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The Evolving Man podcast features leaders and influencers in the personal growth arena who are actively engaged in "deep work", whether that be as a healer, or someone doing their own work. The guests on this podcast have a unique gift that they bring to the world, and they come to share these gifts with listeners. Tune in to witness discussions about addiction, consciousness, masculinity, health and personal growth.
- 110 - #108 - Why Men Lose Themselves (And How They Find Their Way Back) - with Alexander Cottle
What happens when you've built a successful life, but deep down, you know you're living a lie?
Alexander Cottle was chasing everything he thought would make him a successful man: money, career achievement, women, drugs, and the approval of others. By 27, his lifestyle had caught up with him. A stroke in a New York hotel room brought his life to a halt, and the collapse that followed eventually led to a suicide attempt.
What came next was a long journey of rebuilding his life from the inside out.
Alexander spent years travelling through Asia, studying meditation, yoga, Eastern philosophy, and eventually discovering men's work. Today, he's the founder of The Unmasked Man, an established men's work organization in the UK that helps men confront the parts of themselves they've spent their lives hiding.
In this conversation, we explore why so many men lose themselves trying to become someone they're not, and what it actually takes to find your way back.
We talk about the masks men wear, how addiction and people-pleasing can become ways of avoiding ourselves, and why learning to face our anger, grief, fear, and shame is such an important part of growing into mature masculinity.
We also get into the King, Warrior, Magician, and Lover archetypes, the importance of consistent brotherhood, and why real personal transformation isn't something that happens in a single retreat or workshop.
This is a conversation about moving from self-destruction to self-respect, from proving yourself to living with purpose, and from being lost to becoming a man who can lead his own life.
In this episode, we explore
Alexander’s journey from addiction and a stroke at 27 to founding The Unmasked Man Why men build false identities around success, achievement, and external validation How suppressed emotions can contribute to addiction, avoidance, and destructive patterns Learning to work with anger rather than suppressing it or acting it out The King, Warrior, Magician, and Lover archetypes Why men’s circles, brotherhood, and ongoing accountability are so transformative Moving from the need to prove yourself toward a life of purpose and service How injury, suffering, and fatherhood challenge our ideas of masculinityConnect with Alexander Cottle
The Unmasked Man: https://www.theunmaskedman.co.uk/
Alexander’s story: https://www.theunmaskedman.co.uk/alexander
Work with Ben Goresky
Freedom From Addiction Circle: A weekly men’s recovery circle combining addiction counselling, brotherhood, and accountability - https://freedom.evolvingman.com/freedom-from-addiction-circle
Break the Addiction Loop: My introductory course on understanding addiction and beginning the path to recovery. - https://freedom.evolvingman.com/break-the-addiction-loop
The Baja Live Men's Weekend with The Arka Brotherhood - https://buytickets.at/arkabrotherhood/2477949
The Plant Medicine Retreats Email List - https://mailchi.mp/evolvingman.com/medicine-journeys-and-retreats
Website: https://evolvingman.com/Instagram: @evolvingman
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Wed, 28 Oct 2026 - 109 - #107 - How Your Phone Is Stealing Your Freedom - w/ Mark Groves
Our phones promise connection, convenience, and access to nearly everything. But what happens when the tool we carry everywhere begins filling every quiet moment, exploiting our unresolved patterns, and gradually taking away our freedom to choose?
Mark Groves returns to the Evolving Man Podcast for a wide-ranging conversation about truth, addiction, technology, and personal sovereignty. Mark shares what it was like to speak publicly during the social division of COVID, the backlash and nervous-system strain that followed, and how he eventually realized that fighting against polarization was pulling him away from his deeper mission of creating connection.
From there, we trace a much longer transformation in Mark’s life. Quitting alcohol revealed sugar, people-pleasing, pornography, social approval, and other subtler vices. Eventually, he recognized that his phone had begun occupying the space once filled by many of those behaviours.
This conversation explores how smartphones and social media exploit our need for belonging, approval, stimulation, and escape. They enter every crack in our lives, eliminate boredom, interrupt our relationships, and make it increasingly difficult to hear ourselves think.
The answer is not to reject technology altogether. It is to develop a more conscious relationship with it. One grounded in boundaries, discernment, accountability, and the freedom to put it down.
IN THIS EPISODE:
The personal cost of speaking out during COVID Moving from freedom fighting toward bridge building Repairing relationships without waiting for an apology Why Mark quit drinking more than seven years ago How removing one vice can reveal the next Codependency, people-pleasing, and the fear of not belonging Mark’s decision to confront pornography in his marriage Why social media can resemble an abusive relationship How phones keep the nervous system surveying for danger Why boredom is essential for creativity, intuition, and self-connection How technology exploits unresolved relational wounds Why willpower alone is rarely enough to change phone habits Protecting attention, relationships, and childhood from constant screens Creating red, yellow, and green zones for technology use Reclaiming sovereignty in a world built to capture your attentionThis episode is for anyone who has ever reached for their phone without consciously deciding to—or felt that technology was interfering with their focus, sleep, creativity, relationships, or connection to themselves.
Your phone can add extraordinary value to your life. But only when you are the one deciding what kind of relationship you have with it.
CONNECT WITH MARK GROVES
Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/itsmarkgroves
@itsmarkgrovesThe Mark Groves Podcast:
https://open.spotify.com/show/5se5aQBcki87JV3zo1RYSi?si=c07c0af6917d4c62Substack:
https://markgroves.substack.comYouTube:
https://youtube.com/user/markgrovestvGet Mark’s Digital Detox Kit:
https://link.fgfunnels.com/widget/form/A1Z1U7swAaUZHuJmWM3P?notrack=trueWORK WITH BEN
Learn more about the Freedom From Addiction Circle:
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Wed, 12 Aug 2026 - 108 - #106 - Sacred Tobacco, Healing & The Warrior Path - w/ Jason Grechanik
Ben sits down with Jason Grechanik - a tabaquero and plant medicine practitioner who spent years apprenticing in the Peruvian Amazon studying the traditional spiritual and medicinal use of tobacco.
Together they explore the surprising role tobacco has played in indigenous healing traditions, the difference between sacred tobacco and commercial cigarettes, and why many traditional cultures considered tobacco one of the most important master plants.
The conversation moves through spirituality, masculinity, addiction, trauma, anxiety, nervous system healing, warrior traditions, direct experience, and the relationship between plants and consciousness.
Jason also shares his personal journey into the world of plant medicine, including his intense initiation into tobacco dietas and what these traditions teach about healing, presence, clarity, and power.
Topics Discussed
Tobacco as sacred medicine The difference between tobacco and cigarettes Indigenous and Amazonian healing traditions Tobacco dietas and plant apprenticeships Masculinity and spiritual initiation Anxiety, addiction, and trauma healing The difference between medicine and medication Why shamans consider tobacco a master plant Jiu-jitsu, embodiment, and grounded spirituality Direct spiritual experience vs intellectual knowledgeAbout Jason Grechanik
Jason Grachanik is a tabaquero and plant medicine practitioner who spent years living and apprenticing in the Peruvian Amazon studying traditional healing systems, tobacco work, and master plant dietas.
He now works with people through immersive healing retreats and traditional plant medicine practices rooted in Amazonian traditions.
Links from this episode:
Evolving Man’s Freedom From Addiction Circle
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Wed, 13 May 2026 - 107 - #105 - From infidelity to integrity: The Work That Keeps Love Alive - with Stefanos Sifandos
With over 25 years of hands-on experience in personal transformation, Stefanos Sifandos works at the intersection of human potential, relational intelligence, and embodied leadership. He is a trained educator and somatic, trauma-informed relationship specialist with a background in behavioral science and philosophy, known for translating deep inner work into grounded, real-world change.
In this episode, we dove deep with Stefanos about the real work that keeps love and connection alive, especially through parenting, marriage, and personal challenges. Stefanos got vulnerable about hitting rock bottom, doing the inner work, and how being radically honest and intentional with yourself and your partner is the ultimate foundation for transformation. If you want insight into lasting love, conscious relationship tools, and parenting, this episode is a must-listen.
Here are some of the pieces we discuss on this episode:
– How to keep love alive and act with love when your romantic partner is angry or distant
– The challenge of maintaining connection and spark in long-term relationships, especially under stress and obligations
– Stef's personal journey of transformation and inner work
– The impact of becoming a parent: how fatherhood stretches emotional edges and expands capacity for love, grief, and devotion
– Life challenges and awakenings: Stefanos Sifandos's turning point with addiction, infidelity, and facing suicidal thoughts
– The role of surrender and connection in moving through rock-bottom moments
– How shame, worthiness, and self-connection relate to addiction and healing
– The power of speaking the truth and vulnerability in men’s work and relationships
– Recognizing and breaking patterns of trauma bonding in volatile relationships
– When and why it’s healthy to let go of a relationship that’s become too toxic or drama-filled
– The importance of doing inner work: working on yourself to show up better in partnership
– Facing old family patterns, impatience, and imperfection as a partner and parent
– Real talk on the struggles of parenthood: impatience, mistakes, and embracing humanity
– Practicing conscious parenting: modeling humility, self-regulation, and apology to your child
– How a father’s relationship with his daughter informs her view of masculinity and future partnerships
– Making quality time and simple connection a priority in marriage
– Relationship tools: carving out time for intentional sharing, listening, and repair (including the Imago dialogue practice)
– The impact of performative gestures versus simple, consistent acts of care in keeping the spark alive
– How curiosity and presence nurture ongoing intimacy and novelty in partnerships
– The art of holding space, self-regulation, and loving your partner even when you’re the target of their anger
– Embracing imperfection in relationship and family life
– Stef’s new book, Tuned In and Turned On: A Path to True Connection, Deep Healing, and Lasting Love, and how it explores these teachings and practices in greater depthLinks from this episode
Stefanos Sifandos – Tuned In and Turned On - with Book Bonuses
Stef’s Instagram
The Path to Conscious Love program for couples
The Conscious Relationship Councillive program for men
The Arka Fire and Flow Men’s Weekend - Feb 26 to March 2nd
Keep an eye out for:
The Arka Talks Podcast – launching Feb 2026 (link to be shared upon release)
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Fri, 23 Jan 2026 - 106 - #104 - Finding And Following Your Soul’s Path: Courage And Surrender - with Kute Blackson
Kute Blackson is an author, speaker, and true spiritual visionary. In this episode, we dive deep into discovering your soul's true calling. We talk about Kute’s powerful journey leaving his father's shadow, navigating the unknown with courage, and how real transformation is about shedding old patterns to reveal your authentic self.
Kute shares how surrendering to life's guidance opens doors you never expected, leading not only to personal success, but deep fulfillment. If you want some deep wisdom on how to “find your purpose”, this episode is rich with inspiration.
In this episode, we dig into:
– Kute Blackson’s inspiring journey as a spiritual visionary, speaker, and author.
– His story of upbringing in Ghana, Japan, and London, and his exposure to miracle work and spirituality from a young age.
– Kute’s early life speaking in his father’s churches and being named as his father’s successor at age 14.
– The internal struggle and courage it took for Kute to break away from his father’s path to follow his own calling.
– Key reflections on a man’s journey with his father and the pivotal coming-of-age moment of “facing the father.”
– Deep discussion on the concept of surrender – what it truly means and its role in personal evolution.
– Debunking common misconceptions about surrender as weakness or passivity.
– The spiritual principles of letting go, un-learning, and uncovering our true essence.
– The dance between intention, action, and surrender – how to tune into your soul’s calling without being overly attached to outcomes.
– The analogy of surrender in life to lovemaking and surfing, highlighting the balance between action and allowing.
– Practical insights on following intuition, even when the path is unclear.
– Kute’s green card “miracle” story and the power of trusting life’s guidance.
– The importance of embracing the “void” or unknown as a necessary space for growth and transformation.
– Kute’s journey to the US and the challenges of building a purpose-driven life from scratch.
– His first attempts at launching a talk show in Hollywood, the attachment to a specific vision, and obedience to deeper spiritual guidance.
– Kute’s transformative pilgrimage on the Camino de Santiago and time in India, leading to new breakthroughs.
– The evolution of his work: from coaching one-on-one to leading international retreats and writing bestselling books.
– The vital distinction between laziness and true surrender – aligning with deep personal commitment over fleeting moods.
– The process and importance of generational healing, specifically the powerful healing and reconciliation with his father.
– How healing with his father impacted his own son and future lineage (“the generational wealth of consciousness”).
– The value of men’s groups and real stories in fostering true change and support.
– How Kute embodies and teaches deep listening, surrender, and walking the unknown path.Links from this episode:
Kute Blackson’s Website
Kute’s Book: You Are The One
Kute’s Book: The Magic of Surrender
Soul Talk with Kute Blackson (Podcast)
8 Levels of Gratitude (Free Online Course)Evolving Man’s Conscious Relationship Council
The Freedom From Addiction Circle
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Wed, 27 Aug 2025 - 105 - #103 - From Near Death To New Life: Harnessing Masculine Energy And Healing Addiction with Devin Fredericksen
Devin Frederickson is a men’s coach, permaculturalist, and close friend of mine from Maui, Hawaii. He joins me on the show to share the most impactful stories, tools, and insights he has gained throughout his life thus far. We cover a wide breadth of subjects on this show, from Devin’s near-death experience to healing addiction, along with a peek at fatherhood as Devin prepares for his first child.
Here’s what you’ll discover in this conversation:
A Near-Death Experience That Changed Everything - Devin shares his vivid story of a near-fatal accidental MDMA overdose in his early 20s. This was his spiritual wake-up call. Hear how this out-of-body journey made him rethink his entire approach to life, health, and responsibility—and why gratitude is now at the core of his daily practice.
The Lifelong Power of Men’s Mentorship - Both Devin and I open up about the pivotal mentors in our lives—the wise men who showed up without judgment and offered guidance when we needed it most. Devin describes how chance encounters with older men in the permaculture and yoga worlds guided him through turbulent years, while I reflect on the legacy of my own 12 step sponsor.
Healing Porn Addiction & Reclaiming Sexual Energy We get real about a topic that often stays hidden: porn addiction. Devin bravely recounts his early exposure to porn, how it shaped his relationships, and the slow creep into compulsive behaviors - and he outlines the steps to recovery and deeper self-connection. He also introduces the “Multi-Orgasmic Man” practice and explains how mastering your sexual energy can transform every area of your life.
Men’s Work: From Sovereignty to Kingship Devin breaks down his journey with men’s groups - starting with Sacred Sons, moving through years of cross-generational mentorship, and finally building his own programs: Sovereign and Shameless and now Becoming the King. If you’ve ever wondered how to truly “come home to yourself,” harness your power, and step into conscious leadership as a man, this episode is for you.
A Peek Into Conscious Fatherhood - On the personal front Devin shares the anticipation (and vulnerability) of expecting his first child. He talks about the surrender, support, and trust needed as he and his wife move through pregnancy - plus how fatherhood is already changing him before it’s even begun.
We also touch on:
The role of permaculture & nature as spiritual teachers Somatic healing and how real breakthroughs happen in-person The importance (and challenge) of honest friendship and community as menLinks from this episode:
Devin’s Instagram - @devinfredericksenMen’s Groups - Arka Brotherhood
The Freedom From Addiction Circle
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Wed, 23 Jul 2025 - 104 - #102 - Big Asian Energy: Authentic Leadership That Bridges East And West - with John Wang
John Wang is the author of the recently released Big Asian Energy, the host of the Big Asian Energy show, and a coach and speaker helping Asian professionals break through barriers. He’s worked with clients at Google, Apple, Amazon, and Goldman Sachs, blending cultural insight and science-backed strategies to build confidence and visibility. John’s content on assertiveness and imposter syndrome has reached over 25 million views.
Here are the major topics we dig into in this episode:
🔥 Authentic Leadership & Dropping the Mask
We get real about what true leadership looks like — and, just as importantly, what it doesn’t. John shares the pitfalls of performative leadership, how people can sense inauthenticity, and the power of leading from mission rather than ego.❤️ Humility vs. Toxic Humility
We dive deep into the concept of humility, especially within the context of cultural conditioning. John distinguishes between embracing genuine humility and falling into a pattern of self-erasure — something he experienced firsthand growing up as a person of Asian descent in the Western world.🌏 The Inner East Meets the Inner West
For all the listeners who’ve ever felt like they straddle two worlds — this conversation is for you. John opens up about reconciling his “internal East and West,” the struggle of trying to fit into multiple cultures, and the beauty (and challenge) of true integration.🧠 Healing the Wound Behind the Mask
We explore how so many of us walk through life with invisible wounds, wearing masks to protect ourselves. John gets candid about his own journey — from performance and burnout to inner work, radical honesty, and building the courage to be seen.📚 The Birth of Big Asian Energy
We chat about the highs and lows of writing a book that has no comparison. From the immense pressure to represent so many diverse voices, to hiring research assistants to go deeper than just storytelling, John’s creative process offers a behind-the-scenes look into writing an authentic, paradigm-shifting book.Links from this episode:
🌍 Website: https://www.bigasianenergy.com
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/johnwangofficial/
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@johnwangbae
📖 Big Asian Energy Book: https://a.co/d/c0T1c8t
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Wed, 11 Jun 2025 - 103 - #101 - King's Corner: Spiritual Wisdom For Kings In Training - with Jeddy Azuma
Jeddy Azuma is the founder of the Rising Man movement where he is focussed on initiating a generation of men. He joins me on the show for a second time to share his hard-earned wisdom from the last few years.
Key Topics We Dive Into:
🔥 Fatherhood & Marriage:
Hear how parenthood has transformed Jeddy’s perspective on himself, his parents, and what it means to grow as a man. He opens up about learning through failure, letting go of old patterns, and striving to be “the man I say I am.”🦁 Shedding the Unnecessary:
Instead of always adding to our toolkit, what if growth is about letting go? Jeddy and I talk about emptying ourselves of expectations, agendas, and judgments picked up over time—especially as we step deeper into service, partnership, and leadership.🌲 Nature, Initiation & Rites of Passage:
Jeddy unpacks the importance of nature connection and solo wilderness fasting—not just as a powerful reset, but as a way of life. Initiation experiences like these can awaken our core selves and foster the deep transformation so many of us are craving.🤝 Brotherhood & Community:
Why are men’s circles and intergenerational wisdom so vital today? Jeddy reflects on sitting with elders, the lessons of humility, and the magic that happens in real community—not only in learning, but in being seen and held by other men.✊ Serving a Mission, Not an Ego:
We explore how to move from the “me-centric” excitement of finding purpose to true service—letting go of the need for outside validation and focusing on tending your own “kingdom” before trying to change the world.Thinking of joining a men’s group or seeking a deeper initiation?
Jeddy outlines the Rising Man’s journey: from integrating with a community, to initiation weekends and wilderness fasting, to finding your Fire Circle team for ongoing brotherhood.Final Thoughts:
Both of us agree: the world doesn’t need you to save it overnight. Start by cleaning your own side of the street, being present with your family, and building community right where you are.Links:
Rising man on IGSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Tue, 20 May 2025 - 102 - #100 - The Code Of The Conscious Warrior - with Phil T. Mistlberger
Phil T. Mistlberger is an author, transpersonal therapist, transformational facilitator, and the founder of Arka Brotherhood. Phil has been a guest on the show a few times before when Arka was known as The Samurai Brotherhood.
On this occasion Phil joins me to celebrate the 100th episode by sharing the deeper meaning behind his 14-Point Code Of The Conscious Warrior (which is listed at the bottom of the show notes). This was an insightful and impactful conversation that speaks to many of the issues men are struggling with today.
Here are some of the topics we cover on this episode:
14-point Code of the Conscious Warrior. Code 1 - The importance of making your word good and maintaining integrity. The challenge of maintaining honesty and the benefits it brings to personal transformation. Code 2 - "Know Thyself," and its crucial role in personal growth. The power of the examined life and self-awareness in men's work. Men’s tendency to avoid looking inward and focus excessively on the external world. The role of men's groups in providing a space for reflection and growth. Code 8 - Understanding the balance between passion and compassion in life. Code 4 - The journey of finding the Holy Grail: a man's true calling and higher purpose. The impact of modern technology on attention spans. Code 6 - The concept of gathering courage and consistently moving forward in life. The potential pitfalls of becoming isolated as a leader. Exploring the need for silence, space, and the gap between thoughts. Code 7 - How holding space for others is a valuable practice. The nature of leadership in Arka. Men's work as a method for overcoming isolation and cultivating support. Code 14 - The importance of family connections. Personal stories from Phil’s journey. Why modern men might want to join Arka Pain and suffering as catalysts for change and growth. Appreciation and gratitude for the community built around Arka and the rising tide of men's work.The Denver Warrior Weekend with Phil T. Mistlberger and Ben Goresky
The 14-Point Code of the Conscious Warrior
- Make your word good Know thyself Train your body Find the holy grail, your true calling Do not fight down Gather courage and move forward Hold space Be passionate and compassionate Learn, study, train Serve a noble cause greater than yourself Penetrate life with your solar energy Be in integrity Stay in relationship Be a responsible son, parent, grandparent, brother, uncle, husband, boyfriend, grandson, cousin, brother-in-law
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Wed, 19 Feb 2025 - 101 - #99 - Iboga: Revealing The Teacher Within - with Levi Barker
Levi is a Bwiti healer that helps people heal with some of life's most difficult problems. People come from all over the world to Iboga Wellness Center in Costa Rica to deal with problems like depression, anxiety, PTSD, OCD, substance and non-substance addictions in a psycho-spiritual context.
Iboga is a small shrub from West central Africa in the countries of Gabon, Cameroon and the Congo. Iboga has been used for centuries by indigenous people and more recently has made its way to the Western world. On this episode, we discuss how healing and transformation can occur with the use of Iboga.
