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This week, dive into the complex world of female friendships with the insightful Danielle Bayard Jackson, certified friendship coach, educator, and author of "Fighting for Our Friendships." In this episode, Danielle explores the nuanced dynamics of disagreements among women, the natural lifecycle of friendships, and when it might be time to let go. With her extensive background, including founding the Friend Forward platform and her role as a spokesperson for Bumble For Friends, Danielle brings a wealth of knowledge to the table. She discusses why the end of a friendship isn't necessarily a failure but a season that has come to its natural close. Tune in to learn how to navigate these waters with grace and strength, and to understand why sometimes, the best thing we can do for ourselves and others is to part ways.

Don't miss this episode full of actionable insights that could change how you view and manage your friendships. Whether you're in the throes of a friendship challenge or just curious about this integral aspect of life, there's something in this conversation for everyone.

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Hey loves, today we're hitting the facts on toxic relationships—no fluff, just the real deal. We're unpacking disrespect, boundary violations, and how to spot manipulation. It's all about cutting through the drama to find your joy and self-worth. Ready to empower yourself and live your best life? Let’s do this together!

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Hey there! Ever felt stuck in the "good faux girlfriend" cycle? Let's dive deep into proving our worth in relationships on Situationship. Join me as we uncover the dynamics of constantly jumping at the chance to see them, unsure of when we'll hear from them again. It's time to reclaim our identity and goals. Tune in for tips on setting boundaries, prioritizing self-love, and breaking free from the situationship illusion. Ready to rewrite our relationship narrative? Let's do this! #SelfWorth #AuthenticConnections #BreakTheCycle

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Hi loves! I just wanted to check in with a mini-sode. As season changes, we begin to grow. As we do, let's define our needs, wants, and core values. Because, let's be real, how can you get what you want if you're not sure what it is?

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I'm excited to talk about this episode today. There was a time where I could never have imagined going on a solo date. One day I decided I was just going to go and you know what? And I ended up loving it. Loving it! Do you hear me? I loved it.

So give it a try. When you do it, come back and let me know what you've realized about yourself, what you were surprised by, what you enjoyed, and maybe what you didn't like. Thanks for listening, loves!

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Hey loves and lovelies, this week, we're delving into the labyrinth of breakups, but not just the negative side—we're exploring the profound, personal transformations they can ignite in us. Whether it's romantic, platonic, or professional, breakups can leave us feeling scattered, but they also present a unique opportunity for self-discovery and growth. So, grab your white claw (or your comfort beverage of choice), and let's journey through the emotions and emerge empowered on the other side. Remember, you're not alone in this. Let's find our way back to self—together.

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Hey loves! I hope you are well. Today, we're talking about what it looks like to practice self worth. What does self-worth mean to you? If you're like me, it can be easy to get stuck in the mindset that your worth is defined by others. Check in with your values and remember that it's ok to feel like you deserve happiness. 

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Today on the show we have Marissa Esquibel. You met her a few episodes ago when I released an interview from her podcast Codependummy Marissa is a psychotherapist who provides talk therapy online to young women struggling with codependency, depression, and anxiety.

Codependent behavior begins in childhood as a way to adapt to our surroundings. It begins a lifelong pattern of prioritizing the needs of others and making ourselves small. Marissa is all about taking up space and I can’t wait for you to hear what she has to share.

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Today’s episode has been in the works for a long time. Let me introduce TikTok personality, performer, and digital marketing maven Jazelle. She uses her online presence to explore and celebrate the joys of being part of the “baby gay” community. What’s a baby gay? Don’t worry - we define it in the episode. Tune in to learn how to give yourself permission to show up as you are and live your life to the fullest.

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This is a rebroadcast of an episode of Parts, Power & Leadership. Hosts Ruth and Kristin had never heard the term “situationship” and I had a great time getting into the definition with them. The focus of their show is on women in leadership so I shared how I became a business owner and traced my entrepreneurial roots all the way back to childhood.

