stages of Betrayal Recovery, focusing heavily on the dangerous "survival mode" where victims often get stuck for years—and why support groups can sometimes make it worse.
📖 Getting Unstuck: Dr. Debi shares actionable steps from her newest book, Unstuck, on how to transition from mere survival into total transformation, even when you still have to co-parent or deal with the betrayer in everyday life.

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We are diving into the intersection of religion and narcissism. Following up on last week's Buddhist perspective, this episode takes a completely different, highly satirical approach to surviving toxic environments.

🙏 Gaslighting for God: We sit down with author Becky Garrison to discuss her new book, a satirical guidebook and memoir that tackles spiritual abuse using personal stories and scholarly research. Click the link to buy her book!

❤️ The Ultimate Weapon: Mac and Becky discuss the power of satire when dealing with narcissists, including why a southern "bless your heart" is the absolute best way to tell someone off.

🔥 Shattering Idols: Becky breaks down her philosophy on surviving a global reckoning, why tearing down false idols is painful but necessary, and how to find glimpses of real goodness in the fragments left behind.

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Mac and Phil sit down with special guest Nana Gyesie, a lifecoach, mentor and buddist! We uncover the exact "crossroads" in life that separates a humble empath from a manipulative narcissist.

🧠 The Narcissism Spectrum: Guest Nana joins the show to explore how narcissism runs on a spectrum and how people consciously lean into dark manipulation.

🔀 The Ultimate Crossroads: We break down the pivotal moment in life where a person goes through extreme hardship and must choose a path: become a toxic abuser or a humble empath.

❤️ Surviving the Fire: Phil and Mac reflect on their own traumatic pasts, discussing why enduring real pain makes you highly empathetic rather than turning you cold and calculating.

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What happens when the love-bombing is so intense that you find yourself trapped for nearly three decades? This week, we are joined by Mia Hanks @npd.andme , author of the upcoming memoir “Bride-Made”. Mia shares the terrifying reality of surviving a 29-year marriage to a narcissist.
From the lavish dates and over-the-top gifts that reeled her in, to the relentless gaslighting that convinced her she was the root of every problem, Mia breaks down her journey. We discuss the danger of marrying someone who constantly paints themselves as the “smartest guy in the room” and the incredible strength it takes to finally walk away.

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Eva Lavina survived 25 years of narcissistic abuse, but she almost didn't survive the final discard. In this gripping interview, the author of "Death Is No Reason To Stop Living" joins us to tell a story that sounds like a movie script.

After a mysterious incident left her in a coma with complete amnesia, Eva woke up to a nightmare: her husband wasn't trying to help her recover—he was trying to have her committed to a psychiatric ward.

In this episode:

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It started with an obsession with K-Dramas. It ended with a month-long solo trip to Korea for "plastic surgery" that was actually a cover for something much darker.

Our guest Tyler shares one of the most insane discovery stories we have ever heard. After his wife left him home with their three kids for a month, Tyler heard a literal voice in his head say three words: "Check the iCloud."

What he found wasn't recovery photos. It was a hidden folder containing over 1,000 pieces of evidence that shattered his reality. From the ultimate gaslight ("I cheated because you didn't love me enough") to living with the enemy for a year during the divorce, this is a story of survival you have to hear to believe.

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Sean survived the 2002 Bali Bombings and a car crash that shattered his pelvis—but nothing prepared him for the war inside his own home. A high-powered Tech CEO by day, Sean was living a nightmare by night with a wife who averaged 55 drinks a week and terrified their children.

When his 16-year-old daughter whispered, "Mom is drunk-driving, she nearly killed me," Sean knew he had to act. He treated his divorce like a military operation: reading The Art of War, secretly moving documents to a storage unit, and spending $12,000 on a "fake" final holiday just to keep the peace before the extraction.

The Aftermath: It wasn't just a breakup. It was a scorched-earth legal battle involving false allegations of sexual abuse that destroyed his reputation across two major cities.

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“It felt like the total package. The chemistry, the deep conversations, the shared future—and then, overnight, it was gone. No reason. No explanation. Just a cold exit.”

In this episode of Dimming the Gaslight, Phil and I sit down with psychologist @drj.smith to deconstruct the “Discard Phase.” We dive deep into why high-character “Givers” are targeted by “Empty Vessels” and the psychological blueprint of a relationship that has a pre-determined shelf life.

In this episode, we discuss:

*The Mirroring Phase: How they project your own best qualities back at you to create a “soulmate” illusion.