In this episode, we cover:
Levi’s work with Iboga at the Iboga Wellness Center in Costa Rica. Examining the misconceptions about Iboga, with a focus on its healing properties. The “mind cleanse” process that Iboga facilitates. Explanation of how Iboga aids in overcoming trauma and emotional release. Distinction between Iboga and Ibogaine, particularly in addiction treatment. The historical and cultural origins of Iboga from Gabon, Africa. Levi’s personal journey with Iboga, using it to overcome opiate addiction. The spiritual and personal growth aspects of Iboga, contrasting it with its use for physical detox. How tradition and rituals around Iboga have shaped its modern application. Exploration of the psycho-spiritual retreat experience at the Iboga Wellness Center. Discussion on the process and effects of the Iboga mind cleanse and its impact on mental clarity. The emotional and chemical resets (dopamine, serotonin) that Iboga can initiate. Levi’s observations of physical changes in people post-treatment, especially in expressions and facial structure. The significance of integration after an Iboga experience and available support systems. Levi’s description of the spiritual energies of Iboga as a teaching tool that emphasizes self-teaching. Future trends and potential pharmaceutical developments emerging from iboga's properties. Closing thoughts on the responsibility of listening to one's inner call when considering Iboga treatment.Levi's passion is to spread healing and the gift of iboga to whomever is called. Levi wants to give back for the many gifts he has received through iboga.
One key aspect of this iboga work is the Bwiti tradition. Bwiti is the name for someone who works with iboga to heal. The Bwiti tradition focuses on universal truths of our life to guide us to living a full happy life. The Bwiti tradition is a set of tools we can draw on to guide us in life to making the right decisions for ourselves, self love, managing the mind and to give thanks for the most precious gift, our life.
Links from this episode:
Iboga Wellness - Costa Rica
Ben’s “Medicine Retreats” mailing listSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Wed, 05 Feb 2025 - 100 - #98 - Iron John And The Foundations Of Mythopoetic Masculinity - with Ian MacKenzie
Ian MacKenzie is a mythosomatic guide & filmmaker, as well as the founder ofThe Mythic Masculine, a platform dedicated to realigning masculinity with thriving life. For over 15 years, he’s been tracking the global emergence of imaginal culture. From the desert of Burning Man to the heart of Occupy Wall St, he has sought and amplified the voices of visionaries, artists and activists who have been working toward planetary system change. He is the co-director ofThe Village of Lovers as well as Lost Nation Road, Amplify Her, and Sacred Economics.
On this episode, we cover:
Mythopoetic Men's Work: Exploring myth, men's groups, and men's initiation work. The Story of Ian’s Grandfather: How his death opened the door to men's work for Ian. The Challenge of Modern Manhood: Exploring how men become men in a culture with no clear passage into manhood. The Story of Iron John: Key themes and how it relates to modern men. The Hero vs. the King Archetype: Differences and what they signify for personal growth. Ian’s Journey Into Mythopoetic Work: From the feminine gateway to exploring the deep masculine. The Lost Culture of Initiation: The impact of the absence of initiation rites in modern society. Men's Longing for Depth: The hunger for cultural depth and initiation in men’s lives. The Importance of the Wound: How a wound or adversity plays a crucial role in men's initiation. Archetypes Explained: The significance of the wild man, the golden boy, and other archetypes. The Rediscovery of Passion: How modern men can reconnect with their passion and primal energy. The Evolution of the Mythopoetic Men's Movement: A look back at its origins and its journey. The Role of Story and Myth: Utilizing story and myth to transmit knowledge and wisdom. Men's Circles: The transformative power of being seen and supported by other men. Eros and Appreciative Consciousness: Cultivating beauty and life energy in oneself. Rediscovering the Inner Well: Accessing the inner source of life energy to prevent external dependency. The Red, White, and Black Armor: Understanding the stages of masculine development. The Necessity of Men's Support: How men can provide what women and the world sometimes cannot. Emotional Coaching and Accountability: The unique way men can inspire and challenge each other. The Deep Masculine: Defining and understanding the essence of the deep masculine.Links:
The Mythic Masculine Ian’s Instagram Facebook Ian’s Films And Essays The Arka Brotherhood men’s community
The Conscious Relationship Council, with Ben GoreskySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Wed, 22 Jan 2025 - 99 - #97 - Facing Your Mortality: The Loss Of A Father, and 28 Days In The Darkness - with Traver Boehm
Traver Boehm is the leader of the Man Uncivilized Movement, the author of multiple books, and a huge advocate for men’s work. Traver leads by example, and in this episode, he joins me on the show for a second appearance to share the powerful story of his father’s passing. He shares the insights and lessons we can all take from his experience.
He also shares his story of spending 28 days in a “darkness retreat” where he saw no light for 28 days. The lessons of this powerful psychedelic experience shine through in striking detail as he takes us through what it was like to be in total darkness for a month.
In this conversation, we discuss:
The recent death of Traver’s father, reflecting on father wounds, with a powerful story of healing in those last days. The role of men’s work and men’s groups in healing the father wound. Dark Room: Traver’s experience living in a room by himself in complete darkness for 28 days. The insights this gave him on death, freedom, and living fearlessly, hallucinations, grief processing, and lessons about time perception. Death and Freedom: How the acceptance of our mortality can influence our approach to life and goals. Traver’s Upcoming book, “28 Days in Darkness,” releasing in February.Links from this episode:
The Arka Brotherhood men’s work community
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Wed, 11 Dec 2024 - 98 - #96 - Breath of Life: Breathwork For Addiction Recovery with Nick Terry
Nick TNT Terry is a certified life coach, breathwork practitioner, intervention consultant, and an author. He is the co-founder of Honu House Hawaii, a residential rehab facility in Kailua-Kona, Hawaii, and the owner of Breath of Life Recovery, a wellness consulting practice offering breathwork, cold water therapy and wellness modalities.
Since getting sober in 2014, Nick has worked for more than eight years in the field of addiction and mental health treatment. Nick shares how he transformed from wayward addict to breathwork and recovery life coach, and offers his holistic, much-needed perspective on how others can do the same.
Here’s what we get into:
- Nick’s childhood in a tumultuous environment, with early access to alcohol and drugs.
- As Gabor Mate says, the roots of addiction are disconnection.
- Nick’s habit of dishonesty and criminal behavior as coping mechanisms.
- Pivotal moments in his recovery journey that led him to seek long-term sober living.
- Transformative experiences with breathwork as a healing tool for trauma and disconnection.
- For addicts in recovery: The importance of being present in the moment, even if it’s uncomfortable.
- Nick describes how breathwork has helped him cultivate a sense of presence and connection that long eluded him.
Links:
Buy the book - Breath of life: Finding Long-Term Recovery with Breathwork and Stepwork
Ben’s Freedom From Addiction Circle
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Fri, 15 Nov 2024 - 97 - #95 - Integrity and Leadership with The Kings Of Hearts: Andy Nguyen and Yenukwa Kombian
Andy Nguyen and Yenukwa Kombian are the co-founders of Kings of Hearts, an organization committed to cultivating heart-based leaders. With 8 years of experience, they specialize in men’s leadership training and facilitate transformative men’s groups and retreats. Their work is rooted in the leadership values of awareness, embodiment, and integrity, empowering men to lead with authenticity, emotional intelligence, and a deeper connection to themselves and others.
On this episode, we cover:
Men’s Isolation: a huge issue men are facing today. A peek into what we do in our men’s groups and why it is so impactful. The three pillars of men’s leadership training. How Andy and Yenukwa found themselves doing “men’s work”. How Andy emerged from being a participant into a leader. Men’s groups: The power of being seen with all one’s flaws and shadows, and being supported The challenges of offering authentic feedback to other men The “Miracle Zone” of personal growth. Osho’s dynamic meditation, the controversy around him, and useful practices he taught Embodying the Conscious King Archetype How to lead without making it about you The importance of accountability in leadership. Emotional self-awareness and the importance of community. The Work: Men’s group in prison, and how we are not all that different from those men. Men’s big emotions: Need a container. The importance of men’s groups that go inward. What Andy and Yenukwa recommend for men who are just starting out in this kind of work.Links from this episode:
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Wed, 16 Oct 2024 - 96 - #94 - The Masculine Blueprint with GS Youngblood
GS Youngblood is the author of “The Masculine in Relationship” which offers a model for conscious masculinity. With The Masculine Blueprint, GS teaches men to become grounded in their own power while also staying in relationship with their feminine partner.
GS teaches that many relationship problems are actually rooted in a lack of “Relational Masculinity” which is a combination of groundedness, leadership, and relational skills. He joins me on the show to discuss these topics.
On this episode, we talk about:
Complacency in Relationships: Men’s complacency in relationships to avoid becoming complacent. The importance of being in “directive energy”. Leadership in Relationships: Challenges in nurturing leadership roles. Making decisions without always feeling compelled to do so. The importance of attunement to your partner when making decisions. Creating Emotional Safety for your partner The importance of self-examination and assessment - humility. Receiving feedback from partners. Structure in Relationships Internal and External Structure Setting boundaries. Conflict resolution rules. Taking emotional leadership. The need for intentional work on emotional intelligence in men. Operating Styles:Differences between doer/thinker and feeler modes. Switching to a feeler mode for nourishing relationships. Embodiment and meditation tips from GS.Focusing on physical sensations versus stopping thoughts during meditation. Breath Work and Movement recommendations from GS and Ben: Three Elements of The Masculine Blueprint: Respond vs. React. Provide Structure. Create Safety. The results: Groundedness, clarity, boundaries, emotional and physical safety in relationships.Links from this episode:
GS Youngblood’s book: "The Masculine in Relationship."
GS’s course: "The Art of Relational Masculinity."
GS Youngblood’s Live Workshops
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Wed, 02 Oct 2024 - 95 - #93 - EMF Radiation: New Discoveries On the Effects of WiFi and Cell Phone Radiation - with Dr. Anthony Balduzzi
Dr. Anthony Balduzzi is a distinguished researcher and three time guest on the podcast. Recently he has been digging into the biological effects of the electromagnetic spectrum, and finding out how modern electromagnetic fields can damage living tissue. What he has uncovered will make even the most skeptical listeners think differently.
In this episode, Balduzzi describes the harmful effects of EMFs and shares practical ways we can all reduce our exposure.
Here’s what we cover on this episode:
An overview of the electromagnetic spectrum, and where cell phones and wifi fit in. EMF sensitivities and allergies. How electricity works in our bodies, and how that may interact with other electric fields The mechanism by which practices like earthing can have significant health benefits. How our bodies use electric fields to regulate, among other things, the distribution of minerals Relationship between electric frequencies and proper functioning of mitochondrial DNA Effect of EMF on bee biology and behavior Comparing non-ionized and ionized radiation How non-ionizing radiation can damage DNA. History of lobbying affecting national telecom tower installation laws Difference between 5G, and the ‘5G’ on new wifi routers Pulses of radiation are more harmful to our bodies than continuous fields Effects of proximity to frequency emitters such as phones and wifi Effects of bluetooth earphones Starlink radiation Benefits of earthing, contacting ground with bare skin The different options for blocking or reducing EMF exposure in your home.
Links from this episode:Dr. Balduzzi’s Website: Fit Father Project
Book Highlight: "The Invisible Rainbow" by Arthur Furstenberg explores the historical correlation between major pandemics and the rollout of EMF technology. A must-read for those curious about the hidden layers of our modern environment.
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Wed, 17 Jul 2024 - 94 - #92 - The Dance Of Partnership - Relationship Wisdom with Alison Armstrong
Alison Armstrong has been teaching and speaking publicly about men and relationships for 3 decades. She is a thoughtful and inquisitive individual whose curiosity led her to a profound revelation about human behavior and relationships. Through her deep contemplation and examination of male development, she realized that men often react independently of women's influences, shaped instead by their developmental stages.
Her insights shed light on the misconceptions women might have, believing that a man's dedication to his career or personal goals could signify a lack of love. Alison's keen realization emphasizes that men and women's actions and priorities are influenced by different developmental needs, rather than personal affection or commitment. Her work aims to foster better understanding and communication between genders.
In this episode, Alison and I explore the complexities of conflict resolution, emphasizing the importance of curiosity over false conclusions. We discuss the evolution of the men's movement, strategies for handling relationships, and the power dynamics between genders. Alison shares her own transformative experience of challenging negative perceptions of men and highlights the critical role of empathy and understanding in nurturing strong, healthy relationships.
On this episode, we discuss:
How men and women deal differently with emotions.- How women can get what they need while empowering men. How she became a champion for men, and a helper in relationships between men and women. Frog farming vs. discovering princes. Helping women understand stages of men’s development. How she learned to stop diminishing men, and how that changed her relationships. Ways that women justify disempowering men. Moving ‘from furious to curious’. Learning to improve communication. Dropping over-fixation on boundaries and leaning in with curiosity. Avoiding labelling each other. Being ‘pro-choice orgasm’ Tips on really listening to each other, and common traps of not listening. The importance of making friends outside your relationship. How her work has changed over the years. Her thoughts on different waves of feminism.Links from this episode:
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Wed, 26 Jun 2024 - 93 - #91 - Indigenous Wisdom on Parenting, Plant Medicines, and Personal Growth - with Vivien Vilela
In today's episode, we’re diving deep into the world of sacred plant medicines, indigenous wisdom, and conscious parenting with the extraordinary Vivien Vilela. Join us as we explore the delicate art of harvesting peyote, the spiritual importance of maintaining a respectful relationship with the earth, and the dangers of commodifying sacred plants. Vivien shares her journey from the party scene to a profound spiritual awakening. We discuss the significance of ceremony and proper guidance when working with plant medicines, and we specifically discuss Peyote.
We also discuss the visionary Aniwa Gathering, a transformative event founded by Vivien, which brings together indigenous leaders from around the world to share sacred ceremonies and wisdom without the use of entheogenic medicines. Learn about the critical need for sustainable practices, the impact of screen addiction on children's development, and how to raise children naturally in a city environment.
Ben and Vivien also reflect on their personal experiences, the importance of spiritual initiations, and the lifelong journey of personal growth and healing. Whether you're a parent, a seeker of spiritual wisdom, or someone curious about indigenous practices, this episode offers valuable insights into living a conscious, connected life. Tune in for an enlightening conversation that promises to leave you inspired and informed.
On this episode, we discuss:
Harvesting and use of Peyote properly Destruction and Disruption of Peyote Plants Efforts to educate on responsible harvesting Indigenous Cultural Practices Emphasis on reciprocity and respectful relationships with the earth Rituals such as fasting, offerings, and spiritual connection Commodification and Misappropriation Concerns over sacred plant medicines being commodified Importance of traditional initiations and proper practices The dangers of recreational use without proper guidance Adherence to indigenous practitioner wishes Ceremony and Reciprocity Knowledgeable Practitioners and Offerings Importance of sitting in ceremony with experienced practitioners Physical and spiritual offerings Reciprocity and its significance Aniwa Gathering Focus on spiritual connection without entheogenic medicines Use of natural herbs like cacao, tobacco, and sage Raising funds for indigenous projects through the Huya Aniwa foundation Peyote’s Spiritual Significance Description of peyote and its roots in Mexico and Texas Its role in connecting individuals to their true selves and ancestral memory Importance of using peyote in the right ceremonial context Indigenous wisdom on parenting Lack of initiation rituals in western societies Approaches to avoid screen time and societal pressures Emphasis on discipline with love and fostering unconditional love and respect Traditional midwifery and keeping children close Nurturing imagination and avoiding artificial toys Faster brain development in indigenous children in nature Challenges in City Environments Pushback from society and finding natural stimuli The impact of screens on children’s emotional balance and ability to be present Concerns about excessive screen time Conscious living as parents Personal Growth and Spiritual Awakening Vivien’s Story Journey from party scene and drug use to spiritual awakening Spiritual session leading to significant growthBen’s Freedom From Addiction Circle
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Wed, 05 Jun 2024 - 92 - #90 - An End To Arguing: Valuable Lessons For Relationships - with Charlie Bloom
Charlie Bloom and his wife Linda have been writing and teaching about relationships for decades, and he joins me on the heels of the release of their recent book “An End To Arguing: 101 Valuable Lessons For All Relationships”
We discuss these points and more:
-Differences are unavoidable; conflict is not.
-Your partner thinks differently than you.
-Ways to free yourselves from impasses.
-It’s often better to just drop a fight until your heads are cooler.
-Deepening a relationship beats winning an argument.
-Speak according to the receptivity of your partner.
-Learn to see the fears of yourself and your partner.
-Learn to share responsibility for problems with your partner.
-Coming out of victim scripts into co-creation.
-Different relationships have different kinds of conflict.
-Are there couples who never fight?
-Learning how to be in conflict.
-‘Sudden’ endings to relationships are often years in the making.
-Translating relational teachings into action.
-Losing the hope that you’ll never get triggered
-The biases of friends supporting us in relationships.
Links:
Charlie and Linda Bloom’s website
The Creating Conscious Love Course, now called The Path To Conscious Love
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Wed, 22 May 2024 - 91 - #89 - Reclaiming Your Focus and Finding Peaceful Productivity - with Jordan Gray
Jordan Gray is a relationship coach who has written hundreds of articles that have been read by over 250 million people worldwide. He has worked with tens of thousands of clients via his programs, groups, and 1-on-1 coaching.
He joins me on this episode to talk about how to get the most out of life as the challenges land on our doorstep.
Moving from bachelor to committed relationship Marriage has actually been great Dating takes a lot of energy! Finding someone who’s also a giver Each relationship is different, so relationship advice can’t be universal Look for a counterpoint to where you and your partner tend to go too far, for example with too much or too little structure. Fears of going into marriage: "what if things get worse and worse and I’m stuck?" The practice of addressing troubles in the relationship rather than just enduring them. Phases of life: dating and deeper relationships. Thresholds of deepening into a relationship. Preparing for parenthood. The benefits of becoming a generalist, of getting off the computer and chopping wood. City life vs. country life Giving up financial opportunities for the sake of heart and happiness. Relationship with money: between the poles of demonizing it and making it one’s god The importance of choosing friends who support your objectives. Solo therapy compared to group therapy. In parenting, offering children both safety and adventurous risk. How it can help children to see their parents work responsibly. How being a parent can limit available work time, but make it more potent. Screen addiction and parenthood. Countering screen addiction with finding a deeper purpose.
We discuss:Links:
Productivity course
The Level-Up Your Relationships WorkshopSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Wed, 08 May 2024 - 90 - #88 - The Science Of Healing With Psychedelics - with Manesh Girn
Dr. Manesh Girn is a postdoctoral neuroscientist and popular science content creator specializing in the neuroscience of psychedelic drugs. He currently works at the University of California, San Francisco, alongside psychedelic research pioneer Dr. Robin Carhart-Harris, where he conducts research on the neural mechanisms underlying the psychedelic experience and psychedelic-assisted psychotherapy.
In addition to his research, Manesh runs a popular digital platform on Instagram and YouTube called "The Psychedelic Scientist”, where he shares the latest findings in psychedelic science in a digestible and easy to understand way.
In this episode, we discuss:
Manesh's journey from head to heart, from bypassing emotions to inhabiting them. Emotion centred, body-focused therapy (beating pillows with weapons.) How Manesh got his start in psychedelic research. How an early psychedelic experience opened Manesh up to different takes on reality. Finding the support to go beyond intellect. The various healing/transformational modalities of: breathwork men’s groups psychedelics conscious relationship training How different psychedelics affect our brains differently. Neuroplasticity: how psychedelics can help change thought patterns. Psychedelics for those with with trauma and depression. The importance of support in psychedelic journeys Setting down a belief that life is intrinsically unsafe. Learning to recognize people and situations that are safe. Integrating psychedelic experiences for lasting change. The importance of intention before and after a psychedelic journey. Psychedelics as an aid to innovation. Psychedelics for people in positions of power.Manesh’s Instagram
Arka Brotherhood Men’s CommunitySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Wed, 24 Apr 2024 - 89 - #87 - Pandemic Hysteria And Mass Psychosis (Part 2) - with Mark Groves
Mark Groves, founder of Create The Love is a relationship expert, but he also believes in freedom of speech and thought, and is an advocate of personal sovereignty. During the recent pandemic, he began sharing what he was seeing in the people and institutions around him. His sharing on @itsmarkgroves and The Mark Groves Podcast was controversial, because any dissenting opinion at that time was censored and considered to be “unsafe”.
I personally appreciated the discourse that Mark was bringing, as I lacked the courage to be as bold as he was, despite agreeing with many of his questions. On this episode of the podcast, I discuss the pandemic, the lockdowns, and the hysteria that took over our society at that time.In this episode, we dive into:
The dangers of framing everything as a safety issue. Dehumanizing people during the pandemic. Data-based arguments about COVID-19 vaccines. Mass formation psychosis. Why PCR tests shouldn’t be used for diagnostic purposes. Unconsciously believing that healthy people are biological threats. The wide scope of misinformation spread throughout the pandemic. The anxiety, fear, and hysteria spearheading pandemic behavior. Family conflicts and getting “canceled” over COVID-19 dissent. COVID-19 and masks as an ideology vs evidence-based. Natural immunity is at least equal to vaccinated immunity. The exploitation of psychology and weaponization of belonging. Normalizing controlling people’s bodily autonomy. Censoring people, governments spreading misinformation, and the lack of critical thinking during the pandemic. Language is the first step to dehumanizing people in an out-group. Violating informed consent when getting vaccinated. How do we prevent divisiveness in the future? Healing begins with the acceptance of reality (that the unvaccinated were marginalized and demonized while being left out of society and losing their jobs, while the vaccine that was promised to end the pandemic didn’t, andOmicron did) Accountability without annihilation. Learning to speak your truth despite the inconvenience. Fighting for the freedom to disagree.Links from this Episode
Part 1 of This Episode Mark’s Website Mark’s Instagram Masks Immunity Mass Formation PsychosisSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Wed, 06 Dec 2023 - 88 - #86 - Fatherhood: An Oceanside Chat (Part 1) - with Mark Groves
Mark Groves is the founder of Create The Love, and host of the Mark Groves Podcast. Mark is on a mission to bridge the academic and the human, inviting people to explore the good, the bad, the downright ugly, and the beautiful sides of connection. His work empowers people to step into their power, transform the way they relate to themselves and others, and create authentic change in their lives.
