Sex With Emily

I've said it a thousand times and I'll say it again, the number one thing standing between you and the sex life you actually want is probably one conversation you haven't had yet. Not a new position. Not a new toy. A conversation. And I know that sounds simple, but if it were easy, you wouldn't be talking yourself out of it every single time. Today, I'm taking live listener calls on some of the most awkward, most avoided, most necessary conversations in sex and relationships, and giving you the exact words to have them. In this episode, you'll learn:  • What to do when everything in your relationship is great except the sex — and how to bring it up without making your partner feel like the last nine months were a waste  • How to give feedback about a smell, a skill, or a habit that's getting in the way of your pleasure — without shame, without cruelty, and without killing the mood  • Why if you're freezing up every time you want to initiate, the problem probably isn't your partner's response — it's the story you're telling yourself before you even open your mouth This episode is sponsored by... Try Promescent Delay Spray today and get 15% off your first order. Just go to www.promescent.com/swe More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5 • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Chapters: 0:00 - Intro 1:44 - Caller #1: Sex Is Lackluster After 9 Months — Is It a Dealbreaker? 11:27 - How to Tell Someone They're Bad at Hand Jobs 13:06 - Caller #2: She's Monogamous, He Wants Non-Monogamy 18:55 - Dr. Emily on Ethical Non-Monogamy & Why Timing Matters 19:58 - Caller #3: Should He Tell His Culinary School Crush He Has Feelings? 27:25 - Caller #4: Hemorrhoid Surgery, Skin Tags & Talking About It With Partners 33:39 - Anonymous Question: She Smells — How Do You Bring It Up? 36:06 - Caller #5: She Wants Sex But Freezes Up Before Initiating 42:03 - Dr. Emily's Final Word: If No One Initiates, There's Zero Sex Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if the key to better sex wasn't about technique — it was about learning to feel your own body again? Taryn Toomey, founder of The Class, joined me live at Eudaimonia to break down how 13 years of somatic movement quietly rewired her relationship with pleasure, sound, and receiving — and why the two aren't as different as you'd think. From faking orgasms in her 20s to purring her way through her "delicious" 40s, Taryn gets raw about her two-year stretch of only receiving oral sex, falling deeply in love after divorce, and what it really means to let someone in — body and soul. Don't forget to watch the full video podcast on YouTube! In this episode, you'll learn:  • Why the sounds you make in a workout and the sounds you make in bed come from the exact same place — and how unlocking one unlocks the other • How Taryn's two-year "oral sex only" era taught her more about receiving, boundaries, and her own body than any relationship ever did • The one breathwork tool that works both in The Class and during sex to get out of your head and back into your body — instantly And if you want to dive deeper into Taryn’s work after listening, we’ve got a little gift for you. Go to https://browse.theclass.digital/ and get 20% off her Digital Platform with the promo code SEXWITHEMILY. Eudemonia: • Website Find Taryn: • https://www.instagram.com/taryntoomey/ • https://www.taryntoomey.com/ • https://www.theclass.com/ • https://www.instagram.com/theclass/ More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5 • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Chapters: 0:00 - Intro 0:20 - Meet Taran Tumi: Founder of The Class & the Embodiment Movement 1:37 - Why It's So Hard to Actually Be in Your Body 4:35 - The Connection Between Voice, Sound & Pleasure 7:41 - Dating After Divorce: What Intimacy Looks Like Now 9:00 - Why Men Struggle with Sound in the Class (And in the Bedroom) 13:28 - How the Class Actually Works: The Method Behind the Movement 17:06 - The Class Gave Her a Great Vagina (And Why That Makes Sense) 18:07 - Heartbreak, Beautiful Love & Learning to Receive 21:30 - The Orgasm Gap & Why Women Can't Receive Oral Sex 24:42 - Breathing, Co-Regulation & Getting Out of Your Head During Sex 28:51 - The Energy You Take Into Your Body: Sex, Attachment & Staying Mindful 32:09 - What Happens When You Stop Performing and Start Feeling 34:01 - Feeling More at Home in Your Body at 47 Than at 20 39:03 - Decades of Sex in a Few Words: Drunk, Formulaic, Delicious 43:45 - Dating as a Single Mom & What Her Daughters Reflect Back 47:01 - One Truth About Pleasure & One Practice to Start Tonight 48:35 - Audience Q&A: How to Ask for Oral Sex, Talking to Daughters About Sex Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Whether you're trying to work up the nerve to ask out your office crush, figuring out what you actually want in bed, or navigating a decades-long relationship that's hit a sexual wall — the answer almost always comes back to the same thing: you have to be willing to go there. Say the thing. Ask the question. Have the conversation you've been putting off. In this episode, I'm taking listener calls on everything from the first nervous steps back into dating to the hard conversations that long-term couples are too scared to start. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why dating is a muscle — and what to actually do when you've been out of the game so long that even asking someone out feels impossible • What really happens to a vulva when a woman is fully aroused, why morning sex resentment is almost never just about morning sex, and what to do when your sexual awakening happens 20 years into a committed relationship • How to talk to your kids about sex early and often in a way that builds confidence instead of shame — starting with something as simple as using the right words for their body parts More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5 • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Chapters: 0:00 - Intro 2:07 - How to Ask Out an Office Crush Without Overthinking It  6:06 - Breaking Out of the Friend Zone on a First Date  9:43 - She Engorged During Orgasm — What Just Happened?  15:21 - Embracing What Sex Actually Looks and Feels Like  16:07 - Boyfriend Wants Her to Sleep with Someone Else — Does She Have To? 18:42 - Resentful About 5:30 a.m. Sex & Never Having Orgasms  22:23 - Sexual Awakening, Open Relationship Fallout & Staying or Going 26:35 - How to Raise a Sex-Positive Son Without Shame  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Most women can name every product in their skincare routine but can't tell you the last time they actually paid attention to their vulva. Not because you don't care — because nobody ever taught you to. And that silence is costing women their pleasure, their comfort, and sometimes their health. In this episode, I sit down with OB-GYN and women's sexual health expert Dr. Sherry Ross — author of the V-ology book series and someone I consider one of the most important voices in women's intimate health — for the most practical, shame-free conversation about vulva and vaginal health I've ever had on this show. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why your vulva needs the same care and attention as your face — and what most of us are getting completely wrong about cleaning, moisturizing, and maintaining vaginal health at every age • The truth about painful sex, perimenopause, and recurring infections — what's actually causing them, why doctors keep dismissing the symptoms, and the solutions most women have never been told about • Whether every woman can learn to squirt, what your labia is supposed to look like, and why the clitoris — the road to success — might be the most important thing you're not paying enough attention to More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5 • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Chapters: 0:00 - Intro 1:51 - Caller #1 (Jamie, 44): Partner Chatting with Sex Workers Online — Is It Cheating? 9:46 - Dr. Emily's Takeaway: Masturbation in Relationships & Staying Curious 10:30 - Caller #2 (Damian, 28): His Wife Is Grossed Out by Touching Herself 16:09 - Caller #3 (Lacy, 25): Love Bombed on a First Date, Then Blocked 23:55 - Caller #4 (Rachel, 25): Getting Back Into Sex After a Long Break 32:23 - Caller #5 (Karina): Dating After Trauma & Learning to Say No 41:00 - Dr. Emily's Final Word: Your No Can Be a Not Yet Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Most women can name every product in their skincare routine but can't tell you the last time they actually paid attention to their vulva. Not because you don't care — because nobody ever taught you to. And that silence is costing women their pleasure, their comfort, and sometimes their health. In this episode, I sit down with OB-GYN and women's sexual health expert Dr. Sherry Ross — author of the V-ology book series and someone I consider one of the most important voices in women's intimate health — for the most practical, shame-free conversation about vulva and vaginal health I've ever had on this show. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why your vulva needs the same care and attention as your face — and what most of us are getting completely wrong about cleaning, moisturizing, and maintaining vaginal health at every age • The truth about painful sex, perimenopause, and recurring infections — what's actually causing them, why doctors keep dismissing the symptoms, and the solutions most women have never been told about • Whether every woman can learn to squirt, what your labia is supposed to look like, and why the clitoris — the road to success — might be the most important thing you're not paying enough attention to This episode is sponsored by... Get the LELO SURFER 2 at lelo.com/surfer-2 and use code SWE20 for a stackable 20% off More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5 • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Chapters: 0:00 - Intro 1:26 - Meet Dr. Sherry Ross: OBGYN & Author of the Shiology Book Series 4:35 - Treat Your Vagina Like the Skin on Your Face 6:32 - The Visual Vaginal Library & Why Porn Is Distorting Body Image 8:08 - Can Every Woman Squirt? Dr. Sherry Weighs In 10:09 - Listener Q&A: Perimenopause Symptoms, Hormones & What to Ask Your Doctor 13:36 - Wearable Dilators: What They Are & Who Actually Needs Them 15:27 - The Real Causes of Painful Sex (Beyond Just Dryness) 18:00 - Recurring UTIs & Yeast Infections: Why They Keep Happening 19:05 - Five Quickie Questions with Dr. Sherry Ross Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you've ever avoided anal because it hurt, felt intimidating, or just had too many unanswered questions — you haven't had the right conversation yet. Whether you're completely new to backdoor play or you've been doing it for years without the proper foundation, most people are skipping the steps that actually make it feel good. And that's not a problem. That's an education problem. In this episode, I sit down with nationally renowned anal surgeon Dr. Evan Goldstein — founder of Bespoke Surgical and Future Method — for the most honest, shame-free breakdown of anal health and pleasure you're going to find anywhere. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why anal sex should never be painful, what's actually causing the pain, and the exact 4-6 week protocol that prepares your body the right way • The truth about douching, wet wipes, and why most people are unknowingly damaging their anal microbiome before sex even starts • How to navigate anal with hemorrhoids, skin tags, or past injuries — and what your options actually are when something goes wrong This episode is sponsored by... Try Promescent Delay Spray today and get 15% off your first order. Just go to www.promescent.com/swe More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5 • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Chapters: 0:00 - Intro 1:51 - Meet Dr. Evan Goldstein: Anal Surgeon & Founder of Bespoke Surgical 3:46 - Where Does the Taboo Around Anal Come From? 6:54 - The Three Pillars: How to Prepare, Play & Recover 8:07 - The 4 to 6 Week Dilating Protocol Every Beginner Needs 14:08 - Lube 101: Silicone vs. Water-Based & When to Use Each 15:55 - The Lube Shooter, Empowering the Bottom & Why You Can't Assume Your Partner Knows 16:57 - Douching: Why Water and Store-Bought Enemas Can Do More Harm Than Good 20:33 - Less Is More: Gut Health, Fiber & How to Douche the Right Way 23:27 - Aftercare: What to Do If You Tear or Have Pain 24:19 - Beginner Tips: Positions, Partner Communication & Choosing the Right Size 32:38 - Listener Q&A: Hemorrhoids, Skin Tags & Can You Still Have Anal Sex? 36:43 - Listener Q&A: Colon Surgery, Couples Starting Out & Sex Positions by State 42:14 - Why Wet Wipes Are Wrecking Your Microbiome (Anal and Vaginal) 44:45 - Five Quicky Questions with Dr. Goldstein Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you've ever felt like everyone else is having the sex life you're supposed to have — and you're just white-knuckling your way through it, faking it, or coming up empty — you're not broken. You're just not talking about it yet. Whether it's a desire you've been too scared to voice, a fantasy you've kept to yourself for years, or a body that's never quite gotten there with a partner, the shift almost always starts the same way: someone finally said the thing out loud. In this episode, three real listeners share the moments that changed everything for them — and none of it looks the way you'd expect. In this episode, you'll learn: • What finally happened when one husband spent months asking his wife for something she wasn't sure about — and why one unexpected text message changed their relationship and sex life forever • How a 20-year marriage, a night out dancing, and a chance encounter with a stranger led to a first threesome that was hotter, messier, and more human than any fantasy • Why so many vulva owners can't orgasm during penetration — and the exact combination of communication, touch, and mindset that finally got one woman there after years of trying This episode is sponsored by... Get the LELO SURFER 2 at lelo.com/surfer-2 and use code SWE20 for a stackable 20% off More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5 • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Chapters: 0:00 - Intro 2:02 - Story #1 : A Husband's Pegging Journey After 12 Years Together 4:40 - Dr. Emily on Why Pegging Is More Common Than You Think 6:00 - The Psychology of Receiving & Breaking Sexual Shame 8:05 - Story #2: 20 Years Married & Their First Threesome 13:52 - Dr. Emily's Takeaways on Fantasies, Communication & Embodiment 14:09 - Story #3: Five Years of Not Orgasming With a Partner 17:00 - Dr. Emily on Sexual Trauma, Repetition & Being Heard 19:26 - How Jasmine Finally Got There (Breathing, Grinding & Letting Go) 21:48 - Dr. Emily on the Clitoral Network, Foreplay & Wandering Minds 23:24 - Closing: Share Your Sexy Story with Dr. Emily Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you've built a life that looks great from the outside but still feels like something's missing on the inside, the problem might not be your relationship — it might be how much of yourself you're actually bringing to it. Whether it's a body image spiral that shuts you down in the bedroom, a long-term dynamic that's gone quietly cold, or a fear of vulnerability that's been running the show since day one, the shift almost always starts with one honest conversation. In this episode, volleyball legend, entrepreneur, and mother of three Gabby Reece gets real about what it actually takes to keep desire, respect, and intimacy alive after decades together — and why most of us are working harder than we need to. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why the masculine and feminine dynamic has been completely misunderstood — and how redefining it can transform your relationship and your sex life • What Gabby and Laird's 48-hour rule actually looks like in practice, and whether a structure like that could work for you • How to stop torturing yourself in the bedroom and finally get out of your head long enough to actually feel something • The real reason long-term relationships lose their spark — and the daily habits that keep attraction from quietly dying • How to talk to your kids about sex, body image, and peer pressure in a way that actually lands • Why vulnerability isn't a personality trait you either have or don't — it's a skill, and it's one you can learn This episode is sponsored by... Try Promescent Delay Spray today and get 15% off your first order. Just go to www.promescent.com/swe More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5 • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Chapters: 0:00 - Introduction 1:12 - Meet Gabby Reese: Athlete, Entrepreneur & Podcast Host 1:25 - Running a Business With Your Partner (Without Losing Your Mind) 6:30 - Defining Masculine & Feminine Energy in Relationships 11:03 - Vulnerability, Fear & What It Really Takes to Love Someone 13:34 - How Being an Athlete Impacts Your Sex Life & Libido 17:04 - Gut Health & Its Connection to Sexual & Mental Wellness 18:36 - Raising Daughters: Sex, Body Image & Social Media 26:27 - Rapid Fire Q&A: Exercise, Confidence & Sex Toys 31:36 - Least Favorite Thing About Sex & Final Thoughts Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you've ever felt completely lost when it comes to dating, desire, or keeping the spark alive in a long-term relationship, you're not doing it wrong — you're just missing the conversation. Whether it's an office crush you can't read, a sexual awakening at 48 that's putting your 20-year relationship in crisis, or a partner whose needs feel totally out of sync with yours, the answer almost always comes back to the same thing: talking about it. In this episode, I'm taking live calls and listener questions on some of the messiest, most real situations in sex and relationships — and giving you the clarity to actually move forward. In this episode, you'll learn: • How to stop overthinking and finally make a move — whether it's an office crush, a first date, or reconnecting with someone from your past • What to do when your long-term partner's needs and yours no longer match up, including mismatched sex drives, resentment around morning sex, and the conversation most couples are too scared to have • How to talk to your kids about sex and bodies starting at age four — without shame, without awkwardness, and in a way that actually sticks More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5 • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Chapters: 0:00 - Introduction 0:55 - How to Tell If Someone's Into You 6:01 - Avoiding the Friend Zone on a First Date 9:38 - When You're Surprised by Your Partner's Body During Sex 16:20 - Should You Act on Your Partner's Fantasy? 18:55 - Resentment Around Morning Sex & Low Libido 22:35 - Sexually Frustrated in a Long-Term Relationship 26:47 - How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex Without Shame Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If the idea of FaceTime sex makes you want to immediately close your laptop and never speak of it again, I get it — but hear me out. Whether you're in a long-distance relationship, traveling, or just looking to try something new with a partner you see every day, virtual sex is one of the most underrated tools for keeping intimacy alive. And when you do it right, it's genuinely hot. In this episode, I'm walking you through everything you need to know — from the practical setup to what to actually say — so it stops feeling awkward and starts feeling like real sex. In this episode, you'll learn: • How to actually set up, prepare, and get in the mood before the call — including the one thing you can do beforehand that builds confidence and arousal at the same time • What to say during FaceTime sex, even if dirty talk doesn't come naturally to you — plus how to use past memories, future fantasies, and simple direction to keep things moving • How to handle it when your partner's virtual kinks don't match yours, when sexting with someone outside your relationship starts bleeding into your real one, and how to know when a sexting session is actually over This episode is sponsored by... LELO SONA 3 – https://lelo.to/HX2gO (Use code SWE20 for a stackable 20% off!) More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5 • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Chapters: 0:00 - Intro 1:48 - Who Benefits from Virtual Sex (Long-Distance, Couples & Singles) 3:34 - Sending Nudes: Risks, Consent & Generational Differences 6:51 - Safety First: Platforms, Boundaries & Mutual Consent 8:01 - The Power of Foreplay Before You Go Live 10:58 - How to Pull Off FaceTime Sex: Prep, Setup & Device Tips 16:16 - Dirty Talk & What to Actually Say in the Moment 20:06 - Q&A: How to Spice Up Virtual Sex 22:07 - Q&A: Navigating Kinks You're Not Into 26:44 - Q&A: How Does a Sexting Session Actually End? 28:28 - Q&A: Is Sexting Outside My Marriage Cheating? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Casual sex gets a bad reputation — but most of that reputation comes from doing it wrong. When it's rushed, unspoken, or emotionally misaligned, it can leave you feeling used, confused, or chasing someone who was never on the same page. But when you approach it with self-awareness and a willingness to actually say what you want, it can be exactly what you need. In this episode, I'm breaking down what conscious casual sex actually looks like — the different forms it can take, how to know if it's right for you right now, and the two things that separate a genuinely satisfying hookup from one that sends you into a shame spiral. In this episode, you'll learn: • The real difference between casual sex and hookup culture — and why "casual" doesn't have to mean disposable, careless, or emotionally disconnected • How to know if casual sex is actually a good fit for you right now, including the one attachment pattern that almost always makes it backfire • What to say before, during, and after a casual encounter to make sure your needs actually get met — and how to navigate hooking up within a friend group without blowing everything up More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5 • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Chapters: 0:00 - What Makes Casual Sex Satisfying? 1:43 - Defining Casual Sex (It's Not Just Hookup Culture) 3:59 - Surprising Research: Casual Sex Trends by Generation 5:44 - The Benefits of Casual Sex 8:23 - The Downsides & Risks to Know 10:37 - How to Know If Casual Sex Is Right for You 12:20 - How to Find & Communicate With Casual Partners 17:51 - Best Casual Sex Advice From Dr. Emily's Audience 20:12 - Listener Q&A: Orgasming Through Oral Sex 23:46 - Listener Q&A: Casual Sex After a Long-Term Relationship 27:06 - Listener Q&A: Shame & Regret After a Hookup Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you've ever felt ashamed of a sexual fantasy, I want you to know that having one isn't a sign that something is wrong with you — it's actually a sign of a healthy sex life. Fantasies can reveal what you truly crave, deepen your connection with a partner, and completely transform your relationship with your own desire. But most of us were never taught how to think about them, let alone talk about them out loud. In this episode, I'm breaking down what your fantasies actually mean, why you don't need to act on all of them, and exactly how to bring one up with a partner without it feeling terrifying. In this episode, you'll learn: • What the most common fantasies reveal about your psychological needs — and why the ones that embarrass you the most are usually the most telling • My step-by-step framework for communicating a fantasy to a partner (even if you've never done it before and have no idea where to start) • What to do if you can't seem to fantasize at all — including why a history of trauma or a conservative upbringing can shut down your erotic imagination, and how to gently rebuild it More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5 • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 1:47 - The Most Common Fantasies (Group Sex, BDSM, Voyeurism & More) 3:50 - Listener Fantasy List: What YOU Shared on Instagram 6:12 - How to Bring Up a Fantasy to Your Partner (The Who, What, Where, When, Why Method) 8:24 - Fantasy vs. Fetish: What's the Difference? 9:09 - Caller Update: Tracy's Throuple Story 15:44 - "Is It Wrong to Fantasize About Someone Else While in a Relationship?" 