Healing & Dealing

Welcome to another episode of the Healing and Dealing podcast. In today’s episode, Ashley Beeman joins me to talk about her journey from battling addiction and body image issues to achieving personal and professional success, and highlights the transformative power of mindset shifts and self-acceptance. She touches on the ADHD management, body dysmorphia, and the impact of multi-level marketing (MLM) culture on self-perception and the importance of balance, sustainable approaches to health, and the rejection of restrictive ideologies, whether in dieting or other aspects of life. Overall, the emphasis of this episode is on creating a positive, empowered mindset that extends to all aspects of life, including personal development, relationships, and overall well-being.

“I realized that in the anti-diet space, I had just as many rules as I did when I was in the diet culture space. And I remember crying to one of my friends on the phone being like, I just want to order a scale, but I'm not supposed to, I'm not supposed to want to change my body, I'm not supposed to want to do any of that. And she reminded me that, you know, this is your life, actually, you can do what you want. And that's when I started breaking all of the rules. And I found my happy little like, gray area, the magical gray area is what I like to call it. And I went on this journey of just trusting myself, trusting my decisions, and really coming from a space of love and not hate”- Ashley Beeman

Key highlights from this episode:

Ashley shares her weight loss journey after becoming a mother, discussing the emotional toll, unhealthy practices, and struggles with addiction to Adderall. She emphasizes the turning point when she decided to heal her relationship with herself.

The shift from the yo-yo diet culture to the anti-diet and body positivity space. While initially liberating, she later realized the presence of restrictive rules in this space as well.

Breaking free from rigid rules, finding a balanced approach, and embracing the "magical gray area” and the importance of trust, self-love, and decision-making from a positive mindset.

Discussion on ADHD, her coping mechanisms, and the importance of self-awareness and personalized strategies for managing daily tasks.

Past struggles, including addiction, withdrawal from Adderall, and the commitment to share her story to help others.

The conversation transitions to body dysmorphia, with Ashley defining it as perceiving one's body differently from reality. She shares her personal struggle,emphasizing the importance of deep work, self-love, and acceptance.

The intensification of body dysmorphia to her involvement in multi-level marketing (MLM), where the focus on body transformations for business purposes contributed to negative body image.

Mindset Shift, moving from detachment to embracing and appreciating her body for its capabilities and the experiences it allows.

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In today’s episode of the Healing and Dealing podcast, Michelle Gordon joined me to talk about her journey as a happy nurse whose mission is to help women take control of their lives, step into their power and rediscover their passion and confidence. She also talks about her experience in overcoming burnout and achieving a healthier, more fulfilling life. She delves into the impact of burnout on physical and mental health and the importance of solitude and self-reflection, shifts in perspective, embracing emotions, and making lifestyle changes. Michelle's story highlights the transformative power of reconnecting with one's values, engaging in self-care, rebuilding relationships, and ultimately pursuing a career aligned with one's passions. This episode underscores the potential for positive change and growth even in the face of significant challenges.

“Being on my own was a very foreign thing for me, because I constantly had surrounded myself with lots of people. And I think I had done that looking back very deliberately because I was people-pleaser, I needed validation. And that meant having people around me. So being on my own really helps me start to untangle a lot of my thoughts and process a lot of those thoughts and then start to really connect back with my feelings.”- Michelle Gordon

Key highlights:

Coping with burnout  by turning to alcohol as a means of escape, leading to a cycle of overworking, overcompensating, and people-pleasing.

Seeking help from a life coach, shifting her perspective on life and taking back control over her destiny. 

The healing process involved identifying and aligning with her core values, recognizing the importance of health, freedom, and family, which she had neglected while defined solely by her nursing identity.

Through fitness, self-reflection, and reconnection with emotions, she regained mental clarity, leading to positive changes in her overall well-being.

Michelle stopped using alcohol as a coping mechanism, faced the discomfort of feeling her emotions, and found solace in practices like weightlifting and beach walks. Her relationship with alcohol transformed, allowing her to enjoy a beer without the need for escapism.

Learning to be present, savoring small moments, and appreciating the beauty around. This mindfulness contributed to her overall sense of joy and well-being.

Michelle's personal experience enables her to empathize with others facing burnout, helping them navigate the challenges and rediscover a sense of self.

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Welcome to another episode of the Healing and Dealing podcast! Brittney Phillips joined me in this new episode to talk about navigating the complexities of a blended family, the conflicts and the challenges. She delves more into the dynamics of a blended family based on her own personal experiences. We discuss co-parenting relationships, parenting styles, dealing with past traumas, creating memories as a blended family, and the importance of working through challenges to strengthen relationships within the family. We talk about balancing time between the biological and the stepchildren, sometimes feeling guilty when prioritizing time with our biological son over our stepsons. This episode underscores the significance of acknowledging and addressing past traumas, adopting effective co-parenting strategies, and working collaboratively to create a positive and nurturing environment for all family members. Overall, the takeaway is a message of resilience, growth, and the possibility of building fulfilling family dynamics in the context of blended families.

“It's such a tricky position to be in to be the step parent. I think most of the time the stepmom is not trying to take over, they're just trying to be a person in their life. Right. And so having some understanding for that can be helpful. That's when we get in trouble is when we start to feel jealousy or like either way from the biological mom or from the stepmom. But what I recommend to my clients is like, let's get curious. Why are we feeling jealous? Are we feeling insecure? Like what's coming up for us? Because this actually isn't a problem over here. It's a problem here in my heart, in me that I need to deal with. So that's kind of the biggest suggestion I would make.” -Brittney Phillips

Key takeaways:

Blended families come with unique challenges, including navigating different parenting styles, addressing past traumas, and fostering new relationships.

Open and honest communication is crucial in addressing issues within blended families. 

Effective co-parenting is essential. This involves collaboration between parents to ensure consistency in parenting styles, discipline, and decision-making for the well-being of the children.

Recognizing and addressing past traumas, both for parents and children, is important for healing and building a healthy family environment.

Creating a positive and nurturing environment is a shared responsibility. Family members can work together to cultivate an atmosphere where everyone feels supported and valued.

The discussion touches on the feeling of guilt that can arise when trying to balance time between biological and stepchildren. The speaker shares personal experiences of feeling guilty when spending time with her biological son and highlights the need to overcome societal judgments

The need to balance different parenting styles, address feelings of favoritism, and navigate the dynamics of having both biological and stepchildren.

The challenge of stepchildren interpreting requests or discipline differently than biological children.

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In this new episode of the Healing and Dealing podcast, I am joined by my long-time friend of mine, Portia Franklin. She shares her inspiring journey from being a mother at the age of 14 to empowering women by recounting her story. She talks about her journey through teenage pregnancy, educational struggles, and the complexities of single motherhood. She delves into the importance of a strong support system, continuous learning, and breaking free from toxic patterns. Additionally, there is a focus on Portia's entrepreneurial spirit, her commitment to her children, and her rediscovery of purpose through her passion for working with women and children. The story overall conveys themes of empowerment, healing, and the pursuit of a fulfilling life despite adverse circumstances.