Mark and I sit down on the coast of Tofino, Canada for a special two-part episode.In part 1, we talk about fatherhood and parenthood.
In this episode, we discuss:
Fatherhood as a deeper window to look at where there is still work to be done on oneself. After having a child, what is most important? Old wounds and patterns that tend to arise during parenthood. How intimacy dynamics tend to shift after having a child. The reasons why an uncomfortable number of couples divorce after the first year of a child’s life. Nurturing your feminine energy as a man. Accessing discipline and discernment as a father. Upholding the ethical obligation to be successful. Being purpose-driven as a man. The paradox of choice. The downsides to technology and access to mass communication. Consciously choosing every aspect of your life. Embracing a cultural initiation into manhood. What is toxic masculinity and why does it exist? Valuing mother and father roles in the family. Inflated egos and immaturity. What comes after ego dissolution? The benefits of taking time off work to support your new family. How fathers can support their own health after having a kid. The importance of talking to other men after having a child. The gift of being a parent and the gifts you receive from your child. And a question for Mark: Now that you have a kid, is it worth it? Would you recommend it?Links from this Episode:
Part 2 of This Episode (on C0.vid Hysteria) will come out in 2 weeks and links will be updated at that time. Mark’s Website Mark’s Instagram Mark’s Podcast Mark on YouTube Conscious Relationship Council - a live 12-week relationship training for men Arka Brotherhood - men's work.Previous episodes with Mark:
Evolving Man Podcast - Holding Space with Mark Groves Evolving Man Podcast - To Be A Man with Mark GrovesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Wed, 22 Nov 2023 - 87 - #85 - Ayahuasca Assisted Addiction Recovery - with Todd Youngs
Todd Youngs has been in continuous recovery from severe addiction and alcoholism since 2009. His personal path to recovery involved a combination of 12 step work, and his work with Ayahuasca. Todd now works intensively with others to help them achieve a life of satisfying and meaningful sobriety. His approach is eclectic and holistic drawing on the 12 Steps, CBT, MEI, and Mindfulness practice in order to deeply address the bio/psycho/social/spiritual aspects of addictive disorders.
Todd has worked extensively with Ayahuasca for over 14 years within a variety of communal and personalized settings. He is focussed on building bridges between the older treatment paradigm and newly emerging modalities that utilize Ayahuasca. He is the co-founder of Natura Care Programs.
Todd is often heard fondly referring to his own personal path of recovery as AAA+, or “Ayahuasca Assisted Alcoholics Anonymous: A Roadside Service for broken-down, drug-addicted hippies”.
In this episode we dive into:
How humans explore drugs to satisfy creative and spiritual yearnings. The dark and light sides of psychedelics. Todd’s wild addiction recovery story. Using pharmaceuticals to manage side effects of drug and alcohol use. Connecting to something bigger than yourself through ayahuasca. Todd’s journey of brewing his own ayahuasca in his mother’s basement. How ayahuasca helped Todd through 12-step recovery. The necessity of connection and accountability during recovery. Family members seeing a change in Todd & Ben after ayahuasca journeys. Healthy ways to incorporate the use of an altered state to transform your life. Therapeutic opportunities when taking psychedelics. Psychedelics vs therapy. Are psychedelics the right path for you? Breaking down what the 12-week Natura Care Program looks like and why the 12 week model is advantageous. True recovery: Healing the root causes of addiction. Finding centeredness, calmness, joyfulness. Can you actually trust plant medicines? Ultra-conservatism vs. open-mindedness in recovery circles. Psychedelics in Recovery.Links from this episode
Natura Care Programs Psychedelics in Recovery Todd’s Website Ben’s Freedom from Addiction Circle Evolving Man Brotherhood Free-Trial on CircleSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Wed, 08 Nov 2023 - 86 - #84 - The Roots of Addiction And How To Recover - with Dr. Scott Lyons
Dr. Scott Lyons is the author of the book “Addicted to Drama: Healing Dependency on Crisis and Chaos in Yourself and Others”. He joins me for a discussion about all addictions - from alcohol to sex to food, and of course drama - and how they are formed. We also talk about how to heal from addiction by addressing the root.
Scott also runs a Somatic Therapy school called The Embody Labwhich offers fantastic training for coaches and healers.
The origins of addiction and how to define it (Disease or no disease?) Medical model vs. Humanistic model view of addiction. The opposite of addiction is connection to self and others. Finding comfort in filling voids and dissociation. The deadliness of loneliness. Why do we experience traumas differently? The defence mechanism of denial. The link between addiction and a fear of intimacy. What addicted to drama looks like? Attachment to unnecessary turmoil and nervous system activation. Making sense vs. making sensation. How are you unconsciously creating childhood patterns in your adult life? Exaggerated responses vs. an inner sense of normalcy. Assessing currencies of love from childhood. The separation of process addictions and the necessities of being human. Disrupting your inner peace with the “revving reflex”. What does it look like to recover from addiction and heal? Building tolerance for ease and connection. Creating a narrative around withdrawal symptoms. Trauma lives in your nervous system and is a felt experience. MDMA therapy and trauma. Is it possible to escape drama in the capitalist world we live in? How do you support someone who is addicted to drama? Mirror neuron responses. Taking responsibility for the role you play in relationships.
In this episode we dive into:Links:
Book - Addicted to Drama by Dr. Scott Lyons Scott's Somatic Training School - The Embody Lab Scott’s Website Scott’s Instagram Scott’s Facebook Scott’s YouTube The Freedom From Addiction CircleSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Wed, 13 Sep 2023 - 85 - #83 - Parenthood, Relationship Struggles and Keeping the Spark Alive - with Sheleana Aiyana
Sheleana Aiyana is an author, a poet, my wife and the mother of our child. She is author of the Canadian bestseller “Becoming The One” and the forthcoming journal under the same name, and the founder of Rising Woman where she brings tools for healing and transformation to millions of women.
She joins me on this episode for a candid conversation about our recent parenthood journey, the struggles we have had, and how we believe parents could be better supported (by their community, and themselves) to be the best parents they can be.
In this episode we dive into:
Why a shocking number of couples break up within the first year of having a child. The challenges that emerge once you become parents. The transformation of a relationship after the arrival of a child. Addressing the common phrase, "Being a parent is the hardest thing in the world." 50/50 parenting and the shifting roles and responsibilities as co-parents. The normalcy of changes in intimacy and sex life after having a baby. Accessing and integrating relationship tools from the experts. Taking time to master your romantic and sexual relationship. The goal of relationship work is not perfection. Minimizers VS Maximizers Gender-specific support in navigating parenthood and relationships. Men’s biggest struggle when the responsibilities of marriage and family weigh him down. The feeling of being "touched out" as a mother. The resurgence of old family dynamics when building a family. Ben & Sheleana’s personal parenthood struggles and steps to overcome the challenges. Negativity in relationships - The tendency to focus on negativity for survival and the power of conscious choice. How we co-create our problems in relationship. Doing vs. being. Navigating conflicts as a team. Gratitude practices to check in with your partner. Calling in your partner's true essence. How to be your own healer.Links
Becoming The One Journal Freedom from Relationship Anxiety Program with Rising Woman The Conscious Relationship Council with Evolving Man Rising Woman Website Rising Woman InstagramSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Wed, 23 Aug 2023 - 84 - #82 - Longevity And Thriving As You Age - with Dr. Anthony Balduzzi
Dr. Anthony Balduzzi is a licensed Naturopathic Doctor and creator of the Fit Father Project and Fit Mother Project. He lost his father at the age of 42, which led him to dedicate his life to helping people live healthy and happy well into their old age.
Anthony is a former national champion bodybuilder, nutritionist, and all around great example of all-around health. He joins me to talk about the practical steps each of us can take to insure a long and healthy life.
How to take care of yourself to age gracefully. Adapting your exercise routine as you get older, especially 40+. Exercising based on your nervous system state. Maintaining strength, cardiovascular health, flexibility, and mobility as you age. The importance of eating well. Nutrition is the baseline of health that can be maintained. Proper rehydration methods. Foods to eat at different times throughout the day to maximize your body’s energy. Greens powder. The addiction to sugary drinks. Anthony’s and Ben’s personal diet journeys. Paying attention to how different foods and drinks impact your body. Circadian rhythms. Comparing blue light, red light, UV light, infrared light, and red light machines. Entraining to the spectrum of light that is relevant to that time of day. How to supplement harsh winters with little sunlight. Flowing with the seasons with your routines. Vitamin D and K2 supplements. What supplements to take when you’re getting sick. Immortality… How longevity is a byproduct of our lifestyle.
In this episode we dive into:Links from this episode:
Fit Father Project Website Fit Father Project Instagram Fit Father Project Facebook Fit Father Project YouTube My Previous Episode with Anthony Conscious Relationship CouncilSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Wed, 19 Jul 2023 - 83 - #81 - Healing With Shipibo Plant Medicine - with Becky Griffin
Becky Griffin is a co-founder of Caya Shobo, an Ayahuasca and plant medicine healing center in Peru. She has been immersed in a path of self-discovery and learning with the Shipibo plant medicine tradition since 2008, and she joins me to talk about her extensive experience dieting various Master plants under the guidance of high-level Shipibo maestro and maestra Onányas.
Becky is a facilitator and healer for people seeking healing and growth from plant medicines like Ayahuasca and master plant diets. She has served as an apprentice curandera of the Shipibo tradition since 2012 and currently holds small ceremonial gatherings for experienced dieters.
On this episode we talk about:
Ayahuasca shamanism. Becky & Ben’s personal exploration with plant medicine. The wisdom of Ayahuasca: shifting between light and dark energy. Mind-centered talk therapy vs. body & spirit-centered plant medicine. Addressing physical ailments with plant medicine. Reconnecting with the spirit of nature. What is a “plant dieta” and how does it work? The synchronicities between nature and humans. How to establish a relationship with the consciousness of plants. Ayahuasca is a diagnostic tool. The benefits of going to Peru for plant medicine treatment. Healing at the cellular level with plant medicine. How long does it take to heal with plant medicine? The false light of Ayahuasca and other plants. The pitfalls of exploring plant medicine with inexperienced healers. The downfalls of placing spiritual teachers on pedestals. Be your own teacher - becoming responsible for your own healing path. Integrating all parts of yourself - mental, spiritual, light, shadow. The light and dark sides of cannabis and tobacco. Healing vs. coping. Becky’s favourite Master Plants. An opportunity to travel to Peru with Ben for a retreat.Links from this episode:
Caya Shobo Website Caya Shobo Instagram Caya Shobo Facebook Join the Evolving Man Brotherhood circleAnd finally, a message from Becky:
“I believe that at this time we are all being called to embark on a process of transformation, to heal the wounds and confusions of the past, and to start to realize our potential to live in genuine joy and balance. We each must find our own true self beneath the markings of trauma and conditioning that we carry and discover and integrate the ‘medicine’ within those challenges.
The Shipibo medicine tradition and the master healing plants are living wonders from an ancient world. My own search for healing and greater meaning in life has brought me to this sacred path. And through supporting many others on a similar journey, I have seen that it is possible to slowly but surely nurture a deep connection with the master teacher plants and their songs, and thereby foster a greater harmony and understanding within, while restoring our rightful relationships with all of life.
It is my honour to assist and support others on this blessed journey of discovery.”
~Becky
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Wed, 21 Jun 2023 - 82 - #80 - Twelve Step Programs Explained - with Ben Goresky
Twelve Step programs have helped millions of people recover from addictions over the past 85+ years. In this episode we talk about why they work, the myths and the criticisms, and we make an attempt at a balanced look at the pros and cons of these programs.
This is a solo episode with Ben Goresky - an addiction recovery coach with 15 years of personal experience in Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous. After embedding himself in these programs and studying them in depth, Ben stepped away from the programs to focus on other healing modalities. He shares a viewpoint of the program that is rare: the inside view, and the outsider view.
Topics discussed in this episode:
- Who can benefit from Twelve Step programs: Discover if you're an ideal candidate. Exploring the variety of 12 step programs for different addictions. Navigating triggers, pitfalls, and negative experiences within these programs. The role of spirituality and the use of "big G" God language in the steps. Debunking the religious overtones: Are Twelve Step programs religious or spiritual? Addressing powerlessness and disempowering language in the steps. Understanding the reality of addiction: Loss of control and continued substance use despite consequences. The empowering use of the Disease Concept in addiction recovery. Overcoming tribalism and cult-like tendencies within 12 step communities. Unraveling the connection between underlying trauma and addiction. The dynamics of sponsorship: Challenges and strategies for making it work for you. Embracing empowering terminology and breaking free from the label of "addict." Examining the frequency of the term "addiction" and its implications. Reframing the saying "Once an Addict, Always an Addict." Foundational steps 1-3 - Breaking through denial, accepting the problem, and choosing a guiding wisdom. House cleaning steps (4-9): Embracing radical ownership and personal growth. Maintenance steps (10-12): Mastering growth and evolution on a daily basis. Harnessing the power of service work for successful sobriety and recovery. Identifying the two crucial factors that make Twelve Step programs effective. Tips for optimizing your Twelve Step experience and finding resonant meetings and like-minded individuals.
Links for this episode:
The Freedom From Addiction men’s recovery circle Podcast - High Functioning Addiction - with Alex Olshonsky Podcast - Everything you need to know about addiction - with Chris BevaquaSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Wed, 31 May 2023 - 81 - #79 - The Dark Side Of Men's Work - with Chris Fletcher
Chris Austin Fletcher is a family counsellor and men’s leader with specialized training in conflict resolution, conscious communication, breathwork and somatic trauma release. He has 35 years of experience working with men and families, where he has seen the light and the dark side of the personal growth arenas.
He joins me on this episode to discuss his experience uncovering the exploitation and abuses of power in the healing communities around him. We talk about how men’s personal growth can go sideways, and how to get men back into alignment.
In this episode we dive into:
The 9 shadow elements of men’s work. The light and dark side of healing. Exploring suspicions about men’s work. Men being the voice for women in situations of abuse. Embodying masculinity without being a hero. The dark backlash from #MeToo and women’s empowerment. Responding with shame vs. empathy. Bringing wounds to men’s work. How to find depth beyond the loud internet voices. Conversations about Andrew Tate, Jordan Peterson, and Donald Trump. How the dark masculine feeds on the energy of extremes, fears, and world chaos. How to discern authentic vs. inauthentic men’s work on social media. Staying connected to the heart chakra. Shame and terror on the internet. The problem with quick fixes. How to look out for good mentors, teachers, and communities. Balancing the archetypes in men’s work. The 9 Rings of Alignment: A self-regulation practice. The importance of developing rich relationships. The importance of setting intentions. Cultivating a self-care practice.Links from this Episode:
Chris’ Website w/ free download Whole Family Healing Facebook Halfmoon Haven Website Breakup-Coach Leomentioned in this episode. Leo's Breakup Program. Freedom from Addiction Circle Conscious Relationship CouncilSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Wed, 03 May 2023 - 80 - #78 - Purpose, Alignment, and Doing Work You Love - with Amrit Sandhu
Amrit Sandhu coaches people to make big changes in their lives and move beyond their limitations. He is the host of The Inspired Evolution podcast, and he joined me to discuss the dilemma of making a change from lucrative yet unfulfilling career to one filled with purpose and fulfillment.
In this episode we dive into:
Consciously changing careers. What needs to be in place to create deep & lasting change. How to assess your core values. Consciously aligning your life around a self-created mission statement. The similarities between being an engineer and a life coach. The social construction of “success.” Being an introvert vs. an extrovert and a task person vs. a people person. Feeling stuck in your career. Attaching self worth to what you do (masculine) vs. who you are (feminine). Stress is your greatest ally. Being overwhelmed by opportunity. Giving yourself time and space to pivot, integrate change, and transform. When self-help can get toxic. The opposite of depression is expression. Being energized by work. Inspiration vs. jealousy. The abundance of opportunities that are present when you’re in alignment. The awareness is the shift. Acknowledging nuance in light and dark thoughts. Amrit’s principles in encouraging people to make personal changes. Our biggest challenge is our greatest gift. Mapping out the vision for your dream life. The world around you is consistently programming you against your innate self. Learning to parent a boy throughout different developmental milestones. Cultivating community. Reprogramming who you were for who you want to become. Gratitude opens a door for self love. Creating your own archetypes.Podcast Links
Amrit’s Website Amrit’s Instagram Amrit’s YouTube Conscious Relationship Council The Freedom from Addiction CircleSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Wed, 12 Apr 2023 - 79 - #77 - ADHD and Nervous System Optimization - with Adam Hart
Adam Hart is an International Speaker & best selling author whose mission is to help busy parents transform their quality of life and develop deeply connected relationships with their partners and children.
Focusing on nervous system regulation, energetic attraction and natural holistic wellness practices, Adam leads his clients to living at their best.
Adam created a handout for our listeners called The 6 Step Unleash-Your-Energy Roadmap, available at clearimpact.io.
In this episode we dive into:
ADHD & ADD diagnoses. Prescription medication and self-medicating. Nervous system regulation. Optimizing human performance in all areas of your life. Conscious parenting. Scattered minds in a dopamine-centered world. Occupational burnout. Managing energy and stress responses in the moment. Fight or flight responses when rock climbing. Recovery becomes an addiction vs. harm reduction. Different foods affect brain chemistry. Intelligent health and developing intuition. The mind-body connection. Becoming “unstuck.” Practicing co-regulation and self-regulation. Wim Hof breathwork & heart flow breath practice. Committing to practicing simplicity. Nurturing the nervous system with compassion and empathy. Being in a community to support your healing. Unleash Your Energy Roadmap (on clearimpact.io).Links
Clear Impact Coaching Adam's YouTube The Power of Food - Book Ben's Conscious Relationship Council (Next cohort starts April 4th) Ben's Freedom From Addiction CircleSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Wed, 22 Mar 2023 - 78 - #76 - Conscious Parenting - with Dr. Shefali
Dr. Shefali specializes in the integration of Western psychology and Eastern philosophy and is an expert in family dynamics and personal development. She has written four books, three of which are New York Times best-sellers, including her two landmark books The Conscious Parent and The Awakened Family.
She joins me for a brass tacks conversation about the Dos and Don’ts of parenting, and to share about her new book The Parenting Mapwhich comes out on February 28th, 2023.
How to go from chaos, disconnection, and frustration to a place of deep bonding and clarity as a parent. The similarities between conscious (romantic) relationship work and conscious parenting. How your triggers with your child are a reminder of what you need to work on. The belief that our children are a possession, and the dangerous projection that follows. The problem with the old belief that “parents know what’s best for their children”. How parents tend to project their own fears, insecurities, and triggers onto their children. Having a child will bring up your own childhood issues. How spanking = hitting = suppression and shame in children. Parents as a safe space rather than a police force or judge and punisher. The 3 reasons kids misbehave: 1. Lack of Skill 2. Lack of experience 3. Lack of worth Fear/Control mentality VS abundance/love mentality. The NBC Method: Negotiation, Boundaries, and Consequences. The problem with force feeding children and forcing them to do things they don’t want to do. Home as a safe space VS a house of rules. Natural consequences - allowing life to teach your children. How to teach children to know their inner “yes” and “no” so they can trust themselves as adults. The value of remembering that children will be adults one day and will remember how you treat them. Connection as the crucial ingredient in governing children’s behaviour. Why showing a child your feelings is so powerful.
In this episode, we discuss:Dr Shefali’s Links:
Dr Shefali’s Books Instagram TikTok YouTube The Conscious Relationship CouncilSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Fri, 24 Feb 2023 - 77 - #75 - Breaking Through Your Limitations - with John Wang
John Wang is a speaker, writer, and founder of the Big Asian Energy show. He studies the communication and people skills of Asian American leaders and entrepreneurs, and uses evidence-backed studies to help them master performance and communication, so they can be better recognized for their brilliance and hard work. His videos on mindset and communication have over 25 million views on TikTok.
In this episode we dive into:
Becoming a man of action. Wing walking on airplanes. The gift of death. Collectivist vs. individualist culture. The script of being a good son vs. a good man. Unwinding parenting patterns in one’s own life. Dysfunctional and secure attachment between parents and children. Healing wounds with parents. 6 archetypal patterns of unintegrated men. Learning to parent yourself. Getting the love we want Blaming vs. evolving in relationships. The ACE method. Self-acceptance and attunement. Struggles of Asian-American men & women in the working world. “The Bamboo Ceiling”. How to cultivate empathy. The 4 things that give us all happiness. John’s experiment practicing kindness and what he learned. The Vagus Nerve. The Big Asian Energy course.Links from this Episode:
John’s Website John’s Instagram John’s TikTok John’s Facebook John’s YouTube Ben's Conscious Relationship Council Ben's Freedom from Addiction CircleSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Wed, 15 Feb 2023 - 76 - #74 - The Shadow Of The Father - with Connor Beaton
Connor Beaton is a speaker, a coach, and the founder of Man Talks, a company dedicated to the betterment of men. He joins me on this episode to talk about the subject of his new book: Men’s Work - A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self Sabotage, And Find Freedom.
In this episode we discuss what Connor calls The Shadow Of The Father and how it affects every man's life.We also discuss the effects of absent fathers in the development of young men, and we touch on the effects of porn on men’s lives and their relationships.