*The Lack of Closure: Why searching for a “reason” from an empty shell is a trap.

*The Recovery Blueprint: How to sit with the “maddening” discomfort and reclaim your worth through discipline and truth.

*Humanism vs. The Mask: Recognizing the difference between someone who is beautiful on the outside and someone who is truly loving on the inside.

You aren’t “broken” because they left; you are being liberated from a fake version of reality. It’s time to see your victory.

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This is unlike any episode we have ever recorded. Our guest, John, isn’t looking back on abuse from years ago—he is actively escaping it right now. Recorded just 24 hours after fleeing a house where he was held prisoner, John joins Mac and Phil to tell a story of survival that sounds like a horror movie.
From 24/7 camera surveillance and starvation tactics that left him emaciated, to financial devastation and a literal plot to hide his body in a crawlspace, John breaks down how he went from a successful father to a “prisoner of war” in his own relationship. Phil isn’t just a co-host on this one; he was the extraction team. This is a raw, unpolished, and terrifying look at coercive control and the fight for freedom.

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So I thought about it. And then thought about it, and thought about it, and thought about it some more.

And then I got a case of the fuck-its.

Why should I stay quiet? If it’s the truth, then let the truth be told. I’m putting this one-time Patreon episode out on the public podcast.

This episode is a marathon. It's a 2.5-hour purge of the demons from a relationship I thought was real. Unfortunately, I fell for another narcissist.

I'm breaking down every detail: the red flags I painted yellow, the warning signs I missed, and the cold reality of the discard. Am I crazy? Was none of it real? Or am I back to recovering from narcissistic abuse?

You be the judge.

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🎄👻 Holiday Horror Stories is here.
From ice that somehow caused a meltdown, to a pie that turned into a full-blown nightmare, to one person quietly planning their escape while the lights are still up…
If your ex ever ruined the holidays, this episode is for you.
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@lets_talk_about_narcissism hosts the “The Narc Mother In Law” podcast. She is an old friend and I’ve been trying to have her on the pod for a long, long time!

Erica’s ex-mother-in-law is a nightmare, and she didn’t get much help from her ex-husband either. Her MIL constantly badgered her about her weight, invited her husband’s ex-girlfriend to Christmas, and even made statements that led Erica to believe her life was in danger! You gotta hear this one!

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This week on Dimming the Gaslight, we welcome back Jennifer — you’ll remember her from Episode 113. Since then, her husband’s NEx has been busy, and Jen is here to give us an unbelievable update on the chaos she’s been dealing with.
From the NEx stealing Jen’s idea for a special Disneyland trip… to taking cheap shots about Jen’s body… to even mocking a family member battling cancer — the shenanigans are somehow both shocking and painfully familiar.
If you’ve ever found yourself screaming “OMG, ME TOO!” at this show, buckle up — Jen’s story is going to hit home.

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We always joke that “this whole situation could be a movie”… so why not a full-blown theatrical performance? This week, we’re joined by Brooke — writer, director, producer, and star of a one-woman show that exposes gaslighting for what it truly is: a full-on circus.

She gives us a sneak peek into the plot, the characters, the chaos, and how each moment connects to her own lived experiences. This story is wild, raw, and unlike anything we’ve featured before.

Trust me — you don’t want to miss this one.

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One of our all-time favorite guests is back this week! Dr. Josh Smith @drj.smith — psychologist and expert in narcissistic abuse — joins us to break down the victim complex of narcissists. It all starts with a real situation that happened with Mac, and unfolds into a powerful talk about how toxic people twist communication, flip the script, and play the victim… and how you can protect your peace.

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This week, we share one of the most harrowing “neighbor from hell” stories you will ever hear. Our guest, Heather, details a relentless campaign of terror that goes far beyond a simple dispute. She describes enduring constant stalking, high beams shone into her home at all hours, and disruptive heavy machinery (bobcats) running day and night. The harassment allegedly escalated to horrifying levels, including arrows and Molotov cocktails being shot at her home. Heather’s story of survival is a must-listen.

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@kaylynhakansontheauthor is a new friend of the podcast that wrote a book called “You Can’t Break Me”. She joins us on this exciting episode to detail how her good intentioned journey to find her biological brother turned into a harrowing journey of narcissistic abuse, unmitigated danger, and ultimately, parental alienation by an absolutely broken court system!

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Eddie is back from last week with part 2 of his story! From how he met his NEx, to the torment from her family, to realizing he was in a toxic relationship, Eddie’s story will continue to have you on the edge of your seat!

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Eddie is here with an insane story! With what starts with a road trip with his NEx that turns into a compete meltdown, Eddie takes us down memory lane with stories that will make the hair on your arms stand up!

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Matilda joins us all the way from Ireland to tell us about her story of parental alienation! After a shocking turn from her NEx at the birth of her first child, he began systematically trying to alienate her from her children. Now, Matilda is in the fight of her life to reconnect with them!

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Ethan is a new friend of mine, and his story is WILD. From his ex constantly accusing him of cheating… to attacking him in his sleep… to even trying to stop him from learning about narcissism—Ethan’s journey will have you gasping from start to finish.

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We all know the courts look for physical violence when ruling on family court cases, but what about coercive control? How does that fit in? Well, Sanda Fava ESQ is here to talk with us about some updated laws and rulings in NJ! We discuss what judges look for, the evidence we need to present, and what we can do to help our children!

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David Littman is a retired Detective that spent over 27 years on the force. He breaks down how he responded to a domestic violence call, what he looks for, what he thinks about the justice system, and shares some of his craziest stories from the force!

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Christopher Anderson is an attorney at New Leaf Family Law Firm (@newleaf.family), a full service law firm out of Colorado, USA. He's here to discuss what narcissism looks like in the court room. We discuss a range of topics such as how he allows a narcissist a long rope of lies before reeling them back in, how he manages cases in high conflict divorces, and whether or not the courts are equipt to handle the charade a narcissist loves to parade in the court room!

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Kelly is back to tell part 2 of her story - how the county prosecutor's office TOTALLY dropped the ball on her case! She goes in depth on the legal process, how she was wrongfully accused of a felony, and how her psychotic ex was stalking her - all under the prosecutor's nose!

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Kelly Sutliff survived a brutal attack that was featured on HBO Max's series "Toxic".
Her ex husband turned her home into a blood bath, trying to make it look like Kelly tried to kill HIM! She joins Phil and I to break down the early love bombing phase, red flags and lies she wishes she had caught in the beginning, and details the attack that will leave your heart beat pumping!

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@dougbuggle is one of my absolute favorite people I’ve ever connected with in the narcissistic abuse community! He’s back - with a friend @robbyseinschwartz - to be our first ever third time guest! Doug wrote a book called “Goodbye Tammy: Third Time Was Not A Charm”, and now has a HUGE announcement that he’s sharing exclusively on DTG! Listen to the episode to find out the big announcement!

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Derrick is a long time listener and friend of the pod with a story to tell! He had an abusive step father that made his life hell. He went to the military just to get away, wrestled with his mental health, and his step father even triangulated his immediate family against him!

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JP is back to tell part 2 of her story! From violent outbursts towards her kids, to police calls, and court dates, JP’s story keeps getting crazier and crazier!

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On this episode of the podcast, Phil’s sister’s best friend joins the show with a wild story! She has stories about her NEx weaponizing religion, dating her roommate, and even screwing up the labor process of having their first child!
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Danny is another fan of Phil’s old podcast that came over to DTG. Danny has been through the wringer, and is looking to fight back. We talk about coping techniques, how can we change the system to stop crippling parents fighting for more time with their kids, and our outlook for the future!

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TRIGGER WARNING: This episode of DTG is a gritty one, where Lynn joins us to talk about how her narc used sexual coertion to trap her into staying in the relationship. We have talk about abortion, stalking, abuse, and how Lynn came out a warrior through it all!

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Whitney has a heralding story about overcoming narcissism. She details domestic violence, her bouts with brain fog, and the differences between men and women as it relates to narcissism.

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Jennifer is in the process of writing a book about her tumultuous divorce from a narcissist. From flipping out about getting engaged, to her friends pleading with her to get divorced, to her steps from healing, Jennifer shares her triumph over a crazy narc!

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@carlalittotherapy is a therapist that specializes in Narc Abuse recovery! She wrote a book called “Outsmarting Egomaniacs” and she’s here to talk to us about therapy with a narcissist and those affected. She tells us about therapy patterns she sees from the narc and victim, what signs she looks for during therapy, and when she says it’s time to rip the cord and set yourself free!

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Dr. Joshua Smith, known on Instagram as @drj.smith, is a psychologist specializing in chronic illness, pain, relationships, boundaries, and communication.His Instagram content includes posts and reels addressing various psychological topics - from the tactics narcs use to how to break free! He's here to to break down their thought process, how you can break free, and have some laughs along the way!