17:33 - How to Find a Couple for a Threesome 20:32 - Latex Fetish & Pegging: How to Get Your Partner on Board 24:12 - How to Make the First Move Without Falling into the Friend Zone 28:26 - Foot Fetishes 101: How to Blow His Mind 31:03 - When Trauma Blocks Your Fantasy Life Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you're on antidepressants and your sex drive has completely disappeared, I want you to know that you're not broken, and you don't have to choose between feeling mentally well and having a fulfilling sex life. SSRIs like Lexapro, Zoloft, and Prozac are genuinely life-changing for so many people, but nobody warns you that they can tank your desire, make orgasms nearly impossible, and quietly wreck your relationship in the process. In this episode, I'm breaking down exactly why this happens, and more importantly, what you can actually do about it. From simple timing hacks to alternative treatments that are showing real promise. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why SSRIs suppress desire and arousal on a hormonal level — and the one hack that can reduce side effects as soon as tonight • How to rebuild your sex drive when both you and your partner are medicated (yes, this is more common than you think) • The alternative treatments — TMS therapy, ketamine, and psilocybin — that are helping people get off antidepressants entirely More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Chapters: 0:00 - Intro 0:31 - Sarah's Story: The SSRI Sex Drive Dilemma 3:50 - Why SSRIs Kill Your Libido (The Science) 6:50 - How Common Is This? Depression & Sex Stats 14:00 - Side Effects Breakdown: Vulva vs. Penis Owners 15:50 - Practical Hacks: Timing, Alcohol & Cannabis 20:53 - Alternative Treatments: TMS, Ketamine & Psychedelics 25:31 - Both Partners on SSRIs? How to Rebuild Intimacy 31:58 - The 36 Questions Study That Reignites Closeness 33:37 - Perimenopause, Hormones & Anti-Depressants at 48 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Solo anal play might be the most misunderstood sex act out there, and I’m done letting shame, myths, and bad porn narratives keep you from one of the most pleasurable things you can do for yourself. Whether you're completely new to anal or just looking for a place to finally start, this episode is your no-judgment, fully practical guide to exploring on your own terms. From the anatomy behind why it actually feels so good (yes, for all genitals) to the exact tools, lube, and prep you need to get started safely, I break it all down with zero shame and a lot of science. Plus, I answer real listener questions about positioning, bringing it up with a partner, and the mess concerns that are quietly keeping most people from ever trying. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why anal stimulation can unlock full-body orgasms for every anatomy — and the nerve science that explains it • The three biggest anal myths (and why they're completely wrong) • Exactly how to prep, what to buy, and how to start — so your first experience is actually pleasurable This Episode is sponsored by LELO SWITCH – https://lelo.to/aGecd (Use code SWE20 for a stackable 20% off!) More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Timestamps: 0:00 - Why Try Solo Anal Play? Benefits for All Bodies 2:20 - Prostate Pleasure 101 (Penis Owners) 3:16 - Anal Orgasms & Nerve Endings (Vulva Owners) 5:48 - Body Acceptance & Releasing Shame Around Anal 6:52 - Busting Myth #1: Does Anal Affect Your Sexuality? 8:21 - Busting Myth #2: Anal Requires Preparation, Not Spontaneity 10:41 - How to Start: Anal Training & Finger Exploration 11:51 - Toy Recommendations by Anatomy 16:06 - Lube Guide: Silicone vs. Water-Based 18:05 - Q&A: Your Anal Questions Answered Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

After years of thinking love wasn't in the cards, Golden Globe, Emmy and Academy Award winning actor Halle Berry stopped chasing and that's exactly when everything changed. In this live conversation from Eudemonia, Halle and I get into what it really takes to have a loving connection and  incredible sex in your 50s, why she thought her partner gave her herpes (spoiler: it was perimenopause), and how becoming whole on her own finally attracted the relationship she'd always wanted. From faking multiple orgasms in her 20s to now having no problem telling her partner exactly what she needs, Halle shares why the "zero fucks to give" era might just be the sexiest time of a woman's life. She also opens up about misdiagnosis, advocating for women's health in Washington, and why she's throwing herself a "siesta" party when she officially hits menopause in March. Don't forget to watch the full video podcast on YouTube!  In this episode, you'll learn:  • Why chasing a relationship kept Halle attracting the wrong partners—and what shifted when she finally prioritized herself  • How vaginal dryness got misdiagnosed as herpes and Sjögren's disease, and what that taught her about the gaps in women's healthcare  • The permission slip every woman needs to stop performing in bed and start asking for what actually feels good More Halle Berry: • Instagram  • Respin by Halle Berry  Eudēmonia Summit: •  Website  More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. This episode is sponsored by: Support your cells and how you age with Mitopure® Gummies from Timeline. Visit timeline.com/EMILY to up to 39% off your Mitopure® Gummies. That’s timeline.com/EMILY Chapters: 00:00 - Chapter Title 00:09 - Halle Berry Admits She Used to Fake Orgasms 02:12 - Love, Divorce, and Lessons After Three Marriages 04:26 - Why She Slept With Men on the First Night 07:03 - The Health Scare That Changed Her Intimacy 07:46 - Being Misdiagnosed With Herpes 09:11 - Realizing She Was in Perimenopause 10:36 - How Sex Changed in Her 50s 13:03 - Why So Many Women Fake It 14:08 - The Unrealistic Sex Standards from Porn 17:08 - Learning You Can Say No to Sex 26:32 - The Truth About Multiple Orgasms 29:31 - Why She Launched Respin 30:50 - The Menopause Healthcare Gap Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Blood flow might not sound sexy, but it’s the fuel behind satisfying sex. In this live episode from the A4M Longevity Conference in Las Vegas, I sit down with certified nurse practitioner and ⁠Medical Director at GAINSWave, Chrislyn Chaloupka, to discuss how GAINSWave’s non-invasive regenerative therapy is reshaping sexual wellness by addressing root causes rather than simply masking symptoms. We dive into why your body might not be responding the way it used to, from erections that fade under pressure to that frustrating gap between wanting sex and your body just not cooperating. Chrislyn breaks down how this painless 15-minute treatment works (that I even tried myself), and we get real about everything from porn-induced desensitization to why erectile challenges can actually be your heart trying to tell you something important. Don't forget to watch the full video podcast on YouTube!  What you'll learn:  • Why "just relax and use more lube" isn't solving your arousal problems—and what actually will  • How shockwave therapy can help with everything from weak orgasms to stress urinary incontinence (yes, the sneeze-and-pee situation)  • The psychological factors that can make even the best physical treatments fail until you address the deeper story This Episode is sponsored by Gainswave. Go to gainswave.com and find a provider near you to regain your freedom and pleasure in the bedroom.This episode was recorded live at the A4M Longevity Conference in Las Vegas 2025.  Want to try the Magic Wand Waterproof? Head to shop.sexwithemily.com/magicwand More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 1:07 - What Is A4M & Why Emily Was There 3:16 - Meet Guest Chrysen Chalupka: Nurse Practitioner & Regenerative Medicine Expert 12:17 - Regenerative Medicine Explained: Treating Root Causes, Not Symptoms 13:34 - What Is Shockwave Therapy & How Does It Actually Work 15:28 - The GainsWave Treatment: What It Feels Like (Emily's Experience) 17:03 - Who Benefits Most: Women, Pain, Dryness & Orgasm Issues 23:28 - Shockwave for Men: Erections, Blood Flow & Hidden Heart Health Warnings 27:09 - The Psychology of Sexual Dysfunction: When It's Not Just Physical 28:52 - Porn, Masturbation & Desensitization: The Conversation Nobody's Having 32:57 - Beyond Sexual Health: Treating Joints, Injuries & Chronic Pain with Shockwave 35:30 - How to Find a GainsWave Provider Near You Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sexting sounds simple until you're actually staring at your phone, cursor blinking, wondering if what you're about to send is hot or just... weird. In this episode, I'm giving you the full breakdown on how to text dirty with confidence—because good sexting is really just foreplay with a keyboard. I'm answering your questions about everything from how to build tension with something as small as three dots, to what to do when your partner wants to sext around the clock but you're just not feeling it. Plus, I'm sharing some of the hottest sexts the Sex With Emily community has ever received (you asked, you delivered, and wow). In this episode, you'll learn:  • The "past and future" technique that makes writing a sext way less intimidating—and way more effective  • What to say when your long-distance partner's sexting pace doesn't match yours (hint: you're allowed to set your own rhythm)  • How sexting can actually help you communicate desires that feel too awkward to say face-to-face More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to enrollment@sexwithemily.com to learn more!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 2:06 - The "past and future" rule for writing sexts 4:43 - How to use the three dots to build tension 5:34 - Nude photo tips: angles, lighting & confidence 7:35 - Protecting your nudes on Apple & Google 8:41 - The hottest sexts you've sent (community submissions) 10:18 - How to find your dirty talk voice 12:48 - Flirting with a coworker over Zoom & Slack 15:04 - Keeping sexts private when kids use your devices 16:08 - When your partner's masturbation habits change 19:16 - Mismatched sexting energy in long distance 22:35 - Rebuilding trust after infidelity Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Whether you're questioning who you're attracted to or wondering why someone incredible on paper leaves you feeling nothing below the waist, you're not alone. In this episode, I unpack the messy, confusing space between wanting someone and wanting to build a life with them—and why those two things don't always line up. From a woman who's always identified as straight but can't stop fantasizing about women, to a listener who's been getting nothing but one-arm hugs after six dates, I get into the questions most people are too afraid to ask out loud. I also share what the science actually says about attraction—including why your post-gym crush might not be as real as it feels, and what your birth control could be doing to your "type." In this episode, you'll learn:  • Why putting a label on your sexuality might be the last thing you need to do right now—and what to try instead  • The conversation that can save you months (or years) of wondering where you stand with someone who won't make a move  • What to do when you and your partner are both waiting for the other person to take control in bed More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Head to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply today! • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction  1:56 - The science of sexual attraction  5:01 - You can want someone without wanting to date them  6:12 - Surprising facts about who you're attracted to (and why)  9:19 - "Am I bisexual or do I just think women are hot?"  10:50 - The one-arm hug situation  15:25 - When your partner's meds killed your sex life  20:40 - 19 years married and ready to give up  25:31 - How to rekindle the spark after years together Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A Pressure-Free Reframe on Desire, Connection, and Sex This isn't your typical Valentine's Day episode. I'm skipping the performance pressure and Pinterest-perfect expectations to focus on what actually matters: real connection. Drawing from thousands of your survey responses—and two decades of hearing the same struggles around desire mismatch, stress, and intimacy—I built this Valentine's guide around your actual pain points, not trending hashtags. From why sensory play beats a five-star reservation to how sleep might be the sexiest gift you can give yourself, I break down the science and stories behind lasting desire. In this episode, you'll learn:  • Why prioritizing rest is actually foreplay—and how just one extra hour of sleep can increase desire by 14%  • How to use your senses (not grand gestures) to create genuine intimacy and take the guesswork out of date night  • The difference between romance as performance and connection your body actually feels—and why that distinction changes everything The 2026 Sex With Emily Valentine’s Gift Guide: https://sexwithemily.com/the-2026-sex-with-emily-valentines-gift-guide/  2026 Sex With Emily Valentine’s Gift Guide Products Mentioned (find the full Guide above):  • CERE Enchantment Gel⁠- Go to ⁠getcere.com • Promescent Delay Spray- ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/sweggpromescent⁠⁠  • LELO TIANI 3 - ⁠www.lelo.com/tiani-3⁠  (Use code “SWE20”  for 20% off!) • Visit ⁠Vyleesi.com⁠ for full prescribing information or consult a healthcare provider about Vyleesi.  • Magic Wand Waterproof HV-360 - ⁠https://bit.ly/sweggmagicwandwaterproof⁠  • Airbnb - https://bit.ly/sweairbnb  • Canyon Ranch - https://bit.ly/swecanyonranch  • SmartSX- https://bit.ly/sweggsmartsxfreemonth  • Womaness Coco Bliss- https://bit.ly/sweggwomanesscocobliss  • Je Joue Naughty Gift Set- https://bit.ly/sweggnaughtygiftset  • 1:1 Coaching With Emily- Complete this form: https://bit.ly/sweggprivatecoaching or Email enrollment@sexwithemily.com for more information!  • Sex With Emily Yes!No!Maybe? List- Head to sexwithemily.com/guides • Ohmibod Foxy Panty Vibe- https://bit.ly/sweggfoxy  • Shop Sex With Emily Gift Card - https://bit.ly/sweggshopgiftcard  • Crave Pleasure Jewelry -  https://bit.ly/sweggcrave  • Pleasure Planner - sexwithemily.com/guides  • Wisp - https://hellowisp.com/products/omg-cream   • Common Confidential Massage Butter - commonconfidential.com (use the code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off)  • Essentia Mattresses - myessentia.com/ More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to enrollment@sexwithemily.com to learn more!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 2:03 - Why Connection Beats Romance Every Time 3:28 - Experience Gifts That Actually Build Intimacy 5:17 - Dating Advice: Be the Person You Want to Find 7:28 - Desire Doesn't Magically Appear—It's Created 9:35 - Foreplay Starts Way Before Touch 12:11 - Your Nervous System Is Your Sex Organ 16:41 - Self-Pleasure Is a Relational Skill 20:50 - When Your Libidos Don't Match 26:11 - Building Your Ideal Date Night Using Your Senses 29:52 - Why Sleep Is the Sexiest Gift You Can Give Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Whether you've been with your partner for ten months or ten years, knowing what you actually want in bed is harder than it sounds—especially if you never got the chance to explore. In this episode, Dr. Emily takes listener calls about the real challenges that keep couples stuck: shame around masturbation, mismatched experience levels, and the fear that fading passion means something's broken. From a wife who's never had a partner ask what she wants to a husband hiding his solo sessions in the basement, Emily breaks down why sexual self-discovery isn't selfish—it's essential. She also tackles what to do when your partner wants to swing but you're not sure, and why taking penetration off the table might be the fastest way to bring the heat back. In this episode, you'll learn:  • Why being a skilled lover has nothing to do with how many people you've slept with—and everything to do with curiosity and communication • How to take the lead in bed without becoming a completely different person (even if you've always been submissive) • The "hell yes or hell no" rule for navigating swinging, threesomes, and any sexual experience that makes you feel vulnerable More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to enrollment@sexwithemily.com to learn more!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 1:33 - McKenzie: Husband complains about sex life to others 4:36 - Why partner count doesn't determine sexual skill 6:14 - How to discover what you actually want in bed 9:37 - Experience is not a numbers game 10:43 - Dan: Feeling guilty about masturbating while married 13:06 - Why masturbation shame hurts relationships 15:41 - Sarah: Giving her husband a prostate orgasm for his 50th 19:04 - Switching from submissive to dominant in bed 23:02 - Alex: Girlfriend wants to try soft swapping 25:17 - Hannah: Taking sex off the table to reconnect 30:03 - Building intimacy without rushing to penetration Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Solo sex is one of the most powerful tools you have for better partnered sex — and most people are barely scratching the surface. In this throwback episode, Dr. Emily makes the case for why your relationship with yourself might be the most important sexual relationship you'll ever have. From finding out what actually turns you on to using masturbation as a way to manage stress and boost confidence, Emily covers everything you need to know about flying solo — including how to bring toys into the mix without awkwardness. She also takes listener calls about navigating different libidos in relationships, dealing with performance anxiety, and figuring out how to ask for what you want in bed. In this episode, you'll learn:  • Why masturbation is essential for sexual self-awareness — not just a fallback when you're single  • How to explore fantasies and toys on your own so you can communicate better with partners  • The connection between solo pleasure, stress relief, and overall sexual confidence More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to enrollment@sexwithemily.com to learn more!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 1:30 - Why Masturbation Matters (Even If You Have a Partner) 3:05 - The G-Spot Myth: Why It's Really a "G-Area" 4:50 - First-Time Masturbation Guide for Women 8:17 - Choosing Your First Vibrator: What to Know 10:54 - Can You "Retrain" Your Body to Orgasm Without a Vibrator? 14:00 - Edging Explained: How to Intensify Your Orgasms 17:38 - Overcoming Shame and Religious Guilt Around Self-Pleasure 24:01 - The We-Vibe Melt: Why It's a Game-Changer 30:40 - Rapid Fire: Mismatched Libidos, BDSM, and Confidence Tips Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When the wedding’s over and real life kicks in, it’s so common for sex to shift — sometimes fast. In this throwback live show, Dr. Emily tackles the myth that marriage equals the end of your sex life, and breaks down how to bring back that “honeymoon energy” without forcing it or turning intimacy into another chore. Emily shares a simple framework for staying connected long-term (including her idea of “sex vows”), then takes calls from listeners navigating a sudden post-marriage libido drop and the emotional whiplash of being single while everyone around you is getting engaged. In this episode, you’ll learn:  • Why desire often drops after commitment — and how to address it before resentment builds  • Practical ways to revive novelty and reconnect (including “sex vows” you can actually use)  • How to handle the pressure and loneliness when it feels like everyone else is getting married More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to enrollment@sexwithemily.com to learn more!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. This episode is sponsored by… Qualia:  Magnesium, multiplied. 10 forms for total support. Go to qualialife.com/SEXWITHEMILY to get 50% off and save an extra 15% with the code SEXWITHEMILY.  Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 3:26 - Current Trends in Sex and Relationships 5:25 - Essential Conversations Before Marriage 7:40 - Writing Your Sex Vows 9:49 - Planning Your Pleasure: Yes/No/Maybe List 12:39 - Recreating Honeymoon Sex Energy 16:00 - Q&A: When His Sex Drive Plummets After Marriage 22:30 - Q&A: Exploring Bisexuality in a Committed Relationship 25:24 - Q&A: Building a Sex Life You've Never Had 30:56 - Q&A: When Your Partner Doesn't Want Marriage Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You want to talk to your partner about sex. You really do. But every time you try, your throat closes, your chest tightens, and suddenly it feels easier to just… not. You're not bad at communication — your brain is literally wired to treat these conversations like threats. In this live show, I break down exactly why sex talks trigger fight-or-flight, how shame keeps us mute in the bedroom, and what to do when you've been together for years and never actually talked about what you want. This episode was recorded LIVE across my social platforms at @sexwithemily — part of a new evolution of the show as we head into my 21st year of the podcast. After over two decades of talking about sex, I've learned that real, unscripted conversations create the deepest breakthroughs. You'll hear real questions, real interaction, and the energy of being LIVE together as we explore how to build a sex life that actually feels good, without shame or judgment. Tune in most Tuesdays and Thursdays at 5 PM PST on Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, Facebook, and Twitch all @sexwithemily. In this episode, you'll learn:  • Why your brain treats sex conversations like danger (and how to override it) • How to find your sexual voice and stop cringing when you try to speak up • A husband's honest question about rekindling intimacy after kids You can now watch the full video podcast on YouTube! More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to enrollment@sexwithemily.com to learn more!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. This episode is sponsored by… Timeline Don’t let another year go by feeling less than your best. Grab 30% off your first month of Mitopure Gummies at Timeline.com/emily30 Timestamps: 00:00 - Intro 06:45 - The Clitoris Has 12,000 Nerve Endings (Full Anatomy Explained) 13:20 - How to Talk Dirty Without Feeling Cringey 18:15 - Mutual Masturbation: Why It's a Top Sex Tip 22:40 - Squirting: The Truth vs The Pressure 28:10 - Breaking Down Shame & Performance Anxiety 35:50 - Sex After Kids: Rekindling Intimacy (Live Caller Question) 38:25 - Medications Killing Your Libido (What to Do About It) 40:15 - Finding the Right Sex Therapist (Somatic vs Talk Therapy) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You're in love. You're committed. So why does sex feel like it dropped off the priority list somewhere between laundry and meal prep? You're not broken — you're just busy, stressed, and maybe a little stuck in your head. In this live show, Dr. Emily answers your unfiltered questions about what happens when desire fades, how to talk to a partner who clams up about what they want, and why the "how often should we be having sex?" question is missing the point entirely. This episode was recorded live across my social platforms at @sexwithemily — part of a new evolution of the show as we head into my 21st year of the podcast. After over two decades of talking about sex, I've learned that real, unscripted conversations create the deepest breakthroughs. You'll hear real questions, real interaction, and the energy of being live together as we explore how to build a sex life that actually feels good — without shame or judgment. Tune in most Tuesdays and Thursdays at 5 PM PST on Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, Facebook, and Twitch all @sexwithemily. You can now watch the full video podcast on YouTube! In this episode, you'll learn:  • Why "how often should we have sex?" is the wrong question — and what to ask instead  • The three pleasure thieves silently wrecking your libido  • How to help a shy partner open up about their desires (without making it awkward) More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to enrollment@sexwithemily.com to learn more!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. This episode is sponsored by…  Bathmate:  Try the Bathmate Hydro Pump Today at bathmatedirect.com! Use code “SWE10” for a discount at checkout! Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 3:04 - How often should couples have sex? 5:57 - Getting your partner to communicate about sex 8:39 - Do most couples talk about sex? 10:57 - Why your sex life shouldn't stay the same for decades 15:34 - Navigating intimacy with chronic illness 18:44 - Myth: Good sex should be spontaneous 21:06 - Myth: Orgasms are the ultimate goal 23:16 - Sex during pregnancy when your partner pulls back 26:57 - Dealing with early ejaculation 30:28 - Helping a stressed partner get in the mood 33:56 - Top sex toy recommendations 34:28 - Myth: Lube is only for older women Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's be honest — for all the progress we've made, most of us still don't know how to talk about sex. We can talk about work, money, kids, literally everything else. But ask your partner what actually turns them on? Cue panic. In this live show, Dr. Emily opens up the gates for your questions and wow, you did not hold back. She tackles why sex stops feeling fun and starts feeling like a chore, what's really going on when desire disappears, and how to flip the script from obligation back to connection. This episode was recorded live across my social platforms at @sexwithemily — a new evolution of the show as we head into my 21st year of the podcast. After over two decades of talking about sex, I’ve learned that real, unscripted conversations create the deepest breakthroughs. You’ll hear real questions, real interaction, and the energy of being live together as we explore how to build a sex life that actually feels good — without shame or judgment. Don't forget to tune in on most Tuesdays and Thursdays at 5 PM PST on Instagram, Tiktok, YouTube, Facebook, and Twitch all @sexwithemily.  In this episode, you'll learn: • Why sex becomes "just another item on the to-do list" and what that really means  • The difference between duty and desire — and why confusing them breeds resentment  • How to rebrand sex as connection instead of obligation More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. This episode is sponsored by…  Bellesa  "EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast" Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 2:36 - "Pick Up Laundry, Do Dishes, Have Sex... Check" 6:07 - When You're Not in the Mood to Give 12:25 - How to Ask Someone Out (Live Caller) 14:26 - Can You Make Her Squirt? Techniques That Actually Work 22:22 - How to Get Your Partner to Want Intimacy Again 30:53 - Finding a Third: Dos and Don'ts for Couples 36:08 - The Power of Edging 40:38 - "Desire Needs Space, Not Stress" 47:29 - How to Make Sex Feel Like Connection Again Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EPISODE SUMMARY Dolly Josette is a somatic sexologist and intimacy coach known as "The Pleasure Muse" who helps people reconnect with their bodies to unlock deeper pleasure. In this episode, Dolly returns to the show to explore why so many of us feel disconnected from our own sensations, where trauma actually lives in the body, and how a few minutes of daily practice can transform your relationship with pleasure. She and Dr. Emily get into embodiment work, why your genitals might be holding onto more than you realize, and what it really means to stop abandoning yourself for others. In this episode, you'll learn: • What somatic sexology actually is and how it differs from talk therapy • Why your body stores emotions and trauma in your fascia and genitals • The simple exercise that can help you release blocks you didn't know you had • Why you can't figure out what you want sexually until your body feels safe • How to do a "vulva hug" and why your genitals might be craving your attention • The real reason pleasure fades after the honeymoon phase • Why embodiment isn't another thing on your to-do list — it's how you live • How long it actually takes to build an embodiment practice that sticks • The one song a day practice that can pull you back into your body • What your body is trying to tell you when you feel frozen or shut down • How to access your partner's prostate for maximum pleasure More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. This episode is sponsored by…  Bellesa  "EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast" Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 2:12 - What is Somatic Sexology and Body Work? 5:02 - Why You Can't Feel Pleasure Until Your Body Feels Safe 9:03 - How Trauma Gets Stored in Your Genitals 14:54 - The Power of Slowing Down During Intimate Touch 20:51 - Hungry Hungry Vagina: HRT and Hormonal Changes 27:02 - Finding Your Pleasure Spot at the Vaginal Entrance 29:36 - How to Stimulate the Prostate for Maximum Pleasure 36:40 - Why You Need More Non-Sexual Touch in Your Life 41:03 - Your Body is Craving Your Attention Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mark Groves is a human connection specialist who transformed his own painful relationship patterns into wisdom he now shares with millions. In this episode, Mark opens up about the Thanksgiving dinner betrayal that shut him down at 19, the years he spent as an emotionally unavailable guy, and the breakthrough that finally let him receive love. In this episode we dig into codependency, why chemistry fades, and what it actually takes to build a relationship where you can be fully yourself. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why a failed one-night stand taught Mark more about himself than years of relationships • The real definition of codependency and why it's not just about addiction • How to identify your "Thanksgiving dinner moment" that shaped how you love • Why the space between partners disappears and chemistry dies in long-term relationships • The question that reveals if you're being codependent in the bedroom • What "liberated love" looks like and why truth-telling is the foundation • How Mark and his wife broke up, had a closing ceremony, and came back stronger • Why your capacity to love equals your capacity to lose • The three things you can do now to get on the path toward the love you want • How parenthood changes intimacy and why the six-week clearance is misleading • What to do when you can't stop fantasizing about past flings while in a relationship More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. This episode is sponsored by…  Magnesium, multiplied. 10 forms for total support. Go to https://qualialife.com/SEXWITHEMILY to get 50% off and save an extra 15% with the code SEXWITHEMILY Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 3:13 - How Mark Started Sharing Vulnerable Relationship Advice  8:31 - The Thanksgiving Dinner That Changed Everything  16:00 - Finding Your "Moment" That Shapes How You Love  20:13 - What Is Codependency Really?  30:04 - Signs You're in a Codependent Pattern  33:51 - Why Couples Stop Having Sex (It's Not What You Think)  39:17 - How Parenthood Changes Your Sex Life  51:01 - Use Your Relationship to Become Everything  54:53 - Listener Question: Can't Stop Thinking About Past Flings  1:02:55 - Quickie Q&A Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EPISODE SUMMARY Dr. Emily visits the office of urogynecologist Dr. Patricia Wallace to explore the hidden world of pelvic health—and why it matters so much for sexual pleasure. From the muscles that control your orgasms to the hormones that fuel desire, Dr. Wallace breaks down what's actually happening in your body and what you can do about it at every age. In this episode, you'll learn: • What your pelvic floor actually is and why 80% of women can't properly contract it • The connection between pelvic floor strength and orgasm intensity • How to do a kegel correctly using yogic breathing techniques • Why recurrent UTIs happen and the supplement hack that prevents them • The truth about hormone therapy and why that 20-year-old study shouldn't scare you • What "optimal" hormone levels mean versus just "normal" lab ranges • How testosterone affects women's sex drive—and when supplementation helps • The real timeline for postpartum sexual recovery (hint: it's not 6 weeks) • Why the Emsella chair delivers 12,000 pelvic floor contractions in one session • How core strength affects everything from incontinence to back pain to sexual confidence More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. This episode is sponsored by…  Bellesa  "EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast" Je Joue ⁠https://www.jejoue.com/products/hera-flex-rabbit-vibrator?utm_source=SWE-HeraFLEXPODCAST&utm_medium=SWE-HeraFLEXPODCAST⁠ Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 1:53 - What Is Your Pelvic Floor & Why Should You Care 4:41 - The UTI Hack Most Women Don't Know About 6:52 - First Steps When You Suspect Perimenopause 9:01 - The 80% Orgasm Problem (And How to Fix It) 10:20 - How to Do a Kegel Correctly (Live Tutorial) 14:04 - What the Emsella Chair Actually Does to Your Body 17:06 - How Hormone Replacement Changes Sexual Function 20:05 - Pregnant Sex & Postpartum Recovery Truth 24:00 - Protecting Your Pelvic Floor Before Problems Start 29:01 - Why Core Strength Makes You Sexy From the Inside Out Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EPISODE SUMMARY Dr. Emily sits down with relationship expert Matthew Hussey to decode modern dating, from confusing chemistry with compatibility to knowing when someone's actually emotionally available. Matthew breaks down why we keep choosing the wrong people, how to set boundaries without sabotaging connection, and the texting behaviors that reveal true interest levels. In this episode, you'll learn: • The difference between chemistry and compatibility—and why excitement often masks anxiety • How to identify emotional availability in the first few dates • Why having standards matters more than having a "type" • The art of expressing needs without coming across as needy • Red flags in texting culture and what silence really means • How to break patterns of settling and choose better partners • Why vulnerability creates attraction (and how to practice it) • When to walk away from situationships that aren't serving you • How self-worth directly impacts who you attract and keep • Strategies for building sexual tension while deepening emotional intimacy More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. This episode is sponsored by… Qualia:  Magnesium, multiplied. 10 forms for total support. Go to qualialife.com/SEXWITHEMILY to get 50% off and save an extra 15% with the code SEXWITHEMILY.  Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro: The Dolphin Metaphor - Understanding Our Conditioning 1:36 - Meet Matthew Hussey: Dating Expert & Confidence Coach 6:48 - Matthew's Journey with Chronic Pain & The Concept of "Happy Enough" 13:18 - Matthew's Evolution & The Pain of Helping Others 18:26 - Lighting the Fuse: Detonating Your Own Life Before It Implodes 25:17 - Anxiety in Relationships & The Wall We Keep Crashing Into 32:45 - The Dolphin Tank: How Our Past Shapes Our Reality 37:41 - Core Confidence: You Don't Need to Be Special to Love Yourself 42:15 - Giving Yourself Closure & Modeling Healthy Standards 48:26 - Five Quickie Questions & Outro Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EPISODE SUMMARY Dr. Emily shares three listener success stories that prove honest communication transforms sex lives. Graham's pegging journey opened up conversations he and his wife never had before. Calvin and his wife of 20+ years had their first spontaneous threesome after a night of dancing. And Jasmine finally experienced her first penetrative orgasm after years of frustration—by standing up for her needs and incorporating breathing techniques. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why scheduling difficult sexual conversations (outside the bedroom) leads to breakthrough moments • How embodiment during sex—staying present with both sensations AND emotions—deepens connection • The grinding technique that helps many vulva owners orgasm during penetration • Why breathing and edging practices intensify orgasms • How to guide your mind back when it wanders during sex If you have a sexy story to share, send it to feedback@sexwithemily.com with "sexy story" in the subject line. More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. This episode is sponsored by…  Bellesa  "EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast" Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 1:36 - Graham's Pegging Success: How Communication Transformed Their Marriage 4:18 - Why Pegging Is Vulnerable for Men & Breaking Masculine Taboos 7:38 - Calvin's First Threesome: From Dance Floor to Bedroom 11:48 - The Importance of Being Embodied During Sex 13:44 - Jasmine's Journey: Overcoming Abuse to Achieve Her First Penetrative Orgasm 17:04 - Standing Up for Your Sexual Needs in Relationships 20:00 - The Grinding Technique & Clitoral Stimulation During Penetration 21:44 - Using Breath & Fantasy to Stay Present During Sex 23:37 - Wrap-Up & How to Share Your Story Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EPISODE SUMMARY In this episode, Emily sits down with volleyball legend Gabby Reece—professional athlete, podcast host of The Gabby Reece Show, entrepreneur—to talk about the unsexy truths that actually keep long-term relationships alive. Gabby pulls no punches as she reveals her controversial "48-hour sex rule," and how treating sex like going to the gym (just get your shoes on and show up) has sustained their passion for decades. This conversation dismantles the romanticized version of marriage and replaces it with raw honesty about vulnerability, stoicism almost ending her relationship, and why "misogynists are bitches" but real masculinity is powerful, protective, and tender. Gabby shares her four rules for keeping an alpha male happy (hint: food and sex made the list), the farmer versus flower dynamic that prevents resentment, and why her self-care hierarchy puts herself first, her relationship second, and her kids third—unapologetically. In this episode, you'll learn: • The 48-hour sex rule works—scheduling sex isn't sexy, but it's sexier than one partner begging and the other constantly rejecting; Gabby and Laird have sex every other day, and she admits she strategically loads her calendar the day after because she "doesn't have to answer to anyone" • Clear the decks daily to avoid divorce—Laird confronts everything immediately (every look, tone, word) so resentments never build; Gabby credits this practice with saving their marriage after years of her being too stoic nearly ended it • Understanding the farmer vs. flower dynamic—sometimes one partner is in the spotlight (the flower) while the other supports (the farmer), and the roles switch; when one person is always the farmer, resentment builds and relationships suffer • Real masculinity isn't misogyny—true masculine strength includes compassion, protection, and tenderness; we've trained men to feel bad about their masculinity, and bringing kindness (not anger) while setting boundaries helps everyone thrive • You have the goods—ask for what you want—Gabby's advice to young women about sex is radical: stop performing, start demanding your pleasure, and remember that good sex is about mutual understanding, not just one person's orgasm More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. This episode is sponsored by…  Common Confidential  Use code SEXWITHEMILY! https://commonconfidential.com/s/sexwithemily Bellesa  "EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast" Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 1:21 - The Challenge of Bringing More Play Into Life 7:06 - 28 Years Together: Gabby's 3 Keys to a Strong Marriage 9:03 - Clear the Decks: Daily Communication That Saves Relationships 14:19 - Farmer vs Flower: Understanding Relationship Roles 22:48 - Why Self-Care Isn't Selfish (Especially for Moms) 28:34 - Lifting Weights: The Real Anti-Aging Secret for Women 29:04 - The 4 Rules for Keeping Your Partner Happy 39:18 - The 48-Hour Rule 42:26 - When You're Doing It for Them (And Why That's OK) 50:01 - Biggest Turn-Ons, Turn-Offs & Sex Advice for Young Women Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EPISODE SUMMARY In this episode, Emily sits down with Todd Baratz—sex therapist and author of How to Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind—to challenge everything you think you know about relationships. Todd dismantles the fairy tale myth of "the one" and reveals why our obsession with diagnosing every difficult person as a narcissist is keeping us stuck. From exploring how oral sex can make or break your relationship to understanding why some people view emotional depth as "too much," this conversation reframes love as messy, complicated, and beautifully imperfect. T In this episode, you'll learn: • Your relationship "shoulds" are sabotaging you—every rule you've internalized about what partners should text, do, or provide creates unnecessary conflict and anxiety; letting go of these expectations (especially "the one" who fulfills all your needs) is the first step to realistic, sustainable love • Not everyone is a narcissist—our tendency to diagnose and label ourselves and others amplifies anxiety rather than solving problems; sometimes people are just incompatible, not disordered, and that's okay • You're not "too much," you just need the right match—if someone views your emotional depth and authenticity as intensity, it's because they lack the capacity to handle genuine connection; finding someone who can meet you where you need to be met is about compatibility, not fixing yourself • Sex is really about connection—when you're craving sex, you're often actually craving intimacy, vulnerability, touch, and being truly seen; understanding this deeper need helps address desire discrepancies and creates more fulfilling sexual experiences • Dating people who can't connect emotionally—approach them with compassion and curiosity, try to create space for vulnerability, but if they can't or won't open up, accept that they might not be your person and walk away without trying to force everyone to do the work you're doing More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. This episode is sponsored by…  Bellesa EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast" Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 2:03 - Letting Go of "The One" & Outdated Relationship Rules 5:22 - How We "Should" All Over Our Relationships 7:26 - Understanding Your Intergenerational Trauma Story 10:23 - Growth Happens in Relationships, Not Just Self-Love 13:12 - Why We Keep Dating the Same Type of Person 17:16 - How to Connect With Men Who Struggle to Connect 22:38 - Listener Questions: Situationships & Communication 5:01 - Oral Sex Should Be Reciprocated (Period) 29:04 - The Truth About Mismatched Desire in Long-Term Relationships 32:46 - Five Quickie Questions with Todd Barrets 34:04 - Turnons: Emily & Erica Discuss Childhood Patterns 47:02 - The Connection Between Mental Health and Sex Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EPISODE SUMMARY In this episode, Emily sits down with Amy Chan—founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp and author of Breakup Bootcamp: The Science of Rewiring Your Heart—to explore why we keep choosing the wrong partners and how to break the cycle. Amy shares her revolutionary 12-person dating experiment that forces clients to date outside their type, revealing how our "type" isn't about physical traits but the emotional patterns we unconsciously repeat. From spotting unavailable partners to understanding the difference between passionate love and companionate love, this conversation reframes dating as a discovery process rather than a high-stakes audition. Amy breaks down why great daters often struggle in relationships, how to recognize your recurring emotional patterns, and why your best friend you want to make out with might be the person you've been overlooking all along. In this episode, you'll learn: • Your "type" is an emotional pattern, not a physical one—by identifying the five main emotions from your last three relationships, you can spot the cycle you keep repeating (like anxiety from chasing unavailable partners) and consciously choose different experiences • The dating experiment that rewires your brain—dating 12 people outside your type without getting into a relationship removes the pressure of finding "the one" and trains you to be present, recognize how you actually feel with someone, and notice who genuinely treats you well • Why passionate love fades and what replaces it—the neurochemical high of early romance naturally transitions to companionate love, and understanding this shift helps you stop mistaking familiarity for incompatibility and start building the deeper intimacy that sustains long-term relationships • The dating funnel approach—treating early dates like lead generation (just asking "Am I having fun? Do I want to see them again?") instead of evaluating someone as your future life partner eliminates job-interview energy and lets authentic connection emerge naturally • Stop performing, start choosing—moving from "waiting to be chosen" to actively selecting partners based on how they make you feel (not just how they look on paper) puts you in control of your romantic life and attracts people who appreciate your authentic self More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. This episode is sponsored by…  Bellesa EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast" Bathmate- https://bathmatedirect.com/sexwithemily/v4/podcast Timestamps: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Emily breaks down her 2025 Holiday Gift Guide through the lens of the five pillars of sexual intelligence—embodiment, health, self-knowledge, self-acceptance, and collaboration. She explores how shifting from performance to presence can transform your relationship with pleasure, offering curated tools and practices that help you slow down, feel your body, and understand yourself as a sexual being. This episode is for anyone ready to move beyond quick fixes and embrace a more holistic approach to sexuality, turning intimacy into something that nourishes your whole system. In this episode, you’ll learn: • The five pillars of Sex IQ create a holistic framework for understanding your sexuality and taking responsibility for your pleasure—moving you from performance to presence • Embodiment practices like breathwork and sonic wave toys help you overcome the mind-body disconnect during sex by bringing you back to physical sensations instead of staying in your head worrying about how you look or what you need to do • Self-acceptance isn't about waiting for your body to change—it's about recognizing and reframing the pleasure thieves (stress, trauma, and shame) that tell you you're unworthy, and actively replacing negative thought patterns with affirmations that honor your body right now More Dr. Emily:  • The 2025 Sex With Emily Holiday Gift Guide • Apply for Emily's 1:1 Coaching Opportunity HERE or reach out to enrollment@sexwithemily.com for more information  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Shop the Holiday Gift Guide now! (See the full Gift Guide HERE)  Embodiment: • LELO SONA 3- Use code EMILY20 for 20% on top of ongoing sales at lelo.com • Common Confidential Massage Butter- Use code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off at Commonconfidential.com. • Cornbread Hemp - Use code SWE for a discount at cornbreadhemp.com/swe  Health: • Bathmate Hydro Pump-  Use SWE10 for 10% off your order at bathmatedirect.com • HigherDOSE Infrared Sauna Blanket- Head to higherdose.com • V-Health Vaginal Rejuvenation Gel- Use code EMILY10 for 10% off at getvhealth.com  • Kroma Wellness Beauty Matcha Latte - Use code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off at kromawellness.com  Collaboration:  • Promescent Delay Spray- Head to promescent.com  • LELO F2S- Use code EMILY20 for 20% on top of ongoing sales at lelo.com  • Crave Leather Handcuffs- Head to shop.sexwithemily.com/crave  Self- Knowledge: • Magic Wand Mini - Head to shop.sexwithemily.com/magicwand  • Je Joue Hera Flex Rabbit Vibrator - Go to sexwithemily.com/hera and use code EMILY20 for 20% off  • SmartSX- Head to sexwithemily.com/smartsx  Self- Acceptance:  • The Class - Head to theclass.com  • Droplette- Head to droplette.io This episode is sponsored by…  Biolouve- Get 15% off with code EMILYPOWERMOVE @ https://biolouve.com/  Timestamps 0:00 - Introduction 1:25 - The 5 Pillars of Sex IQ Framework 2:36 - Pillar 1: Embodiment 10:23 - Pillar 2: Health 17:52 - Pillar 3: Collaboration 24:44 - Pillar 4: Self-Knowledge 29:39 - Pillar 5: Self-Acceptance 34:21 - Wrap-Up Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card!  ⁠⁠https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Try Timeline today! Text “EMILY” to 57237 and claim your FREE 3-day Trial of Gummies. Your cells will thank you! Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Episode Description In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily sits down with Chelsey Goodan—the teenage girl whisperer whose new book "Underestimated" is revealing what happens when we actually start listening to the demographic we've been underestimating for generations. The surprisingly simple question that gets teenage girls to open up after years of shutting everyone out—and why the adults in their lives have been approaching these conversations completely backwards (hint: it's the same reason your last "how was school today?" got a one-word answer). Why teenage girls can spot your hidden agenda from a mile away, and the radical honesty approach that creates trust faster than any parenting book you've read—even when you think you're being subtle with your "protective" white lies. The age that girls start dieting that will make you rethink every compliment you've ever given a child—and the unconscious behavior women are modeling that's sabotaging the next generation's relationship with their bodies before they even hit puberty. That thing you keep saying is "fine" when it's absolutely not fine, and how the people-pleasing patterns you picked up as a teenage girl are still running your sex life, your relationships, and every dinner party you've ever thrown. The connection between your relationship to sex and your actual power that nobody talks about—and why embracing your "weird" might be the permission slip you need to stop performing and start feeling. Plus: why giving girls agency doesn't mean abandoning your role as a parent, and the one body-related comment you should never make to a teenage girl, even when you think you're being helpful. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 2:24 - The Power of Radical Honesty in Building Trust 7:00 - Why Perfectionism and People-Pleasing Start in Teenage Years 11:44 - Sexuality, Consent, and the Double Standards Girls Face 18:14 - Slut-Shaming: How It Wounds Girls and What We Can Do 21:04 - Teaching Girls Their Anatomy: Why "Vulva" Matters 24:20 - Breaking the Cycle of Shame Around Sex 29:04 - Gen Z Friendships: Girls Supporting Girls Instead of Competing 32:35 - Healing Your Inner Teenage Girl as an Adult 38:43 - The Performance Trap: Why Girls Can't Get Out of Their Heads During Sex 43:09 - Overcoming Sexual Anxiety: Practical Advice for Women 46:24 - Body Image Wounds: How Moms' Self-Criticism Impacts Daughters Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card!  ⁠⁠⁠https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast⁠ Sponsored by Je Joue ⁠https://www.jejoue.com/products/hera-flex-rabbit-vibrator?utm_source=SWE-HeraFLEXPODCAST&utm_medium=SWE-HeraFLEXPODCAST⁠ Join the SmartSX Membership : ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx⁠ Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: ⁠https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ⁠ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/ Episode Description Jordana Abraham and Jared Freed from the U Up? podcast join Dr. Emily for a lively conversation about navigating modern dating without losing your mind. They kick things off with dating horror stories—including Jared's epic backwards fall off a patio chair that took out a sandwich board and a heat lamp. The conversation dives into why so many dates feel like obligations instead of opportunities. Jared and Jordana explain the "sure, I'll go" trap—how settling for matches that are just "fine" leads to boring dates and dating burnout. They emphasize trusting your gut and only going on dates when you're genuinely excited, not just because you feel like you should. They tackle dating app fatigue, discussing why some people thrive on apps while others find them soul-crushing. The key insight: it's about how you use them. Treating apps like a binge-worthy Netflix show instead of something you check in on intentionally (like one hour a week) kills the fun and makes everything feel transactional. The episode includes a listener question about a toxic long-distance relationship where a 22-year-old woman keeps breaking up and getting back together with an insecure boyfriend who constantly asks "are you still into me?" Jared and Jordana break down why this is a mismatch built on drama rather than trust, why her friends are right to be concerned, and how to choose which friends to actually listen to when it comes to relationship advice. They wrap with quickfire questions about turn-ons, turn-offs, what makes good sex, and the number one thing everyone should know: just because the sex is good doesn't mean the relationship is good. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 4:32 - Why "Sure, I'll Go" is Ruining Your Dating Life 10:09 - Dating App Profile Tips That Actually Work 12:43 - The Truth About Casual Sex on Dating Apps 18:13 - Are You Too Picky or Protecting Your Peace? 20:15 - The Ick Factor: When Small Things End Relationships 24:24 - Friend Zone Reality Check: When They're Not Into You 30:20 - Age Gap Sex Anxiety: Why He's Holding Back 33:24 - Toxic Long-Distance Relationship Red Flags 37:40 - Five Quickies: Turn-Ons, Turn-Offs & Sex Advice Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card!  ⁠⁠https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Magnesium, multiplied. 10 forms for total support. Go to ⁠https://qualialife.com/SEXWITHEMILY⁠ to get 50% off and save an extra 15% with the code SEXWITHEMILY. Sponsored by Je Joue https://www.jejoue.com/products/hera-flex-rabbit-vibrator?utm_source=SWE-HeraFLEXPODCAST&utm_medium=SWE-HeraFLEXPODCAST Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Episode Description In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily sits down with Liz Moody—bestselling author, podcast host, and the woman who turned her life around from severe agoraphobia to help others level up their lives with science-backed strategies. The morbid exercise that Liz swears by for making better decisions in bed and everywhere else—and why thinking about your 85-year-old self might be the permission slip you need to stop worrying about how your thighs look in those pants. Why "friends with benefits" might mean something completely different to you than it does to your partner—and the crucial conversation most couples skip before slapping labels on their relationship (spoiler: this applies to marriage too). The biggest myth about what makes someone "good" in bed, and why Liz believes your sex life can transform no matter where you're starting from. That one body part you've never considered an erogenous zone—until Liz reveals hers and suddenly you're rethinking everything you thought you knew about turn-ons. The real reason habits fail (hint: it's not about willpower)—and why letting go of routines that once served you doesn't make you a failure, it makes you self-aware. Plus: the conversation starter deck that's saving marriages by getting couples on the same page about money, desire, childhood trauma, and the question "how much do you need to feel safe?" that revealed way more than Liz expected. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 2:00 - The 100 Ways Framework: Spring Cleaning Your Life 5:00 - Think About Your Death: The Power of Zoom-Out Perspective 8:07 - Micro Workouts: Movement for Mental Health, Not Body Size 9:55 - Rewire Your Brain for Happiness: The 5-Second Joy Practice 16:00 - Be the CEO of Your Household: Weekly Relationship Meetings 18:30 - Sex Starts When You Wake Up: Micro Intimacy Throughout the Day 21:47 - Why Communication Makes Sex Better After 15 Years 28:12 - Let Your Partner Surprise You: Breaking Free from Old Resentments 30:00 - Your Personal Bill of Rights (Including Sexual Rights) 32:05 - The Orgasm Gap: Why 20 Minutes is Normal 36:24 - Body Confidence: Your Body is for Living, Not Looking 42:01 - Boundaries as Energy Protection (Not Just Saying "No") 49:51 - Friends with Benefits to Dating: Defining Your Relationship 56:28 - Lightning Round: Biggest Turn-Ons & Sex Advice Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card!  ⁠⁠https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast TIMELINE Try Timeline today! Text “EMILY” to 57237 and claim your FREE 3-day Trial of Gummies. Your cells will thank you! QUALIA Magnesium, multiplied. 10 forms for total support. Go to ⁠https://qualialife.com/SEXWITHEMILY⁠ to get 50% off and save an extra 15% with the code SEXWITHEMILY. Sponsored by Je Joue https://www.jejoue.com/products/hera-flex-rabbit-vibrator?utm_source=SWE-HeraFLEXPODCAST&utm_medium=SWE-HeraFLEXPODCAST Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Episode Description In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily and producer Erica tackle your trickiest relationship and sex questions—and some of these situations are messier than you think. The wife having sex 5+ times a week who's being pressured to set midnight alarms so her husband can wake her up for more—why this isn't about frequency at all, and the real need he's actually trying to fill. That guy who insists oral sex should only happen "on special occasions" because it gets "taken for granted": what this scarcity mindset reveals about his past relationships, his skill anxiety, or his actual preference—and whether this is a dealbreaker you're discovering early. The biological reason men wake up ready for sex in the middle of the night while their partners are deep asleep—and why disrupting your sleep hygiene to feel "desired" is a Band-Aid on a much deeper issue. When your partner believes doing something too often creates expectations they can't meet: the philosophy problem that shows up in bed and everywhere else, and what "taken for granted" really means about their view on compliments, effort, and intimacy. Why oral sex as foreplay is the norm, not the exception—and how to navigate a partner who sees it as the main event that loses its magic with repetition. Plus: the conversation framework for exploring where your partner's sexual beliefs actually come from, and why the first few months of dating are just data collection on whether you're actually compatible. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 1:01 - Question 1: Rejecting Partner's Advances in the Middle of the Night 6:42 - Understanding Nocturnal Erections and Gender Differences in Arousal 10:10 - Question 2: Feeling Done with a Sexless Marriage After 7 Years 16:20 - Question 3: Getting Upset When Partner Doesn't Want Sex (Mismatched Libidos) 21:28 - Question 4: Dealing with Low Libido and Performance Anxiety at 42 25:10 - Question 5: Wanting Oral Sex Every Time, Not Just Special Occasions 32:52 - Closing Thoughts and How to Connect with Dr. Emily Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card!  ⁠⁠https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Sponsored by Je Joue https://www.jejoue.com/products/hera-flex-rabbit-vibrator?utm_source=SWE-HeraFLEXPODCAST&utm_medium=SWE-HeraFLEXPODCAST QUALIA Magnesium, multiplied. 10 forms for total support. Go to https://qualialife.com/SEXWITHEMILY to get 50% off and save an extra 15% with the code SEXWITHEMILY. Try Timeline today! Text “EMILY” to 57237 and claim your FREE 3-day Trial of Gummies. Your cells will thank you! Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Episode Description In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily breaks down what's really happening in your body during orgasm—and why you might not even know if you've had one. The physical signs that prove you're orgasming—even when there's no "explosive release" moment, and why your experience might look nothing like what you've been told to expect. That partner who goes full jackhammer the entire time: the exact conversation framework to redirect them without crushing their ego—and why most people need those fast strokes eventually, just not the whole damn time. A listener whose new partner believes orgasms damage your mental health and relationships—what this anti-climax philosophy gets right about connection, and what the science actually says about orgasms strengthening your bond. The guilt trap of needing fantasy to finish during oral: why your imagination became your default pathway to orgasm, and the five-senses technique that retrains your brain to stay present with your partner instead. How to find your G-area (because it's not a "spot"): the exact finger motion, positions, and toy shapes that actually work—and why this spongy tissue is just your internal clitoris showing up to the party. Plus: what squirting really is, why dry orgasms happen, and the neural pathway secret that means you can learn to orgasm in completely different ways than you do now. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 2:25 - The Science of Orgasm: What Actually Happens in Your Body 4:28 - The Four Stages of Orgasm Explained 6:39 - Clitoral Orgasms: Understanding Your 12,000 Nerve Endings 10:33 - G-Area Orgasms: Finding Your Internal Pleasure Zone (Plus Mirror Technique) 14:26 - Squirting & Female Ejaculation: Separating Facts from Fiction 17:46 - Dry Orgasms & Semen Retention for Penis Owners 19:43 - Hands-Free Orgasms: Tantric Breathing & Orgasmic Meditation 22:42 - The Jackhammer Problem: Why Fast Penetration Doesn't Work for Most Vulva Owners 29:35 - Fantasy vs. Presence: How to Stay in the Moment During Sex Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Magnesium, multiplied. 10 forms for total support. Go to https://qualialife.com/SEXWITHEMILY to get 50% off and save an extra 15% with the code SEXWITHEMILY. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Episode Description In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily takes live listener calls and answers the questions you're dying to ask but won't. A caller discovers she can only finish one very specific way—what's really happening in your pelvis when your legs are straight, and why changing this pattern might unlock entirely new pleasure. The masturbation habit that's secretly limiting your orgasms—and the exploration technique that expands your body's repertoire without any pressure to "fix" yourself. Why one couple finds anal more pleasurable than vaginal sex, what this reveals about nerve endings you didn't know you had, and the specialist who can actually help if penetration hurts. Plus, what happens when you stop chasing what you think should feel good and start discovering what actually does. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 1:57 - Orgasming with Straight Legs: Finding Positions That Work for Your Body 7:42 - Why Having One Way to Orgasm Is Completely Normal 8:38 - Dating After Loss: Navigating Chastity Play & Delayed Ejaculation 16:21 - Male Chastity Explained: Pleasure Beyond the Dominant Role 17:43 - Erotic Lactation: A Surprisingly Common Intimacy Practice 24:15 - When Anal Sex Feels Better Than Vaginal: Understanding Different Pleasure Pathways 27:40 - The Clitoris Extends Internally: Why Anal Orgasms Are Possible 29:37 - Dealing with Vaginal Pain: You Don't Have to Live with Discomfort Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! ⁠⁠https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymo... QUALIA Magnesium, multiplied. 10 forms for total support. Go to https://qualialife.com/SEXWITHEMILY to get 50% off and save an extra 15% with the code SEXWITHEMILY. Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Sponsored by Je Joue https://www.jejoue.com/products/hera-flex-rabbit-vibrator?utm_source=SWE-HeraFLEXPODCAST&utm_medium=SWE-HeraFLEXPODCAST In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily sits down with developmental psychologist Dr. Aliza Pressman—and discovers why her parenting book kept her up at night, even though she's not a parent. Why an entire generation is having less sex: the isolation epidemic where teens sit next to each other scrolling instead of connecting—and why even being in the same room doesn't mean being together anymore. The porn conversation most parents get wrong: instead of saying "this isn't good for you" (which teens reject), try "watching this is a vote for exploitation"—because teenagers care more about justice than their own wellbeing. The five principles that work for every parenting crisis—from catching your kid watching porn to finding your vibrator: relationship, reflection, regulation, rules, and repair. Why your reaction when your nine-year-old feels aroused by porn determines whether they carry shame for years—and the exact words to say instead. The pronoun and gender panic parents are feeling: why we don't have the data yet, the pendulum always swings back, and why being curious beats being certain. The magic wand incident: what to text your mortified teenager after she's caught with your vibrator—and why "I'm here with any questions" is enough. The truth about love that Dr. Pressman wishes she'd known younger: love is not anxiety. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 2:10 - The Five R's Framework for Difficult Conversations 4:58 - How Phones Are Destroying Teen Connection & Intimacy 7:08 - Talking to Kids About Porn: The Social Justice Approach 10:12 - What to Do When Your Kid Watches Porn (Real Parent Story) 14:34 - The Power of Repair in All Relationships 20:30 - Navigating Gender, Pronouns & Sexual Identity with Kids 28:26 - Why We Need to Stop Gendering Empathy 34:00 - Raising Sexually Healthy Humans Without Being Weird 38:30 - My Teenager Found My Vibrator: What Now? 39:46 - Five Quickfire Questions on Sex & Relationships Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card!  ⁠https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Magnesium, multiplied. 10 forms for total support. Go to https://qualialife.com/SEXWITHEMILY to get 50% off and save an extra 15% with the code SEXWITHEMILY. Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily brings on sex educator Dr. Emily Nagoski for a live conversation—and they get brutally honest about their own sex lives falling apart. Why even bestselling sex experts lose their desire—and how Dr. Emily's nervous system was so shot she didn't even want orgasms. The myth that kept her terrified to stop sex once it started: believing "blue balls" required hospitalization—and the truth that you can stop and start anytime. A parent worried their college-age kids aren't having sex or relationships—the questions to ask instead of pushing sex on them, and why nobody dies from not having sex but people do die from loneliness. The most important thing parents can do around sexuality: unlearn your own shame first—because your embarrassment when they ask questions teaches them more than any words ever could. The reframe for anyone struggling with desire: what you actually want when you want sex (it's not orgasm—you can do that alone), and what you don't want when you don't want sex. Timestamps: 0:00 – Introduction 1:26 – Sex Experts Lose Desire Too 7:24 – The Pleasure Thieves 17:53 – Why It's Okay to Stop During Sex 20:20 – Cold Feet and Orgasms 25:50 – The Role of Shame 30:17 – Navigating Social Media Censorship 35:41 – Teaching Kids About Sex 38:47 – The Patriarchy Problem 39:49 – Closing Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card!  ⁠https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily sits down with celebrity dating coach Damona Hoffman to dismantle the fairy tales keeping you stuck in your dating life. Why your mile-long partner checklist (six feet tall, specific job, perfect abs) is sabotaging your search for real compatibility—and the question you should ask instead: "How do I want to feel?" The difference between dating for superficial traits versus shared life goals—why wanting a yoga partner matters way less than wanting the freedom to pursue your own interests in a relationship. A caller who's getting ghosted on dating apps wonders if women have too many options—the real reason your profile isn't working, and it has nothing to do with competition. The "three C's" that'll transform your dating profile overnight: strategic color to stand out, context that tells your story, and character that shows who you really are (no sunglasses photos—we need to see your eyes). Why "chemistry at first sight" is actually lust, and you can't know if you love someone the minute you look into their eyes—the three-date rule that gives real connection time to build. The reframe that takes the pressure off: stop trying to be liked and start being upfront about what you want—it'll filter out the wrong people and attract your actual match. Timestamps: 0:00 – Introduction 1:21 – F The Fairytale 13:00 – The Dating Tracker Strategy That Changes Everything 22:48 – Values Over Political Labels in Dating 25:48 – The Chemistry Myth 34:15 – How to Know If You're Coming On Too Strong 45:07 – Dating Profile Photos: The Three C's 47:35 – Five Quickie Questions 49:17 – Closing and Where to Find Damona Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card!  https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily brings back holistic psychologist Dr. Scott Lyons for live caller coaching sessions that'll change how you think about sex and dating. A woman married 10 years whose husband won't explore sexually at all—why "I want to try new things" might sound like "what we're doing isn't good enough" to a partner raised in a conservative home. What "deepthroating" really represents when your partner grew up being told sex was wrong—and the outside-the-bedroom conversation they need to have before anything changes in bed. A woman terrified about her first date after a breakup because she thinks the sex will be "unwilling"—the breathwork practice that gets you out of your anxious mind and into your confident body. Why a first date is just a "warm-up" to see if you're having fun, not an audition for marriage—and how to tell if someone's worth seeing naked just by watching how they treat wait staff. The reframe that takes all the pressure off dating: ditch the checklist, get present in your body, and remember you're the gatekeeper with all the power. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 2:11 - Growing Up Conservative: How Family Beliefs Kill Your Sex Life 6:39 - The Compliment Sandwich: How to Ask for What You Want 9:46 - Antidepressants Killed Our Sex Life: Now What? 12:44 - Medical Issues vs. Sexual Needs: Finding Balance 16:03 - The Power of Hope: Changing Your Sexual Dynamic Instantly 19:03 - Beyond Penetration: Alternative Ways to Stay Connected 24:57 - Dating After Great Sex: Overcoming Fear of Bad Partners 29:44 - First Date Anxiety: Embodiment Practice Before Going Out 34:47 - Stop Performing on Dates: Be Your Authentic Self Instead Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily and producer Erica dive into your questions about sex and relationships. A woman who's been living with her partner for over a year and can't stand his unsexy pecks on the lips anymore—why moving in together kills sexual tension and the surprising move she needs to make instead of waiting for him to change. The listener who ended a relationship because their partner refused to give oral sex—why sexual dealbreakers are valid and the one question Dr. Emily wishes she'd asked before walking away. A man in England with a specific fetish whose girlfriend gets "nasty and defensive" every time he tries to talk about sex—the cultural shame around sex talk that's blocking exploration and whether therapy books can replace actual therapy. Why "I don't want to seem pushy" is code for "we have a communication problem"—and the difference between a fantasy you'd like to explore and a fetish that's a requirement for arousal. The real reason your partner gets defensive when you bring up sex (spoiler: it's not about you). Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 3:14 - Why Living Together Kills Sexual Tension (And How to Fix It) 8:43 - Dating Someone with Herpes: What You Need to Know 10:32 - The Truth About Herpes Transmission and Risk 15:00 - My Partner Won't Give Oral: Should I Break Up? 17:43 - How to Have the Difficult Oral Sex Conversation 21:56 - When Your Partner Won't Explore Your Fetish 23:15 - Defensiveness in Sex Talks: Red Flag or Fixable? 