Pre-order Connor’s Book here.
You can follow Connor @mantalks on IG, and on his website mantalks.comAs mentioned in the intro, The Conscious Relationship Council for men is open for registration until Jan 12.
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Fri, 06 Jan 2023 - 75 - #73 - Men's Role In The Birth Process - with Ryan Pope
Ryan Pope is a chiropractor, men’s coach, and founder of Powerhouse Mind Body Chiro located on the Gold Coast in Australia. His latest venture Becoming The Mountain is focussed on mentoring men and preparing them physically, mentally, and emotionally for the rite of passage into fatherhood.
Ryan is also co-facilitator at Alchemy, a multi-modality healing and transformational retreat for men and women.
I asked Ryan to share his wisdom with me to help me prepare for my own initiation into fatherhood.
In this episode we discuss:
Preparation for fatherhood. Holistic healing and vitalism. Ryan’s journey to help men prepare for the birthing process. What kind of man do you want to be throughout the process of fatherhood? Normalizing mayhem in our body and mind during big transitions. Grief upon entering into parenthood. Embracing acceptance vs. embody resistance. The importance of having good men supporting you. Unplanned pregnancies. Outcome oriented thinking vs. process focused thinking. The infinite intelligence of our bodies and The Universe. Challenging and navigating the “what if’s.” Birthing processes within the healthcare system vs. holistically. Trauma during birth. Creating intentions around a plan. Divine femininity and surrendering. Looking at the patterns that are mirrored from our parents. Safety and trust in partnership during pregnancy. Stepping up for your partner as a practice for fatherhood. Cleaning out what’s taking up space in life to create more room for what you want. Navigating the unknowns of fatherhood. The depth of presence and awareness. Trusting the inner wisdom of your partner. The masculine structure around the birthing process. Toning. Setting boundaries around family and friends. The importance of postpartum regeneration practices.Links from this episode:
Ryan’s Instagram Ryan’s Chiropractor Website The Business of Being Born The First Forty Days book Evolving Man Episode with Jessica Austin Evolving Man Episode with John WinelandSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Wed, 28 Sep 2022 - 74 - #72 - The Embodied Masculine - with Amir Khalighi
Amir Khalighi is the founder and lead facilitator for The Embodied Masculine, a training ground for men that empowers men to connect to their bodies, their purpose, and to nature. Amir runs immersion retreats and weekly embodiment circles that integrate his 5 pillars to facilitate powerful transformations in his students.
Amir’s definition of men’s work. Exploring the self through embodiment, somatic, and shamanic work. Our wounds as our teachers. Paradigm shifts. Father wounds. Stepping into service and giving back to the world. The importance and significance of “present” male figures in a community. Self-regulation for boys Integrating shadow aspects of self. Archetypal work and energies. Interconnectedness and living in fulfillment. Nurturing the evolution and empowerment of The Masculine. Shifting a culture through generations. The Conscious King. How men can practice being with Feminine power. How do men do external and internal work with their own Feminine essence? Feminine embodiment practices in men’s work. Ideologies and energetics in mixed martial arts. Structured Masculine practices. The 5 instruments in Amir’s work: attention, breath, sound, movement, visualization. Creating space and emptiness in oneself. Reframing the concept of the unknown. The human birthright of divine connection. What work should be done alone vs. with community? Recovery and addiction work ideology in men’s work. Plant medicine. Stepping away from AA (12 steps) and listening to the inner call for deeper growth. Amir’s men’s work offerings.
Amir joined me to talk about the impacts of men doing their work to know their inner masculine and feminine energies, and the inner strength and power that comes as a result of nurturing a personal spiritual practice.
In this episode we dive into:Links from this episode:
Amir’s Website Amir’s Instagram Amir’s Vimeo Book - Iron John by Robert Bly Book - King, Warrior, Magician, Lover by Douglas Gillette and Robert L. Moore Evolving Man Episode with John Wineland - as referenced in this episode Evolving Man Episode with Christine Hassler - as referenced in this episodeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Wed, 07 Sep 2022 - 73 - #71 - Relationships 101 - with Nick Solaczek
Nick Solaczek, an IMAGO relationship coach who teaches couples about the hidden realities of romantic relating. He helps couples understand one another, improve their communication, and thrive in their relationships.
The Conscious Relationship Council - a men’s group focussed on learning about romantic relationships. How men can make a long-term relationship happen. Relationship as an enlightening experience. The difference between what the current generation wants in relationship, versus the generation that came before us. Conflict as a growth opportunity to deepen intimacy in relationships. What does masculine leadership look like? Relationship as a mirror for childhood experiences. Familiar energy signatures trigger us into unconscious responses. Attachment theory. Normalizing the conscious relationship conversation. The paradoxes of romantic relationships. Navigating feelings of shame. Imago relationship theory and dialogue techniques. The 4 stages of relationship. AFGO: Another Fucking Growth Opportunity. Discovering your personal relationship issue and how it ties back to your childhood. What do recurring conflicts and frustrations in relationship represent? Minimizer vs. maximizer in conflict. Your relationships becoming your nightmare. Showing up authentically with boundaries and consent. Discovering your “relationship wants” and identifying how to lean into them. The value of men’s groups for inner-work and navigating romantic relationships.
Nick and I have been sitting in men's circles, going to workshops, and learning about conscious relationship work for a few years now, and we drop in on this episode to share with men about the successes we have found.
In this episode we discuss:Links from this episode:
The Conscious Relationship Council Nick’s Website Nick’s InstagramSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Wed, 17 Aug 2022 - 72 - #70 - Over It And On With It - Overcoming Your Limitations - with Christine Hassler
Christine Hassler is a Master coach, facilitator and speaker and the host of top-rated podcast “Over it and On With It” where she coaches people live on the show. She is also a best-selling author of three books, most recently Expectation Hangover: Free Yourself From Your Past, Change your Present and Get What you Really Want.
Christine co-founder of Elementum Coaching Institute, a premier coaching certification program. Preston Smiles and Stef Sifandos (recent guests on this show) are also Master coaches for Elementum. Christine joined me on the show to talk about men’s evolution and leadership, conscious parenting, and romantic relationships.
In this episode we discuss:
How Christine created her dream life and attracted her dream partner. Trusting divine timing and following your own timeline. Embodying personal development work. What success can really mean. Leveraging disappointment as a point to transform. Effective coaching practices. Understanding our past to move toward the future. Time traveling to our childhood triggers. Time vs. love healing all wounds. Conscious trauma work. MDMA Therapy = Love therapy. Instant gratification. What does the evolution of conscious men look like? The dance of masculine and feminine energy. Individual vs. community work. Revering the feminine. The duality of attachment styles. Self-regulation and self-soothing in conflict. Leadership in romantic relationship. 3 stages of consciousness. For expecting fathers: sacrifice and devotion during and after pregnancy. The 3 most important traits for a father: presence, consistency, and emotional availability.Links from this episode:
Elementum Coaching Institute Christine’s Website Christine’s Podcast Christine’s Instagram Christine’s Facebook Christine’s Twitter Christine’s YouTube Evolving Man Episode with Stef SifandosSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Wed, 03 Aug 2022 - 71 - #69 - From The Core - A Guide To Masculine Leadership - with John Wineland
John Wineland is a leader in men’s embodiment, leadership, and the energetics of romantic relationship. He is the author of the forthcoming book From The Core: A New Masculine Paradigm For Leading With Love, Living Your Truth, & Healing The World.
John joined me to talk about relationships, men’s work, and the transformational power of men’s groups.In this episode we discuss:
The Masculine and Feminine core. Men’s Work and the value of men’s groups. What does masculine leadership look like in a time of shared leadership between men and women? The importance of men cultivating sensitivity. John’s mission in the world and how he got into men’s work. Consciousness, embodiment, and spiritual intimacy. Turning your wound into a gift. Father wounds. Integrating David Deida’s work. Stillness vs. Energy. Staying grounded, aware, and in equanimity. Wim Hof breathwork. Nervous system training. How modern men can lead in a relationship with a powerful partner. Understanding your relationship to your breath. Infinite practices for increasing sensitivity. Your heart is a sonar device. Taking a numbness inventory. Dopamine addictions. Understanding feminine and masculine essences in ourselves and in relationship. The power of picturing your dream life. No More Mr. Nice Guy - Robert Glover. Two kinds of romantic relationship: Power grid vs. Battery. The Depth Council - John’s Men’s Group.Order John’s Book John’s Website John’s Instagram John’s YouTube channel The Conscious Relationship Council The Path To Conscious Love - A Course for CouplesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Thu, 21 Jul 2022 - 70 - #68 - Becoming The One - with Sheleana Aiyana of Rising Woman
Sheleana Aiyana is the founder of Rising Woman, a growing community of more than 3 million readers. She is also my wife and life partner. Sheleana joins me on this episode to talk about the keys to successful romantic relationships and her recently released book Becoming The One: Heal Your Past, Transform Your Relationship Patterns, and Come Home to Yourself.
On this episode we dig into some of the key concepts from the book, and we talk about a few true stories from the book that involve our relationship and give some greater context and perspective on what we both learned.
If you are interested in the keys to attracting or keeping a romantic partner, or if you're a Rising Woman fan wanting an inside look into our relationship, this episode is for you.
In this episode we dive into:
The deeper meaning within Sheleana’s new book, “Becoming the One.” What “being your own healer” means. Spiritual myth busting. Self-abandonment. Seeking external soothing - a conditioned pattern Attracting inauthentic romantic matches. Abandonment wounds and chasing unavailable love. The foundation to healthy relationships: our relationship to self. Finding healing through trusting yourself, your body, and reconnecting to nature. Experiencing pleasure in life while being anchored in our truth. Shifting from a breakdown to a breakthrough. Authentic alignment. Questioning how you show up in your relationships? Scarcity of love vs. abundance of love as a mindset. Soulmates and soul families. Wounded inner child archetypes creating codependency. The strength of community and friendship in supporting your relationship. Twin flames vs. free will. External blame and taking back your power. How to get an unconscious partner to start doing the work with you. Parental vs. divine partner perspectives. Normalizing the desire for change. Patterns of withholding. Respecting your partner’s differences as assets. Attunement, sensitivity, and nervous system awareness. Specific dynamics and patterns in Sheleana and Ben’s relationship. Seeing your partner’s intentions. Humility vs. defensiveness. Overcoming self-doubt. The Father wound. The value for men in reading “Becoming the One”.Links from this episode
Rising Woman Website The “Becoming the One” course Rising Woman Instagram Sheleana’s Instagram Sheleana’s YouTube Creating Conscious Love - A Course For Couples Becoming the One Course The Conscious Relationship Council - For Men The Nespresso Story: Chapter 8 - Understanding Projections in “Becoming the One”See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Wed, 29 Jun 2022 - 69 - #67 - Deep Fix - Addiction In Silicon Valley, Recovery, and Plant Medicines with Alex Olshonsky
Alex Olshonsky, aka “Olo,” is a writer and the founder of Deep Fix - a newsletter, somatic coaching practice, and fast-growing digital community. He is also the co-founder of Natura Care Programs, an interdisciplinary entheogenic program combating addiction.
Alex is a former Silicon Valley executive at companies like Twitter, Salesforce, Copper, Slack, and VentureBeat. He joined me to share his story of his battle with addiction and his recovery. We also explored “Second Stage of Recovery” and the nuance of plant medicines, Ayahuasca, and the intentional use of psychedelics for healing.
In this episode we discuss:
Alex’s upbringing in a culture of wealth and consumerist values Imposter syndrome The seeds of addiction Living a life for others, vs for yourself. The absence of mentorship for men Alex’s early work in finance which led to the tech start-up world Severe poly-substance addiction in Silicon Valley. “High-Functioning Addiction” Family intervention for addiction. Alex’s “bottom” which led him to recovery The value of AA and 12 step meetings The limitations of the 12 step model and the disease concept of addiction Buddhism, Yoga, and plant medicines “Second Stage Recovery” Ayahuasca as a tool for healing and transformation The proper use of psychedelic therapy. The importance of leveraging counseling, groups, and ceremony when engaging plant medicines. Bringing about Natura - a holistic plant medicine recovery program for people suffering from addiction.Links from this episode:
Deep Fix - Alex’s website Alex’s Twitter Alex’s Instagram Natura Care ProgramsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Thu, 26 May 2022 - 68 - #66 - Rethink, Rehumanise, Reintegrate - with Raphael Rowe
Raphael Rowe is an investigative reporter, a BBC correspondent, and the host of Netflix’s “Inside The World’s Toughest Prisons”. At age 20, Raphael was falsely convicted of murder and given a life sentence in prison. He spent 12 years campaigning and fighting for his exoneration, and was released at age 32.
He joined me to tell his story, and talk about racial profiling, police corruption, and what works (and doesn’t work) in the prison systems we use to reform criminals.In this episode we dive into:
Caring for our criminals, mentally ill, and addicted populations. How Raphael became involved in prison work. How Raphael got convicted for crimes he did not commit. The racism embedded in policing and prison systems. Feeding societies’ collective shadows. The good guy vs. bad guy mentality. Understanding nuance and power. How Raphael fought his own prison sentence. The power of the media. Covid restrictions vs. the constriction of prison. Raphael’s journey to hosting Inside the World’s Toughest Prisons. What life really is like in prison. How society views the prison system. Prison reform. The importance of giving voices to prisoners. Harm reduction and meeting basic human needs in prisons. Life-changing therapeutic experiences in prison. Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. Humanizing criminals. The cathartic power of connection and ritual. What elements don’t work in the prison system. Addressing needs of individuals with a humanistic approach. Changing narratives and mindsets of the public to ignite change. Supportive prison staff and educational resources in prison. Masculine wounds on personal and societal levels. Facing resistance in rehabilitation. The message behind the Raphael Rowe Foundation. Wounds becoming gifts.Raphael’s Links:
Website Facebook YouTube Notorious by Raphael Rowe Second Chance Podcast Raphael Rowe FoundationSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Wed, 23 Mar 2022 - 67 - #65 - The Elements Of Masterful Coaching - with Preston Smiles
Preston Smiles exudes passion and commitment to healing. He is a Personal Freedom Coach, a multi-millionaire, a conscious businessman, father, and author of Love Louder: 33 Ways to Amplify Your Life.
Preston joined me on the show to talk about his love of coaching, and what he has learned about building successful coaches.In this episode we talk about these points:
Life doesn’t come to you, it comes from you. Preston’s Kaboom Coaching and Elementum Coaching Institute. Being a magnetic person. 4 aspects of what it means to be human. Traditional schooling vs. lived experiences. Trauma and shame. The secret to working in business with your wife. Leveling up with children. Exploring inner needs and desires. The journey of unlearning personal patterns. How Preston gets support now that he is successful. What men’s work is really about. The consciousness of abundance. The inner laws of success. The responsibility of coaches. Money as energy. Changing limiting mindsets. Why the world needs more coaches. The limitations of therapy. Where men should go when they’re having trouble with romance. “Proximity is power with and within” How to manage social media when you have a large audience.Links from this episode:
Preston’s Website Preston’s Instagram Preston’s YouTube Elementum Coaching Institute Website The Conscious Relationship CouncilSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Wed, 02 Mar 2022 - 66 - #64 - Working Through Conflict In High-Stakes Relationships - w/ Jayson Gaddis
Jayson Gaddis is an author, podcaster, speaker, and “personal trainer for relationships”. He is a global leader on interpersonal conflict and connection. He joins me on the show to discuss the keys to success in relationship, and his book “Getting To Zero - How To Work Through Conflict In Your High Stakes Relationships”.
In this episode we discuss:
How to be better in relationships. The Relationship School. The one common denominator in relationship struggles – ourselves. Avoidance tendencies. How we learn to “do conflict”. Conflict as an inevitable part of a relationship. Conflict as a mirror. Honest and authentic interactions. How to manage and navigate conflict. The “why” of relationships. Active listening skill development. The higher purpose of relationships. Relational blueprints. Attachment/Conflict Styles: Seeker and Avoider. Polarity and romance. Shadow Vows. How to handle your triggers and your partner’s triggers? Attuning to loved one’s nervous systems. What’s at the core of getting back to zero? Understanding the other person’s experience (LUFU). 10 Roadblocks to Reconnection. Where else can these tools be applied in your life?Links from this Episode
The Relationship School Website The Relationship School Instagram Jayson’s Instagram Getting to Zero Website Jayson’s Facebook Jayson’s Twitter Jayson’s YouTube The Conscious Relationship CouncilSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Wed, 23 Feb 2022 - 65 - #63 - Hero Rise - The 5 Masculine Archetypes - w/ Isaac Cotec
Isaac Cotec is a scholar of the subconscious and the creator of the HeroRise Archetype deck. He has dedicated his life to empowering others through art and creativity. Isaac joins me on the show to discuss the 5 mature masculine archetypes and their associated shadow elements.
This episode is a must-listen if you want to understand your own personal archetypes and learn how to manage them in your life.In this episode we dive into:
The HeroRise archetype tarot deck. What are archetypes? Masculine archetype history and universality. The 5 different masculine archetypes: Warrior, Wizard, Lover, Father, Sovereign. The art of understanding our own consciousness. How you can use the archetypes in your life. “King, Warrior, Magician, Lover“ by Robert Moore and Douglas Gillette. Methods of assessing self-improvement. A breakdown of each masculine archetype. The shadow sides of the masculine archetypes: over and under-expression. Mature vs. immature expressions of archetypes. Sub-archetypes. Evolving within the triangle of archetype polarity. Elements and archetypes: Fire, Air, Water, Earth, and Spirit. Anger and our disconnection from healthy versions of it. Bringing the mature Lover into sex. Action steps to mature archetype embodiment. The Know-It-All shadow of the Wizard. How to find self-awareness, balance, and integration. Doing shadow work with other people.King, Warrior, Magician, Lover by Robert Moore and Douglas Gillette
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Wed, 08 Dec 2021 - 64 - #62 - Men's Alchemy - with Nick Solaczek
Nick Solaczek is a relationship coach and a men’s work leader who inspires men to find the things that are missing in their lives, and reintegrate them. He joined me to discuss men’s alchemy, integration, how men can find their personal power in the current times.
In this episode we discuss:
Why Nick is involved in Men’s work. What is men’s work? Samurai Brotherhood and upcoming events. Integrity and integration. Group accountability. Online groups vs in person groups. Why is men’s work so important? Lighting a fire, and healthy challenges. Creating safe spaces for men. Past, present, and future focused work in men’s groups. The importance of consistency. Men’s work as a mirror. Drawing on the power of myth. The Mythopoetic men’s movement. Aligned books and courses (linked below). Archetypes in men’s work. Defining your own masculinity. The “Masculine core”. Childhood wounding. Parallels of Alcoholics Anonymous and Men’s Work Brotherhoods. The 14 Point Code of the Conscious Warrior. Rejection and ownership of anger. The Warrior archetype. Shadow expressions. Alchemy - what is it? Honesty and inner-truth. True Personal Growth. Inclusivity in the Samurai Brotherhood.
Links:Nick’s Previous Evolving Man Episode 1
Nick’s Previous Evolving Man Episode 2
Samurai Brotherhood's Upcoming Workshop
Book - Iron John by Robert Bly
Book - King, Warrior, Magician, Lover by Robert Moore and Douglas Gillette
Book - The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida
Book - The Way of the Conscious Warrior by P.T. Mistlberger
Connor Beaton's Shadow Work Course
Jordan Peterson Self Authoring Course
P.T. Mistlberger's Evolving Man Episode
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Wed, 03 Nov 2021 - 63 - #61 - Embracing the Uncomfortable - w/ Stef Sifandos
Stefanos Sifandos is a relational alchemist who works with people to dissolve fear, find their power, and uncover their blocks to intimacy. He has also been working with men’s circles for years, with Sacred Sons and currently the MPowered Brotherhood in Austin, Texas. Stef joined me to talk about how people can heal their nervous systems using simple practices, ‘safe’ containers, and trauma-informed techniques.
In this episode we discuss:
Maximizing human potential. Clearing the clutter of the past. Putting on metaphorical masks. Are we making decisions from places of hurt? Unconscious responses in conflict. Challenging internalized beliefs. Environmental conditioning. Physiological habits. Feeling safe in chaos. Exploring the unknown. Mirroring in relationships. Self-regulation of the nervous system. Pendulation vs. Flooding. Therapeutic experiences in men’s group work. What spaces can help heal our nervous systems? The personal responsibility of doing inner work. Self-soothing outcomes of psychedelics. Avoiding silence. Stef’s and Ben’s initiation experiences. Connecting with nature. Simple practices to connect to our true selves. Getting comfortable in discomfort. Challenging ourselves in day-to-day life. Developing resilience through movement.Links
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Wed, 20 Oct 2021 - 62 - #60 - Integrative Somatic Trauma Therapy - w/ Dr. Scott Lyons
Dr. Scott Lyons is a Clinical Psychologist, Osteopath, and Mind-Body Medicine practitioner. His list of qualifications is extensive, and he joined me to discuss the power of somatic work to heal trauma and reconnect people to their bodies. If you are curious about somatic therapy, this episode is a must-listen.
