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Selfish is the key that unlocks the dungeon. This is feminism for the woman who's been in the trenches of life for decades. The kind that comes from surviving marriages, rebuilds, and decades of following rules that were never heard. The confession booth for women who are done being good. Ranked #23 in Feedspot's Top 80 Badass Female Podcasts of 2026
- 204 - Stop Being A Good Woman! How Doing Everything 'Right' Can Ruin Your Life
What if being a 'good woman' is the very thing keeping you stuck?
Be nice. Be reasonable. Keep everyone happy. Don't disappoint people. Don't make a scene. And whatever you do, don't be selfish.
I followed those rules for YEARS. I stayed married for 24 years, raised 3 kids, tried harder, kept the peace and did everything I though a good woman was supposed to do.
And I was fucking miserable.
In this episode, I'm breaking down the Good Woman rules so many of us have been following without even realizing it, why leaving a marriage doesn't necessarily free you from them, and the difference between being a Good Woman, a Bad Girl and a Selfish Woman.
Because you can leave the marriage and still live like you need permission.
You can stop pleasing your husband and start pleasing your kids, your ex, your parents, your friends or the entire fucking internet instead.
Different people. Same prison.
And if you've spent your life trying to do everything 'right' and still find yourself wondering when the hell your life gets to belong to you, this epsiode is for you.
IN THIS EPISODE:
The invisible rules women learn about being 'good' Why self-abandonment can feel like virtue How Good Woman programming follows you into divorce and your next chapter Why becoming the Bad Girl isn't the same as becoming free The difference between rebellion and self-posession How to catch yourself obeying rules you never consciously chose The questions that changes everything: Who gets to write the rules for your life?Being a Selfish Woman isn't about not giving a fuck about anyone else.
It's about finally refusing to abandon yourself to prove that you're good.
Your life belongs to you.
READY TO STOP ABANDONING YOURSELF?
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Tue, 22 Sep 2026 - 14min - 203 - Sparkle & Grit: Breaking Free From Burnout & Living in Technicolor with Wendy Meadows
What if burnout isn't evidence that you're doing life wrong?
For high-achieving women, burnout can come with an extra layer of shame. We think we should be able to handle it. Mange it better. Be more disciplined. Get it together.
In this episode, I'm joined by Wendy Meadows, author of Sparkle & GRIT, for a conversation about creating a life that holds ambition, meaning, joy, and the inevitable harder seasons too.
Wendy shares her Sparkle & GRIT framework and we talk about what happens when the balance gets lost, and why women have been conditioned to experience burnout as a personal failure rather than something we can respond to with awareness and empowered choice.
In this episode:
The balance between sparkle and grit in a meaningful life Why high-achieving women are particularly vulnerable to burnout Releasing the guilt and self-blame we attach to burnout Wendy's definition of burnout and how it can shift you toward empowered choice The Groundhog Day framework for when life feels monotonous Bringing more joy into your life in ways that actually work for youThis is an inspiring conversation with a lovely reminder at its centre: a meaningful life gets to contain ambition and effort, pleasure and play, darkness and light. The whole colour palette.
About Wendy Meadows
Wendy is a seasoned family law attorney, former litigator, and certified life coach. She is also a mediator and author of the best-selling book, Sparkle & GRIT: Live a Technicolor Life by Finally Finding Balance, Escaping Montony, and Beating Burnout: a framework that helps high-achieving women break free from burnout and live on purpose. She blends practical strategies with compassionate mindset work to help them reboot their habits, re-ignite their purpose, and build lives that actually fit.
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Mon, 31 Aug 2026 - 14min - 202 - Ditch Imposter Syndrome And Start Owning Your Spotlight with Christine Blosdale
You feel the pull. The idea keeps returning. Some part of you knows you're meant for something bigger.
Then...the other voice arrives.
Who do you think you are? What if you're not ready? What if everyone realizes you have no idea what you're doing?
In this episode, I'm joined by award-winning media personality, coach, and podcast host Christine Blosdale for a candid conversation about why imposter syndrome follows so many talented, high-achieving women into the very rooms they've earned the right to occupy.
We explore how deeply women have been conditioned to doubt themselves, downplay their gifts, and wait until they can do something perfectly before allowing themselves to begin. Christine also shares the perspective shift that can pull you out of imposter syndrome almost immediately.
In this episode, we talk about:
Why self-doubt is so deeply embedded in women's conditioning Why accomplished women still feel like frauds, even when the evidence says otherwise How perfectionism disguises itself as preparation and keeps you from taking action The inner pull that tells you there is something bigger you're meant to do Why you don't need to know exactly where that pull will lead before following it How shifting your attention from yourself to the person you can help quiets imposter syndrome Why your quirks, personality, and humanness are part of your power What becomes possible when you finally stop hiding and own your spotlightIf you've been circling an idea, waiting to feel qualified, or overthinking everything instead of taking action, this episode is your loving kick in the pants.
Christine Blosdale is the Expert Authority Coach - a visibility strategist and personal branding expert who helps entrepreneurs, coaches, authors and thought leaders get seen, trusted, and paid for what they already know.
Mon, 17 Aug 2026 - 25min - 201 - The Friends You've Outgrown (Nobody Warns You About This)
You can love someone and still outgrow the version of yourself that exists around them.
And nobody warns you about this part of changing your life.
We talk about the habits you'll have to change, the risks you'll have to take, the courage it takes to walk away from something familiar.
We don't talk nearly enough about what happens when the people you love are still connected to the person you used to be.
This episode is about friendship, growth, and the strange, sometimes painful experience of realizing that a relationship that once fit your life may not fit the life you're building now.
Because every room has an invisible definition of what's normal.
What you're allowed to want. What feels possible. What seems too ambitious, too risky, too expensive, or simply not like you.
And sometimes, all it takes is getting close to one woman who is already doing the thing you thought was impossible.
She doesn't have to coach you. She doesn't have to give you a ten-step plan.
Sometimes another woman gives you evidence.
In this episode, we're talking about:
What it actually means to outgrow people Why the people you love may still be relating to who you used to be How the people around you shape what feels normal and possible Why outgrowing a room isn't the same as abandoning the people in it Why courage, desire and aliveness is contagious Powerful questions to audit the spaces you're spending time in Why I created The Society and why it's the antidote to being stuck This isn't about deciding your old friends aren't 'good enough' anymoreIt's about recognizing that you may need people in your life who have evidence of where you're going, not only memories of where you've been.
And maybe the question isn't simply, 'Who have I outgrown?'
Maybe it's, 'Who do I become when I'm around the people in my life?'
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From July 24-26, we're gathering for three live experiences:
Happy Hour, Coffee Chat, and Sparkle Party.
Come to one. Come to all three. Opening Weekend is completely free.
Your next chapter may begin with one conversation, one new room, or one woman who makes you realize that the thing you want isn't nearly as impossible as you thought.
Go find her....or maybe, come find us.
Wed, 15 Jul 2026 - 27min - 200 - The Selfish Sex Revolution with Susan Bratton
What if the same conditioning that teaches women to abandon themselves in life is also showing up in the bedroom?
In this fascinating and often hilarious conversation, Valerie sits down with intimacy expert Susan Bratton to explore what happens when women reclaim their desire, their pleasure, and their right to experience the full spectrum of who they are.
Together, they unpack the impact of cultural conditioning on intimacy, why so many couples struggle to talk openly about sex, and how creating a thriving intimate relationship has less to do with performance and more to do with curiosity, communication, and connection.
Susan shares surprising insights on everything from libido difference and orgasmic potential to the male loneliness epidemic, erotic play, and why great sex can continue to evolve throughout our lives.
Whether you're single, partnered, divorced, dating, or simply curious about your own relationship with desire, this conversation offers a fresh perspective on intimacy, pleasure, and what it means to come fully alive.
In This Episode:
The hidden impact of cultural conditioning on men and women in the bedroom Why living as your full self transforms intimacy The intimacy gap many people aren't discussing Orgasmic cross-training and expanding your pleasure potential Practical ways to get your partner engaged in the conversation Why orgasms are the fountain of youth!About Susan Bratton
Susan Bratton is a leading advocate for passionate relationships and lifelong intimacy. She is known for helping people create deeper connection, greater pleasure, and more fulfilling relationships through practical, approachable education about intimacy and sexual wellness.
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Wed, 10 Jun 2026 - 46min - 199 - How To End A Marriage Without Going To War: With Kate Daly of amicable
Nobody teaches women how to leave.
You get handed a lawyer's number, a horror story from a friend, and the quiet impication that if your marriage ended...somethig must have gone wrong.
But what if divorce didn't have to become a bloodbath to be real?
In this episode, Valerie sits down with Kate Daly, co-founder of Amicable, to talk about the divorce conversation almost nobody is having:
How to end a marriage without destroying yourself in the process.
This conversation is practial, honest, emotional, and surprisingly hopeful. Especially for women trying to navigate the impossible tension between choosing themelves and carrying everyone else's emotions too.
Whether you're considering divorce, in the middle of one, or rebuilding after it, this episode witill change the way you think about what's possible.
IN THIS EPISODE:
How to have the conversation without it becoming emotional warfare What to do before lawyers get involved, and why it matters The mistake women make when managing their partner's emotions What 'amicable' actually means (and why it's not weakness) The two things that truly impact kids during divorce How to co-parent without losing yourself The new rules for communicating with your ex Why divorce may not be the end of your life, but the beginning of finally living it.THE SELFISH WOMAN TAKE:
Most women spend years managing the marriage long before they ever leave it. Managing moods. Managing tension. Managing disappointment. Managing themselves. This episode is about another way. Not perfect or painless, but conscious, clear, and far less desructive than the story we've been sold about what divorce has to look like.
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Thu, 14 May 2026 - 52min - 198 - 'Reinvention' is Bullshit: Episode 134
The Confession Booth is open!
I'm calling BS on the 'reinvention trend'....one that I was fully participating in for the last few years.
Nobody reinvents themselves on purpose. Not the way the industry sells it. Real change doesn't start with a plan, it starts with one thought that won't let you go:
I want something different.
In this episode, I'm dismantling the whole reinvention myth, and replacing it with something that actually works.