“Maybe I hid my fears behind confidence, maybe I hid my insecurity behind confidence. Because I did have a lot of insecurities. I did have a lot of fears. But I always just showed up because I had to, I had no other choice but to show up and make things happen. Because if I wanted to have something I always had to do it myself, you know, and my mom did her very best, but she taught me and she showed me what hard work was and she showed me that you just get it done, you just make it happen. And so no matter what that looks like, whatever adversity comes your way you gotta keep trucking on because ain't no one come in to make the bed for you.”- Portia Franklin

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Portia emphasizes the importance of having a supportive network, particularly her mom and a teacher who played a crucial role in her journey. Having a support system during challenging times can make a significant difference.

Portia reflects on her experience as a single mom and her approach to dating. She acknowledges the impact of past trauma and how it influenced her views on relationships.

The importance of continuous learning and growth. She reflects on the evolution of her parenting style, recognizing the need for personal healing and breaking generational patterns.

Passion for empowering women and supporting children is evident throughout her journey. From running a daycare to currently leading in kids' ministry at her church, she remains dedicated to these causes.

Commitment to disrupting toxic patterns and ensuring a healthier environment for her children. This involves recognizing the impact of past experiences and actively working towards personal and familial healing.

The challenges of blending families and the importance of communication and apologies in overcoming obstacles.

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Welcome to another episode of the Healing and Dealing podcast. In this episode, I am joined by Liz Abess to talk about  her personal journey as a recovering codependent, her experiences with a drug-addicted older brother, the influence of codependency on her relationships, marriage, and the subsequent journey of rediscovering herself. Liz touches on the challenges faced by families dealing with addiction , the role of denial, and the importance of recognizing and addressing codependent behaviors. We share insights  into the characteristics of codependency, its subtle manifestations, and the need for self-awareness and personal growth. Overall, the emphasis is on understanding codependency, its impact, and taking steps toward healthier, more balanced relationships.

“Somehow you need to peel back the layers. You get to the root of you. I did that with codependency with like I said, your therapy yoga God, I had to peel back myself and realize, like, what is going on? It got to where I was super controlling, super FOMO, super micromanaging. And this was after us grieving and that season of depression, because that was how I coped. And it was like relationship addiction, which they call codependency and just leaning on people needing people”- Liz ABess

Certainly! Here are the key takeaways from the previous context:

The difficulties of living in the shadow of her drug-addicted older brother, who she adored. His overdose in his 30s had a profound effect on her, leading her to develop a pattern of fixing people to feel worthy.

How codependency had a significant impact on Liz's relationships, including her marriage, and how it influenced her behavior and decisions.

The challenges faced by families dealing with addiction were discussed, shedding light on the complexities and difficulties involved in such situations.

The importance of recognizing codependent behaviors, fostering self-awareness, and acknowledging the need for change.

The process of healing, including seeking therapy and the ongoing effort required to overcome codependency.

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In this new episode of the Healing and Dealing podcast, Keli Carpenter joined me to talk about her  transformative journey through meditation and various healing practices. She talks about  her journey in overcoming childhood trauma, challenging relationships, and personal struggles. Kelly's story underscores the power of self-awareness, forgiveness, and somatic healing methods in overcoming adversity and generational trauma. This episode emphasizes the importance of conscious parenting, the significance of inner work, and the potential for healing and growth, even in the face of difficult circumstances. Additionally, it underscores the impact of supportive communities and immersive retreats in facilitating profound personal transformations. 

“I really talk about mental health just from these unconscious wounds. To me, that's all it is. I know that there's many labels out there that some people really find solace in, because it's like they get seen in some of those. But in the work that I do, which is kind of this realm of trauma and consciousness and where they intersect. And ultimately, it's just this part of ourselves where we haven't felt safe or you know, this connection within to something bigger than ourselves where there's a fragment. And with that then becomes behavioral, mental, emotional and behavioral patterns, which can be then classed as rules, not to negate them, but just that's just sharing some of my thoughts around it.” - Keli Carpenter

Key takeaways:

Impact of childhood trauma and the use of meditation to navigate these circumstances.

Personal Healing Journey through various methods of self-discovery, including self-esteem courses, martial arts, and somatic processing.

The importance of doing the healing work and seeking support in order to make a marriage successful, and notes that their ex-husband was not willing to do this

The importance of addressing generational trauma and the possibility of healing, even later in life. 

The importance of raising children who are aware of their body's needs and can listen to its messages.

Kelly conducts immersive retreats called "Awakening Through Trauma," where participants, including her own children, engage in deep healing work, forgiveness exercises, inner child healing, and breathwork, fostering profound personal transformations.

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In this new episode of the Healing and Dealing Podcast, I am joined by Celine Kheir, the founder of Saline Care Life Coaching and the author of How to Calm Your Mind. The overall emphasis of this episode is on the importance of self-awareness, self-forgiveness, and understanding one's emotions and thought patterns in the process of personal growth and overcoming challenges. Celine delves into topics such as self-love, breaking limiting beliefs, understanding the root causes of negative habits, and using emotional goals as motivation for positive change. She highlights the significance of mindfulness, self-care, and setting intentions aligned with one's emotions to create lasting transformations. The discussion addresses the challenges of procrastination and offers insights into how emotional awareness and self-compassion can be powerful tools in overcoming such hurdles. Overall, the focus is on inner transformation, self-acceptance, and the journey towards a more fulfilling and empowered life.

"Just follow your get to that state of mind where you're in the present moment where you are consciously aware of your thoughts. And you will see how your intuition, your guts, whatever you want to call it will guide you always to take the right decision and the right next step in life. It will never guide you in the wrong decision.”- Celine Kheir

In this episode, let’s talk more about:

Recognizing the significance of understanding one's emotions, thoughts, and behavioral patterns as a foundation for personal growth.

Forgiveness of oneself for past mistakes and cultivate self-love, acknowledging that everyone makes mistakes and learning from them is essential.

The concept of limiting beliefs that hinder personal progress and exploring ways to challenge and overcome these beliefs.

The importance of delving into the root causes of negative habits or behaviors, enabling individuals to address issues at their source.

The role of mindfulness and self-care practices in promoting emotional well-being and overall personal development.

Overcoming procrastination by understanding the underlying emotions and using emotional awareness and self-compassion as tools for motivation.

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In another episode of the Healing and Dealing Podcast, Aspen Arora joins me to talk about her deeply personal and challenging life experiences, particularly her struggles with mental health, trauma, and the inadequate support she received within the military healthcare system. Aspen shares her distressing encounters during a medical evacuation and subsequent treatment in a psychiatric facility. Aspen highlights the lack of proper mental health care, understanding, and compassion within these systems. Despite her ordeal, Aspen expresses her determination to use her experiences to advocate for change, emphasizing the need for accessible healing services and a shift in societal attitudes toward pain and trauma. 

Listen and be inspired by Aspen's resilience, her mission to bring awareness to these issues, and her commitment to making a difference in the lives of others who have faced similar challenges.

There are five main themes to trauma: work, safety, power, control, intimacy, esteem, and then there's a fifth one, trust, that’s the fifth one. When those things have been violated by a trauma, especially a capital T trauma, when you enter into a new relationship, a new agreement, with that on the table, and then you're met with anything but healing, you're effectively re-traumatizing somebody and yanking in and reinforcing, already believed thoughts, feelings, behaviors, because it keeps being repeated to you. So again, this is not about wasting time, this is very much like it is unsafe.”- Aspen Arora

Here are the key points to dig in this episode:

The Spiritual awakening, reconnecting with her spirituality and Celtic Druid roots and how spiritual journey helped her cope with the pain and darkness she experienced.

