Men, Sex & Pleasure with Cam Fraser

From episode #59 with Dex Parker. More from that episode:

- Dex shares about his journey

- What is sex work?

- Experiences of a male sex worker

- Erotic content creation

- Alternative expressions of male sexuality

- Discussing pornography

- Advice for exploring your sexuality

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Oli Jenkinson. Oli embarked on his Breathwork journey over 5 years ago amidst the stress of his corporate job, discovering its power to activate his parasympathetic nervous system. Through intuitive exploration and formal training in Bali, he delved deeper into Conscious Connected Breathing, experiencing profound emotional releases that transformed his life. Combining his personal journey with professional training, he founded Alchemy Breathwork, dedicated to guiding others in emotional healing and resilience. Rejecting hyper-spiritualism, Oli's approach emphasizes practical, sustainable growth, helping individuals navigate and process emotions for a fulfilling life. His mission is to provide a space where people can authentically heal and thrive.

Key Points:

- Oli introduces himself

- Breathwork, catharsis, and surrender

- Breathwork at home

- The energetics of breathwork

- Breathwork for men

- Engaging the throat, diaphragm, and perineum

Relevant links:

Oli’s website: https://www.alchemybreathwork.com.au/

Oli’s Instagram: @alchemy.breathwork

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From episode #58 with Yuval Mann.

More from that episode:

- Yuval talks about his life journey

- Orthodox Judaism and sexuality

- Relationship with God

- Defining sacredness

- Overcoming sexual blockages

- How transformation happens

- Push vs Pull

- “Good” stress and excitement

- Emotional regulation

- Working with single men

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Gabriella de Mori. Gabriella is a registered counsellor with a Masters Degree in Counselling who thrives on coaching women from emotional overwhelm to self-confidence so they learn to trust themselves to take care of their inner world with grace. Based in Fremantle, Perth she operates a successful private practice offering a variety of dynamic and holistic services that include individual counselling, couples counselling, group courses and coaching, a meditation library and digital resources she has created.

Key points:

- Gabriella introduces herself

- Social media and not feeling “good enough”

- Meditating and self-esteem

- Mindfulness as foreplay

- Dating, feeling sexy, and anxiety

- Unrealistic expectations

Relevant links:

Gabriella’s Instagram: @gabriella.de.mori

Gabriella’s website: https://www.gabriellademori.com/

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From episode #57 with Dexter Kendrick.

More from that episode:

- Dexter introduces himself

- Eastern Medicine vs Western Medicine

- Penis heath

- Fertility and conception

- Changing your diet for sexual health

- Prostate health

- Mediumship and sexuality

- Telling people about their future

- Practicing Chinese Medicine as a Black man

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Sureya Leonara. Sureya is a Holistic Sex & Relationship Coach and Writer. She is on a mission to change the world through healing and liberating sexuality, the seed of our creation, in a way that permeates every area of our lives, not just the bedroom. With eloquence, depth, playfulness, unconventional insight, and penetrating intuition, she catalyses profound shifts in the lives of her clients and audiences.

Key points:

- Sureya introduces herself

- Expanding definitions of pleasure and somatic awareness

- Cultivating curiosity, experimentation, and a no-pressure approach to sex

- Supporting partners through mutual understanding and non-linear intimacy

- Addressing performance anxiety and the mind-body connection

Relevant links:

Sureya’s website: www.sureyaleonara.com

Sureya’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sureya_leonara

Sureya’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sureyaleonara

Sureya's free practice: https://blue-block-67264.myflodesk.com/nxsyaw1wyh

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From episode #56 with Lauren White.

More from that episode:

Lauren shares the evolution of her message

What does it mean to be sexually confident?

The way we talk about masturbation and sex

The problem with being “good in bed”

Embodying your pleasure

Learning to communicate

Comfortability and sexual confidence

Your body is a playground

Advice for women

Advice for men

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I discuss and debunk some of the major claims made by semen retention practitioners. I also share some opinions about semen retention as well as my own personal experiences and the approach I take with clients.

Key Points:

- Testosterone

- Depression

- Zinc

- Nutrition

- The body

- Premature aging

Relevant links:

Cam's blog: https://cam-fraser.com/blog/

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From episode #55 with Asa Baav.

More from that episode:

- Asa shares about her agency, Tailor Matched

- Matchmaking vs Coaching

- What is sexual compatibility?

- Collecting information about our sexual desires

- Approaching conversations about sexual function

- Dating: Don’t waste your time

- Who is using matchmaking services?

- Expanding the dating pool

- The stigma of using a matchmaking service

- Emphasizing connection over appearance

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Daz Alexandra Tendler (she/they/he). Daz is a sex-and-body-positive sexologist holding membership with the Society of Australian Sexologists. With an understanding that everyone’s sexual and relationship desires and needs are unique and diverse, she ensures her non-judgemental and compassionate practice focuses foremost on individual well-being. Daz is trans, queer and neurodiverse – through personal experiences with ethnicity and religion, class, gender and sexual diversity, and neurodiversity, they know how important it is to nurture safe, supportive spaces for marginalised minorities, particularly LGBTQIA+ individuals and those with ADHD and autism.

Key points:

- Daz introduces himself

- Defining ADHD

- ADHD symptoms and impacts

- ADHD and sexual dysfunction

- Managing ADHD through lifestyle and medication

- Supporting a partner with ADHD

Instagram: @daztranstender

Instagram: @sexspaceau

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/daztender/

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From episode #54 with Shaft Uddin.

More from that episode:

- Shaft introduces himself as the “Wim Hof of Tantra”

- Portraying Tantra in the mainstream media

- Living in the Tantra bubble

- Lineages and finding your own path

- Shaft’s personal daily practice

- What is an injaculation?

- Conscious ejaculation and consecration

- Ejaculation shaming and non-ejaculatory orgasm

- What does a non-ejaculatory orgasm feel like?

- Researching multiple orgasms for men

- “I love my life, I love my body, I love myself”

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Jo Milios, Ph.D. Jo is a Physiotherapist with a special interest in Men’s Health, Yoga, and Pilates. Since establishing a Men’s Health service in 2005, she has treated over 3000 prostatectomy patients, over 500 chronic pelvic pain patients, and 100’s of men with Erectile Dysfunction. Among achievements such as delivering Men’s Health courses to Physiotherapists in Australia, England, Ireland, Portugal, New Zealand, and South Africa, Jo also established PROST! Exercise 4 Prostate Cancer, a not-for-profit community education and exercise program for men in 2012.

Key Points:

- Jo introduces herself

- Prostate health protocols

- Kegels vs Reverse Kegels: Pelvic floor exercises

- Prostatectomy recovery

- Shockwave therapy for erectile dysfunction

- The importance of intimacy

Relevant links:

Jo’s website: http://www.menshealthphysiotherapy.com.au/

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From episode #53 with Ginger Jen.

More from that episode:

- Ginger shares some of her story

- Ginger explains what ADHD is

- Strategies for getting into your body

- How do people with ADHD express their sexuality?

- ADHD and sexual rejection

- Communicating with a partner who has ADHD

- ADHD and high risk sexual behaviour

- Ginger shares about her diagnosis with ADHD

- The intersection of escorting and ADHD

- Working with men in the sexuality space

- The women who sell sex and men who buy it

- Online coaching and final thoughts

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Tyson Adams. Tyson is a trauma-informed IFS men’s coach, somatic bodyworker, and psychedelic facilitator. After spending 20 years addicted to pornography, he outgrew it seven years ago and has found his passion and purpose in helping other men master their lifeforce energy. He also co-facilitates men’s work leadership intensives and works with couples experiencing intimacy challenges. When he’s not working, you’ll catch him on a rock wall or riding a slackline in sunny San Diego.

Key points:

- Tyson reintroduces himself

- Defining mindfulness

- Benefits of mindful masturbation

- Challenges to mindful masturbation

- Mirror work and embodiment

- Psychedelic experiences and self-pleasure

Relevant links:

Tyson’s Instagram: @tysonadams__

Tyson’s website: https://linktr.ee/tysonadams

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From episode #52, a solo episode with just Cam.

More from that episode:

Introduction to and intentions for the conversation I understand the harm some porn has caused Anti-Porn vs Pro-Porn vs Anti-Anti-Porn What is porn? The problem with definitions The problem with the “porn is a drug” analogy Thought experiment: Where do you draw the line Operation Spanner and private sex groups Mainstream vs Ethical (Feminist) porn Messages, escalation, addiction, exploitation --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/cam-fraser/message

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Dr. Peter White from Bondimedical. Dr. White has over ten years experience treating patients in his practice, using non-invasive orthopaedic medical devices to improve confidence and quality of life. He has successfully treated numerous conditions, including Peyronie’s disease, side effects from urological surgery, and male enhancement.

Key points:

- Dr. White introduces himself

- Penile curvature treatment

- Using Phallosan Forte safely and effectively

- Expected results and longevity

- Addressing other penile health concerns

- Customer service emphasis

Relevant links:

Phallosan Forte website: https://www.phallosan.com.au/

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From episode #51 with Dr. Joe Kort.

More from that episode:

- Dr. Kort shares about his practice as a therapist

- Heteroflexible and homoflexible

- Discussing Jane Ward’s book, Not Gay

- Bisexual erasure

- Queering heterosexuality

- “Your anus doesn’t have a sexual orientation”

- Fragile masculinity

- Working with couples in therapy

- Wives’ experiences with heteroflexible men

- Sexual fluidity for men and women

- Practical advice for men

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Dr. Judson Brandeis. Dr. Brandies has been voted Top Urologist in the San Francisco Bay Area by San Francisco Magazine from 2014 to 2020. In February 2019, he opened his office in San Ramon, where he focuses his practice entirely on Men’s Sexual Health and Rejuvenation. Dr. Brandeis is the National Director of Clinical Excellence for GAINSWave and created and runs the SWEET Study, the largest study of Shockwave Therapy for erectile dysfunction ever performed. Dr. Brandeis is also a national sexual medicine educator who has run weekend educational seminars all around the United States.

Key points:

- Dr. Brandeis introduces himself

- Erectile dysfunction treatment options

- Low intensity shockwave therapy

- Penile enhancement

- Erection variability and hard flaccid condition

- Risks and adverse effects

Relevant links:

Dr. Brandeis’ website: https://brandeismd.com/

Dr. Brandeis’ Instagram: @judsonbrandeismd

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From episode #50 with Emily Claire.

More from that episode:

- Emily shares about her journey from Law to Tantra

- Mentoring with John Wineland

- Healing your relationship with men

- A woman’s experience working with men

- Mix-gendered spaces: Learning from other genders

- “Fuck and Kill to Consciousness”

- What are men’s natural desires?

- Integrating the animal part of ourselves

- Masculine and Feminine Energy

- Fight, Flight, Freeze, Feed and Fuck

- Practical advice for men wanting to begin this work

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I share an audio recording of one of my sexuality seminars. The title of this sexuality seminar is, "Presence and Masculine Sexuality. If you're interested in learning more, head to my website and check out what else I have on offer.

Key points:

- Who am I?

- What do I mean by "presence"?

- Practical tools for being more present

- What does "masculine sexuality" mean?

- Practical tools for embodying your masculinity

- An invitation to explore more

Relevant links:

Cam's website: www.cam-fraser.com

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From episode #49 with Johnathan White.

More from that episode:

- Johnathan shares about his teachings

- Creating your own personal practice

- Learning to listen to your body

- Your first non-ejaculatory ogasm

- Techniques for non-ejaculatory orgasms

- Mantak Chia’s “Million Dollar Point” technique

- Obsessing over and redefining orgasm

- The importance of non-sexual practices

- Semen retention and NoFap

- The energetics of ejaculation

- Conscious ejaculation vs semen retention

- Testicle breathing practice

Relevant Links:

Johnathan’s Instagram: @sexual.kungfu

Johnathan’s YouTube: Sexual Kung Fu

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Dr. Kate Balestrieri, a licensed clinical and forensic psychologist, certified sex therapist, founder of the therapy practice Modern Intimacy, and host of the Get Naked with Dr. Kate podcast. She helps people live more fulfilled lives by shattering stigma and erasing shame.

Key Points:

- Kate introduces herself

- Inequalities in emotional labour

- Addressing inequalities through communication

- Emotional labour and mental load

- Practical steps for individuals and couples

Relevant links:

Kate’s website: https://www.modernintimacy.com/

Kate’s Instagram: @themodernintimacy

Kate’s TikTok: @drkatebalestrieri

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From episode #48 with Tyran Mowbray.

More from that episode:

- Tyran shares some of his story

- What men talk about when they get together

- The flaws in taking back your power

- Men in the sexuality space

- “Fellahs, is it gay to talk about having sex with women?”

- Being a conscious man in a relationship

- Saying “No” and asserting boundaries

- Men can’t be raped

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Chad Braverman. Chad is the CCO and COO of Doc Johnson, a billion dollar sex toy company founded by his father in 1976. Chad has propelled Doc Johnson into the spotlight with cutting-edge technology and products. He is challenging societal norms and transforming the sex toy industry which is often shrouded in secrecy.

Key Points:

- Chad introduces himself

- Doc Johnson history and products

- Chad's experience joining the family business

- Shifting social attitudes towards sex toys

- Future plans for Doc Johnson

- Challenges of being a father in the industry

Relevant links:

Doc Johnson’s Website: https://docjohnson.com/home

Doc Johnson’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/docjohnsonusa/?hl=en

Doc Johnson’s X: https://twitter.com/TheOriginalDoc

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From episode #47 with Dr. Martha Tara Lee.

More from that episode:

- Martha shares about her studies and travels

- How Martha’s work is received in Singapore

- Singaporean culture and sexuality

- Working with “Asian cultural values” in sex therapy

- The stigma of being an Asian woman sex therapist

- Ancient Eastern sexual practices

- Who is teaching Tantra and Neotantra?

- Using Asian culture to make money

- Exploring cultural teachings and honouring your ancestry

Relevant links:

Martha’s Website: www.eroscoaching.com

Martha’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/eroscoaching

Martha’s YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/drmarthalee

Martha’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/leemartha/

Martha’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmarthalee/

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Ella D’Aloia. Ella is a holistic sex coach, specialising in female sexuality, a yoni massage therapist and registered nurse. Ella's mission in life is to connect women back to their bodies, sexuality and pleasure. She is also deeply passionate about working with men in this space, educating them on female bodies, pleasure and menstrual cycles.

Key points:

• Ella introduces herself

• The gap in knowledge between nursing and holistic practices

• Yoni massage's healing benefits

• Self-pleasure to enhance intimacy and reduce anxiety

• Approach your partner's genitals with respect, curiosity, and consent

• Reclaiming stigmatized words for genitals

• Men's erotic journeys and the importance of shared learning

• The need for ongoing sexual education

Relevant links:

Ella’s Instagram: @ella_daloia_

Ella’s website: www.ella-daloia.com

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From episode #46 with Georgia Grace.

More from that episode:

- Georgia shares about her work

- Being in a sex-positive bubble

- Managing boundaries and online harassment

- Innovative sex-tech and new products

- The Arcwave Ion and Pleasure Air™ Technology

- Changing the way men masturbate

- Using sex toys to enhance pleasure

- Outdated science about sexuality

- Updating understandings about male pleasure

- Cultivating your curiosity

Relevant links:

Georgia’s Instagram: @gspot._

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure I chat with Tyson LaRone. Tyson is a Martial Arts Instructor, Strongman competitor and Monster Energy Drink Enthusiast who TikToks about politics, history, philosophy, society and generally trying to affect positive change however he can.

Key points:

- Tyson introduces himself

- Parenting philosophies

- Validating emotions in parenting and martial arts instruction

- Contradictory models of masculinity

- The harms of an exploitative view of relationships

- Finding fulfillment through honest self-reflection

Relevant links:

Tyson’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thewarriorphilosopher

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From episode #45 with Dominick Quartuccio.

Key Points from that episode:

- Dominick shares some of this story

- The final straw before rehab

- Sex Addicts Anonymous

- Is sex addiction real?

- Defining addiction and relapse

- Religion and negative attitudes towards sex

- Reframing your relationship with sex

- Talking to men about sex

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Dr. James B. Stein. Dr. Stein is an Assistant Professor at Utah Tech University with a specialization in interpersonal communication. He has published over a dozen peer-reviewed journal articles, which can be found on his professional website JamesBstein.com. In addition to his work as a teacher and scholar, Dr. Stein can be found on social media (specifically, TikTok) under the username "J3wcifer." On that platform, Dr. Stein aims to distil complex relational, political, and pop-culture centred topics.

Key points:

- Dr. Stein introduces himself

- What is the “Manosphere?”

- The core of Red Pill ideology

- Exploiting vulnerable men

- Community, guidance, and personal development

- Andrew Tate and Jordan Peterson

- Exiting the manosphere

Relevant links:

Dr. Stein’s website: www.jamesbstein.com

Dr. Stein’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@j3wcifer

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#197 The Eunuch: The First Incel Novel

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Charles Fischer, the author of The Eunuch—a darkly comic novel set in Babylon during the reign of Nebuchadnezzar II. Told from the point of view of Nergal, a eunuch slave-scribe who keeps the secrets of the king’s harem, the book is a tale of depravity and love in a time of imperial decline. Charles Fischer holds degrees from St. Olaf College, Harvard Divinity School, and the University of Washington. He lives in Seattle with his wife, Lisa, and teaches writing and humanities at Everett Community College in Washington. The Eunuch is his first novel.

Key Points:

- Charles introduces himself

- "The Eunuch": Journey of a decade's creation

- Babylon invasion story through a eunuch's eyes

- Nergal's struggle with masculinity and isolation

- Sublimating desires into art through writing

- Importance of community in personal growth

- Exploring love's forms: eros, philia, agape

- Finding love in unexpected places and forms

Relevant links:

Charles’ Twitter: https://twitter.com/cfischer2

Charles’ novel: https://www.gabbrohead.com/the-eunuch

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Harvey Laguerre. Harvey is a 49 year old, stay-at-home dad of 4. The emergence of Covid-19 led to the creation of a relationship podcast with his wife, called Love is Black. The success of that podcast emboldened him to create his own. Men Are The P.R.I.Z.E. Podcast is the result of years of learning what it means to be a man in the world today. The definition of masculinity has changed drastically and not for the better. Attributes that were once manly, are now toxic. What has not changed is the lack of safe spaces for men to express their emotions. Being a vulnerable man is not celebrated like it should be. This podcast is that safe space for men to open up and reveal their inner monologue. This podcast is the what, where, when, why and how of manhood.

Key points:

- Harvey introduces himself

- Damaging stereotypes impact black men's lives

- Need for safe spaces to express vulnerability

- Self-accountability leads to empowerment and growth

- High suicide rates, isolation during holidays

- Stereotypes affect black boys' and teens' identity

- Societal pressure limits emotional expression in men

- Importance of culturally relatable therapists and coaches

Relevant links:

Harvey’s website: www.HarveyLaguerre.com

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Jeddy Azuma. Jeddy is the Founder of The Rising Man Movement, a Wilderness Rites of Passage Guide, and Men’s Leadership Mentor & Coach. Since 2008, Jeddy has been in the field of Men’s Empowerment and mentored a wide-range of men: from High-Powered Tech Founders and Corporate Leaders to hard-working family men and vision-driven millennials. He has impacted the lives of thousands of men on his mission to initiate an entire generation into purpose-driven leadership. Despite his achievements, he considers his most important roles in life to be Father and Husband.

Key points:

- Jeddy introduces himself

- Rites of passage and life transitions

- Absence of traditional rites

- Educating children

- Traditional status symbols vs materialism

- Engaging with other cultures

- Exploring personal growth

Relevant links:

Jeddy’s Instagram: @jeddyazuma

The Rising Man Movement’s Instagram: @risingmanmovement

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Jasper Brown. Jasper is a men’s coach whose work has guided hundreds of men to embody a conscious approach towards masculinity. For almost a decade, he has dedicated himself to facilitating the evolution of men through embodied masculinity, finding a higher purpose, and healing their relationships.

Key Points:

- Jasper introduces himself

- Jasper’s journey overcoming premature ejaculation

- Jasper’s most important insights

- Practices for overcoming premature ejaculation

- The power of a supportive partner

- Advice for couples

Relevant links:

Jasper’s Instagram: @awakened_eros

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Dr. Holly Richmond. Dr. Richmond is a Somatic Psychotherapist, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (LMFT), Certified Sex Therapist (CST) and Certified Sex Therapy Supervisor. She sits on the Clinical Board of Directors for Dame Products, and is the Associate Director of Modern Sex Therapy Institutes. This unique combination of credentials enables her to focus on clients’ cognitive processes as well as mind-body health. Her book Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex-Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life is an innovative look at both somatic and psychological factors in survivors’ erotic recovery.

Key points:

- Dr. Richmond introduces herself

- Sexual health and pleasure

- Trauma and gender differences

- Practices for reclaiming pleasure

- Supporting a partner after trauma

- Advice for couples

Relevant links:

Dr. Richmond’s website: www.drhollyrichmond.com

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Maxi Xie. Maxi is a relationship counsellor and sex therapist. They’re here to infuse you and your partner’s journey with deeper love, heightened passion, and profound understanding. Maxi is bilingual and fluent in both Mandarin and English. They’re proudly kink and fetish-friendly, as well as poly-friendly, and aim to create a judgment-free space for you and/or your partner to explore desires, pleasure and much more. Maxi is also a strong advocate for the multicultural LGBTQIA+ community. Maxi’s genuine passion lies in guiding and uplifting those in multicultural relationships, helping them navigate the beautiful tapestry of love.

Key points:

- Maxi introduces himself

- Asian cultural considerations

- Asian men and masculinity

- Anatomy and aggression

- Restrictive gender norms

- Cultural competency

Relevant links:

Maxi’s profile: https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/counselling/maxi-xie-collingwood-vic/923851

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Shana James. For 15 years Shana has coached more than a thousand leaders, CEOs, authors, speakers and people with big visions who step into more powerful leadership, start and grow businesses, create more effective teams, increase their impact, get promoted, find love, rekindle spark, create a legacy, and become more personally inspired and fulfilled. Referred to as a secret weapon, Shana cuts through distraction and provides direct access to your confidence, power and clarity. She is also a translator between women and men, providing effective tools to transform conversations and dynamics that have gone awry into connection and collaboration.

Key points:

- Shana introduces herself

- Creating safety for men

- Conversations about sex

- The importance of curiosity

- Prioritising pleasure

- Practical advice for couples

Relevant links:

Shana’s website: https://shanajamescoaching.com/

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Tyson Adams. Tyson is a trauma-informed IFS men’s coach, somatic bodyworker, and psychedelic facilitator. After spending 20 years addicted to pornography, he outgrew it seven years ago and has found his passion and purpose in helping other men master their lifeforce energy. He also co-facilitates men’s work leadership intensives and works with couples experiencing intimacy challenges. When he’s not working, you’ll catch him on a rock wall or riding a slackline in sunny San Diego.

Key points:

- Tyson introduces himself

- The relationship between porn and shame

- Being introduced to spiritual sexual practices

- What Tyson sees as the problem of VR porn

- Masturbation behaviours and porn escalation

- Semen retention and conscious ejaculation

- The importance of self-pleasure

Relevant links:

Tyson’s Instagram: @tysonadams__

Tyson’s website: https://linktr.ee/tysonadams

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Eve Milford, The Sober Sex & Relationship Coach. Eve is also a certified Somatic Attachment Therapist, Women's Pelvic Health Specialist, and Reiki Master. In 2015, her journey of recovery from addiction paved the way for her incredible transformation. Eve's path to sobriety unveiled a profound link between her own trauma and her experiences in sex, love, and relationships. This revelation ignited her passion to guide others through these intricate aspects of human connection. With her extensive expertise and trauma-informed coaching, Eve specialises in working 1:1 with individuals impacted by toxic relationships and offers 1:1 and group coaching for those in sobriety facing challenges with sexuality and intimacy. She is also the host of the "Relationships in Recovery" podcast.

Key Points:

- Eve introduces herself

- Eve's journey from addiction to self-worth

- Alcohol's impact on intimacy and well-being

- Challenges and insights from sobriety transition

- Addiction, substance use, and harm minimization

- Reconnecting with sensuality, safety in sobriety

- Consent complexities in intoxication, altered states

- Importance of bodily connection for consent

Relevant links:

Instagram: @e.v.erhealing

Website: https://www.everhealing.com.au/

Podcast: Relationships in Recovery

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Esther and William Diplock. Esther and William are senior trainers and facilitators for Gender Equity and Reconciliation International (GERI), as well as program coordinators for the GERI work in Australia. They are two of the co-authors of the book ‘Gender Equity and Reconciliation: Thirty Years of Healing the Most Ancient Wound in the Human Family’. Alongside this, Esther and William are Individual & Couple Therapists, Educators and Supervisors, in their company ResonanceTogether. And have been practicing therapists for over 50 years combined.

Key points:

- Esther and William introduce themselves

- What does equity and reconciliation mean?

- The importance of multi-gender spaces

- Mitigating conflict and competition

- Religion and patriarchy

- Advice for moving forward

Relevant links:

GERI website: https://www.genderreconciliationinternational.org/

Esther and William’s website: https://www.resonancetogether.com.au/

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Ella Hall. Ella is an intuitive coach and leader in her field who supports high-performance professionals and entrepreneurial men and women quantum leap their current results in life, love and business by stepping into Masculine and Feminine Alignment (the integration of their heart, mind and sexual energy) – so they can take back their authentic power, break through the glass ceiling, live a life of meaning, leave a legacy and dramatically increase their impact and their revenue.

Key points:

- Ella Introduces herself

- Archetypal male clients

- Embodying sexual energy

- Leaky vs Creepy vs Needy

- Having integrity with sexual energy

- Communicating and expressing

Relevant links:

Ella’s Instagram: @Ellahallcoach

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Toya Ricci, BSocSc(Psych), PgDipCEAT, MSexol. Toya is a sex therapist and sexuality educator who passionately believes in embracing, nurturing, and creatively expressing sexuality as a fundamental component of overall health and wellbeing. Drawing on a solid background in counselling, psychology, and creative & experiential arts therapy, Toya brings a diverse range of experience and skills to her practice. She adopts an inclusive and eclectic approach, incorporating therapeutic frameworks such as existentialism, cognitive-behavioural therapy, compassion-focused therapy, and solution-focused therapy. This allows her to provide compassionate support to individuals and couples as they navigate the challenges of modern sexuality, sexual performance, intimacy, connection, dating, relationships, and sexual expression throughout their lives.

Key points:

- Toya introduces herself

- Perceptions about pleasure

- Pleasure practices throughout history

- The importance of historical context

- What does it mean to decolonise pleasure?

- Learning and unlearning

Relevant links:

Toya’s Instagram: @toya.ricci

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with anti-racism educator and American historian Kokayi Nosakhere. Since relocating to Southern Oregon in 2018, lifelong activist, Kokayi, has chosen to go on his healing journey, addressing the “on-going trauma of being Black in America.” A paradigm-shift on the American landscape is happening. It is happening while you and I are alive. You and I can choose to participate in helping the American populace walk towards greater humanity by committing yourself to modelling what a healed person looks like. This is the work at hand.

Key Points:

- Kokayi introduces himself

- The origin of Woke

- Racial and existential stress

- What is Critical Race Theory?

- 'Elite Capture': re-codifing language

- Anti-capitalism and decolonialism

- Advice for beginning your anti-racism journey

Relevant links:

Kokayi's email: royalstar907@gmail.com

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Lachie Samuel. Lachie is the Managing Director of the FIFO Mental Health Group, co-founder of The Association for Mental Health in Mining Australia, and host of the Open Up podcast. On this episode, Lachie opens up about being sexually abused as a child by another boy and how this impacted both his masculinity and sexuality as an adult. We also discuss the feelings of shame and fear associated with this as well as men’s body image issues and negative self-perception.

Key points:

- Lachie introduces himself

- The importance of sexual exploration

- The impact of childhood sexual abuse

- Lachie's struggle with shame and self-perception

- Addressing fears around cock size

- Vulnerability, strength, and disclosure

- Lachie emphasizes the challenges of FIFO work

Relevant links:

Lachie’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lachiesamuel/

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Sarah Jeavons. Sarah is a Dating Coach for Men. She is dedicated to helping men build confidence & land their dream relationships. The two of us talk about her history with Real Social Dynamics and why she decided to pursue a career as a dating coach. We discuss the general state of the industry and how Sarah’s approach to dating coaching is unique, as it involves mock dates and opportunities to practice your flirting skills in real time. She also shares her thoughts on handling rejection and how to navigate sexual tension.

 

Key Points:

-      Sarah introduces herself

-      Why Sarah left Real Social Dynamics

-      Pick up artists vs dating coaches

-      Mock dates and flirting

-      How to handle rejection

-      Navigating sexual tension

Relevant links:

Sarah’s Instagram: @datingwithsarahofficial

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Celeste Moore. Celeste is an Image Consultant and a Dating Coach who helps midlife men who have been married to their careers or recently divorced and forgot how to date by providing discreet dating and image consulting to improve their appearance, relationships, and confidence. She helps them learn to navigate this crazy modern dating world we live in. She's also the host of The Down and Dirty Podcast, the show gets down and dirty every week as she talks about dating, love, sex, and pop culture. 

 

Key Points:

Celeste introduces herself

Confidence through appearance

Colour psychology and trustworthiness attire

Importance of grooming, dressing, and personal style

Evolving dating trends

Mock dates and first date manners

First date recommendations, meeting places, online dating insights

Relevant Links:

Celeste’s Instagram: @celestemooreimage

Celeste’s website: https://celestemoore.com/

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On this episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Ruwan Meepagala. Ruwan hosts the Ruwando Podcast: Psychology For Men with Brains and Balls, and History of Man: How Men Came to Be. He lives in Mexico with his wife and child. We speak about a whole range of things, from his experience with OneTaste to becoming a father to relationship dynamics to evolution and masculinity. Ruwan and I have different viewpoints about some of these topics but we found some middle ground.

Key points:

- Ruwan introduces himself

- Navigating fatherhood

- Structure vs Creativity

- Monogamy and novelty

- Ruwan’s experience with OneTaste

- Relationship dynamics

- Reproduction vs Pleasure

- Evolution, culture, and masculinity

Relevant links:

Ruwan’s Instagram: @ruwando

Ruwan’s website: https://www.ruwando.com/

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This Quicky is a throwback to episode 44 with sextech entrepreneur Jeff Bennett. You can listen to the full episode here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0VqkWJeGJXEjxOVPF7wfZl?si=5RDp4yYaTrGuwqVkWSfYfA

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On this episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Dr. Caroline Heldman. Dr. Heldman is a professor of Critical Theory & Social Justice at Occidental College in Los Angeles. She is also Executive Director of The Representation Project and a political commentator for Spectrum and CNN International. Dr. Heldman has published six books on gender justice and politics, and her work has been featured in numerous documentaries, including Miss Representation and The Mask You Live In. She co-founded the New Orleans Women’s Shelter, the Lower Ninth Ward Living Museum, End Rape on Campus (EROC), Faculty Against Rape (FAR), and led the End Rape Statute of Limitations (ERSOL) that successfully abolished the time limit on prosecuting rape in California. She is the Board President of the TEP Center, the first Civil Rights museum in New Orleans, and the Chair of the Board of Alturas Institute, a non-profit fighting for stronger democracy.

Key points:

- Dr. Heldman introduces herself

- Levels of social justice advocacy

- The impact of pornography on sex

- Why we need to educate about porn

- Sexual objectification

- Selling body dissatisfaction to men

- Body image issues and fatphobia

Relevant links

Caroline’s Instagram: @carolineheldman

Caroline’s website: https://drcarolineheldman.com/

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This quicky is a throwback to episode 43 with Kristopher Lovestone. Listen to that episode here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3UIOto5GmrCxlhYJA6thbD?si=otEL3dgZQHy698pTFFX0RQ&nd=1

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Luna Matatas. Luna is a Sex and Pleasure Educator with over 15 years of experience teaching sex and empowerment workshops. She celebrates body confidence, self-adoration and building shame-free pleasure in and out of the bedroom. She teaches 30+ sexy skills topics; including threesomes, BDSM and sexual confidence. She created Peg the Patriarchy® and Meditate Medicate Masturbate® brands as part of her sex-positive and feminist merchandise.

Key points:

- Luna introduces herself

- “Peg the Patriarchy”

- Men’s desire to dominate

- What do we mean by dominance?

- How to explore power play

- Tips for concerned men

- Tips for interested couples

Relevant links:

Luna’s website: https://lunamatatas.com/

Luna’s Instagram: @lunamatatas

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This is a throwback to episode 42 with Jeff Abraham from Promescent. Listen to the full episode here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0RQobYuSFabSEtMsgwA3b5?si=UD2jRjWISP2aV4hltf6J3g

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Dr. Lauren Fogel Mersy. Lauren is a licensed psychologist and AASECT certified sex therapist. She has been a sex and relationship specialist for 10 years. Her work focuses on helping individuals, couples, and partners improve their relationships, both emotionally and sexually. Lauren’s mission is to support people in creating relationships that are more secure, joyful, and fulfilling. The two of us discuss the topic of her new book, Desire: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating Libido Differences in Relationships, which, as the name suggests, is all about how couples can work through the challenges presented by discrepancies in their respective libidos.

 

Key points:

- Lauren introduces herself and her book about desire and libido in relationships

- The importance of inclusivity when discussing libido differences

- Why couples seek help for varying levels of desire

- Libido discrepancies over time

- Emotional challenges and feelings of disconnection

- Misalignment and societal expectations

 

Relevant links:

Lauren’s Instagram: @drlaurenfogelmersy

Lauren’s website: https://drlaurenfogel.com/

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Quicky #39 is an excerpt from Season 3, Episode 11: #41 The Mother Archetype: Holding Space for Men (with Karis Topkin)

Today on the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Karis Topkin. Karis is a mother, a lover, and a healer, helping people to reclaim their pleasure and heal their traumas, allowing them to follow their own heart-led path and create a life that feels deliciously good, connected, and rooted in pleasure and wholeness. Karis and I talk about her work with men in South Africa and the hands-off sexual healing modalities that she uses in her conservative community. We also discuss strategies for holding space for men, allowing them to open up and release emotions by embodying the Mother Archetype. We close with a brief discussion about sexual energy and pleasure across the lifespan.

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Andrew Daniel. Andrew is an award-winning and international bestselling author and director at the Center for Cinesomatic Development. His Cinesomatics® workshops are held internationally from New York to London, Tuscany to Switzerland—helping professionals see the elusive patterns that hold them back. This methodology leads the world in cinematic movement diagnostics and advanced intuition development integrating approaches from embodiment, shadow work, therapy, and spirituality. His book, Awaken to Your True Self, is a gold Nautilus Book Awards recipient and #1 Amazon bestseller in the US & UK. In his early career, Andrew coded a particle and physics engine by the age of 18⁠, used by top Fortune 100 companies over the 7 years of his software business. His first teaching work, Holistic Sex (Mindvalley, 2014), provided the world with a new paradigm that bridged the divide between sexuality, spirituality, and the sexes. Andrew is also an advisor for the Alan Watts Organization.

Key poins:

Andrew introduces himself What is Cinesomatics®? Observations about male clients Men hold tension in their body Fear, vulnerability, and anxiety Moving the body to release trauma Practical advice for men

Relevant links:

Andrew’s website: https://andrewdaniel.org/

Andrew’s Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@andrewdaniel 

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Quicky 38 is an excerpt from Season 3, Episode 10: #40 Squirting, Pegging and Sexual Pressure (with Lola Jean)

On episode 40 of the #mensexpleasure podcast I chat with Lola Jean. Lola is a Sex Educator, Mental Health Professional, Wrestler, Domme and World Record Holder for Volume Squirting (solo.) providing the No Frills Sex Education we both need and deserve. Lola brings a refreshing understanding to sex, sexuality and kink to push individuals past what they think they are capable of. Lola offers a variety of classes and talks to help people have better sex with themselves and each other like Pegging, Squirting, and Libido Awakening. A variety of paid and free options of classes and talks, plus a podcast with The Reluctant Sexpert: ‘⁠Is Our Love ___?⁠’, there are a variety of options to indulge. Lola and I talked about squirting, pegging, rimming, and broadening your definition of sex. We also spoke about the pressure both men and women feel to perform sex a certain way.

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Anisa Varasteh. Anisa is a Clinical Sexologist, the Director of Relate Sexology, and the President of the Society of Australian Sexologists (SA/NT branch). Anisa provides therapy to individuals and partners as well as consultancy and training on mental health and sexuality related topics to clinicians and organizations. She is passionate about her work as a sexologist as she has the privilege to be part of people's journey to discover and re-discover what is fulfilling, meaningful, and pleasurable for them. She has worked with couples, individuals and people in multi-partnered relationships to support them with their relationships, sense of identity, sex life, and explore how they can connect with their authentic self. When she is not at work she is probably writing, hiking, watching lengthy art-house films or discovering new and exciting places around the world.

Key points:

Anisa introduces herself Misconceptions about BDSM Defining BDSM and kink Traumatic vs therapeutic experiences Exploring kink alone Introducing kink to a partner

Relevant links:

Instagram: @relatesexology

Podcast: Sexplicit

Website: www.relatesexology.com

Course: https://www.relatesexology.com/healing-through-kink

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Quikcy #37 is an excerpt from Season 3 Episode 9: #39 Debunking Myths About Men and Sex (with Sarah Hunter Murray, Ph.D.)

On today’s episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I have a great discussion with Sarah Hunter Murray about the most common myths surrounding masculinity, sexuality and men. Sarah holds a Ph.D. in Human Sexuality from the University of Guelph and is a Registered Marriage & Family Therapist in private practice in Winnipeg, Manitoba. She is the author of the book "Not Always in the Mood: The new science of men, sex, & relationships." I loved Sarah’s book and the research she presents in it. We talk about that research as well as her observations about men in relationships. We also explore some practical advice for men and their partners to help overcome the myths and stereotypes that may be hindering them in their relationships.

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Tim Hammond is a grassroots human rights activist who has been involved in numerous social change movements. As a teenager conscientiously opposed to fighting in Vietnam, he wrote copious letters to Congress urging an immediate end to the war. Tim has been committed to Congressional passage of the U.S. Peace Tax Fund Bill, which would re-direct the military portion of one's taxes (currently 50% of every dollar spent by the U.S. government) toward life-sustaining human services. He was active in raising public consciousness about women's rights and the need for the Equal Rights Amendment (ERA). In 1987 Tim was among hundreds of men and women arrested on the steps of the U.S. Supreme Court to protest its decision to uphold states' rights to legislate private sexual behavior among consenting adults in their own home (a decision the Court ultimately reversed in 2003). He was a member of the Children's Rights Network of Amnesty International/USA and a member of the National Organization on Male Sexual Victimization (now MaleSurvivor.org). 

Key points:

Tim introduces himself Activism and retaliation Circumcision in America Global Survey of Circumcision Harm Foreskin anatomy A brief history of foreskin restoration Advice for men who’re interested in foreskin restoration

Relevant links:

Tim’s survey of foreskin restorers: https://www.nature.com/articles/s41443-023-00686-5

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Quicky #36 is an excerpt from Season 3, Episode 8: #38 Parenthood and Modelling Healthy Sexuality (with Tamica Wilder)

On today’s episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Tamica Wilder, a somatic sex coach and muti qualified complimentary therapist with over a decade of group work, facilitation and coaching experience. Tamica leads with passion, embodied wisdom and playful curiosity in all that she does. She believes that our social and cultural narraitives aound sex and embodiment need a damn good shake it! - Never one to shy away from a challenge, she's committed to leading the charge. Tamica is a hand holder, a permission giver and a safe place to land for those serious about re-awakening their sexual spark and living a life lead by pleasure. We talk about Tamica’s work with men as well as the importance of creating safety for men to open up about their sexual concerns. We also discuss parenthood and modelling healthy sexuality for children.

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Ruby Ryder of PeggingParadise.com and TheArtofPegging.com. Ruby is a podcaster, blogger, sex worker, sex educator and a published writer of erotic fiction. She has been educating people about pegging for the last 13 years. She moderated panels at CatalystCon East and West, and presented at DomCon LA. Ruby’s erotica is in Violet Blue’s ‘Best Women’s Erotica 2014.’ She also appeared in an episode of Comedy Central’s ‘Not Safe with Nikki Glaser’. Ruby’s mission is to help interested people add one more thing to their sexual treasure chest of choices by teaching them all about pegging, and to do everything she can to encourage more sex-positivity with less sexual shame. She resides in Southern California near the beach, and loves watching the surfers change out of their wetsuits.

Key points:

Ruby introduces herself The misconceptions around pegging The importance of communication, consent, and comfort  Role reversal, deepening intimacy, and understanding partners Emotional responses during pegging Equipment for pegging Erections, performance, and pleasure 

Relevant Links:

Ruby’s websites: https://peggingparadise.com/ and https://www.theartofpegging.com/

Ruby’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@peggingparadise

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Quicky #35 is an excerpt from Season 3, Episode 7: #37 The Stigma of Bisexuality & Polyamory (with Zachary Zane)

On today’s episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast I chat with Zachary Zane, a Brooklyn-based columnist, speaker, activist, and sex expert whose work focuses on sexuality, lifestyle, and culture. He has a weekly sex advice column at Men’s Health titled “Sexplain It,”where he answers a diverse range of questions pertaining to masculinity, ethical non-monogamy, sexual insecurities, and the LGBTQ community. He answers questions with actionable advice. As a leading bisexual activist, Zachary has spoken across the country at universities and panels alike, discussing issues pertaining to the bisexual community, sex-positivity, and ethical non-monogamy. He previously had a biweekly column at Bisexual.orgthat ran for 18 months and also attended the "Bisexual White House Briefing" at the White House (under Obama). Zachary and I talk about the stigma bisexual men face and why mental health issues are greater among bisexual people. We also discussed the stigma surrounding nontraditional relationships, such as open relating and polyamory.

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Quicky #34 comes Season 3, Episode 6: #36 Hypnosis for Sexual Dysfunction (with Alexandra Holovitz)

On this episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Alexandra Holovitz. Alexandra is a tantric sex coach & hypnotherapist. She is known for her honest, passionate and authentic coaching style. She works with career-minded men helping them to heal, express and empower thought tantra and self-compassion. She believes awakening sexual energy can support you to have deeper connection, understanding and self-acceptance to liberate and come back to your home (your body), REMEMBER your truth as a divine man! Her mission is to heal the world, one orgasm at a time. We spoke about her use of hypnosis for managing sexual dysfunction with her clients, such as erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation. We also discussed the practicalities of establishing professional practitioner-client boundaries.

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On this special episode of #mensexpleasure, I welcome with my brother, Callum, and we do something a little different. I regale him with a story about British physiologist, Giles Brindley. This is our foray into the history/comedy genre of podcasting. As such, we have a few drinks and a bit of fun.

Key points:

- Welcome Callum

- Who is Giles Brindley?

- Visual prostheses and eye experiments

- Spinal prostheses and side effects

- The hour lecture that changed sexual medicine

- Brindley's legacy

Sources:

Chase, V. D. (2006). Shattered Nerves: How Science Is Solving Modern Medicine's Most Perplexing Problem. Johns Hopkins University Press

Kan, J., Aziz, T. Z., Green, A. L., & Pereira, E. A. C. (2014) Biographical sketch: Giles Brindley, FRS. British Journal of Neurosurgery, 28(6), 704-706. doi: 10.3109/02688697.2014.925085

Goldstein, I. (2012). The hour lecture that changed sexual medicine - The Giles Brindley injection story. The Journal of Sexual Medicine, 9(2), 337-342. doi: 10.1111/j.1743-6109.2011.02635.x.

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Quicky #32 is an excerpt from Season 3, Episode 5: #35 Taking Responsibility for Your Own Pleasure (with Parish Blair)

On today’s episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Sex Goddess and Master Manifestor, Parish Blair. Parish has studied psychoneuroimmunology and practices a variety of healing modalities for over 25 years, with dramatic results of synergy between the mind, body and spirit. As well as offering unique one-on-one sessions, such as Sensual Synergy and Orgasmic Gratitude Meditation, Parish also delivers international presentations, such as ‘Look At What My Pussy Can Do’ and ‘How To Give A BJ With A Heart Full Of Gratitude’. She is also the executive producer of Sexy Spirit TV and the creator of the Parish Blair Love Affair Tour Documentary, which features open lifestyle, swingers and polyamorous couples from 20+ cities in 20+ international destinations with the intention to release judgement and preconceived ideas about our human family.

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Pomma. Pomma does various forms of sex work and is a huge advocate for decriminalizing and destigmatizing sex work. They make educational content about sex workers’ rights in hopes to humanize sex workers and their needs to people and systems who commonly overlook sex workers. It’s very important to Pomma that sex workers’ voices are at the forefront of legislation and conversations that affect their lived realities since they’re often excluded. Pomma likes to keep their feminism and politics intersectional, because, at the end of the day, what affects them affects you, and affects all of us. When they’re not raising awareness about censorship or decriminalization, Pomma is crafting cosplays and traveling for conventions.

Key Points:

Pomma introduces themselves The importance of sex work “Rights, not rescue” Purity fetish and the sex work heirarchy Decriminalization vs legalization SWERFs: Sex Work Exclusionary Radical Feminists Educating on social media

Relevant Links:

Check out Pomma’s educational work and socials at their Carrd: Pomma.Carrd.Co

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Quicky #32 is an excerpt from Season 3, Episode 4: #34 Go With The Flow: Libido And The Menstrual Cycle (with Kristin Murray Alexi)

Today on the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Kristin Murray Alexi. Kristin has a bachelor’s degree in international studies with a focus on women in history, culture and religion, and a post graduate diploma in sexology. She is a certified Yoni Massage practitioner and trainer, and certified Sex Coach and trainer. She also works in the realm of priestessing as well as initiating other womben into this work. Kristin is known for her gentle yet informative and inclusive approach to pleasure-centered sex education. She offers certified trainings, group and 1:1 coaching sessions, online courses, and a fun and educative podcast with Tanishka Tantrika called Love Blood Sex Death. Kristin has been passionate about womben's wisdom teachings and female sexuality from a very young age. She held girls circles at 12 years old and created supportive materials for her teen female peers while going through puberty together. Her main passions are empowering womben in their sexuality through a better understanding of their bodies and female sexual arousal, as well as helping womben to communicate their individual needs to their partners. Kristin and I discuss how the different phases of the menstrual cycle can affect sex drive and how men can better understand their partner’s cycles so as to connect more intimately together.