It's a confession, a rallying cry, and the most extravagant permission slip I've ever handed out.
You'll hear:
The reinvention lie Why your perspective is supposed to shift as you grow What real change looks and feels like, and why there's no parade for it The one sentence that starts everything Why 'terrixciting' is the most honest word for where you are right nowResources mentioned:
The Quiz: why you keep holding yourself back
Tue, 14 Apr 2026 - 29min - 197 - Stress Is Not The Problem...This Is: With Dr. Rachel Goldman
We've all been there: a plan falls apart, a deadline shifts, or a minor inconvenience feels like the end of the world. Or, we spend way too much of our time and energy worrying about 'what if.' We usually blame the situation for how we feel, but today's guest says the 'problem' isn't what's happening - it's how we're wired to react to it.
I'm joined by Dr. Rachel Goldman, a clinical psychologist, NYU professor, and a leading expert in the mind-body connection who has shared her insights alongside icons like Oprah and Mel Robbins.
Ahead of the April launch of her highly anticipated book, "When Life Happens," Dr. Rachel breaks down the science of CBT and explains why we need to stop trying to 'delete' stress and start building a Coping Toolbox.
This episode is a survival guide for anyone who feels overwhelmed by the weight of 'doing it all' and is ready to reclaim their peace of mind.
What We Discuss:
The Stress Reframe: Why stress is inevitable, but our physiological and mental reaction to it is a choice.
The "All or Nothing" Trap: How to break the cycle of perfectionism when things go sideways.
Building Your Coping Toolbox: Specific strategies to regulate your emotions in real time.
Mindset as a Skill: Why resilience isn't a personality trait - it's a strategy you can train.
When Life Happens: A deep dive into the mindset shifts needed to navigate life's messiest moments.
Resources & Links:
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Mon, 23 Mar 2026 - 41min - 196 - The Wrong Life: Ep. 130
I left Spain to figure out what was wrong with me.
I had the dream life. The cobblestone streets. The European light. The copper bathtub imported from England that cost eleven thousand euros.
And I was miserable in ways I didn't have words for yet.
So I left. Convinced I was the problem.
I was wrong.
In this episode I'm recording from Harrison Hot Springs - sitting in a mineral pool, in the middle of a meditation that turned into a download - and I finally understand what I was actually running from. And why leaving was the most sane thing I ever did.
This is the episode for the woman who has spent years trying to fix herself. The woman who has read the books, done the work, followed the rules - and still feels like something is fundamentally broken.
Nothing is broken.
But something is wrong.
And until you figure out what that is, you will keep building beautiful lives on foundations that cannot hold you.
This is where we start.
Mon, 16 Mar 2026 - 26min - 195 - You Didn't End Up Here by Accident: Numerology, Patterns & Your Life Path with Ann Perry
What if your life isn't random?
In this episode, I sit down with numerologist Ann Perry to break down what your numbers reveal about you, and how they shape your relationships, your patterns, and the way you move through the world.
We also dive into:
What if your soul chose this life? What if the challenges you've faced weren't random...but selected? And how do you hold that idea without dismissing real pain or turning it into toxic positivity?What You'll Learn:
What numerology is, and why it works How your numbers influence your identity and decision-making Why you keep repeating the sane relationship dynamics How to better understand your kids, partner and coworkers The controversial idea that your soul chose this life (and what that really means) How to stop overthinking and start trusting yourselfLinks:
Ann Perry's website: https://www.annperrynumerologist.com
Ann's book: https://amzn.to/4icbFsq
Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/nwkCP4v_atI?si=QjWGaBPy7zNER2jy
And if you're ready to stop overthinking and step over the edge and into your next level....
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Mon, 02 Mar 2026 - 33min - 194 - Why You Keep Overthinking (And What You're Actually Avoiding)
Why do you keep overthinking decisions when you already know what to do?
In this episode I break down why overthinking isn't a clarity problem, it's a self-trust problem - and what you're actually avoiding.
What you'll learn:
Why you say "I don't know" (and what it really means)
The hidden reason you stay stuck in indecision
How overthinking protects you from uncomfortable truth
The identity shift that changes everything
One simple question to stop overthinking immediately
Key moment from the episode:
"You don't say 'I don't know' because you're confused. You say it because the truth would cost you something."
If you're ready to stop overthinking and actually move forward, this is exactly what we do inside The Breakthrough.
Email me:
valerie@valeriejonescoach.com and tell me the one thing you want a breakthrough in.
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Mon, 23 Feb 2026 - 20min - 193 - From Netflix's 'Sex, Love & goop' to Erotic Wholeness: Darshana Avila on Asking For What You Want
Darshana Avila left her corporate career and her marriage, and stepped into a life of erotic wholeness.
Now she's a Certified Somatic Experiencing Practitioner & Sexological Bodyworker featured on Netflix's Sex, Love & goop with Gwyneth Paltrow - and she's here to talk about what most of us are too afraid to ask for.
In this episode, we talk about:
Knowing what you want (in sex and in life) and actually asking for it: Why high-achieving women can run companies but can't speak their desires in bed. The identity crisis that led to liberation: How Darshana walked away from everything that wasn't aligned - and what happened next. Her experience on Netflix's Sex, Love & goop: Working with a lesbian couple to help them understand what they want, need, and hw to speak it out loud. Erotic wholeness as a path to power: How reclaiing pleasure is an act of rebellion (and sovereignty) People-pleasing in the bedroom (and eveywhere else): Why saying yes when you mean no kills intimacy, and how to stop.This conversation is raw, real and permission-giving. If you've ever felt disconnected from your body, your desires, or your power, this one's for you.
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Sun, 15 Feb 2026 - 52min - 192 - From Selfish to Sovereign
In this episode I reveal the next level of your journey - from midlife reinvention to full-blown feminine sovereignty. If you're a woman ready to rise into your power, lead with vision, and claim a life that reflects your true worth, this is for you.
I unpack the Queen Code (my brand new methodology), share the mythic framework behind the Sovereign Woman, and invite you inside the symbolic castle that holds it all.
Consider this your rite of passage.
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Mon, 09 Feb 2026 - 26min - 191 - The Cost of Quiet with Colette Jane Fehr
You've been swallowing your truth, avoiding conflict, and hoping things will change if you're just patient enough.
But your silence isn't safety....it's a slow death.
This week, I'm talking with Colette Jane Fehr, author of The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations That Create Secure, Lasting Love, about why we stay silent, and what it costs us.
In this episode:
Why it's so hard to speak up (even when you know you should) What to do when you get the same response every time you speak up The curse of the good girl (and how it keeps you quiet) How to get out of the Cave of Resentment Self-connected communication: the framework that changes everything The only way to build confidence (it's not what you think) Your communication report card (we all have one!) How conflict is the doorway to intimacy, not the end of itColette is giving us the tools to stop performing and start speaking.
Because the cost of quiet? It's your life.
Pre-order The Cost of Quiet here
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Mon, 02 Feb 2026 - 49min - 190 - Selfish is the Strategy: A New Era Begins
Welcome to Season Five - and to 2026!
In this powerful kickoff episode, Valerie pulls back the curtain on what it really means to be selfish in a world that has taught women to disappear. This isn't just a refresher course. It's a full-on reintroduction to the philosophy, fire, and unapologetic truth at the core of The Selfish Woman movement.
You'll hear:
Why 'selfish' is still the most radical word a woman can claim What the old Good Girl contract cost you, and how to burn it for good Why every powerful woman you admire had to get selfish How to give from overflow, not obligation What's coming in 2026: bold new tools, mythic framewords, and sacred strategies no on else is teachingIf you're ready to make 2026 the year you come home to yourself, start here.
Subscribe to the YouTube series
Get my blog, The Selfish Gospel
Go forth and be selfish.
Mon, 26 Jan 2026 - 18min - 189 - Why Your 'Word for the Year' Fails: And How to Choose One That Changes Everything
Most people choose a word for the year based on what they want to achieve, acquire, or accomplish. But that's not how transformation works.
In this episode, I'm sharing why your word of the year should be about who you're becoming, not what you want to get. It's a practice in identity, not goals. A call toward the woman you're evolving into. not a to-do list disguised as intention-setting.
I'll walk you through:
Why choosing a word based on outcomes keep you stuck in the same patterns The difference between a word that motivates and a word that transforms My own experience choosing 'selfish' as my word in 2020 - what it taught me, how it challenged me, and why it was exactly what I needed How to choose a word that serves your evolution (not just your ambition) This isn't about New Year's resolutions or vision boards. It's about claiming who you're becoming and letting that guide everything else.WATCH THIS EPISODE ON YOUTUBE:
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MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
The Selfish Year - available everywhere books are sold, or click here
CONNECT WITH ME:
Substack: The Selfish Gospel weekly essays
LET'S TALK:
What's your word for 2026? Drop me a message on Instagram or YouTube.
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If you loved this episode, please subscribe and leave a review, on Spotify or Apple. It helps others find the show.
Thanks for listening. Now go choose your word, and let it choose you back.
Tue, 16 Dec 2025 - 26min - 188 - The Year of the Snake: What You Need to Shed Before 2026
2025 is the Year of the Snake. 2026? The Year of the Fire Horse.
If you're familiar about Chinese zodiac symbolism, you know what that means: the Snake sheds what no longer fits. The Fire Horse charges forward with unstoppable momentum.
But here's the thing: you can't ride the Fire Horse into 2026 while still carrying 2025's dead weight.
This episode is about what needs to be shed now, before the year turns.
IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARE:
The symbolism of Snake and Fire Horse years: and what they're asking of us right now. What a death cycle actually looks like (from someone living it): why you can't 'positive mindset' your way through and what to do instead. The difference between shedding and suppressing: one creates space for growth, the other just buries what will resurface later. A December ritual for intentional release: specific steps you can take this month to shed what's keeping you small, stuck, or performing. Why 'not enough', shame, and old survival strategies have to go: and what becomes possible when you finally release them. The gift of radical permission: why The Selfish Year is the book to give yourself (or someone you love) this holiday season. What's coming in 2026: a hint at something I'm creating for women ready to make next year their Selfish YearIF YOU'RE FEELING:
The tightness of an old identity that doesn't fit anymore Exhausted by maintaining 'impressive' Ready to stop carrying what's dead Curious about what 2026 could look like if you actually chose yourself....this episode is for you.
RESOURCES MENTIONED:
Read the full essay: What a Death Cycle Actually Looks Like (from someone living it)
Get the book: The Selfish Year - perfect for gifting yourself and your friends permission this Christmas
Choose your 2026 word: Are you claiming SELFISH as your guiding intention for next year? Let me know!
SOMETHING'S COMING:
I'm gathering women who are ready to make 2026 their Selfish Year. A community....a container...a place where choosing yourself isn't rebellion, it's a homecoming.
I can't share all the details yet, but if you're feeling the pull toward radical selfishness - stay close.
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YOUR DECEMBER PRACTICE:
This month, ask yourself every morning:
What am I carrying that's already dead? What old skin am I ready to shed? What wants to emerge in 2026?Then do one small thing - sage, movement, journaling, walking - to physically release it.
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Know someone who needs permission to shed what's no longer serving them? Send them this episode. Sometimes the most generous thing we can do is name what's true.
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Thu, 11 Dec 2025 - 26min - 187 - Ep. 31 - Turn Your Life Around - From Loss to Triumph with Lillian Victoria
Today I talk with Lillian about how she lost everything and found herself.
- how being selfish shows your kids what's really important
- her biggest lesson in the loss was about herself
- how to reverse engineer your life so that you can reach your biggest potential and create a legacy
Lillian Victoria is an Entertainment Executive turned High Power Coach. She works with high achievers who have experienced loss to help them see a clear path to their goals and turn them into reality.
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Thu, 21 Apr 2022 - 38min - 186 - Ep. 32 - Big Queen Energy! with Cara Alwill
Don't miss this very special episode with the fabulous Cara Alwill! Cara was my coach in 2021 and was instrumental in the birth of this podcast. I'm so excited to bring you this powerful conversation that will give you a mega dose of empowerment, inspiration and a kick in the ass to get out there and design life on YOUR terms!
We talk about:
- What got her through her darkest times
- Why you need to be your own Sugar Daddy
- How to stop being a bitch to yourself and start being your own hype squad
- champagne & Chanel = self love
Cara Alwill is a NYC based creative entrepreneur who encourages women to live their most effervescent lives, celebrate themselves everyday, and make their happiness a priority. She is a bestselling author, mentor to women entrepreneurs, and creator of The Champagne Diet blog. Over 8 million listeners worldwide tune into Cara's podcast, Style Your Mind. Cara is the author of 9 bestselling books including the worldwide sensation, Girl Code.
www.instagramcom/thechampagnediet
Thu, 21 Apr 2022 - 37min - 185 - Ep. 30 - How to Keep Your Cool when Life Goes Sideways!
Do you wish you could be more calm and trusting when life goes sideways?
Do you get stuck in overthinking, analysis paralysis, and 'what if'? Are you always waiting for the other shoe to drop?
In this episode, I'm going to help you tap into a mindset that will keep you calm and cool, even when shit hits the fan.
I'm sharing the #1 mindset hack I've been using for two years, and how it's changed my life on every level.
Get ready to take notes, because this is a good one!
I also share about the upcoming Women's Retreat on Vancouver Island, BC. I'd love to have you join us!
Click the link for all the details:
https://mailchi.mp/946b099c65a1/womens-retreat-2022
Mon, 18 Apr 2022 - 17min - 184 - Ep. 28 - Be More YOU
Got a big juicy goal that seems impossible? Keep putting it on the shelf because you can't see the path to making it real? Bring it to this episode because I'm talking about how you're going to get it and it all has to do with you....being more YOU!
- why you may be living a watered down version of yourself
- why it's keeping you from your full potential
- what to do about it!
- my experiment in being more ME and what happened
- juicy journal prompts!
Practice being more YOU in a safe space....my FB group!
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Fri, 08 Apr 2022 - 27min - 183 - Ep. 29 - The Healing Power of Pleasure with Julia Hollenbery
Think you know pleasure? Think again! Julia Hollenbery takes us to pleasure school!
Julia shows us how pleasure can heal us and make every moment delicious. If you feel like life has gotten a little lackluster, dive into this episode and let Julia show you how every moment holds an abundance of pleasure!
Julia is a spiritual therapist and author of The Healing Power of Pleasure: Seven Medicines for Rediscovering the Innate Joy of Being. She is your guide to feeling at home in your self, your body and your life.
https://universeofdeliciousness.com
Fri, 01 Apr 2022 - 34min - 182 - Ep. 27 - Magnetize Your Man with Antia Boyd
Embrace your inner narcissist!
WTF? Listen and find out!
Antia Boyd is in the house, and she's bringing the fire in this discussion about men, dating, relationships and how we can step into our power and get what we want!
We talk about:
- how being selfish gets us the relationship we deserve
- the difference between being 'liked' and being 'respected'
- the B.I.T.C.H. Code!
And of course we have lots of fun and share our own stories of dating & relationships!
Antia was born in communist East Germany before the wall came down, and was single her entire life before she discovered the 'Magnetize Your Man' Method and attracted her husband. She now helps women attract a loving, long term relationship ASAP!
B.I.T.C.H. Code Breakdown!
Boundaries, Intuition, Trust, Confidence, Harmony
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Wed, 30 Mar 2022 - 37min - 181 - Ep. 26 - Calm and Confident Parenting with Kim Muench
Parenting is one of the hardest jobs on the planet! It can be full of anxiety, worry and frustration for parents, not to mention confusing....like, where's the parenting manual??
Have no fear, Kim Muench is here to walk us through the parenting minefield. She is the voice of reason and calm guidance every parent needs! Kim brings her deep wisdom, raw vulnerability and expertise to this conversation that will remind you that you're not alone in this journey of raising the next generation.
Kim shares:
- the real 'parenting manual'
- her amazing story of guiding her children through major challenges
- how to not parent like your parents!
- real talk about what we are modelling in our parenting styles
Kim Muench is the author of Becoming Me While Raising You - a mother's journey to herself. Kim is passionate about educating and supporting her clients to raise their children with intention and guidance rather than fear and control. Kim's experience raising five children and years of coaching other parents empowers her to lead her clients with compassion and without judgement into healthier, happier, more functional relationships.
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Tue, 29 Mar 2022 - 37min - 180 - Ep. 25: Selfish Women Have Rock Solid Boundaries!
Is it hard to say no? Do you find yourself in overwhelm, resentment, or feeling taken advantage of? Do you struggle with people pleasing? If so, you're going to LOVE this episode, because it's all about boundaries!
I'm sharing some key principles from my new course, Boundaries Bootcamp! It's a self study video series that gives you everything you need to know to become a boundaries bad ass!
- how to know if you need to work on your boundaries
- how to enforce a boundary!
- the payoff of doing the work to incorporate healthy boundaries in ALL your relationships
(these strategies don't apply if you are in an abusive relationship. If you are, please contact your local DV hotline for support)
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Tue, 29 Mar 2022 - 21min - 179 - Ep. 23 - I know WHY I'm stuck, but WHAT do I do about it?
You've read all the self help books. Maybe you've gone to therapy. You have a good understanding of why you struggle in certain areas or find yourself in patterns and limiting experiences.
Now what the hell do you do about it?
I'm breaking down what I call, 'the work', and what it really requires to achieve your goals and dreams, and finally be free of what holds you back.
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Tue, 22 Mar 2022 - 19min - 178 - Ep. 24 - Business, Motherhood & Balance with Corrie Lo Giudice
Join this dynamic conversation with Corrie as she shares her journey out of traumatic & pivotal life events into becoming a successful entrepreneur with a TedX Talk and building a family. She will inspire you to go for your dreams with gusto, courage and tenacity!
We talk about:
- how her failures led to her biggest success
- the truth about getting confident
- how to find your purpose and live it with grace, courage & balance
Corrie LoGiudice helps people recognize and capitalize on their talents, no matter their circumstances. As a business strategist, high performance coach and professional keynote speaker, Corrie has been featured in major media outlets such as TedX, Girlboss, Business Insider, Thrive Global, and the Mighty.
Fri, 18 Mar 2022 - 29min - 177 - Ep. 21 - Creating Worthiness by Being Selfish with Karen Schaible
If you've ever found yourself in a dark place, where it felt like you had no options, and you couldn't see the way out, this episode will speak to you! Karen and I go deep into the trap of being selfless and the pain it creates in our lives. We also talk about the amazing possibilities and miracles that happen when women choose to be selfish. - Karen shares the 'diet' that helped her lose 100 pounds (hint: it's not about the food!)
- she gives us real time solutions for changing your self talk (bring your journal!)
- practical things you can do when you're in a dark place
Karen is a retired nurse who struggled for 30 years with food and weight, trying diet after diet and failing every time. At 42, she was burned out, physically and mentally unwell, and had thoughts of ending her life. When she finally got the help she needed, she realized that if she couldn't change her circumstances, she had to change her thoughts and emotions and take back control of her life. She found the confidence and self-worth to leave her unhealthy marriage, lose 100 pounds, and change her life. Karen's passion is helping others find this same freedom.
Sat, 12 Mar 2022 - 39min - 176 - Ep. 20 - Getting Wild & Free with Jene' Jackson
Jene' and I take a rip roaring ride through her powerful life story and the lessons she's learned along the way, that she wrote about in her book, The Oat Project: How I Faced My Fear & Came of Age In One Wild Summer.
- she shares her journey out of religion and into personal freedom
- we talk about having grace and compassion for ourselves, even when it feels like we don't deserve it
- Jene will keep you laughing as she shares stories of getting wild
Jene Jackson is the author of The Oat Project, a memoir about how she finally sowed her wild oats, doing 25 things her preacher's daughter upbringing never allowed, at the ripe age of 37 and a mother of three. Jene can be found photographing, belly laughing with friends, making art, singing jazz, or squeezing words from her teenage children while driving them around.
Wed, 09 Mar 2022 - 54min - 175 - Ep. 19 - How the hell do I create a vision for my life?
If you feel stuck in a hamster wheel, doing the same things day after day, and you want more but can't imagine anything different, let alone creating a big vision for what's possible for you....I've got you!
I'm talking about one major thing that's keeping you from being able to have vision, dreams and goals, and what you can do about it.
- why you're stuck in old thinking, emotions and behaviours
- what needs to happen first so you can feel inspired & see possibility
- journal time! One powerful tool I give to all my clients!
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Mon, 07 Mar 2022 - 20min - 174 - Ep. 17 - You've Got Magic To Do!
A magical life is available to everyone, if you want it. Whatever 'magic' means to you, the only thing standing your way of experiencing it in your reality....is you.
- I share the one powerful phrase I live by and give to all of my clients that shifts your perspective about what's possible for you
- how I've brought more magic into my life than ever before
- journal prompts for you to design your magical life and begin creating it, right now!
If you want a life that lights you up, turns you on and excites the F out of you, don't miss this episode!
Mon, 28 Feb 2022 - 15min - 173 - Ep. 18 - Exploring Human Design with Kylie Nel
This was such a beautiful and deep conversation with Kylie!
Kylie was my coach in the middle of my Selfish Experiment of 2020. She played an integral role in my transformation and gave me incredible guidance during some of my darkest times, most of which she had no idea I was going through!
Kylie teaches us about Human Design, what it is, and how powerful it can be in our lives.
- I tell the story of a session with Kylie that changed my life
- She shares the biggest way we hold ourselves back
- Kylie shares her darkest moment that led to a huge turning point
Kylie is a Human Design and Energetics Business Mentor. Her focus is on helping spiritual leaders and visionary women connect with their soul gifts, create a hot AF relationship with money and authentically show up online with soulful launching and selling.
Thu, 24 Feb 2022 - 43min - 172 - Ep. 16 - Divorce: Real talk with Leah Marie
Join us for this deep dive into divorce as we explore the complexities of this major life transition. Leah shares her own experience of divorce and how she navigated leaving, healing and finding love again. She offers deep wisdom, advice and hope for all women who may be considering divorce, going through it, or trying to recover on the other side.
- why women initiate divorce far more than men
- I share my own experiences of two divorces
- what women need the most when they are going through it
- the incredible opportunity that waits on the other side!
Leah Marie is a Certified Divorce Coach for women who specializes in helping them recover and heal after divorce.
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Wed, 23 Feb 2022 - 40min - 171 - Ep. 15 - Burning The Rulebook!
We've been given SO many rules, as women, that are running in our subconscious and determining our actions. In order to become free, empowered and impactful, we need to burn the rulebook and start living from the inside out.
- what's in YOUR rulebook?
- how have the rules kept you caged?
- grab a match and start the fire!
- I share some of the rules I've burned and the results!
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Fri, 18 Feb 2022 - 19min - 170 - Ep. 14 - MOMS: Less stress, more happiness! With Sasha Morozov
Moms, this one's for you! Sasha Morozov and I discuss why it's so hard for busy moms to find time for themselves, and how to create a home life that not only functions well but feels peaceful...yes, it's possible!! And finding time for yourself too....is it a dream? Not when you have Sasha here to tell you how! She's a dynamo, so buckle up and get ready for a dose of energy, wisdom and fun!
- the world needs happier moms and so do our families. We get into how that can happen
- super simple hacks to make your home life run smoother and give you more time to have fun
- the crazy ways moms stress themselves out and what to do about it!
Sasha Morozov is a former executive and founder of Sasha x Home.
Sasha helps women have more time, less clutter, and systems for a peaceful life. She's developed a 4 step method that focuses on Self, Home, Relationships & Systems to help moms hit start on the life they've put on pause.
Wed, 16 Feb 2022 - 42min - 169 - Ep. 13 - FEAR: Why the F word is actually the key to unlocking your biggest goals & dreams!
If you feel like fear is running your life, and you really want to go for your goals & dreams BUT feel paralyzed with fear, (and honestly who can relate??) listen up!!!
- why fear is so powerful
- it's not the enemy, but actually you're biggest ally!
- a couple of stories about my own experience with fear and the massive transformation that happened when I used fear for my growth!
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Mon, 14 Feb 2022 - 23min - 168 - Ep. 12 - Finding LOVE by being selfish! with Christine Chang
Just in time for Valentines Day!
Christine and I have a LOT of laughs and fun as we discuss how being selfish can help us find love!
- how do independent women navigate the dating world and stay sane?
- why doing our work to heal is the #1 way to have a healthy relationship
- how we are sabotaging our success in finding 'THE ONE'
- I share some of my dating stories from the last year!
Christine Chang is a bestselling author and speaker based in Los Angeles. Her book, 'Show Up: Finding Love for Independent Women' has helped thousands of professional women all over the world create the relationship of their dreams. Christine brings calmness, ease, humour and simplicity to relationships.
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Thu, 10 Feb 2022 - 47min - 167 - Ep. 11 - It's Time to Uplevel!
What does an uplevel look like? How do you know when it's coming, and what do you do to keep moving forwards and gaining momentum? I'm getting into all of it!
- life is like a video game...here's why
- why the last 2 years have you in the perfect place to experience major growth this year!
- don't stop, don't quit, keep going!
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Mon, 07 Feb 2022 - 14min - 166 - Ep. 9 - CHANGE: Why Is It So FN Hard??
You've got dreams. What's it going to take to make them a reality?
This ain't Disney, and we don't have a magic wand.
- Are your dreams sitting on the 'someday shelf'?
- The difference between passive change & intentional change
- Being selfish means sometimes doing hard things!
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Thu, 27 Jan 2022 - 14min - 165 - Ep. 10 - EMPOWER Yourself to Health, Happiness....and Bread! with Larissa Nicole
Join my talk with Larissa Nicole as we discuss women's complicated relationship with food, diets and...yes, BREAD! She teaches us how to create healthy habits while still enjoying the F*ck out of life, trusting ourselves instead of meal plans, and 'leaping before you look.'
- why are we always looking for the next diet?
- weight loss is the 'happy by-product' of loving ourselves
- the tough love we need to hear about creating lasting change
Larissa Nicole is the founder/CEO of Larissa Nicole Fitness, a certified personal trainer, nutrition coach, metabolism expert and food blogger. Having lost over 60 pounds and overcome body dysmorphia and disordered eating, she merges her Italian roots and love of food with her professional background to teach other female foodies how they can sustainably build their dream bodies without having to diet or eliminate foods they love.
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Thu, 27 Jan 2022 - 49min - 164 - Ep. 7 - If I Put Myself First, Does That Mean I'm A Narcissist??
If you worry that putting yourself first means you're a narcissist, or that OTHERS will think you're a narcissist, you're not alone!
I'm going to prove to you that it's not only not true, but why you never have to ask yourself this question again.
- why you're worried that being selfish is narcissistic
- what a true narcissist is
- grab your journal, because I'm going to give you some BETTER questions to ask yourself
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Mon, 24 Jan 2022 - 15min - 163 - Ep. 8 - Real Raw Talk about Relationship, Healing & Happiness with Rory Sadoff
TW: Eating Disorders
Join Rory Sadoff as we have a raw honest talk about recovery, healing & relationships, and improving our experience of being human.
- what's in the way of our ability to feel happy and powerful
- how to process emotions safely
- a powerful story about anger
- relationship struggles & gifts
About Rory:
Rory Sadoff is a Functional Health Coach & Somatic Practitioner whose main focus is nourishing the mind, body & soul as one connected system. Rory provides clients with the tools, support, techniques & exercises needed to radically shift their human experience, navigate the ins & outs of the world and step into their most embodied self. She helps clients discover sustainable results whether it's health, nervous system or emotional resiliency.
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Wed, 19 Jan 2022 - 37min - 162 - Ep. 6 - Thriving In Stressful Times with Dr. Tamara Beckford
We are busy women with a LOT on our plates! Add in a pandemic and we are stressed!
How do we care for ourselves through it all.....and maybe more importantly, WHY does it matter?
Join this inspiring and information-packed conversation with Dr. Tamara Beckford as we discuss:
- Why self care matters when it's so easy to put it on the last of our to-do list
- How she had a calm and peaceful 2021, when it was also her busiest and most stressful year.
- Why our excuse about 'not having enough time' to care for ourselves is not true, and what we can do instead
- If you're a mom of young kids, you'll love hearing how Dr. Beckford prioritizes herself while raising two young children, being a full time ER doc, an entrepreneur, wife and supportive colleague and friend.
About Dr. Beckford:
Dr. Tamara Beckford is a wife, mother and board-certified emergency physician. Dr. Beckford has more than a decade of experience working in emergency rooms across the US. She is the founder and CEO of UR Caring Society where she helps busy professional women put self care & wellness first for two hours per month without feeling guilty. Dr. Beckford is the host of the Docs Who Care podcast where she interviews doctors from all over the world and discusses common medical conditions in a fun and easy-to-understand way. Recently, she has been on the frontlines battling the rise of Covid in the community.
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Wed, 12 Jan 2022 - 43min - 161 - Ep. 5 - Giving Ourselves Extravagant Permission with Jenny Ambrose
How does putting ourselves first help us achieve our goals?
Jenny Ambrose, founder & CEO of award winning design science & strategy studio, Puree Fantastico, is here to tell us how. She is a walking example of how to be successful, create amazing opportunity and go for your dreams by being selfish.
We discuss:
- how to be relentlessly joyful
- why the things that bring us pleasure and happiness are what the world needs
- how the hardest times in our lives can be the doorway to magic
- what it means to give ourselves extravagant permission to be our full selves
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Wed, 12 Jan 2022 - 36min - 160 - Ep 4: New Year, Same Fabulous YOU!!!
I'm calling bullshit on 'New Year New You'! You don't need to become a new you because who you are right now is perfect, you're not broken!!!
Instead, let's embrace 'New Year, Same You'
You just need to clear out some of the shit that's covering up the magnificence of who You are. Your Inner Being holds everything you need to have everything you desire.
I get into:
- why the idea of a 'new you' is tempting but doesn't work.
- why YOU are not broken & don't need fixing
- what is really holding you back from reaching your goals (hint: it's not because you're lazy or lack discipline!)
- how to bring forth the real YOU this year!
Want to create a powerful, magical year?? Ready to clear what's holding you back, connect to your power and blow the doors off 2022? Here's how to work with me!