A traumatic medical evacuation experience, the lack of proper medical attention, and feeling trapped in a nightmare.

Challenges with the accessibility of appropriate mental health Care

The importance of spiritual wellness and finding healing modalities that resonate personally. 

Aspen’s experiences fueled her passion for advocacy. She expressed her mission to change the narrative around pain, promote community support, and ensure access to healing services for everyone. She aims to shed light on overlooked issues and encourage societal change.

Healing services for veterans and active duty.

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Welcome to another episode of the Healing and Dealing Podcast. This episode is going to be exciting because my mentor, Erin Porter, is joining me today and she will talk about how she helps women  scale through trauma informed business practices, internal healing and understanding the energetics of business. She talks about childhood trauma and people-pleasing habits and how it impacts your well-being. She also talks about childhood attachment experiences and their impact on current relationships and the importance of pacing in your healing journey. She shares the value of regulating the nervous system and embracing discomfort to navigate life's challenges. She will also discuss the protector parts and its role in our well-being. The discussion also highlights the role of self-compassion, curiosity, and celebration in the healing journey, as well as the importance of doing your own inner work before helping others as a coach or guide.

“I think everybody wants to leave their source of income like really quick and like go you know, quote, unquote, go all in and like, utilize the funds that you have coming in from a full time job or a part time job to like invest back into your business to know that your nervous system safe versus like growing yourself in this fight or flight. Because then I think what happens is if things don't happen, or you know, things turn or it's not going as fast, then you get resentful, then you get frustrated, then you get overwhelmed. And it's like give yourself and your nervous system like this space that you need in order to be able to work through it. So I say like, that was a big thing to where I let myself be okay with it versus again, thinking that oh, that means I'm not you know, good enough, or that means I'm not doing or I'm not going to be successful and all that.”- Andrea Shipley

Here are the key topics discussed in this episode:

People-pleasing habits to avoid discomfort and conflict that led to health issues and emotional struggles.

The impact of anxious attachment style to your relationships and  recognizing the importance of pacing in your healing journey.

Attachment therapy helps establish boundaries and understand your worth beyond achievement.

The role of protector parts, which are defense mechanisms developed in childhood to cope with challenging situations. These parts have both gifts and distortions and need reassurance and validation to integrate effectively.

Navigating Uncomfortable Moments by regulating the nervous system and learning to be comfortable with discomfort. 

Learning to navigate social situations without relying on coping mechanisms like alcohol. Curiosity, celebration of achievements, and self-compassion play crucial roles in this process.

The significance of coaches doing their own inner work. Personal growth and self-awareness are foundational for coaches to guide others effectively. 

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Hey listeners! It’s my 20th episode. It’s crazy to think that I have reached this huge milestone. 20 episodes, that's 20 weeks of giving you myself, sharing content with you, sharing all these beautiful people with you who have been guests on my podcast, sharing my family, sharing deep, intimate details of my life. So it's a huge deal to me. This is a double celebration because I am also celebrating one year of being alcohol-free. It still surprises me to think I have survived living without alcohol for a year. In this episode, I am going to reflect on my experiences with alcohol and how giving it up led to significant positive changes in my life, my childhood experiences, attachment styles, and the impact of my upbringing on my adult relationships, and the importance of self-love, healing, and embracing vulnerability to overcome past traumas and build meaningful connections with others. Additionally, I will share insights gained from my podcasting journey, highlighting the power of deep, meaningful conversations and the importance of authenticity and self-expression.

“There have been so many times where I've thought in the past that I won't ever get to the place that I want to be because of what I've been through. And that is just completely wrong. Now I understand that all of that that I've been through, is a motivator. And it's a catalyst for me to do bigger and better things. And I don't have to be a victim of the trauma I've been through, I don't have to play small and play into that part of just someone who's poor, someone who's on autopilot, someone who doesn't do any healing work, I don't have to stay in that. I've already grown so much, I've already conquered so much just in this short time of having the podcast that the sky's the limit. And it's not just the limit for me, it's the limit for everyone.”

In this episode, let’s delve into:

Podcasting journey, alcohol-free milestone. 

Starting a podcast, embracing a new identity as a podcaster. and overcoming perfectionism. 

Divorce, co-parenting, blended families, and personal growth. 

Quitting alcohol for improved mental and physical health. and healing through attachment styles. 

Healing from childhood trauma and toxic relationships.

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The moment you get curious, you start questioning, then you start noticing the problem, that’s when you will be able to give up alcohol . With these little shifts, it can change everything. I am joined today by Becca Walkinshaw, a mindset coach and creator of be magnificent AF alcohol-free lifestyle design coaching for professional women. She will talk about how she overcame being alcoholic, her childhood trauma, and struggling with her identity. She also shares her journey to self-discovery and building her identity after quitting alcohol where she emphasizes the importance of visualizing your ideal self, free from alcohol, and how this helps you make choices that align with your values and goals.

“I would have friends and people would be like, you're so kind and you're so outgoing, you're so loving, you're so popular, like people love you. And I never knew it. I couldn't see it about myself because I was so in this world when I would be home, like my thoughts and was drinking and was in this really negative cycle with my boyfriend too. And so it was just really interesting, because I didn't know like, to the outside world, I was like this happy, fun, loving, kind person and then on the inside, I just had self doubt, I had shame, I was in these negative cycles.”- Becca Walkinshaw

Here are the key highlights:

Teenage drinking and its impact on self-identity.

Alcoholism, used as a coping mechanism for childhood trauma and volatility, struggling with identity conflict due to pregnancy.

Quitting drinking and self-discovery. The value of having a coach in your journey towards alcohol freedom who can help you shift your perspective and beliefs

Journaling practice, noting how it helps you release subconscious thoughts and shift your focus from darkness to empowerment.

The importance of loving and appreciating past versions of themselves, even if they made mistakes or held onto negative patterns.

The importance of self-love and creating a schedule that prioritizes personal growth and well-being.The speaker prioritizes one-on-one time with loved ones, working out, and setting boundaries to maintain a healthy work-life balance.

Overcoming alcohol addiction through self-awareness and reprogramming and the importance of helping others and creating a safe space for sharing and growth.

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You have to let go of everybody’s crap that they stored in your brain. Now that you are a grown adult, you have the freedom to reprogram yourself. There’s a great power in self-love and self-acceptance. In today’s episode, Paola Rosser joins me to talk about her journey from being in an abusive family growing up and an abusive ex-partner causing her trauma and leading her to her dark period to finding an unexpected love and achieving every single thing in her vision board. Paola describes her own healing journey, which included dealing with past trauma, paying off debt, and untangling deep-seated belief systems from her childhood. She emphasizes the importance of personal growth and healing. She will delve into the various healing methods she used to address her past trauma and emotional baggage. Also, the importance of reprogramming your brain to overcome negative thought patterns. Join us as we laugh and cry to her journey towards healing and dealing with her past trauma. 

“I never experienced unconditional love. It was as if you were putting oil into water. And that's what it's going to feel like when you're standing in front of the mirror looking at yourself and saying, I am beautiful. I am smart. I am capable, I am talented. I am deserving, I am worthy. I am enough. If you do that every single day at first is going to feel weird. I guarantee it. But after a while, it's going to start reprogramming your brain. Yeah. And what happens is when you start reprogramming your brain, our brains are these beautiful things that are emitting frequency all the time. And people don't understand that this is a frequency you're always emitting a frequency. If you start to become aware of people's frequencies. If you go into a local bar at like, one o'clock in the morning, just don't even drink, don't do anything. Just go in there and sit by yourself and feel the frequencies that are coming off of people. One o'clock in the morning, a local dive bar, you'll feel that they are at the lowest frequency.”- Paola Rosser

In this episode, we’ll breakdown:

Emotional abuse and its long-term effects. 

Toxic relationships, self-regulation, and personal growth. 

Overcoming addiction and depression. 

Journey to recovery after a traumatic event, including their use of a gratitude journal to shift their mindset and find positivity.

Overcoming hardships and finding gratitude. 

Manifesting through self-love and healing and how it all unfolded.

Healing from childhood trauma and toxic relationships.

Overcoming limiting beliefs and negative self-talk and reprogramming your brain to overcome negative thoughts. 

Self-affirmations and their impact on mental health. 

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Welcome to the new episode of the Healing and Dealing Podcast. In this episode, Xiomara is joining me to talk about her life and her partner who decided to go alcohol-free back in February 2022. Xiomara shares how the alcohol impacted the dynamics of their relationship with her partner and her relationships with her friends and family. We will delve into the topic about the positive changes in their lives after being alcohol-free and the alcohol-free bachelorette party she organized. She will also talk about how the Euphoric Program helped her recognize the growth-oriented mindset needed for personal development and creating sober spaces and communities for others. Listen and be inspired by the transformative journey of Xiomara and her partner towards sobriety.

“I think we've definitely learned healthier coping mechanisms. So it's not about, you know, numbing your feelings anymore. It's about feeling your feelings and learning how to deal with the hard feelings in a healthy way, rather than numbing and turning to alcohol. So just to bounce off of that, yeah. But for me, my relationships, for the most part, have improved. I'm not going to say, you know, I think most people who go alcohol-free do have to deal with losing some relationships. You know, some of them for sure probably I was tolerating because I was drinking. And so when you quit drinking, especially like, early on, I really needed to be in healthy relationships. And I wasn't going to accept being mistreated anymore. And so there was like, one major relationship where I was like, I'm sorry, but I can't continue my relationship, essentially. And so that was a big one. And this was a pretty major family member. So that's been difficult. But again, it's kind of just like for your own peace of mind and mental health. And just, if it's getting to the point where I'm just like, so depressed from this person that I'm like, contemplating my own drinking habits, and like turning that then like, I can't have that person in my life.”-  Xiomara

The key highlights of this episode:

Xiomara and Karolina's Decision: Xiomara and Karolina decided to go alcohol-free as a couple to improve their relationship and personal well-being.

Past Alcohol-Related Issues: Alcohol had caused problems in their relationship in the past, including fights and confusion.

Benefits of Being Alcohol-Free: Going alcohol-free had brought more peace, improved communication, and greater clarity to their relationship.

Impact on Friendships: Their decision to go alcohol-free affected their friendships, with some improving and others fading away.

Alcohol-Free Bachelorette Party: Xiomara organized an alcohol-free bachelorette party, fostering deeper connections among friends.

Coping Strategies for ADHD: Xiomara shared her coping strategies for ADHD, including meditation, breathwork, mindfulness, and occasional caffeine consumption.

The Euphoric Program: Xiomara expressed gratitude for the Euphoric program, which helped her develop a growth-oriented mindset and create sober spaces and communities.

Podcast Recommendation: Charlotte recommended a podcast by Mel Robbins about adults with ADHD and their coping mechanisms.

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Welcome back to another episode of the Healing and Dealing Podcast. I am joined today by Becky Aste, a trauma-informed marriage coach. In this episode, Becky will share her personal journey and experiences in repairing a struggling marriage after years of research and various healing modalities. We will also delve into the importance of somatic work and nervous system regulation in healing and improving relationships, especially in the context of couples dealing with trauma and attachment issues. Any trauma can be repaired and healed if both individuals are dedicated to putting in the work. I am encouraging you to explore somatic work as a valuable tool for healing, improving relationships, and building a deep connection with oneself. 

“And so what the modern, especially Western psychology, mental health world people will say, If your marriage is not working go to therapy, go to couples counseling, read this book, listen to this podcast, I am a fan of all of those things, I'm not downing them. But if that's all, the only modalities that you're using, you're only working with 20% of the way that your body's designed. So you're gonna feel like a salmon swimming upstream. And you know, spend years spinning your wheels at best, or at worst, I see a lot of clients. And this was part of my journey too where you can end up getting re-traumatized, because of how much you're replaying the past and staying stuck. The body work, you know, somatic work, or nervous system regulation, those are kind of words to describe working with that 80% of natural flow messages. And so that's the suggestion, you know, the advice I give is just like, please learn how to get into the body and move trauma out because your body has kept the score of all the trauma that you've survived. And so that's where I would begin.”- Becky Aste

The key points of the episode:

The importance of somatic work in dealing with trauma. Somatic work involves focusing on the body's responses and sensations to address emotional and psychological issues. It helps individuals move trauma out of their bodies and find a sense of safety and connection.

Attachment Styles that played a significant role in the relationship dynamics. Becky mentioned that she identified with an anxious attachment style, while her husband exhibited traits of an avoidant attachment style. 

Learning to reconnect with your intuition, trust yourself, and prioritize your well-being. 

The conversation raises the question of whether couples who both have traumatic experiences can have a successful relationship. The answer suggests that healing and repair are possible if both partners are dedicated to doing the work.

Somatic work and nervous system regulation are powerful tools for healing trauma. These approaches involve understanding and addressing how the body responds to trauma and stress.

The importance of self-love and self-acceptance. Becky's breakthrough moment involved sincerely telling herself, "I love you," and believing it. This self-love journey positively impacted her self-esteem and relationship.

The growing awareness and acceptance of somatic work as a powerful tool for healing and personal growth. They hope that it becomes more widely recognized and accessible.

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Today’s episode of the Healing and Dealing Podcast is extra special because my son is joining me to share his experiences as a teenager and living in a blended family. We will discuss various aspects of our family dynamics, relationships, and personal experiences. We will also delve into my son's upbringing in a blended family, interactions with both his biological father and stepfather, his own personal growth and maturity, struggles he faced during his teenage years, and the challenges of navigating complex family relationships. This episode emphasizes the importance of communication, understanding, and acceptance within a blended family, while also touching on themes of personal growth, parental support, and the complexities of parenting through different life stages.

“I think the one thing a parent needs to know is just let your kid be who they want to be not what you want them to be, not what you like, fantasize about what your kid is going to be or something. Let them figure out what they want to do, be there for them and help them get to that place. And it's always gonna come back and better to the parent or to you. It's not going to resolve in a bad way. Like the kid is gonna respect you. And like all that, like, that's why I respect my dad so much. And I respect you guys.”-  Irie

Key takeaways from the conversation:

The complexities of family dynamics, relationships, and blended families. 

The challenges and growth involved in parenting and step-parenting. 

Open communication and mutual understanding are identified as essential factors in maintaining healthy family relationships. 

Adolescent development and the struggles teenagers face in understanding themselves and their place within the family. The son expresses how his perspectives on life, relationships, and priorities have evolved as he's matured.

The challenges and growth associated with allowing the son to make his own decisions and carve out his identity while balancing parental guidance.

The importance of respect in relationships, how someone treats you when they're angry or upset, and the idea that respect can be both earned and lost. 

The negative aspects of seeking validation through social media, especially when people post content for attention and approval. 

Allowing children to develop their own identities and aspirations, rather than trying to mold them into a predetermined ideal. Trust is a critical element in parent-child relationships.

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In another episode of the Healing and Dealing Podcast, Kady Romagnuolo is joining me to share her life and what led her to building her beautiful empire for herself and the people surrounding her. Kady will share her journey from overcoming childhood trauma, anxiety, and self-doubt to building a successful business and finding fulfillment in life.  She also talks about her journey of self-discovery, stepping out of her comfort zone, and embracing her passion to create a successful career and life. The overall message of this episode revolves around self-discovery, personal growth, and the transformative power of sharing personal stories. We encourage listeners to overcome limiting beliefs, embrace your own stories, and recognize the potential impact you can have on yourself and others by sharing your experiences. 

“The moment in which you actually share those pieces that you feel that you couldn't, is when we start to make integration and resolution on them. And we get this outside perspective all of a sudden when we say it out loud like the first time I said I'm really struggling with anxiety to a stranger. And it felt really icky for me to say but the moment I did it started to transfer all of those old feelings outside of me, so that I could then make the connections I needed to meet the people I needed to. And it is part of the stepping stone to being on the other side where you feel like you can authentically share that story. And then you'll have another story of something else that you've gone through that I feel like I don't know if I can share that part of my story. Yes. And you'll move through that journey of finding a way to do it, because you know that it is going to make a difference for someone else. And because it is going to make a difference for you personally, in doing it as well.” - Kady Romagnuolo

This episode highlights the following key takeaways:

Everyone's journey is unique. Overcoming childhood trauma, battling anxiety and depression, and facing challenges that hinder personal progress.

The importance of pushing past fears and taking action, even when feeling nervous, is highlighted as a way to overcome limitations and unlock personal potential.

Even accomplished individuals experience self-doubt. Overcoming these feelings involves recognizing them, reframing thoughts, and focusing on the excitement and growth that come from challenges.

The concept of aligning with moon phases to navigate life and business; working with the natural cycles of the moon.

The importance of discovering one's passion and purpose; explore what truly lights you up and pursue it with enthusiasm.

The significance of building confidence by taking small steps, embracing discomfort, and giving yourself permission to rest. 

Success is not a one-size-fits-all concept. It's about finding what aligns with one's unique journey and passions. 

The power of storytelling and vulnerability. It can inspire others who may be going through similar experiences and can contribute to personal healing and growth.

Sharing personal stories can lead to healing by providing an opportunity for integration and resolution of past experiences.

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Joining us in today’s episode of Healing and Dealing podcast is Tammy Ward, a life coach, personal development coach and a transformation and spiritual coach. She will share her journey towards personal growth, self-discovery and energy management. In this conversation, we will highlight the importance of moving away from a victim mentality and embracing empowerment by reframing one's perspective on past traumas and challenges. This episode will emphasize the significance of self-love, self-care, and inner healing as key components of personal development. We will also touch  on the practice of being present in the moment, releasing attachments to negative energies, and actively choosing how to respond to life's circumstances. Additionally, the conversation underscores the significance of playful and positive self-interactions, acknowledging the impact of external energies on one's emotional state, and provides strategies for maintaining a balanced energy field. Overall, the conversation encourages self-awareness, mindfulness, and adopting practices that facilitate emotional and spiritual growth.

“Everyone is different, as a personal development, as a transformation and spiritual development Coach, I would definitely say the first thing is to understand, do I still want to be a victim? So first and foremost, you need to ask yourself, Am I a victim? Do I still want to be a victim. And if you really can get into those questions, you can really understand where you're putting your energy, because everything is energy. So even though situations are energy, and if you keep attached to them, they're going to stay with you. And so meditation would be good, as you know, a meditative state of going back. So a lot of times you can have a journey, what we call it, and that shaman practitioner world is having a journey or daydream, whichever one, you want to call it, people call it a different thing. And you go back to that memory, you just go back to that memory and you allow yourself that power in that moment. So maybe you are too young to speak up for yourself or maybe you are too young to fight back. You know, it's about taking that moment and not creating anger, but create a space of like, you no longer affect me. Your words, your fist, your energy no longer affects me. And once you make that choice, that it doesn't affect you, then you can move on, you can then begin to see the power that lives within.” -Tammy Ward

The key takeaways from this episode:

Tammy Ward's mantra is to embrace life boldly and guide others to do the same. 

The process of transitioning from a victim mentality to an empowered perspective by releasing attachment to past traumas and reframing their experiences.

The significance of mindfulness and being present in the moment, the value of being fully engaged in each moment and making conscious choices.

The practice of positive self-talk and self-love is emphasized. Tammy encourages starting the day with affirmations like "I love you" and "Thank you." This practice promotes a positive mindset and fosters a healthy relationship with oneself.

Tammy's journey from a 24-year military career to becoming a life coach and healer demonstrates the transformative power of healing and personal growth. 

External factors, such as conflicts with family members like their mother, can greatly impact their energy. They describe an incident when a conflict with their mother resulted in a sudden drop in their energy and a flood of negative thoughts.

The importance of self-awareness and self-questioning during times of emotional shifts. They mention questioning why they are feeling a certain way and how understanding the "how" of dealing with negative emotions can be more helpful than fixating on the "why."

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This new episode of Healing and Dealing podcast will center around the idea that embracing an alcohol-free lifestyle can lead to self-empowerment, the discovery of one's purpose, and the ability to create a more fulfilling and meaningful life. Karolina Rzadkowolska, an alcohol free empowerment expert who helps intuitive women ditch alcohol and discover their greater purpose, the author of Euphoric Ditch Alcohol and Gain a Happier More Confident You, joins us today to share her valuable insight about her  journey of self-discovery, self-love, and empowerment that comes from choosing to live without alcohol. She also shares the impact of overcoming limiting beliefs and building confidence in your personal growth and the role of alcohol in one’s life. Listen to  this episode and be inspired to break free from your limiting beliefs and discover new opportunities and create a life filled with purpose and intention.

“I’m such an introvert, very shy growing up. So I really relied on alcohol to bring out that confidence. And it was such a limiting belief, alcohol never made me more confident was only deteriorating my self esteem over time and making me more insecure. But also finding that that's a state that I cultivate within through competence, through practice through building up that skill. And every time I outsourced it to alcohol, I was telling myself Karolina you're not good enough, you're not interesting, nobody wants to talk to you. But here drink this drink. And then you'll be better, you know, and how, like, how deteriorating that really can be for like a young woman's confidence for sure.” - Karolina Rzadkowolska

This episode emphasizes: 

The importance of showing self-love by taking care of one's future self, a way to rebuild trust and respect for yourself.

How alcohol can be associated with certain limiting beliefs, such as the need for alcohol to relax, socialize, or cope, challenging and debunking these beliefs can lead to greater freedom and empowerment.

Becoming alcohol-free can lead to increased confidence, courage, and the ability to chase one's goals.

Overcoming imposter syndrome, the tendency to feel inadequate despite accomplishments, one doesn't need to be an expert to make a positive impact and encourages taking action even when feeling uncertain.

The relationship between confidence and competence: emphasizing that confidence grows through practice and learning.

The importance of starting the day with a positive and mindful routine to shape mindset is discussed.

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Welcome to the new episode of the Healing and Dealing podcast. Becoming alcohol-free, newfound creativity, vacations without drinking, and reflections about Mommy Wine Culture, those are the topics we will be talking about today with the author of a children’s book entitled  Miranda Learns the Art of Not Fitting In, Chrissy Janiga. Chrissy bravely shares her story of overcoming alcohol addiction while navigating through the challenges of motherhood.The conversation lands on the discussion about the impact of alcohol on parenting, their experiences with personal growth and development, and their plans to coach and support others on their journey to live alcohol-free. Chrissy's inspiring journey reminds us of the importance of self-discovery and making positive changes in our lives. And the importance of authenticity, self-awareness, personal growth, and the power of supportive relationships in pursuing a fulfilling and meaningful life.

“So I think that this trip solidified it for me and just everything I'm doing, that I'm on the right track. No, I don't want to drink again. And I say it much more proudly, confidently now. In the beginning, it wasn't. One, because I didn't know I was a little bit ambivalent. But also, even when I stopped drinking, I still was a little concerned about what people would think. Now I don't care. This is who I am. And I'm happier this way. So, it took me a little bit of time. And I think that the beautiful part of all this, it doesn't have to be this perfect story. And you can kind of choose how you want to do it. But I think that, you know, my advice is when we listen to ourselves, when we, on repeat, say we want to change this thing we think about it over and over and over again. Put some action to it. You don't have to know how everything's gonna turn out. Just gonna start doing it at some point.” - Chrissy Janiga

Interesting points in this episode:

Where did it all start for you? The biggest thing that she really has to highlight is that when you give the alcohol, a lot of people do feel better, but that doesn't mean they stop working on the things they need to work on.

Mindset shifts and alcohol. You don't have to be miserable to want to change your relationship with alcohol. It's just about being more aware of the relationship with it.

Getting to know yourself again. How removing the alcohol showed her what she actually likes to do and what she doesn't like to do.

The problem with mommy wine culture. Women are like walking billboards for big alcohol. Mommy wine culture is similar to cigarette culture and cigarette history.

Dealing with rejection from close friends. 

The importance of feminism and alcohol. 

How to talk to your kids about alcohol? There is a really good podcast on this naked mind called how to talk to your kids about alcohol. It is age-appropriate and helpful for people who have made bad choices while drinking in front of their kids.

How to put action to your intuition? Put some action to it. You don't have to know how everything's going to turn out, just start doing it at some point. The universe starts really working with you instead of against you.

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In this episode of Healing and Dealing Podcast, Theresa Russel is joining us to share her significant journey towards sobriety, how it has been transformational to her business and how she has moved out of the addictive avoidance phase and into solitude, meditation, and other activities that she enjoys. The conversation delves into the importance of creating a mindful and supportive living and working space. Additionally, this episode touches on the importance of understanding the impact of trauma and finding ways to release negative energies as essential for overall well-being. Ultimately, the message emphasizes that our physical surroundings play a vital role in shaping our mental and emotional state, and it encourages individuals to be mindful of their space to enhance their overall quality of life. Listen to this episode to get more valuable insights about intentional and mindful living and working spaces that foster positive emotions, productivity, and well-being in your life.

“But really, it was like, what was wrong with me? And so like, I noticed my drinking started impacting our relationship, because I would be going out so much. We would get into arguments because I would be sensitive, deflecting, being defensive, when we would talk about more serious things, or even just basic conversation with that heightened emotion and that heightened state that I was in. One point, I was like, I can't do this anymore. This is affecting the love of my life. And like, yeah, I want to grow this relationship. And I want to grow for me too.”

Theresa Russel

Here are some insights from this episode:

Declutter and donate session. Get clear on what is aligned with your life and what still brings you joy. Declutter and donate.Each item has its own vibration, depending on how spiritually aligned or energetically tapped in. 

How sobriety has changed her life. How sobriety has been transformational in her business, and what it looked like before and after she stopped drinking. How removing one thing can plunge you into self discovery mode.

How to create a space that feels energetically right for you. Pick items that align with your body and see how it feels when you hold an item or what it reminds you of.

The importance of being mindful of the transition time between work and home life, and how it affects the relationship with kids and family.

Theresa shares what she has in her meditation space. She has a senses-guided meditation, candles, essential oils, tarot cards, books, and crystals.

The one minute rule is a great way to avoid feeling overwhelmed, and habit stacking is a good way to hold yourself accountable for what you do every day.

When kids are on board and taking care of their things, they are learning how to be responsible for their things and their stories.

Theresa's last advice to anyone is to be true to yourself, because there are many messages out there.

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Katherine Pope is joining me in today’s episode of Healing and Dealing Podcast, a medical death investigator and forensic anthropologist. She was one of my coaches when I went through the path with this naked mind. Today she shares her transformative journey of achieving sobriety and embracing an alcohol-free life, the challenges faced, the importance of self-discovery, the role of support from loved ones, and the significance of data-driven tracking in the recovery process. This episode highlights the importance of taking ownership of one's life, seeking support, and being open to change and personal growth. It also touches upon the concept of neuroplasticity and the power of the subconscious mind in shaping behaviors and beliefs. The message conveyed throughout this episode is one of hope, transformation, and gratitude for life.

“During that sober curious period like I kept testing the waters I think for me when I noticed that I wanted to kind of cut back it was like I couldn't have just one, that fun, that enjoyment, that relaxation was gone. It was like my off switch was gone. And so what I tell people now is like, well, I know I can't just have one so I choose to have none. And that may change in the future. I don't know, I don't have a good excuse right now to test it. I'm enjoying this life right now.”

Katherine Pope

Highlight for this episode:

The journey to sobriety involved reading books and participating in alcohol experiments that provided clarity on the effects of alcohol on mental and physical well-being.

Setting emotional-based goals was instrumental in the journey to sobriety, focusing on feelings and experiences without the need for alcohol.

Sobriety has allowed for genuine laughter, joy, and a clearer perspective on life experiences, enhancing relationships and self-awareness.

Mindful decontamination involves writing down feelings and observations after drinking, which aids in self-reflection and better decision-making in the future.

This Naked Mind: The program has been instrumental in the speaker's journey to sobriety. It emphasizes the importance of taking ownership of one's life, recovery, and discovery.

Neuroplasticity and Change: The speaker discusses neuroplasticity, the brain's ability to change and develop new connections, and how it relates to behavior change. When trying to change a behavior or belief, the brain can resist and cause discomfort, but this is a natural part of the process of change.

ACT Technique: The ACT technique (Awareness, Clarify, Turnaround) is a method used in the program to challenge and examine beliefs about alcohol. 

Support and Honesty: The speaker highlights the importance of having support during the sobriety journey. 

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Sometimes you have to tell your story over and over again, because you take the power out of the trauma and the more you hear yourself, telling your story and being transparent about it, you empower yourself again. In today’s episode of Healing and Dealing Podcast, we are joined by Nicole and we will hear her story about her struggles with PTSD, anxiety, depression, OCD, and insomnia. She was diagnosed with postpartum depression after her first daughter. She also talks about the abusive and violent experiences she endured, starting from childhood and continuing into adulthood and how the normalization of trauma affected her self-perception and relationships. The discussion delves on to the importance of high self-awareness and accountability to help you navigate with the complexities of having PTSD and depression. She has been digging, learning and listening deeply to overcome her trauma. God has been her lead and the only way she has been able to overcome these things she has encountered.

“And when I started breaking those things down and trying to clear out the hoarding, what depression is, because on lockdown, it's too much happening, body freezes up. And depression can serve a good purpose. Because it's your body speaking. People say, I'm depressed in a negative way. But it's like, sometimes your depression is from this overload. And it seems I'm tired. I'm so tired. And I realized that when I was saying depression, or anxiety or PTSD, my brain is really doing a magnificent thing here. It's trying to heal. But I'm not going along with the program here. When I needed to start being identifying it as a positive for myself, am I really suffering? If my body's trying to tell me the right things to do to heal itself? I'm not listening. When am I going to stop that trauma response of fight or flight survival mode, staying busy, never allowing yourself to sit down, overloading yourself with people, places and things. It was like, I got to start saying no to all this. Because I was always just running after the next person but not taking on my problem. Yes. And it was like, When am I going to stop doing that? Because they're the answer to their own problem.”

Nicole

Nicole’s  mission to help others. Sharing her story to empower the next person.

How she became the voice of her family. Love for the little girl who went through that, being conditioned in a violent environment.

Standing up for yourself and being strong. The need to prove to herself that she was stronger than them and that no one could break her.

Being a mom and having a baby. Diagnosed with Postpartum depression and borderline psychosis. The first signs of postpartum psychosis.

How to deal with triggers? Being self-aware and recognizing triggers is hard and the importance of self-awareness, body-scanning and breathing.

Breaking generational cycles of trauma and dysfunction is a powerful and necessary journey. 

Learning to find safety within oneself and building a sense of security and trust is crucial for healing from trauma. Recognizing that the past doesn't define the present and creating a safe internal space can lead to greater well-being.

Sharing personal stories and experiences can empower both the storyteller and the listener. It can provide insight, healing, and connection, allowing others to learn and grow from one's journey.

The ultimate goal as a financial coach is to empower individuals to cultivate a healthy relationship with money, unlock their financial potential and create lives of abundance, purpose and fulfillment. Joining us in today’s episode of Healing and Dealing Podcast is the co-founder of Peace Lily Financial Coaching, a dedicated Spiritual Financial Coach with a strong foundation in accounting, Marissa Gehrt. Listen as she shares her valuable insight about the intersection of spirituality and finances, emphasizing the importance of healing, reframing beliefs, and cultivating a healthy relationship with money for a life of abundance and purpose. She also shares  how to empower children to make thoughtful financial choices, understand the value of money, and cultivate a mindset of abundance and gratitude.

“And if I want it, and I really want it, I'm gonna get it. And I don't feel bad and I don't feel guilty and I know the universe is gonna replenish me with more. And that's okay. And there's always more, and there's more than enough for all of us. Allowing that guilt to come in that like, when you change from not having enough to having enough that guilt creeps in that and not allowing it to sit. Just because you have it or I have, it doesn't mean that somebody else can't. And sharing your experiences and supporting the people that are still in those places, it's gonna keep giving you more, and it's gonna allow everybody to get where they want to go.” - Marissa Gehrt

Highlights of this episode:

The importance of healing one's relationship with money and understanding the impact of spirituality on financial goals and inner values.

The significance of reframing our mindset around money, understanding our worth beyond material possessions, and finding gratitude in the present moment.

Sit with your feelings about money, release judgment and comparison, and focus on what truly feels good and aligned with your values.

It's necessary to have conversations with kids about financial matters, but in a way that doesn't instill fear or burden them with adult traumas or experiences.

Using tools like a children's debit card system (in this case, "Greenlight") can help manage kids' money and teach them financial skills.

differentiate between wants and needs and help children understand the difference. By involving them in the decision-making process and making them responsible for purchasing their desired items, they can learn to prioritize and make more thoughtful choices.

Financial conversations should be approached with a united front between parents.

Affirmations and positive money mantras can be powerful tools to shift one's mindset and beliefs about money.

True healing can only occur with a continuous work of understanding, letting go and replenishing with the highest light, this is what Melanie Esperan believes. Melanie joins us for this week’s episode of Healing and Dealing Podcast. She shares how her trauma in her past, including the loss of her significant other led to an awakening and a desire to be true to herself. This week’s episode is about the transformative power of surrender, self-discovery, and embracing spirituality. It highlights the significance of letting go of control, being open to guidance from the spiritual realm, and trusting in divine timing. Through this process, people can heal from trauma, tap into their intuitive abilities, and unlock their true potential.

“Because I used to think, Oh, give up do nothing. That's not really what surrender means to me. Now, it's more of do all that you possibly can as a human, and then you surrender the rest to spirit or to God, or the higher ups, whatever you really believe in. It's kind of like saying plan your wedding to the T but if it rains, let it go. If it rains, it rains, and we dance in the rain. And what tends to happen is when you surrender that piece of you, Spirit does their job, and they make sure everything's perfect for you.” - Melani Esperan

Key takeaways from this episode:

Being born an old soul is a gift. you get comfortable with the uncomfortable or you start to love yourself or accept yourself. Your gifts naturally come out And they come out with love. I love it. Yeah, it takes time.

Honoring your sensitivities. Healers usually have some addictive problems trying to mask themselves for so long.

The concept of spirit guides and a spirit team is introduced, representing supportive beings from the spiritual realm who can offer guidance and assistance.

Developing psychic abilities and intuition requires practice, self-discovery, and letting go of societal conditioning.

Personal growth and awakening can be overwhelming at times, but it is important to slow down, feel the process, and trust in divine timing.

Removing alcohol can help in feeling emotions and experiencing personal growth.

The importance of choice and individual agency in deciding whether or not to engage in certain behaviors, like drinking alcohol.

Transformative energy of 2023,  a powerful year, everyone’s truly going to learn what divine feminine and masculine are.

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Today’s episode is about the journey of a mother who lost her son to addiction and how it transformed her life. Rebekah Pedersen, a Yoga Instructor and a certified Precision Nutrition Coach, will be joining us today to share her inspirational journey through navigating the rollercoaster of addiction and grief. In Beckah’s story, we witness the power of transformation and the complexities of addiction. She establishes boundaries and prioritizes self-protection, recognizing that she can't take responsibility for her son's choices. The profound loss and grief she experiences shed light on the immense pain faced by parents who have lost a child to addiction. Family dynamics are strained, prompting difficult decisions and highlighting the challenges families endure. Beckah's journey of healing and personal growth showcases the importance of support systems and resilience. Her story serves as an inspiration, emphasizing the need for understanding, compassion, and effective treatment resources in addressing addiction-related issues.

“A firstborn teaches you how to love. Firstborn teaches you what true love really is. I never knew what love actually was. I did not love his dad, like, I loved that baby. And I would die for him. All your kids, you would but your firstborn, you just really realize that wow, this is the one perfect thing that you've done, you know, is have this child.” - Rebeckah Pedersen 

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Beckah had to establish boundaries to protect herself and her family from the roller coaster of addiction her son was going through. She recognized that his journey was separate from hers and that she couldn't take responsibility for his choices.

The immense grief and heartbreak faced by parents who have lost a child to addiction.

The impact of addiction on family dynamics, how addiction can put strain on family relationships, and the complexities and challenges faced by families in similar situations.

The importance of having a strong support system can make a significant difference when navigating difficult times. Support from loved ones, therapy, and communities like the Facebook group she joined all played a crucial role in Becca's healing process.

The complex nature of addiction. She initially didn't recognize her son's heroin use, and even when it became apparent, the road to recovery was challenging. Addiction is a multifaceted issue, and its impact on individuals and families requires understanding, compassion, and access to effective treatment resources.

Adopting a pug puppy after their child's passing provided them with solace and a distraction, reminiscent of the comfort they found in taking care of their child during their previous hospitalization.

The family organized a unique and personalized ceremony for their child, involving placing their ashes around a tree and sharing a video with her son’s voice, creating a meaningful and personal tribute.

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In this episode, join me and Natalie Schlute, a manifestation coach and angelic spirit guide channeler. Natalie helps women overcome various blocks in their lives by embodying their future selves and following their intuition. She shares her personal journey of overcoming challenges such as depression, drug abuse, trauma, and chronic pain. Natalie is the founder of Soul Mastery School, where students learn how to master all areas of life, including manifestation, intuition, love, health, wealth, and channeling angelic guides. She has coached thousands of students, including Hollywood actors, and has been featured in various media outlets. 

“It doesn't mean that forgiving them makes it okay what they did. It just means you're choosing to move on. And you're never going to forget. It's not like you're gonna forget what they did, but you can neutralize the energy around what they did. You don't have to let that person back into your life. You don't ever have to let anyone treat you or do those things to you again, IT BECOMES WISDOM INSTEAD OF A WALL.” - Natalie

Key Points:

Natalie helps women overcome mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual blocks through manifestation and intuition.

She overcame personal challenges like depression, drug abuse, trauma, and chronic pain to find healing and success.

Natalie's Soul Mastery School teaches students how to master different aspects of life and connect with angelic guides.

She constantly updates her programs to provide the most powerful and transformative content for her students.

Intuition is the guidance from the soul, the wiser and eternal part of ourselves connected to the universe.

Intuition can be experienced through gut feelings, physical sensations, visions, downloads, or clear hearing.

Building a relationship with intuition takes practice and discerning between ego-driven thoughts and soul guidance.

Our soul automatically aligns with what we want to manifest, and intuition guides us toward the right path and lessons.

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In episode three of my podcast, I share a deeply personal journey of overcoming my reliance on alcohol. I take my listeners back to a time when I was in a low point in my life, both mentally and physically, and I explain the steps I took to break free from the hold that alcohol had on me. From a young age, I had developed beliefs that alcohol was necessary for socializing and having fun, and these beliefs became deeply ingrained in me. However, I had moments of sobriety, like during my pregnancy, where I felt clear-minded and joyful without alcohol. But after giving birth, I fell back into drinking and validated my limiting beliefs, feeling like I needed alcohol to be likable, confident, and relaxed. It wasn't until recently that I realized the shame and negative impact alcohol was having on my life, and I embarked on a journey of letting go of that shame and debunking my limiting beliefs. I joined a program called "The Path," which helped me understand the truth about alcohol and provided tools to regain control over my drinking. Through reflection and analysis, I confronted the reality that alcohol didn't actually bring me fun, confidence, or relaxation, but instead led to negative consequences. I set emotional-based goals and envisioned a life without the control of alcohol. With a firm line in the sand and a determination to no longer tolerate the harmful effects of drinking, something finally clicked, and I began my journey toward freedom from alcohol.

Episode Highlights

Remembering the early experiences, trying to fit in, and having fun.

Realizing the impact of limiting beliefs on my behavior.

Discovering sobriety during pregnancy, experiencing newfound clarity and joy.

Learning to let go, practicing forgiveness, and embracing self-compassion.

Empowering myself by challenging and replacing limiting beliefs.

Exposing the truth about alcohol and debunking common misconceptions.

Embracing a sober-curious mindset and joining "The Path" of sobriety.

Understanding the physiological effects of alcohol and its impact on me.

Setting firm boundaries and committing to a fulfilling, alcohol-free life.

"Through the darkness of addiction, I found the strength within to step into the light of sobriety and reclaim my life." - Charlotte

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https://thisnakedmind.com/programs-training/

https://euphoricaf.com/

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Hey everyone, welcome to the second episode of 'Healing and Dealing.' I'm excited to introduce my husband Henry to all of you. He's an amazing man with a unique perspective on life, having overcome his own share of trauma. In this episode, we delve into Henry's background, his upbringing in San Diego, his strong-willed single mother who instilled valuable morals in him and his brother, and the challenges they faced when she had a nervous breakdown. Henry opens up about his troubled teenage years, getting involved in the streets, and eventually spending time in jail. However, the birth of his first child transformed him and motivated him to change. He shares his journey as a single father, his determination to succeed, and how he built his own business. Our worlds collided when we met, and we reflect on that fateful encounter. Join us as we explore Henry's remarkable story of resilience, growth, and the power of taking a leap of faith.

Episode Highlights:

Henry's upbringing in San Diego and the influence of his strong-willed single mother

The challenges Henry and his brother faced when their mother had a nervous breakdown

Henry's troubled teenage years, involvement in the streets, and time spent in jail

The transformative impact of becoming a father and how it motivated Henry to change

Henry's journey as a single father and his determination to succeed

How Henry built his own business and overcame obstacles along the way

The fateful encounter that brought Henry and the podcast host together

Reflections on resilience, personal growth, and the power of taking a leap of faith

"Success is not about the absence of failure; it's about the courage to persevere in the face of adversity. Embrace your failures as stepping stones towards your ultimate success." - Henry

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In the first episode of my podcast, "Healing and Dealing," I delve into the turbulent events that shaped my life. From witnessing my parents' struggles with addiction and incarceration to experiencing the impact of my brother's arrest, I recount the challenges that plagued my upbringing. Amidst the chaos, I found the strength to confront my mother's addiction and support her on the path to recovery. Determined to break free from the cycle, I focused on my education and pursued independence. Join me as I reflect on the resilience I discovered through hardship and the personal growth that emerged from my journey.

Episode Highlights:

Growing up, I witnessed my mom's abusive relationships and drug addiction, while my father struggled with alcoholism.

My brother's arrest and imprisonment deeply affected my family and me.

During my teenage years, my dad was also incarcerated, leaving me without a father figure.

After my dad's release, we worked on rebuilding our relationship.

I confronted my mom about her drug addiction, which eventually led her to seek rehab and recover.

Despite the challenges, I pursued education and independence as a teenager.

I went through an early marriage that ended in divorce.

"I've come to a point in my life and have realized that all the trauma that I've been through has all been for a significant reason. And it's all happened to me so I can have a voice and I can help others who are going through similar situations or maybe have in the past." - Charlotte

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Hello everyone! this is the healing and dealing podcast. This podcast is going to revolve around overcoming challenges in your life, learning how to thrive and understand yourself and the people around you. I'm going to share personal stories and I'm also going to have incredible guests on the podcast that are going to share their story, how they overcame deep personal challenges in their life, and what really got them to the next level. I can't wait for you yourself to go to a deeper level on every single episode of this podcast, how you can persevere in the midst of darkness and see that there's always light at the end of the tunnel. I am your host, Charlotte Estrada and I am certified in mental health and recovery and trauma informed care. I also have a master's degree in educational counseling and I am currently almost done with my coaching certification in NLP, time techniques, success coaching, life coaching inner child healing, clinical hypnotherapy and Reiki. I can't wait to share this podcast with all of you and so you can hear and be a part of and relate to the stories of myself and my guests. 

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