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On this episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast I welcome back a really lovely colleague and friend of mine. Her name is Sarah Martin. You might recall her from episode number 135, where we talked about her research regarding pick up artists. In this episode, we do something a little bit different and discuss a project we've been collaborating on, known as a sexual attitude reassessment (SAR). We talk about the three major assumptions that we see practitioners often make, whether they be sex coaches or therapists or men's work facilitators. So if you're interested in having some beliefs or stereotypes or values about men challenge, this is the episode for you.

Key Points:

- Sarah reintroduces herself - What is a SAR? - Assumption 1: Men don’t warrant specific consideration as men - Assumption 2: You definitely have unconscious bias when it comes to men - Assumption 3: All the men who are in online communities are basement dwelling, violent misogynists - How to work with men who want to improve their communication skills but choose not to do it - Testimonial from Charles Dubois - The next SAR offering

Relevant Links: The Man SAR: https://themansar.com/

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Quicky 31 is an excerpt from Season 3, Episode 3: #33 Performing Masculinity: What Does A Man Look Like? (with Nic Warner)

On this episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I talk with Nic Warner. Nic is a men’s work, plant medicine and breathwork facilitator, and a sacred intimacy mentor. Using the tools that helped him rise out of the ashes, Nic coaches both individuals and couples. Supporting them on their healing journey, to integrate and deepen their relationship with themselves, and each other. Nic and I talk about his experience giving away his power, spiraling into substance abuse, and overcoming his troubles, ultimately transforming his life. We also discuss what it means to look like a man and the fear that many men have about not looking masculine enough.

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Dr. Brendan Kwiatkowski. Brendan is a researcher and educator focused on the social-emotional wellbeing of adolescents and understanding the role that gender plays in that equation—particularly masculinity. His PhD research from the University of Edinburgh investigated teenage boys’ experiences and beliefs about being male and compared their experiences based on their levels of emotional expression. He is a mixed-methods researcher and believes very strongly in positive-focused and person-centred research that humanizes and empowers participants, as well in research that is transformative and practically useful for people in the real-world. He is from and lives in Vancouver, BC, has three kids and prior to his PhD was a high school teacher.

Key points:

Brendan introduces himself Discussion on toxic masculinity and its nuances Critique of the term and deliberate misunderstandings to attack masculinity Responses of teenage boys to masculine pressures Young men and emotional restriction Importance of multiple ways of being a man and role of fathers in shaping masculine identities Creating emotional safe havens for teenage boys and the need for outlets outside romantic relationships

Relevant links:

Brendan’s website: https://remasculine.com/ 

Brendan’s Instagram: @re.msculine 

Brendan’s TikTok: remasculine

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Quicky 30 is from Season 3, Episode 2: #32 Sex Hacking: Confidence and Calibration (with Kenneth Play)

Kenneth Play is an international sex expert and sex educator. From a deeply insecure Asian immigrant to over ⁠8 million views on PornHub⁠ and being named ⁠the World’s Greatest Sex Hacker by GQ⁠, Kenneth develops sex techniques to help couples learn new ways to connect and overcome challenges in the bedroom. His newest course features over 70+ videos and 12 hours of content, and was described by AskMen as having ⁠"at least one nugget of sexual learning you’ve almost certainly never encountered before, if not several."⁠ His teaching has been described as a mashup of Bruce Lee’s mixed martial arts approach and Tim Ferriss’s 80/20 rule. He worked with Dr. Zhana Vrangalova to conduct the ⁠world's largest survey on squirting⁠; with Pamela Madsen at the Back to the Body Sensual Retreats for Women; and has been a featured presenter at New York University and San Jose State University. He has devoted his life to empowering couples to close the orgasm gap and experience the best sex of their lives.

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Ahmad Jooma. Ahmad is the creator of SHOOK MAN®, a character who represents our fears, anxieties and is an engaging way for young men to talk about their mental health. Ahmad understands men who feel powerless in life - He used to be that guy! For 10+ years Ahmad studied the best courses on human nature. He has coached 100+ people around the world and produced podcasts, events and courses.

Key points:

Amhad introduces himself Creating "SHOOK MAN" to make fear visible "SHOOK MAN" as a tool to detach from fears and anxieties Recognizing fear as a self-defense mechanism and giving it a job to overcome it Prevalence of anxiety and fear in society, pulling people out of the present moment Importance of being free in the mind and living in the moment Impact of consumerism on society, preying on fears and desires

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Ahmad’s Instagram: @ahmad.jooma

Ahmad’s website: https://www.shookman.com/ 

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Quicky #29 comes from Season 3, Episode 1: #31 From Surface Level Sex to Deep Intimacy (with Lorin Krenn)

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Lorin Krenn, a Deep Intimacy coach and Writer. Lorin helps men and women all over the globe understand masculine/feminine dynamics in their intimate relationships to experience deep intimacy through 1-on-1 coaching, workshops and masterclasses, and social media appearances. He has some Deep Intimacy virtual masterclasses coming up specifically for his Australian and Asia-Pacific community as well as for his community from the United States, Canada and Europe. Links for these masterclasses are in the show notes.

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Aubrey Aurora. Aubrey is an Erotic Ritualist and event curator based in British Columbia. She has spent the better half of a decade creating luxury erotic experiences and initiations for people from all walks of life. With a gift of deep attention to ambience and atmosphere, her work is often described as a portal into the depths of your most sensual fantasies. The two of us talk at length about what an erotic ritual looks like as well as discuss the themes of theatre and fetish in BDSM and sacred sexuality containers. 

Key points:

Aubrey introduces herself Theatre and the spectacle of ritual Elements of erotic ritual Sacred Sexuality and BDSM Spirituality fetishism Being initiated into your eroticism

Relevant links:

Aubrey’s Instagram: @aubreyyaurora Aubrey’s website: aubreyaurora.com

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Quicky #28 is from Season 2, Episode 14: #30 Sacred Masculinity for Modern Men (with Brenden Durell)

Today, I chat with Brenden Durell. Brenden is a former professional athlete turned life aficionado. He nudges people with laughter and inspiration so they can understand nirvana and live in every moment. Brenden also plays the game of life by being a Cacao & Breathwork Ceremonialist. He’s also a dedicated White Tantra student. His motto is “peace is the ultimate pleasure.” Brenden resides comfortably in his home, wishing he had a dog. The two of us spoke about the difference between masculine Men’s Work and feminine Men’s Work as well as how masculinity is linked to sexuality and what we can do as men to express but also regulate our emotions.

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Michelle Roberton. Michelle has shared her work with many, for 20 years, specialising in Sexual Trauma & Intimacy as a Tantric educator, body worker and counsellor for adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse Her passion stems from her own journey of discovering the medicine in the poison as she set it upon herself to reclaim her body, her breath, her sexuality and sensuality and express that in new, life enriching ways. Michelle very much believes that our mind can only take us so far into any release of body trauma and healing of our sexuality. The discovery of who we authentically are is not hidden in our thoughts but in the sensuality and home of our body. Her touch has been described by many as her gift to others. Her gentle, authentically honest & calming approach, a comforting breath of fresh air. Michelle lives in the colourful, vibrant city of Brighton with her four superstar children.

Key points:

Michelle introduces herself What is Tantric bodywork? How trauma manifests in the body Individual and universal experiences Working with tension and disconnection Facilitating pleasure

Relevant links:

Michelle’s Instagram: @michellekroberton

Michelle’s website: https://sacredtantrictouch.com/

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Quicky #27 comes from Season 2, Episode 13: #29 Imposter Syndrome and Perfomance Anxiety (with Stevon Lewis)

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I talk with Stevon Lewis. Stevon is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, speaker, and corporate consultant. In his private practice, he specializes in working with adults struggling with Impostor Syndrome. He has been a featured expert for various major television and media platforms, including the Oprah Winfrey Network, Bustle Magazine, Thrive Global, and Entrepreneur Magazine. As a corporate consultant, he has facilitated discussions about race in the workplace for the Pancreatic Cancer Action Network (PanCAN) and Tory Burch. In addition, he has hosted a series of workshops for A New Direction, a London-based non-profit, that provides support and development to individuals that are underrepresented in the creative and digital industries. Stevon and I discuss Impostor Syndrome as it relates to masculinity and “being a man” as well as connecting it to performance anxiety and transitioning into fatherhood.

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Elle Stanger (she/they). Elle is a queer, mid-thirties nonmonogamous, parent, sex worker, AASECT Certified Sex Educator, and media producer. She has worked as a porn shop manager and product buyer, pole dancing stripper, consultant for anti-trafficking organizations, professional cuddler, porn maker, writer, podcast host, and certified sex educator. The two of us talk about their advocacy for sex workers’ rights as well as the nuances of the debates around sex work.

Key points:

Elle introduces herself The importance of sex work Anti-sex work discrimination Decriminalization vs legalization SWERFs: Sex Work Exclusionary Radical Feminists Feminist porn? Supporting sex workers

Relevant Links:

Elle’s website: ellestanger.com 

Elle’s Instagram: @stripperwriter

Elle’s Twitter: ellestanger

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Quicky #25 is from Season 2, Episode 12: #28 Intersex: Understanding the Space Between Male & Female (with Toby Whittington)

Today on the podcast, I chat with Toby Whittington. Toby, who uses they/them/he/him pronouns, was diagnosed with Klinefelter Syndrome (47 XXY karyotype) in 2010. Among other issues, Toby found out that they were not able to father children and that they don’t produce enough of their own testosterone. He started on Testosterone Replacement Therapy which set him on a path of going through adult puberty, a physical and mental transition which lasted over 8 years. Toby now openly acknowledges that they are an Intersex person and in 2020, when they came out as gender non-binary, this was the first time they felt that their biological sex and their gender identity were aligned. Toby is passionate about educating people around these issues, what it means to be Intersex and the confusion with regards to differences between biological sex, gender identity and sexual orientation. He has and promotes a very open and positive attitude towards sex, sexuality and sexual expression, so long as it is safe and that participation is between consenting adults. Toby and I talk about their experience being Intersex and how it affected their ideas of masculinity as well as what it means to “be a man.”

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Will Tantra. Will is a sex and intimacy coach living in Los Angeles. He is also a naked yoga instructor and massage instructor. He now mainly teaches through video and at Tantra retreats around the world. Will is known for his practical and hands on approach to sex education and for providing men with easy to follow exercises designed to teach how to give and receive more pleasure. Teaching men how to exercise their bodies and masturbate in a way that better prepares them for partnered sex are favorite lessons of Will's. His other passions include dance and springboard diving and he performs regularly with a burlesque theater troupe. The two of us discuss the ways in which self-pleasure can be used as means to improve our sex lives.

Key Points:

Will introduces himself Tantra for queer men The principles of self-pleasure Sports analogies Training for game day Practical advice for self-pleasure

Relevant links:

Will’s Instagram: @tantric.fitness

Will’s Twitter: tantricfitness

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Quicky #25 comes from Season 2 Episode 11: #27 Sex with Herpes: Diagnosis to Disclosure (with Courtney Brame)

Today, I chat with Courtney Brame, the Founder and podcast host of Something Positive for Positive People. As a podcast, this serves as a hub of interviews with people living with genital herpes along with his own experiences navigating stigma from diagnosis to disclosure. As a nonprofit, SPFPP raises money to pay for people who are struggling with HSV stigma to receive therapy. After his own diagnosis in 2012, Courtney navigated the world identifying heavily with his diagnosis unconsciously as you'll hear more about in this episode. After finding community, all of his problems with dating and disclosure appeared to disappear. However, this made space for underlying concerns herpes had exposed. 1 was how many people despite having community and a space for finding love regardless of their HSV status wanting to end their lives. 2 was how true to himself he was able to be with these complete strangers who had one thing in common (knowing about his HSV status) versus how hidden he was with people who'd known him most of his life who did not know about his herpes status. We talk about living with herpes, from contracting the virus and receiving a diagnosis, to managing it, how it affects your masculinity and ultimately discussing it with and disclosing it to a partner.

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Elliot Justin MD, FACEP. Elliot is the CEO and founder of FirmTech, the world’s first sex tech company focused on keeping men firm and fit for a better lifetime of lovemaking and pleasure. Dr. Justin is an Emergency Medicine specialist and healthcare technology consultant in erectile neuromodulation, cardiovascular disease, and diabetes. He and his FirmTech team have developed the Tech Ring and the Performance Ring which are transformative tools to help men optimize personal “erectile fitness,” and to inspire better erectile and cardiovascular health. FirmTech’s mission is to help men sustain an erection, and if they have a problem, prevent it from getting worse. The Tech Ring achieved second place at the 2023 CES/Showstopper event in Health Wellness and Innovation, and the 2023 Most Innovative Sex Toy of the Year at XBIZ. Soon, FirmTech will launch its FemmeTech line dedicated to a similar mission for women.

Key Points:

Elliot introduces himself Erections are “the canary in the coal mine” Sex tech and data privacy The prevalence of erectile dysfunction The etiology of erectile dysfunction The future of sex tech

Relevant links:

Elliot’s website: https://myfirmtech.com/

Elliot’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/elliot-justin-md/ 

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Quicky #24 comes from Season 2, Episode 10: #26 Penis Size: Working With What You've Got (with Lahnee Pavlovich)

On episode 26, I chat with Lahnee Pavlovich. Lahnee is a Sex Educator, Lifestyle Coach and a Sex Positive Journalist. She has made a name for herself as the go-to-woman for a modern approach to sexuality & well-being, bringing you not only her expertise, but connecting you to epic humans and ideas through her various channels. This Aussie based Mum Lady, Word Wizz, Coach, Influencer and Sexual Badass found her passion helping couples, women and men live better, more fulfilling lives in and out of the bedroom by embracing a sense of overall well-being & learning to push the boundaries of what's considered "normal". Lahnee's mission is to get down and dirty to challenge society’s views on sexuality, body image & anything else people don't like talking about. Through connecting the dots between emotional, spiritual, social, intellectual, physical, and sexual well-being, Lahnee inspires others to live a better, more fulfilled, nourishing and 'turned-on’ life. We talk about her new offering, Rate Your Rooster, where Lahnee invites men to send her dick pics - for a fee! - and she provides them with a report with advice and tips about how to best use their penis.

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Erica Smith (she/her). Erica is an award winning sexuality educator and consultant with over 20 years of experience. She has provided comprehensive sex education to young women and LGBTQ+ youth in Philadelphia’s juvenile justice system, worked in abortion care, and supported HIV positive youth and transgender youth in her work. In 2019, she developed the Purity Culture Dropout™️ Program- sex education that aims to teach people everything that they missed growing up in purity culture- sex ed that is accurate, queer inclusive, trauma informed, compassionate, and comprehensive.

Key Points:

Erica introduces herself Purity culture and sex education Religious beliefs and anti-pornography SWERFs and Christian extremists NCOSE, Exodus Cry, and FTND The Pornhub lawsuit Speaking to consumers of porn Porn literacy

Relevant links:

Erica’s Instagram: @ericasmith.sex.ed
Erica’s Twitter: @ericasmithsexed

Erica’s Website: https://www.ericasmitheac.com/ 

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Todays Quicky comes from Season 2 Episode 9: #25 Overcoming Fear with Compassion and Love (with Adam Roa)

On today’s episode of the Men, Sex & Pleasure Podcast, I chat with Adam Roa. Adam is a transformational artist, founder of the online personal development community, CREATE, and the podcast host of "The Deep Dive with Adam Roa". He has been listed by Goalcast as one of the “Top 33 Gamechangers to Watch" and his viral poem, “You Are Who You’ve Been Looking For" has been viewed more than 200 million times. He has spoken on countless stages, including Oslo Freedom Forum, MindValley A-Fest, and Envision Festival. Adam has recently begun to blend his poetry into mainstream music, with his first single, "Voices", releasing on October 1st. A modern day renaissance man, he is known for his unique blend of science and spirituality wrapped in artistic mediums. We shared about our deepest fears, how they hold us back and how to use compassion to overcome them.

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Bryony Cole. Bryony has amassed a global following as the go-to expert on sextech. With over one million downloads of her Future of Sex podcast, and extensive global media coverage she is the trusted authority for industry insights in The New York Times, The Today Show, Wired and many other global media. Bryony has written for Playboy, and appeared on TV shows such as Netflix’s FollowThis Series, Vice Slutever, The Money Channel, and The Morning Show on Channel 7. As a highly-regarded speaker, her stage presence roster includes some of the world’s largest culture, technology and ideas events such as SXSW and Vivid. Her global sextech hackathon events and Future of Sex reports are considered the pinnacle of industry insights and innovation. She is a sought-after consultant who partners with organizations across the world forecasting trends in the sextech industry for governments, tech titans and entertainment companies. Most recently, Marie Claire awarded her podcast Future of Sex as ‘one of the best sex and relationship podcasts of 2020’.

Key points:

Bryony introduces herself Being replaced by sex robots A cyberpunk or solarpunk future? Deepfakes and fear mongering The impact of technology on relationships The evolution of sex toys and robots Pro-social technology which enhances connection Polarization and possibilities

Relevant links:

Bryony’s Instagram: @bryonycole

Bryony’s website: https://www.bryonycole.co/ 

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Quicky #22 is an excerpt from Season 2, Episode 8: #24 Energetical Lovemaking and Deep Intimacy (with Avi Kabani)

Views and opinions expressed by Avi Kabani do not reflect the official policy or position of any other agency, organization, employer or company.

Today on the Men, Sex & Pleaure podcast, I chat with Avi Kabani. Avi is an author who writes about the nature of sexual energy, deep states of lovemaking, and the challenges of modern-day intimate relationships. He is best known for exploring these topics in relation to men, women, culture, and self. Drawing on the work of David Deida, Avi shared with me his take on sex therapy and sexual art. We spoke about the energetics of lovemaking and how to take your sexual experiences to those deeper levels of intimacy. If you’re familiar with Deida’s work, you’ll really resonate with this conversation about sex, healing and masculinity.

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with the Techy Tantrika, Devika Singh. Devika is a holistic intimacy and self-relationship coach, holistic sex educator, and pleasure-inclusive sex education advocate. Her work focuses on reporting sex/dating tech trends along with normalizing conversations around topics that are still considered ‘taboo’ or socially charged. These topics include sex education, pro-sex spirituality, various forms of intimacy, rebirth and transitions (personal transformation), death positivity, and how metaphysics impact how we connect to one another throughout life.

Key points:

Devika introduces herself Sexual content, censorship, and terms of service FOSTA-SESTA legislation “Think of the children” rhetoric Artificial intelligence and human trafficking Tech billionaires and outrage marketing Sex toys and data privacy Politics and technology

Relevant links:

Devika’s YouTube/Instagram/TikTok: @TheTechyTantrika
Devika’s website: devika-singh.com

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Quicky #21 is from Season 2 Episode 7: #23 Biohack your Hormones: Testosterone and Dopamine (with Lucas Aoun)

On episode 23 of the Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast I chat with Lucas Aoun, a leading Australian biohacker, with a global mission to optimize wellbeing, physical and mental performance. He is currently completing his Naturopathy degree in Melbourne. He is highly respected in the realm of Nootropics, Testosterone optimization, and athletic performance. We talk about testosterone and why men should care about their testosterone levels. We also discuss dopamine and other neurotransmitters as well as how to optimize your sexual health with testicle icing. If you’re interested in biohacking your body, this is the episode for you.

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Ceecee Jacobsen. Ceecee is a coach, public speaker, social media influencer, model, and trans activist from Eysturoy (East Island), Faroe Islands, a collection of 18 small islands about halfway between Norway and Iceland. The two of us talk about her experience as the first openly trans person in her entire country as well as the narratives around performing gender, disclosing that you’re trans, and the use of labels for our sexual and gender identity.

Key points:

Ceecee introduces herself Loneliness and growing up trans Performing femininity and masculinity The mask of normalcy The “trap” narrative Disclosing that you’re trans The relevance of sexual identity labels The erasure of women

Relevant links:

Ceecee’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ceeceejacobsencc 

Ceecee’s Instagram: @ceeceejacobsen

Ceecee’s YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CeeceeJacobsencc 

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Quicky #20 is from Season 2, Episode 6: #21 Sex and Psychedelics (with Tobias Penno)

Today I had the pleasure of talking with Mental Health Practitioner, Tobias Penno, Bach. Sci. Engineering, Masters of Social Work (Hons; Research Prize Faculty of Health & Medical Science UWA) Tobias is an Emotional Health Practitioner & Social Worker with a background in Government Child Protection and Counselling. After years of professionally managing extreme child, family and relationship stress, Tobias has found his passion in healing Emotional Pain & Trauma through the body. Tobias currently runs a clinical practice, Emotional Healthcare, where he combines somatic techniques with narrative therapy, as well as working with people to prepare and integrate psychedelic experiences. Tobias is a researcher at the University of Western Australia, with an award-winning dissertation titled How Ayahuasca Offers Psychosocial Wellbeing, and is currently working on a PhD researching the links between attachment trauma, the body, and best-practice in psychedelic integration therapy. We spoke about the similarities between the sexuality and psychedelic industries and communities, from the challenges to the successes. 

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Jim Benson. Jim has dedicated his life to helping men of all ages and backgrounds love themselves more fully. For the past 20 years, he has been coaching guys to “breakthroughs in the bedroom.” Jim's Awakened Masculine program blends best practices across disciplines to create a powerful transformative environment for men to experience more personal pleasure and relationship satisfaction. He has trained as a professional coach at the Coaches Training Institute and held the PCC (Professional Certified Coach) credential from the International Coach Federation for many years. He has 7000 hours of individual, relationship, and group coaching experience. And, he is a graduate of The Interchange Counseling program.

Key Points:

Jim introduces himself Working with men Separating orgasm and ejaculation The importance of breathing and moving Different breathing techniques Energy circulation Practical advice for couples

Relevant Links:

Jim's website: https://awakenedmasculine.com/

Cam’s Patreon: https://patreon.com/thecamfraser/ 

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Quicky #19 is from Season 2, Episode 10: The Seed Bearer: Conscious Conception for Men (with Josh Fairleigh)

On this episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast I chat with Josh Fairleigh. Josh grew up on the east coast of Australia, surfing, skating, boxing, fishing, loving all the outdoor active lifestyle this environment allows. School was very low on the list; this resulted in a early school drop out and the introduction of his first job in the surfboard industry. Surfing being Josh’s life passion; he shaped custom surfboards for about 15 years until his Saturn return when he began to see the environmental impact of the industry and pictured his own health in another 15 years. This was the time when Josh became very interested in health and natural medicines. After an awakening during a yoga course in Thailand with some influential teachers Josh began studying Ayurveda, Yoga, Reiki, Pranic Healing and Shamanic Crystal work and finally found the passion for academic education that he could not find in the earlier school years. Josh now teaches Breath workshops and does energy and Shamanic Healing’s. Josh became interested in Feng Shui as he spent many years traveling the world and Australia, through this travelling from town to town, country to country he was aware of his own moods, perception and reality changing; which made him curious as to how much our environment has an effect on our reality, from the weather, the land forms, water quality, different beliefs, colours, shapes and the spiritual energy. Josh has studied Feng Shui and Environmental studies with the Australian College of Environmental Studies. He now emphasises Breathwork as a tool to facilitate spiritual, mental, physical and emotional health. This approach and training touches all of these aspects of life; from physical fitness, to harmonising our internal and external energy bodies.

We spoke about Josh's Lyme Disease and how it has affected his relationship with himself, his wife and his daughter, particularly with regards to how he perceives his masculinity.

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Ian Ferguson, he is the co-creator of The Erotic Blueprint Breakthrough™ and co-founder of The Blueprint Breakthrough, Inc., a company dedicated to Erotic Liberation for All.

Our company mission is to realize a vision of global sexual wellness,  putting an end to the perpetuation of sexual trauma, empowering every person to have the healthy relationships they desire and to claim the consensual and fulfilling pleasure they deserve.

Ian, an internationally recognized speaker, has appeared on Netflix’s ‘Sex, Love and Goop,’ as well as top podcasts for Tony Robbins and on other media such as Good Morning America, VH1, Anderson Live and Details magazine. 

Ian is an Expert Trainer of the Erotic Blueprint™ Methodology and has helped to license over 300 Erotic Blueprint Coaches™ who now serve the global Blueprint community.

Key Points:

Ian introduces himself Intimacy, parenthood, and life stressors] Finding middle ground with your partner The creation of the Erotic Blueprints Mitigating inauthenticity Resistance to sexual exploration Advice for expanding sexual experiences

Relevant Links:

Ian’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ian.ferguson.925

Ian’s Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/NewWorldSexEducation

Ian’s Website: The Blueprint Breakthrough https://missjaiya.com

Cam’s Patreon: https://patreon.com/thecamfraser/ 

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Quicky #18 is from Season 2, Episode 4: Be A Man: Sex, Anger and Doing the Work (with Tim Morrison)

On today's episode I chat with a dear brother of mine, Tim Morrison. He is a leading Mens work facilitator and transformational coach, he is also a multi instrumentalist and gifted shamanic, somatic bodyworker who uses sacred sound and breath to create deep transformational spaces Tim guides people on the path of personal transformation. He initiates a deep inner journey to walk people home to themselves, to connect back to the earth, back to who they truly are so they can live and lead from their heart. His passion is to walk through the shadows of deep change. Tim is building a transformational movement where everyone is guided to consciously lead within their own life, so they can live a life of purpose and fulfilment in their own genius. Tim was initiated onto the shamanic path from spirit and plant medicines, along with having trained in breath work, jungle medicine with the Katukina tribe of Brazil and worked with the Shipibo and Mestiso lineage in Peru. His focus now is on expanding consciousness and deepening human connection. We talk about the intersection of men's work and sexuality as well as the transmission of sexuality teachings in the Tantra community.

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On this episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Dr. Laurie Mintz, a Professor at the University of Florida where she teaches Human Sexuality to hundreds of undergraduates yearly. She has published over 55 academic works. She is the author of two popular press books—both with published studies demonstrating their effectiveness: Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters and How to Get It  and A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex.  Mintz has a private practice, working with clients on general and sexual issues. She is a Fellow of the American Psychological Association, indicating that her work has had a positive national influence on the field of psychology.

Key points:

Laurie introduces herself Eating disorders and sexuality Penis size anxiety Representations of the penis The importance of the clitoris Prioritizing pleasure with vibrators Men being invested in women’s pleasure Closing the orgasm gap

Relevant links:

Laurie’s Website: https://www.drlauriemintz.com/ 

Laurie’s Instagram: @drlauriemintz 

Cam’s Patreon: https://patreon.com/thecamfraser/ 

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Todays Quicky is an excerpt from Season 2, Episode 3; #18 Transformations and Self-Discovery (with Franko Heke)

Today on the podcast I chat with a beautiful man who I met in New Zealand a few years ago. We shared a meal together and I resonates with so much of his story. His name is Franko Heke and he is on a mission to raise consciousness through his music and workshops. Drawing on ancient mantra in combination with his own cultural roots, Franko’s devotional sessions are bound to coax your own divine voice into the open with his distinct fresh sounds for today. With years of touring rock music under his belt, Franko’s compass has drawn him north toward a movement, which brings people together, celebrating our unique gifts, our connection to one another and to mother earth. Sought after for yoga, meditation and transformational festival events, Franko’s boundless energy for the betterment of all beings. Having opened for Xavier Rudd and Nahko & Medicine for the people as well as sharing the microphone with Donavon Frankenreiter, Franko is poised to have his message heard far and wide. We spoke about personal transformation and choosing a different path by return to the self and not being scared to make mistakes.

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On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Lorraine. She is a Somatic Therapist, Pleasure Coach and Bodyworker based in the Western Suburbs of Melbourne. She has been working in the field of sexuality for the past 25 years. Starting out in the strip clubs of the UK and moving into therapy and bodywork in 2015. She works with all genders, specialising in working with people who have experienced sexual and physical trauma and people recovering from surgery and illness. Helping them to feel more pleasure and restore sexual function. She works both online and in person offering 1:1 sessions and group workshops.

Key Points:

Lorraine introduces herself Common experiences of trauma How trauma manifests in the body Cam shares about his own traumatic experiences Feeling pleasure after trauma Men acknowledging their trauma Advice for moving forward

Relevant Links:

Lorraine's Instagram: @lorrainepentello

Lorraine's Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lorrainepentello

Lorraine's website: https://lorrainepentello.com/

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