My private coaching practice is the container for unleashing your magic. It's a 6 month one-on-one experience where we work together to bring clarity to what's been holding you back, clear it out, create a deeper connection to your self, and build practices that sustain lasting growth. My clients say it's "life changing" and "transformational", and have said that I am a "modern day Shaman". If you are interested, I would love to chat with you on a complimentary consultation to see if we are a good fit to work together. You can book your free call right here!
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Thu, 06 Jan 2022 - 13min - 159 - Ep 3: Are You 'Should-ing' On Yourself?
1. Why do we 'should' on ourselves??
2. I share a couple stories from my own 'should-ing' and what I learned!
3. Grab your journal, I've got some questions for you to help you move out of the 'should' place and into freedom, joy and authenticity!
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Thu, 16 Dec 2021 - 20min - 158 - Ep 2: Recovering People Pleasers Unite!
Are you a people pleaser?
I call myself a RPP (Recovering People Pleaser) and I'm getting into it!
- What is people pleasing anyways?
- Why you struggle with it
- The shocking realization I had that changed everything
- What's on the other side of recovery
Let's go!
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Thu, 09 Dec 2021 - 21min - 157 - Ep 1: Selfish Is Not A Dirty Word
Welcome to the pilot episode of The Selfish Woman! I'm so glad you're here with me. Join me today as I share why I call it The Selfish Woman, a bit about my own journey to discovering the power of putting myself first, and why it matters!
This episode is for you if you want to know:
- Why selfish is the key to everything
- What buying into the selfless belief has cost us as women
- Why I began experimenting with being selfish, and what happened
Let's do this!
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Tue, 30 Nov 2021 - 20min - 156 - The 'Holy Sh*t' Moment: When You Start Toppling Your Sacred Cows
This is a personal episode for me, one that I feel led to share with you, because I know it's going to resonate.
There's a moment in every woman's life when she look at what she's been worshipping - success, motherhood, marriage, being 'nice' - and realizes none of it was built for her freedom. That's the holy sh*t moment. The one where you finally stop trying to earn gold stars for suffering and start knocking over every sacred cow that's been keeping you in a cage.
This is aboout burning down the old rules, setting yourself free from everyone else's opinion of you, reclaiming your wild self, and realizing that sometimes the most spiritual thing you can do...is commit a little heresy.
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Mon, 10 Nov 2025 - 29min - 155 - Hype Women! With Erin Gallagher
In this episode I'm joined by Erin Gallagher, author of Hype Women: Breaking Free From Mean Girls, Patriarchy and Systems Silencing You.
Buckle up for a fiery conversation about what it really means to trust yourself after a lifetime of being told you're wrong. We talk about the incredible origin story of her book, and why she's not here to hype all women - especially not the ones still acting as foot soldiers for the patriarchy.
We also go there:
Who are the mean girls in your life? Why do we keep trying to gather in circles with women who've burned us? What does it mean to self-source instead of always giving your power away?This one is bold, vulnerable and unapologetically honest. Press play and get hyped - for yourself.
Erin Gallagher is the CEO and Founder of Hype Women, an inclusive ecosystem hyping women to remember who the f**k they are, author of Hype Women, and host of the Hype Women Podcast.
Her book is an electrifying and extraordinary approach to life for ambitious women everywhere.
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Mon, 27 Oct 2025 - 43min - 154 - The Mystic & the Machine: Merging AI with Inner Intelligence with Karen Romine
What happens when strategic intelligence meets spiritual intuition?
In this electric conversation, I sit down with keynote speaker and author, Karen Romine, to explore the intersection of artificial intelligence and the unseen realms.
We talk about how AI is transforming the way we make decisions and scale our lives - and how inner knowing is the missing data point most women ignore.
Karen shares her journey from corporate strategy expert to discovering that she is a psychic medium (yes, both can live in one woman!), and how merging logic with intuition creates exponential growth.
This one's for the woman who knows she's meant to lead, but also trusts the whispers. The woman who wants to scale her vision without abandoning her soul. And the woman who's secretly felt there's more to 'data' than numbers.
We're not choosing between the mystic or the machine. We're using both.
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Mon, 20 Oct 2025 - 42min - 153 - Selfish Out Loud: Are You Willing to Pay the Price for Your Power?
In this episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on what it really costs to be selfish. Not cute-selfish. Not #selfcare selfish. I'm talking about the kind of selfish that turns your whole life inside out. The kind that sets you free.
This is about the power you say you want...and the uncomfortable truth of what it takes to actually get it.
And I ask the question that could change everything:
Are you willing to pay the price for your power?
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Mon, 13 Oct 2025 - 25min - 152 - Rewrite the Mother Code with Dr. Gertrude Lyons
What if the way you've been taught to mother - your children, your dreams, yourself - was never yours to begin with?
In this potent conversation, I sit down with Dr. Gertrude Lyons, author of Rewrite the Mother Code: From Sacrifice to Stardust, to unravel the outdated scripts women are handed about what it means to mother, and how to rewrite them from the inside out.
We talk about:
The hidden 'mother codes' shaping every area of your life (whether you have children or not) Why sacrifice is not sacred, and what actually is Reclaiming mothering as a creative, cosmic force - not a job description What changes when you mother from love, not lackWhether you're a mother, mothering yourself, or birthing something new into the world - this episode is a permission slip to mother on your own terms.
Let's go from martyr to medicine woman.
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Mon, 06 Oct 2025 - 53min - 126 - My Everest, Your Dream: What it Takes to Rise
Every woman has her Everest - the dream that feels impossible until suddenly, it isn't.
I had my Everest moment and I'm sharing what it was, how I got there, and how you can do it too. And how there's always another mountain to climb, if you want it.
I also talk about the most personal piece of my journey yet: why I wrote The Selfish Year, who I wrote it for, and why it matters right now.
This isn't just about my story. It's also about yours. I'm pulling back the curtain on what it takes to move from a dream to reality.
If you've ever needed proof that your wildest dreams are possible - and the push to finally go after it - this is it.
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Mon, 29 Sep 2025 - 30min - 125 - Masks, Mothers, and the Myth of Being Nice with Lesa Koski
You weren't born nice. You were trained.
By mothers who were trained.
By systems that still benefit from your silence.
In this episode, you'll hear a casual girlfriend chat with Lesa Koski where we unearth the origins of our people-pleasing, the masks we wear to feel safe, and the slow-burning bravery it takes to start telling the truth.
Lesa and I unmask our Good Girls, and give you practical strategies so you can do it too.
Because underneath the mask of the Good Girl is a Queen ready to rise.
Lesa Koski is a wife, mother, grandmother, mediator, coach, and host of the Saddle Up Live podcast. Her journey has been anything but ordinary, but every twist and turn has brought her to a place where she now helps others live their best lives.
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Mon, 22 Sep 2025 - 27min - 124 - 10 Sneaky Ways the Good Girl is Still Running Your Life
Think you've outgrown your good girl programming? Think again. These 10 subtle habits might be sabotaging your power - and keeping you small without even realizing it.
You might not be saying 'yes' when you mean 'no' anymore - but the good girl still has her sticky little fingers in you. In this packed episode, I'm revealing 10 sneaky ways the good girl still shows up in your everyday life, and what to do instead.
From overexplaining to emotional shapeshifting, I'll break down the behaviours that seem harmless, but are actually keeping you stuck silenced, and small. If you're ready to step into your full, selfish, sovereign self, this one's for you.
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Mon, 15 Sep 2025 - 22min - 123 - Why Taking the High Road Is Keeping You Stuck (and what to do instead)
Too many women think that taking the high road makes them strong, wise, or 'the bigger person.' But what if that road is actually keeping you stuck in self-abandonment, silence, and disappointment?
In this episode, I break down why the high road can be a trap, what to do instead, and how decentering men frees you to finally choose yourself.
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Mon, 08 Sep 2025 - 30min - 122 - The Five Lessons That Saved Me When I Started Over
This is the one I've been waiting to record.
In this final episode before The Selfish Year enters the world, I'm sharing the five lessons that truly saved me when I started over - from divorce, from the pain, from the life that looked good but felt empty.
These aren't tips. They're confessions. I wrote this book in blood, and I'm telling you the truth behind every chapter.
If you've ever felt stuck, invisible, or like you're pretending to live a life that isn't yours, this episode is your invitation to stop waiting.
It's not too late to choose yourself.
But it is the last week to pre-order The Selfish Year and support the book that starts a movement!
CLICK HERE to pre-order The Selfish Year and get your gift: The Selfish Woman Starter Kit (includes a Manifesto, the 7 Sacred Laws of the Selfish Woman, and a curated playlist I made to accompany the book)
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Mon, 25 Aug 2025 - 16min - 121 - Ep. 113: No More Layers: Martine Cohen on Stripping Back to Your True Self
In this week's episode, I'm joined by Martine Cohen - author, speaker, and transformative coach - who brings a powerful blend of intellect and intuition to the conversation around healing, identity, and reclaiming your power from the inside out.
After a traumatic car accident and concussion changed the trajectory of her life, Martine began a deep journey into her own psyche, peeling back the subconscious layers that were blocking her light. What she discovered led her to write a book: No More Layers: Discover You Inner Power and Reclaim True Freedom from the Inside Out - a guide to navigating fear, breaking free from old beliefs, and returning home to who you truly are.
Martine's work is all about alignment, not performance. In this conversation, we talk about:
Why true transformation isn't about adding more, but shedding what's not yours The tension between intellect and intuition How a breakdown can become the most sacred doorway to freedom The sneaky ways 'success' can become a mask What it really means to live from the inside outThis one's for every woman who's tired of the masks, ready to reclaim her wholeness, and willing to meet herself beneath the layers.
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Mon, 18 Aug 2025 - 45min - 120 - Ep. 112: The Sofa of Truth: When Staying Hurts More Than Leaving
Sometimes, the truth doesn't arrive with fireworks. It shows up quietly...in the middle of the night...on your sofa.
In this episode, I read an excerpt from my new book, The Selfish Year - the moment I realized I couldn't stay in my marriage one second longer. The pain of staying had finally outweighed the fear of leaving.
We all have a 'sofa moment' - that still, undeniable instant when the life we've built no longer fits. Are you ignoring yours? Minimizing it? Or are you ready to hear it, and let it move you into action?
This is your invitation to stop pretending you don't know.
Pre-order The Selfish Year now, and step into the life that's waiting for you.
Mon, 11 Aug 2025 - 22min - 119 - Ep. 111: You Can't F**k It Up: A Conversation with Jennifer Pastiloff
Let's be real: how many hours have you spent replaying that moment, that choice, that mistake, wondering if you'd just ruined everything? Cringing in guilt and shame, and feeling like a failure?
This episode is your permission slip to let yourself off the hook.
In this raw and powerful conversation with bestselling author Jennifer Pastiloff, we dive inthe the shame stories women carry around motherhood, art, body image, relationships, and success. Jen shares her journey through grief, loss, and the beautiful mess of rebuilding. She reminds us that not only did we not fuck it up, but maybe...we can't.
Jen and I talk about her new book, Proof of Life: Let go, let love, and stop looking for permission to live your life.
We share the hilarious/mortifying/magical way we connected with each other and our mutual journey from shame into love. Shame Loss: how to let go of the "I'm bad" belief. The life hack Jen uses to stop saying 'sorry' all the time. The magic of staying open, even when you want to hide.Jen brings humor, vulnerability, deep compassion and bold truth in this episode, and I know you'll come away with a renewed belief in your life, and a permission slip to live it.
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Tue, 29 Jul 2025 - 47min - 118 - Ep. 110: Why Women Don't Ask (And What It's Costing Us)
We've been told our whole lives not to want too much, need too much, or ask for more.
So we don't. We shrink, we wait, and we hope someone notices and gives it to us anyway.
And then we wonder why we're so tired, resentful, and invisible.
This episode is your wake-up call.
I'm pulling back the curtain on the hardest thing I've done lately: Asking for what I want, for what I deserve. I share the origin story of my book, The Selfish Year - the miserable woman I used to be, and the moment I stopped waiting for someone to save me.
You'll hear:
Why asking feels so wrong, and why that's a lie. How we betray ourselves when we don't ask. What selfish actually means for women who are ready to save themselves. Why The Selfish Year isn't just a book...it's a rebellion.If you've ever wanted more, but felt guilty for even saying it, this is for you.
And yes, I'm asking too: Please pre-order The Selfish Year!
Pre-order here and get The Selfish Woman Starter Kit as a big thank you from moi.
Mon, 21 Jul 2025 - 20min - 117 - Are you a control freak? Here's the cost of holding it all together
If you call yourslef a 'control freak' like it's a badge of honour, this one's for you.
In this episode, I break down the truth about control: why it's not strength, what it's actually costing you in your body, your mind, and your relationships, and how to finally start letting go without everything falling apart.
We talk about:
The fear that hides under control Why you're gripping things you don't even need to carry The toll control takes on your nervous system, sleep, and confidence The difference between what's actually yours to hold and what isn't Why being a relaxed woman is your most powerful move.And I leave you with one simple challenge you can take today to start practicing trust - in yourself and the people around you.
If you're tired of being 'the strong one' and ready to feel lighter, softer, and more magnetic, listen to this.
And don't forget to share it with the strongest woman you know.
Pre-order The Selfish Year and join Selfish Summer Camp
Email me: valerie@valeriejonescoach.com
Mon, 14 Jul 2025 - 23min - 116 - Ep. 108: Burnout isn't exhaustion, it's a wake up call: With Amy Green Smith
Most women think burnout just means being tired. But what if it's acutally a signal - a brutal nudge - to stop abandoning yourself?
In this episode, I sit down with Leadership Coach and master hypnotherapist, Amy Green Smith, to talk about the real reasons women burn out and how to wake up before it wrecks you.
We get into:
The sneaky symptoms of engagement burnout and systemic burnout Why what you chronically complain about is your biggest clue How to communicate your needs without guilt or drama Why women struggle to receive help (and how to change it) The link between your body and your unmet emotional needsThis fun, powerful conversation is your permission slip to stop playing nice and start listening to yourself.
Grab Amy's free resource, Boundaries over Burnout
Mon, 07 Jul 2025 - 54min - 115 - Ep. 107: Selfish Summer Camp Starts Now: I'm Doing This My Way
This week, I had a moment. Okay.... a full-on meltdown. But underneath it, I realized something powerful: I've been trying to launch my book, The Selfish Year, like a good girl. Strategic. Palatable. The 'right' way.
So I threw it all in the fire. And from the ashes? Selfish Summer Camp was born. Because I'm going to do this my way and just like Sinatra, baby, we're all learning this together.
In this episode I'm sharing how a late-night breakdown turned into the most fun, honest, unapologetic pre-order campaign I've ever created.
This isn't just a book launch. It's a fequency, a summer, a movement.
Pre-order The Selfish Year now and register for camp!
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Mon, 30 Jun 2025 - 14min - 114 - Ep. 106: Broke to Six Figures: How I did it Without a Plan
In this episode, I'm sharing my story of how I went from a broke stay-at-home mom to six-figure entrepreneur - with no plan.
No degree, no career, no clear path. Just three kids, a toxic marriage and divorce, an empty bank account, and the choice to become the woman I wanted to be.
I'm sharing how I rebuilt my life, claimed my power, and created everything I have today - without a roadmap.
And why waiting for the path to appear is the thing keeping you stuck.
If you're ready to stop waiting and start BECOMING: Listen now.
FIRESTARTER begins July 1. Stop people-pleasing and start living for YOU. You don't need a plan but you DO need guidance. Spend two weeks this summer igniting your future.
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Sat, 21 Jun 2025 - 41min - 113 - Ep. 105: The Art of the Midlife Relaunch with Hilary DeCesare
What if the biggest challenges in your life weren't meant to break you....but to relaunch you?
In today's episode, I sit down with Hilary DeCesare - coach, speaker, and creator of the 3HQ Method - for a deeply honest conversation about what it really takes to rise again in midlife.
From her own vulnerable story of starting over to the tools she uses to help women reconnect with their power, Hilary brings both heart and fire.
She even takes me through her signature 'Tune-In' process live on the podcast - and yes, it works.
If you've ever felt stuck, lost, or like you're getting in your own way, this episode is your sign. There's a path forward, and it doesn't require perfection - just presence, alignment, and a little courage.
Plus, Hilary is offering listeners an exclusive 50% off code to her Relaunch Into A Rich Life Event, happening this September! Details inside the episode and linked below.
Relaunch to a Rich Life Conference with Hilary DeCesare
Use code 'ValerieJ50' to get 50% off Ruby & Platinum tickets.
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Register for Fed Up to On Fire - June 19th
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Mon, 16 Jun 2025 - 44min - 112 - Episode 104: From Breakdown to Burn: How to Turn 'F**k This' Into Your Wildest Rise Yet
You fed up yet?
Good. That means the fire's here.
In this solo episode, I take you deep into a recent moment where I finally said enough - and buried the version of me who kept mothering everyone but herself.
I walk you through the raw energy behind my new free live event, Fed Up to On Fire, and I soft launch the mantra that's reshaping my movement:
Thank You. Fuck You. I'm Free.
You'll learn how to alchemize frustration into fuel, how to ride the wave of your own rage without drowning in it, and why being fed up isn't a breakdown - it's the beginning of your rise.
If you've been swallowing your truth, people-pleasing your way into exhaustion, and waiting for permission to be selfish, this is your invitation.
Let it burn.
CLICK HERE to join Fed Up to On Fire. June 19th.
Mon, 09 Jun 2025 - 22min - 111 - The ALTARed State: A Raw Invitation to Pleasure, Power & Presence
This isn't a wellness chat about sobriety.
This is a full-body transmission from inside The Altared State - my 30-day ritual of choosing presence over performance, power over numbing, and pleasure that doesn't need permission.
In this unfiltered episode, I walk you through Days 1 to 6 of the journey. From moss to molasses, from mocktails to jalapeno clarity. I talk about the shame women carry around craving intoxication, and the radical act of becoming the substance we've been reaching for.
If you're tired of outsourcing your aliveness, if you're ready to burn the rules, feel the power, and live at full volume - this one's for you.
It's raw. It's real. It's a little unhinged.
Welcome to The Altared State.
I want to hear what stirred in you.
Email me at valerie@valeriejonescoach.com and tell me what this brought up.
Mon, 02 Jun 2025 - 23min - 110 - Episode 102: Swallowed Truths & Other Lies We Called Love
Hey Selfies,
This one's for the woman who stayed too long.
The woman who confused disappearing with devotion.
The woman who swallowed her truth and called it maturity.
In today's episode, I'm not holding back. I'm calling out the lie we were sold about love, and what it means to reclaim every wild, holy, selfish part of you.
We're talking:
Self-abandonment vs real love The truth about staying 'loyal' when your soul is dying Why compassion isn't an excuse for self-betrayal And the moment everything shifts when you say: 'I am mine.'This episode might hurt a little. And then it will free you.
Hit play. Then share it.
Because we don't gatekeep liberation around here.
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Mon, 26 May 2025 - 19min - 109 - Episode 101: Make Money in your soft era: feminine flow & wild wealth with Jennifer Whitaker
In this week's episode I'm joined by feminine business coach and founder of the Earth Flow Method, Jennifer Whitaker, for a grounded, soul-shifting conversation about coming home to your feminine energy.
We explore why so many women stay stuck in their masculine - pushing, hustle, productivity, responsibility - and what becomes possible when we slow down, sync with nature, and allow the wild abundance that's been waiting for us.
Jennifer shares how the rhythms of the Earth are more than metaphors, they're a direct line to your magnetism, your wisdom, and your wealth. She breaks down what seasonal living looks like, how to get out of hustle mode, and offers daily practices that reconnect you to your feminine flow.
If you've ever felt burned out, overextended, or disconnected from yourself - this conversation will feel like a breath of forest air.
Connect with Jennifer:
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Mon, 19 May 2025 - 43min - 108 - Episode 100! This is the Moment When Everything Changes
One hundred episodes ago, I hit record.
I didn't know where it would lead - only that something in me had to break free.
Today, it's not a celebration.
It's a summoning.
This episode is the line in the sand.
The mirror.
The match.
The moment everything changes - not just for me, but for you.
Inside this transmission, I speak to the woman who's ready to stop shrinking, stop performing, and stop waiting for someone else to give her permission.
Because you were never broken.
You were just buried.
And now...you're being called back.
The Summons begins May 19.
Seven sacred transmission. My voice in your ear. No fluff. No formulas. Just the truth your soul remembers.
You don't need more information.
You need initiation.
The portal opens soon.
But you already feel it, don't you?
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Claim your space. Burn the rulebook. Become the woman your past self never saw coming.
Mon, 12 May 2025 - 12min - 107 - Episode 99: Exhausted and over it: Stop performing already!
If you feel drained, depleted, and like no matter how much rest you get, you're still exhausted....you're not alone!
You're not tired because life is hard.
You're tired because you're stuck performing.
Performing as the nice girl.
Performing as the easygoing woman.
Performing to keep the peace and please everyone.
This is women's burnout hiding in plain sight - and nobody's talking about it.
In this episode, I reveal the real reason you're so exhausted (spoiler alert: it's not your to-do list), how 'being nice' is slowly draining your energy, and how to stop people pleasing so you can reclaim your power.
You'll learn:
Why performing makes women invisible and miserable How the good girl identity keeps you stuck in burnout What to do to stop being nice and start being real How to recover your energy and step into your selfish era You don't need more rest. You need to stop performing.If you're exhausted and over it, this episode will show you how to break free and start living for YOU.
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Mon, 05 May 2025 - 14min - 106 - Episode 98: Out of Office: Why rest is the new power move
In this bonus episode, I'm coming to you with sand in my suitcase and rebellion in my bones.
Let's talk about the guilt we feel when we rest. The fear that if we stop, everything will fall apart. The lie that our worth is tied to our productivity.
For years, I couldn't stop.
Raising kids. Building a business. Surviving heartbreak. Rebuilding after divorce (twice). Hustling for my worth every damn day.
And when I finally had space? I didn't know how to exist inside it.
I'm sharing the truth behind what it took for me to feel safe doing less, and why my vacation isn't just a 'break'...it's a power move.
Why rest feels dangerous for high-achieving women How scarcity and survival conditioning keep us overworking The nervous system regulation I had to to to tolerate white space on my calendar Why I'm sliding into vacation mode like the CEO I am And how this is the Selfish Woman Lifestyle: rest without guilt, joy without justification.This isn't just a vacation. It's what happens when a woman heals.
So pour yourself a drink, get cozy, and join me for a conversation about reclaiming your time, your peace, and your power.
Leave a review and share this with a woman who never stops. She needs to hear this.
Mon, 28 Apr 2025 - 08min - 105 - Episode 97: The Patriarchy is not your god: living powerfully starts here
In this fiery sermon of an episode, I'm pulling no punches. We're talking about the invisible leash of patriarchal conditioning and how it keeps powerful women small. I'm not here to make you comfortable. I'm here to remind you who the hell you are.
If you've ever felt like you were too much, too emotional, too ambitious, too independent....guess what? You're not the problem. The system is.
Let this episode be your invitation to remember your power, own your desires, and stop apologizing for who you are. We're not here to play by their rules. We're here to write our own.
Sun, 20 Apr 2025 - 24min - 104 - Episode 96: Tethered - if you're still thinking about them, you're not crazy.
You said you were done.
You blocked them. You deleted the photos.
You told yourself, "I've moved on"
But if you're still feeling the ache, still replaying the memories, still carrying that weight....you're not crazy. You're still tethered.
In this raw and real episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on the invisible cords that keep us bound to the past long after we've walked away. This is for the woman who's doing all the 'right' things - healing, journaling, rising - and still feels stuck in the heaviness of what was.
We talk about:
Why your glow-up isn't working (and it's not what you think) The nervous system side of emotional weight How shame, grief and guilt keep us energetically trapped Why letting go isn't about closure, but release. What's possible when you finally cut the cordIf you've ever felt like you're doing all the work but still can't shake the past, this one's for you. It's not your fault - but it IS your time.
And if this episode speaks to your soul, join me for Untethered, my workshop on April 19 where I will teach you everything you need to know about what's keeping you tied to the past, and guide you through a powerful visualization that will energetically free you.
Click here to register for Untethered on April 19
Mon, 14 Apr 2025 - 20min - 103 - Episode 95: Good girls die bitter: Rewrite your eulogy
What if the reason you feel stuck, numb, or unfulfilled isn't because you're broken, but because the 'good girl' inside you needs to die?
In this fiery and vulnerable episode, I'm inviting you to take a brutally honest look at your life and ask yourself:
What would your eulogy say, if you died today?
This is a wake-up call for every woman who's been trying to do it right, play it safe, be nice, be liked, and perform maturity while secretly suffocating under the weight of it all.
Here's what we dive into:
Why 'good girls' die bitter - and how to make sure you don't become one The truth about how your eulogy is aready being written What it really means to let the old identity die so the real you can finally live The power of choosing self-honesty over approval What softness, truth and presence can give you that performance never willYou don't need more advice. You need to follow your own truth.
This episode will crack you open - and set you free.
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Sat, 05 Apr 2025 - 19min - 102 - Episode 94: Selfless is a Scam: Why putting everyone first is ruining your life
This episode is for every woman who's ever felt guilty about putting herself first.
I'm calling out the 'selfless' lie we've been sold, and the emotional, physical and spiritual cost of people-pleasing your way through life.
If you've been told your worth is in your service, your silence, your sacrifice - this episode is your permission slip to burn that shit down.
I'm sharing the truth about what being selfish really means, how it saved me, and how it can save you too.
Tune in and start choosing yourself - without apology.
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Wed, 02 Apr 2025 - 15min - 101 - Episode 93: Career, Confidence & Change with Lata Hamilton
Are you ready to step into the next chapter of your life with confidence, power and purpose?
In this episode I sit down with Lata Hamilton, a Change Leadership and Confidence Expert who went from marketing to leading massive transformations in some of Australia's biggest companies - all while tripling her salary in just three years.
Lata and I dive into the mindset shifts and strategies that help women embrace change, own their worth, and create a life on their terms.
We discuss:
The #1 thing that holds women back from embracing change Why loyalty isn't always the best choice The four components of confidence - and how to leverage them to get what you want Why women are designed to be adaptable - and how to use that superpower How to take salary negotiation principles and apply them to your divorce How to leverage the freedom after divorce to build the career (and life) you truly want If you're feeling stuck, uncertain, or afraid of what's next, this episode will inspire you to take action. Because change isn't something to fear - it's something to OWN.Connect with Lata Hamilton:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/latahamilton/
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Sun, 23 Mar 2025 - 35min - 100 - Breaking the Fear Loop: A Selfish Woman's Guide to Bold Moves
Fear and self-doubt have been running the show for too long. They keep you stuck second-guessing yourself, and playing small. But what if you could finally break free?
In this episode, we're diving deep into the root causes of fear and self-doubt, why they keep showing up, and - most importantly - what to do about it.
If you're tired of feeling like you're standing in your own way, this episode is your wake up call.
You'll learn:
why NOW is the time to step into your power why your mind is addicted to fear my 3 step strategy to breaking freeReady to reset your mindset and take control of your life? Join the Mindset Reset Workshop on March 22. This 2 hour online event will give you the exact tools you need to break free from fear, self doubt, people pleasing and guilt - so you can step into your most confident self.
Loved this episode? Let's keep the conversation going! DM me on Instagram @thevaleriejones and tell me your biggest takeaway!
Tue, 11 Mar 2025 - 25min - 99 - Divorce Like a Boss: Own the Strategy, Rewrite the Story with Karen Covy
Divorce isn't just an ending - it's a transition, and how you navigate it can set the stage for the rest of your life. In this episode, I'm sitting down with Karen Covy, a powerhouse Divorce Coach, lawyer, mediator, author and speaker, who helps high-achieving professionals take control of their divorce like a CEO.
Karen and I dive deep into:
How to make empowered decisions during divorce (without getting lost in the emotions) The #1 thing that will make an amicable divorce impossible (and what to do instead) The grey divorce revolution The big mistake so many women make with their lawyer How to come out of divorce stronger, more confident, and ready for your next chapterWhether you're in the middle of divorce, considering one, or just want to be prepared for any life transition, this episode is packed with wisdom you won't want to miss.
Listen now and take control of your future!
Mon, 17 Feb 2025 - 31min - 98 - Why 2025 is the Year You Say F*ck It and Finally Choose You
Are you ready to make 2025 the year you fully step into your power, prioritize your happiness, and create the life you truly desire? I'm diving into why The Selfish Year is the ultimate reset button you've been waiting for. We'll explore what it really means to choose yourself, and how to start making powerful shifts today. If you've spent years putting everyone else first, this is your invitation to change that - without guilt, without hesitation, and with full confidence in the vibrant, joyful life that's waiting for you.
What you'll learn in this episode:
Why putting yourself first is the key to happiness, success and freedom The biggest mindset shift you need to fully embrace your selfish year Actionable steps to start choosing you - unapologeticallyReady to make 2025 your Selfish Year?
This is just the beginning. Stay tuned as we'll be diving deep into strategies, mindset shifts, and real-life tools to help you fully embody the Selfish Woman energy.
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Thu, 30 Jan 2025 - 29min - 97 - The Selfish Year Begins: A Ritual to Release, Remember and Rise
Listen if you're ready to leave behind the woman you were never meant to be.
This episode is not about setting cute resolutions. It's about burning the script. I'm guiding you through a potent, reflective ritual to close the old chapter with reverence and rise into 2025 with clarity, fire and power.
Inside, we'll unpack:
Why 'new year, new you' is trash - and what to do instead A guided ritual to release what's not yours, remember what matters, and rise into who you really are.Whether you're coming out of a breakup, a breakdown, or just a long stretch of pretending you're 'fine' - this is the episode to mark your selfish return.
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Thu, 02 Jan 2025 - 20min - 96 - Episode 88: Divorce and Dollars: Expert Financial Advice with Jennifer Lee
This week's episode is for you, if you're considering divorce or navigating through the process, and the very idea of finances gives you anxiety!
We've got you covered because Jennifer Lee, founder of Modern-Wealth is here!
Jennifer's financial firm focuses on helping individuals navigate transition.
Here's a few of the topics we cover:
How to focus on the basics and keep financial matters simple What's your money story, why it matters, and how to shift from scarcity to abundance Get your head out of the sand! Why so many women are ostriches when it comes to money How to create a purposeful life and build your legacy.Jennifer has over 27 years of experience in the financial services industry and is the author of Squeeze the Juice: Live with Purpose, then Leave a Legacy.
Mon, 02 Dec 2024 - 38min - 95 - Episode 87: Breaking Point: The top 10 reasons marriages end
As we head into the holiday season, you might be feeling like you're hanging on by a thread, holding it together for the family, and wondering if you might be ready to get a divorce.
There's a reason January is called 'Divorce Month'. Once you get through the holidays, you're ready to start asking yourself the hard questions about your relationship and decide if you are going to keep trying, or end it.
In this episode, I'm breaking down the Top Ten reasons for divorce, and what lies behind each of them.
If you're on the fence in your relationship, or you're wondering if you made the right decision to end it, this episode is for you.
Please share this with women in your life who need to hear it. And if you would be so kind as to subscribe that would really help get this podcast out to those who need it!
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Thu, 14 Nov 2024 - 31min - 94 - Episode 86: When things go wrong: turning setbacks into powerful comebacks
Continuing from the previous episode when I talked about Hurricane Helene wrecking my plans, I dive deeper into my life mantra "everything works out" and what that really means when bad things happen.
How is life 'working out' for you, even when bad things happen? Even when the very worst happens?
I'm giving you insight into where your power lies, what your choices are, and how to turn even the biggest, scariest challenges into triumphs.
Ready to work with me, and take your life to heights you've never dreamed possible? Let's chat! Book a consultation:
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Mon, 07 Oct 2024 - 30min - 93 - Episode 85: Why being Selfish is the key to your next big uplevel
Do you feel confused, frustrated or discouraged because you're not seeing the results you want yet?
If so, this episode is for you!
I'm sharing my story about how I've been feeling this way, and why I know it's a sign that the next big level is close!
I'm also giving you the 3 steps you need to take right now, that will get you to that next level faster, and why being selfish is the key to it all.
If you're a regular around here, I know you have big goals and dreams, so you need to listen to this one!
And if you're new, welcome!
Got a question you want me to answer on the pod? Email me!
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Sat, 21 Sep 2024 - 22min - 92 - Episode 84: What's on Your Bullsh*t List?
There's one thing I know for sure: anyone who's ever gone through transformational change, first had to get tired of their own bullshit.
If you're tired of getting the same results, and you don't want your future to look just like your past, then you need to listen to this episode.
I'm getting real about what my bullshit was that I had to get tired of, and I'm talking about what just might be on your bullshit list that needs to go!
My signature program, Women Rising, is open for enrollment! We begin on September 16, and I want you there!
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Questions? Want to chat? Email me! Valerie@valeriejonescoach.com
Commit to yourself and I promise you, by the end of 2024 you will be transformed!
xo
Thu, 29 Aug 2024 - 28min - 91 - Episode 83: It's GLOW Time!
Are you ready for your Inner Glow Up?
If you're tired of feeling lacklustre, bored, overwhelmed, and just going through the motions in your life....
And you long to feel excited, fired up, proud of yourself, successful, and inspired....
And you're ready to chase your dreams, level up, and build the life you deserve....
This episode is for you!
I'm sharing all about why you need an Inner Glow Up first, and then the external glow up happens.
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Please share this episode with the women in your life who are ready to GLOW!
xo
Tue, 20 Aug 2024 - 13min - 90 - Episode 82: Breaking up, Starting Over & Finding the Lessons with WOMEN Author Chloe Caldwell
Have you ever looked back on a relationship and thought to yourself, 'well that was crazy'? And wondered what you were thinking, and what you could possibly learn from it?
In this episode, I'm talking to WOMEN author Chloe Caldwell about the relationship she experienced that led her to write the book, and how the craziness of it all led to her biggest success.
To celebrate the ten-year re-release of WOMEN, we talk about all things love, breakups, divorce, healing and more!
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Sun, 21 Jul 2024 - 48min - 89 - Episode 81: Man vs Bear, the viral TikTok debate, and a man's perspective with Katie & Jay Fillmore
Our very first man is on the pod!!!
In this episode, I sit down with Katie and Jay Fillmore, and discuss the latest viral debate that's got everyone talking:
If you were alone in the woods, would you rather encounter a man or a bear?
I love how Katie and Jay discuss this on their TikTok account! Jay processes in real time, the awakening to a woman's lived experience, and offers insightful and intelligent commentary.
I know you're going to enjoy this conversation!
You can find Katie and Jay on TikTok here
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Thu, 06 Jun 2024 - 39min - 88 - Episode 80: The Journey Inward: Trusting your intuition & taking action
Do you feel stuck, trapped, frustrated in life? Do you know what you need to do, but you're not doing it?
Do you feel confused by all the chatter in your mind, keeping you in fear, doubt and worry?
If so, this episode is for you.
I'm sharing one big reason why you're feeling this way, and what to do about it.
Listen to the end for my challenge for you!
Thu, 02 May 2024 - 23min - 87 - Episode 79: How to stop caring what people think!Sat, 20 Apr 2024 - 17min
- 86 - Episode 78: Why you've lost interest...expanding on my viral TikTok!
Who knew that a three minute video could create such a heated debate between the sexes....about sex!
My TikTok video that went viral a couple of weeks ago has resonated with women and angered men.
Why? What is it about women being honest about the reasons they've lost interest in sex that is so polarizing?
Join me for a deep dive!
Busting some of the common myths about sex in relationships Survey says! What women are saying about it! What your lack of interest in the bedroom is showing you about what's happening outside the bedroom The one significant contributing factor to your lack of interest What to do about it!Watch the viral video that started it all
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Sat, 13 Apr 2024 - 35min - 85 - Episode 77: One woman's healing journey in real time with Crystal Allon
How do you heal?
The journey of healing is a deeply personal one that requires trial and error, willingness to fail, and finding your guides along the way.
Crystal Allon has been documenting her healing journey on Tik Tok and inviting her community into the process in real time.
Her vulnerability, realness and curiosity are refreshing and I know you will relate to her story on many levels.
TW: suicide, abuse, substance use
Some of the topics we discuss:
when adult kids go no contact with their parents taking ownership of the impact we have had on our kids healing trauma from childhood healing from depression, fear and anger learning to forgive yourself for the pastSettle in and enjoy this deeply real conversation!
Sun, 10 Mar 2024 - 44min - 84 - Episode 76: Everything you didn't know you needed to know about people pleasing! with Amy Green Smith
You know that bitch inside your head that keeps telling you to stay quiet, be nice, don't rock the boat and DEFINITELY don't say no if it's gonna upset someone else?
Yeah, you know.
Well today, it's time to learn what's really going on, why you even have an inner bitch, and what to do about it.
Amy Green Smith is here to rock your world and set you straight about how to get your power back, communicate with clarity, and have big fucking boundaries.
Not only that, she's giving you specific, real life examples of what to say in those situations where you don't know what to say!
We also chat about:
how doing the makeup for her dead Dad was the wake-up call she needed why 'Declaring the Do-Over' is going to free you from guilt the real reason you're a people pleaser (which will set you free) how to get yourself out of any conversation you don't want to haveAmy is the compassionate voice of truth that we all need in our lives!
Grab Amy's free stuff here!
And as always, please subscribe, share and leave a review!
Sun, 25 Feb 2024 - 46min - 83 - Episode 75: 1 Year Divorce-iversary and the 4 Lessons I Learned
One year ago I got my divorce papers in the mail.
At the time it was a monumentous occasion! I celebrated big time!
Now, one year later, it's a distant memory.
I'm in a completely different place and the struggle, heartbreak, grief and fear are a thing of the past.
In this episode, I'm sharing four big lessons I learned about going through a big life transition, and why they're critical for you as you face life's challenges.
Want ongoing coaching, accountability & support as you navigate transition and change? Join The Phoenix Membership! We meet twice each month on zoom for group coaching calls, you get access to our private FB community, and you get my most popular courses for free! All for a super low cost!
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Thu, 01 Feb 2024 - 18min - 82 - Episode 74: Don't leave your life to fate - do this instead!
"I sure hope this year will be better than last year!"
Sound familiar?
If so, you're leaving your life to fate. Hoping that some external force will intervene on your behalf and magically make your problems disappear and bring you what you want.
Not gonna happen!
It's time to take fate into your own damn hands!
Your dream life will NOT just land in your lap, and this year it's time to make it happen, and I'm here to support you!
So instead of leaving your life to fate, I'm telling you what you need to do instead.
FATE - reinvented.
Subscribe, share and leave a review!!!
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Wed, 17 Jan 2024 - 18min - 81 - Episode 73: Your Big Breakthrough
If you want 2024 to be YOUR year for a big breakthrough, you've gotta fight for it! And I'm here to help you get it!
Don't leave this year to chance and just accept whatever comes your way.
Get clear on what you want, why you want it, and how you're going to get it.
In this episode, I'm giving you straight talk (as always) about what's required to get the breakthrough you need to get what you want.
What is a breakthrough? What's been holding you back from big results What's required to get your desires How to take charge of your life My story of a breakthrough I had recentlyPlease subscribe, share, and leave a review!
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Jill's podcast episode about her experience at the Retreat
Fri, 05 Jan 2024 - 26min - 80 - Episode 72: Holding on for the Holidays - from my heart to yours
Are you just holding on, waiting for the holidays to be over so that you can restart in January?
Life is challenging, painful, and difficult, and you're feeling discouraged and wondering when it will be YOUR turn to get what you want.
Maybe you're holding on to hope that things will get better.
Or maybe you're holding on to the threads of your sanity!!!
Whatever's going on for you, if you're struggling or feeling challenged in life these days, I have a message for you.
I'm sharing - from my heart to yours - what I want you to know that will give you strength, change your perspective on your situation, and remind you that you will be not only okay, but you will soar!
Love you! xo
Sun, 10 Dec 2023 - 18min
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