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Do you know those times when you find yourself loving a page’s content, but you don’t know their story? Well that’s me with @sincerelydivorced ! Bethany and Hillary are here to talk about how they’re tag teaming narcissism and bringing their humor along with it. Bethany divorced a narc after 20+ years. Hillary filed for divorced while pregnant. And they tell some hilarious stories along the way!

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Dr. Anthony Mazella@thenarcissism.decoder a NYC psychologist and is the face behind “The Narcissist Decoder”, another podcast that dives deep into the mind of dealing with narcissism. He’s with us today to discuss what we have deemed as the “forgotten spectrum of narcissism” - the vulnerable narcissist. He’s here to talk about the similarities and differences of this version of narcissism, what their triggers are, and how you can navigate life around a vulnerable narcissist!

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Kristina is our first ever top tier Patreon member who is here to share her story about her NEx. From getting her pregnant as a teenager, to being completely uninvolved, to stalking and intimidating, her NEx is absolutely fit for a straight jacket!

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Kristina is our first ever top tier Patreon member who is here to share her story about her NEx. From getting her pregnant as a teenager, to being completely uninvolved, to stalking and intimidating, her NEx is absolutely fit for a straight jacket!

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Judge Anthony Mohr is a California Supreme Court judge that recounts his experience of being between an affluent step dad and his bio dad, struggling to make ends meet. His book is called “Every Other Weekend” where he goes through his feelings about his family, how it motivated him to attend Harvard, and what ultimately led to him becoming a judge. He also answers some questions about what judges do and don’t know about narcissism!

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Did you listen to last week’s episode about my dating life after narc abuse? Well, Christian did and he’s a former DTG guest from episode 80! Christian is back to share his post narc abuse dating stories, some red flags he’s noticed, and why he’s even getting wrongfully doxed online by other bitter jaded daters!

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A question we get a lot is, "How were you ever able to date again after your narcissistic relationship?" Well, you to turn over a lot of stones! Phil and I share some fun stories about stepping stones on our paths to finding new relationships, red flags new prospective partners presented, and some bullets we dodged along the way!

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Phil and I always like to try different stuff, so this week, Phil tells me the story about Courtney Clenney, the OnlyFans model accused of unaliving her boyfriend! He breaks down the story for me, tells me about her narcissistic traits, and I relate the stories he tells me to my own experiences!

Enjoy Episode 140!

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For some crazy reason, narcissists have to ruin the happy holidays we enjoy! On this episode, Phil and I cover listener submitted stories about your “Holiday Horror Stories”, where the narc has to siphon all of the attention to them. And Mac even shares some crazy stories of his own!

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Heidi’s story @heidistarkauthor is a crazy one, from her NEx saying he manifested her (flaws and all), to her finding out he has a criminal record, to breaking her skull, she details a tumultuous relationship with a psychopath narcissist!

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Last week we covered part 1 of Matt’s story, a former guest from Phil’spodcast. Last week, Matt told us about meeting his now NEx in China, having children, and that NEx trying to take the children back to China from Matt! This week, we talk the trial of Matt’s life, fighting for his kids, co-parenting with his crazy NEx, and some shocking revelations that leave Phil and me shocked!

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Matt was a former guest on @dtg_phil pod, and we brought him back for an update. Matt explains moving to China, finding his future husband there, having children, his now ex trying to steal his children, and ongoing court trials that you won’t believe!

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Phil came to visit and we wanted to recap his trip through Plesantville, getting to meet my kids, and a landmark that changed my life in my healing journey!

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What would you do if you were kidnapped by your narcissist? While Becky Erkkila @beckyerkkilaauthor had to ask herself that very question! Her book “What Shall I Do?” details her harrowing story about being bound, duct taped and abducted by her narcissist, making it out alive, and using her experience to help you decide that very question!

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Ever see someone in a movie and think, “they are totally a narcissist!” Well, Jordan from @cinemaunitestheworld is an actor with first hand experience with narcs in movies and film! Jordan discusses his interactions on the red carpet, his personal stories, and even calls himself out on his mistakes in his past!

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Do you ever feel like “how could I have ever been so stupid to fall for the narc?” Well, what if I told you that the former World Heavyweight Champion of the World fell for it too? Enter Juan Adams @chosenjuan285 - mixed Martial artist that has competed in the UFC and Professional Fighters League. Juan tells us about his relationship with a narcissist, how he learned about narcissism, and how he’s used his experiences to further his education!

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Episode 131comes to you LIVE from NYC!