25:54 - When Sexual Incompatibility Becomes a Deal Breaker Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily tackles why starting intimate conversations early matters more than waiting for the "right time"—and how your sex life begins long before you get to the bedroom. A 51-year-old in Spain has been dating someone gorgeous for six weeks with incredible chemistry but zero penetrative sex—discover why having the "are we ready?" conversation over dinner (not after making out) prevents months of unnecessary confusion. Someone married for years realizes they're bisexual but fears coming out will end everything—learn the gradual approach that starts with general sex conversations, not dropping identity bombshells. A long-term couple has never discussed desires or fantasies despite years together—find out why waiting until there's a problem to talk about sex means you've already waited too long. Timestamps: EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily tackles why starting intimate conversations early matters more than waiting for the "right time"—and how your sex life begins long before you get to the bedroom. A 51-year-old in Spain has been dating someone gorgeous for six weeks with incredible chemistry but zero penetrative sex—discover why having the "are we ready?" conversation over dinner (not after making out) prevents months of unnecessary confusion. Someone married for years realizes they're bisexual but fears coming out will end everything—learn the gradual approach that starts with general sex conversations, not dropping identity bombshells. A long-term couple has never discussed desires or fantasies despite years together—find out why waiting until there's a problem to talk about sex means you've already waited too long. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 1:17 - When to Have "The Sex Talk" in a New Relationship 3:26 - Building Sexual Anticipation vs. Rushing Into Sex 5:25 - How to Talk About Sex Before You've Had Sex 8:14 - Faking Orgasms: Why It Hurts Both Partners 11:31 - Reader Question: Navigating Painful Sex & Communication 16:42 - Creating Safety When Past Experiences Were Painful 20:38 - The Importance of Lube and Going Slow 24:16 - Reader Question: Coming Out as Bisexual in Marriage 28:36 - Starting Conversations About Desires & Fantasies 30:38 - Living Your Sexual Truth at Any Age 32:24 - Practical Steps for Difficult Conversations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily breaks down why the sex positions everyone asks about aren't actually the secret to great sex—but learning to move your body intentionally might be. A 21-year-old people pleaser can't stop until her boyfriend finishes (even when exhausted) but worries constantly when he's pleasuring her—discover why treating sex like a finish line kills orgasms. Someone's uncomfortable being on top because she feels exposed and on display—learn the slow-motion approach that makes cowgirl about grinding pleasure, not bouncing performance. A woman's boyfriend has a strongly curved penis causing discomfort, plus he can't orgasm during sex despite being fine alone—find out why curved penises are actually G-spot advantages and why sex lasting "too long" damages vulva owners. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 1:04 - People Pleaser Advice: Breaking Sexual Double Standards 2:46 - The Importance of Being Present During Sex 3:40 - Reframing Sex as a Dance, Not a Finish Line 5:04 - The 69 Position: Practical Tips & Variations 6:25 - Side-by-Side 69: The Game Changer Position 11:42 - Doggy Style Deep Dive: Angles & Modifications 18:09 - Missionary Reimagined: Why It's Underrated 25:07 - Cowgirl Position: Taking Control of Your Pleasure 28:02 - Debunking the Coconut TikTok Trend 29:15 - The Lotus Position: Intimacy & Tantric Connection Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, wellness educator Lauren Roxburgh explains why Western medicine discarded the body system that might be blocking your orgasms—and how to bring it back online. Lauren reveals fascia: the communication network your body uses to record trauma, send arousal signals, and feel everything. Medical schools in the 1900s threw it away as "packing wrap" without studying it. Now we know it's your sixth sense, and when it's congested, you age faster and feel less. A woman with a tilted uterus faces sudden stabbing pain with her well-endowed partner after a decade of great sex—discover why the diagnosis isn't the whole story. Someone's tried every technique for premature ejaculation with zero results—learn why most solutions create the opposite effect and what pro athletes know about lasting longer. A post-menopausal woman on hormones still bleeds during painful sex—hear which ancient practices work when Western medicine falls short. Lauren teaches the reverse Kegel (why opening beats squeezing), how stress clenches your pelvic floor without you knowing, why Brazilians walk differently than Westerners and what that reveals about sexual energy, and the breathing pattern that pumps toxins from your brain while awakening sensation below. If pain during sex, premature ejaculation, or post-menopausal dryness have stumped your doctors, this reveals what they're missing. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 1:16 - What is Fascia? The Body's Communication Network Explained 5:05 - Why Western Medicine Ignored Fascia Until Now 9:36 - How Fascia Impacts Sexual Pleasure and Embodiment 15:03 - Releasing Trauma Stored in Your Body's Tissues 21:27 - The Blood Flow Problem Behind Sexual Dysfunction 27:34 - Pain During Sex: Understanding Your Pelvic Floor 30:24 - The Reverse Kegel Technique for Better Orgasms 33:40 - Painful Sex with Tilted Uterus: Solutions Beyond Positions 38:38 - Fixing Lifelong Premature Ejaculation with Body Work 43:07 - Postmenopausal Pain: When Hormones Aren't Enough Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Dr. Emily answers the questions keeping you up at night: Can bodies be trained to orgasm only one way? When does a kink cross from preference to problem? Is interactive masturbation cheating? Someone orgasms easily alone but never with partners in her open marriage—the neural pathway explanation might surprise you. A husband discovered a humiliation kink after 20 years and his wife doesn't understand why degradation equals arousal—learn what core erotic desires reveal about childhood and why shame keeps most people silent. A woman caught her boyfriend on interactive sex sites after they'd set boundaries—discover when getting curious works better than getting angry, and whether online encounters count as infidelity. Someone raised in sexual repression feels guilty choosing masturbation over partner sex—hear why solo pleasure threatens no one and why that guilt isn't really yours. Then there's the couple having sex twice daily but she rarely orgasms—find out why more isn't better and how to ask for what you need without killing desire. The episode tackles when preference becomes selfishness, why communication about kinks matters more than understanding them, and how bodies get wired to expect certain pleasure patterns. If you've been wondering whether your desires are normal or your boundaries are valid, this gives you permission to stop wondering. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 1:15 - Charlie's Question: How to Orgasm with a Partner 2:34 - Understanding Your Body's Neural Pathways 4:08 - Teaching Multiple Partners Your Pleasure 6:32 - The Value of Mutual Masturbation 7:56 - Ricky's Question: Small Penis Humiliation Kink 10:32 - Understanding Core Erotic Desires 13:33 - Erica's Question: Partner Using Chatterbait 16:24 - Setting Boundaries Around Interactive Sex Sites 20:40 - Rachel's Question: Guilt About Masturbating in Relationships 23:35 - Why Solo Sex Matters Even When Partnered 25:05 - Giovani's Question: Sex Twice Daily But Not Orgasming 27:11 - Quality Over Quantity: Prioritizing Foreplay Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Dr. Emily and producer Erica judge whether you're the asshole when sex drives don't match, and the verdicts might surprise you. A woman daydreams about affairs while her older husband's libido fades—but is desire actually the problem? A man's wife refuses both sex and therapy because he doesn't earn enough—discover why money complaints are never really about money. Someone only wants to receive pleasure, never give it—where's the line between preference and selfishness? Then the hardest question: what do you do when you've tried everything for a decade and still have sex twice a year with someone who recoils at your touch but swears you're their person? Dr. Emily delivers tough love about the "everything but sex" trap, why refusing therapy while refusing intimacy is relationship sabotage, and the brutal truth about waiting for people to change. She breaks down the progression from frustration to resentment to contempt, and issues a wake-up call about the information you're ignoring right now in your own relationship. If you're walking on eggshells, wondering if your needs are unreasonable, or waiting for things to magically improve, this tells you what you need to hear. Timestamps: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Sex educator Susan Bratton reveals why the #1 complaint in heterosexual relationships—"she can't orgasm during intercourse"—isn't about broken bodies, but broken information. With techniques that have her inbox flooded with exclamation points, Susan dismantles everything you thought you knew about penetrative sex. Discover why rushing is killing your pleasure, what ancient Daoists knew about rhythm that porn never taught you, and the counterintuitive move that makes orgasm easier (hint: it's not what you're doing now). Susan explains the arousal gap nobody talks about, reframes the vagina in a way that will change how you touch it, and teaches the "Heart Tongue" approach that transforms mechanical sex into connection. A 50-year-old man asks why his girlfriend can't climax during sex despite trying everything. A 25-year-old wonders if she's ever actually had an orgasm and why "squirting" feels like nothing. Susan guides both through tissue activation, sacred self-pleasure, and why the entrance to the vagina needs to be courted, not conquered. Susan claims her best sex ever and credits specific practices for looking a decade younger than her peers. She shares the "Lips-Nips-Clit Axis," why opening matters more than tightening, and her most-thanked technique involving a 10-count that toggles the nervous system. If you've been chasing sensation instead of connection, this episode rewrites the playbook. Timestamps: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily Q&A episode, Dr. Emily and producer Erica tackle listener questions about fantasies, relationships, and navigating sexual compatibility. They explore cuckolding—one of America's most common fantasies—discussing why partners want to watch their significant other with someone else, the importance of comprehensive pre-negotiation, and why "one and done" promises rarely hold true. A listener living with his ex-boyfriend learns why moving on sexually is so difficult when you're still sharing space, and gets permission to stop pressuring himself during the healing process. The conversation addresses adult baby/diaper fetishes, distinguishing between core erotic desires that are requirements versus nice-to-have fantasies, and explores creative solutions like working with specialized sex workers when partners aren't compatible. Finally, they dissect a toxic relationship pattern where one partner constantly shifts between attraction and rejection, helping a listener recognize when it's time to walk away. Throughout, Dr. Emily emphasizes that early relationship sex fueled by new relationship energy doesn't last forever, the importance of understanding your own pleasure rather than just servicing a partner's wants, and why we need to stop dating people based on their potential to change. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 1:25 - My Boyfriend Wants to Watch Me Have Sex with Another Man 6:02 - Why Cuckolding is One of America's Most Common Fantasies 8:55 - How Do I Move On When I'm Still Living with My Ex? 14:59 - My Wife Thinks My Fetish is Demonic - Is This Marriage Over? 20:53 - He Says I'm Not Attractive Enough Anymore - What Do I Do? 23:29 - Red Flags: When Your Partner Wants You to Change Your Body 26:10 - Closing Thoughts: Stop Fighting for Approval, Start Honoring Your Needs Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily's first guest in the new studio is psychologist Dr. Scott Lyons, author of Addicted to Drama: Healing Dependency on Crisis and Chaos in Yourself and Others. Dr. Lyons reveals how drama addiction isn't just obvious chaos—it's overscheduling, inability to tolerate stillness, and sabotaging intimacy when vulnerability feels threatening. He explains the biology: drama provides energy, numbs pain, and creates sensation that makes us feel alive. Listener questions address a 21-year-old spiraling after her boyfriend called an actress sexy, and a 30-year-old wanting kinkier sex but getting triggered. Dr. Lyons and Dr. Emily emphasize distinguishing sensation-seeking from authentic connection, coming back to the body when triggered, and recognizing how childhood patterns shape adult sexuality and relationships. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 3:32 - The Hidden Signs of Drama Addiction You Might Be Missing 9:24 - How Trauma Lives in Your Body and Shapes Your Behavior 13:36 - Why Drama Shows Up in Your Relationships and Sex Life 15:37 - Why Do I Feel Terrible When My Partner Comments on Other People? 27:35 - The Currency of Love: How Childhood Chaos Affects Adult Relationships 33:48 - I Want Freaky Sex But My Body Keeps Freezing Up 42:52 - Understanding Dissociation and Finding Your Way Back Home 50:00 - How Drama Addiction Blocks True Sexual Pleasure and Intimacy 52:32 - Five Quickie Questions with Dr. Scott Lyons Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily and producer Erica answer listener questions covering intimate challenges from anal play to mismatched libidos. The episode addresses a woman whose boyfriend wants to try receiving anal rimming but can't relax into it, examining masculinity myths around pleasure. They cover penis cage safety during chastity play and what to watch for during extended use. Listeners also hear from a woman whose partner never initiates sex despite therapy, someone experiencing numbness during oral sex, and a recently divorced woman struggling to reclaim her sex drive. Throughout, Emily emphasizes communication outside the bedroom, understanding our bodies' responses, and reclaiming sexuality as something we own for ourselves—not something tied exclusively to our partners. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 1:15 - Helping Your Partner Feel Comfortable with Anal Play 6:38 - Penis Cage Safety & Chastity Play Guidelines 13:49 - When Your Partner Never Initiates Sex 18:45 - Numbness & Tingling During Oral Sex Explained 23:07 - Reclaiming Your Sex Drive After Divorce Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily teams up with anthropologist Dr. Wednesday Martin to tackle pornography—one of modern sexuality's most polarizing topics. From addressing listener concerns about partners who need porn to climax, to exploring how porn shapes our sexual behaviors and expectations. The episode examines real listener scenarios including a woman feeling inadequate because her boyfriend requires porn and dirty talk about other women to orgasm, and another struggling with her partner's search history filled with degrading terms. Emily and Wednesday also dive into the research on porn's actual impact on sexual aggression, the rise of choking and other behaviors in mainstream sexual culture, and the difference between ethical porn and typical productions. Throughout the discussion, they emphasize that porn itself isn't the problem—it's often a communication issue. The episode explores how couples can use porn as a tool for sexual exploration and self-knowledge rather than a source of shame or conflict, while acknowledging the legitimate concerns about how mainstream porn represents sexuality and consent. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 4:27 - Historical Context: Porn Has Always Existed 8:23 - First Porn Experiences 17:20 - Research Findings: Porn's Actual Impact on Behavior 27:47 - Case Study: When Porn Becomes a Relationship Issue 37:32 - Ethical Porn vs. Mainstream 41:56 - Using Porn as a Learning Tool for Self-Discovery 50:42 - Communication Strategies: Talking About Porn Preferences 57:17 - Final Thoughts Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. 7 Signs of Sexual Compatibility: https://sexwithemily.com/7-signs-of-sexual-compatibility-2/ SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Episode Description: In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily and producer Eric tackle listener-submitted "Am I The Asshole" scenarios focused on sex, dating, and relationships. From a wife refusing threesomes her husband demands to fix their struggling marriage, to a boyfriend dismissing his girlfriend's painful sex as exaggerated. The episode examines a daughter's shock at discovering her mother's 24/7 BDSM collar and addresses sexual compatibility deal-breakers, including a five-month relationship ending over asexuality versus mismatched libidos. They also tackle friendship boundaries when a well-meaning friend reveals intimate details about someone's sexual past to their new partner. Throughout these scenarios, Emily emphasizes that most relationship conflicts stem from lack of sexual education and communication skills rather than malicious intent. The episode reinforces the importance of honest self-reflection, clear boundaries, and recognizing when patterns aren't serving your relationships. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 1:21 - Threesome Pressure in Struggling Marriage 4:45 - Why Threesomes Don't Fix Relationships 8:03 - Dismissing Partner's Sexual Pain During Sex 11:04 - Understanding Vaginismus and Vaginal Pain 14:09 - Anal Sex Pressure Despite Clear Boundaries 17:15 - The Importance of Consensual Partners for Anal 18:46 - Discovering Mom's BDSM Collar Bombshell 22:00 - How to Have Healthy Sex Conversations with Kids 24:46 - Breaking Up Over Sexual Incompatibility 28:18 - Sexual Compatibility by 5 Months Rule 30:33 - Oversharing Friend's Threesome History 33:14 - Never Share Others' Sexual Stories Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily sits down with Violet Benson. Violet opens up about her intentional decision to step back from penetrative sex while working through attachment patterns that clouded her judgment in relationships. How do you know when sex is creating unhealthy emotional attachment versus genuine connection? Violet shares her realization that sleeping with someone too quickly led her to ignore red flags and chase unavailable partners who mirrored her childhood feelings of being "not enough." The conversation dives into Violet's egg freezing experience, including the intense hormonal and emotional effects that doctors failed to prepare her for. Violet takes Emily's Sex IQ quiz from the book Smart Sex, reflecting on how much her relationship with her body and pleasure has evolved. They tackle a listener question about pursuing someone with major red flags just for physical chemistry, with both hosts emphasizing the importance of honest self-reflection over justification. The episode explores embracing "clinginess" in dating, why vulnerability beats playing games, and how foreplay truly starts outside the bedroom. Throughout, Emily and Violet reinforce that understanding your patterns is the first step to breaking cycles that don't serve you. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 2:13 - Violet's dating hiatus 5:42 - Turning fears into boundaries 8:37 - Understanding attachment styles and childhood trauma in relationships 11:43 - Egg freezing experience 16:17 - Managing mental health during hormonal changes 21:00 - Sex IQ Quiz 26:31 - Listener question: Detaching emotions from physical intimacy 30:30 - Why being vulnerable beats playing games 35:41 - Why people are having less sex and connection 38:15 - Top 3 tips for authentic dating and better relationships 40:42 - Rapid-fire questions: Turn-ons, turn-offs, and relationship advice Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Episode Description In this Sex with Emily hotline episode, Dr. Emily answers honest questions about sex, relationships, and pleasure. Ben struggles with intrusive thoughts about his girlfriend's sexual past—how do generational differences in sexual norms play a role, and what can he do when his mind won't stop wandering? A caller whose day-long fantasies about his wife cause premature ejaculation wonders if this is actually a problem. Emily explores when mental foreplay becomes too much of a good thing and how to approach these conversations with your partner. For finding thirds for threesomes, what's the safest way to meet like-minded people? Emily discusses the essential conversations couples need to have before inviting someone into their bedroom. Nathan worries his girlfriend only orgasms with toys despite her past relationships not requiring them. Is this about his performance, her anatomy, or something deeper about emotional connection and letting go? Finally, how do you rebuild your relationship with your own sexuality after a major life change? Emily helps a caller navigate solo pleasure during divorce when motivation is low and old fantasies no longer serve. Throughout, Emily reinforces that sexual satisfaction looks different for everyone. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 1:29 - Dealing with Partner's Sexual Past 5:42 - How to Replace Negative Thoughts with Positive Relationship Focus 11:45 - Premature Ejaculation from All-Day Mental Arousal 17:07 - Starting Sexting in Long-Term Relationships 20:04 - Finding a Third for Threesomes 29:52 - The Field Effect 34:13 - When Emotional Connection Changes Physical Response 40:13 - Prioritizing Solo Pleasure During Divorce and Life Transitions 46:44 - Closing Thoughts and Resources Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Jennifer Freed reveals why true sexiness comes from daring to be authentically yourself—not trying to imitate anyone else—and how confidence means being good with yourself without waiting for approval. Then sex educator Shani Hart shares her game-changing tip for staying aroused during oral sex (hint: it involves a Magic Wand), her mission to bring quality pleasure products to underserved communities, and why she tells customers that if their partner controls their toy purchases, it's a major red flag. Dr. Freed and Emily explore the difference between sexiness and preferences, discussing how we can find attraction beyond our usual type when we recognize someone's soul. Through Shani's journey from pop-up girlfriend to certified sex educator, Emily and Shani tackle the lack of diversity in the sex toy industry and why quality pleasure products should be accessible to all communities. Shani breaks down her four essential blowjob tips—enthusiasm, wetness, communication, and technique—explaining why "it's called a job for a reason" and sharing her favorite products for enhancing pleasure. They also dive into CBD's benefits for sexual wellness, from reducing anxiety and increasing blood flow to helping rewire the brain's association between sex and pain for people with conditions like endometriosis. Shani discusses her favorite current toy (the Womanizer Duo with smart silent technology) and why she believes your own pleasure should be a priority. Timestamps: 0:28 - Intro 1:48 - Authenticity vs Performance in Relationships 3:26 - Overcoming Impostor Syndrome in Dating 5:41 - Why Hiding Your True Self Kills Intimacy 10:26 - Sexual Preferences vs What Makes Someone Sexy 13:42 - Being Present During Sex Creates New Experiences 17:22 - From Sex Shop Employee to Certified Sex Educator 20:26 - Creating Quality Sex Education in Underserved Communities 24:43 - When Partners Control Your Pleasure (Red Flags) 27:48 - Magic Wand Multi-Use Tips for Solo and Partner Play 29:33 - Four Essential Oral Sex Techniques That Actually Work 31:45 - Racism and Exclusion in the Sex Toy Industry 36:02 - CBD for Better Sex: Anxiety, Pain Relief, and Enhanced Pleasure 38:48 - Quick Fire Questions: Biggest Turn-Ons and Turnoffs Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Yes, No, Maybe Checklist: https://sexwithemily.com/swe-guides/SWE_YesNoMaybeChecklist.pdf Episode Summary In this Sex with Emily episode, comedian Adam Ferrara reveals why he sits by the front door with his dog for exactly 15 minutes every time his wife says "I'll be right there"—and how learning each other's patterns became the secret to their successful long-term marriage. Adam breaks down the difference between reacting and responding, sharing how his Italian upbringing taught him to react emotionally while his marriage taught him to respond from choice. He explains his breakthrough moment realizing that "worry is not responsibility"—a revelation that helped him separate anxiety from actual care-taking—and discusses his journey off ADD medication in favor of meditation and therapy. Through a caller's dilemma about losing sexual attraction to her boyfriend while being tempted by someone else, Emily and Adam explore whether sexual chemistry can be built or if some relationships lack that essential foundation. They tackle the hard truth about the two-year relationship mark when initial passion fades, and provide practical tools like the "Yes, No, Maybe" list for couples working to rebuild intimacy together. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 1:32 - Losing Sexual Attraction After 2 Years 3:20 - Breaking Down Sexual Compatibility vs. Chemistry Issues 6:46 - The Oral Sex Double Standard Problem 8:13 - Creating vs. Fixing Sexual Connection 11:51 - Adam Ferrara on Anxiety & "Worry is Not Responsibility" 13:27 - Emily's Therapy Process: ADD, Self-Worth & Achievement 16:39 - Finding Presence Through Performance & Connection 18:25 - Marriage Communication: Learning Each Other's Patterns 22:43 - Reacting vs. Responding: Managing Emotional Impulses 25:43 - Meditation Practice: Separating Thoughts from Identity 29:24 - Practical Meditation Tips for Anxiety & ADD 31:16 - Childhood Trauma & Long-Term Anxiety Development 33:26 - Therapy Benefits: Life Tools, Not Stigma 34:28 - Five Quickie Questions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, psychiatrist Dr. Will Siu reveals why he went from atheist to spiritual devotee in 20 minutes during his first psychedelic experience—and how that breakthrough taught him that anger is actually a mask for feeling weak. Will shares his journey from achieving external success while feeling internally miserable to discovering the profound connection between emotional healing and sexual satisfaction. He breaks down his six fundamental emotions framework and explains why "You're not getting angry because you're tough—you're getting angry because you feel weak," a revelation that changed how he approached both therapy and intimacy. Through candid stories about religious sexual shame and the universal male experience of measuring penis size with a ruler, Will demonstrates how vulnerability can actually increase attraction. The conversation tackles why less than 5% of therapy clients discuss sex directly, how working on general insecurities often improves bedroom experiences more than focusing on sex itself, and practical steps for finding partners who can hold space for authentic emotional expression. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 2:03 - From Harvard Success to Internal Misery 7:43 - First Psychedelic Experience 12:14 - The Six Core Emotions 15:08 - The Truth About Male Anger 18:07 - Why Women's Anger is Suppressed and Its Sexual Consequences 22:02 - Male Penis Insecurities 26:01 - The Power of Authenticity Over Vulnerability in Relationships 29:22 - Finding Examples of Healthy Relationships in Modern Culture 32:17 - Building Male Mentorship and Emotional Communities 36:05 - Quick Fire Questions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Yes, No, Maybe Checklist: https://sexwithemily.com/swe-guides/SWE_YesNoMaybeChecklist.pdf In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily explores praise kink—the trending phenomenon where sexual arousal comes from receiving verbal affirmation and approval during intimacy. She breaks down how this differs from simply enjoying compliments and connects to deeper psychological needs for feeling worshipped, special, or desired. The episode introduces core erotic desires—the fundamental feelings we seek during sex that stem from our experiences and shape what turns us on. Whether involving feeling powerful, nurtured, transgressive, or humiliated, understanding these desires is crucial for sexual satisfaction. Through listener questions, Emily tackles complex dynamics: a man missing the intense connection with a kinky ex despite his fiancé's willingness to participate, a woman who shut down after an embarrassing bondage moment, and someone questioning fantasies about their partner with others. She normalizes these experiences while offering practical communication strategies, including her "Yes, No, Maybe?" checklist for exploring new sexual territory with partners, and emphasizing that sexual fantasies and messy moments are normal parts of intimacy. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 1:46 - Understanding Kinks vs Conventional Sex 5:14 - Praise Kink and Submissive Energy in the Bedroom 7:04 - How Praise Kink Helps with Body Image Issues 9:09 - Core Erotic Desires: What Really Turns You On 11:48 - Different Types of Core Desires (Worship, Humiliation, Power) 15:07 - Mining Your Fantasies to Discover Your Desires 17:07 - How to Talk to Your Partner About Your Fantasies 19:47 - Listener Question: Missing Kinky Ex vs Current Partner 24:42 - Listener Question: Embarrassing Moment Killed the Kink 30:34 - Listener Question: Is My Cuckolding Fantasy Healthy? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily breaks down the dynamics of toxic relationships—why we get stuck in them, how to spot the red flags, and what it takes to step into something healthier. She explains how cycles of fighting and making up can become addictive, why perfectionism and unrealistic expectations sabotage intimacy, and the subtle ways emotional unavailability shows up through gaslighting, breadcrumbing, and avoidance. The episode also explores the deeper psychology behind repeated patterns: why we’re drawn to unavailable partners, how our own fears and defenses play into toxic dynamics, and why real change only happens when both people are willing to do the work. Listener questions and calls highlight unmet needs, long-term relationships starved of affection, and the painful realization that sometimes love isn’t enough to sustain a partnership. Alongside this, Emily offers clear strategies for breaking toxic cycles, communicating needs without blame, and deciding when it’s time to stay, seek help, or walk away. With candid stories about gaslighting, perfectionism, and emotional neglect, this episode is a raw but empowering guide to recognizing what doesn’t serve you—and finding the courage to choose relationships that do. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 3:04 - When High Standards Destroy Love 6:35 - Signs of Emotional Unavailability You Need to Know 11:04 - How Long Will You Stay in an Unfulfilling Relationship? 13:34 - 8 Years of Unmet Needs and One-Sided Love 20:18 - Words vs Actions 25:36 - Anniversary Disappointment After 28 Years of Marriage 30:59 - Having the Difficult Conversation Your Relationship Needs Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! ⁠https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast⁠ Join the SmartSX Membership : ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx⁠ Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: ⁠https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ ⁠(free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/ In this powerful episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily tackles one of the biggest barriers to great sex: fear. From fear of rejection to body image anxieties, this episode explores how our sexual fears hold us back and provides practical strategies for overcoming them. Dr. Emily opens with the fundamental truth that fear is often "false evidence appearing real" - we create rules around what we're afraid of and then live by them, preventing ourselves from having the sex we truly want and deserve. Throughout the episode, Dr. Emily addresses common sexual fears from farting during sex to penis size anxieties to performance worries, emphasizing that we're all perfectionists when it comes to sex despite reality being much messier and more human. The episode concludes with the empowering message that facing our fears is the path to becoming our own best sexual advocate. When we ask for what we want authentically, we either get our needs met or gain valuable information about compatibility, because we all deserve pleasure and shouldn't put ourselves last in our own sexual lives. Timestamps:0:00 - Introduction 0:23 - How Antidepressants Affect Your Sex Life 1:15 - Female Sexuality and Cultural Double Standards 2:30 - Wetness Myths: Arousal vs. Lubrication Explained 6:26 - When You're "Too Wet" - Solutions and Normalizing 8:17 - Understanding Arousal Beyond Physical Signs 9:06 - Kegel Exercises for Better Orgasms 13:15 - Caller April: Relationship Stress Killing Sex Drive 17:00 - Communication Red Flags in Relationships 23:40 - Prozac and Orgasm Difficulties 26:31 - Switching from Lexapro to Wellbutrin Success Story 28:40 - Why Medication Doses Differ for Women Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ This episode tackles one of the most misunderstood topics in sexuality with two leading experts: Dr. Charlie Glickman, co-author of "The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure," and Dr. Hernando Chavez. Together, they bust the biggest myths surrounding anal play, from the damaging idea that learning from porn is effective (spoiler: it's like "learning to drive from watching a car chase movie") to misconceptions about sexual orientation and hygiene. The conversation transforms anal exploration from anxiety-inducing taboo into approachable pleasure education. Charlie breaks down the real anatomy behind prostate stimulation and explains why men who receive anal play often become better lovers, while Hernando addresses cultural barriers and shares how that forbidden factor can actually enhance arousal. They dive into practical preparation techniques, revolutionary lube innovations, and why starting with external play removes performance pressure. Whether dealing with complete curiosity or recovering from painful past experiences, this episode provides the shame-free guidance needed to explore backdoor pleasure safely and successfully. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 1:16 - Anal Play Discussion 2:57 - Why Anal Sex Isn't for Everyone 4:47 - Prostate Massage for Men: Breaking the Stigma 7:47 - How to Find and Stimulate the Prostate 11:41 - Benefits of Anal Play for Couples 15:23 - Anal Play Tips and Toy Recommendations 18:03 - Pegging Basics and Prostate Stimulation 21:22 - How to Bring Up Anal Play with Your Partner 25:58 - Discussing Anal with Your Wife 36:18 - Common Anal Sex Myths Debunked 42:08 - Personal Stories and Learning Experiences 44:27 - Preparation and Hygiene for Anal Play 47:06 - Essential Lube Tips and Product Recommendations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! ⁠https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast⁠ Join the SmartSX Membership : ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx⁠ Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: ⁠https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ⁠ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/ In this thought-provoking episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily welcomes linguist and author Amanda Montell ("Word Sl*t: A Feminist Guide to Taking Back the English Language") explore how patriarchal language controls our sex lives. They reveal why terms like "penetration" frame intimacy from a male perspective, how medical language describes vaginas as "organs that receive the penis" while penises get weapon metaphors, and why violent bedroom slang reflects power imbalances. The discussion covers language reclamation strategies, from using "vulva" instead of "vajay-jay" to how transgender communities create new sexual terminology. Dr. Emily addresses listener questions about safe sex conversations during hookups, overcoming conservative shame around oral pleasure, and breaking toxic relationship cycles. This episode shows how conscious language choices can revolutionize sexual experiences, moving from patriarchal frameworks toward more equitable intimate expression. Timestamps: 0:22 - Introduction 4:21 - Why "penetration" frames sex from a penis perspective 7:56 - Medical definitions: "the organ that receives the penis" 11:16 - The problem with "vajay-jay" 18:02 - Mission to reclaim slurs 28:15 - Safe sex conversations during hookups 31:58 - Learning to enjoy giving oral pleasure 39:24 - Breaking recurring relationship explosion patterns Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this powerful episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily tackles one of the biggest barriers to great sex: fear. From fear of rejection to body image anxieties, this episode explores how our sexual fears hold us back and provides practical strategies for overcoming them. Dr. Emily opens with the fundamental truth that fear is often "false evidence appearing real" - we create rules around what we're afraid of and then live by them, preventing ourselves from having the sex we truly want and deserve. Throughout the episode, Dr. Emily addresses common sexual fears from farting during sex to penis size anxieties to performance worries, emphasizing that we're all perfectionists when it comes to sex despite reality being much messier and more human. The episode concludes with the empowering message that facing our fears is the path to becoming our own best sexual advocate. When we ask for what we want authentically, we either get our needs met or gain valuable information about compatibility, because we all deserve pleasure and shouldn't put ourselves last in our own sexual lives. 0:00 - Introduction 4:13 - Common Sexual Fears We All Face 6:43 - Period Sex Anxiety 17:50 - Fear of Rejection in the Bedroom 23:25 - Sexual Trauma & PTSD 32:38 - Dreams About Your Ex: What They Really Mean 44:01 - Body Image Fears & Sexual Perfectionism 47:23 - Becoming Your Best Sexual Partner 50:04 - Role Playing to Overcome Sexual Fears 54:05 - Closing the Orgasm Gap Together Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! ⁠https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this enlightening episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily reunites with the legendary Carol Queen, sexologist, author, and co-founder of the Center for Sex and Culture in San Francisco. Carol, who's been Good Vibrations' staff sexologist for over 30 years and has been speaking publicly about sexuality for 50 years, returns for an essential conversation about revitalizing routine sex, navigating physical challenges in intimacy, and finding your sexual community. This episode tackles everything from making masturbation part of your self-care routine to creative solutions for mobility challenges in the bedroom. Carol breaks down how sexual discourse has evolved from underground feminist publications to mainstream media, while emphasizing that there's no "normal" sex life everyone must follow. We explore practical techniques for spicing up routine encounters and dive into the importance of finding consensual spaces for all types of sexual expression. We take listener calls from Jess, who wants to elevate his hookup routine with temperature play and atmosphere, Tommy, who's seeking advice on approaching older women, Jake, who's looking for safe spaces to explore exhibitionist fantasies, and John, whose wife's knee problems require creative positioning solutions. Carol's decades of experience shine through as she emphasizes that variety and difference make sexuality beautiful, not something to be ashamed of or conform to arbitrary standards. 0:00 - Introduction 1:20 - Caller Question: Spicing Up Gay Male Hookups & Avoiding Boredom 7:13 - Dating Older Women: How to Start Conversations & Build Confidence 10:05 - Preventing Recurring UTIs: Practical Tips & Product Recommendations 13:45 - Interview with Sexologist Carol Queen: 50 Years of Sexual Liberation 16:15 - How Sexual Discourse Has Changed: From Underground to Mainstream 20:32 - The History of "Pegging" & Educational Porn vs Entertainment 31:14 - Sex Positions for Physical Challenges: Knee Problems & Alternatives 41:03 - Quick Fire Questions with Carol Queen Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this fun and informative episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily welcomes sex educator and author Elle Chase for a summer-themed exploration of mindful sexuality, body-positive positions, and creative outdoor adventures. Plus, psychological astrologer Dr. Jennifer Freed returns to help you align your sexual energy with cosmic guidance. We dive into mindfulness techniques for sexual anxiety, including 4-count inhale, 6-count exhale breathing to calm the nervous system and 5-senses grounding exercises to stay present during intimate moments. Elle shares creative summer sex ideas from car sex nostalgia to pool noodle hacks for outdoor comfort, plus body-positive positions like "Threading the Needle" and "The OM Position" that work for all body types. The episode features listener questions from Trevor about threesome safety, Michael seeking position alternatives for plus-size couples, and Bill concerned about his wife's upcoming hysterectomy. Dr. Emily provides medical advocacy advice about getting second opinions and exploring less invasive alternatives like uterine artery embolization before major surgery. Dr. Freed's astro forecast highlights courage as this month's theme, with personalized guidance for each sign—from Aries learning to pause and attune to others' desires, to Capricorn embracing daily masturbation for stress release. We also explore alternative intimacy techniques like yoni/lingam massage and the importance of breaking the "penetration as goal" mindset for deeper pleasure exploration. 0:00 - Intro 8:27 - Sexual Liberation & Breaking Free from Negative Self-Talk 9:41 - Threesome Planning: Communication & Boundaries Guide 16:00 - Body-Positive Intimacy Tips 23:00 - Hysterectomy Alternatives: Getting Second Opinions 27:37 - Summer Sex Ideas 32:00 - Massage for Connection 37:22 - Female-Friendly Visual Content & Arousal Discussion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join the SmartSX Membership : ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx⁠ Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: ⁠https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ ⁠(free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠ In this enlightening episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily welcomes Sarah Sloane, sex and kink educator from the Hashtag Open app, for an essential conversation about consent, sexual communication, and finding partners who truly align with your desires. This episode tackles everything from making consent conversations sexy to navigating ethical porn, kink exploration, and the realities of dating after divorce. Sarah breaks down how to make consent attractive rather than awkward, emphasizing that consent is temporary and can be withdrawn at any time. We explore the "hell yes" versus "hell no" standard for enthusiastic consent and practical ways to slow down sexual encounters for better awareness and communication. The conversation addresses how to teach consent early through body autonomy and why being honest about your boundaries actually makes you more attractive to compatible partners. We dive into listener questions from Matt, who's navigating dating after an abusive marriage with no prior dating experience, and Christi, whose 20-year marriage is strained by concerns about her husband's porn use. Sarah offers guidance on video dating as the pandemic norm, using apps like Hashtag Open for specific interests, and the importance of yes/no/maybe lists for discovering preferences without shame. Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction & Sarah’s Early Life 03:41 - Discovering Kink & Initial Curiosity 07:38 - Power Exchange & Emotional Safety in BDSM 11:59 - Consent, Boundaries & Clear Communication 16:13 - Self-Worth, Validation & Identity 20:46 - Shame, Judgment & Cultural Programming 26:17 - Healing from Trauma Through Play 31:03 - BDSM & Somatics: Embodiment Work 36:42 - Rewriting Scripts Around Pleasure & Worthiness 43:20 - Advice for Beginners & Empowered Exploration Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this empowering episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily Morse sits down with writer, producer, and self-care advocate Tara Schuster to talk about the journey from self-abandonment to self-worth. Through laughter, honesty, and raw storytelling, they explore emotional healing, sexual empowerment, and the small rituals that create lasting change. Tara shares her background of emotional neglect and how she hit rock bottom; leading her to build a "re-parenting" plan with daily rituals like writing down wins, lighting candles, and journaling to create inner safety and structure. They discuss how unresolved emotional wounds often show up in the bedroom as self-doubt, people-pleasing, or disconnection from pleasure, and how Tara learned to stop abandoning herself in relationships by asking "Do I actually like this person?" instead of "Do they like me?" They dive into how pleasure, including sex, isn't frivolous; it's essential to well-being, and how we must unlearn shame and guilt around joy in order to thrive. Featured Resource: Yes/No/Maybe List - A sexual communication tool mentioned by Tara that helped her explore new experiences and communicate openly with a partner about desires and boundaries. This structured approach allows individuals and couples to indicate their interest levels in various sexual activities, facilitating honest conversations about preferences and limits. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction: Setting the Stage for Healing & Self-Worth 3:08 - Tara's Rock Bottom Moment: The Call That Changed Everything (hitting rock bottom at 25 and the decision to save her own life) 7:42 - The Desert Breakdown: When Success Isn't Enough 14:02 - The Spite Method: How Reluctant Healing Actually Works 19:19 - Body Gratitude Revolution: From Shame to Self-Celebration 22:58 - Self-Worth & Sex: Why Healing Yourself Transforms Intimacy 39:15 - Trauma-Informed Solo Practice: Safe Sexual Exploration 49:23 - The Yes/No/Maybe List: Tools for Sexual Communication Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join the SmartSX Membership: https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this vulnerable and honest episode, Dr. Emily Morse answers listener questions about intimacy challenges, porn use, mismatched libidos, and fears around vulnerability. Whether you're dealing with long dry spells, sexual disconnection, or the impacts of pornography, this episode offers real advice for navigating modern relationships with more compassion and clarity. We explore the difference between healthy porn use and problematic patterns, it becomes an issue when it's used to avoid intimacy or sets unrealistic expectations. Emily encourages honest conversations and mutual understanding around porn preferences while addressing mismatched libidos and long dry spells, including one listener who hasn't had sex with his wife in four years. She suggests slow re-entry into intimacy through sensual touch, non-goal-oriented connection, and therapy if needed, emphasizing that curiosity and care open the door to reconnection. The conversation tackles performance anxiety and shame cycles, where anxiety about sex or fear of "failing" often creates a negative loop. Emily reminds listeners that pleasure doesn't need to be performance-based. Focus on feeling, not impressing. We also address women feeling pressured to perform porn-like roles, with Emily advocating for authentic expression over performing and emphasizing mutual consent and emotional check-ins. You're not broken. Whether you're questioning your libido, struggling with porn use, or feeling disconnected from a partner, there are tools to rebuild trust; starting with yourself. Drop the pressure, release the shame, and start with honest conversations. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 1:26 - Why Online Dating When Lonely Makes Things Worse 10:00 - Dating App Photo Disasters 18:15 - Can't Orgasm with New Partner After Amazing Ex 24:20 - Military Deployment: Managing Porn Use & Intimacy 27:00 - Breaking Through Sexual Communication Barriers 31:30 - Rebuilding Trust After Cheating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this illuminating episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily Morse sits down with Dr. Will Cole, a leader in functional medicine and author of Gut Feelings, to explore how emotional and physical health are deeply connected, and how addressing both is essential for a thriving sex life, better relationships, and holistic well-being. Dr. Cole explains the "shameflammation connection"; how repressed emotions like shame, guilt, and stress can cause chronic inflammation, impacting libido, energy, and connection. He breaks down this mind-body cycle where emotional stress manifests as physical illness and offers somatic tools for healing, emphasizing that nervous system regulation is crucial to breaking this loop through breathwork, stillness, and rituals that bring people back into their bodies. We dive deep into the gut-brain connection and its major role in mood, hormone balance, and sexual health. Dr. Cole reveals how processed foods, sugar, and unresolved trauma can hijack desire and performance, while discussing silent inflammation and hormone imbalances that often show up as low libido, fatigue, or anxiety. He uses advanced lab testing to find hidden causes when patients say "I don't feel like myself." The conversation addresses shame around pleasure and sexual identity, highlighting how culture often teaches us to suppress pleasure or disconnect from desire. Both Emily and Dr. Cole agree that reclaiming sensuality starts with removing shame and practicing compassionate self-awareness. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 2:57 - What is Functional Medicine? 8:24 - The Science Behind "Gut Feelings" 13:37 - How Emotions Become Physical Symptoms 22:27 - Foods That Don't Love You Back 32:07 - Testosterone, Estrogen & Sexual Health 39:04 - Where to Find Functional Medicine Support 46:25 - The Missing Conversation 52:18 - Self-Respect Over Obsession 54:29 - Quickfire Round Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this essential episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily dedicates an entire show to demystifying the vagina, expanding knowledge about vulvas, vaginal health, and orgasm types. This conversation is all about understanding anatomy, pleasure pathways, and destigmatizing sexual issues that too many people face in silence. We explore the internal clitoral network and why it wasn't included in medical texts until the late 1990s, debunk myths around different types of orgasms (spoiler: they're all connected through internal clitoral structure), and address why penetration alone doesn't cause orgasms for most vulva owners. Emily answers listener questions covering everything from clitoral piercings and vaginismus to rebuilding sexual identity after cancer and chronic yeast infections. This episode includes practical product recommendations like vibrators for sensitive bodies, CBD-infused lubes, and guidance on hormone replacement therapy for vaginal health. Whether you're dealing with pain, dryness, struggling to reach climax, or just want to understand your body better, this episode offers science-backed insights and compassionate guidance for reclaiming your pleasure and sexual confidence. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction: Understanding Your Vagina for Better Pleasure 1:44 - Caller Question: Clitoral Piercing Pain and Partner Acceptance 4:20 - Vaginismus: When Your Vagina Won't Relax for Penetration 8:44 - Endometriosis and Sexual Recovery After Cancer 16:22 - Clitoral vs G-Spot Orgasms: What's the Difference? 18:12 - Post-Menopause Orgasms and Vibrator "Addiction" Myths 23:10 - Chronic Yeast Infections: Causes and Solutions 28:21 - When Your Partner Stops Wanting Oral Sex After Baby 32:13 - Wrap-Up: Key Takeaways for Vaginal Health and Pleasure Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ It's not just your closet that needs a refresh, your love life might too. In this episode, Emily helps you declutter the emotional and relational baggage that's blocking deeper connection, better sex, and healthier self-worth. Think of it as a relationship reset: more intention, less chaos. We explore the signs your love life needs a clean-out (hint: recurring patterns, mixed signals, ghosting) and how to stop confusing chaos for chemistry. Emily guides you through rewriting your dating narrative with clarity and compassion, knowing when to break up with your "type" and try something new, and how to identify emotional unavailability in yourself and others. This episode also covers letting go of "situationships" that are keeping you stuck and creating a values-based dating filter that actually works. If you've been stuck in dating loops, confused about someone's intentions, or holding on to a relationship that's "almost" right, this episode offers the permission, and tools, you need to clear the space for real, aligned love. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 8:51 - How to Identify Toxic Relationships and Partners 19:09 - Signs It's Time to Let Go of Your Relationship 23:03 - The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse (Gottman Research) 27:17 - Trust Issues: When Relationships Can't Be Rebuilt 30:24 - When Sex Dies in Your Relationship 38:17 - Email Time: Jealous Partner Making Wild Accusations 44:40 - Sex During Separation: Good Idea or Trap? 47:02 - The Great Squirting Debate: What It Really Is 51:46 - Wrap-Up and How to Connect Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this pleasure-packed episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily reveals creative ways to maximize your intimate experiences using two accessible, beginner-friendly sex toys: bullet vibes and vibrating penis rings. Even if you're new to toys or working with a tight budget, these versatile options can transform your solo and partnered play. Emily breaks down why these aren't just "beginner" toys, they're powerful tools that can enhance pleasure for all body types when you know the right techniques. She shares creative hacks for using bullet vibes during oral sex, explores how to introduce toys to hesitant partners, and reveals surprising ways to incorporate vibrating penis rings into solo play and partnered experiences. This episode tackles common concerns head-on, including how to overcome intimidation around sex toys, why toys enhance rather than replace intimacy, and specific techniques for using these tools during penetrative sex. Emily provides detailed guidance on positions that work best with each toy, safety considerations for anal play, and her top product recommendations. Whether you're curious about expanding your toy collection or want to get more creative with what you already have, this episode offers practical wisdom for bringing more pleasure into your intimate life. Emily's approach is inclusive, body-positive, and focused on helping you discover what works best for your unique pleasure preferences. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 7:01 - Two Must-Have Beginner Toys for Everyone 11:45 - Creative Ways to Use Bullet Vibes Beyond the Basics 16:28 - Oral Sex Game-Changers with Vibrators 19:15 - Vibrating Penis Rings: Multi-Use Pleasure Tool 24:11 - Best Sex Positions for Toy Integration 28:04 - Real Questions: Frequency & Post-Baby Changes 32:24 - Safety Tips & Communication Strategies Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this grounding episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily explores how to transform your dating experience by focusing on emotional awareness, body intelligence, and clear intentions. Whether you're navigating apps or meeting people in person, this episode offers a heart-centered approach to modern dating that prioritizes authentic connection over performance. We dive into why your dating "type" might be blocking true connection and how to get out of your head and into your body before dates. Emily shares the power of pre-date rituals and intention setting, explaining why chasing chemistry often leads us astray and how to spot green flags instead of just red ones. This conversation includes practical tips for identifying emotional safety and alignment early on, plus guidance on when to stay curious and when to walk away. Emily offers tools for cultivating real confidence that comes from within, not from external validation, and shares how to maintain your sense of self while remaining open to connection. From setting boundaries to trusting your intuition, this episode is packed with wisdom for anyone who wants to date with more intention, less anxiety, and greater self-trust Timestamps: 0:00 Introduction 2:43 The Roommate Problem 4:47 Why Date Nights Matter 6:02 The 5 Arousal Types Explained 9:21 Conversation-Based Dates 12:00 Sensory Dates 17:04 Playful Dates 22:36 Physical Adventure Dates 24:53 How to Introduce Massage Into Your Relationship 29:25 Rebuilding Intimacy After Having a Baby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join the SmartSX Membership: https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/ In this data-packed episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily sits down with social psychologist and Kinsey Institute researcher Dr. Justin Lehmiller to break down what science actually tells us about our sexual fantasies, kinks, and casual hookups. This conversation is full of insights that will make you rethink what's "normal" in bed, and help you embrace your desires with more compassion and clarity. Dr. Lehmiller reveals the most common sexual fantasies (hint: kink is more mainstream than you think) and explains what our fantasies say about our emotional needs and life history. We explore the truth about gender differences in fantasies, how to safely explore kink and consensual non-monogamy, and research on why some people thrive with casual sex while others don't. This episode covers practical tips for talking about fantasies with your partner without shame or pressure, plus why self-awareness (not fantasy content) is the key to sexual fulfillment. Whether you're curious about exploring fantasies, navigating open relationships, or just want to understand the psychology of desire, this conversation brings research and real talk together in a way that's both validating and thought-provoking. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction & The Kink Revolution 4:07 - Fantasy vs Reality: The Threesome Gap 11:43 - Why Gay Men Have Better Threesomes  18:17 - What Gay vs Straight Men Really Have in Common  25:04 - The Kinsey Scale & Sexual Fluidity Explained  31:20 - Friends with Benefits: What Actually Works  35:00 - The Couples Vibrator Study Results  37:45 - Dutch Sex Education: What America Gets Wrong  44:13 - How to Talk to Kids About Masturbation  48:51 - Quickfire Questions: Turn-Ons, Turn-Offs & Sex Advice Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join the SmartSX Membership: https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this powerful episode of Sex with Emily, the magnetic Lizzy Jeff—rap priestess, medicine woman, and founder of Zen & Kush—joins Dr. Emily to dive into the world of cannabis and sensuality. Together, they unpack how CBD and THC can elevate sexual connection, unlock pleasure, and serve as sacred tools for healing and embodiment. Lizzy shares her personal journey with yoni oils, cannabis suppositories, and sacred self-touch, revealing how cannabis can enhance arousal, deepen orgasms, and help you stay present during intimate moments. We explore the power of mirror work, daily sensual rituals, and breath as tools for embodiment, plus how to set up a sex magic practice for manifestation. This episode covers practical guidance on strains, dosage, and product quality, while addressing common concerns like dry mouth, vaginal dryness, and staying present during sex. Lizzy's radiant energy and wisdom shine through as she explains how cannabis can be used intentionally to expand your sexual repertoire and connect with your most authentic, sensual self. Whether you're cannabis-curious, cautious, or already exploring plant medicine in the bedroom, this conversation is full of inspiration and practical tools to help you discover new dimensions of connection and pleasure. From the science of how THC and CBD affect your body to the spiritual aspects of sacred sexuality, this episode offers a holistic approach to cannabis and intimacy. Timestamps: 0:01 - Setting Intentions with Cannabis 1:06 - Meet Lizzy Jeff: Rap Priestess & Medicine Woman 4:07 - Cannabis & Sex: Personal Experiences 6:46 - "Big Pussy Energy" & Confidence 12:06 - Staying Present During Sex: Mantras & Practices 17:12 - Daily Body Connection Practices 22:14 - Handling Cannabis Side Effects 24:05 - Why Sex Is Better High & Strain Recommendations 29:48 - Quick Fire Questions 32:13 - Sex Magic: Manifesting Through Pleasure Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Join Dr. Emily as she sits down with meditation teacher, speaker, and author Light Watkins to explore how mindfulness and meditation can transform your relationships and sex life. From creating space in relationships to finding authentic happiness, this conversation dives deep into practical tools for better living and loving. Light Watkins is a bestselling author, accomplished meditation teacher, and founder of the Shine Movement. He's an inspirational keynote speaker and workshop leader who has delivered wellness-themed talks around the globe. Timestamps [8:24] - Emily's personal meditation journey [10:01] - How meditation creates space between offense and reaction in relationships [14:55] - The correlation between meditation and sex [21:02] - Light's accountability hack [31:04] - Why happiness is like doing a pull-up [38:47] - How meditation changed Light's approach to sexual connection and intimacy [41:01] - Split-testing your inner voices [45:35] - The gratitude algorithm [52:52] - Quickie Questions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this episode of Sex with Emily, world-renowned psychotherapist Esther Perel joins us for an intimate conversation about the complexities of modern love, desire, and relationships. From her groundbreaking work on infidelity to her insights on maintaining passion in long-term partnerships, Esther shares the wisdom that has helped millions navigate the tension between security and excitement in love. We explore Esther's core philosophy that desire is not something you have—it's something you cultivate. She breaks down the fundamental paradox of modern relationships: love seeks closeness and security, while desire craves space, novelty, and mystery. We discuss how to integrate these opposing forces and why the question "Can you want what you already have?" is central to sustaining passion over time. Esther reveals why eroticism is truly a state of mind, how pleasure connects directly to self-worth, and her revolutionary perspective on infidelity—that sometimes people don't go elsewhere to find another person, but to find another version of themselves. We also dive into her new card game "Where Should We Begin," designed to foster vulnerability and deep connection through storytelling. This conversation addresses the unrealistic expectations we place on one partner to be our everything, practical tools for managing relationship anxiety, and why modern love requires us to calibrate rather than abandon our expectations. Whether you're single, coupled, or somewhere in between, Esther's insights offer a roadmap for creating more authentic, passionate connections. Timestamps 0:00 - Introduction 2:45 - The evolution from duty to desire 8:02 - Can we experience desire and deep love simultaneously? 11:20 - "I turn myself off when..." vs "I turn myself on when..." 16:00 - Pleasure vs. performance 19:09 - The ice cream exercise 25:52 - One person can't be everything 31:14 - Understanding infidelity 35:10 - Playing the relationship game 44:00 - Dealing with anxiety in love Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join the SmartSX Membership: https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Sign up for Dr. Emily's newsletter at sexwithemily.com for free guides, articles, and more ways to prioritize your pleasure and relationships. In this powerful episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily sits down with Jeffrey Marsh, the first openly non-binary public figure interviewed on national television, author of "How to Be You," and a Zen-trained meditation teacher who has helped millions embrace self-acceptance. This conversation goes deep into identity, authenticity, and the radical act of loving yourself exactly as you are. Jeffrey shares their journey from childhood feelings of not fitting into traditional gender roles to becoming a leading voice for non-binary visibility and self-compassion. We explore the difference between gender identity and sexual orientation, the importance of using correct pronouns as basic respect, and how Jeffrey's 20+ years of Zen practice has shaped their approach to self-love and helping others break free from shame. This episode addresses the real challenges of coming out, setting boundaries with family, and the courage it takes to live authentically in a world that often demands conformity. Jeffrey offers practical wisdom on moving from self-criticism to self-acceptance, why asking for what you need is essential for healthy relationships, and how their work helps people - especially parents - learn to support LGBTQ+ loved ones. Whether you're exploring your own identity, supporting someone in your life, or simply want to understand how to love yourself more fully, this conversation offers profound insights on breaking free from societal expectations and embracing your authentic self. Let's get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let's text: Sign up here - https://sexwithemily.com/text Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Sex with Emily, renowned psychiatrist and brain expert Dr. Daniel Amen joins us to explore how our "hidden dragons", the unconscious patterns from our past, are secretly controlling our happiness, relationships, and sex lives. Based on his latest book, "Your Brain is Always Listening," Dr. Amen reveals how childhood experiences, family trauma, and even ancestral patterns get written into our brains and show up in our intimate relationships. We dive deep into the most common dragons people face, including the anxious dragon, the abandoned and insignificant dragon, and the codependent dragon. Dr. Amen shares his personal journey with these patterns and explains how understanding your dragons can transform not just your mental health, but your sexual wellness too. We explore the connection between brain health and sexual function, why ADD can impact orgasms, and how negative thought patterns become "bad habits" that sabotage intimacy. This episode includes practical tools like positivity bias training, the power of rewriting your story, and specific breathing techniques that can reset your nervous system. Dr. Amen also addresses a listener's question about cheating addiction and explains how brain scans revealed the neurological patterns behind compulsive behavior. Whether you're struggling with commitment issues, sexual anxiety, or just want to understand how your brain affects your love life, this conversation offers both scientific insights and actionable strategies for creating healthier relationships. Show Notes: 00:00 - Introduction to Hidden Dragons 01:02 - Dr. Amen's Personal Dragon Story 04:40 - The Abandoned & Insignificant Dragon 08:26 - Most Common Dragons People Face 11:07 - The Ancestral Dragon & Epigenetics 14:18 - Rewriting Your Story & Focus 16:06 - Positivity Bias Training 19:07 - Happiness as Moral Obligation 21:22 - Brain Health & Sexual Function 24:02 - Building Better Mental Habits 27:59 - Listener Q&A: Cheating Addiction 35:12 - ADD & Relationships 38:20 - ADD & Female Orgasms 40:30 - Breathing Techniques for Regulation Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let's get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let's text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, Dr. Emily sits down with Mistress Justine Cross, a professional dominatrix, educator, and owner of Dungeon East in Los Angeles, to demystify BDSM and power play. From breaking down what BDSM actually means to exploring how anyone can safely incorporate kink into their sex lives, Justine shares over a decade of experience helping people discover their desires without judgment. We dive deep into the realities of professional domination, debunking myths perpetuated by "50 Shades of Gray" and explaining why BDSM is far more psychological than physical. Justine walks us through the importance of consent, negotiation, and boundaries, revealing how these skills enhance not just kinky encounters but all intimate relationships. We explore everything from beginner-friendly activities to advanced practices like chastity training and post-orgasm torture. This episode addresses common concerns about introducing kink to partners, finding compatible people who share your interests, and the difference between healthy exploration and unhealthy dynamics. Whether you're completely new to BDSM or looking to deepen your understanding, Justine provides practical advice for safe, consensual exploration while emphasizing that great kink—like great sex—is built on communication, trust, and mutual respect. Show Notes:  00:00 - Introduction to BDSM and Power Play  02:13 - Defining BDSM: Bondage, Discipline, Dominance & Submission  04:09 - Professional Domination: What Really Happens  07:10 - Debunking 50 Shades Myths  12:37 - The Omakase Approach: Exploring What You Like  16:01 - Orgasm Control and Chastity Training 18:16 - Communication: Talking to Partners About Kink  22:07 - BDSM 101: Starting Your Journey  25:32 - Creating Beautiful, Accessible Kink Spaces  30:06 - Ball Busting and Physical Play Safety  32:48 - Finding Your Dominant or Submissive Side This episode emphasizes that BDSM isn't about expensive equipment or extreme scenarios—it's about power exchange, communication, and exploring desires in a safe, consensual environment with partners who respect your boundaries. Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let's get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let's text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this bonus episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily breaks down the top 10 red flags in bed that go beyond bad technique—these are the behaviors that can seriously impact your safety, intimacy, and sexual satisfaction. From partners who never ask what you like to those who skip foreplay entirely, we explore the warning signs that indicate deeper issues around sexual awareness, communication, and respect. We dive into why these red flags matter, including partners who don't take feedback, make orgasm the only goal, ignore consent, lead with ego, and vanish emotionally after sex. Dr. Emily also addresses those who shame your fantasies, avoid sexual health conversations, and expect mind-reading instead of open communication. This isn't about shaming anyone—it's about recognizing patterns early so you can advocate for your needs and build healthier, more connected sexual experiences. Whether you're dating, in a relationship, or just want to know what to watch out for, this episode gives you the tools to identify red flags and prioritize partners who truly care about mutual pleasure and respect. Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx  Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let's get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let's text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, Dr. Emily teams up with Dr. Scott Lyons, a licensed holistic psychologist and trauma expert, to tackle one of the most common relationship challenges: when sex starts feeling like just another item on your to-do list. From exploring why intimacy can lose its spark to practical strategies for reigniting desire, this conversation gets to the heart of what happens when pleasure becomes obligation. We dive deep into the psychology behind sexual disconnection, examining how stress, routine, and unspoken resentments can transform what should be joyful into something that feels burdensome. Dr. Scott shares insights on nervous system regulation and how our bodies respond when we're overwhelmed, while Dr. Emily offers practical advice on communication, scheduling intimacy, and the importance of prioritizing pleasure throughout the week—not just in the bedroom. This episode addresses the reality that many couples face: mismatched libidos, the pressure to perform, and the challenge of maintaining sexual connection amid life's demands. We explore how to shift from duty-based sex to desire-driven intimacy, the role of variety and spontaneity in long-term relationships, and why "priming for pleasure" throughout the week is essential for a fulfilling sex life. Show Notes: 00:00:00 - When Sex Becomes a Chore 03:00:00 - The Psychology of Sexual Obligation06:41:00 - Mismatched Libidos and Relationship Dynamics 08:26:00 - Breaking the Routine: Adding Variety and Play 11:07:00 - Communication vs. Avoidance in Sexual Relationships 15:38:00 - Priming for Pleasure Throughout the Week 18:06:00 - Scheduling Sex: Intentional vs. Spontaneous Intimacy 23:10:00 - From Duty to Desire: Practical Strategies 28:14:00 - Building Anticipation and Connection 30:04:00 - Redefining Sexual Success and Satisfaction Whether you're feeling disconnected from your partner or just want to prevent sex from becoming routine, this episode offers compassionate guidance and actionable strategies for reclaiming the joy and connection that intimate relationships can provide. Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx  Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let's get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let's text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this captivating episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, Dr. Emily welcomes back adult film legend and author Joanna Angel to discuss her brilliant new choose-your-own-adventure erotic novel "Club 42." From her transformative days as a stripper to building a porn empire, Joanna shares how embracing her sexuality became the foundation of her confidence and success We dive into Joanna's fascinating journey of sexual self-discovery, exploring how stripping taught her to embrace her femininity, develop unshakeable confidence, and connect authentically with others. Her new book takes readers on multiple erotic adventures through a strip club setting, allowing you to choose your own path through various sexual scenarios—from hooking up with fellow dancers to exploring BDSM and everything in between. This episode is packed with practical advice on dirty talk, sexting, and vocal expression during intimacy. Joanna breaks down why authentic communication is crucial for great sex, how to move beyond performative sounds influenced by porn, and why being genuinely expressive enhances pleasure for everyone involved. We also explore her weakness for "band guys" and how sexual attraction doesn't always align with our feminist ideals. Key Topics Covered: How stripping transformed Joanna's confidence and sexuality The art of choose-your-own-adventure erotica Dirty talk vs. sexting: different skills for different situations Moving beyond porn-influenced sexual performance Why authentic vocalization enhances pleasure Sexual confidence and embracing your desires The psychology behind attraction to "bad boys" Creating inclusive, diverse sexual narratives Joanna's refreshing honesty about sexuality, combined with her literary talents, offers listeners both inspiration and practical tools for expanding their own sexual adventures. Whether you're looking to spice up your relationship or explore new fantasies, this episode celebrates the power of choice, authenticity, and unapologetic pleasure. Show Notes:  00:00:00 - Joanna's journey from stripper to porn entrepreneur 08:00:00 - How stripping built unshakeable sexual confidence15:00:00 - "Club 42": Choose-your-own-adventure erotica 23:00:00 - The art of authentic dirty talk and sexting 31:00:00 - Moving beyond performative sexuality 38:00:00 - Listener questions and practical advice This episode reminds us that great sex starts with knowing yourself, embracing your desires, and having the confidence to ask for what you want—whether in the bedroom or on the page. Join the SmartSX Membership : ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx  ⁠Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ ⁠ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/ ⁠ Let's get social:  Instagram ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠  X ⁠https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠ Facebook ⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠ TikTok ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily ⁠ Threads https:⁠//www.threads.net/@sexwithemily  ⁠ Let's text: Sign up here ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this essential bonus episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, Dr. Emily tackles one of the most common and complicated questions in modern relationships: Does watching porn count as cheating? If you've ever felt that stomach-dropping moment when you discovered your partner's browser history, or wondered if your own porn consumption crosses a line, this episode is for you. Dr. Emily cuts straight through the confusion to reveal that there's no universal answer to this question—but if it's coming up in your relationship, there's something deeper worth exploring. The real issue isn't necessarily the porn itself, but whether this behavior is breaking trust and violating the agreements you've made with your partner. We explore why so many couples never discuss porn until someone gets hurt, how childhood conditioning around secrecy affects our adult relationships, and why the shame and silence surrounding porn often cause more damage than the porn itself. Dr. Emily also addresses when porn consumption can become genuinely problematic and offers practical guidance for having these crucial conversations. Key Topics Covered: Why there's no universal definition of cheating The difference between porn use and porn problems How secrecy and shame damage relationships more than porn Why many people never discuss boundaries until it's too late When porn consumption becomes genuinely concerning How to have honest conversations about digital boundaries Moving from assumptions to actual agreements This episode emphasizes that porn doesn't ruin relationships—it's the lack of communication, transparency, and mutual understanding that creates problems. Whether you're completely comfortable with porn or feel threatened by it, this episode provides the framework for having honest, productive conversations about digital intimacy boundaries. Remember: Communication is always sexier than making assumptions and making your partner wrong. Join the SmartSX Membership : ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx  ⁠Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ ⁠  Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/ ⁠Let's get social:  Instagram ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠  X ⁠https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠ Facebook ⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠ TikTok ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily ⁠ Threads https:⁠//www.threads.net/@sexwithemily   ⁠ Let's text: Sign up here ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this essential episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, Dr. Emily sits down with Dr. Ina Park, associate professor at UCSF School of Medicine and author of "Strange Bedfellows: Adventures in the Science, History, and Surprising Secrets of STDs." From her early days as a peer educator dressed as a giant condom at UC Berkeley to becoming a leading expert in sexual health, Dr. Park brings both humor and expertise to one of the most stigmatized topics in sexual wellness. We dive deep into the myths and realities surrounding STIs, exploring why HPV is truly "the common cold of the genitals" that nearly everyone will encounter, how herpes stigma far outweighs its actual health impact, and why people who know their status are actually safer partners than those who don't. Dr. Park shares fascinating insights about everything from The Bachelor's problematic STI testing to the connection between pubic hair grooming and infection risk. This conversation tackles the shame and fear that keep us from having honest discussions about sexual health, while providing practical advice on testing, disclosure, and maintaining healthy relationships regardless of STI status. We also explore the vaginal microbiome, why some people are more susceptible to infections, and promising new treatments on the horizon. Key Topics Covered: HPV: Why it's unavoidable and how to think about it differently Herpes disclosure and reducing transmission risk The truth about oral sex and STI transmission Pubic hair, Brazilian waxes, and infection risk Vaginal health and the microbiome Why knowing your status makes you a safer partner Breaking down STI stigma and shame Dr. Park's refreshing approach reminds us that STIs are simply part of being sexually active humans, and that knowledge, communication, and compassion are our best tools for sexual wellness. Show Notes:  00:00:00 - Dr. Park's journey from condom costume to STI expert 07:00:00 - HPV: The common cold of the genitals 14:00:00 - Herpes myths, realities, and disclosure strategies 22:00:00 - Oral sex and STI transmission risks 26:00:00 - Pubic hair grooming and infection risk 31:00:00 - Vaginal microbiome and bacterial balance 36:00:00 - Listener Q&A: Real STI concerns answered 42:00:00 - Breaking stigma and having better conversations This episode emphasizes that sexual health is part of overall wellness, and that honest, shame-free conversations about STIs can transform how we approach intimate relationships. Join the SmartSX Membership : ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx ⁠ Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ ⁠  Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/ ⁠ Let's get social:  Instagram ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠  X ⁠https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠ Facebook ⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠ TikTok ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily ⁠ Threads https:⁠//www.threads.net/@sexwithemily  ⁠ Let's text: Sign up here ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this throwback episode, Gwyneth Paltrow joins Dr. Emily to discuss her groundbreaking series "Sex, Love & Goop" and why she's passionate about normalizing conversations around sexual wellness. From her journey as a Gen X woman navigating shame around female pleasure to creating beautifully designed vibrators that challenge stigma, Gwyneth opens up about the evolution of her own sexuality and the importance of sexual wellness as a pillar of overall health. We explore how sexual intimacy serves as a microcosm for all our relationships, why accountability and communication are essential for fulfilling partnerships, and how Gwyneth's current marriage has allowed her to experience a new level of sexual freedom in her late forties. The conversation delves into the performative nature of sexuality many women experience, the challenge of asking for what we want, and how non-judgmental partners can create space for authentic sexual expression. Gwyneth also shares insights about perimenopause and menopause, advocating for rebranding this life stage as an exciting gateway rather than an ending. She discusses her wellness journey, including how gut health has impacted her hormone balance, and reveals her hopes that her show will inspire couples to have vulnerable conversations that deepen their intimate connections. Key Topics Covered: Breaking cultural shame around female sexual pleasure The importance of sexual wellness in overall health Creating sex-positive products and conversations Navigating sexuality through different life stages Communication and vulnerability in intimate relationships Menopause as a gateway to deeper sexuality The connection between gut health and hormones This episode emphasizes that sexual wellness deserves the same attention as other aspects of health, and that honest conversations about pleasure and intimacy can transform relationships at any age. Show Notes: 00:00:00 - Netflix series and sexual healing exploration 07:00:00 - Gen X sexuality and cultural shame 14:00:00 - Creating beautiful, stigma-free sex products 21:00:00 - Evolution of personal sexuality and partnerships 28:00:00 - Menopause rebranding and sexual evolution 35:00:00 - Wellness, gut health, and hormone balance 42:00:00 - Quick-fire questions and final thoughts Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ  (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let’s get social:  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily   Let’s text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this intimate episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, Dr. Emily teams up with Dr. Scott Lyons, a licensed holistic psychologist and body-based trauma expert, to explore how vocalizing pleasure can transform your intimate experiences. From a candid discussion about their couples massage experience in Vegas to practical advice on overcoming sexual silence, this episode reveals why making authentic sounds during sex creates deeper connection and more intense pleasure. We dive into the psychology behind sexual silence, examining how childhood conditioning, shame, and societal expectations keep us quiet when we should be expressing ourselves. Dr. Scott explains the nervous system science behind vocalization, including how making sounds stimulates the vagus nerve and helps regulate our bodies during intimate moments. We also tackle the difference between authentic pleasure sounds and performative moaning influenced by porn culture. This episode addresses common concerns like being too loud with roommates or kids in the house, offers practical exercises for gradually increasing your vocal expression, and explores how sound creates crucial feedback loops between partners. Whether you're naturally quiet or overly performative, you'll learn how to find your authentic voice of pleasure. Show Notes: 00:00:00 - The Vegas Massage Story: Learning from Authentic Sound 03:00:00 - Why We Stay Silent During Pleasure 06:41:00 - Men, Masturbation & the Culture of Quiet Sex 08:26:00 - Sound as Nervous System Regulation 11:07:00 - Authentic vs. Performative Vocalization 15:38:00 - The Sixth Limb: Your Voice as Extension of Your Body 18:06:00 - Shame, Control & Sexual Expression 23:10:00 - Practical Exercises: Touch for Pleasure Practice 28:14:00 - Sensory Play & Exploration 30:04:00 - Parents, Kids & Sexual Noise Concerns 33:08:00 - The 10% Challenge: Starting Small Join Dr. Emily and Dr. Scott as they share personal insights and professional expertise on breaking through sexual silence to unlock deeper pleasure and connection. This episode includes a live demonstration and practical homework to help you discover your authentic voice of pleasure. Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ  (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let’s get social:  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily   Let’s text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, Dr. Emily debunks five pervasive sex myths that may be holding you back from experiencing your best intimate life. From the "body count" obsession to orgasm pressure, we explore why these common beliefs are not only wrong but potentially harmful to your sexual confidence and relationships. We dive deep into why the number of sexual partners doesn't determine your skill as a lover, the truth about natural lubrication and arousal, and how focusing solely on orgasms can actually prevent you from having them. Dr. Emily also addresses vibrator myths, explaining why sex toys enhance rather than replace intimacy, and breaks down outdated beliefs about anal play that keep people from exploring new dimensions of pleasure. Featuring listener questions from Francesca, Josh, Taylor, Melissa, and Nicole, this episode provides practical advice for navigating sexual insecurities, communication with partners, and expanding your intimate repertoire. Whether you're dealing with dryness, struggling to reach climax, or curious about introducing new elements to your sex life, this episode offers science-backed insights and compassionate guidance. Show Notes: 00:00:00 - The Body Count Myth 08:00:00 - Quality vs. Quantity in Sexual Experience 11:30:00 - The Lube Myth & Natural Lubrication 17:25:00 - Orgasm Pressure & Pleasure Focus 23:17:00 - Vibrator Addiction Myths 29:57:00 - Anal Play Misconceptions 33:02:00 - Listener Q&A: Building Sexual Confidence This episode emphasizes that great sex is about communication, presence, and understanding your own body—not conforming to arbitrary standards or myths that create unnecessary pressure and shame. Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ  (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let’s get social:  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily   Let’s text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, we dive into the complexities of commitment by exploring our contrasting perspectives—one of us grappling with a fear of merging in relationships, the other reflecting on a tendency to overcommit. We unpack how childhood experiences, parental relationship models, and societal pressures shape our views on intimacy, boundaries, and compatibility. From the gamification of dating culture to generational differences in approaching relationships, we examine the challenges Gen X and Gen Z face in defining commitment. We also discuss the emotional weight of erectile dysfunction and the unrealistic expectations placed on male sexuality. Through honest conversation, we question traditional norms and explore the idea that commitment doesn’t have to be one-size-fits-all—sometimes, a redefined or intermittent approach may lead to healthier, more fulfilling connections. Show Notes: 00:00:00 - Commitment Phobia 00:02:21 - Commitment & Relationship Anxiety 04:40 - Commitment & Childhood Trauma 07:39 - Commitment Phobia & Dynamics 10:25 - Commitment, Casual Sex & Polyamory 13:10 - Commitment Issues & Attachment 15:14 - Avoidant Attachment & Dynamics 17:41 - Commitment vs. Incompatibility 20:00 - Commitment & "Perfect" Partners 22:20 - Dating Exhaustion & Sex Drought Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ  (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let’s get social:  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily   Let’s text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This podcast episode tackles five common sex questions: communicating about sex and trying new things; improving oral sex; spicing up the sex life; increasing sex drive; and lasting longer. The episode emphasizes open communication as key to better sex, offering practical advice on navigating awkward conversations, addressing defensive responses, and prioritizing individual needs. Specific techniques for improving oral sex, addressing low libido (including medical and psychological factors), and dealing with differing sex drives are discussed. Several listener emails are addressed, providing personalized advice on various sexual challenges, including premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, and overcoming discomfort with oral sex. The episode also recommends resources like Ian Kerner's work and suggests strategies for increasing sexual satisfaction and communication within relationships. Timestamps: 00:00:16 - Top 5 Sex Questions 00:03:30 - Improving Sex Communication 06:57 - Overcoming Barriers to Sex Talks 09:33 - Communicating Sexual Needs 15:43 - Boosting Sex Drive 18:49 - Libido & Relationship Issues 21:29 - Spice Up Your Sex Life 24:19 - Relationship Sex Issues 29:40 - Mastering Oral Sex 44:04 - Listener Questions & Intimacy 55:49 - Premature Ejaculation Issues This episode is sponsored by Aria - a nightstand-worthy lubricant that turns intimacy into a luxury experience. Get 20% off at http://arialuxelife.com/emily with code SWE20. Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ  (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let’s get social:  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily   Let’s text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text  https://sexwithemily.com/the-ultimate-gui…aving-better-sex/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, we explore the science of lasting relationships with insights grounded in the Gottman Method. Discover the four behaviors that predict divorce with 94% accuracy, why emotional connection is key to great sex, and how couples can deepen intimacy with better communication—not perfect compatibility. From sleep-deprived parents to long-term partners, this conversation is packed with research-backed tips to transform your love life. #love #relationship #divorce Timestamps: 00:00:00 - Relationship Success & Gottman Institute 03:14 - Couple's Coffee Shop Love Story 06:33 - Predicting Relationship Success/Failure 10:03 - Four Horsemen of Apocalypse 17:03 - Relationship Workshops & Education 20:22 - Post-Baby Relationships 23:50 - Relationship Challenges & Communication 27:25 - Deepening Relationships Through Dates 30:23 - Rediscovering Shared Dreams & Values 46:33 - Factors in a Great Sex Life 1:00:00 - Prioritizing Relationships & Intimacy Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let’s get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let’s text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text Full show notes here: https://sexwithemily.com/the-science-of-l…-prevent-divorce/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this powerful episode of Sex with Emily and Shroter, we’re joined by Dolly, a renowned sexological bodyworker featured in Cosmopolitan and Hustler, for a deep dive into somatic sex therapy and the true path to embodied pleasure. Dolly opens up about her healing journey after a sexless marriage—how breathwork, mirror work, and intentional self-touch led her to reclaim her body and reawaken her desire. Together, we unpack what it means to stop performing and start feeling, breaking down the difference between orgasm and climax, and how to explore your body with curiosity, not pressure. Timestamps: 00:01:08 - Healing Journey: Sex & Pleasure 00:07:17 - Post-Divorce Healing & Femininity 10:57 - Embodied Sexuality & Vulva Mapping 14:10 - Vulva Mapping & Frustration 20:06 - Embodiment, Self-Touch & Vulva Hug 23:50 - Vulva Hug Meditation Practice 32:03 - Vulva Anatomy & Trauma Release 43:41 - Reclaiming Your Vulva: Love & Healing 46:16 - Expanding Orgasmic Potential 01:00:51 - Q&A & Vulva Hug Meditation Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ  (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let’s get social:  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily   Let’s text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week on Sex With Emily, we're tackling one of the most harmful and outdated questions in modern dating: "What's your body count?" In conversation with holistic psychologist and trauma expert Dr. Scott Lyons, we explore the troubling origins of this term, once used to count military casualties, and how it’s been repurposed to judge sexual history, often unfairly targeting women. We unpack the double standards rooted in purity culture, the insecurities this question provokes, and the shame it can breed in both high and low numbers. More importantly, we discuss why the number of sexual partners has nothing to do with sexual skill, emotional readiness, or compatibility. #intimacy #love #relationships Timestamps: 00:00:00 - Body Count: A Sex-Positive Discussion 00:03:00 - Judging Past Relationships 05:51 - Body Count & Insecurities 08:24 - Why Judging is Wrong 10:46:38 - Historical Shame Roots 13:22 - Societal Shame & Body Count 15:47 - Regrets & Sexual Experiences 18:13 - Reframing the Conversation 22:44:04 - Ditching the Question 25:38 - Addressing Relationship Insecurities 37:53 - Pleasure, Goodbyes & Outro If you’re 21+, try VIIA! For 15% off AND a free gift with your first order go to ⁠https://viia.co/EMILY⁠ and use code EMILY! #viiapartner Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Join the SmartSX Membership : ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides:⁠⁠ https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ ⁠⁠ SHOP WITH EMILY!: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ ⁠⁠ (free shipping on orders over $99)Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠⁠ Let’s get social: Instagram ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠⁠ X ⁠⁠https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠⁠ Facebook ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠⁠ TikTok ⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily ⁠⁠ Threads ⁠⁠https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily ⁠⁠ Let’s text: Sign up here ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text ⁠ Full show notes: ⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices