Clearer, not Louder with Beatrice Kamau

In this week’s episode, we discuss what it looks like to live a slower, more intentional—and less chronically online—life by reducing the noise, embracing the ordinary offline moments of life, and reconnecting with your originality and individuality. What you’ll learn in this episode: How to ACTUALLY spend less time scrolling and more time living—present in your own life and less preoccupied with comparing it to someone else’s. How experiencing your life through the eyes of an imaginary audience can quietly turn living into performing and curating. How the habit of constantly consuming online can spill over into your opinions, speech, style, and everyday life—and why individuality requires a little less input.

In this week’s episode, we discuss what it means when you get along with someone but still can’t rest within the relationship or friendship—and how the internal war between what you keep noticing and what you keep trying to explain away may reveal a deeper difference in values. What you’ll learn in this episode: What it looks and feels like to share interests with someone, enjoy their company, and STILL experience a looming sense of unease within the relationship. The difference between extending understanding to someone and losing yourself—and your values—in the process of trying to understand them. What happens to your voice when you become passive about mismatched values in your relationships—and why following your convictions matters. IG: @clearernotlouder

In Part Three of The Loudest Boundaries Are Unspoken, we discuss how committing to not taking yourself lightly—that is, carrying yourself with high regard—is an unspoken boundary that speaks volumes about how others should treat you. What you’ll learn in this episode: The TRUE, firm foundation for carrying yourself as someone worthy of high regard—one that goes DEEPER than “self-love” and “seeing yourself as worthy.” How the WAY you use your voice shapes how people perceive the strength of your boundaries. What people register when you enter a room before you even SPEAK—and how it influences the way they treat and engage with you. IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode, we explore how to express a boundary without feeling controlling, rude, or as though you’re being “too much.” In Part Two of The Loudest Boundaries Are Unspoken, we chat about managing your attention as a form of boundary—and how people can learn what you are and are not available for without you having to spell everything out-- or say much at all. What you’ll learn in this episode: The difference between trying to control someone else’s behavior and deciding where your own attention will and will not go. What to do when you want OUT of a conversation and someone continues talking ON and ON—even after you've given EVERY body cue imaginable How to decline participation in gossip without delivering a speech, overexplaining yourself, or making the moment more dramatic than it needs to be. IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode we chat.... Confidence vs. FAKE confidence and how to tell the difference Ways insecurity masks itself through FAKE confidence How walking in FAKE confidence is actually incredibly manipulative WORK WITH BEATRICE: CLICK HERE TO CATCH THE SCHOOL OF RELAXED DATING™: THE FOUNDATIONS The School of Relaxed Dating™ is a foundational, one-of-a-kind school that teaches you how to effortlessly elevate your love life through skyrocketing your confidence around men and calling forward masculine, provider men who adore, cherish, and VALUE you through their ACTIONS. Click here to join the FREE 6 day email challenge In Your Feminine Era CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode, we explore the boundaries people can FEEL—the kind that indirectly let people know how to treat you without you having to bark instructions at them. This conversation is especially for the girl who already knows when someone has made her uncomfortable but feels squirmy and uncomfy about calling it out bluntly or directly. What you'll learn in this episode: The difference between traditional "vocal" boundaries and the boundaries people pick up on without being explicitly told—the kind that make someone think, "For some reason, I better not speak like that around her. Let me adjust myself." The three subtle cues we all give that people pick up on when determining how carefully and thoughtfully to treat us. What it can look like to respond to an insult when directness doesn't come naturally to you—no more giggling to make things less awkward, by the way! IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode, we explore what it looks like to make friends in adulthood as an ambitious woman—from getting past the beliefs that make putting yourself out there feel harder than it needs to, to finding people who are actually OPEN to connection. We also chat why ambitious women need ambitious friends, beginning again after friendship loss, and a few things I learned from my experience at the Create & Cultivate Festival. What you'll learn in this episode: The two beliefs that quietly make adult friendship HARDER than it needs to be: that putting yourself out there is a humiliation ritual (it's not!), and that everyone is on a no new friends vibe (they're not) Tangible ways to meet and genuinely connect with people—even if you're introverted (i've got 7 for ya!) How to dust yourself off and try again when a potential friendship fizzles and you feel discouraged about trying again. IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode we explore how to remain your warm, kind, and whimsical self while being clear and direct (you can be both!). We also discuss why being clear doesn't mean telling people what they can and cannot do and how to be clear and direct sans the fear of being rude, blunt, or "mean." What you'll learn in this episode: The difference between being clear and being controlling—and why they two are NOT actually related How to free yourself from the responsibility of how someone processes your directness How to communicate what you want, what you're available for, and what you will do next while leaving other people responsible for their own choices. IG: @clearernotlouder

***PSST, NO EPISODE NEXT WEEK SEPTEMBER 10, WE WILL BE BACK SEPTEMBER 17 IN LIGHT OF LABOR DAY*** In this episode, we chat: Why being comfortable and confident setting boundaries with other people might start with getting better at telling yourself no—and what your day-to-day choices can teach you about saying no when letting things slide, minimizing the severity of an issue, or simply going along with it feels like... the easier option. What you'll learn in this episode: Why setting boundaries is about more than knowing what to say—and how the way you manage your impulses and emotions in everyday life can show up, positively or negatively, in the boundaries you set with others. What it looks like to tell yourself no when yes is still an option, and why being able to do something doesn't always mean it's in your best interest to do it. How to actually begin building the muscle to hold boundaries with others without the guilt, mind-spiraling, and preoccupation with how they will receive what you say. Book recommendation mentioned: Nonviolent Communication by Marshall B. Rosenberg, PhD IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode, we chat: Why you should consider yourself—and the things you're drawn to—interesting and worth paying attention to, not just other people, and how uncovering the unique perspectives God has placed within you connects to the purpose over your life. What you'll learn in this episode: What the people you consider "interesting," "unique," and "cool" are doing differently that causes them to stand out—and why it's not what you think. How dropping performance and developing your own unique point of view around your interests can make you far more interesting than trying to be interesting. How the things you're naturally drawn to and curious about tell a story about the gifts and skills the Lord has equipped you with for the purpose & assignment over your life. IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode, we chat: The FINE line between what it's like to have a connection-- a friendship, a relationship etc-- with someone who is delighted to learn the ins and outs of you and someone who... wants to relate to you on their terms What you'll learn in this episode: What it looks like when you make a decision to no longer FIGHT and adjust yourself in order to be seen. The difference between being mindful about how you communicate to someone and changing who you are to sustain the connection-- adapting vs. self-sacrificing. Why someone NOT taking the time to know the ins-and-outs and quirky little facts about you does not mean you're not worth getting to know deeply-- they might just not be... for you ESPECIALLY if you're a whimsical and curious girly. IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode, we chat: How to stay CLEAR AND FIRM on what you know, want, and believe when someone else's pressure or reactions challenge your boundaries, values and opinions. What you'll learn in this episode: Why a friendly "come onnn" after you've already said no is worth paying attention to—and how easily a decision can become a negotiation you never agreed to have. Why someone telling you all about who they're going to be can distract you from paying attention to who they're showing you they are right now. How dramatic reactions and "well, what about you?" arguments can leave you questioning a choice you were perfectly clear about five minutes ago—and what that can tell you about your discernment. IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode, we chat: The fine line between someone loving you and someone loving who they ARE and who they BECOME around you. What you'll learn in this episode: Why someone can genuinely enjoy being around you—and still be more attached to how they feel with you than to who you actually are. How to recognize the difference between someone who values you for your utility and someone who remains invested in you as a person. The subtle difference between someone who carries your company and someone who carries your story—and why one leaves you feeling familiar, while the other leaves you feeling deeply known. IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode, we chat: Why it's high time you stop giving everyone but *yourself* the benefit of the doubt when something is off with that friendship, that job, that relationship etc. What you'll learn in this episode: • Why the benefit of the doubt becomes expensive when you're the only one paying for it. • Why grace needs... discernment and why you don't have to overextend yourself under the guise of "giving the benefit of the doubt" • Why assuming everyone would handle a situation the way you would might be keeping you from seeing the truth (because yes, even though you think they would NEVER... they might just) IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode, we chat: Why you don't have to wait until you are a shell of yourself, hanging on a thread, practically on life support to leave or change your boundaries in that friendship, relationship, job, or business partnership. What you'll learn in this episode: • The difference between sacrificing yourself and making a willful sacrifice that doesn't steal from you • Recognizing when to say WHEN... early, rather than waiting until you are completely exhausted and unrecognizable to make a decision for yourself • Why noticing that something is... off over and over again—and having an internal WAR with yourself about it—might just be enough. IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode, we chat: Staying in a relationship, job, career, or friendship longer than you planned because of the investment of....time even when you're stressed, unhappy, and dissatisfied and... how to gain the courage to choose different. What you'll learn in this episode: • The sunk-cost fallacy and what you might be doing early on that causes you to stay even when you're questioning the relationship, the friendship, the business, or the job. • Why your pride might actually be keeping you in that relationship, job, career, or friendship-- NOT embarrasment, fear of what people may think, or the investment of "time". • You don't have to endure and survive a job, a friendship, or a relationship-- and nearly fall apart and lose your mind in the process-- just because they have *some* good traits that you enjoy amongst all the alarming ones. IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode, we chat: That moment when you're getting to know a friend, someone you're dating, a new workplace, someone you are considering collaborating with and you feel something is... off. You can't put your finger on it, but something isn't... right. But are you overthinking it? Are you being judgemental? Should you just... wait and see? What you'll learn in this episode: • Why whimsical, optimistic girls often overthink a situation that they usually... are right about the first time. • The importance of leaning into your God-given discernment when it comes to clocking when something is... off. • How wondering if you're overthinking what you're seeing may actually be a sign that you struggle with trusting your own perception and... what to do about it. IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode, we chat: Embarrassment-- it has a bad reputation. Let's fix that. This week, we introduce a fresh perspective on confidence, embarrassment, and why your willingness to look a little foolish may be one of your greatest assets. What you'll learn in this episode: • The relationship women with a strong sense of agency and confidence have with embarrassment compared to those with lower self-esteem. • The relationship between pride and your capacity to experience embarrassment—and how both influence your willingness to pursue success. • How your capacity to experience embarrassment impacts your ability to fulfill God's purpose and assignment for your life. IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode, we chat: Why you're not "bad" at sticking to routines, inconsistent, or undisciplined... you just might need to tweak how you approach routines especially if you're a spontaneous, fly-by-the-seat-of-your-pants type of gal. What you'll learn in this episode: How to actually STICK to your routines even when they feel and seem, well, borringg. How routines actually bring out MORE of your playfulness and whimsy A whole new way to view consistency-- and no, this does not look like get it PERFECT or give up. Permission to breathe. IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode, we chat: How they say... you're the "sum of the 5 closest people around you." And while I personally find that particular phrase to be a bit corny, I've come to realize... there's wisdom in that phrase, especially, for the whimsy girl. What you'll learn in this episode: What friendship characteristics negatively impact whimsy, vibrant, playful, and emotionally alive women and which friendship characteristics to look out for as a whimsy girl to support you in your joy and curiosity How to go about finding and cultivating friendships as an adult whimsy girl-- it's not as hard as you think. Why some whimsy girls are meant to have large friend groups and others, 1-2 close friends and why both... are more than okay. IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode, we chat: Whimsy as aliveness, joy, optimism, delight, and vibrancy--- NOT childishness-- and why all things whimsical deserve a front seat in your life. What you'll learn in this episode: Why whimsy AND sophistication can exist together at once-- a conversation on how paradox can and should work together really beautifully Whimsy as a reclamation of yourself, your agency, and who God created you to be How whimsy is spiritual and God's gift over your life and a key aspect of your life's purpose IG: @clearernotlouder Read More

In this episode, we chat: The grief and utter SHOCK that comes when relationships and friendships you thought would last... forever end. In this episode, we chat how remembering that no one is above the program might actually take you from difficulty accepting what happened to a calm peace and ability to finally move on with strength and dignity. What you'll learn in this episode: What "no one is above the program" when it comes to betrayal in relationships means and how it might actually help you process the betrayal and grief. Why betrayal isn't as personal as you think it is (even though it feels like it was custom-made just for you, I know!) The liberation that comes from accepting things as THEY ARE not as you wish them to be and... how to get there. IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode, we chat: What it's like when being single no longer feels like a problem to solve, a challenge to overcome, or something to trevail. In this episode, we discover the confidence, security, contentment, and PEACE that comes from arriving in singlehood and we confront the idolatry of marriage and relationships that... may be preventing you from getting there. What you'll learn in this episode: The difference between arriving in singlehood and treating being single like something to "get through" The 4 things that can indicate idolatry of Marriage and/or relationships The 4 things that indicate your arrival into singlehood (and contentment in it!) IG: @clearernotlouder

Why love... is not enough. Part 5. In this episode I continue discussing what I have come to realize is important ESPECIALLY concerning marriage, children, and a future with someone upon entering my 30's-- and what I believe will benefit you greatly, too! You're going to want a pen and pad for this one! What you'll learn in this episode: Navigating dating men who are insecure and the difference between a man who likes you vs. likes what you can do for him, Practical things I've learned to look for/look out for in my 30's that I believe often get OVERLOOKED when you're young. These FINAL 3 things can be the difference between your joy/peace/happiness and stress in your relationship. Things to look for early on in dating/courtship so you don't end up sidelined YEARS down the road

Why love... is not enough. Part 4. In this episode I continue discussing what I have come to realize is important ESPECIALLY concerning marriage, children, and a future with someone upon entering my 30's-- and what I believe will benefit you greatly, too! You're going to want a pen and pad for this one! What you'll learn in this episode: Practical things I've learned to look for/look out for in my 30's that I believe often get OVERLOOKED when you're young. These 3 things can be the difference between your joy/peace/happiness and stress in your relationship. Things to look for early on in dating/courtship so you don't end up sidelined YEARS down the road Navigating when a relationship seems good on PAPER with no obvious "problems" yet and still you feel something is OFF and remain restless in the relationship

In this episode, we chat: Why love... is not enough. Part 3. In this episode I continue discussing what I have come to realize is important ESPECIALLY concerning marriage, children, and a future with someone upon entering my 30's-- and what I believe will benefit you greatly, too! You're going to want a pen and pad for this one! What you'll learn in this episode: Practical things I've learned to look for/look out for in my 30's that I believe often get OVERLOOKED when you're young. These 2 things can be the difference between your joy/peace/happiness and stress in your relationship. Things to look for early on in dating/courtship so you don't end up sidelined YEARS down the road Positive, real life examples of what relational responsibility and caregiving temparament might look like in the RIGHT relationship-- a continued discussion from last week's episode.

In this episode, we chat: Why love... is not enough. Part 2. What I have come to realize is important ESPECIALLY concerning marriage, children, and a future with someone upon entering my 30's-- and what I believe will benefit you greatly, too! You're going to want a pen and pad for this one! What you'll learn in this episode: Practical things I've learned to look for/look out for in my 30's that I believe often get OVERLOOKED when you're young. These 4 things can be the difference between your joy/peace/happiness and stress in your relationship. Things to look for early on in dating/courtship so you don't end up sidelined YEARS down the road How I learned these lessons personally in my previous relationships--- the HARD way IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode, we chat: Why love... is not enough. The mistakes I made in my previous relationships. And what I got RIGHT in my 20's when it came to dating and what I undermined and didn't realize was important ESPECIALLY concerning marriage, children, and a future with someone. You're going to want a pen and pad for this one! What you'll learn in this episode: What I was evaluating and looking for in relationships that I actually got right and have taken with me in my 30's Where I've matured (and how you can too so you don't make my mistakes!) when it comes to really evaluating compatibility and saving yourself unnecessary STRESS. What I got WRONG in my 20's and would no longer dismiss (every woman should know these!) IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode, we chat: A fresh perspective on the the ever-recylced conversastions around "Know[ing] Your Standards" and "Know[ing] Your Worth" through discussion of how to begin putting it into practice by examining and holding a magnifying glass to what you are willing to endure What you'll learn in this episode: Determining what you'are willing to endure in relationships and what its costing you. The difference between well-placed duty and misplaced duty and what its costing you in relationships (and not to mention with your sanity and self-esteem!) What scripture actually has to say about enduring things in life that are depleting you, taking from you, and causing you death by a thousand cuts IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode, we chat: What it really looks like to have a strong internal "no"—the kind that doesn't wobble when it comes to your standards and principles—and why some of our no's feel clear while others feel… negotiable. What you'll learn in this episode: What it looks like when your "no" isn't fully decided—and why you find yourself going back and forth on things you already said were standards. The subtle difference between being led by your feelings versus being led by your principles—and how that shows up in your tone, how quickly you're able to respond, and your overall clarity. The four ways people with a strong internal "no" move—what makes it easier for them to stay solid in their decisions and boundaries without going back and forth. IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode we chat: Why we keep saying "let's see how it goes", what it costs is to ignore the GLARING red flag when something feels.... off, and how to start thinking and moving differently. You'll hear how to spot where you're taking on unnecessary misery and CONFUSION and how to make decisions that actually serve you—without going back and forth, without the noise, and with a whole lot of clarity. What You'll Learn in This Episode: "Let's see how it goes" can be costly—learn to notice the red flags before they cost you. Focus on what you can control: your actions, your standards, and your energy-- and invite God into the process Make a departure with self-negotiation and begin to lead with choices that protect your time, peace, and future. IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode we chat: An HONEST conversation about how delivery MATTERS when it comes to honesty inasmuchas the message itself and how it can either strengthen or erode trust when it comes to relationships both romantic and platonic What You'll Learn in This Episode: Navigating "I was just being honest" conversations Honesty that controls and manages vs. the honesty that edifies Stewarding and sharpening your own relationship with honesty- both in how you give it and how you receive it from the people you trust IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode we chat: Stewarding your voice when it comes to handling conflict, frustration, and points of contention with people without stepping out of YOUR character and simultaneously, without being a doormat. What You'll Learn in This Episode: How to handle situations where you're frustrated with someone and even tempted to lash out at them without giving into your ego/into your flesh Where you might be getting into God's business when it comes to handling people in confrontation and points of contention Being "nice" vs. being kind and why being nice does NOT work in boundary setting How to set boundaries with people who are frequently defensive, offended, and inflamed in conversation. IG: @clearernotlouder

Welcome to the FIRST epsiode of Clearer, not Louder with Beatrice Kamau (formerly known as the Self Love Fix Podcast)! In this episode we chat: The difference between presence and performance—and why leaning into presence can cause effortlessly shift your ability to connect to others in everyday conversation and in relationship EASILY and in a RELAXED manner. Think dropping the act of APPEARING a certain way and being HYPERVIGILANT to how others are perceiving you. What You'll Learn in This Episode: How God slowed me down and showed me the power of presence-- inadvertently-- through two hobbies I picked up during my year-long hiatus: baking and gardening. The difference between how people experience you and how you experience others depending on whether you are oriented in presence or performance How presence vs. performance shows up in everyday life (in ways you might not even notice or think about!) Practical- and easy- steps to start cultivating presence in your life IG: @clearernotlouder

Hi friend! It's been... a while. I know. Forgive me, girl. We're back but get this... we're coming back with a NEW name, NEW vision, same voice, same vibes 3.12.26. Tune in to this trailor to find out the new podcast name and find out: The new vision for the podcast, where we're headed What we've learned from the Self Love Fix Podcast and what we're taking as we're moving forwards A mini riff giving a peek into the new podcast! The new name! See you in the FIRST episode of the new podcast 3.12.26 xx Beatrice

In this episode we chat: Leaning on God's wisdom and not your own understanding What's going to be happening hear on the pod for the next 2 months! WORK WITH BEATRICE: Join the FREE Valued Woman challenge 10 day challenge below to enjoy 10 EASY to apply tips to start VALUING yourself STRAIGHT to your inbox! CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE FREE VALUED WOMAN CHALLENGE CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat: The Proverbs 31 woman and how she demonstrated how she VALUES herself FINDING time to maintain and care for yourself even with a busy schedule-- it's there I promise!! How the way you carry yourself INFLUENCES how people treat you WORK WITH BEATRICE: I'm running a free 10 day email challenge called The Valued Woman challenge eek!! Over a 10 day period I will be sharing 10 EASY to apply tips to start VALUING yourself STRAIGHT to your inbox... for FREE! CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE FREE VALUED WOMAN CHALLENGE CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat: The 30 things I've learned since turning 30! I promise these are non-generic and totally worth the listen! WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to catch the valued masterclass at $19.95 ONLY through midnight 1/23/25 in honor of my 30th birthday! Valued is:a powerful, 52 minute masterclass that takes you from EFFORTING your way into SCRAPS of attention from INCONSISTENT MEN to attracting the types of men who SHOW you how they VALUE YOU through their actions CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat: What I'm doing different in 2025 vs 2024 when it comes to goal setting and why 2024 was quite... directionless. My yearly goal setting + executing process (and why vision is KING when it comes to goal setting) Actionable tips all along the way on how to set, execute, AND ACHIEVE ALL your 2025 goals WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join Valued the masterclass at $77 where I teach you how to go from being a SLAVE TO ATTENTION from a man (aka WAITING ANXIOUSLY next to your phone and putting it on DND to avoid seeing zero notifications, hinting at him to do more even though you know he won't, and feeling CONFUSED ABOUT HOW HE FEELS because he doesn't make you feel SECURE by TELLING you how he feels about you... to stepping into the SOFT, RELAXED feminine woman who attracts men who SHOW you how they VALUE YOU with your actions. CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat: The Personal Development to Spirituality to "My Truth" Pipeline Manifestation and what they DON'T tell you about the spiritual world God, the Truth, + the Spiritual Realm WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join Valued the masterclass at $77 where I teach you how to go from being a SLAVE TO ATTENTION from a man (aka feeling CONFUSED ABOUT HOW HE FEELS because he doesn't make you feel SECURE by TELLING you how he feels about you... to stepping into the SOFT, RELAXED feminine woman who attracts men who SHOW you how they VALUE YOU with your actions. CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... Why it's VERY HARMFUL to "see" how things are going and "wait it out" when you KNOW he is a walking dealbreaker How to STOP undermining your dealbreakers when you come across the "nice guy" the guy that seems like "the one" What it looks like to have dating/the marriage thing/the man thing be an IDOL in your life The dangers of IDOLIZING a man and therefore putting him in God's place WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join Valued the masterclass at $77 where I teach you how to go from being a SLAVE TO ATTENTION from a man (aka feeling CONFUSED ABOUT HOW HE FEELS because he doesn't make you feel SECURE by TELLING you how he feels about you... to stepping into the SOFT, RELAXED feminine woman who attracts men who SHOW you how they VALUE YOU with your actions. CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... Letting go of OVER-EXPLAINING or JUSTIFYING yourself + your decisions How talking TOO MUCH can actually be a sign of a LACK of confidence Why confident people say LESS WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join the FREE 6 day email challenge In Your Feminine Era CLICK HERE TO ENROLL IN THE SCHOOL OF RELAXED DATING™: THE FOUNDATIONS The School of Relaxed Dating™ is a foundational, one-of-a-kind school that teaches you how to effortlessly elevate your love life through skyrocketing your confidence around men and calling forward masculine, provider men who adore, cherish, and VALUE you through their ACTIONS. CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... Confidence vs. FAKE confidence and how to tell the difference Ways insecurity masks itself through FAKE confidence How walking in FAKE confidence is actually incredibly manipulative WORK WITH BEATRICE: CLICK HERE TO CATCH THE SCHOOL OF RELAXED DATING™: THE FOUNDATIONS The School of Relaxed Dating™ is a foundational, one-of-a-kind school that teaches you how to effortlessly elevate your love life through skyrocketing your confidence around men and calling forward masculine, provider men who adore, cherish, and VALUE you through their ACTIONS. Click here to join the FREE 6 day email challenge In Your Feminine Era CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... That feeling of OBSESSION with him wanting you back and what to do about it The surprising reason behind the OBSESSION that I guarantee you are not aware of Leaning on God during this time for strength and the ability to LET GO WORK WITH BEATRICE: CLICK HERE TO CATCH THE SCHOOL OF RELAXED DATING™: THE FOUNDATIONS The School of Relaxed Dating™ is a foundational, one-of-a-kind school that teaches you how to effortlessly elevate your love life through skyrocketing your confidence around men and calling forward masculine, provider men who adore, cherish, and VALUE you through their ACTIONS. CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... The ONE wounded feminine trait you have that keeps causing you to get FRUSTRATED and EXHAUSTED by dating The dangers of being unequally yoked mentally and emotionally with a man Why dating a man who is operating on a mental and emotional level that is underdeveloped is a destiny KILLER for YOU.... AND HIM. WORK WITH BEATRICE: CLICK HERE TO CATCH THE SCHOOL OF RELAXED DATING™: THE FOUNDATIONS The School of Relaxed Dating™ is a foundational, one-of-a-kind school that teaches you how to effortlessly elevate your love life through skyrocketing your confidence around men and calling forward masculine, provider men who adore, cherish, and VALUE you through their ACTIONS. CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... How to navigate doubting the romantic connection you're in whether you're single or in a relationship The two types of doubt that exist in dating and relationships Walking in God's best for you WORK WITH BEATRICE: I am running a FREE love + dating masterclass event called The Dating Confidential. This is for you if you... can barely get a text back or you don't experience the PROTECTIVE, provisional, I'm-gonna-treat-you-soft vibes from men or in your relationship Click here to sign up to the Dating Confidential for FREE CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... How the patriarchy has distorted your view on your relationship status + what it means about you The privilege in being single that most do not SEE How to THRIVE in your singleness WORK WITH BEATRICE: I am running a FREE love + dating masterclass event called The Dating Confidential. This is for you if you... can barely get a text back or you don't experience the PROTECTIVE, provisional, I'm-gonna-treat-you-soft vibes from men or in your relationship Click here to sign up to the Dating Confidential for FREE CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... How I was able to bounce back after my break up SO QUICKLY How to RESTORE your belief in love and ability to love after a break up or after someone betrayed your trust Forgiveness after a relationship or betrayal WORK WITH BEATRICE: I am running a FREE love + dating masterclass event called The Dating Confidential. This is for you if you... can barely get a text back or you don't experience the PROTECTIVE, provisional, I'm-gonna-treat-you-soft vibes from men or in your relationship Click here to sign up to the Dating Confidential for FREE CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... Why it is that the wrong men will waste your time for months, years even and think nothing of it. How boys-- NOT masculine men!-- will waste your time if you're not careful and how masculine men will approach you much MUCH differently. The case for celibacy, why I'm such an advocate for it-- and why I VERY MUCH BELIEVE masculine men will gladly WAIT! WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join the FREE 6 day email challenge In Your Feminine Era Click here to purchase dating apps 101 CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... Why your STATE of peace + rest should be HIGHLY REGARDED and why the RIGHT MAN would do anything in his power to MAINTAIN your state of rest/peace The consequences of being around people who CONTINUALLY disturb your state of rest How to become someone that LISTENS TO ACTIONS more than words WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join the FREE 6 day email challenge In Your Feminine Era Click here to purchase dating apps 101 CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... Why every single person on this planet has VISION + an ASSIGNMENT from God The importance of keeping the RIGHT COMPANY and knowing when to zip it when it comes to the vision you have for yourself for MORE out of life How God has a plan + a vision for you and why you should know it! WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join the FREE 6 day email challenge In Your Feminine Era Click here to purchase dating apps 101 CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... Why MEN are providers and BOYS are not The difference between BOYS and MEN and spotting it in dating How the RIGHT man actually will invite EASE + make you 100x the woman you already ARE WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join the FREE 6 day email challenge In Your Feminine Era Click here to purchase dating apps 101 CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... The influence of spirituality in the online and personal development space Naiveté around spirituality and my relationship to it The spirituality that WORKS WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join the FREE 6 day email challenge In Your Feminine Era Click here to purchase dating apps 101 CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... A life update! What does it mean to be ON ASSIGNMENT/in your purpose and the impact of it on your dating life What happens to your assignment/purpose when you deal with WOUNDED masculine energy WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join the FREE 6 day email challenge In Your Feminine Era Click here to purchase dating apps 101 CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... The 4 controversial dating beliefs I have including ONE I used to be FULLY AGAINST-- Tune in to find out what it is! WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join the FREE 6 day email challenge In Your Feminine Era Click here to purchase dating apps 101 CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... Wounded feminine vs. Balanced feminine when it comes to what she's LOOKING FOR in dating Why his ATTENTION shouldn't be impressive The difference between ATTENTION and being VALUED WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to purchase dating apps 101 If you're ready to go from SITUATIONSHIP to RELATIONSHIP, snag the FREE 5-day email bootcamp by clicking here CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... The difference between the WOUNDED feminine and BALANCED feminine and how BOTH impact your dating life How to shift from SCARCITY to ABUNDANCE in dating What IS relaxed dating and why dating was NEVER meant to be frantic or have you anxious and on TEN checking your phone every couple of minutes WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to purchase dating apps 101 If you're ready to go from SITUATIONSHIP to RELATIONSHIP, snag the FREE 5-day email bootcamp by clicking here CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to share this with someone who needs it!

Listen to this to.... REMEMBER who God designed you to be and to understand the VALUE of a woman To STOP holding on for dear life for someone who doesn't put in any EFFORT TO EARN YOU To understand WHY the feminine is meant to be in a position of CHOOSING who is worthy of her heart not for her to be GIVING it to any old anybody WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to get access to Dating Apps 101 the masterclass shhhh it hasn't been released to the public yet but i'm quietly dropping it here (Save $10 through 4/18 ONLY) If you're ready to go from SITUATIONSHIP to RELATIONSHIP, snag the FREE 5-day email bootcamp by clicking here CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to share this with someone who needs it!

It's... been a while hasn't it bestie?! Well I have an AMAZING episode for you ALL about why it's been so hard for you to "know your worth" and why you should focus on knowing your VALUE instead. Your VALUE in general AND your VALUE in dating, relationships, marriage, work, your business etc, Tell a friend to tell a friend that i'm back!! WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to apply for 1:1 coaching on dating/relationships If you're ready to go from SITUATIONSHIP to RELATIONSHIP, snag the FREE 5-day email bootcamp by clicking here CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were.

There's a THIN LINE between EXPECTATIONS and STANDARDS and knowing which is which is the difference between experiencing DISAPPOINTMENT in dating and actually experiencing what you WANT in dating. Listen in to this week's episode to find out more! CLICK HERE TO REGISTER FOR FREE FOR THE 4 DAY LIVE ONLINE EVENT ELEVATED IN LOVE where you learn how to go from confused about your love life to navigating love and dating with maturity and confidence WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to apply for 1:1 personal coaching and-- BIRTHDAY MONTH SPECIAL--enjoy BONUS month of coaching calls + voxer access when you begin coaching by January 31st! CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were.

If you've found yourself landing in situationship after situationship... Or if you've felt the need to SPEED the dating process up or have felt anxious about "where things are going" this episode is FOR YOU! CLICK HERE TO REGISTER FOR FREE FOR THE 4 DAY LIVE ONLINE EVENT ELEVATED IN LOVE where you learn how to go from confused about your love life to navigating love and dating with maturity and confidence WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to apply for 1:1 personal coaching and-- BIRTHDAY MONTH SPECIAL--enjoy BONUS month of coaching calls + voxer access when you begin coaching by January 31st! CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were.

Dating is NOT supposed to be hard. It gets to be EASY. Tune in to find out what 5 things I would be doing if I were single in 2024 and looking for a SERIOUS, committed relationship. CLICK HERE TO REGISTER FOR FREE FOR THE 4 DAY LIVE ONLINE EVENT ELEVATED IN LOVE where you learn how to go from confused about your love life to navigating love and dating with maturity and confidence WORK WITH BEATRICE: Head over to my website to apply for 1:1 personal or business coaching CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were.

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What if feelings of unworthiness aren't really your problem when it comes to actually experiencing the kind of relationship you desire? What if there's something TOTALLY different to consider instead? Tune into this week's episode to find out what exactly that is... CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE WAITLIST AND GET ACCESS TO THE BIGGEST SALE OF THE YEAR: BEATRICE'S CHRISTMAS BLOWOUT SALE WORK WITH BEATRICE: Head over to my website to apply for 1:1 personal or business coaching Listen to OFF THE RECORD, a deep-dive into some of the most intimate parts of my own relationship and how we handle arguments, disagreements, the masculine + feminine dynamic in our relationship and MORE: https://beatricekamau.com/otr CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Want to get to know the woman behind the podcast? Find me in these TikTok streets: https://www.tiktok.com/@iambeatricekamau

If you've ever felt like something is wrong with YOU because you keep attracting the SAME types of men over and over again... Men who are emotionally unavailable... Men who are not interested in commitment... Men who are unfaithful... etc. There's actually something DEEPER to the story. It's not that you're doomed. Or that something is wrong with you. It's that you may have an UNCONSCIOUS dating pattern running the show and you don't even know it. Tune into this episode to learn more. WORK WITH BEATRICE: Head over to my website to apply for 1:1 personal or business coaching Listen to OFF THE RECORD, a deep-dive into some of the most intimate parts of my own relationship and how we handle arguments, disagreements, the masculine + feminine dynamic in our relationship and MORE: https://beatricekamau.com/otr CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Want to get to know the woman behind the podcast? Find me in these TikTok streets: https://www.tiktok.com/@iambeatricekamau

There is... a lot of immaturity in dating that shows up in the form of thinking EVERYTHING is a red flag. Not everything is a red flag. MATURITY in dating is understanding 1. That not everything is a red flag and 2. HOW to discern what IS from what ISN'T a red flag. 3. You'll have to listen to the rest of the episode to find out! ;) WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join the Woman of Desire waitlist (Save 50% off enrollment when the pre-sale begins the week of Nov 20) Head over to my website to apply for 1:1 personal or business coaching Listen to OFF THE RECORD, a deep-dive into some of the most intimate parts of my own relationship and how we handle arguments, disagreements, the masculine + feminine dynamic in our relationship and MORE: https://beatricekamau.com/otr CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Want to get to know the woman behind the podcast? Find me in these TikTok streets: https://www.tiktok.com/@iambeatricekamau

If you're hunched over your phone with your magnifying glass out, organizing a conference call with ten of your girlfriends at once, and desperately trying to untangle whether the person you're "talking to" wants to be in a relationship with you… He doesn't. I say this with so much love: if you have to do this, you aren't actually confused at all about how he feels. You know he isn't interested in having a relationship…you just don't like that answer. Desire is not ambiguous. Desire is CLEAR. Desire is BOLD. Desire doesn't dither in the background waiting its turn. When a man desires you, you'll know. So let's talk about what it actually means when you're "confused" about what "he wants." WORK WITH BEATRICE: Listen to OFF THE RECORD, a deep-dive into some of the most intimate parts of my own relationship: https://beatricekamau.com/otr CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Want to get to know the woman behind the podcast? Find me in these TikTok streets: https://www.tiktok.com/@iambeatricekamau Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/87dcb0b30c Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea

If you've given up on dating…this episode is for you. I'm not talking about the people who truly do not desire a relationship. I'm talking to the people who have a soul-deep desire for a relationship, but have gotten so discouraged that they're ready to throw in the towel entirely. Listen to me–I don't care what your situation is. I don't care if you're in your late 20s, 30s, 40s, etc. I don't care if you've been divorced four times and can't imagine a relationship ever working out. I don't care if you've never been in a healthy relationship and are struggling to believe they even exist. A relationship IS possible for you–yes, YOU. And if you're walking around with your head down, living in defeat, certain it's never going to happen for you…let me give you some hope today. WORK WITH BEATRICE: Listen to OFF THE RECORD, a deep-dive into some of the most intimate parts of my own relationship: https://beatricekamau.com/otr CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Want to get to know the woman behind the podcast? Find me in these TikTok streets: https://www.tiktok.com/@iambeatricekamau Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your majortakeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/87dcb0b30c Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea

If you believe it's IMPOSSIBLE to attract the type of man that has ambition, makes plans, and takes charge in your relationship…I may have an idea why that is. And you're probably not going to like hearing it. Once upon a time, I was in the same shoes as you: fed up with attracting men who wouldn't so much as initiate a phone call, sick of having to do ALL the work in every relationship, and wondering where all the ambitious men were. But you know what else I believed? That men were dumb as rocks. No, really. I genuinely, wholeheartedly believed that men were inferior to me, that they couldn't do anything right, and they needed my guidance in everything… But if that was true, well…why on earth would I want to have one of them leading me? It doesn't matter what you consciously say you want. If your unconscious mind believes men are inferior, the unconscious will win over the conscious every time. Let's talk about why this superiority is actually sabotaging our dating lives. CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Want to get to know the woman behind the podcast? Find me in these TikTok streets: https://www.tiktok.com/@iambeatricekamau Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/87dcb0b30c Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea

There's one stage of new relationships that no one talks about. We try to pretend it doesn't happen. In fact, we do one better (or worse): we usually dip out of the relationship the second we enter this phase. The first phase of any new relationship is the honeymoon phase…and it is POWERFUL. That cocktail of hormones hits HARD. We're floating on cloud nine. All we see in front of us is our perfect, amazing partner. Everything they do is so cute and sweet and amazing… Until it isn't. Until one day, we wake up and notice every little thing about them that actually annoys us. Welcome to the DOUBTING PHASE: the phase of relationships where we suddenly see the reality of our partner, not our hormone hopped-up perception of them. The comedown hits even harder than the high. And unfortunately, this is where most people decide it's time to end the relationship, because "the magic" is gone. This phase is normal. Everyone has it. But we need to change the way we approach the doubting phase…because if we bide our time and make it to the other side, what's waiting for us is a phase of love unlike any other. CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Sign up to receive daily tips over a period of 5 days on how to attract men who desire COMMITMENT–because they DO exist: https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/2ee1aa3101 Want to get to know the woman behind the podcast? Find me in these TikTok streets: https://www.tiktok.com/@iambeatricekamau Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/87dcb0b30c Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea

If you're walking around telling yourself "I DESERVE a relationship…" Sit down for a second. Let's talk. I say this because I love you: you do not "deserve" a relationship. You don't deserve anything from another individual just because you want it. Imagine if you walked into a job interview. You did no prep. You did no research. You wore your sweats. And when they start asking you questions, you just go, "What do you mean? Why are you asking me this? I deserve this job. Just give it to me." They would look at you like you were FUCKING DELUSIONAL…because you'd have to be in order to act that way. We all know we can't act like that in most areas of our lives. But when it comes to dating…all that goes flying out the window, and suddenly we're deep in our entitled princess energy, believing we deserve something we didn't put in the work for. If dating feels like it's too hard, it's probably because you're approaching it with a heavy vibe of entitlement and need. But I promise you this: if you just shift this perspective, your dating life will be completely transformed. CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Sign up to receive daily tips over a period of 5 days on how to attract men who desire COMMITMENT–because they DO exist: https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/2ee1aa3101 Want to get to know the woman behind the podcast? Find me in these TikTok streets: https://www.tiktok.com/@iambeatricekamau Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/87dcb0b30c Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea

"God must be out to get me." "This must be some kind of cosmic joke." "You know what? Fine. I don't want a relationship anyway." "I'm focusing on my career. I don't need a man." If any of these sound familiar, then this episode is for you. If you're the kind of person who truly enjoys being single…good for you! But if you're saying you're fine with being single, then absolutely SEETHING with anger and bitterness every time you see a happy couple… I don't think you're being honest with yourself. If you say you don't want a relationship when you actually do, you become the thing that's sabotaging you. Because when you decide you don't want something…God's going to listen. And pretending you don't care isn't going to trick him into giving you what you want. This might be a confronting episode for you, but as someone who's been where you are…trust me. Once you come face to face with the truth of your desires, your dating life will NEVER be the same. WORK WITH BEATRICE: Get access to the replay of OBSESSION, a TRANSFORMATIONAL masterclass on how to transcend out of comparing yourself to EVERYONE and into feeling MORE THAN SECURE + IN LOVE with where you are currently at in life, love, and business: https://beatricekamau.thrivecart.com/obsession-masterclass/ CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Sign up to receive daily tips over a period of 5 days on how to attract men who desire COMMITMENT–because they DO exist: https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/2ee1aa3101 Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/87dcb0b30c Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea

I love delving into the shadowy parts of ourselves that no one likes to talk about…comparison being one of them. We all compare ourselves to others. We all feel envious of someone else's successes, both in business and in relationships…especially when they're in the same industry as us. And I don't think these experiences are wrong…but when we lie about it to ourselves and refuse to OWN what we're thinking and feeling, that's when it becomes a problem. When we try to pretend we aren't playing the comparison game, we actually end up unconsciously letting it steal it the driver's seat…and before we know it, our businesses are being run by our perceptions of what others have achieved and what we think we're doing "wrong." There are ways to quit the comparison game…and it starts with looking for places where we might be acting a liiittle entitled. Let's examine this together. WORK WITH BEATRICE: Join OBSESSION, a TRANSFORMATIONAL masterclass on how to transcend out of comparing yourself to EVERYONE and into feeling MORE THAN SECURE + IN LOVE with where you are currently at in life, love, and business: https://beatricekamau.thrivecart.com/obsession-masterclass/ CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/87dcb0b30c Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea

Let me ask you a question… What is BRAND? If you answered, "Colors, fonts, and logos"...no judgment here. There was a hot minute when I believed the very same. In actuality, these things are brandING, not BRAND. But when so many people start out in entrepreneurship, they come in business-minded, not brand-minded…and when they look for steps to skip, brandING can take the place of actual brand. If you're just now learning you were wrong about brand, don't panic–that's why I'm having this conversation today. It's not too late for you to go back to the basics…and once you know what brand really is, trust me, you'll want to. If you're committed to LEGACY VIBES with your business, brand is your new best friend. Allow me to introduce you. WORK WITH BEATRICE: My 1:1 coaching containers are where we go DEEP– where your depth + expansion meet and merge. Where I both meet you in your deepest levels of vulnerability, and hold you to the potential I know you're capable of. Apply for 1:1 coaching below: CLICK HERE FOR 1:1 COACHING (OR VISIT https://beatricekamau.com/programs AND SCROLL TO PRIVATE COACHING) CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up to receive daily tips over a period of 5 days on how to attract men who desire COMMITMENT–because they DO exist: https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/2ee1aa3101 Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/87dcb0b30c Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea

Please join me in welcoming Tayla Bubeck, an INCREDIBLE business coach + mentor…in fact, she's so incredible that she's MY business coach + mentor! Tayla specializes in the human behind the business, the execution of strategy for a scalable business, and leveraging personal brands to maximize opportunities and evolution. She helps powerful players in the online world unleash their unique gifts and full potential in business and helps them create a business space where money and success aren't their limits; instead, they become the makers of your limitless business legacy. If you're struggling to get your VISION straight, build a strong business foundation, and understand what you want your legacy to be…Tayla's your girl. I can't wait for you to hear what she has to share today. CONNECT WITH TAYLA: Instagram: @taylbubeck_ Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6S7mzVSmbfzXaDuLN8H2Nv WORK WITH TAYLA: Website: https://www.taylabubeck.com/ WORK WITH BEATRICE: Join Self Trust Alchemy, a 16 week group program designed to help you alchemize self-doubt, overwhelm, and overthinking to NEXT-LEVEL self-trust in your ability to set boundaries, achieve your goals, and use your voice: https://beatricekamau.thrivecart.com/self-trust-alchemy/ CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/87dcb0b30c Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea

This week's episode we have an amazing guest and Self Trust Alchemy Alum, Taccarra Davenport. In this episode, we chat about how she transcended PERFECTIONISM, fear of using her voice, + imposter syndrome during Self Trust Alchemy and published her new book, A Letter To My Sister. This is an incredible and INSPIRING episode you DON'T want to miss! Follow Taccarra over on IG: https://www.instagram.com/taccarra_renee Tacarra's website: www.taccarra.com Tacarra's book: https://taccarra.com/book Evolve the FREE event is where you learn to RELEASE GENERATIONAL CYCLES OF REPRESSED SELF EXPRESSION AND EVOLVE BEYOND LIVING A LIFE CONSUMED WITH OTHERS THOUGHTS OF YOU To join the community and to join me LIVE for the remainder of this event taking place August 21-24 ANDD to get access to INSANE prizes like a free 45 minute 1:1 call with me, join the free 3-day event at beatrice.com/evolve IG: @theselflovefix Website: www.beatricekamau.com Join Self Trust Alchemy a 16 week group program that teaches you how to step into your sovereignty as a powerful leader over your life who makes decisions with certainty and deep levels of self-trust. https://beatricekamau.thrivecart.com/self-trust-alchemy

Today, I have a very special guest joining me on the podcast: Chelsi Reina, a former student in the Self Trust Alchemy program! Chelsi is a fellow podcaster and self-love coach who is all about helping women stop waiting for the perfect moment to create a life that they actually enjoy living. She has come so far since her time in Self Trust Alchemy and I'm so proud of the way she has let go of shame, started protecting her energy by setting boundaries, and shaken off the imposter syndrome keeping her from being her authentic self! Chelsi has such great wisdom to share, and I can't wait for you all to hear it. Let's dive right in, shall we? CONNECT WITH CHELSI: Instagram: @maintainingmyhappy Listen to the Maintaining My Happy podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/160bfG33ZaVITFwFvSyDWt?go=1&sp_cid=0a0c8e0accbc93e47246c238a0d7edc5&utm_source=embed_player_p&utm_medium=desktop WORK WITH BEATRICE: Join Self Trust Alchemy, a 16 week group program designed to help you alchemize self-doubt, overwhelm, and overthinking to NEXT-LEVEL self-trust in your ability to set boundaries, achieve your goals, and use your voice: https://beatricekamau.thrivecart.com/self-trust-alchemy/ CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/87dcb0b30c Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea

Tell me if this sounds familiar… You've hit a high in your life, whether that's a business high, a relationship high, a money high, or something else. It feels great… Except that it doesn't. You can't stop looking over your shoulder, checking both ways before you move, waiting for the other shoe to drop at any moment. Things have been going too good, so something bad has to be coming next, right? I've heard almost every single student and client experience this in one form or another. They're always waiting for the other shoe to drop when things start getting good. "But Beatrice, it's true! Every time things get good, something bad comes along." Does it? Or do you think you might be playing into a bit of self-fulling prophecy? Let's explore where this sense of impending doom comes from…and how we unconsciously do everything we can to prove that sense right. WORK WITH BEATRICE: Join Self Trust Alchemy, a 16 week group program designed to help you alchemize self-doubt, overwhelm, and overthinking to NEXT-LEVEL self-trust in your ability to set boundaries, achieve your goals, and use your voice: https://beatricekamau.thrivecart.com/self-trust-alchemy/ Ready to experience growth like you never thought possible? My 1:1 containers are where we go DEEP– where your depth + expansion meet and merge. Where I both meet you in your deepest levels of vulnerability, and hold you to the potential I know you're capable of. Apply now: https://beatricekamau.com/1-1-coaching CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/87dcb0b30c Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea

I believe that SHORT + SWEET messages still have the ability to be POWERFUL + TRANSFORMATIVE. So today, here's a bite-sized lesson in setting boundaries: It's time to get reconnected to your VOICE. When you use your voice to set boundaries with confidence, people FEEL that frequency. It inspires a response of respect. It calls people to listen. But if you're DISCONNECTED from your voice…if you don't speak up because you think other people can pick up on your boundaries on their own, or if you feel the need to explain yourself over and over because you don't believe you'll be heard… That's a different frequency. And it doesn't inspire others to listen and respect at all. Here's how to set boundaries CONFIDENTLY. WORK WITH BEATRICE: Join Self Trust Alchemy, a 16 week group program designed to help you alchemize self-doubt, overwhelm, and overthinking to NEXT-LEVEL self-trust in your ability to set boundaries, achieve your goals, and use your voice: https://beatricekamau.thrivecart.com/self-trust-alchemy/ Ready to experience growth like you never thought possible? My 1:1 containers are where we go DEEP– where your depth + expansion meet and merge. Where I both meet you in your deepest levels of vulnerability, and hold you to the potential I know you're capable of. Apply now: https://beatricekamau.com/1-1-coaching CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/87dcb0b30c Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea

This week, I am thrilled to welcome Brittany Simmons, Self Trust Alchemy alumni and overall incredible woman, onto the podcast to chat about her experience in the program! Brittany is here to share about the BEFORE and AFTER of Self Trust Alchemy, how different her approach to motherhood has been, all the ways she's been able to break generational trauma, how she's begun setting boundaries, and soooo much more. This work is TRANSFORMATIVE. This work is POWERFUL. Not only can it change everything for you individually…but it can transform the people around you, as well. Brittany's an amazing example of the trickle-down effect of self-development work, and her story is wildly inspirational. Get ready to have your minds completely blown. WORK WITH BEATRICE: Join Self Trust Alchemy, a 16 week group program designed to help you alchemize self-doubt, overwhelm, and overthinking to NEXT-LEVEL self-trust in your ability to set boundaries, achieve your goals, and use your voice: https://beatricekamau.thrivecart.com/self-trust-alchemy/ CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/87dcb0b30c Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea

I have waited a long, long time to have this conversation. Not because it hasn't been requested—it has. Not because I didn't know how I felt about it—I do. I held off for two reasons. One, because I wanted to talk about it when I felt led to do so, and two… Honestly, I was nervous about how I would be received. But I'm not nervous anymore. So, let's talk about body positivity. My relationship with food and my body has been a bit of a rollercoaster—I was lucky enough to be raised in a home where I had a healthy view of food, and I'm also a registered dietician, so I "get" food. But when I was in college, things took a bit of a turn…and since then, I've learned a LOT about holding duality when it comes to body image, food restriction, and wanting to look a certain way. CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/87dcb0b30c Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea

It's time to let go of the heavy energy surrounding personal development and embrace a new paradigm of growth. Discover how to infuse personal development with a sense of lightness, joy, and expansion. Join me today as we delve into practical strategies and insights that will empower you to shift your perspective and reclaim the true essence of personal development. If you've been feeling weighed down by the personal development journey, this episode is a must-listen. Together, we will challenge the notion that personal growth must be a struggle, and instead, we will embrace personal development as a powerful catalyst for a more fulfilling and joyful life. Get ready to embark on a transformative journey as we explore a new, enlightened approach to personal development. It's time to release the misery vibe and step into a realm of empowerment, growth, and limitless possibilities. Mind Mastery Masterclass- https://beatricekamau.thrivecart.com/mind-mastery/ CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for the indulgent and balanced™ newsletter today- https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/87dcb0b30c Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://www.indulgentandbalanced.com/ Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea

Too many people associate MONEY with GREED. To be wealthy is to be selfish. To want more resources is to be greedy. You can't desire more than what you already have without it meaning something terrible about yourself… And I believe that's absolutely false. To be wealthy is to have INFLUENCE. To have more resources is to create IMPACT. And whether that's a positive or negative impact… That is completely up to you. If you believe having more money makes you bad or wrong–even if that belief is unconscious–you will never be able to have more than you have right now. Let's explore the way we tend to project negative qualities and beliefs onto money. JOIN THE FREE, COMMUNITY EVENT, MONEY AS THE STANDARD: Join the free event to earn how to shift OUT of your LIMITATIONS and SCARCITY with money and DIP into the frequency of MORE MONEY as the standard. https://beatricekamau.com/moneyweek WORK WITH BEATRICE: Join MONEY MADE, a 12-week group program designed to help you DISSOLVE your scarcity mindset, TRANSCEND your limiting beliefs around money, and MANIFEST money with EASE: https://beatricekamau.thrivecart.com/money-made/ CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://www.indulgentandbalanced.com/ Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea

When it comes to money, there are three things people normalize that I absolutely REFUSE to accept… Firstly, that money is a limited resource, and there isn't enough to go around… Secondly, feeling shame and regret every time they spend money, even if they have the money to spend—and even if it purchased something that they greatly desired… And thirdly, that we are limited from experiencing more by our circumstances. I choose to live differently. I choose to experience a different reality. And today, I want to tell you why YOU should stop normalizing these frequencies around money, too. WORK WITH BEATRICE: If you wanna tap into the limitless flow of money, you can purchase access to the MONEY BEYOND THE MATRIX masterclass, a matrix-shattering conversation on tapping into the LIMITLESS flow + abundance of money by becoming ONE with the frequency of money: https://beatricekamau.thrivecart.com/money-beyond-the-matrix-masterclass/ Join MONEY MADE, a 12-week group program designed to help you DISSOLVE your scarcity mindset, TRANSCEND your limiting beliefs around money, and MANIFEST money with EASE: https://beatricekamau.thrivecart.com/money-made/ CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://www.indulgentandbalanced.com/ Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea

Here's the truth about abundance mindset: You can say all the right things as much as you want…but it's the action you take alongside your mindset that proves the truth of how you feel about money and abundance. Money is an unlimited resource. I deeply believe that. But if you act as though it's a limited resource…don't be surprised when it functions as one. If you're saying all the right things and committing to an abundance mindset, but you're still having a panic attack when you spend your money on something other than the cheapest thing available…that tells you everything you need to know. Let's dig deeper into the truth behind changing your mindset around money. WORK WITH BEATRICE: If you wanna tap into the limitless flow of money, you can join the BEYOND THE MATRIX masterclass, a matrix-shattering conversation on tapping into the LIMITLESS flow + abundance of money by becoming ONE with the frequency of money: https://beatricekamau.thrivecart.com/money-beyond-the-matrix-masterclass/ CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://www.indulgentandbalanced.com/ Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea

I am so, soooo excited to introduce a longtime coaching client of mine to you all…please welcome fashion consultant and avid traveler, Sheena Katz! Sheena has been in my world for quite a long time–she's been listening to the podcast since right around when I started, and she's been in various programs of mine since 2020! Today, I asked Sheena come on to discuss the impact of group coaching on her life, what she's been able to accomplish since, and how manifestation has allowed her to realize the dreams and goals that once seemed completely impossible. Get ready to hear the story of this incredible journey. I can't wait for you all to meet Sheena! WORK WITH BEATRICE: If you know you've been thinking, playing, and talking small when it comes to business, career, money and/or dating, and you're ready to step into BIGGER conversations and a more EXPANSIVE way of living…you need to join EXPANDED group coaching with Beatrice: https://beatricekamau.thrivecart.com/expanded-group-coaching-with-beatrice/ If you wanna tap into the limitless flow of money, you can join the BEYOND THE MATRIX masterclass, a matrix-shattering conversation on tapping into the LIMITLESS flow + abundance of money by becoming ONE with the frequency of money: https://beatricekamau.thrivecart.com/money-beyond-the-matrix-masterclass/ CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://www.indulgentandbalanced.com/ Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea CONNECT WITH SHEENA: Instagram: @sheenakatz

When you're surrounded by an environment filled with victim mindset and the normalization of limitation…good luck having a life that can transcend that environment. When you live beside limitation, you will end up living in limitation. But when you plug into an environment where people prioritize expansion, firm standard-setting, and a life of limitlessness… Your own potential to live without limits skyrockets. I don't believe in limitation. I simply don't. I believe we can all shatter the limits we've placed on ourselves and our ability to live a different reality than we're currently in… But some things need to change before we can get there. And we're the only ones who can DECIDE to make it happen. WORK WITH BEATRICE: If you know you've been thinking, playing, and talking small when it comes to business, career, money and/or dating, and you're ready to step into BIGGER conversations and a more EXPANSIVE way of living…you need to join EXPANDED group coaching with Beatrice: https://beatricekamau.thrivecart.com/expanded-group-coaching-with-beatrice/ If you wanna tap into the limitless flow of money, you can join the BEYOND THE MATRIX masterclass, a matrix-shattering conversation on tapping into the LIMITLESS flow + abundance of money by becoming ONE with the frequency of money: https://beatricekamau.thrivecart.com/money-beyond-the-matrix-masterclass/ CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://www.indulgentandbalanced.com/ Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea

You've all heard plenty about my relationship with coaching and mentorship insofar as it applies to my own business… But today, I want to talk about how coaching and mentorship has supported me throughout my own self-development journey! If you're anything like I was, you probably believe that coaching and mentorship is something you have to NEED before you seek it out. You probably believe that since things aren't falling apart (yet) and you don't have anything crisis-level to work through, you haven't yet "earned" the right to support… But this is absolutely untrue. I no longer believe support is something you have to wait to invest in until you're falling apart. I believe support is something you need and deserve at every point in your journey…and if you have it, that journey will actually get a thousand times easier. Let's talk about it. WORK WITH BEATRICE: If you know you've been thinking, playing, and talking small when it comes to business, career, money and/or dating, and you're ready to step into BIGGER conversations and a more EXPANSIVE way of living…you need to join EXPANDED group coaching with Beatrice: https://beatricekamau.thrivecart.com/expanded-group-coaching-with-beatrice/ CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://www.indulgentandbalanced.com/ Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea

Did you miss the Hold the Standard masterclass? Good news—welcome to the replay! When people talk about standards, I tend to notice one of three patterns: either someone is copying someone else's standards because they sound good, without stopping to actually consider whether those standards match with what they're looking for; someone doesn't set ANY standards because they don't know what they want, they just want SOMEONE; or they set conditional standards, which they drop the second someone who doesn't meet those standards pays them any attention. I don't believe we ever drop standards; I believe we never had a hold of them in the first place. Let's talk about how we can finally hold the standards we claim to have set. WORK WITH BEATRICE: Join Magnetic Woman, a five-week group program on how to ELEVATE and UPGRADE your dating life through getting CLEAR, SOLID, and GROUNDED in your standards and deal breakers for a relationship: https://beatricekamau.thrivecart.com/magnetic-woman/ CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://www.indulgentandbalanced.com/ Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea

Too many people allow their EXTERNAL circumstances to determine their INTERNAL reality. The way you feel is going to be one of the most important things you will ever tend to in your life, because your feelings influence every area of your life. It's a powerful, powerful thing. So if you allow anything other than yourself to influence the way you feel… You're giving up your power. And that is NOT the vibe. It's time to take power back. It's time that you put YOURSELF in charge of your feelings, the way you move throughout the world, and the beliefs you hold about yourself. WORK WITH BEATRICE: Join Magnetic Woman, a five-week group program on how to ELEVATE and UPGRADE your dating life through getting CLEAR, SOLID, and GROUNDED in your standards and deal breakers for a relationship: https://beatricekamau.thrivecart.com/magnetic-woman/ If you know you've been thinking, playing, and talking small when it comes to business, career, money and/or dating, and you're ready to step into BIGGER conversations and a more EXPANSIVE way of living…you need to join EXPANDED group coaching with Beatrice: https://beatricekamau.thrivecart.com/expanded-group-coaching-with-beatrice/ CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://www.indulgentandbalanced.com/ Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea

When you walk into a designer store, you do it differently than you would walk into a Walmart. You enter with a different price tag in mind. You probably already know what you want—or at least know that you're there to make a purchase, not browse. You're not wasting your own time or anyone else's. Because of the way Louis Vuitton conducts itself through marketing, atmosphere, and treatment of their products, it calls you to a higher standard yourself, because the energy is different. The same principle applies to dating. When you embody your standards and uplevel your frequency, people feel that and respond to it—you don't even have to say it to them. They just know. It's time to dive past the surface level of standard-setting and start embodying the standards we've supposedly set for ourselves. WORK WITH BEATRICE: Join Magnetic Woman, a five-week group program on how to ELEVATE and UPGRADE your dating life through getting CLEAR, SOLID, and GROUNDED in your standards and deal breakers for a relationship: https://beatricekamau.thrivecart.com/magnetic-woman/ Join the Hold the Standard FREE masterclass:https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/0d0ecdf365 CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://www.indulgentandbalanced.com/ Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea

How often have you immediately blurted out "You too!" when somebody compliments you? "You have such pretty hair!" "You too!" "You're so smart!" "You too!" "You're so beautiful." "You too!" It's like we can't stand to just sit and HOLD attention when it's given to us…we have to throw it back as fast as we can. Why? Because we've trained ourselves to be uncomfortable holding it. Because we don't think of ourselves as "attention-seekers." Here's the thing: attention-seeking is not the same as receiving attention. And until we learn that lesson, we're never going to be comfortable holding attention from others…and we're never going to be able to have the supportive relationship we dream about where we are known, loved, and seen for exactly who we are. Let's talk about VISIBILITY, VULNERABILITY, ATTENTION, and BEING SEEN…without feeling the need to get everyone's eyes off of us as fast as possible. WORK WITH BEATRICE: Join Magnetic Woman, a five-week group program on how to ELEVATE and UPGRADE your dating life through getting CLEAR, SOLID, and GROUNDED in your standards and deal breakers for a relationship: https://beatricekamau.thrivecart.com/magnetic-woman/ Join the Hold the Standard FREE masterclass:https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/0d0ecdf365 CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://www.indulgentandbalanced.com/ Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea

Last week, we had a chat about what it looks like when your standards are actually conditions, and you're too wishy-washy about standing firm in the standards you've set… This week, I want to talk about what happens when you're TOO strict with your standard-setting, and it actually ends up narrowing your dating pool unnecessarily. I've heard a lot of people asking whether their standards are "too high," and honestly? I don't believe this is even a thing. Standards aren't high or low; they just are. They're something that you've decided to set and stand behind… But sometimes, we set them in places that aren't actually aligned with what we're truly seeking in a relationship. Let's talk about what happens when you set standards from a place of entitlement or outside pressure rather than what will ACTUALLY make you feel safe and secure in a relationship. Because I'm betting that your ego has started an unconscious game of peek-a-boo within your standards…and it's actually starting to sabotage your dating life. WORK WITH BEATRICE: Join Magnetic Woman, a five-week group program on how to ELEVATE and UPGRADE your dating life through getting CLEAR, SOLID, and GROUNDED in your standards and deal breakers for a relationship: https://beatricekamau.thrivecart.com/magnetic-woman/ CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://www.indulgentandbalanced.com/ Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea

I don't actually believe in the idea of "lowering" your standards. I don't believe that STANDARDS can be lowered. A standard is something that just IS. It is the way things are, no unless, ifs, ands, or buts… And if you disagree, I'm willing to bet you haven't been setting standards. I think you've been setting conditions. If your "standards" rely on outside factors and are constantly lowering and raising depending on what you're experiencing, guess what? That's not a standard. And if you want to actually attract what you SAY you truly want, we need to sit down and get solid about what your standards truly are… WORK WITH BEATRICE: Join Magnetic Woman, a five-week group program on how to ELEVATE and UPGRADE your dating life through getting CLEAR, SOLID, and GROUNDED in your standards and deal breakers for a relationship: https://beatricekamau.thrivecart.com/magnetic-woman/ CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://www.indulgentandbalanced.com/ Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea

If you get a bad taste in your mouth when you hear the words "dating apps"...this is the episode for you. Dating apps are NOT the problem. Odds are, it's not the apps that need to be ditched…it's likely your approach that needs some rethinking. Luckily for you, I have gathered up my top five tips for navigating dating apps in a way that's going to help you actually ENJOY the process of dating through your favorite dating app, instead of dreading the entire process. Before you push that DELETE button on the app, hit the PAUSE button instead…then hit PLAY on this episode. I'm going to help you rework your mindset surrounding the dating app dance. WORK WITH BEATRICE: Join Magnetic Woman, a five-week group program on how to ELEVATE and UPGRADE your dating life through getting CLEAR, SOLID, and GROUNDED in your standards and dealbreakers for a relationship: https://beatricekamau.thrivecart.com/magnetic-woman/ CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://www.indulgentandbalanced.com/ Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea

I have a question for the entrepreneurs in the audience… How do you react when someone misunderstands your meaning, your intentions, etcetera? If you get panicky, feel the impulse to COMPLETELY overhaul your approach + personality, or get defensive in the comments of your IG post…you're not gonna make it as an entrepreneur. A lot of people in the entrepreneurial space think that if somebody misunderstands them, that's a sign that they need to change how they do things. They think they should never do that thing again, say that thing again, talk about that thing again for fear of someone else getting upset about it. This. Isn't. True. If you can't hold that space between how you see yourself and how others see you, I'm telling you right now, you will crumble. Let's talk about why. WORK WITH BEATRICE: Sign up for The Miss Understood Masterclass, the live masterclass on how to stay SOLID in how you show up in life even when people misunderstand you, judge you, or criticize you: https://beatricekamau.thrivecart.com/miss-understood-masterclass/ CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://www.indulgentandbalanced.com/ Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea

There are soooo many lessons that I've learned from being in a relationship for just over a year now. Firstly: if you think that once you get in a relationship, your triggers all pack up and head out the door…that's just not it. It is NOT IT, friend. Secondly: If you want trust at the core of your relationship, you want to consider getting REALLY honest with yourself and your partner. Thirdly…well, you'll just have to listen to the episode to find out the rest! The work doesn't stop when you get into a relationship…in fact, it's only just beginning. Let's go over the five biggest lessons I've learned from being in a year-long relationship. EPISODE RESOURCES: You've been available for situationships for long enough. It's time to become available for an ACTUAL relationship. Sign up to receive FREE Situationship to Relationship tips now: https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/2ee1aa3101 CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://www.indulgentandbalanced.com/ Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea

Let me know if this sounds familiar at all: "Why am I STILL getting triggered by this? Why am I still responding this way? I DID this work already." Mmm…did you, though? Or did you just listen to a podcast episode about it and call it a day? Inner work takes TIME and PATIENCE…and as uncomfortable as it can get, true elevation requires you to sit and hold yourself when things come up for you…even if it's something you'd rather pretend isn't there at all. It's time to get curious. It's time to get patient. And it's time to set the ego aside, because the truth is, we all have sides of us we'd rather ignore. It's the people who can sit with those sides of themselves that actually hit that next level. EPISODE RESOURCES: Join Self Trust Alchemy, a 16-week live group program designed to help you alchemize self-doubt, overwhelm, and overthinking into next-level self-trust in your ability to set boundaries, achieve your goals, and use your voice: https://beatricekamau.thrivecart.com/self-trust-alchemy/ CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://www.indulgentandbalanced.com/ Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea

Tune in to find out how Self Love Over Codependency (now called Self Trust Alchemy) alum Sara DEEPENED her connection to her intuition, built her confidence, and found self-love Self Trust Alchemy, my 16-week shadow work group program on how to step into your sovereignty as a POWERFUL leader over your life who makes decisions with clarity and DEEP levels of self-trust (formerly known as SLOC), begins THIS Wednesday, Feb 15! Click here to join self-trust alchemy https://beatricekamau.thrivecart.com/self-trust-alchemy IG: @theselflovefix Website: beatricekamau.com