Most importantly we discuss Scott’s upcoming training for practitioners to learn about Integrative Somatic Trauma Therapy. We need more people doing this work!In this episode we dig in to:
Trauma work. The definition of somatic therapy. Embodiment: working with the body to heal trauma. Learning disabilities, and medication. Dance as a form of medicine. Scott’s journey to somatic therapy. The Wisdom of Trauma. How somatic therapy works and how it differs from other therapeutic practices. The first universal languages: sensation and breath. The importance of touch, movement, and sound. Education systems that disconnect us from our bodies. Top/down vs. bottom/up healing approaches. Childhood experiences impacting adulthood behavior. Building up “somatic resources”. Diagnosed PTSD and the potential to heal. Common somatic practices. Conflict resolution. Ancestral medicine. Trauma sensitive yoga. Childhood depression is linked to screen time. Human beings are nature. The ticket to wellness is embodiment. How to find a somatic therapist. Balancing fire with water.Links:
Scott’s Integrative Somatic Trauma Therapy Training Program
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Wed, 15 Sep 2021 - 61 - #59 - Brotherhood Is The Medicine - with Adam Jackson from Sacred Sons
Adam Jackson is the co-founder of The Sacred Sons, a mens’ community devoted to masculine alchemy. He joined me to talk about the unique way that his community is helping men connect to each other, and find conscious healing.
The history and mission of Sacred Sons. Masculine Alchemy. Diversity in men’s spaces. Embodiment - what is it? Healing from mental illness and addiction. Creating sacred, safe spaces. Confronting shadows, biases, and core beliefs to connect with others. Combating divisiveness created by the media. Resisting disconnection amidst COVID controversies. Outsourcing discernment to the media. Collective representation. What work is right in front of you? Self-sabotage. Learning to close relationships properly. The importance of gratitude and celebration. The Lover archetype and how the Sacred Sons conjure it. Brotherhood as medicine. MDMA and plant medicine. Using substances to open up vs. the “drugs” already inside of you. The lack of brotherhood spaces for teens. Mens’ personal responsibility to create connection and culture. Finding growth and space in fatherhood. The return of the Father archetype. Family is a spiritual practice. What is a Sacred Sons Embodied Masculine Experience (EMX).
In this episode we discuss:Links
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Wed, 01 Sep 2021 - 60 - #58 - The Paradox Of Human Existence - with Dr. Zach Bush
Dr. Zach Bush is a multi-disciplinary physician of internal medicine, endocrinology, hospice care and an internationally recognized educator on the microbiome as it relates to human health, soil health, food systems, and a regenerative future.
Zach joined me to discuss the current state of health in the world and how living in a toxic environment exacerbates the spread of disease amongst humans.
In this episode we discuss:
The paradox of views surrounding COVID vaccines. How the immune system works. Flu vaccines increase coronavirus symptoms. GMO mechanisms. The definition of ‘vaccine’. Differences between the COVID vaccines. How spike proteins harm the body. Cas9: our bodies own vaccine cards. Will vaccines get rid of coronavirus? The history of coronaviruses. The flu vs. coronavirus. Myths about PCR and our relationship to coronaviruses. Personal responsibility over our immune systems. Genetic modification of food. What we can learn from the DDT ban. Creating a call to action for our future. Is SARS Covid 2 a naturally occurring virus? A biological look on how the virus impacts each of our bodies. Histotoxic hypoxia, cyanide poisoning, and hospitalizations. The India outbreak. The importance of breath. Benefits of Vitamin D. Racial and socioeconomic impacts on the pandemic. The bottleneck of information on public health. The downsides to social distancing. Response to critiques of Zach’s from the Conspirituality podcast. Changes in mortality rates and chronic diseases in children. Romanticization of nature. War-like mentality between nature and mankind. Soil, water, and air systems collapsing modern society. Intuitive knowing vs. science. Macro and micro struggles during the pandemic.Links:
Neurohacker Collective Podcast Episode Rich Roll Podcast Episode Luke Storey Podcast Episode Mark Groves Podcast Episode Dr. Doudna’s TED Talk Zach’s Website Zach’s Twitter Zach’s Facebook Zach’s InstagramSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Wed, 07 Jul 2021 - 59 - #57 - 12 Step Addiction Recovery Meets The Psychedelic Renaissance - w/ Jessica Cadoch
Jessica Cadoch is a researcher whose masters’ thesis focussed on building a bridge between the well established 12 step recovery approach for addiction recovery, and the emerging movement of psychedelic assisted therapy for trauma.
Since addiction is often rooted in trauma, her question is an important one: “How can addicted people in abstinence-based recovery benefit from the healing that psychedelic therapy can provide, without it qualifying as a ‘relapse’?”. Jessica joined me on the show to discuss this topic and talk about solutions.In this episode we dive into:
Jessica’s experience volunteering at the Montreal Psychedelic Society. Psychedelic assisted therapy. The groundwork of Jessica’s thesis in Medical Anthropology. Ben’s journey of learning about psychedelics. Double standards in 12-Step programs. Community initiatives progressing the psychedelic revolution. Building a bridge between 12-Step programs and psychedelic assisted therapy. Spiritual awakenings vs. spiritual experiences. Changing existing medical models. Examining phrases and ideologies in 12-Step programs. Original definition of “recreational.” Stigma of psychedelic use in the recovering addicts community. The importance of intent when using drugs. Spreading the conversation of psychedelics outside of medical clinics. The role of demographics in drug use and treatment. Dr. Carl Hart’s idea of “no bad drugs.” Addiction as a result of systemic issues. How psychedelics could aid society’s current downfalls. Missing statistical data in the psychedelic movement. The Maya App: measurement based software for psychedelic therapists and coaches. Psychedelics: assisted process vs. self-directed process. How can individuals support the psychedelic movement? Normalizing conversations about taboo subjects.Links
Jessica's Instagram - @_jaz.ie Montreal Psychedelic Society Dosed Movie Evolving Man & Dosed Podcast Episode 1 Evolving Man & Dosed Podcast Episode 2 Danielle Negrin Instagram The San Francisco Psychedelic Society Kevin Franciotti Website Carl Hart’s Website Maya Health Psychsem.orgSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Wed, 16 Jun 2021 - 58 - #56 - Building Emotionally Intelligent Men - with Ashanti Branch
Ashanti Branch has been mentoring young men and women for 19 years in California. He is the founder of The Ever Forward Club, with a mission of changing the way students relate to learning. He is also the host of the Taking Off The Mask Podcast.
Ashanti joined me on the show to talk about how to build emotionally intelligent, resilient, and powerful humans.In this episode we dive into:
Ashanti’s role in the film: The Mask You Live In. Creating a safe space for teenage boys. Talking about feelings vs. writing them down. The origin of “the mask” movement. Myths about anger. Emotional literacy. Breaking the cycles perpetuated by older generations. Making money vs. following your purpose. Ashanti’s journey from engineering to teaching. What it looks like to run Ever Forward and host men’s groups. Expectations of men in society: repressing feelings that have nowhere to go. The nature of emotions. Conscious leadership. Grief co-existing with anger. How to hold space for men experiencing anger. Emotional expectations of women vs. men. Examples of Ashanti’s work with boys in schools. Ashanti’s life-changing path to creating men’s groups. Overcoming the lone wolf narrative: the importance of asking for help. The magic of appreciation, recognition, and compliments in men sharing’s circles. The “no homo” phase and what it was pointing to. Younger generations: open minds and determination. Gender and sexuality. COVID vaccines and the divisiveness we are seeing. Confirmation bias and the news. Advocating for men to have support teams. Taking Off the Mask podcast.Links
Ashanti’s Instagram Ashanti’s Twitter Ashanti’s Facebook Ashanti’s Website Ever Forward Club Instagram Ever Forward Club Website Mask Challenge Brad Leslie on The Evolving Man PodcastSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Wed, 02 Jun 2021 - 57 - #55 - Saving Men From Themselves - Discussing Men's Mental Health with Traver Boehm
Traver Boehm is the author of Today I Rise, and Man UNcivilized. He’s a men’s coach and the founder of the UNcivilized Men’s Movement. Traver wants to redefine the way men experience their masculinity, by blending the primal elements of manhood with massive doses of consciousness.
In this episode, Traver joins me to discuss the challenges men are facing today: from mass depression and suicidality, to mass shootings, to fatherlessness and the lack of men’s initiation culture. Please share this episode with men who you think might need it.
In this episode we talk about:
What’s going on with men and humanity as a whole. Mass shootings in the US and Canada. The lockdown’s impact on outwardly expressing violence. Addressing grief in men. Appropriate anger towards men vs. men needing compassion. Finding roots of behavior in adulthood linked to childhood. Free will vs. life choices. Privilege and the lack of understanding for those who struggle. Social media: a double edged sword. Shadows, wounding, and trauma. Turning inward: looking at pain and grief. Finding the root of a problem vs. attacking the branches. Suicide vs. homicide & mental illness vs. addiction. How do we deal with men feeling collectively lost? Redefining the role of men in society. Intentional men’s groups: support, accountability, and healing. Pros and cons of finding like minded connections. The magic of being seen. The masculine’s desire to be challenged. Confronting fears. The lack of humanity in society. The #MeToo movement and #NotAllMen. Men and women doing “the work.” What’s behind Traver’s mantra, “Let others be safer as I walk among them”? Living by a code. 3 things men can do today to turn inward and start healing wounds. The fulfillment of doing “the work.” The challenges of being a policeman today. Shout out to the protectors.Find and Follow Traver at the below links:
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Wed, 07 Apr 2021 - 56 - #54 - Following The Evidence and Living Smarter in the Covid-19 Era - with Shawn Stevenson
Shawn Stevenson is the author of the USA Today National bestseller Eat Smarterand the international bestselling book Sleep Smarter. He’s also creator of The Model Health Show, featured as the number #1 health podcast in the U.S.
As a graduate of the University of Missouri–St. Louis, Shawn studied business, biology, and nutritional science and became the cofounder of Advanced Integrative Health Alliance. He joins me on the show to discuss how to follow scientific studies to manage your health and your mindset, and how WE can use science help humanity through the current crisis.
In this episode, we discuss:
How real education is education is up to you. Unsuccessful (and some damaging) approaches in current medicine practice. What most people who have lost their life to COVID have in common. The extreme politicization of COVID. The number one cause of chronic disease. Diet and how it influences the immune system. A cardiologist’s perspective on why our healthcare systems fail us. How long it takes to destroy our immune systems. Most important factors to staying healthy: movement and sleep. Somatic effects of COVID. Empowering people to understand their health better. Understanding and supporting scientific evidence. COVID vs. birthing process. Hive mind - the good and the bad. Shawn’s book, “Eat Smarter.” The current epidemic of suicide and attempted suicide. Natural killer cells - what are they? How will the COVID lockdown impact our children? Analyzing COVID data through an epidemiologist lens. Masks: are they helpful or harmful? Cognitive biases and their impact on relaying COVID information. Studies on COVID and masks found on Shawn’s website. Top 3 pre-existing conditions tied to COVID deaths. The next novel virus. How we can change a system that was not designed to help us. What can actually help strengthen our immune systems.Shawn’s Links:
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Wed, 17 Mar 2021 - 55 - #53 - It Didn't Start With You, But It Can End With You - Exploring Inherited Family Trauma w/ Mark Wolynn
Mark Wolynn is a trauma specialist who understands how to resolve trauma that has been passed down through generations. He wrote a book called It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle.At a time where the world is waking up to our individual and collective wounding, Mark is a perfect guest for listeners who want to understand more about what trauma is, how it occurs, and how to heal it.
Mark joined me for a fascinating discussion that took us into the depths of the healing arts. We talked about early life trauma, ancestral trauma, and particular insights on men’s relationships with their mothers and fathers which shape them in adulthood. For my male listeners, this will be truly fascinating.In this episode we discuss:
What is inherited family trauma? Mark’s focus on “what isn’t remembered in the mind”, but what is remembered in the body. Trauma: expanding our understanding and its misconceptions. Ben’s story of addiction and how it ties to his mom. Attunement - now we know its importance. Why it’s useful to dig into our pasts. Verbal and non-verbal trauma language. Trauma as the window to our ancestors. The importance of doing trauma work with others. Focusing on father/son relationships in men’s groups. How to do this work without spiritual bypassing. Avoiding and re-creating pain. “The Work”: leaning in and creating space. The unconscious connection to our parents that we all need to recognize. 4 ways we can merge with our parents that creates pain. Common dynamics with men and their mothers, and their fathers. Why men’s groups are so important. The lost art of initiation processes. Positive experiences that can physically change the brain. DNA expression and how we can shape it in the healing process. The power of visualization for healing. Ben’s experience of re-connecting with his brother. The importance of knowing your family history.Links
Mark’s Website: https://markwolynn.com/
Mark’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MarkWolynn
Mark’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/MarkWolynn
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Tue, 09 Feb 2021 - 54 - #52 - DOSED 2 - The End Of The Drug War - with Tyler Chanlder and Nick Meyers
Tyler Chandler and Nick Meyers from the DOSED documentary are back to dig even deeper into the healing powers of psychedelics and discuss how the psychedelic revolution is making its way into government policies. They share multiple personal accounts of their experiences taking psychedelics, all which led to their own personal growth. We also covered the ongoing mental health and addiction crisis, the negative impact of modern medicine, religion, censorship on social media, and most importantly, DOSED 2 which is in production now.
In this episode, we discuss:
DOSED is now live on streaming platforms. How the pandemic has impacted its reach. Isolation and COVID restrictions worsening the mental health and addiction crisis. Why watching DOSED can be beneficial to the whole world. The major downfalls of the “war on drugs”. The growth of psychedelic research. The psychedelic revolution making its way to the government level. Big Pharma vs. plant medicine. How medication treats the symptom of problems. Parallels between drug addicts and medication to treat mental illness. Why psychedelics treat the root of problems. How psychedelics lead to the dissolution of ego. Tyler’s profound experience taking psychedelics for the first few times. What inner-work looks like, while on psychedelics. The necessity of connectivity and understanding. Taking mushrooms for personal growth. Nick and Tyler’s experiences with DMT. The progress being made in Canada to access psilocybin mushrooms for therapeutic purposes. DOSED 2 Nick and Tyler’s next film project about psilocybin and terminal illness. Navigating shadow bans and censorship on social media. How to watch DOSED.To watch DOSED and stay up to date on Tyler and Nick’s projects, check out the links below:
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Wed, 16 Dec 2020 - 53 - #51 The Evolution Of Shamanism - with Hamilton Souther
Hamilton Souther is a master Ayahuasca Shaman who moved from the United States to Peru in his early 20s to find out if there was any truth behind mysticism and Shamanism. He ended up becoming one of the few non-native men to be initiated into traditional ways of Ayahuasca Shamanism. To learn more about how Hamilton got involved with Indigenous cultures and his path to Shamanism, check out our first episode together.
Hamilton now operates a healing center called Blue Morpho, based in Iquitos, Peru. They hold traditional healing retreats, hosting guests from all over the world. However, due to the outbreak of COVID, they were forced to transform. Blue Morpho is now expanding its retreats around the world, through cyberspace. Now you can take part in healing ceremonies with Hamilton from the comfort and safety of your own home.
In this episode we talk about Hamilton’s journey to becoming a Shaman, the myths and reality of Shamanism, the future of holding healing ceremonies online, and COVID-19’s impact on the medicine world.
In this episode we dive into the following:
The life and death reality of learning Shamanism. Shamanism is not all about love and “new age” light. An anthropological outlook on tribal societies. A different way of looking at viruses. Hamilton’s first interactions with Shamans. A medicine man vs. any other kind of Shaman. Modern society issues vs. Shamanic tribal issues. The internal struggle that each Shaman has to face. The keys to finding the right healing ceremony for yourself. Hamilton’s own intense healing experience. Two main governing principles of Ayahuasca. The westernization of Ayahuasca ceremonies. Becoming your own Shaman during a healing ceremony. Untrained support vs. trained support. What healing ceremonies should be based in: medicine, love, and healing. The importance of knowing the history of the space of your ceremony. The mythological conflict that exists in Amazonian ideas about plants. “Tree Dietas”. The sacred plant industry during COVID. What happened to Iquitos, Peru’s during the pandemic. Bringing ceremonies to digital space. Breathwork in ceremonies. The importance of plants in the future of technological advancement. Blue Morpho’s Triniti Retreats.Links to find more content from Hamilton and Blue Morpho:
Blue Morpho’s website Blue Morpho’s Facebook Blue Morpho’s Instagram Hamilton’s Facebook Hamilton’s InstagramSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Tue, 24 Nov 2020 - 52 - #50 - Recovering Nice Guys And The Power Of the Squad - with Dr. Robert Glover
Best-selling author Robert Glover joins me on the podcast for a candid conversation about Nice Guys, relationships, and men’s work.
Robert didn’t start out his career as a therapist planning on getting into men’s work. After receiving his doctorate and working as a marriage and family therapist, Robert started noticing common patterns in the men he was seeing. Many of them were the same patterns he saw in his own life. So he dove into men’s work, and wrote “No More Mr. Nice Guy - A Proven Plan For Getting What You Want In Love, Sex, and Life.Robert has been on this journey for over 25 years – helping other men break free of the Nice Guy Syndrome, and always evolving his own personal tool kit.
In this episode, we discuss nice guys, “men’s tribes”, mothers, subconscious programming, shifting mindsets in relationships, embodiment work, men’s safe spaces, purpose, and so much more.
We dug into the following in detail:
How Robert got into men’s work. The paradox of “nice guys.” Do women like Nice Guys? Differentiating from family members, especially mothers. Macho Jerks and Caring Wimps. Breaking free from the “nice guy syndrome.” What it means to be a differentiated man. How mothers can impact their son’s lives and future relationships. Subconscious programming in relationships. Co-creating familiarity in relationship. Viewing relationships as an opportunity to work on patterns vs. a difficult burden. The ticket to a successful long-term relationship. The importance of having same sex friends. “Men’s Only” spaces” - The power of strong masculine relationships. Different opportunities to connect deeper with other men. The growth of the worldwide men’s movement. Embodiment work. The push needed to get into men’s work. The connection between childhood wounds and relationship patterns. Robert’s top book picks for men’s work and self-healing. What men need most in 2020 - honesty, purpose, passion. “Playing games” in relationships. Robert’s books (No More Mr. Nice Guy! And Dating Essentials for Men). Ben’s “human contract” in this world (AKA purpose). How to bring these ideals back to younger boys. The changing adolescent education system.Robert's Links
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Wed, 11 Nov 2020 - 51 - #49 - Men's Health, Hormones, and Longevity - w/ Dr. Anthony Balduzzi
Dr. Anthony Balduzzi is changing an entire generation of men. After losing his father as a child, he became committed to learning the best ways for men to live the longest and healthiest lives as possible. After completing medical school and spending years as a bodybuilder, he became a fitness coach and created the Fit Father Project - a health and wellness company aimed at helping men (especially “older men”) lose weight, build muscle, and get their energy back.
In this episode we discuss the fundamentals of living a long, strong, healthy life. We talk about hormones, diet, exercise, sleep, supplements, breathwork, and lots more.
In this episode we dive in to the following:
Anthony’s personal story, experiencing his father’s early death, which led to his background in personal training, bodybuilding, and medical school. The philosophy of the Fit Father Project - simple and sustainable health and wellness for busy men. The fitness world can teach someone what the medical world neglects. Ben’s 100 year old grandfather. Slowing down aging without becoming obsessed with it. How to better manage hormones as we get older. What the “ideal aging process” looks like. The misconception around aging - are we really simply just alive and moving straight toward death? How to limit the amount of damage we accrue that could affect our life cycle through: the food we ingest, the quality of air we breathe, the exercise we do, and managing our stress levels. What things kill most people and how can we prevent them from happening to ourselves? Fasting and how it contributes to a rejuvenation process throughout the body. 4 square meals a day - criticisms. Bodybuilding - not always necessarily conducive to living the longest life. Testosterone levels - are important, but not the only factor in living a long and healthy life. Methods of boosting testosterone. The importance of keeping cortisol and testosterone levels balanced An explanation of Daniel Buettner’s work - the fundamentals to living a long life. The “typical man’s man” and why this isn’t always a healthy lifestyle practice. How to do at home hormone testing with Let’s Get Checked. Testosterone Replacement Therapy (TRT) - once you start, it’s hard to stop. Other T boosters - high intensity exercise, vitamin D3, sunbathing, living as close to nature as possible and eating real, non-processed foods. The implications of Xenoestrogens and where it can be found in our daily routines. Important vitamins and minerals for maintaining healthy testosterone levels. The immense benefits of doing hot and cold therapy. Why prolonged fasting is so beneficial in terms of cleaning out our “tubes”. The work of John Rose and Dr. Zach Bush - learning about juicing and the gut. The plethora of benefits of breathing through the nose. Wim Hof style breathwork - how it works and why cyclic and rounds breathwork can aid in healing our bodies. How the breath is the access point to our nervous system and why it is very important to be conscious of our breathing. Is it possible for men to keep their testosterone levels high? How do we combat its natural decline with aging - and should we do so? When is the right time to start looking into TRT - if ever? Why testosterone levels and lifestyle factors need to be used together. The various implications of increasing testosterone. The importance of getting morning sunshine and supplementing with D3 if you live in an area with lack of sunlight. The Fit Father Project’s testosterone supplement. An explanation of adaptogens and how they can help deal with stress. Anthony’s opinion on drinking coffee. The importance of incorporating meaningful work, service, and social connection into one’s life. The distinction between meaningful work and work that can make you a lot of money. True happiness is found through self-transcendent practices. The importance of keeping your brain active in order to reduce cognitive decline - especially through a daily meditation practice.This was a huge episode with a ton of information covered. Bookmark it, listen to it again, share it with your friends.
Links
Fit Father Project Website
Fit Father Project on YouTube
Fit Father Project on Facebook
Fit Father Project on Instagram
Anthony’s Twitter
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Wed, 09 Sep 2020 - 50 - #48 - The Work. From Prison To Freedom - with Eldra Jackson
Eldra Jackson III spent a large part of his life as a convict in the US prison system. Inside prison, he encountered a circle of men who led him to overcome his darkness and find healing. He is now the Co-Executive Director of that organization, called Inside Circle. This work was covered in the documentary called The Work.
Join me in learning about Eldra’s life story - how he went from serving 24 years of a life prison sentence in California to becoming a successful businessman whose mission is to help heal and mentor other men for whom all hope is lost.
In this episode we discuss:
The prison industrial complex in the United States. Eldra’s life journey and what led him to serving a life sentence. Why Eldra made many decisions from a place of trauma. How childhood trauma can affect your nervous system and behavior later in life. What is a “good convict”? The common mindset among incarcerated people. The difference between prison and rehab What retirement looks like for a prisoner. How Eldra turned his life around and transformed his mindset. The importance of looking inward to heal. How Eldra got introduced to Inside Circle while in prison. Therapy circles in prison. Changing the way we view and treat hurt people. Why systems only exist because we allow them to. How to create change in the prison system. Why countries need to learn from each other once they’ve developed solutions to societal problems. What’s next for Inside Circle? How trauma survivors can redirect their energy to good things in the world. Inside Circle’s mission.Eldra’s Links:
Eldra’s TedTalk- How I Unlearned Dangerous Lessons About Masculinity
The Work Documentary: https://www.topic.com/the-work(note: you will have to pay for this documentary, but it is VERY worth it)
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InsideCircleOrg/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/inside__circle
Twitter: https://twitter.com/inside_circle
How to get involved: Inside Circle’s Website - https://insidecircle.org/
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Wed, 26 Aug 2020 - 49 - #47 Psychedelic Psychotherapy - with Dr. Ben Sessa
Ben Sessa is a psychiatrist based out of the UK and a leading doctor in pushing the movement of psychedelics as medicine forward. Throughout his career, he has specialized in working with children and adolescents, but also has worked with adults who struggle with addiction. He has always been interested in bringing psychedelics into the medical community and has played a part in shifting the conversation about these drugs over the past decade.
Ben joined me to discuss why our traditional way of dealing with “mental illness” is insufficient and what is coming in the future. He shares his own experiences of use and research regarding MDMA - which has historically been viewed as a party drug - to heal trauma and PTSD. This is the next generation of psychiatric care.
In this interview we discuss:
Ben’s long history of working with psychedelics. How our current medical model is ineffective and doesn’t fit patients’ needs. Why traditional drugs are just a band-aid to issues. How societal factors play a major role in the healing process. Why no drug will work on its own, including psychedelics. Holistic approach vs. biological approach to medicine. Ben’s research on MDMA and PTSD. Why mild to moderate depression and anxiety are the most over prescribed illnesses. Where psychotherapy comes into play in the healing process. Why we attach ourselves to drugs that hide symptoms. How psychedelics can assist psychotherapy and counseling in a productive way. Why the therapy effectiveness rate for trauma survivors is very low How MDMA can help trauma survivors and is a trauma therapists dream. Why MDMA is incredibly safe even when used recreationally. Why we shouldn’t let politicians and the general public make decisions about the legality and safety of psychedelics. The biggest hurdles with psychedelic research. The pros and cons of the capitalization and medicalization of psychedelics. How Ben has been working to find a language to bring the psychedelic and medical community together. Why having a connection in the medical community is necessary to get a change in psychedelic policy. How trauma can still surface internally even after external factors have changed. The definition of addiction - it’s not about drugs. What is the best way to tackle addiction? How psychedelics get to the heart of the issue when it comes to trauma. Ben’s role in opening the world’s first psychedelic assisted psychotherapy clinic.Links
Ben’s Website: http://www.drsessa.com
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Tue, 11 Aug 2020 - 48 - #46 - Femininity And Polarity - with Anna Rova
Anna Rova is a feminine embodiment coach. She is the host of the Girl Skill Podcast - soon to be called “Claimed” - where she shares insights and tools for women to embrace their wild feminine nature. She also runs a program for successful single women who are looking to attract their ideal "masculine man". She joins me to answer questions about embracing femininity and how to create sexual polarity.
In this episode we discuss:
How women can connect to their wild feminine nature. The movement of polarity: understanding aspects of our masculine and feminine nature. The opposition of the feminine and masculine being anything but a social construct. How pregnancy can change your point of view about your feminine nature and allow for a shift of the femininity inside yourself. Why feminine and masculine polarity is what creates attraction and sustainability in any relationship, hetero or otherwise. How a woman’s power comes from her fulfillment and being in her body, rather than having to “be” and “do” everything in life. Why being independent doesn’t mean a woman can’t be interdependent or shouldn’t trust a man. The twisted idea of womanhood: femininity equals weakness. Medicalizing birth: the disconnection we have from birth and the reverence of femininity. How the feminist movement plays a role in why we don’t give femininity the power it deserves. The woman who has it all - wives, mothers, ambitious and successful, and also wants a masculine man. The type of woman a man wants once he starts to own his maturity and step into his own masculine core. What women need to do to learn how to step into their feminine power. How Anna teaches women to shift from overthinking and creating stories in their heads, to existing in their bodies. The importance of women getting to a place where they can attract a man who is ready, available, has done his work, and stands strong in his masculinity. Why men need guidance from other men to stand in their masculinity. What it means to be a claimed woman. 3 ways to embody masculine essence - PCP (presence, claim, and penetration). Why women should lean on the masculine within themselves and the men in their lives for support. The difference between a circadian and infradian rhythm and how they impact men and women in society. How women have become disconnected from their natural cycles and the importance of scheduling day-to-day life around these cycles.Anna can be found at:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/annarovafan
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/annarova
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Wed, 29 Jul 2020 - 47 - #45 - The Plant Medicine Explorer's Guide - with James Jesso
This episode covers what you need to know about psychedelics and their therapeutic benefit. I sat down with James Jesso - a man who is well-equipped to discuss psychedelics and their benefits. He shares advice about how to approach psychedelic experiences, for new and experienced practitioners.
James has been investigating, researching, and exploring the realm of psychedelics professionally for the past 7 years. He is the author of three books, “Decomposing the Shadow,” “Soundscapes and Psychedelics,” and “The True Light of Darkness,” which cover topics about working with Psilocybin mushrooms for personal development, healing, and spirituality. He is also the host of the podcast, “Adventures Through The Mind.”
What do you need to know about psychedelics?
In this episode, we delve into discussing psychedelic basics and the details surrounding the psychedelic revolution happening around the world. Plant medicine is becoming increasingly popular and people are awakening to their benefits, but psychedelic experiences still require a measured approach.
In this episode we cover:
“The Psychedelic Renaissance” - how psychedelics-as-medicine are entering the mainstream consciousness. The criminalization of cannabis - the United States’ role in this movement’s relation to racism and oppression. The shift in consciousness regarding cannabis and how that conversation relates to psychedelics. The various ways people are trying to intentionally engage in psychedelic experiences as a way to seek healing and personal growth - and the prevalence of underground healing circles. How prohibitionist rhetoric causes more harm than good. Where do beginners start? Questions to ask when invited to an ayahuasca ceremony. The challenge confronting our deepest wounds - it’s normal to be scared. Why it can be beneficial, especially as beginners, to experience psychedelics with people you trust. Every person has a different reason for wanting to do psychedelics - the way in which we go about the experience depends on who you are as a person. Intentions and expectations - their role in psychedelic experiences. Tips for preparation and how to show up in a psychedelic experience. The immense value and importance of integration and how to debrief what occurred after a psychedelic experience. The difference between telling a story vs. actively utilizing the opportunity a psychedelic experience gives you. Party atmospheres and shifting how to approach psychedelics. Fear based “bad trips” - how they hold people back from exploring, how and why they may happen, and their unfair representation in the media. Discomfort and pain during a psychedelic experience. Why you should go into it expecting it. Other resources James has created in regard to micro-dosing, psychedelics, and more.You can find James at:
Website:https://www.jameswjesso.com
Patreon Site: https://www.patreon.com/jameswjesso
Twitter: https://twitter.com/jameswjesso
Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/jameswjesso
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Wed, 01 Jul 2020 - 46 - #44 - Dosed - From Addiction To Freedom
Tyler Chandler and Nicholas Meyers had a friend who was deep in the throws of opioid addiction. They wanted to help, so they went looking for solutions and grabbed their camera. Research led them to psilocybin mushrooms, and the result was a documentary film called “Dosed”.
Dosed follows the journey of Adrianne as she uses psychedelics to heal her Opioid addiction. After touring the world and receiving immensely positive feedback and film nominations, Tyler, Nick and Adrianne joined me to discuss the significance of using psychedelics as medicine for the future of addiction recovery.
In this episode we discuss:
The use of psychedelics for treating depression, anxiety, and substance abuse. Finding a profound shift in consciousness after using psychedelics. Uncovering that assumptions about psychedelics are not all based in truth – there are many misunderstandings. Adrianne’s internal struggles with opioid addiction and trying to introduce other drugs as a healing method. How different treatments may work for people attempting to overcome various struggles including Iboga, Ayahuasca, and “magic mushrooms”. Adrianne’s challenging yet rewarding experience of cutting her physical cravings of opioid addiction through Iboga ceremonies. Non-traditional entryways to recovery from addiction. The importance of having a support system and community to rely on while recovering from addiction. The need to release oneself from strict expectations from oneself, family members, and support groups. The importance of spiritual connection while healing. Facing challenges reconciling multiple world views and accepting there is not one specific path to recovery – choosing your own path is the most important. The process of legalizing psychedelics for therapy use and the importance of decriminalizing drug use for the success of society. How to get connected to and find access to people who are passionate about the medical use of psychedelics. The future of treatment centers: what services they will provide and how they will function. Psychedelics aren’t just for people who are addictive or mentally ill – there’s benefits for everyone. How psychedelics can connect you to your deepest self and help you become the best version of yourself. The difference between psychedelics and other drugs – their anti-addictive properties and using them recreationally versus medicinally. Where the root of addiction lives - intention or lack thereof. Multiple resources for more information on psychedelicsThe Dosed team can be found at:
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Wed, 03 Jun 2020 - 45 - #43 - Isolation Equals Amplification - with Connor Beaton
Connor Beaton is the founder of Mantalks, a men's personal growth brand that is dedicated to creating better men. Using the Mantalks Podcast and his online men's community, Connor influences thousands of men to do their inner work to be better fathers, husbands, and brothers to each other.
Connor joins to discuss what he's seeing in the world and in his clients during the worldwide lockdown and dramatic change in society. Stay tuned to the end of this episode to witness some straight talk where Connor and I model a process called Active Constructive Appreciation.
On this episode we discuss:
The panic and collective fear Connor is seeing in the world. What happens in the nervous system when our sense of normalcy is eroded. The illusion of control over our future, and how much comfort we derive from that illusion. The dramatic emergence of conspiracy theories - where is this coming from? How reliant we are on the system that provides for us. The first time in many people's lives where they've faced the question "how am I going to protect and support my family?". Taking the right actions despite uncertainty. Living with virtue within a fear state. How isolation amplifies our mechanisms for coping and survival. The coping mechanisms are at an all time high: Movies, alcohol, drugs, porn, etc. Self-mentoring - Looking at your own amplification in this time. Looking outward to relieve our stress - we need to look inwards and find our own personal freedom. Being alone - facing one's self - the ultimate challenge. Your life isn't happening to you, it's happening for you. Seeing your own coping mechanisms and intervening to change them. The collective unconscious - we are all connected emotionally to each other. Boundaries - setting our own boundaries to stay grounded as society spins out. Coping Mechanisms VS Thriving Mechanisms. Death - acknowledging the micro-deaths and the death-rebirth cycles in our lives. A key to evolution - Letting go of what must die. Putting anger, fear, and protesting in its place. Taking action in your own life. Acknowledging grief and giving it a seat at our table collectively. Self-care: What Connor has been doing for self-care in isolation. Breath work, phone calls to supportive friends, limited media time, and lots of time in nature. Quality screen time - using screens for social connection vs. entertainment. Tip for connecting socially via screens: Active Constructive Appreciation. Connor and I model how to give one another constructive appreciation. This is one element of men's-work practice that we use in our men's groups.Connor can be found at:
Instagram @mantalks
Website ConnorBeaton.com
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Wed, 13 May 2020 - 44 - #42 - The COVID-19 Survival Guide - with Sheleana Aiyana
COVID-19 has flipped the world - and the lives of everyone on it - upside down. Many jobs have been lost, everyone's plans have been cancelled, and half the world has entered a self-quarantine lock-down state. People are in isolation either alone, with their families, or with a partner.
Relationships that may have been struggling prior to the lockdown, are now under major stress, because we're all forced in. Being forced to isolate with each other is not always easy. And, some people are isolated alone. This is especially hard for the extroverts who thrive on being in physical connection with others.In this episode Sheleana and I discuss ways you can take care of yourself and make the best of this time. We also share some strategies for couples to keep their relationship healthy at this challenging time.
If you're alone in isolation, or cooped up with your romantic partner, this episode is for you.
On this episode we discuss:
Coping with physical isolation. Choosing how to accept reality and make the best of it. The witch-hunt - a way that people lash out at each other to look for control over their fear. Addiction and substance use at this time. Creating a routine and structure for self-care. Digital detox. More important now than ever. Digital dates with friends or romantic partners. Consuming media VS interacting with real people online. If you're struggling: we share our tips. Reach out, find the resources you need. Somatic tools for de-stressing and calming the nervous system. Breathwork - A powerful tool for immunity and nervous system regulation. Fear and the link to the immune system. The challenges Sheleana and I are facing in isolation. What couples are facing right now in isolation. How to deal with loss of attraction and polarity when in close quarters consistently. How to meet each others' needs in isolation. Negativity in dialogue, and how to deal with it. Powerful simple exercises for connecting in quarantine. Mirroring in dialogue. Sharing appreciation with your partner - a very good tool. How to honour your partner's needs and resolve disagreements about Covid precautions. Creating safety - learning to listen with non-reactivity. Successful couples are able to solve big problems together. Using competition to strengthen relationship.You can follow Sheleana with Rising Woman at:
Instagram - @risingwoman and @sheleanaaiyana
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Sat, 11 Apr 2020 - 43 - #41 - Addiction. Everything You Need To Know - with Chris Bevacqua
Chris Bevacqua is a holistic nutritionist who works with addicts and other populations to transform their lives through diet and nutrition. He joins me for an informative discussion about the basics of addiction, dependencies, and recovery. We bust myths and shed light on how addicts find recovery. We also talk about how important nutrition and exercise are in the process of healing all mental illnesses, including addiction.
What is addiction? What is it not? The myths about common addictions? The difference between an addiction and a dependency, and how to discover that you have one. Positive addictions versus negative addictions. Where addiction lives in the brain. What part of the brain. What is the cause of addiction? Pain, trauma, disconnection. Addiction isn't only caused by genetics. The impact of early childhood environment on addiction outcomes. The environmental risk factors that contribute to addiction later in life. The steps to recovery: Remove the substance/behaviour, address the underlying pain, and build a life that supports recovery. Can we heal an addiction? First stage recovery and second stage recovery. Second stage, deeper healing. Deeper healing in second stage recovery - Conscious Relationship work, psychedelics, and plant medicines. Addiction does not live in the substance. Rat Park - The experiment that proved that drugs aren't the problem. Our society is the problem. Ideal recovery from addiction = building a rat park in your own life. Lost Connections, by Johann Hari, a useful book about depression and addiction. How to build a successful recovery plan, and how to get rid of things that are too triggering in the early days. How does nutrition play in to recovering from addiction? Healing the damage that drugs and alcohol do to the body. The double standard of coffee, cigarettes, sugar, and energy drinks in recovery circles. The benefits of quitting all substances at once. The best way to beat sugar cravings. The power of exercise in assisting addiction recovery. Recovery boosters - Running, H.I.T. workouts, and Yoga. Passion and Purpose - The special ingredient in successful recovery. Spirituality - connection to deeper self, or beyond self. The importance of open-mindedness in finding tools that work for you. Nutrition: Avoid sugar, white carbs, low quality oils. Move towards whole foods, healthy oils, wild meats, fermented foods. The power of switching from carbs to fat, for fuel. Treating depression with diet and exercise. Dr. Georgia Ede on carnivore diets and more.
Here is what we cover on this show:Chris operates a coaching business that helps clients deal with addiction and mental health issues with nutrition, exercise, and mindset. He helps you get your body and mind in the right place, so you can do the healing you need to do.
Contact him for coaching here.
Follow Chris on Instagram @good_n_healthy
Chris is very active on Twitter @chris_bevacqua
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Tue, 25 Feb 2020 - 42 - #40 Treatments for the Opioid Crisis - with Garyth MoxeyThu, 06 Feb 2020
- 41 - #39 - Create The Life You Want - with Nick Sol
Nick Sol is a coach for Create The Love, a group facilitator, and a public speaker. He is a director and facilitator for The Samurai Brotherhood men's community in Vancouver, BC.
Nick was on the show two years ago, and since then he has stepped deeply into his purpose of helping others through coaching, leadership, and mentorship. On this first episode of 2020, we talk about the process of choosing the right goals in your life and how to move past the resistance we all have to stepping in to most fulfilling pursuits.On this episode, we discuss:
Running a marathon The process of setting goals, and knowing how to set the right goals. Finding your way towards your purpose in your 20's. The quarterly goal process Nick does with his men's groups. Getting distracted stuck in the details, and losing track of the big things that matter. Using substances like Cannabis to be creative. Resistance and procrastination. We resist the things that call to us the deepest. Superficial goals versus goals of depth. Personal growth work is really self-acceptance work. Why Nick joined a men's group. The power of the men's Warrior Weekend. The rising tide of men's work, the movement towards conscious warrior-hood. The choice to model the Samurai Warriors and their code in The Samurai Brotherhood.Nick is on Instagram @nicksolconsulting
The Samurai Brotherhood Open House is on January 15th. Streaming online @samuraibrotherhood.com
To join an online Samurai Brotherhood squad, go to SamuraiBrotherhood.com/online-squad
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Tue, 07 Jan 2020 - 40 - #38 Birth Takes A Village - with Jessica Austin
Jessica Austin is a birth professional on a mission to educate the world on the truth about birth. The information she carries is not just something that some people need to know; it’s information that everyone needs to know.
I particularly want men to listen to this episode, because many men don’t know how crucial of a moment-of-truth it will be when they are facing proposed 'interventions' on their partner during a birth process. This is an important moment to have your woman's back in the most vulnerable moment of her life.
What most people think the science says about birth, is not what the science about birth says.
Most people think that hospital birth is the safest and most prudent way to give birth. What I learned on this episode - amongst many other realities - is that it’s not that simple. Tune in to this episode for a very educational discussion on the topic of the most sacred human process.On this episode we discuss:
What is a doula? Why someone would need or want a doula for birth. Birth is not what you see in the movies Why the statistics for PTSD are virtually the same for birth as they are for war Hospital birth VS home birth: Which is safer? Why morbidity statistics are higher in hospitals The problem with inducing birth with medication versus letting it happen on nature’s time Why everyone who has had a caesarean section thinks they HAD to have it done. Fear, and how it controls us in our decision making process with birth. The actual statistics for children dying in birth. Emergency caesarean section are not always emergencies Breach birth - does it need to be done via caesarean? Haemorrhage - one of the main causes. Why birth progress stalls when women arrive at the hospital.
Why your comfort and intimate space helps your birth process progress naturally. How men can support women in the hospital.
Myth busting - these myths are discussed at the end of the episode: My baby is too big, so I need a caesarean section. Dilation speed - Friedman’s Curve. We are lucky to have the medical system, because everyone was dying before hospital births came in to play. The hospital has more tools for birth than midwives (who do home births). Home birth isn’t safe. The umbilical chord can get wrapped around the neck - this is an emergency. The stakes are too high. We need to do a hospital birth.Jessica Austin has been supporting women in giving birth for over 10 years. She is a doula, a trainer of doulas, and a pre-natal instructor.
Her website: BirthTakesaVillage.comInstagram @jessicaaustinchildbirth
Facebook: facebook.com/austinjessica
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Thu, 12 Dec 2019 - 39 - #37 The Rising Man Movement - with Jeddy Azuma
Jeddy Azuma has been deeply involved with men's work in California for over a decade. He is the founder of the Rising Man Movement - @risingmanmovement on Instagram- and his mission is to create a generation of initiated men.
Jeddy is deeply passionate about helping men find themselves, find their way, and find each other - using nature, ritual, and connection circles.On this episode we discuss:
Initiation in to manhood, for men. Call The Warrior - Jeddy's Haka workshop led by Leon Ruri. The definition of Haka. Why men are afraid to express themselves. "Toxic Masculinity" and the difference between men and masculinity. The core difference between The Boy and The Man. The Initiation Ceremonies Jeddy takes men through. The power of fasting in creating an altered state of consciousness. The initiation process: a circle of support to examine what's so in your life, a declaration of where you can serve your community, and a community to receive you on the other side. Spiritual tourism and the need to carry all medicines with a connection to their lineage. Initiation weekends for young men in California - YMUW and The Legacy Weekend. Fatherlessness and the missing piece for young men. Whose job it is to initiate young men. Safety For Women - One of Jeddy's Passions. The key to the world's problems: Freedom for men to express, and safety for women. A man's eternal task of helping the women in his life feel safe.You can find Jeddy's podcast on The Rising Man Podcast.
Instagram - @JeddyAzuma and @RisingManMovementSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Wed, 20 Nov 2019 - 38 - #36 The Way Of The Conscious Warrior - with P. T. Mistlberger
Phil Teertha Mistlberger is a transpersonal therapist and an author of 5 books, including a new book for men: The Way Of The Conscious Warrior - A Handbook For 21st Century Men. He joins me on the show to discuss the issues men face today and the solutions he has proposed in his book.
Phil teaches that in this time of rapid change, there has been a loss of the warrior ethos. In his book, he points to a much needed revival of some of the admirable qualities of the warrior archetype: grit, discipline, fire, embodiment, and "necessary battle".On this episode we discuss:
Spiritual Bypassing: Phoney Holiness and the need to know your ego before you can transcend your ego. “To be an awakened man, you first need to be a man” - G.I. Gurdjieff. There’s no awakening without self-acceptance. Using your life experiences (particularly the challenging ones) to find the meta-messages for your life. All the happenings in your life are teachings in disguise. The 3 things needed to wake up - The Buddha (the teacher), The Dharma (the teaching), and The Sangha (the fellowship). Building a “Conscious Warrior” - Taking the useful traits of the Monk and the Warrior. Phil’s favourite warrior cultures. Why Phil uses examples of warriors throughout history, but does not idolize any of them. The power of living life for principles rather than blind devotion to people. Who is this book for? How men struggle in their lives as an unconscious attempt to punish their father or mother. The best way to change the world: do you own inner work, and be present and involved with the outside world. Live an impeccable life. What is happening with the growth of The Samurai Brotherhood - Phil’s men’s work community that he founded.To find the book, look on Amazon and please do leave a review, or look for it at your local book store.
You can find P.T. Mistlberger's online writings at ptmistlberger.com
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Wed, 30 Oct 2019 - 37 - #35 - Archetypes, Artificial Intelligence, and Humanity - with Dhamindra Jeevan
Dhamindra Jeevan is a digital map builder who uses virtual reality to create psychedelic art - art that changes minds and alters perspectives. His dream is to gamify personal development and he has a vision of harmonizing digital life and human life.
Jeevan wants to visually map the inner-world (psychologically, emotionally, and and spiritually) to integrate and generate light and awe for life. We dug in to his plan for doing that on this show, along with discussions about artificial intelligence, archetypes, and the expansion of technological progress.On this episode we discuss:
The evolution of technology, and the creation of digital humans. The projection of technology being malicious or only for-profit. The quick rise of artificial intelligence. 5G and it's inevitable exponential bandwidth. The new 'types' of humans that will further complicate - and possibly further divide - the world: OG humans, cyborg people, full robot people, and disembodied digital people. How Jeevan learned to see the external world of matter mirroring the inner world of psychology. Hanuman 11's universal map of the unseen, built in virtual reality. The 4 masculine archetypes of - King, Warrior, Magician, Lover. Expressions of the masculine and feminine. How they can be seen. Why China is probably going to have the first general artificial intelligence. Quality data is the currency of the future. The artificial intelligence will be better at teaching humans new skills than humans are. The way to uncover more free will in your life: doing self-discovery work. The best insurance policy against getting cloned by a computer: uncovering your true full uniqueness by doing deep work. The origin of Family Constellations work - looking at how people are formed with patterns that are linked to their past. Rupert Sheldrake and the morphogenetic field. Burt Hellinger's phenomenological approach to working with 'the field'. How to find a Family Constellation's facilitator. Hanuman's fractal game that will help humans of the future discover their own mindsJeevan can be found at Jeevan11.com
Hanuman11 is at hanuman11.com
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Tue, 01 Oct 2019 - 36 - #34 - Weddings, Shadow Vows, and Ceremony with Sheleana Aiyana
Sheleana Aiyana joins me again on the show to discuss shadow vows, ceremony, and all things related to weddings. Sheleana and I were married this spring and we learned so much in the process, so this is our debriefing conversation to integrate those lessons, along with some Q & A at the end.
Shadow Vows and the power of naming the unsavoury parts of relationship. Painting a picture or a vision statement for a relationship through vows. The fantasy of the "perfect wedding". Introducing imperfection in to the wedding process. Sacred Vows as a relationship contract - writing vows together. Projections that Sheleana and I run about each other - toughness. One of our strategies for resolving conflict in our relationship. The Gifting Ceremony at our wedding - instead of the Gift Table. The Magic Gifting CIRCLE - a randomized gifting web between everyone at our wedding. Including and excluding certain wedding traditions. The traditional Bachelor and Bachelorette parties and what we don't like about them. Using the bachelor and bachelorette gatherings as an intentional step in to a new phase of life, through challenge and support. The importance of having a village to support a marriage. The story of what happens when Sheleana and I disconnect from our community. Q & A: A question about how to "hold space" in a relationship when you're feeling emotionally reactive - I share my tips for how to do it. Anxious and Avoidant conflict styles - Managing the balance between them. Doing all your inner work before finding Mr./Mrs Right. and what this really means. Intuition - how to find intuition in knowing what relationship is right for you. Plant Medicines - Can be helpful, but you MUST do your work to integrate the work in to your life. Things you can do to prepare for plant medicine work: meditation, mindfulness, and challenging inner-work of other kinds. Somatic Experiencing Therapy
In this episode, we dig in to what we think is missing in weddings these days and we share some of the key takeaways from our wedding, and we also share some of our sacred and shadow vows.
If you want to have a laugh, listen through to the end of the episode for our goofy moments.
On this episode, we discuss:Sheleana is the founder of RisingWoman.com and can be found on Instagram @sheleanaaiyana.
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Wed, 11 Sep 2019 - 35 - #33 - Cold Therapy and Breath Work for Transformation - with Cian Dalton
Retired boxer and current Wim Hof Method instructor Cian Dalton joins me on the show to discuss the power of cold exposure paired with breath work and mindset training.
Cian grew up in Ireland, learning to fight, and after a boxing carreer eventually found his 'inner work' and the personal growth community. Through that he found Wim Hof breath work and became a certified instructor.
Cian's story and how he found breath work The emotional breakthroughs that can come from breath work, and how they occur. The Wim Hof Method - Cold Exposure, Breath Work, and Mindset Training. Using your breath to down-regulate the immune system in cold water. Breath work for auto-immune disorders, depression, and other physical ailments. How we are conditioning ourselves to be comfortable all the time and need to shake things up to stay healthy and adapted. Finishing with cold after a hot/cold dunk day. Cian's Breath Work trainings that he runs at The Stretch Space. The active breath of Wim Hof Method versus the gentle approach of Breath Wave. The magic of filling the body with breath energy, and relaxing in to it - release. The neurons in your brain that watch your breath pattern, then respond to that. Breath Work for kids. The importance of setting the right setting for any kind of breath work.
On this episode we dig in to the details of different breath work types, and how a person can use them for various types of healing, particularly the Wim Hof Method and The Breath Wave method.
On this show we discuss:Cian runs The Stretch Space in Vancouver, Canada, where he combines breath work with stretching and movement. Follow on Instagram - @thestretchspace
Cian also does breath workshops and 1-1 breath sessions with his other business The Breath Connection. Follow on Instagram - @breathconnectiveFollow Cian - @ciandalton.
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Thu, 29 Aug 2019 - 34 - #32 - Genetics And The Future Of Personalized Health Coaching - with David Krantz
Everyone wants to find the right diet and exercise regime that works for them. But with all the choices available to us, finding the right fit can be a long journey full of shots in the dark and a lack of real data. David Krantz is changing that by offering personalized health coaching that looks at each client's gene expression, and then building a diet and exercise program that is a right fit for each person.
What epigenetic coaching does. The old way of discovering what's healthy for you. The new way of tailoring diet and exercise to your genetic expression. Why a Ketogenic diet may not be a good fit for you. The most direct route to changing how your body loses weight. Marrying intuition and data together = power. How good data can empower you to move forward and take bold action. Concerns: Genetic testing, privacy, and big brother having your genetic information. Genetics and specific foods: fats, nuts, and more. The PPARG gene and mitochondria response to cold therapy. The function of mitochondria - the power-plant of the cells in your body. Mitochondrial response to infra red light. Cold exposure and how it affects sleep quality. Genes in my chart that affect Dopamine and my appetite for dopamine rushes. Why some people absolutely hate cold exposure. Addiction and which genes contribute to addictive tendencies. Supplements and substances that can contribute to balancing or resetting receptor systems in the brain. Ibogane and Ayahuasca for addiction treatment. How your genetic variants can predict your response to Cannabis. The the important balance of mind and body - therapy and diet/exercise. The importance of Purpose in leading a life of meaning.
David specializes in coaching around epigenetics. This allows him to coach people on nutrigenomics - the study of linking epigenetic expression to particular foods and behaviours.
We all have a particular set of expressed gene codes, and this regulates what foods work well in our bodies, how well we respond to exercise, and a whole host of other things. Knowing how your genes are expressed allows you (with the right advisor) to make decisions on how to live, based on what works well for your unique body.
On this episode, we discuss:One take-home message from this podcast with David is this:
March to the beat of your own drum.
Every body is different.
Listen to your own body and learn what you need.
David's website is full of great content, and he offers multiple tiers of coaching for short term and long term goals. David-Krantz.com
Book a free 30 minute call with David here.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Wed, 24 Jul 2019 - 33 - #31 - The Initiation Of Young Men in Modern Times - with Brad Leslie
Brad Leslie was one of the founders of The Young Men's Adventure Weekend, an event that takes teens through a series of challenging adventures designed to draw out the qualities he will need as a man. The creation of the YMAW program was informed by numerous rites of passage from around the world, incorporating long-standing traditions in to a palatable journey for the young men of this era and culture.
Brad breaks down a number of definitions and key points in the work of initiating young men:
Initiation as a starting point. A lift-off point from which you cannot go back. A boy's journey from "Mom's world" to "man's world" and the journey in between. What initiation looks like in some indigenous cultures. Initiation - The transformation from needy & dependent to accountable & useful. What uninitiated men look like. What the initiated man looks like. A young man looking for camaraderie will join a team, a gang, or the military to initiate himself. The Boy Crisis - by Warren Farrell and John Gray The value of sports teams in building the character of young men. 3 steps in an initiation: Separation from community, Ordeal/Challenge, Return to community. The value of separating boys and girls to teach them about manhood and womanhood as they age. Michael Gurian's book - The Purpose of Boys. Why sex does not pass as an initiation in to manhood. How men drain their vital energy by getting in to co-dependent relationships. The simple way that men can connect with young men just by hanging out. The result of a culture that doesn't have elders. The odd story of how we lost our elders in the US and Canada. Elephants have elders too. Initiation for men who were never initiated - get in to self-development work and find a men's group. The ultimate cheat code to initiating yourself in to manhood - get in to service to your community.The Young Men's Adventure Weekend happens every July in the lower mainland area of Vancouver, BC, Canada. This event happens because men volunteer to make it happen, and young men aged 12-18 sign up.
Young men, go here to sign up for a life-changing experience.
Men, go here to be of service and transform how you see young men.
There are other events that happen in other corners of North America. The Young Men's Ultimate Weekend operates in California. They are at YMUW.org. There are others, and if you need help, reach out to the YMAW guys on the YMAW contact page.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Wed, 12 Jun 2019 - 32 - #30 - The Transformational Power of the Breath Wave - with Robin Clements
Robin Clements is a facilitator of an advanced transformational breath technique he calls The Breath Wave. This technique creates altered states of consciousness that can be as powerful and impactful as psychedelics like Ayahuasca and Psilocybin without many of the side effects.
Our modern nervous systems in the generalized anxious and disconnected state. The wave of interest in relaxation techniques that help people balance the nervous system. The loop between your nervous system and your breath. The basic method of Conscious Connected Breathing. The physical healing, cleansing, and detoxification that breath work can provide. Altered states of consciousness stimulated by breath work. Working with our unconscious (and with trauma) while doing breath work. The key to letting go and surrendering during the breathwave method. How control patterns show up in the breath. If you have issues with CONTROL, breath work can change your life. How the altered state can change your genes by bringing your body in to homeostasis. The benefits of lowering stress in your life (this cannot be overstated) How to do this practice in 5-10 minutes. Why you need to learn to listen to your body more as you get older. Why you'll want to find a trained teacher before doing a "full session" at 45-60 minutes. The tools you can use in a breath session to liberate stuck energy. How music is used as a powerful tool in a breath session. Boosting your daily energy with the use of a daily breath practice. How this work can prepare us for what is to come.
Robin has been studying and practicing with the human body for over two decades, and after receiving certifications in massage, energy work, and breath work, he developed a unified breath experience - one that has produced experiences for me that feel like a total re-birth.
This isn't something you need to fly across the world and devote thousands of dollars to learn or experience. It is available in bite sized chunks, in the comfort of your home, if you learn to do it well. In this episode, we discuss how people can develop a daily transformational breath practice that can be done in as little as 10-20 minutes.
Note for Wim-Hof Method practitioners: This is a different technique and requires different methods, for your safety. Do not do an 'out hold' after doing this method. Instead, stay with your breath but keep it slow, without holding.
On this episode, Robin discusses:Robin's website - Breathwave.net
Robin's pre-recorded Soundcloud breath journeys - Soundcloud/robin-clements
Deep Tissue organ massage, as mentioned on the show - James Bell at Our Healing Room.Still don't know what the breath wave is? Listen to the episode, and see Robin's words below:
‘The Breath Wave’ is an open and balanced self-practice of your own breath, flowing as a relaxed and continuous wave. This full respiratory breathing technique enhances the flow of oxygen and life force (prana) throughout the body and mind, slows down the patterns of the brain and the nervous system and cultivates a high vibrational frequency; facilitating vibrant health, mental and emotional clarity and a liberating connection with our higher self.“You are your own greatest healer and teacher” - Robin ClementsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Wed, 29 May 2019 - 31 - #29 Plant Medicines and Ayahuasca, With Maestro Hamilton Souther - A Next Generation Shaman
Hamilton Souther is a traditionally trained Ayahuasca and Tobacco Shaman who was born and raised in the United States. He received formal training in plant medicine work and now operates a retreat centre in Peru called Blue Morpho that offers healing retreats. In is episode we explore Hamilton's wild story and we explore the details of how plant medicines heal ailments like trauma, addiction, and other issues.
We discuss some of the unlikely events and wild occurrences that lead Hamilton down his path to Shamandom. We also talk candidly about "master plants", "plant dieta", and even the Cannabis plant and its role as a master plant.Connect with Hamilton:
Blue Morpho Retreat Centre - https://www.bluemorphotours.com
The Modern Shamanism course - modernshamanism.orgIf you liked this episode, watch out for Hamilton's podcast coming out soon, called The Blue Morpho Podcast.
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Wed, 03 Apr 2019 - 30 - #28 Codependency and Relationship Q & A - with Sheleana Aiyana
Sheleana Aiyana, founder of RisingWoman.com joins me for a conversation about codependency in relationships, as well as a Q & A about relationships where we answer questions from fans about our own realtionship.
What codependency can look like in relationship. How quiet resentment builds when you give the wrong things Covert agreements (6:00) Coming in to relationship not needing to perform in order to earn love Type 1 codependency - Codependency associated with addiction (10:50) The key to recovering from Type 1 codependency Type 2 codependency - The "special" relationship (16:00) When 2 people are codependent Codependency as an isolation mechanism of the ego (20:00) The "Nice Guy" and "Nice Gal" phenomenon (26:00) How fear or rejection prevents us from asking for what we want (30:00) Learning to accept your partner's "No" Developing a strong sense of self-love, so you can say no to partners who don't fit what you want (39:00) The moment when we broke up early in the relationship and how we dealt with it. (43:00) How to bring consciousness in to a hot discussion or a fight (47:30) Using relationship as a tool for your own self-discovery (49:00) Q & A about relationships. See below (56:00)
Codependency is a word that comes up in conversations about healthy/unhealthy relationships. It is a pattern that is prevalent in the relationships all around you, and perhaps in your own relationship. We explore this subject in detail, defining what codependency is and what it looks like in romantic relationships.
Some of the things we discuss in this episode:Healthy relationship tips from this episode:
Come in to relationship already deserving of love. This is a mindset. Ask for what you want - communicate your needs Set agreements consciously and verbally Allow emotions to flow in your relationship. Let it be messy. Learn to feel your own feelings, so you can hold space for your partner Use what happens in your relationship as an opportunity to learn about yourself and how your own mind works Disagreement does not equal rejection. Rejection doesn't have to crush you. Be willing to have your partner say "No" Learn to say No and then allow your partner to feel their feelings Develop self-love so you can turn down relationships that aren't a good fit for you. In hot discussions and fights - put 80% inward curiosity and 20% outward curiosity in the other person Remember that even in the most conscious relationships, there will be conflict. Your responsibility is to keep doing the work. If you want something in your relationship, bring the energy of that thing Take healthy space from each other, and use your community to give you energy instead of relying on each other for everything Women, nurture strong relationships with other women Men, build strong bonds with other men. Know what you want in relationships, and don't sell yourself out when choosing to move forward in a relationship. Boundaries are sexy Remember that you don't have to work out your relationship issues immediately. You can take space, and then come together and hold some space. Know when you can and can't hold spaceSheleana runs a program with Heather Pennell on Rising Woman called Heal Your Relationships. This is a program for women looking to do their inner work so they can attract the relationships they want.
Q & A Time - We answer the following:Should I wait for “the one” or spend time dating and trying out romantic relationships?
Where are all the “good ones”? Why do I only attract people who only want sex?
Personal Question: Were we both interested in relationship work and personal growth before we met?
Can space between partners be healthy? How can time apart be good for relationships?
What are the benefits of polyamory or non-manogamy versus monogamy?
How do I bring myself to my partner when things aren’t going well?
How do I hold space?
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Wed, 02 Jan 2019 - 29 - #27 Find Your Purpose with the Purpose Method - w/ Mike Muscari
Mike Muscari joins me for a discussion about purpose. We talk about how to cut a path in your life that is aligned with your heart’s desire and your mission in the world.
Mike’s personal story of finding success as a financial advisor, and the transformation that followed. The mid-life crisis that comes as a result of pursuing the illusion of success The power of writing down your goals and dreams Personal Development - learning about who you really are Creating purpose for your life will create a ripple of change The fear of change and our tendency to stay safe How to use a “faith-based approach” to address fear Purpose = Not what do you want to do, but WHO do you want to be in the world? Using your purpose to guide your choices Choosing the meaning for everything that happens in your life Inside-out approach VS an outside in approach The Purpose Method - uncovering one’s deepest values How to ask the right questions to reveal the themes that point to your purpose Resources in creating your own Purpose Constitution The purpose of the purpose method - Uncovering your highest and deepest values so you can live without regrets Creating a statement that guides your life Mike's upcoming trip across North America to interview people about purpose
In a world of infinite choice and many voices telling us what we should do, it is all too common to feel lost and directionless in our pursuit of purpose. The process of peeling away the “Shoulds” that have been placed on us by society is not easy. Mike has created a program to guide regular people through the process of uncovering and aligning with their purpose, so they can live an aligned life of fulfillment.
On this episode we coverBooks and resources
- Think And Grow Rich - by Napoleon Hill 17 Principles Of Success - by Napoleon Hill Wayne Dyer’s work on Purpose Dan Millman’s Books - peacefulwarrior.com/books/
Mike's LinksWebsite - Thepurposemethod.org
Instagram - instagram.com/thepurposemethod/
Mike's (amazing) Lyposomal Vitamin Company - Nano Nutra
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Wed, 31 Oct 2018 - 28 - #26 Find Your Unique Gift & Fulfill Your Dreams - with Jordan Gray
Its time to talk about purpose and fulfillment on the Evolving Man podcast. Jordan Gray- a sex and relationship coach who has written 10 books - joins me for an in-depth talk about how to find your unique gift and fullfill your dreams. We all face these big questoins in our lives:
"What am I here to do?"
"How can I do that thing I'm passionate about?"
"When should I make the move? "
When you're asking these questions, Jordan is the man with the fuel to dump on your fire. He helps his clients find their passion, find their 'why', and remove the barriers holding them back. He has written 500+ articles on relationships, sex, emotional intelligence, and masculinity, and he drops a whole dump truck of enthusiastic passion on this episode.We all want to live a life where we're creating every day and serving a cause that fulfills us. So many of us get stuck in the start-up phase of a new venture, facing obstacles like analysis paralysis, self-doubt, unrealistic expectations, and loss of energy. These things get in the way of achieving our goals, and they often keep us stuck in a “safe” position. We're left wondering how to get over the initial minefield of roadblocks that get in the way of our progress, stuck in a life of mediocrity.
If you want to dig deeper in to your purpose, find more passion in your life, and life a life of greatness, this one is for you. We'll outline the do's and don'ts of creating something that you’re passionate about.
If you need a pep talk to get you started on that thing you've been delaying forever, listen to this episode on repeat.
Creating a life where your work is your passion. It is possible for YOU. The trap of looking for the ultimate 'trick or hack' to get successful ASAP The Do's and Don'ts of starting a business centred around your passion "Abundance mindset" VS "scarcity mindset" The Lone Wolf - trading humility and relationship for ego, fast success, and isolation. Collaboration - the key ingredient in exponentially increasing the success of your endeavours. The paradox of success - the goal you thought you wanted was actually just a milestone on your path The antidote to lacklustre goal achievement - choosing larger more "unachievable" goals Start-up energy expenditure and how to deal with it The power of isolated lazer-focus The dangers of spreading yourself too thin Finding right things to focus on - aligning with your values Making space in your life for new results Inner work - overcoming the belief that you do not deserve success The two major ways that we sabotage our own progress - overinflation (narcissism) and underinflation (self-deprecation). Collusion - a way that we hold each other down and keep each other blind because we're afraid to be honest. The value of authentic relationships in finding the Truth in your life The danger of piggy-backing and copying the success of others Competing with yourself - Rather than competing and comparing to others - how other competitors and comparison will take you off target. Faith (the non-religious kind) - the antidote to the fear that holds you back. Finding a passion that aligns with your values, and pursuing it in a sustainable way.
On this episode we cover:This episode is packed full of useful quotes, inspirational tidbits, and loaded with wisdom for those who want to step further in to bringing their unique gifts to the world. Please share this with your friends and family who need it. We all need some motivation, inspiration, and a gentle push in the direction of our ultimate creation.
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Wed, 10 Oct 2018 - 27 - #25 Tuff Love - The Special Sauce of Intimate Relationship - with Robert Kandell
Robert Kandell, host of the Tuff Love podcast joins me for a conversation about how to have authentic relationships in business, social, and with romantic partners.
Bringing "tough love" and having tough conversations is not easy, and often uncomfortable, but the payoffs for the quality of your relationships is huge.
Robert has a new book our called unHIDDEN: A Book for Men and Those Confused by Them, and you can find that (and pre-order) on his website.Quick reference for this show, we cover:
The Junkyard dog - a real archetype that the world needs How to improve your self-esteem and find freedom How men remain hidden in the world Robert's 8 step process for UnHiding:- Confront - face the uncomfortable reality you've been avoiding Investigate - explore that reality. Find answers. Find sanity. Commit - Make a decision to DO something Design a strategy - make it achievable, don't white-knuckle it Complete the milestone - complete the cycle Celebrate - Actually celebrate, physically. Debrief - find our where you can restructure Repeat - Do another cycle
Robert's Bio:
Robert Kandell has spent the last 20 years helping people re-energize their lives and build better relationships and sex through more honest and authentic connection and communication.
After building a successful consulting firm in San Francisco, he then took his business acumen and co-founded One Taste (orgasmic meditation) with Nicole Daedone in 2004. Taking on the challenging task of bringing conscious sexuality to the mainstream market, Robert built the company from a paper napkin sketch to an 8-figure international corporation. He left OneTaste in 2014 to start his own consulting firm, Kandell Consulting, which helps small businesses become marketable and profitable.
Robert is also an accomplished teacher, coach, and lecturer with over 400 workshops under his belt. He also brings his enthusiasm and passion to his weekly podcast, Tuff Love podcast on subjects around relationships, intimacy, sex, communication and gender dynamics.
He also has written a book titled unHIDDEN: A Book for Men and Those Confused by Them
which will be released November 15th this year.robertkandell.com - preorder the book
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Wed, 26 Sep 2018 - 26 - Men's Shadow Work - with Phil Teertha Mistlberger
One of my favorite mentors, Phil Teertha Mistlberger joins me on the show to illuminate and discuss "the dark side of the masculine".
In a time where Toxic Masculinity is a common concept - and the outright rejection of that term being equally as prevalent - we need to have a productive conversation that helps us find our way to the other side.
Phil guides us in the direction of seeing the polarities of life and how we can use them to become fully integrated human beings. For men who want to learn about how to engage shadow work, this episode is for you.
Toxic Masculinity Wounding - the unmentored young man The story of Saturn - the tyranical male Why men fear success Unhealthy competition between men: How boys are often raised competing with each other for approval and attention The father vacuum - when a boy doesn't have enough contact with the father A man's resistance to power and success How unhealed relationships with power figures in your life holds you back Why men get stuck when they are full of tallent How to focus your attention to to counteract 21st Century Distracted Man Syndrome The extremes of competitiveness: extreme competitiveness, and denying it alltogether Shadow aspects VS the dark masculine forces Vanity and Pride as the two pillars of the ego Donald Trump - a poster boy for the dark father guru archetype; intollerance of criticism How your ego can co-opt your "personal growth" work, and use it against the world The key to discovering your shadow without being fooled by it --> Being witnessed by other men. How to break through your ego in a support group by seeking to give rather than receive. Why you need other people to do good shadow work 2 functions of a men's group: support, and leadership training Revealing the King inside you - learning what you have to give Why it is easier to receive feedback from a peer group than it is to receive feedback from your romantic partner. Why some guys trigger you more than others How to do shadow work on your own - be accountable for the people and the patterns that are in your life. The contrasts are there because you crave them. Befriending your shadow The dark side of the hero archetype Why engage in your inner work if your romantic partner isn't interested in it?
On this episode, we cover:Teertha's Books
The Inner Light A Rude Awakening - Perils, pitfalls, and hard truths of the spiritual path. The Three Dangerous Magi The Way of the Conscious Warrior, out early 2019Teertha's Website - www.ptmistlberger.com
Samurai Brotherhood - samuraibrotherhood.com
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Sat, 08 Sep 2018 - 25 - Holding Space - with Mark Groves
Mark Groves is a relationship and communication coach. We've previously discussed How To Be A Man , and wanted to dive in to the concept of "Holding Space". This is often regarded as something that is done in romantic relationships, where one partner sits with another while they are having an emotional process.
We outline the long definition of holding space, and the steps you can take to learn how to do it.On this episode we cover:
Resistance to getting feedback from your partner. What is Holding Space: Presence, compassion, open-ness. Consent - the importance of acknowledging that both people are ready and willing. Boundaries - saying "no" when you're not able to hold space. Step 1 - check in with yourself, see if you're ready and able Men's ability to connect to their own emotions How to find out what you're not good at The best way to learn how to connect to your emotions The art of separating your feelings from your partner's Step 2 - Prepare your inner space and open your heart Heart opening meditation. Not that hard. Self talk to help yourself be ready for space holding Bypassing and our tendency to look for shortcuts The quickest way through an emotion is to lean in to it. How to build trust: Rigorous honesty and personal boundaries. Step 3 - Accept the role, or say “no” and set a boundary Step 4 - Hold it Step 5 - Validate, Reflect. The results of successful space holding - closeness and ego dissolutionHow to find Mark:
Instagram: @createthelove
Website: markgroves.tv
Connor Beaton’s article on Holding SpaceSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Wed, 22 Aug 2018 - 24 - Healing Trauma and Altering Epigenetics w/ Doctor & Shaman - Joe Tafur
Dr. Joe Tafur has a unique story. While in medical school, in the midst of a low-point in his emotional life, he encountered the world of plant medicines through Peyote (and subsequently Ayahuasca) and found a whole other world-view of healing. After finishing medical school, he split his time between studying plant medicines in the jungle of Peru and practicing medicine in the United States. He is now a shaman, an author, and a doctor, sharing a unique view of healing that encompasses the physical along with the spiritual.
Joe's book, The Fellowship Of The River tells Joe's story along with other stories of shamans clearing up conditions like Chrones, Diabetes, Psoriasis, Addiction, and Trauma with plant medicines. He eloquently describes the methods shaman's use, and what parts of the body are being affected. Healing occurs at the level of DNA and epigenetics.In this episode we discuss:
Joe's book at its connection to The Cosmic Serpent, a book about healing at the level of one's DNA, and how Shaman's take their consciousness down to that level using Ayahuasca The link between emotional healing and physical healing Genes and the programming in them that interfaces with the environment, the epi-genome How environmental imprints can cause illness that looks "genetic" and permanent. Proof of how the epigenome can store and carry memories from one generation to the next. How trauma is stored in the body and needs to be released LOVE as the most powerful force for healing and health. The number 1 factor in healing through therapy Phenomenon: Mystical experiences healing physical addictions --> The spiritual solution The Psycho-Neuro-Endocrine-Immunologic network - the mind-body network that connects the mental, emotional, and spiritual. The role of spiritual healing in modern health care Joe's project to track epigenetic shifts in the physiology of participants in the MAPS trials that are happening with PTSD and MDMA healing.The Modern Spirit Project - modernspirit.org
Joe's Website - drjoetafur.com
Find Joe's book here on Amazon
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Wed, 08 Aug 2018 - 23 - How To Support Someone With An Addiction - SoloCast with Ben
"How do I help my sister/uncle/friend with his/her addiction? How can I support them without 'enabling' them?"
How to assess how ready someone is to change their behavior Ways to support someone who isn't yet contemplating quitting How to support someone who is ready to quit and make a change The balance of maintaining relationship while having boundaries Addiction as a physical, emotional, and spiritual illness Treating addiction from a "holistic" perspective The power of environment and social group on an addict The power of "hitting bottom" and what it means and how it works Interventions and sharing honestly about how someone's behavior affects you Stacking factors in an intervention to create a breakthrough for an addict Ego and its relationship to addiction Group recovery and the power of recovering together The power of 12 step programs - Fellowship + Structured Spiritual Program Objections to the 12 step program and classic smoke-screens The core of recovery: Community that supports recovery + spiritual principles Healing trauma as a path to healing the addiction Ayahuasca, Psilocybin, Ibogane and other psychedelics for treating addiction and healing trauma. "The Environmental Cure" and changing location to start over How to leverage your relationship with someone to help them in crucial moments
I get this question all the time, and the answer isn't simple, so I did a solocast to give this subject the long answer it deserves. This podcast is for those of you who have a loved-one or a close friend who is struggling with an addiction.
On this episode I cover:Resources to explore:
Dr. Gabor Mate's workDr. McCauley's presentation as addiction as a dis-ease
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Wed, 25 Jul 2018 - 22 - To Be A Man - with Mark Groves
Mark Groves, The Human Connection Specialist, joins me for another conversation about masculinity, relationships, and healing our wounds as a group.
Mark provides no BS relationship advice to men and women, drawing on his many years of experience and studies of relationships. He brings his blunt, funny, and outspoken style to our conversation.On this episode, we discuss:
Intro - Mark's Upcoming Podcast What "Be A Man" Means The old "masculinity". Time to redefine it. Childhood trauma, circumcision, and fighting for whats right "Men's Rights" - Why its not okay to speak about it The school system and why "all boys have ADD" The making of the "Nice Guy syndrome" How modern conflict-avoidant men end relationships The shaming of men, and how it wounds men further Shaming men for being sensitive How to build an emotionally cut-off man How not talking about sex makes our sex culture worse The "Me Too" movement and how it is a part of our healing Criticism and our critical culture Masculine and Feminine traits Toxic Masculinity and Toxic Femininity Societal shadow issues Holding space at an individual level, and societal level Men - learning to express emotion Leaning in to The New Masculinity The Masters Of The Universe Summit
Mark's Instagram - @createthelove
Mark's Website - markgroves.tv
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Wed, 27 Jun 2018 - 21 - Crisis of the Heart: Trauma, Addiction, and Healing - with Dr. Gerald Thomas
Gerald Thomas is a researcher and policy maker at the British Colubia Ministry of Health. He is the director of alcohol, tobacco, cannabis and gambling policy for the region. Despite working on government policy, he is not an average government worker. He has sat in ceremony with Ayahuasca and was also the head of the first observational study on Ayahuasca in the country which had quantitative and qualitative elements.
Gerald has been on the forefront of some of the psychedelic medicine research over the past decade and has built his own relationship with the substances he studies. His heart centered approach coupled with his passion for science and discovery makes him a powerful agent for change in the way we view drugs and plant medicines.
Cannabis policy and standards in the province The Ayahuasca research that changed the landscape How trauma is stuck in the body Why treating PTSD is so difficult How psychedelics like Ayahuasca can heal trauma Trust - as the key to facilitating healing Being comfortable with discomfort - another key to healing trauma & addictions Plant consciousness and Plant Spirits Psychedelic Assisted Therapy Healing trauma through feeling what hasn't been felt Soul Loss - losing a piece of yourself during a traumatic event Soul Retrieval - getting those pieces back Presence - Learning to stay present so healing can occur Tapping in to Flow as a guide in life Natural ways to connect to your source - Kundalini yoga, meditation, and breath work. Triggers of trauma and how to work with them The Crisis of the Heart we are facing now, and the call to healing The Fixing Culture - the tendency to commodify medicines
On this episode we cover:Professional Bio: Gerald Thomas is a Collaborating Scientist with the Centre for Addictions Research of BC, an Adjunct Professor in the Department of Psychology at University of British Columbia, and owner/operator of Okanagan Research Consultants. He received his Ph.D. in political science from Colorado State University in 1998 and has worked in the area of Canadian addiction policy since 2004. He served on the secretariat of the working group that created Canada’s first National Alcohol Strategy in 2007, worked on several national and provincial level projects related to substance use and addiction, and has published numerous peer-reviewed papers with leading researchers in the field. He lives with his family near Qualicum Beach, British Columbia, where he enjoys a variety of outdoor pursuits including mountain biking, hiking, and windsurfing.
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Wed, 02 May 2018 - 20 - Yoga Can Be The Hardest Thing You Ever Do - with Geoff MacKenzie
Geoff MacKenzie is a dedicated Ashtanga Yoga instructor at MysoreBc. On this episode, we discuss the importance of having a disciplined practice in your life, a practice that challenges your mind, and your body. We also talk about the top 3 things that have shaped Geoff's life.
Geoff is on a mission to raise money for a good cause - stopping human trafficking. He is riding his motorcyle accross Canada raising money for an organization that rescues women from traficking every day. A 20$ donation from a large number of people can make a huge difference. Help Geoff make $108,000!Jeff's webpage - www.mysorebc.com
Odanadi - The anti tracking activists in India at the heart of this movement.
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Tue, 17 Apr 2018 - 19 - Healing Through Conscious Relationship - with Sheleana Aiyana
Sheleana Aiyana is a writer and group facilitator in Vancouver, BC and she joins me to discuss the implications and importance of doing whats called "Deep Work" - looking inward to explore our consciousness in order to reclaim some of the territory usually dominated by the unconsciouss.
Trauma and blocked emotions How we unconsciously act out our trauma "Shadow aspects" and how they show up Why relationships are our biggest trigger How relationships can offer a powerful catalyst for healing our wounds Discipline of children through the withdrawal of love Healing through expressing what hasn't been allowed Needy-ness and Avoidance - two signs that you've got healing to do Deep work as a gateway to healthier relationships The Nice Guy phenomenon and how it affects men Conscious Relationship and learning to be in compassion and understanding Perseverance - The importance of staying in the game and moving towards your partner Triggers - How to deal with triggering your partner's wounds Shutting down when you're challenged - something that many men face with their partners For men: moving towards your partner when fear wants you to pull away Anxious and Avoidant types in relationships Rising Woman Sisterhood: Transpersonal group-work, family systems work, and the fellowship of women. The paradox of vulnerability Shadow work and accepting both sides of your existence How to unlock your gifts How men can support women's work. How to hold space for gender politics by doing your own work Collaboration VS Opposition in gender politics The masculine/feminine gender norms debate and how it can be a distraction from looking inward The #MeToo movement and how we can use MeToo to further our own inner work Sheleana's latest obsession: Satir Family Therapy The best Men's group in Vancouver - The Samurai Brotherhood
In this episode we discuss the growing movement of women's and men's groups that are involved with deep work, and how they are affecting huge changes in the lives of their members.
Shelena and I candidly share our own relationship patterns as a way of showing what we are learning about how relationships can derail, and how to be in "conscious relationship".
Topics we cover in this episode:Sheleana is a coach for women and relationships. Find her here
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Wed, 04 Apr 2018 - 18 - Your Life Is Bigger Than You Think w/ Naturopath Dr. Aaron VanGaver
Dr. Aaron VanGaver is a Naturopathic Doctor working with addicted people in downtown Vancouver, BC. He treats many of the people that we would classify as "classic addicts", but Aaron himself is also a living breathing example that addiction affects every population, even doctors.
Aaron has his own story of losing connection with himself, finding drugs as a solution, and then finding recovery and reconnection through a series of divine events. He now works exclusively with addicts in early recovery. He is a doctor working with the body, but also a counsellor, and a coach.
Aaron uses IV drips, vitamins, and amino acids to help the detoxification process. This can also can treat the post-acute-withdrawal symptoms, depression, and anhedonia that can accompany early recovery.
The biggest gift Aaron carries is the counselling he offers around shame, trauma, self-esteem, and most importantly, working with people on identifying their life's purpose. This unconventional approach gives his clients something to live for."I truly believe everyone has got a gift to give the world." -Dr. VanGaver
Aaron is on a mission to change how people talk about and understand addiction. He wants to reduce the stigma about addiction in our culture.
In this episode we cover:
Aaron's story of addiction and recovery HALT protocol - Hungry Angry Lonely Tired IV Vitamin Therapy Advanced IV Protocols for Addiction Recovery "The Shadow" and how it controls us How long it takes a brain to heal from Crystal Meth addiction Using psychedelics to addiction The Magic Bullet for treating addiction The importance of human connection in recovery - Rat Park How to deal with a family member who is addictedCheck out Dr. VanGaver's website
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Wed, 21 Mar 2018 - 17 - Out of the Shadows - On Porn and Sex Addiction with Sam Platts
Sam Platts is a certified Sex Addiction Therapist practicing in Alberta, Canada. He knows the world of addiction inside and out. In this episode he candidly shares his story of growing up in a troubled home, and finding addictive patterns early in his life. On his journey, he ended up in some very scary places.
Sam has emerged on the other side of his struggles and is now giving back to people in need. He has a deep knowledge of sex addiction and the therapeutic techniques for recovery. He shared with me some of the keys to recovery from sex addiction and other addictions.
Keys to recovery:1. COME CLEAN - You have to bust yourself. Come out of the shadows, and in to the light. This is a necessary part of the process. You cannot recover in a vacuum.
2. ABSTINENCE - Learn what abstinence means for you and define it clearly.
3. COMMUNITY - Find one. Sharing in the story reduces the shame. When you connect with others, you gain the power to overcome your blocks. 12 step support groups are great for this.Get a counsellor, mentor, or sponsor.
4. MENTORSHIP Get a counsellor, mentor, or sponsor.
5. INTIMACY - Allow the above to change you as you regain the ability to be intimate in your life.
You can reach Sam at info@figure8counsellingservices.ca
Resources for sex addicts: www.sexhelp.com
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Thu, 08 Mar 2018 - 16 - Recover From Addiction and THRIVE - with Jordan Gray
In this episode, my friend Jordan Gray joins me for a conversation about addiction, recovery, and healing the wounds that bind us. Jordan's wealth of experience and knowledge comes clear in this engaging conversation about whataddiction really is, and how some people are able to treat it and recover.
Jordan is a sex and relationship coach who helps his clients zero in on whats holding them back, and at lightning speed. He is a no BS coach who gets straight to the root of an issue without delay. He can do in 1 hour what some therapists take 100 hours to do, which is why he is in such high demand. Check out his coaching page at jordangrayconsulting.com/work-with-jordan/
Jordan is a recovering sex addict, and he is a powerful coach for people looking for support in their recovery. Jordan's story is a raw and inspiring message of hope for those suffering from addiction.In this episode we cover:
What qualifies as an addiction? Habit vs Dependency vs Addiction Sex addiction and how it compares to drug addictions Cannabis/Marijuana addiction The 5 elements of holistic addiction recoverySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Wed, 21 Feb 2018 - 15 - Change Your Habits, Change Your Life - with Nick Solaczek
What does it take to create lasting change? What are the elements that help a man succeed at building the life he wants?
In this episode, Nick Solaczek and I distill the key factors that help a man rise to his highest potential.
We discuss:- VISION
- Hard Work
- knowing your WHY
- doing DEEP WORK
- finding support from COMMUNITY.
- The seductive trap of booze, women, games, and porn.
- Marijuana and the brain fog that can come with it.
This episode is packed full of personal stories and relatable examples of personal growth.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Wed, 07 Feb 2018 - 14 - Wilderness Experiential Therapy for Addiction with Will Black
Will black is a wilderness guide who takes young men out in to the mountains of Alberta as a treatment for addiction. He works for a treatment camp called Shunda Creek, which is a 90 day government funded program for men aged 18-25. The program uses curated experiences combined with intention to carve new pathways in the brain.
Will has a wealth of experience in activating change mechanisms in his clients, through challenge in the wilderness.Topics covered in this podcast:
The value of wildnerness therapy and the original classroom Experience as a doorway to embodiment Trauma locked in to the body What does an empowering experience do in the body Addiction: Choice vs. Disease - Dr. Kevin McCauley Addiction and reward system dysregulation Serotonin and the benefits of recovering from something together. Adventure Thresholds: How to design an experience to create optimal change through perceived risk. Aligning attention with intention to match consciousness with the unconsciousness The 3 brains: Reptilian, Mamillian, Human Stigma and the shaming of addiction Mindfulness and the key to rewiring the mindSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Wed, 24 Jan 2018 - 13 - Burnout, Recovery, And The Dopamine Train - Steve Parr
Steve and I discuss the classic "burnout then recover" pattern that many men fall in to. We talk about "the dopamine train" and how many of us get caught spending 99% of our time chasing small dopamine hits. This kind of behavior can be unconscious and harmful to a man achieving his goals. We discuss ways of breaking out of the patterns that hold us back.
Free will or no free will Breaking out of the patterns that seem unconscious The power of making small yet important choices every day The importance of mentors, guides, and coaches.
Topics covered in this episode:
Steve is a cryptocurrency lawyer, the Co-Founder of Heart Homes Travel, and a coach. He helps new businesses in the cryptocurrency space lay their legal foundations. https://www.parrbusinesslaw.com/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Wed, 10 Jan 2018 - 12 - The 3 Pillars of Health with Dr. Jason Marr ND
Jason Marr is a Naturopath doctor in Vancouver, BC. His practice - Evoke Medicine - addresses the holistic health of the individual, with a tailored approach to medicine. He strives for "Integrative Health" with each of his patients, drawing on the best of various healing modalities.
In this episode we talk about:-The caffeine gene
-Diet and Nutrition, and the difference between them
-Nutrigenomics and leveraging DNA testing to maximize productivity
-The refuelling principle.
-Nootropics, optimization, and BDNF
Jason Marr's website is www.evokemedicine.com
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Wed, 29 Nov 2017 - 11 - Matthew Stillman - Men's Work With Depth
Matthew Stillman has been doing men's work since he was a young man. He has worked directly with influential figures such as Robert Bly, David Deita, and Mantak Chia. In his years of experience, Matthew has gained wisdom in traditions that are uncommon for the average man.
Join us as we discuss Matthew's latest men's group which contains some novel structures that breathe life in to the group. Matthew's website - stillmansays.com
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