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Dontea' talks with us about situationships; relationships without a title that lacks definition or boundaries, and how that creates a toxic environment that breaks down women’s self-worth.  Dontea' offers new insights about how women can focus on their relationship with themselves as the path to attracting the right partner.

As always, we are using the lens of Internal Family Systems (IFS) in our discussion. In the interview we identify “parts” that Dontea' experienced during her entrepreneurial journey and how she honored her own needs as she built her businesses.

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This week I’m sharing an episode of the Codependummy podcast. Marissa invited me onto the show to chat about what codependence means and how it’s affected me personally. If you’re looking for another uplifting podcast that centers on self worth, check out more of her episodes, “ya dummy!”

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Welcome to Episode 143! In this episode, we are graced with the presence of Dontea’ Mitchell-Hunter who is here to help us change our codependent mindset when it comes to dating. Dontea’ details what codependents tend to look like when we’re dating and highlights a common mindset: contorting ourselves to be “chosen” by a partner. We explore how to change this mindset from being “chosen” to doing the choosing! Dontea’ provides specific steps we can take to nurture our self-worth and stop defining it 

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A few episodes back I was talking about the changing of the seasons, falling leaves, and death. So I have a very special treat for you today. This episode our guest is Allison Ramsey, a licensed psychotherapist and Fertility survivor with degrees in environmental education. Her calling is to help women realign with the rhythms of nature to reclaim their peace. Today she’s going to show us all how to understand the seasons of our lives and how we can grow starting today.

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The Seasonal Soul has lots of useful information

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Ready to explore the cosmic secrets to your ideal match? Join me and my guest, Tamerri, as we dive into the mystical world of astrology and relationship compatibility! Tamerri is an astrology expert and founder of Gift of the Nile. Discover your hidden astrological insights, get inspired to embrace your unique traits, and find out how your birth chart can influence love and partnership. Tune in now, and don't forget to visit astrofashionista.com for a personalized reading! 🌙🔮

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Aah fall, the season for Ugg boots, sherpa sweaters, and spiked apple cider. It's time to slow down, pay attention, and embrace new beginnings. When you see the leaves fall, let it remind you to let go of what no longer serves you. Take this time of year to say thank you to difficult experiences and find beauty in the transformation. Now get in loser, we're going apple picking.

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I’m so in love with fall. Let’s FALL in love with ourselves this autumn (I know that was so corny). This episode, I want us to talk about embracing ourselves so we can escape the people pleasing trap. Those of us with people pleaser personalities may forgo our own wants and needs in order to accomodate others. We’re looking for validation, for acceptance, for that stamp of approval. But when you love yourself, like REALLY love yourself, that pressure to be liked can start to fade.

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Hey babes! Ever been in that “What are we?” situation? (or are you in that situation right now?) If you’re having trouble figuring out if it’s a situationship or a relationship, I’ve got four signs to look out for. Listen to the episode to hear what they are.

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Welcome back, lovely listeners! Today we’re diving into the complexities of knowing when to stay and when to leave a relationship. Ever found yourself in a situation where you love someone's company but can't ignore those nagging doubts? Discover the "Hostage Girl" phenomenon and learn how to reclaim your own happiness. Tune in now and embrace the freedom of embracing your joy!

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Have you heard the term “playing house”? It essentially means that you’re doing all of the relationship things but you’re not actually in a relationship. Or what I like to call, being the faux girlfriend. It’s almost like an audition. You’re doing your best at playing the part of their girlfriend to show how great it would be if they actually dated you. Don’t waste your energy! You’ll find somebody who wants to introduce you to their friends and family, who wants to spend holidays with you, who wants to do their best at being YOUR partner. You deserve it!

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Hey friends! Welcome back. Today, as you can tell from the title, I’ve got one question for you: Are you the comfort seeker? It’s not a bad thing! Don’t worry. It’s just something to be aware of. When you’re feeling low, what do you reach for? Is it a favorite snack, rewatching that same tv show, or maybe some good old fashioned S-E-X? Whatever it is, remember that it’s not the activity that’s necessarily the problem - it’s whether or not your relationship to it is sustainable and satisfying. Tune in. Let’s do this!

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It’s hot girl summer, y’all! That means embracing your true, confident self. Nobody else can be YOU. Bring a care-free authenticity to your relationships this summer and see what happens!

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This one might make you feel a little called out - and maybe it should! Do you ever find yourself passing up friends or partners who want your attention but pining for people who are unavailable? That's ok! It's really common. Let’s talk about where this behavior comes from and and how we can work on it.

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Sometimes when we think of “relationships” we only think of the romantic kind. Remember that everything you’re learning on this podcast and along your self-worth journey can be applied to all other kinds of relationships.

Bullying in friendships can be hard to see. It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking that to be somebody’s bestie you have to back them up at every turn. Supporting somebody you love does not mean always agreeing with them. A real friend will be honest with you and will allow you to be honest with them.

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For a lot of us, we don’t necessarily learn until later in life that our value doesn’t come from the outside. Especially as women, we’re taught that one of our most desirable skills is people pleasing. I finally stepped away from living for everyone else’s approval and I feel so free. I hope you can relate to this episode and it helps you on your self worth journey.

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This episode was inspired by a recent coaching session. For a long time I let others determine my worth. If you’re anything like me (and you probably are) you’re waiting for external validation. Let’s put the SELF in self worth, right? Don’t dim yourself or be smaller or change your values in order to be chosen. Assess what you really want and then start auditioning people to see if they fit in your life, not the other way around.

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You all, Grace brings out a different side of me. I was a guest on The Grace Matrix podcast and it's a great episode. Of course we talk about situationships. But we also get into the personal experiences that shaped me and caused me to pursue unhealthy relationships. If you think I've shared it all before, buckle up. I get very honest in this interview and I think you will relate.

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It's not uncommon for people to want to change themselves in relationships in order to please their partner. But it's vital for your well being, that you do not neglect your own needs, values, and authentic selves.

In this episode, Dontea Mitchell-Hunter shares her experiences from previous relationships and interactions with family that led her to becoming more aware of her self-worth. We talk about relationships and the complexities of modern dating and how women can adapt and flourish. All these experiences and realizations led Dontea to become a self-worth coach and therapist who empowers women to discover their value and self-worth and find their own happiness.

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I’m here to share a story, today. After spending ten, maybe eleven years in situations I’m finally in a place where I can see them coming. That wasn’t time wasted, though. By not getting my needs met I actually learned what my needs were.

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Go where you’re wanted. It might sound obvious but it’s not. Start noticing how the people in your life make you feel. Are you fighting for attention? Are you silenced? Maybe it’s time to stop worrying about getting affection from people who are withholding and instead choose to spend time with people who value you.

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Back in season two, episode five, our guest was Anwar White. Anwar is a fantastic dating and relationship coach and has his own podcast called Get Your Guy Coaching. This is actually an episode of his show where I was the guest! We both get personal and share tough times in our pasts where we struggled with low self worth. I hope you walk away from this conversation feeling empowered to lean into your values! Enjoy!

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Wanna know the true tea on self-worth! Well I have an amazing coach Dontea' Mitchell-Hunter that has graced us with her presence to spill it all for you all!

Dontea’ Mitchell-Hunter is a self-worth coach, therapist, and speaker that helps melanated women get out of unfulfilling relationships and recreate self-love & happiness - single or partnered. She wants women to know their worth doesn’t come from being in a relationship nor what others think of them.

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Today I might be coming in a little hot, my loves. Tell me, does this sound like you? You know they’re the ONE but they’re not prioritizing you. They say they’ll call after work but don’t hit you up till 10 p.m.  As much as you want to ignore them… you answer. Why?

I’m going to drop some truth on you… are you ready? You’re “always available,” like we talked about in the last episode, because you’re waiting for them to choose you. It doesn’t have to be a romantic partner: your mom, your friends, your job. I’m not going to judge you if you continue to stay in your situationship, but in this episode I give you a few things to think about.

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If you're really great at figuring out what people need, maybe it's because you HAD to get good at it. A lot of us who come from environments where people didn't directly communicate their feelings grew into adults who prioritize the comfort of others. Don't be afraid to speak up. Your needs are just as important as anyone else's!

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In the first official episode of Season 4, we dive into a topic that many of us may be familiar with: being the "always available" woman.

Being the always available woman means believing that our needs come last. We cancel plans and drop everything for this person. And when they don't reciprocate, it can leave us feeling hurt.

Tune in to this episode and learn about the importance of valuing our own time and energy in relationships and how we can break free from the always available woman archetype to create a fulfilling and balanced life.

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Oh Valentine’s Day… It’s a complicated holiday. It’s supposed to be all about love but for a lot of us it brings up anxiety. V-day can make you question whether your relationship is official or not, it can make us insecure about being single, or we can feel pressure to spend a ton of money.

In this episode I share some ways that you can make the best of this holiday. Make YOURSELF feel good. Think about what YOU want - not just what you’re told you should want.

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This is a talk I gave as part of my “Worth Everything” program. This eight week program will teach you how to accept yourself and know your worth. Included are video lessons, weekly zoom talks, and an online community to give and receive support from your fellow queens.

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It's beyond normal to wonder about your ex and even fantasize about reuniting to try again. There are so many moments after you leave a relationship, whether it be a situationship or not, where you often wonder if you made the right choice. Should you go back or keep it where it's at?

Sit tight. I'll help you decide. 

In this episode I share four questions to help you determine whether your ex is worth calling again. By answering these four questions you’ll be able to make a decision on whether to give it one more shot. Once you become clear on going back to him or not, letting go of wishy-washy boundaries and self-doubt, your indecisiveness will become a thing of the past.

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Today’s guest, Candice Harper, is a Relationship Coach, a Certified/Licensed Hypnotherapist, and a Workshop Facilitator. She teaches singles and couples how to heal from the past and love themselves unconditionally.

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You might not want to hear this but there are good guys everywhere. In this episode I have 3 tips for getting out of mediocre relationships. Self-worth and happy singledom is the first step to finding a fulfilling relationship and each of my tips were written to help you realize that you truly deserve what you're seeking.

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Hello my sweet babies! Today we’re talking about the emotional fallout from ending a situationship. You did the right thing - good job respecting yourself! But just because your relationship wasn’t defined doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt.

In this episode I share three tips to regain your self-trust after it all ends - letting go of the fear that you will make the same choice, again, with future partners. I hope this makes you feel that undeniable confidence I know you deserve!

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Ok, ok. I know the name of the show makes it sound like there’s no such thing as a good situationship. But that’s not necessarily true, boo. It’s still heaux season for a few more days. There’s nothing wrong with something low-commitment so long as everything is above board.

Do what you want, have your fun, just be sure to establish the expectations up front. Decide what your needs are and communicate them with your partner. If they can’t honor your boundaries then guess what? They’re replaceable and you can find a fling that treats you better.

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Why are we expected to endure pain? In platonic and romantic relationships, physically, and even culturally. Today, Janelle is joining us to talk about how to work with that pain and find joy. A racial equity advocate, mom to three cats (if you listen carefully, you can hear them in the background), and one of my favorite people in the world, Janelle truly wants YOU to honor yourself, respect your humanity, and to go for what you want.

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Books Mentioned in This Episode:

The Body is Not an Apology by Sonya Renee Taylor

Pleasure Activism by Adrienne Maree Brown

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We've had our glow up. We've changed the name from Detox Therapy to Situationsh!t. It's not that the direction of the show has changed so much as I'm learning what my strengths are and what's fun for me to make. This season we're going to have a lot of great conversations with some brilliant people. I also have some exciting news coming that I can't talk about just yet. Keep tuning in for the big reveal!

This episode is so fun! Lily and I are podcast soulmates. We even spontaneously break into song! Do yourself a favor and listen to this one today.

There are a lot of different professionals and services that can help you find a happy relationship. Everyone’s needs are different and no program can guarantee you’ll find love. However, if you’re looking for a long-term solution to help you learn the skills (and more importantly the self-love) to make you a skilled dater, this episode is for you.

Lily incorporates therapy and group discussions for a wholistic approach to dating. You can work with her personally or learn for free by listening to her podcast.

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Natalie Fewell is a relational therapist who is here with one clear message: we can thrive in the wake of breakup and divorce. There is a lot of societal shame around being single and especially around divorce. But there’s no reason anyone should have to feel that way. The end of a relationship is a learning opportunity, a jumping off point. As a therapist and divorcee, Natalie knows a thing or two about the real grief as well as growth that comes from leaving a relationship behind.

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Same Guy Different Name Girlfriend Retreat

Check out Nat’s book, Divorce Looks Good on You! A Girlfriend’s Guide to Moving Towards Greatness After Divorce

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Today’s episode is inspired by another listener question! They ask: “When I think about my past relationships, or even when I am in one, I always think about the good times, and then I get all confused and don’t know if I gave up or am giving up to soon. How will I know?”

Things tend to look better in the rearview. We remember the good times and skip over the bad. However, the relationship ended for a reason. That doesn’t mean that you can’t revisit that it. It just means that if you’re considering going back, you’re going to have to check in and see if they’ve changed - and even if YOU’VE changed. Otherwise, the relationship will likely end the way it did the first time. 

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Sometimes when you need a friend the most, it can be the hardest to reach out. There's no reason to suffer alone. Your friends love you and want to give you support and care.

Please rate and review if you enjoy the show! / Don’t forget to rate and review! / Please rate, review, and tell your friends! / If you like the show, be a love and leave us an honest review! / If you’re enjoying the show, leave a review!

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Why is figuring out who you are so important? Well mainly so others don’t impose their own values and truths on you. When we let others lead us without questioning who we are, what we stand for, or what we do not tolerate, we lose ourselves.

Take the time to look inside and find a clear sense of your boundaries, expectations, values and desires. Without all the noise, you might be surprised to find what you really want. You can’t expect the people in your life to read your mind - figure out what’s important to you and then communicate and set boundaries accordingly. It can be scary and exhausting but I promise you it’s worth it!

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Woo-woo! It’s another guest episode! And you are going to love this one. Anwar White is a certified dating and relationship coach and host of the “Get Your Guy Coaching” podcast.  Believe it or not, he focuses on coaching smart and successful women - which means YOU, dear listener! Anwar has a unique perspective that he brings to his coaching and to the podcast today and I know you’re going to learn a lot from this interview.

Get in touch with Anwar:

Link for Free Consultation: https://www.getyourguycoaching.com/apply

Website: https://www.getyourguycoaching.com

IG: @getyourguy_coaching

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Scarlett is back and she has some wisdom for all you listeners out there. As a personal boundaries coach, Scarlett has a lot of wisdom to impart. Boundaries, as we learn in this episode, help to define who you are, to find your power, to build self esteem and confidence. When you value yourself, it becomes easier to and easier to choose what you are and aren’t willing to tolerate. Consistency is key: hold to the rules you set for others and get used to using your voice.

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Learn more about Elevate Healing at elevatehealingllc.com

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Join the waitlist for Scarlett’s upcoming FREE webinar, “Setting Healthy Boundaries”

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I don’t even need to tell you this. You know that feeling. You know when your intuition is telling you something. Don't ignore it! I can tell you, from personal experience, that it’s better to trust yourself right away than let things get worse.

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This episode is all about “incongruence.” You know that thing that happens when information, reality and behaviors just aren’t lining up? That’s incongruence. When this happens, it leaves the body in a state of confusion, anxiety, and even depression.

It can be difficult to ask for clarity when you find yourself in an incongruent situation. Oftentimes, trying to have an honest conversation to get to the truth can result in confrontation and gaslighting. Being told to “let it go”, that you’re being “too sensitive”, or that that “you’re taking things personally” are all manipulative tactics used to avoid providing clarity and plush blame back on you. Trust your gut. Don’t let anyone talk you out of it when you know someone is being dishonest, and love yourself enough to step away from situations or people that are unhealthy for you.

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Welcome to the new year and to season 2 of the podcast! A lot of you have asked how to find a therapist, so I decided to dedicate an entire episode to answering this question. There are so many factors to consider that it can be overwhelming. Along with the information in this episode, I’ve created a downloadable PDF that details how to find yourself a therapist. 

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I can't believe the end of season 1 is already here! Big thank you to so many people. I'll see you in 2022!

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Last week we talked about emotionally unavailable men. This week we’re talking about plain old unavailable men. Men who are married, who are married to their jobs, who put everything else before you. If you want to be somebody’s number one you deserve to be somebody’s number one. 

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Today’s listener letter is a good one: “Why do I keep attracting emotionally unavailable men?” I can definitely relate to this question. If you can too, listen up! In this episode you’ll learn what it means to be “emotionally unavailable” and why you keep coming back to the same kinds of people.

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Get ready! This is a great episode! Today Dontea’ invites her friend Leisa on the podcast to talk about healing friendships. Friends since high school, these two have seen their fair share of ups and downs. They haven’t been besties since they met but there’s a reason they’re still close, today.  The secret to their success is genuinely caring about each others’ feelings and communicating effectively.

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We have another listener letter today - and it’s a good one! What is the definition of a red flag?And why is it so common to overlook them?

Surprise, surprise this all begins in childhood. We are drawn towards what’s familiar. It’s ok to repeat these patterns - it’s only natural. But if you want to stop feeling the pain of unhealthy relationships, identify the difference between something that feels good and something that feels familiar.

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Exciting news today, loves! We have our first listener letter! This listener asks “Do you think people who need family therapy go on to have sh*tty relationships with people they aren’t related to?” Quick Answer: YES!!

This episode discusses the correlation between the way you were raised and the kind of relationships you have in adulthood. It’s important to note that “relationships” doesn’t just refer to dating - these unhealthy relationship patterns appear in platonic friendships, too.

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This is our first time having a guest on the podcast! Please welcome Scarlett E! Scarlett is a licensed marriage and family therapist with expertise in holistic healing and certifications in many specialties. She joins us today to share her personal stories and expert insights about the ups and downs of family affairs dealing with dysfunctional family members

In this episode you will learn:

-What “family dysfunction” means and how that definition can vary

-How to effectively use boundaries to protect yourself from toxic behavior

-Questions you can ask yourself to clarify whether a family relationship is healthy for you

-Some advice and tactics for working through difficult family dynamics

If you’re struggling with family dysfunction please reach out for help: Find a therapist. Talk to a trusted friend. Be your own confidant and journal. This episode is all about self love and self respect. Don’t forget to rate and review, loves!

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Welcome back, loves! This week we’re talking about what it means to “eat the crumbs”.

In this episode you will learn:

-what it means to “eat the crumbs”

-how to recognize when someone is giving you crumbs

-what you can do to set healthy boundaries for yourself

This episode builds on the “situationship” theme from last week and introduces you to next week’s topic of “boundaries”. If you like the show please rate and review - it really helps the podcast!

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Hello loves! On todays episode of the podcast we're going to be talking about intimacy and sex.

In this episode you will learn:

-how intimacy equals sex but how sex does not equal intimacy

-what a "situationship" is and how to tell if you are in one

-four schemes that will tell you you're in a failed relationship

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In today's episode, we discuss how and why women often make themselves small, silencing their voices, and not asking for their needs to be met. At the end of the episode, I explain why we should continue to take up space and how not doing so will greatly impact our mental health. See you in the episode.

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The Detox Therapy show with Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Dontea' Mitchell-Hunter, is a space for casual and straightforward conversations, storytelling, and interviews that cover everyday relationship challenges, discuss mental wellness, and provide self-worth tips to help black women find their happiness.

Stay tuned, new episodes coming in the next few weeks.