Pure Gold

We are a people who love new things, aren't we? Let's be honest, could you use that new iPhone 14 Pro? I could! And yet, while we crave the new, we ignore all that we have been given already. The same applies to our walk with the Lord. So often we want fresh revelation and new words from God. "What are you saying God, what are you doing?" And while there's nothing wrong with asking these questions, have we bothered to remember all that He has done and spoken in our lives already? We have to remember our history with God. This week, Frank talks about the importance of focusing on that history and bringing to the surface everything the Lord has already deposited in your heart. For more information about this podcast and other great content, visit Purity For Life.

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Have you ever wondered what we could possibly ever give back to God that He hasn't already given to us first? In other words, what do you give the person who has it all??? This week on the podcast, Frank shares about the ONE thing that matters most to the Lord. And believe it or not, it's a gift that you can give Him every single day. For more information about this podcast and other great content, visit Purity For Life.

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Which is more important in recovery? Real freedom or simple sobriety. This is the question we explore this week on the podcast. Real freedom has so much more to do with the journey than the destination. And as your recovery becomes as natural as breathing, you will begin to experience deeper places of sobriety that is long-lasting and consistent. For more information about this podcast and other great content, visit Purity For Life.

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Recently, I began thinking about one of the most fundamental building blocks of addiction recovery: Honesty. The willingness to drop the walls, drop the facade, and allow others to see inside of your life. A life of honesty refuses to hide, cover up, or deny the truth. It seeks only to be completely transparent, allowing light to shine upon anything unseen. For more information about this podcast and other great content, visit Purity For Life.

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Throughout our lives, we are trained to listen to a vast multitude of voices. Voices that have a powerful influence upon us. These voices can come from parents, siblings, family members, friends, and co-workers. Depending on the household in which we were raised, those voices determine in many ways the path we find ourselves on in our adolescent years all the way through becoming an adult. Some are incredibly healthy and life-giving while others can be destructive.

In this episode, I want to switch gears just a little bit and talk about a different voice. One you may not be totally familiar with: The voice of your emotions. Yes, believe it or not, your emotions have a voice and the real question is this: Are you listening?

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Just Pray Harder

Three words that have been spoken by a multitude of well-meaning Christians throughout the years. Words that have traditionally been a response to another Christian’s unhealthy behavior or lifestyle. It may have been directed towards a particular kind of sin or behavior. And in most cases, it was spoken with completely pure intentions. Yet for many these words were the complete opposite message they needed to hear.In this episode, Frank shares the fallacy AND the significance behind this statement. Also, is recovery all on us? Or is it God's responsibility to change us? We explore these questions and more.

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"But the Lord stood at my side and gave me strength, so that through me the message might be fully proclaimed and all the Gentiles might hear it. And I was delivered from the lion’s mouth." (2 Timothy 4:17). On this bonus episode, Frank shares his thoughts from 2 Timothy 4:17. Remember this week that you are not standing alone! No matter what you might be facing, you hold a mighty promise that God's presence and His strength is yours for the taking. We pray this powerful promise blesses you today! For more information about this podcast and other great content, visitPurity For Life.

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Do you have a vision of who you want to be in your recovery journey? In this first episode of 2022, Frank shares the importance of knowing the direction and steps you want to take in your life to become a person of health and wholeness, especially as it relates to your sexual integrity. We look briefly at the life of Paul the apostle and the words he penned in Philippians 3:13. We too can have the same resolve in our lives that Paul had in his. Freedom and healing are possible for us, but before we can walk in it, we have to envision it. We pray this podcast helps you understand the vision for your own personal recovery! For more information about this podcast and other great content, visit Purity For Life.

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Did you know that it is possible for a man or woman to fail in their recovery? The first is most obviously: The moment you quit, you fail. But the second reason may be a little more elusive. This week on the podcast, Frank talks about the single greatest reason you will fail in recovery. And it may not be what you thought! For more information about this podcast and other great content, visit Purity For Life.

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With every season that passes I’m sure you re-examine your routines between school, work, and family. Our schedules, structures, & way of life changes from season to season. The same is true for our recovery journey. On this episode, Frank shares about the importance of re-evaluating the things that are working and not working on your journey. Take time to see what needs improvement or modification in your life so you can continue to grow, heal, & find freedom the struggles you have faced. For more information about this podcast and other great content, visit Purity For Life.

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Shame is one of the most paralyzing emotions a person can ever feel. Unfortunately, most who struggle with sexual addiction undergo some form of shame. How can a person become free from shame? This week, Frank shares some thoughts from his journey on how you can live in freedom over the powerful grip of shame. For more information about this podcast and other great content, visit Purity For Life.

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Today, nearly twelve years into recovery from a porn addiction that consumed the better part of my adolescent and young adult life, I’m convinced now more than ever of need for healthy community. The presence of various forms of community are the greatest tools I carry, even to this day, in order to live victoriously. This week on Pure Gold, I share 4 vital sources of community you can find today! Every person needs to be apart of life-giving community if they are to find healing, wholeness, and freedom from sexual addiction. Enjoy the podcast!

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Small Groups Online Purity For Life

Music: "Strength" by Legacy: Instrumentals

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Thoughts on Proverbs 3:5-6: "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight."

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Did you know that your heart is your most valuable possession in life? More than your career, your 401K, your house, even your wife or your kids!! So when the junk in this world tries to infiltrate our hearts, it can do some real damage. Pornography is like a wrecking ball to the human heart. I don’t think we often realize the devastating effects it has upon our lives. In this video, I share 2 ways that pornography negatively affects our hearts and the positive things we can do to combat it!

Read the entire article here: http://pflhome.com/.../2-ways-porn-negatively-affects.../

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If I were to ask you to make a wish list of your top five destinations you’d love to travel to in the entire world,  what would they be? Or what about a bucket list of ten or twenty things you’d like to do in your lifetime? No doubt many of you have already had those dreams.  Here’s a question: What do you want from your recovery in 2021? If I were to ask you to envision what kind of person you’d like to be on December 31, 2021, what kind of person would that be?  I really believe every year around this time we should be looking in two directions: backwards at the previous year we just walked through and forwards towards the new year. How have we grown? What lessons have we learned? Perhaps even a couple harder questions: Where have we struggled? Where have we declined in our progress?

We hope you you enjoy the second part of this series from Pure Gold! For more information on this podcast & other great resources, visit pflhome.com.

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Small Groups Online Ever Accountable
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If I were to ask you to make a wish list of your top five destinations you’d love to travel to in the entire world,  what would they be? Or what about a bucket list of ten or twenty things you’d like to do in your lifetime? No doubt many of you have already had those dreams.  Here’s a question: What do you want from your recovery in 2021? If I were to ask you to envision what kind of person you’d like to be on December 31, 2021, what kind of person would that be?  I really believe every year around this time we should be looking in two directions: backwards at the previous year we just walked through and forwards towards the new year. How have we grown? What lessons have we learned? Perhaps even a couple harder questions: Where have we struggled? Where have we declined in our progress?

We hope you you enjoy the first part of this series from Pure Gold! For more information on this podcast & other great resources, visit pflhome.com.

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Understanding that fear isn’t something you have to live with is hard. But it’s not impossible. In this episode of Pure God, Frank shares from 2 Timothy 1:7 and encourages listeners to not allow fear to drive their lives, even in the midst of pandemics and elections. For more information on this podcast & other great resources, visit pflhome.com.

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On this bonus episode of Pure Gold, Frank shares two really important recovery tips for your upcoming weekend! While it's important to have fun on your time off, you also need to be wise with how you spend your time and who you spend it with -- especially if you're walking in recovery. We hope these tips help you to be successful this weekend in your recovery journey! And don't forget to have fun too!! For more information on this podcast & other great resources, visit pflhome.com.

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In this episode of Pure Gold, Frank talks about three steps you need to be taking along your journey to discover the reason for your sexually compulsive behavior. Discovering the “why” behind addiction is so important for long-lasting healing & success in recovery. For more information on this podcast & other great resources, visit pflhome.com.

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Blog: “3 Steps To Discovering Why You Are Addicted” Small Groups Online --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/puregold/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/puregold/support

We’re living in such crazy times! With COVID-19 a new reality in our world today, violent & destructive riots occurring every day, and a highly contentious election coming up, how is one supposed to find peace in their every day lives? And even more so for those who listen to this podcast, how does a person thrive in their recovery journey? This week on the podcast, we share a message that Frank preached recently at a local church on the topic of experiencing peace in times of chaos. We pray that it will be a blessing in your life!

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In part two of our series on honesty, Frank shares from an article he wrote a couple years back entitled, "What's Stopping You From Being Honest?".  Specifically, he shares three reasons he sees that stop someone from being completely honest with themselves and with other people.

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Article: What's Stopping You From Being Honest? Philippians 4:8-9 MSG

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One of the cornerstones of a successful recovery journey is honesty. A person cannot possibly find freedom, healing, & wholeness in their life without honesty. In this episode, Frank talks about why honesty is so important and how you can start the journey towards freedom today!

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This week on the podcast, we go back into the archives as Frank shares a talk he gave a couple years ago on the power of agreements -- subtle lies that come into our heart & mind that we might believe about ourselves, others, and even God. Agreements can take a strong hold of our lives if we're not careful. How do we break the agreements we’ve made in our lives?

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Our health & success in recovery depends on being honest with ourselves. If we can’t be honest with ourselves and what’s going on inside our hearts, how we can ever expect to be honest with others? This week on the podcast, we talk about four questions that will help you navigate your feelings, thoughts, and the actions you take in your recovery journey.

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What does being made new really look like for someone after they meet Jesus? And how must our POSITION in Christ need to increasingly align with our PRACTICE in life?

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In this podcast, Frank talks specifically to the Church about what addiction is and how we can find healing from compulsive sexual behavior. He also shares his story from addiction into recovery.

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When a small request is made in the redemptive process, there is a huge opportunity to build trust and security. Our commitment to follow through on the request with intentionality and timeliness makes all the difference. We really appreciate Jason Martinkus for supplying his thoughts for this recovery & marriage tip.

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Too often, we ignore what’s going on inside our hearts because it’s too painful to look at. Proverbs 4:23 has some excellent advice for us to remain diligent in checking in on our heart on a daily basis.

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For years, we've been sharing the importance of understanding the "why's" behind addiction. Until we do that, we can never be truly free from our struggles. In this bonus segment, Frank shares a recent post from X3church and the importance of understanding what's underneath compulsive porn use.

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This week on the podcast, we're re-releasing what is potentially the all-time most popular podcast since the start of our ministry, Purity For Life. Sex addiction is devastating in a person's life. And it has many consequences that can potentially spill over and affect the people closest to him or her. Our marriage almost ended before it even got started because of my addiction to pornography. But as you'll hear in this episode, not only did our marriage go through great pain, ultimately it went through great healing because I (Frank) stopped hiding and sought help. Tracey & I pray, out of all of our podcasts to date, that this one will bless you and help you to find the same healing we did in our marriage.

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Thoughts from Matt. 26:41 & Heb. 4:15-16. This past weekend, Frank jumped on Facebook Live to share some thoughts about temptation. Is temptation really all that bad of a thing? In the past, we've traditionally thought that temptation is simply the diving board that launches us into sin, but what if our various temptations and triggers are actually pointing to deeper needs and desires within us longing to be filled? We hope you benefit greatly from this podcast!

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Even in the midst the COVID-19 crisis going on in our world where everything seems to have been shaken, we serve a God who is unshaken! And that means we can live that way as well -- when we choose to. In this video, Frank looks at Hebrews 6:19-20 for some biblical perspective on how we can live courageously in uncertain times.

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This week on the podcast, Frank talks about learning to value the process of our recovery, and not just the destination we have in sight. So often, it's easy for us to only see the end game or the place that we want to get to. We forget about the incredibly special journey we're currently on and what we're learning about ourselves. There is so much gold to be found when we slow down and treasure the moments we're living in.

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One of the core truths of recovery is learning that you can’t get better by yourself. And you never will…ON YOUR OWN. We need people and were designed to be in relationship and community with other safe, healthy people. Especially as we recovery from life-controlling addictions.

Purity For Life is proud to partner with and incredible online ministry called Live Free. Live Free is a private community for men seeking freedom from porn and lust. The ministry exists in the form of an app you can download on your phone which connects you instantly with a community of people who also struggle with pornography and other sexual addictions. Here you can ask questions, share struggles, and receive encouragement for the journey that you’re on.

But it goes further than that. You can also choose to sign up for a weekly group meeting where the community goes deeper. Each week, you’ll have the opportunity to share openly and talk with other men face to face in a live Zoom call led by a trained group leader.

There are very few ministries, if any, that offer this kind of quality community experience in such a private, secure way. To learn more about how you can get started in a support group or even just get connected with the app, check out Live Free today!

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What a crazy time we find ourselves in as the world battles the spread of COVID-19 (Coronavirus). We certainly need to be praying for healing for the sick and protection for those who are healthy. But this week on the podcast we want to focus on the temptation to try and escape the pressure, the stress, and the fear that comes along with this virus. It's very easy for many in recovery to potentially slip back into old patterns of behavior with all the extra time home we have now. Screen time has increased and potentially isolation as well. So how can we avoid unhealthy escapes back into pornography? By allowing God's Word to fill us and remind us that He is our safety and protection during this storm. We pray this podcast blesses your recovery journey.

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In this bonus podcast from Pure Gold, we take a deep dive into the website behind Purity For Life. If you've never been to Purity For Life's website, you'll want to check it out for tons of resources & help for your recovery journey. Explore the podcast archive, articles, links, videos, and even easy ways for you to contact Frank & Tracey Honess for further support. It's all available to you by visiting pflhome.com.

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In this bonus segment form the Pure Gold podcast, Frank shares about the importance of staying connected to and abiding in the One who created us in order to see long-term success in our recovery journeys. Abiding in Christ is an ongoing, daily activity that must take place in order to find freedom and healing from sexual addiction. You can do it! We hope you enjoy this podcast!

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SHOW NOTES:John 15:1-8 TPT

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If you've walked through addiction long enough, you know that shame is a very real part of your life. It tries to convince a person they are worthless and hold no value. This is exactly what the enemy wants us to think, even though we know the opposite is true. Even though you are addicted, you are still loved and worthy of redemption and restoration. On this week's podcast, Frank shares a letter from one of his recovery guys where he addresses the topic shame and honor in the of a recovering sex addict. We hope the truth shared in this podcast will help you find freedom in your life! Enjoy the podcast!

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In this bonus segment from Pure Gold, Frank shares about the necessity of being all in or all out when it comes to our recovery journeys. If we want to thrive and become the people that God wants us to be, we must lay it all on the table and do whatever it takes. Enjoy the podcast!

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The turn into a new year is a great time to start fresh as many people set out to make New Year resolutions -- hoping to keep them for as many months (or as many hours) as they can! But even just making a few adjustments in your life can be incredibly healthy. Maybe you're in that place right now in your recovery journey where you just feel stuck. In this episode, Frank talks about three keys steps that an individual must take in their recovery journeys if they want long-lasting success. These are super important steps you can't afford to miss! Enjoy the podcast!

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Welcome to the new year! And even more monumental, welcome to a new DECADE! While new year's resolutions can often be forgotten, there is always value in creating goals for yourself. And we should do the same for our recovery journey. In this episode, Frank shares why we should have goals for recovery as well as sharing his own goals for recovery this year. Enjoy the podcast!

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In this holiday purity tip from Pure Gold, Frank shares about the importance of remembering our stories in recovery. He also shares his story for all those who have never heard it before. It is truly by the grace of God that Frank found freedom from porn addiction and continues to grow healthier today! You can also hear his story by going to the "About" menu on Purity For Life's website.

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In the first of a series of holiday purity tips, Frank shares the importance of not allowing stress to affect your most closest relationships. The holidays are crazy busy! We get it. But understanding how stress affects your heart & how stress affects others in your life will help you grow in recovery.

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This week on Pure Gold, we visit a pretty controversial question in our culture today for many marriages: "If we both enjoy watching pornography together, is it still a sin" Wow! Frank shares a segment from the Fierce Marriage Podcast, hosted by Ryan & Selena Frederick. They both do a masterful job at answering this question and giving great instruction from God's Word. Enjoy the podcast!

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In this bonus tip from Pure Gold, Frank shares some powerful, but very simple recovery best practices -- starting with the discipline of learning deep breathing techniques. We pray that this very simple technique will help you grow in your recovery journey for years to come!

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This week on Pure Gold, we highlight a brand new ministry out there that is offering men a place to find a safe community in their efforts to live with sexual purity. Live Free is a private and safe community for men, struggling with lust and porn, where they can find support, accountability, practical teaching, and most importantly... freedom. Frank also shares some bonus content from Live Free on the topic of having a healthy perspective in recovery. Enjoy the podcast!

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Big news coming out this week about Christian comedian John Crist. In this special segment from Pure Gold, we offer our thoughts & prayers for John and all those involved in this story. Please go to Faithwire here to read the full story.

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In this special episode of Pure Gold, we honor the life of Dr. Mark Laaser, one of the early pioneers in the field of sexual addiction & recovery. Dr. Laaser passed away early on the morning of September 27, 2019 after a long battle with myeloma cancer. His life & legacy is nothing short of amazing and while I didn't know him personally, I did have the chance to interview him for the podcast in 2014. I share my thoughts of Dr. Laaser as well as the interview I did with him regarding his book, "Taking Every Thought Captive". Mark -- we will miss you, but we thank God for your life and for the thousands of lives your ministry touched on this earth. Friends, enjoy the podcast.

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Can a person stop looking at porn but still be an addict?

I love this question and have encountered it many times in my work with men throughout the years. One of the purity coaches I most respect is Michael Leahy, founder & CEO of BraveHearts, a faith-based, non-profit ministry, whose mission has been to lead people to freedom from sexual sin and sex addiction through a growing relationship with Jesus Christ.

Recently, someone asked Michael this question:

"Can you define terms you use like slip, minor slip, relapse? If I have been successful in stopping porn use but unsuccessful in stopping acting out behaviors, how do I discern where I am at?"

I really loved his answer to the question. It's both helpful and specific but really gets to the heart of the writer's question. Enjoy!

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So many guys I talk to wonder why and how they get themselves into the situations they're in. How did that slip occur? What led to that relapse? Without understanding what happened BEFORE the slip or relapse, we'll keep repeating the same mistakes over and over again. It's what leads up to the point of acting out that really matters. In this bonus episode, Frank shares 3 very common triggers that we can't afford to ignore if we want to get healthy in recovery and become the people that God wants us to be. Enjoy the podcast!

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This week on the podcast, Frank shares a purity tip on what to do when you reach that point in the week where your tank is empty and you need to be re-filled. We all get there! A crazy week at work, the beautiful demands of family, and of course the circumstances that arise throughout the week that we didn't predict. Life happens and we get tired. That's the reality. But we don't have to stay there and there are some really important things we can do for our soul to get refreshed. Praying this tip encourages you this week! Blessings!

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Recovery from addiction is a battle fought on many fronts. There is not one key to freedom and healing, but a culmination of little & big decisions that a person must make to get healthy again. It's developing a fierce tenacity and commitment to doing the right thing even if you slip up. But it's also about putting the right practices in place to help you when you're facing a battle. This week on the podcast, we talk about the discipline we must have in recovery & hear from a guest therapist about developing healthy disciplines to guide you along the way. Enjoy the podcast!

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One of the greatest tools a person in recovery needs in their tool belt is good software on all their devices designed to protect them from the junk on the internet and keep their accountability partners in the loop about their progress. Covenant Eyes, in my opinion, is the best out there with their new software they've unveiled, called "Screen Accountability". In this segment, Frank discusses the importance of having software on all your devices & details CE's new resource.

Interested in checking out Covenant Eyes? They offer two incredibly affordable plans for individuals & families! Click here to read more about the different tiers and to sign up for screen accountability. Make sure you're covered & protected with Covenant Eyes!

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My point of brokenness occurred when my wife (fiance at the time) took her engagement ring off and slid it across the table and said: "I won't marry you". It was as if the Lord was saying: "You've nearly destroyed your life, I won't allow you to destroy my daughter's life." Dishonesty is a destroyer of marriage. The moment you stop being honest with your spouse is the moment you have given up on your marriage. This week, Frank shares from his own life what it took to come out of addiction and into freedom. Also, what is temptation really? Should we be worried or concerned when we're tempted?

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Transparency in recovery means you're completely honest with your spouse, doesn't it? What do you really share with them? How far do you go in explaining to them how you struggle? This week, Frank & Tracey both attempt to address these questions and more as they talk from their own personal experience of addiction & recovery journeys. Husbands AND wives: You don't want to miss this episode.

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This week, we continue our conversation from episode three on how we talk to our spouses about our addictions. There are three specific steps we need to begin taking before that conversation happens. Frank shares those three steps & why it's so important to be completely honest with your spouse about your addiction. Enjoy the podcast!

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In this bonus content from Pure Gold, Frank shares a recent message he preached on learning to trust God with life's toughest questions. We all have questions in life that can either lead us towards Jesus or away from Him if we allow them to. The same is true in our recovery journeys. So many men wonder how long it will take them to recover? Why do we struggle? When will I get better? Thankfully, the Word of God helps us gain perspective when we have questions. Frank shares some thoughts from his own journey in this encouraging & challenging message. Enjoy!

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Pure Gold is back after a long hiatus with a huge episode! This week, we want to bring you a message of hope in your recovery journey. Maybe you're at a tough place right now where recovery just doesn't seem worth it. Or maybe you're at a super strong place. No matter where you're at, you're always in need of hope. Frank shares some passages of Scripture to encourage you along the journey & Tracey shares some hopeful reminders for spouses of sexual strugglers. Also in this episode is the Purity Quote of the Week & a word from Pastor Judah Smith entitled "Jesus Loves Barabbas". 

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Sometimes, the term "recovery" gets a bad rap. Some view it as some kind of impairment or flaw if you're walking in recovery from an addiction. But the reality is that there's MUCH joy that we can celebrate in recovery. This week, Frank encourages listeners to focus on the joys that one can experience as they walk away from the kind of lifestyles that kept us in bondage for years! Through brokenness, self-discovery, and hard work, joy can prevail as we become the men & women God has created us to be. Enjoy the podcast!

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In this episode, we wrap our series on hitting rock bottom by talking about three questions: 1. Can I change? 2. Am I willing to change? 3. What am I doing to change? These are three crucial questions to be able to answer in recovery if we wanting to see lasting change and transformation. We hope you enjoy this episode!

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Happy Tuesday everyone!!! There's a lot hard work that goes into the ministry every year. Content is produced tirelessly to help individuals live with sexual integrity through Jesus Christ. And the work will continue into 2019! But we need your help & support into the new year! In the six years Purity For Life has been around, we've never asked for support until now. And we understand there is alot to give to at the end of the year but if you've been personally helped or know someone who has been helped by this ministry, would you consider giving to Purity For Life? There are three different tiers of support you can choose from and you can either do monthly giving or a one time gift. It would be greatly appreciated! Please go to our support page here to learn how you can help support Purity For Life. Thank you so much! We appreciate your support!!!

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How do you know when you've really reached rock bottom? A place of brokenness where you can finally see the damage that your addiction is doing to your life? This has been one of the most intriguing questions for me as I've worked with men in recovery from sexual addiction. In this episode, I share my thoughts on what rock bottom looks like and how we can continually live in a place of complete transparency before men and before God.

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Recently, Frank & Tracey were invited to Gateway Fellowship in Bridgeville, Delaware to talk about the importance of understanding one's identity & purpose. In this podcast, Tracey talks about how we walk in the purpose that God has for our lives. Remember: As you seek God first, all the other details of your lives will be taken care of. We hope you'll be encouraged by this talk!

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Recently, Frank & Tracey were invited to Gateway Fellowship in Bridgeville, Delaware to talk about the importance of understanding one's identity & purpose. In this podcast, Frank talks about how our purpose derives first from our identity, not the other way around. Remember: WHO you are will always be more important than WHAT you do. We hope you'll be encouraged by this talk!

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Kicking off the new year, Frank shares a compelling question for everyone wanting to grow in their recovery journeys: "What is your ultimate goal in recovery?" Where do you envision yourself at the end of this year? What would you like to have accomplished in your journey for sexual purity? These are all crucial questions to be able to answer for all of us. Take some time to reflect on this question for your own life and feel free to share with us your thoughts. We'd love to hear from you!

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