Terri from Character Outs Podcast, her daughter Tiffany, Phil and Irecap interviewing NYC about what they know about narcissism! From bad relationships, to toxic families, NYC ain't sleeping on narcissism!

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This podcast is about to surpass 100K listens! So to celebrate, Terri from Character Outs Podcast is back to help Phil and I make a special announcement! Next week, we’re going live from Times Square in NYC! Terri, Phil and I want to know: What Does NYC Know About Narcissism? We’re heading out to talk to NYC and hear your stories and ask some questions! Come join us next week - LIVE!

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Jerry Wise is an expert in healing from family dysfunction and he’s here to help you take your power back! From dealing with toxic family members, to moving on from narcissistic relationships, Jerry discusses how to acknowledge your triggers so that you can move on from abuse and live a fulfilling, peaceful life!

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PART II of Jan’s episode includes details of her SECOND kidnapping at the hands of a family “friend”! She details the story leading up to her 16th birthday, where she was convinced by her abuser she had to have a baby in order to save the life of her family. Jan was enrolled in a boarding school under a false name, her kidnapper convinced the nuns he was a CIA agent, and details the story of when the spell was finally broken!

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Jan Broberg's story has gone viral around the world! What started out as a kind family moving in next door, turned into a riveting story about kindnapping, sexual violence, and a national search for Jan by the FBI! Jan is here to break down the entire story with Phil and me, and shine a light on her mission of exposing deviant sexual predators.

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Ever struggle with the thought, "Am I the narcissist?" Phil and I break down 6 signs to analyze and reflect on your own personal flaws, share intimate stories of our cringey moments, and do an absolutely HILARIOUS "WTF are you talking about" segment!

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After a super tumultuous childhood, Reuben @free2bproject tells us about how he came across narcissism and how it fit his parents exactly. We discuss his indoctrination into the church, how it lead him into bad relationships, and how he’s burning bridges with any toxic person who gets in his way!

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I’m joined this week by Phoenix Gould (healing.from.the.narcissist) who is here to discuss healing through radical self love after narcissistic abuse. We discuss a length of topics from techniques to recovery including how to heal your inner child, guided meditation, and what it takes to move on from your trauma and feel empowered again!

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After a narcissistic injury, we all know the narc wants to make us PAY! So how do you deal with the smear campaign, loss of friends and family, and the emotional aftermath? Phil and I discuss real life scenarios and how we cope!

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I’m on vacation in Dallas, TX! Something you may not know about it me is I’m big into conspiracy theories and the JFK assassination. While at the “Grassy Knoll”, I ran into Marshal Evans, author of JFK: The Reckoning. Marshal is a JFK historian, who presents the facts behind the case, and even has pictures and evidence of the JFK autopsy. Marshal is here to dim the gaslight on what REALLY happened to JFK. You can purchase his book on Amazon, or reach out to Marsh Evans on Facebook for a DTG discount!

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It's not all roses after you leave a narcissistically abusive relationship. Phil and I break down what we went through after getting out, how we manage our triggers now, and the kind of people we want to be in order to call ourselves "healed." Enjoy episode 121! For all things DTG including content and Merch, click here⁠⁠⁠⁠! DISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist.

Marissa is our inaugural interview that wrote in for Phil and me to read on the air. A chance encounter with someone while traveling leads Marissa to travel the world with her narcissist. From stunning love bombing, to unbelievable excuses, to discarding her via email, Phil and I break the story down and have some good laughs at her NEx's expense!

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After a tumultuous childhood, Ellen Busch (@ellenbusch1500 )is a true inspiration! Ellen is the author of “Dis-Empowered”, her story about conquering dyslexia, and how her self worth plummeted in her adult years that led to stalkers, narcissists, physical abuse, and much more! To buy her book, click here! Enjoy Ellen’s episode! For all things DTG including content and Merch, click here⁠⁠⁠⁠! DISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist.

I’M OFFICIALLY DIVORCED! I go through the court proceedings, the stipulations, how (as always) the courts don’t listen, and my NEX’s attorney's paranoia about this podcast! Enjoy episode 105! For all things DTG including content and Merch, click here⁠⁠⁠⁠! DISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist.

I had court yesterday for a 6 month old motion, and did it all pro se. By the end of the hearing, the judge scheduled us for an UNCONTESTED divorce only 3 weeks away! Good news right? Well not so fast! Enjoy Episode 101! For all things DTG including content and Merch, check⁠⁠ ⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠! DISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist.